WEBVTT 00:00:02.279 --> 00:00:04.639 Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening, 00:00:04.679 --> 00:00:07.240 everybody, and welcome to today's episode of 00:00:07.240 --> 00:00:10.140 the Never Peak Project Podcast. I'm your host, 00:00:10.220 --> 00:00:14.099 Coach Ranger, and guys, today is the one -year 00:00:14.099 --> 00:00:18.239 anniversary of me starting my walk across the 00:00:18.239 --> 00:00:22.559 United States of America. Now, it's such a weird 00:00:22.559 --> 00:00:27.120 thing. I thought that this day would feel different, 00:00:27.239 --> 00:00:31.199 that it would be exciting, or I'd be full of... 00:00:31.899 --> 00:00:34.159 like jubilation, like excitement, like something, 00:00:34.200 --> 00:00:37.200 but it's, it's, it's interesting. Today I went 00:00:37.200 --> 00:00:40.380 to the dentist and I got my oil changed. And 00:00:40.380 --> 00:00:44.619 last night, uh, Julie, my fiance and I, um, and 00:00:44.619 --> 00:00:47.460 my, one of my best friends, Bryant, um, we're 00:00:47.460 --> 00:00:51.479 all living together in an apartment now and we 00:00:51.479 --> 00:00:55.079 had our first night there. So it's like, there's, 00:00:55.079 --> 00:00:56.920 there's a lot of things that are just like kind 00:00:56.920 --> 00:00:59.359 of normal, like different chapters, different 00:00:59.359 --> 00:01:03.850 phases. I feel like I'm just going to say and 00:01:03.850 --> 00:01:06.530 a lot. My face only just became a numb from the 00:01:06.530 --> 00:01:10.989 feeling I had to get this morning. But, you know, 00:01:11.030 --> 00:01:12.609 I've seen a few other people that have walked 00:01:12.609 --> 00:01:14.709 across the U .S. recently. They're making posts 00:01:14.709 --> 00:01:18.829 about their walkiversary. I know Walk to Washington. 00:01:19.310 --> 00:01:21.450 He just posted a couple of days ago that he started 00:01:21.450 --> 00:01:25.329 his walk two years ago, a few days ago, and he 00:01:25.329 --> 00:01:28.790 just did a big walk to celebrate. And I know 00:01:28.790 --> 00:01:32.189 that Andrew posted something recently about his 00:01:32.189 --> 00:01:35.969 walk and he's answering a lot of questions. Walking 00:01:35.969 --> 00:01:37.829 America couple, they just finished the leg of 00:01:37.829 --> 00:01:41.870 their journey. A walking testimony. I think Kendall 00:01:41.870 --> 00:01:45.469 is in Texas right now. And it's just so, it's 00:01:45.469 --> 00:01:47.310 so interesting, like keeping up with people. 00:01:47.349 --> 00:01:51.090 Oh, Kenny, he's doing some presentations and 00:01:51.090 --> 00:01:53.569 speaking. And I think it's so interesting that. 00:01:54.170 --> 00:01:57.010 even though I've done this thing, this extraordinary, 00:01:57.230 --> 00:02:01.469 really cool, exciting thing that I can still 00:02:01.469 --> 00:02:04.329 really feel myself like comparing myself to others 00:02:04.329 --> 00:02:08.389 that have, are, or will be doing it. Um, speaking 00:02:08.389 --> 00:02:11.789 of doing it now, uh, there's two guys, um, I'll 00:02:11.789 --> 00:02:13.689 be releasing an episode that I did with them, 00:02:13.810 --> 00:02:17.530 uh, two days from now on, on Wednesday, uh, the 00:02:17.530 --> 00:02:19.349 live in project. They just started their walk 00:02:19.349 --> 00:02:20.889 across the country and they asked me for some 00:02:20.889 --> 00:02:25.310 advice. And I guess, What I'm trying to say is 00:02:25.310 --> 00:02:28.990 that it's so easy to fall into comparison. So, 00:02:29.069 --> 00:02:32.629 so easy, right? Like I've done this thing that 00:02:32.629 --> 00:02:35.509 less than 1 % of the population will even consider 00:02:35.509 --> 00:02:38.349 doing. I think I'm going to make an episode about 00:02:38.349 --> 00:02:43.650 collecting ones eventually, but it's like, as 00:02:43.650 --> 00:02:47.330 soon as you find yourself in a new sphere, as 00:02:47.330 --> 00:02:50.340 soon as you accomplish something, It almost feels 00:02:50.340 --> 00:02:52.400 like you're at the bottom of the barrel. Compared 00:02:52.400 --> 00:02:54.819 to everybody else that you are friends with, 00:02:54.860 --> 00:02:57.439 your family, your sphere, the people that you 00:02:57.439 --> 00:03:00.340 interact with on social media. I did this thing 00:03:00.340 --> 00:03:03.560 that separated me from so many people. But what 00:03:03.560 --> 00:03:05.460 I'm trying to say is that it's so easy to, again, 00:03:05.539 --> 00:03:08.099 fall into saying, okay, I've done this thing. 00:03:08.460 --> 00:03:12.159 I'm in this category, this 1%. But I'm at the 00:03:12.159 --> 00:03:15.280 bottom, right? I don't know. I feel like there's 00:03:15.280 --> 00:03:19.439 something there. I've rambled for the first three 00:03:19.439 --> 00:03:22.039 minutes about those thoughts. But really what 00:03:22.039 --> 00:03:24.599 I wanted this episode to be about is just a few 00:03:24.599 --> 00:03:27.400 of the lessons that I learned from my walk across 00:03:27.400 --> 00:03:30.580 the United States. I'm still in the process of 00:03:30.580 --> 00:03:34.139 writing out my journal for the walk. It's going 00:03:34.139 --> 00:03:42.930 to be a 300 and well, not 365, 175 day. memoir, 00:03:43.030 --> 00:03:46.310 essentially, of my entire walk from day one to 00:03:46.310 --> 00:03:51.189 day 175, as well as a few stories from just before 00:03:51.189 --> 00:03:55.810 and just after. So I'm about halfway done with 00:03:55.810 --> 00:03:58.289 that. I really, really thought that I would have 00:03:58.289 --> 00:04:02.689 that done by November of last year. But writing's 00:04:02.689 --> 00:04:05.030 hard. It's something that takes a lot of time, 00:04:05.030 --> 00:04:07.990 a lot of energy, a lot of effort. Um, it takes 00:04:07.990 --> 00:04:10.409 me about an hour, 45 minutes to an hour to do 00:04:10.409 --> 00:04:13.349 one day update. So that was really interesting 00:04:13.349 --> 00:04:15.949 to learn that. Um, and even then, like, I feel 00:04:15.949 --> 00:04:17.589 like I have to go back through every single day 00:04:17.589 --> 00:04:19.709 and change it or rewrite it and make it more 00:04:19.709 --> 00:04:24.129 interesting. Um, and that is in tandem with a, 00:04:24.149 --> 00:04:25.709 another book that I want to write. I don't have 00:04:25.709 --> 00:04:27.569 a name or a working title. I just call it the 00:04:27.569 --> 00:04:30.930 book, uh, where it is more so like the secrets 00:04:30.930 --> 00:04:35.589 of success or a, um, list of. I think right now 00:04:35.589 --> 00:04:37.529 I'm around 20 or so lessons that I learned on 00:04:37.529 --> 00:04:40.769 the walk. I want to get that up to at least 30, 00:04:40.910 --> 00:04:44.230 maybe 40, just lessons, like small anecdotes 00:04:44.230 --> 00:04:47.189 that I can tell from the story very much. Here's 00:04:47.189 --> 00:04:49.509 a story. Here's the concept or lesson that I 00:04:49.509 --> 00:04:52.069 learned. And here's how you, the reader can apply 00:04:52.069 --> 00:04:54.870 that to your life. And I think that that will 00:04:54.870 --> 00:04:56.529 be something very interesting. I feel like that's 00:04:56.529 --> 00:04:59.689 going to be a huge project on its own. And it's, 00:04:59.689 --> 00:05:02.040 and again, it's funny that, you know, that. The 00:05:02.040 --> 00:05:06.420 work about the walk is what is taking the most 00:05:06.420 --> 00:05:09.060 time as opposed to the actual walk, the journey 00:05:09.060 --> 00:05:13.060 itself. I think that has a lot to say. I think 00:05:13.060 --> 00:05:14.899 I'm just kind of like spursing out some messages 00:05:14.899 --> 00:05:17.600 and lessons throughout this first five minute 00:05:17.600 --> 00:05:20.800 rambling phase. But really to jump into today's 00:05:20.800 --> 00:05:24.120 episode, I have that list of about 15 to 20 different 00:05:24.120 --> 00:05:26.459 lessons I learned on the walk. And I'm just going 00:05:26.459 --> 00:05:30.100 to pick a few of them. and really just dive deeper 00:05:30.100 --> 00:05:32.060 on them. There are so many more lessons. I really 00:05:32.060 --> 00:05:34.220 have to dive into all the podcasts that I did 00:05:34.220 --> 00:05:36.560 with people along the way that helped out, like 00:05:36.560 --> 00:05:38.600 Cold -Blooded Caffeine Company, my coffee sponsor, 00:05:39.040 --> 00:05:43.019 Marisol at Rooted Movement, my nutritionist, 00:05:43.079 --> 00:05:46.439 and really everybody else all the way from South 00:05:46.439 --> 00:05:50.060 Carolina to Southern California. Just the different 00:05:50.060 --> 00:05:52.420 lessons and things that I learned along the way 00:05:52.420 --> 00:05:56.480 from them. In addition to the things I've learned 00:05:56.480 --> 00:05:59.160 on my own. So there's going to be a lot of that. 00:05:59.259 --> 00:06:00.980 But to really jump into today's episode, I really 00:06:00.980 --> 00:06:02.779 want to give at least five different lessons 00:06:02.779 --> 00:06:04.779 that I've learned. Some of them are more fleshed 00:06:04.779 --> 00:06:06.939 out than others. I feel like there is something 00:06:06.939 --> 00:06:08.639 there that I want to work on and really dive 00:06:08.639 --> 00:06:11.339 deeper on. But I would... Really just want to 00:06:11.339 --> 00:06:13.579 jump in by saying that there is really a huge 00:06:13.579 --> 00:06:17.259 power of having a clear purpose in whatever it 00:06:17.259 --> 00:06:19.600 is that you're doing. For my walk across the 00:06:19.600 --> 00:06:22.480 United States, a few months before I started 00:06:22.480 --> 00:06:24.240 the journey, I was on a phone call with Mark 00:06:24.240 --> 00:06:26.540 Dudek, one of the mentors that I had from the 00:06:26.540 --> 00:06:30.600 walk. And during our conversation, I was asking 00:06:30.600 --> 00:06:33.759 very tactical stuff. What do I wear? What equipment 00:06:33.759 --> 00:06:36.019 do I need? How do I manage this? What do I do 00:06:36.019 --> 00:06:38.079 about dehydration? Were dogs an issue? People? 00:06:38.240 --> 00:06:40.680 Stain? Blah, blah, blah. This and that. And I 00:06:40.680 --> 00:06:43.879 was very heady stuff, right? And at the very 00:06:43.879 --> 00:06:45.459 end of it, I said, you know, is there anything 00:06:45.459 --> 00:06:48.839 else that I haven't asked you that you think 00:06:48.839 --> 00:06:51.339 that I need to think about? And I was hoping 00:06:51.339 --> 00:06:54.720 he would say the perfect kind of sock or something 00:06:54.720 --> 00:06:57.759 so small and stupid that would just make it so 00:06:57.759 --> 00:07:00.759 easy to do the walk. And he just kind of said, 00:07:00.819 --> 00:07:03.980 you know, like, why are you doing this? What 00:07:03.980 --> 00:07:08.889 is your reason behind it? Really, my reason at 00:07:08.889 --> 00:07:12.149 first was kind of just to do it. I thought it 00:07:12.149 --> 00:07:14.689 was cool. I thought it was exciting. I'd done 00:07:14.689 --> 00:07:18.170 some work on really fleshing out for myself what 00:07:18.170 --> 00:07:20.930 I wanted it to be about. Something that I talk 00:07:20.930 --> 00:07:24.490 a little bit about is... developing a web of 00:07:24.490 --> 00:07:28.110 whys. So I don't know if there's, I hope, dear 00:07:28.110 --> 00:07:29.810 Lord, I hope that there's people that know Spider 00:07:29.810 --> 00:07:33.250 -Man in my audience, but really just the idea 00:07:33.250 --> 00:07:35.410 is that at the center is the thing that you want 00:07:35.410 --> 00:07:37.610 to do and attach that are all these different 00:07:37.610 --> 00:07:40.550 reasons as to why you want to do it. And that's 00:07:40.550 --> 00:07:43.149 great to have a web of whys, a bunch of different 00:07:43.149 --> 00:07:46.839 reasons, but what Mark... was really getting 00:07:46.839 --> 00:07:49.459 at was, you know, I'm going to be stopped every 00:07:49.459 --> 00:07:51.899 single day, hundreds and maybe thousands of times 00:07:51.899 --> 00:07:55.180 during this journey. And so many people are going 00:07:55.180 --> 00:07:57.620 to wonder why I'm doing it. They're going to 00:07:57.620 --> 00:08:00.259 ask me, you know, they pull me over, Hey, do 00:08:00.259 --> 00:08:01.579 you need any help? Do you need anything? No, 00:08:01.699 --> 00:08:04.259 I'm walking across the U S the first thing out 00:08:04.259 --> 00:08:08.009 of their mouth every single time was why. And 00:08:08.009 --> 00:08:11.529 it was different tones, different levels of curiosity 00:08:11.529 --> 00:08:14.430 around that. But what he was getting at is if 00:08:14.430 --> 00:08:22.189 I couldn't clearly say for myself as to why I 00:08:22.189 --> 00:08:23.990 was doing it in a way that a lot of people could 00:08:23.990 --> 00:08:25.850 understand, I was going to have a very difficult 00:08:25.850 --> 00:08:28.490 time. I wasn't going to have time to talk about 00:08:28.490 --> 00:08:30.329 every single different reason that I wanted to 00:08:30.329 --> 00:08:32.769 do the walk. I needed to have one concise thing 00:08:32.769 --> 00:08:35.389 that I was going to say every time somebody asked 00:08:35.389 --> 00:08:39.460 and then be able to go from there. And one of 00:08:39.460 --> 00:08:42.639 the workshops that I have been doing post -walk 00:08:42.639 --> 00:08:45.759 is called The Power of Purpose, creating a mission 00:08:45.759 --> 00:08:49.460 statement for your life or business. And it's 00:08:49.460 --> 00:08:51.240 been something that a lot of people have resonated 00:08:51.240 --> 00:08:53.059 with. I've done it a few times now. I'm doing 00:08:53.059 --> 00:08:55.840 it again in front of a live audience at the end 00:08:55.840 --> 00:08:59.320 of this month over in San Mateo area. And really 00:08:59.320 --> 00:09:02.159 what it is, is I'll leave some info in the show 00:09:02.159 --> 00:09:04.100 notes so that people can actually go and look 00:09:04.100 --> 00:09:07.759 at it and check it out completely free. Use it, 00:09:07.799 --> 00:09:11.279 please. But really about creating a mission statement, 00:09:11.460 --> 00:09:13.080 right? Like all these big companies, Disney, 00:09:13.159 --> 00:09:15.100 Tesla, maybe that's not a good example to use 00:09:15.100 --> 00:09:17.139 right now. But the point is all these different 00:09:17.139 --> 00:09:19.059 companies have a mission statement. They have 00:09:19.059 --> 00:09:22.480 a broader purpose as to why they are there. And 00:09:22.480 --> 00:09:26.460 typically there's three main categories per the 00:09:26.460 --> 00:09:30.779 path by Laurie Beth Jones. But your mission statement 00:09:30.779 --> 00:09:34.809 needs to be shorter than a sentence. easy enough 00:09:34.809 --> 00:09:36.990 to understand that a 12 -year -old could get 00:09:36.990 --> 00:09:40.529 it, and it needs to be recitable under extreme 00:09:40.529 --> 00:09:43.330 pressure. So that was something that I really 00:09:43.330 --> 00:09:45.730 wanted to develop on the walk, is something that's 00:09:45.730 --> 00:09:48.769 short, quick to the point, easy enough in language 00:09:48.769 --> 00:09:51.129 that's not too confusing that anybody could understand 00:09:51.129 --> 00:09:54.580 all across the U .S., And that I can recite it 00:09:54.580 --> 00:09:56.139 under extreme pressure. I was going to be saying 00:09:56.139 --> 00:09:58.360 this on the side of the road every single day, 00:09:58.399 --> 00:10:00.940 multiple times a day, from the moment I wake 00:10:00.940 --> 00:10:03.500 up to the moment I go to bed, essentially, in 00:10:03.500 --> 00:10:06.480 front of a crowd, in front of the news. I was 00:10:06.480 --> 00:10:10.500 on live TV a few times as cars are whizzing past 00:10:10.500 --> 00:10:13.769 at 80, 90 miles an hour. And I couldn't. In those 00:10:13.769 --> 00:10:16.250 situations, I couldn't go on this whole web of 00:10:16.250 --> 00:10:18.070 whys. I had to be able to clearly say my mission 00:10:18.070 --> 00:10:21.669 statement, which was to highlight, learn from, 00:10:21.710 --> 00:10:23.629 and work with people in the US that are making 00:10:23.629 --> 00:10:27.190 a real difference in their communities. And I 00:10:27.190 --> 00:10:28.730 think that that was something that a lot of people 00:10:28.730 --> 00:10:31.750 could get and understand. You know, if I were 00:10:31.750 --> 00:10:33.230 to say, you know, to highlight, learn from, or 00:10:33.230 --> 00:10:36.190 work with. I think that people could either pick 00:10:36.190 --> 00:10:37.710 one of those things, you know, they could highlight, 00:10:37.830 --> 00:10:39.429 okay, well, how are you highlighting? What does 00:10:39.429 --> 00:10:42.149 that look like for you? Learn from, okay, like 00:10:42.149 --> 00:10:44.690 he's on a, like a personal discovery, self -development 00:10:44.690 --> 00:10:47.830 journey, work with, okay, he wants to be in the 00:10:47.830 --> 00:10:49.590 trenches. He wants to do things with people, 00:10:49.649 --> 00:10:53.529 right? So when it comes to your life or business, 00:10:53.649 --> 00:10:55.769 I think that having a clear mission statement 00:10:55.769 --> 00:10:59.529 for the project overall and then yourself as 00:10:59.529 --> 00:11:01.970 an individual, I think are two very important 00:11:01.970 --> 00:11:04.210 things that you should consider when it comes 00:11:04.210 --> 00:11:08.029 to the life that you want to create. There's 00:11:08.029 --> 00:11:09.649 a client that I'm working with right now and 00:11:09.649 --> 00:11:11.950 she has this beautiful coaching practice and 00:11:11.950 --> 00:11:13.990 she was able to say, you know, I have this paragraph 00:11:13.990 --> 00:11:17.029 of a mission statement for my company and it's 00:11:17.029 --> 00:11:18.950 great. It's very clear. I love it and exciting. 00:11:19.850 --> 00:11:22.169 And I asked her, I was like, great, what's your 00:11:22.169 --> 00:11:24.830 mission? And she said, one second, let me read 00:11:24.830 --> 00:11:26.389 off the paragraph. I said, no, no, no, no, no. 00:11:26.450 --> 00:11:29.570 What is your mission? Your personal mission? 00:11:30.190 --> 00:11:33.169 And she kind of like stopped in her tracks. Like 00:11:33.169 --> 00:11:36.529 I could see her on the Zoom kind of like, oh, 00:11:36.629 --> 00:11:38.470 I've never really thought of that. No one's asked 00:11:38.470 --> 00:11:40.409 me that. And I think that that is something to 00:11:40.409 --> 00:11:45.350 keep in mind that we as people are not the... 00:11:46.240 --> 00:11:48.700 um things we do we're not the accolades we're 00:11:48.700 --> 00:11:52.399 we're not the the clothes we wear uh we're barely 00:11:52.399 --> 00:11:54.779 the things we say or the things we think like 00:11:54.779 --> 00:11:59.860 we we're so interestingly different and separate 00:11:59.860 --> 00:12:03.059 from the world that we perceive i think this 00:12:03.059 --> 00:12:05.519 is getting a little bit more self -actualized 00:12:05.519 --> 00:12:09.539 than i i want it to be um But I think by being 00:12:09.539 --> 00:12:11.960 able to say, this is the project's mission statement, 00:12:11.960 --> 00:12:14.000 this is the business, the nonprofit, but this 00:12:14.000 --> 00:12:17.200 is mine. And this is where that project fits 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:20.720 in is so powerful and special. And something 00:12:20.720 --> 00:12:23.820 that I reminded her is figure out what your mission 00:12:23.820 --> 00:12:27.879 is. Why are you here? Not why was I put here? 00:12:27.940 --> 00:12:29.620 Why did something else externally create this? 00:12:29.639 --> 00:12:31.899 Like, what do I want to create from my life? 00:12:32.440 --> 00:12:34.799 And I think that remembering that these things 00:12:34.799 --> 00:12:38.000 that we do are just a means to an end. is so 00:12:38.000 --> 00:12:41.799 important? What is it that the job that I do 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:45.480 is giving me in my life? What is it buying me? 00:12:46.340 --> 00:12:48.940 Is it having that, buying that passion, buying 00:12:48.940 --> 00:12:50.960 that excitement, buying these opportunities that 00:12:50.960 --> 00:12:55.440 I can travel, that I can do these things? I think 00:12:55.440 --> 00:12:58.500 that remembering that everything we do, every 00:12:58.500 --> 00:13:01.919 choice that we make should be aligned and an 00:13:01.919 --> 00:13:04.639 action of us walking towards that purpose and 00:13:04.639 --> 00:13:06.740 that mission statement is something that would 00:13:06.740 --> 00:13:10.299 help make the world a much better place. I think 00:13:10.299 --> 00:13:12.139 that there's that saying, not all who wander 00:13:12.139 --> 00:13:16.220 are lost. I think that what makes them not lost 00:13:16.220 --> 00:13:18.940 is having that mission statement, is having something 00:13:18.940 --> 00:13:22.799 greater than themselves to say, hey, you may 00:13:22.799 --> 00:13:24.779 not understand what I'm doing. This is why I'm 00:13:24.779 --> 00:13:26.879 doing it. Either you can come along with me, 00:13:26.919 --> 00:13:28.940 you can support me, or you can get out of my 00:13:28.940 --> 00:13:32.230 way. I think that that is something that helps 00:13:32.230 --> 00:13:34.769 you identify who you should partner with, what 00:13:34.769 --> 00:13:39.169 the activities you should do. I feel like, again, 00:13:39.210 --> 00:13:40.610 all these things I'm going to be talking about 00:13:40.610 --> 00:13:44.129 today can be their own episode. But that would 00:13:44.129 --> 00:13:46.830 be the first one that I want to start off with. 00:13:47.610 --> 00:13:52.809 The second one, and I'm not going to edit this. 00:13:52.870 --> 00:13:54.389 I know you guys can kind of see me going through 00:13:54.389 --> 00:13:58.830 them on the video and having a second on. Yeah, 00:13:58.870 --> 00:14:02.490 I think another thing that I saw recently is 00:14:02.490 --> 00:14:06.570 the idea of the stories that we tell ourselves. 00:14:07.830 --> 00:14:10.169 I've had a few one -to -ones, one -on -one meetings 00:14:10.169 --> 00:14:12.450 with business owners in the area where I'm at 00:14:12.450 --> 00:14:15.549 now over in San Mateo County. And they asked 00:14:15.549 --> 00:14:17.490 me, what got you into coaching? Because I'm there 00:14:17.490 --> 00:14:19.269 to talk about my coaching practice and about 00:14:19.269 --> 00:14:21.830 the impact that I create and the transformation 00:14:21.830 --> 00:14:25.990 that I offer clients, whatever, whatever. Everybody 00:14:25.990 --> 00:14:28.830 wants to know, how did you land into that? I 00:14:28.830 --> 00:14:32.450 don't look like a life coach for the most part. 00:14:32.710 --> 00:14:35.450 I usually wear my Carhartt jacket, my boots, 00:14:35.529 --> 00:14:39.190 my whatever. And I just tell them my story about 00:14:39.190 --> 00:14:43.750 how I had a really hard time in college. I originally 00:14:43.750 --> 00:14:46.190 went for animal science to be a veterinarian. 00:14:46.190 --> 00:14:48.870 And the joke that I make is that major turned 00:14:48.870 --> 00:14:51.879 out to be a lot more science than animal. So 00:14:51.879 --> 00:14:53.740 I almost failed out of college a couple times. 00:14:53.840 --> 00:14:55.399 I had a really difficult time. And, you know, 00:14:55.419 --> 00:14:58.639 that academic shift for me, you know, I was on 00:14:58.639 --> 00:15:00.360 a roll all throughout high school, top of my 00:15:00.360 --> 00:15:04.860 class, 4 .0 plus GPA, AP, this and that, president, 00:15:04.980 --> 00:15:08.019 blah, blah, blah. And then got to college, and 00:15:08.019 --> 00:15:11.659 I was barely scraping by. I got like a 2 .4, 00:15:11.720 --> 00:15:15.000 2 .5 cumulative at the end, just barely enough 00:15:15.000 --> 00:15:18.460 to graduate. And I think a lot of that, the reason 00:15:18.460 --> 00:15:21.600 behind... But eventually that to me wanting to 00:15:21.600 --> 00:15:27.019 get coach is the stories and the reasons that 00:15:27.019 --> 00:15:29.639 I gave myself. That's why that was a thing. You 00:15:29.639 --> 00:15:32.840 know, when I failed that first test, my first 00:15:32.840 --> 00:15:35.039 thought wasn't necessarily, oh, there's this 00:15:35.039 --> 00:15:37.340 information in front of me that I didn't do as 00:15:37.340 --> 00:15:42.980 well as I thought I would. That, you know, oh, 00:15:43.000 --> 00:15:44.460 maybe I didn't study enough or I didn't do this, 00:15:44.460 --> 00:15:46.080 whatever, whatever. What I what I thought originally 00:15:46.080 --> 00:15:49.049 was I'm an idiot. Like, I'm stupid. what the 00:15:49.049 --> 00:15:52.950 hell happened to change this? I thought I was 00:15:52.950 --> 00:15:57.149 good at math. I'm not good at this anymore. And 00:15:57.149 --> 00:15:59.090 I think that that really started to shift. That 00:15:59.090 --> 00:16:01.850 story I was telling myself started to turn into 00:16:01.850 --> 00:16:04.889 my identity. That I wasn't smart anymore. That 00:16:04.889 --> 00:16:08.129 I wasn't good enough to go to vet school, so 00:16:08.129 --> 00:16:11.850 why even try? Those stories are what were stacking 00:16:11.850 --> 00:16:14.730 up against me. And I was just finding a negative 00:16:14.730 --> 00:16:18.480 burden of proof to show, hey, I'm not cut out 00:16:18.480 --> 00:16:21.279 for this. This isn't good enough anymore. And 00:16:21.279 --> 00:16:24.840 I laughed because that was something that consistently 00:16:24.840 --> 00:16:27.480 came up for me throughout the rest of college 00:16:27.480 --> 00:16:30.620 and just after college. And how it relates to 00:16:30.620 --> 00:16:34.860 the walk is in 2019, when I saw that Mike Posner 00:16:34.860 --> 00:16:37.779 was walking across the US, I thought that that 00:16:37.779 --> 00:16:40.460 was so exciting. I thought that was cool. I remember 00:16:40.460 --> 00:16:42.299 like looking at the videos and kind of like scrolling 00:16:42.299 --> 00:16:44.620 through what he was posting and saying, you know, 00:16:44.639 --> 00:16:46.620 how neat, how exciting, how amazing, how great. 00:16:47.200 --> 00:16:50.779 I wish I could do something like that, but I'm 00:16:50.779 --> 00:16:54.259 not cut out for something of that nature. I can't 00:16:54.259 --> 00:16:57.139 do something that big. That's not for people 00:16:57.139 --> 00:17:00.379 like me. He's this famous singer, songwriter, 00:17:00.500 --> 00:17:03.240 artist guy, and I'm just a guy that can barely 00:17:03.240 --> 00:17:05.960 get through business school at UC Davis, right? 00:17:06.579 --> 00:17:12.500 And it's those stories that I told myself that 00:17:12.500 --> 00:17:14.539 prevented me from even thinking that the walk 00:17:14.539 --> 00:17:17.829 was possible for me for four years. And it wasn't 00:17:17.829 --> 00:17:19.890 until I saw Mark and Andrew complete their walks 00:17:19.890 --> 00:17:23.450 and I found Andrew's TikTok video where he did 00:17:23.450 --> 00:17:26.509 his last mile with Mike Posner. And from that 00:17:26.509 --> 00:17:30.509 video, I was able to find Mark's podcast and 00:17:30.509 --> 00:17:32.190 listen to his journey, his story that I realized 00:17:32.190 --> 00:17:35.170 that those were just two normal guys. from Ohio 00:17:35.170 --> 00:17:38.930 and Kansas. And then by making that realization 00:17:38.930 --> 00:17:40.670 and going back and looking at Mike's content, 00:17:40.869 --> 00:17:43.569 I realized that he told himself these stories 00:17:43.569 --> 00:17:45.769 too, that when he first heard about the walk, 00:17:45.890 --> 00:17:47.549 he thought, how neat, how amazing, how exciting. 00:17:47.769 --> 00:17:49.970 I wish I had time to do something like that. 00:17:50.069 --> 00:17:54.430 I wish I had the capability to make something 00:17:54.430 --> 00:18:00.569 like that a reality in my life. And Seeing that 00:18:00.569 --> 00:18:02.250 it wasn't just me making those stories, that 00:18:02.250 --> 00:18:04.990 other people that I was looking up to were making 00:18:04.990 --> 00:18:07.490 those stories as well, really just made that 00:18:07.490 --> 00:18:09.990 shift that these are just bullshit stories that 00:18:09.990 --> 00:18:12.509 I'm telling myself as to why I can or can't achieve 00:18:12.509 --> 00:18:17.450 this thing. Very Jordan Belfort quote. But it 00:18:17.450 --> 00:18:19.519 wasn't until I made that... realization, and 00:18:19.519 --> 00:18:21.779 I went through my coach training, I got certified, 00:18:22.039 --> 00:18:24.380 I did all this work, like my own internal work 00:18:24.380 --> 00:18:27.339 to understand how worldview plays into your beliefs, 00:18:27.420 --> 00:18:30.579 turns into your behavior and your actions, and 00:18:30.579 --> 00:18:32.339 what you actually see and create in the world, 00:18:32.440 --> 00:18:36.400 that I was able to make that observation with 00:18:36.400 --> 00:18:39.119 other people. And I don't know what I want to 00:18:39.119 --> 00:18:40.940 call this just yet. I think I'm kind of calling 00:18:40.940 --> 00:18:43.700 it bedtime stories, because it's these stories 00:18:43.700 --> 00:18:48.619 that you tell yourself when you're alone, put 00:18:48.619 --> 00:18:51.319 yourself to sleep with or you eventually wake 00:18:51.319 --> 00:18:54.839 up from. But every single day of the walk, when 00:18:54.839 --> 00:18:57.000 these people would stop and talk to me, you know, 00:18:57.000 --> 00:18:58.460 why are you doing this? It's so exciting. That's 00:18:58.460 --> 00:19:03.140 so cool. Just as many people would say, I wish 00:19:03.140 --> 00:19:05.559 I could do something like that. And I always 00:19:05.559 --> 00:19:07.200 made sure that I could tell them like, hey, I 00:19:07.200 --> 00:19:09.480 thought the same exact thing that you're saying 00:19:09.480 --> 00:19:12.539 to me right now. You know, I was telling myself 00:19:12.539 --> 00:19:16.700 these BS stories as about my capabilities. And 00:19:16.700 --> 00:19:19.079 then I've met people that had disabilities or 00:19:19.079 --> 00:19:23.059 whether it was physical, mental behavior or whatever. 00:19:23.319 --> 00:19:26.460 I was like, hey, my walk won't be the same as 00:19:26.460 --> 00:19:29.299 yours. There's a friend of mine who's trans. 00:19:29.660 --> 00:19:33.380 And she said, here's another thing that you can 00:19:33.380 --> 00:19:37.779 do that I can't do. And I'm not here to talk 00:19:37.779 --> 00:19:40.059 about the systemic issues in the U .S. or the 00:19:40.059 --> 00:19:42.799 issues whether or not she is correct for the 00:19:42.799 --> 00:19:46.119 political climate. But I told her like, you know, 00:19:46.200 --> 00:19:49.400 I have no idea the trials or things that you 00:19:49.400 --> 00:19:52.319 would face, but I know in my heart that you could 00:19:52.319 --> 00:19:55.019 do this too. Your walk is going to look different 00:19:55.019 --> 00:19:57.339 from mine. And I told people that too, that, 00:19:57.400 --> 00:19:59.539 you know, the big crazy thing that I'm doing 00:19:59.539 --> 00:20:01.200 doesn't have to be the big crazy thing that you 00:20:01.200 --> 00:20:04.960 do, right? Like my walk is going to look so much 00:20:04.960 --> 00:20:07.390 different from your walk. Like the two guys that 00:20:07.390 --> 00:20:09.210 are doing a living project, like their walk is 00:20:09.210 --> 00:20:11.369 going to look so different from mine, not just 00:20:11.369 --> 00:20:12.750 because they're starting in a different state, 00:20:12.849 --> 00:20:14.789 but because they're different people. They're 00:20:14.789 --> 00:20:17.049 going to see things differently. The way that 00:20:17.049 --> 00:20:19.049 you perceive the world is different from every 00:20:19.049 --> 00:20:21.309 single other person in the world, regardless 00:20:21.309 --> 00:20:23.309 of your upbringing. Even if people grew up in 00:20:23.309 --> 00:20:25.150 the same area, there's going to be small, minute 00:20:25.150 --> 00:20:27.690 things that they see that they don't see that 00:20:27.690 --> 00:20:30.650 is going to impact their experience of it. And 00:20:30.650 --> 00:20:32.730 I think that just really by understanding that. 00:20:33.500 --> 00:20:36.180 There's two things at play in any situation. 00:20:36.640 --> 00:20:40.819 There is what happened, and there's the story 00:20:40.819 --> 00:20:42.920 you're telling yourself about what happened. 00:20:43.400 --> 00:20:47.000 That's what's going on. Now, there is the event, 00:20:47.299 --> 00:20:50.319 and there's the story. And you're the one that 00:20:50.319 --> 00:20:53.440 creates the story. So whatever story you create, 00:20:53.950 --> 00:20:57.150 Make sure that it works for you in terms of you 00:20:57.150 --> 00:20:58.990 creating the life you want to live and being 00:20:58.990 --> 00:21:02.089 the type of person that you want to be. Because 00:21:02.089 --> 00:21:04.069 if you don't get past those initial bedtime stories, 00:21:04.369 --> 00:21:07.529 you'll never wake up to the person that you truly 00:21:07.529 --> 00:21:15.609 want to be. Now, the next thing. Oh, gosh. Yeah, 00:21:15.730 --> 00:21:21.200 another fun thing that I found past. past the 00:21:21.200 --> 00:21:24.799 walk, um, my friends, you know, like the, oh, 00:21:24.940 --> 00:21:27.619 is it walking distance? Um, that is such a common 00:21:27.619 --> 00:21:32.539 phrase. And, um, after the walk, it's kind of 00:21:32.539 --> 00:21:34.480 taken on a whole new meaning in my friend group, 00:21:34.539 --> 00:21:37.859 but they would, you know, if we were to go to 00:21:37.859 --> 00:21:40.660 like, um, Sacramento or San Francisco or Half 00:21:40.660 --> 00:21:43.500 Moon Bay, whatever, um, between different places, 00:21:43.559 --> 00:21:45.019 you know, people would say, oh, like, do we have 00:21:45.019 --> 00:21:47.819 the drivers at walking distance? And when they 00:21:47.819 --> 00:21:49.319 would say that, they'd kind of look at me and 00:21:49.319 --> 00:21:51.680 they'd go, well, you know, for some of us, anything 00:21:51.680 --> 00:21:57.539 is walking distance. And when I get asked if 00:21:57.539 --> 00:22:00.880 something is within walking distance, of course, 00:22:00.900 --> 00:22:03.619 I do have a little bit of a skewed opinion about 00:22:03.619 --> 00:22:07.940 what is or isn't walking distance. But what I 00:22:07.940 --> 00:22:09.779 like to say to that is, well, how much time do 00:22:09.779 --> 00:22:14.500 you have? Because, I mean, it's silly, but like... 00:22:14.680 --> 00:22:16.920 Anything is walking distance if you have enough 00:22:16.920 --> 00:22:20.920 time. And this is about walking and this is not 00:22:20.920 --> 00:22:25.920 about walking. I think this is really a big thing 00:22:25.920 --> 00:22:30.640 for business or just really any other big project 00:22:30.640 --> 00:22:34.220 is, you know, if you're in business, you know, 00:22:34.259 --> 00:22:36.440 like business takes a while to get up and going. 00:22:36.519 --> 00:22:38.200 I'm experiencing that right now in my coaching 00:22:38.200 --> 00:22:40.339 practice, with the podcast, with everything else. 00:22:43.600 --> 00:22:47.539 One of the biggest things that I've learned from 00:22:47.539 --> 00:22:52.880 the walk in regards to time is the only way that 00:22:52.880 --> 00:22:54.960 you're going to create the result that you see 00:22:54.960 --> 00:22:58.599 at the end is by doing all of the work leading 00:22:58.599 --> 00:23:03.220 up to it. Right? Like, is it possible to walk? 00:23:03.380 --> 00:23:07.359 Is California in walking distance from South 00:23:07.359 --> 00:23:12.039 Carolina? depends on how much time you have. 00:23:12.099 --> 00:23:14.359 How much time are you willing to give it? Is 00:23:14.359 --> 00:23:16.819 me starting my business, like, is it possible 00:23:16.819 --> 00:23:18.619 for me to make a hundred thousand dollars a year 00:23:18.619 --> 00:23:22.700 in my business? How much time do you have? What, 00:23:22.779 --> 00:23:26.180 what time horizon are you looking at? Is it possible 00:23:26.180 --> 00:23:28.940 to walk across the country in a day, a month, 00:23:29.019 --> 00:23:32.710 a year? It depends on so many different factors. 00:23:32.750 --> 00:23:35.589 It depends on your skill level, where you're 00:23:35.589 --> 00:23:38.450 starting from, where you're going, like how fast 00:23:38.450 --> 00:23:41.089 you're able to go. And I think that that is something 00:23:41.089 --> 00:23:43.430 to keep in mind when it comes to any big project 00:23:43.430 --> 00:23:47.470 or business that you want to start. Sometimes 00:23:47.470 --> 00:23:49.650 some of us might have a handicap when it comes 00:23:49.650 --> 00:23:52.930 to doing a big project. And when I say handicap, 00:23:53.029 --> 00:23:54.789 I don't mean as a negative thing. I don't know 00:23:54.789 --> 00:23:59.299 how else to describe it. But like a... 24 year 00:23:59.299 --> 00:24:01.339 old with a kid is going to have a very different 00:24:01.339 --> 00:24:03.380 experience starting a business than a 24 year 00:24:03.380 --> 00:24:05.819 old without, right? Like there's different considerations. 00:24:06.900 --> 00:24:11.079 Walking across the country with a stroller is 00:24:11.079 --> 00:24:13.660 going to look very different than with one, with 00:24:13.660 --> 00:24:17.299 a partner, without, right? It depends on so many 00:24:17.299 --> 00:24:19.660 different factors. And I think that's something 00:24:19.660 --> 00:24:24.039 that people kind of get caught up in with. uh 00:24:24.039 --> 00:24:27.119 regards to achieving these big things is how 00:24:27.119 --> 00:24:30.359 much time are they willing to give it um a lot 00:24:30.359 --> 00:24:33.279 of people end up stopping before their true limit 00:24:33.279 --> 00:24:35.019 and i think that that is what is stopping them 00:24:35.019 --> 00:24:39.720 from getting to where they want to go um gosh 00:24:39.720 --> 00:24:41.880 see like i i like i was saying earlier like i'm 00:24:41.880 --> 00:24:44.519 having a hard time like making all these topics 00:24:44.519 --> 00:24:47.339 very organized so thank you for bearing with 00:24:47.339 --> 00:24:49.460 me i'm like apologizing to my phone right now 00:24:49.460 --> 00:24:54.630 but really it's just so If you're not willing 00:24:54.630 --> 00:24:58.769 to give the outcome the time it deserves to be 00:24:58.769 --> 00:25:03.029 achieved, you're never going to get there. If 00:25:03.029 --> 00:25:05.589 you aren't willing to put in the days, weeks, 00:25:05.809 --> 00:25:11.390 months, and the steps, the uphill, the downhill, 00:25:11.589 --> 00:25:14.210 the bad, the inclement weather, all of those 00:25:14.210 --> 00:25:17.210 inputs in to get that outcome, you're not going 00:25:17.210 --> 00:25:21.250 to get there. And I think that's something else 00:25:21.250 --> 00:25:23.430 that I saw throughout the walk. And in regards 00:25:23.430 --> 00:25:25.470 to this is people would say things, you know, 00:25:25.490 --> 00:25:28.869 that's easy for him. Oh, well, he has this, this, 00:25:28.930 --> 00:25:30.430 this, and this. And those are the stories I told 00:25:30.430 --> 00:25:34.009 myself too. But it's very much in line that if 00:25:34.009 --> 00:25:38.869 you aren't willing to put in the work, you can't 00:25:38.869 --> 00:25:42.470 complain about not having the outcome. Now, there's 00:25:42.470 --> 00:25:45.289 a difference between... not being willing to 00:25:45.289 --> 00:25:48.210 and not being able to. But I think that it's 00:25:48.210 --> 00:25:53.150 such a thin line between what you think you're 00:25:53.150 --> 00:25:55.329 capable of and what you're actually being stopped 00:25:55.329 --> 00:25:59.950 from doing that it makes more sense to just really 00:25:59.950 --> 00:26:02.869 lean into that you can do anything, that there 00:26:02.869 --> 00:26:04.890 is nothing stopping you. And when you start hitting 00:26:04.890 --> 00:26:08.130 that wall to find ways to push past it, otherwise 00:26:08.130 --> 00:26:13.420 you're never going to make it happen. So... When 00:26:13.420 --> 00:26:15.619 it comes to the idea of is it walking distance 00:26:15.619 --> 00:26:19.759 again, it just depends on how much time you're 00:26:19.759 --> 00:26:22.960 willing to give that adventure, whether it's 00:26:22.960 --> 00:26:25.000 walking across the country, starting a business, 00:26:25.200 --> 00:26:28.299 finding the partner you're going to marry, all 00:26:28.299 --> 00:26:33.759 these big things. It just depends on how much 00:26:33.759 --> 00:26:36.380 time, effort and energy you're willing to put 00:26:36.380 --> 00:26:42.490 into that thing. So those are. Two of those things. 00:26:43.769 --> 00:26:47.450 Another thing that I learned from the walk specifically, 00:26:47.690 --> 00:26:49.509 and this was something that was kind of solidified 00:26:49.509 --> 00:26:53.569 for me in Oklahoma, Texas area, is I was walking 00:26:53.569 --> 00:26:55.769 along the side of the highway one day. And from 00:26:55.769 --> 00:26:57.809 about, you know, maybe a half quarter mile away, 00:26:57.890 --> 00:27:00.869 I saw this big sign. And what I thought it had 00:27:00.869 --> 00:27:03.450 said was, if you want to know about the field, 00:27:03.690 --> 00:27:09.319 ask the cows. As I got closer, I realized I had 00:27:09.319 --> 00:27:12.779 said, if you want to know about our feed, look 00:27:12.779 --> 00:27:16.500 at the cows or check the cows. But I like what 00:27:16.500 --> 00:27:18.880 I thought it said to begin with. If you want 00:27:18.880 --> 00:27:22.579 to know about our feed, ask the cows. And what 00:27:22.579 --> 00:27:24.740 made me really think about that, or if you want 00:27:24.740 --> 00:27:27.140 to know about the field, ask the cows. Sorry. 00:27:27.240 --> 00:27:29.019 Again, I'm not going to edit this. This is just 00:27:29.019 --> 00:27:34.819 going up raw. I think that is in the best episode 00:27:34.819 --> 00:27:37.940 about the walk fashion. If you want to know about 00:27:37.940 --> 00:27:42.380 the field, ask the cows. Now, what struck me 00:27:42.380 --> 00:27:45.200 about this is if you want to know about where 00:27:45.200 --> 00:27:47.740 you want to be, you need to ask the people that 00:27:47.740 --> 00:27:52.519 are where you want to go. And before I started 00:27:52.519 --> 00:27:55.200 the walk, I was Googling things like how to walk 00:27:55.200 --> 00:27:58.640 across America. I was in forums on Facebook or 00:27:58.640 --> 00:28:01.359 Reddit or whatever. And I just got absolutely 00:28:01.359 --> 00:28:05.059 atrocious, terrible information. People were 00:28:05.059 --> 00:28:08.259 saying super basic, dumb things. Again, that's 00:28:08.259 --> 00:28:10.480 judgment. But like, oh, make sure you have good 00:28:10.480 --> 00:28:12.900 shoes. Oh, make sure that you plan your route. 00:28:13.400 --> 00:28:15.519 Oh, if you're on a Facebook group asking about 00:28:15.519 --> 00:28:17.220 this, you're definitely not ready to do it. It 00:28:17.220 --> 00:28:19.200 was like six, seven months out. I was like, I 00:28:19.200 --> 00:28:23.480 have time to figure these things out. But the 00:28:23.480 --> 00:28:27.140 issue that I was running into with that. is I 00:28:27.140 --> 00:28:31.519 was asking people, I was asking cows about a 00:28:31.519 --> 00:28:34.700 field they'd never been in. Now, all they can 00:28:34.700 --> 00:28:36.859 do is give me perspective about their fields, 00:28:36.920 --> 00:28:39.180 where they've been, but they don't really know 00:28:39.180 --> 00:28:40.660 where it is that I'm trying to go, where I want 00:28:40.660 --> 00:28:43.480 to be. And it wasn't until I started finding 00:28:43.480 --> 00:28:48.039 people like Mark and Andrew and Kenny and like 00:28:48.039 --> 00:28:49.759 these other people that I was able to connect 00:28:49.759 --> 00:28:52.630 with that have done this thing. that have walked 00:28:52.630 --> 00:28:55.089 across the United States, whether they did the 00:28:55.089 --> 00:28:57.250 same route, a different route, similar, whatever, 00:28:57.549 --> 00:28:59.450 whatever, three years ago, four years ago, 10 00:28:59.450 --> 00:29:02.650 years ago, being able to find people that have 00:29:02.650 --> 00:29:05.089 actually, being able to find the people that 00:29:05.089 --> 00:29:07.210 have actually done what you want to do and asking 00:29:07.210 --> 00:29:10.619 them for help. is just such a huge game changer. 00:29:10.759 --> 00:29:13.640 Now, when it comes to business, something that 00:29:13.640 --> 00:29:16.680 people talk a lot about is these online gurus, 00:29:16.680 --> 00:29:20.059 coaches, whatever, that claim to have the secrets 00:29:20.059 --> 00:29:23.339 of things that they've never even achieved. Alex 00:29:23.339 --> 00:29:25.259 Ramozy talks about it a lot, that he's able to 00:29:25.259 --> 00:29:27.539 make content about making $100 million because 00:29:27.539 --> 00:29:31.079 he's made $100 million, but he doesn't make content 00:29:31.079 --> 00:29:32.980 about making a billion dollars because he hasn't 00:29:32.980 --> 00:29:35.599 done that yet. And that's where the way he encourages 00:29:35.599 --> 00:29:40.250 is to Create content surrounding topics that 00:29:40.250 --> 00:29:43.289 you actually know about and how you can apply 00:29:43.289 --> 00:29:47.369 that to your life is one of Gary Vaynerchuk's. 00:29:49.490 --> 00:29:52.890 Credos is document, don't create. Like you're 00:29:52.890 --> 00:29:54.710 not creating the wheel. You're not going to tell 00:29:54.710 --> 00:29:55.970 people how to do things that you don't know how 00:29:55.970 --> 00:29:57.609 to do that you haven't done. You're just going 00:29:57.609 --> 00:29:59.049 to document your process. You're going to talk 00:29:59.049 --> 00:30:00.309 about the things that you know, the things that 00:30:00.309 --> 00:30:02.569 you've experienced. And that's what I try to 00:30:02.569 --> 00:30:04.769 do with this podcast. Like I feel like this episode 00:30:04.769 --> 00:30:08.710 is a great example of that because I'm not telling 00:30:08.710 --> 00:30:11.259 you the. I don't know, the heady stuff, like, 00:30:11.299 --> 00:30:12.759 oh, I think that this is what you would want 00:30:12.759 --> 00:30:14.200 to do if you're going to do something like this. 00:30:14.519 --> 00:30:16.359 Like, this is my experience. These are things 00:30:16.359 --> 00:30:18.920 that I did and things that I've learned, concepts 00:30:18.920 --> 00:30:23.420 that I'm working on putting together. And when 00:30:23.420 --> 00:30:27.099 it comes to, that's on the creator side, but 00:30:27.099 --> 00:30:30.420 on the consumer side, I think that the lesson 00:30:30.420 --> 00:30:37.000 really here is to evaluate the people that you 00:30:37.000 --> 00:30:41.000 are listening to. Have they done what you want? 00:30:41.279 --> 00:30:44.200 Have they taken other people there? Have they 00:30:44.200 --> 00:30:48.660 taken people just like you there? Andrew had 00:30:48.660 --> 00:30:50.720 told me that he had helped somebody else get 00:30:50.720 --> 00:30:52.519 across. He gave them advice that they were able 00:30:52.519 --> 00:30:54.339 to get pretty far. I can't remember if they finished 00:30:54.339 --> 00:30:59.200 or not. Kenny was, you know, he was in the military, 00:30:59.200 --> 00:31:01.039 he was in the army, and he was able to lead people 00:31:01.039 --> 00:31:03.000 all over the place on all different missions, 00:31:03.079 --> 00:31:06.039 all these different crazy things. So it was, 00:31:06.059 --> 00:31:09.579 you know, not only have they... done it themselves, 00:31:09.900 --> 00:31:12.740 which is a huge up on that, but it's also, they 00:31:12.740 --> 00:31:16.180 can be a leader of that herd. Um, and it, and 00:31:16.180 --> 00:31:17.980 it sounds silly. I know to be comparing these 00:31:17.980 --> 00:31:20.759 real life people to, to cows and herds and animal 00:31:20.759 --> 00:31:24.019 things. But I think that's, if you're going to 00:31:24.019 --> 00:31:28.380 follow a crowd, make sure it's a crowd. That's 00:31:28.380 --> 00:31:32.140 somewhere that you want to be. I feel like that's, 00:31:32.140 --> 00:31:34.339 I feel like at that point, I'm kind of grooming 00:31:34.339 --> 00:31:39.859 a brushed horse, brushing a groomed horse. Um, 00:31:39.859 --> 00:31:42.160 but yeah, just really evaluate the people that 00:31:42.160 --> 00:31:43.599 you're listening to, the people that you're consuming 00:31:43.599 --> 00:31:46.380 content from, um, because it's not just the people 00:31:46.380 --> 00:31:47.980 that you surround yourself with that you become, 00:31:48.119 --> 00:31:56.519 it's the people that you, um, consume from. So 00:31:56.519 --> 00:32:02.599 moving on to the next thing. Um, oh yeah, bare 00:32:02.599 --> 00:32:05.519 hands and thistle. So I like to tell the story, 00:32:05.759 --> 00:32:08.940 uh, my very first job in high school, I was making 00:32:08.940 --> 00:32:11.279 like eight bucks an hour. Very, very big ups. 00:32:11.319 --> 00:32:14.980 I know, uh, maybe 10, but, uh, I was working 00:32:14.980 --> 00:32:18.920 on a cattle ranch and one of the, the big job 00:32:18.920 --> 00:32:21.259 that I had that first summer was picking up pieces 00:32:21.259 --> 00:32:24.519 of a barn that had blown down. And I finished 00:32:24.519 --> 00:32:25.900 it at probably about three quarters of the way 00:32:25.900 --> 00:32:30.170 through the summer, but I. You know, my the ranch, 00:32:30.329 --> 00:32:33.410 the ranching owner was like, well, I have you 00:32:33.410 --> 00:32:35.670 for another few weeks, month, whatever. Like 00:32:35.670 --> 00:32:37.670 I have other stuff if you want to do it. I said, 00:32:37.670 --> 00:32:40.589 sure. So one of the things that he took me out 00:32:40.589 --> 00:32:44.150 to do was I jumped in his truck. He gave me some 00:32:44.150 --> 00:32:47.819 old seed bags. uh gave me a pair of leather gloves 00:32:47.819 --> 00:32:50.640 and a shovel and we jumped in his busted old 00:32:50.640 --> 00:32:52.299 pickup truck and drove out to one of the back 00:32:52.299 --> 00:32:56.400 40 lots and um when we got out i just saw this 00:32:56.400 --> 00:33:00.799 sea of purple and green now what it was was something 00:33:00.799 --> 00:33:03.720 called bull thistle and what it is is these these 00:33:03.720 --> 00:33:08.559 green plants with uh stickers and and um thorns 00:33:08.559 --> 00:33:10.680 and spikes all over them. But at the very top 00:33:10.680 --> 00:33:13.279 were these really beautiful purple flowers that 00:33:13.279 --> 00:33:16.279 kind of looked like little like pom poms. And 00:33:16.279 --> 00:33:20.319 the issue is those stickers and thorns, they 00:33:20.319 --> 00:33:22.500 get everywhere. And when the cows eat them, it 00:33:22.500 --> 00:33:24.440 could cause issues in their gut, in their mouth, 00:33:24.460 --> 00:33:26.660 could lead to infection and like all these other 00:33:26.660 --> 00:33:29.519 issues. But the other thing is they have these 00:33:29.519 --> 00:33:35.559 seeds that are very fertile, I guess. I don't 00:33:35.559 --> 00:33:38.420 know how else to say it. But they release them. 00:33:38.559 --> 00:33:39.940 Like, have you ever seen a cattail, like when 00:33:39.940 --> 00:33:43.680 you squeeze a cattail? Got some ASMR going on. 00:33:44.019 --> 00:33:47.099 But when you squeeze a cattail, all of the little 00:33:47.099 --> 00:33:49.039 seeds kind of go and spread all over the place. 00:33:49.660 --> 00:33:50.960 That's kind of what it looks like, like that 00:33:50.960 --> 00:33:54.640 fluff. And when it spreads, it just kind of kills 00:33:54.640 --> 00:33:57.079 and outcompetes everything else. So everything 00:33:57.079 --> 00:34:00.980 else that he was trying to grow was being stopped. 00:34:01.440 --> 00:34:04.420 So if you're in this plot of 40, if there's only 00:34:04.420 --> 00:34:07.470 a few... like one or two acres that have this 00:34:07.470 --> 00:34:09.469 purple on it, you think, okay, that's not that 00:34:09.469 --> 00:34:11.829 big of a deal. But a couple seasons later, the 00:34:11.829 --> 00:34:13.650 entire field is going to be covered and it's 00:34:13.650 --> 00:34:15.789 going to be the sea of purple of essentially 00:34:15.789 --> 00:34:19.590 unusable land. Maybe you can see where this metaphor 00:34:19.590 --> 00:34:22.909 is going. Well, he dropped me off and he showed 00:34:22.909 --> 00:34:25.590 me what you have to do to get rid of it. And 00:34:25.590 --> 00:34:27.190 the process for getting rid of the bull thistle 00:34:27.190 --> 00:34:32.070 is you get the bag, you walk over with the leather 00:34:32.070 --> 00:34:34.989 glove on, you rip off the purple head. You throw 00:34:34.989 --> 00:34:38.170 it in a bag, then you take a shovel and you shove 00:34:38.170 --> 00:34:40.409 it into the ground and you pull out the plant 00:34:40.409 --> 00:34:43.590 by the roots. And I asked him, I said, okay, 00:34:43.630 --> 00:34:46.550 well, if the purple flower is the problem, why 00:34:46.550 --> 00:34:49.309 don't I just run around, clip all of those and 00:34:49.309 --> 00:34:50.809 call it quits? Why do I have to do this extra 00:34:50.809 --> 00:34:54.530 step? And he said, you know, if you don't dig 00:34:54.530 --> 00:34:57.309 these guys out by the roots, they're just going 00:34:57.309 --> 00:35:00.570 to come back. If you don't kill the problem where 00:35:00.570 --> 00:35:05.309 it's coming from. it's going to resurface. And, 00:35:05.369 --> 00:35:07.010 you know, I spent a few hours out in the field, 00:35:07.090 --> 00:35:09.889 um, doing this and, you know, a few hours later, 00:35:09.949 --> 00:35:11.730 I think it took me the rest of the day, about 00:35:11.730 --> 00:35:14.110 eight hours. Um, but I'd cleared out all the 00:35:14.110 --> 00:35:15.969 bull thistle for that field. He picked me up 00:35:15.969 --> 00:35:18.849 and I was, you know, my hands were, um, sore. 00:35:18.949 --> 00:35:21.769 I had splinters and, uh, the thistle had poked 00:35:21.769 --> 00:35:23.309 through some of the glove a few times. So like 00:35:23.309 --> 00:35:24.889 I could, I could still feel it every time I talk 00:35:24.889 --> 00:35:27.679 about it. And I said, you know, I got it all. 00:35:27.719 --> 00:35:29.559 I killed it all. Like I chopped it up. Like it's 00:35:29.559 --> 00:35:32.539 done. We're good. And he said, yeah, no, it looks 00:35:32.539 --> 00:35:35.739 great. Tomorrow I will drop you off at the next 00:35:35.739 --> 00:35:39.340 field and you can finish up that one. So that 00:35:39.340 --> 00:35:46.670 was a rough day. But if you. have read anything 00:35:46.670 --> 00:35:49.050 that I posted about that or can understand where 00:35:49.050 --> 00:35:51.150 this is going, really what I'm trying to say 00:35:51.150 --> 00:35:53.429 is this is about thistle and this isn't about 00:35:53.429 --> 00:35:57.130 thistle. These purple flowers and these plants 00:35:57.130 --> 00:36:01.190 represent problems in your life. That field, 00:36:01.309 --> 00:36:06.050 that 40, is you. And if you have these thistle 00:36:06.679 --> 00:36:08.579 In one side of it, it may not feel like that 00:36:08.579 --> 00:36:10.940 big of a deal. You know, you could see them. 00:36:10.980 --> 00:36:12.500 They might poke you every once in a while and 00:36:12.500 --> 00:36:15.619 might cause issues, whether it is a relationship 00:36:15.619 --> 00:36:18.199 you have, either romantic, professional, or personal, 00:36:18.380 --> 00:36:21.719 or something that you just noticed over time 00:36:21.719 --> 00:36:25.800 is becoming an issue. But over time, it's going 00:36:25.800 --> 00:36:28.159 to spread and it's going to cause issues in areas 00:36:28.159 --> 00:36:30.539 that it shouldn't be in. And it's eventually 00:36:30.539 --> 00:36:34.099 going to jump into other fields. start clouding 00:36:34.099 --> 00:36:36.579 that up and i think that one of the biggest examples 00:36:36.579 --> 00:36:40.079 of that for myself is drinking alcohol you know 00:36:40.079 --> 00:36:43.019 i started drinking in college it was very kind 00:36:43.019 --> 00:36:48.039 of promoted in in greek life and just college 00:36:48.039 --> 00:36:51.619 life in general but it was really starting to 00:36:51.619 --> 00:36:54.440 affect me in other areas my physical health i 00:36:54.440 --> 00:36:57.539 gained a bunch of weights My personal relationships, 00:36:57.679 --> 00:37:00.280 every time I drink, I get very sensitive and 00:37:00.280 --> 00:37:02.760 emotional, and that led to a lot of fights and 00:37:02.760 --> 00:37:06.079 issues with people I really cared about, my friends, 00:37:06.159 --> 00:37:07.760 the people I was dating and in a relationship 00:37:07.760 --> 00:37:12.699 with. And just really started leading me down 00:37:12.699 --> 00:37:15.480 this like negative path that I didn't want to 00:37:15.480 --> 00:37:17.659 go down. And it was just like the small issue 00:37:17.659 --> 00:37:20.300 that was in one corner, but it just started really 00:37:20.300 --> 00:37:23.019 bleeding into all these other aspects of my life. 00:37:23.239 --> 00:37:26.639 And it wasn't until I graduated that I started 00:37:26.639 --> 00:37:28.800 to realize that, you know, this this this whole 00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:32.559 spreading to areas that it should not be in until 00:37:32.559 --> 00:37:34.699 I eventually made the decision to stop drinking 00:37:34.699 --> 00:37:38.159 alcohol and switch to at a beers and spirits. 00:37:39.519 --> 00:37:41.639 That's a hard thing. I like the taste of alcohol. 00:37:41.800 --> 00:37:44.619 I like wine and beer and liquor and all these 00:37:44.619 --> 00:37:47.420 things. I think that cocktails and mixology is 00:37:47.420 --> 00:37:50.539 really interesting. It's also why I'm glad I 00:37:50.539 --> 00:37:52.079 was able to find things like Athletic Brewing 00:37:52.079 --> 00:37:56.199 Company or, oh gosh, what is it? There's this 00:37:56.199 --> 00:37:59.239 non -alcoholic spirit liquor. I don't buy them 00:37:59.239 --> 00:38:01.000 because they're expensive. I don't like it that 00:38:01.000 --> 00:38:04.639 much to where I want to get it. But the point 00:38:04.639 --> 00:38:07.980 is that until I... dug that issue out by the 00:38:07.980 --> 00:38:11.559 roots and stopped drinking altogether. It was 00:38:11.559 --> 00:38:14.179 just going to keep spreading. And that is something 00:38:14.179 --> 00:38:17.159 that I try to promote and do in my coaching is 00:38:17.159 --> 00:38:20.400 remind people like, Hey, these, these issues 00:38:20.400 --> 00:38:23.679 that you have, they're popping up as this purple 00:38:23.679 --> 00:38:25.380 flower that you can see, but there's so much 00:38:25.380 --> 00:38:28.239 more going on underneath the surface. And until 00:38:28.239 --> 00:38:32.340 you stop that immediate threat, that purple flower 00:38:32.340 --> 00:38:34.619 thing and say, Hey, wait a second. alcohol like 00:38:34.619 --> 00:38:36.219 alcohol for example like this causing issues 00:38:36.219 --> 00:38:39.159 and then you start digging and digging and digging 00:38:39.159 --> 00:38:41.619 getting out understanding like why i'm having 00:38:41.619 --> 00:38:44.139 these issues or what is going on and you really 00:38:44.139 --> 00:38:46.340 just get those roots out of the ground throw 00:38:46.340 --> 00:38:50.039 it off to the side chop it up for fun do you 00:38:50.039 --> 00:38:54.699 see that it is gone and there's actually something 00:38:54.699 --> 00:39:00.199 like removed from your life i think that's an 00:39:00.199 --> 00:39:04.630 interesting thing it's like By the process of 00:39:04.630 --> 00:39:07.989 removal of these thistle, these issues you have 00:39:07.989 --> 00:39:12.550 in your life, you're able to gain these crops, 00:39:12.789 --> 00:39:17.449 these good harvestable experiences or a good 00:39:17.449 --> 00:39:20.630 life on the other side. And I think that that 00:39:20.630 --> 00:39:21.969 is something to keep in mind. Like if you have 00:39:21.969 --> 00:39:25.269 something in your life that by removing that 00:39:25.269 --> 00:39:29.949 you gain so much more, that is a trade you should 00:39:29.949 --> 00:39:33.969 be willing to make every single time. Now, the 00:39:33.969 --> 00:39:37.150 last thing that I want to lead off with today 00:39:37.150 --> 00:39:44.309 from this 40 -minute episode, I'm not really 00:39:44.309 --> 00:39:49.820 sure. Oh, here we go. You might have seen on 00:39:49.820 --> 00:39:52.920 social media, but I wear these wristbands pretty 00:39:52.920 --> 00:39:56.219 consistently. One says never quit a few times 00:39:56.219 --> 00:39:58.940 all around it. I think it says four times. And 00:39:58.940 --> 00:40:01.780 the other one says still breathing, still fighting. 00:40:02.199 --> 00:40:05.179 And I got these about a week, week and a half 00:40:05.179 --> 00:40:08.659 until I walk across the country. I was just leaving 00:40:08.659 --> 00:40:11.039 Saluda, South Carolina, and I got stopped by 00:40:11.039 --> 00:40:13.829 this gentleman. And he pulled over and he jumped 00:40:13.829 --> 00:40:15.989 down and he ran over to me and he had like a 00:40:15.989 --> 00:40:17.570 little bit of a scarf over his face. But when 00:40:17.570 --> 00:40:20.190 he pulled it down, I saw that part of his face 00:40:20.190 --> 00:40:23.909 had been burned or disfigured in some way. And, 00:40:23.949 --> 00:40:26.170 you know, he said that he'd seen me on the news 00:40:26.170 --> 00:40:27.769 and that it was this big, exciting thing. So 00:40:27.769 --> 00:40:30.809 like glad that he'd seen me. And in our conversation, 00:40:30.969 --> 00:40:32.730 I learned that he had just gotten off the overnight 00:40:32.730 --> 00:40:34.409 shift. This was like six in the morning that 00:40:34.409 --> 00:40:36.570 we ran into each other. He'd just gotten off 00:40:36.570 --> 00:40:39.829 of his night shift from being a EMT paramedic 00:40:39.829 --> 00:40:42.670 firefighter. i guess in the in the town like 00:40:42.670 --> 00:40:47.289 you wear all these different hats right um and 00:40:47.289 --> 00:40:49.949 he was so excited to see me and um he said i 00:40:49.949 --> 00:40:52.329 have something for you and he was wearing these 00:40:52.329 --> 00:40:54.969 bracelets right here these exact ones and he 00:40:54.969 --> 00:40:57.050 ripped them off of his arm and he he handed them 00:40:57.050 --> 00:41:02.170 to me and i said wow thank you like um why do 00:41:02.170 --> 00:41:06.760 you have these and he said that um a couple years 00:41:06.760 --> 00:41:09.539 ago he had been in a big accident at work that 00:41:09.539 --> 00:41:11.360 he barely survived and that's where the burns 00:41:11.360 --> 00:41:14.500 were from and you know while he was in the hospital 00:41:14.500 --> 00:41:19.079 he was in this really dark place and um his buddy 00:41:19.079 --> 00:41:21.860 had these made um he remember these were the 00:41:21.860 --> 00:41:25.019 exact ones or they were similar ones But essentially, 00:41:25.159 --> 00:41:28.340 it was just a constant reminder to him that he 00:41:28.340 --> 00:41:31.219 was the master of his own destiny, that if he 00:41:31.219 --> 00:41:35.400 made the decision to never quit and remember 00:41:35.400 --> 00:41:37.119 that if he was still breathing, he was still 00:41:37.119 --> 00:41:39.019 in the fight, he was still in the game, that 00:41:39.019 --> 00:41:43.739 he could get to the other side alive, that he 00:41:43.739 --> 00:41:47.420 would. And it having that kind of morale booster, 00:41:47.519 --> 00:41:51.579 that reminder was impactful enough for him that. 00:41:52.059 --> 00:41:53.840 He said, you know, on this journey, you're going 00:41:53.840 --> 00:41:58.420 to be faced with decisions or events or outcomes 00:41:58.420 --> 00:42:00.920 that are going to test you, push you, like bring 00:42:00.920 --> 00:42:03.880 you to that brink. And you're going to need to 00:42:03.880 --> 00:42:08.960 make the decision yourself to never quit. And 00:42:08.960 --> 00:42:13.360 he said that he needed to head back and get home. 00:42:13.460 --> 00:42:16.079 So after that, we shook hands, took a picture 00:42:16.079 --> 00:42:22.690 together, and then he left. I laugh because this 00:42:22.690 --> 00:42:24.789 part's kind of funny. Um, funny enough, this 00:42:24.789 --> 00:42:28.530 concept was very much solidified for me in Amarillo, 00:42:28.610 --> 00:42:33.530 Texas. So if you have gone to my website within 00:42:33.530 --> 00:42:35.969 range, coaching .com forward slash Rangers walk 00:42:35.969 --> 00:42:39.449 across America. You may have seen the video where 00:42:39.449 --> 00:42:43.849 I eat the 72 -ounce steak challenge in Amarillo, 00:42:43.949 --> 00:42:47.650 Texas, at the Big Texan. It's a 72 -ounce steak, 00:42:47.829 --> 00:42:52.469 cooked however you want, with a bread roll, salad, 00:42:53.050 --> 00:42:58.230 baked potato, and a couple of deep -fried prawns 00:42:58.230 --> 00:43:06.440 or shrimp. When I was getting ready to do the 00:43:06.440 --> 00:43:08.420 challenge, I was looking at videos like the best 00:43:08.420 --> 00:43:10.820 strategy, the best way to take on the challenge, 00:43:10.920 --> 00:43:13.280 to do it right, to do it, get it done, whatever. 00:43:14.599 --> 00:43:20.820 But when I was actually there was the time that 00:43:20.820 --> 00:43:23.139 still breathing, still fighting, and never quit 00:43:23.139 --> 00:43:31.909 mentality really showed itself to me. I knew 00:43:31.909 --> 00:43:35.449 that as long as I had time up on my board, you 00:43:35.449 --> 00:43:38.610 have 60 minutes to do it. I knew that I was not 00:43:38.610 --> 00:43:41.230 going to stop. The only thing that would prevent 00:43:41.230 --> 00:43:44.849 me from doing the challenge was I ran out of 00:43:44.849 --> 00:43:50.809 time or I died. Very dramatic, I know, but that's 00:43:50.809 --> 00:43:53.210 what I went into it with. And there were a few 00:43:53.210 --> 00:43:56.929 people that had sat next to me. Um, there were 00:43:56.929 --> 00:43:58.690 a couple of people that were already in the middle 00:43:58.690 --> 00:44:01.030 of it. I think I started at like a 45 and a 30 00:44:01.030 --> 00:44:03.750 minute, somebody else. Uh, and then a few people 00:44:03.750 --> 00:44:06.809 started around that time for me as well. And 00:44:06.809 --> 00:44:10.510 there were two of them that when I sat down next 00:44:10.510 --> 00:44:12.909 to them, they were already saying that they were 00:44:12.909 --> 00:44:14.889 done, that they were giving up, that they couldn't 00:44:14.889 --> 00:44:17.909 do anymore. And I was like, trying to like, Hey 00:44:17.909 --> 00:44:20.409 guys, like you have time. Why are you giving 00:44:20.409 --> 00:44:23.489 up now? Um, there's, there's so much time. There's 00:44:23.489 --> 00:44:25.469 so much opportunity to still get it done. You 00:44:25.469 --> 00:44:29.389 have 30, 40 minutes. Like you don't, why are 00:44:29.389 --> 00:44:33.289 you throwing in the towel? And I guess that made 00:44:33.289 --> 00:44:34.949 me realize that there's so many things that people 00:44:34.949 --> 00:44:39.789 do where they give up before they've gotten to 00:44:39.789 --> 00:44:41.769 the end. And I think this one is different from 00:44:41.769 --> 00:44:43.909 the topic that I talked about earlier, because 00:44:43.909 --> 00:44:46.750 this one isn't so much as the time you're willing 00:44:46.750 --> 00:44:49.610 to give it. It is the, the commitment you're 00:44:49.610 --> 00:44:52.889 making to yourself. Like you said that you were 00:44:52.889 --> 00:44:54.710 going to do this challenge. You said that you're 00:44:54.710 --> 00:44:58.030 going to run a 10K, a 5K, a half marathon, full 00:44:58.030 --> 00:45:00.250 marathon, ultra, whatever. You said that you're 00:45:00.250 --> 00:45:04.730 going to do it. And before you even reach your 00:45:04.730 --> 00:45:06.829 limit, you're already telling yourself that you 00:45:06.829 --> 00:45:10.610 can't do it. And it's very David Goggins, but 00:45:10.610 --> 00:45:13.150 it's like your mind is what is getting in your 00:45:13.150 --> 00:45:20.539 way. three miles into the 40 mile day and you're 00:45:20.539 --> 00:45:22.500 already saying it's too much and you can't do 00:45:22.500 --> 00:45:24.659 it, but you still have 12 hours. You still have 00:45:24.659 --> 00:45:26.940 all this time. You're, you're saying that you 00:45:26.940 --> 00:45:30.179 can't finish the challenge, but you know, you're, 00:45:30.199 --> 00:45:31.800 you're only 15 minutes in and you've already 00:45:31.800 --> 00:45:35.579 eaten half the steak, you know, like again, it's, 00:45:35.619 --> 00:45:39.940 it's, there's something there and I am having 00:45:39.940 --> 00:45:44.949 a hard time saying it out loud. And I think that 00:45:44.949 --> 00:45:48.690 as soon as I figure it out, it's going to make 00:45:48.690 --> 00:45:50.909 more sense. And I hope that these things resonate. 00:45:50.989 --> 00:45:53.170 If they do resonate with you, please let me know. 00:45:53.829 --> 00:45:57.730 I would super appreciate knowing. But really, 00:45:57.809 --> 00:46:01.050 I think that's the biggest thing is remembering 00:46:01.050 --> 00:46:03.630 that when you are in these issues, when you're 00:46:03.630 --> 00:46:06.429 in these really tough situations, I know I'm 00:46:06.429 --> 00:46:11.039 comparing a life -threatening burn and accident 00:46:11.039 --> 00:46:16.559 at work to eating a steak. And it sounds ridiculous 00:46:16.559 --> 00:46:19.500 when you say it, but I think that these smaller 00:46:19.500 --> 00:46:23.619 metaphors is either one side of the extreme or 00:46:23.619 --> 00:46:27.059 the other. Something as simple and innocent as 00:46:27.059 --> 00:46:29.860 eating a steak and as life -threatening as legit 00:46:29.860 --> 00:46:35.159 getting caught in a house fire really show how 00:46:35.159 --> 00:46:36.900 important these metaphors are just on a day -to 00:46:36.900 --> 00:46:39.820 -day basis. that whenever we find ourselves in 00:46:39.820 --> 00:46:42.119 crappy situations, it's like, okay, I just got 00:46:42.119 --> 00:46:44.559 this huge medical bill. I'm still breathing. 00:46:44.619 --> 00:46:46.460 I'm still fighting. I can still get through this. 00:46:46.500 --> 00:46:48.340 I'm having a hard time in my relationship or 00:46:48.340 --> 00:46:52.820 this really crappy thing. Crappy might not even 00:46:52.820 --> 00:46:54.239 be the word to describe what I'm thinking of 00:46:54.239 --> 00:46:58.199 right now with relationships or injuries or whatever, 00:46:58.360 --> 00:47:02.980 but it's just remembering I am in this. I'm in 00:47:02.980 --> 00:47:06.980 this fight to the end. I'm going to take out 00:47:06.980 --> 00:47:08.699 this fight or this fight's going to take me out. 00:47:08.920 --> 00:47:10.920 But until that last second, I'm going to give 00:47:10.920 --> 00:47:15.039 it all that I have. I think that another thing 00:47:15.039 --> 00:47:16.699 I noticed, like it was like in high school football. 00:47:17.019 --> 00:47:19.480 Once you start getting down in points, people 00:47:19.480 --> 00:47:22.800 start giving up. They lose that morale. And I 00:47:22.800 --> 00:47:25.860 think it's more so about like feeling in yourself 00:47:25.860 --> 00:47:28.719 when you're losing that morale and being able 00:47:28.719 --> 00:47:30.860 to pull yourself back up and say, no, like we're 00:47:30.860 --> 00:47:33.780 in this until the very end. Like until that. 00:47:34.280 --> 00:47:39.699 Time says zero. And until we legit can't do anything 00:47:39.699 --> 00:47:42.880 else about it, we need to give our all to the 00:47:42.880 --> 00:47:49.019 situation. So I guess that's what finishing a 00:47:49.019 --> 00:47:51.460 huge stake and giving myself the tummy of a lifetime 00:47:51.460 --> 00:47:56.719 taught me about perseverance and getting through 00:47:56.719 --> 00:48:02.190 difficult times. So I think that... I've gone 00:48:02.190 --> 00:48:03.969 through enough. I mean, there, there's so many 00:48:03.969 --> 00:48:08.590 more, um, even just looking at it. Um, let me 00:48:08.590 --> 00:48:18.449 see. I'm gonna give you one more. It's already 00:48:18.449 --> 00:48:22.130 an hour long. Let's do it. So, uh, sunburns. 00:48:22.730 --> 00:48:29.090 So when I was in, I think it was Oklahoma, one 00:48:29.090 --> 00:48:31.840 of my first days, Um, that was when the sun and 00:48:31.840 --> 00:48:34.159 the heat was starting to pick up. I got this 00:48:34.159 --> 00:48:36.699 gnarly sunburn. I think it was a few days after 00:48:36.699 --> 00:48:39.960 I found Walker, actually. Um, I got this really 00:48:39.960 --> 00:48:42.699 bad sunburn. It was like on my neck and my face 00:48:42.699 --> 00:48:46.380 and it just kind of hurt. Right. And, um, I was 00:48:46.380 --> 00:48:49.159 on the phone with Julie, my fiance. I was telling 00:48:49.159 --> 00:48:51.880 her about it. And I said, do you have anything 00:48:51.880 --> 00:48:54.219 that can, do you know of anything that I can 00:48:54.219 --> 00:48:57.579 get that can fix this? Um, you know, it, there 00:48:57.579 --> 00:48:59.360 gets to a point when you're just so tired and 00:48:59.360 --> 00:49:00.920 exhausted that you're just like, can somebody 00:49:00.920 --> 00:49:03.039 give me the cure hall, please? Like, I'm tired. 00:49:03.239 --> 00:49:06.039 I don't want to think about this. And she said, 00:49:06.260 --> 00:49:09.880 um, go to the store, go through the nearest store. 00:49:09.940 --> 00:49:11.460 You can find and see if you can get any kind 00:49:11.460 --> 00:49:15.639 of aloe. And I said, will that fix this? And 00:49:15.639 --> 00:49:19.199 she said, you know, it won't fix it. What was 00:49:19.199 --> 00:49:24.280 it? Um, Oh, I said, I want this to be done as 00:49:24.280 --> 00:49:27.079 fast as possible. Can you fix this? And she said, 00:49:27.179 --> 00:49:31.599 you can't speed up healing, but you can encourage 00:49:31.599 --> 00:49:36.260 the process. And I think that that was, I don't 00:49:36.260 --> 00:49:37.960 know, it made me stop in my tracks and I kind 00:49:37.960 --> 00:49:40.380 of forgot about how bad it hurt, the sunburn 00:49:40.380 --> 00:49:45.199 on my neck. But you can't speed up healing, but 00:49:45.199 --> 00:49:49.000 you can encourage the process. I think that that's 00:49:49.000 --> 00:49:51.300 a lot about, you know, the way that we feel pain 00:49:51.300 --> 00:49:54.780 or grief or regret is just kind of understanding 00:49:54.780 --> 00:50:01.239 that there is no big cure -all, right? Like I 00:50:01.239 --> 00:50:04.260 met people on the walk where they had loved ones 00:50:04.260 --> 00:50:07.400 that passed away or there was one individual 00:50:07.400 --> 00:50:12.079 who said that her son had wanted to walk. This 00:50:12.079 --> 00:50:14.719 was an experience that Andrew had that her son 00:50:14.719 --> 00:50:16.400 had wanted to walk across the country, but he 00:50:16.400 --> 00:50:21.960 had taken his life or he had died. And she was 00:50:21.960 --> 00:50:25.980 so glad to see Andrew doing that. And it's just 00:50:25.980 --> 00:50:29.719 so interesting seeing how people deal with grief 00:50:29.719 --> 00:50:36.460 or loss or pain. Again, comparing something so 00:50:36.460 --> 00:50:38.460 silly and basic to something so big and huge. 00:50:39.759 --> 00:50:43.659 It's serious, but it's, it's all these things 00:50:43.659 --> 00:50:47.079 are just metaphors, right? And when I say you 00:50:47.079 --> 00:50:49.500 can't speed up the process, but you can encourage 00:50:49.500 --> 00:50:53.420 healing, it's like you can't, there's no cure 00:50:53.420 --> 00:50:55.119 all that you can take to speed up the process 00:50:55.119 --> 00:50:57.300 of grief of a loved one passing, but there's 00:50:57.300 --> 00:51:00.079 things you can do to make yourself more comfortable 00:51:00.079 --> 00:51:06.590 or, or appreciate that. a breakup or a big relationship 00:51:06.590 --> 00:51:08.550 issue. Like there's nothing you can take. You 00:51:08.550 --> 00:51:11.250 can't drink it away, but there's going to be 00:51:11.250 --> 00:51:13.329 some things that you can do that can encourage 00:51:13.329 --> 00:51:17.110 that process of healing and getting past it. 00:51:17.889 --> 00:51:22.369 So, um, again, I know that this episode is a 00:51:22.369 --> 00:51:25.590 little long and a little messy, but, um, that's 00:51:25.590 --> 00:51:28.329 what we're here for, right? Is to hear Ranger 00:51:28.329 --> 00:51:32.659 Ramble about, um, This big, cool, crazy thing 00:51:32.659 --> 00:51:37.760 he did in 2024. So I think that that is about 00:51:37.760 --> 00:51:41.139 where I'm going to hop off for today. I think 00:51:41.139 --> 00:51:44.300 I left you with like five to seven ish half baked 00:51:44.300 --> 00:51:47.280 or maybe fully baked concepts or ideas. Please 00:51:47.280 --> 00:51:48.739 let me know if anything resonated with you. I 00:51:48.739 --> 00:51:52.460 would super appreciate it. And thank you so much 00:51:52.460 --> 00:51:55.340 for your time attention to stay tuned to the 00:51:55.340 --> 00:51:56.960 end of the month. I'm going to be releasing more 00:51:56.960 --> 00:52:00.889 episodes that are walk centric. Today was a few 00:52:00.889 --> 00:52:03.949 things that I learned about myself or humanity 00:52:03.949 --> 00:52:08.909 or I don't even know from the walk. I do want 00:52:08.909 --> 00:52:11.530 to do an episode that is more so in line with 00:52:11.530 --> 00:52:14.190 things that I regret or things that I wish that 00:52:14.190 --> 00:52:19.210 I could change from my walk and a lot more. So 00:52:19.210 --> 00:52:24.389 I am super excited to see what everybody else 00:52:24.389 --> 00:52:27.469 has to think, see what. We can kind of create 00:52:27.469 --> 00:52:29.849 from this. So thank you all again for your time 00:52:29.849 --> 00:52:32.110 and attention. In the show notes, as always, 00:52:32.190 --> 00:52:35.130 is a link to book a 15 -minute coaching consultation 00:52:35.130 --> 00:52:36.889 with me if you're interested in learning more 00:52:36.889 --> 00:52:39.449 about coaching. 15 minutes, completely free. 00:52:39.530 --> 00:52:42.829 Just put in your name, sign up for a Calendly 00:52:42.829 --> 00:52:44.929 slot. We can have a conversation, see if there's 00:52:44.929 --> 00:52:47.420 anything I can do to help you out. If anything, 00:52:47.579 --> 00:52:50.880 we'll send you off with some resources or contacts 00:52:50.880 --> 00:52:53.599 of somebody that can help you out, whether it's 00:52:53.599 --> 00:52:55.559 in your personal, professional, or relational 00:52:55.559 --> 00:53:00.159 life. Just let me know. But as always, remember 00:53:00.159 --> 00:53:03.920 that the best is yet to come as long as you are 00:53:03.920 --> 00:53:06.699 willing to make the decision every single day 00:53:06.699 --> 00:53:10.380 to never settle, never quit, and never peak. 00:53:10.900 --> 00:53:13.420 I'll see you guys in the next one. Bye.