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Pull up a chair and tell me a memory Why does

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it matter to you? I want to hear your story,

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your point of view Tell me what happened to you

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to Tell Me What Happened, the podcast that features

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folks from all walks of life, telling us one

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childhood story and how that experience has impacted

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who they are today. I'm your host, Jay Rehack.

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And like you, I've had my share of childhood

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experiences, some of them delightful, some of

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them quite painful. But I'd like to think that

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everything that's ever happened to me has made

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me who I am today. Tell Me What Happened is sponsored

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laughter today. All right, today I have as my

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special guest, a man that I never thought I'd

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get on the show, but makes me very happy that

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he is my brother -in -law, Jeff Salador. Jeff

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is an investment trader, as well as a life health

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coach. Jeff, welcome to the show. Hey, Jay, thanks

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for having me. Jeff. Are you ready to tell your

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story? Why not? All right. Well, listen, Jeff,

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one thing I'm going to get out of the way in

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a minute. And when I do, I'll just let you tell

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your story. But at the end, I'm going to ask

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you just one question. And that one question

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is, how do you think that story, that childhood

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experience has impacted who you are today? So

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take it away, Jeff Salador. OK, so I'm going

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to title my brief story, Actions Have Consequences.

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So this story happened when I was in my 20s.

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living at home with my mom and my dad. My sister

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was away at school in New York City and another

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brother in New York City as well. And it came

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a time in my life where I was in my early 20s

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and I had a great job and I was quite independent

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at a young age. Didn't really go to my dad and

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mom for too much advice, kind of independent

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on my own, times are a little bit different than

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they are today with kids growing up. So the story

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goes that my mother contracted cancer. And back

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then it was a much bigger to do than I would

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say it is today. We didn't know what was going

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to happen. So the gist of the story is the young

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independent, Jeff Saladar was dating a girl and

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I wasn't really considerate and I decided to

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move out of the house. So I moved out of the

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house and I didn't feel right about it living

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with this young woman. about 45 minutes from

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the house. I had a full -time job, and I come

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back to the house, the home, my dad and mom's

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home, probably twice, three times a week, cut

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the lawn to do a couple things. But I never really

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felt great about the move. So I'm not quite sure

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what possessed me to or what came over me, but

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the relationship ended, and I eventually moved

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back to the home, which was about four or five

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months later. and I'll never forget driving home

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knowing that I had to confront my father for

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the first time. So I got to the house with my

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stuff, unpacked everything, brought into the

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house and my dad said, I want to talk to you.

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So we walked downstairs into the garage and he

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looked at me and he said to me, you know, I don't

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have to like what you did, but I have to accept

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what you did. I like to think it was a building

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block which resonated later in my life. And I

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truly believe it was a turning point, well, it

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was the beginning of a turning point for me to

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see the fact that you do things and there always

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are consequences. So that basically is the story.

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I've heard your father just, I mean, you and

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I, I mean, I know your dad, of course, not as

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long as you've known him, but I mean, I know

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your dad and I remember him distinctly telling

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me this similar statement when I... I asked him

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if I could marry his daughter and moved to Chicago.

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And he said similar to me to what he said to

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you, which is he didn't have to like it. He just

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had to learn to accept it. And I've always been

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amazed by that statement because I think it is

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pretty, you know, profound in its own way. So

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he wasn't upset with you when you when he got

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back. Is that what you're saying? Very quiet,

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very quiet. And he realized that I was home.

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And I think that was the most important thing

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for him because what we had to begin to deal

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with was, you know, crazy moving forward with

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my mom and cancer and getting worse. Yeah. And

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just as an aside, your mother actually ultimately

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passed away from that cancer, didn't she? That

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is correct. That is correct. I'm sorry. So here's

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the question that's really important for my listeners.

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And that is, how do you think that experience

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your father telling you that has impacted who

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you are today as a person? Well I believe that

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that experience I took with me and I viewed many

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things differently as as I got older and I became

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more of an empathetic person and understanding

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other people's needs more than my needs and you

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always don't have to like to do something but

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sometimes you have to do things and I think it

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just growing up helped me mature more knowing

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that you know lessons in thoughtfulness and being

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nicer to people especially family members and

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I think this is stuff that just comes with time

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for me it took me a long time but I believe I

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got onto the road to hopefully the person that

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I am today and I try to the story constantly

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pops into my head. when situations come up. It

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doesn't sound like you were, you know, did anything

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terrible. I mean, I know your mother was sick,

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but you know, you're in your 20s. You fall in

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love. What are you going to do? You know, I mean,

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that's not fair. You can fall in love any time.

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Well, it's a sad story, Jeff, and I'm sorry it

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still sticks with you, but I understand the profound

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implications of your father's words. And as a

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father, I've felt it many times as well, that

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you don't necessarily have to like it, you just

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have to accept it. And I'd like to thank you,

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Jeff, for coming on the show and telling your

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story. We really appreciate it. Well, thank you

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very much and look forward to hearing the finished

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product. All right. All right. I'd also like

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to thank our sponsors, Sidelining Publishing,

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your laughter. We'll keep it for you now and

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grandchildren and your great -grandchildren will

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laughter today. All right, I'm going to end this

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show a little differently than usual. I'm going

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to end it with Susan Saladar's classic, I Love

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My Sister in honor. of my brother -in -law, Jeff,

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because I did marry his sister, the great Susan

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Salvador. So until next time, this is Jay Reheck

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asking you all to please stay safe out there

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and try not to hurt anybody. I love my sister

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and she loves me when I look in her eyes. It's

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me I see She makes me laugh Even when I wanna

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cry I love my sister And that's no lie I love

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my brother And he loves me When I look in his

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eyes It's me I see He makes me laugh Even when

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I wanna cry I love my brother And that's no lie

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I love my parents And they love me When I look

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in their eyes It's me I see They make me laugh

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Even when I want to cry I love my parents And

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that's no lie I love my grandma And she loves

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me When I look in her eyes It's me I see She

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makes me laugh