WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.459 Hi, I'm Kara Sutterfield and this is my podcast. 00:00:05.099 --> 00:00:08.099 After over 20 years of leading one -on -one and 00:00:08.099 --> 00:00:11.279 group coaching in professional settings, I developed 00:00:11.279 --> 00:00:14.300 a passion for helping other women uncover who 00:00:14.300 --> 00:00:17.359 they long to become and how to live into that 00:00:17.359 --> 00:00:21.199 vision of self today. Let's deep dive into this 00:00:21.199 --> 00:00:24.780 profound exploration together. discover how best 00:00:24.780 --> 00:00:27.879 to embody the highest version of ourselves and 00:00:27.879 --> 00:00:31.480 take action in this present moment to be her 00:00:31.480 --> 00:00:37.619 now. Welcome back to the To Be Her Now podcast. 00:00:38.179 --> 00:00:41.539 So happy to be here with you again. I had a really 00:00:41.539 --> 00:00:44.399 awesome experience recently of getting to travel 00:00:44.399 --> 00:00:48.140 with my spouse for her business trip. I tagged 00:00:48.140 --> 00:00:52.969 along and It allowed us to travel to the Pacific 00:00:52.969 --> 00:00:56.609 Northwest, which I had not been to in quite a 00:00:56.609 --> 00:01:00.250 long while. It was a quick trip. We were away 00:01:00.250 --> 00:01:02.950 from home for about five days total, but man 00:01:02.950 --> 00:01:08.030 did I come back super refreshed, inspired, ready 00:01:08.030 --> 00:01:11.209 to dive back into our regular life with such 00:01:11.209 --> 00:01:16.590 a renewed sense of vigor that it got me thinking 00:01:16.590 --> 00:01:20.760 about new perspectives. And so today I would 00:01:20.760 --> 00:01:24.879 like to share with you ways to gain new perspective. 00:01:25.379 --> 00:01:28.260 Some of which may not be in your current city 00:01:28.260 --> 00:01:32.299 and many are because the reality is most of us 00:01:32.299 --> 00:01:35.579 can't travel on a whim with the intention of 00:01:35.579 --> 00:01:38.920 gaining new perspective on a regular basis. So 00:01:38.920 --> 00:01:43.739 most of my ideas are things you can do from home 00:01:43.739 --> 00:01:47.599 without going very far. So here we go. My first 00:01:47.599 --> 00:01:50.519 two are pulled directly from this trip, so the 00:01:50.519 --> 00:01:54.359 first is of course to travel. It is so refreshing 00:01:54.359 --> 00:01:58.299 to see different ways that people live, experience 00:01:58.299 --> 00:02:02.859 different cultures, see new sights, observe how 00:02:02.859 --> 00:02:05.560 life doesn't have to be the rut that you are 00:02:05.560 --> 00:02:09.919 in. It can expand to so many different possibilities 00:02:09.919 --> 00:02:13.810 with just a few choices on your part. And I feel 00:02:13.810 --> 00:02:16.370 like travel really brings that perspective. Now 00:02:16.370 --> 00:02:19.849 if you are able to travel the world, awesome. 00:02:20.849 --> 00:02:23.610 Another huge way to expand your perspective. 00:02:24.129 --> 00:02:28.430 But maybe if plane travel is out of your budget, 00:02:28.610 --> 00:02:31.189 maybe it's just about taking a little road trip 00:02:31.189 --> 00:02:34.250 to a nearby town just to get out of your regular 00:02:34.250 --> 00:02:36.770 routine for a little while. Another thing we 00:02:36.770 --> 00:02:40.009 did while we were out of town but that I do frequently 00:02:40.009 --> 00:02:43.960 at home to gain perspective. is spend time in 00:02:43.960 --> 00:02:48.080 nature. So we got to go to Muir Woods National 00:02:48.080 --> 00:02:52.900 Park and be among the redwoods which if you ever 00:02:52.900 --> 00:02:56.280 need to feel small and remember that your problems 00:02:56.280 --> 00:03:00.500 are pretty tiny compared to the planet continuing 00:03:00.500 --> 00:03:03.639 to keep on keeping on nature is an incredible 00:03:03.639 --> 00:03:06.060 way to do that. It's not every day I get to go 00:03:06.060 --> 00:03:08.099 to the redwoods because I do not live on the 00:03:08.099 --> 00:03:11.229 west coast. but I'll frequently go to nearby 00:03:11.229 --> 00:03:14.610 hiking trails or parks and just immerse myself 00:03:14.610 --> 00:03:18.430 in nature. Let myself listen to the birds, enjoy 00:03:18.430 --> 00:03:21.569 the weather, no matter what the weather is, and 00:03:21.569 --> 00:03:24.389 just feel small next to something that has stood 00:03:24.389 --> 00:03:27.550 for hundreds or even thousands of years. Such 00:03:27.550 --> 00:03:30.629 a great way to shift your perspective out of 00:03:30.629 --> 00:03:33.729 what feels urgent and into what feels eternal. 00:03:34.330 --> 00:03:37.409 My third idea to change your perspective is to 00:03:37.409 --> 00:03:41.069 volunteer. Get involved with a cause that you're 00:03:41.069 --> 00:03:44.069 passionate about and it does not have to be a 00:03:44.069 --> 00:03:46.830 cause that aligns with the people around you 00:03:46.830 --> 00:03:50.889 or that sounds good. Truly pick something that 00:03:50.889 --> 00:03:55.229 is important to you and invest your time or even 00:03:55.229 --> 00:03:59.129 your finances to learn about what that cause 00:03:59.129 --> 00:04:02.650 is and to help be a part of the solution for 00:04:02.650 --> 00:04:06.120 it. Idea number four. is to learn something new 00:04:06.120 --> 00:04:09.360 whether you are learning that thing from a book 00:04:09.360 --> 00:04:13.199 or a class perhaps like a yoga class at a formal 00:04:13.199 --> 00:04:17.220 studio or community classes offered through the 00:04:17.220 --> 00:04:20.439 local school districts or a video that you find 00:04:20.439 --> 00:04:24.279 online there's a thousand ways to learn new things 00:04:24.279 --> 00:04:27.800 now that cost no dollars but challenging your 00:04:27.800 --> 00:04:31.800 brain in that way to be in the unknown to be 00:04:31.800 --> 00:04:35.350 uncomfortable to be a beginner such a valuable 00:04:35.350 --> 00:04:38.850 perspective that in so many ways can open you 00:04:38.850 --> 00:04:42.649 to new ideas and other areas of your life because 00:04:42.649 --> 00:04:45.370 you're staying in this uncomfortable state of 00:04:45.370 --> 00:04:48.189 being when you're learning something new. My 00:04:48.189 --> 00:04:51.129 fifth idea to gain a new perspective, and these 00:04:51.129 --> 00:04:54.490 aren't in any particular order, is to have new 00:04:54.490 --> 00:04:58.189 conversations. Whether you are joining a group 00:04:58.189 --> 00:05:00.470 that allows you to meet new people or you're 00:05:00.470 --> 00:05:03.350 intentionally reaching outside of your normal 00:05:03.350 --> 00:05:06.449 familiar circle of influence, your closest friends 00:05:06.449 --> 00:05:10.970 and family to get to know or better understand 00:05:10.970 --> 00:05:13.709 or learn from someone that you wouldn't normally 00:05:13.709 --> 00:05:16.209 encounter on a regular basis. That's a great 00:05:16.209 --> 00:05:19.040 way to get new perspective. Lately in my own 00:05:19.040 --> 00:05:20.980 life I'm doing a little experiment with this 00:05:20.980 --> 00:05:23.360 one in particular where I've reached out to people 00:05:23.360 --> 00:05:26.279 that I haven't seen or talked to in some cases 00:05:26.279 --> 00:05:29.939 years to arrange to me for coffee or lunch and 00:05:29.939 --> 00:05:32.420 just catch up. They've had experiences in their 00:05:32.420 --> 00:05:35.339 life that I haven't necessarily witnessed or 00:05:35.339 --> 00:05:38.660 been around to hear about or to learn from and 00:05:38.660 --> 00:05:41.420 I'm sure vice versa. So I've been on a few of 00:05:41.420 --> 00:05:45.180 these coffee dates and I left feeling so invigorated 00:05:45.180 --> 00:05:48.319 by the conversation and I didn't go in with any 00:05:48.319 --> 00:05:50.600 sort of idea of what the conversation had to 00:05:50.600 --> 00:05:54.980 be. I just went in with an open heart and a willingness 00:05:54.980 --> 00:05:58.120 to hold space and be present with someone with 00:05:58.120 --> 00:06:01.319 a genuine curiosity about who they are now, what 00:06:01.319 --> 00:06:04.560 they've been up to lately, and to listen for 00:06:04.560 --> 00:06:07.040 ways that I can support them in whatever they're 00:06:07.040 --> 00:06:11.540 doing these days. Idea number six is to read 00:06:11.540 --> 00:06:15.009 or to learn about a topic that you're unsure 00:06:15.009 --> 00:06:18.329 of every day in conversation. Gosh, I have high 00:06:18.329 --> 00:06:20.610 schoolers in my house, so they're always coming 00:06:20.610 --> 00:06:22.709 home with new things they've learned in school 00:06:22.709 --> 00:06:25.230 that weren't taught when I was in school 20 years 00:06:25.230 --> 00:06:28.149 ago. So just taking the time to learn about those 00:06:28.149 --> 00:06:30.430 little things or the curiosities that come up 00:06:30.430 --> 00:06:33.490 in your day is a great way to add to your perspective. 00:06:33.850 --> 00:06:36.610 The internet is probably the easiest and most 00:06:36.610 --> 00:06:39.610 common way to gain new perspective. But to do 00:06:39.610 --> 00:06:42.670 so in a mindful way, how are you utilizing the 00:06:42.670 --> 00:06:46.829 internet to intentionally expose yourself to 00:06:46.829 --> 00:06:49.230 new perspectives with an open mind and heart 00:06:49.230 --> 00:06:53.329 and to then apply those or utilize those in a 00:06:53.329 --> 00:06:55.810 way that benefits your life? From YouTube to 00:06:55.810 --> 00:06:58.829 TED Talks or to intentionally utilizing social 00:06:58.829 --> 00:07:01.449 media in a positive way, there's lots of ways 00:07:01.449 --> 00:07:04.350 to utilize the internet to add or to gain new 00:07:04.350 --> 00:07:08.250 perspective. The ninth idea I have for gaining 00:07:08.250 --> 00:07:12.149 new perspective is to sit in stillness whether 00:07:12.149 --> 00:07:15.750 you practice meditation or just being bored on 00:07:15.750 --> 00:07:18.290 the couch without the distraction of electronics 00:07:18.290 --> 00:07:22.189 or music podcasts etc. Sitting with your own 00:07:22.189 --> 00:07:24.949 thoughts in those moments of stillness is the 00:07:24.949 --> 00:07:29.199 best time to come up with solutions to questions 00:07:29.199 --> 00:07:31.379 that you have, problems that you've encountered, 00:07:31.800 --> 00:07:34.319 ideas that you've been trying to connect or to 00:07:34.319 --> 00:07:37.459 bridge the gap between. We fill almost every 00:07:37.459 --> 00:07:40.120 second of our idle time now in today's day and 00:07:40.120 --> 00:07:42.579 age at risk of sounding like an old lady. But 00:07:42.579 --> 00:07:45.259 it's in those moments of boredom and stillness 00:07:45.259 --> 00:07:48.660 that we gain the most perspective from the one 00:07:48.660 --> 00:07:51.199 perspective that has the most influence in our 00:07:51.199 --> 00:07:53.199 life and that's our own. But if we don't get 00:07:53.199 --> 00:07:55.879 quiet long enough to hear that and to listen 00:07:55.879 --> 00:07:58.319 to ourselves, we miss out on a very valuable 00:07:58.319 --> 00:08:01.860 resource. And finally my last idea to gain new 00:08:01.860 --> 00:08:05.079 perspective is to create events for yourself 00:08:05.079 --> 00:08:07.519 and others that bring people together. Whether 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:10.620 it's a potluck or maybe a night to play games 00:08:10.620 --> 00:08:13.920 or going and doing touristy things in your own 00:08:13.920 --> 00:08:17.470 city. Bringing people together in mass or at 00:08:17.470 --> 00:08:20.050 least three or four new people at the same time 00:08:20.050 --> 00:08:22.910 will stimulate conversations that you absolutely 00:08:22.910 --> 00:08:25.389 won't have otherwise when it's just you and one 00:08:25.389 --> 00:08:28.569 other person and it's a great way to enlighten 00:08:28.569 --> 00:08:31.129 everyone into new perspectives in a way that 00:08:31.129 --> 00:08:33.950 they may not receive otherwise as well. I hope 00:08:33.950 --> 00:08:36.909 that as you move into this new week that you 00:08:36.909 --> 00:08:40.090 will keep your eyes and ears and heart open to 00:08:40.090 --> 00:08:43.210 ways that you can gain new perspective. Because 00:08:43.210 --> 00:08:45.649 it's through these enriching experiences that 00:08:45.649 --> 00:08:48.470 we become the best of ourselves and that we get 00:08:48.470 --> 00:08:51.610 to share the best of ourselves with others. I 00:08:51.610 --> 00:08:53.269 hope you have a great week. Take care.