Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening,
everybody, and welcome to today's episode of
the Never Peak Project Podcast. I'm your host,
Coach Ranger. I walked across America in 2024,
and along the way, I learned a ton of life, business,
relationship, et cetera, lessons that I am putting
into this podcast to help you build the life
you've always wanted, and to remember that despite
whatever mountains you've had in your past, that
you can always reach the pinnacle of another
one. It's really about developing. the never
peak mentality that no matter where we are in
our life, we can always be better. We can always
learn something. And today's episode, I legitimately
had the thought that I didn't want to record
it and that I could just do this next week, which
I think is so fitting because today's episode
is all about the mindset shift that you need
in order to get the results that you really want.
The whole idea is centered around the concept
of I don't want to start, but I will. And how
that is such a powerful mindset shift for people,
whether you want to start a business, fix your
relationship, take care of your health, et cetera,
et cetera, join a club that sometimes you don't
want to do something, but you know you need to.
That that desire to do the thing doesn't really
matter when the work just needs to be done. Start
first, feel second. That's the concept for today's
episode. Now, to really just dive into the idea,
there were plenty of days that I didn't want
to actually walk on my journey. Like, I like
to joke that I hated walking. I hated getting
out every day. I hated walking 20 to 30, 40 miles
some days. It hurt. It didn't feel good. I hated
camping. I don't like the camp. I hate sleeping
on the floor. It hurts. I have old bones. I don't
want to do this. But it was so funny. I told
one of my friends, Erica, I was like, you know,
like, I hate camping. I hate hiking. I hate doing
these things. She was like, well, why are you
doing this walk? I said, well, because I want
the outcome of walking across the country more
than I hate the day to day actions. Right. Like
sometimes there's just things in our life that
we want the outcome. We want the vacation. But
if we don't want to get on the plane, we can't
do the vacation. Right. If we if we want to start
a business, we want to have a successful business.
But we hate marketing or sales or or fulfillment
that that you got to get over. You got to get
past it either, you know, figure it out for yourself,
figure out how you can make it work for yourself,
delegate, et cetera. But at the end of the day,
like. the work needs doing. And really, I think
that there is a, how do you say it? Like a interesting
belief that people have that they feel like they
need to want to do something or desire the actions
before they can actually do them. And I feel
like that is keeping so many people stuck in
where they are right now. Like that activation
energy, they haven't reached that point. Like
that point of suck where they're like, oh, you
know, my situation sucks, but it's not that bad.
Or like, it's not worth doing anything over.
It's not until that peak of suck is at the level
that they're at right now that they actually
decide to change something. Because it does require
a lot of energy to change and do work, right?
But I feel like a lot of people think that in
order to do something, they need to want to do
it. Sometimes you just need to do it. Cut out
that middleman. And how this relates to your
life or could potentially help you out is think
about the results that you really want in your
life, whether it is starting a business, having
a good relationship. I think a good example of
this is a client that I had a few years ago where
she was having such a difficult time talking
to her daughter -in -law and her husband. And
every time her and her daughter -in -law would
talk, it would turn to this screaming match,
turn to this fight to the point that she just
didn't want to do it anymore. She didn't want
to bring it up. It would just cause issues. But
she knew that the currency they were in was just
terrible. You know, she didn't feel comfortable
in her own home. Her daughter -in -law also didn't
feel comfortable. And the husband was kind of
caught in between it all. And it wasn't until
we started working together and coaching that
I was able to kind of, you know. take a stand
with her and hold up that mirror and say, you
know, like, the situation isn't going to get
better unless you start having these conversations.
And that was something she said. I didn't push
her to have any conversations. She knew that
there was a certain amount of work that needed
to be done in order to get to a better place.
But she didn't want to do it. At the end of the
day, after the 12 weeks we worked together, she
was able to put in that work, have those conversations
that were very resourceful. that she was able
to kind of put herself out there help the daughter
-in -law feel comfortable talking to her about
these things so that eventually they were able
to actually make amends and be able to have movie
nights to go out in public together like it was
so incredible and amazing to see like i didn't
physically see it happen of course but from what
she was telling me to see that change happen
over time and her confidence just from acting
from doing the work that needed to be done to
create the results that she wanted to see I thought
that that was so amazing. And when it comes to
the walk, I had to do that same thing. I knew
I couldn't just magically appear to the next
one. There was plenty of times when it would
have been easier to just straight up get a ride
or skip miles or not do the thing altogether.
But I knew that that worked day in and day out,
despite not wanting to walk, not wanting to do
the thing. really got me amazing results. I was
able to meet amazing people, see amazing sites,
experience different environments, see different
plants, different flowers, see how the states
change over time. That was the most amazing part
to me. It wasn't the day -to -day at work of
finding places to sleep, of walking, falling
asleep on the ground in some cases. So when it
comes to your life and your... desire to create
what you want in your life. I really think that
the biggest thing is to figure out what you actually
want to do, figure out the steps that you need
to take to make it happen. And there's certain
times you just need to turn off that desire machine
that you think needs to be worrying at all times
to get you to move and just do the work. Just
do the thing that you need to do in order to
create those results that you want. I know that
sounds very general, but if you want to know
how this could apply to your life, how you can
make this happen, please feel free to take me
up on the three 15 -minute consultations that
I do at the end of all these episodes. The link
to the calendar is in the description. Just find
a time that works for you. We'll hop on a call,
15 minutes. We'll figure it out so that you can
move into your next step more comfortably and
confidently. In the meantime... If you wanted
to. In the meantime, if you want to try something
on and see if this works for you, there is a
Mel Robbins trick called the five second rule
where you when you have that desire, you know
you need to get something done. Countdown from
five and just start doing the task. Don't give
yourself time to think. Don't give yourself time
to talk out of it. Just jump in and start doing
the work. Because at the end of the day, all
that matters is that you got a little bit further.
from where you started. Thank you so much for
listening today. I hope that today's lesson kind
of helps you realize that at the end of the day,
what really matters is taking action. Thank you
so much for listening. As always, remember that
the best is yet to come. As long as you are willing
to make the decision every single day to never
settle, never quit, and never peak. I'll see
you guys in the next one.