WEBVTT 00:00:02.159 --> 00:00:06.679 Hi, I'm Kara Sutterfield, and this is my podcast. 00:00:07.339 --> 00:00:10.339 After over 20 years of leading one -on -one and 00:00:10.339 --> 00:00:13.500 group coaching in professional settings, I developed 00:00:13.500 --> 00:00:16.519 a passion for helping other women uncover who 00:00:16.519 --> 00:00:19.559 they long to become and how to live into that 00:00:19.559 --> 00:00:23.399 vision of self today. Let's deep dive into this 00:00:23.399 --> 00:00:27.000 profound exploration together. Discover how best 00:00:27.000 --> 00:00:30.039 to embody the highest version of ourselves. and 00:00:30.039 --> 00:00:33.700 take action in this present moment, To Be Her 00:00:33.700 --> 00:00:36.880 Now. Hello and welcome to the first episode of 00:00:36.880 --> 00:00:41.140 To Be Her Now. Wow. What a joy to be here. It 00:00:41.140 --> 00:00:45.780 has been a long journey to get this idea out 00:00:45.780 --> 00:00:50.299 of my head and into a recording. But I'm so happy 00:00:50.299 --> 00:00:53.700 to be here and I hope that this podcast will 00:00:53.700 --> 00:00:56.920 help you on your journey in life to becoming 00:00:56.920 --> 00:00:59.820 the best version of yourself. So what is to be 00:00:59.820 --> 00:01:02.920 her now? In order to focus on where we're going, 00:01:03.520 --> 00:01:06.439 we need to know where we are. And so that's where 00:01:06.439 --> 00:01:09.739 I want to start, both with today's episode and 00:01:09.739 --> 00:01:12.560 with the podcast in general. When you're entering 00:01:12.560 --> 00:01:15.819 an address into GPS and you're telling it where 00:01:15.819 --> 00:01:18.500 you want it to take you, the first thing it has 00:01:18.500 --> 00:01:22.459 to know is where you are currently. That step 00:01:22.459 --> 00:01:27.140 is defaulted for us in GPS, but it's not necessarily 00:01:27.140 --> 00:01:30.939 defaulted for us our life. I think we live in 00:01:30.939 --> 00:01:34.219 an age of a lot of distraction and it's very 00:01:34.219 --> 00:01:40.019 easy to numb or avoid recognition of where we 00:01:40.019 --> 00:01:43.579 are and the role that we are playing in creating 00:01:43.579 --> 00:01:46.959 the life that we have. So I want to start there. 00:01:47.500 --> 00:01:50.120 Once we've established where you are, the next 00:01:50.120 --> 00:01:52.659 step is to figure out where you want to go and 00:01:52.659 --> 00:01:55.099 it's in looking at the gap between these two 00:01:55.099 --> 00:01:59.620 places that we can draw a map and and determine 00:01:59.620 --> 00:02:02.379 a clear direction for how we're gonna get from 00:02:02.379 --> 00:02:05.480 point A to point B. So in order to establish 00:02:05.480 --> 00:02:07.700 where we are and in order to establish where 00:02:07.700 --> 00:02:10.819 we wanna go, I like to look at what I call the 00:02:10.819 --> 00:02:14.439 foundation and the eight pillars. Now, you can 00:02:14.439 --> 00:02:17.479 do a search online for dimensions of wellness 00:02:17.479 --> 00:02:20.960 to pull up all kinds of suggestions of areas 00:02:20.960 --> 00:02:25.159 of your life that when focused on will enhance 00:02:25.159 --> 00:02:29.750 your overall wellbeing. and when ignored will 00:02:29.750 --> 00:02:32.669 negatively affect your overall well -being. And 00:02:32.669 --> 00:02:35.430 there's all kinds of opinions about how many 00:02:35.430 --> 00:02:37.849 dimensions there are, what the most important 00:02:37.849 --> 00:02:41.509 ones are. These are just my opinion. And I highly 00:02:41.509 --> 00:02:43.789 encourage you, once you hear these and you've 00:02:43.789 --> 00:02:46.490 given them some thought, to do a little research 00:02:46.490 --> 00:02:49.389 on your own and determine what pillars would 00:02:49.389 --> 00:02:52.789 be most important to you. I pick these eight. 00:02:52.969 --> 00:02:56.150 because I feel like they encompass all of the 00:02:56.150 --> 00:02:59.710 others in some way. But you might find that there 00:02:59.710 --> 00:03:01.430 are others that are way more important to you 00:03:01.430 --> 00:03:03.650 or important to you right now that you want to 00:03:03.650 --> 00:03:06.590 add, or some that don't necessarily impact you 00:03:06.590 --> 00:03:08.289 in the same way they impact me and you want to 00:03:08.289 --> 00:03:11.830 subtract some. You do you. But this is a framework 00:03:11.830 --> 00:03:14.009 that you can use to get yourself started. So 00:03:14.009 --> 00:03:18.439 the first thing we need to do to be her now and 00:03:18.439 --> 00:03:21.060 to gain a clear picture of who we want to be 00:03:21.060 --> 00:03:24.099 is to establish a strong foundation. And for 00:03:24.099 --> 00:03:27.759 me, our foundation in this embodied physical 00:03:27.759 --> 00:03:31.729 life that we lead begins in the body. mind and 00:03:31.729 --> 00:03:34.189 spirit. And when we're looking at these three 00:03:34.189 --> 00:03:36.990 areas for the foundation, we want to look at 00:03:36.990 --> 00:03:40.009 the whole picture of each of these areas. First, 00:03:40.090 --> 00:03:42.310 we're going to look at these from the perspective 00:03:42.310 --> 00:03:44.050 of where we are, and then we're going to look 00:03:44.050 --> 00:03:45.930 at these from the perspective of what we would 00:03:45.930 --> 00:03:49.889 like to have. So for body, when you're considering 00:03:49.889 --> 00:03:53.819 your body, I'm not talking about reaching an 00:03:53.819 --> 00:03:57.319 ideal that you would see in media or online or 00:03:57.319 --> 00:04:00.240 in a magazine at all. But I do feel it's important 00:04:00.240 --> 00:04:03.960 to establish for yourself what your body feels 00:04:03.960 --> 00:04:07.719 and looks and acts like when it's at its best 00:04:07.719 --> 00:04:10.719 and to establish if you are in that place right 00:04:10.719 --> 00:04:13.919 now. And for me, I do this by looking at what 00:04:13.919 --> 00:04:16.420 is the nutrition I'm taking in? Am I fueling 00:04:16.420 --> 00:04:19.720 myself well? for energy and for living the life 00:04:19.720 --> 00:04:21.779 that I want to live? Or am I fueling myself in 00:04:21.779 --> 00:04:23.980 a way that will ultimately negatively impact 00:04:23.980 --> 00:04:26.500 how I feel? What kind of movement am I getting? 00:04:26.759 --> 00:04:29.339 What kind of sleep am I getting? Am I hydrated? 00:04:29.740 --> 00:04:32.879 And do I need or am I taking the supplements 00:04:32.879 --> 00:04:36.079 that will help me to have my best energy? I have 00:04:36.079 --> 00:04:39.160 no intention of prescribing to you a particular 00:04:39.160 --> 00:04:41.980 way of doing any of these things. I think that 00:04:41.980 --> 00:04:45.370 we are in a place where We are so disconnected 00:04:45.370 --> 00:04:49.170 from our inner voice that we outsource all kinds 00:04:49.170 --> 00:04:52.829 of aspects of ourselves to other people, to the 00:04:52.829 --> 00:04:57.250 internet, to leaders. It's great to search and 00:04:57.250 --> 00:05:00.949 find ideas. But at the end of the day, you have 00:05:00.949 --> 00:05:03.750 to determine through action and experimentation 00:05:03.750 --> 00:05:07.430 and trial and error, what works best for you 00:05:07.430 --> 00:05:10.569 to feel your best. I really believe this when 00:05:10.569 --> 00:05:13.769 it comes to nutrition and movement. and sleep 00:05:13.769 --> 00:05:15.970 and hydration and whether or not you need supplements. 00:05:16.209 --> 00:05:18.949 You know when you're eating in a way that makes 00:05:18.949 --> 00:05:21.250 you feel great and you know that because you 00:05:21.250 --> 00:05:24.529 feel vibrant and you have energy and you're able 00:05:24.529 --> 00:05:27.610 to think well and bring to the table your best 00:05:27.610 --> 00:05:30.930 self. You know when you're moving your body in 00:05:30.930 --> 00:05:34.529 a way that serves you etc etc. So for the first 00:05:34.529 --> 00:05:36.370 part of the foundation I encourage you to look 00:05:36.370 --> 00:05:39.430 at your body literally and theoretically and 00:05:39.430 --> 00:05:42.170 determine how are you taking care of it. And 00:05:42.170 --> 00:05:45.009 be very honest with yourself. In this moment, 00:05:45.389 --> 00:05:48.149 how do you feel inside of your body? How do you 00:05:48.149 --> 00:05:50.769 feel when you see your body? How do you feel 00:05:50.769 --> 00:05:53.430 when you move your body? Is that great or is 00:05:53.430 --> 00:05:55.649 that not so great? And we're just going to establish 00:05:55.649 --> 00:05:58.629 that baseline to know exactly where you are right 00:05:58.629 --> 00:06:01.509 now. And I want you to do that from a place of 00:06:01.509 --> 00:06:05.180 your deep down knowing, not comparison. Please, 00:06:05.180 --> 00:06:07.639 when you're looking at these aspects, look at 00:06:07.639 --> 00:06:10.839 them from a place of really truly where you feel 00:06:10.839 --> 00:06:14.180 you are, not where society says you should be, 00:06:14.279 --> 00:06:16.959 not when you're comparing to someone on the internet. 00:06:17.240 --> 00:06:21.000 Where are you now for you? The second aspect 00:06:21.000 --> 00:06:24.339 of the foundation is your mind. Are you focused 00:06:24.339 --> 00:06:27.500 on growth? Are you learning? What thoughts do 00:06:27.500 --> 00:06:30.040 you carry on a daily basis? Do you feel very 00:06:30.040 --> 00:06:31.860 negatively about your world or do you have a 00:06:31.860 --> 00:06:34.379 positive outlook? Are you confident? Are you 00:06:34.379 --> 00:06:37.199 intentional about what you take in to your mind, 00:06:37.540 --> 00:06:39.819 the information and the data that you take in 00:06:39.819 --> 00:06:43.180 on a daily basis? What about what you send out 00:06:43.180 --> 00:06:45.879 into the world, your output? What words do you 00:06:45.879 --> 00:06:49.370 use? Where is your mind currently? The third 00:06:49.370 --> 00:06:52.730 aspect of the foundation for me is spirit. And 00:06:52.730 --> 00:06:55.829 I'm not even talking about religion, though for 00:06:55.829 --> 00:06:59.029 many people that is an aspect of fueling their 00:06:59.029 --> 00:07:01.449 spirit. But I don't believe that you have to 00:07:01.449 --> 00:07:06.230 have a religious claim to practice and work on 00:07:06.230 --> 00:07:09.430 how you feel in your spirit. Do you have an anchoring 00:07:09.430 --> 00:07:12.230 or uplifting practice in your day? That could 00:07:12.230 --> 00:07:15.810 be gratitude, meditation, devotion, reading your 00:07:15.810 --> 00:07:18.819 religious work, whatever most resonates. for 00:07:18.819 --> 00:07:21.779 you as being a spiritual practice. Do you pray? 00:07:21.939 --> 00:07:24.519 Do you spend time in nature? There's a lot of 00:07:24.519 --> 00:07:27.019 ways that you can feed your spirit. What I find 00:07:27.019 --> 00:07:30.060 is that a spiritual practice should be uplifting 00:07:30.060 --> 00:07:33.160 and it should expand beyond you. So those are 00:07:33.160 --> 00:07:35.740 the foundation as I see it. I encourage you to 00:07:35.740 --> 00:07:38.519 spend some time. You can even pause this podcast 00:07:38.519 --> 00:07:40.639 as we move along or you can come back to it later. 00:07:40.819 --> 00:07:43.660 Spend some time figuring out where you are in 00:07:43.660 --> 00:07:46.660 your opinion from your deepest knowing in these 00:07:46.660 --> 00:07:49.240 three foundational areas of how you're living 00:07:49.240 --> 00:07:51.339 on this earth in this body that you have been 00:07:51.339 --> 00:07:54.100 gifted so that you can decide if changes are 00:07:54.100 --> 00:07:56.660 needed or if you're doing a great job in these 00:07:56.660 --> 00:07:58.620 areas and you have a really strong foundation. 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:01.160 You need to know where you are before you can 00:08:01.160 --> 00:08:03.220 figure out where you're going to go. Once I've 00:08:03.220 --> 00:08:06.560 looked at these foundational areas, my next thought 00:08:06.560 --> 00:08:10.180 process is to focus on the eight pillars of To 00:08:10.180 --> 00:08:14.199 Be Her Now. For me, those eight pillars are relationships, 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:20.899 career, finances, leisure, housing, self -image, 00:08:21.519 --> 00:08:25.540 possessions, and daily routine or habits. I'm 00:08:25.540 --> 00:08:27.079 going to dive into each of these a little bit 00:08:27.079 --> 00:08:29.620 more. These are in no particular order, but I 00:08:29.620 --> 00:08:32.200 do feel that each of these feeds the other in 00:08:32.200 --> 00:08:34.759 some way. The important thing to remember about 00:08:34.759 --> 00:08:37.419 these pillars or any dimensions of wellness that 00:08:37.419 --> 00:08:40.360 you decide to look at is that each of them requires 00:08:40.360 --> 00:08:43.799 your attention and that neglecting any of these 00:08:43.799 --> 00:08:47.679 areas ultimately results in negatively affecting 00:08:47.679 --> 00:08:51.080 the others. Investing your time and your effort 00:08:51.080 --> 00:08:54.389 in each of these areas ultimately uplifts your 00:08:54.389 --> 00:08:56.870 well -being in all of the others. So from the 00:08:56.870 --> 00:08:59.110 perspective of where you are now, let's look 00:08:59.110 --> 00:09:02.009 at relationships. For me, the number one relationship 00:09:02.009 --> 00:09:04.649 to take a look at is your relationship with yourself. 00:09:05.029 --> 00:09:07.649 How do you talk to yourself? Are you supportive 00:09:07.649 --> 00:09:10.830 of yourself? Do you like yourself? Do you spend 00:09:10.830 --> 00:09:13.210 time with yourself? This is a really important 00:09:13.210 --> 00:09:15.789 foundation for any other relationship you could 00:09:15.789 --> 00:09:18.350 possibly have in your life. And once you've established 00:09:18.350 --> 00:09:20.549 where you're at with your relationship with yourself, 00:09:20.750 --> 00:09:23.789 what about your family and friends or your romantic 00:09:23.789 --> 00:09:26.549 partner or love life? What are those relationships 00:09:26.549 --> 00:09:29.110 currently like? And be very honest with yourself. 00:09:29.490 --> 00:09:32.350 Take a look at these from a space of non -judgment 00:09:32.350 --> 00:09:35.570 and just factually determine where you are now. 00:09:35.799 --> 00:09:38.720 The second pillar I look at is career and again 00:09:38.720 --> 00:09:41.220 these are not in a particular order but this 00:09:41.220 --> 00:09:43.039 is how I have them listed in front of me so this 00:09:43.039 --> 00:09:45.440 is how I'm sharing them with you. In your career 00:09:45.440 --> 00:09:48.419 do you have a sense of purpose? Do you serve 00:09:48.419 --> 00:09:51.220 a community or people that you care about? Do 00:09:51.220 --> 00:09:53.179 you feel like you're making a difference? Do 00:09:53.179 --> 00:09:56.100 you feel like you get to express your creativity 00:09:56.100 --> 00:09:58.600 in a way that's fulfilling for you? Is your career 00:09:58.600 --> 00:10:01.620 in general fulfilling for you? Do you come home 00:10:01.620 --> 00:10:04.289 energized or do you come home drained? How about 00:10:04.289 --> 00:10:06.509 your finances? Is your income where you want 00:10:06.509 --> 00:10:09.070 it to be? Do you have debt that maybe you wish 00:10:09.070 --> 00:10:11.230 you didn't? Do you budget the money that you 00:10:11.230 --> 00:10:14.590 do get? Do you have a strong why for bringing 00:10:14.590 --> 00:10:17.669 the money in, meaning Do you have a place where 00:10:17.669 --> 00:10:21.570 you want to invest that or give it away or benefit 00:10:21.570 --> 00:10:24.049 others with what you have coming in? How about 00:10:24.049 --> 00:10:26.710 your leisure activities? Do you spend your spare 00:10:26.710 --> 00:10:29.909 time in activities that replenish and fuel you 00:10:29.909 --> 00:10:33.649 or do you ultimately feel drained and sort of 00:10:33.649 --> 00:10:35.830 numbed out? Are the activities that you bring 00:10:35.830 --> 00:10:39.519 into your life evoking joy? and excitement or 00:10:39.519 --> 00:10:43.360 deep relaxation? Or do you feel diminished after 00:10:43.360 --> 00:10:45.460 the activities that you spend your leisure time 00:10:45.460 --> 00:10:48.279 in? For example, do you spend your leisure time 00:10:48.279 --> 00:10:51.320 drinking, maybe having too much? A diminished 00:10:51.320 --> 00:10:54.120 effect of that might be being hungover. Do you 00:10:54.120 --> 00:10:55.919 spend your time scrolling? Does that put you 00:10:55.919 --> 00:10:58.740 in a place of comparison or does it leave you 00:10:58.740 --> 00:11:01.100 feeling uplifted? Only you can know the answers 00:11:01.100 --> 00:11:03.980 to these questions. but it's so important to 00:11:03.980 --> 00:11:06.639 take a look and come from an honest place of 00:11:06.639 --> 00:11:08.440 accountability with where you are right now. 00:11:08.860 --> 00:11:11.320 The fourth pillar I mentioned is housing. Does 00:11:11.320 --> 00:11:13.799 your housing function well for you? Do you feel 00:11:13.799 --> 00:11:17.580 safe? Do you like the aesthetic of it? Does it 00:11:17.580 --> 00:11:20.620 encourage positive habits? Do you like being 00:11:20.620 --> 00:11:23.639 there? Does it feel like a sanctuary or do you 00:11:23.639 --> 00:11:26.200 feel lonely there? Is it peaceful or is it in 00:11:26.200 --> 00:11:28.929 chaos? What about your self -image? How do you 00:11:28.929 --> 00:11:31.049 feel about who you are in the world? How do you 00:11:31.049 --> 00:11:33.649 feel in your body and in your skin? Do you like 00:11:33.649 --> 00:11:35.549 your physique when you're coming from a place 00:11:35.549 --> 00:11:38.169 of just looking at you for you, not comparison? 00:11:38.409 --> 00:11:40.990 How do you feel about your fashion and the expression 00:11:40.990 --> 00:11:43.240 of yourself that you put into the world? What 00:11:43.240 --> 00:11:45.820 about your possessions? Do the things that you 00:11:45.820 --> 00:11:49.100 have enhance your life or do they suffocate you? 00:11:49.120 --> 00:11:51.460 Do you have what you want? Do the things in your 00:11:51.460 --> 00:11:54.639 home and in your life bring joy and bring peace, 00:11:55.059 --> 00:11:58.220 evoke beautiful memories or do they stress you 00:11:58.220 --> 00:12:01.679 out? Do you not appreciate them? And finally, 00:12:02.500 --> 00:12:05.919 daily routines and habits. Does the flow of your 00:12:05.919 --> 00:12:08.759 day from the time you wake up until the time 00:12:08.759 --> 00:12:11.159 you go to sleep, do the habits that fill that 00:12:11.159 --> 00:12:14.669 time lift you up or leave you feeling empty? 00:12:14.909 --> 00:12:16.870 Do you have a strong morning routine? Do you 00:12:16.870 --> 00:12:19.350 build your day around taking care of yourself 00:12:19.350 --> 00:12:21.330 and doing the things that will make you feel 00:12:21.330 --> 00:12:24.169 great? Or do you ping -pong around your life 00:12:24.169 --> 00:12:27.730 sort of reactive instead of being proactive and 00:12:27.730 --> 00:12:30.289 impacting the world around you? So those are 00:12:30.289 --> 00:12:32.389 the aspects of the eight pillars when you're 00:12:32.389 --> 00:12:35.080 considering where you are now. And for the next 00:12:35.080 --> 00:12:37.500 step, we want to go back through those back through 00:12:37.500 --> 00:12:39.200 the foundation and back through the eight pillars 00:12:39.200 --> 00:12:42.620 from the unfiltered perspective of who you long 00:12:42.620 --> 00:12:45.100 to be. And I'm not talking about who you think 00:12:45.100 --> 00:12:47.500 is realistic from where you are right now. I'm 00:12:47.500 --> 00:12:50.799 not talking about imposing any ideas about what 00:12:50.799 --> 00:12:52.899 you think is possible or what you don't think 00:12:52.899 --> 00:12:56.139 is possible. I'm talking about unfiltered dreaming 00:12:56.139 --> 00:12:59.480 and allowing yourself to think as big as you 00:12:59.480 --> 00:13:02.769 can possibly think. When I look out a year from 00:13:02.769 --> 00:13:05.570 now, five years from now, 10 years from now, 00:13:05.809 --> 00:13:09.570 20 years from now, who is she? How does she show 00:13:09.570 --> 00:13:12.830 up in the world? What does her body, mind and 00:13:12.830 --> 00:13:16.389 spirit reflect to myself and to the world? What 00:13:16.389 --> 00:13:19.529 relationships do I have in my life that lift 00:13:19.529 --> 00:13:22.509 me up and fuel me? What relationship do I have 00:13:22.509 --> 00:13:26.029 with myself? What does my career look like? And 00:13:26.159 --> 00:13:29.600 my finances. If the sky is the limit, how do 00:13:29.600 --> 00:13:32.080 those things show up in my world? How do I spend 00:13:32.080 --> 00:13:35.460 my leisure time? Do I travel in luxury or do 00:13:35.460 --> 00:13:38.500 I camp all the time? What does my home look like? 00:13:38.659 --> 00:13:41.320 How does it function for me? Does it support 00:13:41.320 --> 00:13:44.500 the lifestyle that I want to live? Does it reflect 00:13:44.500 --> 00:13:47.679 aesthetically what I want to see? Do I adorn 00:13:47.679 --> 00:13:51.159 myself in beautiful clothing that feels expressive 00:13:51.159 --> 00:13:54.200 of my personality? How do I take care of my body? 00:13:54.480 --> 00:13:57.080 How do I protect the data that I have coming 00:13:57.080 --> 00:14:00.139 into my mind? What am I learning? What am I practicing? 00:14:00.320 --> 00:14:03.019 How am I growing? What are my spiritual practices 00:14:03.019 --> 00:14:05.779 and how important are those in my day? When I 00:14:05.779 --> 00:14:08.279 look in the mirror, what do I see? What are the 00:14:08.279 --> 00:14:10.179 things that I have around me? What possessions 00:14:10.179 --> 00:14:13.120 do I have? And how do those add to my life? And 00:14:13.120 --> 00:14:16.419 what is the routine and the flow of my day and 00:14:16.419 --> 00:14:19.039 my daily habits? How many hours do I work in 00:14:19.039 --> 00:14:22.299 a day? Who do I spend my time with? I really 00:14:22.299 --> 00:14:24.860 encourage you to sit down with a paper and pen, 00:14:25.019 --> 00:14:27.679 not a phone or a computer. There's a lot of power 00:14:27.679 --> 00:14:30.539 in taking your thoughts and forming letter by 00:14:30.539 --> 00:14:33.299 letter into sentences what it is that you want 00:14:33.299 --> 00:14:36.879 to create. But I recommend sitting down and writing 00:14:36.879 --> 00:14:39.860 these out. And you can do this in a list format. 00:14:40.080 --> 00:14:42.139 You can list out the categories and then just 00:14:42.139 --> 00:14:44.019 sort of bullet point the things you want to have. 00:14:44.080 --> 00:14:47.789 You can write a story. My favorite way is to 00:14:47.789 --> 00:14:51.490 write my ideal day and include all of these aspects 00:14:51.490 --> 00:14:54.470 in that ideal day. I reflect on each of them. 00:14:55.159 --> 00:14:57.759 From the moment I open my eyes, acknowledging 00:14:57.759 --> 00:15:00.840 what kind of bed I'm sleeping in, in what room, 00:15:00.980 --> 00:15:03.240 what does it look like? When I get up for the 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:05.500 day and I walk by the mirror, who do I see in 00:15:05.500 --> 00:15:07.740 the mirror? What does my morning then look like? 00:15:07.919 --> 00:15:10.120 And how and when do I go to work? Where does 00:15:10.120 --> 00:15:12.700 my self care come in? Who do I see in my day? 00:15:12.960 --> 00:15:15.759 Am I traveling? What items do I see around me? 00:15:15.950 --> 00:15:18.549 When you have taken the time to think through 00:15:18.549 --> 00:15:20.889 and write out where you are and where you want 00:15:20.889 --> 00:15:23.830 to be, we come to the third step in how to be 00:15:23.830 --> 00:15:26.029 her now. And that is to start to think about 00:15:26.029 --> 00:15:28.769 how do we bridge the gap between those two ways 00:15:28.769 --> 00:15:32.789 of being? If I am not eating well to fuel my 00:15:32.789 --> 00:15:36.629 body, what can I do today in this moment to start 00:15:36.629 --> 00:15:39.549 acting as though I am that future self in the 00:15:39.549 --> 00:15:43.649 here and now? If my space, my home is not what 00:15:43.649 --> 00:15:46.970 I envision, for my future self. What are the 00:15:46.970 --> 00:15:49.789 steps I can take right now to help get it where 00:15:49.789 --> 00:15:52.470 it needs to be, where I want it to be? Maybe 00:15:52.470 --> 00:15:54.690 it's cleaning or decluttering. Maybe it's getting 00:15:54.690 --> 00:15:57.549 a roommate so I can live in a slightly elevated 00:15:57.549 --> 00:16:00.850 place from where I am. If I'm looking at my finances 00:16:00.850 --> 00:16:02.730 now and there's a stark difference between where 00:16:02.730 --> 00:16:05.370 I am and where I want those to be, how can I 00:16:05.370 --> 00:16:08.029 budget my income? How can I make some more money? 00:16:08.210 --> 00:16:10.799 You get the idea. I hope that something I've 00:16:10.799 --> 00:16:13.659 said today helps to bridge the gap between where 00:16:13.659 --> 00:16:16.200 you are and where you're going. I encourage you 00:16:16.200 --> 00:16:19.340 to sit down with an open heart and total accountability 00:16:19.340 --> 00:16:22.240 for where you are in this moment. Even if things 00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:24.779 outside of your control have happened to you 00:16:24.779 --> 00:16:26.659 that could not have been prevented, that are 00:16:26.659 --> 00:16:29.740 not your fault, what responsibility can you take 00:16:29.740 --> 00:16:32.460 in this moment to better your circumstances? 00:16:33.120 --> 00:16:35.580 Thank you so much for joining me today. I'm looking 00:16:35.580 --> 00:16:38.960 forward to moving forward with this podcast and 00:16:38.960 --> 00:16:41.500 learning and growing and doing these practices 00:16:41.500 --> 00:16:43.820 right along with you. And I hope you will join 00:16:43.820 --> 00:16:45.259 me next week. Take care.