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are to my favorite and I do mean favorite Sunday
night so I'm talking about dating while anointed
you all you all you all be back again how you
doing mama I'm good I'm good I'm good I'm good
yeah I'm a little Jane I'm a little Jane walk
this episode out but I got it I've got the next
one I'm at this. I'm at the put him in the hot
seat. Y 'all see how he be trying to get out
the hot seat? We come in with that. What up?
What up? What up? Y 'all already know he think
he about to run the show. I'm gonna let him have
this one. But I'm gonna get that man's perspective
out of him. Y 'all just hold on. Just wait. Oh
man. And tonight y 'all we talking about the
switch up. The switch up. how you start off good,
but then out of nowhere, they start switching
up and acting different. So, all right, all right,
all right, we're going to start it off with prayer.
I'm going to let my mama leave us in prayer tonight,
and then we're going to start off with the conversation.
All right, dear gracious eternal father in the
name of Jesus, so we thank you now for the ability,
we thank you for the ability and the access.
We thank you for the gifts and the talents, the
doors that are open. We thank you for this time
and this opportunity to just share and exchange.
We pray that the Holy Spirit guide us, guide
our lips, guide our tongues, our thought processes
that we would inspire others, that we would invoke
the presence of love among all people and that
those that are out here seeking, dating while
anointed Lord, that the anointed be first. And
that day didn't be second. That discernment be
at an all -time high that we move according to
how you have set forth for us to move. And that
even as we stand on your word today, we're just
one chasing a thousand looking for our number
two, so we can chase 10 ,000 just to add to the
work of the kingdom. In Jesus' name, we pray,
amen. Amen, amen, amen. Ooh, that was good. That
was good. Y 'all see how I switched it around
and I got her over here at the front because
I'm getting out of the hot seat tonight. Yeah,
you get out of it tonight. But on the next episode,
okay? On the next episode, I'm going to have
to give you an opportunity to get somebody in
here to help you because you're going to need
help. But we're talking about a switcher rule.
So what we're talking about tonight is how most
people show up with a representative like the
person that you meet is their representative
not necessarily who they are or who you actually
are going to be dealing with so yeah what do
you what do you think about that James I know
you have had that experience you've had experience
recently I've had that experience recently like
going through it like because it's you know we're
anointed and we operate with discernment But
there are times when, let me just say this, the
enemy is cunning, first of all. And I'm not saying
from my situation, my situation a little bit
different from your situation. But I'm not saying
that the enemy is, you know, we don't give him
no glory. He may not be involved because life
just is life. But with that, you learn, you understand
how people are going to manage life when they
switch up. You find out who somebody is by the
way that they act in their hard times, because
it's easy to say that I'm with you in the good
times. But how do you act when times get hard?
You know, the Apostles' new addition says, Sunny,
there is everybody loving him, but can you stand
away? No, Apostles. Can you stand the rain? It's
crazy. Yeah, can you stand the rain? Can you
stand the rain? It's a million dollar question.
It's like, because the storms are gonna come.
This we know for sure. They're gonna come. So
what I feel like James is that sometimes the
Lord will let you see like really what you're
gonna get or what you're getting into. because
you can be into that person, you can like them,
you know, and you can be interested in them and
then the Lord will hit them with something because
they're representative. They're not going to
show you who they really are unless they're going
through something. That ain't going to show you
the will of them. They know that if they show
you the will of them, they're going to lose you.
Well, yeah, that's that's one thing but then
I think that in this season like people don't
really care like they don't really have the thought
process of I'm gonna lose you because they don't
really have you Right, and then I think and you
could tell me because you got it You got to be
open and transparent with the people now. We
got to tell the people the truth You can tell
me if you think that when somebody really have
decided they don't want to be what you they might
switch up and really let you see who they are,
because they may act what they represent for
a longer period of time. Man, let me be real.
When somebody really don't want to be with you,
they're just going to stop communicating. Like...
That's not going to be something offensive. Yeah.
Like, you know firsthand where, like... you gonna
see it and you gonna be like, oh, this is what
they own. I didn't know they was on this. Yeah.
And then I thought we was better than that. Like,
I didn't know we was on that type of time. Right.
But you know, when you are in the, let's, let's
go, let's take it deep when you in the ministry
and you are anointed and you are like very involved,
like when you are doing what God called you to
do or you own your way to do what God called
you to do, you know the enemy will set you up,
right? And he'll give you this shiny object,
make it look good, make it smell good, make it
talk like you wanted to talk. And then all of
a sudden you are somewhat distracted by this
person and then they show out and it's right
then that you got to make a decision. You know,
am I going to accept this? Although I know that
it's not aligned with my purpose and where I'm
going or am I about to exit stage lift? Let me
tell y 'all another funny story. I had just got
started in the ministry. Wait to assert to point.
My mother and father went with me that particular
Sunday and. Oh man, I forgot she got control
over there, and she can put herself down at the
bottom too. Dang, I forgot that. So, I'll get
a bag for that later. So, this one particular
Sunday, these two young ladies walk in. My mother
sees them walk in. She looks white at my father,
and she tells my father. They didn't come in
here the way the guy that came after your son.
My father's like, Sheila, you don't know. You
don't know. You don't know. She's like, OK. OK.
Fast forward. I recognize both my mother and
father. Thank you for coming at the end of the
service. The friend of the girl that I guess
was interested in me. Walked over there to my
mother and said, we really enjoyed your son's
message on this morning. My mother played for
him. Continue to play for him. Continue to play
for him. Yeah, exactly. And she's like, continue
to play for him. Continue to play for him. And
she said, we will how old is he again? My mom
is like 18. And she's like, OK. She says she
walked back to her friend, now realizing that
my mother could hear her. Girl, he's 18 years
old, a man of God and ain't a wing on his finger.
If you don't go get him right now. Oh, wow. Fast
forward. Fast forward. Fast forward. They come
up to me to shake hands. I shake their hands.
Thank them for coming. C asked me, can I get
a hug? Yes, or I don't see a problem with her.
As he's hugging me, I feel something getting
slid into my jacket pocket. And I get to open
this until you get home. Okay, cool. Fast forward
again. We going to the car. I walk to the car.
I'm about to get in the backseat. Mama's like,
I'm gonna sit in this backseat because I want
to stretch my legs out. Okay, cool. I take off
my jacket. I lay it in the trunk. But where the
trunk is located at, you can reach it from the
backseat of the video. So we get a couple of
mouths at the world about to go grab some me
Mama goes in the backseat to get my jacket. I'm
like, what are you looking for in my jacket?
You got guns in your jacket. Don't you? Yeah,
left pocket. I ain't thinking about no note.
She finds a note. I knew it. I knew it. I knew
it. Fast little girl. I knew what she wanted.
The minute she woke up in the search, the note
said, And I quote, I enjoyed the message on this
morning. Here is my number. And I just want you
to know you can get it whenever you want it.
Wow. So now let's talk about the fact that when
you are dating while anointed, while you are
dating and you are an anointed person, regardless
of your age, How important is it for you to have
someone around you in your circle that can discern
and can see what you're not going to see? Do
you feel like it's people that can see red flags
before you see them? Oh, for sure. Oh, for sure.
For sure. Because I can remember a time that
there was somebody that I was about to introduce
you to everyone point. You know what I'm talking
about? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
And that one night, and that one night, you was
extremely busy. You was busy at night. I was
like, nah, let's wait. And then fast forward
a couple of weeks later, boom, it was like night
and day, but. And that person began to show you
who they were, like who they really were. And
it's so important for those of you that are listening
tonight, those of you that are tuned in, it's
so important for you to have good people around
you that discern, that understand, that know,
that see what you are not going to see. And even,
you know, with that, we are always, and I say
we, because they're going to be some people that's
going to tune in and be my amen corner. But we
are always, you know, talking to our brothers
and tell them, OK, keep slow your road, wait,
wow. Oh, I got people around me that will be
like, slow down, slow down. Wait, why are you
in here? And if it's something that's trivial,
I might be like, no, let's wait and see. I want
the big bang. And what happens, you literally
get the big bang. And I can be explicit and tell
y 'all right now, I'm almost 50 years old. I
say that every week, but I'll be 50 in December.
And I'm proud of that. I'm proud of the Lord.
Let me reach you. I know. Thank you, Jesus. People
do all kinds of strange things like men will
talk to me for a little while didn't they see
you know they're sending me pictures of their
anatomy and y 'all can feel in the blank And
you know and then people and then people will
see my anointed son Or one of them and think
oh, you know this one sing this one play the
keyboard this one can write music. This one is
charismatic. This one write poems. So, you know,
they are attracted to them or attracted to the
gift. And that's another dangerous thing about
being anointed. People are oftentimes attracted
to your gift. Attracted to your gifting. And
so when you look at that, you have to have some
people that around you that are going to put
a stop to things and that are going to have that.
discernment that tell you to you know hey slow
you roll watch yourself you know and me i've
even gone i'm i'm have been like your mama at
some point hey what but your mama was nicer than
me because um i just go straight to the source
and be like hey he he ain't the one for you not
in this oh man like no and i asked my mom a few
years later i said how did you know that he wasn't
the one she's a first star She said, I wasn't
judging. She just rushed me. We're not judging.
She said, but they walked in there like they
had just walked out of the club a couple of hours
later. She said, now what had happened was they
done heard through the grapevine that there was
a young minister that was coming through the
search and they about to get them. Man, I can
even give you another one, a funnier one. This
one, this sister never passed him. They invited
me to complete one Sunday. Cool. I'll come up
and preach for y 'all all month. It was only
supposed to be one Sunday. I go up at that one
Sunday. They had a pretty much older congregation
and maybe one or two people my age and one of
them was a young lady. I go in the back. I'm
talking to the deacons right before I leave.
Can you come back next week? Sure, I can come
back next week. I'll come back the next week.
I know this says about two or three. Young people,
my age, and they're young women. Go back and
back, talk to the Deacons again. Can you come
back next week? Sure, I can come back next week.
That's about five or six young people, my age,
and they're young women. This goes on all the
way for a month. Then I was supposed to go back.
And I'm like, yeah, so I'll come back. I'll come
back the next Sunday. You don't feel that the
church now. So I get on and that Wednesday, I
was at work and I said, I'm like, Lord, if I'm
not supposed to be there, allow something to
happen that will keep me from even walking into
the sense of where it comes Sunday morning. Five
minutes after I said that prayer, y 'all. I'm
not exaggerating. Five minutes after I said that
prayer, my head of HR comes running on the floor
and my job talking about James. James, you need
to come up front. There's somebody here in your
family and they say it's an emergency. I'm cool
with the head of HR. I was cool with the head
of HR, my job. I'm like, yeah, why are you playing
like it ain't nobody but the pizza guy. Because
I worked at a call center at the time, so I had
ordered a pizza and we was about to eat the pizza
on the floor. I'm like, there ain't nothing going
on. Get up front. It's my father. Wow. I'm like,
OK, he ain't supposed to be off from work for
another couple of hours. What is he doing here?
So I look at him. I said, what's going on? He
said, you need to clock out of work right now.
We got to go with your mama just at a stroke.
OK. We out of here. No questions asked. The next
day I get on the phone, I'm talking to the deacon
at the church that I had been in contact with.
I'm like, look, I know I'm supposed to come back
on Sunday, but my mother's just had a stroke.
My main focus right now is my mother. Fast forward,
I found out through the grapevine that they had
about 20 or 30 young women at the church that
Sunday waiting and was disappointed. because
the grandmothers and grandmothers then told them
there's a young man that's coming through here
that's killing the place. And he ain't got a
way to go on this plane, but you better come
over and get him. Oh my goodness. That's so terrible.
It's like the stories that you deal with as an
anointed. person as a man and woman like the
things that you deal with especially as a especially
I'll say especially as a man because when I met
my husband um those of you that don't know I
was married to a pastor and when I met him he
had only been pastor for a year and um when I
met him the first lady first lady Lord Jesus
the first time The first time that I went to
listen to his church to hear him to, you know,
support to hear him minister, I realized that
his church was full of women. I mean, I don't
think it's gonna be the first lady. Front seat
to the back door to wall to wall, wall to wall
of all ages. Sharon may wasn't about to be the
first lady. All ages. And they look at you. They
looking at you like, who this woman? Oh my gosh
and I was like 23 years old at the time. Let
me tell y 'all something it is as a man it is
as it's dangerous dating and being anointed as
you know anybody but as a man especially somebody
that's pastoring ministering someone that is
exposed like in the church we already know musicians
like we uh everybody say it's um what is it a
stereotype but it's just truth because people
are attracted to the gift. So when you are dating
and you know that you are anointed, you have
got to have some self -control. You have got
to have some self -control. You got to be able
to temper yourself. And you also have to be surrounded
by people that are going to check you. And I
am surrounded by, like I got people all around
me that will set me like legit. We got something
that's coming up. in the fall, y 'all, which
we will be announcing here soon. Y 'all stay
tuned for that. But like, even with that, I got
people that, the ones that are doing this with
me have already told me, they're like, oh, trust
and believe me, like, ain't nothing happening.
It ain't going down. So we got to, you know,
it's not. And so we have to be... You know, we
got to be prepared. We got to be focused when
it comes to that. And, you know, all of this
tonight was talking about people presenting their
representative. And that's just because, guys,
you really have to be in a position to discern.
Sometimes we want that love and that companionship.
And we don't want to be lonely so bad that we
let it overshadow the fact that we've got to
be discerning. We've got to be asking the right
questions. We also got to know when to pull back.
We also got to know when the pool bag because
I'm a very caring loving empathetic passionate
person I've all I've had a lot of trouble through
the years with the pool bag like to just like
don't pour more into people than you are getting
out like reciprocity is real and you will look
back and have spent all your years pouring pouring
pouring and never being poured into if you don't
know when to pull back when somebody stops or
when their representative is gone and they show
you who they are, you gotta believe them. And
you gotta make a hard decision right then. But
even more than that, y 'all gotta stop crashing
out. I gotta stop crashing out. We gotta stop
crashing out and we just got to pull back. Get
back, refocus, realign, continue dating. and
don't get, you know, stuck in one place. My dad
is so profound in his teaching when he talks
about dating, when he talks about, you know,
being a queen and how we ought to, and even being
a king and how we are to pursue and how we are
to wait and what position we should be in. He
taught me early on that dating is for data. That
means that you don't get all of my time and attention
You don't get the wisely do these and all this
stuff because I am dating you together data to
see if there's going to be something and now
we learn that we need to date with intention
Like what is what is your plan? What are we going
to do after this? What is this supposed to lead
up to and it can't just be empty It can't be
empty promises. It can't just be talk because
the actions are going to follow the words The
actions are going to follow the words if he says
I'm intentional or she says I'm dating with intention
and then all of a sudden The representative is
going out of real person shows up if you don't
meet the real real They can't date you with intention
I Agree I agree I Definitely agree with that
like yeah So as a as a man a reverent As an ordained
licensed minister, the man of God, the gospel
carrier of light, one with the beautiful feet,
what is it? Let's tell the women, what are your
top three non -negotiables when it comes to dating
while anointed? Top three, number one. Non -negotiables.
Non -negotiables. Yes. Number one, non -negotiable
is you got to have a relationship with God. You
have to. What if they say, oh, you know, I got
a relationship with him. I talk to him every
day. I'm spiritual. OK, there's a lot of spirits.
But you got to have a relationship with God.
There's a lot of spirits. Oh, yes. There's a
spirit of the wine. There's a spirit of being
high. There's a lot of spirits. There's a spirit.
Yeah, but you gotta have a Holy Spirit to where
like you are daily communicating with him. So
that relationship with God is number one. What's
number two? Number two, you got to know how to
have fun as well. You got to, you can't be so
heavenly minded that you know I'll be good. Okay.
You got to know how to have fun. And number three,
number three, you got to just be my lover. You
got to be my best friend too. I love that. So
that's three non -negotiables. Number one, She
got to have relationship with God number two.
She got no Adam have fun and number three She
got to be your best. She got to be your friend
like your best friend now. Tell me What are your
top three deal breakers like this is not? I Can't
deal with this. I'm not we ain't even gonna talk
about it liar The liar cheater and the abusive
person, I agree with that. And then like, no,
I'm going to take abusive out, not financially
sale, not financially sale. Yes. Like if you
are sitting here and you are blowing your money
on business stuff, when that money could be used
for something else, you spend in hundreds of
thousands of dollars at Neiman markets. but you
can't pay your light bill. I got a problem with
that. I got a problem with that. People still
do that. Like you spending hundreds of thousands
of dollars on going to the club or something
like that. But you asking me for money to get
you something to eat because you broke. I got
a problem with that. Because that's someone me
that you are not using your money properly. You're
not budgeting your money properly. Yeah, not
being financially stable is an issue. You're
not being a good steward. And you ain't been
watching the prosperity blueprint, because obviously
that is a must. That's a must. They got to watch
the prosperity blueprint. Got to watch the prosperity
blueprint. So I think that's good And just you
know word to the wise like why are you dating?
You guys that are in the Ministry in the kingdom
I don't want to say in the church because everybody
in the church, right? I don't want to use I don't
want to use that term so loosely But those of
you that are in the kingdom that our kingdom
believers while you out here dating gather the
data pay attention like Don't settle The biggest
thing is don't settle. Don't settle. We just
gotta, you know, we gotta have a lot, you have
to have a lot of patience. And I say we, cause
I'm in the boat with y 'all rowing, rowing, rowing.
We have to have a lot of patience. We have to
have a lot of patience and we have to, you know,
just be mindful that God wants to give you the
answer. And he also wants to give you the desires
of your heart. But I just believe that if your
desires don't align with his purpose, therein
lies the problem, right? Because we can desire
something that God has not designed for us. We
can have a desire that is not aligned with purpose.
And yet in steel, you know, the Bible tells us
that after a while, God will just let you have
it, like turn you over, right? Just give it to
you. And it may be something that's going to
take you on a detour, a detour away from your
purpose and you getting to what God has designed.
So in this season, it's my prayer that everyone
that's joining us on dating while anointed because
we're going to be adding things while we're preparing
and while we're getting this platform together.
It's my prayer that you wait on what is designed.
Don't just look for what you desire, but wait
on what is designed. And I'm speaking to myself
first. Wait on what God has designed for you.
I like that. I like that. Wait on what God has
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