WEBVTT 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.000 Have you ever gotten up on the wrong side of 00:00:02.000 --> 00:00:06.780 the bed? Yeah, me too. And so have my kids. And 00:00:06.780 --> 00:00:09.519 because that's not just an us thing, let's talk 00:00:09.519 --> 00:00:12.080 about it today on the Live Out Loud podcast. 00:00:12.339 --> 00:00:14.519 Practical applications for something that is 00:00:14.519 --> 00:00:17.300 known as reframing your day. Oh, this is going 00:00:17.300 --> 00:00:28.300 to be a good one. Let's go. Have you ever wondered 00:00:28.300 --> 00:00:31.809 where sayings come from? There's actually a website 00:00:31.809 --> 00:00:34.950 that talks about old sayings and where they come 00:00:34.950 --> 00:00:36.969 from. And it is actually quite interesting to 00:00:36.969 --> 00:00:40.369 know the origin of certain things and why we 00:00:40.369 --> 00:00:42.869 say them today. And they're quite comical when 00:00:42.869 --> 00:00:46.270 to know why we say the things that we do. But 00:00:46.270 --> 00:00:48.009 because a lot of these sayings have been around 00:00:48.009 --> 00:00:50.880 for so long and so many years, I feel like As 00:00:50.880 --> 00:00:54.840 a society we just accept sayings that are popular 00:00:54.840 --> 00:00:58.119 and a lot of the times we don't even give thought 00:00:58.119 --> 00:01:00.420 to the things that we're saying because it is 00:01:00.420 --> 00:01:03.880 a popular thing to say or it is an accepted thing 00:01:03.880 --> 00:01:06.659 to say. And it is no different with this one 00:01:06.659 --> 00:01:09.439 of waking up on the wrong side of the bed. I 00:01:09.439 --> 00:01:11.780 know I have used it, I've thrown it out, my kids 00:01:11.780 --> 00:01:14.459 have used it, and many people I know. We will 00:01:14.459 --> 00:01:16.599 just throw it out there and expect people to 00:01:16.599 --> 00:01:20.359 accept that my behavior stems from waking up 00:01:20.359 --> 00:01:22.859 on the wrong side of the bed. Now, I'm not here 00:01:22.859 --> 00:01:26.680 to say that every day has to be 100 % the best 00:01:26.680 --> 00:01:29.480 and show up every single day with peak performance. 00:01:29.819 --> 00:01:32.319 I'm not saying that at all. There are so many 00:01:32.319 --> 00:01:34.500 days that are so hard to show up and so many 00:01:34.500 --> 00:01:37.000 days that it does feel like we woke up on the 00:01:37.000 --> 00:01:39.480 wrong side of the bed, whatever that means. But 00:01:39.480 --> 00:01:41.900 I think that because it is an accepted phrase, 00:01:42.379 --> 00:01:46.120 we expect people to accept our behavior as okay 00:01:46.120 --> 00:01:48.980 and we even expect that of ourselves as well. 00:01:49.209 --> 00:01:52.030 And there's a couple things that I can see going 00:01:52.030 --> 00:01:54.450 wrong with this mentality of accepting this. 00:01:55.109 --> 00:01:57.849 Is one, our days can feel like they're wasted 00:01:57.849 --> 00:02:01.670 because nothing can go right from the beginning. 00:02:02.310 --> 00:02:04.730 And number two, which is a very important one, 00:02:05.069 --> 00:02:08.009 we do not take ownership over our actions. A 00:02:08.009 --> 00:02:10.710 very dangerous path to start down on and a very 00:02:10.710 --> 00:02:13.509 dangerous place to be. But because we are here 00:02:13.509 --> 00:02:15.669 to encourage each other, we are going to talk 00:02:15.669 --> 00:02:19.000 about the idea of reframing your day and escaping 00:02:19.000 --> 00:02:21.919 the waking up on the wrong side of the bed mentality. 00:02:22.659 --> 00:02:26.080 So what does reframing your day actually mean 00:02:26.080 --> 00:02:29.099 and look like? If we take a whole day, we have 00:02:29.099 --> 00:02:32.599 24 hours. We take many of those hours away for 00:02:32.599 --> 00:02:34.840 hopefully a good night's sleep. We will base 00:02:34.840 --> 00:02:39.590 our calculations on a 13 hour awake. time frame. 00:02:40.129 --> 00:02:43.090 So this would mean we have 13 hours a week which 00:02:43.090 --> 00:02:49.669 would be 780 minutes and 46 ,800 seconds. I feel 00:02:49.669 --> 00:02:52.710 like seconds is too small to work with and hours 00:02:52.710 --> 00:02:56.810 is kind of a little big to also wrap our brains 00:02:56.810 --> 00:02:59.310 around so we're going to work with minutes. If 00:02:59.310 --> 00:03:03.889 we say that we have 780 waking minutes disregarding 00:03:03.889 --> 00:03:06.310 if you go to bed early or late or all of this, 00:03:06.349 --> 00:03:09.689 if you wake up early or late. Say we have 780 00:03:09.689 --> 00:03:12.610 minutes of wake time with our families, with 00:03:12.610 --> 00:03:14.710 our kids, with our thoughts, with ourselves, 00:03:14.930 --> 00:03:17.770 with others, with friends, so on. What often 00:03:17.770 --> 00:03:21.490 happens is that when we wake up on the wrong 00:03:21.490 --> 00:03:25.629 side of the bed and we take on this idea, the 00:03:25.629 --> 00:03:29.770 rest of the 700 and something minutes left after 00:03:29.770 --> 00:03:31.949 our feet have hit the ground and we've made a 00:03:31.949 --> 00:03:35.360 mistake, and we have said I woke up on the wrong 00:03:35.360 --> 00:03:38.719 side of the bed are then wasted for the most 00:03:38.719 --> 00:03:41.520 part. Not always, but for the most part they 00:03:41.520 --> 00:03:44.599 can feel very wasted. So I'm going to share with 00:03:44.599 --> 00:03:46.639 you something we have been doing for two years 00:03:46.639 --> 00:03:49.599 now. Something I found online from another amazing 00:03:49.599 --> 00:03:52.539 mom and I cannot remember who it was that shared 00:03:52.539 --> 00:03:55.159 this and I saw it came across it and we have 00:03:55.159 --> 00:03:58.479 adopted it into our family life and it has proven 00:03:58.479 --> 00:04:03.180 to be amazing when we have off days. The idea 00:04:03.180 --> 00:04:06.879 of reframing your day is this. You take your 00:04:06.879 --> 00:04:11.000 780 minutes or your 13 hours and you cut them 00:04:11.000 --> 00:04:15.580 into four big blocks. And I feel like the four 00:04:15.580 --> 00:04:19.779 is a very important detail. When I first started, 00:04:19.899 --> 00:04:21.680 I was thinking, okay, maybe it could be three, 00:04:22.000 --> 00:04:25.300 but trust me on this, four is the sweet spot 00:04:25.300 --> 00:04:28.519 and where it needs to be. So an example of your 00:04:28.519 --> 00:04:31.779 day broken up into four blocks could be your 00:04:31.779 --> 00:04:36.439 first quarter, which could be 6 to 10 am, and 00:04:36.439 --> 00:04:40.240 your second quarter, 10 to 2 pm, your third quarter, 00:04:40.500 --> 00:04:44.910 2 to 6, and then your fourth one, 6 to 10. Obviously 00:04:44.910 --> 00:04:48.269 way more than 13 hours because as a mom, we are 00:04:48.269 --> 00:04:51.350 up for way longer than that with our crying babies 00:04:51.350 --> 00:04:53.949 or children and all of the things that need to 00:04:53.949 --> 00:04:57.430 be done. The hours don't really matter. It matters 00:04:57.430 --> 00:05:00.790 how it works for your life, for your family. 00:05:00.910 --> 00:05:03.350 So if you get up at five, that's when you start. 00:05:03.670 --> 00:05:06.269 If you get up at seven, that is when you start. 00:05:06.389 --> 00:05:12.250 So you do four big blocks of time, morning, midday, 00:05:12.509 --> 00:05:15.439 afternoon, and evening. The idea is that instead 00:05:15.439 --> 00:05:19.139 of having 780 minutes or 800 and something minutes 00:05:19.139 --> 00:05:21.620 to work with in your day, you have now cut it 00:05:21.620 --> 00:05:25.220 up into sections that make it easier for assessing 00:05:25.220 --> 00:05:28.860 and for starting over. The idea is that instead 00:05:28.860 --> 00:05:33.139 of having what would 16 hours be 900 and something, 00:05:33.379 --> 00:05:36.620 960 minutes to work with, we have now sectioned 00:05:36.620 --> 00:05:39.980 it off into four quarters that are way more manageable 00:05:39.980 --> 00:05:43.139 for us to get through. And this is how it has 00:05:43.139 --> 00:05:45.639 played out in our family over the past two years 00:05:45.639 --> 00:05:48.379 since we have started using this method. At the 00:05:48.379 --> 00:05:50.800 beginning I had to explain what the idea was 00:05:50.800 --> 00:05:53.540 and I set up how it was going to operate and 00:05:53.540 --> 00:05:56.220 work and how everyone could use it in their own 00:05:56.220 --> 00:05:59.279 personal life. But once it was adopted, It has 00:05:59.279 --> 00:06:02.420 flourished and it has helped everyone in our 00:06:02.420 --> 00:06:05.519 family. Because before the mentality was that 00:06:05.519 --> 00:06:08.240 if we woke up and we were having a rough day 00:06:08.240 --> 00:06:12.100 or we didn't quite wake up with a full potential 00:06:12.100 --> 00:06:15.339 energy to use, the rest of the day was ruined. 00:06:15.980 --> 00:06:18.600 Our brains trick us into thinking that the rest 00:06:18.600 --> 00:06:21.540 of our day is now ruined. or that we cannot regain 00:06:21.540 --> 00:06:24.839 control and make better decisions for some reason, 00:06:25.399 --> 00:06:29.060 our brains are just so wonderful like that. But 00:06:29.060 --> 00:06:31.480 once we got the concept of breaking up our day, 00:06:31.959 --> 00:06:34.959 we could then see that our first block in the 00:06:34.959 --> 00:06:38.660 morning, if it started off rough, it gave us 00:06:38.660 --> 00:06:42.060 a chance to reset multiple times a day instead 00:06:42.060 --> 00:06:45.079 of waiting till the evening to reset and starting 00:06:45.079 --> 00:06:47.990 again in the morning. Which is a wonderful gift 00:06:47.990 --> 00:06:50.709 to give to yourself and to your family, to your 00:06:50.709 --> 00:06:55.850 kids. A mini, mini reset during your day is amazing. 00:06:56.370 --> 00:06:59.170 And while I think we always have the ability 00:06:59.170 --> 00:07:03.009 to reset, for some reason this method really 00:07:03.009 --> 00:07:06.350 helps you operate in a healthy mentality that 00:07:06.350 --> 00:07:10.430 it is okay to reset things. I've had my 8 and 00:07:10.430 --> 00:07:14.259 11 year old come to me, unprompted, to say, Mom, 00:07:14.420 --> 00:07:17.399 I need to reset again because this and this is 00:07:17.399 --> 00:07:21.139 happening or I feel like I cannot catch a break 00:07:21.139 --> 00:07:25.459 or I'm not doing well and I need a reset or they 00:07:25.459 --> 00:07:27.600 will admit that the first block of their day 00:07:27.600 --> 00:07:30.300 didn't go quite as they had hoped or planned 00:07:30.300 --> 00:07:33.720 and they didn't show quite the fruits of the 00:07:33.720 --> 00:07:36.319 spirit that they wanted to and then with much 00:07:36.319 --> 00:07:38.779 joy they will express how excited they are that 00:07:38.779 --> 00:07:42.310 they still have the other three blocks to do 00:07:42.310 --> 00:07:46.649 and try better and live fully. And so while it 00:07:46.649 --> 00:07:51.290 is not a fix all problems idea or mentality, 00:07:51.970 --> 00:07:55.730 it is a helpful tool to give yourself and your 00:07:55.730 --> 00:07:59.350 children to realize that it is okay on the days 00:07:59.350 --> 00:08:04.389 that we get up and we don't feel 100%. But God 00:08:04.389 --> 00:08:08.149 allows us to rest in him and say, you know what? 00:08:08.589 --> 00:08:12.050 I need your help again and again. And he allows 00:08:12.050 --> 00:08:15.709 for the space to say, I am not enough. I need 00:08:15.709 --> 00:08:19.189 you. He allows for the space to say, I messed 00:08:19.189 --> 00:08:22.889 up, but I want to try harder and better in the 00:08:22.889 --> 00:08:26.129 next portion of my day. Instead of it being an 00:08:26.129 --> 00:08:29.509 entirely wasted day, there is grace in those 00:08:29.509 --> 00:08:33.700 moments to start over. And Honestly, the beauty 00:08:33.700 --> 00:08:36.940 of your day being cut up into four sections and 00:08:36.940 --> 00:08:40.320 four segments it actually helps you be more productive 00:08:40.320 --> 00:08:44.080 in those segments because I don't know how to 00:08:44.080 --> 00:08:46.700 explain it your brain just it just plays tricks 00:08:46.700 --> 00:08:50.740 on you and you know that the the first four hours 00:08:50.740 --> 00:08:54.039 for first five hours are coming to an end and 00:08:54.039 --> 00:08:56.980 For some reason they become way more productive 00:08:56.980 --> 00:09:01.250 than knowing you have 15 hours of wake time Another 00:09:01.250 --> 00:09:04.750 beautiful perk that this idea of reframing your 00:09:04.750 --> 00:09:08.009 day also gives you is giving you opportunities 00:09:08.009 --> 00:09:11.309 to assess where you're at in your day if you 00:09:11.309 --> 00:09:14.070 have to have a reset, if you need to apologize. 00:09:14.590 --> 00:09:18.450 My kids will use this reset as a time to apologize 00:09:18.450 --> 00:09:22.629 or say, I am sorry I was not respectful or loving 00:09:22.629 --> 00:09:26.529 in the first part of my day, but… and then they 00:09:26.529 --> 00:09:28.740 will insert whatever they need to say. Because 00:09:28.740 --> 00:09:31.539 I think it is so easy to go about our day our 00:09:31.539 --> 00:09:34.840 16 hours of wake time or 12 hours and and just 00:09:34.840 --> 00:09:37.879 fly through them and not be mindful of where 00:09:37.879 --> 00:09:41.419 we are at until the evening and then whenever 00:09:41.419 --> 00:09:43.879 we look back perhaps there were so many little 00:09:43.879 --> 00:09:47.460 things that had we taken the time to stop and 00:09:47.460 --> 00:09:50.899 assess we could have changed in the moment instead 00:09:50.899 --> 00:09:54.019 of waiting till the evening to look back and 00:09:54.019 --> 00:09:56.980 then start again the next day. So, reframing 00:09:56.980 --> 00:10:00.120 your day is a beautiful tool that has worked 00:10:00.120 --> 00:10:03.720 for us and I really do hope that it blesses your 00:10:03.720 --> 00:10:06.659 family if you do choose to use it to implement 00:10:06.659 --> 00:10:09.620 it in your family. And honestly, if you have 00:10:09.620 --> 00:10:13.100 any questions about it, You can reach out, ask 00:10:13.100 --> 00:10:17.519 me on Instagram at elliantheboys .co or you can 00:10:17.519 --> 00:10:20.600 also look it up online and look up what reframing 00:10:20.600 --> 00:10:23.259 your day is and looks like for other people. 00:10:23.899 --> 00:10:27.200 And it is a method that has worked for many and 00:10:27.200 --> 00:10:29.419 one that I am excited to share with you today. 00:10:34.379 --> 00:10:36.940 Alright dear listener, this is where we part 00:10:36.940 --> 00:10:40.799 ways for today, but tune in to next conversation 00:10:40.799 --> 00:10:45.759 on which we will have a very special guest joining 00:10:45.759 --> 00:10:49.259 us. I may just leave you hanging for who the 00:10:49.259 --> 00:10:52.059 special guest is, but it is someone who I love 00:10:52.059 --> 00:10:55.220 very dearly and we will be talking about some 00:10:55.220 --> 00:10:58.159 very hard things in this season of life specifically 00:10:58.159 --> 00:11:00.980 for them. They get to share that with us. And 00:11:00.980 --> 00:11:03.820 also what it's like finding friends in today's 00:11:03.820 --> 00:11:06.440 world. Very good questions. I'm very excited 00:11:06.440 --> 00:11:09.120 to sit down and chat with them here on the Live 00:11:09.120 --> 00:11:09.940 Out Loud podcast.