This is All In. All In Family. Starring your boy Kenny Ice. And your girl, Kenny Wee. Wee
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What it do? What it do people? This your boy, Ken Yash. This your girl, Queen E. And you tuned in to another episode of All In.
All In Family. What it do Queen E? What it do Ken Yash? Man just chilling like a villain on this Thursday. Good Thursday.
Thinking up a plan like Mojojojo. Thinking up a master plan. Of a master plan. Thinking up a master plan. You heard me.
But nah. Today's episode is called The 21 Questions of Love. And the reason why I say that is because there's a lot of couples that listen to this.
There's a lot of women that listen to our show. And for some of the men that listening, you can use some tips too my nigga. Don't act like you don't.
But we gonna basically focus on the topics. We gonna give you topics of, you know, it ain't topics it's basically questions today.
But we gonna give you our experiences and our quotes on it. And see what we can bring to you that you can use. You know what I'm saying?
Right Queen E? Yes sir. That's great. Yes sir. Rebob.
But on another note. Man. Have you really thinking about fashion choice this year?
I know you wanna go all out. But you're supposed to be saving. A quick tip. All on the budget.
All on the budget. For men, bruh. You know what it is. Get some cargo shorts, some white tee. Keep it pushing. White pair of forces.
Women. Biker shorts. A nice color tee or a nice color shirt. Keep it pushing. Don't try to live above your means this summer.
Please don't.
And on top of that. Let's get into it baby.
The first question. That I'm gonna ask is.
What type of legacy do you want to leave?
And carry on. For your soulmate.
Say that again. What type of legacy do you want to leave and carry.
Want to leave and carry before your time is up with your lover.
Queen. What type of legacy.
I would have to say. My business legacy.
Because I know. When my time come. Before my time come. I know. My partner gonna have it all together.
And when that time come. I know he gonna continue to keep it pushing for me.
Same and vice versa. If he got a business that's making millions. When he pays. I'm gonna continue.
That's his legacy. I'm gonna forever keep that going. And remembrance of him or remembrance of her. I'm gonna forever keep that business going.
I say the same.
Because you want to be able to leave something behind for your kids. And for your kids kids. And for their kids kids.
Also you want to leave something for your spouse to take care of the kids. So he can. Or she can.
How should I put this. Up with the situation. I'm gonna just say that.
Because right now. The word that I wanted to say. I know I can't see it.
But the word. Like I say. You want to. You leaving them at a wealthy spot.
Leave them at that. Leave them at a wealthy spot where they can reach their riches.
Now we talking about legal business affairs. Not no dope drug business affairs.
I'm not leaving no bricks to nobody. You gonna come to my grave and buy them bitches.
Drop it in my drop box.
But.
Like I say.
I say the same thing. Because when you build an empire though. With each other.
It's a king and queens thing. If your king or your queen passed.
That legacy that y'all built y'all gots to carry on.
Because you don't want that dream that you and her had together. Or you and him had together. To die. When they die.
You want to keep it going in remembrance of that person.
Because you don't. You built something with that person. Don't. Don't take it away even though they gone away.
Okay. Question two.
What are two of the biggest problems.
Or should I say two of the biggest lessons you've learned from your previous relationships.
I learned is. That no matter how much you.
How much you love a person.
That person loves you back but they trying to fit in a material world.
And that material world ain't your world.
You know all lessons are learned.
But you realize like.
I am who I am.
You know I am based off morals and principles.
I stand alone.
And I've been through hell and back.
And that's a part of it because.
With the material shit. People don't understand hell and back.
So a person that never been through hell and back.
Can't live out of material world so it taught me to always be who I am.
Continue being who I am.
Don't let nobody take.
Don't let nobody take away what you.
What you gained throughout this lifetime.
Of knowledge. Of energy. Of growth.
And I realized that.
No matter how much attention you don't get from your spouse.
You push harder to seek and get that attention instead of going out there.
And trying to find it. And trying to find it from somewhere else.
I have to say my two biggest lessons from my past relationship.
One. Never let my guard down.
Because if I get too comfortable. I realize something.
When I started getting too comfortable.
Around this person.
In my mind I'm thinking we're going to be forever.
This is my forever.
But the whole time.
It wasn't that.
My other biggest lesson.
Don't tell him.
Don't give up any information that isn't necessary needed or asked.
Meaning.
You and this person been rocking for a minute.
I say a year.
He tell you everything about him so he say.
You tell him everything about you.
Do not tell him everything.
Because when the moment he or she get into an argument.
They're going to throw that shit in your face.
And that's where your trust comes in with that person.
And they'll tell him who he told.
Or who told this person this. That and the third. And so on and so forth.
Don't do that.
That is a lesson too.
Okay I got a.
This one. This one.
This one is kind of like a controversial question towards.
Like.
For the people that's in relationships.
Does social media bring couples closer.
Or create more distance and misunderstanding.
Create more distance and misunderstandings.
Elaborate on that.
The reason why I say it creates more distance and.
No understanding.
Say for instance.
You and your girl follow each other on Instagram.
She's scrolling through Instagram and she go on your page.
She see you ain't got no pictures of her.
Nowhere on your page.
No pictures of you.
And her together.
Nowhere on your page.
But she got you and her posted up and down her feed.
Now she feel us in type of way. Now he feel us in type of way.
Why you trying to hide me.
Who you hiding from.
See social media fuck.
A lot of us up man.
And then for the ones that be liking other folks posts and stuff.
And you in a relationship with a person.
Yeah they gonna start feeling us in type of way too.
You don't like nothing that I post.
But you up and down staring at Alicia's page.
Going crazy.
You liking every picture she post.
You liking every picture Tommy post.
And that's why I say social media.
Kind of.
I feel like this.
Social media.
Was a family thing at first.
You know.
Somewhere where you can hook back up with friends and family.
That you ain't saw in a long time.
Or you only see on the holidays and shit like that.
What.
No.
What fucks social media up.
And people don't understand this.
It's the people.
That help run.
The sites.
Like the posts they put out.
Materializes you.
To think like this post.
But you haven't noticed though.
When Facebook first started.
It had certain amount of rules and guidelines right.
But you notice now.
People started getting.
Social media had that all the way through 2020.
Until METAL brought it.
When METAL brought social media.
You got everything on social media down to Twitter.
Yeah that's what I'm saying now.
So Facebook.
Like.
Mark had shit on lock.
If you did this.
Your ass.
Your ass got down.
Your pages.
Locked for 30 days.
You can't do number one's posts.
Social media got to the point where.
They don't care no more.
They post anything and everything.
That's what I'm saying.
Like you got groups that.
That will tell off.
You got.
A mother fucker get mad.
They screenshot you.
It put it more than put misunderstanding.
And then they came up with these different groups.
Hey sisters this your man.
Hey bro this your girl.
All these negative groups.
They go.
At the end of the day.
That's what I talked about last night.
It's going to take you back to domestic violence.
Well.
Social media really turned the black household apart.
It's really turned the black culture apart because.
You see hate.
You see the envy.
You see.
You see the.
Hey this ain't what your mama taught you.
Girl you.
Sorry to say this in a harsh way.
But I mean this respectfully and disrespectfully.
Wake the fuck up.
Y'all.
They always they've been saying this to me.
Look you can't tell people.
Black people are.
You can't tell nobody to wake up when.
It's not possible to wake a person up when they don't want to be woken up.
So we can scream this shit all fucking day.
I heard it shit out on social media.
Wake up my people wake up bro.
I'll tell you something.
You are already a woke.
I ain't no woker you can get when it's right in front of your eyes.
That's on you if you want to believe it.
It ain't about you believe.
What they put in front of you and you see.
It's testing your faith.
So please stop.
Comparing your relationship to somebody else's relationship on social media.
You at home sitting you and they laid up.
And you see.
Tommy and Keisha.
Who the and they out in some romantic restaurant or something doing what they do.
Now you have to sit in there like.
Why would you do stuff like this.
What you're doing is putting yourself in a competitive and like I say.
Competing situation.
And you do not want to compete in relationships.
Relationships competitions always end up fucked up.
Real bad.
You lose friendships and you also lose your spouse.
Don't believe the shit that's on social media at all.
Because they look like they're happy and they're smiling on their picture behind closed doors.
She probably whooping his ass just for the hell of it.
Fuck that.
Fuck closed door.
And I know it's not just thing is closed doors these days.
Every door is open.
You think a door ain't open shit just walk through and see and you be like God damn.
That's what doors ain't never been closed.
They always tell you.
Doors closed doors are always open man.
Doors are more open than what you think they do what you think the naked eye is.
I don't think I have to do it is.
Pick your head in there and see for yourself.
That's it but sometimes it just a key she like getting ass with by Tommy.
I will.
So oh yeah.
I got now this is a controversial question like a highly controversial question.
Do financial independence empower a strong relationships or lead to lack of commitment and higher break up rates.
See that is now let me repeat the yeah I'm going to repeat the question for the people that's out there.
Does financial independence empower strong relationships or lead to lack of commitment and higher break up rates.
See I'm let me start this out because I see you kind of see you have to think about this.
Say that question for me one more time.
I'm going to let you read it.
I feel like this.
Some can handle it.
Some can't.
Some is built for it because who they had in their life and some not built for it because they didn't have it in their life.
You give a nigga something that ain't never had and then he gonna go crazy.
You give a nigga that had it all his life.
What you think he gonna do.
You don't make sure his family taken care of.
But it's a commitment that is gonna lack in it.
The time.
See that's the hardest thing when you out there empowering yourself.
You not of your independence of making your money.
Notice that your family is important too.
Don't never lose that lack of commitment towards your family.
Because if you start with the kids and the wife see it.
But if you start with the wife is cool.
She can't counter bear it.
But once you get down to them kids.
It's hard to bear.
So think about what the fuck you gonna do when you get money.
If you know you not gonna be with that person when you get that type of money.
Leave that shit alone bro.
Don't even start it.
Don't even start it because you know you in power and your independence mean more to you.
Than what you think it don't mean to you.
See independence is different.
Independence is the self.
And when you make a person feel like you don't need them.
The lack of commitment.
But you forget.
Because the money is there now.
You think everything is bought with money.
Money do not empower the art of love.
So that's what your intent is.
And then you got something that intent.
Shit.
I got money.
Shit.
I got my good.
I go out here and do the fuck I want.
She ain't finna go nowhere.
Shit.
I got millions.
Bro.
I'm gonna go fuck.
Money can't buy happiness.
And females.
One thing they are.
Like I tell y'all in every show.
They are nurturers.
They will hang along.
So long.
To that nurturer.
That they showed.
Thought we gonna show up.
Didn't show up.
And they been feeling left alone for so long.
After they done nurtured you.
Built you.
Groomed you for this.
Helped you get to this.
Oh man.
It hurts.
And that's the same way for females.
It's the same way for the female side too.
You can sit here and say you don't need this nigga.
But you don't turn this man into a house.
Dad.
Because he set there and sacrificed.
To make sure you got your dream.
But now the money is going to your head.
You feel like you don't need him.
You can buy any nigga you want.
Let me tell you something.
You can't fucking.
Fucking buy a happy.
Cause when that money is gone.
That man and that woman is gone.
Meow.
Now you beg.
Take me back.
No.
You a big dog.
What happened?
You gotta learn to.
To step out that.
Step out that mentality.
Because your kids gonna look at the same thing.
Kids see everything.
So whatever they see.
Mama doing.
They gonna think okay it's cool.
I'm gonna grow up and I'm gonna be just like mama.
I'm gonna do the same thing she be.
That's what I say.
I'm gonna do the same thing he be.
And that's just breaking down the empowers.
Because it's gonna go down from generations.
You can't push your own family by doing shit like that.
No.
It's rough.
Because you look at it but you don't see it.
You just happy the money there.
So what I'm gonna say is.
To that financial independence empowers stronger relationships.
That's only to me I feel like if both of y'all are financially stable together.
Y'all relationships will be stronger.
If y'all basically working together to make the money.
She working she got a good job.
He working he got a good job.
Y'all probably come home at the same time.
Y'all should be doing it.
But like he said.
If one person make the more money than the next person.
They gonna be feeling some type of way.
No I'm gonna treat you like this because.
I'm the big dog in the house and you under me and let her let it out.
Don't do that.
Please don't do that.
If you the type of female that do stuff like that.
You need to be by yourself.
And those two you two.
If you the type of dude that just want somebody at the house all the time.
But you giving her an allowance.
No I'm not no child.
I just go out here and make my own money.
This is not no Diddy and Carisha shit.
Do you hear like that shit is bro.
I'm from going out here and make my own money.
You can still give me some of your money too.
But I'm still make my own.
That's your choice if you give it to me.
I ain't asking for.
Like I said I'm full body and able.
I'm gonna go out there and make it myself.
Well you know.
Oh I got a good one.
This.
These are for the ones that been together 10 plus years.
You hear me.
How crucial.
Is maintaining physical attraction.
And a sub 10.
A long term.
Romantic relationship.
I'm gonna repeat the question.
It says how crucial.
Is maintaining physical attraction.
A long term romantic relationship.
Now if you ain't never been in a relationship for the past 5 years.
Sit down somewhere.
You ain't never been in a relationship for the past 10 years.
Go sit down somewhere.
I can say that one thing.
I had a long relationship.
It turned out to be an open relationship.
And then we just let it go.
But.
Subtaining a long term relationship.
Say like you will talk to this person from.
16 years old.
Till y'all was.
About 26, 27.
Y'all stopped. Matter of fact 26 years old.
Y'all ended after 10 years.
Now.
It's hard.
To say.
The physical traction.
Ain't about the physical appearance.
That I had to learn to.
The physical traction is.
Can we still get up and laugh in the morning.
Can we still.
Can we still get up.
And laugh in the morning.
Can we still.
Get up and laugh.
And laugh.
Just to show the love is there.
Before you before they even wasn't calling.
See people don't understand.
It's the simple thing.
Can.
Can you still rub her feet.
Can you cook when she's tired.
Can you still do your manly chores around the house.
Can you physically enable.
If one of y'all start working to steal a come on and take a beer.
That's love.
That's maintaining a long.
Well you're gonna talk about each other.
Regardless.
But.
Being.
In a long relationship.
Is something that.
Everybody hates for.
They want that long time.
But they don't know how to handle a long time.
Because the long time.
Is through the emotional progress.
Through the bad time.
Through the rough times.
Y'all still smile.
Laugh.
Cry.
Still be all together.
Of how it always been.
See people don't understand like.
It's a connection.
It's not the physical.
It's never the physical appearance.
It's never the mental appearance.
It's.
The small details that you can keep.
That you know.
That this person.
Is.
And are.
And.
Gonna be.
In the next 10 years that you.
You make it 20.
It's.
It's fighting through the patches.
To get them.
Not one giving up.
And the other one still trying to hold on.
Not one person getting up mad.
But everybody getting up happy.
You still can wake up after 10 years.
And be like you still here motherfucker.
Yeah you still here.
And y'all bust out laughing.
It's something that you can go back and reclaim.
As always George.
Because you know 18 years is nothing.
But let's.
Boom you make it to 20 years.
I ain't never made it to 20 years.
That's something I'm trying.
To make it 20 years.
20 years you deep in the game.
You know each other faults.
You know wrong.
You know each other wrongs and rights.
It's the still the emotional.
Attachment and the emotional love.
The emotional smiles.
The emotional feelings.
Of that.
That keeps you.
Going in a long term relationship.
You have to feel.
You have to.
I understand babe.
I understand.
You have to make the sacrifices.
You can't make the sacrifices to.
Be in a long term relationship.
Why would you want to be in a relationship.
Because short term is not nothing.
It's not such thing.
It's not such thing as a short time.
Would you want to elaborate on it?
I can't say I had a relationship.
For five years.
I can't say that.
If I did have that opportunity.
I mean I feel like.
Once you come to that point.
We should be good.
Like you said.
Still running around the house like big kids.
Still laughing jokes with each other.
Like find.
Find new things to do with each other.
That's mainly what keeps the relationship going too.
Things for each other to do together.
You gotta keep it going.
In the bedroom sometimes.
Maybe not even have the sex work that night.
I just want to lay up.
And just lay up and see your out father sleep.
Lay up and talk to your out father sleep.
Or both your out father sleep.
Whatever.
That's what makes a relationship last.
Just knowing that that person still shows interest in you.
You still feel the love from this person.
No matter how mad you make this person.
No matter how sad you make this person.
This person still has that same love from the beginning.
And always will.
That's why I say you have to know.
And feel.
And see.
Because if you don't.
What can you, what are you doing?
Like you don't, short time is not such thing as it man.
It's never not such thing as.
I'm going to go for what you say.
It's not such thing as that.
You can sit here and say it is.
But it's not.
So that brings us to our next question.
What's the next question?
I know I got the hottest questions in the world.
Next question.
And I want people to grab a pen and paper for this.
List the best qualities you have to bring in a relationship to a person.
Literally.
List the best qualities you have to bring.
To a relationship.
Your best qualities is not you shaking ass.
Not you selling dope.
Not you throwing money.
Not no hot girl goddamn summer.
It's the attributes of the qualities as.
What's your favorite dish you can cook?
Do you like movie nights?
Are you an outside the box thinker?
Are you?
Are you the one that going to push that person to his dream?
Are you a stepper?
Are you ten toes down behind yours?
Are you?
Can you clean?
How good can you clean?
Are you a good person?
When I'm at my worstest moments.
Can you still be you when I'm at my worstest moments to calm me down?
Can you be there when shit not going right?
They're my qualities people.
Qualities.
Not equity quality.
Can you do you can you dance not twerk?
Can you dance?
Can we groove in the kitchen?
Sex is not a quality.
Are you a quality freak?
When it's time.
Are you a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets?
It's a quality that you have to have people.
I got a question.
Can I ask?
What's up?
What is your definition of intimacy?
My definition is
chilling.
Watching movies.
Let them bump into each other.
That's been a huge deal.
You know.
Let's trip out.
Let's talk.
Let's get drunk.
Play cards.
Let's do shit that's going to bring us close.
Sex can bring us close but it also can throw you apart.
Let's build something that leads it up to there.
Don't let it get there.
Let both of us resist the urge until we both can't.
Let's know each other until we figure that we know too much.
It's time to drop draws.
That type of...
If you don't have that type of...
We can't bump like that.
I just want to have sex all the time.
I ain't going to sit here and say, girl, fuck you.
Die tomorrow.
As you get older, like I said, I'm 33 but I done did a lot of shit in my life.
But as you get older, you realize what's more important.
You seek what you...
You get what you want.
You let...
That's why when the moments come, it's in the best moments that you can ever realize when that moment come.
The best moment you would think, motherfucker, fuck on the first night, it be, oh, man.
Nah.
You ain't let it lead up to the best moments.
You ain't let it jump to that.
When the best moments is realizing, hey, I can build something with this person,
realize, hey, this is my person, realize, hey, I want to talk to this person.
So that's why I say, like, you have to build the intimacy.
You have to build that chemistry to the intimacy.
Like, you have to.
But this is all in and our family.
And King Yash and Queen E, and we checking out this.
Good night.