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Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening,

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everybody, and welcome to today's episode of

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the Never Peak Project Podcast. I'm your host,

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Coach Ranger, Mindset Coach, Storyteller, and

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the guy who walked across America one step at

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a time. This podcast is about what it takes to

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build a life worth remembering and how to step

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into the next version of yourself no matter where

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you're starting from. Now, I've got a question

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for you. What if your breakthrough doesn't come

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after success? But before it, what if the shift

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happens the moment you decide to become someone,

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not when the world recognizes it, but when you

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do? In today's episode, we're diving into one

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of the most important mindset shifts I worked

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through with my clients and one that honestly

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changed my life. Be, do, have. We'll unpack how

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identity fuels action, how to stop waiting for

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permission to begin, and how to step into your

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next chapter before anyone else even sees it.

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Now, in order to understand this concept, I'm

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going to take you back a bit. Not to the day

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that I started walking across America, but just

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a few days before that. My fiancé, Julie, and

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I were sitting in a restaurant in Charleston,

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South Carolina. It was quiet, casual, and our

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waiter came by, friendly and curious, and asked

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us what brought us to the East Coast. I looked

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at her and said, that obvious that we're tourists?

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And I turned to him and without even thinking,

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I answered, We're just visiting. I've never been

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to the East Coast, and we're just kind of checking

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it out. And Julie kind of looked at me, stared

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at me, and in the most loving but, you know,

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what are you doing kind of way, sat up, leaned

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over, put her hands on the table and said, um,

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kind of, but actually we're here because he's

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about to walk across the country. And she said

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it like it was the most normal thing in the world,

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like we were there for a wedding. But inside,

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I was squirming a bit. I kind of felt like a

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fraud. It was like this wave of doubt rolled

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in right when it should have been confidence.

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I was just a few days away from starting my walk,

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but it felt like I wasn't actually there for

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that. But the real wild thing is I had already

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become the man who could walk across the country

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a year and a half earlier. It was the day right

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after one of my coaching sessions with my coach,

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the day that I texted Julie and said, I am going

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to walk across the country. I started making

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decisions from that identity. Once I'd stated

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out loud and declared to someone I cared about

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that I was going to do the thing, I became the

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type of person that can do the thing I wanted

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to do. And from that, I decided to act. started

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to do. I trained, I saved, I planned, I shifted

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everything around this big goal. So that moment

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in the restaurant, it wasn't a moment of failure

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of belief. It was just kind of a momentary lapse.

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I kind of called it pre -performance jitters,

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kind of like an actor backstage before the curtain

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rises. Like, you know your lines, you've done

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the work, but the doubt still whispers. And that's

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where having someone so supportive like Julie,

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someone who saw me clearly, really made all the

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difference. She was able to help remind me of

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what I already knew. There's a saying by Alex

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Ramosi that goes, we need to be reminded more

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than we need to be taught. And I'm just so thankful

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that I have someone like her to remind me that

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I already am that guy, even if I hadn't taken

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the first step yet. So a few days later, when

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her and I were at the Atlantic Ocean and I walked

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in and I walked back out, I wasn't becoming something

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I hadn't already been. It was just stepping back

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into what I had already decided long before anyone

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else saw it. And I really had what I wanted to

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achieve. Now, I was working with one of my clients

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post -walk and she said. I'll start going to

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the gym once I feel more fit. And I paused. I

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reflected it back to her because she had it backwards,

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like so many of us do. She was waiting to have

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confidence so she could do the thing and finally

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be who she wanted to be. She wasn't be -do -having.

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She was having -doing -being. It was doing the

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opposite. So I asked her, What version of you

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needs to walk into that gym today? Now, through

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the rest of the session, we uncovered some nerves,

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some uncertainty, and realized she already had

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everything she needed. She didn't have a six

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-pack. She didn't have a perfect plan. She just

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had the decision to act from and for her future

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self. She didn't need to wait until she was fit.

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She needed to walk in as someone who was becoming

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strong. So when clients struggle to step into

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their new identity, it's usually because of the

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sabotaging voice in their head. Now, in coaching,

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we use a technique called parts work where we

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name that voice and then name the opposite. We

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name the sabotaging voice, that inner critic,

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and we name the empowered voice who the client

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wants to be more like. Now, there was one client

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I had whose inner critic was called. The nasty

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mother -in -law. It was judgmental, loud, always

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in the corner, throwing shade. But her empowered

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voice was a stallion. Strong, confident, free.

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And that really became her anchor. She had a

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little figurine of a horse on her desk whenever

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she was working to remind her that she had a

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way to access the identity that was already inside

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of her, but she just needed that name to lead.

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She needed to have that reminder that she was

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already the type of person she needed to be to

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do the things that she wanted to do and have

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the things she wanted to achieve. So if this

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message is hitting home, here's how to take action

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today. Step one is to name the identity you want

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to step in. Is it something confident, creative,

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calm? Really just pick a word that resonates

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with you. And then... Take one small action as

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that version of yourself. Speak up in a meeting,

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book the class, send the message, ask the girl,

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shoot the shot. And third, find a symbol for

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your empowered self. What animal, object, person,

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or energy embodies who you want to be? Name it,

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anchor it, and find a way to remind yourself

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of it. Now, this is really how you stop waiting

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and start becoming. So if you're standing at

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your own version of a starting line, you've done

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the prep, you've made the plan, but you still

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don't feel ready, let me remind you, you don't

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need to wait to become that person. You become

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that person by showing up as them. And if you

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want some help sorting through the noise, finding

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your empowered voice, naming your next move,

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I'd love to talk. Go ahead and just book a free

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15 -minute coaching call. Just you and me over

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the phone, no pressure, just real conversation.

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about who you want to become and how we can get

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you there. Go ahead and click the link in the

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show notes to schedule it. Check the show notes

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for all the details. And remember, until next

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time, the best is yet to come. As long as every

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single day you make the decisions to never settle,

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never quit, and never peak. I'll see you all

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in the next one.