WEBVTT 00:00:00.739 --> 00:00:04.320 Hello and welcome to the first official Moms 00:00:04.320 --> 00:00:07.459 Weekly podcast. In case you missed it last week, 00:00:07.540 --> 00:00:10.720 I talked about how we are changing the name from 00:00:10.720 --> 00:00:13.720 the Live Out Loud podcast to Moms Weekly. This 00:00:13.720 --> 00:00:16.179 just goes so well with everything else we're 00:00:16.179 --> 00:00:19.420 doing with the Moms Weekly Collective, the platform 00:00:19.420 --> 00:00:22.160 we have for moms who want to connect and talk 00:00:22.160 --> 00:00:25.190 about intentional living and grow together. So 00:00:25.190 --> 00:00:27.649 if you have been around for a bit, this is the 00:00:27.649 --> 00:00:30.429 same kind of content. We will be talking about 00:00:30.429 --> 00:00:33.649 intentional living, obviously still that. We 00:00:33.649 --> 00:00:36.670 will be talking about parenting and the joys 00:00:36.670 --> 00:00:38.969 and the struggles, the highs and the lows of 00:00:38.969 --> 00:00:41.469 all of that. And of course, all of that from 00:00:41.469 --> 00:00:44.210 a biblical perspective. If you are new here, 00:00:44.649 --> 00:00:47.450 welcome, welcome, welcome. I am a mama four from 00:00:47.450 --> 00:00:51.189 ages nine through 15. And let me tell you. Every 00:00:51.189 --> 00:00:53.750 day is a learning curve for me. Every day I am 00:00:53.750 --> 00:00:56.710 sitting at the feet of Jesus, begging Him to 00:00:56.710 --> 00:01:00.909 speak life into my days and give me wisdom. Honestly, 00:01:01.009 --> 00:01:03.450 give me wisdom to deal with the things that I'm 00:01:03.450 --> 00:01:06.189 dealing with with my children. But as they say, 00:01:06.370 --> 00:01:09.230 parenting is a process of sanctification and 00:01:09.310 --> 00:01:13.010 That is what this has been. And so I share these 00:01:13.010 --> 00:01:15.170 things from my perspective and I share them with 00:01:15.170 --> 00:01:18.170 you so we can grow together. And talking through 00:01:18.170 --> 00:01:21.349 them out loud, it helps me see the things that 00:01:21.349 --> 00:01:23.750 I also need to work on in my own life. And it's 00:01:23.750 --> 00:01:25.790 just a beautiful thing to have these conversations 00:01:25.790 --> 00:01:32.280 with you. So again, welcome to this place. Alright, 00:01:32.560 --> 00:01:35.000 today's conversation is going to be a culturally 00:01:35.000 --> 00:01:38.060 challenging conversation, which is another word 00:01:38.060 --> 00:01:42.480 for hard. but also good because I think that 00:01:42.480 --> 00:01:46.280 whenever we dissect them in accordance to scripture, 00:01:46.340 --> 00:01:49.840 we're going to see why it is good. And I believe 00:01:49.840 --> 00:01:51.980 that at the end of this conversation, we're going 00:01:51.980 --> 00:01:54.579 to leave with some eye -opening points. And I 00:01:54.579 --> 00:01:57.780 believe it can change our family lives if we 00:01:57.780 --> 00:01:59.560 shift this small little thing, which we're going 00:01:59.560 --> 00:02:01.040 to talk about today. So you're going to want 00:02:01.040 --> 00:02:12.069 to stick around. Let's go. Don't you love words 00:02:12.069 --> 00:02:15.969 like culturally challenging and hard? Yes, they 00:02:15.969 --> 00:02:18.349 are not fun to talk about but they will produce 00:02:18.349 --> 00:02:21.810 so much growth whenever we lean into them and 00:02:21.810 --> 00:02:24.129 Today is gonna be no different today I'm going 00:02:24.129 --> 00:02:26.689 to ask you to lean into the hard and to really 00:02:26.689 --> 00:02:29.449 ask yourself some questions And while they are 00:02:29.449 --> 00:02:31.789 maybe some harder questions, the topic is fairly 00:02:31.789 --> 00:02:34.550 simple We're going to look at sayings that we 00:02:34.550 --> 00:02:37.469 have adopted in our culture and things that we 00:02:37.469 --> 00:02:40.289 say without giving them a second thought Now, 00:02:40.349 --> 00:02:42.550 there are some sayings in our culture that ring 00:02:42.550 --> 00:02:46.389 true and we say them often and there's no harm 00:02:46.389 --> 00:02:49.009 in them. For example, an apple a day keeps the 00:02:49.009 --> 00:02:51.629 doctor away. It's a good reminder to eat healthy 00:02:51.629 --> 00:02:54.009 or don't put all of your eggs in the same basket. 00:02:54.449 --> 00:02:57.169 Another good reminder. But have you ever considered, 00:02:57.590 --> 00:03:01.009 really considered the things that you or your 00:03:01.009 --> 00:03:04.349 kids or people you're having conversations with, 00:03:04.729 --> 00:03:06.969 the things that they're saying and what they 00:03:06.969 --> 00:03:09.479 truly mean? Here's some examples for you before 00:03:09.479 --> 00:03:13.560 we get any further on this. We have the common, 00:03:13.919 --> 00:03:17.259 follow your heart. Oh, that sounds lovely. Follow 00:03:17.259 --> 00:03:20.379 your heart. We also have, this is me, take it 00:03:20.379 --> 00:03:22.539 or leave it. And you guys, some of these I had 00:03:22.539 --> 00:03:24.939 to look up because I could not pull them out 00:03:24.939 --> 00:03:28.080 of just my head, but let's go through the list. 00:03:28.639 --> 00:03:31.539 You are all the good things. I actually saw this 00:03:31.539 --> 00:03:33.620 one on a shirt recently. I was thrifting and 00:03:33.620 --> 00:03:36.300 I saw this. You are all the good things. That 00:03:36.300 --> 00:03:38.969 one I had never heard. You do you, baby. You 00:03:38.969 --> 00:03:42.229 do you. Be the best version of yourself. I'm 00:03:42.229 --> 00:03:45.009 not your maid. It doesn't matter. No one will 00:03:45.009 --> 00:03:48.689 see it. I'm not good at that. I'm so overwhelmed. 00:03:49.310 --> 00:03:53.169 I'm always tired. It's just my hormones. And 00:03:53.169 --> 00:03:56.419 you guys, the list could just go on. But maybe 00:03:56.419 --> 00:03:59.080 you get the point here. The point is there are 00:03:59.080 --> 00:04:01.599 some one -liners that we throw out there and 00:04:01.599 --> 00:04:04.379 that are accepted in society that we do not give 00:04:04.379 --> 00:04:06.219 a second thought to because we have been saying 00:04:06.219 --> 00:04:09.340 them for so long. I mean, they go back years. 00:04:09.780 --> 00:04:12.180 And of course, if everyone is using them, they 00:04:12.180 --> 00:04:15.099 must be good, right? That's where we're wrong. 00:04:15.680 --> 00:04:18.399 I think that so many of these one -liners that 00:04:18.399 --> 00:04:21.870 we throw out there casually are actually hurting 00:04:21.870 --> 00:04:24.769 not just our hearts and our spirits and our minds, 00:04:25.149 --> 00:04:28.410 but our children's hearts and their minds. But 00:04:28.410 --> 00:04:30.430 don't just take my word for it. How about we 00:04:30.430 --> 00:04:32.689 do a little bit of digging, a little bit of searching 00:04:32.689 --> 00:04:36.189 in the scripture as to why some of these sayings 00:04:36.189 --> 00:04:40.689 on the surface can seem harmless, but are actually 00:04:40.689 --> 00:04:43.730 harming our spirits. Let's look into this together. 00:04:44.230 --> 00:04:46.329 All right, let's take the whole trust yourself 00:04:46.329 --> 00:04:50.189 and follow your heart taglines. There are so 00:04:50.189 --> 00:04:52.790 many verses that talk to this, but let's only 00:04:52.790 --> 00:04:56.089 look at a few. Let's go to Proverbs 3, 5 through 00:04:56.089 --> 00:05:08.389 6. Where in the world does trust yourself fit 00:05:08.389 --> 00:05:10.689 into this? It doesn't take reading between the 00:05:10.689 --> 00:05:13.750 lines to know that it just doesn't fit. Let's 00:05:13.750 --> 00:05:16.529 jump over to Proverbs 14, 12. There is a way 00:05:16.529 --> 00:05:19.220 that appears to be right. but in the end, it 00:05:19.220 --> 00:05:22.199 leads to death. This is a challenge to the idea 00:05:22.199 --> 00:05:25.500 that doing what feels right may not always give 00:05:25.500 --> 00:05:28.420 us the outcome that we want or the outcome that 00:05:28.420 --> 00:05:31.139 we think because we do not hold our days in our 00:05:31.139 --> 00:05:34.660 hands. We do not know everything about our lives 00:05:34.660 --> 00:05:37.980 and trusting in ourselves is so small a thing 00:05:37.980 --> 00:05:41.319 compared to trusting in God. Let's look at Philippians 00:05:41.319 --> 00:05:45.060 2, 3, and 4. Do nothing, nothing out of selfish 00:05:45.060 --> 00:05:48.649 ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility, 00:05:49.029 --> 00:05:51.610 value others above yourselves. Not looking for 00:05:51.610 --> 00:05:54.209 your own interests, but each of you to the interests 00:05:54.209 --> 00:05:57.750 of others. This challenges everything about you 00:05:57.750 --> 00:06:01.129 do you. It emphasizes putting others above yourself. 00:06:01.470 --> 00:06:04.509 And every time we say, you do you, who are we 00:06:04.509 --> 00:06:07.189 saying to think about? Themselves, ourselves. 00:06:07.250 --> 00:06:09.430 If I'm talking to my child, I'm saying, you do 00:06:09.430 --> 00:06:11.350 you. Think about yourself. Don't think about 00:06:11.350 --> 00:06:14.529 how it will affect anyone else. Just do you. 00:06:14.689 --> 00:06:18.139 Do what feels right for you. Along those same 00:06:18.139 --> 00:06:20.879 lines, we have a line that we say, which is, 00:06:21.120 --> 00:06:24.160 do what makes you happy. On the surface, this 00:06:24.160 --> 00:06:26.779 sounds like an amazing line. Do what makes you 00:06:26.779 --> 00:06:29.339 happy. Who doesn't want to be happy? And who 00:06:29.339 --> 00:06:32.339 doesn't want their kids to be happy? I know I 00:06:32.339 --> 00:06:36.300 do. But if I'm looking at this from God's perspective 00:06:36.300 --> 00:06:39.639 and from scripture, let's look at Luke 9 .23. 00:06:40.019 --> 00:06:43.259 Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves 00:06:43.259 --> 00:06:46.420 and take up their cross daily and follow me. 00:06:46.560 --> 00:06:50.000 This does not sound like a do whatever makes 00:06:50.000 --> 00:06:52.839 you happy because I can tell you picking up my 00:06:52.839 --> 00:06:55.800 cross every single day does not make me happy. 00:06:55.939 --> 00:06:59.060 It is a hard thing to do. What makes me happy 00:06:59.060 --> 00:07:01.680 are easy things. What makes me happy would be 00:07:01.680 --> 00:07:04.220 sitting at the beach with a nice cold drink in 00:07:04.220 --> 00:07:07.279 my hand, a book to read, the sound of the waves 00:07:07.279 --> 00:07:10.560 crashing, and nothing else for me to have to 00:07:10.560 --> 00:07:12.980 worry about. That would make me happy. Would 00:07:12.980 --> 00:07:16.629 that bring about growth in change in my life? 00:07:17.069 --> 00:07:19.810 Not really. Not if that was every single day. 00:07:20.149 --> 00:07:22.310 That's what I had to do. It would bring about 00:07:22.310 --> 00:07:25.709 zero growth. So telling my kids or telling myself 00:07:25.709 --> 00:07:28.230 to pursue only the things that make me happy 00:07:28.230 --> 00:07:31.129 is shortchanging myself to the things that could 00:07:31.129 --> 00:07:33.810 make me grow. And speaking of growing, let's 00:07:33.810 --> 00:07:37.189 talk about serving. The saying, I'm not your 00:07:37.189 --> 00:07:40.620 maid. And I don't know if you have said that 00:07:40.620 --> 00:07:42.699 or you've heard someone say that in passing. 00:07:43.240 --> 00:07:45.680 And sometimes we laugh it off when someone says, 00:07:45.759 --> 00:07:49.079 I'm not your maid. And it implies like you can 00:07:49.079 --> 00:07:51.420 do your own things. You can take your dish to 00:07:51.420 --> 00:07:54.360 the sink. You can pick up your shoes. I'm not 00:07:54.360 --> 00:07:56.959 your maid, but let's take a deeper look at these. 00:07:57.240 --> 00:08:01.000 Let's go to Galatians 5 .13. You, my brothers 00:08:01.000 --> 00:08:04.279 and sisters are called to be free, but do not 00:08:04.279 --> 00:08:07.360 use your freedom to indulge in the flesh. rather 00:08:07.360 --> 00:08:11.360 serve one another, serve one another humbly in 00:08:11.360 --> 00:08:14.160 love. Let's not stop there. Let's go to Mark 00:08:14.160 --> 00:08:17.240 9 .35, one that I think we could all probably 00:08:17.240 --> 00:08:20.720 quote. Jesus called the 12 and said, anyone who 00:08:20.720 --> 00:08:25.939 wants to be first must be the very last and servant 00:08:25.939 --> 00:08:28.660 of all. If we remember the life of Jesus, he 00:08:28.660 --> 00:08:31.279 came to serve. The Bible tells us that. We know 00:08:31.279 --> 00:08:33.279 this about him. We can just read his stories. 00:08:33.580 --> 00:08:37.000 He is serving people all the time. And then what 00:08:37.000 --> 00:08:39.340 does he tell us to do? He tells us to follow 00:08:39.340 --> 00:08:42.919 his example. His example was one of servanthood 00:08:42.919 --> 00:08:46.700 towards others. Never once, never once did he 00:08:46.700 --> 00:08:50.240 say, I'm not your maid, do your own things. But 00:08:50.240 --> 00:08:53.460 moved by compassion and love, he always turned 00:08:53.460 --> 00:08:56.360 to help the people around him. How about one 00:08:56.360 --> 00:08:59.960 that can so easily pass in our society as okay? 00:09:00.539 --> 00:09:02.899 The saying, it doesn't matter, no one will see 00:09:02.899 --> 00:09:05.750 it. And sure, there may be things we are doing 00:09:05.750 --> 00:09:09.029 that no one's going to notice. But what happens 00:09:09.029 --> 00:09:12.049 inevitably whenever we start slacking on a job, 00:09:12.230 --> 00:09:14.730 we start being a little bit lazy here and a little 00:09:14.730 --> 00:09:17.730 bit lazy there, it will always happen. We become 00:09:17.730 --> 00:09:20.610 more and more lazy with bigger and bigger things. 00:09:21.029 --> 00:09:23.649 And again, let's compare it to scripture. Let's 00:09:23.649 --> 00:09:28.570 go to Colossians 3 23 through 24. Whatever you 00:09:28.570 --> 00:09:31.570 do, work at it with all of your heart. As if 00:09:31.570 --> 00:09:33.990 working for the Lord, not for human masters, 00:09:34.230 --> 00:09:36.549 since you know that you will receive an inheritance 00:09:36.549 --> 00:09:39.730 from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord you 00:09:39.730 --> 00:09:43.450 are serving. Or Luke 16 10, whoever can be trusted 00:09:43.450 --> 00:09:46.049 with very little can also be trusted with much. 00:09:46.529 --> 00:09:48.929 A great one to teach our children, especially 00:09:48.929 --> 00:09:52.049 instead of saying, it doesn't matter, no one's 00:09:52.049 --> 00:09:54.570 going to see it. How about we push our children 00:09:54.570 --> 00:09:58.700 to work as if unto the Lord? You guys, we could 00:09:58.700 --> 00:10:01.980 go on with so many of these sayings and find 00:10:01.980 --> 00:10:05.100 scriptures to back them up, why they are hurting 00:10:05.100 --> 00:10:08.340 our minds, our hearts, and our spirits. You are 00:10:08.340 --> 00:10:10.980 all the good things. No, we're not. We are not 00:10:10.980 --> 00:10:13.139 the good things. Jesus Christ is the only good 00:10:13.139 --> 00:10:16.659 thing. And to say that someone, you are all the 00:10:16.659 --> 00:10:20.059 good things, while it may seem like an accolade 00:10:20.059 --> 00:10:23.639 or a very pleasant or nice thing to say, it is 00:10:23.639 --> 00:10:26.289 so wrong. The only thing good that comes from 00:10:26.289 --> 00:10:30.129 a person is the life of Jesus Christ. This is 00:10:30.129 --> 00:10:33.330 me, take it or leave it. We are to be transformed 00:10:33.330 --> 00:10:37.070 by the gospel, by the words that have power to 00:10:37.070 --> 00:10:39.850 transform us, by the spirit. We are not to stay 00:10:39.850 --> 00:10:42.289 the same and to say, this is me, take it or leave 00:10:42.289 --> 00:10:45.149 it. It means I'm never willing to grow, I'm never 00:10:45.149 --> 00:10:47.850 willing to change and be transformed into the 00:10:47.850 --> 00:10:51.990 life that I can fully grow into. What about it's 00:10:51.990 --> 00:10:54.759 the hormones talking? That would be saying, I'm 00:10:54.759 --> 00:10:57.559 not gonna take responsibility for my own actions, 00:10:57.720 --> 00:11:00.220 for my words, for whatever came out of my mouth. 00:11:00.639 --> 00:11:03.659 It was the hormones. And I'm not going to own 00:11:03.659 --> 00:11:07.779 up or change or seek to be better in this moment 00:11:07.779 --> 00:11:10.700 or in this situation because it's just a part 00:11:10.700 --> 00:11:14.299 of life. And while yes, it absolutely is, we 00:11:14.299 --> 00:11:16.700 are called to have self -control. It doesn't 00:11:16.700 --> 00:11:19.519 say when you're not hormonal. It doesn't say 00:11:19.519 --> 00:11:22.720 whenever life is great to have self -control. 00:11:22.940 --> 00:11:25.820 It just says a fruit of the Spirit is self -control. 00:11:26.379 --> 00:11:28.440 And here's where the hard part comes in for us 00:11:28.440 --> 00:11:31.600 today. I'm going to ask you to think through 00:11:31.600 --> 00:11:33.980 the things that you say, the things that you 00:11:33.980 --> 00:11:36.879 hear other people say, and really dissect them. 00:11:37.240 --> 00:11:40.120 Ask the Holy Spirit to point out any words or 00:11:40.120 --> 00:11:43.460 saying that you or your kids are using that does 00:11:43.460 --> 00:11:46.399 not line up with the full life that He wants 00:11:46.399 --> 00:11:48.870 us to live. And the hard part is going to be 00:11:48.870 --> 00:11:51.289 taking the time to be intentional about this 00:11:51.289 --> 00:11:54.250 and really thinking through your conversations. 00:11:54.629 --> 00:11:57.190 Throughout your day, before you go to say something, 00:11:57.450 --> 00:12:00.750 think about it. This takes so much work. And 00:12:00.750 --> 00:12:03.230 because we're so used to saying some of these 00:12:03.230 --> 00:12:05.710 things, they're gonna roll off so easily off 00:12:05.710 --> 00:12:08.360 of our tongue. But if you want to flourish in 00:12:08.360 --> 00:12:12.340 your family life, if you want to grow in intentionality 00:12:12.340 --> 00:12:15.700 with your words in your family life, this is 00:12:15.700 --> 00:12:18.860 a crucial step to doing so. But the hardest part 00:12:18.860 --> 00:12:23.039 is going to be shifting your language, your vocabulary, 00:12:23.299 --> 00:12:26.299 your thoughts to those things that bring life. 00:12:26.919 --> 00:12:29.720 It is so easy to say, do what makes you happy 00:12:29.720 --> 00:12:32.559 instead of asking the hard questions. Have you 00:12:32.559 --> 00:12:34.779 sat with it with the Lord? How will this impact 00:12:34.779 --> 00:12:37.379 your life? How will it impact the lives of people 00:12:37.379 --> 00:12:39.820 around you? These questions mean that you have 00:12:39.820 --> 00:12:42.779 to sit and wait for an answer. They take time 00:12:42.779 --> 00:12:45.960 from your busy schedule. But we are either emphasizing 00:12:45.960 --> 00:12:49.740 our own security, our own growth, our own happiness 00:12:49.740 --> 00:12:52.360 in this world, or we are emphasizing the life 00:12:52.360 --> 00:12:57.360 of Christ with our words. Mamas, friends, this 00:12:57.360 --> 00:13:00.080 is not meant to discourage you. This is meant 00:13:00.080 --> 00:13:03.759 to encourage you to pursue the full life Christ 00:13:03.759 --> 00:13:06.399 has for your family. This is meant to encourage 00:13:06.399 --> 00:13:09.820 you to be intentional with your words because 00:13:09.820 --> 00:13:13.480 your words have so much life and so much power 00:13:13.480 --> 00:13:16.340 in them. And it is meant to help you break the 00:13:16.340 --> 00:13:19.879 cycle in which we've all been a part of. and 00:13:19.879 --> 00:13:22.799 we pass it on to our kids of just saying these 00:13:22.799 --> 00:13:25.960 things because society accepts them. In thinking 00:13:25.960 --> 00:13:29.179 through this content for today's recording, just 00:13:29.179 --> 00:13:32.320 this week, I have caught myself several times 00:13:32.320 --> 00:13:35.720 stopping or saying something and not realizing 00:13:35.720 --> 00:13:39.600 until after the effect of my words. Is it going 00:13:39.600 --> 00:13:43.720 to look perfect? No, a hundred percent no. But 00:13:43.720 --> 00:13:46.879 is it going to look intentional? Yes, it is. 00:13:46.919 --> 00:13:49.580 And that is the point. Is living intentionally 00:13:49.580 --> 00:13:52.899 for the Kingdom of God? I pray for insight on 00:13:52.899 --> 00:13:55.799 your conversations. I pray for wisdom as you 00:13:55.799 --> 00:13:58.240 are teaching this to your children. And I pray 00:13:58.240 --> 00:14:02.039 for life to come from this for you and your family. 00:14:02.519 --> 00:14:05.039 And so dear friends, before signing off, I would 00:14:05.039 --> 00:14:08.139 love to leave you with this scripture. Let the 00:14:08.139 --> 00:14:11.059 words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart 00:14:11.470 --> 00:14:16.110 Be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer. 00:14:16.730 --> 00:14:20.090 Have a blessed week, sweet friend. Until next 00:14:20.090 --> 00:14:20.350 time.