1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,760 What's going on listeners? 2 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:05,800 This is Herc, your boy. 3 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:10,720 We are here on our first episode of Come On Man podcast. 4 00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:13,120 We got our special guest, Bruce Bick. 5 00:00:13,120 --> 00:00:14,920 That's how you said it. 6 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:15,920 Bruce Beck. 7 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:16,920 Beck. 8 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:17,920 See, I'm jacking on this. 9 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:19,920 That's what I was trying to get to, information. 10 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:21,920 Yeah, I don't like my last name. 11 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:23,920 I just say Bruce. 12 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:28,880 Okay, so we're just going to say Bruce to save that, save his last name. 13 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:36,040 Yeah, we're just, just, just, podcast is just something for men to have like a little 14 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:38,480 safe space to get stuff off their chest. 15 00:00:38,480 --> 00:00:47,320 You know, we can talk about sports, sports, marriage, daily live things that we deal with 16 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:53,200 as men and just kind of just, just in general, just getting a lot of stuff off our chest 17 00:00:53,200 --> 00:01:00,120 because they wouldn't us men, we don't have a lot of things or a lot of spaces to, to 18 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:04,320 basically get stuff off our chest because if we say something the wrong way, then people 19 00:01:04,320 --> 00:01:09,920 think we've been too soft for two week or they look at us crazy like, oh, you trying 20 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:10,920 to give up or what? 21 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:12,920 Yeah, for sure. 22 00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:14,920 But I don't love it. 23 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:20,760 Yeah, but more likely here is I guess, Bruce, you want to introduce yourself and everything? 24 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:21,760 Yeah. 25 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:22,760 Yeah. 26 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:27,280 Thanks for, you know, having me on as the first guest for this podcast. 27 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:28,780 That's awesome. 28 00:01:28,780 --> 00:01:33,880 And I'm Bruce, I live in Houston for a little over a year. 29 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:36,600 I just moved down from Colorado. 30 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:38,240 I was there for a couple years. 31 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:44,000 I was in the military for a little over seven years. 32 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:50,560 And before that, I was in Miami the whole time, just going to school and working. 33 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:52,920 Before joining. 34 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:58,560 So I mean, that's pretty much like the big core stuff that's happened in my life. 35 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:00,560 Okay, okay. 36 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:05,120 And you used that, you've been in the Air Force and stuff? 37 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:11,080 Yeah, I was in the Air Force for, most of my time was in Montana. 38 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:12,880 I did like six years. 39 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:16,800 And then I went overseas for a year in Turkey. 40 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:17,800 Okay. 41 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:18,800 Yeah. 42 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:22,080 It was awesome, my time there in Turkey. 43 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:23,080 My Turkish brothers there. 44 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:24,080 I miss you guys. 45 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:26,440 Shout out to the Turkish brothers. 46 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:27,440 It was good. 47 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:32,160 Hope you're listening to the podcast. 48 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:34,320 Is that where you met your wife? 49 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:39,440 No, I met her in Miami before I went into the Air Force. 50 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:43,960 It was actually her idea because she wanted to go into the Air Force. 51 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:44,960 Really? 52 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:47,520 But I ended up going into the Air Force. 53 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:54,400 And she's always been a little jealous since I did what she wanted to do. 54 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:57,520 It was like her whole dream that she wanted to go. 55 00:02:57,520 --> 00:02:58,520 Okay. 56 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:02,480 So she jealous because she didn't get a chance to go to the Air Force or what? 57 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:08,600 Yeah, she was going to school for like aeronautical engineering, like stuff to do with planes 58 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:09,600 and stuff. 59 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:13,680 That's how I ended up going to the Air Force. 60 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:16,400 She was happy at least to be part of it. 61 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:19,360 That's a spouse. 62 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,720 And my father, he was also in the Air Force. 63 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:25,560 So that was another factor in me going. 64 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:29,280 So you just kind of following your family's footsteps? 65 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:30,280 Yeah. 66 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:31,280 Okay. 67 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:32,280 Yeah. 68 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:35,200 After school, I didn't really know what I wanted to do. 69 00:03:35,200 --> 00:03:41,240 I went and finished my associates, but I was just working just like a normal job and 70 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:44,720 I didn't have anything to really do with my degree. 71 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:47,720 And then I ended up just looking into it. 72 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:48,720 Okay. 73 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:49,720 Okay. 74 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:54,280 And she chose the path like just being a teacher just for a backup or... 75 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:55,280 Yeah. 76 00:03:55,280 --> 00:04:00,000 Well, she had all kinds of jobs because it's kind of hard for spouses because we're always 77 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:04,960 moving and not knowing the situations of school and stuff. 78 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:10,680 So that's like a huge sacrifice for sure that they have to go through. 79 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:16,560 But hopefully Houston is somewhere we settle for a long time. 80 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:22,440 So we can plant our roots and chicken, it'll be more stable. 81 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:23,440 Yeah, sir. 82 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:24,440 Yeah. 83 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:27,720 So what made you... 84 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:32,200 Houston out of all places, you could have lived anywhere else but Houston, Texas. 85 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:33,200 Yeah. 86 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:34,200 What made you... 87 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:38,480 The biggest factor was finding somewhere warmer for sure. 88 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:40,360 You're not a cop. 89 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:45,240 We were in Montana for six years. 90 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:48,520 So I'm really used to the cold. 91 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:51,760 So Colorado is a little warmer than Montana, so it wasn't that bad. 92 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:56,880 But I still wanted to go somewhere that wasn't snowing like half the year. 93 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:59,800 So I thought you was a snow person, like a cold person. 94 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:01,640 Well, I'm used to the snow. 95 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:03,480 It'll get into the 50s and 60s. 96 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:04,480 Oh, damn. 97 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:08,560 But I'm still wearing flip-flops and shorts. 98 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,080 I see outside people wearing Uggs and stuff. 99 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:12,080 Oh, damn. 100 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:14,680 You the one with the shorts and the white beaters and slides. 101 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:15,680 Yeah, that's all I wear. 102 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:16,680 I ain't cold. 103 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:18,680 That's the Miami outfit. 104 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:23,280 It's like, shorts, socks and the flip-flops. 105 00:05:23,280 --> 00:05:24,280 Yeah, okay. 106 00:05:24,280 --> 00:05:28,280 Yeah, like it's summer pretty much all year round. 107 00:05:28,280 --> 00:05:29,280 Shit, man. 108 00:05:29,280 --> 00:05:30,280 Shit. 109 00:05:30,280 --> 00:05:31,280 Okay, okay. 110 00:05:31,280 --> 00:05:36,560 No, but yeah, we were supposed to do that conversation starter, but we already started 111 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:37,560 the conversation. 112 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:38,560 It's getting pretty good. 113 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:41,760 Yeah, we could just talk about anything, really. 114 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:45,640 Yeah, let's go ahead and hit that question. 115 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:53,120 So what is one thing you would change as a man in our society? 116 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:57,760 And now this is specifically only for men or is it just for society in general? 117 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:03,280 It's just how, the way you mix it up, it can be man, it can be in general, it can just 118 00:06:03,280 --> 00:06:04,280 be anything. 119 00:06:04,280 --> 00:06:09,280 What would you change personally in society just in general? 120 00:06:09,280 --> 00:06:11,480 Just doing like that? 121 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:12,480 If you had the time. 122 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:14,040 I mean, there's so many things. 123 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:15,040 A pick one. 124 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:23,840 I feel like I would say education would probably be one of the main things. 125 00:06:23,840 --> 00:06:29,160 Just being able to have more access for everybody to have education. 126 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:39,280 It's like, I don't really see any cons to people being able to learn just having a smarter 127 00:06:39,280 --> 00:06:42,360 society in general. 128 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:46,400 Instead of people not being able to study what they want to study because of mostly, 129 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:49,160 of course, finances in this country. 130 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:54,800 It's really expensive for going to universities and creating that. 131 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:57,720 People just don't have that, those resources to do that. 132 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:01,720 Yeah, sounds like kind of scoop the mic in a little bit. 133 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:03,480 It kind of faded in and out. 134 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:04,480 It's all good. 135 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:05,480 I'm not bad. 136 00:07:05,480 --> 00:07:06,480 Go ahead. 137 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:07,480 But yeah, I would say. 138 00:07:07,480 --> 00:07:10,640 Yeah, that would probably be one of the big things. 139 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:17,520 I'm not even just saying free education, but just something that's reasonably available 140 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:18,520 for people to go. 141 00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:25,160 You know, everybody can't go to the obviously most prestigious universities for free. 142 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:28,440 Of course, but just having. 143 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:31,600 I think that would be good for overall society. 144 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:40,320 OK, so education is more like a more for it type of thing for you. 145 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:43,160 This is basically your main priority is education. 146 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:44,160 Yeah. 147 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:49,840 And that's just just in general from like from young kids all the way to like adults. 148 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:51,840 Oh, yeah, for sure. 149 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:52,840 OK. 150 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:59,960 So I would say because one of the main factors for me joining the military was to get free 151 00:07:59,960 --> 00:08:00,960 education. 152 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:01,960 Hmm. 153 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:06,640 So I was able to get school while I was in. 154 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:12,560 But obviously, you know, that takes years of a commitment just to be able to go to school. 155 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:13,560 Right. 156 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:15,840 And, you know, everybody can't join the military. 157 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:21,320 It feels like you have to make such a big commitment, you know, moving around with your 158 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:24,760 family stuff just to be able to have free education. 159 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:25,760 Yeah. 160 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:26,760 Yeah. 161 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:30,960 You know, just being available for everybody to have access to it. 162 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:31,960 Yeah. 163 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:35,080 And I kind of agree with you on that. 164 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:41,040 It's just kind of it's kind of harder for people to what is limited for people like 165 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:43,600 who have like harsh backgrounds and stuff. 166 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:44,600 Oh, yeah. 167 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:49,640 Criminal criminal criminal criminal criminal criminal criminal backgrounds and stuff. 168 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:56,080 I just done something later years and it kind of hurts them now as an adult or whatever. 169 00:08:56,080 --> 00:09:01,520 And, you know, whatever they try to do, like go to the military or have like a big hobby 170 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:02,520 or career. 171 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:04,680 And you know how the industry is. 172 00:09:04,680 --> 00:09:08,080 They look at your resume and look if you got a degree. 173 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,200 If you have some type of knowledge or whatever. 174 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:14,440 And they just like now you're not qualified because you don't have these credentials we're 175 00:09:14,440 --> 00:09:20,600 looking for because you you stole when you was like 10 or whatever. 176 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:21,600 Or you did this. 177 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:26,000 If you was hanging out with the wrong crowd or your name is different, like the quiche 178 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:27,000 or something like that. 179 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:28,000 Yeah. 180 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:29,000 Or still typing. 181 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:31,000 Or, you know, stereotyping. 182 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:37,440 So it's kind of hard, not just not not just for a particular particular race. 183 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:39,640 It just for people in general. 184 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:44,120 It's hard because I know everybody, you know, have the opportunity to do better. 185 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:49,440 But it just in a circumstances, you know, is really, really difficult for them to do 186 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:50,440 that. 187 00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:51,440 Yeah. 188 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:52,440 Yeah. 189 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:53,440 It's interesting. 190 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:55,360 You mentioned the, you know, the prison aspect. 191 00:09:55,360 --> 00:10:01,400 That's another huge, you know, thing I see in this country that's vastly different than 192 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:09,160 you know, some of the other European countries in terms of getting people back into society. 193 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:17,680 I feel like while people are in prison in other, I'll just say like Sweden, Switzerland, they 194 00:10:17,680 --> 00:10:23,560 have like TVs and books and they, you know, they encourage people to learn. 195 00:10:23,560 --> 00:10:24,800 Okay. 196 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:28,240 And I think when they get out, it's not, you know, as harsh as not being able to find a 197 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:34,760 job compared to being here where it just seems like it's a jungle in prison here. 198 00:10:34,760 --> 00:10:38,440 And then when you get out, people, you know, still judge you don't want to hire you because 199 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:42,520 of, you know, whatever you're supposed to do, even though it's supposed to be like, 200 00:10:42,520 --> 00:10:45,240 oh, you've done your time. 201 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:47,880 So it should be cleared, but that's not really how it is. 202 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:48,880 No. 203 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:49,880 I'll say get out. 204 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:54,360 So yeah, I think that's another big thing I would change. 205 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:59,160 Um, yeah, this country specifically, but I got you. 206 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:00,160 Yeah. 207 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:01,160 Yeah. 208 00:11:01,160 --> 00:11:04,640 This country is pretty, pretty different because like you said, you know, bouncing off 209 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:10,480 what you said is, yeah, it's kind of hard for anybody who gets out and gets out of the 210 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:15,960 jail system and comes out and back into society and trying to basically, they basically started 211 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:20,840 over and, you know, they think they can go get any type of job, but now they got that 212 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:21,840 background. 213 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:24,880 And then it's like, oh, you can't work here because you got this. 214 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:26,640 It was like, oh, I'm trying to change. 215 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:30,920 If you give me an opportunity to change, yeah, or give me that second chance, I could show 216 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:36,560 you like, Hey, I'm that I'm, I'm changed and I can do whatever I can start and, you know, 217 00:11:36,560 --> 00:11:40,800 start at the bottom and work, start, start at the bottom and work my way up. 218 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:45,160 But a lot of people are picky because they have that sense of power like, oh, you know, 219 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:50,680 we don't want you, we don't want you to, you know, we don't want your type of people, you 220 00:11:50,680 --> 00:11:57,120 know, your type to work in our company because what happened, you know, in the past or whatever. 221 00:11:57,120 --> 00:12:03,440 You know, it is pretty difficult to see how things are just, I mean, it all circles back 222 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:10,640 to, I guess, just like that financial greed really, like everything, I feel like everything 223 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:17,480 that has some kind of problems, you can always circle it back to just finances or people 224 00:12:17,480 --> 00:12:21,440 needing to milk it out of college. 225 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:23,440 It's so expensive. 226 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:30,200 You know, they have a certain amount of sales they need to fill up. 227 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:33,360 So I feel like I really agree. 228 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:38,600 I think you could just seize the core of everything that can be fixed. 229 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:39,600 Yeah. 230 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:40,600 Yeah. 231 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:45,280 What's interesting, what things are we changing in society? 232 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:56,640 I think one thing got to change in society would be one thing. 233 00:12:56,640 --> 00:13:05,200 If I was to change something in society, I just think the, not their environment, but 234 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:12,240 the people culture, you know, the culture of the people, how we treat each other. 235 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:17,960 Because you know how it is today with the social media and stuff. 236 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:22,440 It's kind of hard to have like an interaction, like how we are having like person to person. 237 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:24,400 Because you know how that was back in today. 238 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:27,040 You have to go to the girl, talk to her. 239 00:13:27,040 --> 00:13:28,040 She had to see you. 240 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:32,360 You have to put your one liner in there, but make sure it's good. 241 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:33,360 Yeah. 242 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:34,360 And everything. 243 00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:37,880 Or the same thing with the God friends, you know, you got to look at each other from a 244 00:13:37,880 --> 00:13:38,880 distance. 245 00:13:38,880 --> 00:13:43,600 You got to put your head, go to class and then, you know, slowly y'all get closer and 246 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:47,360 then somehow, someway y'all communicate and become friends. 247 00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:49,360 But we don't have that. 248 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:50,360 Yeah, we don't have that anymore. 249 00:13:50,360 --> 00:13:52,200 Yeah, we don't have that anymore. 250 00:13:52,200 --> 00:13:55,360 It's just kind of like a social media base. 251 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:57,400 It's like, oh, what's up, Bruce? 252 00:13:57,400 --> 00:13:59,320 Hey, can I, let's go hang out. 253 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:00,920 Nah, man, hit me on my Facebook. 254 00:14:00,920 --> 00:14:01,920 Yeah. 255 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:02,920 We talk from there. 256 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:06,080 You got to get to know my online persona first. 257 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:07,080 Yeah. 258 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:08,080 Hit my IG. 259 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:10,880 Yeah, hit my IG before I talk to you in person. 260 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:12,800 Yeah, people, they don't give their numbers out. 261 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:16,320 They give their, well, their Snapchat and Instagrams out. 262 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:17,320 Yeah. 263 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:19,080 And they tenders and tenders and all that. 264 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:21,080 Yeah, I'm too old for all that. 265 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:22,080 Yeah, man. 266 00:14:22,080 --> 00:14:24,080 I don't even have a Snapchat and Instagram. 267 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:28,640 I think it was complete automatically for me because I had a Facebook. 268 00:14:28,640 --> 00:14:29,640 Yeah. 269 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:30,640 I just give you one. 270 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:31,640 No, yeah, man. 271 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:36,600 So it just that, I think that would be one thing out of a chain to society is just the 272 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:40,520 people, the culture of the people, man, because I think we need that back. 273 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:41,520 Yeah. 274 00:14:41,520 --> 00:14:49,200 Just in general, just to have that human interaction because it's kind of hard to do that because 275 00:14:49,200 --> 00:14:54,480 you can't put two people who's really hardcore in the social media aspect and then take their 276 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:58,920 phones away and put them in two chairs facing each other and like, all right, all y'all 277 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:00,480 got to do is have a conversation. 278 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:01,480 Yeah. 279 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:06,280 And then the closest thing to that in the future, it'll be like virtual. 280 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:11,320 Well, you can have like virtually your face, you know, make it seem like you're in the 281 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:13,240 same room, but you're still actually virtual. 282 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:15,440 Oh, you're not in the actual same room. 283 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:17,080 Yeah, I saw it was. 284 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:19,480 I don't think it was Microsoft. 285 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:21,000 It came out with some technology. 286 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:22,000 Okay. 287 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:25,360 It's supposed to be for to be used for like work. 288 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:30,800 So you put everybody's face or body in like a conference room. 289 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:33,480 It'll look like everybody's there, but everybody's still home. 290 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:34,480 Right. 291 00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:40,200 And that'll be like the closest thing to interaction in the future, I think, or a constant interaction. 292 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:41,200 Gotcha. 293 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:42,200 Okay. 294 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:43,200 Yeah. 295 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:44,200 Yeah. 296 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:47,480 It just, yeah, that'll just be something that that'll be like a really big change. 297 00:15:47,480 --> 00:15:49,160 And we still have it. 298 00:15:49,160 --> 00:15:50,160 You rarely see it. 299 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:55,280 And when you go out in public or whatever, you rarely see having that interaction people. 300 00:15:55,280 --> 00:16:02,520 But it'd be mostly like the older, the older generation that like kind of like our generation, 301 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:04,640 because they still have like a decent conversation. 302 00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:05,640 Yeah. 303 00:16:05,640 --> 00:16:07,640 Before you get the boomers. 304 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:08,640 Yeah. 305 00:16:08,640 --> 00:16:13,120 Before you get to the gen X and Z, Y and all that other crap. 306 00:16:13,120 --> 00:16:14,120 Yeah. 307 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:17,360 My mom, my mom doesn't use the internet at all. 308 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:20,280 Like she works on a computer all day. 309 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:23,280 But when she gets home, she out like, she don't know how to use the internet. 310 00:16:23,280 --> 00:16:26,280 She don't know how to, she don't have an email, nothing. 311 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:27,280 Oh, damn. 312 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:31,000 You're like a CIA agent or something. 313 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:32,000 That's what's up. 314 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:34,040 My mom, she, she, she does with it. 315 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:39,880 She, she does with the social media, but she's going straight to YouTube to watch like videos. 316 00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:43,200 Yeah, that's pretty much. 317 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:44,600 That's what she uses YouTube. 318 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:45,600 She'll work. 319 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:46,920 She'll watch like a workout video. 320 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:47,920 Yeah. 321 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:48,920 From the nineties. 322 00:16:48,920 --> 00:16:49,920 Yeah. 323 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:50,920 Yeah. 324 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:51,920 Mine. 325 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:54,800 She, she watching like news, news article videos from Honduras. 326 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:58,000 Because she, she, that's where that's where my family is from. 327 00:16:58,000 --> 00:16:59,000 Oh, okay. 328 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:00,000 From Honduras. 329 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:01,960 And she watches like all the news was going on out there. 330 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:02,960 Yeah. 331 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:03,960 Yeah. 332 00:17:03,960 --> 00:17:06,920 And she, she tells me and she was like, Oh, the Honduras got a lot of corruption. 333 00:17:06,920 --> 00:17:10,040 You watch out before you go out there. 334 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:12,920 But that's, you know, just kind of her thing and stuff. 335 00:17:12,920 --> 00:17:14,920 So she, she's like in the know. 336 00:17:14,920 --> 00:17:15,920 Yeah. 337 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:18,920 Before she heads out there and to check on her, on our people and stuff. 338 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:23,840 So yeah, my mom, she's not going to learn anything unless somebody tells her like my 339 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:28,760 little brothers, they'll clue her in on current stuff that's going on. 340 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:32,640 Because besides that, she, everything is word of mouth for her. 341 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:34,120 It's word of mouth. 342 00:17:34,120 --> 00:17:35,120 Yeah. 343 00:17:35,120 --> 00:17:37,280 She don't research nothing, look up nothing. 344 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:38,280 Oh, wow. 345 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:39,280 Yeah. 346 00:17:39,280 --> 00:17:40,280 She's super old school. 347 00:17:40,280 --> 00:17:41,280 Yeah. 348 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:42,280 No, no, no. 349 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:43,280 What's called it? 350 00:17:43,280 --> 00:17:50,280 So man, like, like what's what was, so what about the, what about the marriage life? 351 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:51,280 How's marriage? 352 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:52,280 How's the marriage life? 353 00:17:52,280 --> 00:17:53,280 It's going good. 354 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:54,280 Okay. 355 00:17:54,280 --> 00:18:02,840 So we have the typical issues, indication and anger and you know, just normal life. 356 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:04,840 I guess that's normal marriage. 357 00:18:04,840 --> 00:18:07,440 No, it is normal marriage, man. 358 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:10,840 I feel like everybody goes to the same things. 359 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:12,800 It's just people handle stuff differently. 360 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:13,800 Yeah. 361 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:14,800 Yeah. 362 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:15,800 Yeah. 363 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:19,840 That's, I think that's the general thing is marriage is just a typical, just a, you 364 00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:25,840 basically boyfriend and girlfriend just you just got the platinum version of it. 365 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:27,840 You know, you upgraded the subscription. 366 00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:28,840 Yeah. 367 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:31,840 So you could definitely tell the difference. 368 00:18:31,840 --> 00:18:32,840 Yeah. 369 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:36,320 For, for and after girlfriend and marriage. 370 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:37,320 Yeah. 371 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:38,320 Yeah. 372 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:44,520 Well, you do a fiance and, and, well, at the middle stage and then you get to marriage. 373 00:18:44,520 --> 00:18:45,520 Yeah. 374 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:46,520 Yeah. 375 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:49,800 I was, I was kind of, yeah, the same thing here is the same typical. 376 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:55,960 So, you know, little arguments here or she gets on the nerves or I get on her nerves 377 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:57,440 or I just don't say nothing. 378 00:18:57,440 --> 00:18:59,880 Like something, something a little stupid or whatever. 379 00:18:59,880 --> 00:19:01,800 I leave this toilet seat up or whatever. 380 00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:02,800 Yeah. 381 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:05,240 Just a little general things, but yeah. 382 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:06,240 House full of women. 383 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:08,880 So I understand that sentiment. 384 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:09,880 So yeah. 385 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:15,760 So you just kind of learn how to, you know, kind of you had to find different ways how 386 00:19:15,760 --> 00:19:22,440 to handle, handle the handle the our spouses in a different way. 387 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:29,720 Instead of just going off and, you know, I'm like, you know, sideways and 21 Savage on 388 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:30,720 there. 389 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:31,720 Yeah. 390 00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:32,720 But you don't want to do that. 391 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:36,520 So you have to find a way to like, okay, she tripping. 392 00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:38,720 She tripping about something. 393 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:42,000 I'm going to go over here and you like, Hey, I'm going to give me a few minutes. 394 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:45,160 Let me go walk off and play the game or do something. 395 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:46,160 Yeah. 396 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:52,520 But they take that the wrong way because I don't know how, how women perceive things. 397 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:56,000 When we say things to them, they take it as disrespect. 398 00:19:56,000 --> 00:20:00,680 Like we just go to your room and you know, stay to yourself. 399 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:01,680 Yeah. 400 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:03,680 They take that as, you know, the end of the world. 401 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:04,680 No. 402 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:07,520 And then the crazy thing is like we explained that to them. 403 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:12,640 You're like, Hey, I'm just going to go take a walk real quick because I'm kind of hot 404 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:15,360 right now and I don't want to go off on you. 405 00:20:15,360 --> 00:20:16,360 Let me go do. 406 00:20:16,360 --> 00:20:18,040 Oh no, no, we're going to talk about it right now. 407 00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:21,080 And then we're like, No, we can't talk about it right now. 408 00:20:21,080 --> 00:20:22,320 No, I'm ready for it right now. 409 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:24,400 And then like, All right, I'm gone. 410 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:25,400 They're timing. 411 00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:26,400 Yeah. 412 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:29,680 But yeah, bad timing and they still try to push you, you know, your buttons and stuff 413 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:34,120 and then you go up to your room or you go, you go do something different. 414 00:20:34,120 --> 00:20:40,520 So just to, just to calm yourself down before you have this serious conversation with her. 415 00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:41,520 Yeah. 416 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:44,240 And then kind of go to your office and clear my mind. 417 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:45,240 Okay, what happened today? 418 00:20:45,240 --> 00:20:49,600 Oh, I left the toilet seat up or I didn't wash no dishes. 419 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:50,600 I did something stupid. 420 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:52,920 I want to say something crazy. 421 00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:56,840 And then you kind of play it back and you're like, Okay, I can say, Okay, I'm cool or calm 422 00:20:56,840 --> 00:20:57,840 and collective. 423 00:20:57,840 --> 00:20:59,240 I can say this to her. 424 00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:00,240 Okay. 425 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:03,560 Hey, babe, we're going to talk at this time downstairs in the living room. 426 00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:06,440 Just me and you before we put the kids up or whatever. 427 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:07,440 Yeah. 428 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:09,760 Or put the dogs off if you're an animal lover. 429 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:10,760 Yeah. 430 00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:14,560 And my issue is I'm sarcastic and petty. 431 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:16,560 So you're petty. 432 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:17,560 Yeah. 433 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:19,560 With her for sure. 434 00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:26,000 Like, I know I can simply, you know, just apologize, but sometimes in the moment, I just feel 435 00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:28,000 like I have to make a point. 436 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:31,600 You be like, go, go do something. 437 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:34,120 I'll be okay. 438 00:21:34,120 --> 00:21:40,600 I'm just gonna or yesterday I could say she was asking me to go get. 439 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:43,240 A towel or something. 440 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:44,240 Yeah. 441 00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:47,280 And there some kind of argument. 442 00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:48,280 And I was walking away. 443 00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:49,280 She's like, we're in the middle of an argument. 444 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:54,600 I'm just simply going to go get a towel that you asked me to do five minutes ago. 445 00:21:54,600 --> 00:22:00,400 Knowing that, you know, you shouldn't walk away in the middle of argument or discussion. 446 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:03,000 I should say it wasn't too much of an argument. 447 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:04,000 Right. 448 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:08,160 But you know, little things like that can explode until a moment just from being petty 449 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:09,560 and sarcastic and stuff like that. 450 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:11,880 You don't look like the petty. 451 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:13,520 You don't look like the petty type. 452 00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:14,920 I can see you sarcastic. 453 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:17,640 I don't I've never seen you as the petty. 454 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:20,280 No, I can agree, man. 455 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:22,560 You know, she probably tell me do stuff. 456 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:25,920 And, you know, she probably tell me like the example. 457 00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:26,920 She probably tell me her day. 458 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:31,240 We're like, Hey, babe, I did this and everything happened. 459 00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:35,320 And man, I'm doing a lot and I need this and need that. 460 00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:37,000 I need all this type of help. 461 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:41,800 And I think she's trying to ask me for help, but she's not like telling me like, Hey, I 462 00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:42,800 need your help. 463 00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:43,800 Yeah. 464 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:47,000 But she just like tell me a whole spill was going on in her day. 465 00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:50,000 And then I'll be like, Oh, OK, that's a soap. 466 00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:51,000 Yeah, that's a soap. 467 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,000 Well, I hope you get through it. 468 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,000 You know, I'm here to support you. 469 00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:56,000 And that's crazy. 470 00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:57,000 Yeah. 471 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,000 And she looks at me crazy. 472 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:00,000 Like, what the fuck? 473 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:01,960 I told you I need your help. 474 00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:04,800 You didn't say you got to for me for her. 475 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:08,240 I let her know like, Hey, you got to specify whatever you need. 476 00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:14,200 You know, if you need help to say, Hey, Bruce or Hey, Alan, I need I need help. 477 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:15,200 I need help with this. 478 00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:18,000 I need help with the kids or I need help with the dishes. 479 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:21,800 I need help with you putting the seat down in the toilet or whatever. 480 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:23,800 I call that the mind reader syndrome. 481 00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,800 Yeah, they think they're mine. 482 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:32,600 It's just I think we're like, I think we're like, not just our wives, but they are like 483 00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:33,600 women in general. 484 00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:35,200 And then we got these movie scripts. 485 00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:36,200 Yeah. 486 00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:39,400 And we got to read off these scripts still and so make it sound good. 487 00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:42,000 Like, oh, this is what I want to hear in my mind. 488 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:46,000 But he's not telling me that he's just telling me whatever that's good. 489 00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:47,000 That's it. 490 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:49,400 And it was like, yeah, that's that's how we are. 491 00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:55,040 We ain't got no I tell us I'm not in no damn movie or I'm not in no script that you that 492 00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:58,800 you have in your mind that I got to say these perfect things to make it sound good. 493 00:23:58,800 --> 00:23:59,800 Like, oh, yeah, babe. 494 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:05,100 I'm gonna glide from the stairs and wash these dishes and take care of these kids and change 495 00:24:05,100 --> 00:24:09,400 their diapers and clean the dogs butt and then vacuum at the same time. 496 00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:11,800 And then jig for you in the middle of the living room. 497 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:14,600 No, I'm not doing all that. 498 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,900 I just I just came for work. 499 00:24:16,900 --> 00:24:17,900 Whatever you need me to do. 500 00:24:17,900 --> 00:24:18,900 I got it. 501 00:24:18,900 --> 00:24:22,200 I take out the chance to get the kids and I just want to kick it. 502 00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:23,200 I just want to chill. 503 00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:24,200 Yeah, that's it. 504 00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:25,200 Yeah. 505 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:26,960 My wife, she likes to. 506 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:31,560 She likes to make her presence known when she's doing stuff around the house. 507 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:32,560 Really? 508 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:35,160 Yeah, she'll she'll like banging the kitchen. 509 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,960 She'll like backing right near my door. 510 00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:43,560 She'll she'll sigh very loud. 511 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:44,560 Yeah. 512 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:45,560 I'm hungry. 513 00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:47,560 I don't know what to eat. 514 00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:52,920 It's like, you know, you could just tell me you're hungry. 515 00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:53,920 You want me to go get you something? 516 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:54,920 Right? 517 00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:59,860 I guess if you want me to like warm you something up in the fridge or go something, just tell 518 00:24:59,860 --> 00:25:00,860 me. 519 00:25:00,860 --> 00:25:01,860 Yeah, you don't have to. 520 00:25:01,860 --> 00:25:02,860 That's it. 521 00:25:02,860 --> 00:25:03,860 Because I have to be like a whole journey. 522 00:25:03,860 --> 00:25:06,560 No, I think as men, we're really simple. 523 00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:07,560 We're really simple creatures. 524 00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:14,440 So like we just want to go to work, provide, sleep, play our games and, you know, have sex 525 00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:15,440 or whatever. 526 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:18,560 If that's your if that's your intentions. 527 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:20,800 But I think our list is really simple. 528 00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:25,840 You look at their list is like a laundry list of things that have to do before they die. 529 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:29,560 It's like, no, like I'm not. 530 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:30,560 I'm not. 531 00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:36,680 I don't think we're going to make this list before we, you know, and just like, no, man, 532 00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:38,680 we're very simple creatures. 533 00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:42,720 And I think us in general, we just make everything super difficult. 534 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:43,720 Yeah. 535 00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:44,720 As human beings. 536 00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,120 Yeah, they do do a lot. 537 00:25:47,120 --> 00:25:53,440 I know I definitely can help out with the war on the house, you know, doing things daily, 538 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,120 like laundry and stuff like that. 539 00:25:55,120 --> 00:25:56,120 Yeah. 540 00:25:56,120 --> 00:25:59,520 But it's more in just just, you know, just tell me you need help. 541 00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:00,520 Yeah. 542 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,040 Because when she does tell me, I feel like I'll just do it right away. 543 00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:04,040 We'll do it together. 544 00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:05,040 Okay. 545 00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:09,480 Instead of just taking more, you know, you take trying to just give me hints. 546 00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:10,480 Yeah. 547 00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:11,480 I need to do it pretty much. 548 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:12,480 Just tell me I need to do it. 549 00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:13,480 Yeah. 550 00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:14,480 That's it. 551 00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:15,480 Yeah. 552 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:19,720 I'm not a non-mind reader or, you know, I'm bad at hints too. 553 00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:23,080 You know, my wife tell me to do something in a hint formation. 554 00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:25,160 And I'm like, I don't know what you're doing. 555 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:31,400 She over there doing something where her hands doing the fucking Omaha, Omaha formation call. 556 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:32,400 I'm like, what are you doing? 557 00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:35,000 And she's like, oh, I need help with this. 558 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:37,160 And I'm like, why you just didn't say that? 559 00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:41,640 It's just, it's like, you out here screaming Omaha, like you paint man in the sun. 560 00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:43,360 She's like, dude, come on. 561 00:26:43,360 --> 00:26:44,360 Yeah. 562 00:26:44,360 --> 00:26:46,080 Very simple man. 563 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:47,080 Yeah. 564 00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:48,080 Need simple instruction. 565 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:49,080 Yeah, that's it. 566 00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:50,080 That's it. 567 00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:55,600 And I think, I think we try to specify that or to our, to our wives and stuff or just 568 00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:57,240 the women in general. 569 00:26:57,240 --> 00:27:02,040 And so I think for women, they just need to have a little bit more understanding and 570 00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:08,600 more, more, you know, not leeway, but more, I don't know what's that word. 571 00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:14,520 I think, I think it's more understanding in that general aspect is just kind of whatever 572 00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:19,680 we got going on in our situation that we just need them to understand like, hey, I'm having 573 00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:22,200 a bad day today, but I'm figuring it out. 574 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:27,200 Just give me some time and then once I'm ready to talk to you about it, I'll talk to you 575 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:28,640 or whatever. 576 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:34,120 But at most times it's hard, it's hard to sending to them because when you say something like, 577 00:27:34,120 --> 00:27:35,440 hey, I'm having a bad day. 578 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:41,280 They want to jump on the jump and be Mr. Super Detective mode and like, oh, what I need to 579 00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:42,280 do, what happened? 580 00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:46,040 What time of day will you use that when you start feeling sad and all that other crap? 581 00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:47,720 I'm like, I don't need you to do that. 582 00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:50,920 I just need you to just let me give me some time. 583 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:57,360 Let me go upstairs, play some FIFA on the play PS4, PS5, play some Call of Duty real 584 00:27:57,360 --> 00:28:00,560 quick, refresh my mind or let me go to the gym. 585 00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:04,520 And then I've once I cool off and figure out what I got to do. 586 00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:08,080 And if I'm ready to talk to you, then I'll let you know and I'll talk to you. 587 00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:09,080 Yeah. 588 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:15,560 Yeah, I would say, you know, they're very nurturing and I feel like they want to solve 589 00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:22,560 things right away through, it could be through communication and talking. 590 00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:28,600 But you know, sometimes as man, we're not built like that to where we want to, you know, 591 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:31,960 discuss everything and talk about our emotions and feelings. 592 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:34,120 Sometimes we just need some time to ourselves. 593 00:28:34,120 --> 00:28:35,120 Yeah. 594 00:28:35,120 --> 00:28:36,120 Yeah. 595 00:28:36,120 --> 00:28:39,720 So I think sometimes we don't maybe even want to talk about it. 596 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:43,160 Maybe we just want to mention it and bring it up. 597 00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:47,640 But maybe there's just there's not an actual problem that, you know, you need to solve 598 00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:48,640 or anything. 599 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:49,640 Right. 600 00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:51,920 Something, you know, that'll blow over everything. 601 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:57,880 I feel like doesn't have a huge discussion about in our lives, you know, right? 602 00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:07,880 But if we do, you know, want to eventually talk about it, then I think it's a good outlet 603 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:08,880 for them. 604 00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,880 So we got you. 605 00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:13,880 Yeah, man. 606 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:18,880 So it'll look like in close to time or would not. 607 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:19,880 We don't know. 608 00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:21,880 But overall, this is a good conversation. 609 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:22,880 Oh, yeah. 610 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:23,880 I'm glad you opened up. 611 00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:28,880 You know, this I'm surprised, you know, opened up fully to me and you know, hey, man, this 612 00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:29,880 is what I'm going through. 613 00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:31,880 I was like, oh, shit. 614 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,880 Yeah, I mean, that's no, but this is people. 615 00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:35,880 That's all they need. 616 00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,880 You know, it's another guy just to talk about stuff. 617 00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:39,880 Oh, yeah. 618 00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:40,880 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 619 00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:44,880 That's that's that's that's I think, you know, hopefully this podcast gets bigger. 620 00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:49,880 And we're going to share it to other other guys who need to talk and get shit off their 621 00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:50,880 chest. 622 00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:54,880 That's all we need to do is us men is just get a lot of shit off our chest. 623 00:29:54,880 --> 00:30:00,880 Yeah, but we don't have we don't have a how she how she said a safe haven or a safe place. 624 00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:01,880 Yeah, same place. 625 00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:06,880 The same place to release all that because we would say it to the wrong person and they 626 00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:11,880 over there talking about this and that. 627 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:14,880 He talked about he trying to give up as a man. 628 00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:19,880 Oh, he he filled the shit and then they just go a whole and then now they got this conspiracy 629 00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:21,880 theory about you. 630 00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:26,880 You're like, oh, you you tired and you don't want to work no more and blah, blah, blah. 631 00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:27,880 You didn't even say all that. 632 00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:30,880 You just say, hey, man, I just need to take a little break. 633 00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:35,880 Yeah, so. 634 00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:41,880 But um, to call it, we have a little time. 635 00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:48,880 Um, like, if you have any, if you if you had any advice for like other man who's looking 636 00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:53,880 to the podcast, like to help him out, like what were they going through and it can be 637 00:30:53,880 --> 00:31:00,880 just anything like just anything in general, like just daily lives as men, like what we 638 00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,880 go through, like what you're struggling with today. 639 00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:10,880 Like, um, like, what would you know if I'm the best example for giving out advice because 640 00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:16,880 I've only been, you know, with my wife and so I don't have, you know, too many different 641 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:25,880 experiences to go off of, but I would say, um, communication, try not to shut off too 642 00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:26,880 much. 643 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:32,880 I know we need our time, you know, but, um, it can't be, you know, every day where you 644 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:39,880 shut off because it is a marriage is you and your other person. 645 00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:45,880 So if they want to help out, you know, just try to give them that leeway. 646 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:49,880 If they want to help out because at the end of the day, I don't think they're trying to 647 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,880 do anything, you know, maliciously or trying to hurt you. 648 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:57,880 So, um, for sure, communication, I would say it's the biggest thing. 649 00:31:57,880 --> 00:31:58,880 Okay. 650 00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,880 And not, not try to be sarcastic and petty like I do. 651 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:02,880 Well, you do communicate. 652 00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:05,880 You know, try to be mature about it. 653 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:06,880 Okay. 654 00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:09,880 You know, what about the in the men aspect of it? 655 00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:14,880 Like, what do you, what if he, you was like giving advice to another man? 656 00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:20,520 Not, not, not, not, not, not just like, just an in general life as a living, living a life 657 00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:23,880 as a man, like, what would you give another man? 658 00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:29,480 Um, I would say that you learned off your course of your past journeys and stuff. 659 00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:34,880 I would say your mental health is a, it's a big thing. 660 00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,880 Don't try to take on too much. 661 00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:43,880 Don't try to take on too much that you feel, you know, it's overwhelming. 662 00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:47,880 I know, you know, since getting out in the military, I've had a lot less stress because 663 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:51,880 I've always had, you know, expectations while you're in. 664 00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:55,880 And that's why one of the main reasons I wanted to get out. 665 00:32:55,880 --> 00:33:01,880 Um, and ever since then, I'm glad I made that choice of getting out because of the mental 666 00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:02,880 health aspect. 667 00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:11,880 And I feel like, um, it's, it's, it's okay to take breaks and feel weak, like you say, 668 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:16,880 if you're feeling down, just to take that time for yourself, don't let anybody feel 669 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:19,880 that you need to just man up and keep pushing through. 670 00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:20,880 Yeah. 671 00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:23,880 You know, if you're, uh, if you're mine, it's not right. 672 00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:24,880 Right. 673 00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:28,880 You always need to get your mind right to be able to, uh, you know, succeed and, you 674 00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:29,880 know, get through life early. 675 00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:32,880 Oh, I'll say take care of your mental health first. 676 00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:33,880 Yeah. 677 00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:35,880 Everything else will fall into place. 678 00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:36,880 Okay. 679 00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:37,880 That's what's up. 680 00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:38,880 That's some deep stuff. 681 00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:39,880 Appreciate that, Bruce. 682 00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:49,280 Um, yeah, I, uh, yeah, um, as the, as the, you know, we had a good, good conversation 683 00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:53,880 here with Bruce, our special guest on the first episode of the come on man podcast. 684 00:33:53,880 --> 00:34:01,880 Um, and we just, you know, give him, you know, like I said before at the beginning, uh, we're 685 00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:08,880 just here just to give, just give men, men safe space to beat themselves, get stuff off 686 00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:11,880 their chest or whatever they go through in their daily lives. 687 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:14,880 And this is, this is what the podcast is for. 688 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:20,580 So if you have, you know, if any men listening and they want to join the podcast and get 689 00:34:20,580 --> 00:34:27,880 some stuff off their chest, just hit me up on my Instagram or my, um, I don't think that's 690 00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:31,380 the only thing I got is my Instagram or I'll give you my email address and we can like 691 00:34:31,380 --> 00:34:38,380 set us up a schedule and we can just set that up and you can come on the podcast and speak 692 00:34:38,380 --> 00:34:40,880 your mind and share your stories and stuff too. 693 00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:45,080 So, um, other than that, man, I appreciate that Bruce man. 694 00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:51,280 Appreciate for taking the time and sharing your stories and sharing your experiences 695 00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:52,280 and stuff. 696 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:57,280 Um, I know this is, we're just kind of winging it right now trying to set up this whole podcast 697 00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:01,600 thing, but I feel like it's going to be something big, you know, I feel like it was a good first 698 00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:02,600 episode. 699 00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:03,600 Yeah, it was a good first episode. 700 00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:08,480 I feel good, this is kind of like a bit like a vint session for men. 701 00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:10,480 Vint in a lot of stuff. 702 00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:14,440 Um, but other than that, yeah, it didn't even take that long. 703 00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:15,440 I was fine. 704 00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:22,600 Yeah, we're just talking, but, um, other than that, yeah, so, yeah, if y'all just want to, 705 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:28,080 you know, all men, shout out to all men and shout out to all the people who's listening. 706 00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:33,160 Um, where we're, you know, this is, yeah, this is just a big, you know, this is just 707 00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:39,760 a, this is just the beginning of something great and where I just want to definitely 708 00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:43,920 do like a tradition of giving, sending all positive vibes to her. 709 00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:47,440 I'm talking to a Bruce man doing great things. 710 00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:49,200 Have a lovely house. 711 00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:51,640 You're doing a pretty lovely family. 712 00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,160 You're doing great things that you're in your career. 713 00:35:54,160 --> 00:36:00,200 Um, you know, and you're just doing just amazing things as a man. 714 00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:03,560 And that, you know, I just want to let you know that, you know, I want you to hear that 715 00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:04,560 in general. 716 00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:08,480 So if you're not getting that, that's just letting you know that your work is being 717 00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,000 noticed and appreciate it. 718 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:11,680 It's not going in vain. 719 00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:17,520 So, um, and, uh, yeah, but, but all my listeners appreciate it. 720 00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:21,320 This is the first episode that we're closing out. 721 00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:27,160 And until then peace, love and positivity to you and your love, your family, your dog 722 00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:33,480 and whoever you feel that you care about until then peace out. 723 00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:34,480 Peace. 724 00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:58,840 Good, bye.