This is Arlen. Arlen family.
Starring King Josh. And I'm Queen E.
And you tuned in to another episode of Arlen. Arlen family.
On today's discussion, I think we should talk about the why, when, what, and who.
And who.
First question. And this is going to make a lot of folks mad, but it's fun.
First question. Who has the highest body count, man or woman, and why?
I say female.
Why you say female?
Now I say female for two reasons.
A female would never let you know their body count, and a female would never tell you her body count.
Because you're never supposed to ask a female her body count.
So, that's why I say female. Because a female would never tell you her body count, period.
You got some.
Nah, period.
So, they want to keep one?
I feel, but like my grandma used to tell me, a woman will tell you what you want to hear because some shit you are valuable and you can't take.
True. That's true.
So, I say, yeah, that right there. Because you have to understand, females and males, males lie about their body counts, period.
Yeah, they do.
That's the point. A female body count probably be higher and a nigga body count be lower, but they gonna lie, the nigga gonna lie about the lower body count and the female gonna lie about the higher body count.
Yeah.
So, it's tickle-tack, man.
Yeah.
What are some do's and don'ts of a relationship?
Do's and don'ts.
There's a lot of do's and don'ts.
But, until you get the concept of a relationship, and shit, it's hard.
But, a relationship consist of your three main bases. Love, respect, and loyalty.
And, it got its three negative bases where, shit, communication, like communication is a big factor, but it's a negative trait in it because-
Why do you say that?
It's a negative trait in communication because, under, like, trying to talk to a person that don't understand is hard.
So, you'll get yourself upset by trying to, you know, letting the person know, keep trying to tell the person, so sometimes that can be a negative.
The second negative would be trust. You don't never give nobody trust.
You have to learn it.
You post it, trust is never given. If you give them trust out in the beginning, it always gonna kill you in the end. It's always gonna kill you in the end.
Excuse me.
So, a lot of shit, like, you'd be like, wow.
Because some people, they trust too easily. First rip off, that's a red flag, first rip. You trust somebody too easily and you just met them, it don't matter to you.
That's harder than a walk in the park.
Because a walk in the park, shit, it's just hard because you gotta go thinking about a bunch of shit.
And now, you don't got any person you trust, there ain't no point in trying to rebuild it when they done broke it in two or down.
You can forgive and forget, but you also never, that memory will always stay in the back of your head of what this person has done.
So that why it's always like a harder trait, but people don't understand, like, you can really do better if you let a person iron your traits.
Yeah.
Some of my do's and don'ts of being in a relationship is don't lie to me. If you don't want me lying to you, why would you lie to me? Make it make sense.
Because I will tell you something about that shit.
I can understand you tell a small lie with something that you don't want her to know.
It ain't about that. Some people, like, they tell you you don't have to lie now.
Sometimes you do have to lie because some people can't take, some people not ready for the truth, man.
They really not.
Like, you will notice, like, when big shit jump off, everybody just, you know, whole house is standing still. The smallest shit have a motherfucker ready to kill or something.
Like, I had this one girl, like, she used to try to get over my phone when I was sleeping shit.
So one day I left that bitch unlocked. My grandmama always say, the one one, I kept waking up on some mornings realizing like, hey, my phone, why the fuck I'm locked out my phone for like,
probably about 3, 4 hours or 30 minutes extra, you know what I'm saying?
So, you know, because you get locked out some of the time, they give you like 12 hours, they give you like 6 hours, they give you like 3 hours.
Now when you got an iPhone, as that first attempt, you get 5 minutes.
But other than that, you gonna have to wait the whole day to get back into your phone.
I said, that's what I like about Android, but Android is like, you just got certain time, like you got to wait an hour, maybe 2 hours, maybe 3 hours.
A lot of depends how many times the person tried to get in your phone.
But, like, she tried to get in my phone, so one day I left it open. My grandma always say shit, let them see what they want to see.
So shit, certain shit, let them let you know, like certain shit that you look for, you not ready for.
And the certain shit that you do is also reflecting on what another person is doing.
So, that's why I like, I look at it like, that's why as a man, I advise any man, don't check your woman phone.
I don't give a fuck if you out there doing wrong or you doing right. It's just not in your category to check your phone.
Whatever gonna come, whatever gonna happen, it's gonna appear to you.
Like they say, whatever is done in the dark will come to the light.
Everything done in the dark will never come to the light.
Some shit will always be behind the scenes.
Not always.
Shit.
That's for the ones that's good at hiding shit.
You ain't gotta hide some shit, you just, it'll never come to the light.
But my question to all the men out there, like, don't that guilt eat you up at some point, knowing that you doing this girl wrong?
But you don't care. Why though?
What good advantages are you getting out of that making this girl feel like she's going crazy?
It ain't no getting out of advantage.
It ain't, you got some men that just do it for the hell of it cause they been heartbroken.
They been fucked over, Michigan screwed over and shit like that.
It ain't, you know, and you got some men that just,
that go with the, they say they go with the journey of life.
You got some that really too much just don't go for what they do.
You got some that gonna eat them up and eventually they'll come out and see it.
But you got some that just gonna say shit.
I'm gonna take that shit to my girl. If she find out, she find out. If she don't, she don't.
They're the ones that really hurt my nerves.
I look at it like this.
A woman is too busy trying to find out what a man is doing and that's your number one fuck up at everything.
Cause what a man is doing, you should be ask yourself what should you be doing better to put focus on back on your man.
But why does it always end up as the woman being that fuck for why shit is going on or why he's out there doing shit.
It ain't the fuck. It ain't the fuck as why. It ain't the fuck. Like everybody says it's the fuck.
Why do women be blamed for everything that the man does.
They do not be blamed for it. You just gotta take actions as some women is not at the same pace as the man was.
Just like they say all men and women are not the same.
No. This is where you gotta listen. It's all about pace with a man.
See if you ain't a man, you can't tell a man. That's the whole thing. You try to tell a man. You can't do none of that shit.
That's in vice versa too. You can't tell a woman how she should feel about a certain thing.
You're right. But if you know, say like me, I was born with a bunch of sisters and shit.
So everybody, I'm not one of those people that everybody was going through shit in the house.
Everybody down looking crazy and stuck in their room. I'm like what the fuck.
Everybody that you come down here, fuck with me, ask me Josh, you gonna hit your blunt or Josh can't play the game with you.
I'm like damn, what's going on here baby. Shit, they just got them days. They just got your days.
You can't, you know, shit. But I might go in there, I learn this shit from them.
Like, just not my generation. Just not the generation after me, but the generation before me.
That generation before them. I like shit like this.
Just studying and just putting your mind into shit like.
The most thing that a person has to realize is pace and tempo.
Social media make you feed into what a person is doing.
It's hard because you got some people that's okay, they're not on social media,
but they still do crazy shit outside of social media.
You got some people that's not on, that's on social media, but don't do crazy shit outside of life.
That's the craziest shit about life.
But a female, she have to understand this.
And my grandma, aunties, older women, even women that I've just been with in my past, the older women,
they even say if they can learn to stop trying to see,
they'll learn how to be as one with their spouse.
See, seeking causes problems.
See, a man, you would think a man doing something, a man really ain't doing nothing, and then seeking, then he would.
That's vice versa.
Everybody's right for everybody, but a man different, a woman ain't gonna do nothing until, hey, boom, a man.
Now you got some women that ain't gonna do nothing until they know, they found proof that their man was doing it.
But you got also them other women, they just not gonna deal with it.
And them are the ones that are 1092, the ones that will probably literally jump on you, probably chase you down,
but then at the end of the day, they tell you they don't want you to go when you start being with somebody else.
Like, I don't know how they been on that type.
Like I said, they're all type of females, so that's the hard thing for me.
Like I know females. I done been raised by females, been around females, been friends with some, or some as hell.
Half of them are, well, some of them was fucking females.
Uh, shit, I done dated a bunch of shit.
If you have 52, I done dated 52 women in one year.
Just every day of the week.
I done said I had whole phases. I done said I had did my 20 stages like it wasn't shit.
Like I said, when you done dealt with so many women, and you done seen so many attitudes, so many...
You get, you know, you kinda know, you, you, you, you like you used to, you used to.
And you just be sitting back waiting like...
Are you done yet?
And when you done say nothing, that's the hardest thing for a woman, is when you done say nothing back.
If you can just get up and walk right back out the door, you done say nothing, she can blow your phone up.
Some niggas like to pick up and argue, but nah, I'm just like me, I don't pick up and argue.
I put my phone on do not disturb.
I will sit there, I'll be right down, I'll be right down the street from.
I'll be, hell I'll be, I'll be in, I'll be in, just know I'll be so close to a person that...
That they'll be looking and they can't even find me.
And when you do that and you make a woman, that makes a woman start thinking about what she doing.
That's how you break a woman down to realize how and what she doing.
Because as long as you keep feeding into the bullshit, that's the way of her...
Oh you guilty, you guilty, nah, fuck that, leave that shit alone.
When you walk out, probably the 48 hours will make a motherfucker whole mind front and change.
You don't pick up the first day, the second day you just, you don't even pick up, you just start sending texts.
What's up?
Tell you that some bitch house.
Really, that what you trying, that what you gonna blow me up for some crazy shit like that?
Click.
I ain't had somebody do me like that before.
I ain't got into it with somebody.
I don't do it.
I've been going over to a friend's house and I've been getting all types of mean text messages and calls and voice mails.
Oh so you fucking with that nigga?
My answer to everything, believe what you want.
Whatever they told you, believe it.
Okay.
You always gonna look into...
Cause I know deep down inside, I know what my whereabouts was and what I was going through.
They don't mean just cause we getting to our number, run out to the next motherfucker house, vent to him and smash him and then come back and make things work out.
But this one, no.
That ain't me.
I'm giving you space.
Give you, both me space.
I look at it like...
I sit back.
Once I start, once I get quiet and there's no movement and I just sit down.
And once I put my head down and do that, man, and do that, just like I said, do that, man.
I would walk out, that's the type of person I am.
I realize, I done seen my mama, my daddy argue, I seen my brothers and sisters and their husbands and shit argue, wives and shit argue.
I seen his uncle, but that's one thing I do not do.
I hate fucking arguing.
Period.
We fussing at each other just trying to get the last word.
But that arguing and shit, like...
I'm like baseball.
Three arguments, I'm out of there, man.
I can't argue every day like this.
I can't do all that shit that people want you to do.
Want you to argue with them, want you to fight with them, want you to fuss with them.
You gotta go through this shit every day, man. Like, nah, I ain't got time for this shit.
And like, I had one girl, she always try to play like it was something around me or something.
She always play like it was something around me.
She left her lipstick around me.
Perfume, deodorant, anything that motherfucker find, she left around me.
And if I was...
You know, me, I like to listen to my music. I like to walk around.
It's always been my character. I always walk around the house.
So, I remember this shit like it was yesterday.
That motherfucker left like the house.
Five, ten minutes come back, motherfucker come back and say, damn.
I left my wallet.
Nigga, I'm standing up by the kitchen table.
Ain't no wallet by no kitchen table.
Your wallet in the room. I already spotted your wallet. I already knew what to play.
The money was gone after the wallet.
So, that's letting me know right then.
That bitch finna come right back.
Like she forgot her wallet.
Like, I peep.
The one thing about me, like, I'm spiritually inclined.
So, my senses is always up.
It's always there. It lets like...
I read...
I'm so good at reading a person to the point where I feel like...
It fucked up.
Like, I hate it.
And it's a gift at the same time. But I love it at the same time. It's a gift.
Cause when numbers start rolling through my head and I start seeing the actions, the angles, the movement, and all this shit.
It's just like...
The fuck?
Any cry in your thong head? Nigga.
I remember I was sitting up in the...
What that was?
I was sitting there on the phone with my brother when they FaceTiming.
But I was trying to text him and send him a message too.
That my uncle had seen.
Man, that motherfucker was...
That motherfucker was like this, playing like she was trying to put the trash can...
Move the trash can somewhere else. Like, put it in a new spot.
That motherfucker head was like this and shit.
Man, damn that shit.
I don't know. What the fuck?
I'm like, bitch, what am I wrong with you?
And she was like, motherfucker, I know what you're doing. You ever text me?
And I said, bitch, what this nigga say?
See, I don't say one thing about me.
I never say numbers in my phone.
I don't even say family numbers in my phone.
I never know when I'm gonna stop talking to them.
So I don't never say numbers.
I have a lot of brothers and fucking sisters, people.
But I love them to death.
I just don't talk to them.
I have a lot of friends.
Half of them, I had to buy cell phones and make sure they get down there with them.
And then find out, our phones work down there, but they don't work in the fucking area that I had to.
So they had to switch their phones, so I had to send them calls.
But it's a lot of people that I just trip out with, you know.
It's always gonna be like, LIT.
And you can't be real with somebody that I'm talking to.
I mean, I feel like I should have you around mid-all.
Because you never know what type of person you might be dealing with.
A low self-esteem type of person.
High self-esteem, mid-self-esteem, low mid-self-esteem, low low self-esteem.
You never know what type of self-esteem you get from a person.
It's hard for a person to focus on a lot of shit.
Because a person don't focus on a lot of shit.
They're too busy to focus on that person.
It ain't about focusing on the person, it's about the actions of that person.
You don't know when a person is focusing on the actions.
Like I say, when motherfuckers start just...
Everything about that person starts to change.
You see, everybody think it change.
No, you don't change, you grow.
You don't stay the same person.
You don't never stay the same person.
That's what everybody want.
They want you to stay the same person.
How can you stay in a relationship and be the same person and never fucking evolve?
That's crazy.
A person might want to try something different.
You learn that from such a shit.
What the fuck is that shit?
Never mind.
Done.
Walk away.
You have to know that shit, man.
There's a lot of people that don't get that shit.
They just...
They try to...
They try to read through the outlining.
They try to see...
They try to move in a point where...
I don't want a person to see me, but I want to see what that person doing.
Bro, you see what this person doing, and that person focusing on this person.
He's focusing on his willing, himself.
You sitting here focusing on him, and you fucking focusing on yourself.
Y'all see it and butt heads.
When y'all butt heads, then everything in the world,
in a person's feet or a female head becomes what it true.
And that's the hardest thing for a woman.
That's the hardest thing because when you start thinking it true,
everything becomes true.
That means, yeah, it don't come true right then and now.
You just thought it out, everything that you did,
everything that a person did, everything that a person...
Everything that you...
It's finna go after, and that person is finna do.
Because you gotta realize, some people...
Some people is hard.
Because some people don't even...
They ain't like...
It's not like me.
I ain't start talking to a nigga.
It was 2021, 22.
And I was four years fresh out of a marriage.
But come on, man.
It took time.
And people don't understand because people look at it like,
you can get somebody and they might not look like they self.
But when they get back to they self and look like they self,
that person, he might be his self, but his ways is gone because of shit.
Everything that he knew, he had to throw away.
He had to be with his mama.
He had to bury some more shit.
He had to leave that shit in prison.
Leave all that shit alone.
Because there's a certain way that you have to see and live
when you in this spiritually inclined world.
And people don't understand, like when you spiritually inclined,
you have to know.
When you know yourself, bro,
and you know the true meaning and you know what God tells you,
man, it's different, bro.
People don't understand this shit.
People really don't.
Though I say people, when you get the realization of what a real fucking relationship is,
you have to be spiritually inclined.
And spiritually inclined, that means you know.
That means what you know is what you know.
You have to be aware.
Nah, I ain't aware.
When you spiritually, see, you probably ain't made it to that level yet,
but when you on a higher level of spiritually joining, it's different.
It's different.
Because people don't know the real truth.
They don't even know the laws.
It's real laws to love.
It's real laws to all this shit that he made when he and she made the world.
And people don't understand relationships because they built relationships
into like a program state of how they want relationships to go,
how relationships should be.
People don't even look at it like when motherfuckers get on motherfucking Facebook,
you looking at 12, 13 relationship quotes.
That shit is already programmed in your head and you think it's from the 90s.
Nah, that shit ain't from the 90s.
That shit is 2000s.
It's the millennium shit.
And it fucks with a lot of people's head.
It fucks with a lot of people, period.
Because a lot of people is not spiritually inbounded yet.
When you know what love is, when you know how to love,
when to love, knowing your, knowing like I can sit here and do this today,
I buy some flowers tomorrow, knowing this shit right there is just some bullshit.
What is love?
You have to look deep inside you first.
That's all I can tell a person.
Because you have to be able to love yourself.
Nah, it's deeper than that.
In order to love somebody else.
It's deeper than that.
Get to know who you are as a person before learning somebody else.
You can't tell somebody about you if you don't know anything about you.
It's deeper than that.
I ain't bullshitting with you people, I understand.
But if you knew, you knew.
But a lot of us don't.
And if they did, shit they did, but they don't.
And they don't.
Now I gotta get out this third dimensional world people.
Go to the field.
Is that the field?
No, not yet.
But it's just real talk.
Who you gonna love at the end of the day?
Who gonna have your back at the end of the day?
That's a good question.
It ain't, no.
That's a fucked up question at the end of the day.
Because the one person that we sit here and we say we're supposed to have our back.
Don't have our back.
But the one person we sit here and put over that person, put over him,
it's a fucked up thing in the world.
You gotta put another person over somebody that made the back, spine, and everything else.
He washed your back. He built your back.
You gotta put, if you gotta be spiritually inclined,
that's gonna teach you to love yourself.
That's gonna teach you to nurture yourself.
That's gonna teach you to never hate anyone.
That's gonna teach you patience.
That's gonna teach you shit.
I see why my mother fucker be like, I see why Josh that is so.
I see why he keep his headphones in there.
He like his music. He listen to the word.
I listen to everything. I read through everything.
When my mom was still alive, people, she would tell you, it's hard to get something out of his eyes.
It's like he see everything and he see so much to the point where he's scared.
And she always tell me that shit. Cause I see it. I know like,
I know what's been done before was done.
I just, I just knew it. And it's just scary to me.
I know how I begin life and I know how I end life.
So that's the most scary thing to me.
Is when you get the vision and you know that the path that you walk on,
shit, it's gonna cost you.
So I don't even, I don't even true.
Cause shit, I experienced love on earth as I did in heaven.
Shit, I want that home. I did this shit.
I took out too far. No, I really did. I threw y'all off. I know.
Man, that's a bit of crazy shit. Everybody want love.
Shit, they who must seek it, they who must know it has to seek it.
And it's so much different levels.
There's so many different loves in this world that you be like,
I ain't know that type of love. I ain't know this type of love.
But you got some people that's out here that's not willing to accept that type of love.
They want it. They always say they want it. They want it.
But they not willing to accept it.
Cause they feel like it's something else behind it.
You gonna accept love? People gonna accept love regardless.
Regardless of the point.
That leads me to this question. Is love conditional or unconditional?
That's a simple question. Is your spirit forever or not forever?
It's forever.
So your answer to love is unconditional.
Love is unconditional. It says it in the Bible.
Yeah, it says it in the Bible that love is supposed to be unconditional.
Nah, it ain't even that. You must love.
But some people put conditions on that love.
No, you don't. Because regardless of the point, love is love.
I don't have to never like you. I can sit here and fuck in.
I can tell you I hate you and want you to die right there.
It's gone. But it ain't even that. I would never put hate and love in the same category.
Because hate is a curse word.
You know what I'm saying? So love is different.
Unconditionally is you here forever.
So you gonna have to love whoever near you, whoever's around you, whoever you with, whoever you gonna be with.
Unconditional for the rest of your life, period.
I mean, it's through all the turmoil. Everything. That's unconditional.
You can't say I love you, but you gotta do this. That's making love a condition.
You have to do this in order to get this type of love. That's not love.
How can you tell somebody you love them unconditional and then you put a condition on it?
Everybody put love on conditions. Trust me.
That's what I say. If you don't understand love, to understand love you have to be spiritually inclined with yourself.
You have to know really yourself. You have to know your...
You have to know, man. I can't tell you.
But you have to go and when you seek it and you hear it, number six, all this shit just coming to you at once.
You will be scared because you ain't gonna want to love.
Nobody won't because love is the most hardest fact in this world.
That's why us black folks don't give a... That's why us black folks don't stick together because there ain't no love.
But the ones that are spiritually inclined and the ones that do love their neighbor,
I'm trying to tell you, they know the real definition. They know what I'm saying.
Because you just can't sit here and go look it up in the dictionary, go look it up on Google,
go get some love books and all this shit. This shit not gonna teach you shit.
This shit is somebody's opinion. When you literally getting talked by angels,
when you literally getting talked by the creator ancestors, this shit is scary, man.
All right.
I know. It make you want to wake up.
But just like I say, people don't understand. When you're on this journey, you're on this journey.
It ain't no turning back. Ain't no going back. Ain't no this way, that way, no nothing.
When a person is on their journey and they spiritually journey, they been on it,
but they just, they're bringing it out slowly to people because people don't know shit about it.
Like, I didn't know he was on his spiritual journey. Yeah, a lot of people that,
in this whole of divine world, you gonna look at it.
Like, if you're not a part of the divine, it's hard to look and mingle with outsiders.
You got some relationships, you got divine men, you got divine women,
and they up in there with regular ass people, and they can't cope with regular people
because that level of what they on is like a god level, man. People don't understand that.
You literally on a godly level. When people meet me, they always want to hold conversations.
Everybody, everybody that mama see and tell me, it's something, I don't know what it is,
it's something about you. I don't even know what it is, my damn self.
But I'm my order. It's who I am. It's the angel in me.
When you different, it's good to be different, but don't, don't ever think a whole of divine person
will bring you into they world. I try to bring in they world before they see a person call his.
And that has so much love for a person, even if that person, even if they start talking to that person,
that person always will be a queen to them.
Because a lot of people don't understand like, you can do it yourself, but it takes two.
God didn't just do it himself. It took two. It took, trust me. It's two. He has kids. It's two.
The women he chose, he didn't choose for no reason. His wife was here. He was here.
He walked through dimensions. And he say, I walk, I can walk and watch out.
He as a regular person walks and watches. You never know who he is.
He can be that man on TV that walks around the world. You see, he a part of his divine.
Michael Jackson, he a part of his divine. The one that pretend to be Michael, he a part of his divine.
It's iconic culture, man. The divine is something that is crazy.
Because I can put it like this. When you in the divine and other people in the divine,
man all one, when you in the divine system and you talking to a person that's like,
got one foot in and one foot out of the divine system, not in the divine system,
the divine system is like, it hurts. It hurts that nerve because it's a god.
And what this god doing talking to a regular person that had the holy divine,
I always look at it because that's how it always supposed to be. Godless do not talk to regular people.
He says it himself. He reads it in the Bible.
When you got your own aura where you got your own little thing that you are,
and you never care about what regular people say or what the divine people going to say
because two worlds have to interlink.
So it's just crazy. So people that's part of the holy divine,
it's crazy because you still got someone that's jealous of each other.
Like I said, someone is not righteous or not the righteous ones.
They just there for their own self-esteem and greed.
That's why they don't know what make them pass certain levels.
But when you in that divine where you up there and people know and they see you up there
and they look at you and then they look at the person you talk to like,
why are you talking to this regular person? It's why the divine culture.
Kings and queens always stick together.
A lot of people would describe it but it's crazy because some of the divine is not of the holy divine.
Some of them are that different divine.
When you spiritually divine, holy inclined, you going to walk.
You going to do what you do. You going to seek the answers.
And I'm a seeker so I have to seek answers because what I'm doing
that classifies me trying to change the world.
So I know I'm not coming back to it. I'm not going to reincarnate and come back to this bitch.
I'm a one time, I'm a one time rubbery.
My momma say, my grandma said, a Haitian momma told me,
for the first time on earth in your presence it's so high and I don't know why.
I don't know. I don't know.
My presence will always be high. I will always walk with that light.
I will always walk, even when I'm having a bad day, I might not say nothing to people.
I probably don't want to be bothered but I'm happy inside though. That's the best feeling ever.
On the outside I'm protected because I can't let nobody take my inner peace.
So my outside is holding up. They guard my inner peace and the inside happy.
So the next day I'm happy and it brightens my days.
I'm glad I brought to you all another episode and stay tuned till early in the morning.
I'm going to pop out with you all a good morning episode.
I'm probably going to do the divine episode that I've probably been wanting to do.
So these last couple episodes we're going to make sure you all get off right.
Because when the next season comes, like I said, when the next week comes, we're trying to be right for you all.
So this is All In. All family. This is King Josh. And I'm Queen E.
Man, we out your way man. What the hell, I'm 10K.
Alright.