Pull up a chair and tell me a memory Why does
it matter to you? I want to hear your story,
your point of view Tell me what happened to you
to Tell Me What Happened, the podcast that features
folks from all walks of life, telling us one
childhood story and how that experience has impacted
who they are today. I'm your host, Jay Rehack.
And like you, I've had my share of childhood
experiences, some of them delightful, some of
them quite painful. But I'd like to think that
everything that's ever happened to me has made
me who I am today. Tell Me What Happened is sponsored
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laughter today. All right, today I have as my
special guest, a man that I never thought I'd
get on the show, but makes me very happy that
he is my brother -in -law, Jeff Salador. Jeff
is an investment trader, as well as a life health
coach. Jeff, welcome to the show. Hey, Jay, thanks
for having me. Jeff. Are you ready to tell your
story? Why not? All right. Well, listen, Jeff,
one thing I'm going to get out of the way in
a minute. And when I do, I'll just let you tell
your story. But at the end, I'm going to ask
you just one question. And that one question
is, how do you think that story, that childhood
experience has impacted who you are today? So
take it away, Jeff Salador. OK, so I'm going
to title my brief story, Actions Have Consequences.
So this story happened when I was in my 20s.
living at home with my mom and my dad. My sister
was away at school in New York City and another
brother in New York City as well. And it came
a time in my life where I was in my early 20s
and I had a great job and I was quite independent
at a young age. Didn't really go to my dad and
mom for too much advice, kind of independent
on my own, times are a little bit different than
they are today with kids growing up. So the story
goes that my mother contracted cancer. And back
then it was a much bigger to do than I would
say it is today. We didn't know what was going
to happen. So the gist of the story is the young
independent, Jeff Saladar was dating a girl and
I wasn't really considerate and I decided to
move out of the house. So I moved out of the
house and I didn't feel right about it living
with this young woman. about 45 minutes from
the house. I had a full -time job, and I come
back to the house, the home, my dad and mom's
home, probably twice, three times a week, cut
the lawn to do a couple things. But I never really
felt great about the move. So I'm not quite sure
what possessed me to or what came over me, but
the relationship ended, and I eventually moved
back to the home, which was about four or five
months later. and I'll never forget driving home
knowing that I had to confront my father for
the first time. So I got to the house with my
stuff, unpacked everything, brought into the
house and my dad said, I want to talk to you.
So we walked downstairs into the garage and he
looked at me and he said to me, you know, I don't
have to like what you did, but I have to accept
what you did. I like to think it was a building
block which resonated later in my life. And I
truly believe it was a turning point, well, it
was the beginning of a turning point for me to
see the fact that you do things and there always
are consequences. So that basically is the story.
I've heard your father just, I mean, you and
I, I mean, I know your dad, of course, not as
long as you've known him, but I mean, I know
your dad and I remember him distinctly telling
me this similar statement when I... I asked him
if I could marry his daughter and moved to Chicago.
And he said similar to me to what he said to
you, which is he didn't have to like it. He just
had to learn to accept it. And I've always been
amazed by that statement because I think it is
pretty, you know, profound in its own way. So
he wasn't upset with you when you when he got
back. Is that what you're saying? Very quiet,
very quiet. And he realized that I was home.
And I think that was the most important thing
for him because what we had to begin to deal
with was, you know, crazy moving forward with
my mom and cancer and getting worse. Yeah. And
just as an aside, your mother actually ultimately
passed away from that cancer, didn't she? That
is correct. That is correct. I'm sorry. So here's
the question that's really important for my listeners.
And that is, how do you think that experience
your father telling you that has impacted who
you are today as a person? Well I believe that
that experience I took with me and I viewed many
things differently as as I got older and I became
more of an empathetic person and understanding
other people's needs more than my needs and you
always don't have to like to do something but
sometimes you have to do things and I think it
just growing up helped me mature more knowing
that you know lessons in thoughtfulness and being
nicer to people especially family members and
I think this is stuff that just comes with time
for me it took me a long time but I believe I
got onto the road to hopefully the person that
I am today and I try to the story constantly
pops into my head. when situations come up. It
doesn't sound like you were, you know, did anything
terrible. I mean, I know your mother was sick,
but you know, you're in your 20s. You fall in
love. What are you going to do? You know, I mean,
that's not fair. You can fall in love any time.
Well, it's a sad story, Jeff, and I'm sorry it
still sticks with you, but I understand the profound
implications of your father's words. And as a
father, I've felt it many times as well, that
you don't necessarily have to like it, you just
have to accept it. And I'd like to thank you,
Jeff, for coming on the show and telling your
story. We really appreciate it. Well, thank you
very much and look forward to hearing the finished
product. All right. All right. I'd also like
to thank our sponsors, Sidelining Publishing,
publishers of quality books and laughsaber .com.
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laughter today. All right, I'm going to end this
show a little differently than usual. I'm going
to end it with Susan Saladar's classic, I Love
My Sister in honor. of my brother -in -law, Jeff,
because I did marry his sister, the great Susan
Salvador. So until next time, this is Jay Reheck
asking you all to please stay safe out there
and try not to hurt anybody. I love my sister
and she loves me when I look in her eyes. It's
me I see She makes me laugh Even when I wanna
cry I love my sister And that's no lie I love
my brother And he loves me When I look in his
eyes It's me I see He makes me laugh Even when
I wanna cry I love my brother And that's no lie
I love my parents And they love me When I look
in their eyes It's me I see They make me laugh
Even when I want to cry I love my parents And
that's no lie I love my grandma And she loves
me When I look in her eyes It's me I see She
makes me laugh