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Welcome to another episode of Milestone Moments in Business and Leadership. I'm Sheila Slick,
your host. And today I have a special guest, Sandy Sembler, founder of Sacred She. Welcome to the
show, Sandy. It's so good to be here. It's so good to be here. Well, I know that our listeners
can't see your background, but it just it's so beautiful. It's got a gorgeous amethyst stone.
I can't keep my eye off it. I can just tell the energy. This is going to be a really nice episode.
Yeah, yeah, I feel it too. Yeah, because we spent 20 minutes before we hit record.
Well, that's what I love about the podcast, too, is some of the people that you meet,
the relationships that we build. Yeah, it's wonderful. So your love for free enterprise
was born when you first started a paper route about 40 years ago. Then you founded Sun First
Mortgage Company. Yeah. Are you sure what led you to found Sacred She? 100 percent. So Sacred She
essentially is my healing journey, how I ended up in this very moment here in 2024 to heal lots of
patterns, lots of generational patterns that had me stuck and some limiting beliefs and what have
you. I actually grew up in an Amway family. I grew up in a space where there were always books and
tapes and functions and what have you. And I really know that my college came from books, tapes,
functions and all the things. I actually dropped out of college and was building my first
distributorship at 19. And honestly, the 12 year old paper route wasn't because I wanted to be an
entrepreneur. It really was more out of necessity because my dad left and we needed money. So it was
more out of trauma, I found out. And so Sacred She was born because I had left a not so healthy
marriage with my 10 year old son at the time. And I was in therapy and thought I was doing all of
this right, started another business. And as soon as I started dating again, ended up in another
relationship like that. And so my best friend, who was also a fellow True Blood entrepreneur,
we actually had another business together, Rachel and I did. And the average millionaire has seven
streams of income. So any time I'm like, just always looking at different things. Anyway,
Rachel was like, Sandy, this is a pattern. I need you to change this. This has got to change. This
is not who you are. It got me in front of Tony Robbins, four hours in front of Tony Robbins.
He basically said, you know what? You have done well. You've done really well financially. You've
done really well in business. You haven't really been so well done so well in your personal relationships.
And so it's because you're showing up as a dude. You need to show up a little bit differently
because you're showing up so masculine. And I was just like, what do you mean? Like Sheila,
I was like, what are you talking about? He goes, your drive, I'm imagining is coming from trauma.
And I didn't even know what that meant because, you know, I always thought of trauma, like with
the big T. Of course, I found out the last 11, 12 years since I've been doing this work is that
trauma can come in all different places. Right. And so my drive was actually, and I can effectively
blame my parents because the drive I've had, the mission I have, the hyper vigilance I have,
as someone was telling me the truth or not regarding finances, my love for real estate
all came from hardship, our house getting foreclosed, all the things. So sacred she was
essentially me turning everything on its head, everything I had learned through therapy,
realizing that the brain wants to keep you safe, not happy. And I'm like, I got to go study around
the best teachers and mentors around the world. Like I have to understand this. And I already had
a coaching consulting business and I was coaching women around the world and it didn't matter who
they were. What I realized Sheila is that these women were happy, but they really weren't fulfilled
in their life. And there was something going on where they were burning themselves out because
they were operating out of a hard masculine driven space as well. Maybe not because of trauma. You
know, I didn't necessarily know that at the time. I didn't know the questions to ask like I know now
to get someone in their body, but they were very detached from their body. And I was like, I need
more women to understand this. So sacred sheet is my healing journey with all the different modalities
that I have learned and, and really just fine tuned through the years. And then I'm able to gift it
back to the world. So is it for women only and what does sacred sheet offer? How do you help others?
You know, it generally starts, I'll be honest with the more feminine being. I primarily work
with women initially, but I do have couples programs, but it always starts with the woman
first. I have signature programs where I do most of my work online. My live events, I have several
each year, but I love my one-on-one mentorships. I get to parachute into somebody's life. And then
I've curated a program specially for that particular individual. And then I have my
signature sisterhood program, which is world renowned. It's such an amazing program because
we cover how you do anything is how you do everything. How are you showing up in the world?
It's not just for your romantic life, but really in everything we do, we cover father wounds and
mother wounds and sister wounds and limiting beliefs. And also what I'm really fantastic
with is the art of embodiment. How can we embody the life that you truly want? How can you actually
bring more pleasure into your life? Like really enjoy what we do. It's not necessarily about the
bottom line with dollars, although, you know, the more money that we make, you know, the more money
that we can give away. But a lot of people, their blocks come from, you know, not feeling like
they're worthy. So we get down to the worthiness piece of that, or they haven't healed their
feminine wounds. And this is for men as well, by the way, not just for people for sacred she.
And then I watched the iterations of their careers shift, whether their career is like full time,
full on, you know, boss babe gal, and I get my hands on them and they realize they don't have
to hustle that much to be that successful. And then they reshape and reform their life into
essentially like my coin as the CEO of their life. Like how can we have them show up with their in
their core desire? So it sounds like there's a lot of self awareness within your program.
There's a lot of self awareness in my program. I work in the quantum field. I mean, you know,
for the trying to change within energetics, there has to be first awareness. And then there's an
acknowledgement when two people come together and we can share it, we can see it. It's real,
you know, let, you know, let God shine the light on it and let it just be obliterated.
So then there's an acceptance and then and then, you know, there's something that happens
energetically where things can come, you know, things can come through. And I know that may
sound woo woo to some, some of your audience. And I would have thought that too. However,
everything's energy and everything's energy. And let's face it, we would rather be around those
that are that see possibilities versus only problems, those that will workshop. I always
say my husband and I are having a hiccup. It's like, okay, time for us to workshop that. Like,
what are we going to learn on the other side of this schism? In fact, I don't want to be around
people closely that aren't willing to like my friend, Rachel, that I mentioned to call my,
if I'm not calling my own foul and I have blinders on, I want to know I'm around people that actually
will call it for me in love, because they know my divine purpose. They know that if I'm not walking
in my higher self and I want them to sting me back to consciousness. And that's something we say in
my work and the more intimate places of sacred she is the feminine and all of us is made to sting
the masculine back to conscious consciousness. So when we're like airy fairy and not in an,
an out of, out of alignment, whether we're not integral because we're not showing up on time,
your friends having an affair, I mean, whatever cheating on your taxes, whatever it is, right?
You know, it's like, do we, can we husband, I'm going to use this term husband ourselves.
Can we actually like sting our own, like kick our own tush? Can you, can you kick your own
tush, so to speak, and, and listen to your own integrity. And I really want to say this too,
because this is a business, you know, audience that we have is that so many women, I find they,
you know, if they're bitching and complaining that, you know, it's not equal out there. And
the truth is, and there's many ways that it's not, it's a lot better than it was though. The
women's live moment for movement for me. And I'll share this as I think it's done a lot of good for
us. Obviously, I also think that women thinking that we need to be just like men in the workplace
has actually hurt us because we actually lead with our feminine intuition. We can go, go a
lot further. And if more men would heal their feminine energy and lead with their own emotional
intelligence versus the ego, we'd be okay. But let's face it with every generation iteration,
we have more women that are leading with the ego and out the ego is great. We need it. It keeps us
alive. However, if it's not healed, and we're operating out of shadow, that's where we get in
trouble. That's what the competition is, right? That's where not coming together to collaborate
is. You get what I'm saying there. I'm learning. Yeah. I'm soaking it in. Love it. Love it. Love
it. That was a long answer, but I think we got what we wanted there. So looking back at your career,
what's the most valuable lesson you've learned? Gosh, you know, I honestly think I'm literally in
the impetus of learning it now. And at the bottom line is, is that know what it is that you desire
and rise to that occasion, become the woman or the man that actually is is worthy of that.
We were born worthy and nothing can change that. But what I mean is that you actually
grow into your shoes, knowing that you are there, you embody that as if you're already there.
And that power of the pivot, I mean, that's actually too, but understanding that if we
really believe that the universe has our back, God's got us, let's show up as that. Because I
truly believe that God doesn't give us any more than we think we can handle. When someone wants
to scale their business. And if I'm working with someone on the business side, because I do still
coach business with people in the one on one space. It's like, are you showing up as a woman who
actually is living her life as if she is worthy of that? And I'm not saying go buy a new car on
in debt. What I mean is, is that, do you really believe that? And we call that a Kedrala practice,
like, are you showing up like she, she who, who, who lives in luxury and luxury is going to be
different for me than it is for you. Luxury for me is actually being able to go to the mountains
in the summer and walk around barefoot and have my three dogs with me and hike every day. To me,
that is luxurious. It doesn't mean living in Paris and in a bubble bath, but for somebody, it might.
So again, how we do anything is how we do everything. So the biggest lesson for me is,
am I an integrity? And when I go to bed at night, I asked myself this question,
you know, these questions, how did I live? How did I love? How did I matter? And did I serve everyone
that I possibly could, that I knew that I could touch that day. And when you know, you're going
to ask those questions at the end of the day, you better believe you live your life a lot differently.
Well, you did mention pivot. So let's talk about your next milestone. What is your next milestone?
I love it. Well, we have a goal to touch 12 million lives directly and indirectly with the
work with sacred sheep. And what I mean by that is, is not just with the women, you know, that I'm
working with directly, if you were my client, but the women that will be touched by people on your
podcast, people that will be touched by your children, your grandchildren, because we like
say, we are sacred chi. And I get messages from my, my, my, my clients about their kids that actually
are watching their moms like skip for skipping practice. And the moms become a lot more fun
because they actually have really healed the little girl that lives inside of them. Right.
It's just real. I want to keep it real. And sometimes that's not the easiest thing to do,
but the vulnerability is, is, is such a, it's such beautiful fuel.
So out of curiosity, why the 12 million? Like why that number?
I honestly don't even know. It was literally just in a meditation back in gosh, 2019. I literally
was asleep, woke up in the middle of the night and sacred she with a K came to me. I woke up and I
literally, I think it was three o'clock in the morning. I grabbed my phone across the room and
I got it. And I just went on, go daddy. And I was like sacred. She with a K that was it. And the next
day I just told John, I went 12 million lives. I don't know. He's like, that's a lot because he's
like 25 years corporate. I mean, how'd I, how'd I have married that? I don't know. But, uh, and he's
like 12 million. He goes, do you know, he's like, and a little like, do you know how many? I'm like,
I don't know. It's just 12 million. Right. But we've had families hire us. And I'm like, it's
happening. I believe in generational blessings as well as generational curses and is happening.
He is like, and it's not like we have a wall with like dots on them. Like with like all the,
like a map, I mean, maybe we should, but, but in my mind it's already done. Like with a number,
either it's signified a number or some kind of mathematical formula that led you to that specific
number. Oh, I cannot wait to tell my husband that you asked that he's going to laugh so hard to go.
Oh no. You know, yeah, there's, you know, listen, Tony talks about, um, the business mastery. There's,
there's three archetypes in the business, right? There's the operator, um, the operator manager,
there's the entrepreneur, there's the artist, the operator manager for me is like way out to lunch.
I've got to have somebody help me fill that role for sure, but I'm definitely the artist, you know,
I love to create and I'm definitely the entrepreneur because I will always take chances. Right. But
that, uh, yeah. So I am excited. You asked me that because that tickles me that you asked me like,
where did that come? It's a good question. Well, and then let's go back to the good walk,
that strut that brings abundance. Do you just walk around your house or what's that magical
tip that you can leave us with? That's good. That s walk though, it was the flow. I mean, I say
anything's a practice. The way I teach mass and feminine energetics is not like you need to go to
a, uh, Sedona and dance around a fire and goddess dresses. Although that's fun. I really say, can you
just, when you walk through your doorframe, can you slow down and think, can I soften my jaw? Can
I swivel my hips? You know, can I, can I actually maybe take my hair out of my ponytail? Like what
can I do right now to be more in my body? Because let's face it, when we're in go, go, go, go, go
mode, we're not as juicy and we're not as creative either. Cause we're too busy doing in the mass
thing versus being, um, but that s walk, I mean, it's now a practice. I mean, I walked down the
aisle at the grocery store. There's a big difference sister. When you go get, when you go to pick up,
I would kind of show you. So let's just say like, this is the pen. You can't really see it, but let's
say that, you know, the pen's in front of me. So if I am in my masculine and I want the pen,
I always use the can of beans at the grocery store. So let's just say the can of beans right here.
Um, and if I'm in my mass and I'm a go to the grocery store, I'm going to go right in, I'm going
to go get the beans, right? But if I'm in my feminine, I'm going to walk in and I'm going to
like look around and I'm going to like just saunter. I say, take advantage to do the S walk all
the way down. You pick up this, you're looking at it, maybe smelling the lemons and you're taking
your time. You're you're taking, use your five senses and then you'll end up in like the beans
and like, Oh yeah, this will work. And maybe I'll take this, right? But that S walk, I'll send you
something too. I'll show you, but it is this very beautiful way to allow your hips to open up.
And it just calls in because it forces you just to slow down really does. Okay. So all around town,
whether I'm walking at the beach or at Publix, I'm just going to walk. Yeah. I always know you're
from Florida, cause you said Publix, but let me tell you a really quick thing before we go,
if you don't mind. When I first started studying embodiment, it was because I realized I had so
much knowledge in my, in my brain, my membrane, but nothing had seeped down in my body. So when
I started working with one of my favorite teachers for one of my certifications, like a three year
certification, he was telling me, he's like, you know, Sandy, your heart's been broken so much.
You've become addicted to pain and disappointment. Like your body has become wired and fired. Your
brain, your, your, your neuro pathways for that. You can get addicted to pain. You can get addicted
to joy. And he said, I really want you. Cause I tell you, most women that come to work with me,
they have a hard time accessing joy and sacred rage. So it's the first thing that I work on with
them. And I was the same way, believe it or not. I was like super stoic before my intervention. I
was not flamboyant like I am now. I was just, honestly, I think it was probably kind of boring
at the end of the day, when I think, look back on my life, successful, but not fulfilled and
definitely not living life like large, you know, that's for sure. But anyway, so he said, I really
want to give you a practice and we practice piano. We practice tennis, you know, because I want you
to practice joy. I want you to skip for three minutes a day, wherever you are, it's got to be
in public and because for 30 days. And so what happens, I'm like, Oh my God, are you kidding me?
But I did. I mean, I had video myself too. So that was the beginning of this, of this class that I
was in and the certification to be able to be able to bring my juices back to the world.
So I'm skipping all over, you know, Tampa Bay and anywhere I was airport down the aisle of a plane,
because, because when you start doing that, obviously you begin not caring what people think
they get happier, you're happier. It's hard to be feeling sorry for yourself when you're skipping.
It really is. And that was one of the first embodiment practice I was given. Most people,
when they hear feminine embodiment, they think sensual movement. That's definitely part of it
too. But I really teach it differently where I want you to have moment to moment practices,
where you can bring that in to pattern interrupt. So you don't have to always be
so in go mode. You can bring in more of the pleasure of life.
So where can my listeners find you to learn more? Yeah, sandy sembler.com and S A N D Y S E M B L E
R. I know we're going to have that quiz sandy sembler.com slash quiz is a free analysis you
can do. And just because you're a woman, don't think you're going to test as the feminine and
vice versa. I know for me, I was, you know, I was, I was, I just, I was so driven. I could not see
the light. I could not feel pleasure. So Instagram is a great way to find me. Love LinkedIn. I'm all
the things I do a lot of teaching though, on Instagram, I'd say, and we also have a YouTube
channel, but sandy sembler put me in the old Google and all these things pop up. Well, thank
you so much for your time today, sandy. That was so great. And I'm looking forward to talking to
you some more and getting to know you better. And some of your listeners and yeah, I'm letting
everyone be a part of this 12 million lives that are affected because we really need to heal our
beautiful heart. And again, I think that more women will be able to be more successful in the business
world if they actually healed some of their, their masculine energy, because the masculine is our
boundaries. The masculine is the one that will actually feel worthy of charging more, the one
that feels worthy of not being embarrassed that they're making money, for example, because like
I said, the more money that we're making is the more people we're serving and the more money we
can give away. So it works both ways. So I'm really, it was exciting talking to you today.
I mean, you're just a love and I just, I can't wait to see what your next love story is because
goodness gracious, your love story in business runs circles around so many of us. So kudos to
you for all your success. Well, thank you. And thank you to all of our listeners for tuning in
to another episode of milestone moments in business and leadership. See you later. Bye.