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up everyone everyone everyone it is another day
another time and another week for yours and my
favorite Sunday night show. I'm talking about
yading while anointed you all, you all, you all.
I got my co -host, my other mama back with me.
Like y 'all never know how long we're going to
be together. But we said for a while we just
going to jump on here and do these shows together
so that y 'all can get a feel for how this show
is really going to flow. Before we get too far
started, we're going to start it off with prayer,
and then we're going to get started with the
cell. I'm going to let you do this in prayer
tonight. All right. Most gracious, eternal father,
we thank you once again for this time, this day,
this hour, this ability to be able to just exchange,
have conversation that we pray brings light.
to the lives of those that will listen on. We
pray, Lord, for them now that if they are in
waiting for a spouse that you give them the strength
to wait, if they are searching for a spouse that
you allow them to see them as you see them. And
if they are already married, Lord, we pray that
you continue to bind them together with cores
of love that cannot be broken. We thank you for
re -establishing and just helping them to understand
that they have the power of two. that can get
rid of chase away 10 ,000 just by being together.
So Lord, we thank you for this time again for
dating while anointed. We ask that you continue
to be with us, that you lead us in this way,
that we would have a great conversation tonight
and that it would be enlightenment for your people
in Jesus' name, amen. Amen, amen, amen. I don't
know what that background noise was that came
through, but... Was it background noise? It was
on my end. I think we're good. We're good. We're
good. So you all, we have a great compensation
for you all tonight. Like I don't know what we're
talking about. We're talking about soul ties
tonight. Yes, we're talking about them soul ties.
That stuff. If you ain't careful, we'll mess
you all the way up. We'll get you all up. Locked
up, tangled up, tied up. It's not in Jesus. It's
not in Jesus. Like, let's see it. There has been
people that has messed their whole life up because
they got caught up in these soul ties. So I'm
going to let you go first. Like, what you put
about soul ties? So I've learned a lot of different
things during... over the course of time or 30
years and those of you that don't know, I passed
to the church, co -past to the church for a little
over 15 years and we had extensive teaching when
it came to the connections that happened between
two people. that are not only physical, but that
then become spiritual with certain lines of our
cross and things that are happening. And it's
not always sex like people think. Sometimes it
can be obsession. It can be mental. And we sometimes
get caught up and think that it's just the fact
that we have physically joined together with
someone, but we can join together with people
even in business, y 'all know our little business,
but even in business that creates an unhealthy.
um tied the soul of course there's things that
have to be exchanged and things that have to
happen but it can happen so easily um and my
dad talked about it um and actually has a book
that I thought and I found really helpful um
when it came to learning how to break them and
to move on um away from uh an unhealthy situation
or relationship I like that I like the fact that
you have a I like that because a lot of us don't
know how to move on. A lot of us are stuck on,
oh, I've been doing this person for this long.
Oh, they've been doing like this for this long.
Like they must be my person. No. But it can be
friendships too. I mean, people, we got it so
messed up. And a lot of times we can get tired
of people just because of what you said. Man,
let me tell you. There was a group of friends
that I've had that I've told this story before,
but I'm gonna tell it again. You know, I was
hanging around a group of people. I wasn't doing
what they was doing, but those were my boys.
I was hanging around them. Went to play ball.
get to my cousin's house where we playing ball
at. It's about one o 'clock, two o 'clock on
a Saturday. Summertime, you know, summertime.
Get there, my mama looks at me, all feel comfortable
with me being in this environment. Ain't nothing
gonna happen to me like I'm just playing ball,
these are my people. Well, mind y 'all, I'm 16
going on 17. Or I might've been 17 at the time.
These are my people. It's ain't nothing about
that happening to me. Okay. Nine o 'clock was
around. Get a phone call. You need to get home.
I'm on my way to come get you. For my father.
All right, cool. We about to play one more game
and then I'll be ready to come home. Your mama
says she ain't feeling comfortable. I'm on my
way to come get you now. Period. What mine do
you? I'm 17. I met my cousins. Ain't nothing
about that happening to me, man. I'm mad at this
point because I feel like I got a curfew. Get
home next morning, wake up to a phone call from
my mother. You will remember, I told you I didn't
feel comfortable with you being in that environment.
Yeah, my mom remember and you remember I told
you wasn't nothing going to happen, nothing happened.
We played ball, that was it. You remember, blah,
blah, blah? Yeah, I remember him. That's my boy,
like he graduated like a year before I did. What
about him? He got stabbed and killed in that
same spot that y 'all was playing ball in last
night, about 10 minutes after you left. Oh, wow.
That's wild. And at that very moment, I'm like...
What do you mean? Right. Like I was there like
what do you mean this happened? So like literally
you could be in the wrong place at the wrong
time. Every single time. And it's like you can
mess up your gift and your anointing by being
connected to the wrong people. And I wasn't even
doing nothing wrong. Yes, you was. You was not
doing what your mama was. I was playing ball
with my boys. You were being disobedient. I was
playing ball with my boys. Like, wasn't that
about to happen? Like, who would have thought
that? It was something about to happen. Your
mama had the mother's intuition and the leading
of the Holy Spirit to tell your daddy to go get
you. Like, who would have thought, though, that
just by Wrong place, wrong time. But how many
stories do we hear like that? Wrong place, wrong
time. Wrong connection. And you hear people time
and time again get up at funerals and say, you
know, yeah, he was doing this or hanging around,
but he wasn't doing what they were doing or he
was, you know, he was just in the car, which,
you know, legitimately has happened. People have,
you know, just like you, you could have just
been there and not been involved and still been
injured. Yeah, and I was like, when I tell you
that messed me up, I was like, I was there, literally
was standing. He was on my team. I was like,
bro. That's wild. But it's like, once again,
it goes back to being connected to the wrong
people. And it was like, even though I wasn't
doing what I was doing, Those was my people.
It's like, yo grew up around them. Well, yeah,
we can hang out. And it was like God was like,
I need to separate you. Before you do something
to yourself. So before something happens to you,
allow me to separate you. Yeah, let me move you.
And it was like God was enough for a wake up
call for me. I was like, okay, God. Got it, got
it, got it. Because it was like, at that moment,
I'm like, well, if I would have been there, I'm
not saying that would have happened to me, but
who knows what could happen. Who knows? I mean,
who knows, you know, if people have lost their
life or been in the wrong place at the wrong
time, hanging out with the wrong people, mistaken
identity, because of anything, you know, but
thank God that, that your mom, was connected
to Oh, yeah, and she still reminds me about she's
like I'm telling you she said that was just something
in me and that was like He don't need to be here.
Yeah, he don't need to be here Yeah, so when
we talk about being Anointed that's exactly what
we mean. It's like your mother discerned the
atmosphere and discerned that something was going
on in the spirit realm that had not even manifested.
And that's how we have to be when it comes to
people coming into our presence. I get so upset
with myself when I waste too much time with someone
who does not have the right intention, is not
intentional, doesn't have any consistency. And
I'm like, man, because everybody comes and they
start off good. They present well. they show
you, they give you their representative. And
then all of a sudden, that's something happen
or let them, you know, something shift in their
life and they drop everything and become and
they lose their focus. And so it's just that
at this age, it's like you got to be consistent,
but you also got to be discerning. And I get
so mad when I don't have that. you know when
I just have been like oh he's he's nice and and
not really tapped into I'm guilty and most people
that are anointed I preach two Sundays every
month and I tell you right now that I know the
Lord in the power of his might I'm safe safe
the fire filled with the Holy Ghost that with
the evidence and there are still times where
we overrule or we don't tap into the anointing
when it comes to dating But we have to be more
focused and more intentional. We've got to have
our discerning eyes and ears on and we really
got to be led by God. Everything got to go to
him and through him. And y 'all see how when
James talking, he always leave me up here with
him. And when I'm talking in a spot like me.
Because you always dropping bombs. You always
dropping true bombs. But it's true, like we,
you know, we sometimes the desire for companionship
supersedes what we know is the right thing to
do. And that's to be like, okay, Lord. Do you
think that sometimes we allow our marital clock
to make decisions? Of course. That no one never
intended us to make. our emotions, our desires,
our human nature. But that's where we have to
lean back and we've got to really remember who
we are. And we got to remember who our father
is and we've got to tap in to the anointing and
into the Holy Spirit in discern who God has for
us. And sometimes a lot of times we are presented
with familiarity. right familiar spirits how
do people get in so tight typically because it's
something that has been sent to them that's familiar
or something that works like what they desire
you know people can have you know some people
have their checklists written and some people
have it in their mind and you know for women
because I watch all the times shameless and I
don't have no shame about it, but I want to know
what's on people's mind and it's here dating
pool. So I watch sometimes a pop the balloon
or I watch Kendra G and it's very telling because
women get on there and they got to 666. You got
to be six feet tall, right? And the other six
we not going to say on this Holy Ghost Network.
But with that, but with that. It's unrealistic
because when you look at the percentage of men
that are six feet or taller and you look at the
percentage of men that are six, you know figure
earners It's all cool and dandy, but is that
really what God want for you? And I'm past I'm
past because I decided I'm past the child rearing
age and I don't want any more children and so
there are some things that Y 'all heard that,
I'm her last child. I'm the last one. Yeah, my
children tell me not to bring home no more strays.
I'm the last one. I'm the last one that got added.
Last one. There's a few things that we may have
had on our list 10 years ago or 20 years ago
that don't make any sense now, right? And so
do you really need a list or do you need discernment?
That's my question, James. Like for me, for me,
we fall into You talking about the women fall
into the six six six. Man fall into the Bellevue
Devoto. In the smile. That girl is poised. In
the smile or the brick house, right? Oh, yeah,
the brick house. But you can have all of that
and be the worst soul tie you ever started Oh
person that you ever connected to and even though
man There's so much to man like literally we
can fall in love with arm candy Yeah, like let
me be real with y 'all. I have one where we would
go to events together We will be hugged up When
we walked in the womb, our eyes was on us. Uh
-huh. Heads definitely turned. And I liked that
because I'm like, yeah, I'm walking in with the
baddest thing walking. Like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
But then it's like, as I've gotten older now,
it's like, what substance was it really breaking?
What substance? And I was watching somebody today
talking about the fake dead. There are some of
us that need an emotional and a mental connection
to people to really give them an opportunity
to be with them. We would say how lonely it is
when you cannot find that. So we go to so many
extremes because human nature says, oh, yeah,
I want the trophy, right? The trophy wife or
hey, I want the arm candy or hey, I need somebody
that is going to stimulate my mind. Like everybody
has their things. I saw another post where somebody
was debunking along the long time research of
Dr. Chapman about love languages. Why do people
not want to admit that it's science and that
it works and that it's real? There is biology
and research that's behind it. And so I find
it interesting that we always attack things that
are meant to stabilize and meant to bring information
to our understanding so that we can connect to
the right people with an understanding. I ask
you, you ask me, what is it that makes you tick
or what is it that makes you feel loved or honored
or wanted? We should be able to answer those
questions. What are your expectations of me?
What is it that you want from me? And if we could
answer at least those three questions, honestly,
we would probably make our decisions a lot quicker.
our biggest fault is staying too long. I think
I bet this fault is not doing the research. And
not only that, James, but staying too long. Not
admitting it ain't working out. Oh, because we
don't want to hurt nobody's feelings. Right.
That's the empathetic church. Yeah. Like, you
know, let me just smile like you're actually
trying. So let me give him a sense. benefit of
the doubt. The doubt is present and we just trying
to give them a benefit that is. Let me be real
with y 'all. I'm 36 years old. I'm done trying.
Like if it ain't working within a certain amount
of time, on to the next because it's like I know
the greater has to be out there. And listen,
those people, people listen to what I'm saying.
Listen to me. If you are going to date an anointed
person, meaning someone that you know they're
anointed, don't come with the foolishness, because
I'm telling you that if I don't want to see nobody
else's anatomy unasked, what are you, how do
you say it? I don't even know what to say. Don't
do that, James. Don't do that. Don't do that.
I don't want to see nobody else's anatomy. Don't
tell me about your bank account. How much money
you got. Don't tell me, you know, don't try to
come that like don't compare what I'm doing or
what you're doing. It ain't necessary. We don't
have to go through all of that. Like listen,
just let's come get to know. each other as individuals
but with intentionality. Let me know what your
intention is up front so I can decide if I want
to be involved in what your expectation is or
not. Simple as that. There's a difference between
a kingdom fraud and a kingdom spouse. There's
a difference. A kingdom fraud? A kingdom fraud.
and the king. Oh, I thought you said fraud. I
was about to say, I don't I don't know what to
do with no fraud. So that's good, right? Dude,
there's a difference. The kingdom fraud is going
to come in and try to oh, wow. The kingdom fraud
is going to try to tell you what you want to
hear in order to make themselves sound good.
but your kingdom spouse ain't gonna tell you
nothing. They're gonna show you. Show me, show
me. Like legit, I was on the phone earlier today
with someone and I was telling them a little
bit about what I got going on, some of the things
that I'm working on with the network and all
of that. And I brought up to them something that
we're working on. And literally, this person
was like, how can I help? That's what's up. That's
what's up. What do you need from me? What do
you need from me to make it successful? And I'm
just sitting back like, I ain't even asked for
your help, but like, what do you mean? And they're
like, I'm here to help. What do you need for
me? Now, I have that. For me, that's been a downfall.
And so I'm a little bit guarded when it comes
to that. That's been my downfall. And it's good
to hear from a man's perspective if it's wanted
and welcome. But me as a woman, one of the things
that my good friend Tell me to not do. She's
like, don't tell them what you do. Don't tell
them what you have done. Don't tell them who
you are. Like, don't give them your social media.
Like, let them get to know you before you expose
all these things because the fraudster is like,
oh, yeah, she's going to come in here. We're
going to build this thing. She, you know, but
that is what you've done and expecting you to
do the same thing for them. Yeah. And I don't
I just right now. Right now, none of that matters
for me, right? But I've learned through the course
of time to just be quiet. To just be quiet. Because
there's so much going on and I don't talk about
it because I like to toot my own horn or I like
to be brank. Like I was talking to you the other
night and you brought and I was breaking up something
to you and you brought up all your office in
a classroom. Huh? Yeah, but that's me talking
to my people in private. And I have done that
with people that I'm trying to let them get to
know me. And I'm so caught up in my lifestyle,
which is consumed with business, right? It's
consumed with my business. It's consumed with
writing books. It's consumed with doing all these
things. I'm so consumed that I think that's the
way for people to get to know me, where really
it's not. For me, I have to be quiet. And that's
why people say, they ask me all the time, do
you ask questions? I don't ask questions because
I don't want to know people's business because
then I feel like I'm responsible for it. So I
really, really ask anybody a question. But in
daily, I've learned there's questions I need
to ask. in order for me to make a good decision
because one of the things that I want to avoid
in this season is being picked but not chosen.
I no longer want to be picked. I want to position
myself to be chosen and that's what everybody
should desire. because they pick you does not
mean that they choose you or they will choose
you I have had people come to me and I'm not
ashamed to say it and they can I'm not gonna
call their names but I've had multiple multiple
of people come to me and say oh I should have
married you back then or I should have not let
you get away back then but you're coming to me
now at this big old right age of 49, and you
come into me now in this 2026 when you've already
given your formidable or your best year. Don't
give me what's best of you, give me what's best
of you. Give me the best you, not the best of
you. I feel like right now that my spouse, my
future spouse will get the best of me. Come on.
you didn't want to marry me back then you didn't
want to know me back then because I was wild
unhinged not who I am now I think that a man
would get the best version of me now because
of everything that I've already been through
and everything that I already understand but
with that I'm not going to be picked and not
the chosen one and that's what I say you know
I say that about so many you know so many scenarios
like let's not get into situations shifts Let's
not be side pieces and side chicks because that
means that you are just being picked and not
chosen. The chosen one has all the benefit of
being chosen. Being picked just means that your
benefit is limited. And that's not what God has
for you. That's not what God has for us. That's
not what he has planned or purpose for us. I
cannot be chosen. Don't pick me. Then she wonders
why I put her on solo layouts. If I can be chosen,
don't pick me. If I can't be chosen, don't pick
me. And if you got to pick between me and somebody
else, pick the other person. Please, because
I have to be in a position to be chosen. Now,
if you choose me, Right, you choose me and you
have the consistency and you're not and you don't
have somebody else in the chosen seat Let's be
let's be real clear because some of y 'all are
married and unhappy and y 'all running out picking
other people to feel spaces and feel boys, right?
I'm not that shit. I'm not that girl So listen
when you get into those type of thing, let's
not do that Let's not allow people to pick us
when we can't sit in the chosen seat Man, there's
some people that are running around right now
that's been girlfriends for 25 years. They've
been a girlfriend for 25 years. I'm literally
too old to be somebody's girlfriend. Why? Like,
for me, I'm 36 years old. What I look like at
36 years old, talking about this, my girlfriend.
Yeah. No. I mean, it is a term that we use loosely
that less people, you know, that gives it a concrete
meaning or title, whatever. But I'm looking to
be this is this is my chosen. This is my chosen.
This is my chosen. This is my weird. This is
my weird idea, like, right? I don't think that
it's asking too much. It ain't. It's not. I don't
think it's asking too much. It's not. Like, I'm
looking for, I'm ready to say this is my will.
This is bone on my bone. Y 'all hear that? Every
week, James tell y 'all what he looking for,
what he expected. So, y 'all hit him up. Y 'all,
y 'all can fill up his DMs. Come on, give me
some options to work with him through. I'm just
teasing, because I know there's one. She got
her eyes on you right now. I'm trying to... I
don't want to mess that up. Oh, my goodness.
Yeah, I know. Mama's sterile things. That's what
we do. Leave it to my mama. Leave it to her.
Leave it to her. Like, in all honesty, my thing
is this. I'm not looking for anyone, just anyone.
I'm glad, I will be glad to say that I have the
award. Yeah. And me, myself, I'm just waiting
to be chosen by my purpose partner. By the person
that is going to make sure and ensure that our
purpose, his purpose and mine is fulfilling the
Earth. And that's the goal. the other things
they come about. And we're just gonna match,
but discernment has to be in play, guys. If you're
gonna avoid adding your soul to someone that
you're not gonna be able to chase 10 ,000 with,
because you're all born in opposite directions,
then make sure that you take everything, take
everything and everybody to your father and seek
his approval. There's two things that have to
happen. Take them to your heavenly father, who
is God himself, and let him expose, show, open
up your eyes, your heart and your mind to understand,
to see and know, and then take them to your earthly
father. If you don't have an earthly father,
take them to your earthly father figure or find
you one that can help you to see what you want
to see. Let me tell y 'all, I will be well with
y 'all will create. That was one. That a little
bit ago I'm not gonna tell y 'all how long But
that was one that I was really interested in
things was going great things was going smooth
Things was going perfect And there was one night
I was gonna introduce her to somebody That we
see the noses doing Yeah, uh -huh, uh -huh and
The person was like yo, I'm busy tonight. Let's
do it another night But then three weeks It really
was like last week dude within a week Within
two weeks, the person really sold who it was.
And it was like, it's like, you got to be careful
in those situations. You have to be careful in
those situations, not only in dating, but you
got to be careful in those situations in business.
Because there has been times where I have been
trying to be so busy building up this network.
and doing things to stay busy in this network.
And because I've been doing that, I failed to
follow instructions and I miscounted some things.
Let me give you our case in point. I had gotten
away from playing the keyboard a little bit.
I used to play it all the time. I ended up getting
rid of my keyboard. I had a Yamaha keyboard.
and an Amplify. God, wait a minute. Well, then
I started getting it to start playing again.
I went on Amazon. I ordered a keyboard out for
Amazon, you all. The keyboard that I got from
Amazon. is this right here. And the problem was
I didn't read the instructions and the fine print.
Let me be real with y 'all, there are so many
people right now that are marrying people that
they thought was a Yamaha keyboard, which is
top of the line, but really what they are is
right here. And the reason why they're getting
this right here instead of top of the line is
because they failed to read the fine print. Period.
You have to read the fine print. So if you want
in top of the line, get in your way to God. Read
your way. Make sure that you are steady and make
sure that you are staying in line. And he will
show you what you actually need. and you won't
end up with a temporary fix that you ended up
going to have to spend more money to buy something
else anyway. Yep. It's going to cost you more
to get rid of it than it is to get what you actually
need. Wait for what you need. That's right. Just
wait for what you need. Wait for what you need.
Exercise discernment. Pray. Exercise discernment.
take them to both your fathers. And be ready
for the answer and to accept it. When wisdom
speaks, listen. I can tell you from experience.
There's been times in my life where if I would
have listened to wisdom, I would have saved myself
a lot of trouble. And now, wisdom is here again.
and we gonna save trouble. Exactly. Exactly.
And that's what dating while anointed is all
about, guys. People say, you know, we gotta get
to know people. Dating is for data. It's for
data. It's so you can get to know people so you
can understand who they are to get no expectations.
It's set expectations. And when it don't work
out, be willing to walk away. No love lost, no
love gained. It says you learn better and you
do better. That's it. So we will see y 'all next
week on Dating While Anointed. God bless y 'all.
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