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Hello, everyone, and welcome to the Within Range Coaching Podcast with Ranger.

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I'm Ranger, Certified Holistic Success Coach, and in this podcast, I'm breaking down the

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journey that entrepreneurs face as they start their organization, find solutions, and create

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an impact that lasts.

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If you're an entrepreneur, nonprofit leader, or purpose-driven community member that wants

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to learn more about yourself and others, then this is the podcast for you.

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I know you're just as eager as I am to get started, so let's jump right in.

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Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening, everybody.

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This is your host, Ranger.

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And just to kind of jump straight into the podcast today, I wanted to share a quick story

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and my interpretation of it.

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You might have heard this before in different variations, but it's the story of Theseus

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and his ship, the Argo.

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Theseus owned a ship, and the ship was made entirely of wood.

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The ship, named the Argo, was taken all over the world, and each time a piece of the ship

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was broken, rotted, or just needed replacing, it was switched out with a metal part.

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This went on for a few years until eventually the ship was made entirely of metal.

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So this begs the question, is it still the same ship?

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Some will say, yes, it's Theseus' ship.

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It's the same thing, the same Argo.

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The pieces are just different.

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Others will say, no, it's a different ship.

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Technically, you could take all those pieces and build the original ship.

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Therefore, it's not the same ship anymore.

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But if we adopt that belief, at what point is it not the same?

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When only 99% of the ship is original?

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What about 75%?

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50?

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What if you change just one piece?

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Or what if Theseus changed the name of the ship?

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The ship's name is Argo, which means quick.

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But what if instead of Argo, he switched it to Polemos, which means war?

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Is it the same ship?

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Or has it been changed because of the name?

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Maybe, but only if the purpose and behaviors of the vessel actually change.

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At what point is a physical object not its original self anymore?

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And why does that matter?

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Well, I'll tell you.

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It's because this is about ships and it's not about ships.

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Theseus' ship changes over time.

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But the focus, from what I've seen, is always around the physical changes.

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What about the deeper reasons?

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What about the reasons why the pieces were changed?

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We're focused on what the physical accumulation of the ship and what it looks like, because

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that's easy.

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We can see that right in front of us.

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But what I've noticed is the why and the how aren't really talked about when it comes

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to the Argo.

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In the story or the general thought experiment itself, the physical aspects change over time.

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They become harder, tougher, more acclimated to the situations and surroundings the ship

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finds itself in.

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And I got to figure that Theseus replaced each piece for a reason.

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It wasn't just for fun or for whatever random reason.

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From what I can see, the reason being was to replace each soft, brittle, breakable piece

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with something that worked better for what he was trying to achieve.

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But what was he trying to achieve?

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And rather than focusing so much on the individual pieces and the physical ship right off the

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bat, let's go ahead and take a few steps back and look at the ship as a whole.

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Take a holistic view of the ship.

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What's the purpose of the vessel?

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Why is it even important to replace pieces over time?

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To keep it in order?

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To maintain the starboard and the port sides?

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And what if the purpose changes?

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What if we spend all that work figuring out why it's important, but then later on it changes

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anyway?

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Well, let's go ahead and just say that Theseus wants the ship to be lightweight, fast, and

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easy to handle so he can move cargo more quickly so he can make deliveries and therefore make

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more money.

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What decisions would he make then?

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Would he put 15 cannons on the port left and starboard right sides?

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Or even change the name to mean war instead of fast?

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I got to assume probably not.

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How would doing those things serve the overall purpose of the vessel of what he's trying

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to do with the ship, with his business?

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Now I'm sure when he goes to the parts store, the ship parts store or at the dock, whatever,

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there's probably a million and one different options for him to choose from.

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And the boat sales dude probably drives a hard bargain.

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But in a world of a million and one options of how to do something, it's extremely easy

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to feel lost.

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You'll feel lost, overwhelmed, and directionless.

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But in this case, since Theseus knows the purpose of the ship and the outcome he's trying

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to achieve, that purpose and outcome can act kind of as a sifter that can pull out the

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pieces he doesn't want and just leave options that will help him walk or sail in that purpose.

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Then from those options that are left over after it's sifted from his purpose and his

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outcome, he can then look at his environment, the water, the crew, the routes, the market

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for whatever products he wants to move around and pick what would work best from there.

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It's multiple sifters to figure out what equipment would get him where he needs to go.

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But what would happen if the pieces were not replaced over time?

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Now sure, some pieces of the ship might not be as important as others.

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But one piece can technically accomplish multiple tasks.

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The ship would still float with a chair or two out of commission.

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The ship would make it to its destination if a stair was creaky or a door was squeaky.

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But what if there's a hole in the hole?

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That's the bottom of the boat.

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Or the rudder is bent and you can't steer properly.

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How can the ship get to where it's going if water is filling up the ship and it can't

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even move?

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At what point is a part important enough to do something about it?

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And if Theseus were to notice these pieces weren't working and did nothing about them

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in the name of staying the same and maintaining that original ship so the ship's not different,

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what would happen?

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If he gave into the thoughts he may have of, you can't change that, the mast makes the

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ship.

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Or if you change the layout of the deck, it's going to be different and it's just always

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been that way.

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Or you can't paint it that color, everyone knows it for being blue.

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If Theseus gave into those beliefs and pressures and didn't shift and change, what happened?

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I'd assume that he and his ship would be out of alignment with their purpose and outcomes

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they're trying to create.

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This may be just fine for a while, but as you can imagine, this may have drastic long-term

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effects over time.

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He could lose business, his sanity, and worst case, his ship overall.

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And then what's he left with?

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By trying so hard to maintain what it was, he's not seeing what it can be.

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So why are we talking about this ship so much?

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Let me answer that question with another question.

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When you find a piece of you that is broken or not working properly, do you ignore it?

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Or do you replace it with something that works better?

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And how big of a piece needs to be an issue, like the chairs and stairs on the Argo?

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How big of that piece needs to be an issue before you do something about it?

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Theseus replaced pieces of a ship as time went on.

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Maybe some pieces broke or he found a better piece that fit his needs better.

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How could this concept come into play with you in your life?

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As a coach, I believe that people are whole and complete and don't need to be fixed.

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They don't need to be fixed.

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However, I do also believe that people can change who and what they are, especially when

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they see that beliefs and behaviors that are so ingrained in their day-to-day life don't

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serve them.

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You can change your beliefs and your behaviors to something that works better.

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People, you included, are able to move towards a self that is a better fit for how you want

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to be in the world and the outcomes you want to create for yourself.

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So to make that comparison, let's do a physical comparison between you and the ship.

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Let's say one day you decide to start working out.

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You hire a trainer, start going for walks, start hitting the weights at 3 a.m. in the

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gym while you listen to Tesla Violet on repeat.

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And one day, six months later, you look different.

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You gain some health and muscle.

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You look different in the mirror and others start to notice.

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Your clothes fit differently.

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You wear the outfits you've always wanted to.

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You aren't out of breath when you're going up the stairs anymore.

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You're more confident.

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You feel better.

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And then you start asking yourself questions.

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Are you still the same person?

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You look different like the ship.

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You act differently like the ship.

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And your surroundings are different like the ship.

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So are you still the same person?

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I'd say yes.

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You're still the same person.

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You're still the same person who values health, dedication, perseverance, discipline, and

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so many other things.

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What's different now is those beliefs and values aren't below the water anymore.

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They have always been there.

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The only difference is they're above the water now and you're the type of person, the version

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of you, that does something about it.

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Now let's move towards those internal decisions we make for ourselves.

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Like how Theseus decided that he wanted to do something different with his ship.

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Go quicker, make better deliveries, etc.

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And say that community fun and excitement are important to you.

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Community fun, excitement, and that in order to fulfill those values and activities, you

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drink and you party.

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Sure, it hits those values and probably for a few years, you make connections, you hang

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out with friends, you go out, you see things, you have fun experiences.

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But as time goes on and your environment changes, other values start to become more prevalent.

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And maybe now your health or family or not feeling like shit the next day or week, values

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start to come out more and you see that drinking may not be for you anymore.

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What then?

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Do you continue doing the thing you've always done?

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The partying, the drinking, the hanging out with other people that maybe you don't even

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want to hang out with anymore?

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Do you do that in the name of staying the same, of being the same old Argo that you

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used to be?

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Or do you find something different?

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Do you start to replace those behaviors with something else?

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And to be clear, you can still build community, have fun and find excitement in other activities

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while still honoring your value of health and family at the same time.

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It's just about putting those activities in a sifter like the Argo did previously with

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going quicker, making better deliveries and being easier to handle.

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You can find activities that hit all of your values.

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You can spend time with your friends and family differently, find a group workout class and

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engage in other exciting activities that just scratch your brain in all the right ways.

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It's about finding behaviors that work with more values at the same time.

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Just like how Theseus changes pieces of a ship to make it faster or able to carry more,

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it's the same ship but it's floating in its values.

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And just as the ship floats in its values and what its purpose and outcomes are, you

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too can walk in those aspects of your life.

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And like we mentioned earlier, we're changing the name of the Argo to something different.

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What's in a name?

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How does a name change your identity?

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Like when you go by your middle name when you go to college, or you get a new title

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at a job, or maybe even a small human starts to call you mom or dad.

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How does that shift in identity, like our example, changing Argo to Polemos affect you?

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Those name changes may not change what the object or person is, but it changes how they

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show up in the world because of the fact we associate different values and behaviors with

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those names.

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We might associate traits like caring, sacrifice, love, affection with the names like mom or

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dad, or a fresh version of ourselves by going by a middle name or a nickname, and whatever

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other traits we associate with job titles.

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But the key here isn't necessarily the name or the title we give ourselves.

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That's just the start.

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The key is how we walk in that title.

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By giving us a name, we're able to walk clearer in that path.

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Just how Theseus named his ship Argo, which means quick, that helps him make decisions

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on what works best for what he's trying to accomplish.

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So when we walk in those titles, it's more so about how we honor those values and traits.

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It's what's beneath the surface.

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And if Theseus named his fast little shipping boat War, that wouldn't align with what he's

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trying to do.

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It'd be like saying your one thing, but clearly acting as another.

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There's nothing in alignment there.

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So let me ask you, what do you want to be?

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And what does that look like to you?

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And to really just wrap all this up, I want to say this.

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You are both the ship and Theseus.

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You're Argo and Theseus, you're the ship and you're the captain.

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But the difference is, you're not separate.

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You don't need to dock and stop and go to the parts store in order to replace the pieces

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of yourself.

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You want to be different.

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You can build the ship as it sails.

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You can make the decision to change and you can actually change.

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You can make the daily changes to create the life you want to live and the identity you

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want to walk in.

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And it starts with answering these questions, which will be in the description in the show

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notes.

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Where am I going?

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Why is getting here important to me?

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What are my values?

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Who do I want to be?

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And what am I missing here?

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These questions and these answers to those questions will help you move confidently forward,

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make decisions and keep going even when you hit rough waters.

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So when you ask, why aren't I myself anymore?

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The answer is that you are.

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It's just the version of you you were meant to be.

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This is about ships and it's not about ships.

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You might be wondering, what do I value?

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How do I know where to go?

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And how do I see another perspective?

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Don't worry, I've got something else for you.

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In the description of this podcast, I have two different resources for you to figure

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this out.

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The very first is the value wheel.

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The second is the well-formed outcome.

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And if you take advantage of both of these resources, you will be able to find the X

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on the map, have a strategy to get past all the obstacles that will not may, but will

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get in your way and start to find your own answers and solutions.

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So go to the show notes, hit the link, grab the resources and get started today towards

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the outcome you want to see tomorrow.

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And if you want to set up a complimentary coaching call with me, fill out the interest

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form and I'll be in touch.

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As always, have fun, stay safe and be yourself.

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See you next week.