WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.940 Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, 00:00:04.379 --> 00:00:07.320 endurance, and gentleness. Fight the good fight 00:00:07.320 --> 00:00:10.199 of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to 00:00:10.199 --> 00:00:11.980 which you were called when you made your good 00:00:11.980 --> 00:00:15.140 confession in the presence of many witnesses. 00:00:45.039 --> 00:00:47.960 welcome to our small group we call it bumper 00:00:47.960 --> 00:00:51.880 sticker wisdom I'm John I'm Terry our new that's 00:00:51.880 --> 00:00:54.679 our new thing it's a small small group so they 00:00:54.679 --> 00:00:59.939 can't say we're not doing a small group sorry 00:00:59.939 --> 00:01:05.400 my volume got off a little bit that's cuz you 00:01:05.400 --> 00:01:09.420 ribbon yes in my pocket we'll say a quick prayer 00:01:09.420 --> 00:01:11.629 and then we'll get started Heavenly Father, we 00:01:11.629 --> 00:01:13.150 want to thank you for everybody who's taking 00:01:13.150 --> 00:01:15.329 the time right now to listen to us, Father God. 00:01:15.629 --> 00:01:17.730 May you give us something that we can present 00:01:17.730 --> 00:01:21.090 to them that gives them some curiosity, some 00:01:21.090 --> 00:01:24.010 hope. Maybe they feel some love. Maybe they feel 00:01:24.010 --> 00:01:26.969 seen and included, Father God. We love you. We 00:01:26.969 --> 00:01:28.409 thank you for this call. And it's in Jesus' name 00:01:28.409 --> 00:01:33.069 we pray. Amen. Amen. So last week, we've had 00:01:33.069 --> 00:01:36.150 a couple of good weeks of conversations. You 00:01:36.150 --> 00:01:39.590 know, two weeks ago we replayed a a video of 00:01:39.590 --> 00:01:41.930 us having a real conversation at home. Well, 00:01:41.930 --> 00:01:43.250 it's funny because I keep telling them, yes, 00:01:43.489 --> 00:01:45.430 you have to listen. You're like, babe, they don't 00:01:45.430 --> 00:01:47.750 come out to next week. I'm like, oh, dang it. 00:01:47.849 --> 00:01:49.469 I think it's the one that's not. Yeah, you're 00:01:49.469 --> 00:01:50.769 right. You're right. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm 00:01:50.769 --> 00:01:54.109 like, it's episode 133. Yeah. And they're like, 00:01:54.269 --> 00:01:58.849 that's not what I said. I'm sorry. I hear y 'all 00:01:58.849 --> 00:02:04.049 don't. I'm sorry. Yes. Yes. We're literally Okay, 00:02:04.049 --> 00:02:06.129 so if you think about it, it's two weeks out, 00:02:06.209 --> 00:02:08.569 right? So what we record today doesn't come out 00:02:08.569 --> 00:02:10.449 this Saturday, it comes out the Saturday after, 00:02:10.770 --> 00:02:13.310 right? So it's technically it's like 10 days 00:02:13.310 --> 00:02:17.150 out or 11 days out, 12 days out, something like 00:02:17.150 --> 00:02:20.550 that. So it does get a little bit confusing that 00:02:20.550 --> 00:02:22.830 way. It's hard because I'm not used to that because 00:02:22.830 --> 00:02:25.129 I'm always like, you know, yeah, you should go 00:02:25.129 --> 00:02:28.330 listen. I'm like, oh, yeah, no, you missed it. 00:02:28.330 --> 00:02:33.889 You missed it. Not yet. But so. Anyway, we've 00:02:33.889 --> 00:02:35.830 had a couple of good really good conversations 00:02:35.830 --> 00:02:38.169 two weeks ago It was you know, we talked through 00:02:38.169 --> 00:02:40.469 a video of us having a conversation about the 00:02:40.469 --> 00:02:44.050 weight of a tear and it how what that led into 00:02:44.050 --> 00:02:46.870 a lot of different things and then Last week, 00:02:46.870 --> 00:02:49.550 we really talked about the attack on relationships 00:02:49.550 --> 00:02:53.870 and there's a ton in that you can unpack And 00:02:53.870 --> 00:02:56.330 then at the end of the conversation we were already 00:02:56.330 --> 00:03:01.030 done. We had already you know cut We were just 00:03:01.030 --> 00:03:04.240 talking and I said something that seemed like 00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:08.560 a good thing to talk about and the main idea 00:03:08.560 --> 00:03:12.919 is it turns out that fighting is a full -time 00:03:12.919 --> 00:03:16.900 job it is a full -time job right meaning it's 00:03:16.900 --> 00:03:18.979 not it's not like every once in a while you're 00:03:18.979 --> 00:03:20.780 going to have a battle when you're in this christian 00:03:20.780 --> 00:03:23.960 life you might as well just already be prepared 00:03:23.960 --> 00:03:26.759 for war right it's it's it's part of the gig 00:03:26.759 --> 00:03:29.849 yeah And I don't know. It's not real easy to 00:03:29.849 --> 00:03:32.469 reconcile that in our minds to help us understand 00:03:32.469 --> 00:03:35.129 that. But there's a whole bunch of other things 00:03:35.129 --> 00:03:37.349 that come out of that. Right. Like a lot of questions 00:03:37.349 --> 00:03:41.509 come out of that. No. Number one. And a lot of 00:03:41.509 --> 00:03:43.669 thoughts that came through it. Right. Like I 00:03:43.669 --> 00:03:46.990 think we have this false sense of expectation 00:03:46.990 --> 00:03:49.669 when we join in the fight. Right. Like we think 00:03:49.669 --> 00:03:55.430 that. You know. as we grow in maturity with Christ 00:03:55.430 --> 00:03:57.750 in our relationship with Christ like the fighting 00:03:57.750 --> 00:04:02.810 will end. Right? No, this is this is the job 00:04:02.810 --> 00:04:05.810 you signed up for. Yeah. And so what are you 00:04:05.810 --> 00:04:09.710 looking at? My chapstick is really interesting. 00:04:10.069 --> 00:04:11.770 It's not interesting. I'm just I'm trying to 00:04:11.770 --> 00:04:13.469 think if I want to turn down my volume or not. 00:04:17.529 --> 00:04:21.930 But yeah. Sorry. If it's not I took my watch 00:04:21.930 --> 00:04:29.019 off. I think it's another. You're over here just 00:04:29.019 --> 00:04:31.879 like. Well, I'm just flipping it and it's annoying. 00:04:32.139 --> 00:04:41.480 I know. Sorry. I think it's another. Sorry. So 00:04:41.480 --> 00:04:44.160 anyway, it's it's going to the fight just doesn't 00:04:44.160 --> 00:04:46.120 end. No, it doesn't. Yeah. It's like I was at 00:04:46.120 --> 00:04:48.399 the bar the other day because I worked during 00:04:48.399 --> 00:04:52.110 the day on a Friday and I. I'm always talking 00:04:52.110 --> 00:04:54.470 about something, you know, my church or something, 00:04:54.670 --> 00:04:56.930 and I invited two people while I was there. They're 00:04:56.930 --> 00:04:58.310 like, oh my gosh, what church are you going to? 00:04:58.350 --> 00:05:00.629 So I told them what church I went to. And this 00:05:00.629 --> 00:05:02.610 one guy goes, well, I don't believe. And I said, 00:05:02.790 --> 00:05:04.389 I'm not asking you to believe or whatever. He 00:05:04.389 --> 00:05:05.529 goes, well, we believe that you don't have to 00:05:05.529 --> 00:05:09.529 go to church. I said, I'm with you. I said, I 00:05:09.529 --> 00:05:11.569 believe that you don't have to go to church to 00:05:11.569 --> 00:05:14.790 believe. But I'm just saying, do you believe 00:05:14.790 --> 00:05:16.790 in Jesus? He goes, yeah. I said, but I don't 00:05:16.790 --> 00:05:19.389 say you, I'm not saying you have to go to church. 00:05:20.060 --> 00:05:22.439 But I'm fighting for what I believe in. And he's 00:05:22.439 --> 00:05:24.819 like, no, I believe in that. You know, I'm like, 00:05:24.959 --> 00:05:27.620 OK, then just don't say that. Just say, I don't 00:05:27.620 --> 00:05:29.060 believe in. I don't have to believe to go to 00:05:29.060 --> 00:05:31.060 church. Right. I don't have to go to church to 00:05:31.060 --> 00:05:34.120 believe. And look, you're right. You don't. Yeah. 00:05:34.220 --> 00:05:37.579 You also don't have to go to school to cut somebody's 00:05:37.579 --> 00:05:39.339 chest open and work on their heart. Yeah. But 00:05:39.339 --> 00:05:41.579 it's probably not going to end well. Yeah. Where 00:05:41.579 --> 00:05:44.860 does this go? Where does that go? Right. That's 00:05:44.860 --> 00:05:48.959 how I view church now. Yeah. I didn't used to. 00:05:49.050 --> 00:05:52.089 Used to be very firm about this right like I 00:05:52.089 --> 00:05:57.050 was very firmly Opposed to the church and it 00:05:57.050 --> 00:05:59.709 Stems back to some church hurt and some things 00:05:59.709 --> 00:06:02.410 that I saw everybody gets hurt a hundred percent 00:06:02.410 --> 00:06:05.970 where people are involved Here church there anywhere. 00:06:05.970 --> 00:06:07.850 You're gonna get hurt no matter where you go. 00:06:07.889 --> 00:06:09.910 Yeah where people are involved There's probably 00:06:09.910 --> 00:06:15.610 gonna be a level of offense or hurt So I guess 00:06:15.610 --> 00:06:22.220 to It just We've been going to this church what 00:06:22.220 --> 00:06:26.160 eight years almost nine years now and so for 00:06:26.160 --> 00:06:32.279 me My viewpoint has changed yeah, right like 00:06:32.279 --> 00:06:36.959 yeah you can Walk your relationship out by yourself 00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:39.519 if you want to but God didn't design you that 00:06:39.519 --> 00:06:42.920 way We need to be fed, right? And we need to 00:06:42.920 --> 00:06:46.759 be mentored and we need to be counseled, right? 00:06:46.779 --> 00:06:49.839 And it's the first time in my life that I've 00:06:49.839 --> 00:06:52.519 ever truly been willing to, right? And a lot 00:06:52.519 --> 00:06:55.980 of that comes from being in relationship with 00:06:55.980 --> 00:06:59.180 a church for as long as we have, right? The person 00:06:59.180 --> 00:07:02.759 that was willing to reach out about struggle 00:07:02.759 --> 00:07:07.699 is motivated by the person who's been in church 00:07:07.699 --> 00:07:12.000 for eight years and and learned That I can't 00:07:12.000 --> 00:07:14.420 do this by myself. You know what I mean? I'm 00:07:14.420 --> 00:07:18.040 not equipped. You know what I mean? I'm Started 00:07:18.040 --> 00:07:23.500 behind in a lot of ways. So Yeah, I can I'm smart 00:07:23.500 --> 00:07:28.339 enough to Read the Bible and be in relationship 00:07:28.339 --> 00:07:30.319 with Christ and you can have a relationship with 00:07:30.319 --> 00:07:33.160 him that way You can be fully have faith in him 00:07:33.160 --> 00:07:36.319 in that way But you're not gonna get everything 00:07:36.319 --> 00:07:39.339 you need You have to have people around you that 00:07:39.339 --> 00:07:41.639 are pouring into you, right? You know what I 00:07:41.639 --> 00:07:43.379 mean? You have to have that you have to have 00:07:43.379 --> 00:07:46.139 people pouring into you because if you don't 00:07:46.139 --> 00:07:49.120 then it's like You're not gonna get full. You're 00:07:49.120 --> 00:07:51.879 not gonna be able to you know pour into others 00:07:51.879 --> 00:07:54.899 So you gotta get poured into so you can pour 00:07:54.899 --> 00:07:57.819 into others too, right? You know, that's that's 00:07:57.819 --> 00:08:01.899 good. You know I'm saying I Think over time the 00:08:01.899 --> 00:08:04.120 thing about fighting the good fight right and 00:08:04.120 --> 00:08:07.519 fighting The battle never really truly ending 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:10.360 is like, you know, the the fight changes over 00:08:10.360 --> 00:08:13.500 time, right? Like when you first get in relationship, 00:08:13.500 --> 00:08:15.860 you know, you probably fight sin, right? So you're 00:08:15.860 --> 00:08:17.639 like you kind of fight the temptations and things 00:08:17.639 --> 00:08:20.699 like that. And then as you go, it becomes other 00:08:20.699 --> 00:08:22.660 things, right? Like maybe I don't struggle so 00:08:22.660 --> 00:08:26.259 much with that sin anymore. But now I got a new 00:08:26.259 --> 00:08:29.920 problem. Like my pride gets in way or or discouragement 00:08:29.920 --> 00:08:34.100 or like like where I'm at now. I'm facing. Scars 00:08:34.100 --> 00:08:35.840 that I've never really dealt with because I've 00:08:35.840 --> 00:08:37.620 always had someone else or something else to 00:08:37.620 --> 00:08:41.539 focus on right now I have to focus on me. It's 00:08:41.539 --> 00:08:43.399 a weird place to be in. You know what I'm saying? 00:08:43.399 --> 00:08:45.639 It's so like the fight changes it evolves it 00:08:45.639 --> 00:08:51.320 gets different over time and You know We have 00:08:51.320 --> 00:08:53.980 to decide that we want to be actively participating 00:08:53.980 --> 00:08:56.759 in this fight, right every single day. So our 00:08:56.759 --> 00:09:01.580 faith Our faith is not just something that's 00:09:01.580 --> 00:09:03.889 just there right You know what I mean? You actually 00:09:03.889 --> 00:09:05.889 have to live it out. You have to act it out. 00:09:05.970 --> 00:09:08.850 You have to walk through it. Does that make sense? 00:09:08.970 --> 00:09:14.669 Yes, yes. And I think that, you know, I think, 00:09:14.809 --> 00:09:16.409 again, going back to that conversation or that 00:09:16.409 --> 00:09:18.210 part of the conversation where it was like, you 00:09:18.210 --> 00:09:20.029 know, we kind of have this false expectation 00:09:20.029 --> 00:09:22.389 that we come into relationship with Christ and 00:09:22.389 --> 00:09:24.710 it's like, this is easy street. You know what 00:09:24.710 --> 00:09:29.830 I mean? I think it bears proving that we are 00:09:29.830 --> 00:09:33.070 meant to fight. Yeah. We are meant to be in a 00:09:33.070 --> 00:09:37.389 fight. Yeah. If we weren't, why would God design 00:09:37.389 --> 00:09:40.730 the full armor? Right? Absolutely. Amen. Yeah. 00:09:40.809 --> 00:09:43.149 So you got a helmet, you got a breastplate, you 00:09:43.149 --> 00:09:47.330 got a belt, you got feet, shoes, you got a shield, 00:09:47.330 --> 00:09:51.389 right? All those things are meant to defend you 00:09:51.389 --> 00:09:54.289 in a fight, right? Yeah. Right. And then there's 00:09:54.289 --> 00:09:57.549 the sword. There's the sword. Yeah. Right. You're 00:09:57.549 --> 00:10:02.879 meant to Use his word which is what the sword 00:10:02.879 --> 00:10:05.379 of the spirit is which is the word of God You're 00:10:05.379 --> 00:10:09.200 meant to use his word as a combat Assistant in 00:10:09.200 --> 00:10:11.539 the fight. So I guess the question is what are 00:10:11.539 --> 00:10:16.460 we fighting? the good fight Yeah, we're fighting 00:10:16.460 --> 00:10:18.179 the good fight, but what are we fighting? What's 00:10:18.179 --> 00:10:23.980 the thing that we're fighting? I Mean there's 00:10:23.980 --> 00:10:26.039 gonna be a lot of different things, you know, 00:10:26.399 --> 00:10:29.019 what are you fighting for, you know? I think 00:10:29.019 --> 00:10:33.860 the good fight is fighting for truth, right? 00:10:33.879 --> 00:10:38.840 And fighting for advancing his kingdom. And I 00:10:38.840 --> 00:10:40.419 think you're right, it actually looks different 00:10:40.419 --> 00:10:42.399 in different places. Yeah, I mean, everybody's 00:10:42.399 --> 00:10:49.940 in a different stage of life, seasons. So everybody 00:10:49.940 --> 00:10:53.399 could be dealing with certain things. Yeah, and 00:10:53.399 --> 00:10:56.799 one portion of your life... You know, like Jason's 00:10:56.799 --> 00:10:58.860 been on here talks very openly about his struggles 00:10:58.860 --> 00:11:00.919 with addiction Yeah, and then one phase of his 00:11:00.919 --> 00:11:05.320 life that was his fight. Yeah And then another 00:11:05.320 --> 00:11:07.200 phase of his life. It may it's something else 00:11:07.200 --> 00:11:08.639 and another phase of your life It's something 00:11:08.639 --> 00:11:10.539 else and that's the physical tangible thing that 00:11:10.539 --> 00:11:12.820 you're combating But the truth is none of those 00:11:12.820 --> 00:11:14.480 are what you're what we're fighting. Excellent. 00:11:14.500 --> 00:11:17.539 We're fighting Not against flesh and blood. Yes, 00:11:17.580 --> 00:11:20.179 but against ideals principalities. We're fighting 00:11:20.179 --> 00:11:24.740 the enemy the enemy Right and yeah I feel like 00:11:24.740 --> 00:11:27.500 this year, you know, I'm not going to say he's 00:11:27.500 --> 00:11:29.720 one because I'm telling you he is not winning, 00:11:30.120 --> 00:11:34.980 but he is done. He's he's he's trying to win. 00:11:35.860 --> 00:11:39.340 He's not winning. He is not. But he's just he's 00:11:39.340 --> 00:11:42.399 done a lot of damage this year for me to see 00:11:42.399 --> 00:11:45.559 in lots of not just my not me, but in lots of 00:11:45.559 --> 00:11:48.700 different people. And I want people to know that. 00:11:49.980 --> 00:11:53.509 Just got to be able to use God's word. Use God's 00:11:53.509 --> 00:11:56.750 Word to be able to fight the enemy. We have to 00:11:56.750 --> 00:12:00.009 use His Word. Get into your Bibles, guys, because 00:12:00.009 --> 00:12:04.149 we need to use it. Because the devil can put 00:12:04.149 --> 00:12:06.970 one word. He can just put just one word into 00:12:06.970 --> 00:12:11.289 your head and then he will make you believe that 00:12:11.289 --> 00:12:13.570 one word. That turns into a big old ball of yarn. 00:12:13.690 --> 00:12:17.149 Oh, yeah. It gets tangled up into all kinds of 00:12:17.149 --> 00:12:19.750 nastiness. The thing about the sword, the thing 00:12:19.750 --> 00:12:22.590 about the sword that is evidence to me, I think 00:12:22.590 --> 00:12:24.990 a lot of us as Christians get into this mode 00:12:24.990 --> 00:12:27.049 of thinking that we are meant to take the beating. 00:12:27.970 --> 00:12:29.590 Right? Yeah. You're actually supposed to fight 00:12:29.590 --> 00:12:32.909 back. Yes. Right. And now again, this is all 00:12:32.909 --> 00:12:35.230 metaphorical, right? Yeah. Look, if you don't 00:12:35.230 --> 00:12:38.870 know, we're fighting with words. Yes. Right. 00:12:39.190 --> 00:12:41.029 The words that are coming into our heads, the 00:12:41.029 --> 00:12:42.610 words that are coming out of our mouths. Right. 00:12:42.909 --> 00:12:45.950 And so that's why the sort of the spirit of God's 00:12:45.950 --> 00:12:49.309 word is so important. Right. Your Bible, it is 00:12:49.309 --> 00:12:53.600 important. And I think also, what does victory 00:12:53.600 --> 00:12:56.220 look like? I think we think that victory looks 00:12:56.220 --> 00:12:58.840 like advancement, like we're advancing, we're 00:12:58.840 --> 00:13:00.679 advancing, we're pushing forward, pushing the 00:13:00.679 --> 00:13:04.000 enemy back, right? So you think about a, you 00:13:04.000 --> 00:13:05.279 know, okay, so you're not, you don't like war 00:13:05.279 --> 00:13:07.679 movies, but you like medieval type of movies 00:13:07.679 --> 00:13:10.279 and stuff like that. And so imagine like Game 00:13:10.279 --> 00:13:12.139 of Thrones, right? You remember when Jon Snow 00:13:12.139 --> 00:13:14.519 goes out on the battlefield and all these dudes, 00:13:14.519 --> 00:13:16.659 he's out there by, he's, he's a man of, he's 00:13:16.659 --> 00:13:19.059 an army of one standing out there with this whole 00:13:19.059 --> 00:13:21.340 horde rushing at him. And then He doesn't realize 00:13:21.340 --> 00:13:23.940 that the people behind him are coming to fight 00:13:23.940 --> 00:13:27.519 with him, but you kind of, that's the image you 00:13:27.519 --> 00:13:31.100 get, right? And you feel like winning is pushing 00:13:31.100 --> 00:13:33.820 the enemy backward when really it's just standing 00:13:33.820 --> 00:13:36.600 firm. It is. If you really listen, look into 00:13:36.600 --> 00:13:38.740 God's word when he's talking about the full armor, 00:13:38.759 --> 00:13:42.340 he says, stand firm. Stand firm, not advance, 00:13:42.539 --> 00:13:44.879 not retreat. Firm, stay where you are. Yeah. 00:13:44.980 --> 00:13:47.059 It's just like, it's just like the, doesn't it 00:13:47.059 --> 00:13:51.379 mean when they went around the wall? They also 00:13:51.379 --> 00:13:54.059 was Jericho. Yeah, and he's turning firm around 00:13:54.059 --> 00:13:56.299 the wall and kept going and getting ready still, 00:13:56.299 --> 00:13:59.100 you know, that was firm They kept walking and 00:13:59.100 --> 00:14:01.899 walking finally, you know, that's a confidence, 00:14:02.120 --> 00:14:04.340 right? Yeah standing firm. Is it how do you get 00:14:04.340 --> 00:14:06.679 that? Where how do you get the ability to stand? 00:14:06.720 --> 00:14:09.580 Yeah, it's confidence It's knowing knowing that 00:14:09.580 --> 00:14:12.779 you're strong. Yeah on the word standing on the 00:14:12.779 --> 00:14:16.820 word Being there you're gonna see God's God play 00:14:16.820 --> 00:14:19.000 through it. You're going to see him in it. All 00:14:19.000 --> 00:14:21.759 the things he's going to play through, you know, 00:14:22.259 --> 00:14:25.100 and I think what we, what we start to recognize 00:14:25.100 --> 00:14:29.700 is that the enemy, he doesn't necessarily try 00:14:29.700 --> 00:14:32.019 to destroy you. He's not just here to destroy. 00:14:32.200 --> 00:14:35.360 He actually is trying to exhaust you, just wear 00:14:35.360 --> 00:14:38.100 you down. Right. So we keep like, if you, if 00:14:38.100 --> 00:14:40.580 you know anything about boxing or any kind of 00:14:40.580 --> 00:14:46.629 a combat sport, um, boxing, Mixed martial arts. 00:14:47.049 --> 00:14:50.889 There's a thing about body shots Stamina every 00:14:50.889 --> 00:14:53.490 time you eat one to the body. It takes your stamina 00:14:53.490 --> 00:14:56.789 down, right? Your engine loses a little fuel 00:14:56.789 --> 00:15:00.269 Yeah, getting punched the face is brutal. Yeah, 00:15:00.370 --> 00:15:04.649 those body shots Linger. Yeah, you know what? 00:15:04.730 --> 00:15:07.970 I mean it drains the tank and so The enemy is 00:15:07.970 --> 00:15:10.940 constantly throwing body shots And you're like, 00:15:10.940 --> 00:15:13.799 oh eight thousand eight thousand eight thousand, 00:15:14.059 --> 00:15:16.259 but you still feel like you're good until eventually 00:15:16.259 --> 00:15:18.500 you're not good Yeah, you know what I mean? And 00:15:18.500 --> 00:15:20.759 then all he's truly trying to do is to try to 00:15:20.759 --> 00:15:23.500 divert you So I'm gonna wear you down to where 00:15:23.500 --> 00:15:25.919 you no longer feel like getting into his word. 00:15:26.240 --> 00:15:28.860 You no longer feel like praying You no longer 00:15:28.860 --> 00:15:31.940 feel like serving you no longer feel like you 00:15:31.940 --> 00:15:34.840 know what I'm saying. Just he's a master at that 00:15:34.840 --> 00:15:37.899 Oh, yeah wearing you down, right? I'm wearing 00:15:37.899 --> 00:15:43.029 you down, baby You know, it's it's truly Where 00:15:43.029 --> 00:15:46.370 we have to yeah be equipping ourselves with the 00:15:46.370 --> 00:15:50.470 armor. Absolutely, right and You know, it takes 00:15:50.470 --> 00:15:52.889 heart it takes it takes that's what I think church 00:15:52.889 --> 00:15:55.049 is about though, right like we were talking about 00:15:55.049 --> 00:15:58.350 it That's what I think church is about and the 00:15:58.350 --> 00:16:00.889 reason you need to be there It's like you can 00:16:00.889 --> 00:16:03.269 find some good people in church, right and you 00:16:03.269 --> 00:16:05.610 find some bad people too Oh, yeah, but just like 00:16:05.610 --> 00:16:08.720 I said, you've got to find the good ones There's 00:16:08.720 --> 00:16:10.679 gonna be bad ones. I'm not gonna say every church 00:16:10.679 --> 00:16:12.700 every church is like that. I'm sorry That's just 00:16:12.700 --> 00:16:14.740 people and it's just people you're gonna find 00:16:14.740 --> 00:16:16.539 bad ones. You're gonna find good ones. Yeah, 00:16:16.720 --> 00:16:23.759 that's anywhere you go. Yeah, I think that How 00:16:23.759 --> 00:16:26.620 do you equip yourself Right. How do we equip 00:16:26.620 --> 00:16:29.399 ourselves with the armor? How do we equip ourselves 00:16:29.399 --> 00:16:32.879 with the sword of the spirit, right? By learning 00:16:32.879 --> 00:16:34.820 by being in his word learning what those things 00:16:34.820 --> 00:16:37.600 are learning how to activate them Can you do 00:16:37.600 --> 00:16:40.960 it on your own? Sure. But you're only coming 00:16:40.960 --> 00:16:44.399 from one perspective. Yeah. Right. And so look, 00:16:44.419 --> 00:16:47.059 we are supposed to help each other. Yeah. Right. 00:16:47.120 --> 00:16:50.840 It says it's not good for man to be alone. Right. 00:16:51.480 --> 00:16:54.360 God's Word says that very early in the beginning, 00:16:54.360 --> 00:16:57.799 you know, with Adam and Eve. And so we're meant 00:16:57.799 --> 00:17:00.299 to share life with people. We're meant to share 00:17:00.299 --> 00:17:04.559 life. And you can know God's Word and still not 00:17:04.559 --> 00:17:07.529 know it. Absolutely, you can get one scripture 00:17:07.529 --> 00:17:11.309 and mean one a scripture. I mean one this year 00:17:11.309 --> 00:17:12.849 and the next year You can read the same thing. 00:17:12.869 --> 00:17:15.710 I mean something else next year. I mean, it's 00:17:15.710 --> 00:17:18.710 all about that season that you're in, you know, 00:17:18.750 --> 00:17:24.130 yep I think we get into the thought that Peace 00:17:24.130 --> 00:17:26.369 being at peace means that we're not ever we're 00:17:26.369 --> 00:17:28.529 not fighting. Absolutely, and I don't think that's 00:17:28.529 --> 00:17:32.670 true I think Peace doesn't mean the absence of 00:17:32.670 --> 00:17:36.759 conflict, right? I think peace means Calm in 00:17:36.759 --> 00:17:40.799 the storm calm in the conflict confidence understanding 00:17:40.799 --> 00:17:44.059 believing in him and understanding That we come 00:17:44.059 --> 00:17:46.619 from a position of victory. We're not fighting 00:17:46.619 --> 00:17:49.859 for victory We can't we can't win because it's 00:17:49.859 --> 00:17:52.180 already won. Yeah, and he can't win because it's 00:17:52.180 --> 00:17:54.039 already won Yeah, you know what? I mean the victory 00:17:54.039 --> 00:17:56.980 already belongs to Jesus. It's already been done 00:17:56.980 --> 00:17:59.539 It's just like what would you say the M on Sunday? 00:17:59.779 --> 00:18:03.640 You know, it's just like we want to like What 00:18:03.640 --> 00:18:13.059 did he say about? Resting yeah And it's like, 00:18:13.240 --> 00:18:16.420 you know letting him you know do it for us, you 00:18:16.420 --> 00:18:19.240 know, he's got it he knows what we've you know 00:18:19.240 --> 00:18:22.420 it's all about Getting there and then just like 00:18:22.420 --> 00:18:24.740 he's that he knows what I mean. We can just just 00:18:24.740 --> 00:18:27.880 follow work We can just be like a leash. Yeah, 00:18:27.900 --> 00:18:30.980 just just put me on a leash. I'll just follow 00:18:30.980 --> 00:18:35.690 you One thing that that he said that I that resonates 00:18:35.690 --> 00:18:42.069 is that he didn't say um rest doesn't mean he 00:18:42.069 --> 00:18:44.849 said rest doesn't mean no action right doesn't 00:18:44.849 --> 00:18:46.869 mean you're not doing anything right right right 00:18:46.869 --> 00:18:50.730 doesn't mean laziness no no absolutely not i 00:18:50.730 --> 00:18:54.049 mean but but just it's just like just like following 00:18:54.049 --> 00:18:57.869 in his steps like you know here we go just just 00:18:57.869 --> 00:19:00.869 following his steps as in and then here it is 00:19:00.869 --> 00:19:03.089 resting you know you've ever heard the saying 00:19:03.089 --> 00:19:07.839 rest assured No, rest assured means you can bet 00:19:07.839 --> 00:19:11.900 on it Oh, right. Yeah, so like rest assured I'm 00:19:11.900 --> 00:19:14.380 gonna blah blah blah rest assured they're gonna 00:19:14.380 --> 00:19:16.920 blah blah blah, right rest assured Okay. Yeah, 00:19:16.960 --> 00:19:20.779 so being assured is like a confidence. So if 00:19:20.779 --> 00:19:22.779 you're what you're what we're talking about there 00:19:22.779 --> 00:19:26.960 is Being rest assured that God's got you. Yeah, 00:19:27.079 --> 00:19:31.319 right You can rest because you are assured that 00:19:31.319 --> 00:19:34.680 he's got you, right? You're sure that he loves 00:19:34.680 --> 00:19:37.500 you. You're sure that he cares. You're sure that 00:19:37.500 --> 00:19:39.619 he's more concerned about you than he is the 00:19:39.619 --> 00:19:41.480 birds, but the birds get provided for. Why are 00:19:41.480 --> 00:19:43.519 you so concerned? He's providing for you if you 00:19:43.519 --> 00:19:47.259 just let him. Yeah. Now that doesn't mean look, 00:19:47.279 --> 00:19:50.119 the birds build nests too. Yeah. They provide, 00:19:50.500 --> 00:19:53.920 God provided the material, right? This doesn't 00:19:53.920 --> 00:19:57.480 mean don't do anything. Right. It means have 00:19:57.480 --> 00:20:00.890 confidence, trust. Trust in the Lord. It says 00:20:00.890 --> 00:20:02.930 trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean 00:20:02.930 --> 00:20:05.509 not on your own understanding, right? In all 00:20:05.509 --> 00:20:08.730 your ways submit to him and he will make your 00:20:08.730 --> 00:20:11.509 paths straight. You can't do that if you're not 00:20:11.509 --> 00:20:14.410 at rest. Absolutely. Not at rest meaning sleeping 00:20:14.410 --> 00:20:17.490 rest or laying on your butt or not doing anything. 00:20:18.190 --> 00:20:20.990 Rested in your confident hope and your faith 00:20:20.990 --> 00:20:26.809 in him. Absolutely. What are you fighting right 00:20:26.809 --> 00:20:28.809 now? What do you feel like you're what's attacking 00:20:28.809 --> 00:20:34.970 you? Me Come on man, let's get it. Let's get 00:20:34.970 --> 00:20:39.990 let's get honest I've been honest just like my 00:20:39.990 --> 00:20:43.930 next surgery and You're we're back on that now, 00:20:44.069 --> 00:20:48.069 so just giving over my things for people to do 00:20:48.069 --> 00:20:55.160 those things. Oh, I just had a given Things over 00:20:55.160 --> 00:20:59.880 to people I have a problem with that and Understand 00:20:59.880 --> 00:21:03.720 it Submitting to that that that's hard for me. 00:21:03.720 --> 00:21:06.039 And then maybe it's something that you have to 00:21:06.039 --> 00:21:10.240 experience though Think about it though exactly 00:21:10.240 --> 00:21:11.640 you've never done. It's just like what I was 00:21:11.640 --> 00:21:15.440 talking about about Like receiving compliments, 00:21:15.900 --> 00:21:17.759 right? Yeah, it's a very uncomfortable thing 00:21:17.759 --> 00:21:21.400 for me. I don't like it But I like it. Yeah, 00:21:21.400 --> 00:21:24.200 I mean, of course everybody likes to be complimented 00:21:24.089 --> 00:21:25.789 but I'm very uncomfortable with it. I don't know 00:21:25.789 --> 00:21:27.890 how to act. I don't know how to receive it, right? 00:21:28.230 --> 00:21:31.109 And just taking the small step of saying thank 00:21:31.109 --> 00:21:35.730 you, I receive that. You know what I mean? It's 00:21:35.730 --> 00:21:38.829 awkward, right? But maybe that's just the season 00:21:38.829 --> 00:21:41.710 of life you're in. You have to understand. Maybe 00:21:41.710 --> 00:21:45.470 this is how God's trying to tell you, hey, I 00:21:45.470 --> 00:21:47.549 know you love me, but you don't know how to submit 00:21:47.549 --> 00:21:50.049 to me. You don't know how to rest. You don't 00:21:50.049 --> 00:21:52.650 know how to quit. You don't know how to let me... 00:21:52.599 --> 00:21:54.980 take care of you. So I'm gonna do something to 00:21:54.980 --> 00:21:59.220 you where you got no choice. So yeah, that's 00:21:59.220 --> 00:22:01.519 that's probably what mine is. And then another 00:22:01.519 --> 00:22:10.319 one is to just taking the time for myself and 00:22:10.319 --> 00:22:14.299 learning how to say what how I feel sometimes 00:22:14.299 --> 00:22:16.599 sometimes I don't tell people I feel sometimes 00:22:16.599 --> 00:22:20.799 I just sometimes all the time. Come on, Terry. 00:22:21.140 --> 00:22:23.880 All the time. Oh, you, you already know. So I 00:22:23.880 --> 00:22:25.440 don't know what I'm telling you. You just don't. 00:22:25.640 --> 00:22:26.980 Well, OK, but the thing is, I don't have a book 00:22:26.980 --> 00:22:31.160 to you. You know what I mean? Just because I 00:22:31.160 --> 00:22:33.299 know doesn't mean I know. Right. I know that 00:22:33.299 --> 00:22:36.059 there's something, but I don't understand. Yeah. 00:22:36.299 --> 00:22:39.140 Right. And I can't I tell you, I get frustrated 00:22:39.140 --> 00:22:40.839 all the time when I'm like, look, I'm just trying 00:22:40.839 --> 00:22:42.799 to understand and you can't tell me anything. 00:22:42.880 --> 00:22:45.079 You won't tell me anything. Right. I don't. I'm 00:22:45.079 --> 00:22:48.509 just trying to understand. Right. What are we 00:22:48.509 --> 00:22:50.829 talking about a minute ago James says seek like 00:22:50.829 --> 00:22:53.650 yeah No, and it's not because I said I'm like 00:22:53.650 --> 00:22:56.470 I need to keep reading that I'm like keep speaking 00:22:56.470 --> 00:22:59.170 it over myself You know those things you know 00:22:59.170 --> 00:23:04.089 must be quick to listen Okay, so the thing is 00:23:04.089 --> 00:23:06.170 why be quick to listen You don't be quick to 00:23:06.170 --> 00:23:08.789 listen just so you can hear right you be quick 00:23:08.789 --> 00:23:11.769 to listen so you can understand right so you 00:23:11.769 --> 00:23:15.960 can calculate how to respond, right? And you 00:23:15.960 --> 00:23:20.160 don't give me that benefit. I'm not saying not 00:23:20.160 --> 00:23:23.200 ever, but a lot of the time, you don't give me 00:23:23.200 --> 00:23:27.039 that benefit or that opportunity. So it causes 00:23:27.039 --> 00:23:30.019 a little bit more tension for really no reason. 00:23:30.539 --> 00:23:32.640 You know what I mean? Because I am that person. 00:23:33.579 --> 00:23:37.019 I feel the tension in the room. I read it. It's 00:23:37.019 --> 00:23:39.200 like butter. I could put it on my bread and eat 00:23:39.200 --> 00:23:43.420 it. Did I say it like that? It's just like your 00:23:43.420 --> 00:23:47.240 face, and I'm like, ooh. I didn't mean it like 00:23:47.240 --> 00:23:51.240 that. Sorry. My face? My face. Sometimes I'm 00:23:51.240 --> 00:23:55.019 like, ooh. I just need that one little person 00:23:55.019 --> 00:23:58.900 on my shoulder to fix your face. Oh. If I start 00:23:58.900 --> 00:24:02.859 smiling, it's going to be more awkward. I'm a 00:24:02.859 --> 00:24:06.900 smiler, though, so you know. But yeah. But sometimes 00:24:06.900 --> 00:24:08.960 my words come out, and I'm just like, oh, I didn't 00:24:08.960 --> 00:24:10.940 mean it like that. But it came out that way. 00:24:11.019 --> 00:24:15.480 So, you identify the thing, right, right now 00:24:15.480 --> 00:24:17.460 that you're fighting, so you're having a problem 00:24:17.460 --> 00:24:24.539 with submission, so how do you fight? Learning 00:24:24.539 --> 00:24:29.660 to submit, just trusting that someone's gonna 00:24:29.660 --> 00:24:36.299 do it. You were gonna say do it right You were 00:24:36.299 --> 00:24:38.180 gonna say do it right that's exactly what you 00:24:38.180 --> 00:24:40.759 were gonna say, isn't it? Yes, it is. Oh, I got 00:24:40.759 --> 00:24:46.220 her got her on film on Film on camera digital 00:24:46.220 --> 00:24:51.779 film Caught you do it my way. Uh -huh. I know 00:24:51.779 --> 00:24:53.440 it's not gonna get done the right way. I know 00:24:53.440 --> 00:25:00.079 but What's the right way your way or is it y 00:25:00.079 --> 00:25:04.720 'all way I can't say that because it's, hey, 00:25:04.940 --> 00:25:08.480 it's like, I can't say it because, hey, it's 00:25:08.480 --> 00:25:13.000 getting done. What matters is done, you know? 00:25:13.259 --> 00:25:15.660 Like, that didn't, okay, it's done. It doesn't 00:25:15.660 --> 00:25:17.920 matter. I'm gonna break this down for you. I'm 00:25:17.920 --> 00:25:21.119 gonna be real clear with you. She is not worried 00:25:21.119 --> 00:25:23.000 about anybody else not doing it right. She's 00:25:23.000 --> 00:25:26.259 worried about me not doing it right. That's who 00:25:26.259 --> 00:25:30.160 she's talking about. It's nobody but me. Just 00:25:30.160 --> 00:25:31.680 like cameras had the other day. He goes now. 00:25:31.680 --> 00:25:34.440 I know you weed eater I said she because what's 00:25:34.440 --> 00:25:39.160 the she has a cuz she's temperamental She likes 00:25:39.160 --> 00:25:42.900 it a certain way he goes I know and she is she's 00:25:42.900 --> 00:25:45.319 she's just you know, you got to keep a trigger 00:25:45.319 --> 00:25:49.039 I Just I don't know what it is. It's just like, 00:25:49.039 --> 00:25:50.960 you know, he used her the other day and he was 00:25:50.960 --> 00:25:53.599 like, yep I got her now I got and I know how 00:25:53.599 --> 00:25:58.400 to do it now. Look, I understand But so the issue 00:25:58.400 --> 00:26:01.180 that I have with how you feel about that is what 00:26:01.180 --> 00:26:03.640 have I ever done to make you feel like I can't 00:26:03.640 --> 00:26:07.640 or won't, you know what I mean? Look, okay, just 00:26:07.640 --> 00:26:09.259 to kind of give a little bit of a backstory, 00:26:09.359 --> 00:26:12.339 when we very first started doing this, where 00:26:12.339 --> 00:26:15.619 we were mowing at Jaylee Milligan, when we very 00:26:15.619 --> 00:26:21.440 first started doing that, you didn't like the 00:26:21.440 --> 00:26:24.769 way I mowed, but you never said anything. Until 00:26:24.769 --> 00:26:26.910 until eventually you did and it's like, okay, 00:26:27.109 --> 00:26:31.470 hold on This is a business Technically right 00:26:31.470 --> 00:26:34.910 now. I'm your employee. I can't live up to an 00:26:34.910 --> 00:26:38.190 expectation that you don't set, right? Right. 00:26:38.289 --> 00:26:41.029 So if you refuse to set the expectations and 00:26:41.029 --> 00:26:43.230 you can't be upset that I didn't live up to it 00:26:43.230 --> 00:26:46.069 You're right. You're so right. That's why I was 00:26:46.069 --> 00:26:48.470 like it's too big for me to do is I'm like she 00:26:48.470 --> 00:26:52.049 used to She complained about my lines Like I 00:26:52.049 --> 00:26:54.519 didn't know straight But you never said that 00:26:54.519 --> 00:26:57.240 you never said who doesn't do straight lines 00:26:57.240 --> 00:27:01.539 terry. I Just I agree. I agree with you. I totally 00:27:01.539 --> 00:27:03.980 understand. I know I didn't mow my yard growing 00:27:03.980 --> 00:27:08.140 up I know I understand that you had to pick weeds 00:27:08.140 --> 00:27:11.359 I had yeah, we manually mowed it with our fingers 00:27:11.359 --> 00:27:13.819 and we we picked weeds too But I mean that was 00:27:13.819 --> 00:27:15.779 we enjoyed doing that so that was something that 00:27:15.779 --> 00:27:18.720 we enjoyed that was punishment To us. It was 00:27:18.720 --> 00:27:21.619 not punishment. It was given to me as a punishment. 00:27:21.640 --> 00:27:24.730 It wasn't Hey, we're out. Here's a family picking 00:27:24.730 --> 00:27:27.730 weeds No, it's take your ass out there by yourself 00:27:27.730 --> 00:27:30.690 in the dead heat of summer with no one around 00:27:30.690 --> 00:27:33.150 you by yourself and you pick those giant tree 00:27:33.150 --> 00:27:37.930 stalk weeds that poke and Give you blisters and 00:27:37.930 --> 00:27:42.609 cut you and they're stickers and yeah That what 00:27:42.609 --> 00:27:45.849 it was given to me as a punishment it wasn't 00:27:45.920 --> 00:27:47.500 My mom would have a little butter knife and she'd 00:27:47.500 --> 00:27:49.380 just go out. But see, that's an activity at that 00:27:49.380 --> 00:27:51.460 point. You're doing it together. There wasn't 00:27:51.460 --> 00:27:55.640 nobody out there with me. I was by myself. Get 00:27:55.640 --> 00:27:57.960 your ass out there and pick those weeds. I get 00:27:57.960 --> 00:28:01.079 it. I totally understand that. So yeah, punishment, 00:28:01.440 --> 00:28:04.460 not a reward. We would fight over the mower. 00:28:04.700 --> 00:28:06.559 Me and Kevin would fight over the mower in the 00:28:06.559 --> 00:28:08.519 yard. I don't even remember us owning a lawn 00:28:08.519 --> 00:28:11.619 mower. Sure we did, but I don't remember. Me 00:28:11.619 --> 00:28:14.309 and Kevin would fight over the mower. But me, 00:28:14.410 --> 00:28:17.369 like I said, I'm an edge person. Edging is easy. 00:28:17.630 --> 00:28:20.630 So easy. It's the weed eating that's bad because 00:28:20.630 --> 00:28:23.470 you have to catch just the top layer. You can't 00:28:23.470 --> 00:28:29.910 just go. OK, it's just. I know. I understand. 00:28:30.049 --> 00:28:32.730 Like, have I ever done this? No, but then it's 00:28:32.730 --> 00:28:34.869 like you can't get it and then you take you spend 00:28:34.869 --> 00:28:37.250 more time like restringing it and then pulling 00:28:37.250 --> 00:28:41.329 and restringing. And it's just. Yeah, it's OK. 00:28:41.720 --> 00:28:45.900 What are you scared of? I don't know. Time because 00:28:45.900 --> 00:28:49.740 you're not doing it. I know. Who cares? It's 00:28:49.740 --> 00:28:53.779 your time. It's my time. I know. I know. I know. 00:28:53.900 --> 00:28:55.880 Wow. She just hurt my feelings in front of seven 00:28:55.880 --> 00:29:00.819 billion people. I know. I'm so sorry. I know. 00:29:00.819 --> 00:29:03.299 I went to a conference one year and he scalped 00:29:03.299 --> 00:29:08.640 my yard on purpose, on purpose. It was terrible. 00:29:09.500 --> 00:29:12.400 It was time. Look how much better it looks ever 00:29:12.400 --> 00:29:18.039 since then. No. Yes. That's the yard. That has 00:29:18.039 --> 00:29:19.880 nothing to do with me scalping it. We don't scalp 00:29:19.880 --> 00:29:24.559 yards no more. That's old school. It works. Well, 00:29:24.660 --> 00:29:27.000 not all the time. We don't scalp yards no more. 00:29:27.900 --> 00:29:33.839 We just feed it, water it, feed me. Okay. Because 00:29:33.839 --> 00:29:37.980 you're the expert. That's the point. We don't 00:29:37.980 --> 00:29:41.500 scalp yarns no more. This looks terrible. It 00:29:41.500 --> 00:29:44.359 was winter time. It was dormant. It wasn't growing. 00:29:46.180 --> 00:29:50.299 That's what you're supposed to do. Oh, we don't 00:29:50.299 --> 00:29:55.640 do that. It comes back better next year. That's 00:29:55.640 --> 00:30:00.029 the point. No, we're not. We're staying right 00:30:00.029 --> 00:30:03.210 here until we solve this issue. We're fighting 00:30:03.210 --> 00:30:06.470 the good fight right now. We're not, we're just 00:30:06.470 --> 00:30:10.650 talking about mowing grass. Mowing grass can 00:30:10.650 --> 00:30:12.829 be a metaphor for other things too though. If 00:30:12.829 --> 00:30:15.529 you think about it, this is exactly what we're 00:30:15.529 --> 00:30:18.390 talking about, right? Like in order for me to, 00:30:18.410 --> 00:30:20.430 I have to be able to understand, but you won't 00:30:20.430 --> 00:30:22.490 even give me a reason why other than we just 00:30:22.490 --> 00:30:25.460 don't do that. That's not an answer. You just 00:30:25.460 --> 00:30:27.220 don't do that. It's just, it's not good for the 00:30:27.220 --> 00:30:29.279 grass. Yes, it is good for the grass. People 00:30:29.279 --> 00:30:32.839 have been doing it forever and it works. So why? 00:30:33.079 --> 00:30:35.339 Everybody else is not me. Okay. But you won't 00:30:35.339 --> 00:30:39.059 say why not you? Because I don't do that. Because 00:30:39.059 --> 00:30:41.740 you just think it's wrong. No, I don't like the 00:30:41.740 --> 00:30:45.519 way it looks. When you look at it, it just, it's 00:30:45.519 --> 00:30:47.259 like, it's like your babies and you cut their 00:30:47.259 --> 00:30:49.680 hair when they have lights. No, you just don't 00:30:49.680 --> 00:30:53.359 do that. You have to. We had boys. I didn't. 00:30:53.460 --> 00:30:58.529 So you just don't do that. You do do that. If 00:30:58.529 --> 00:31:01.329 you got, hey, desperate times call for desperate 00:31:01.329 --> 00:31:02.769 measures when it comes to that. That's okay. 00:31:03.230 --> 00:31:06.130 My kids have lot. They told me lice. They said 00:31:06.130 --> 00:31:11.390 use mayonnaise. No, it works. I don't care. I 00:31:11.390 --> 00:31:16.130 can do it. She said I'll shave their head. No, 00:31:16.190 --> 00:31:22.529 they got their hair picked out once. Anyway, 00:31:22.829 --> 00:31:26.019 I'm just saying. This is what we're talking about, 00:31:26.240 --> 00:31:28.319 right? Like, this is a fight, you submitting. 00:31:28.720 --> 00:31:31.019 But the reason you don't wanna submit is because 00:31:31.019 --> 00:31:32.579 you're worried that it's not gonna look like 00:31:32.579 --> 00:31:36.119 you think it should look, right? But it's kinda 00:31:36.119 --> 00:31:38.359 like what we were talking about earlier, just 00:31:38.359 --> 00:31:40.359 because you don't like it doesn't mean it's not 00:31:40.359 --> 00:31:44.500 true, right? Just because, you know what I mean? 00:31:44.619 --> 00:31:48.180 Just because you disagree doesn't make it a bad 00:31:48.180 --> 00:31:51.539 point. Just because you're offended doesn't mean 00:31:51.539 --> 00:31:54.339 still that it's not true. You know what I mean? 00:31:54.339 --> 00:31:56.980 So like it's just a flawed way of thinking is 00:31:56.980 --> 00:32:01.559 all I'm saying if you if you Don't want me to 00:32:01.559 --> 00:32:05.880 do something You have to express it Right. You 00:32:05.880 --> 00:32:09.140 can't just assume I know because I don't I know 00:32:09.140 --> 00:32:12.619 you very well But there's a lot of things you 00:32:12.619 --> 00:32:15.220 don't tell me until after the fact and then you're 00:32:15.220 --> 00:32:17.839 pissed at me Right, and I have to pay punishment 00:32:17.839 --> 00:32:21.519 like what happened over the weekend Right. What 00:32:21.519 --> 00:32:25.109 happened? literally I was trying to not be in 00:32:25.109 --> 00:32:26.950 conflict with you and I still ended up being 00:32:26.950 --> 00:32:30.089 in conflict with you clearly yes right I was 00:32:30.089 --> 00:32:32.349 just trying to tell you hey look I I can't explain 00:32:32.349 --> 00:32:34.289 it to you so like just drop it there's nothing 00:32:34.289 --> 00:32:38.849 to talk about like I couldn't explain it to you 00:32:38.849 --> 00:32:40.710 I said that I said I can't explain it to you 00:32:40.710 --> 00:32:43.450 I'll have to show you but I can't right now so 00:32:43.450 --> 00:32:46.410 just drop it right and then you took that to 00:32:46.410 --> 00:32:55.460 be I was being mean and I was like no The attack 00:32:55.460 --> 00:33:02.279 on relationships No It's just I'm just saying 00:33:02.279 --> 00:33:07.019 right like It can be misunderstood it can right 00:33:07.019 --> 00:33:11.799 and and We don't really fight all that much no, 00:33:11.799 --> 00:33:14.039 we talk on here like we fight all the time we 00:33:14.039 --> 00:33:17.940 really don't they don't But in order for to us 00:33:17.940 --> 00:33:20.960 to avoid some of the conflicts that we have we 00:33:20.960 --> 00:33:24.519 have to be able to communicate I Have no problem 00:33:24.519 --> 00:33:26.799 telling you how I feel. I have no problem telling 00:33:26.799 --> 00:33:31.500 you when you hurt me. Oh, I know None. I know 00:33:31.500 --> 00:33:35.759 I don't know why you do though. I don't know 00:33:38.259 --> 00:33:40.700 I just want to eat it. I guess I don't know sometimes. 00:33:40.700 --> 00:33:43.960 I will tell you how feel you it's my problem 00:33:43.960 --> 00:33:46.359 is I just don't want to go into conversation 00:33:46.359 --> 00:33:54.720 sometimes I just don't know. I'm like I don't 00:33:54.720 --> 00:33:59.700 know why I'm just Sometimes I don't yeah, well, 00:33:59.700 --> 00:34:02.140 I understand. I understand completely. I think 00:34:02.140 --> 00:34:05.920 that that's all of us But you know, we got to 00:34:05.920 --> 00:34:08.860 work through it. Yeah We can't just sit there 00:34:08.860 --> 00:34:11.019 and eat it and pretend like it's not a problem. 00:34:11.019 --> 00:34:13.320 Yeah, because then it festers and then it festers 00:34:13.320 --> 00:34:16.699 and that's not worth I I agree with you. I totally 00:34:16.699 --> 00:34:18.539 understand that that's how we end up in those 00:34:18.539 --> 00:34:20.739 situations. You know what I mean? And so because 00:34:20.739 --> 00:34:22.539 then we bring this back up and then we bring 00:34:22.539 --> 00:34:25.320 how about this one and how about this one? And 00:34:25.320 --> 00:34:27.860 I agree. Yeah, keeping our seats is a bad deuce. 00:34:27.860 --> 00:34:30.719 I know it's a bad idea. It really is. And you 00:34:30.719 --> 00:34:34.570 know, I said we all do it on some level. Yeah, 00:34:34.590 --> 00:34:36.530 we do. But just because you remember it doesn't 00:34:36.530 --> 00:34:39.889 mean you have to mention it. You know what I 00:34:39.889 --> 00:34:43.230 mean? Like I totally understand because you can 00:34:43.230 --> 00:34:45.010 only go off your past experience, right? We've 00:34:45.010 --> 00:34:49.429 talked about that before. Like so you come into 00:34:49.429 --> 00:34:51.329 new relationships with your old relationships 00:34:51.329 --> 00:34:54.090 in mind, right? That's why we struggle a lot 00:34:54.090 --> 00:34:57.909 with in the beginning with your past relationships 00:34:57.909 --> 00:35:00.010 sneaking into our current one. And I haven't 00:35:00.010 --> 00:35:02.469 even done all those things. But it's like you're 00:35:02.469 --> 00:35:05.840 kind of Projecting them on to you on to me and 00:35:05.840 --> 00:35:07.980 I'm projecting them on to you because of what 00:35:07.980 --> 00:35:10.380 we have experienced right now You can only go 00:35:10.380 --> 00:35:13.579 off of what you know, right? And so it doesn't 00:35:13.579 --> 00:35:16.079 that's not okay. That's why we have to communicate 00:35:16.079 --> 00:35:18.019 right, right? That's why we have to work through 00:35:18.019 --> 00:35:20.420 these things and be like, okay. Hey, you know 00:35:20.420 --> 00:35:24.400 what? Here's the thing. I didn't even know it 00:35:24.400 --> 00:35:26.980 bothered me until you did that or until you said 00:35:26.980 --> 00:35:31.530 that and it bothers me now and You know what 00:35:31.530 --> 00:35:33.449 I'm saying? Like, and you can't even identify 00:35:33.449 --> 00:35:36.449 a thing. There's a hundred and one of them. Yeah. 00:35:36.750 --> 00:35:40.130 You know what I'm saying? Yeah. So like I've 00:35:40.130 --> 00:35:42.250 said a couple of times, like why am I currently 00:35:42.250 --> 00:35:44.349 in the position I'm in? It's because I'm not 00:35:44.349 --> 00:35:46.670 focusing on this. Like back when I back when 00:35:46.670 --> 00:35:49.230 I was dealing with all the things, all the traumatic 00:35:49.230 --> 00:35:51.769 things, I just had the next traumatic thing. 00:35:51.849 --> 00:35:53.730 Yeah. Well, now I don't have any of that. And 00:35:53.730 --> 00:35:56.809 so it's like, oh, now all these things are still 00:35:56.809 --> 00:35:59.659 here. I thought we were done with these. You 00:35:59.659 --> 00:36:02.940 know what I mean? That bag of skeletons, they're 00:36:02.940 --> 00:36:05.880 still here. I guess I tied them to my ankle and 00:36:05.880 --> 00:36:07.239 carried them with me everywhere I went and I 00:36:07.239 --> 00:36:12.219 didn't know it. So the fight looks different 00:36:12.219 --> 00:36:14.420 for everybody and I think that right now my fight 00:36:14.420 --> 00:36:22.340 is learning how to... I think what got me where 00:36:22.340 --> 00:36:27.590 I'm at or where I was, was overextending. Right. 00:36:27.590 --> 00:36:29.710 It's like what pastor Ritchie was talking about 00:36:29.710 --> 00:36:31.510 about burning at both ends burning the candle 00:36:31.510 --> 00:36:34.809 at both ends I over committed and I overextended 00:36:34.809 --> 00:36:39.710 myself To the point that it was unhealthy for 00:36:39.710 --> 00:36:42.389 me, right? Yeah, I did it and I did it for a 00:36:42.389 --> 00:36:46.909 long time and so Having done some of the adjustments 00:36:46.909 --> 00:36:50.409 we have done and stepping back a little bit I'm 00:36:50.409 --> 00:36:53.110 able to work on myself work on my thinking and 00:36:53.110 --> 00:36:55.510 things like that and it seems to be working from 00:36:55.510 --> 00:36:58.860 what I can see But I'm probably not the best 00:36:58.860 --> 00:37:01.260 judge. Right. I feel like you're doing better. 00:37:01.440 --> 00:37:04.659 I really do. I mean, I think you feel I feel 00:37:04.659 --> 00:37:06.320 like you're getting something out every time 00:37:06.320 --> 00:37:08.559 you come out of counseling. I really do. I feel 00:37:08.559 --> 00:37:13.039 like you you do work on everything every time. 00:37:13.300 --> 00:37:16.400 Does it work every time in every situation? No. 00:37:16.900 --> 00:37:20.539 But I feel like you do it on those occasions. 00:37:20.699 --> 00:37:25.070 You know, I guess being reminded that. Fighting 00:37:25.070 --> 00:37:27.090 is a full -time job. It is a full -time job. 00:37:27.090 --> 00:37:29.389 Not gonna lie to you. We never get to get out 00:37:29.389 --> 00:37:31.869 of the fight. There's never actually a bell. 00:37:32.829 --> 00:37:37.110 Yeah. Ding, ding. That bell rang when you accepted 00:37:37.110 --> 00:37:39.170 Christ, and it ain't gonna ring again until he 00:37:39.170 --> 00:37:41.670 comes back. Absolutely. Right. And now we'll 00:37:41.670 --> 00:37:46.989 be ready. Yeah, so... I guess everything that 00:37:46.989 --> 00:37:49.230 we've kind of encompassed, we got a little bit 00:37:49.230 --> 00:37:52.389 into our personal lives, which, you know, that's 00:37:52.389 --> 00:37:55.199 bound to happen. when you get into this forum 00:37:55.199 --> 00:37:57.960 fights a fight. I mean, it's this fight that 00:37:57.960 --> 00:38:00.039 fight. Okay, so yeah, and you're right. It could 00:38:00.039 --> 00:38:01.719 look different in different points, right? It 00:38:01.719 --> 00:38:03.139 looks different at different to different with 00:38:03.139 --> 00:38:07.679 different people, right? And so who are the who 00:38:07.679 --> 00:38:10.480 are the people that are going to have the like 00:38:10.480 --> 00:38:12.179 you're going to end up fighting with the most 00:38:12.179 --> 00:38:14.320 the people you're closest to? Yeah, absolutely. 00:38:14.420 --> 00:38:16.780 That you spend the most time around? Yeah, which 00:38:16.780 --> 00:38:21.179 there's only one. As you know, I don't spend 00:38:21.179 --> 00:38:24.119 time with a lot of other people right, but I'm 00:38:24.119 --> 00:38:26.500 in a weird place right now like trying to figure 00:38:26.500 --> 00:38:31.239 out how to reacclimate myself with new knowledge 00:38:31.239 --> 00:38:36.199 and Come to an understanding of where my place 00:38:36.199 --> 00:38:39.719 is and what I Feel like God is actually asking 00:38:39.719 --> 00:38:43.679 me to do Yeah, I think I got into the ministries 00:38:43.679 --> 00:38:45.840 that I was involved in because I kind of felt 00:38:45.840 --> 00:38:49.300 pressured in a way Not with kids because that 00:38:49.300 --> 00:38:51.199 was what something I've always felt called to 00:38:51.199 --> 00:38:55.840 do right But I felt like my role to change based 00:38:55.840 --> 00:38:59.159 on pressure, right? And I felt like I honestly 00:38:59.159 --> 00:39:02.139 felt like the the altar ministry while it was 00:39:02.139 --> 00:39:04.079 helpful to me again I want you to understand 00:39:04.079 --> 00:39:06.820 like yeah, it was beneficial to me. It has been 00:39:06.820 --> 00:39:08.519 beneficial to me. It's helped my prayer life 00:39:08.519 --> 00:39:10.539 It's helped me be more bold in my prayer life 00:39:10.539 --> 00:39:12.659 and all that kind of stuff. So please don't understand 00:39:12.659 --> 00:39:16.789 but I also felt pressured to do it, right? Does 00:39:16.789 --> 00:39:20.329 that make sense? And so this is a lot of what 00:39:20.329 --> 00:39:22.349 people have a problem with with church. This 00:39:22.349 --> 00:39:24.309 is why they don't like church because they feel 00:39:24.309 --> 00:39:26.489 like they're pressuring you into something. The 00:39:26.489 --> 00:39:31.329 reality is they're not, but they need you. You 00:39:31.329 --> 00:39:33.489 know what I mean? That's the truth of it. They're 00:39:33.489 --> 00:39:36.170 not trying to pressure you into anything, but 00:39:36.170 --> 00:39:39.070 they desperately need your help. They can't do 00:39:39.070 --> 00:39:42.780 it without volunteers. It's not possible. No 00:39:42.780 --> 00:39:46.599 church other than the tiny ones Can get by without 00:39:46.599 --> 00:39:48.619 volunteers, right? You know what i'm saying? 00:39:48.619 --> 00:39:51.639 They just can't And no church is going to survive 00:39:51.639 --> 00:39:54.280 is meant to survive without the support of the 00:39:54.280 --> 00:39:56.599 people in it, right? It's not meant it's designed 00:39:56.599 --> 00:40:00.559 that way because It's not that how else do they 00:40:00.559 --> 00:40:03.900 make how else do you? Create revenue true to 00:40:03.900 --> 00:40:08.000 grow the ministry, right? volunteers, I mean 00:40:08.000 --> 00:40:11.340 And donation and donations. Yeah, right. I mean 00:40:11.340 --> 00:40:14.400 people Guess pastor Richie could write books 00:40:14.400 --> 00:40:17.179 and that could be a part another part revenue 00:40:17.179 --> 00:40:20.960 stream Yeah, you can do all those things but 00:40:20.960 --> 00:40:23.880 that's there's no guarantee in that. So how do 00:40:23.880 --> 00:40:27.179 you keep the house of God open? Yeah, you know, 00:40:27.260 --> 00:40:29.760 I mean cuz electricity ain't free boys and girls 00:40:29.760 --> 00:40:33.579 Even for the church the building being free taxes 00:40:33.579 --> 00:40:36.840 I mean the the land ain't free the building ain't 00:40:36.840 --> 00:40:39.260 free the plumbing ain't free the electricity 00:40:39.260 --> 00:40:43.949 ain't free You know what I'm saying? There's 00:40:43.949 --> 00:40:48.429 got to be money involved. It has to. There's 00:40:48.429 --> 00:40:52.469 no two ways about it, right? It's true. This 00:40:52.469 --> 00:40:54.630 ministry being a different because this isn't 00:40:54.630 --> 00:40:56.789 just a ministry, this is a business. We're establishing 00:40:56.789 --> 00:40:59.809 it as a business, right? We're not a church. 00:40:59.989 --> 00:41:02.269 We're not trying to replace church. We want to 00:41:02.269 --> 00:41:04.670 supplement church. We want to be a community. 00:41:05.409 --> 00:41:08.469 Right a community a small group right that we 00:41:08.469 --> 00:41:10.309 can share our story you want to spread the living 00:41:10.309 --> 00:41:12.170 hope of Jesus that's it and we want to share 00:41:12.170 --> 00:41:14.730 stories and talk about our own experience each 00:41:14.730 --> 00:41:19.150 other's experiences and Each other's understandings 00:41:19.150 --> 00:41:21.329 my understanding is different than yours. Yeah, 00:41:21.329 --> 00:41:24.170 and we're gonna get we're gonna get Pros and 00:41:24.170 --> 00:41:27.530 cons. Oh, yeah, so we might get you know more. 00:41:27.530 --> 00:41:29.789 I mean we're gonna get someone criticizing us, 00:41:29.789 --> 00:41:32.099 but We're gonna take it, we're gonna take it 00:41:32.099 --> 00:41:33.880 on the chin. That happens all the time. You know, 00:41:33.880 --> 00:41:36.260 and it's okay. That happens already. I ain't 00:41:36.260 --> 00:41:40.559 worried about that. So. What do you have to add 00:41:40.559 --> 00:41:43.659 to the fight? Okay, so I put on here on my little. 00:41:44.420 --> 00:41:49.219 On your notes. My bullet points. You have to 00:41:49.219 --> 00:41:56.139 let go of parts of your life that you can't fix. 00:41:56.789 --> 00:41:59.170 Which is the things you can't control you can't 00:41:59.170 --> 00:42:01.909 control you know like I said I mean we we consider 00:42:01.909 --> 00:42:04.650 to say all day long that we can You can only 00:42:04.650 --> 00:42:06.309 can control what you can control. We say it all 00:42:06.309 --> 00:42:09.190 the time control what you control parts of your 00:42:09.190 --> 00:42:13.869 life Maybe good. They may be bad, but you can 00:42:13.869 --> 00:42:17.530 only fix What you're willing to control you can 00:42:17.530 --> 00:42:21.170 only fix you exactly you know I'm saying can't 00:42:21.170 --> 00:42:24.559 fix others. You can't nothing. It's you It's 00:42:24.559 --> 00:42:27.340 all about you. You can only give so much of yourself 00:42:27.340 --> 00:42:30.719 to so many people. You know what I'm saying? 00:42:31.420 --> 00:42:34.579 Yeah. It only if they're willing to listen. You 00:42:34.579 --> 00:42:36.000 know, at the end of the day, you still can't 00:42:36.000 --> 00:42:38.440 control them. No, all you do is control what 00:42:38.440 --> 00:42:40.519 you give them. Yeah. And if they take what you 00:42:40.519 --> 00:42:43.079 get, if they take what you want, they're not 00:42:43.079 --> 00:42:44.900 going to take. They're not going to see something. 00:42:45.059 --> 00:42:46.340 Most people aren't going to take what you say 00:42:46.340 --> 00:42:49.480 anyway. No, not really. I mean, in the grand 00:42:49.480 --> 00:42:52.360 scheme of things, most people won't listen. They 00:42:52.360 --> 00:42:55.280 do exactly what we talked about earlier. They 00:42:55.280 --> 00:43:00.039 listen to hear, not to listen. So I heard what 00:43:00.039 --> 00:43:02.280 you said, and I can repeat what you said, but 00:43:02.280 --> 00:43:05.360 I'm not listening. I know that's a very strange 00:43:05.360 --> 00:43:08.300 thought process. There's a movie called White 00:43:08.300 --> 00:43:13.300 Man Can't Jump. I've only seen it one time. I 00:43:13.300 --> 00:43:17.139 was probably like 13. Well, I was old. Wesley, 00:43:17.400 --> 00:43:21.750 shut up. Wesley Snipes and Woody Harrelson, right? 00:43:21.769 --> 00:43:23.369 Woody Harrelson is a white boy. Wesley Snipes 00:43:23.369 --> 00:43:26.889 is African American and they're become they're 00:43:26.889 --> 00:43:29.030 like, you know, they're they're rim runners, 00:43:29.210 --> 00:43:34.769 right? In street basketball. And anyway, Woody 00:43:34.769 --> 00:43:37.769 Harrelson, the white boy is listening to a certain 00:43:37.769 --> 00:43:43.280 soul. Singer song on the radio and he's like 00:43:43.280 --> 00:43:44.900 man. You can't hear that. He's like not here. 00:43:44.900 --> 00:43:47.559 It's just fine He's like no, man, you can't hear 00:43:47.559 --> 00:43:51.320 that right you listen, but you can't hear that 00:43:51.320 --> 00:43:53.420 You know what I mean is like that's exactly what 00:43:53.420 --> 00:43:58.639 I'm talking about like Seeking first to understand 00:43:58.639 --> 00:44:05.340 Means listening slow down hearing. Yeah slow 00:44:05.340 --> 00:44:11.050 down and listen most of our world today it's 00:44:11.050 --> 00:44:16.190 all about a fast pace I mean our world is going 00:44:16.190 --> 00:44:19.829 and going and going on and people slow down that's 00:44:19.829 --> 00:44:25.489 when people are like you know what what you know 00:44:25.489 --> 00:44:29.510 I have a mental breakdown what okay okay okay 00:44:29.510 --> 00:44:33.889 see slow down you know what now we're actually 00:44:33.889 --> 00:44:37.369 now you're getting it Once we slow down and we 00:44:37.369 --> 00:44:39.210 actually realize what's going on in the world. 00:44:39.210 --> 00:44:43.750 It's like, okay Now you see it Let's deal with 00:44:43.750 --> 00:44:47.730 it. Okay, let's deal with this One thing at a 00:44:47.730 --> 00:44:50.710 time. Yeah, you know, we all have to learn to 00:44:50.710 --> 00:44:53.710 slow down and deal with this. Yeah, you know 00:44:53.710 --> 00:44:56.389 We got a fire you have to listen and then you 00:44:56.389 --> 00:45:00.869 can learn to speak Over your so speak life over 00:45:00.869 --> 00:45:07.449 ourselves, you know learn that Fighting Looks 00:45:07.449 --> 00:45:09.829 a whole hell of a lot like practicing the same 00:45:09.829 --> 00:45:11.969 move a thousand times. Oh, yeah, absolutely, 00:45:12.190 --> 00:45:16.389 right There's it's a old proverb that says don't 00:45:16.389 --> 00:45:18.909 fear a man who knows a thousand moves Fear a 00:45:18.909 --> 00:45:21.190 move and fear a man who knows one move practice 00:45:21.190 --> 00:45:24.329 a thousand times. Absolutely. That's a good That's 00:45:24.329 --> 00:45:26.210 good. There's a Japanese or Chinese proverb, 00:45:26.250 --> 00:45:29.510 but you think about that This is what I'm talking 00:45:29.510 --> 00:45:31.550 about what we are talking about when we talk 00:45:31.550 --> 00:45:34.619 about Fighting the good fight and the sword of 00:45:34.619 --> 00:45:39.320 the spirit You can fight with God's word You 00:45:39.320 --> 00:45:42.559 can fight the fight with God's word. You can't 00:45:42.559 --> 00:45:45.719 just be knowers of the word We have to be doers 00:45:45.719 --> 00:45:48.739 of the word, right? We need to soak that word 00:45:48.739 --> 00:45:51.500 in and plant it on our hearts So we have it available 00:45:51.500 --> 00:45:54.679 to us when the attack comes because the attack 00:45:54.679 --> 00:45:59.239 is coming. It is coming. Yeah There's no two 00:45:59.239 --> 00:46:02.429 ways about it everybody listen You're going to 00:46:02.429 --> 00:46:05.050 get hit. You're going to get attacked. The enemy 00:46:05.050 --> 00:46:08.190 hates you. Be ready. He wants to wear you down. 00:46:08.429 --> 00:46:10.989 If you are even remotely thinking about getting 00:46:10.989 --> 00:46:13.789 involved, if you're even remotely thinking about 00:46:13.789 --> 00:46:17.809 joining in relationship with Christ, know that 00:46:17.809 --> 00:46:23.650 it is glorious, but it takes effort, just like 00:46:23.650 --> 00:46:26.789 any relationship, this relationship included. 00:46:28.110 --> 00:46:30.929 We naturally love each other so much, but our 00:46:30.929 --> 00:46:33.690 relationship Only gets by so far with that. Yeah, 00:46:33.809 --> 00:46:36.170 we actually have to work at it. We do work at 00:46:36.170 --> 00:46:37.670 it. Yeah, you know what I mean? And look, we 00:46:37.670 --> 00:46:40.349 still mess it up. Absolutely. All the time. You 00:46:40.349 --> 00:46:42.210 know what I mean? But in the grand scheme of 00:46:42.210 --> 00:46:44.090 things, I look around at other people's relationships 00:46:44.090 --> 00:46:49.389 and I'm like, I got I got a good I'm good, man. 00:46:49.650 --> 00:46:52.530 And you think about starting over, right? Like 00:46:52.530 --> 00:46:54.190 I've told you, I've been struggling with that, 00:46:54.429 --> 00:46:57.190 like that 15 years thing. Yeah. And it's like 00:46:57.190 --> 00:46:59.570 thinking about what it would look like if I had 00:46:59.570 --> 00:47:02.869 to start over. I'm not who's gonna put up with 00:47:02.869 --> 00:47:09.869 me again again They have to learn me and understand, 00:47:09.869 --> 00:47:11.510 you know what I mean? And I have to learn them 00:47:11.510 --> 00:47:13.590 and like learn our nuances and our gives and 00:47:13.590 --> 00:47:18.369 our takes F all that crap, bro. I am winning 00:47:18.369 --> 00:47:22.449 right now. I am winning. The grass is never greener 00:47:22.449 --> 00:47:23.809 on the other side. I'm just telling you. Hell 00:47:23.809 --> 00:47:27.989 no. It's fake if it is. You know what? Astro 00:47:27.989 --> 00:47:30.670 turf. I'll just water this one on this side and 00:47:30.670 --> 00:47:32.570 I will make this one over here work a lot better 00:47:32.570 --> 00:47:36.570 than I can. And she may scalp it. No, I am not. 00:47:38.360 --> 00:47:40.940 Just take a little off the top. A little off 00:47:40.940 --> 00:47:42.719 the top, including the skin. I might take a little 00:47:42.719 --> 00:47:45.199 bit more off, but not scalp it. Just a little 00:47:45.199 --> 00:47:48.119 off. Might take a little off more than I need 00:47:48.119 --> 00:47:54.519 to, but never scalp it. You understand, right? 00:47:55.900 --> 00:47:58.280 All of that encircles the whole conversation 00:47:58.280 --> 00:48:01.679 about going to church, and it's like you can't 00:48:01.679 --> 00:48:04.539 do it without learning. And you can't do it by 00:48:04.539 --> 00:48:06.480 learning only on your own. But we have to learn 00:48:06.480 --> 00:48:08.739 to teach each other. You've got to be able to 00:48:08.739 --> 00:48:11.719 learn to help each other, teach each other, help 00:48:11.719 --> 00:48:13.340 each other with the word. If you don't understand 00:48:13.340 --> 00:48:16.619 the word, ask someone. Let's teach each other, 00:48:16.679 --> 00:48:19.960 you know? That's why we're a small group. Yeah. 00:48:20.440 --> 00:48:22.940 Ask us. We're the world's biggest small group. 00:48:23.199 --> 00:48:25.400 And we want to share life with everybody. Absolutely. 00:48:25.860 --> 00:48:29.059 And everybody's welcome. Everybody. Everybody. 00:48:29.440 --> 00:48:31.860 Your perspective is welcome. I want it. I'm cool 00:48:31.860 --> 00:48:35.929 with it. Just come in here with an open mind 00:48:35.929 --> 00:48:38.769 an open mind, right? Don't come at me attacking 00:48:38.769 --> 00:48:41.789 me. Yeah, cuz I'm just gonna shut you off Yeah, 00:48:41.829 --> 00:48:43.769 if you want to come in here and have a legitimate 00:48:43.769 --> 00:48:46.969 conversation. Yes, that's a I'm okay with that 00:48:46.969 --> 00:48:49.489 Even if it's an opposing view, I'm cool with 00:48:49.489 --> 00:48:52.789 that. Absolutely. I'm not right left. I'm right 00:48:52.789 --> 00:48:55.869 in the middle I want to know like I think a little 00:48:55.869 --> 00:48:59.010 of both works. Yeah, right. That's what I think 00:48:59.010 --> 00:49:02.480 I think that I think that Relationship with Christ 00:49:02.480 --> 00:49:05.159 is worth it man. It is worth and it's so much 00:49:05.159 --> 00:49:10.559 more than heaven. Oh, yeah heaven is The everlasting 00:49:10.559 --> 00:49:12.460 right the greatest thing when we get there But 00:49:12.460 --> 00:49:15.139 when we we have an opportunity this like you 00:49:15.139 --> 00:49:17.619 want to know why suicide rates so high. Yeah 00:49:17.619 --> 00:49:26.300 a lack of Christ. Yeah, I Agree I Totally agree 00:49:26.300 --> 00:49:32.590 Geez mic drop preach it preach it Go ahead you 00:49:32.590 --> 00:49:36.710 got a joke. I'm sorry. Maybe sorry suck on your 00:49:36.710 --> 00:49:38.769 suck on your drink over there I am let me see 00:49:38.769 --> 00:49:43.650 what I got here. Let me get you a joke here Alrighty 00:49:43.650 --> 00:49:49.989 waste of time I'm not gonna say it never mind 00:49:49.989 --> 00:49:55.809 go ahead What do you call a belt made of watches 00:50:00.940 --> 00:50:03.980 A belt made of watches is a waste of time, in 00:50:03.980 --> 00:50:06.579 all the right words too. Waste of time. Very 00:50:06.579 --> 00:50:11.000 literally. Waste of time. To know that even one 00:50:11.000 --> 00:50:14.219 life has breathed easier because you have lived, 00:50:14.960 --> 00:50:19.219 this is to have succeeded. To know that you've 00:50:19.219 --> 00:50:21.820 affected one person's life in a positive way, 00:50:22.900 --> 00:50:25.579 their life has become easier or better because 00:50:25.579 --> 00:50:28.219 you, without you it wouldn't have happened, right? 00:50:28.760 --> 00:50:31.449 That's success. That's what that means. And I 00:50:31.449 --> 00:50:33.829 feel like that's you. That's what I want to be. 00:50:34.530 --> 00:50:37.489 And I want, I would love - And hopefully we - 00:50:37.489 --> 00:50:39.570 Seven billion, eight million. Yeah, yeah. That'd 00:50:39.570 --> 00:50:42.030 be cool too. That'd be awesome too. Because I 00:50:42.030 --> 00:50:44.170 think everybody deserves it. I do too. I think 00:50:44.170 --> 00:50:46.590 it's - Everybody's made in the image of God. 00:50:47.269 --> 00:50:49.469 Everybody is His creation. Everybody deserves 00:50:49.469 --> 00:50:51.010 - And I feel like - To be in relationship with 00:50:51.010 --> 00:50:54.969 Him. I feel like our world right now is so damaged 00:50:54.969 --> 00:50:58.889 that people do, just like you had a conversation 00:50:58.889 --> 00:51:03.900 with - Someone and it's like is it helping is 00:51:03.900 --> 00:51:07.500 it is it this is that? What do you think? What 00:51:07.500 --> 00:51:09.500 do you what do you really think about? What is 00:51:09.500 --> 00:51:11.780 this? What is that? And you're like, yeah, and 00:51:11.780 --> 00:51:16.179 they're like, oh I mean to have conversations 00:51:16.179 --> 00:51:19.179 with people and they're like, you know, I mean 00:51:19.179 --> 00:51:22.519 cuz I'm gonna lie to you. I mean We were never 00:51:22.519 --> 00:51:25.139 raised counseling or anything like that. But 00:51:25.139 --> 00:51:28.659 did that one step for someone To see where you're 00:51:28.659 --> 00:51:32.320 going through and to reach one person if we reach 00:51:32.320 --> 00:51:38.380 that one person Hey, you know, yeah, I felt god's 00:51:38.380 --> 00:51:41.659 Giving us that person, you know, yeah to be reminded 00:51:41.659 --> 00:51:47.659 that We're meant to commune with each other we're 00:51:47.659 --> 00:51:52.159 meant to look this this life is uh Life itself 00:51:52.159 --> 00:51:56.940 is not easier with christ, but you just Understand 00:51:56.940 --> 00:51:59.619 better your place and you understand better how 00:51:59.619 --> 00:52:03.739 to how to respond to difficulty You understand 00:52:03.739 --> 00:52:06.699 but your your rest is in him rather than in what 00:52:06.699 --> 00:52:10.179 you can and can't do That's a freeing thought. 00:52:10.179 --> 00:52:13.739 You know what I mean? And Look, there's there's 00:52:13.739 --> 00:52:17.199 only one God who's real You know what? I mean, 00:52:17.280 --> 00:52:19.679 there's only one God who stands above them all 00:52:19.679 --> 00:52:23.099 and that is the God right and he stands in the 00:52:23.099 --> 00:52:30.420 form of three and that's father Yeah, only yeah, 00:52:30.659 --> 00:52:34.940 he put himself on our level No other God was 00:52:34.940 --> 00:52:38.500 willing to do that So he put himself on our level 00:52:38.500 --> 00:52:40.739 was willing to live the perfect life and die 00:52:40.739 --> 00:52:45.500 the spotless Africa sacrifice so that you could 00:52:45.500 --> 00:52:49.039 receive him and Boldly come into his presence 00:52:49.039 --> 00:52:54.719 and have relationship with him not law Yeah relationship 00:52:55.789 --> 00:53:00.469 Should we follow the law? 100%. We should. Are 00:53:00.469 --> 00:53:04.530 we going to? Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. 00:53:06.550 --> 00:53:10.429 But we get relationship with the creator of everything, 00:53:11.130 --> 00:53:14.150 an opportunity to understand ourselves on a higher 00:53:14.150 --> 00:53:18.510 level and to eventually be joined with our creator 00:53:18.510 --> 00:53:22.829 again for all eternity and the peace and perfect 00:53:22.829 --> 00:53:27.030 and complete peace. Right. That's the whole point. 00:53:27.030 --> 00:53:30.349 Absolutely. And so we took a roller coaster ride 00:53:30.349 --> 00:53:34.150 on this one. I don't know about about the middle 00:53:34.150 --> 00:53:38.690 eight of this conversation. I don't know what 00:53:38.690 --> 00:53:41.570 purpose it'll serve, but, you know, I actually 00:53:41.570 --> 00:53:44.809 like whenever we get a little bit real about 00:53:44.809 --> 00:53:48.010 our relationship, because I want people to see 00:53:48.010 --> 00:53:49.789 like we're just random people, too. You know 00:53:49.789 --> 00:53:52.110 what I mean? We are not perfect. I mean, we're 00:53:52.110 --> 00:53:55.510 still we're still here. We're still fighting 00:53:55.510 --> 00:53:58.469 the fight and we still have gotten our lives. 00:53:58.469 --> 00:54:00.489 We're always going to have gotten our lives. 00:54:00.869 --> 00:54:03.929 Fighting the fight sometimes looks like fighting 00:54:03.929 --> 00:54:05.570 with your spouse and learning to communicate 00:54:05.570 --> 00:54:08.030 better. You know what I mean? Like, that's what 00:54:08.030 --> 00:54:12.829 that is. Because you're my person, right? Like, 00:54:12.829 --> 00:54:15.230 you're my person. You're the person on this earth 00:54:15.230 --> 00:54:18.010 that I get to experience. Yeah, of course. You're 00:54:18.010 --> 00:54:20.489 my greatest friend. Like, there's no friends 00:54:20.489 --> 00:54:22.630 above you, right? There's only one that's above 00:54:22.630 --> 00:54:26.980 you. That's Christ, that's it. It's God, it's 00:54:26.980 --> 00:54:28.800 you, and then everything else falls behind that 00:54:28.800 --> 00:54:31.179 in some random order, you know what I mean, for 00:54:31.179 --> 00:54:35.880 the most part. So, anyway, you guys join along 00:54:35.880 --> 00:54:38.159 with us. We'd love to have you. We'd love for 00:54:38.159 --> 00:54:40.460 you to conversate with us in whatever way you 00:54:40.460 --> 00:54:44.360 feel comfortable, whether it be in person, on 00:54:44.360 --> 00:54:47.280 a phone call, on a text message, on an email, 00:54:47.500 --> 00:54:50.139 every possible way you can think to reach out 00:54:50.139 --> 00:54:52.380 to us, it's available to you at any given time. 00:54:52.409 --> 00:54:54.630 You can come to our website. That's a good place 00:54:54.630 --> 00:54:57.809 to start. We love you. We thank you for being 00:54:57.809 --> 00:55:00.750 here. See you next time. See ya.