1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,080 Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening everybody, 2 00:00:02,080 --> 00:00:03,800 and welcome to today's episode 3 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:06,100 of the NeverPeak Project Podcast. 4 00:00:06,100 --> 00:00:08,700 I'm your host, Coach Ranger, and in today's episode, 5 00:00:08,700 --> 00:00:09,840 we're tackling a challenge 6 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:13,700 that every single ambitious person faces on their journey, 7 00:00:13,700 --> 00:00:17,560 the inner critic, self-doubt, and imposter syndrome. 8 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:21,960 For a majority of the episode, 9 00:00:21,960 --> 00:00:24,120 we're gonna be referring to this inner critic 10 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:26,640 that's self-doubt that imposter syndrome 11 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:28,400 as the sabotaging voice. 12 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:30,120 And it's really that voice that says things like, 13 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:32,640 you're not good enough, why even try? 14 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:34,560 You don't know enough, you don't have the right tech, 15 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:35,520 you don't have the right equipment, 16 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:36,920 you don't have the right skills. 17 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:39,680 You are not good enough, therefore you shouldn't even try. 18 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:41,200 And today, we're gonna break it down, 19 00:00:41,200 --> 00:00:42,480 understand where it comes from, 20 00:00:42,480 --> 00:00:44,680 and learn how we can reframe it to use 21 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:47,600 as an effective tool to get where we want to go. 22 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:49,320 We're gonna go ahead and jump back a few years ago 23 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:52,940 to when I was first starting to plan my walk across America. 24 00:00:52,940 --> 00:00:55,280 I heard terrible things constantly, 25 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:57,760 like, this isn't for people like you, 26 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:59,200 you don't have the money to do that, 27 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:01,000 you don't have the skills to do that. 28 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:02,560 Other people that have done it before you 29 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:04,560 have something that you just don't have. 30 00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:07,240 Even if you started, you wouldn't make it halfway across. 31 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:09,600 And who are you to think that you are someone 32 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:10,880 that can do something like this? 33 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:14,280 And no, that wasn't said to me by a partner, a friend, 34 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:17,080 a crazy uncle or a stranger on the internet. 35 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:20,000 Those are all things that I heard in my own head. 36 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:21,520 Those are things that, at the time, 37 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:24,040 I thought I was telling myself. 38 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:26,880 Keyword there, I thought I was telling myself. 39 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:29,880 And really, that is the sabotaging work at play. 40 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:32,120 That's that nagging, nasty voice 41 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:33,800 that we have in all of our heads 42 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:36,680 that really says those things to us on a consistent basis. 43 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:40,280 And typically, it sounds like fears and doubts of others. 44 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,880 It's very easy to personify that voice 45 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,000 as a loved one or someone close to us, 46 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:47,680 but really, it's coming from within our own heads. 47 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:51,520 It's our own doubts, it's our own worries and concerns 48 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,000 about the worst case scenarios of the situation 49 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:56,880 that we're going to put ourselves in 50 00:01:56,880 --> 00:01:59,280 in order to get to where we actually want to go. 51 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:02,560 In my case, getting to the other side of the country, 52 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:04,600 that sabotaging voice was trying to prevent me 53 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,480 from even starting the adventure. 54 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:08,880 There wasn't even an aspect of, 55 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:10,320 oh, let's see how far we can get, 56 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:11,800 let's see what we can do. 57 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:14,800 It was, you're not gonna make it, why even try? 58 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:17,400 And really, that's because that voice 59 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:19,920 is a form of self-protection. 60 00:02:19,920 --> 00:02:22,200 It's meant to make sure that the risks that we're taking 61 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:26,480 are actually calculated, that they are well thought of 62 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:30,320 beforehand, and it's really that amygdala lizard brain 63 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:34,640 part of our minds that we haven't really evolved out of. 64 00:02:34,640 --> 00:02:36,440 That part of our brain was fantastic 65 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:38,360 when we were running away from saber-tooth tigers 66 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:43,360 or other cavemen, but now when the biggest worry is failure 67 00:02:44,640 --> 00:02:48,760 or not getting where we wanna go or et cetera, et cetera, 68 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:51,440 all that voice is really doing is keeping us in a shell, 69 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:54,800 keeping us small and keeping us stagnant 70 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:56,160 and where we're currently at. 71 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:59,320 It's really making sure that we're staying in this inertia 72 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:01,280 that we have created for ourselves. 73 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:02,720 And when I was going through my coach training 74 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:05,000 a few years ago, we had to read a book called 75 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:07,480 The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. 76 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:09,840 In that book, the part that I liked the most 77 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:14,440 that I took away from it was basically that that voice 78 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:18,280 is just a roommate, it's not really you. 79 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:21,160 And being able to separate it out from yourself 80 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:25,120 is insanely impactful in terms of you being able to 81 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:27,880 put it to the side, acknowledge what it's saying, 82 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:29,720 great, thank you for your input, 83 00:03:29,720 --> 00:03:32,520 but you don't have to listen to what it says 84 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:33,600 because it's not really you. 85 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:35,400 When it comes to the sabotaging voice, 86 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:38,280 that part of your mind that says these nasty things to you, 87 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:40,320 the most important thing to remember 88 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:43,440 is that you are not the voice. 89 00:03:43,440 --> 00:03:47,000 That voice is separate from who you really are. 90 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:51,200 That voice of perfectionism or procrastination 91 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:55,160 or excuses, fear, worry, self-doubt, et cetera, et cetera, 92 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:57,440 that really isn't who you are. 93 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:00,720 That's because that inner dialogue, again, it's not you, 94 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:02,280 it's just noise. 95 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:06,920 It has just been this thing that's been compounded over time 96 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:10,320 and if you've never really stopped to evaluate it 97 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:12,720 or really listened to it or understand it, 98 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:16,840 it can just feel like this cacophony of noise, 99 00:04:16,840 --> 00:04:21,840 this orchestra of self-doubt that because it is so loud, 100 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:26,200 therefore you make the determination that it is correct. 101 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:29,160 It's kind of like the people that are protesting 102 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:30,800 or people on the internet, 103 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:32,800 it's usually the people that are the loudest 104 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:35,040 are the ones that get their voices heard, 105 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:37,680 but that doesn't always mean that they are the ones 106 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:42,000 that are in the majority or even right for that matter, 107 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:43,800 just as a general statement. 108 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:46,720 But that self-doubt is typically the one 109 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:49,280 that's screaming at you not to do something 110 00:04:49,280 --> 00:04:52,480 rather than the voice that is you actually saying, 111 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:54,320 I want to do this thing. 112 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,160 I want to take the new job, 113 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:57,960 ask the girl, shoot the shot, right? 114 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:02,240 So when it comes to getting past that voice, 115 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,040 there really are a few effective strategies 116 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,520 that Singer talks about in his book, The Untethered Soul, 117 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:09,560 there'll be an Amazon link in the description. 118 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:11,680 Really when it comes down to the steps 119 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:13,120 that Singer recommends, 120 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:15,640 it's really just all around the idea of listen, 121 00:05:15,640 --> 00:05:17,680 but don't engage. 122 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:20,200 Don't actually talk back to the voice, 123 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:23,080 don't engage with it, don't give it the time of day, 124 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:26,440 let it say its piece, ignore it and move on. 125 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:29,360 And in terms of a little bit of an NLP approach to it, 126 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:30,960 listen to what it says, 127 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:33,960 imagine that it's a person sitting next to you, 128 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:35,480 and then really think to yourself, 129 00:05:35,480 --> 00:05:37,440 if this was a friend or a person 130 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,800 that I was sitting next to on a bench in a park, 131 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:42,000 and they're saying all these things to me, 132 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:44,640 would I really listen to them or not? 133 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:46,840 And typically, that is your answer 134 00:05:46,840 --> 00:05:49,600 in terms of whether or not you should or should not 135 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:52,360 do the thing that you want to do. 136 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:54,600 In my case, it was walk across the country. 137 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:57,080 Once I was able to pull this part of my mind out 138 00:05:57,080 --> 00:05:59,280 and put it off to the side somewhere, 139 00:05:59,280 --> 00:06:04,280 it was really able to help me evaluate the actual reason 140 00:06:05,180 --> 00:06:07,440 that I thought those things. 141 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:09,720 Maybe if I was thinking that I wasn't prepared enough 142 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:12,560 and I was letting that stop me from getting prepared, 143 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:14,200 I could take that and put it to the side and say, 144 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:17,560 okay, for myself, what do I need to focus on? 145 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:18,960 Do I need to focus on the gear? 146 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:20,520 Do I need to focus on the route, 147 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:22,280 the people where I'm staying, 148 00:06:22,280 --> 00:06:26,400 how I'm going to solve issues as they arise or what? 149 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:28,960 Maybe in the business, it could be things like, 150 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:30,280 there's no reason to start, 151 00:06:30,280 --> 00:06:32,240 I don't know well enough, blah, blah, blah. 152 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:35,040 Well, maybe I need to get into a referral network. 153 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:37,000 Maybe I need to start networking more. 154 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:38,280 Maybe I need to read more books. 155 00:06:38,280 --> 00:06:40,620 Maybe I need to do another thing of training. 156 00:06:40,620 --> 00:06:41,920 But it's really about making sure 157 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,760 that you're taking purposeful action 158 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:47,040 towards where you actually want to go. 159 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:49,160 Because if you're just moving in a direction 160 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:52,720 without knowing if that is even directionally correct, 161 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:54,560 not even absolutely correct, 162 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:56,280 you're just gonna start wandering around 163 00:06:56,280 --> 00:06:59,400 and never really know where you're going to land. 164 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:00,480 I mentioned this earlier, 165 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:02,040 but I think that kind of understanding 166 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:07,040 where this fear voice comes from and why it's a thing 167 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:10,920 is also helpful in terms of us being able to move past it. 168 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:13,960 So being able to recognize that it is a separate piece of you 169 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:15,440 is just the very beginning. 170 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:17,720 And there's a tool that I use with some of my clients 171 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:19,080 that I'll talk about in just a moment 172 00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:21,280 that really has helped quite a few people 173 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,280 in terms of getting past that voice or voices 174 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:25,920 in some people's cases. 175 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:28,160 But it's really just understanding that that voice, 176 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:33,060 that amygdala, that fight or flight aspect of our minds 177 00:07:33,060 --> 00:07:34,680 is called the lizard brain. 178 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:36,040 And the lizard brain is really there 179 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:38,440 to protect you from perceived threats, 180 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:39,640 to make sure you don't get hurt, 181 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:41,680 to make sure that you can make it to the next day, 182 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:45,080 and make sure that your loved ones and tribe, family, 183 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:47,560 whatever you wanna call it, are protected. 184 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:50,360 But in modern times, those threats can come across 185 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:53,600 as new challenges, risks, or even opportunities 186 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:56,840 rather than actual life endangering dangers. 187 00:07:56,840 --> 00:07:59,240 It's the voice that magnifies self-doubt and fear. 188 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:02,440 It questions your abilities, uses past mistake as proof, 189 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:04,400 keeps you stuck in analysis paralysis, 190 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:07,560 and triggers extremely emotional responses. 191 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:11,720 And this is really the danger of listening to that voice 192 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:15,600 is that you'll never be able to, if you listen to it, 193 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:17,600 you'll never be able to really get past it 194 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:20,280 and move towards the goal or outcome 195 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:22,240 that you're really trying to create for yourself. 196 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:24,560 Which again, could be starting a business, 197 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:25,680 walking across the country, 198 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:28,240 or any other big crazy thing that you wanna do. 199 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:30,920 If you're listening to this lizard brain part of your mind, 200 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:34,920 that voice, you're never gonna be able to move past it. 201 00:08:34,920 --> 00:08:35,880 That's why I tell my clients 202 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:39,160 when we're working through the sabotaging voice, 203 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:44,160 this lizard brain, it's not a bad guy, right? 204 00:08:44,360 --> 00:08:45,840 It's like that scene from Wreck-It Ralph, 205 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:49,040 like I'm a bad guy, but I'm not a bad guy. 206 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:52,080 I think that is really the biggest thing to keep in mind 207 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:54,200 when it comes to the sabotaging voice 208 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:56,480 is our goal with it isn't to get rid of it 209 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:58,920 or strike it from our minds, 210 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,120 it's really to see it differently, 211 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:04,600 to kind of repurpose what it's doing in our mind 212 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:06,960 so that we can use it to be more effective, 213 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:08,600 to be more collaborative, 214 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:11,160 and really bring it into this new state 215 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:14,080 where it is useful for us. 216 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:15,600 And I kind of hinted to that earlier 217 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:17,280 when I was talking about potential ways 218 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:20,840 that I use it during my Walk Across America planning. 219 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:23,080 But really, instead of looking at it 220 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:28,080 as a negative bad guy aspect in your mind, 221 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:30,040 I really think that the better way, 222 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:34,480 the more fruitful way to look at the sabotaging voice 223 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,240 is more so as a misguided protector. 224 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:40,840 It might be a tribe elder that has been hurt in the past 225 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:42,120 and they're really just trying to warn you 226 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:45,000 so that you don't make the same mistakes that they did. 227 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:47,520 Being able to see it a little bit differently 228 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:51,760 helps in terms of being able to use them on your team 229 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:54,240 as opposed to being a adversary. 230 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:56,040 So if I were to give you a step-by-step process 231 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:57,600 for reframing the inner critic, 232 00:09:57,600 --> 00:10:00,520 in order for you to turn self-doubt into strength, 233 00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:03,080 it would be these next four steps. 234 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:05,720 And as always, these steps are going to be in the show notes 235 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:09,640 and on my Instagram following the posting of this episode. 236 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:10,480 So the very first step 237 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:13,040 is to just recognize the sabotaging voice. 238 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:14,480 Start noticing when it comes up, 239 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,280 identify the specific phrases it repeats, 240 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:20,160 and pay attention to the situations that trigger it. 241 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:22,400 Now you might want to keep some kind of journal 242 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:23,760 or a note in your phone 243 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:26,280 and just kind of make notes as it comes up. 244 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:29,640 This isn't something to do 24-7 throughout the day. 245 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:31,880 Just kind of notice when it's happening. 246 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:34,280 And also understand the feelings 247 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:36,800 that it creates for you internally. 248 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:38,840 Does it kind of cause like a lump in your throat? 249 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:40,360 Do you kind of feel your face get hot 250 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:41,400 when you're thinking about it? 251 00:10:41,400 --> 00:10:42,800 Do your hands get sweaty? 252 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:46,360 Really understand how it's emotionally affecting you as well. 253 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:49,640 The second step is to challenge the narrative. 254 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:52,520 It's really about asking yourself, is this really true? 255 00:10:52,520 --> 00:10:53,840 Is this actually correct? 256 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:56,160 Is this the story that I want to tell myself? 257 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:57,360 And this could be a good time 258 00:10:57,360 --> 00:11:00,080 for every time that it says these negative things to you. 259 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:03,400 Counter it with past examples of success, 260 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:04,920 no matter how small. 261 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:06,960 This is one of those things that Alex Ramosi says 262 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:11,520 where it's build a stack of proof that is so large 263 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:14,280 that you are basically able to prove to anybody 264 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:16,320 that you are who you say you are. 265 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:20,880 And if you're proving that to this voice, that is fantastic. 266 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:22,880 Just use any piece of proof that you can, 267 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:24,480 any kind of past success, 268 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:27,800 whether it was an award, a grade, a great accolade, 269 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:28,960 et cetera, et cetera. 270 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:30,640 It's really just showing this voice 271 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:34,400 that you are capable of doing these big, cool, crazy things. 272 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:36,800 And a continuous reminder to yourself, 273 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:38,760 maybe write this at the top of the journal, 274 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:41,440 but fear is not a prophecy. 275 00:11:41,440 --> 00:11:45,160 Step three is really about personifying that voice. 276 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:47,200 Earlier I kind of mentioned that it could look like 277 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:51,280 a tribe elder that's been hurt in the past. 278 00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:54,160 It could be a snarky squirrel. 279 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:58,960 It could be a big blob of negativity. 280 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:01,000 For me personally, the way that I describe my voice 281 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:02,600 is it's kind of like TV static. 282 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:04,560 It's just kind of overwhelming. 283 00:12:04,560 --> 00:12:05,640 It's very loud. 284 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:07,040 It's dark. 285 00:12:07,040 --> 00:12:09,840 And for me, it just kind of covers, 286 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:12,280 clouds my mind and my decision-making 287 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:14,160 to the point that I don't really know 288 00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:17,040 what is the best way to move forward 289 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:18,000 because I can't see anything. 290 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:20,720 So really being clear on what the sabotaging voice 291 00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:23,160 looks like for you, maybe give it a name. 292 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:24,880 And this also is a great NLP tactic 293 00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:27,600 because it helps you separate it out from yourself. 294 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:30,080 I've had clients that have described 295 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:33,640 their sabotaging voice as the businessman. 296 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:35,480 It's been Mr. and Mrs. Perfect. 297 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:37,240 It's been all these other things 298 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:40,560 that are very easy for them to remember and identify. 299 00:12:40,560 --> 00:12:43,000 Oh, that's the businessman talking, 300 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:47,400 or oh, that's Mr. and Mrs. Perfect saying their piece, right? 301 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:51,120 So it's really about helping yourself pull it further 302 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:54,840 from who you are so that you don't identify as that voice. 303 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:57,680 And step four is to stop waiting 304 00:12:57,680 --> 00:13:01,280 and actually move forward, to take action. 305 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:03,080 Confidence is built through action, 306 00:13:03,080 --> 00:13:05,440 not waiting to feel ready. 307 00:13:05,440 --> 00:13:06,680 And every time you're able to prove 308 00:13:06,680 --> 00:13:09,400 that sabotaging voice wrong, it gets quieter. 309 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:12,920 You know that old saying, actions speak louder than words? 310 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:14,400 That's exactly where this comes into play. 311 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:16,120 In the description for this episode, 312 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:17,920 as well as on my social media, 313 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:19,880 I'm going to post a carousel, 314 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:22,320 or I guess just generally in the notes, 315 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:24,120 the four steps that I just mentioned, 316 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:27,640 as well as a writing prompt for you to use 317 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:29,760 if you would like to help you understand 318 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:32,160 the sabotaging voice, see how it comes up for you. 319 00:13:32,160 --> 00:13:35,280 And if you'd like more personalized one-to-one help, 320 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:37,360 something that I do with a lot of my clients 321 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:39,880 is called a parts work session. 322 00:13:39,880 --> 00:13:41,960 And in the session, I help my clients 323 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:45,280 understand their sabotaging voice, give it a name, 324 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:48,080 as well as start to pick apart the other pieces 325 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:50,880 in their minds that may be at play. 326 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:53,280 And if you'd like more personalized one-to-one help, 327 00:13:53,280 --> 00:13:55,540 I do something called a parts work session 328 00:13:55,540 --> 00:13:57,880 where we sit down together and we not only identify 329 00:13:57,880 --> 00:14:00,080 the sabotaging voice and give it a name, 330 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:02,480 but we also start working towards identifying 331 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:04,800 the other parts in your mind. 332 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:07,760 So if you ever feel like there is a manager in your mind 333 00:14:07,760 --> 00:14:09,800 that is kind of barking orders, 334 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:12,280 a firefighter that's always putting out fires, 335 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:16,760 or any other parts of you that aren't really in alignment, 336 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:18,800 that is something that I can work with you with. 337 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:21,380 And if you'd like to schedule a session, 338 00:14:21,380 --> 00:14:23,020 go ahead and hit the interest link 339 00:14:23,020 --> 00:14:25,040 in the description as well, 340 00:14:25,040 --> 00:14:26,740 and I'd be more than happy to get back to you 341 00:14:26,740 --> 00:14:28,800 and see about working with you 342 00:14:28,800 --> 00:14:31,800 to move past the sabotaging voice. 343 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:33,280 Please leave a rating and review 344 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:35,880 on whatever podcast platform you're listening to this on. 345 00:14:35,880 --> 00:14:39,340 And as always, remember, the best is yet to come, 346 00:14:39,340 --> 00:14:41,420 as long as you're willing to make the decision 347 00:14:41,420 --> 00:14:45,020 to never settle, never quit, and never peak. 348 00:14:45,020 --> 00:14:46,820 I'll see you guys in the next one.