WEBVTT 00:00:01.490 --> 00:00:04.330 On today's conversation, let's talk about going 00:00:04.330 --> 00:00:06.690 beyond the New Year's resolution. But wait, wait, 00:00:06.809 --> 00:00:09.250 wait, don't tune me out just yet. We're not going 00:00:09.250 --> 00:00:11.630 to talk about setting New Year's resolutions 00:00:11.630 --> 00:00:15.550 and all of those things because that is, we've 00:00:15.550 --> 00:00:17.690 already moved past that. We are going to talk 00:00:17.690 --> 00:00:19.809 about going beyond the New Year's resolutions 00:00:19.809 --> 00:00:23.809 and what that looks like for us in our day -to 00:00:23.809 --> 00:00:36.259 -day life. Okay, welcome back to the Live Out 00:00:36.259 --> 00:00:38.619 Loud podcast. I am your host Kim Kirkfleet and 00:00:38.619 --> 00:00:41.380 I am so glad that you are joining me today for 00:00:41.380 --> 00:00:44.439 our conversation of going beyond New Year's resolutions. 00:00:44.780 --> 00:00:47.140 We are going to have so much fun as we unpack 00:00:47.140 --> 00:00:51.159 this concept that I have been just sitting with 00:00:51.159 --> 00:00:53.659 for quite some time and it's just exciting to 00:00:53.659 --> 00:00:56.219 talk about it with you. This idea actually started 00:00:56.219 --> 00:01:00.549 out with a question that I had. um a few weeks 00:01:00.549 --> 00:01:03.909 back as I was reading the book Rhythms of Renewal 00:01:03.909 --> 00:01:07.269 by Rebecca Lyons. I'm I think I'm pronouncing 00:01:07.269 --> 00:01:10.549 her name correctly but this book is phenomenal 00:01:10.549 --> 00:01:13.890 and I was reading it paired with The Life Giving 00:01:13.890 --> 00:01:17.769 Home Experience by Sally Clarkson um written 00:01:17.769 --> 00:01:20.950 with her son Joel Clarkson as well and Both of 00:01:20.950 --> 00:01:23.969 them have such rich information, beautifully 00:01:23.969 --> 00:01:27.670 written. If you have not read those in any season 00:01:27.670 --> 00:01:30.629 of life, they are great to start a new season. 00:01:31.150 --> 00:01:33.530 And the life giving home experience is actually 00:01:33.530 --> 00:01:36.329 broken up into 12 months. So it can be a little 00:01:36.329 --> 00:01:38.530 bit easier reading if you just want to read one 00:01:38.530 --> 00:01:41.769 chapter once a month. But the rhythms of renewal 00:01:41.769 --> 00:01:45.269 is also very beautiful and very good information 00:01:45.269 --> 00:01:48.689 in there. Very applicable and just little nuggets 00:01:48.689 --> 00:01:50.900 that you can take with you. But anyway, I was 00:01:50.900 --> 00:01:52.939 sitting with these books, reading through them 00:01:52.939 --> 00:01:57.040 and setting my expectations for the for the new 00:01:57.040 --> 00:02:00.439 year, for the coming year. And as I would flip 00:02:00.439 --> 00:02:03.599 pages and read more and more, I could feel my 00:02:03.599 --> 00:02:07.060 guilt just rising because if we're honest with 00:02:07.060 --> 00:02:09.340 ourselves, I think so many times we set goals 00:02:09.340 --> 00:02:11.500 at the beginning of the year, just like the rest 00:02:11.500 --> 00:02:15.659 of the world. And a few weeks in, they collapse 00:02:15.659 --> 00:02:19.009 and we do not meet our expectations. Right. So 00:02:19.009 --> 00:02:21.629 with each paragraph read I felt resistance for 00:02:21.629 --> 00:02:24.990 myself of just just the guilt in my head knowing 00:02:24.990 --> 00:02:28.250 that in just a few short weeks this was not going 00:02:28.250 --> 00:02:32.490 to apply and so I I closed the book and I sat 00:02:32.490 --> 00:02:35.629 in my guilt and I actually Sat with it before 00:02:35.629 --> 00:02:38.729 the Lord, you know He's a good father whenever 00:02:38.729 --> 00:02:42.370 he lets you sit before him in your guilt and 00:02:42.370 --> 00:02:45.069 in your questions and just bring them to him 00:02:45.689 --> 00:02:48.550 and he allows space for that. Isn't that such 00:02:48.550 --> 00:02:51.330 a good father? So I was sitting in the tension 00:02:51.330 --> 00:02:56.030 of wanting to set new, not goals, not resolutions, 00:02:56.030 --> 00:02:58.949 because that's not my favorite thing, but just 00:02:58.949 --> 00:03:01.530 as the book said, right, rhythms, new rhythms, 00:03:01.729 --> 00:03:03.990 and that's what I wanted. But I was caught in 00:03:03.990 --> 00:03:06.750 the tension of setting new rhythms and also knowing 00:03:06.750 --> 00:03:09.409 that perhaps in a few weeks, they were going 00:03:09.409 --> 00:03:13.199 to dissipate. By the way, I should say that at 00:03:13.199 --> 00:03:15.479 the time of reading these books and sitting before 00:03:15.479 --> 00:03:18.919 before the father in this moment I was in a loud 00:03:18.919 --> 00:03:22.199 gym watching my children play basketball and 00:03:22.199 --> 00:03:25.860 It wasn't a quiet morning with a cup of tea next 00:03:25.860 --> 00:03:28.400 to a beautiful window watching the snowfall. 00:03:28.400 --> 00:03:33.740 It was in a crowded noisy basketballs going everywhere 00:03:33.740 --> 00:03:38.060 room where sat before the Lord with my questions 00:03:38.060 --> 00:03:41.780 and he so graciously met me in that moment and 00:03:41.780 --> 00:03:46.659 he actually took me to a verse in Romans 12 Romans 00:03:46.659 --> 00:03:50.120 12 verse 2 do not conform to the patterns of 00:03:50.120 --> 00:03:54.240 this world, but be transformed by the renewal 00:03:54.240 --> 00:03:57.939 of your mind Okay, so I have this gentle reminder 00:03:57.939 --> 00:04:01.340 in this verse, but how does that apply to my 00:04:01.340 --> 00:04:04.780 to my question to? Knowing that in just a few 00:04:04.780 --> 00:04:09.229 weeks I may fail at what I'm trying to set. And 00:04:09.229 --> 00:04:11.530 this is what I want to speak to today, to us 00:04:11.530 --> 00:04:14.830 mamas who are listening, tuning in, who are feeling 00:04:14.830 --> 00:04:18.990 like we have already not met our expectations 00:04:18.990 --> 00:04:22.610 or already fallen short of expectations of others 00:04:22.610 --> 00:04:26.149 this year. And if that's you today, sitting here 00:04:26.149 --> 00:04:29.449 thinking these thoughts, great, wonderful, join 00:04:29.449 --> 00:04:32.540 the club. We are so glad that you are here. And 00:04:32.540 --> 00:04:34.319 if that's not you, if you're on the other side 00:04:34.319 --> 00:04:38.800 and you are crushing your new year, great! Wonderful! 00:04:39.100 --> 00:04:41.620 Join the club! We are so glad that you are here. 00:04:42.160 --> 00:04:44.779 But for every one of us today, I want to put 00:04:44.779 --> 00:04:48.500 out this challenge of going beyond the new year's 00:04:48.500 --> 00:04:51.259 resolutions, of going beyond the things that 00:04:51.259 --> 00:04:54.620 we have set for us in this new season and checking 00:04:54.620 --> 00:04:57.259 off our lists every day and just marking them 00:04:57.259 --> 00:05:00.060 off like, okay, I've done that. But instead, 00:05:00.199 --> 00:05:04.379 looking inward, and taking a moment to see how 00:05:04.379 --> 00:05:08.060 our hearts and minds are being transformed like 00:05:08.060 --> 00:05:11.660 Romans 12 2 says be transformed by the renewal 00:05:11.660 --> 00:05:16.300 of our minds how am i not only achieving my outward 00:05:16.300 --> 00:05:21.540 goals but how am i being transformed daily by 00:05:21.540 --> 00:05:24.879 the father allowing him to speak truth to my 00:05:24.879 --> 00:05:28.319 days allowing him to speak truth to my mind and 00:05:28.319 --> 00:05:32.910 my heart How am I being renewed by the good, 00:05:32.910 --> 00:05:37.230 good Father daily? Because I have a little newsflash. 00:05:37.689 --> 00:05:40.550 Anytime that we are trying to operate in our 00:05:40.550 --> 00:05:43.689 own strength, we will fall flat out on our faces. 00:05:43.829 --> 00:05:47.670 I can attest to that very much. But anytime that 00:05:47.670 --> 00:05:49.810 we are being renewed by the Father and allowing 00:05:49.810 --> 00:05:53.110 him to speak truth into our minds, into our hearts 00:05:53.110 --> 00:05:56.850 and spirits, that, that will carry us further 00:05:56.850 --> 00:06:01.920 than our every one of our human attempts, but 00:06:01.920 --> 00:06:04.660 being renewed is not a once a year thing. It's 00:06:04.660 --> 00:06:08.439 not a once in January and then it'll carry out 00:06:08.439 --> 00:06:12.319 for the rest of the year thing. This is a daily 00:06:12.319 --> 00:06:16.060 thing for us as humans. Because I don't know 00:06:16.060 --> 00:06:19.220 about you, but... I need to be renewed multiple 00:06:19.220 --> 00:06:22.800 times a day by the spirit who speaks truth to 00:06:22.800 --> 00:06:25.980 my life and reminds me of whose I am, who I am, 00:06:26.240 --> 00:06:29.879 what I am, all of those truths, which takes us 00:06:29.879 --> 00:06:33.079 right into applying this concept to our life. 00:06:33.540 --> 00:06:35.779 As I was reading my books, I was making lists 00:06:35.779 --> 00:06:38.959 in my head of the things that would make for 00:06:38.959 --> 00:06:44.680 a great year for a great, um, yes, mom and person 00:06:44.680 --> 00:06:47.319 coming into the new year. and I began breaking 00:06:47.319 --> 00:06:51.339 them down in the question of how will this what 00:06:51.339 --> 00:06:53.439 I'm thinking on and what I want to accomplish 00:06:53.439 --> 00:06:57.879 impact myself and impact my family in regards 00:06:57.879 --> 00:07:00.980 of the kingdom of God. I know it sounds a bit 00:07:00.980 --> 00:07:04.560 different but whenever I take my list and I say 00:07:04.560 --> 00:07:08.329 okay I don't just want it to be about checklists 00:07:08.329 --> 00:07:11.470 and getting things done. I want it to be life 00:07:11.470 --> 00:07:13.970 giving. I want it to breathe the life of God 00:07:13.970 --> 00:07:18.089 into our family, into my life. What will that 00:07:18.089 --> 00:07:20.889 look like? And when you do this, you actually 00:07:20.889 --> 00:07:23.029 start to see the things that you want to do in 00:07:23.029 --> 00:07:25.730 a different light because now it's less about 00:07:25.730 --> 00:07:28.689 what I want to accomplish. And now I'm asking 00:07:28.689 --> 00:07:31.209 God, what do you want me to accomplish? Which 00:07:31.209 --> 00:07:34.050 is where we should start to begin with. But so 00:07:34.050 --> 00:07:37.850 often we don't. many of us set goals to work 00:07:37.850 --> 00:07:41.610 out hard in the new year and starting at the 00:07:41.610 --> 00:07:45.490 end of last year I was getting so many ads on 00:07:45.490 --> 00:07:48.110 my on my Instagram or on the platforms I was 00:07:48.110 --> 00:07:51.850 on showing just mom's workout and this is your 00:07:51.850 --> 00:07:54.149 new workout routine for the new year pushing 00:07:54.149 --> 00:07:57.069 this idea to so many of us because that's where 00:07:57.069 --> 00:08:00.110 we're going to start most likely of course this 00:08:00.110 --> 00:08:03.519 workout is going to be on most of our lists But 00:08:03.519 --> 00:08:06.959 I want to challenge us in thinking about why 00:08:06.959 --> 00:08:08.800 it is we are doing the things we are doing and 00:08:08.800 --> 00:08:10.819 why it is we're writing down the things we are 00:08:10.819 --> 00:08:13.660 writing down. It's one thing to say, I'm going 00:08:13.660 --> 00:08:16.519 to work out because I want a better looking body 00:08:16.519 --> 00:08:20.379 or I want abs or I want more strength. But it's 00:08:20.379 --> 00:08:23.540 another to look at scripture and say, why do 00:08:23.540 --> 00:08:25.959 I want to work out? Which sounds silly, but don't 00:08:25.959 --> 00:08:28.439 write me off yet. So why do I want to work out 00:08:28.439 --> 00:08:31.019 in light of scripture, in light of the word of 00:08:31.019 --> 00:08:33.990 God? First of all, what does God say about my 00:08:33.990 --> 00:08:37.169 body? What does He say that I am? I am the temple 00:08:37.169 --> 00:08:41.610 of God. Okay, so let's start right there. Renewing 00:08:41.610 --> 00:08:43.889 our mind doesn't mean writing off everything 00:08:43.889 --> 00:08:47.330 that we've already put down. Renewing of our 00:08:47.330 --> 00:08:49.929 minds just means lining it up with the Word of 00:08:49.929 --> 00:08:53.009 God. Lining it up with His kingdom, with what 00:08:53.009 --> 00:08:56.129 He says about us. If I wanted to read more books 00:08:56.129 --> 00:08:58.889 this coming year, great! Don't just grab books 00:08:58.889 --> 00:09:00.789 off the shelf to read because you want to meet 00:09:00.789 --> 00:09:03.139 your quota. Think about the books that we are 00:09:03.139 --> 00:09:05.799 reading. Are they good and beautiful? Do they 00:09:05.799 --> 00:09:09.899 speak truth and life? Dear listener, this is 00:09:09.899 --> 00:09:14.279 my challenge to you today. Romans 12 to do not 00:09:14.279 --> 00:09:17.059 conform to the patterns of this world, but be 00:09:17.059 --> 00:09:20.720 transformed by the renewal of your minds every 00:09:20.720 --> 00:09:23.639 day. Sit before God and ask him to transform 00:09:23.639 --> 00:09:28.000 your minds. And when we fail to meet our our 00:09:28.000 --> 00:09:32.320 lists, our resolutions, our goals, That's okay 00:09:32.320 --> 00:09:35.580 because the renewal of our minds, the transforming 00:09:35.580 --> 00:09:38.980 of our minds, is every day. It's not one and 00:09:38.980 --> 00:09:43.460 done. It is every single day. And when that sweet 00:09:43.460 --> 00:09:46.899 process of transformation begins to happen, it 00:09:46.899 --> 00:09:49.820 will bleed over into every area of our life, 00:09:50.059 --> 00:09:53.039 even the goals that we have set, because we will 00:09:53.039 --> 00:09:56.419 begin to see our goals, our lists, in a whole 00:09:56.419 --> 00:09:59.289 new way. we will begin to accomplish certain 00:09:59.289 --> 00:10:02.029 things not because we have to but because we 00:10:02.029 --> 00:10:04.929 want to and honestly some of the things on our 00:10:04.929 --> 00:10:09.309 list may go away and we may take them off or 00:10:09.309 --> 00:10:12.149 replace them with other things. So to wrap our 00:10:12.149 --> 00:10:15.590 time up together all I'm asking is will you join 00:10:15.590 --> 00:10:19.389 me this year in going beyond our new year's resolutions? 00:10:19.950 --> 00:10:23.610 Will you dig deeper with me to find the truth 00:10:23.610 --> 00:10:28.519 behind the why of the things we do. Will you 00:10:28.519 --> 00:10:32.100 join me in transforming our minds together and 00:10:32.100 --> 00:10:35.720 renewing our hearts and souls and minds to align 00:10:35.720 --> 00:10:38.799 with that which the Father has spoken over us? 00:10:39.220 --> 00:10:42.240 I know I will be joining you. And no, I'm not 00:10:42.240 --> 00:10:44.720 going to get it perfect. I am going to fail. 00:10:44.779 --> 00:10:48.460 I know that. But I'm going to try. I'm here for 00:10:48.460 --> 00:10:51.779 it. I'm here for the renewal of my mind, of my 00:10:51.779 --> 00:10:55.600 life. And I am saying yes, I'm all in. Let's 00:10:55.600 --> 00:11:01.500 go. That wraps up our time together today on 00:11:01.500 --> 00:11:04.840 the Live Out Loud podcast, but tune in for our 00:11:04.840 --> 00:11:07.519 next conversations in which I will be talking 00:11:07.519 --> 00:11:11.080 about a practical application of reframing our 00:11:11.080 --> 00:11:14.980 day, which we do as a family and it really does 00:11:14.980 --> 00:11:17.820 work wonders and beautifully whenever put into 00:11:17.820 --> 00:11:20.779 practice. Don't forget to check us out on Instagram 00:11:20.779 --> 00:11:25.639 or on our website at ellieandtheboys .co. That's 00:11:25.639 --> 00:11:29.600 ellieandtheboys .co. where I share motherhood 00:11:29.600 --> 00:11:33.279 moments, daily rhythms, and just intentional 00:11:33.279 --> 00:11:38.299 living as a mom of four very active young children. 00:11:39.200 --> 00:11:41.980 Have a wonderful and blessed day, dear mama. 00:11:42.440 --> 00:11:43.200 Until next time.