WEBVTT 00:00:00.779 --> 00:00:03.899 Hello and welcome back to the to be her now podcast 00:00:03.899 --> 00:00:06.719 if you're one of the lucky few who got to hear 00:00:06.719 --> 00:00:10.000 what I am lovingly referring to as the quote 00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:14.939 directors cut in quote Of the podcast last week 00:00:14.939 --> 00:00:18.160 in the wee hours as it eked out before I was 00:00:18.160 --> 00:00:20.719 awake to catch what was happening I want to thank 00:00:20.719 --> 00:00:24.760 you for returning a Raw cut of the audio made 00:00:24.760 --> 00:00:27.839 it to the interwebs and it took a while for it 00:00:27.839 --> 00:00:31.550 to be corrected. So Thank you for your patience. 00:00:31.710 --> 00:00:34.390 I'm brand new to this and I'm learning as I go. 00:00:34.810 --> 00:00:37.469 And boy did I learn a lot last week. And isn't 00:00:37.469 --> 00:00:40.409 that the nature of learning something new? Sometimes 00:00:40.409 --> 00:00:43.590 mistakes happen, but we learn and we move on. 00:00:44.390 --> 00:00:47.070 So if you've returned, I just wanted to say thanks 00:00:47.070 --> 00:00:50.109 and hopefully we'll have a smoother ride this 00:00:50.109 --> 00:01:03.359 week. Grab your favorite beverage and settle 00:01:03.359 --> 00:01:07.200 into a cozy spot, because this is that kind of 00:01:07.200 --> 00:01:10.239 conversation. That quiet knowing you're meant 00:01:10.239 --> 00:01:14.200 for more? It's not wishful thinking, but a calling 00:01:14.200 --> 00:01:17.719 on your heart. And every soul calling deserves 00:01:17.719 --> 00:01:24.980 an answer. Not someday, today. Right now. Together, 00:01:25.260 --> 00:01:27.879 we'll explore what it really means to be her 00:01:27.879 --> 00:01:33.359 now. The healing the worthiness, the work, the 00:01:33.359 --> 00:01:37.159 becoming. Because none of us were meant to figure 00:01:37.159 --> 00:01:40.379 this out on our own. Whatever brought you here 00:01:40.379 --> 00:01:45.939 today, trust it. You belong here. Have you ever 00:01:45.939 --> 00:01:49.000 wanted to start something again, like a practice, 00:01:49.400 --> 00:01:52.920 a habit, maybe an intention, but felt almost 00:01:52.920 --> 00:01:55.780 embarrassed to? Like you've quit and restarted 00:01:55.780 --> 00:01:59.340 so many times that recommitting feels almost 00:01:59.340 --> 00:02:04.569 hollow? Like, who are you to try again? I am 00:02:04.569 --> 00:02:07.250 the queen of stopping and restarting, and I say 00:02:07.250 --> 00:02:10.050 that not as a confession, but as a credential. 00:02:11.129 --> 00:02:14.770 Because I've learned more about what consistency 00:02:14.770 --> 00:02:18.689 actually is and what it isn't from falling off 00:02:18.689 --> 00:02:22.349 and coming back than I ever could have from a 00:02:22.349 --> 00:02:25.409 perfect streak. And here's what I can tell you 00:02:25.409 --> 00:02:28.669 after years of living this pattern. I have genuinely 00:02:28.669 --> 00:02:32.009 gotten better at it. Not perfect, but definitely 00:02:32.009 --> 00:02:35.750 better. The gaps are shorter, the returns are 00:02:35.750 --> 00:02:39.210 faster, and the shame spiral that used to accompany 00:02:39.210 --> 00:02:42.789 falling off has gotten much quieter. And the 00:02:42.789 --> 00:02:46.430 practices themselves have gotten sturdier, more 00:02:46.430 --> 00:02:49.330 rooted, more resistant to the inevitable hard 00:02:49.330 --> 00:02:54.250 weeks. That didn't happen by accident. It happened 00:02:54.250 --> 00:02:57.590 because I started understanding consistency differently. 00:02:58.550 --> 00:03:01.849 Not as a performance standard, I either met or 00:03:01.849 --> 00:03:05.610 failed, but as something far more personal, far 00:03:05.610 --> 00:03:08.629 more sacred, and far more forgiving than the 00:03:08.629 --> 00:03:12.349 word has ever been given credit for. And today, 00:03:12.349 --> 00:03:15.289 I want to share what I've learned with you. Because 00:03:15.289 --> 00:03:17.770 I believe that the most sacred work you will 00:03:17.770 --> 00:03:20.569 ever do is the work that happens when no one 00:03:20.569 --> 00:03:25.770 is watching. The quiet, unsexy, invisible daily 00:03:25.770 --> 00:03:28.509 practice that doesn't make for a grand Instagram 00:03:28.509 --> 00:03:32.949 post. The showing up that nobody witnesses but 00:03:32.949 --> 00:03:38.110 you. That is what this episode is about. Let's 00:03:38.110 --> 00:03:40.389 talk about the word consistency for a second, 00:03:40.629 --> 00:03:44.030 because I think it's been hijacked. Somewhere 00:03:44.030 --> 00:03:47.229 along the way, consistency became a hustle word, 00:03:47.810 --> 00:03:51.189 a productivity metric, the thing you either have 00:03:51.189 --> 00:03:54.259 or you don't. And if you don't, something must 00:03:54.259 --> 00:03:57.400 be wrong with you. It got wrapped up in the language 00:03:57.400 --> 00:04:00.199 of grinding and discipline and showing up at 00:04:00.199 --> 00:04:02.800 five in the morning no matter what. And it started 00:04:02.800 --> 00:04:05.379 to feel like a standard nobody could actually 00:04:05.379 --> 00:04:09.699 meet. Like another way to fall short. And I want 00:04:09.699 --> 00:04:11.919 to offer you a completely different way of seeing 00:04:11.919 --> 00:04:17.000 it. Consistency is not a performance. It is not 00:04:17.000 --> 00:04:19.920 a productivity hack. It is not something you 00:04:19.920 --> 00:04:23.000 do to prove yourself worthy. of the results you 00:04:23.000 --> 00:04:28.740 want. Consistency is faith in action. It's showing 00:04:28.740 --> 00:04:32.319 up before you can see the results. It's the most 00:04:32.319 --> 00:04:35.459 radical form of self -respect available to you 00:04:35.459 --> 00:04:39.600 in any given moment. It's the bridge, the actual 00:04:39.600 --> 00:04:42.779 literal bridge between who you are right now 00:04:42.779 --> 00:04:47.100 and who you are becoming. And at its deepest 00:04:47.100 --> 00:04:50.459 level, the level I want to live from and I want 00:04:50.459 --> 00:04:54.560 to invite you into today. Every consistent choice 00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:58.180 is an act of devotion to the person God is calling 00:04:58.180 --> 00:05:02.279 you to be. I want to say that again. Every consistent 00:05:02.279 --> 00:05:05.379 choice, including the small ones, including the 00:05:05.379 --> 00:05:08.560 minimum ones, including the ones that feel almost 00:05:08.560 --> 00:05:12.060 embarrassingly tiny, is an act of devotion to 00:05:12.060 --> 00:05:17.060 the person God is calling you to be. That changes 00:05:17.060 --> 00:05:20.430 things, doesn't it? When the morning walk isn't 00:05:20.430 --> 00:05:23.009 about burning calories, but about honoring a 00:05:23.009 --> 00:05:26.750 calling. When the gratitude journal isn't a productivity 00:05:26.750 --> 00:05:30.730 exercise, but a prayer. When showing up for your 00:05:30.730 --> 00:05:34.790 practice, even imperfectly, even partially, even 00:05:34.790 --> 00:05:37.649 on the days you only do the bare minimum, is 00:05:37.649 --> 00:05:40.730 an act of faith rather than an item on a to -do 00:05:40.730 --> 00:05:44.389 list. That is the reframe I want to carry into 00:05:44.389 --> 00:05:47.029 this episode and into the second quarter of the 00:05:47.029 --> 00:05:50.959 year. I want to build it out with you piece by 00:05:50.959 --> 00:05:53.779 piece today. But first, I want to name the enemies 00:05:53.779 --> 00:05:57.040 of consistency because they are real and they 00:05:57.040 --> 00:05:59.899 are sneaky. And I think naming them takes away 00:05:59.899 --> 00:06:03.759 some of their power. The first one is perfectionism. 00:06:04.040 --> 00:06:06.339 And I say this as a recovering all or nothing 00:06:06.339 --> 00:06:09.839 person who has lived this pattern more times 00:06:09.839 --> 00:06:13.800 than I can count. Perfectionism sounds like if 00:06:13.800 --> 00:06:16.600 I can't do it the way I planned, the way I envisioned 00:06:16.600 --> 00:06:20.300 the full version, the right version, that I won't 00:06:20.300 --> 00:06:24.100 do it at all. It disguises itself as high standards. 00:06:24.779 --> 00:06:27.600 It tells you it's protecting you from mediocrity. 00:06:28.360 --> 00:06:30.839 But what it's actually doing is keeping you from 00:06:30.839 --> 00:06:35.060 showing up. It would rather you do nothing than 00:06:35.060 --> 00:06:39.439 do something imperfectly. And nothing, I promise, 00:06:40.139 --> 00:06:43.509 will never get you where you want to go. The 00:06:43.509 --> 00:06:47.430 second enemy of consistency is motivation. Or 00:06:47.430 --> 00:06:51.069 more specifically, waiting for it. Waiting to 00:06:51.069 --> 00:06:54.370 feel ready. Waiting to feel inspired. Waiting 00:06:54.370 --> 00:06:56.850 for the morning you wake up and everything in 00:06:56.850 --> 00:06:58.990 you wants to lace up your shoes and get moving. 00:07:00.509 --> 00:07:02.829 Here's what I know about motivation after years 00:07:02.829 --> 00:07:07.009 of coaching women and living this myself. Motivation 00:07:07.009 --> 00:07:11.509 follows action. It does not precede it. You do 00:07:11.509 --> 00:07:14.209 not wait for motivation to show up and then begin. 00:07:14.810 --> 00:07:19.009 You begin and motivation eventually, not always 00:07:19.009 --> 00:07:23.310 immediately, but eventually follows. The third 00:07:23.310 --> 00:07:27.170 enemy is distraction. And in our world, distraction 00:07:27.170 --> 00:07:30.970 is not just available, it is engineered. Social 00:07:30.970 --> 00:07:34.290 media is designed to pull you in. The scroll 00:07:34.290 --> 00:07:36.490 is designed to feel productive while producing 00:07:36.490 --> 00:07:39.410 nothing. And I say this as someone who struggles 00:07:39.410 --> 00:07:42.470 with this genuinely and regularly. The gap between 00:07:42.470 --> 00:07:45.050 the life I want to be living and the time I spend 00:07:45.050 --> 00:07:47.329 on my phone is something I'm actively working 00:07:47.329 --> 00:07:49.990 on. So I'm not just speaking from a place of 00:07:49.990 --> 00:07:53.009 having conquered this. I'm speaking from a place 00:07:53.009 --> 00:07:55.990 of knowing it's real and knowing it costs us 00:07:55.990 --> 00:08:00.410 more than we realize. And then there's the sneaky 00:08:00.410 --> 00:08:03.370 one. The one I don't think gets talked about 00:08:03.370 --> 00:08:08.870 enough. Visibility. or the lack of it. It is 00:08:08.870 --> 00:08:11.149 genuinely hard to keep doing things when there 00:08:11.149 --> 00:08:13.850 are no visible results yet, when the scale hasn't 00:08:13.850 --> 00:08:16.930 moved, when the creative project hasn't gained 00:08:16.930 --> 00:08:19.829 traction, when the practice you've been faithful 00:08:19.829 --> 00:08:22.529 to hasn't produced the breakthrough you were 00:08:22.529 --> 00:08:25.670 hoping for. When you look in the mirror and see 00:08:25.670 --> 00:08:29.189 the same thing you saw three weeks ago, the absence 00:08:29.189 --> 00:08:32.169 of visible confirmation is one of the most quietly 00:08:32.169 --> 00:08:36.279 demoralizing experiences there is. And I think 00:08:36.279 --> 00:08:38.899 a lot of us abandon our practices not because 00:08:38.899 --> 00:08:42.039 we've given up on the goal, but because we can't 00:08:42.039 --> 00:08:44.299 see any evidence that what we're doing is working. 00:08:45.200 --> 00:08:48.320 I want to speak directly into that. Because something 00:08:48.320 --> 00:08:51.639 is working. And I'll tell you why in just a moment. 00:08:51.960 --> 00:08:53.980 Here's the image I keep coming back to when I 00:08:53.980 --> 00:08:56.679 think about consistency and invisible progress. 00:08:58.139 --> 00:09:01.820 Seeds. When you plant a seed in the ground, nothing 00:09:01.820 --> 00:09:05.629 happens. At least nothing you can see. The ground 00:09:05.629 --> 00:09:07.809 looks exactly the same the day after you plant 00:09:07.809 --> 00:09:11.389 it as it did before and the week after and sometimes 00:09:11.389 --> 00:09:14.309 the week after that and If you didn't know better 00:09:14.309 --> 00:09:16.950 if you hadn't done this before or watch someone 00:09:16.950 --> 00:09:19.590 else do it You might reasonably conclude that 00:09:19.590 --> 00:09:22.610 nothing is happening That the seed isn't working 00:09:22.610 --> 00:09:25.970 that you should dig it up and try something else 00:09:25.970 --> 00:09:30.889 But something is happening underground out of 00:09:30.889 --> 00:09:33.529 sight in the dark The seed is doing the most 00:09:33.529 --> 00:09:36.730 important work of its entire existence. It is 00:09:36.730 --> 00:09:41.490 putting down roots. It's establishing the foundation 00:09:41.490 --> 00:09:44.309 that will eventually support everything visible. 00:09:45.289 --> 00:09:48.409 And if you dig it up to check on it, you interrupt 00:09:48.409 --> 00:09:50.730 the very process you're trying to encourage. 00:09:51.909 --> 00:09:55.250 Consistency is the watering. Every single day. 00:09:55.789 --> 00:09:57.950 Even when the ground looks exactly the same as 00:09:57.950 --> 00:10:00.570 it did yesterday. Even when you can't see any 00:10:00.570 --> 00:10:03.190 evidence of growth. Even when you're tired of 00:10:03.190 --> 00:10:05.590 watering something that doesn't seem to be responding. 00:10:06.750 --> 00:10:09.730 The roots are forming. The foundation is being 00:10:09.730 --> 00:10:13.490 laid. And one day, not on a schedule you can 00:10:13.490 --> 00:10:16.070 predict or control, something will break the 00:10:16.070 --> 00:10:19.549 surface. And it will be because of every quiet, 00:10:19.929 --> 00:10:22.350 unsexy, invisible day of watering that came before 00:10:22.350 --> 00:10:25.570 it. You are planting seeds in the ground you 00:10:25.570 --> 00:10:30.129 can't see yet. Keep watering. Now as always I 00:10:30.129 --> 00:10:33.110 want to talk about something practical. Something 00:10:33.110 --> 00:10:35.470 I've found to be one of the most genuinely useful 00:10:35.470 --> 00:10:38.250 concepts in my own life, especially in this season. 00:10:39.889 --> 00:10:43.049 I call it the irreducible minimum and it has 00:10:43.049 --> 00:10:45.669 saved my consistency more times than I can count. 00:10:46.429 --> 00:10:50.610 Now hang with me. Here's what I mean. I want 00:10:50.610 --> 00:10:54.350 to work out six days a week. I want a program 00:10:54.350 --> 00:10:57.370 that includes cardio and lifting and all of it. 00:10:57.840 --> 00:11:01.700 I want a three -hour morning routine with meditation 00:11:01.700 --> 00:11:04.139 and journaling and breath work and all the beautiful 00:11:04.139 --> 00:11:08.000 things. I have a vision of what the full ideal 00:11:08.000 --> 00:11:10.600 version of my practice looks like and it's expansive 00:11:10.600 --> 00:11:14.019 and nourishing and wonderful. And right now, 00:11:14.240 --> 00:11:17.820 in this season, with this body and this energy, 00:11:18.440 --> 00:11:21.720 with perimenopause doing what it does, that full 00:11:21.720 --> 00:11:25.500 version is not always available to me. Some weeks 00:11:25.500 --> 00:11:28.809 it's not available to me at all. So here's what 00:11:28.809 --> 00:11:32.509 I asked myself. What is the very minimum I can 00:11:32.509 --> 00:11:36.570 do and still honor the intention? What is the 00:11:36.570 --> 00:11:39.850 thing I can do almost always, even on the hardest 00:11:39.850 --> 00:11:43.009 days, even when everything in me wants to do 00:11:43.009 --> 00:11:47.110 nothing? For movement, it's walking. I know I 00:11:47.110 --> 00:11:50.350 can walk. Not always as far as I'd like, not 00:11:50.350 --> 00:11:53.169 always as often as I'd planned, but I can almost 00:11:53.169 --> 00:11:56.429 always take a walk. And so walking has become 00:11:56.429 --> 00:11:59.779 my anchor. my irreducible minimum for movement. 00:12:00.740 --> 00:12:03.960 For my morning practice, it's three things, my 00:12:03.960 --> 00:12:07.679 gratitude journal, prayer, and a devotion. And 00:12:07.679 --> 00:12:12.100 that's it. I want journaling and meditation and 00:12:12.100 --> 00:12:15.899 so much more, but those three things, I can almost 00:12:15.899 --> 00:12:19.139 always do those three things. And when I do, 00:12:19.240 --> 00:12:22.379 I have shown up. I have kept the practice alive. 00:12:22.700 --> 00:12:25.899 I have watered the seed. Now I want you to notice 00:12:25.899 --> 00:12:29.500 something. The irreducible starts with an I. 00:12:29.759 --> 00:12:34.159 Minimum starts with an M. The I am abbreviated. 00:12:34.759 --> 00:12:38.419 The I am. I do not believe that it's a coincidence 00:12:38.419 --> 00:12:41.159 I'm willing to ignore. Because when you strip 00:12:41.159 --> 00:12:43.899 everything away, when the full version isn't 00:12:43.899 --> 00:12:46.840 available and all that remains is the most faithful 00:12:46.840 --> 00:12:50.200 essential version of your showing up, what you're 00:12:50.200 --> 00:12:55.940 left with is exactly that. I am. Present. Here. 00:12:56.269 --> 00:13:00.250 still in it. The most sacred name there is, hidden 00:13:00.250 --> 00:13:03.929 inside the most humble act there is. Showing 00:13:03.929 --> 00:13:07.350 up with what you have, as you are, in this moment. 00:13:08.490 --> 00:13:12.970 That is enough. That's always been enough. Here's 00:13:12.970 --> 00:13:15.129 what I want you to hear about the Irreducible 00:13:15.129 --> 00:13:20.129 Minimum, the IM, because this is important. The 00:13:20.129 --> 00:13:23.049 minimum is not the failure version of the ideal. 00:13:23.909 --> 00:13:29.230 The minimum is the practice. Consistency is not 00:13:29.230 --> 00:13:32.409 about doing everything. It's about never doing 00:13:32.409 --> 00:13:36.830 nothing. Showing up small is still showing up. 00:13:37.309 --> 00:13:41.230 And showing up small consistently over time compounds 00:13:41.230 --> 00:13:44.529 into something that showing up big occasionally 00:13:44.529 --> 00:13:47.990 never will. The woman who walks three times a 00:13:47.990 --> 00:13:51.210 week every week for a year will always outpace 00:13:51.210 --> 00:13:53.429 the woman who does an intense program for two 00:13:53.429 --> 00:13:57.240 weeks and burns out and starts over. Always. 00:13:58.519 --> 00:14:01.419 Because consistency beats intensity every single 00:14:01.419 --> 00:14:04.820 time when the measurement is long enough. So 00:14:04.820 --> 00:14:07.460 I want to invite you to find your irreducible 00:14:07.460 --> 00:14:12.200 minimum. Your I .M. Not as a consolation prize, 00:14:12.639 --> 00:14:14.820 not as the lesser version of what you really 00:14:14.820 --> 00:14:18.379 want, but as the sacred, faithful, sustainable 00:14:18.379 --> 00:14:21.559 floor of your practice. The thing you can almost 00:14:21.559 --> 00:14:24.990 always do. The thing that keeps the thread alive 00:14:24.990 --> 00:14:28.250 even when life pulls hard in every other direction. 00:14:29.509 --> 00:14:32.889 What is your I am? This is not a new concept 00:14:32.889 --> 00:14:35.850 and it's found in lots of places by lots of different 00:14:35.850 --> 00:14:38.730 names. But let me share a few things that have 00:14:38.730 --> 00:14:40.789 actually worked for me in building and maintaining 00:14:40.789 --> 00:14:43.909 consistency because I think it helps to be specific. 00:14:45.009 --> 00:14:47.350 The first is from one of my favorite books called 00:14:47.350 --> 00:14:50.919 Atomic Habits and is called Habit Stacking. This 00:14:50.919 --> 00:14:53.659 is the practice of attaching a new habit to an 00:14:53.659 --> 00:14:56.519 existing one so it doesn't require a separate 00:14:56.519 --> 00:14:59.899 decision. Decisions are expensive. They take 00:14:59.899 --> 00:15:02.200 energy and willpower that you may not have available. 00:15:03.100 --> 00:15:05.419 But if something is attached to something you 00:15:05.419 --> 00:15:08.320 already do automatically, it gets carried along 00:15:08.320 --> 00:15:11.840 in the current of the existing habit. My morning 00:15:11.840 --> 00:15:15.799 practice is built this way. Coffee is definitely 00:15:15.799 --> 00:15:20.139 already happening. So my gratitude journal, Prayer 00:15:20.139 --> 00:15:23.639 and devotion happen right along with it. The 00:15:23.639 --> 00:15:26.039 habits are stacked onto existing anchors, so 00:15:26.039 --> 00:15:28.799 they don't require me to decide to do them. They 00:15:28.799 --> 00:15:32.120 just happen in sequence. The second is shrinking 00:15:32.120 --> 00:15:34.919 the practice. When I don't have the energy or 00:15:34.919 --> 00:15:38.259 the time or the full version, I do less rather 00:15:38.259 --> 00:15:40.980 than nothing. Five minutes of movement instead 00:15:40.980 --> 00:15:44.259 of 30. One page of journaling instead of three. 00:15:44.779 --> 00:15:48.000 One gratitude instead of five. The point is not 00:15:48.000 --> 00:15:51.470 the quantity. The point is the showing up. The 00:15:51.470 --> 00:15:53.909 point is to keep the relationship with the practice 00:15:53.909 --> 00:15:58.110 alive rather than abandoning it entirely and 00:15:58.110 --> 00:16:01.450 having to rebuild from scratch. The third is 00:16:01.450 --> 00:16:04.590 committing to the bare minimum and letting that 00:16:04.590 --> 00:16:08.250 be enough for today. Not forever, just today. 00:16:09.330 --> 00:16:13.210 Today, this is enough. And tomorrow, I will ask 00:16:13.210 --> 00:16:17.090 the same question again. And finally, tracking 00:16:17.090 --> 00:16:20.169 in my habit tracker. not as a performance for 00:16:20.169 --> 00:16:23.570 anyone else, not to prove anything, but as a 00:16:23.570 --> 00:16:26.690 way of witnessing myself, of creating a visible 00:16:26.690 --> 00:16:30.090 record of the invisible work. There's something 00:16:30.090 --> 00:16:32.850 deeply meaningful about being able to look back 00:16:32.850 --> 00:16:36.710 at a week, a month, a year, and see the days 00:16:36.710 --> 00:16:40.809 you showed up. Because it builds evidence, and 00:16:40.809 --> 00:16:43.929 evidence builds trust, which brings me to the 00:16:43.929 --> 00:16:46.929 most important part of this whole episode. I 00:16:46.929 --> 00:16:49.710 want to talk to someone specific right now. I 00:16:49.710 --> 00:16:51.789 want to talk to the woman who is listening to 00:16:51.789 --> 00:16:54.370 this and thinking, this all sounds beautiful, 00:16:54.370 --> 00:16:57.870 but I've fallen so far off track that it almost 00:16:57.870 --> 00:17:00.789 feels embarrassing to start over again. I've 00:17:00.789 --> 00:17:03.470 had too many false starts. I've made too many 00:17:03.470 --> 00:17:06.849 promises to myself that I didn't keep. I've been 00:17:06.849 --> 00:17:09.289 here before and I've let myself down before, 00:17:09.289 --> 00:17:13.009 and I'm not sure I trust myself anymore. I want 00:17:13.009 --> 00:17:16.730 to speak directly to her, to you. if that's you. 00:17:17.490 --> 00:17:21.529 We do not repair trust in any relationship, including 00:17:21.529 --> 00:17:24.190 the one we have with ourselves, by disappearing. 00:17:25.549 --> 00:17:28.329 We repair it by naming where we've gone wrong 00:17:28.329 --> 00:17:32.650 and taking steps to course correct. That's it. 00:17:33.289 --> 00:17:36.990 That's the entire process. You do not need a 00:17:36.990 --> 00:17:39.529 perfect record going forward. You don't need 00:17:39.529 --> 00:17:41.730 to make up for the time you've lost and you don't 00:17:41.730 --> 00:17:44.309 need to earn your way back through some extended 00:17:44.309 --> 00:17:47.450 period of punishment or restriction or overcompensation. 00:17:48.309 --> 00:17:51.589 You just need to name it and take one step. Not 00:17:51.589 --> 00:17:53.970 a dramatic recommitment. Not a new plan with 00:17:53.970 --> 00:17:56.910 a new start date and a new set of rules. Just, 00:17:56.910 --> 00:18:00.089 I got off track. I see it. I'm coming back and 00:18:00.089 --> 00:18:02.309 here is the one small step in that direction. 00:18:03.390 --> 00:18:06.410 That is what coming back looks like. It usually 00:18:06.410 --> 00:18:09.289 starts with the smallest thing. Picking up the 00:18:09.289 --> 00:18:12.049 gratitude journal. Taking the walk. Reading the 00:18:12.049 --> 00:18:16.630 devotion. one act, one choice, one seed planted 00:18:16.630 --> 00:18:19.849 in the direction you want to grow. And that one 00:18:19.849 --> 00:18:24.630 choice, that small, quiet, unseen choice, is 00:18:24.630 --> 00:18:27.710 an act of devotion to the person God is calling 00:18:27.710 --> 00:18:32.329 you to be. It counts. It always, always counts. 00:18:32.950 --> 00:18:34.769 We're officially in the second quarter of the 00:18:34.769 --> 00:18:37.750 year. April is here, and I think April is one 00:18:37.750 --> 00:18:40.890 of the most underrated opportunities for recalibration 00:18:40.890 --> 00:18:45.000 that exists. We talk so much about January, the 00:18:45.000 --> 00:18:47.299 new year, the fresh start, the big intentions, 00:18:47.900 --> 00:18:50.880 and then life happens and February arrives and 00:18:50.880 --> 00:18:52.980 March gets away from us and then suddenly we're 00:18:52.980 --> 00:18:55.740 here three months in and some of those intentions 00:18:55.740 --> 00:18:59.279 have gotten quiet. But here's what I want you 00:18:59.279 --> 00:19:04.220 to know. Those intentions did not expire. The 00:19:04.220 --> 00:19:06.880 ones that are still on your heart, the ones you 00:19:06.880 --> 00:19:10.140 set back in January with real hope and real desire, 00:19:10.509 --> 00:19:13.769 They are still waiting for you. They have not 00:19:13.769 --> 00:19:17.150 moved on. They have not given up. They are still 00:19:17.150 --> 00:19:21.049 there in the ground waiting to be watered. Some 00:19:21.049 --> 00:19:24.470 of them may need to shift. Some may need to be 00:19:24.470 --> 00:19:26.829 released entirely because you've learned something 00:19:26.829 --> 00:19:30.150 about yourself or your season that changes what's 00:19:30.150 --> 00:19:33.609 right for you right now. And that's okay. That's 00:19:33.609 --> 00:19:37.069 wisdom, not failure. But the ones that still 00:19:37.069 --> 00:19:41.670 belong to you, go back to them. Not with shame, 00:19:42.170 --> 00:19:44.130 not with a lengthy explanation about where you 00:19:44.130 --> 00:19:46.950 went wrong, just with willingness to return. 00:19:47.910 --> 00:19:50.450 Here's your invitation for this week and for 00:19:50.450 --> 00:19:54.470 the second quarter. Identify one practice you've 00:19:54.470 --> 00:19:58.029 let go of that still belongs to you. Just one. 00:19:58.910 --> 00:20:01.910 Name where you've gone off track, honestly and 00:20:01.910 --> 00:20:05.750 without judgment, without drama, and take one 00:20:05.750 --> 00:20:09.109 small step back toward it today. Not the full 00:20:09.109 --> 00:20:13.359 version, not the ideal version, the I AM version, 00:20:13.880 --> 00:20:17.519 the version you can almost always do. Water the 00:20:17.519 --> 00:20:21.299 seed. Show up for the person God is calling you 00:20:21.299 --> 00:20:27.220 to be. Do it today, not someday. Do it quietly 00:20:27.220 --> 00:20:30.420 without waiting for applause or results or confirmation 00:20:30.420 --> 00:20:33.619 that it's been working. Because the roots are 00:20:33.619 --> 00:20:37.319 forming, even now, even when you can't see them. 00:20:38.099 --> 00:20:41.220 And one day, You'll look back at this quiet, 00:20:41.579 --> 00:20:44.400 faithful, ordinary season and you'll understand 00:20:44.400 --> 00:20:48.079 exactly what was being built here. I'll be back 00:20:48.079 --> 00:20:53.019 next week with a new episode. Until then, be 00:20:53.019 --> 00:20:56.799 her now, not someday, today.