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What's up with it? I'm King Josh. I'm Queen E. And you're rocking with. All in. All family.

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On this episode of this podcast man we finna get down to some real topics on this beautiful

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Tuesday evening. We gonna get into some topics of. Child care. We will get into the topic

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of. Bad parenting. Good parenting. And baby mama and baby daddy's. Basically. It's about

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baby mama and baby daddy's. So sit back. Grab you a glass. Hey roll up. Cause guess what.

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Shit's gonna get real. Let's get it. Alright. Alright. So. I have. I have. A question. I

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have a question. Baby mama baby daddy. Where the fuck did that word come from? I feel like

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that's something that us. Black people. Came up with. Cause I don't think there's no such

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thing as baby mama baby daddy. It's just. Urban word. Urban term for your child's parents.

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I can say that. You know. Cause. I always used to think baby mama and baby daddy were

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like. So shit we used to say when we were kids. You know. I'm going over my BD house.

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I told my sister where the fuck you going. My BD house. She fired. At the time. I say

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bitch you ain't going over to BD house. You ain't over to BD. What is BD? Bad. Bad decision.

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That would it. I believe that would it stand for. BM and BD is a bad decision and a bad

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misconscretion. I wouldn't say that for baby mama. I'd say. Big misunderstanding. Yeah.

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A big misunderstanding. But. I can say this. Most of baby mama's and baby daddy's. Aren't

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meant to be together. It was just. A sexual appetite. Just something that happened. Cause

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you see most of the baby daddy baby mama relationship. Where both baby mama and baby daddy are still

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together and still making things work for their kids. Then you got those that live a

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separate lives. And the baby daddy's that don't want to be there with their children.

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That always cause all types of hell for the mother that's doing her best. And you got

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some mothers that don't want to be there with their kids. But we all look at the chances

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and the opportunities. Let's be for real. I learned. You know we all. We all make mistakes

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in life. The child is never the mistake though. Understand that your child is never the fucking

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mistake. The mistake is talking to the other parent of that child. Cause y'all knew it

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wasn't supposed to happen. Cause let's be for real. When sex getting good. You know

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this person toxic as hell. You know you ain't supposed to be with this person. But the sex

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is getting so good. And the only thing you hear is. None of me. Hold on. Repeat that.

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Say it again. Say it. Not me. Toxic. Right there. That was a toxic. Right there you should

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have known that was toxic. It was some toxic in there. Because let's be for real. You got

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people in relationships that's trying to have kids. That's trying. And you have people that

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don't belong together. They got fucking kids. Ain't that a shame though. And it be the ones

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that really don't deserve kids. Cause a lot of motherfuckers really don't deserve kids.

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Like for real. Like go back to this story of Caitlyn dumping her. Like they never found

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her baby body bro. The Casey Anthony story. Yeah the Casey Anthony. Take the Casey Anthony

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story. Like I ain't you know. You know this is not anything towards her. You know. She

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was found not guilty. Okay cool. But people know that they don't deserve kids. Want kids.

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And they the ones that get the kids. The ones that want the kids. It's hard for them to

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make a kid. But you gotta also look at it like this. Some people don't have the mental

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capacity to deal with kids at that moment. And you got those that don't have the mental

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capacity but are willing to try. Instead of the ones that just give up. Yeah I can agree

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with y'all on that one. Because your mental really has to be right for a kid. Cause some

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days. I be like fuck them kids. We all had those days. I'm not playing. We all had those

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days. Your child come up and mommy mommy daddy daddy mommy daddy mommy daddy. What you finna

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say? You don't want to say bitch go sit your ass down. If it ain't that is mama can I

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have this? Mama can I have this? Daddy can I go here? Daddy can I go there? Mama can

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I can you do this for me? Daddy can you do that? Can I have this? But that's the whole

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thing. If your mental not right for that you not ready for that. Because remember our parents

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told us when we were younger the same thing you did to us I can't wait till it's done

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to you. It's gonna be harder when it's done to you the same thing you've done to your

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parents. Cause every generation is different. Very different. Like I ain't gonna lie. My

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brothers most of my brothers and sisters were born in the 70's 80's 60's. I think early

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60's I don't know. But yeah I want them grand brothers you know what I'm saying. Real talk

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I want them grand brothers. I ain't bullshitting with you. I got grand sisters nigga. Like

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I'm 20 when I say I'm 20 years younger I'm 20 years younger. Great niece. Great nephews.

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But hey it's cool. Just don't call me your uncle. Cause you down there my brother. Cause

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you down there my brother you down there my age. Don't call me your uncle make me feel

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old and seven years old. Now your dad is 22 I'm seven. I ain't tell him go out there and

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do that. He wants to get a little wee wee and something get wet. Then poop get that

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old baby. Cause I'm about to tell you something kids are a blessing. I don't give a fuck what

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you say. I swear. I love mine and death. They are not income tax blessings. They are blessings.

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Like Queen E like you got kids right. Yep. What's their names. What's their names. Nugget

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and J. Okay. You call okay nicknames Nugget and J. Okay. So. We like as a parent how proud

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are you just to see that something came out of you and you see them now and you look at

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them now as the ages they are and they progressing. How do you feel. Like what type of parent

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do that make you. I ain't even gonna lie. When I had my first one. When I had J. It

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changed a lot in me. It changed my whole life. I want to do everything. I want basically

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homeschool him before he even decided to go to school himself if there was a choice. Okay.

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But yeah. My kids they learn majority of what we supposed to learn in school at their age

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from me because that's how I was taught. At least I think. But that's how I taught them.

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However my mama taught me how I got to know this and that. I don't know. But whatever

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I know I teach that on my kids. It's not nothing bad. It's mostly good. They learn a lot. Anybody

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they meet my kids they'll tell you. They are so polite. They really are. Like her kids

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like I thought those little white boys and black kids bodies because when you hear them

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you be like. Said it again. They talk so proper. But they but that's how you like you don't

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want your child to you know. I ain't my nigga. I ain't boy or you don't want your child to

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say no shit like that. And my kids don't even talk like that to each other. They hear it

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all the time. Like as parents we have to draw the line when it comes down to our kids. Like

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you got some baby daddies that want to be in a kid's life and you got some baby daddies

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that pretend to be in a kid's life to control the mother's life. Because I ain't gonna lie.

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I had my first child at 18. Shout out to Jay. I love my daughter. I love my daughter to

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the heart. That's my that's my everything right now. But she she is me. You know I'm

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like Jay is me. And you got Rye. Rye is my second oldest girl now. Rye is what you call

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spontaneous. Just put it like that. Because you will never know who you will never know

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who she really is bro. You will never know because she'll hide it so good. I can tell

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you that. Rye but she's a beautiful baby. She is the reddest child I really have. And

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I got Mir. Mir is a thug bro. When I say when I say y'all don't understand. Mir Mir is a

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thug. Mir is me in a girl body. I can tell you that shit for real. Anytime your child

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is eight years old and y'all boxing like y'all like Muhammad Ali and Frazier. But she Muhammad

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Ali and she's finna be Frazier because she come out the bathroom with her pants over

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her goddamn belly button y'all. Like she's 70. But took her hair and put it in a ponytail

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like a bat. So I'm thinking that's a boy. So when she say come on man get my Rye. I

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say what the hell. Who finna get a Rye with you. She said I'm talking to you. Daddy come

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get this Rye. And she was dead. The look that she put in her eye out of all my kids. They

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said look you better not say nothing. You better not move wrong. Or it's the over week.

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And she ain't playing. Because Mir is something different bro. Like Mir is like Mir is different

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from her mama. Like real different. My baby mama is group. I can tell you I ain't talking

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about her because regardless of the point this is the mother of my child. But I know

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she's scary as shit. You hear me? I heard her arguing with my other baby mama. Jada's

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mama. Who I'm finna get to. But I heard her arguing with her. And she say I bet you won't

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walk your ass across this street. And she waved on the other side of the apartment complex

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y'all. Do you hear me? Yelling talking. I say right then and there I say if I ever get

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to jump she running on me. She running. But Jada, Jada is something different. Jada is

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in her own line. Fashion queen. She a trendy kid. So she gonna keep fashion like I let

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my kids be who they are. So when she said dad I'm finna get a nose ring. She didn't

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say dad I'm finna get a nose ring. She said dad look I got a nose ring. I just said okay

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cool. Because if I said no anyway I had to think about when I told my mama at 13 I want

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my ears pierced. She told me hell no. My daddy don't allow boys to have ears pierced. Man

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when I walked in that house with them two big ass nuggies on my ear. Oh man shit. Man

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I done uh bruh she beat the backs off the earrings off me bruh. Do you hear me? She

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beat the backs. The backs. The parts that hold your earring off me bruh. And I was like

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she had me touching my toe. She can't even tell your toe. Man okay. I'm gonna tell y'all

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something. To knock the backs off your earring? You gotta hit somebody hard as hell. My mama

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hit my mother with clove hangers. It wasn't no built. Whatever she had it was in her range.

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If it was a brick it was gonna get thrown. Oh my God. See let's be for real. See everybody

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wanna talk about baby mamas. But I ain't gonna lie. Them baby mamas from the motherfucking

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50s to 60s, 70s. I don't know about the 80s cause it was a crack era. I don't know. I

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don't know how people mama was in the 80s. I don't. Shit. Everybody smoked crack. Everybody

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tried it in the 80s. I don't give a fuck what you say. I'm like Kevin Hart. Everybody tried

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it. I think that's when that song came out. Your mama's own crack crack. Oh God. That

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was the song. Your mama's own crack rocks. But let's be for real. I would never judge

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for what your mama own. For what your mama does because there's a lot of people that

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you know kids grew up without their mama was there but she was in the streets. And that

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ain't my business. And that ain't my business. You keep that to yourself. But at the same

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time if she was in the streets but she was still making sure you was taken care of and

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you had jewelry and you had shoes she was still back there behind the scenes playing

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the motherfucking role even though she was a you know a druggie. Leave that woman alone

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bro. It's a lot of niggas in the 80s that's what baby daddies single baby daddies working

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jobs from the 1950s 60s 70s 80s 90s. We stop at the 2000s. And the big mama era. OK. Everybody

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know about big mama era. Big mama era. It wasn't no baby mamas. It wasn't no fucking

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baby daddy's. You you fuck up. You go see your dumb ass on the couch. They didn't believe

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in break up. Oh let's be for real. Baby daddies and baby mamas. A lot of y'all broke up for

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stupid shit. Hold on. I just thought about this. Back then at those days you just read

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out there was no such thing as a baby mama baby daddy. I mean because everybody was.

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It started in the 50s. It started in the 50s now. You know in the 50s. In the 50s you had

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some people that wasn't you know like a man or walk out after a certain amount of kids.

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You know what I'm saying. So it was kind of every era was different because big mama era

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was from the 1920s 30s to 40s the 1900s to the 1950s. That means your ass was married.

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It wasn't no divorce. It wasn't no daddy's gonna walk out. If daddy walk out guess what.

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Daddy coming back home. You see what I'm saying. Now if a motherfucker walk out. They ain't

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coming back. They ain't coming back. They gonna come back. Yeah. You gonna keep letting

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them come back. That's the thing about I hate to say about like the 2000 generation. Because

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y'all cool as fuck. Y'all like bro. Y'all are trend settles and y'all on land in the

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2000. But at the same time I have to say like do you care that you're trying to settle.

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Do you care that you really have to know. It ain't just about money. See 2000s. It's

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to apply to it really started in 97 96 at the 96. I will really say it was kind of rough

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bro. Because 96 everything's really just opened up change. You know what I'm saying. The rap

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game was talking about more murder than anything. Shit. Baby mom uncle Luke come out. Don't

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stop. Pump that cool shit. Let me see your doo doo. You lost your baby mama in the club.

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She pop her doo doo brown. Freak niggas start jumping out. Black Spring break start getting

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wilder. Shit. Think about it. Bro the fucked up situation is in this world is that we living

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with a lot of motherfucking kids. Who they daddy really is. That baby daddy probably

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ain't that nigga daddy. Because you have those type of females. Turkey based the motherfuckers.

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I call it turkey based. Because anytime a woman can pull a turkey based out. And put

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it in a condom and like that with the turkey based stuff. And put it inside her. Oh you

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got oh oh oh oh no. You have them type of manipulative people. You have niggas. I know

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somebody like that. I do too. I know a couple motherfuckers like that. I know somebody who

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did that. I know. I'm trying to tell you. This city is small. And the crazy thing is

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I know a couple niggas that actually poked holes. In the condom. Take the condom off.

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And don't want nothing to do with it. No it ain't that. Take the condom off. Just so they

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can trap a motherfucker. To put a motherfucker in control. So he can be in control. Niggas

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used to do that shit. She got a good job. She got her own shit. She got her own place.

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She doing good for herself. Boom boom bang. Oh this bitch ain't got no kids. No sir.

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You getting up in that motherfucker three weeks later you don't know nothing about that girl.

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Two months later she find out she's two months pregnant. You have those type of people. But

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it's the baby daddy and the baby mama. Nah hell no. No. Uh oh. You know what time it

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is. It's a message. It's whatever comes out this box is something for you to scribe and

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change your life with. Today's tip says stay positive. Stay focused on the goal that you

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have and set for yourself. You know and not to you know just to elaborate on this. My

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goal was always to start a podcast. I was nervous. I was scared. I started one but I

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didn't want one to be a part of it because everybody that was a part of the first one

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hearts one set on the right thing. So I end up leaving. They still kick it with the podcast

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but they got their own channel. Shout out to the last kings. But this is my goal to

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spread positivity to give y'all laughs to talk about real shit that people don't want

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to talk about. Anything that I would tell y'all everything I will put stories out every

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segment. I mean every episode at the end I'm going to tell y'all a funny story. And

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queen E know I got some stupid ass stories. But it's about fun. It's about laughter on

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this podcast. Oh yeah and shout out to queen E because she got her bakery business coming

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to. And then I'm going to start making other things. So stay tuned because we're going

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to be giving out prizes. We're soon going to be you know. You type and you hit us up.

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We get your name. We put your name in a box up in my church house. But we're going to

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pull a name every Wednesday or every Friday. You might win a basket full of goodies we

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will send to you. We might cash shop you. And you know I don't expect nothing big. Now

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I'm just fucking with you. You never know. You never know. The bigger we get the bigger

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the prizes. You know we want y'all to sit back and enjoy but this is real talk. Baby

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mommas and baby daddies. I can tell you one goddamn thing though. The crazy thing about

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baby mommas and baby daddies. Why when the next person start upgrading their life the

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baby mama or baby daddy they like hate it. Like they hate to see other people take you

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to different elevations. Can you elaborate on it? Because this I think this one going

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to be good. This part of the segment going to be good. Why they do that? You got some

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baby daddies that still have love for their baby mama. You got some that just hate their

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baby mama and they don't want to see them with nobody. Why? Because that's how long.

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And why I put that word on there is you said some baby daddy still have love for some baby

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mommas. Wrong. Some baby daddies always been about the control. Why you think it's a control

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issue? Because in every relationship everybody fighting. Everybody I don't care what you

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say. This is true. You fighting for power. Some women they call the submissive woman.

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The submissive woman is the one that's really they say is wrong and people look at them

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like hell I wouldn't do that. Why not? Because in the Bible it says it. It say be submissive

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to your husband. Not submissive as a freaky you could be freaky too man. That's later

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on at night. But submissive is you know if he work bring home the bacon he get that he

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get that money like hey I'm going to still do my duties. I'm going to still hey baby

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come here right quick. Oh I'm so sick of this nigga calling my motherfucking name. But you

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still go up now. What's up babe? I shout out to them women. I really do shout out to them

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women. Because them women if they take care of a man like that. The child father like

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that. What you think that she going to nurture that child a woman is nurturing. That is a

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natural born kill. I'm talking about white, black, Puerto Rican, Brazilian, Jamaican,

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African, Barbican, Trinidad, everybody. Chinese, Vietnamese, every woman of every color is

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fucking nurturing. But some women lose their nurturing because guess what they want to do.

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They want to sit here and be they been hurt so bad they want to turn into the person to

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the baby daddy that hurt them. You cannot do that. I done been in a couple you hear

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me a couple relationships like that. Bruh. No. No. Y'all think I'm bullshitting. I spent

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52 weeks. 2019, I mean 2020. 52 weeks. 52 different girls. And then end up with none

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one of them. Every week. Because with a man he can get bored fast. You see what I'm saying?

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With a woman she can get bored fast. She can get bored faster than a man can. Yeah. Because

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if he ain't showing no type of or giving her any type of attention or showing her any type

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of affection she'll get bored. So think about a woman that had a baby and she going through

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the postpartum depression. You not asking yourself. You not asking yourself. Damn man

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I know she going through it right now. But damn I'm trying to see what all I can do.

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Now if you got a person that really does that keep them. But you got to make sure your mental

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is stable because the postpartum depression is the test ladies. That is the test to see

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can you handle a child. Why you think so many infants end up in the dumpster end up sitting

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on somebody's porch. Because they either happened early and that person wasn't ready or they

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just was scared and didn't know what to do. It wasn't a planned thing. You right but we

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all scared. You can't run from you can't run. This is the point you got to learn to understand.

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If your mama ran out on you and you never forgave her you won't let her live it down.

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But let me ask you a question. Have you ever asked that woman. Mom. It was rough then wasn't

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it. You ain't just you know just come out with it out the blue. It was rough then wasn't

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it. And she just going to tell you yes it was. But it's hard bro for I seen this shit

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because I got sisters I got sisters with seven kids I got sister that adopt kids I got sister

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with six kids I got a bunch of sisters. And I see strong black women every fucking day

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and they and strong white women too because I have a sister that's white. I love to death.

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She is a to me she got my blood. I love my little blue eyed little little heathen that's

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what I call her. My grandma yeah granny don't like this shit when I call her blue eyed heathen.

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But that's my baby. That's she know like hey my brother is ignorant but he welcome me with

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open arms because he going to say whatever he going to say out his mouth. But he love

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everybody because everybody is the same. But in a man's world. It's too much pressure for

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one. So postpartum depression he do he love me why he had his baby with me. What I'm going

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to do after I had his baby how my life going to go. Everything started hitting her head

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once she getting shot with a switch. I'm talking about you got a switch on the back of. And

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I'm going to say this for experience myself I went through postpartum depression with

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my first child. Yeah it's blank like it's certain things I would say but no I won't

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shoot up to like in your own way. To the people in the world to the ones that don't have kids

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to the ones that really need to think about it and get a career started first. OK. You

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know please with me. When I went through postpartum depression it was hard. Very hard. I even

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started reaching out for help. I was seeing a therapist but it was just times where I

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didn't want to be around him. I didn't want to be near him. Because every time I tried

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to like take a nap or something like that. I get a picture in my head of something going

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wrong. And I don't want to be near him at that moment. That's my first child. But once

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I overcame it I've seen my therapist and I worked through my issues I had to accept the

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fact that I have a child because it was still unbelievable to me. So once I got I mean I

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still loved him. Even though I was going through my postpartum depression don't get me wrong.

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I promise you I still love him. I won't let nobody touch him at that time. But I just

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didn't want to be around him the way I was supposed to. But that still didn't mean that

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the child didn't love me no less. That's just like that's experience. You know this is real

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conversation on a real podcast. Like your mental have to be physically ready. You know?

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Because you feel like because you know those nights where it's supposed to be a 50 50 thing

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where when the baby wakes up at night I'm gonna get him first put him back to sleep.

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I change him feed him. And then if you wake up again throughout the night and it'll be

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your turn. No. That's where the depression kicked in hard. I was up every night every

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morning feeding changing burping trying to put him back to sleep. There were times where

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it was just I realized just sat there and let him cry. Because I was over it. Then it's

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just something just say you can't do that. You can't do that. Because at this time is

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you already thinking it's just you and the child anyway. Even though the child might

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got other relatives around at that time. You still in your mind is just me and this child.

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So I got to do something I got to become better for this child. That goes to saying with the

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baby data trying to supposed to be there to help out with that child. No. Certain things

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for a baby data to me is certain things. Yeah. It's certain things that you need to let

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go when you have a child. Now I did that right there. Because I want y'all to understand

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what she just said. Shots fired. It's shots fired but it's real. It's not fired. It's

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something you need to know. It's something that you really need to hear. Because you

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can't hold on to something. And let's go for the man that's taking up the mama role too.

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Because it's me taking on the mama role. You know what I'm saying? You got men out here

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with daughters. Single men out here with daughters. You know I got a homeboy. For a whole year

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this man he loved when I tell this story. He fucked this girl head up every day for

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school. Do you hear me? Hey but at least he tried. That's the point he tried. He just

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didn't care. He didn't put the effort. No. No. He actually put the work in. He put the

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work in but let me tell you what he had to do. He had to go back to the source. He had

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to go back to his mama and learn nurturing. You can't show your fucking child hard all

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the time. And as males we try to be so fucking hard all the time but we gentle with our girls.

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I'm going to say this for the boy moms out there. It's hard when you're by yourself and

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you're raising a boy. I can't. You know what? Because I agree with you on that. Because

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my mama I know I gave her hell. Oh yeah. I was the baby boy. And that's the one that

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feels like they ruled the house. See I didn't rule the house. Standing there with a bunch

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of fucking females. See that is different. That was two. No I'm going to tell you something.

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Like standing there with a bunch of females. Like standing in the house with a number of

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females is different. And you the baby boy. You absolutely right. Because everybody because

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she got kids my age. My mama loved the shit out of all her grandkids. And it's some days

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where I sit here and say damn. My mama love me enough. Because she love these mothers

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more than me. But then I had to go back to it. And my sister come back the next day and

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she'll be so nice. She'll treat me like I wanted her kids. And her kids look at me like

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the fuck nigga. I haven't talked to my sisters since my mama died. But I have one sister

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that I know. Sharon. I love her to death. Don't get me wrong. I love my sister to death.

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You hear me? Because this woman don't put her name on cars for me. That's probably the

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only sister that I would ever sit up at the hospital with. Just like I did my mama. And

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she's like. Man Trisha we have our ways. Because she the oldest girl out of everybody. So she

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have her ways. She feel like the oldest don't supposed to have. The oldest supposed to have

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everything. That's how she always feel. She tried to box me up y'all. And send me to another

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country. She put me in a box. And I'm thinking we playing y'all. But she put me outside in

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the mailbox. I mean by the mailbox. So when the mailman come out here I'm like god damn

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this is a god damn box heaven. I jump out. Man let me out of here. He looking at me.

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He said how old you is young man? I said five. That's the first person I ever talked to.

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The mailman. Had a whole conversation with. And you just went mute for the next two years

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until. I went mute. Like I went back mute. Like I was a different child. I stopped eating

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chicken in the fifth grade. I ate number of vegetables from third grade to the fifth grade.

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I'm talking about vegetables. It had to be green on my plate every time my mama cook.

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Give me one piece of meat. I trained myself to eat in the morning. I mean eat in the noon.

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And then like I read from the age of two my mama said. She was looking at me like why

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the hell you got my book? And she was up in here talking about something. Why the hell

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you signing out words? And when she called me I stopped. Put the book down and she said

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I walked out the room like it wasn't shit. I think it was a jet evening. I was reading

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the black jet evening of the week. Yeah I was a little horned two year old. But everybody

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was different. But one thing about it baby mamas and baby daddies you are the same because

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you aren't one because you have a child. And for the people that don't like you if you

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in a relationship you have to respect that person baby mama and baby daddy. OK. I don't

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care if you don't like this person. Be the bigger person bro. Like show them like bro

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you might. You know like hey I had them already. Girl you can have the problems. Big and better

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thing. And for the niggas it's the same thing. Like nigga that's your problem. Your headache.

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You know you got some people. Don't be spiteful when you say it. Just be like. And please.

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Oh this your new dude. Yeah. How you doing. Don't be disrespectful. You know. OK. But

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we all got that dog in us. They gonna sit here and jump when motherfuckers feel like

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they testing us. Every fucking action. And our cause for reaction. That's it. But you

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got some I. It don't matter. It's showing your child that your child will be like hey

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man my mama could have whooped your ass. Anytime she wanted to. But she was showing me. That

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hey. And that's another thing. Can't compare to a queen to a. Can't compare to a queen

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money. Can't compare to a king money. When he say my daddy boy. I'll tell you something.

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You got one time. Touch me. Talk crazy. In front of my. Talk crazy. My mama in front

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of me. My daddy gonna whoop your ass. He been waiting eight years. You know that's just

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real talk. Love. Each other broke. It's a child all involved in the middle. And you

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all have to raise their child. That's what you gonna call a village money. And somebody

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baby that is the baby mama's don't understand it just the traumatizing a child with a toxic

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drama. You got some baby mama's they'll pull up with kids in the car to wherever baby daddy

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and he would another little chick or whatever. It gonna be some drama. You don't want your

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child involved in it. Because you don't know what the chick got on stairs. This ain't the

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nineties. This ain't the early two thousands. This ain't the eighties. Seventies. You ain't

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about hands no more. These females will literally shoot you cut you. And they a whole nigga

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they self these days. White black. Man bro. I'm finna tell y'all something that funny

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and we gonna I'm gonna let her get y'all a good clothes out. You think I'm playing. I

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went to jail one time for domestic violence. And the most funny shit he ever I ever witnessed

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in my life was a white woman in the backseat with me that just had domestic violence. Nah.

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I kid you not. She telling me in the police office the store. And it was so funny. Because

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she said I wish I was like a black folk. I said why all that baby? You don't wanna be

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like this? We fucked up. We can't even join. We can't even goddamn stick together. She

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said no I wanna be like the black woman. She said why? I said why? She said the black woman

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don't take no shit. And we don't. You tell her you gonna beat her ass. You literally

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gonna have to beat her ass. But you better hope in the process that you don't have to

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get cut or stale. And I said I wish I was a white man. And the police officer turned

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back and said why? Because I said every time I do a crime I be fucking free. And he talked

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around and said boy you know what? I ain't never heard no shit like that in my life.

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And he was a white man and he bust out laughing. And that's how you know that all races can

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stick together. Now give us an outro closing Erika. And before we go.

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Alright well. Royal Blue right quick. A powerful. Royal Blue is powerful now. This ain't about

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our gang members color. This is about I told you we doing colors too. Royal Blue means

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powerful. So tomorrow put you on some Royal Blue. Show your imperial side. That you're

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a god, a goddess, a king, a queen. Erika take us out baby.

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For those of you who have been listening about the podcast Baby Mom and Baby Daddy drama.

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Just understand at some point y'all gonna need to have a one on one talk. Maybe it might

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work out for some. It might not. Just know that you tried your hardest and let it go

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from there. This is King Josh. I'm Queen E. And you have

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to sit here and listen to another episode of All In Our Family. And we out this.

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