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Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening,

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everybody, and welcome to today's episode of

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the Never Peak Project Podcast. I'm your host,

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Coach Ranger. I walked across America in 2024,

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and along the way, I learned a ton of life, business,

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relationship, et cetera, lessons that I am putting

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into this podcast to help you build the life

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you've always wanted, and to remember that despite

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whatever mountains you've had in your past, that

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you can always reach the pinnacle of another

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one. It's really about developing. the never

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peak mentality that no matter where we are in

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our life, we can always be better. We can always

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learn something. And today's episode, I legitimately

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had the thought that I didn't want to record

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it and that I could just do this next week, which

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I think is so fitting because today's episode

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is all about the mindset shift that you need

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in order to get the results that you really want.

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The whole idea is centered around the concept

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of I don't want to start, but I will. And how

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that is such a powerful mindset shift for people,

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whether you want to start a business, fix your

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relationship, take care of your health, et cetera,

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et cetera, join a club that sometimes you don't

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want to do something, but you know you need to.

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That that desire to do the thing doesn't really

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matter when the work just needs to be done. Start

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first, feel second. That's the concept for today's

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episode. Now, to really just dive into the idea,

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there were plenty of days that I didn't want

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to actually walk on my journey. Like, I like

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to joke that I hated walking. I hated getting

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out every day. I hated walking 20 to 30, 40 miles

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some days. It hurt. It didn't feel good. I hated

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camping. I don't like the camp. I hate sleeping

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on the floor. It hurts. I have old bones. I don't

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want to do this. But it was so funny. I told

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one of my friends, Erica, I was like, you know,

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like, I hate camping. I hate hiking. I hate doing

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these things. She was like, well, why are you

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doing this walk? I said, well, because I want

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the outcome of walking across the country more

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than I hate the day to day actions. Right. Like

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sometimes there's just things in our life that

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we want the outcome. We want the vacation. But

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if we don't want to get on the plane, we can't

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do the vacation. Right. If we if we want to start

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a business, we want to have a successful business.

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But we hate marketing or sales or or fulfillment

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that that you got to get over. You got to get

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past it either, you know, figure it out for yourself,

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figure out how you can make it work for yourself,

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delegate, et cetera. But at the end of the day,

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like. the work needs doing. And really, I think

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that there is a, how do you say it? Like a interesting

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belief that people have that they feel like they

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need to want to do something or desire the actions

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before they can actually do them. And I feel

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like that is keeping so many people stuck in

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where they are right now. Like that activation

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energy, they haven't reached that point. Like

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that point of suck where they're like, oh, you

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know, my situation sucks, but it's not that bad.

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Or like, it's not worth doing anything over.

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It's not until that peak of suck is at the level

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that they're at right now that they actually

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decide to change something. Because it does require

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a lot of energy to change and do work, right?

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But I feel like a lot of people think that in

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order to do something, they need to want to do

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it. Sometimes you just need to do it. Cut out

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that middleman. And how this relates to your

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life or could potentially help you out is think

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about the results that you really want in your

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life, whether it is starting a business, having

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a good relationship. I think a good example of

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this is a client that I had a few years ago where

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she was having such a difficult time talking

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to her daughter -in -law and her husband. And

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every time her and her daughter -in -law would

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talk, it would turn to this screaming match,

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turn to this fight to the point that she just

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didn't want to do it anymore. She didn't want

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to bring it up. It would just cause issues. But

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she knew that the currency they were in was just

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terrible. You know, she didn't feel comfortable

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in her own home. Her daughter -in -law also didn't

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feel comfortable. And the husband was kind of

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caught in between it all. And it wasn't until

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we started working together and coaching that

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I was able to kind of, you know. take a stand

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with her and hold up that mirror and say, you

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know, like, the situation isn't going to get

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better unless you start having these conversations.

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And that was something she said. I didn't push

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her to have any conversations. She knew that

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there was a certain amount of work that needed

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to be done in order to get to a better place.

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But she didn't want to do it. At the end of the

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day, after the 12 weeks we worked together, she

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was able to put in that work, have those conversations

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that were very resourceful. that she was able

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to kind of put herself out there help the daughter

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-in -law feel comfortable talking to her about

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these things so that eventually they were able

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to actually make amends and be able to have movie

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nights to go out in public together like it was

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so incredible and amazing to see like i didn't

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physically see it happen of course but from what

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she was telling me to see that change happen

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over time and her confidence just from acting

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from doing the work that needed to be done to

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create the results that she wanted to see I thought

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that that was so amazing. And when it comes to

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the walk, I had to do that same thing. I knew

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I couldn't just magically appear to the next

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one. There was plenty of times when it would

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have been easier to just straight up get a ride

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or skip miles or not do the thing altogether.

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But I knew that that worked day in and day out,

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despite not wanting to walk, not wanting to do

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the thing. really got me amazing results. I was

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able to meet amazing people, see amazing sites,

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experience different environments, see different

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plants, different flowers, see how the states

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change over time. That was the most amazing part

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to me. It wasn't the day -to -day at work of

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finding places to sleep, of walking, falling

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asleep on the ground in some cases. So when it

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comes to your life and your... desire to create

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what you want in your life. I really think that

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the biggest thing is to figure out what you actually

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want to do, figure out the steps that you need

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to take to make it happen. And there's certain

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times you just need to turn off that desire machine

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that you think needs to be worrying at all times

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to get you to move and just do the work. Just

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do the thing that you need to do in order to

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create those results that you want. I know that

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sounds very general, but if you want to know

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how this could apply to your life, how you can

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make this happen, please feel free to take me

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up on the three 15 -minute consultations that

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I do at the end of all these episodes. The link

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to the calendar is in the description. Just find

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a time that works for you. We'll hop on a call,

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15 minutes. We'll figure it out so that you can

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move into your next step more comfortably and

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confidently. In the meantime... If you wanted

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to. In the meantime, if you want to try something

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on and see if this works for you, there is a

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Mel Robbins trick called the five second rule

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where you when you have that desire, you know

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you need to get something done. Countdown from

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five and just start doing the task. Don't give

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yourself time to think. Don't give yourself time

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to talk out of it. Just jump in and start doing

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the work. Because at the end of the day, all

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that matters is that you got a little bit further.

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from where you started. Thank you so much for

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listening today. I hope that today's lesson kind

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of helps you realize that at the end of the day,

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what really matters is taking action. Thank you

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so much for listening. As always, remember that

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the best is yet to come. As long as you are willing

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to make the decision every single day to never

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settle, never quit, and never peak. I'll see

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you guys in the next one.