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on, do the intro. You're welcome, everyone. Okay,

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it's time for you to do the intro now. Can you

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shut the fuck up? Okay, let's restart, decompress.

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Okay, welcome everyone to the Extra Spicy Pod

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or this Extra Spicy Sunday. Today, we're having

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a mental health episode because in the very beginning

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of our start of our amazing podcast, we told

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ourselves, Landon came to me, he was like, Evan,

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I don't want to just be a just sports podcast.

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I want to be able to talk about other stuff.

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I said, okay. We can definitely do that. I don't

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want to talk about sports all the time. He doesn't

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want to talk about sports all the time. So, this

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is our random mental health episode that we both

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like to talk about because we're tired of talking

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about sports. And so, we want to give advice

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to the amazing young men and people out there.

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Yeah, I mean, all the boys out there, you know,

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people struggle with this stuff. We're out here

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for the boys trying to help. a boy out a brother

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out like we're gonna help all of you out who

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are struggling in listening to this pod and we

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got you you know we're gonna give you some advice

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through young adult life through like you know

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we're both in our young 20s So we can kind of

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relate if you're also in that age range. And

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to give you a nice little rundown, Landon had

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dating experience. I don't have dating experience.

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So it's kind of a good little mix and match of

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balance right there. Yeah, I mean, we both have

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different experiences in life. And I mean, if

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we both had the same exact experience, we won't

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be bringing anything different. We both bring

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different dynamics to the conversation. So we

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can both kind of hit you with at different angles

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of. Different levels of advice. You know, my

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levels are higher. Higher levels of advice. You

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might be like the lower level of advice, but

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that's okay. People crave different advice. And

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see, Landon's the type of person to where he's

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going to get his head bashed in that wall. But

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we're spreading positivity today. Yes, spreading

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positivity. Starting now. Starting now. You are

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right. Okay. Now. Are you just going to keep

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delaying it? No, no, no, no. We're spreading

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positivity over here. We're spreading nothing

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but positivity. Rainbows and butterflies. Rainbows

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and butterflies. You sure do love a rainbow,

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don't you? Rainbows are really cool. They're

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in the Bible. They're in the Bible. Way to pull

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the Bible card. At their last episode, I mean,

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I thought you were like more than just rainbows.

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Especially with that iceberg. I don't recall

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what you're talking about, actually. Now this

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would be a good time to... Hey, you should definitely

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go watch our last episode if you don't know what

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we're talking about. You should definitely watch

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our last episode because we put out a banger

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episode last time. Exactly. An absolute banger.

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Absolute banger. Alright. So, the very first

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topic in this episode is... Dating in 2025. Dating

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in 2025. Because the year, this year, is 2025.

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It's not 2024. And it's not 2026. It's 2025.

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So, I'm guessing you've been somewhat on the

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dating scene, or you've just been keeping to

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yourself? I mean, honestly, not recently. Like,

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I've been single for a bit now. The last, I didn't...

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I haven't not been single for like a year and

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a half. I just be like living life, like doing

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me and having fun. That's good. See me? It just

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sucks in general. That's just me. You don't know

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how to live single. I mean, you gotta have fun.

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I do, but at the same time, though. Look, I'm

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going to tell you how it's... If you're always

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craving a girlfriend, you should change your

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mentality and you should learn how to live single

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because it is amazing. Well, that, but not only

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that. I mean, I don't always crave a girlfriend.

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I'm just saying. It's because I'm using my example.

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It would be like, you know, how I'll just be

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living life and then just randomly a girl comes

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in that you somewhat connect with and then you're

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just like... fuck, I don't want to catch feelings,

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and then you end up catching feelings, and then

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yadda yadda this, more bullshit happens, yadda

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yadda this, yadda yadda that, and then it just

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ends up not going good, and so then you just

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continue living single, so, that's how it goes

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for me, so. Okay, well, like I was saying, like,

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I'm just over here being happy, and I'm happy

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every single day, you know, regardless if I have

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a girlfriend or don't have a girlfriend. You

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know, I'd be spreading positivity, spreading

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love. I got love for everyone, dog. And, I mean,

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I do. I got love for everyone, bro. I'd be giving

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my name. Dog, you're looking at me right now.

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And I can't even think straight because you're

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looking at me like I'm absolutely crazy. Hmm.

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Hmm. I wonder why. Yeah, I wonder why. I'd just

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be trying to put my thoughts together. And then

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you over here looking at me like I just shot

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someone or something. I don't know. After the

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last episode, I have to take what you say with

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a grain of salt now. I mean, not with a grain

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of salt, but just to keep an eye on you. You

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know what I'm saying? Yeah. So, we're getting

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off topic. What do you think of dating in 2025

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so far? Be more specific with the question. Okay.

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What are you asking? Do you think... Okay, let's

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just say... We were back in, well, I can't, well,

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we just started dating. So, if I say, oh, let's

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go back to 2015, 2015 was a much simpler time

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of somewhat dating compared to 2025. 2015, I

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was 12. Yeah, I know. That's why I can't. I wasn't

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dating you at 12. I know you weren't. Were you

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dating me at 12, my friend? No, I was not. Okay,

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good. I do not encourage teenage dating. Like,

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when you're a teenager, just be like, have fun

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with your friends, bro. Like, throw the football,

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like, play Madden. Don't worry about, like, having

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a girlfriend. Like, you're way too young, dog.

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At 12. Yeah, Landon was getting smoked when he

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was playing Madden against me. Okay. I'm the

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king of Madden. Okay, no, no. That is a complete

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lie. No, no, no, no. You can't. I'm not going.

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I have pictures. Were you getting decimated by

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me? Towards, like, the last couple of times we

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played, that was true. But, like, when we first

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started playing, I would beat you, and then we

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were pretty even. Like, we would both win at

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times. But, like, towards the end, when we stopped

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playing and stuff, that's when you beat me a

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lot. Or maybe you got better at what I was doing.

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Yeah, you might have got better, I guess. I am

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better at playing. Yeah, I'm better. Well, okay,

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now you're probably better, because I don't play

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Madden anymore. Like, I don't play video games

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like that anymore. I don't play Madden like that

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anymore either. I mostly play other games, like

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Call of Duty and shit. So, but, I feel like now

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we get to an age, like, I'm going to say compared

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to, like, even though we didn't live around this

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time, like the 90s, okay? Where I feel like it

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was a lot more simpler now, because back then

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it was like, okay, let me take you out on a date.

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No? Okay, cool. Now we're getting into this day

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and age where there's a talking stage and all

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this mumbo jumbo. And you learn many different

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words of gaslighting, manipulation. Gaslighting

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is my least favorite word. Like, what does it

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even mean? It's such a made -up word. It can

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be used for anything. Like, I can say, oh, look

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at that person over there. And someone will say,

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oh, bro, stop gaslighting. I'm like, what? That's

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such a made -up word. People use it for everything,

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basically. It dilutes the meaning. So the Google

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definition, quote -unquote, is a type of physiological

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abuse aimed at making victims feel crazy, creating

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a surreal and interpersonal environment. But

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people say, like, anything is gaslighting. That's

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so stupid. They do. I do believe that. Like,

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they'll get to the point where... Like, they'll

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just be like, that butterfly is gaslighting me.

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What do you mean the butterfly is gaslighting

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you? The butterfly can't even fucking speak.

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Language. Challenge your phone, bro. Bro, this

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is an official podcast we're recording. And you're

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over here with an unsilenced tone. Do you get

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better? You're right. That's my fault. I should

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have been better. Yeah. Yeah. So. yeah so compared

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to like the 90s or whatever where dating wasn't

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as hard like what do you think of 2025 dating

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now i mean if we want to go like way back in

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the 70s 80s 90s i didn't have facetime i mean

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you didn't like snapchat or instagram or anything

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like that i mean you had to literally call the

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person on the landline telephone and Maybe they

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didn't answer. Maybe their parents answered or

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something because they were looking at home about

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their parents or something. Or spend even more

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time with them outside of whatever they were

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doing. Go on many more dates, friends, things,

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whatever y 'all want. I mean, this is a bigger

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problem with social media in general. It made

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things way more complicated. Also, it made people

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more depressed. People are way more depressed

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now. I think social media plays a huge part in

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that. You know what I think did it, though? Tinder.

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Tinder absolutely did it. No, it's Instagram.

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No, I'm going to tell you why Tinder, though.

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Because... And I'm a hypocrite. I just posted

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it on Instagram. Yeah, but you're posting...

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But Instagram... Okay, here's why I say Tinder.

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Instagram's more for... Okay, you have family

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and friends that follow you on Instagram. They're

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going to check out what you've been doing recently.

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That's... That's like a form of communication

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with your family. People spend hours just scrolling

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on Instagram, bro. Okay, I sat on the train a

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couple days ago for like a 40 -minute train ride,

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and I was staring at this girl like a couple

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rows in front of me. She spent the whole 40 -minute

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train ride scrolling through Instagram. Bro,

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that's addictive. Instagram is very addictive,

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and it's not good for your mental health. It's

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not, but I'm going to tell you why tenderly,

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okay? Because Tinder's gotten to the point where,

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okay, let's just say you upload a profile picture,

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okay? You have other people determining whether

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you look good or not. And so that's going to

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destroy your mentality even more. But, like,

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Tinder doesn't tell you, like, how many people

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swipe right on you, how many people swipe your

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left on you. It doesn't say how many people rejected

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you. Well, yeah, they don't tell you how many

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people rejected you, but they do see how many

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people liked you, though. You got to think, if

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you had Tinder for like four months, okay, and

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you get zero likes, you get zero likes and you're

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just like, what the fuck, then that's going to

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deteriorate your mental health because then it's

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going to lead you into a spiral of, okay, am

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I fucking ugly? Am I this? Am I that? It's just

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going to keep going down the mental spiral. Well,

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I don't encourage anyone to get Tinder under

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any circumstances. I think it's a terrible way

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to meet people. I really, me personally, I think

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it's a terrible way to meet people. I mean, touch

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grass. Touch grass. Seriously, touch grass. But

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meet people in real life, not virtual. Or maybe

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I'm just, like, super old school. But, I mean,

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Dr. Love Landon, like, this dude calls me, bro.

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Dr. Landon. Love Dr. Landon or something. Love

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Dr. Landon, yeah. I mean, I'll tell anyone. delete

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tinder like it's not the funny thing is like

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you and cole are like the only two people that

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are like evan don't get tender don't everyone

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else be telling you get tinder oh yeah hinge

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bumble tender but who because they they said

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like hinge actually works though but i'm over

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here it ain't working for me so fuck it so it

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might as well download a tinder or whatever but

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Yeah, y 'all two are like the only ones that

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are like, Evan, don't download Tinder. Okay,

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me and Cole need to get together. Like, bro,

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we think so. Like, we could like really help

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you. What was that for? See, look, you know what?

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We're going to have a debate one day, okay? We're

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going to have the holy side. Which is you and

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Cole. The holy side? Okay, yeah. Holy, holy.

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And then we're gonna have the whore side, which

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is, like, my friend James and honey. Bro. I love

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James to death, but... Yeah, we're gonna have

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that debate on whether, what should I do? Should

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I go and be a whore? Or should I... Stay stay

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committed on the journey. I am on right now.

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So well, it's like the two people in your shoulder

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the devil and the angel Except there's two angels

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and two devils exactly so But my opinion on dating

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in 2025 like I said tender is the main reason

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why I feel like they like it destroyed people's

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mental health because then Like I say you don't

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get any likes and it's turns into okay What the

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fuck and then it also raised people's standards

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too because then Like for example for guys you're

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gonna look at these hot women and you're gonna

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be like Okay. Yes. I want to have that that that

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that that that I don't think it's necessarily

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like just tender like I'm gonna bring up Instagram

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again, but like really any form of it like Google

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or snapchat anything like You pull up these things

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on Snapchat and Instagram, on the home page of

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Instagram or the For You page of Snapchat or

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whatever, there's a bunch of, like, hot girls

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with boobs and stuff. Like, and then Google,

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you can literally search up porn. Like, anyone

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can. It doesn't, like, no age requirement. I

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mean, porn is so easily reachable in the search

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of, like, hot girls or something. Whereas back

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in the day, you couldn't have Google or whatever

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search up porn. You had Playboy magazines. Yeah,

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you had to search for a Playboy magazine somewhere

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or something. But it's not as easy to access

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as nowadays to look up hot women. Or just go

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through Instagram looking at hot women. Yeah,

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but I say it's more on the dating websites. Because

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I think about it, I could not have Tinder or

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whatever. And be on Instagram and be like, oh

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my gosh, Libby Dunn? Okay, like, just keep on

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scrolling. I'm really, I can't really. Yeah,

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but that's also raising your standards. Yeah,

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but it's not. Like the point you brought up,

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raising your standards. But it's also, if you're

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looking at a bunch of hot women, that's going

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to raise your standards. And you're going to,

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like, only, like, simp for hot women. But at

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the same time. And you're going to look at, like,

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a woman who's not, like, hot. you know, attractive,

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not super hot, you're going to look at her like

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ugly just because she's not 10 out of 10 Libby

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Dunn. But at the same time, though, it also depends,

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like, I feel like it also depends on the platform

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you're on. If you are on a Tinder and you see

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a Libby Dunn, then of course. Well, you're not

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going to see Libby Dunn on Tinder. I know, but

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I'm saying, I'm using Libby Dunn as an example,

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okay? Okay. Give me a second. Yeah. Like, if

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you see a Libby Dunn on Tinder, then you're going

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to be like, oh, shit. And you're going to swipe

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on all the Libby Dunn and whatever. And then

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when you get to the mid chicks or whatever you

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want to call them, lower level chicks and whatever

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y 'all consider lower level, I don't really know.

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Because then you're going to be like, oh no,

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no, left, left, left, left. But at least with

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Instagram, I can be like, okay, well, this is

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Instagram. So I'm not going too crazy like I

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would a Tinder. What do you mean? I don't understand.

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Because Tinder's whole purpose is to get you

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to meet people, date people, all that shit. Instagram,

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think about it, I could delete every single chick

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I follow on Instagram and just follow sports

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all the time. And just, like, like, like, oh,

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Cooper Flagg made a bucket? Like, like, like,

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it depends on how you go about it. That's my

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personal opinion on that. But, like, on Tinder,

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like, I don't have much experience with Tinder.

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I've actually downloaded it once. I just, not

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even, like, looking for a date or anything. I

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was just curious, like, the user interface, and

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I was just curious about the app. So I downloaded

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it, and it made a profile and all that. I mean,

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I deleted it, but I was just curious, like, what

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it was all about. Like, the thing with Tinder,

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people put things on Tinder. When you make their

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profile pictures, they put the best photos of

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themselves on Tinder. So you're only seeing the

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best of the best. On Tinder. Or, like, any of

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these apps are, like, you're not seeing the,

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like, not as good pictures that she has or whatever.

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But at the same time, though, that also goes

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back to raising the standards. Because now people

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only search for the best. And so, let's just

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say, for example, me. Because, you know, I had

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a couple good pictures whenever I had Tinder.

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So, I had a couple good pictures. So, I doubt

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these pictures were that good. Well, this one

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was one of them. The one that we took at the

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polygon game? Trash picture, bro. You could just

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be Aiden. What happened to positivity? Oh, yeah.

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Okay. I do apologize, bro. I do apologize. Thank

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you. This is a mental episode. Watch the negative

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video. No, no. You're right. You're 100 % right.

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I do apologize, bro. Thank you. I do apologize.

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I appreciate that. But, yeah. I was posting good

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pictures. Now I gotta take better pictures now.

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I mean, now that I look at it. But I was posting

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somewhat good pictures and then... It was like

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not getting many likes, and I was like, okay.

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People, like I said, people raise the standards

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to the point where you have to have your best.

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You have to have a suit and tie on when you're

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on Tinder. I mean, I don't necessarily think

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suit and tie. I think probably most guys would

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probably show their muscles off or something

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like that on Tinder. Whatever the woman prefers,

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whether they want a country dude, city boy, workout

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dude, whatever. It just really depends on what

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the woman's looking for. See, but this is the

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Internet in general, I feel like, especially

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in the past 20 years with dating and stuff. Like,

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before that, you didn't have anything like the

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Internet, so you would have to meet people in

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person, and you couldn't just see the best of

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the best pictures of them online. Like, you would

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actually meet them in person and see, like, how

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she looks in everyday life, not just, like, the

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one perfect angle. where she had super, like,

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glamorous makeup on, you know, because angles

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be messing with your brain. Yeah. Women, like,

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know how to, like, make the right angle, you

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know, maybe, like, twist their body trying to

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get it just right or something. Yeah. All right.

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So, we're going to the next topic. Dating potential,

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or dating, why am I saying potential? Wait, dating

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co -workers. Dating coworkers. So you have history

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in doing this. Okay, yes, I do have history.

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I've dated a coworker in the past, someone I've

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worked with, and we were in a relationship. And

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the thing is, I don't think it's like a super

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bad thing. I mean, you have to be careful. You

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really do. Because when you're dating a coworker,

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you can't make the relationship at work to be

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noticeable. You know, where you're, I guess,

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if it's very noticeable, then your boss will

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notice. And your boss can still be cool with

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it, and it can still be a problem because you

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can't let it affect your work or your work relationship.

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You still have to have a work relationship if

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you're working alongside that person. Even if

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you're in a relationship, you still need to keep

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that professional work relationship with that

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person. See, my opinion is... It's not a bad

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thing because let's just say you and another

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co -worker start talking at home. And y 'all

00:22:02.819 --> 00:22:06.440
get flirty or do whatever. And y 'all do stuff

00:22:06.440 --> 00:22:09.500
outside. That should be... Bro, let me just bring

00:22:09.500 --> 00:22:11.539
up something real quick. The flirting stage is

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the most fun stage in a relationship. It really

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do be. And flirting at work, that's hella fun.

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It makes your job so fun. But... But like the

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flirting stage like when you when you start doing

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stuff outside, that's kind of win Okay, you can

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dial down everything at work, but you can still

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you can still Do your thing at work, but you

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dial down a little dial it down a little bit

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at work But still do stuff on the outside Because

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I feel like dating a co -worker is not bad because

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same time though. Yeah, I think you're right

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next to him You've seen you're gonna see when

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they're mad sad angry, whatever you're gonna

00:22:47.920 --> 00:22:51.019
know how they act like most of time You're not

00:22:51.019 --> 00:22:52.680
going to see them be thick. You're going to see

00:22:52.680 --> 00:22:55.180
their true emotions. Because not only that, depending

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on the circumstances that you get put in at your

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job will determine how you react and then how

00:23:02.700 --> 00:23:07.680
they look at you. That's my first opinion. Usually

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in the beginning stages of a relationship, like

00:23:10.940 --> 00:23:15.720
women have the tendency to, you know, put on...

00:23:16.140 --> 00:23:18.980
I don't want to say be fake, but putting a face

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around the guy that they're, you know, talking

00:23:22.279 --> 00:23:26.460
to. They don't want to look mad or sad. They

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want to, like, be, like, happy all the time around

00:23:29.259 --> 00:23:31.480
the girl, around the guy that they're talking

00:23:31.480 --> 00:23:34.779
to. You know, being flirty. But as the relationship

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moves on, the past, the first couple months,

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then, like, the real side's going to come out.

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You know, they call it the honeymoon phase. Yeah.

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You know, the first couple months, it's going

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to... be different. The mentality of the relationships

00:23:48.680 --> 00:23:51.380
can be different than the honeymoon phase. Once

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you get past the honeymoon phase, then you can

00:23:53.579 --> 00:23:57.579
see really what the girl is really like. Yeah.

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And so, my personal, like, I'm all for dating

00:24:04.019 --> 00:24:07.619
a co -worker. I tell Landon all my personal business

00:24:07.619 --> 00:24:10.579
with all that. He doesn't tell all of it, but...

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I mean, I told you the latest one I told you.

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Yeah. The latest one pissed me off, but I mean,

00:24:20.200 --> 00:24:24.359
at the end of the day, could I be a douchebag

00:24:24.359 --> 00:24:27.839
at the end of the day? I could, but that's just

00:24:27.839 --> 00:24:32.819
not who I am. I still love and support this person,

00:24:32.839 --> 00:24:36.440
and I'm glad they can do whatever they want to

00:24:36.440 --> 00:24:39.299
do. And so I have no hard feelings for them,

00:24:39.359 --> 00:24:43.400
but I mean, I'm still going to be me at the end

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of the day. So that's all I can really do. I

00:24:47.829 --> 00:24:55.069
will say this. Looking for love at work can be

00:24:55.069 --> 00:24:59.150
very convenient because you're there every day

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or I guess five days a week or however many days

00:25:02.230 --> 00:25:05.210
you work with the other person. And you see each

00:25:05.210 --> 00:25:08.210
other a lot. And it's convenient, right? The

00:25:08.210 --> 00:25:12.410
convenience factor. Versus outside of work, it

00:25:12.410 --> 00:25:15.970
can be harder. to, I guess, find a potential

00:25:15.970 --> 00:25:19.569
partner. And it just works out that way with

00:25:19.569 --> 00:25:21.950
that convenience factor. It just makes everything

00:25:21.950 --> 00:25:24.650
a lot easier. And I'm not saying that that's

00:25:24.650 --> 00:25:27.589
the number one fact why people hook up in a relationship

00:25:27.589 --> 00:25:32.170
at work, but it definitely is a factor. You know,

00:25:32.210 --> 00:25:35.309
the whole saying of like, oh, we're just work

00:25:35.309 --> 00:25:38.670
friends. You know, usually people are more than

00:25:38.670 --> 00:25:41.230
just work friends. I fucking hate that shit.

00:25:42.150 --> 00:25:45.730
See? And then I hate when people get so involved

00:25:45.730 --> 00:25:48.009
in their work. I mean, nothing's wrong with getting

00:25:48.009 --> 00:25:51.069
involved in your work. If you're trying to be

00:25:51.069 --> 00:25:53.490
there full -time, okay, yeah, I understand that.

00:25:55.150 --> 00:25:57.750
You're actually doing a job. You're taking it

00:25:57.750 --> 00:26:00.130
seriously. That's understandable. For example,

00:26:00.289 --> 00:26:02.390
you're going to graduate with an engineering

00:26:02.390 --> 00:26:06.630
degree, right? Mm -hmm. Shout out LSU engineering.

00:26:07.109 --> 00:26:09.569
So when you go into your engineering degree...

00:26:10.110 --> 00:26:12.170
And you're like, oh, okay, I'm actually taking

00:26:12.170 --> 00:26:14.490
this seriously, you know, treating it like I

00:26:14.490 --> 00:26:15.789
actually want to learn everything, make much

00:26:15.789 --> 00:26:21.390
money. That's cool. But I'm going to say you

00:26:21.390 --> 00:26:24.490
have friends like at work, okay? That doesn't

00:26:24.490 --> 00:26:26.549
mean you're going to stop like hanging out with

00:26:26.549 --> 00:26:31.430
them outside of work, is it? No. Because at the

00:26:31.430 --> 00:26:36.289
end of the day, if that person, if you really

00:26:36.289 --> 00:26:39.210
made a connection with the person, then you shouldn't

00:26:39.210 --> 00:26:42.109
stop hanging out with them, in my opinion. That's

00:26:42.109 --> 00:26:44.730
just my personal opinion, because if you enjoy

00:26:44.730 --> 00:26:46.609
that person's company, and that person makes

00:26:46.609 --> 00:26:53.529
you happy, then why are you doing that? That's

00:26:53.529 --> 00:26:56.910
confusing to me. Lena's just seeing me throw

00:26:56.910 --> 00:27:00.690
hands around. I don't really understand what

00:27:00.690 --> 00:27:02.670
you're talking about. You said, like, work friends

00:27:02.670 --> 00:27:05.819
should hang out outside of work. The point I

00:27:05.819 --> 00:27:07.720
brought up was, like, the whole thing of work

00:27:07.720 --> 00:27:10.859
friends. You know, you go and hang out with a

00:27:10.859 --> 00:27:14.240
girl at work, and you're just work friends, you

00:27:14.240 --> 00:27:18.259
know. And it's really convenient. It's easy to

00:27:18.259 --> 00:27:22.440
meet people at work and meet potential relationship

00:27:22.440 --> 00:27:25.579
partners at work. But hanging out outside of

00:27:25.579 --> 00:27:27.940
work, you know, you might be busy. You both have

00:27:27.940 --> 00:27:30.839
different schedules, so you just hang out at

00:27:30.839 --> 00:27:33.299
work. But what were you saying, like, hanging

00:27:33.299 --> 00:27:36.590
out at work, you have to or something? Well,

00:27:36.590 --> 00:27:40.089
I'm saying, like, let's just say, okay, I'm dedicated

00:27:40.089 --> 00:27:41.750
towards my job. Let's just say me and you are

00:27:41.750 --> 00:27:44.950
already friends, okay? Yeah. Or, no, let's just

00:27:44.950 --> 00:27:46.809
say me and this chick, okay? Me and this random

00:27:46.809 --> 00:27:49.069
ass chick. Yeah, because it's a relationship.

00:27:49.329 --> 00:27:53.529
We work in the same job, okay? Yeah. We, you

00:27:53.529 --> 00:27:56.869
know, we become close. We talk, we flirt, we

00:27:56.869 --> 00:28:00.029
do whatever, okay? And then it goes from, okay,

00:28:00.230 --> 00:28:04.390
I want to be friends. okay yeah that's cool we

00:28:04.390 --> 00:28:08.089
were already friends to hey i want to be co -workers

00:28:08.089 --> 00:28:13.730
i want to focus on my job what what do you mean

00:28:13.730 --> 00:28:18.150
by that because at the end of the day i feel

00:28:18.150 --> 00:28:20.009
like that hurts that's going to hurt me more

00:28:20.009 --> 00:28:21.509
than anything because at the same time though

00:28:21.509 --> 00:28:24.849
we already built an emotional connection like

00:28:24.849 --> 00:28:26.569
we've already done stuff outside of work we've

00:28:26.569 --> 00:28:28.529
done all that and you just want to just tear

00:28:28.529 --> 00:28:31.230
it down apart that's the dumb that's the dumb

00:28:32.000 --> 00:28:34.880
Shit to me. I mean you probably look at it a

00:28:34.880 --> 00:28:37.599
different angle being like okay. Well But that's

00:28:37.599 --> 00:28:39.500
just dumb because we've already built an emotional

00:28:39.500 --> 00:28:43.200
connection. So why? Continue to tear it down

00:28:43.200 --> 00:28:44.960
even more and more and more because I was already

00:28:44.960 --> 00:28:47.839
cool being friends. Yeah So then why continue?

00:28:47.920 --> 00:28:50.279
Okay, why go back to being co -workers? Hey,

00:28:50.400 --> 00:28:52.559
bro, you're just airing out all your personal

00:28:52.559 --> 00:28:55.299
grievances right now, aren't you? No. Oh, that's

00:28:55.299 --> 00:28:59.539
just like in general because Okay, when a woman

00:28:59.539 --> 00:29:02.160
says she just wants to be friends, she doesn't

00:29:02.160 --> 00:29:04.619
mean she wants to be friends. She means get out

00:29:04.619 --> 00:29:08.420
of my life. Like, as someone who's been in relationships

00:29:08.420 --> 00:29:13.079
before, and I mean, I just, from things I know,

00:29:13.220 --> 00:29:16.400
just like, when females tell you when they're

00:29:16.400 --> 00:29:19.740
ready to end the relationship, I just want to

00:29:19.740 --> 00:29:22.240
be friends. Like, they don't want to be friends

00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:24.240
with you. They probably don't want to see you

00:29:24.240 --> 00:29:27.240
again. They're just trying to say something nice.

00:29:27.819 --> 00:29:29.960
Because females just like to be nice. They like

00:29:29.960 --> 00:29:31.920
to sugarcoat things. But see, here's the thing,

00:29:31.940 --> 00:29:33.980
though, for me. I'm a straight shooter at this

00:29:33.980 --> 00:29:37.559
point. Fuck everything. So I'm at the point where,

00:29:37.720 --> 00:29:41.460
like, even if it's women outside of work, tell

00:29:41.460 --> 00:29:45.599
me the fucking truth. Because at the end of the

00:29:45.599 --> 00:29:49.299
day, I should say, me and this chick are friends,

00:29:49.359 --> 00:29:52.099
okay? And you aren't ready for a relationship,

00:29:52.279 --> 00:29:55.059
okay? Hey, Evan, I'm not ready for it. Or, hey,

00:29:55.140 --> 00:29:58.339
Evan, I'm seeing another guy. Okay, cool. Tell

00:29:58.339 --> 00:30:01.019
me that. So that way, you know what I'm going

00:30:01.019 --> 00:30:05.559
to do? Move the fuck on. That's just how I'm

00:30:05.559 --> 00:30:09.500
looking at it because you're wasting my time

00:30:09.500 --> 00:30:13.960
giving you my attention because you want to dance

00:30:13.960 --> 00:30:16.440
around the point. No, just tell me straightforward

00:30:16.440 --> 00:30:20.599
and I'll move on. That's just with anything.

00:30:22.059 --> 00:30:24.640
Like I was saying, women like to sugarcoat things.

00:30:24.759 --> 00:30:27.309
They like to sprinkle it all. fairy dust and

00:30:27.309 --> 00:30:29.589
with whatever they're saying when they say they

00:30:29.589 --> 00:30:31.569
want to be friends they don't want to be friends

00:30:31.569 --> 00:30:34.869
at all they want to not know you anymore you

00:30:34.869 --> 00:30:37.789
know when they say something okay don't like

00:30:37.789 --> 00:30:41.349
actually take it how they're saying it okay that's

00:30:41.349 --> 00:30:43.710
probably the worst thing you can do is take some

00:30:43.710 --> 00:30:46.329
a woman at her word because it doesn't work like

00:30:46.329 --> 00:30:49.789
that well well to any future women that i should

00:30:49.789 --> 00:30:54.269
try to go after be honest and upfront that's

00:30:54.269 --> 00:30:58.390
that's all i ask we're just just Layden has seen

00:30:58.390 --> 00:31:00.910
me do the prayer hands right now. Just be upfront

00:31:00.910 --> 00:31:02.869
and honest with me. My boy's going through some

00:31:02.869 --> 00:31:05.130
struggles right now. No, it's not even that.

00:31:05.210 --> 00:31:08.230
It's just like, even with all the women that

00:31:08.230 --> 00:31:11.970
I've gone after, every single one has kind of

00:31:11.970 --> 00:31:14.869
sugar -coated and danced around the point. That's

00:31:14.869 --> 00:31:16.569
what I'd be saying. That's what girls do. You

00:31:16.569 --> 00:31:19.170
can't expect a girl to not do that. It looks

00:31:19.170 --> 00:31:23.089
like impossible. You're right, but they got something

00:31:23.089 --> 00:31:25.509
that also wants to be that also likes to be straight

00:31:25.509 --> 00:31:28.690
shooters It's very rare, but good luck finding

00:31:28.690 --> 00:31:31.390
that person good luck with that one dog. I know

00:31:31.390 --> 00:31:36.789
but I'm just saying Just tell just tell me the

00:31:36.789 --> 00:31:38.730
truth. That's all I want because at the end of

00:31:38.730 --> 00:31:42.630
the day I'm not gonna sit here and wait for you

00:31:42.630 --> 00:31:50.210
because I mean Let's just say means chicken at

00:31:50.210 --> 00:31:53.730
it Me and this chick are talking. I'm not ready

00:31:53.730 --> 00:31:55.170
for a relationship. Okay, cool. Let's be friends.

00:31:55.269 --> 00:31:58.309
Okay, cool. And I treat you like a friend, and

00:31:58.309 --> 00:32:02.829
then you just go down the list more. Then why

00:32:02.829 --> 00:32:05.769
am I wasting my time with you? That's not trying

00:32:05.769 --> 00:32:08.849
to be mean or anything, but it's just, okay,

00:32:08.930 --> 00:32:11.109
you don't want to be friends anymore. You don't

00:32:11.109 --> 00:32:13.109
want to do this. You don't want to do that. So

00:32:13.109 --> 00:32:17.769
then why are you dragging me through the struggle?

00:32:18.660 --> 00:32:21.920
along with whatever you don't know what you want

00:32:21.920 --> 00:32:26.799
to do. That's my point with that type of shit.

00:32:26.880 --> 00:32:28.740
So that's why I'm just saying that to women in

00:32:28.740 --> 00:32:32.240
general. Just tell the truth. Because just tell

00:32:32.240 --> 00:32:34.240
the truth and just be honest up front. Because

00:32:34.240 --> 00:32:36.140
then you're going to get respect from me more

00:32:36.140 --> 00:32:38.380
at the end of the day. And if you don't want

00:32:38.380 --> 00:32:42.500
me in your life, okay, that's cool. But because

00:32:42.500 --> 00:32:45.859
at the end of the day, here's how I look at it.

00:32:47.599 --> 00:32:49.960
If that person really enjoyed their time with

00:32:49.960 --> 00:32:54.720
me, they're going to end up coming back. If they

00:32:54.720 --> 00:33:01.000
didn't, then oh well. Okay. I'm going to kind

00:33:01.000 --> 00:33:04.420
of move on from this subject right now. I know

00:33:04.420 --> 00:33:07.539
we kind of talked about the dating world a little

00:33:07.539 --> 00:33:11.920
bit, but I kind of want to move on and say, as

00:33:11.920 --> 00:33:15.960
men, I don't think we should be so focused on

00:33:15.960 --> 00:33:21.000
dating. so focused on women like if your thoughts

00:33:21.000 --> 00:33:23.940
or when you're single like oh i need a girlfriend

00:33:23.940 --> 00:33:26.079
i need to talk to chicks i need a girlfriend

00:33:26.079 --> 00:33:31.640
like slow down hold on okay think about yourself

00:33:31.640 --> 00:33:35.059
for a minute bro let's work on yourself you know

00:33:35.059 --> 00:33:38.059
get your mental health right get yourself right

00:33:38.059 --> 00:33:40.599
get your body right get your spiritual right

00:33:40.599 --> 00:33:45.019
you know do all of this so i mean my advice to

00:33:45.019 --> 00:33:48.140
people like that you know focus on yourself you

00:33:48.140 --> 00:33:51.779
know you have so much to live as a person you

00:33:51.779 --> 00:33:55.119
know if you don't enjoy being single then you're

00:33:55.119 --> 00:33:57.380
not gonna enjoy being in a relationship because

00:33:57.380 --> 00:34:00.559
you need to be happy being by yourself before

00:34:00.559 --> 00:34:04.319
you can be happy being in a relationship so so

00:34:04.319 --> 00:34:08.400
i mean things you can do like um get a hobby

00:34:08.400 --> 00:34:12.300
get a hobby right make that money or make that

00:34:12.300 --> 00:34:15.679
money right maybe stay on that grind you know

00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:20.800
so the next the next topic was uh how most single

00:34:20.800 --> 00:34:22.320
men should get through depression when getting

00:34:22.320 --> 00:34:26.679
through loneliness so that bring that just practically

00:34:26.679 --> 00:34:28.659
hit the nail on the head with that one yeah i

00:34:28.659 --> 00:34:31.500
mean focusing yourself right if you can't be

00:34:31.500 --> 00:34:33.519
happy by yourself you can't be happy with someone

00:34:33.519 --> 00:34:37.519
else so yeah get a hobby you know play an instrument

00:34:37.519 --> 00:34:42.900
if if you enjoy playing instruments and playing

00:34:42.900 --> 00:34:45.860
music like go for it you know that's really fun

00:34:45.860 --> 00:34:49.500
you know if you enjoy enjoy art you know maybe

00:34:49.500 --> 00:34:53.360
take up painting or drawing or maybe you enjoy

00:34:53.360 --> 00:34:56.500
writing you know take up writing do something

00:34:56.500 --> 00:34:59.940
to take up your time to not solely focus on females

00:34:59.940 --> 00:35:04.039
because that will lead you down a path of depression

00:35:04.039 --> 00:35:07.480
and loneliness and i don't want that for anyone

00:35:07.480 --> 00:35:10.650
come on now And then think about what I just

00:35:10.650 --> 00:35:13.570
said, okay? If you are a social person and you

00:35:13.570 --> 00:35:15.829
do talk to women, but you're just still in that

00:35:15.829 --> 00:35:18.710
single stage, like I said, if they really enjoy

00:35:18.710 --> 00:35:20.750
the time with you, they're going to come to you.

00:35:20.809 --> 00:35:23.690
But until then, like Lane said, go get a hobby.

00:35:23.809 --> 00:35:26.309
Go play an instrument. Go make that money. Go

00:35:26.309 --> 00:35:29.050
make that money. Get your spiritual life right,

00:35:29.130 --> 00:35:32.630
bro. Get your relationship right with God. You

00:35:32.630 --> 00:35:35.110
know, find that spiritual happiness. You know

00:35:35.110 --> 00:35:37.900
what I mean? Work on that physical fitness, you

00:35:37.900 --> 00:35:43.139
know? Exercise is the number one form of, I guess,

00:35:43.340 --> 00:35:46.820
mental health, what helps you with mental health.

00:35:46.900 --> 00:35:49.360
You know, exercise helps you a lot with that.

00:35:49.559 --> 00:35:52.500
So do some cardio. Do some weightlifting, you

00:35:52.500 --> 00:35:57.139
know? Get your body looking like... Arnold Schwarzenegger,

00:35:57.239 --> 00:35:59.619
baby. Well, you don't have to go that overboard.

00:35:59.900 --> 00:36:03.059
I mean, that's a little much, I think. I think

00:36:03.059 --> 00:36:05.280
that's a little much. That's a bit of a word,

00:36:05.300 --> 00:36:08.079
but I just wanted to say a funny example. No.

00:36:09.880 --> 00:36:15.960
Yeah. I'll be back. All right. Go look like Channing

00:36:15.960 --> 00:36:18.780
Tatum, bro. Go look like Channing Tatum. Put

00:36:18.780 --> 00:36:21.360
Channing Tatum on your mirror and look at Channing

00:36:21.360 --> 00:36:24.860
Tatum every morning and aspire to be that. Look

00:36:24.860 --> 00:36:30.550
at his abs and be like. I need to be that. You

00:36:30.550 --> 00:36:32.289
should have said, like, Mark Wahlberg or something.

00:36:33.429 --> 00:36:36.090
Channing Tatum has a better body, I think. Yeah,

00:36:36.090 --> 00:36:38.150
but Mark Wahlberg gets up at, like, 3 o 'clock

00:36:38.150 --> 00:36:39.389
in the morning. He does, like, three workouts

00:36:39.389 --> 00:36:43.769
a day. So... Ah, bro. I mean, if that... If you

00:36:43.769 --> 00:36:46.369
want to be a psycho, then be Mark Wahlberg. I

00:36:46.369 --> 00:36:49.710
mean, that's a bit much. I think one is fine,

00:36:49.909 --> 00:36:52.289
but that's just me. Yeah, if you want to be a

00:36:52.289 --> 00:36:56.150
psycho, be Mark Wahlberg. So... But, yeah, just

00:36:56.150 --> 00:36:58.789
go ahead, make your money. And just live life.

00:36:59.369 --> 00:37:02.449
Yeah, go live life, bro. You got to think about

00:37:02.449 --> 00:37:04.150
it. Back in September, I wasn't even talking

00:37:04.150 --> 00:37:06.869
to anybody. September, October, I wasn't talking

00:37:06.869 --> 00:37:10.690
to anybody. And what did I do? I went to go see

00:37:10.690 --> 00:37:12.530
Jelly Roll in Lafayette. I took two hours by

00:37:12.530 --> 00:37:15.809
myself to go sit in the cage and go listening

00:37:15.809 --> 00:37:19.230
to Jelly Roll. Yeah. I mean, like I was saying,

00:37:19.269 --> 00:37:23.409
you have to be happy living by yourself. And

00:37:23.409 --> 00:37:26.250
if you achieve that, then you're going to be

00:37:26.250 --> 00:37:29.940
happy. For your whole life no matter if you're

00:37:29.940 --> 00:37:33.199
by yourself or with a partner See you just can't

00:37:33.199 --> 00:37:35.699
let the lonely loneliness thoughts get to your

00:37:35.699 --> 00:37:38.679
head because then you also got to think When

00:37:38.679 --> 00:37:42.079
you are in a relationship You got to think everything's

00:37:42.079 --> 00:37:45.079
50 -50 It takes two people to carry the couch

00:37:45.079 --> 00:37:46.800
instead of one shout out to Chris Rock for that

00:37:46.800 --> 00:37:53.039
fucking quote. So language Yeah, hey that was

00:37:53.039 --> 00:37:56.519
a very positive of you i was not very positive

00:37:56.519 --> 00:37:59.739
about you were in my bed bro yeah i'm sorry so

00:37:59.739 --> 00:38:02.079
but yeah it takes two people to carry the couch

00:38:02.079 --> 00:38:07.159
instead instead of just one so that's when that's

00:38:07.159 --> 00:38:09.860
why both both women and women gotta want the

00:38:09.860 --> 00:38:12.400
relationship if one person wants a relationship

00:38:12.400 --> 00:38:16.460
then you might as well just leave it alone if

00:38:16.460 --> 00:38:18.739
because at the same time you're gonna be carrying

00:38:18.739 --> 00:38:21.320
100 of the couch she ain't gonna be carrying

00:38:21.320 --> 00:38:26.980
nothing yeah and i mean If you're in a relationship

00:38:26.980 --> 00:38:29.880
and you're requiring a woman to make you happy,

00:38:30.039 --> 00:38:32.920
that's never going to happen, dog. You need to

00:38:32.920 --> 00:38:36.440
focus on how to make yourself happy. You know,

00:38:36.480 --> 00:38:40.320
you shouldn't be requiring the other person to

00:38:40.320 --> 00:38:44.280
look after your happiness. That's a method to

00:38:44.280 --> 00:38:48.719
fail a relationship right there. So I'm going

00:38:48.719 --> 00:38:51.659
to give an example of what I thought made me

00:38:51.659 --> 00:38:54.920
happy. So then I'm going to give. an explanation

00:38:54.920 --> 00:38:57.579
at the end of this amazing story that my buddy

00:38:57.579 --> 00:39:00.099
told me a couple days ago that i was like that's

00:39:00.099 --> 00:39:05.760
a solid point so uh me and this chick i actually

00:39:05.760 --> 00:39:07.320
did used to work with this chick but we didn't

00:39:07.320 --> 00:39:10.800
start hanging out until after she left so when

00:39:10.800 --> 00:39:13.780
she stopped working at my job we ended up hanging

00:39:13.780 --> 00:39:16.840
out a lot more we ended up going to bars we ended

00:39:16.840 --> 00:39:18.659
up getting drunk we we did a bunch of together

00:39:18.659 --> 00:39:25.469
so it developed into all that then it involved

00:39:25.469 --> 00:39:28.110
me coming to go and see her more all this amazing

00:39:28.110 --> 00:39:35.289
stuff and then one day you know she we got into

00:39:35.289 --> 00:39:37.750
a heated argument it was it was something dumb

00:39:37.750 --> 00:39:44.210
so then i was looking because in those situations

00:39:44.210 --> 00:39:46.210
i was looking at myself like i was the problem

00:39:46.210 --> 00:39:52.539
granted do do we do stuff in certain For certain

00:39:52.539 --> 00:39:54.980
situations, do we do stuff that's wrong? Absolutely.

00:39:56.039 --> 00:39:58.000
That's why we gotta take our licks for stuff.

00:39:59.880 --> 00:40:05.099
But she had me thinking, oh, I was doing everything

00:40:05.099 --> 00:40:08.760
wrong. Okay. And that's when I had to look at

00:40:08.760 --> 00:40:12.300
myself in a different light and be, okay, I did

00:40:12.300 --> 00:40:15.619
not do anything wrong. But there will be times

00:40:15.619 --> 00:40:18.500
where I will admit if I did anything wrong. And

00:40:18.500 --> 00:40:22.199
so... My buddy Kel, shout out to my friend Kel,

00:40:22.320 --> 00:40:27.280
told me the other day, he was like, Evan, if

00:40:27.280 --> 00:40:31.780
you know what you like about this woman, like

00:40:31.780 --> 00:40:35.079
let's just say she got a nice ass, okay? She

00:40:35.079 --> 00:40:39.579
got a nice ass. That's not really love because...

00:40:39.579 --> 00:40:41.760
That's facts right there. That's facts. Because

00:40:41.760 --> 00:40:44.079
you just love her for her body. That's facts.

00:40:44.179 --> 00:40:46.500
Love is something that you don't know what you

00:40:46.500 --> 00:40:49.719
like about them. Oh, dang. That's deep, bro.

00:40:49.940 --> 00:40:53.940
Bro. Shout out, dog. That's good. That's good.

00:40:54.179 --> 00:40:58.880
And when he told me that, I was like, damn. Damn.

00:40:58.940 --> 00:41:02.780
I was speechless because I told him, I was like,

00:41:02.800 --> 00:41:08.519
man, you're fucking right. I'm like, shit. Damn,

00:41:08.760 --> 00:41:11.559
girl. I was not expecting that. Yeah, that's

00:41:11.559 --> 00:41:16.360
good right there. So, always keep that in your

00:41:16.360 --> 00:41:22.909
head. if you genuinely like a woman, and if you

00:41:22.909 --> 00:41:26.389
know what you like about them, this can go for

00:41:26.389 --> 00:41:29.989
women too, for guys. It can go vice versa. If

00:41:29.989 --> 00:41:32.130
you know what you like about them, then it's

00:41:32.130 --> 00:41:38.030
not really love. So that's my advice. So if you,

00:41:38.150 --> 00:41:40.829
let's say you do, you are single and you're in

00:41:40.829 --> 00:41:42.230
a lonely state and you're living life and you

00:41:42.230 --> 00:41:47.530
do run up on this girl that... you talk to and

00:41:47.530 --> 00:41:49.769
all this shit and you find something about it

00:41:49.769 --> 00:41:52.809
and that's where it's not really love. If your

00:41:52.809 --> 00:41:54.869
only thing you like about women is physical,

00:41:55.070 --> 00:41:58.050
then that's not love. You know, love is way more

00:41:58.050 --> 00:41:59.550
than physical. Then you're just ready to be a

00:41:59.550 --> 00:42:01.929
hoe at that point. Yeah, basically. I mean, if

00:42:01.929 --> 00:42:04.289
you just want to go through women, then go ahead.

00:42:04.550 --> 00:42:06.429
But, I mean, if you're actually looking for a

00:42:06.429 --> 00:42:09.309
relationship, like, it shouldn't be just because

00:42:09.309 --> 00:42:12.710
you like your body. Like, nah, cut that out.

00:42:13.909 --> 00:42:18.679
Alright. So, I'm going to skip. No, actually,

00:42:18.739 --> 00:42:21.840
no. Professional advice for young men 21 to 22.

00:42:22.320 --> 00:42:25.880
So, around our age range. So, I mean, we kind

00:42:25.880 --> 00:42:27.380
of just hit that nail on the head, didn't we?

00:42:27.440 --> 00:42:29.159
Yeah, I think I kind of talked about that, you

00:42:29.159 --> 00:42:30.960
know. Find a way to be happy about yourself,

00:42:31.139 --> 00:42:34.039
you know. Work on yourself. Find self -love.

00:42:34.159 --> 00:42:36.420
Self -love is so important. How both women and

00:42:36.420 --> 00:42:38.139
men need to be better in a relationship overall.

00:42:38.710 --> 00:42:41.409
I can answer this one real quick. Oh, geez. Go

00:42:41.409 --> 00:42:44.050
ahead. Be accountable. Both women and women need

00:42:44.050 --> 00:42:47.510
to be accountable. That's all I got to say. If

00:42:47.510 --> 00:42:50.869
y 'all both aren't accountable, then what are

00:42:50.869 --> 00:42:54.010
y 'all doing? I think the point I brought up

00:42:54.010 --> 00:42:58.010
earlier, you know, you need to focus on making

00:42:58.010 --> 00:43:02.030
yourself happy. You can't feel the need for the

00:43:02.030 --> 00:43:04.409
other person in the relationship to make you

00:43:04.409 --> 00:43:07.329
happy because that's not going to work long term.

00:43:07.929 --> 00:43:11.329
you need to have your own happiness that you

00:43:11.329 --> 00:43:15.210
have for yourself. The other person is just there

00:43:15.210 --> 00:43:19.289
for, you know, not happiness, but just there

00:43:19.289 --> 00:43:23.050
for companionship. It's different. Yeah, but

00:43:23.050 --> 00:43:28.449
I do believe, though, that accountability is

00:43:28.449 --> 00:43:30.909
a big thing when it comes to that. Accountability,

00:43:31.030 --> 00:43:35.010
truthfulness, like the minute you start lying

00:43:35.010 --> 00:43:38.400
or don't share your true feelings, That's when

00:43:38.400 --> 00:43:41.239
the relationship went downhill, and there's no

00:43:41.239 --> 00:43:44.079
saving grace for that. Because my personal vendetta,

00:43:44.239 --> 00:43:46.960
like every time I do talk to a woman, when they

00:43:46.960 --> 00:43:51.099
self -destruct themselves, that... I hate that.

00:43:51.280 --> 00:43:53.840
I hate it, I hate it, I hate it, I hate it. Because

00:43:53.840 --> 00:43:57.599
then at the same time, though, just express your

00:43:57.599 --> 00:44:00.300
emotions. Don't try to hide them or destroy them.

00:44:00.659 --> 00:44:03.119
Because then when you do that, and then you go

00:44:03.119 --> 00:44:05.599
do other stuff with that person, you're just

00:44:05.599 --> 00:44:08.309
going to catch them again. So don't self -destruct

00:44:08.309 --> 00:44:12.070
your feelings. Yeah, bro, like, you got to share,

00:44:12.309 --> 00:44:15.550
you got to be completely open and honest, share

00:44:15.550 --> 00:44:17.969
your true feelings, your true thoughts. The minute

00:44:17.969 --> 00:44:20.130
someone, you know, doesn't do that in a relationship,

00:44:20.329 --> 00:44:22.889
that's when it's going way downhill. And that's

00:44:22.889 --> 00:44:25.289
just my experience, like, talking to different

00:44:25.289 --> 00:44:29.449
women over the years of my, ever since I was

00:44:29.449 --> 00:44:33.510
18, started trying to date. So that's my view

00:44:33.510 --> 00:44:40.099
of that from 18 to now. Okay. So, this one's

00:44:40.099 --> 00:44:41.699
kind of, like, weird, because I did come up with

00:44:41.699 --> 00:44:44.679
this on the fly. Okay. Because Lana was in here,

00:44:44.760 --> 00:44:46.320
we were in here, and I just came up with these

00:44:46.320 --> 00:44:48.739
two last points on the fly. Yeah. How should

00:44:48.739 --> 00:44:50.619
people react when other people talk about them,

00:44:50.659 --> 00:44:55.440
or drama comes into effect? I mean, okay, how

00:44:55.440 --> 00:44:59.079
should people react when other people gossip

00:44:59.079 --> 00:45:03.900
about them, basically? You know, I mean, gossip...

00:45:07.590 --> 00:45:11.409
Okay, if we take men and women and separate those

00:45:11.409 --> 00:45:14.489
two categories, which category is more prone

00:45:14.489 --> 00:45:18.090
to gossip? I'd probably say it's leaning towards

00:45:18.090 --> 00:45:22.590
the women. I'm not sexist or anything, you know,

00:45:22.590 --> 00:45:25.269
but that's just the way life is. Women are way

00:45:25.269 --> 00:45:27.929
more prone to gossip. And you would agree, right?

00:45:28.590 --> 00:45:30.949
Yeah, I agree with Landon on that. Yeah, exactly.

00:45:31.309 --> 00:45:35.550
Not sexist either. this is probably a question

00:45:35.550 --> 00:45:39.050
you know that women are mostly well it's not

00:45:39.050 --> 00:45:41.309
even that it's like what do you do let's just

00:45:41.309 --> 00:45:44.650
say you're involved with drama okay and you hear

00:45:44.650 --> 00:45:47.769
other people be like hey like let's say i came

00:45:47.769 --> 00:45:50.050
up to you as a good friend hey man i heard that

00:45:50.050 --> 00:45:53.469
you slept with such and such or hey man i heard

00:45:53.469 --> 00:45:59.710
i heard you you like to i heard you like to skydive

00:46:01.009 --> 00:46:03.530
What? Okay. Well, I'm trying to think of, like...

00:46:03.530 --> 00:46:05.710
But that's actually, like, a good thing, you

00:46:05.710 --> 00:46:08.829
know? People, hey, my friend skydived, and, like,

00:46:08.849 --> 00:46:10.190
people would spread it. I know, but it's not,

00:46:10.309 --> 00:46:12.510
like, trashing someone's character. I'm not trashing

00:46:12.510 --> 00:46:15.690
any skydivers or anything. I'm being like, hey,

00:46:15.730 --> 00:46:17.610
okay, you know what? I got a better one. Hey,

00:46:17.630 --> 00:46:20.449
I heard that you were a big douchebag. Like,

00:46:20.449 --> 00:46:21.650
everyone's been going around saying, like, you're

00:46:21.650 --> 00:46:25.610
a big douchebag. So... I mean, spreading rumors

00:46:25.610 --> 00:46:28.199
like that, that's very... immature it's childish

00:46:28.199 --> 00:46:30.619
that's like some high school shit right there

00:46:30.619 --> 00:46:34.340
if like college age people or even like people

00:46:34.340 --> 00:46:37.840
in their late 20s 30s are doing that that's really

00:46:37.840 --> 00:46:42.460
childish of them i mean grow up honestly like

00:46:42.460 --> 00:46:48.179
get a life see my opinion is okay why why does

00:46:48.179 --> 00:46:51.059
it matter what other people think in my in my

00:46:51.059 --> 00:46:54.219
opinion at the end of the day i want you to come

00:46:54.219 --> 00:46:56.380
up to me and determine if i'm a douchebag or

00:46:56.380 --> 00:47:00.590
not Yeah, yeah. Because that way you can see

00:47:00.590 --> 00:47:03.849
for yourself, proves the rumors are false, and

00:47:03.849 --> 00:47:07.230
then gives you a better insight on me. Okay,

00:47:07.349 --> 00:47:10.150
so that's kind of how I've been living my life

00:47:10.150 --> 00:47:13.110
the past couple years, how I stay so happy all

00:47:13.110 --> 00:47:15.710
the time. I don't worry about how other people

00:47:15.710 --> 00:47:19.489
think about me. Like, I really stop caring. I

00:47:19.489 --> 00:47:22.170
don't care anymore. I mean, that's not to say,

00:47:22.190 --> 00:47:24.590
like, I want to get, like, super fat and obese

00:47:24.590 --> 00:47:26.289
because I don't care what people think about

00:47:26.289 --> 00:47:29.300
me. I mean, I'm not saying that, but I've stopped

00:47:29.300 --> 00:47:32.559
worrying about how people look at me every single

00:47:32.559 --> 00:47:36.179
day. You know, I don't care what the person walking

00:47:36.179 --> 00:47:39.900
down the street thinks of me. You know, they're

00:47:39.900 --> 00:47:43.300
just a random person. And people don't care about

00:47:43.300 --> 00:47:45.960
you as much as they think, as much as you think

00:47:45.960 --> 00:47:50.000
they do. Like, you might think people, you know,

00:47:50.000 --> 00:47:52.619
are doing shit for your best interest. but in

00:47:52.619 --> 00:47:55.559
reality or you might think people like sitting

00:47:55.559 --> 00:47:58.079
next to you in the restaurant you know and you're

00:47:58.079 --> 00:48:00.940
wearing a weird shirt you might think oh my gosh

00:48:00.940 --> 00:48:03.460
i'm wearing such a weird shirt they're gonna

00:48:03.460 --> 00:48:06.719
think i'm so weird like they don't care about

00:48:06.719 --> 00:48:09.420
you they don't care how you think they're just

00:48:09.420 --> 00:48:13.239
going about their day and so why why put so much

00:48:13.239 --> 00:48:17.800
focus on how other people think of you when you're

00:48:17.800 --> 00:48:20.500
the only one that's gonna make you happy you

00:48:20.500 --> 00:48:23.119
literally hit my point on the head and i hate

00:48:23.119 --> 00:48:26.440
you for it because i was gonna say why are you

00:48:26.440 --> 00:48:28.099
letting other people determine your happiness

00:48:28.099 --> 00:48:29.880
yeah because why are you letting other people

00:48:29.880 --> 00:48:32.199
determine your happiness because if it makes

00:48:32.199 --> 00:48:34.059
you happy at the end of the day why does it even

00:48:34.059 --> 00:48:37.340
matter if i like to if i like to play with uh

00:48:37.340 --> 00:48:41.039
what is it slime okay if i like to play with

00:48:41.039 --> 00:48:44.760
slime Why would I give a shit if anyone's talking

00:48:44.760 --> 00:48:47.239
shit about me? I like playing with slime. Yeah.

00:48:47.300 --> 00:48:53.039
So what's the even point in that? I mean, if,

00:48:53.179 --> 00:48:57.900
and if you're, that's another thing like getting

00:48:57.900 --> 00:49:00.619
your happiness from other people, you know, get

00:49:00.619 --> 00:49:03.699
your happiness from yourself because then no

00:49:03.699 --> 00:49:06.019
one else can take your happiness away if it comes

00:49:06.019 --> 00:49:08.309
from yourself. If you're getting your happiness

00:49:08.309 --> 00:49:10.769
from someone else, then they can just take it

00:49:10.769 --> 00:49:13.489
away the minute they want to. But if you're getting

00:49:13.489 --> 00:49:16.070
your happiness from yourself, they can't take

00:49:16.070 --> 00:49:20.170
it away. Yeah, because if I'm playing Xbox and

00:49:20.170 --> 00:49:22.969
Landon tells me, oh man, why are you playing

00:49:22.969 --> 00:49:27.489
Xbox? Xbox is for trash people. They don't know

00:49:27.489 --> 00:49:31.889
how to play video games. Why do I give a shit

00:49:31.889 --> 00:49:34.610
what Landon says? As long as I like playing my

00:49:34.610 --> 00:49:39.380
Xbox. That's all that matters. So, that goes

00:49:39.380 --> 00:49:41.599
with anything. Just with anything in general.

00:49:41.739 --> 00:49:44.039
If you like making money, oh man, why are you...

00:49:44.039 --> 00:49:46.679
Because you're going to have a lot more haters

00:49:46.679 --> 00:49:51.400
than you will friends. So, why let them get to

00:49:51.400 --> 00:49:54.940
you? If you... But also, I'm going to also say

00:49:54.940 --> 00:49:57.000
this. If you have some people supporting you,

00:49:57.099 --> 00:50:02.219
don't turn on them for supporting you. If they

00:50:02.219 --> 00:50:03.659
tell you something that you don't want to hear,

00:50:03.780 --> 00:50:05.880
you've got to be able to... Except constructive

00:50:05.880 --> 00:50:09.340
criticism and be able to take stuff on the chin.

00:50:09.559 --> 00:50:11.340
You got to hold yourself to a higher standard

00:50:11.340 --> 00:50:17.500
than all of that. You know what I'm saying? No,

00:50:17.579 --> 00:50:19.239
I feel like that was kind of off topic. What

00:50:19.239 --> 00:50:24.239
are you talking about? Oh, no. So, look. I said

00:50:24.239 --> 00:50:25.500
you're going to have more haters than anything.

00:50:25.739 --> 00:50:29.639
Okay. That goes completely against my thing I

00:50:29.639 --> 00:50:32.619
talked about, which people weren't. worried about

00:50:32.619 --> 00:50:34.900
you like they you think they are you you're right

00:50:34.900 --> 00:50:37.920
but i'm just saying like no it's not going against

00:50:37.920 --> 00:50:40.320
your point because at the same time though look

00:50:40.320 --> 00:50:42.300
you're gonna have more haters than anything but

00:50:42.300 --> 00:50:44.360
at the same time though you got to be more open

00:50:44.360 --> 00:50:46.719
to yourself about like constructive criticism

00:50:46.719 --> 00:50:48.320
from people close to you it's like think about

00:50:48.320 --> 00:50:51.599
this okay let's say a random ass person's hating

00:50:51.599 --> 00:50:53.380
on you okay you don't care about that random

00:50:53.380 --> 00:50:56.280
ass person okay no you shouldn't care exactly

00:50:56.280 --> 00:50:59.360
but let's say i come to you and i'd be like look

00:50:59.360 --> 00:51:04.269
nana me We need to have a talk. I feel like you

00:51:04.269 --> 00:51:05.750
gotta be open and constructive, Chris, because

00:51:05.750 --> 00:51:08.250
if I come to you and be like, look, Landon, I

00:51:08.250 --> 00:51:09.650
don't really like the editing you've been doing

00:51:09.650 --> 00:51:12.050
on the podcast. I feel like you could be a lot

00:51:12.050 --> 00:51:18.070
better. You're... You can make this editing a

00:51:18.070 --> 00:51:19.570
lot better. You can make editing great again.

00:51:20.130 --> 00:51:24.170
Make editing great again. But if you start getting

00:51:24.170 --> 00:51:27.269
pissy being like, what do you mean? I'm editing

00:51:27.269 --> 00:51:31.440
the best I can. Then... you're going to turn

00:51:31.440 --> 00:51:35.920
to people that support you away from you so like

00:51:35.920 --> 00:51:40.980
keep them close but be able to be able to hear

00:51:40.980 --> 00:51:42.679
constructive criticism you know what i'm saying

00:51:42.679 --> 00:51:46.019
okay yeah and i'll say this like that goes with

00:51:46.019 --> 00:51:49.940
something i'm strongly support and i'll give

00:51:49.940 --> 00:51:54.119
this advice to anyone is try to remove your own

00:51:54.119 --> 00:51:56.840
ego you know and that can be such a hard thing

00:51:56.840 --> 00:51:59.849
is to remove your ego But you really do. You've

00:51:59.849 --> 00:52:03.630
got to remove as much ego as you can. And that's

00:52:03.630 --> 00:52:06.050
something I struggle with every day. I feel like

00:52:06.050 --> 00:52:08.550
I'm pretty good at it, and I've been working

00:52:08.550 --> 00:52:12.610
at it for a while. And there's times I've been

00:52:12.610 --> 00:52:15.110
mad at people in my head, like, oh, they did

00:52:15.110 --> 00:52:17.889
this wrong, or oh, this isn't how I wanted it.

00:52:18.010 --> 00:52:22.190
But removing your own ego gets away those expectations.

00:52:22.670 --> 00:52:26.809
So let's say someone comes at you with constructive

00:52:26.809 --> 00:52:32.199
criticism. Like, oh, you didn't cook this exactly

00:52:32.199 --> 00:52:34.800
right. Like, I think you should, you know, put

00:52:34.800 --> 00:52:37.219
this on the grill for like maybe two minutes

00:52:37.219 --> 00:52:41.239
longer and then season it or whatever. And don't

00:52:41.239 --> 00:52:43.420
have the ego up like, oh, they can't tell me

00:52:43.420 --> 00:52:45.599
what to do. I know what I'm doing. You know,

00:52:45.659 --> 00:52:49.179
you're stupid. No, I know. No, remove that ego.

00:52:49.800 --> 00:52:54.059
Except, oh, okay, thank you for talking to me.

00:52:54.119 --> 00:52:57.159
And thank you for giving me that advice about

00:52:57.159 --> 00:53:00.329
how to cook. burger spreader or whatever you

00:53:00.329 --> 00:53:03.349
know take people's advice you're not too good

00:53:03.349 --> 00:53:06.369
to take people's advice because also at the end

00:53:06.369 --> 00:53:09.309
of the day you can take their advice or you can

00:53:09.309 --> 00:53:13.369
even not like disregard their advice but with

00:53:13.369 --> 00:53:15.210
that you're they're just trying to help you out

00:53:15.210 --> 00:53:19.329
so they still gotta show kindness you know thank

00:53:19.329 --> 00:53:22.889
them for the advice oh oh cool bro thanks it

00:53:22.889 --> 00:53:24.949
depends on how you look at it if you think that

00:53:24.949 --> 00:53:28.369
they're attacking you then Get your ego out of

00:53:28.369 --> 00:53:31.170
it, then. You can't view people who give you

00:53:31.170 --> 00:53:33.389
advice as attacking you for how you do something.

00:53:33.590 --> 00:53:36.409
Like, you can't do that. Yeah, so that's why...

00:53:36.409 --> 00:53:40.610
And even if they said it in a mean way, you just

00:53:40.610 --> 00:53:43.250
gotta, like, pretend like they said it in a nice

00:53:43.250 --> 00:53:45.150
way. Oh, no, if they say it in a mean way, oh,

00:53:45.269 --> 00:53:47.289
shit, I'm checking them back. That's just mean,

00:53:47.309 --> 00:53:51.469
though, because I reciprocate energy that is

00:53:51.469 --> 00:53:53.530
given to me. Like, for example, you know how

00:53:53.530 --> 00:53:54.809
me and you just shit -talk each other, right?

00:53:55.210 --> 00:53:57.440
Yeah. That's because we reciprocated back. I

00:53:57.440 --> 00:53:58.699
should talk to you, you should talk to me. Yeah,

00:53:58.719 --> 00:54:00.719
but we know we're just messing around. Yeah,

00:54:00.719 --> 00:54:02.619
we know we're having... No, but I'm just saying,

00:54:02.659 --> 00:54:07.739
like, let's just say I give you a smart -ass

00:54:07.739 --> 00:54:09.800
attitude, okay? You're going to say something

00:54:09.800 --> 00:54:13.119
smart back. That's reciprocated energy. If I

00:54:13.119 --> 00:54:14.699
go up to a random person and be like, hey, how

00:54:14.699 --> 00:54:18.800
you doing? And then they'd be like, oh, you're

00:54:18.800 --> 00:54:23.500
a hoe. That's such a weird, random thing for

00:54:23.500 --> 00:54:25.219
someone to say. Then I'm going to be like, okay.

00:54:25.679 --> 00:54:27.940
Well, you're a piece of shit. I'm not going to

00:54:27.940 --> 00:54:31.639
talk to you. If you don't have anything to say,

00:54:31.719 --> 00:54:34.539
don't say something. Oh, no, I'm saying it. I'm

00:54:34.539 --> 00:54:37.480
saying it. No, my friend, listen to the old advice.

00:54:37.719 --> 00:54:40.000
If you don't have anything nice to say, don't

00:54:40.000 --> 00:54:41.900
say anything at all. I'm saying it because at

00:54:41.900 --> 00:54:44.300
the same time, though, if I'm starting out, if

00:54:44.300 --> 00:54:49.000
I'm coming out nice and you just, now see, I've

00:54:49.000 --> 00:54:51.500
gotten better at, okay, maybe this person had

00:54:51.500 --> 00:54:54.440
a bad day, you know. Yeah, people are going through

00:54:54.440 --> 00:54:55.860
stuff, and you don't know what they're going

00:54:55.860 --> 00:54:58.360
through walking down the street. Yeah, so that's

00:54:58.360 --> 00:55:00.960
kind of why I've gotten better at it. But if

00:55:00.960 --> 00:55:05.159
I've known you, let's just say me and Lana talk

00:55:05.159 --> 00:55:07.659
about it, and Lana just starts being a real douchebag,

00:55:07.800 --> 00:55:12.679
and I'm just like, okay, well, F you, Lana. Maybe

00:55:12.679 --> 00:55:14.599
I had a bad day. What do you mean? Maybe I was

00:55:14.599 --> 00:55:17.619
going to do something. You would be like, look,

00:55:17.699 --> 00:55:19.059
man. But here's the thing, though. We got to

00:55:19.059 --> 00:55:21.039
the point where you'd be like, like me and you

00:55:21.039 --> 00:55:23.480
would be like, look, man. I'm going through something

00:55:23.480 --> 00:55:26.519
right now. Just dial it back, okay? Yeah. Like,

00:55:26.519 --> 00:55:30.219
that's how we would operate. But I'm talking

00:55:30.219 --> 00:55:35.019
about just as in anyone in general. So, that's

00:55:35.019 --> 00:55:40.199
how I'm looking at it. So, how you should control

00:55:40.199 --> 00:55:43.440
your own feelings and happiness. Oh, yeah. Because,

00:55:43.440 --> 00:55:45.659
like, you know, I kept saying throughout the

00:55:45.659 --> 00:55:48.820
podcast, like, you know, you need to... having

00:55:48.820 --> 00:55:50.780
your own happiness, but now we're going to delve

00:55:50.780 --> 00:55:54.099
into like how you can do it, you know, the steps

00:55:54.099 --> 00:55:57.980
you can take to go through that journey. So,

00:55:58.159 --> 00:56:03.699
like we said before, you shouldn't let other

00:56:03.699 --> 00:56:05.519
people dictate it. That's absolutely number one.

00:56:05.780 --> 00:56:08.119
If it just makes you happy, that's all that matters.

00:56:08.320 --> 00:56:10.699
If the world didn't give you happiness, then

00:56:10.699 --> 00:56:13.619
the world can't take it away. You know, you gave

00:56:13.619 --> 00:56:16.070
yourself happiness. The word can't take it away

00:56:16.070 --> 00:56:17.989
if you give yourself the happiness. Ooh, that

00:56:17.989 --> 00:56:19.690
was a good quote. I ain't gonna lie. That was

00:56:19.690 --> 00:56:24.309
a good quote, Lane. But... I got it from my pastor.

00:56:24.750 --> 00:56:30.590
Good job. So, yeah, that's... But I do believe,

00:56:30.630 --> 00:56:32.489
though, it also depends on, like, what you do

00:56:32.489 --> 00:56:36.809
and how you do things. Because if you just start...

00:56:36.809 --> 00:56:41.190
Now, if you just get a ride out of being a dick

00:56:41.190 --> 00:56:45.110
to people, then... I guess such happiness? No,

00:56:45.210 --> 00:56:47.730
that's not real happiness. That's not real happiness,

00:56:47.969 --> 00:56:50.010
but... You may think that makes you happy, but

00:56:50.010 --> 00:56:52.409
that's not real happiness. It's not real happiness,

00:56:52.570 --> 00:56:55.550
but if you get a thrive out of it, I mean, do

00:56:55.550 --> 00:56:59.469
what makes you happy, I guess? No, no, I'm not

00:56:59.469 --> 00:57:02.230
going to say that. Like, if you think you get

00:57:02.230 --> 00:57:08.789
a kick out of, like... I was going to say shooting

00:57:08.789 --> 00:57:11.150
up schools, but that's a terrible example. That

00:57:11.150 --> 00:57:14.269
was dark as shit. I know, that was so dark. Wow.

00:57:14.489 --> 00:57:15.949
First you're talking about for the kids, and

00:57:15.949 --> 00:57:18.250
now you're talking about that? No, no, for the

00:57:18.250 --> 00:57:23.329
kids. If you get a rise out of hurling insults

00:57:23.329 --> 00:57:26.090
at people, that's not actually making you happy.

00:57:26.250 --> 00:57:30.429
At the end of the day, that's actually not. It's

00:57:30.429 --> 00:57:35.070
not. You may think that gives you pleasure. Like,

00:57:35.070 --> 00:57:37.309
pleasure is different than happiness. That gives

00:57:37.309 --> 00:57:39.489
you short -term happiness. Short -term pleasure,

00:57:39.670 --> 00:57:41.369
yeah. That'll give you no long -term pleasure.

00:57:41.650 --> 00:57:44.789
Nah. You're looking for that long -term joy.

00:57:45.329 --> 00:57:47.869
That's what you need. You don't need that short

00:57:47.869 --> 00:57:50.369
-term little happiness. But at the same time,

00:57:50.389 --> 00:57:52.730
though, you gotta work towards that long -term

00:57:52.730 --> 00:57:54.829
happiness. You gotta work towards long -term

00:57:54.829 --> 00:57:57.090
joy. Yeah, you really do. Because at the end

00:57:57.090 --> 00:58:00.670
of the day, when, let's just say, all that short

00:58:00.670 --> 00:58:03.269
-term happiness ends, and you're left in the

00:58:03.269 --> 00:58:06.309
dirt, You're gonna be like, well, what the heck?

00:58:06.969 --> 00:58:09.449
Why am I not happy? Why am I not this? Well,

00:58:09.510 --> 00:58:15.849
you should have been building up to the long

00:58:15.849 --> 00:58:17.349
-term happiness while at the same time going

00:58:17.349 --> 00:58:20.469
for the short -term happiness. Okay, I feel like

00:58:20.469 --> 00:58:23.230
to break it down, let's separate, like, let's

00:58:23.230 --> 00:58:25.289
say short -term happiness, let's just call that

00:58:25.289 --> 00:58:27.590
happiness, and let's call long -term happiness

00:58:27.590 --> 00:58:30.469
joy. Because it's easier to say than, like, long

00:58:30.469 --> 00:58:33.539
-term, short -term. It's like... You're exactly

00:58:33.539 --> 00:58:36.320
right. You need to work towards the joy, the

00:58:36.320 --> 00:58:39.940
long -term joy that's going to stick with you.

00:58:40.000 --> 00:58:43.199
If you're just striving for that happiness, that's

00:58:43.199 --> 00:58:47.760
going to be a little high. If you take crack

00:58:47.760 --> 00:58:52.260
or cocaine, the little high you get. If you smoke

00:58:52.260 --> 00:58:56.159
weed, the little high that it gives you. While

00:58:56.159 --> 00:58:58.099
you're looking for the long -term joy, you're

00:58:58.099 --> 00:59:00.639
not going to find that by doing just little things

00:59:00.639 --> 00:59:03.159
that give you pleasure. I must say this, too.

00:59:03.539 --> 00:59:05.280
You've got to find a mix of both because at the

00:59:05.280 --> 00:59:09.440
same time, though, if you go, let's just say,

00:59:09.460 --> 00:59:11.719
if you just do long -term happiness, you're not

00:59:11.719 --> 00:59:13.940
going to have any bits of short -term happiness.

00:59:14.840 --> 00:59:16.420
Because you've got to think about this, okay?

00:59:17.920 --> 00:59:20.099
You need enough fuel for the road to get to your

00:59:20.099 --> 00:59:23.139
destination, okay? You've got to fill up at some

00:59:23.139 --> 00:59:26.460
point to... make sure you get to that point so

00:59:26.460 --> 00:59:29.719
you still want to keep some of your short -term

00:59:29.719 --> 00:59:32.480
happiness but you at the same time though you

00:59:32.480 --> 00:59:35.800
you still want to get to your point that's how

00:59:35.800 --> 00:59:38.280
i'm looking at it okay i'll take your analogy

00:59:38.280 --> 00:59:41.619
like the you know driving down the road on the

00:59:41.619 --> 00:59:44.639
journey you have to have enough fuel to get to

00:59:44.639 --> 00:59:46.920
the final destination i'll take your analogy

00:59:46.920 --> 00:59:50.659
and i'll throw this at it so if you have that

00:59:50.659 --> 00:59:56.309
long -term joy That fuel does not run out. There's

00:59:56.309 --> 00:59:58.849
no like only you're only going to fill up 300

00:59:58.849 --> 01:00:02.190
miles. No, it's infinity. It doesn't run out.

01:00:02.789 --> 01:00:05.530
Whereas you have to stop along the way to fill

01:00:05.530 --> 01:00:09.110
up on the short -term happiness. Maybe 50 miles

01:00:09.110 --> 01:00:12.130
one stop and then the next stop another 50 miles

01:00:12.130 --> 01:00:14.489
worth of gas. Well, I'm not saying it as in the

01:00:14.489 --> 01:00:17.210
aspect of you're not going to get to your long

01:00:17.210 --> 01:00:19.389
-term goal. I'm saying you got to have a bit

01:00:19.389 --> 01:00:20.789
of short -term because at the same time though.

01:00:21.210 --> 01:00:25.530
If you get to your long -term goal or joy, whatever

01:00:25.530 --> 01:00:30.510
you want to call it, and you're not happy because

01:00:30.510 --> 01:00:33.869
the route you've taken to get to this long -term

01:00:33.869 --> 01:00:37.710
joy or long -term happiness, you've been depressed

01:00:37.710 --> 01:00:40.570
or whatever, then you're not going to enjoy it

01:00:40.570 --> 01:00:42.829
as much as someone that's had a little bit of

01:00:42.829 --> 01:00:45.329
the short -term happiness while also getting

01:00:45.329 --> 01:00:48.329
to the long -term happiness. I think we're thinking

01:00:48.329 --> 01:00:50.800
of it in two different ways. You're thinking

01:00:50.800 --> 01:00:53.340
about the final destination being the long -term

01:00:53.340 --> 01:00:56.739
happiness. But I'm saying you have two buckets

01:00:56.739 --> 01:00:59.400
when you fill up. The one is the short -term

01:00:59.400 --> 01:01:02.519
happiness. The other is the long -term joy. You

01:01:02.519 --> 01:01:06.019
can either choose to fill up on the long -term

01:01:06.019 --> 01:01:09.860
joy, and it's like infinity gas, or you can choose

01:01:09.860 --> 01:01:12.860
to fill up on the short -term happiness, and

01:01:12.860 --> 01:01:15.519
it's like... 50 miles worth of gas, but then

01:01:15.519 --> 01:01:17.619
you got to fill up another stop 50 miles worth

01:01:17.619 --> 01:01:19.619
of gas and fill up with another stop and so on.

01:01:20.179 --> 01:01:22.780
If you just look for that shared term happiness,

01:01:23.000 --> 01:01:25.760
then you're going to need to get that high every

01:01:25.760 --> 01:01:28.719
so often, that gas every so often, keep on going

01:01:28.719 --> 01:01:31.960
through the journey of life. Well, if you fill

01:01:31.960 --> 01:01:34.619
up on that long -term joy, then you're going

01:01:34.619 --> 01:01:37.699
to be completely satisfied on that whole journey

01:01:37.699 --> 01:01:39.960
destination that you're going through life in.

01:01:40.539 --> 01:01:43.039
You don't have to feel every so often trying

01:01:43.039 --> 01:01:45.179
to stop and get gas, trying to stop and find

01:01:45.179 --> 01:01:48.199
that short -term happiness, the pleasure. You're

01:01:48.199 --> 01:01:51.159
already riding happy, you know? You're riding

01:01:51.159 --> 01:01:54.940
through life just happy. Got the long -term joy

01:01:54.940 --> 01:01:57.500
in you. That's what I'm saying, if that makes

01:01:57.500 --> 01:01:59.239
sense. Let me ask you another question, though.

01:01:59.360 --> 01:02:01.019
Yeah. So what do you do when that long -term

01:02:01.019 --> 01:02:05.139
happiness ends now? See, when you get that joy,

01:02:05.380 --> 01:02:09.840
it doesn't end. Short -term happiness... That

01:02:09.840 --> 01:02:12.940
little pleasure, that ends. Joy does not end.

01:02:13.280 --> 01:02:15.320
Okay, so I'm going to give you an example, okay?

01:02:15.400 --> 01:02:17.300
Give you more of an example. Let's just say I

01:02:17.300 --> 01:02:20.039
want to move to Japan, okay? And I'm working

01:02:20.039 --> 01:02:22.159
hard to get to Japan. Like, save enough money

01:02:22.159 --> 01:02:25.599
to get to Japan. I get to Japan. Okay, I'm super

01:02:25.599 --> 01:02:28.940
duper happy at first. I'm living good. I'm eating

01:02:28.940 --> 01:02:32.239
sushi every day. Yeah. I'm loving Japan. Shout

01:02:32.239 --> 01:02:34.400
out to sushi. Sushi's good. But then let's just

01:02:34.400 --> 01:02:37.199
say a year goes by. And I'm back in the regular

01:02:37.199 --> 01:02:44.489
state of mind. So where do I go from there? Because

01:02:44.489 --> 01:02:47.210
the long -term goal was to get to Japan, and

01:02:47.210 --> 01:02:51.730
now that I'm already in Japan, so you obviously

01:02:51.730 --> 01:02:53.550
got to set up another long -term goal, right?

01:02:53.789 --> 01:02:56.250
Yeah, see, that kind of goes back to my other

01:02:56.250 --> 01:02:58.889
point of you got to make yourself happy. You

01:02:58.889 --> 01:03:00.570
can't challenge the world to make you happy.

01:03:00.809 --> 01:03:04.829
So your goal was to get to Japan, and you thought

01:03:04.829 --> 01:03:07.739
that was going to make you happy. That's a worldly

01:03:07.739 --> 01:03:10.360
goal. You need to find the internal happiness.

01:03:10.480 --> 01:03:16.579
So it doesn't rely on goals or it doesn't rely

01:03:16.579 --> 01:03:19.659
on other things that you need to achieve to make

01:03:19.659 --> 01:03:21.940
you happy. You need to find the happiness inside

01:03:21.940 --> 01:03:25.579
of you. So let's say you get to Japan and you

01:03:25.579 --> 01:03:28.079
think, okay, I'm going to be happy the rest of

01:03:28.079 --> 01:03:31.119
my life now that I'm living in Japan. You know,

01:03:31.199 --> 01:03:35.320
you're always, you did that. And now your brain's

01:03:35.320 --> 01:03:39.039
like, okay, now what? What's next? I got to Japan,

01:03:39.219 --> 01:03:41.699
now what do I do? And so your brain's kind of

01:03:41.699 --> 01:03:43.920
in this limbo, like, okay, what do I do? I have

01:03:43.920 --> 01:03:46.360
no goal. And you're always searching for that

01:03:46.360 --> 01:03:49.559
next goal. And that's another mindset that you

01:03:49.559 --> 01:03:52.460
can't live like that because you're always going

01:03:52.460 --> 01:03:55.760
to be searching for that next goal. I think that's

01:03:55.760 --> 01:03:58.739
not actually that joy, the long -term happiness.

01:03:59.320 --> 01:04:02.579
That's another version of the short -term happiness

01:04:02.579 --> 01:04:07.989
is the goal setting. But I do agree with you

01:04:07.989 --> 01:04:09.809
on that because at the end of the day, you still

01:04:09.809 --> 01:04:12.510
got to find another goal at the end of the day.

01:04:12.630 --> 01:04:16.170
Yeah. If you're mind just goal setting, once

01:04:16.170 --> 01:04:18.329
you reach that goal, you're like, okay, now what?

01:04:18.750 --> 01:04:20.869
Like you can't just be always on the grind of

01:04:20.869 --> 01:04:22.409
like, oh, I have to reach this goal and then

01:04:22.409 --> 01:04:25.769
reach this goal. Or, oh, when I get an eight

01:04:25.769 --> 01:04:27.429
pack, when I get a six pack, I'm going to be

01:04:27.429 --> 01:04:29.550
happy. Okay, when I get a 12 pack, I'm going

01:04:29.550 --> 01:04:35.309
to be happy. So, we are back. I had to use the

01:04:35.309 --> 01:04:38.050
bathroom. You don't need to say that. This is

01:04:38.050 --> 01:04:40.710
seamless. It didn't... Well, it's going to...

01:04:40.710 --> 01:04:42.829
Okay, well, then finish your point then, Landon.

01:04:43.110 --> 01:04:45.630
I don't remember exactly what I was saying. Exactly.

01:04:45.730 --> 01:04:48.389
So, I rest my case. Oh, my gosh. I'm letting

01:04:48.389 --> 01:04:51.710
the viewers know why you just randomly stopped

01:04:51.710 --> 01:04:53.650
talking. Well, we had to pause because I had

01:04:53.650 --> 01:04:56.289
to go use the bathroom because, yeah, I had to

01:04:56.289 --> 01:04:59.010
go. Well, you could have made it sound more professional,

01:04:59.050 --> 01:05:01.230
like, oh, I had to go to a business meeting.

01:05:01.739 --> 01:05:04.940
I was meeting with someone very important. I

01:05:04.940 --> 01:05:07.159
had to go meet the president. You know, me and

01:05:07.159 --> 01:05:09.340
Trump, you know, have to meet sometimes. And

01:05:09.340 --> 01:05:12.239
we just talk about, you know, how I should, how

01:05:12.239 --> 01:05:14.159
I think he should be running the country, you

01:05:14.159 --> 01:05:15.820
know? How I think he should be running the country.

01:05:16.079 --> 01:05:18.860
Yeah. And, like, Trump writes down ideas. And

01:05:18.860 --> 01:05:21.360
so, hey, Lennon, thank you for the ideas. I'm

01:05:21.360 --> 01:05:26.039
going to take that into consideration. Okay.

01:05:26.119 --> 01:05:31.719
So, let's finish this off. So. Overall, how would

01:05:31.719 --> 01:05:34.880
you grade today's mental health episode on a

01:05:34.880 --> 01:05:38.679
scale of 1 to 10? How would I grade the episode?

01:05:40.159 --> 01:05:43.519
Like, grade it in what way? Well, like, as in

01:05:43.519 --> 01:05:47.400
getting our messages out to our viewers and making

01:05:47.400 --> 01:05:53.099
sure that they understand clear messages. I don't

01:05:53.099 --> 01:05:56.599
know, maybe like an 8? What do you think? I feel

01:05:56.599 --> 01:05:59.139
like an 8, too. We did a good job of letting

01:05:59.139 --> 01:06:03.500
them know. certain messages okay yeah i feel

01:06:03.500 --> 01:06:05.559
like we can both kind of ramble sometimes but

01:06:05.559 --> 01:06:08.199
i don't know maybe eight we we did ramble but

01:06:08.199 --> 01:06:13.840
i feel like and and though we both got messages

01:06:13.840 --> 01:06:18.019
out okay what to do when you're you're single

01:06:18.019 --> 01:06:21.039
and you're looking for women and how what it's

01:06:21.039 --> 01:06:26.179
like dating in 2025 then not only that uh the

01:06:26.179 --> 01:06:28.619
dating with co -workers Getting through depression,

01:06:28.940 --> 01:06:31.960
professional advice, practically hit all the

01:06:31.960 --> 01:06:34.960
points on the head. And I do want to say this.

01:06:35.579 --> 01:06:39.599
If any listeners want to reach out for us for

01:06:39.599 --> 01:06:43.280
any reason, maybe talk about some ideas for the

01:06:43.280 --> 01:06:46.860
pod or reach out, whatever you're going through,

01:06:47.079 --> 01:06:51.219
reach out to us at extraspicypod at gmail .com.

01:06:51.739 --> 01:06:54.360
It's in the description of the podcast. You can

01:06:54.360 --> 01:06:57.829
find the email. I mean, I'd love to read some

01:06:57.829 --> 01:07:00.369
of our viewers' emails. That'd be really cool.

01:07:00.570 --> 01:07:03.650
Yeah, I would love to read an email. I want someone

01:07:03.650 --> 01:07:05.690
just to email us. Yeah, if you're listening to

01:07:05.690 --> 01:07:08.250
this, email. Just, like, say what's up. Say hey.

01:07:08.369 --> 01:07:11.570
Look, you can make up a random email and then

01:07:11.570 --> 01:07:15.690
come just messaging us on that email. And we're

01:07:15.690 --> 01:07:17.349
still going to read it. Unless you don't want

01:07:17.349 --> 01:07:19.130
us to read it, then we're going to privately

01:07:19.130 --> 01:07:28.670
read it. It's weird. consent so but at the end

01:07:28.670 --> 01:07:32.130
of the day though yeah I was talking to Landon

01:07:32.130 --> 01:07:34.889
about this if because now we're starting to get

01:07:34.889 --> 01:07:37.389
to a point where okay we found a location to

01:07:37.389 --> 01:07:39.969
film now yeah we found a steady location we're

01:07:39.969 --> 01:07:42.769
going to stick with and that works out well for

01:07:42.769 --> 01:07:45.210
us so this is going to be like the 8th time I've

01:07:45.210 --> 01:07:48.760
talked about cameras but You probably talk about

01:07:48.760 --> 01:07:51.699
cameras every single episode we've done so far.

01:07:51.840 --> 01:07:53.239
Because we keep pushing it back. We're like,

01:07:53.320 --> 01:07:55.119
you know what? We're going to get cameras next

01:07:55.119 --> 01:07:57.179
episode. You don't offer any help in looking

01:07:57.179 --> 01:08:01.099
for editing software or whatever. China. I'm

01:08:01.099 --> 01:08:04.860
sorry. You're the editor. I'm sorry. But. You

01:08:04.860 --> 01:08:07.360
do an amazing job, though. Oh, thank you. Thank

01:08:07.360 --> 01:08:09.639
you. So that's why I appreciate you. I've got

01:08:09.639 --> 01:08:11.059
to get you a little gift basket or something.

01:08:11.340 --> 01:08:15.860
A gift basket? Exactly. Don't give me a Pelican's

01:08:15.860 --> 01:08:17.720
gift basket. I'll give you a Pelican's gift basket.

01:08:18.619 --> 01:08:22.100
Bruh. I'll give you a Pelican's shot glass. I

01:08:22.100 --> 01:08:25.600
also told Aidan this. We will have cameras because

01:08:25.600 --> 01:08:28.890
we have agreed on the location. Okay, at this

01:08:28.890 --> 01:08:31.569
point, stop saying you're doing the podcast because

01:08:31.569 --> 01:08:34.130
you're just, like, teasing people with the cameras.

01:08:34.329 --> 01:08:38.229
I really am. Let's talk about it outside the

01:08:38.229 --> 01:08:40.210
podcast because you'll just, like, tease people

01:08:40.210 --> 01:08:43.050
with the cameras. Well, we have a whole entire

01:08:43.050 --> 01:08:46.090
week to get it going, okay? Because we both agreed

01:08:46.090 --> 01:08:48.930
on location and everything, so we have a whole

01:08:48.930 --> 01:08:51.130
entire week to figure that out. But I've also

01:08:51.130 --> 01:08:53.550
told Aiden this. If you would like to get on

01:08:53.550 --> 01:08:57.439
the podcast, this is for open viewers. If you

01:08:57.439 --> 01:08:59.359
would like to get on the podcast, you can either,

01:08:59.439 --> 01:09:02.220
if you know me or Landon, you can either, A,

01:09:02.260 --> 01:09:05.220
text me or Landon, Snapchat, Venmo, not Venmo,

01:09:05.319 --> 01:09:10.300
Venmo. I mean, if you want to send money. I mean,

01:09:10.359 --> 01:09:12.859
if you want to send money, I mean, it could go

01:09:12.859 --> 01:09:16.319
into our podcast. I mean, I'm not going to shy

01:09:16.319 --> 01:09:21.260
away from money. But, yeah, if you want to get

01:09:21.260 --> 01:09:24.239
on an episode of the podcast, just text me or

01:09:24.239 --> 01:09:28.649
Landon or email the... extraspicypod at gmail

01:09:28.649 --> 01:09:33.109
.com we're gonna try our best in the next couple

01:09:33.109 --> 01:09:36.510
episodes to start having guests on I know that's

01:09:36.510 --> 01:09:39.310
something we talked about in the pod but in the

01:09:39.310 --> 01:09:42.329
past is having guests on but that is something

01:09:42.329 --> 01:09:45.630
we're gonna try to work on and in the next future

01:09:45.630 --> 01:09:48.689
couple episodes we're gonna you know try our

01:09:48.689 --> 01:09:52.119
best to have guests on because then Depending

01:09:52.119 --> 01:09:54.239
on also how this audio works, we're also going

01:09:54.239 --> 01:09:56.060
to go back to the microphone method, so then

01:09:56.060 --> 01:09:57.380
we would also have to change our whole setup

01:09:57.380 --> 01:10:00.000
with that. Well, in the future, I think we would

01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:03.840
also like to actually get real microphones. Yeah.

01:10:03.899 --> 01:10:06.779
So the audio quality would be even better. A

01:10:06.779 --> 01:10:13.479
lot better. I mean, we're slowly working on improvements

01:10:13.479 --> 01:10:19.739
here. Very slowly. But, yeah. But back to what

01:10:19.739 --> 01:10:21.600
I was saying, if you have any ideas that y 'all

01:10:21.600 --> 01:10:25.520
would want us to talk about, because, I mean,

01:10:25.520 --> 01:10:28.100
you can give my little brain a little bit of

01:10:28.100 --> 01:10:30.100
a rest, if you know what I'm saying. So if you

01:10:30.100 --> 01:10:33.779
do want us to talk about a certain topic, email

01:10:33.779 --> 01:10:39.500
us, text me, text Landon. You can post a comment

01:10:39.500 --> 01:10:42.460
under Spotify. I didn't know you could do that

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on Spotify. I don't think you do that on Apple

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Music or Apple Podcasts. Because that's what

01:10:48.050 --> 01:10:50.649
I use. I use Apple Podcasts. On Spotify, you

01:10:50.649 --> 01:10:54.550
can do it. So if you have Spotify, you can. I

01:10:54.550 --> 01:10:56.890
want to know how to check that then. Or if it

01:10:56.890 --> 01:10:59.050
just like goes. It just says be the first to

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leave a comment. So we got no one. I know, but

01:11:01.250 --> 01:11:03.430
even if people do that, I don't know. Would it

01:11:03.430 --> 01:11:06.109
send it to my email or would it? It'd just be

01:11:06.109 --> 01:11:08.949
on the, like, it's like a YouTube comment thing.

01:11:09.010 --> 01:11:10.770
Like I can read their comment. Oh, yeah, I see.

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So, yeah, if you. Well, you need to check that

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because I don't have Spotify. I'll check on all

01:11:17.149 --> 01:11:21.289
the comments on Spotify. But, yeah, if you do

01:11:21.289 --> 01:11:24.350
want us to talk about a certain topic, let's

01:11:24.350 --> 01:11:27.390
just say women are listening to our podcast and

01:11:27.390 --> 01:11:30.029
they want us to talk about women advice. We'll

01:11:30.029 --> 01:11:33.350
try our best to dig into the minds of women and

01:11:33.350 --> 01:11:36.770
come out with advice for women. See, you're looking

01:11:36.770 --> 01:11:38.550
at me like you think I'm going to say something

01:11:38.550 --> 01:11:42.810
crazy. I just know you are. I can't guarantee

01:11:42.810 --> 01:11:47.369
anything that we talk about will make you happy,

01:11:47.470 --> 01:11:52.289
but we will do our best, depending on the topic

01:11:52.289 --> 01:11:54.710
of what we talk about. If you tell us, hey, make

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a robot, then we're going to try to make a robot.

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Then we'll make birds, because birds are robots.

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We'll make a bird for you. No. No. We're going

01:12:05.069 --> 01:12:08.350
to capture a bird. You're the one that says you

01:12:08.350 --> 01:12:10.130
want to shoot birds and stuff. Like, go ahead.

01:12:10.369 --> 01:12:12.050
Capture a bird. Yeah, but here's the thing, though.

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When you shoot a bird, the bullet goes through

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them, and then the blood comes out of them. So,

01:12:18.829 --> 01:12:20.630
you know, when have you ever seen a robot that

01:12:20.630 --> 01:12:24.029
just bleeds? Technology is really good, my friend.

01:12:25.789 --> 01:12:28.329
Okay. Pull me up something where a robot can

01:12:28.329 --> 01:12:32.930
bleed. A robot can bleed? Yes. Because you said

01:12:32.930 --> 01:12:36.949
birds are robots. And so... Birds are not real.

01:12:37.210 --> 01:12:43.210
You're trying to get me on this again. Just like

01:12:43.210 --> 01:12:47.890
how dinosaurs are real to you? Dinosaurs, yeah,

01:12:48.029 --> 01:12:50.409
they're real. Birds are fake, dinosaurs are real.

01:12:50.649 --> 01:12:53.630
Yeah, think about how that sounds. Yes, birds

01:12:53.630 --> 01:12:56.930
are fake and dinosaurs are real. End of story.

01:12:57.109 --> 01:13:00.069
End of discussion. I've already covered that

01:13:00.069 --> 01:13:02.960
in past episodes. Shout out. to our viewers if

01:13:02.960 --> 01:13:04.739
you've listened to the past episodes and if you

01:13:04.739 --> 01:13:08.380
haven't take a listen to my wonderful theories

01:13:08.380 --> 01:13:14.899
about birds and dinosaurs respectively okay so

01:13:14.899 --> 01:13:17.720
are you ending off this podcast episode oh also

01:13:17.720 --> 01:13:20.340
you know if women you know want to reach out

01:13:20.340 --> 01:13:22.819
to us we can talk about women topics i mean if

01:13:22.819 --> 01:13:25.420
you're a shark reach out to us if you're like

01:13:25.420 --> 01:13:28.279
a transgender reach out to us if you're an alien

01:13:28.279 --> 01:13:30.500
reach out to us you know if you're a leprechaun

01:13:30.500 --> 01:13:32.600
if you're a leprechaun reach out to us you know

01:13:32.600 --> 01:13:35.539
i can relate to anything if i want if i can relate

01:13:35.539 --> 01:13:38.279
to leprechauns if i need to i can relate to the

01:13:38.279 --> 01:13:41.060
transgenders if i need to i can relate to the

01:13:41.060 --> 01:13:45.100
sharks if i need to like i can be relatable to

01:13:45.100 --> 01:13:48.699
just about anything so try me i've got advice

01:13:48.699 --> 01:13:52.260
for you Just try me. Try me. I've got advice

01:13:52.260 --> 01:14:04.119
for everyone. I spit these bars like Drake. They're

01:14:04.119 --> 01:14:08.439
not like us. They are not like us. They are not

01:14:08.439 --> 01:14:12.600
like us indeed, but... Yeah, if you just text

01:14:12.600 --> 01:14:16.260
me or Landon if you want us to talk about a certain

01:14:16.260 --> 01:14:19.079
topic or you want to get on the episode, then

01:14:19.079 --> 01:14:22.220
text me or Landon or email us at extraspicypod

01:14:22.220 --> 01:14:25.300
at gmail .com. I hope you have a great day. Landon,

01:14:25.300 --> 01:14:29.020
do you have anything to say? I want to say to

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all of my wonderful viewers, adios.