WEBVTT 00:00:18.230 --> 00:00:21.010 Yeah, yeah, you say you say you say you're ready 00:00:21.010 --> 00:00:23.890 today. You say you're ready. You feel like it's 00:00:23.890 --> 00:00:27.429 fate. Join Jays and Dr. Jays. Sunday's 10 PM. 00:00:28.609 --> 00:00:32.390 Don't be late for dating while anointing Sunday's 00:00:32.390 --> 00:00:40.229 10 PM is great. What is up? What is up? What 00:00:40.229 --> 00:00:44.310 is up? Everyone, everyone, everyone. It is another 00:00:44.310 --> 00:00:47.280 day, another time, and another week. but you 00:00:47.280 --> 00:00:50.640 are to my favorite and I do mean favorite Sunday 00:00:50.640 --> 00:00:54.939 night so I'm talking about dating while anointed 00:00:54.939 --> 00:01:00.200 you all you all you all be back again how you 00:01:00.200 --> 00:01:05.280 doing mama I'm good I'm good I'm good I'm good 00:01:05.280 --> 00:01:08.060 yeah I'm a little Jane I'm a little Jane walk 00:01:08.060 --> 00:01:11.799 this episode out but I got it I've got the next 00:01:11.799 --> 00:01:14.900 one I'm at this. I'm at the put him in the hot 00:01:14.900 --> 00:01:16.959 seat. Y 'all see how he be trying to get out 00:01:16.959 --> 00:01:20.859 the hot seat? We come in with that. What up? 00:01:21.040 --> 00:01:22.900 What up? What up? Y 'all already know he think 00:01:22.900 --> 00:01:24.939 he about to run the show. I'm gonna let him have 00:01:24.939 --> 00:01:28.019 this one. But I'm gonna get that man's perspective 00:01:28.019 --> 00:01:31.340 out of him. Y 'all just hold on. Just wait. Oh 00:01:31.340 --> 00:01:38.060 man. And tonight y 'all we talking about the 00:01:38.060 --> 00:01:43.069 switch up. The switch up. how you start off good, 00:01:43.969 --> 00:01:47.609 but then out of nowhere, they start switching 00:01:47.609 --> 00:01:50.590 up and acting different. So, all right, all right, 00:01:50.670 --> 00:01:53.090 all right, we're going to start it off with prayer. 00:01:53.689 --> 00:01:55.950 I'm going to let my mama leave us in prayer tonight, 00:01:56.430 --> 00:01:58.170 and then we're going to start off with the conversation. 00:01:58.870 --> 00:02:02.129 All right, dear gracious eternal father in the 00:02:02.129 --> 00:02:05.579 name of Jesus, so we thank you now for the ability, 00:02:05.980 --> 00:02:08.759 we thank you for the ability and the access. 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:11.699 We thank you for the gifts and the talents, the 00:02:11.699 --> 00:02:14.039 doors that are open. We thank you for this time 00:02:14.039 --> 00:02:16.159 and this opportunity to just share and exchange. 00:02:16.360 --> 00:02:19.719 We pray that the Holy Spirit guide us, guide 00:02:19.719 --> 00:02:22.219 our lips, guide our tongues, our thought processes 00:02:22.219 --> 00:02:25.300 that we would inspire others, that we would invoke 00:02:25.300 --> 00:02:28.620 the presence of love among all people and that 00:02:28.620 --> 00:02:31.560 those that are out here seeking, dating while 00:02:31.560 --> 00:02:34.849 anointed Lord, that the anointed be first. And 00:02:34.849 --> 00:02:37.310 that day didn't be second. That discernment be 00:02:37.310 --> 00:02:40.550 at an all -time high that we move according to 00:02:40.550 --> 00:02:43.550 how you have set forth for us to move. And that 00:02:43.550 --> 00:02:47.069 even as we stand on your word today, we're just 00:02:47.069 --> 00:02:50.330 one chasing a thousand looking for our number 00:02:50.330 --> 00:02:53.509 two, so we can chase 10 ,000 just to add to the 00:02:53.509 --> 00:02:56.129 work of the kingdom. In Jesus' name, we pray, 00:02:56.270 --> 00:03:00.990 amen. Amen, amen, amen. Ooh, that was good. That 00:03:00.990 --> 00:03:03.819 was good. Y 'all see how I switched it around 00:03:03.819 --> 00:03:06.620 and I got her over here at the front because 00:03:06.620 --> 00:03:10.819 I'm getting out of the hot seat tonight. Yeah, 00:03:10.860 --> 00:03:15.259 you get out of it tonight. But on the next episode, 00:03:16.080 --> 00:03:19.000 okay? On the next episode, I'm going to have 00:03:19.000 --> 00:03:21.780 to give you an opportunity to get somebody in 00:03:21.780 --> 00:03:23.139 here to help you because you're going to need 00:03:23.139 --> 00:03:26.280 help. But we're talking about a switcher rule. 00:03:26.599 --> 00:03:30.439 So what we're talking about tonight is how most 00:03:30.439 --> 00:03:35.349 people show up with a representative like the 00:03:35.349 --> 00:03:37.349 person that you meet is their representative 00:03:37.349 --> 00:03:40.909 not necessarily who they are or who you actually 00:03:40.909 --> 00:03:46.550 are going to be dealing with so yeah what do 00:03:46.550 --> 00:03:48.629 you what do you think about that James I know 00:03:48.629 --> 00:03:50.909 you have had that experience you've had experience 00:03:50.909 --> 00:03:53.930 recently I've had that experience recently like 00:03:53.930 --> 00:03:57.509 going through it like because it's you know we're 00:03:57.509 --> 00:04:00.539 anointed and we operate with discernment But 00:04:00.539 --> 00:04:03.280 there are times when, let me just say this, the 00:04:03.280 --> 00:04:06.560 enemy is cunning, first of all. And I'm not saying 00:04:06.560 --> 00:04:12.120 from my situation, my situation a little bit 00:04:12.120 --> 00:04:16.199 different from your situation. But I'm not saying 00:04:16.199 --> 00:04:18.959 that the enemy is, you know, we don't give him 00:04:18.959 --> 00:04:21.459 no glory. He may not be involved because life 00:04:21.459 --> 00:04:26.439 just is life. But with that, you learn, you understand 00:04:26.439 --> 00:04:28.459 how people are going to manage life when they 00:04:28.459 --> 00:04:34.889 switch up. You find out who somebody is by the 00:04:34.889 --> 00:04:37.589 way that they act in their hard times, because 00:04:37.589 --> 00:04:40.069 it's easy to say that I'm with you in the good 00:04:40.069 --> 00:04:44.329 times. But how do you act when times get hard? 00:04:45.209 --> 00:04:50.189 You know, the Apostles' new addition says, Sunny, 00:04:50.389 --> 00:04:52.410 there is everybody loving him, but can you stand 00:04:52.410 --> 00:05:00.120 away? No, Apostles. Can you stand the rain? It's 00:05:00.120 --> 00:05:04.560 crazy. Yeah, can you stand the rain? Can you 00:05:04.560 --> 00:05:07.279 stand the rain? It's a million dollar question. 00:05:08.279 --> 00:05:10.879 It's like, because the storms are gonna come. 00:05:11.300 --> 00:05:15.019 This we know for sure. They're gonna come. So 00:05:15.019 --> 00:05:18.040 what I feel like James is that sometimes the 00:05:18.040 --> 00:05:21.019 Lord will let you see like really what you're 00:05:21.019 --> 00:05:23.339 gonna get or what you're getting into. because 00:05:23.339 --> 00:05:25.939 you can be into that person, you can like them, 00:05:26.360 --> 00:05:28.240 you know, and you can be interested in them and 00:05:28.240 --> 00:05:30.519 then the Lord will hit them with something because 00:05:30.519 --> 00:05:32.620 they're representative. They're not going to 00:05:32.620 --> 00:05:34.920 show you who they really are unless they're going 00:05:34.920 --> 00:05:39.319 through something. That ain't going to show you 00:05:39.319 --> 00:05:42.620 the will of them. They know that if they show 00:05:42.620 --> 00:05:44.779 you the will of them, they're going to lose you. 00:05:45.730 --> 00:05:48.350 Well, yeah, that's that's one thing but then 00:05:48.350 --> 00:05:50.569 I think that in this season like people don't 00:05:50.569 --> 00:05:52.949 really care like they don't really have the thought 00:05:52.949 --> 00:05:55.250 process of I'm gonna lose you because they don't 00:05:55.250 --> 00:05:58.629 really have you Right, and then I think and you 00:05:58.629 --> 00:06:00.550 could tell me because you got it You got to be 00:06:00.550 --> 00:06:02.810 open and transparent with the people now. We 00:06:02.810 --> 00:06:05.250 got to tell the people the truth You can tell 00:06:05.250 --> 00:06:07.670 me if you think that when somebody really have 00:06:07.670 --> 00:06:09.750 decided they don't want to be what you they might 00:06:10.319 --> 00:06:12.740 switch up and really let you see who they are, 00:06:12.779 --> 00:06:14.800 because they may act what they represent for 00:06:14.800 --> 00:06:18.839 a longer period of time. Man, let me be real. 00:06:20.420 --> 00:06:23.180 When somebody really don't want to be with you, 00:06:24.079 --> 00:06:31.839 they're just going to stop communicating. Like... 00:06:31.839 --> 00:06:34.879 That's not going to be something offensive. Yeah. 00:06:35.800 --> 00:06:40.379 Like, you know firsthand where, like... you gonna 00:06:40.379 --> 00:06:43.879 see it and you gonna be like, oh, this is what 00:06:43.879 --> 00:06:51.800 they own. I didn't know they was on this. Yeah. 00:06:52.939 --> 00:06:55.620 And then I thought we was better than that. Like, 00:06:55.720 --> 00:06:58.759 I didn't know we was on that type of time. Right. 00:06:58.899 --> 00:07:01.939 But you know, when you are in the, let's, let's 00:07:01.939 --> 00:07:04.180 go, let's take it deep when you in the ministry 00:07:04.180 --> 00:07:11.819 and you are anointed and you are like very involved, 00:07:12.220 --> 00:07:14.779 like when you are doing what God called you to 00:07:14.779 --> 00:07:16.779 do or you own your way to do what God called 00:07:16.779 --> 00:07:19.360 you to do, you know the enemy will set you up, 00:07:19.399 --> 00:07:22.740 right? And he'll give you this shiny object, 00:07:22.939 --> 00:07:25.300 make it look good, make it smell good, make it 00:07:25.300 --> 00:07:27.759 talk like you wanted to talk. And then all of 00:07:27.759 --> 00:07:30.519 a sudden you are somewhat distracted by this 00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:35.360 person and then they show out and it's right 00:07:35.360 --> 00:07:37.930 then that you got to make a decision. You know, 00:07:37.970 --> 00:07:42.290 am I going to accept this? Although I know that 00:07:42.290 --> 00:07:44.529 it's not aligned with my purpose and where I'm 00:07:44.529 --> 00:07:49.610 going or am I about to exit stage lift? Let me 00:07:49.610 --> 00:07:53.529 tell y 'all another funny story. I had just got 00:07:53.529 --> 00:07:58.110 started in the ministry. Wait to assert to point. 00:07:58.889 --> 00:08:01.430 My mother and father went with me that particular 00:08:01.430 --> 00:08:10.160 Sunday and. Oh man, I forgot she got control 00:08:10.160 --> 00:08:12.879 over there, and she can put herself down at the 00:08:12.879 --> 00:08:19.160 bottom too. Dang, I forgot that. So, I'll get 00:08:19.160 --> 00:08:23.019 a bag for that later. So, this one particular 00:08:23.019 --> 00:08:30.980 Sunday, these two young ladies walk in. My mother 00:08:30.980 --> 00:08:34.179 sees them walk in. She looks white at my father, 00:08:34.919 --> 00:08:37.059 and she tells my father. They didn't come in 00:08:37.059 --> 00:08:39.399 here the way the guy that came after your son. 00:08:42.259 --> 00:08:44.419 My father's like, Sheila, you don't know. You 00:08:44.419 --> 00:08:48.259 don't know. You don't know. She's like, OK. OK. 00:08:49.480 --> 00:08:53.299 Fast forward. I recognize both my mother and 00:08:53.299 --> 00:08:58.100 father. Thank you for coming at the end of the 00:08:58.100 --> 00:09:02.679 service. The friend of the girl that I guess 00:09:02.679 --> 00:09:05.559 was interested in me. Walked over there to my 00:09:05.559 --> 00:09:07.460 mother and said, we really enjoyed your son's 00:09:07.460 --> 00:09:11.259 message on this morning. My mother played for 00:09:11.259 --> 00:09:13.360 him. Continue to play for him. Continue to play 00:09:13.360 --> 00:09:17.419 for him. Yeah, exactly. And she's like, continue 00:09:17.419 --> 00:09:19.740 to play for him. Continue to play for him. And 00:09:19.740 --> 00:09:23.220 she said, we will how old is he again? My mom 00:09:23.220 --> 00:09:28.620 is like 18. And she's like, OK. She says she 00:09:28.620 --> 00:09:32.480 walked back to her friend, now realizing that 00:09:32.480 --> 00:09:36.070 my mother could hear her. Girl, he's 18 years 00:09:36.070 --> 00:09:38.750 old, a man of God and ain't a wing on his finger. 00:09:39.149 --> 00:09:44.389 If you don't go get him right now. Oh, wow. Fast 00:09:44.389 --> 00:09:48.210 forward. Fast forward. Fast forward. They come 00:09:48.210 --> 00:09:51.870 up to me to shake hands. I shake their hands. 00:09:52.090 --> 00:09:56.029 Thank them for coming. C asked me, can I get 00:09:56.029 --> 00:09:59.149 a hug? Yes, or I don't see a problem with her. 00:10:01.459 --> 00:10:03.940 As he's hugging me, I feel something getting 00:10:03.940 --> 00:10:08.159 slid into my jacket pocket. And I get to open 00:10:08.159 --> 00:10:12.159 this until you get home. Okay, cool. Fast forward 00:10:12.159 --> 00:10:15.259 again. We going to the car. I walk to the car. 00:10:15.379 --> 00:10:17.039 I'm about to get in the backseat. Mama's like, 00:10:17.139 --> 00:10:19.139 I'm gonna sit in this backseat because I want 00:10:19.139 --> 00:10:21.460 to stretch my legs out. Okay, cool. I take off 00:10:21.460 --> 00:10:24.340 my jacket. I lay it in the trunk. But where the 00:10:24.340 --> 00:10:27.220 trunk is located at, you can reach it from the 00:10:27.220 --> 00:10:30.730 backseat of the video. So we get a couple of 00:10:30.730 --> 00:10:32.789 mouths at the world about to go grab some me 00:10:32.789 --> 00:10:37.330 Mama goes in the backseat to get my jacket. I'm 00:10:37.330 --> 00:10:38.909 like, what are you looking for in my jacket? 00:10:39.649 --> 00:10:42.250 You got guns in your jacket. Don't you? Yeah, 00:10:42.350 --> 00:10:45.789 left pocket. I ain't thinking about no note. 00:10:47.230 --> 00:10:51.389 She finds a note. I knew it. I knew it. I knew 00:10:51.389 --> 00:10:53.710 it. Fast little girl. I knew what she wanted. 00:10:53.889 --> 00:10:57.110 The minute she woke up in the search, the note 00:10:57.110 --> 00:11:02.299 said, And I quote, I enjoyed the message on this 00:11:02.299 --> 00:11:06.960 morning. Here is my number. And I just want you 00:11:06.960 --> 00:11:10.759 to know you can get it whenever you want it. 00:11:11.860 --> 00:11:18.600 Wow. So now let's talk about the fact that when 00:11:18.600 --> 00:11:22.279 you are dating while anointed, while you are 00:11:22.279 --> 00:11:25.500 dating and you are an anointed person, regardless 00:11:25.500 --> 00:11:30.019 of your age, How important is it for you to have 00:11:30.019 --> 00:11:35.679 someone around you in your circle that can discern 00:11:35.679 --> 00:11:38.519 and can see what you're not going to see? Do 00:11:38.519 --> 00:11:42.460 you feel like it's people that can see red flags 00:11:42.460 --> 00:11:47.600 before you see them? Oh, for sure. Oh, for sure. 00:11:47.919 --> 00:11:52.080 For sure. Because I can remember a time that 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:56.779 there was somebody that I was about to introduce 00:11:56.779 --> 00:12:01.679 you to everyone point. You know what I'm talking 00:12:01.679 --> 00:12:03.460 about? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:12:03.899 --> 00:12:07.960 And that one night, and that one night, you was 00:12:07.960 --> 00:12:11.720 extremely busy. You was busy at night. I was 00:12:11.720 --> 00:12:15.559 like, nah, let's wait. And then fast forward 00:12:15.559 --> 00:12:20.120 a couple of weeks later, boom, it was like night 00:12:20.120 --> 00:12:24.100 and day, but. And that person began to show you 00:12:24.100 --> 00:12:28.159 who they were, like who they really were. And 00:12:28.159 --> 00:12:31.360 it's so important for those of you that are listening 00:12:31.360 --> 00:12:34.059 tonight, those of you that are tuned in, it's 00:12:34.059 --> 00:12:37.519 so important for you to have good people around 00:12:37.519 --> 00:12:40.879 you that discern, that understand, that know, 00:12:41.019 --> 00:12:44.289 that see what you are not going to see. And even, 00:12:44.509 --> 00:12:47.129 you know, with that, we are always, and I say 00:12:47.129 --> 00:12:48.750 we, because they're going to be some people that's 00:12:48.750 --> 00:12:51.769 going to tune in and be my amen corner. But we 00:12:51.769 --> 00:12:54.389 are always, you know, talking to our brothers 00:12:54.389 --> 00:12:58.029 and tell them, OK, keep slow your road, wait, 00:12:58.629 --> 00:13:02.649 wow. Oh, I got people around me that will be 00:13:02.649 --> 00:13:07.149 like, slow down, slow down. Wait, why are you 00:13:07.149 --> 00:13:10.629 in here? And if it's something that's trivial, 00:13:10.950 --> 00:13:15.110 I might be like, no, let's wait and see. I want 00:13:15.110 --> 00:13:19.529 the big bang. And what happens, you literally 00:13:19.529 --> 00:13:22.970 get the big bang. And I can be explicit and tell 00:13:22.970 --> 00:13:25.330 y 'all right now, I'm almost 50 years old. I 00:13:25.330 --> 00:13:27.909 say that every week, but I'll be 50 in December. 00:13:28.250 --> 00:13:30.710 And I'm proud of that. I'm proud of the Lord. 00:13:30.909 --> 00:13:39.519 Let me reach you. I know. Thank you, Jesus. People 00:13:39.519 --> 00:13:42.340 do all kinds of strange things like men will 00:13:42.340 --> 00:13:44.220 talk to me for a little while didn't they see 00:13:44.220 --> 00:13:45.820 you know they're sending me pictures of their 00:13:45.820 --> 00:13:53.019 anatomy and y 'all can feel in the blank And 00:13:53.019 --> 00:13:56.740 you know and then people and then people will 00:13:56.740 --> 00:14:01.159 see my anointed son Or one of them and think 00:14:01.159 --> 00:14:03.860 oh, you know this one sing this one play the 00:14:03.860 --> 00:14:09.039 keyboard this one can write music. This one is 00:14:09.039 --> 00:14:12.360 charismatic. This one write poems. So, you know, 00:14:12.519 --> 00:14:15.960 they are attracted to them or attracted to the 00:14:15.960 --> 00:14:18.460 gift. And that's another dangerous thing about 00:14:18.460 --> 00:14:21.759 being anointed. People are oftentimes attracted 00:14:21.759 --> 00:14:25.720 to your gift. Attracted to your gifting. And 00:14:25.720 --> 00:14:30.179 so when you look at that, you have to have some 00:14:30.179 --> 00:14:32.500 people that around you that are going to put 00:14:32.500 --> 00:14:34.460 a stop to things and that are going to have that. 00:14:35.250 --> 00:14:37.730 discernment that tell you to you know hey slow 00:14:37.730 --> 00:14:40.309 you roll watch yourself you know and me i've 00:14:40.309 --> 00:14:43.750 even gone i'm i'm have been like your mama at 00:14:43.750 --> 00:14:47.970 some point hey what but your mama was nicer than 00:14:47.970 --> 00:14:51.929 me because um i just go straight to the source 00:14:51.929 --> 00:14:55.470 and be like hey he he ain't the one for you not 00:14:55.470 --> 00:15:00.149 in this oh man like no and i asked my mom a few 00:15:00.149 --> 00:15:02.450 years later i said how did you know that he wasn't 00:15:02.450 --> 00:15:05.519 the one she's a first star She said, I wasn't 00:15:05.519 --> 00:15:08.440 judging. She just rushed me. We're not judging. 00:15:08.899 --> 00:15:11.379 She said, but they walked in there like they 00:15:11.379 --> 00:15:14.799 had just walked out of the club a couple of hours 00:15:14.799 --> 00:15:18.539 later. She said, now what had happened was they 00:15:18.539 --> 00:15:21.139 done heard through the grapevine that there was 00:15:21.139 --> 00:15:24.139 a young minister that was coming through the 00:15:24.139 --> 00:15:30.419 search and they about to get them. Man, I can 00:15:30.419 --> 00:15:34.059 even give you another one, a funnier one. This 00:15:34.059 --> 00:15:38.039 one, this sister never passed him. They invited 00:15:38.039 --> 00:15:42.240 me to complete one Sunday. Cool. I'll come up 00:15:42.240 --> 00:15:44.820 and preach for y 'all all month. It was only 00:15:44.820 --> 00:15:47.100 supposed to be one Sunday. I go up at that one 00:15:47.100 --> 00:15:50.899 Sunday. They had a pretty much older congregation 00:15:50.899 --> 00:15:56.100 and maybe one or two people my age and one of 00:15:56.100 --> 00:15:59.720 them was a young lady. I go in the back. I'm 00:15:59.720 --> 00:16:01.960 talking to the deacons right before I leave. 00:16:02.240 --> 00:16:04.200 Can you come back next week? Sure, I can come 00:16:04.200 --> 00:16:06.500 back next week. I'll come back the next week. 00:16:07.159 --> 00:16:10.220 I know this says about two or three. Young people, 00:16:10.419 --> 00:16:15.399 my age, and they're young women. Go back and 00:16:15.399 --> 00:16:17.240 back, talk to the Deacons again. Can you come 00:16:17.240 --> 00:16:19.500 back next week? Sure, I can come back next week. 00:16:20.240 --> 00:16:23.320 That's about five or six young people, my age, 00:16:23.740 --> 00:16:26.820 and they're young women. This goes on all the 00:16:26.820 --> 00:16:29.860 way for a month. Then I was supposed to go back. 00:16:30.929 --> 00:16:33.850 And I'm like, yeah, so I'll come back. I'll come 00:16:33.850 --> 00:16:35.750 back the next Sunday. You don't feel that the 00:16:35.750 --> 00:16:43.990 church now. So I get on and that Wednesday, I 00:16:43.990 --> 00:16:47.870 was at work and I said, I'm like, Lord, if I'm 00:16:47.870 --> 00:16:50.809 not supposed to be there, allow something to 00:16:50.809 --> 00:16:54.409 happen that will keep me from even walking into 00:16:54.409 --> 00:16:58.259 the sense of where it comes Sunday morning. Five 00:16:58.259 --> 00:17:00.299 minutes after I said that prayer, y 'all. I'm 00:17:00.299 --> 00:17:02.419 not exaggerating. Five minutes after I said that 00:17:02.419 --> 00:17:05.579 prayer, my head of HR comes running on the floor 00:17:05.579 --> 00:17:08.299 and my job talking about James. James, you need 00:17:08.299 --> 00:17:10.380 to come up front. There's somebody here in your 00:17:10.380 --> 00:17:15.160 family and they say it's an emergency. I'm cool 00:17:15.160 --> 00:17:17.240 with the head of HR. I was cool with the head 00:17:17.240 --> 00:17:19.940 of HR, my job. I'm like, yeah, why are you playing 00:17:19.940 --> 00:17:22.740 like it ain't nobody but the pizza guy. Because 00:17:22.740 --> 00:17:24.700 I worked at a call center at the time, so I had 00:17:24.700 --> 00:17:26.480 ordered a pizza and we was about to eat the pizza 00:17:26.480 --> 00:17:29.059 on the floor. I'm like, there ain't nothing going 00:17:29.059 --> 00:17:34.180 on. Get up front. It's my father. Wow. I'm like, 00:17:34.380 --> 00:17:37.339 OK, he ain't supposed to be off from work for 00:17:37.339 --> 00:17:39.420 another couple of hours. What is he doing here? 00:17:40.339 --> 00:17:42.799 So I look at him. I said, what's going on? He 00:17:42.799 --> 00:17:45.960 said, you need to clock out of work right now. 00:17:46.759 --> 00:17:49.319 We got to go with your mama just at a stroke. 00:17:50.039 --> 00:17:54.769 OK. We out of here. No questions asked. The next 00:17:54.769 --> 00:17:57.769 day I get on the phone, I'm talking to the deacon 00:17:57.769 --> 00:17:59.650 at the church that I had been in contact with. 00:17:59.849 --> 00:18:01.509 I'm like, look, I know I'm supposed to come back 00:18:01.509 --> 00:18:04.549 on Sunday, but my mother's just had a stroke. 00:18:04.890 --> 00:18:10.450 My main focus right now is my mother. Fast forward, 00:18:10.609 --> 00:18:13.369 I found out through the grapevine that they had 00:18:13.369 --> 00:18:16.069 about 20 or 30 young women at the church that 00:18:16.069 --> 00:18:22.010 Sunday waiting and was disappointed. because 00:18:22.010 --> 00:18:25.029 the grandmothers and grandmothers then told them 00:18:25.029 --> 00:18:28.410 there's a young man that's coming through here 00:18:28.410 --> 00:18:32.849 that's killing the place. And he ain't got a 00:18:32.849 --> 00:18:34.230 way to go on this plane, but you better come 00:18:34.230 --> 00:18:38.269 over and get him. Oh my goodness. That's so terrible. 00:18:39.470 --> 00:18:44.630 It's like the stories that you deal with as an 00:18:44.630 --> 00:18:51.039 anointed. person as a man and woman like the 00:18:51.039 --> 00:18:54.839 things that you deal with especially as a especially 00:18:54.839 --> 00:18:57.220 I'll say especially as a man because when I met 00:18:57.220 --> 00:19:00.920 my husband um those of you that don't know I 00:19:00.920 --> 00:19:02.799 was married to a pastor and when I met him he 00:19:02.799 --> 00:19:08.220 had only been pastor for a year and um when I 00:19:08.220 --> 00:19:12.539 met him the first lady first lady Lord Jesus 00:19:12.539 --> 00:19:16.630 the first time The first time that I went to 00:19:16.630 --> 00:19:19.789 listen to his church to hear him to, you know, 00:19:19.869 --> 00:19:23.289 support to hear him minister, I realized that 00:19:23.289 --> 00:19:26.829 his church was full of women. I mean, I don't 00:19:26.829 --> 00:19:29.890 think it's gonna be the first lady. Front seat 00:19:29.890 --> 00:19:34.750 to the back door to wall to wall, wall to wall 00:19:34.750 --> 00:19:37.470 of all ages. Sharon may wasn't about to be the 00:19:37.470 --> 00:19:41.210 first lady. All ages. And they look at you. They 00:19:41.210 --> 00:19:45.069 looking at you like, who this woman? Oh my gosh 00:19:45.069 --> 00:19:49.349 and I was like 23 years old at the time. Let 00:19:49.349 --> 00:19:53.549 me tell y 'all something it is as a man it is 00:19:53.549 --> 00:19:58.049 as it's dangerous dating and being anointed as 00:19:58.049 --> 00:20:01.049 you know anybody but as a man especially somebody 00:20:01.049 --> 00:20:03.930 that's pastoring ministering someone that is 00:20:03.930 --> 00:20:07.230 exposed like in the church we already know musicians 00:20:07.230 --> 00:20:11.650 like we uh everybody say it's um what is it a 00:20:11.650 --> 00:20:14.890 stereotype but it's just truth because people 00:20:14.890 --> 00:20:18.589 are attracted to the gift. So when you are dating 00:20:18.589 --> 00:20:21.210 and you know that you are anointed, you have 00:20:21.210 --> 00:20:24.910 got to have some self -control. You have got 00:20:24.910 --> 00:20:27.130 to have some self -control. You got to be able 00:20:27.130 --> 00:20:30.509 to temper yourself. And you also have to be surrounded 00:20:30.509 --> 00:20:33.789 by people that are going to check you. And I 00:20:33.789 --> 00:20:38.109 am surrounded by, like I got people all around 00:20:38.109 --> 00:20:42.349 me that will set me like legit. We got something 00:20:42.349 --> 00:20:45.910 that's coming up. in the fall, y 'all, which 00:20:45.910 --> 00:20:48.890 we will be announcing here soon. Y 'all stay 00:20:48.890 --> 00:20:53.910 tuned for that. But like, even with that, I got 00:20:53.910 --> 00:20:57.609 people that, the ones that are doing this with 00:20:57.609 --> 00:21:00.329 me have already told me, they're like, oh, trust 00:21:00.329 --> 00:21:02.289 and believe me, like, ain't nothing happening. 00:21:03.269 --> 00:21:07.769 It ain't going down. So we got to, you know, 00:21:07.990 --> 00:21:11.059 it's not. And so we have to be... You know, we 00:21:11.059 --> 00:21:13.460 got to be prepared. We got to be focused when 00:21:13.460 --> 00:21:15.700 it comes to that. And, you know, all of this 00:21:15.700 --> 00:21:18.420 tonight was talking about people presenting their 00:21:18.420 --> 00:21:21.220 representative. And that's just because, guys, 00:21:21.519 --> 00:21:24.680 you really have to be in a position to discern. 00:21:24.920 --> 00:21:28.900 Sometimes we want that love and that companionship. 00:21:29.019 --> 00:21:31.339 And we don't want to be lonely so bad that we 00:21:31.339 --> 00:21:33.579 let it overshadow the fact that we've got to 00:21:33.579 --> 00:21:36.220 be discerning. We've got to be asking the right 00:21:36.220 --> 00:21:39.039 questions. We also got to know when to pull back. 00:21:39.549 --> 00:21:42.029 We also got to know when the pool bag because 00:21:42.029 --> 00:21:45.230 I'm a very caring loving empathetic passionate 00:21:45.230 --> 00:21:48.750 person I've all I've had a lot of trouble through 00:21:48.750 --> 00:21:51.450 the years with the pool bag like to just like 00:21:51.450 --> 00:21:54.930 don't pour more into people than you are getting 00:21:54.930 --> 00:21:58.890 out like reciprocity is real and you will look 00:21:58.890 --> 00:22:01.369 back and have spent all your years pouring pouring 00:22:01.369 --> 00:22:03.529 pouring and never being poured into if you don't 00:22:03.529 --> 00:22:06.819 know when to pull back when somebody stops or 00:22:06.819 --> 00:22:09.519 when their representative is gone and they show 00:22:09.519 --> 00:22:12.220 you who they are, you gotta believe them. And 00:22:12.220 --> 00:22:15.059 you gotta make a hard decision right then. But 00:22:15.059 --> 00:22:17.240 even more than that, y 'all gotta stop crashing 00:22:17.240 --> 00:22:19.640 out. I gotta stop crashing out. We gotta stop 00:22:19.640 --> 00:22:23.339 crashing out and we just got to pull back. Get 00:22:23.339 --> 00:22:28.400 back, refocus, realign, continue dating. and 00:22:28.400 --> 00:22:32.019 don't get, you know, stuck in one place. My dad 00:22:32.019 --> 00:22:34.460 is so profound in his teaching when he talks 00:22:34.460 --> 00:22:37.059 about dating, when he talks about, you know, 00:22:37.279 --> 00:22:40.700 being a queen and how we ought to, and even being 00:22:40.700 --> 00:22:43.200 a king and how we are to pursue and how we are 00:22:43.200 --> 00:22:46.400 to wait and what position we should be in. He 00:22:46.400 --> 00:22:50.579 taught me early on that dating is for data. That 00:22:50.579 --> 00:22:53.640 means that you don't get all of my time and attention 00:22:53.640 --> 00:22:56.940 You don't get the wisely do these and all this 00:22:56.940 --> 00:22:59.720 stuff because I am dating you together data to 00:22:59.720 --> 00:23:02.240 see if there's going to be something and now 00:23:02.240 --> 00:23:04.440 we learn that we need to date with intention 00:23:04.440 --> 00:23:07.599 Like what is what is your plan? What are we going 00:23:07.599 --> 00:23:10.819 to do after this? What is this supposed to lead 00:23:10.819 --> 00:23:14.319 up to and it can't just be empty It can't be 00:23:14.319 --> 00:23:16.619 empty promises. It can't just be talk because 00:23:16.619 --> 00:23:20.259 the actions are going to follow the words The 00:23:20.259 --> 00:23:22.740 actions are going to follow the words if he says 00:23:22.740 --> 00:23:26.039 I'm intentional or she says I'm dating with intention 00:23:26.039 --> 00:23:29.299 and then all of a sudden The representative is 00:23:29.299 --> 00:23:31.420 going out of real person shows up if you don't 00:23:31.420 --> 00:23:34.740 meet the real real They can't date you with intention 00:23:34.740 --> 00:23:43.059 I Agree I agree I Definitely agree with that 00:23:43.059 --> 00:23:51.119 like yeah So as a as a man a reverent As an ordained 00:23:51.119 --> 00:23:56.759 licensed minister, the man of God, the gospel 00:23:56.759 --> 00:24:01.259 carrier of light, one with the beautiful feet, 00:24:01.920 --> 00:24:05.980 what is it? Let's tell the women, what are your 00:24:05.980 --> 00:24:10.799 top three non -negotiables when it comes to dating 00:24:10.799 --> 00:24:17.359 while anointed? Top three, number one. Non -negotiables. 00:24:17.819 --> 00:24:22.519 Non -negotiables. Yes. Number one, non -negotiable 00:24:22.519 --> 00:24:25.940 is you got to have a relationship with God. You 00:24:25.940 --> 00:24:29.480 have to. What if they say, oh, you know, I got 00:24:29.480 --> 00:24:30.960 a relationship with him. I talk to him every 00:24:30.960 --> 00:24:35.839 day. I'm spiritual. OK, there's a lot of spirits. 00:24:36.480 --> 00:24:38.859 But you got to have a relationship with God. 00:24:40.400 --> 00:24:44.680 There's a lot of spirits. Oh, yes. There's a 00:24:44.680 --> 00:24:48.599 spirit of the wine. There's a spirit of being 00:24:48.599 --> 00:24:53.099 high. There's a lot of spirits. There's a spirit. 00:24:53.740 --> 00:24:58.799 Yeah, but you gotta have a Holy Spirit to where 00:24:58.799 --> 00:25:02.799 like you are daily communicating with him. So 00:25:02.799 --> 00:25:05.960 that relationship with God is number one. What's 00:25:05.960 --> 00:25:12.460 number two? Number two, you got to know how to 00:25:12.460 --> 00:25:17.339 have fun as well. You got to, you can't be so 00:25:17.339 --> 00:25:20.420 heavenly minded that you know I'll be good. Okay. 00:25:21.500 --> 00:25:24.640 You got to know how to have fun. And number three, 00:25:26.240 --> 00:25:28.799 number three, you got to just be my lover. You 00:25:28.799 --> 00:25:34.539 got to be my best friend too. I love that. So 00:25:34.539 --> 00:25:40.410 that's three non -negotiables. Number one, She 00:25:40.410 --> 00:25:42.170 got to have relationship with God number two. 00:25:42.210 --> 00:25:44.849 She got no Adam have fun and number three She 00:25:44.849 --> 00:25:47.269 got to be your best. She got to be your friend 00:25:47.269 --> 00:25:51.250 like your best friend now. Tell me What are your 00:25:51.250 --> 00:25:59.289 top three deal breakers like this is not? I Can't 00:25:59.289 --> 00:26:01.609 deal with this. I'm not we ain't even gonna talk 00:26:01.609 --> 00:26:10.250 about it liar The liar cheater and the abusive 00:26:10.250 --> 00:26:12.970 person, I agree with that. And then like, no, 00:26:13.130 --> 00:26:15.950 I'm going to take abusive out, not financially 00:26:15.950 --> 00:26:19.910 sale, not financially sale. Yes. Like if you 00:26:19.910 --> 00:26:23.430 are sitting here and you are blowing your money 00:26:23.430 --> 00:26:28.109 on business stuff, when that money could be used 00:26:28.109 --> 00:26:32.769 for something else, you spend in hundreds of 00:26:32.769 --> 00:26:36.410 thousands of dollars at Neiman markets. but you 00:26:36.410 --> 00:26:40.269 can't pay your light bill. I got a problem with 00:26:40.269 --> 00:26:44.109 that. I got a problem with that. People still 00:26:44.109 --> 00:26:48.049 do that. Like you spending hundreds of thousands 00:26:48.049 --> 00:26:53.049 of dollars on going to the club or something 00:26:53.049 --> 00:26:57.049 like that. But you asking me for money to get 00:26:57.049 --> 00:27:05.789 you something to eat because you broke. I got 00:27:05.789 --> 00:27:09.710 a problem with that. Because that's someone me 00:27:09.710 --> 00:27:14.150 that you are not using your money properly. You're 00:27:14.150 --> 00:27:17.250 not budgeting your money properly. Yeah, not 00:27:17.250 --> 00:27:19.430 being financially stable is an issue. You're 00:27:19.430 --> 00:27:21.869 not being a good steward. And you ain't been 00:27:21.869 --> 00:27:24.950 watching the prosperity blueprint, because obviously 00:27:24.950 --> 00:27:29.029 that is a must. That's a must. They got to watch 00:27:29.029 --> 00:27:31.470 the prosperity blueprint. Got to watch the prosperity 00:27:31.470 --> 00:27:36.299 blueprint. So I think that's good And just you 00:27:36.299 --> 00:27:38.559 know word to the wise like why are you dating? 00:27:39.200 --> 00:27:42.519 You guys that are in the Ministry in the kingdom 00:27:42.519 --> 00:27:44.759 I don't want to say in the church because everybody 00:27:44.759 --> 00:27:47.680 in the church, right? I don't want to use I don't 00:27:47.680 --> 00:27:50.579 want to use that term so loosely But those of 00:27:50.579 --> 00:27:52.940 you that are in the kingdom that our kingdom 00:27:52.940 --> 00:27:56.279 believers while you out here dating gather the 00:27:56.279 --> 00:28:01.539 data pay attention like Don't settle The biggest 00:28:01.539 --> 00:28:05.740 thing is don't settle. Don't settle. We just 00:28:05.740 --> 00:28:08.119 gotta, you know, we gotta have a lot, you have 00:28:08.119 --> 00:28:10.180 to have a lot of patience. And I say we, cause 00:28:10.180 --> 00:28:12.539 I'm in the boat with y 'all rowing, rowing, rowing. 00:28:13.019 --> 00:28:16.279 We have to have a lot of patience. We have to 00:28:16.279 --> 00:28:19.000 have a lot of patience and we have to, you know, 00:28:19.180 --> 00:28:22.539 just be mindful that God wants to give you the 00:28:22.539 --> 00:28:25.420 answer. And he also wants to give you the desires 00:28:25.420 --> 00:28:29.240 of your heart. But I just believe that if your 00:28:29.240 --> 00:28:31.900 desires don't align with his purpose, therein 00:28:31.900 --> 00:28:35.359 lies the problem, right? Because we can desire 00:28:35.359 --> 00:28:40.259 something that God has not designed for us. We 00:28:40.259 --> 00:28:43.480 can have a desire that is not aligned with purpose. 00:28:44.220 --> 00:28:47.700 And yet in steel, you know, the Bible tells us 00:28:47.700 --> 00:28:50.460 that after a while, God will just let you have 00:28:50.460 --> 00:28:53.079 it, like turn you over, right? Just give it to 00:28:53.079 --> 00:28:55.240 you. And it may be something that's going to 00:28:55.240 --> 00:29:00.319 take you on a detour, a detour away from your 00:29:00.319 --> 00:29:03.119 purpose and you getting to what God has designed. 00:29:03.640 --> 00:29:05.799 So in this season, it's my prayer that everyone 00:29:05.799 --> 00:29:08.500 that's joining us on dating while anointed because 00:29:08.500 --> 00:29:11.720 we're going to be adding things while we're preparing 00:29:11.720 --> 00:29:13.940 and while we're getting this platform together. 00:29:14.200 --> 00:29:16.759 It's my prayer that you wait on what is designed. 00:29:17.390 --> 00:29:20.170 Don't just look for what you desire, but wait 00:29:20.170 --> 00:29:22.630 on what is designed. And I'm speaking to myself 00:29:22.630 --> 00:29:27.769 first. Wait on what God has designed for you. 00:29:28.930 --> 00:29:32.190 I like that. I like that. Wait on what God has 00:29:32.190 --> 00:29:37.769 designed for you. 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