1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:08,320 Welcome to Closer to Christ through Conference. 2 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:12,620 We're two friends who love Jesus, and we're sharing our own approach to conference. 3 00:00:12,620 --> 00:00:17,200 So today we're going to talk about Four Ordained to Serve by Elder Stephen R. Bengeter of the 4 00:00:17,200 --> 00:00:18,200 Seventy. 5 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:20,000 Um, this was a great talk. 6 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:21,000 Loved it so much. 7 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:22,000 Abby, thanks for being here. 8 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:23,000 Welcome. 9 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:24,000 It's good to be here. 10 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:25,000 Hi guys. 11 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:30,200 Um, okay, so he's going to speak specifically to the youth in this talk. 12 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:35,000 Um, but you know, we're old and the message is really still valuable to us as well individually. 13 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:41,160 Um, so a tool to help in my role as a mother or serving in the youth could help them learn 14 00:00:41,160 --> 00:00:45,560 how to see to know what they were four ordained to do here on the earth. 15 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:47,480 And why does this topic even matter? 16 00:00:47,480 --> 00:00:52,520 From the talk, he says, why does it matter to seek to know and understand your four ordination? 17 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:57,600 In a day when questions abound, when so many seek to know their true identity, the fact 18 00:00:57,600 --> 00:01:02,880 that God knows and has blessed each one of us individually before we were even born on 19 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:09,320 this earth with essential characteristics of premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and 20 00:01:09,320 --> 00:01:10,320 purpose. 21 00:01:10,320 --> 00:01:13,260 This brings sweet peace and assurance to our minds and to our hearts. 22 00:01:13,260 --> 00:01:15,280 That's also from the family proclamation. 23 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:16,520 I love this so much. 24 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:20,280 I also loved, um, I have to tell you when I was listening to this for the first time, 25 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:25,520 like I kind of, I didn't, I stood up or I scooted toward my, at the end of my chair 26 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:29,520 and I was just like all in, I was like, oh my gosh, he's talking about four ordination. 27 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:31,200 That's pretty big. 28 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:32,960 It's a bold topic. 29 00:01:32,960 --> 00:01:35,560 It is, um, a powerful topic. 30 00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:38,760 Um, but he did it in a way that was kind of simple. 31 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:39,760 Exactly. 32 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:43,960 So I love that he kind of visualized the youth that he was speaking to, but like it really 33 00:01:43,960 --> 00:01:47,840 helped me on the level where right older, this is a topic that's come up many different 34 00:01:47,840 --> 00:01:53,480 ways at different times, but he is, I'm sure he could make this much more complicated talk 35 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:55,200 if he wanted to. 36 00:01:55,200 --> 00:02:01,440 You could, I mean, it, it's a, it's a interesting subject, but because he was thinking that 37 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:05,120 the youth in mind did a really good job making it applicable. 38 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:06,120 So good. 39 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:07,120 Okay. 40 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:14,840 Um, I wanted to say, can I jump to, I printed this talk and the footnotes came out in it 41 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:16,400 and it was only, was it like a page and a half? 42 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:20,680 It wasn't like the longest talk in the world, but he got his message across like so well, 43 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:21,680 so it's so quick and simple. 44 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:22,680 Yeah. 45 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:23,680 That it wasn't super long. 46 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:28,280 And so I just kind of briefly looked at the footnotes of it and I made a note about it. 47 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:32,920 It's, um, I'm giving him an A plus on his talk because my husband, he works with the 48 00:02:32,920 --> 00:02:39,760 seminaries and institutes and church CES and, um, he told me that something they're really 49 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:44,880 being asked to focus on is amplifying the prophet and echoing his words. 50 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:48,520 And so the reason I gave it to bring it on a plus for his talk is because he referenced 51 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:52,160 six talks by president Nelson and he did it flawlessly, right? 52 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:56,720 It's like, you wouldn't know how do you know, one seamless talk and it was just the right, 53 00:02:56,720 --> 00:03:00,640 the right paragraphs from each of those things that we've done to the top of our nation, 54 00:03:00,640 --> 00:03:04,160 which you know, the prophet would have been talking about, uh, you know, multiple different 55 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:08,840 things in those six talks, but his, his vision is so clear and his purpose is to bring us 56 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:10,080 closer to Jesus Christ. 57 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:13,880 And in this moment, you know, all of those things work together to stress the point of 58 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:14,880 four ordination. 59 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:16,960 So, so he pulled out the family proclamation. 60 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:21,000 He pulled out just the right scriptures that center around the topic of four ordination. 61 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:28,920 And even though, um, uh, so like I said, even though all of those six topics weren't individually 62 00:03:28,920 --> 00:03:34,520 on four ordination, he just leaves like a beautiful message on it that applies to all 63 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,120 church members. 64 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:41,080 Um, before the creation of the earth, faithful women were given certain responsibilities 65 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,920 and faithful men were foreordained to certain priesthood duties. 66 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:45,560 I'm reading that right from the talk. 67 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:49,280 As people prove themselves worthy, they will be given opportunities to fulfill the assignments 68 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:51,440 they then receive. 69 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:53,400 And he got that right out of gospel topics. 70 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:55,760 So I love that he just points to simple truths. 71 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:59,960 Like you just kind of sit and like you read that, you reread that a few times and you 72 00:03:59,960 --> 00:04:04,340 think that's exactly what all of this is about, you know, kind of wonder why your life takes 73 00:04:04,340 --> 00:04:05,760 a certain direction or not. 74 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:10,840 But if we think about all of the time that we spent in our pre-existence and had a lot 75 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:15,240 of time to kind of make plans for how we would best learn the lessons that we needed to. 76 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:20,000 And then, um, so for some men, some priesthood obligations, like they promised through that 77 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:23,760 power that they would do the things that they were asked to do and faithful women given 78 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:25,760 certain responsibilities. 79 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:26,760 And I loved it too. 80 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:30,160 Like that's exactly what we talked about this week and come follow me. 81 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,720 Those that were foreordained to the high priest priesthood. 82 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:35,620 And I really loved the way that they explained it because someone could be like, well, why 83 00:04:35,620 --> 00:04:39,680 do they have these opportunities when others didn't? 84 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:44,520 Many were foreordained, but it's our choices and our agency that come into play. 85 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:50,280 And so it's not like for ordination, for ordination would ever take away our free agency or our 86 00:04:50,280 --> 00:04:52,940 agency there, you know, to choose. 87 00:04:52,940 --> 00:04:55,240 It's just that we get to choose into that. 88 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:56,240 We get to opt into it. 89 00:04:56,240 --> 00:04:58,840 It's a blessing that we can attain. 90 00:04:58,840 --> 00:05:03,560 Elder Binggitter shared his own personal experience when he was a 13 year old, his father approached 91 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:04,560 him. 92 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:07,800 He was in the stoop of his house. 93 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:11,780 And when his father came to him, he said that he prayed to Heavenly Father beforehand and 94 00:05:11,780 --> 00:05:18,160 prayed that the words he was going to say would go straight to his heart and that he 95 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,000 would take them, take them in. 96 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:24,380 And clearly that's what happened because now all these years later, he's sharing this bit 97 00:05:24,380 --> 00:05:25,900 of wisdom with all of us. 98 00:05:25,900 --> 00:05:29,900 And essentially what it was is he wanted him to protect what he called the private times 99 00:05:29,900 --> 00:05:30,900 of his life. 100 00:05:30,900 --> 00:05:36,580 What that means to me is just anytime when you are alone and no one's really watching, 101 00:05:36,580 --> 00:05:42,280 but you continue to be as integrity as you are in that moment as other moments when there's 102 00:05:42,280 --> 00:05:44,120 a crowd of people around you. 103 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:48,000 That is exactly what I was thinking of because like that can kind of make you feel uncomfortable 104 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:50,080 like, oh, we're talking about the private times in life. 105 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:56,340 But you know, that can mean, you know, sexual sin, like keeping yourself morally clean. 106 00:05:56,340 --> 00:05:58,800 But he really does delve into what actually meant to him. 107 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:00,160 It's so much deeper than that. 108 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:01,400 And I had the same impression. 109 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:02,680 I thought of integrity. 110 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:06,280 I was impressed to think, go back and review Elder Gerard's talk. 111 00:06:06,280 --> 00:06:10,620 And I thought, I'm not sure why, but I happen to just be on the podcast listening. 112 00:06:10,620 --> 00:06:13,640 So I popped over to our episode, I would suggest that. 113 00:06:13,640 --> 00:06:18,440 So that's episode six, if you wanted to backtrack and re-listen to that with the light of thinking 114 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:19,940 about private moments. 115 00:06:19,940 --> 00:06:26,960 Because for me, I made the connection that exactly what you said, the integrity of doing 116 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:29,480 the right thing, even when nobody's watching. 117 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:33,520 You have nobody else that's holding you accountable except yourself. 118 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:37,320 And so I was really grateful that the Spirit impressed me to make that connection. 119 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:41,280 Another interesting thing was somehow I happened onto topics. 120 00:06:41,280 --> 00:06:44,760 Like if you go to the general conference, you can search it by speaker or there's one 121 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:45,760 other option. 122 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:48,440 Maybe, I don't, I can't remember the middle one. 123 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:54,520 And then the last one was by topic and Elder Gerard's talk, Elder Vanguarder's talk that 124 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:55,920 we're talking about today. 125 00:06:55,920 --> 00:07:01,720 And then the next episode that you hear will be by Sister Vanaeus. 126 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:06,560 They are all ones that highlight as divine nature talks as the specific topic. 127 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:11,760 So I thought, what a beautiful thing to, you know, at the end of those three, that we'll 128 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:17,040 have all the pieces and parts that come to us that we can mesh the thoughts of all of 129 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:21,960 those three talks and really get a better understanding of what he wants us to know 130 00:07:21,960 --> 00:07:28,680 about our divine nature at this snapshot of our life and think on that and do little things 131 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:33,680 that we need to, to, to really let that message resonate through us and really feel empowered 132 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,560 by the divine nature that we do have. 133 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:40,680 He makes it seem like an easy thing to just recognize that. 134 00:07:40,680 --> 00:07:45,520 But I do know this is, this is a hard message to get across to the youth. 135 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:46,520 Yeah. 136 00:07:46,520 --> 00:07:51,160 So, um, if I'm going to ask you, what did Elder Vanguarder do in the private times or 137 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:53,520 in the times where he was alone? 138 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:56,160 Cause he takes a different approach. 139 00:07:56,160 --> 00:08:01,360 So I kind of just read through what he's, what he learned from his, from his dad's words 140 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:02,400 as he thought about it. 141 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:07,240 He thought about the times that he privately went to God in prayer when he was trying to 142 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:09,040 receive his own revelation. 143 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:10,040 Exactly. 144 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:17,400 He talks about, um, how he talked about how he worked in those private times to learn 145 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:22,000 about how God had forwarding blessings for him. 146 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:25,600 And he said in those private moments, I learned the Book of Mormon is the word of God. 147 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:30,080 I do think there are appropriate activities and group settings where we're getting strengthened 148 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:32,680 by things that we're learning in the Book of Mormon. 149 00:08:32,680 --> 00:08:36,880 If we're at church and we're discussing the Book of Mormon, we might get a little addition 150 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:39,680 to our testimony, like a glimmer of light. 151 00:08:39,680 --> 00:08:43,460 But I think most people would agree, like when you ask him that question to know for 152 00:08:43,460 --> 00:08:47,040 yourself if the Book of Mormon is the word of God, that's a very private moment. 153 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:48,040 Absolutely. 154 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:52,840 Um, he said, I learned God had forwarded me to serve a mission. 155 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:55,680 And I mean, I think he hit that in the first, the second paragraph that was right from the 156 00:08:55,680 --> 00:08:56,680 prophet. 157 00:08:56,680 --> 00:09:00,560 And just a reminder, it sounds funny, but, um, out of my, you know, that youth class 158 00:09:00,560 --> 00:09:04,960 that we teach, it was two sessions ago and these kids came back from that conference 159 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:07,120 and they were like, I'm going on a mission. 160 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:10,000 They were thinking about doing A, B or C and they're like, I'm going to go on a mission. 161 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:11,240 Like, oh, let's change your mind. 162 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:14,820 Cause we're open to whatever they're, they're, they're impressed to do at that moment. 163 00:09:14,820 --> 00:09:19,200 Some go to college, some kind of a gap year, like some know they're going to get their 164 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:21,440 papers in and head out immediately. 165 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:22,800 Just there's lots of different options. 166 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:26,200 And some say like, it's not really something that I'm feeling like doing. 167 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:31,360 And a couple of our kids that were kind of on the fence about what their plan was specifically 168 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:33,400 after that talk, they were like, I'm going to go on a mission. 169 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:35,160 I'm like, what, what made you change? 170 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:37,440 What made you decide that? 171 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:41,360 And they were like, well, the prophet talk, I've never, I've never heard him say so directly 172 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:45,200 that that we're supposed to go on a mission and I kind of like giggled internally. 173 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:47,600 Cause I'm like, definitely, definitely. 174 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:50,800 He said that they may have been five when you heard it. 175 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:51,800 Exactly. 176 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:54,160 It, it wasn't the message for them to hear at that time. 177 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:55,160 Totally. 178 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:56,960 With the Hillary hit that same thing. 179 00:09:56,960 --> 00:10:00,960 And so I looked into that, like looked at the references and I thought it's a beautiful 180 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:05,280 thing to be explained that in all of that time that we had before we came to earth, 181 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:08,240 that we made promises and that's where we made that promise. 182 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:12,240 Like why do we say that these men are going on missions because they were some of the 183 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:15,960 select few that would have the opportunity to come to earth and bear the priesthood. 184 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:20,880 And with that priesthood comes responsibilities and absolutely, you know, like, like decisions 185 00:10:20,880 --> 00:10:25,960 can take you off of that path that you were headed on, that you were going to go take 186 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:28,280 this beautiful message and share with other people. 187 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:32,320 But I think it's not really meant to be like, Oh, it's not something that I did and I should 188 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:33,320 feel bad about myself. 189 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:35,800 I just think it's a powerful thing to think. 190 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:42,360 I made covenants, I made a priest to promise that I would serve a mission and I would say 191 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:45,560 like God is good and there's always second chances. 192 00:10:45,560 --> 00:10:50,120 Like I have, you know, important people in my life that didn't serve a mission at 18, 193 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:55,080 19, whatever that age was, you know, when they were supposed to go, when they could 194 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:56,840 have gone for the first time. 195 00:10:56,840 --> 00:11:01,440 But you know, my own grandfather, he served three missions with my grandma much later 196 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:06,560 and like built a temple and took the gospel people of Papua New Guinea and Australia. 197 00:11:06,560 --> 00:11:12,000 And I'm sure that like, you know, as he became deeply involved in the gospel that there were 198 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:15,560 probably moments that he regretted that he hadn't served a mission when he was younger, 199 00:11:15,560 --> 00:11:17,680 but that wasn't what the cards dealt to him. 200 00:11:17,680 --> 00:11:24,040 Like he became a father instead of a missionary at that time, but sent one child, one grandchild 201 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:28,800 off after the next, you know, on those missions and till it was his own term to serve. 202 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:34,560 And he made that choice to fulfill that promise that I'm sure he made in the pre-existence. 203 00:11:34,560 --> 00:11:37,920 So whenever the time is right that you're going to do it is a beautiful thing. 204 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:38,920 Yes. 205 00:11:38,920 --> 00:11:47,880 So I don't know, how do you, we're the older people, so he wasn't technically talking to 206 00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:48,880 us. 207 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:52,640 What tools do we have that we can teach the youth that are in our lives, whether they 208 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:56,800 be classes that we teach or our own children, the ones that we encounter, like what can 209 00:11:56,800 --> 00:12:00,640 we do to help them understand their sport or donation process? 210 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:02,760 Where can we turn them to understand what they were working for? 211 00:12:02,760 --> 00:12:07,160 I think a big one is your patriarchal blessing, you know, because that's very, it's a very 212 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:08,160 easy way to start. 213 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:09,160 I shouldn't say easy. 214 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:12,900 It's a simple way to start with something that's so very personal and tailored exactly 215 00:12:12,900 --> 00:12:13,900 to you. 216 00:12:13,900 --> 00:12:17,840 And as you get to know and understand your own patriarchal blessing, it's easier to look 217 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:22,300 through, you know, scripture and words of the prophets and know that those are directed 218 00:12:22,300 --> 00:12:23,480 to you as well. 219 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:26,840 For me too, I love the prayer journaling. 220 00:12:26,840 --> 00:12:31,320 I'll ask Heavenly Father, like I literally from this talk, I said, what was I forwarding 221 00:12:31,320 --> 00:12:32,320 to do? 222 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:33,320 And that felt big to me. 223 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:34,320 And I'm, I'm 48. 224 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:35,320 I couldn't imagine someone. 225 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:37,320 Let's pause on that for a second. 226 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:42,560 I'll make sure to add that to the notes as like, like that's such a good action item. 227 00:12:42,560 --> 00:12:43,560 It's big, right? 228 00:12:43,560 --> 00:12:45,240 It was almost kind of scary for me to ask. 229 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:46,240 That's funny. 230 00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:49,920 That's big because it could, it could open up to many things he could hit you with, but 231 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:52,840 what you're like really prepared for right in this moment. 232 00:12:52,840 --> 00:13:01,960 So maybe, maybe the way I would ask that question is, um, what, what is one thing that I've 233 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:05,000 been for ordained for it that I'm prepared for right now? 234 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:09,240 And then kind of where your mind will take you next to be like, Oh, I need to start working 235 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:11,920 on this piece of my life. 236 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:15,600 So for me, it was really interesting or get into the genealogy thing, whatever that's 237 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:17,900 yes, whatever the thing is for you, right? 238 00:13:17,900 --> 00:13:21,040 Because I'm, you are capable of whatever policies can throw you. 239 00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:25,520 I've seen you be multiple, good at taking like multiple suggestions and like understanding 240 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:26,520 those are all good things. 241 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:29,720 And you can sit and prioritize like which one you're going to attack first. 242 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:32,120 Actually unfolded differently though. 243 00:13:32,120 --> 00:13:33,600 It was so interesting. 244 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:34,600 Yeah. 245 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:35,600 Something you felt comfortable saying. 246 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:36,600 It was interesting because it unfolded. 247 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:39,440 It's funny that you go on that line because I was kind of thinking along the same lines 248 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:40,440 too. 249 00:13:40,440 --> 00:13:41,440 That's not the line. 250 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:43,440 Like a Velcro and you're like, I'm ready to catch what you say. 251 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:44,440 Give it to me. 252 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:45,440 Right? 253 00:13:45,440 --> 00:13:46,440 Yeah. 254 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:48,600 All it was, was, so I have to say this and I think I've hit on this before, but, um, 255 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:55,800 in 2013 we received, um, just a regular father's blessing and in it, it said, right. 256 00:13:55,800 --> 00:14:01,160 These things down, like record them and print them out and look back at them as if they 257 00:14:01,160 --> 00:14:03,040 were your personal scripture. 258 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:06,080 And I remember it happening probably two times before I actually did it. 259 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:07,640 Cause that seemed like a big thing for me to do. 260 00:14:07,640 --> 00:14:08,640 Oh my gosh. 261 00:14:08,640 --> 00:14:10,440 I have to write it out, print it out. 262 00:14:10,440 --> 00:14:12,200 And then, so anyways, I got the binder. 263 00:14:12,200 --> 00:14:13,200 I did the thing. 264 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:17,560 I've been doing that now for 11 years, the feeling and the doing what I don't think that 265 00:14:17,560 --> 00:14:19,400 I'm hearing what you're saying. 266 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:25,200 Recording the blessing when it, when I get a father's blessing and then printing it out. 267 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:30,400 And then I put it in a sleeve protector and I have a thick binder now of 11 years of just 268 00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:32,840 father's blessings or blessings I get from Garrett. 269 00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:37,480 So priesthood blessings, the impression I got after I asked, what have I been for ordained 270 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:41,760 to do was just, just a thought was look back through your blessings. 271 00:14:41,760 --> 00:14:45,800 And I thought, man, that's a big work, but I've been doing it and unequivocally like 272 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:48,940 there are some things in there that are definitely a direction. 273 00:14:48,940 --> 00:14:50,200 Do I know exactly what they mean? 274 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:51,200 Are they redundant things? 275 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:54,720 Like you're seeing a theme like that in this blessing and then it came back again a year 276 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:55,720 or two later. 277 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:56,720 Yeah. 278 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:57,720 And they're just little bits and pieces here and there. 279 00:14:57,720 --> 00:14:59,280 It's not even like you are for ordained to do this. 280 00:14:59,280 --> 00:15:03,120 I mean, it said that one time, but so now I've looked at anything that's along that 281 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:06,480 vein, which was us kind of moving here and doing this thing here. 282 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:07,480 It was interesting. 283 00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:08,480 Like who knows? 284 00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:09,480 I don't know what it means. 285 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:13,340 I just know that I follow each impression to move forward. 286 00:15:13,340 --> 00:15:18,020 And when the spirit moves me, I do it whether I know how it's going to end or not. 287 00:15:18,020 --> 00:15:19,200 So I don't know the end of the story. 288 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:20,200 Do you know what I'm saying? 289 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:23,920 But I absolutely know that I know that heavenly father's in this with me and he didn't just 290 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:27,960 drop me here and say, good luck figuring out what you were for ordained to do. 291 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:32,400 I feel like I don't have the full story, but I'm not nervous and I'm not scared. 292 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:35,880 I'm just taking one step at a time, just like regular life. 293 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:37,680 I like that. 294 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:40,200 I'm going to think on that for a minute. 295 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:46,600 Like you've got multiple years of blessings to look back on to synthesize and then find 296 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:47,600 the action plan. 297 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:51,040 Like most of us are like, well, good job girl. 298 00:15:51,040 --> 00:15:53,040 I do have my patriarchal blessing to go back on. 299 00:15:53,040 --> 00:15:58,240 It has been such a steady force in my life and things I think have been fulfilled. 300 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:02,560 If I read it again, different eyes, different year, then I'm like, oh, I see that differently 301 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:07,360 now, which is such a beautiful, it's a beautiful thing. 302 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:11,920 So I guess another action item is if you haven't received your patriarchal blessing, maybe 303 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:17,280 stop and consider is it your time to have that in your life is like a nice potential 304 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:18,280 roadmap. 305 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:22,680 We could have a whole different conversation on actually patriarchal blessings, but those 306 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:25,960 were probably my two favorite things at FSY last summer. 307 00:16:25,960 --> 00:16:30,760 We were asked to discuss the young men's and the elements theme, depending on if you're 308 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:34,980 speaking to the girls or the boys individually. 309 00:16:34,980 --> 00:16:39,040 And so I thought patriarchal blessing was exactly where I wanted to go with. 310 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:45,560 And I was impressed to talk about patriarchal blessing, but I explained to the girl, the 311 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:53,040 young woman that I was with that the young woman theme stands as such a powerful, like 312 00:16:53,040 --> 00:16:54,040 what do you call them? 313 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:59,720 Like affirmation, positive affirmations, like line after line, the things that we were sent 314 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:01,920 here for to be, to do. 315 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:03,400 And it's a placeholder for me. 316 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:05,800 I think it's applicable to everybody. 317 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:09,280 And then when you know that that to be true, if you're ready for it, you ask, you prepare 318 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:12,560 and do the patriarchal blessing and that gives you a little more fine tuning. 319 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:16,160 So when you say placeholder, explain to us what that looks like in your mind. 320 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:21,280 So I think we start as young as like the first song we learned in primary as I'm a child 321 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:22,280 of God. 322 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:25,080 I'm pretty sure like every kid knows that it's like a favorite for everybody. 323 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:26,080 And those are truths. 324 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:29,080 I feel like most primary kids, they know it, they feel that song, they love it. 325 00:17:29,080 --> 00:17:32,020 And it's so easy for them to sing that song and know that it's true. 326 00:17:32,020 --> 00:17:35,760 We all get confused as to what one, two and three verses are like, what's the next one? 327 00:17:35,760 --> 00:17:37,820 But once you get going, you know it. 328 00:17:37,820 --> 00:17:44,120 And I think something happens as we approach like those teen years. 329 00:17:44,120 --> 00:17:48,480 And there's a shift, there's definitely a shift and we've become less certain of the 330 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:50,540 things that we knew as a child. 331 00:17:50,540 --> 00:17:56,320 And we have to, we have to evolve and be prepared for like whatever taxis is going to have on 332 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:57,320 us. 333 00:17:57,320 --> 00:18:00,760 And so he does something to make us less certain about those truths that we literally started 334 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:01,760 with. 335 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:05,080 It's like almost like the veil is super thin coming to earth life. 336 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:06,920 Like I think that's why babies don't talk. 337 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:07,960 That's just a side note. 338 00:18:07,960 --> 00:18:08,960 Like that's not doctrine. 339 00:18:08,960 --> 00:18:13,240 But like I think they think that they're super in tune with spirits, angels that are attending 340 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:17,360 them and like they're not permitted to talk because they would tell us too many amazing 341 00:18:17,360 --> 00:18:18,360 things. 342 00:18:18,360 --> 00:18:22,200 And then, you know, we move into this age where anything you tell your kid, they believe 343 00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:23,200 that it's true. 344 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:27,600 You can get away with a lot of things, you know, Santa to various things of this nature 345 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:29,940 and the lies feel appropriate at the time. 346 00:18:29,940 --> 00:18:33,880 But anyway, they grow, they evolve and they need this place. 347 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:35,580 I think that's a place for the Satan. 348 00:18:35,580 --> 00:18:37,440 He gets a little more access to us. 349 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:38,800 Does that seem accurate? 350 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:43,840 And so trying to explain to people that they are a daughter of God. 351 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:44,840 I don't know the immense things. 352 00:18:44,840 --> 00:18:50,240 I'm not going to really try to act like I know it, but we have heavenly parents. 353 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:55,780 Those are like just simple truths that you can just sit in and think on those and see, 354 00:18:55,780 --> 00:19:01,280 you know, does my soul like burn when I think of being his daughter and that like I'm loved 355 00:19:01,280 --> 00:19:04,440 by those parents before I came to earth. 356 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,920 And I hope that that message does break through to people like that. 357 00:19:07,920 --> 00:19:11,480 That again, that's stuff that you want to consider in the quietest times of your life 358 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:14,240 when you don't you, I can tell you that. 359 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:17,840 I mean, if you didn't believe that to be true, I could tell you that truth to your face. 360 00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:21,160 Like it's something I know and I can tell you, but it's something you have to know for 361 00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:22,160 yourself. 362 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:23,160 It's true. 363 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:24,160 You have to experience it for yourself. 364 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:35,240 And I think he just gave us so many opportunities to really find power in asking yourself those 365 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:36,240 questions. 366 00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:37,240 They're hard questions. 367 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:39,520 And I think sometimes we don't want to ask the question because we're going to assume 368 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:43,520 that we're going to get an answer other than yes, that we're loved and deeply loved and 369 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:48,000 have so much worth and have so much potential because it does come with responsibility. 370 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:52,560 Maybe we're afraid of letting him down on the things that we promised to do, but I can't 371 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:54,000 really think exactly. 372 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:58,600 Being a mother, let's say that, or not everybody's a mother. 373 00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:00,840 So I don't want that to be the thing that I have to say. 374 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:05,480 But when you're like, this is what I was made to do. 375 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:07,960 Is that, and can you think of other ones? 376 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:09,880 Am I drawing a blank? 377 00:20:09,880 --> 00:20:15,040 But when you do something in your life and you're like, this is what I was made for. 378 00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:18,760 I certainly don't find that in my job, like in my day job. 379 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:19,760 Gotcha. 380 00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:20,760 Yes. 381 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:23,600 If you look back in family history too, I do feel like, and I've said this before, like 382 00:20:23,600 --> 00:20:28,480 with Mormon and Moroni, one generation started it and the other generation like piggybacked 383 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:33,080 on it and finished it because it was too big of a job for one person to do. 384 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:34,920 So it took two generations. 385 00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:43,000 And I feel like we stand on the shoulders of those strong men and women that sacrificed, 386 00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:44,120 that really put the hard work in. 387 00:20:44,120 --> 00:20:48,840 And I honestly feel like I'm finishing things that my great, great grandparents started 388 00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:49,900 and it's gone down. 389 00:20:49,900 --> 00:20:52,960 And I'm grateful to pick that up and to keep walking with it. 390 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:56,960 That makes me think of like the jobs, like some missions, they're literally just kind 391 00:20:56,960 --> 00:20:59,920 of getting a presence in the land. 392 00:20:59,920 --> 00:21:01,200 And you're trying seeds. 393 00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:02,200 Yeah. 394 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,840 You're planting seeds and you definitely don't see anything come to fruition in the time 395 00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:05,840 that you serve there. 396 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:10,220 But a couple of generations later, what's extra awesome is like sometimes another family 397 00:21:10,220 --> 00:21:14,340 member generation or two down the line gets called to the same place and we're talking 398 00:21:14,340 --> 00:21:17,360 like multiple temples or, you know, stakes. 399 00:21:17,360 --> 00:21:18,360 Yeah. 400 00:21:18,360 --> 00:21:22,240 And individuals remember, blossoms into a branch to a war to a stick and then we're building 401 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:23,240 temples. 402 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:24,240 Yeah. 403 00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:27,800 So that's a cool thing to think about like what that family member promised to do. 404 00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:30,680 And if they had used their agency to make a different plan, different path for their 405 00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:33,640 life and hadn't started those seeds, then by the time that it got to you, it would look 406 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:38,120 a lot different, which, and that's a no way to make people feel like, Oh, what if I really 407 00:21:38,120 --> 00:21:39,120 messed this up? 408 00:21:39,120 --> 00:21:44,520 I will just testify that God has a contingency plan in any, every, anything and everything. 409 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:49,800 And you just get to just like bask in the beauty, the filling of like that you had your 410 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:53,120 peace and part in that great work. 411 00:21:53,120 --> 00:21:54,120 Because you said yes. 412 00:21:54,120 --> 00:21:55,120 Right. 413 00:21:55,120 --> 00:21:56,960 And to whatever degree you opt into. 414 00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:57,960 Yeah. 415 00:21:57,960 --> 00:21:58,960 Right. 416 00:21:58,960 --> 00:21:59,960 But and not feel bad. 417 00:21:59,960 --> 00:22:00,960 No. 418 00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:02,480 If you like, I've, I mean, I've done this in my life. 419 00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:07,600 Like I was invited to go on a mission by a bishop of a finishing college in a job that 420 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:10,280 really needed to like get, like get going on. 421 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:13,280 And I'm thinking like, I'm going to put that on hold for a year and a half. 422 00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:15,840 Cause this was when 21 was a driven person. 423 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:18,720 Well, I know, but I was like, he called me in to ask me to go on a mission. 424 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:22,600 And like, I'm like, so I was considering it and I like went to go get the missionary materials 425 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:23,600 to start studying up. 426 00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:28,120 And, and like, I reached for it and I had this like, no, like don't even pick that material. 427 00:22:28,120 --> 00:22:29,120 It's not for you. 428 00:22:29,120 --> 00:22:31,680 So this was like even before like preaching my gospel. 429 00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:32,680 So I'm old, right? 430 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:36,600 This was like, this is kind of right in that time timeframe. 431 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:42,000 So I ended up taking a job and going to put my degree to work and wasn't married. 432 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:44,720 And like, like that's really what the desire of my heart was. 433 00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:46,520 And I was like, it's cause I didn't go on a mission. 434 00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:49,160 I'm like, I don't see it in my patriarchal blessing technically. 435 00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:53,360 I mean, I could read into it, but I sat in second guess the decision that felt right 436 00:22:53,360 --> 00:22:59,840 to not go on a mission because I felt like things were like stalling in my life. 437 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:04,940 But the rest of the story is that my husband was kind of a late missionary goer. 438 00:23:04,940 --> 00:23:10,280 And when I wanted to be engaged and then married, he was serving, you know, the people in California 439 00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:12,240 on the right timeline for him. 440 00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:16,680 And I just needed to be patient while he was doing that thing so that, you know, whenever 441 00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:17,680 we met 2017. 442 00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:18,680 Yeah. 443 00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:19,680 Timing is a big deal. 444 00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:20,680 Yeah. 445 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:26,440 And I, so I always try to say to people like friends that are looking for maybe their companion 446 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:27,880 and it's not working out just yet. 447 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:33,440 I always say in my experience, it's like the person that you're like, I'm not just saying 448 00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:37,000 there's only one person for everybody, but what I am saying is that when you do find 449 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:41,240 the person that you're ready, we've probably, I don't know, I don't want to be like all 450 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:44,000 Saturdays warrior like before it ain't, but you can think of your person. 451 00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:50,120 But what I, what I am saying is, um, it does, does feel true that like you, the timing had 452 00:23:50,120 --> 00:23:51,120 to be right. 453 00:23:51,120 --> 00:23:54,600 And the decisions like how to get you both to the place where like you, you, you know, 454 00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:59,760 and that person that you, it does kind of sound Saturdays warrior, huh? 455 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,080 Like you were the one. 456 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:06,400 I, I think that you're, you're happy that it didn't work out with anybody else before 457 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:09,840 because the person you're with is the person you're supposed to be with. 458 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:10,840 Absolutely. 459 00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:15,280 And I think probably you could be happy with somebody else too, but you know, I, I feel 460 00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:16,400 like Adam was my only guy. 461 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,480 I think she's the only one that could tolerate me. 462 00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:20,480 You guys are a good couple. 463 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:21,480 Let me, oh yeah. 464 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:22,480 A couple of quotes. 465 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:25,200 Do you want to share a couple, like just leave us with a couple of quotes that have had one 466 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:26,200 you want to read. 467 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:30,840 I love the one where he says, your heavenly father has known you for a very long time. 468 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:35,480 You as his son or daughter were chosen by him to come to earth at this precise time 469 00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:39,520 to be a leader in this, in his great work on earth. 470 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,680 And remember he's speaking to the youth and I can testify that youth that are coming to 471 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:47,600 the earth at this day and time, the generation that is the youth right now in this moment, 472 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:48,880 I just want to testify. 473 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:53,960 They were definitely held for this time and season and they're doing, we have got to be 474 00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:57,680 like ready to keep up with what they are prepared to do and change the world. 475 00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:59,320 So that's a gorgeous quote. 476 00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,240 Uh, I want to share one. 477 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:05,400 He said today, I reaffirm strongly that the Lord has asked every worthy able young man 478 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,240 to prepare for and serve a mission for latter day. 479 00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:10,240 Saint young men, missionary service is a priesthood responsibility. 480 00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:13,280 You young men have been reserved for this time when the promise gathering of Israel 481 00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:18,480 is taking place for young and able sisters and missions also powerful, but optional opportunity. 482 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,840 Pray to know if the Lord would have you serve a mission and the Holy Ghost respond in your 483 00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:23,120 heart and your mind. 484 00:25:23,120 --> 00:25:28,160 So rather than hear me say that as a, um, you know, quote from the prophet who quoted 485 00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:32,700 from the gospel, the preaching, the gospel piece, ask yourself that question is a mission 486 00:25:32,700 --> 00:25:33,700 right for you. 487 00:25:33,700 --> 00:25:36,920 And if it's not, then you've got that answer for yourself and then you don't really have 488 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,880 to listen to anybody else saying, why aren't you on a mission? 489 00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:45,400 I never say for myself, my guess is you're probably impressed to consider a mission, 490 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:50,840 but I think that will leave that to the personal answer that you're going to get for yourself. 491 00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:51,840 It is. 492 00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:57,120 Um, so Gabby, do you want to leave us just with any last words? 493 00:25:57,120 --> 00:25:59,160 That's a culminating thing you could leave. 494 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:01,160 How about this one? 495 00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:03,120 This is from an Instagram post from the prophet. 496 00:26:03,120 --> 00:26:06,600 I believe that if the Lord were speaking to you directly, the first thing he would make 497 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:08,720 sure you understand is your true identity. 498 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,680 My dear friends, you are literally spirit children of God. 499 00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:12,840 Make no mistake about it. 500 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:16,200 Your potential is divine with your diligence seeking. 501 00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:18,760 God will give you glimpses of who you may become. 502 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,720 So I think that ties back into action items. 503 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:27,160 We suggested you ask what, what piece or part of something you forwarding to do is, are 504 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:30,640 you ready to, um, come to recognize right now? 505 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:34,200 And those glimpses, it's not going to be a full picture, but glimpses and you just keep 506 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:35,200 moving forward. 507 00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:36,200 I love that. 508 00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:40,440 And just a quick, important reminder, Satan's goal is to help cause you to forget your true 509 00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:45,120 identity, to know where you came from, that you are a daughter of God, a son of God. 510 00:26:45,120 --> 00:26:46,120 Yeah. 511 00:26:46,120 --> 00:26:51,240 And, and to like overwhelming thoughts persuade you to think that you're not, but, um, your 512 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:54,480 true identity is as a child of God above all else. 513 00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:59,920 And so, um, just do on that beautiful thought for a while, if nothing else. 514 00:26:59,920 --> 00:27:02,560 And hopefully you guys enjoy this talk as much as we do. 515 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:03,560 So good. 516 00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:04,560 Thanks so much for being here. 517 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:05,560 We'll see you next time. 518 00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:06,560 Bye. 519 00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:35,560 Bye.