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Hey there folks, welcome to episode 14 of a Pebble in a Pond podcast.

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My name is Daniel and in this episode we're going to be talking about something that we

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all need to have in spades and yet it is very difficult to hold on to.

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Today we're going to be talking about hope.

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And we'll start right away with a quote and this one really should set us up for a little

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bit for this episode.

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This is a quote from Tertullian of Carthage.

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He said, hope is patience with the lamp lit.

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I think that's important when we are defining hope to understand exactly what it is.

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Not just the dictionary definition but what it feels like and the way that we define it

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in ourselves.

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The dictionary definition of hope is to wish for a particular event that one considers

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possible.

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Now keep in mind that one considers possible is a major part of that.

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There is a difference between hope and wishful thinking.

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A lot of people tend to kind of put the two of them together or think of hope as just

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being this fruitless pursuit of something out there, something nebulous.

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That's not really what hope is.

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Hope is seeing something that you need or something that you want and whether it be

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an outcome, it's very rarely an object, but an outcome or a feeling or some sort of desire

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like that.

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Seeing a path towards that and believing that there is a possibility that you can get there.

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That's what hope is.

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Hope is not like I hope I win the lottery.

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You're not really hoping.

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That's just wishful thinking.

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You wish you could win the lottery, but there's no actual path to that other than getting

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the one in 292 million chance.

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That's it.

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There's no actual hope.

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There's no working towards that.

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So why choose the quote, hope is patience with the lamplit?

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Well, because I think that as we move into the episode before I play the music, I think

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I want to make sure that I tell everybody exactly what you're going to get in this episode.

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I'm not going to try to sugarcoat the problems that I have with hope at times.

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You're going to have some negativity towards hope.

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Not towards quotes.

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We never have negativity towards quotes here.

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You're going to have some negativity and I'm not trying to hate on it.

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I just want to make sure that both sides of what hope can do and what it can be is discussed

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here.

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I know that people will see hope and think, oh, it's going to be an uplifting positive

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episode and we are going to have that.

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That's going to be there.

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But I want to be realistic about the detrimental effects of hope right along the lines of kind

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of a toxic positivity type of thing.

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So I just wanted to make that clear and that quote kind of encapsulates that because the

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reality is that you can hope for whatever you want to.

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And if you're patient and determined, hope is kind of pointless to a certain degree.

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Now it'll fuel you.

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It'll get you there.

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But really all it is is you being able to kind of see your path.

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That's what hope allows you to do so that you're not stumbling around in the dark.

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That's where the lamp lit part of it comes in.

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Hope kind of guides us.

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And there's other things that can guide us, but hope is one of those things that you can

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carry with you at all times in the darkest of darks.

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And it will, it'll be the warm light that helps you see your way through.

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With that, let's start the music.

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Now, let me just say this, that I were through the music and we're ready to go here.

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There's nothing better than starting your podcast with a topic and then shitting on

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that topic immediately.

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That's not at all what I'm trying to do.

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I just thought I'd try to grab people's attention by saying that hope is pointless.

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Anyway, let's get a little bit deeper into what hope is before we really, really get

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rolling here.

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You know, I gave the dictionary definition and like I said, I think that it's important

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to understand what it means to each individual.

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And so the best way to kind of define it outside of just the simple dictionary definition is

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to understand that hope is the thing that leads us to other traits that we find, well,

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that, you know, most society finds to be admirable.

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What do I mean by that?

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Well, I mean, hope is the reason or one of the reasons why people find patience, why

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people have patience and patience is widely considered to be a good thing.

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Hope is one of the fueling factors behind determination.

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You find it a lot easier to stick with something and to continue fighting for something if

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you have hope, courage, courage, a lot of the courageous behavior that you see or you

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read or you experience yourself that comes with some hope in it.

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You know, you're hoping to make a difference.

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You're hoping to make a change.

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Hope is one of the things that brings about and fuels enthusiasm and purpose.

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It's I can't I can't really say this in any way without sounding hyperbolic, I guess.

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But it really is one of the single most important concepts or ideas or emotions that humans

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feel.

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Why do I qualify this comment by saying humans feel?

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Why do I qualify that?

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Well, because we don't know.

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There's no actual proof that other animals in the animal kingdom necessarily feel hope

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the same way that humans do.

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Now they feel anticipation, they feel excitement, they're knowledgeable of things to come and

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they get worked up over it.

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But it's the way that humans feel hope is something that it's just hard to prove.

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And we can feel we can we have our we can kind of infer our own our own ideas and emotions

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on animals.

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But without proof of it, it's difficult.

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Now keep in mind this is coming from somebody who's got a plethora of pets and has a lot

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of interactions with animals in the wild and things like that.

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So it's it's coming from a place of not trying to diminish animals in any way.

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That's not at all what I'm trying to do here.

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But hope and the way that humans experience hope and the way that we need hope almost

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as as a means of survival.

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That is not something that you see in the animal kingdom too often.

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And so I just thought I'd touch on that because there are you know, for most of these other

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things that we talk about, there there's kind of through lines that you can kind of trace

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to the animal kingdom.

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You know, animals certainly love animals certainly, you know, value certain behaviors and certain

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things.

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And they, you know, they hold those things up and they have societies and all that stuff.

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But hope, the way the you know, the dictionary defines it and the way that we're defining

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it here.

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That's not something that you see in the animal kingdom.

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It is a pretty much a solely human experience.

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So why why do an episode about hope?

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Why talk about hope?

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Well, hope is one of those things that I believe it sounds weird to say this way.

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I believe that we need it is a necessity of life.

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It's a necessity because you know, we all part of the human condition part of what we

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all go through in this existence is turmoil.

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We struggle.

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We, we have heartbreak.

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We have, you know, all sorts of trials and tribulations that that make being human difficult.

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You know, obviously people are everybody's life is different and everybody's challenges

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are different.

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But one of the one of the things that allows us to make it through all of that struggle

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and strife is hope.

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Now I'm going to give you an example here of what I'm talking about.

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And some of you will get it and some of you may, may, may struggle with this.

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One of the, one of the interesting things about hope is it's, it is a driving force

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in almost every relationship that you will ever have.

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It is the thing that kind of keeps a relationship together.

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Hope is what you go into every relationship and this I'm talking about specifically romantic

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relationships here, but this can go for friendships as well.

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Hope is what you start everything with.

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When you go in and you meet somebody there, you know, and you, you have the intention

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of, you know, maybe starting a relationship of any sort.

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You're hoping you see a path, you see, you see the things about them, the attributes,

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the attributes that you appreciate, that you know what they appreciate in you, you know,

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as long as there's an honest, open communication, then you kind of can develop a path towards

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a relationship in the future.

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You really do start to see it.

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You know, we call those fantasies, we call them, you know, whatever, but, but what they

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are is they're you, whether whichever partner you are in a relationship with, you know,

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you and your partner, you both will have these individual, you know, fantasies or aspirations

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for a relationship.

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And so you'll start to develop hope for that future.

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Now that is a wonderful thing because it kind of sets you into a, into motion.

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You start to go through the day by day, you start to develop all the little things that

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you appreciate and that you love and that you, you know, so on and so forth.

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But all of this is done with a guiding hope for a future, for the next day, for whatever

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it may be.

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Now that's not a conscious thing.

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So we don't necessarily go into it saying, well, I, I'm going to hope for this, but you

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will find yourself saying, I hope, you know, I hope that this works out.

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I hope that, you know, all the time spent isn't worthless.

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I hope that we can work this out.

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You know, you'll use the term a lot, but you don't necessarily go into it with that exact,

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you know, intention of hope.

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You don't, nobody ever does that.

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You don't say I'm going to hope for this, at least not in this, this particular case.

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But what happens and what I mean by a necessity is what happens when you start to lose hope

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in a relationship?

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Now women, especially women will start to lose hope in a relationship very slowly.

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You know, it kind of slowly peels away.

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It kind of, you know, little, little things here and there.

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And so they're the amount of hope that they have, like their hope reserve, if you will,

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kind of slowly peels away and slowly gets smaller and smaller.

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And as they start to lose hope, they stop doing as much in a relationship.

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They stop, you know, they stop being whatever part of the relationship they are.

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Men are a little bit different.

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Men don't tend to lose hope gradually.

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Men tend to hold on to that hope as long as they possibly can.

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And then once they realize that they can no longer hold on to hope, they throw everything

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away.

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They have no hope anymore.

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It is gone.

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And once hope for a man is gone, there is no going back.

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Now a lot of men will kind of hold a glimmer of hope, as they call it.

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A lot of men will, once again, this is talking about in like romantic relationships, a lot

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of men will hold on to a glimmer of hope.

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But a lot of that is usually ego driven and not necessarily because they really necessarily

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want to, you know, because once you've depleted that, all of that beautiful driving hope that

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you have, once it's mostly gone, and you know, these are all terms, these are all things

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that you've heard before.

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And there's a reason why you've heard them.

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But when all that hope is gone, there's really not much left.

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You can love each other.

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You can respect each other.

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You can admire each other.

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But if you don't have hope, the relationship is over.

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And so it is very, very important that if you're in a relationship with someone, that

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all of those things that you do, all of the things that you do to make them feel appreciated

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and loved and confident about the future, all of these things, you know, safe, secure,

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all of those things really do feed into the concept of hope.

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Because if somebody has hope in a relationship, then they will, all of those other things

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can be worked on.

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All of those other things can be figured out.

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All of those other things can be, they're like varying levels.

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If you need to, if you need somebody to feel more safe, then you can make somebody feel

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more safe, but you can't necessarily imbue them with hope.

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That's something that is very difficult to give to some people.

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Now the best way in a relationship, especially since we're using that example, the best way

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to rekindle hope in a relationship is just through communication, just being as open

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and honest as you can and making sure that there is a path, a shared path forward.

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Now once again, once somebody loses hope, once especially a woman, once she loses hope,

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that may be impossible to ever get back.

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Like I said, men discard everything.

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So you have to start over with a man.

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And that requires, you know, you're basically starting in the negative because now not only

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do they not have that hope, any glimmer or any shred of hope they're holding onto is

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not going to be enough, but they also, you basically start in the negative because now

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they're holding it against you, usually.

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That's not the case every time.

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So why do I use the relationship as an example here?

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Why am I talking about that at all?

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Because it's something that most people can understand.

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You know, if you take and you're trying to quantify hope, we're trying to put it into

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situations where we can really see it at work.

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And when I was going through and I was reading a bunch of stuff about this, that was one

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of those things that I was having a hard time doing.

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You know, you can quantify so many things.

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You can really put kind of a parameter around so many things.

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But hope is not one of those things.

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Hope escapes.

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Hope is so, I don't know, effervescent.

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I don't know if it's bubbly or not, but it's just one of those things that just always

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escapes whatever box you want to kind of put it in.

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And the only thing I could really find that made sense in almost every scenario was relationships,

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was the hope that we have at the beginning of a relationship.

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And what you find is that almost across the board, one of the things that ends relationships

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is one side or the other or both losing hope.

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They just don't see a hopeful path forward.

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And so you lose your ability to fight for the relationship.

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You lose the ability to not necessarily care, but you start to lose that patience.

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You start to lose even kindness because you just don't have hope for it.

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It almost seems, and here's where we get to that word, hopeless.

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It does.

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It seems hopeless.

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And that can create all sorts of problems.

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We can't talk about hope without talking about hopelessness.

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And as somebody who has struggled with depression as long as I have, hopelessness is a key component

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in my life.

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For years, it was a driving force in my life.

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And I know it very, very well.

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So while I'm sitting here speaking about hope, there is this specter of hopelessness standing

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behind me, mocking me.

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You don't know anything about hope.

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And I'm telling you that genuinely.

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I sit here and I talk about this and to a certain degree, I feel like a fraud.

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And I mean, I feel like a fraud because I've never been a very hopeful person.

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Like I said before, the wishful thinking thing, I definitely play lottery, but I don't do

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it with hope in my heart.

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I do it because one in 292 million is better than one in zero.

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That's really the only reason.

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But the idea of hope has been foreign to me for a good portion of my life.

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And that includes even my relationships, which is when I started to read about this and I

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saw that discussion about relationships being a good metric for hope, I had to really do

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a deep dive into my own life.

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And that's when I realized that I could really start to chart out, I guess the word would

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be, I could chart out the points in time when I knew that I had been my most desperate,

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my most depressed, my absolute worst person that I was.

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And there was an absolute parallel to relationship status.

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And there's a lot of reasons for that, but it was always that I just didn't have any

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hope.

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And because of that, I couldn't fight for the things that I wanted or that I needed.

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I would oftentimes just, when somebody would say, I love you, I couldn't even respond because

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I just, I didn't feel it.

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There was no feeling of that love coming through to me.

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It never hit me.

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And because I didn't feel loved and I didn't feel worthwhile, really, I lost hope.

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I lost hope not just in the relationship, but in life in general.

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So it's important when we talk about hope to understand that there is an immediate counterbalance

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to hope.

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And somewhere along the line between these two concepts, which are really the same concept,

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but these two words about the concept, we have to understand that it's a balance.

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Now this is where we start to get into maybe some of the negative aspects of hope.

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So not just the hopelessness of it, but the kind of toxic positivity that I was talking

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about earlier.

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It is possible to have hope in your heart for something.

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And trust me, this is coming from lots of experience on this one that you know is not

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realistic.

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You start out with a realistic path.

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You start out understanding that there is a way for this to happen.

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But then because of the nature of this world, there's all sorts of obstacles and all sorts

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of things that get in your way and opinions and ideas and other people's egos and things

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like that that will get in the way and make it so that your hope turns more into the wishful

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thinking kind of thing, where you're basically rolling the dice because you really don't

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have a path forward, but you don't want to give up because you hoped.

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You had hope at one point in time and you don't want to give up on that hope, no matter

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how unlikely it is to happen.

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And so you end up throwing yourself into situations and into ideas and into momentum over something

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that maybe you shouldn't.

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And I don't mean you should give up.

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Don't ever take anything I say on this podcast or my TikToks or anything like that as give

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up.

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That's not at all what I mean.

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What I mean is we have a limited capacity.

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We have a limited amount of energy and time and yeah, energy and time.

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We have a limited amount of things that we can throw into people and ideas and experiences.

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And because of that, because of the limited resources that we each have, we have to be

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very careful not to throw ourselves so far into something that is hopeless.

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Just because we don't feel the hopelessness yet, that doesn't mean that it's not hopeless.

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And I'm not at all trying to tell somebody to give up.

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Again, I want to make that clear.

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I want to make sure that it is understood that in the way that hopelessness can just

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destroy you slowly over time, having too much hope in something that is not feasible, it

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means that you're no longer hoping.

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You're just wishing.

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And that doesn't really accomplish anything.

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And that doesn't really move the bar.

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Now, what you can do is take the little steps to kind of rekindle or start to try to peel

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away and find the path through hope.

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Hope is a very powerful thing in that sense, where oftentimes the world, the people, whatever

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it may be, will come down around you and you won't be able to see a path out.

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And all you have to hold onto is your hope, your hope of change, your hope of making a

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difference, your hope of whatever it may be.

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And if you hold onto that hope and you wait, then maybe you'll find a way out.

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But if you hold onto hope and you wait for too long, then that hope will start to die.

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And then you'll just be alone and in the dark.

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And that's why hope is patience with a lamp lit, because that lamp will last a really

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long time in the dark and it will give you something to hold onto and it'll make you

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feel warm and safe and it'll make it so that you can see long enough to try to find a way

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out, but sooner or later that lamp is going to run out.

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And if you have not moved, if you have not made any changes, if you have not found something

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new or a new path, then you're just going to be alone and in the dark.

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And that, that is the height of hopelessness.

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That is the height of desperation.

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And that's when people like me start to do things that they shouldn't do and that they,

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you know, obviously they won't regret it, but they will affect the lives of the people

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around them and hurt people.

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The main reason why I wanted to make sure I got an episode about hope done is because

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it's kind of the central piece to really everything I've been trying to do here.

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We're 14 episodes in and all I have is hope.

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I've got 350 TikTok videos and 14 episodes of a podcast and I'm just getting started.

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And all of it is based on hope.

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Now the quote I'm going to use here is one that is relatively recent.

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So I know that I tend to pull from deep history a lot of times, but this one is actually a

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quote by Michelle Obama.

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And she said, you may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve

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all of the world's problems at once, but don't ever underestimate the importance you can

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have because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life

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of its own.

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That quote, I can't remember where I first heard it.

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I think it was actually at one of Barack Obama's inauguration things or I don't know.

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It was something like that, but I remember being in the room watching it on television

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and just being moved by that sentiment.

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By that, and she's not saying anything new there.

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She's not reinventing the wheel or anything with that, but the way that she said it, the

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passion that she had when she said it, and that last part, history has shown us that

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courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own.

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That's what I'm doing here.

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That's what this podcast is about.

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That's what all of this really boils down to.

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I see a path.

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I see a realistic, feasible way to make the world a better place.

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I am one person.

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I can't go out and change the hearts and minds of millions of people, but what I can do is

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if you're hearing this, I can talk to you and I can tell you how beautiful and powerful

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and important you are.

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I can explain to you how you may have spent a good portion of your life doing the things

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that society and whatever else tells you is the right thing to do, and you will be miserable.

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But if you just follow your heart, if you follow your passion, if you follow your dreams,

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if you take time to love and to accept and to really appreciate not just the people around

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you but yourself and the moments that you have, then you will find that you can change

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things around you.

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You can change things in your personal life.

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You can change the dynamics of the relationships around you.

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You can really start to believe in the magic that is our reality, the magic that is this

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wonderful, beautiful, gleaming ball of gas and water floating around in space.

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You really do start to feel your place in the universe.

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And once you get to that point, and I'm not even there yet, but once we get to that point,

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we will start to see these changes.

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We will start to understand exactly what it means to be courageous and what it means to

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have that hope for a better future, for a better world.

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This entire podcast, the name of it, A Pebble in a Pond, my TikTok channel, all of it, all

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of it is centered around hope.

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I am hoping that I can make a difference.

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I am hoping that I can maybe change a few minds.

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I can maybe help heal a few hearts.

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That's what I'm hoping for, and I see a realistic way of doing that, but I have to be able to

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reach people.

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I have to be able to get this message out.

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I have to be able to talk to people in a way that is honest and true and that people understand

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that it's just coming from the heart.

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That's all it is.

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This entire thing is built on hope.

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And so when I sit here and I talk about hopelessness, I want you to understand that in my search

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for trying to understand how I've arrived here three, four months ago, this never could

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have happened.

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I never would have allowed this to happen.

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My hopelessness was so great that I would never have been able to see a path through

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this.

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Never.

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I never could have put myself out here like this.

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I never could have recorded myself like this.

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I never could have done the TikTok stuff.

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I never could have done it.

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My hopelessness was in control.

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I just didn't see it.

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But now everything's different.

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I have, like I said, over 350 videos, making three every day, more and more every day.

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I'm pumping these out once every two weeks, sometimes not on schedule, but as close as

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I can get.

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And I'm really trying as hard as I can to put as much out there as I can with the time

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that I have.

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I really do want to change this world as much as I possibly can in the time that I have.

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There's another quote that really fits this.

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It says, my hope still is to leave the world a bit better than when I got here.

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You know who said that?

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That was Jim Henson, the creator of The Muppets.

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Now all that guy did was make puppets talk.

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And honestly, just saying that last sentence makes me want to hit myself.

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Is that all he did?

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No.

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You're talking about a man that inspired generations from the point in time that he started working

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the Kermit puppet till now, till forever, until we no longer have the ability to tell

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the story of his puppets.

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This is a man that has inspired so many people to so many things and brought so much joy

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and so much positivity into the world that, I mean, it's the idea that a man like Jim

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Henson could say that my hope is to leave the world a bit better than when he got here.

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Tells you just how powerful hope can be.

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Because his hope became reality.

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And he has literally changed the world for the better.

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And there's literally no way that anybody can look at The Muppets or look at what Jim

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Henson did in his life and say, oh, what about this?

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There's no drawbacks.

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I'm not taking anything away from that man.

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He brought nothing but joy and happiness and an escape to literally billions of people.

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Over time, it will be billions of people.

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His life, his one life changed the course of history with puppets.

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Now think about that, if Jim Henson using the magic of childhood wonder and the appreciation

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of fantasy can change the world in that way, then what's to stop you or I?

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What's to stop us?

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If we hope and we follow our hearts and we believe in ourselves and we believe in the

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message that we're trying to get out and we believe in the idea that it just takes one

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person, it just takes one person to have courage and hope and then they can affect the people

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around them.

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They can be the pebble.

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Each one of us can be the pebble that disrupts the pond just enough to make a massive sweeping

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change.

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Each one of us has the opportunity to do that in our lives.

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Each one of us has the ability to spread love and kindness and positivity and light into

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this world.

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Every single day that we don't do that is a day where everybody goes to bed with the

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world just a little bit darker than it could be.

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I'm not happy with that.

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I want this world to be a better place and this is how I can do it.

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I appreciate everybody that listens and I appreciate everybody that watches my videos

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and it's slowly growing and the message is slowly getting out there and I know that I

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can sound self-important when I say things like the message and things like that but

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that's not the intention.

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The intention is simply just to get these ideas into people's heads and make them start

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to act on them.

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Make it something so that it's not just, oh that's cool, oh yeah that seems nice and then

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they just move on and they go back to doing whatever.

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I really want to help create an awakening of people.

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I want people to understand their power and not in like a weird astrology, tarot way and

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I'm not shitting on that stuff.

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I'm just saying like I'm talking about in a real like in your heart you feel it, that

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change.

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There's excitement, there's a tangible feeling of it's going to happen.

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That's what I want.

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00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:15,560
Now I don't really have a whole lot of time left in the episode because I kind of went

463
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:18,560
off there.

464
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:23,200
I lost track and I got so excited about talking about the hope that I have for this whole

465
00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:25,680
thing and the hope that I have.

466
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:28,600
If you're listening to this then you are part of that hope.

467
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:34,920
You are literally holding my hand as I walk through all of this and I need every single

468
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:41,520
person that hears this to understand how important you are and how much I appreciate you.

469
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:43,480
That goes for the TikTok videos as well.

470
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:50,040
They're obviously for me a 10 minute video is a bite size but it's still a good, it's

471
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:55,440
still me, it's still a portion of me and I'm hoping that between these two things and hopefully

472
00:35:55,440 --> 00:36:00,280
the other social medias as I'm able to get them out and get them going it's taking some

473
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:05,540
time but I'm hoping that you know more and more people will start to come along for the

474
00:36:05,540 --> 00:36:12,320
ride and I can really start to see some changes and people start telling me their stories.

475
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:18,000
I'm so excited for that and I want to be able to tell more people's stories.

476
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:19,720
That's really what this is about.

477
00:36:19,720 --> 00:36:21,080
It's never about me.

478
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:22,720
It's never been about me.

479
00:36:22,720 --> 00:36:33,400
My hope, my hope is that people start to understand that their voice, their story, what they bring

480
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:37,240
into this world is what this is all about.

481
00:36:37,240 --> 00:36:45,840
Finding that magic, that power, your abilities, your voice, finding that and showing it to

482
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:47,600
the world.

483
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:49,200
That's what this is about.

484
00:36:49,200 --> 00:36:51,480
So what can we do?

485
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:55,880
What can we do to rekindle hope?

486
00:36:55,880 --> 00:37:04,200
What can we do to keep it strong and keep reminding ourselves that it is the fuel that

487
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:10,960
keeps us moving forward, that keeps us steady, that keeps us fighting against incredible

488
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:15,300
odds, that keeps us wanting to change the world.

489
00:37:15,300 --> 00:37:16,960
What do we do?

490
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:26,400
Well, because of the kind of nebulous nature of hope, there's not a whole lot out there.

491
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:34,760
I mean, people have kind of greeting card sentiments that are supposed to help, but

492
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:42,760
there are actually a few things that have been kind of proven to, if not necessarily

493
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:50,240
rekindle hope, but bring a positivity that will allow hope to kind of survive, if you

494
00:37:50,240 --> 00:37:51,240
will.

495
00:37:51,240 --> 00:37:54,320
And as long as hope survives, it can build.

496
00:37:54,320 --> 00:38:02,920
As long as you can keep hope in your heart for whatever it may be, it will slowly rebuild.

497
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:07,360
As you start to make momentum, as you keep your momentum and you start to make progress,

498
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:09,360
that hope will get greater and greater.

499
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:12,040
That's how you build hope.

500
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:17,120
Progress, change, appreciation.

501
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:22,880
So let's go through just a few things that I guess you could say exercises, they're not

502
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:28,360
really exercises, just ideas, just things that you can do in your everyday life that

503
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:35,240
are going to help you hold on to hope or rekindle hope or maintain whatever level of hope you

504
00:38:35,240 --> 00:38:37,320
have.

505
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:44,000
One of the most important things is understanding that one of the first things that kills hope

506
00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:50,080
is being overwhelmed and feeling that hopelessness seep in.

507
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:55,960
Being overwhelmed emotionally, being stressed to the point that you just don't see a path.

508
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:58,700
You just don't see a way forward.

509
00:38:58,700 --> 00:39:03,660
So simple things that you can do is just reduce your stress, reduce the amount of stress you

510
00:39:03,660 --> 00:39:06,680
feel on a daily basis.

511
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:15,040
Take a minute, take two minutes, sit quiet, do breathing exercises, go outside, go for

512
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:18,240
a walk if you have a park or something like that.

513
00:39:18,240 --> 00:39:21,360
As they say, touch some grass.

514
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:29,240
If you need to reach out to friends, listen to music, anything that you can do to reduce

515
00:39:29,240 --> 00:39:30,760
your stress levels.

516
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:38,760
Now for me, this is counterintuitive I know to what I just said, but for me I tend to

517
00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:41,280
work very well with stress.

518
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:47,200
Stress doesn't really have the same effect on me, so for me I want to get in there and

519
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:50,200
really I want to keep fighting.

520
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:52,520
That's how I work.

521
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,000
I've always been that way.

522
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:58,840
Stress doesn't tend to have the effect on me that it does on a lot of people.

523
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:03,360
So for me, it can be difficult.

524
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:09,280
There's a lot of times when I've had people in my life tell me, I can't handle this and

525
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:18,680
I will, being who I am and not really understanding why everybody isn't like me, I'll keep pushing,

526
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:20,880
I'll keep pushing and I'll keep pushing.

527
00:40:20,880 --> 00:40:25,560
That has caused a lot of problems in my life because some people just are like, I need

528
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:26,560
to step away.

529
00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:28,760
I need to, and I'll be like, why?

530
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:30,240
Why do you want to do that?

531
00:40:30,240 --> 00:40:31,240
Let's finish it.

532
00:40:31,240 --> 00:40:32,600
Let's get it done.

533
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:39,920
So for me, this is actually as far as stress skills and things like that, this is something

534
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:45,320
that I desperately need to learn to appreciate and work on.

535
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:50,320
The idea of taking two minutes to breathe and things like that, you would think that

536
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:55,400
my blood pressure was through the roof and for a while it was, but now it's not anymore

537
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,120
and it's kind of funny how that works.

538
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:07,600
But when I was feeling hopelessness and depression in my life, that was when I was absolutely

539
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:11,240
like my body was just falling apart.

540
00:41:11,240 --> 00:41:12,520
That was the stressor.

541
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:18,520
But now that I'm hopeful and not through the depression, but I understand that depression

542
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:22,760
phase a lot more and I know that I'm on the other side of it, the stress just doesn't

543
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:24,120
even bother me anymore.

544
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:25,440
I welcome it.

545
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:28,600
I get excited about getting into tough situations.

546
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:33,000
So depending on which side of that you are on or if you're in the middle, just do the

547
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:36,120
things you need to do to relieve that stress.

548
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:38,600
I don't care what it is.

549
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:43,080
It doesn't matter what it is because each individual has their own stress relief.

550
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:48,520
There are some things I could say that would make this a little bit more raunchy, but people

551
00:41:48,520 --> 00:41:51,200
do those things to relieve stress.

552
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:54,680
So if you have that outlet, go ahead and use that outlet too.

553
00:41:54,680 --> 00:42:00,740
But management of your stress is probably the single most important thing to holding

554
00:42:00,740 --> 00:42:03,880
on to your positivity and your hope.

555
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:10,500
Beyond that, and this also kind of leads with the stress thing as well, is just live your

556
00:42:10,500 --> 00:42:14,580
life in a way that is healthier for you.

557
00:42:14,580 --> 00:42:23,380
We will often sink into poor habits when we're depressed or when we don't see a way forward.

558
00:42:23,380 --> 00:42:29,720
People don't bathe as much, people don't eat as well, people don't exercise.

559
00:42:29,720 --> 00:42:32,520
You really start to let yourself go.

560
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:36,760
And I know this better than anybody does.

561
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:42,960
As I record this, I still have in my, where I record, I still have, there's just a pile

562
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:49,600
of stuff in the corner that I haven't been able to get the, I just haven't been able

563
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:53,640
to go through it because every time I start to, I start to get depressed because it's

564
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:56,240
literally like a depression pile.

565
00:42:56,240 --> 00:43:02,040
It's been there for months where I just look at it and it's difficult to get through because

566
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:05,980
I know that I kind of created, it's like a pile of clothes and other stuff.

567
00:43:05,980 --> 00:43:11,320
And it's like, just looking at it, it doesn't stress me out, but just looking at it and

568
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:15,680
thinking I got to clean that up, that stresses me out because I know that I'm going to start

569
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:19,960
to have all these memories of, oh, I threw this over here because of this.

570
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:25,320
So I start to have this recall of how I got there and why this was there.

571
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:27,180
And that stresses me out.

572
00:43:27,180 --> 00:43:30,460
That gets me, I start to have anxiety over that.

573
00:43:30,460 --> 00:43:39,600
So I have a literal reminder of how, I don't want to say slovenly, but how you can kind

574
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:41,060
of really let yourself go.

575
00:43:41,060 --> 00:43:47,120
You can really allow things to get out of hand in your life and with your body.

576
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:52,040
And that, if you start to take care of those things, if you get up and you shower, you

577
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:56,440
enjoy getting up, doing the thing, brushing your teeth, brushing your hair, whatever you

578
00:43:56,440 --> 00:44:01,440
need to do, make yourself feel good that way.

579
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:06,520
Get out, go for a walk, if you go to the gym, whatever it may be.

580
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:08,960
Those are all things.

581
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:12,700
It seems like those are right in line with the stress relief stuff and they are, but

582
00:44:12,700 --> 00:44:17,160
more importantly, these are the things that people do to make themselves happy.

583
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:20,520
There's a difference between relieving stress and being happy.

584
00:44:20,520 --> 00:44:24,560
You can relieve stress and just kind of stay at a baseline, not really be truly happy.

585
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:28,480
But we're talking about doing things that truly make you happy.

586
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:30,640
And this is scientific here.

587
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:35,060
If you go to the gym or you go for a walk or whatever it is, your body actually produces

588
00:44:35,060 --> 00:44:37,560
hormones that will make you happy.

589
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:40,840
And so that's what we're looking for here.

590
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:45,000
Control your stress and then find things that make you happy.

591
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:48,640
If you, like I said, if you listen to music and that makes you happy, do that.

592
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:51,400
If you play an instrument, do that.

593
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:57,920
If you enjoy going out and sitting in your car for two hours and making TikTok videos,

594
00:44:57,920 --> 00:44:58,920
then do that.

595
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:04,480
I don't really enjoy that, but it is starting to get fun.

596
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:12,380
If you're somebody like me who kind of feeds off that kind of human connection, go out,

597
00:45:12,380 --> 00:45:15,680
go to the grocery store, go to the gas station.

598
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:17,120
Well, maybe not the gas station.

599
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:18,400
That can be kind of sketchy.

600
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,680
But you go to places where people are.

601
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:29,200
Go sit at a fast food place and just be available for people.

602
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:32,400
When you go, I say fast food place intentionally.

603
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:34,200
That's not, I'm not saying go to a restaurant.

604
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:39,920
I'm saying go to a place where you know that people are not necessarily, where they don't

605
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:42,800
necessarily feel gratitude, where they don't necessarily feel love.

606
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:49,100
You go to almost any fast food place in this entire country and the people that work there

607
00:45:49,100 --> 00:45:50,920
will feel shitty.

608
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:53,100
Like they're in a shitty job.

609
00:45:53,100 --> 00:45:56,760
The people that come in, treat them like shit.

610
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:58,160
They're not really happy with what they're doing.

611
00:45:58,160 --> 00:45:59,880
They don't make a lot of money.

612
00:45:59,880 --> 00:46:01,880
They're just doing it to get by.

613
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:06,360
And the people that go in there, a lot of people, a lot more than you'd like to think,

614
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:07,360
treat them horribly.

615
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:09,160
That's something we need to change.

616
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:13,120
And that's something that I've talked about before and something that, but if you can

617
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:17,560
go in there and you can lift their spirits up, you know, just go up to the counter, order

618
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:19,400
your food and then just talk to people.

619
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:20,800
Just be like, hey, you know, how you doing?

620
00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:22,120
You know, how are you feeling?

621
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:23,120
You okay?

622
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:24,720
I really appreciate you guys making this food for me.

623
00:46:24,720 --> 00:46:26,200
I promise you two things.

624
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:28,640
You're going to make their day better, one.

625
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:33,400
Two, your food is going to be the best you've ever had there because they will put in the

626
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:34,400
extra effort.

627
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:37,520
Now make sure that you start rubbing, you know, start making them feel good before they

628
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:38,520
start making your food.

629
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:40,920
Otherwise you won't get that second benefit.

630
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:46,080
But if you can really go in there and if you go in there enough, if you become a regular,

631
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:47,840
they will be so excited to see you.

632
00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:50,280
You will get the best treatment, the best food.

633
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:55,160
And that's because you're going in there expressing that gratitude, expressing that love, showing

634
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:56,160
people.

635
00:46:56,160 --> 00:47:01,400
And those are the things that you can do that bring happiness to yourself and to others.

636
00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:08,080
So it's really important when you're trying to, you know, keep hope alive that you do

637
00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:14,480
these little things, control your stress and try to build happiness.

638
00:47:14,480 --> 00:47:19,060
Another thing you can do that, and this is something that I'm really not good with.

639
00:47:19,060 --> 00:47:22,780
So I actually read this and I thought it was a good idea and I wanted to throw it out there,

640
00:47:22,780 --> 00:47:26,680
even though I really can't speak to any experience with this because I'm, that's just not how

641
00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:32,040
my brain works yet, is setting goals.

642
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:37,000
Now obviously I have a goal of, you know, changing the world, but that's not really

643
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:40,340
like I can't, I have to do little things.

644
00:47:40,340 --> 00:47:44,360
So my goals, if you want to talk about me setting goals, my goals is to make enough

645
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:51,360
videos in my TikTok account that I can put out three a day.

646
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:52,360
That's a goal that I have.

647
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:58,600
My goal is to get a new podcast episode out once every two weeks and hopefully get enough

648
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:02,880
listeners that at some point in time and then start bringing people in to do interviews

649
00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:07,480
and stuff like that, that I'll be able to do, you know, once a week again.

650
00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:11,820
That would be awesome to be able to put out more podcasts and be able to talk for longer

651
00:48:11,820 --> 00:48:14,240
periods of time.

652
00:48:14,240 --> 00:48:21,480
So setting goals, but this is the important part, achievable goals, attainable goals,

653
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:23,520
goals that matter.

654
00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:29,480
Not just silly things, just, you know, oh, I want to, you know, like I want to drink

655
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:30,800
four cans of soda a day.

656
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:31,960
That's not a goal, right?

657
00:48:31,960 --> 00:48:36,360
That's just what you do because, you know, you don't believe in your health.

658
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:41,480
But I'm not judging, I drink, I drink soda too.

659
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:45,120
But no, it's just one of those things where you want to have attainable goals that are

660
00:48:45,120 --> 00:48:48,040
going to help you move in a direction.

661
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:52,760
So like I said, for me, it's making these videos, it's working on the podcast.

662
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:53,760
These are my goals.

663
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:56,640
These are the things that I'm working on every single day.

664
00:48:56,640 --> 00:49:00,840
And I'm trying to, you know, the reason why they're kind of a little bit out there is

665
00:49:00,840 --> 00:49:04,680
because there's not an end goal, right?

666
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:07,140
The end goal is forever away.

667
00:49:07,140 --> 00:49:12,220
That's never going to, I mean, I even see that, but every day I have those goals of

668
00:49:12,220 --> 00:49:18,920
three videos and I try to read or at least look up a quote or something about the topic

669
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,460
of the podcast every day I do that.

670
00:49:21,460 --> 00:49:25,600
So if you can, if you can start to establish those little things that you can do, the day

671
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:29,940
by day goals, you know, even if it's something as simple as like I said before, if you're

672
00:49:29,940 --> 00:49:33,200
having a problem with depression or you're having a problem with, you know, just not

673
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:38,040
being motivated, set the goal of every day, you're going to get up at whatever time, you

674
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:39,960
know, set a time, say 9 a.m.

675
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:43,880
You're going to get up at 9 a.m., you're going to go get, you know, get your coffee or whatever,

676
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:47,200
and you're going to shower, you know, brush your teeth, you're going to, you know, do

677
00:49:47,200 --> 00:49:51,560
all the things that you need to do to get up and start to feel motivated and start to

678
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:52,560
feel better.

679
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:56,280
Even if you don't have anything to do, even if you like, maybe you don't have a job, maybe

680
00:49:56,280 --> 00:50:00,160
you don't, maybe you're, you know, whatever, but you just do those things anyway.

681
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:02,360
Like you don't have to get dressed up in a business suit.

682
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:07,000
You can just get in other clothes, but just, just go through the things in the day that

683
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:08,000
motivate you.

684
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:11,440
And what you'll find is that a lot of times you'll get up and you'll be, you'll get up

685
00:50:11,440 --> 00:50:14,240
and do other stuff and then you'll be like, oh, I don't have anything to do.

686
00:50:14,240 --> 00:50:17,880
And so what you do is you go out and you go for a walk or you go out and you, and you'll

687
00:50:17,880 --> 00:50:23,600
find yourself accidentally being productive just by accomplishing goals like that.

688
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:28,560
And trust me, I am accidentally productive, accidentally productive a lot more than I

689
00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:30,560
care to admit.

690
00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:36,360
This next one is probably one of the more difficult things to do, but this is something

691
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:43,000
that I have, I have really found in these past few months to be the most important for

692
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:44,440
me.

693
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:46,640
And I think it probably will be for most of you.

694
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:54,680
And this, this next one is try as hard as you can to be as honest and open as you can

695
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:58,640
with the people closest to you, your best friends.

696
00:50:58,640 --> 00:51:04,420
If you have, you know, a parent that you look up to that you have a good relationship with,

697
00:51:04,420 --> 00:51:10,200
you know, siblings that you really love, people that you trust and that you know believe in

698
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:11,200
you.

699
00:51:11,200 --> 00:51:13,080
Now that can be difficult for some people.

700
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:17,920
And I know that and I, I, I, I'm sorry to even bring it up for those of you that are

701
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:21,600
having, you know, that those kinds of issues where you just don't feel like you can trust

702
00:51:21,600 --> 00:51:22,760
anybody or you feel alone.

703
00:51:22,760 --> 00:51:27,240
And if that's the case, reach out to me, you know, I'll talk to you.

704
00:51:27,240 --> 00:51:28,480
We can be friends.

705
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:31,240
I am here for you.

706
00:51:31,240 --> 00:51:36,240
If that's the case, if you feel alone and you feel unloved or where you don't feel like

707
00:51:36,240 --> 00:51:41,200
you have somebody to confide in or to guide you, help me.

708
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:45,760
I will help you, you know, help me help you to Jerry Maguire that thing.

709
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:52,680
But the reason why this is important is you really want to be able to build a network

710
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:53,780
of people.

711
00:51:53,780 --> 00:52:01,560
You want to be able to build a kind of a backbone for what you're doing.

712
00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:06,880
For me, you know, my, my kids for the most part don't really care about the stuff that

713
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:07,880
I'm doing.

714
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:10,260
Like they, they know about it.

715
00:52:10,260 --> 00:52:15,680
But when I have had moments where I've been emotional or I needed to talk to them about

716
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:20,440
it, I have been able to, I have been able to, they're not really receptive to the day

717
00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:25,920
to day stuff and they think I'm kind of silly doing all the videos and stuff, but they have

718
00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:28,120
been supportive.

719
00:52:28,120 --> 00:52:34,280
The other people, my mom is a huge fan of me and it pushes me and it drives me and it

720
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:35,800
makes me want to do more.

721
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:39,960
And I, you know, she doesn't necessarily understand the ins and outs of all the video making and

722
00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:42,600
all this stuff, but I know that she appreciates it.

723
00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:47,120
I know that she watches what she can and you know, it's, it's one of those things where

724
00:52:47,120 --> 00:52:51,640
I know that if I went to her at any time and I said, okay, I need help with this or I'm

725
00:52:51,640 --> 00:52:56,800
having a hard time being motivated, my mom would be the first to, you know, give me,

726
00:52:56,800 --> 00:52:58,760
give me a pep talk.

727
00:52:58,760 --> 00:53:03,800
My sister a little bit less, but you know, these are people in my life that I have, I've

728
00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:07,200
kind of formed the foundation for what I'm doing.

729
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:14,480
And really even more so than those, my, my two best friends.

730
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:22,360
I've been friends with them both for 30 plus years and they have on multiple occasions

731
00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:27,760
said the, the things that have mattered the most to me.

732
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:34,960
One of the things, one of the sentiments that has really driven me and has really empowered

733
00:53:34,960 --> 00:53:42,040
me came from all, well, I have, I have two friends that I'm in constant contact with,

734
00:53:42,040 --> 00:53:46,160
like every week I talk to them and I have another one that I don't talk to as often,

735
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:53,800
but all three of them, when I first started to do the Tik TOK and the podcast, when I

736
00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:58,600
first started even talking about it, all three of them in separate conversations said the

737
00:53:58,600 --> 00:53:59,600
same thing.

738
00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:05,000
And it was, it was one of those moments where I realized that it was kind of like confirmation

739
00:54:05,000 --> 00:54:08,920
of what I was doing and the direction I was going in.

740
00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:12,520
And so I would, you know, I'd whether it be through text or whatever, I would be having

741
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:16,000
this conversation telling them, okay, so this is what I'm thinking about doing.

742
00:54:16,000 --> 00:54:17,000
I'm going to do this Tik TOK.

743
00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:19,120
I really want to start spreading this message.

744
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:25,840
You know, I really feel, and every, all three of them all said, it is really, really good

745
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:29,120
to have you back.

746
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:35,080
All of them had seen, all of them had lived through years and years of me being depressed

747
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:40,760
and all of them had seen me before that depression hit me.

748
00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:46,160
And so for them, me being passionate about something, me wanting to do something like

749
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:55,280
this, me being, you know, positive and excited was, they got to recall who I used to be.

750
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:58,760
And in that moment, that's when I realized that, you know, especially for like the Tik

751
00:54:58,760 --> 00:55:04,920
TOK channels, things like that, that my, my way to the future is by bridging that gap

752
00:55:04,920 --> 00:55:06,480
through that depression.

753
00:55:06,480 --> 00:55:08,040
I have to be able to tell those stories.

754
00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:13,800
I have to be able to make people understand how I got, you know, how I went from somebody

755
00:55:13,800 --> 00:55:17,680
that people really looked up to, somebody that people considered to be a leader to somebody

756
00:55:17,680 --> 00:55:26,520
that was sad and alone and crying out and ready to end himself, how that, that dissent

757
00:55:26,520 --> 00:55:30,360
happened and then how I'm where I'm at now.

758
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:37,040
So you know, it's really important for me that their sentiment is, is always in my mind.

759
00:55:37,040 --> 00:55:38,200
That is the network.

760
00:55:38,200 --> 00:55:46,660
That is the fallback is the people in my life that are saying, Hey, welcome back because

761
00:55:46,660 --> 00:55:52,840
they understand the value that I once had and the value that I am trying as hard as

762
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:56,320
I can to find again.

763
00:55:56,320 --> 00:55:58,280
And it, you know, it can be difficult.

764
00:55:58,280 --> 00:56:04,040
It truly is difficult, but you know, every day I'm setting these goals.

765
00:56:04,040 --> 00:56:10,120
I'm accomplishing these things and I'm trying to push not just myself, but others in a,

766
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:11,120
in a positive direction.

767
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:13,880
And I'm trying to make a difference in this world.

768
00:56:13,880 --> 00:56:16,600
The last thing we're going to talk about here and the last thing that you really can do,

769
00:56:16,600 --> 00:56:22,840
and this is, oh man, this is, this is the hardest one of, of any of these things that

770
00:56:22,840 --> 00:56:29,360
you can really do to work on, on, you know, maintaining your, your hope.

771
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:38,440
And that is, this is, I feel like such a hypocrite, even saying it, you really need to start to

772
00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:45,400
control your negativity and stop doubting yourself.

773
00:56:45,400 --> 00:56:52,360
There is nothing that is going to stop you from accomplishing or maintaining your dreams

774
00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:54,960
faster than yourself.

775
00:56:54,960 --> 00:57:02,880
There is no outside interference that is going to destroy what you're trying to build quicker

776
00:57:02,880 --> 00:57:05,440
and easier than you will.

777
00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:11,940
There is nothing out there, no person, no thing that will do more damage to you than

778
00:57:11,940 --> 00:57:14,680
you can in a very short amount of time.

779
00:57:14,680 --> 00:57:21,240
If you allow yourself to allowing yourself to fall into those pits of depression, allowing

780
00:57:21,240 --> 00:57:27,360
yourself to ruminate over things that you can't control, allowing yourself to believe

781
00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:32,960
that you are not good enough or you are not capable enough, allowing yourself to believe

782
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:38,480
what others may tell you that feeds into that negativity.

783
00:57:38,480 --> 00:57:43,840
Instead of believing in what you're doing and finding that positive energy and that

784
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:50,200
light that is there to guide you, you, you know, you allow others to kind of mess with

785
00:57:50,200 --> 00:57:52,120
your head.

786
00:57:52,120 --> 00:57:59,560
Any of that is going to stifle your ability to move forward, your ability to change your

787
00:57:59,560 --> 00:58:05,040
life, your ability to continue to push through whatever you're trying to do, whatever you're

788
00:58:05,040 --> 00:58:07,600
hopeful for.

789
00:58:07,600 --> 00:58:18,040
It is very, very, very, very exceedingly difficult to fight the world and yourself.

790
00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:20,480
That's impossible, really.

791
00:58:20,480 --> 00:58:24,640
You have to have, you have to have your own back.

792
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:26,200
You have to believe in yourself.

793
00:58:26,200 --> 00:58:33,080
And to a lot of people in this world, believing in yourself will look like arrogance.

794
00:58:33,080 --> 00:58:34,760
It'll look like bravado.

795
00:58:34,760 --> 00:58:41,000
It'll look like undeserved confidence because they don't understand it.

796
00:58:41,000 --> 00:58:46,440
They can't, they can't begin to understand how anybody could be so, you know, they just

797
00:58:46,440 --> 00:58:47,440
think they're right.

798
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:48,880
You know, that's, that's, I hear that a lot.

799
00:58:48,880 --> 00:58:55,040
I actually have heard that somebody has said that to me multiple times over the past few

800
00:58:55,040 --> 00:58:56,040
months.

801
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:57,040
You just think you're right about everything.

802
00:58:57,040 --> 00:59:02,960
Well, no, I don't, but I'm confident in what I'm seeing and what I'm saying.

803
00:59:02,960 --> 00:59:11,120
And I believe in myself enough that if I say something or I set myself on a path or I'm

804
00:59:11,120 --> 00:59:18,760
trying to give somebody advice, that, you know, I spend a lot of time working on it.

805
00:59:18,760 --> 00:59:25,000
I have every right to be confident and I'm not going to let somebody's doubting, somebody's

806
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:27,760
naysaying affect that.

807
00:59:27,760 --> 00:59:33,880
You know, if, if you get up every day and you go outside and you shoot a hundred jump

808
00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:39,960
shots on a basketball hoop, you're going to be pretty good at it after a while.

809
00:59:39,960 --> 00:59:43,360
And when somebody comes on there, they start telling you, you know, if you hit, if you

810
00:59:43,360 --> 00:59:46,840
hit a hundred of a hundred and you have somebody come in and start telling you, I don't know

811
00:59:46,840 --> 00:59:48,600
why you're so confident about that.

812
00:59:48,600 --> 00:59:52,320
I mean, are you, I, cause I work at it because that's what I do.

813
00:59:52,320 --> 00:59:54,880
I get up every day and I do that.

814
00:59:54,880 --> 01:00:01,240
I get up every day over the last three months, three plus months, I've gotten up every day

815
01:00:01,240 --> 01:00:08,000
and almost without fail, I've gone out and I've sat and I've recorded videos or I've

816
01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:14,520
talked to somebody on, you know, in indirect messages or I've, I've engaged with people

817
01:00:14,520 --> 01:00:23,080
in other ways where I know that I'm having a profound and positive impact on their life.

818
01:00:23,080 --> 01:00:27,040
I'm very, very proud of what I've done for these past three months.

819
01:00:27,040 --> 01:00:33,560
And I know that there is a ton more to come and I'm excited for it.

820
01:00:33,560 --> 01:00:40,920
So I just sit here and I think about these people in my life that have told me that,

821
01:00:40,920 --> 01:00:46,380
you know, they basically, they don't believe in what I'm doing or they don't believe in

822
01:00:46,380 --> 01:00:52,560
my ability to do it or, you know, they don't want to, they don't want to partake in the

823
01:00:52,560 --> 01:00:54,960
quest if you will.

824
01:00:54,960 --> 01:00:55,960
And that's fine.

825
01:00:55,960 --> 01:00:57,680
I've, you know, if you're doing your own thing, I get that.

826
01:00:57,680 --> 01:01:00,640
But for a lot of these people, it's just a matter of doubt.

827
01:01:00,640 --> 01:01:06,360
They just cannot believe that I'm, you know, I'm so arrogant to think that I could do this.

828
01:01:06,360 --> 01:01:08,760
Who are you to change the world?

829
01:01:08,760 --> 01:01:09,760
That's the sentiment.

830
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:17,320
Well, I'm me and I'm the only me that exists.

831
01:01:17,320 --> 01:01:19,040
And I don't think like other people.

832
01:01:19,040 --> 01:01:20,920
I don't feel like other people.

833
01:01:20,920 --> 01:01:24,020
I don't, I don't talk like other people.

834
01:01:24,020 --> 01:01:30,400
And so my voice is going to be heard because I don't sound like anybody else.

835
01:01:30,400 --> 01:01:33,600
The things I say aren't like anybody else.

836
01:01:33,600 --> 01:01:35,720
And I feel really good about that.

837
01:01:35,720 --> 01:01:39,960
And you know, a lot of you, I know some of you from Tik Tok that listen to the podcast,

838
01:01:39,960 --> 01:01:42,440
a lot of you have given me that confidence.

839
01:01:42,440 --> 01:01:46,840
A lot of you have instilled that confidence in me and have made me feel really, really

840
01:01:46,840 --> 01:01:49,200
fucking good about myself.

841
01:01:49,200 --> 01:01:54,480
And not in a way that's unhealthy where I'm, you know, I think I'm like the second coming

842
01:01:54,480 --> 01:01:59,520
or anything, but in a way that I just feel like I can make a difference.

843
01:01:59,520 --> 01:02:01,120
And I have made a difference.

844
01:02:01,120 --> 01:02:03,640
You've told me I've made a difference.

845
01:02:03,640 --> 01:02:08,640
And I appreciate that more than you can possibly understand.

846
01:02:08,640 --> 01:02:15,680
So when you're going through trying to maintain your hope, trying to remember what it is you're

847
01:02:15,680 --> 01:02:24,220
fighting for, trying to stay determined in your path, you have to, you have to start

848
01:02:24,220 --> 01:02:29,840
to destroy the parts of yourself that don't like yourself.

849
01:02:29,840 --> 01:02:32,280
And I mean that, I mean that word destroy.

850
01:02:32,280 --> 01:02:33,280
I mean that.

851
01:02:33,280 --> 01:02:37,120
It sounds aggressive to people, I know, but I mean that.

852
01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:39,100
You have to start to kill that shit.

853
01:02:39,100 --> 01:02:41,640
You have to stop doubting yourself.

854
01:02:41,640 --> 01:02:46,240
And these people around you that are going to feed that doubt, do not let them feed that

855
01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:47,240
doubt.

856
01:02:47,240 --> 01:02:52,600
Indignant, defiant, fight that.

857
01:02:52,600 --> 01:02:53,840
That's your new enemy.

858
01:02:53,840 --> 01:03:00,240
Your new enemy is your own self-doubt and the people around you that want to feed that

859
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:09,360
doubt with their jealousy and their lack of understanding and their inability to see the

860
01:03:09,360 --> 01:03:14,460
goals or the desires that you have.

861
01:03:14,460 --> 01:03:19,960
It's not your job to pull everybody with you all the time.

862
01:03:19,960 --> 01:03:25,320
It's really hard for me to say because that's my inclination, but you can leave the door

863
01:03:25,320 --> 01:03:26,320
open.

864
01:03:26,320 --> 01:03:29,040
You leave the door open for these people.

865
01:03:29,040 --> 01:03:39,000
You approach them and yourself with love, grace, understanding, appreciation, and everything

866
01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:41,680
will work out in the end.

867
01:03:41,680 --> 01:03:44,400
That's one thing I can promise you.

868
01:03:44,400 --> 01:03:46,480
I think we're going to go ahead and wrap it up now.

869
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:50,520
I think we've pretty much covered most of what I wanted to talk about and even some

870
01:03:50,520 --> 01:03:53,800
stuff I didn't really want to talk about.

871
01:03:53,800 --> 01:03:59,400
But I think we're going to go out with another quote.

872
01:03:59,400 --> 01:04:08,520
And this one is by a Greek Stoic philosopher, not necessarily well known for a lot of people,

873
01:04:08,520 --> 01:04:11,440
but his name was Epictetus.

874
01:04:11,440 --> 01:04:13,840
Epictetus.

875
01:04:13,840 --> 01:04:20,080
And kind of a weird word to say, kind of a weird name to say, I should say.

876
01:04:20,080 --> 01:04:24,480
But we're going to go ahead and end it there with a quote by Epictetus.

877
01:04:24,480 --> 01:04:31,240
And it is really, I don't know, for me it kind of hit home.

878
01:04:31,240 --> 01:04:40,920
I found this quote actually, it was in a book that I've actually had for like 20 years,

879
01:04:40,920 --> 01:04:42,040
25 years.

880
01:04:42,040 --> 01:04:48,360
It's just a book of quotes, and I was, I didn't want to sit at my computer, and I was just

881
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:51,800
flipping through this book, which I don't tend to use the books.

882
01:04:51,800 --> 01:04:55,120
A lot of times I'll just use the computer to find quotes and things like that.

883
01:04:55,120 --> 01:04:59,840
So I have these books though that I kind of go through and I reference.

884
01:04:59,840 --> 01:05:06,960
And I was sitting there thinking about, okay, well, Epictetus is going to be about hope,

885
01:05:06,960 --> 01:05:10,480
and I have to come up with something, I have to come up with these quotes because that's

886
01:05:10,480 --> 01:05:13,400
what I do, I like to do it.

887
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:19,640
So I just went through reading, and for some reason this was not in the hope section or

888
01:05:19,640 --> 01:05:20,640
anything like that.

889
01:05:20,640 --> 01:05:29,640
I don't know why, but it struck me as a quote that should very much be about hope.

890
01:05:29,640 --> 01:05:36,240
And he said, be careful to leave your sons well instructed rather than rich, for the

891
01:05:36,240 --> 01:05:42,680
hopes of the instructed are better than the wealth of the ignorant.

892
01:05:42,680 --> 01:05:47,840
And I know that maybe that was, you know, maybe it was in more of a like, you know,

893
01:05:47,840 --> 01:05:59,640
lessons to pass on, whatever section, but to me that quote defines what hope can be

894
01:05:59,640 --> 01:06:02,360
for us and how powerful it can be.

895
01:06:02,360 --> 01:06:04,600
So I'm going to read that one more time.

896
01:06:04,600 --> 01:06:10,500
Be careful to leave your sons well instructed rather than rich, for the hopes of the instructed

897
01:06:10,500 --> 01:06:14,920
are better than the wealth of the ignorant.

898
01:06:14,920 --> 01:06:21,080
The reason why I want to go out with that quote is because when we talk about, when

899
01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:26,440
I sit here and I wax poetically about my goal here with the podcast, and I talk about the

900
01:06:26,440 --> 01:06:31,960
hope that I have, and I didn't touch on a lot of the negative stuff.

901
01:06:31,960 --> 01:06:37,900
I'm going to full transparency here, I did record a part of this episode that was a lot

902
01:06:37,900 --> 01:06:39,800
more negative.

903
01:06:39,800 --> 01:06:42,560
I did not, I cut it out.

904
01:06:42,560 --> 01:06:46,040
That's one of the reasons why the episode came out a day later is because I went through

905
01:06:46,040 --> 01:06:53,440
and I was listening to it and I didn't want to leave people with hopelessness.

906
01:06:53,440 --> 01:07:00,960
I know that it's important that people understand the negative sides of it, but in the world

907
01:07:00,960 --> 01:07:07,320
we live in today and the way things are, I didn't want to bring people down with that.

908
01:07:07,320 --> 01:07:13,440
And so just being completely transparent here, this is actually, this is actually me going

909
01:07:13,440 --> 01:07:20,160
in and recording over something else because I didn't want to, I didn't want to do that

910
01:07:20,160 --> 01:07:21,480
to folks.

911
01:07:21,480 --> 01:07:23,520
You know what hopelessness is.

912
01:07:23,520 --> 01:07:26,640
You felt what hopelessness is.

913
01:07:26,640 --> 01:07:29,980
And you know the truth of the world.

914
01:07:29,980 --> 01:07:35,940
You can look around anywhere and see that feeling that people have.

915
01:07:35,940 --> 01:07:42,560
You feel it yourself and you know we're fighting against that.

916
01:07:42,560 --> 01:07:50,880
This quote hit me because so many people in the world today have fallen prey to the idea

917
01:07:50,880 --> 01:07:57,600
that you know if you just get out and you do the things that you're required to do to

918
01:07:57,600 --> 01:08:03,600
make the money that somehow that's winning.

919
01:08:03,600 --> 01:08:05,320
That's the be all end all goal.

920
01:08:05,320 --> 01:08:08,120
And don't get me wrong, having money would be great.

921
01:08:08,120 --> 01:08:11,160
I mean I wouldn't know, but having money would be phenomenal.

922
01:08:11,160 --> 01:08:13,640
It would be a wonderful thing.

923
01:08:13,640 --> 01:08:24,040
But you know it's said that money doesn't, I can't remember the quote right now.

924
01:08:24,040 --> 01:08:26,160
I can't believe I just blanked on that.

925
01:08:26,160 --> 01:08:32,920
Money doesn't change character, it reveals it.

926
01:08:32,920 --> 01:08:39,000
I know myself well enough to know that if this thing blows up and I start making money

927
01:08:39,000 --> 01:08:43,040
or I start to, you know people start to know me or whatever, I'm going to still be who

928
01:08:43,040 --> 01:08:49,080
I am because I don't know any other way to be.

929
01:08:49,080 --> 01:08:56,880
And so the idea of this quote of passing on good instructions, you know how to be, who

930
01:08:56,880 --> 01:09:04,240
to be, how to behave, how to love, how to appreciate, the lessons that I'm trying to

931
01:09:04,240 --> 01:09:10,800
really spread now, the message that I'm trying to spread, these are the things that matter.

932
01:09:10,800 --> 01:09:15,320
The money that gets passed on, all of the things that go with it, all of the things

933
01:09:15,320 --> 01:09:21,480
that go with you know society and fame, especially on social media, all of these kind of cheap

934
01:09:21,480 --> 01:09:32,360
things, they don't equal success, true success in a generational way.

935
01:09:32,360 --> 01:09:34,440
You know I'm not here for me.

936
01:09:34,440 --> 01:09:36,520
I'm not here making this podcast for me.

937
01:09:36,520 --> 01:09:39,600
I'm not here talking about all of these things for me.

938
01:09:39,600 --> 01:09:45,040
I'm here because I want to see a change on a much larger scale than just me.

939
01:09:45,040 --> 01:09:47,200
I can only do so much.

940
01:09:47,200 --> 01:09:48,360
You can only do so much.

941
01:09:48,360 --> 01:09:53,680
But if we do what we can do, we can make a difference in this world.

942
01:09:53,680 --> 01:09:55,480
And that's what that quote meant to me.

943
01:09:55,480 --> 01:10:01,040
That's how I read that is if I take my sons and my daughter, I mean obviously back then

944
01:10:01,040 --> 01:10:10,160
they didn't factor that in, but if I take my children and I teach them the right way

945
01:10:10,160 --> 01:10:20,680
to live their lives with honesty and love and positivity and appreciation and acceptance

946
01:10:20,680 --> 01:10:25,480
that I've done my job and it will work out.

947
01:10:25,480 --> 01:10:29,360
It may not work out for me in my life, but it will work out for them because they are

948
01:10:29,360 --> 01:10:37,480
leading with the principles and the pillars of being the best possible people they can

949
01:10:37,480 --> 01:10:38,480
be.

950
01:10:38,480 --> 01:10:46,280
They are getting the advantage of starting life with all of that inside of them.

951
01:10:46,280 --> 01:10:49,120
And that's not to say that life won't beat them down and that they won't lose their way

952
01:10:49,120 --> 01:10:55,080
or that they won't step off the path from time to time, but they will be successful

953
01:10:55,080 --> 01:10:56,080
with those things.

954
01:10:56,080 --> 01:10:58,280
And I don't mean financially, just in life.

955
01:10:58,280 --> 01:11:02,440
They will be happier and they will bring joy to the world.

956
01:11:02,440 --> 01:11:08,960
But if you just have money, if you just have fame, if you just have power, those are all

957
01:11:08,960 --> 01:11:15,560
great to a certain degree, but they're not going to equal change and they're not going

958
01:11:15,560 --> 01:11:18,960
to make, I mean think about the billionaires that we have in this world.

959
01:11:18,960 --> 01:11:22,040
Think about the people that have millions and millions and millions of dollars and think

960
01:11:22,040 --> 01:11:24,380
about the state of the world today.

961
01:11:24,380 --> 01:11:26,600
Those people are not making it better.

962
01:11:26,600 --> 01:11:28,720
Those people are not making it a better place.

963
01:11:28,720 --> 01:11:29,720
They could.

964
01:11:29,720 --> 01:11:31,260
They have the means.

965
01:11:31,260 --> 01:11:34,880
They have the ability, but they don't.

966
01:11:34,880 --> 01:11:40,400
So you're talking about people that haven't learned what's important.

967
01:11:40,400 --> 01:11:42,920
And then you have people like me who have nothing.

968
01:11:42,920 --> 01:11:45,200
I just have my voice.

969
01:11:45,200 --> 01:11:50,040
People like you that listen to this and all you have is your voice.

970
01:11:50,040 --> 01:11:52,080
We don't have the resources.

971
01:11:52,080 --> 01:11:56,500
We don't have the ability to do what these people do, but we can speak up.

972
01:11:56,500 --> 01:12:03,280
We can speak out and we can help and try and do to make changes in our lives and the people

973
01:12:03,280 --> 01:12:08,520
around us that will bring hope and courage into this world.

974
01:12:08,520 --> 01:12:16,040
If we do enough of it and enough of us are doing it, we will change this world together.

975
01:12:16,040 --> 01:12:17,040
We will.

976
01:12:17,040 --> 01:12:21,700
I promise you it will happen.

977
01:12:21,700 --> 01:12:23,920
Thank you all very much for listening.

978
01:12:23,920 --> 01:12:29,040
I know that I probably went a little bit long on this one, but just got to get it out.

979
01:12:29,040 --> 01:12:31,440
You know what I mean?

980
01:12:31,440 --> 01:12:34,760
Two weeks from now, we'll get out another episode.

981
01:12:34,760 --> 01:12:40,280
I'm still up in the air on the topic, but I will let everybody know on TikTok as soon

982
01:12:40,280 --> 01:12:42,600
as I nail it down.

983
01:12:42,600 --> 01:12:48,720
I've got a lot of reading to do, so there's a lot that is going to change.

984
01:12:48,720 --> 01:12:51,240
Also something to be excited about.

985
01:12:51,240 --> 01:12:58,600
I've had a few people now mention possibly coming on and doing an interview.

986
01:12:58,600 --> 01:13:05,400
If I do interview episodes on this podcast, those episodes will be longer.

987
01:13:05,400 --> 01:13:08,920
I'm not going to be able to do a real interview in an hour.

988
01:13:08,920 --> 01:13:14,720
Those episodes will be longer in length and hopefully more engaging than just hearing

989
01:13:14,720 --> 01:13:16,440
me talk for an hour.

990
01:13:16,440 --> 01:13:19,360
I just wanted to give everybody a heads up.

991
01:13:19,360 --> 01:13:20,480
Everything's loosey goosey.

992
01:13:20,480 --> 01:13:26,880
There's nothing being nailed down just yet, but this podcast that you're hearing now,

993
01:13:26,880 --> 01:13:31,120
just like the podcast that you episode one, they're growing and they're changing.

994
01:13:31,120 --> 01:13:34,360
I'm trying new things and different things each time.

995
01:13:34,360 --> 01:13:41,800
At some point soon, very soon, I'm going to be recording the podcast live.

996
01:13:41,800 --> 01:13:49,760
I will be streaming it on TikTok and possibly even on Twitch or YouTube.

997
01:13:49,760 --> 01:13:54,440
That's something for those of you that may want to watch that.

998
01:13:54,440 --> 01:13:57,680
That's something that I will be doing.

999
01:13:57,680 --> 01:13:59,240
Not as soon as I'd like it.

1000
01:13:59,240 --> 01:14:03,960
I would like it to be the next one, but we're probably talking, I'd say a month, month and

1001
01:14:03,960 --> 01:14:07,360
a half before I can get it done.

1002
01:14:07,360 --> 01:14:09,560
That is something that we're going to do.

1003
01:14:09,560 --> 01:14:11,400
Now you'll see everything then.

1004
01:14:11,400 --> 01:14:16,700
I'm not going to hide how my process is for creating.

1005
01:14:16,700 --> 01:14:22,360
It can be a little boring because I have to stop and check my notes and things like that

1006
01:14:22,360 --> 01:14:23,360
as I'm recording.

1007
01:14:23,360 --> 01:14:26,800
I just want to let everybody know that that is something that is going to be happening

1008
01:14:26,800 --> 01:14:27,800
very soon.

1009
01:14:27,800 --> 01:14:29,560
We've got guests coming up.

1010
01:14:29,560 --> 01:14:37,440
We've got live recording of the podcast coming up.

1011
01:14:37,440 --> 01:14:43,640
Things are changing and we're going to try to get this message out and be as positive

1012
01:14:43,640 --> 01:14:45,300
as we can be.

1013
01:14:45,300 --> 01:14:46,300
Thank you all very much.

1014
01:14:46,300 --> 01:14:48,400
I very much appreciate it.