Hello everybody, welcome back to the figuring out podcast. This is now episode five. It's now December
We are out of November and this new month brings with us a new friend
It's it's our friend Sam. You said the pod. I want to say friend. They shut up Sam. I hate you
This is not a we've talked to your intro do my intro. Okay. Wait, what am I saying?
Don't say your name we did that the first episode where I introduced y'all and then asked for your name
So don't say your name just do
What you're doing in school your current occupation and these yeah, you like what you're interested in
Don't say what school you go to?
Well, okay, so we're so I am going to a four-year college and I'm studying
Communications and I'm gonna minor in marketing
current occupation
Student good communications major. Oh, I talk a lot. That's crazy
Yeah
Occupation is being broke. No college student that too, but my current occupation is being broke
It's just straight up being that is that is my occupation relate down on the end. No, no, you can you you've been broken a lot?
Longer than all of us. I don't excuse for it other than poor spending habits. That's a terrible
I know that's what I say
Interest and hobbies
I'm a really big movie person. Yes huge movie person. Yeah
He could have helped me up. Yeah
I'm so disappointed in you there was the complete wrong movie you were thinking of everything wrong in that second episode
Hey, at least he listened. I'm pretty proud of that. The second episode is so disappointed
The second episode was a mess and we're not gonna talk about it
No, I'm like, why are they talking about films without me there? We were figured out about it about Alex
I kind of brought you up. I brought you up. Yeah, Alex brought you up and was like Sam's our movie guy
We should wait till he comes here to talk about movies
And we can we can talk about movies a little bit here. We're still figuring it out. Alex already said it loser
What?
I'm still kind of figuring things out. Yeah, you're new. Yeah, that's what we were hoping to talk about today
What it's like at a four-year college. None of us are at a four-year college as you know, and as we all know, but
I think I'm farthest from it. But um
Sam what you're in your what year you in?
Second year so I'm a sophomore and you're going into your no, you're not going into it. So I'm still be a sophomore this next
I forgot college. I forgot how semesters work
I know me too. It's just like high school
High school is already out of sight out of mind bro. It's gone
It's only different if you're like ahead or if you start in the spring instead of in the fall
But if you just go straight from high school to college, it's literally the same thing
Fall spring your
You're a freshman next year. It's sophomore next year's junior next year senior
Yeah, but like my older brother's graduating half-semester early. So he's only taking three and a half years
Smarty he graduates in a week and a half. Wow
Let's go
Andrew
He wants to do
um
Sports medicine right sports management. It is an M. It is an a sports medicine
But he wants
He should he should I don't know
Right now right now podcast on Spotify Apple music and YouTube anywhere else you find your podcast
This is why you've listened to it, you know, that doesn't make sense
I'm so already here. I'm so glad Sam's here, by the way. I finally don't have you only other logical
No, but Andrew's Andrew's kind of he's speaking things out right now
First how long have we been recording for four minutes?
Let's go. I know I'm like I got it. It's like a rite of passage. Yeah
I know but so he's graduating this December and
He wants to do a grad program if they pay him
So there are some grad programs that'll like pay you to come out to learn go to school
They'll get like pay for housing things like that. So he will earn money
For getting a master's so if he can get into a couple of those or into really one of them
He's gonna go back to school. But if he has to pay for it
So Sam, what do you what are you hoping to do with communications and stuff?
Yeah, you have a plan or is it just so kind of so communications is a very broad degree
You can think of it similar to
Like a business degree or a psychology degree both of those you can go just about anywhere with do just about anything. So my
My so my dad wanted me to do marketing
A lot of people wanted you to do a lot of people wanted me to do marketing. I
Clearly they're not good at marketing because I was not sold on the idea
Wow, oh good. Yeah. No, so I wasn't sold on the idea
So I'm like, you know what I can still get a marketing job with a communications major
And so I'm like, let's do that and that opens up other opportunities
So I'm doing that but I'm still getting the marketing minor because I know I would it's something I'd be good at
But I'm also looking for other avenues. I'm pursuing, you know, potentially
film area I'm actually considering
Auditioning for as a to do some acting stuff next spring
Not necessarily. Yeah, not even not even necessarily because I want to be an actor
more so because
It would be a good experience having done something like that
Working in like the film industry
Dramatic enough to be an actor
That I am
Absolutely, I got you there
I don't even know what you could be but you would be good at something
Mr. Dramatic
You'd be good at something
He'd be like the fat guy on the sitcom
What?
Next Kevin Hart
What did Kevin Hart?
No, Kevin James
Kevin James. Okay, that's that's better
Do you ever see the picture of him and he's got like the hands
Yeah
Shrugging
That's such a good photo
That one's good
So I'm considering doing some acting
Just as a
Acting just just as it would be a good experience
And it would help me like relate to actors better
Especially if I wanted to try my hand at directing or something
Yeah, actually having experience
And done it would give me a much better
Idea on how to actually
Direct. Yeah
And when you told me that
When I was over visiting you last time
I had said that it's a it's similar
With photography and stuff like that
Because like photos I've taken recently
I've modeled in my photos for my own photos
And it's a good way to know how to like
Properly post things
Yeah, figure it out yourself
Don't roll your eyes
You knew you were in for this when you joined
I knew what I was signing up for
So it's a good I can see that mentality
I think it's a really good mentality to have like
An example and be in that position
So that you know how to
Yeah, exactly
So yeah, I'm looking at auditioning for a couple
I actually I have one lined up that I'm auditioning for
Not sure when
But supposedly the shoot will be in March of next year
Oh cool
And so I'm excited for that one
I kind of hope I get that because
It's a lot of my friends working on crew
A lot of people I know
And the director she's super nice
She's helped me on some of my projects
And she was the one who
She was one of the ones who's very
Like very much encouraging me to do this
And she's a theater major as well
So that in itself
That in itself will give me so much
Like help and knowledge on
How to act
The director is literally a theater major
That is what she does
So I guess
Any extra curriculars
That kind of stuff clubs
Well I know you're in a club
Yeah, the film club
Short film clubs and everything
So we won't cover it too much
And I know you kind of were
Saying that you did
Figure out how to kind of be around this
We're not going to go into detail
But you did make a short film and that's really cool
Yeah, I wrote one with
A couple friends
I was the assistant producer
One of my co-writers was producer
And so I just kind of happened to fall into that realm
And help him out with a lot of stuff
Money, finding the locations
Communicating with crew
That's where all this money went
No, I was
I was telling Jake earlier that I got
We had like a hundred dollar budget
I literally spent like 98 dollars
And 86, like I milked the budget
I was so
I'm using every little bit
But I got the reimbursements for it
This past Monday
And
I was handed 98 dollars
In cash
So I was just walking around a college campus
With a hundred dollars in my wallet
And I'm like this would be a horrible time for me to get mugged
Are muggings common?
No, well
Not that I'm aware of
Dark underside to the college you go to
I was going to say at the college he goes to
I mean
I don't know, everybody that goes there can probably afford it
I wouldn't be surprised
Fair enough I guess
So that was funny
Was there another question that I forgot?
It was just extracurricular
Hobbies and that kind of stuff
The film is kind of his hobby
Anything other than
Film club that you've been doing at school?
You're learning Japanese
Is that on your communications degree?
So yeah
As a comm major
I have to take four semesters of the same
Language
In high school I
Took two years of Spanish
And I was homeschooled by
Like like
I was homeschooled by all of the simros
He's a loser
You're the loser
I'm the one who had the idea to start this
Hold up
You brought it back up but this is something
We've all talked about for like years
And who put it into action
That I'll give you
But you tried to say that you thought of this
Who spent the money?
Layton did cause he has it
And you don't
I'll take digs at myself
I put the idea into action
You were all planning on getting stuff
You went and bought a bigger mixer and everything
Cause Mr. Guitar Center
Over there made a good argument to you
I put it into action
I'm proud of you
I'm carrying it on your back Layton
Mr. Never Opened to close the podcast
I want to put our mixer
Into USB so the batteries
Don't die again
Those poor Amazon basics batteries
Getting ready to explode
We can do that real quick
I could do that
Plug it in real quick
We'll continue while Sam talks
As a call major
I have to take four semesters of the same language
In high school I took two years of Spanish
And I absolutely hated it
I said I would never
Under any SIGARM stains
At least in a school setting
Take Spanish again
I wasn't close to the idea
But it was just a horrible experience
And I didn't want to do it again
However I went from
Having a horrible experience
With one of the easier languages to learn
To choosing to learn
One of the hardest languages to learn
From an English speakers perspective
Oh absolutely
My professor was showing me this
It was a list of the hardest languages to learn
On a scale
Japanese is literally the hardest
There's like three different dialects
In Spanish
I'm not sure
There's like three different dialects
Oh my god
Absolutely
There's Katakana
There's Hiragana
Hiragana is like the native written dialect
That's the easiest way to say it
It's like the ABC's
Then you got the Katakana
And Katakana is
What is he doing?
I'm trying to do it on the day
I'm working on a car over here
All of a sudden we're going to hear
Zzzzzzzz
So Katakana has all the same sounds
As Hiragana
I've heard of Katakana
So Hiragana like
For example Ka, Ke, Ki, Ko, Ku
Right?
It's just like a bunch of different sounds
And
That you have
Characters for them
Katakana, you have different characters
For the same sounds
And those characters
Are used for words that
That was not originally in the Japanese
Language that they've taken from
Outside
Is it only those words?
That's what specifically Katakana is used for
So Hiragana and Katakana
Are the exact same sounds
Different characters
Katakana is used for outside
Words brought into Japan
Whereas
Hiragana is like all the native written dialect
And then the third one is Kanji
Essentially
The easiest way to put this is
A Chinese dude came in and was like
This is too complicated, let me simplify it to you
And started like
In somewhat combining Hiragana
To make it more simple
However, it makes it a lot more complicated
To learn
That was darn Chinese
Whoa, look, once you know it
It's, it
Kanji does make things easier to write
Because it simplifies it a lot
If you know it
It makes it a lot harder to learn
Because it adds an entire other
Dialect you have to learn
And the other problem is like
The readings
Of it changes so much
So you'll have one specific character
In Kanji that you can read
Like three different ways based on context
I was about to say, is it like context?
Based on context or based on what the other
Hiragana and
Kanji are around it
Like you can use like
A Kanji character by itself
Could mean one thing, then you combine it with another
And it could have a different reading
And like a different meaning
Sounds like a nightmare for a dyslexic
So we're just gonna, we're gonna leave it at that
Because we don't need to get even further into Japanese semantics
Yeah, I'm gonna get judged by my own
We can have a
We can have a segment on like YouTube or something of Sam
With a blackboard and it's, this is Japanese
For beginners, what?
I am not qualified in the slightest
I can vent about it all day long
I'm not in the slightest to teach it
Absolutely not
Is the camera actually recording still?
Video may be fine
Technical difficulties
It may just be our monitoring
It's crazy, you got a big freaking wire
Honestly, I'm just
Yeah, okay
He didn't think about the fact that he's got a really long wire that he can still bring with him
How was I supposed to plug it in with like one hand?
Honestly, I'm just too sexy and the camera just
Kind of handle it anymore
I guess
Sam, we gotta get you out of here
Oh, my bad, sorry
Alright, that's the end of the fifth episode with Sam
Bye, Sam
Alright, thanks for listening everybody
My cuteness is just overloading
It's not cute, oh yeah
Femboy you
It's an ongoing joke I have
It is, it is
Just like his ongoing joke that he hates me
Which is true, I'm like his test dummy
He has to send all the hatred my way
And he sends it to other people
Sam's my punching bag for Layton
I warm up on Sam so I can come here and dog on Layton the whole time
You're so mean
You have to keep me around though, you can't get rid of me even though you hate me so much
Because the thing is
If you get rid of me, then you have to start hating on someone else
And you can't hate on Alex because he's the gem of the group
Exactly, he's the best of us all
And you can't hate on Layton because Layton's your sugar daddy
Layton's the one I hate on already too
Layton's the final product
I can't hate on him, he can't be the test and the final
That's fair
Hey Layton, Layton
Don't ever spend money on him again
It's becoming more apparent
Hey, hey, hey
I'm always available
Sam's like
Come here
Just walks off with him
Hey you can't steal my girl
He just sees me as a walking wallet
I got his sugar daddy open
You guys have seen Gravity Falls right?
Yeah, I have
I remember that episode where it's how Grunkle Stan sees the customers
And they were just walking wallets
And there's one, it's a kid getting off a ride
And he's like, I don't feel so good
And he opens, it's like the wall opening
And the coins just come pouring out
That's what I thought of when Sam was saying that
You know, Layton's a walking wallet
Can you throw up on the podcast right now?
No, I'm not gonna throw up
I was yawning
I was just yawning
Later in post
Let's just have you freeze
Where you have your mouth open
And I'll go in and I'll draw
I don't know if you can even see it
Because I tried to cover it, maybe I didn't do a good job
Do that real quick
Okay, ready?
Okay, perfect
For audio listeners, we were just making
Gestures like we were throwing up
Or Layton was
I did too, I didn't even give him an example
Oh, you didn't give him an example?
I didn't say anything
Stop taking a valuable time
Hey guys, we're getting off track
Hey, that's your fault, not mine
What do you mean it's my fault?
Anyways, we're st- stop talking
No, you do it to Layton all the time
It's only fair that someone talks to you
He's gonna keep going, Jack, just keep trucking
Okay, I don't know how you do it, Layton
Well, he doesn't do it, that's the thing, he just gives up
Exactly
It just comes naturally
Anyways, so Sam, at this four year college
It's kind of known as a party college
Have you been to any parties?
Not a party guy
No, I know people who have
I could very easily get into the scene if I wanted
One of my roommates got home at like 3am
After a party
Your apartment always smells like weed
It's so bad
It is, it is
It's one particular person
The guy with the shine above his door
That's a whatever
And then the other one
Yeah, parties and drinks
Not into that?
Nah, I respect it
I'm glad I'm not going to four year college
I'm terrified of what I'd say if I'm drunk
Someday when we're all 21
I'll bring some of the podcast
I am lowkey terrified
I think I'm just gonna spill all the beans
Beans about what?
What kind of beans? Refried?
Or baked?
See what I have to deal with
What do you mean what you have to deal with
You signed up for this
You didn't have to buy that mixer
It's true
You're supposed to be supportive Alex
Alex was playing devil's advocate
Because Sam's not
Alex always plays devil's advocate
I always play devil's advocate
Can I say? It's just who I am
Jake is being mean so I have to be nice to you
You got called out
Did you not just hear him?
He has to
I don't care
Layton gets crap from everybody
So he has to take it
I take it
That was a topic we were going to talk about
Layton getting dogged on by everybody
We already covered that on the last episode
Briefly
Layton was like
I don't want to sound like the victim
Or anything
I got the glasses so I can do it now
But
I don't feel like I sound like a victim
I'm going to be honest Jake
I've waited years for you to have glasses
Your entire family has it
I have been waiting for years
I can't wait for the day
You talk about it all the time though
You would talk about it all the time
I pride myself on it
Let's pass the glasses around
Passes the glasses
While we pass the glasses around
It's such a low prescription I can't even sell
It's not really much of a
You had another question for me
You actually look pretty good
Thanks
Except that they're leaning up
That's the point
Just as a joke
You're a goofy little guy
I'm partly being sarcastic
I'm partly being genuine I promise you
I'm laying back on
Jake just turned on his glasses
Alright guys, let's get back on track
Continuing, quarter college parties
I did make brownies once
People thought it was weed
I'm not surprised
This is a story, this one's fun
I was
Dude, I hadn't even been
It was like the first week
of school dude
Last year, my freshman year
I was in a dorm with some friends
The dorm had a kitchen
At the community kitchen
My friends were like, hey
Let's go to Walmart real quick
Let's grab some supplies for brownies
Let's make brownies
I was the one who made the brownies
The other ones are the ad
Everyone else was playing Just Dance
on the Switch
It was something like that
I don't even remember
I think they were playing Smash at one point too
Also, even better game
We should play Smash together
I'd be down for that
Yeah, so
I was pretty much the one baking the brownies
But I wasn't the one who paid for it
I was like, not my brownies
But I'm the one making them
People would come up and ask
Hey, can I get a brownie?
I'm like, sorry buddy
I'm just the cook, I can't actually give it away
You can have a brownie
If you tell me what the temperature of the oven is
You know what I had to preheat this thing too?
Put in some work and maybe then
Yeah
But no, the amount of guys
That obviously
Were just looking to get
A little fix
Just a little
I just need a little bit, man
Just shaking
I'm like, sorry to disappoint you guys
But they're just brownies
He just pulled a megaphone
I swear, one guy looked so sad
I'm not even kidding
He was so sad
I felt kind of bad
He was looking for that za za bro
So, on the topic of that
A lot of the stuff
With college and all that stuff
You know, the big thing is drinking
We eat all that stuff, but that's not the focus right now
I wanted to kind of touch on
The idea of wasted youth
Now that we've got Sam here and he's at this
You know, he's at a four year college
He's wasting his youth
Actually, no, he's doing quite the opposite
And that's what I think is really cool
That's why I wanted to talk about this
I kind of want to ask
Pick all of y'all's brains real quick about this
But I'll start with Sam since he's
Here for this episode
What do you think of when
I say wasted youth?
What comes to mind?
It could be literally anything
Just keep it brief
Maybe you need to be more specific
No, that's not even that
That's the concept
I don't want to say it because I'm going to feel bad
What?
Jake
That was so dumb
Oh, he's about to go off
No, no, no
Let's keep it brief and not get too deep
No shots towards you at all
Shots about to come
Look, so we have
Alex knows what he wants to do
He wants to be a pilot
He goes to a two year university
He gets his associate's degree
Thank you
Layton got like certificates for
He doesn't have any
He doesn't have any education
He was working on them
He got a job
Fair enough, he went straight into the workforce
I'm getting a four year education
Since last year
Jake, you have been
Wobbling back and forth
On what you want to do
Which is what a lot of people do
I'm not like crapping on anyone
But you spend so much time
Like, oh, I don't know if I'm going to enjoy this
I don't know if I'm going to enjoy this
Try it
Let me ask you this
How is that wasted youth?
That sounds like lack of direction
Not wasted youth
That's more what I see
I think it's both pretty similar
That's why I'm trying to wobble
That's why I'm wobbling
I think about it
I'm doing some
Now you're trying things
That's the thing
I'm talking about this age range
When we were talking about
What we want to do
There were a few years
In between high school and stuff
But a lot of that was in high school
Where it was
What's going on
And coming out of that
After high school, what have you done?
I worked
How long did it take you before you started working at Discount Tire?
When did you start?
How many different jobs?
I had two other jobs before that
Was it only two?
There was Ace, there was the doggy daycare
The one day APPS
I forgot about that
My dad doggated you for that
You went to
Same school as Alex
For one semester
And now you're working
The point I'm making
Is that you're hopping back and forth
And yeah, you're right
There is a lack of direction
But you're talking about wasted youth
And it's more so just wasted time
You're not really
You're barely dipping your toes in
To try something before you moved on
That's what I'm talking about
I'm not going to spend a year doing something
That's not what I'm saying
I'm not saying you should spend a year
That's the issue with this
I guess I shouldn't say the issue
That's not what I'm trying to say, sorry
I tried things
Like you said
And I didn't like it
So I'm doing something else and I'm looking in other directions
And that's the thing, I don't have a definite direction right now
But I'm going in some direction
And that's what I've been doing
I've been trying different directions each time
No, no, yeah, I agree
The more so, the point that I'm making
Is that with everything that you've tried
Um, sorry
Same's getting heated
No, no, no, no
Gotta cool off, roll up the sleeves
So, so, okay, let's put this
It's about to punch you, that's what
Yeah, same, reach out, ah
Wasted youth
Shut up
Every time I've talked to you
About what you want to do
It's, in the past year or so
It always changes
You're always like, oh, I'm going to
Go to two year university
To get my associate's degree
Oh, I'm going to do welding
That has been brought up about five times
You've been
You've brought that up about five times
We've talked about HVAC, we've talked about
An electrician, we've talked about a lot of things
You never
You really haven't tried it
Now you're, I think, did you say HVAC
Or did you say HVAC, HVAC, yeah
So now you're looking, you're actually going to go try
The point being is over the past year
You've talked about so many things
You haven't really tried
Any of those
About all the, the only one that you did for a semester
Was, was you went to a two year university
Um
For one semester, but he tried it
He tried it for one semester, but you've talked about
A lot of options, and you
Really haven't given many of those time
Until now, until now, now you're giving
So, the more so the point
I'm not like trying to crap on you, more so the point is
Uh, that I'm trying to make is
The wasted youth
Is just not trying things
Is people just not actually giving
Something a shot, that's what I'm trying to say
Um, cause if you're not, like you
I know so many people
Um, who are just stuck working
Low income jobs, because they don't try
Anything else, that's the wasted youth
When I think wasted youth
I'm sorry, go on
I was gonna say, this is like last thing
I guess we'll say before we turn to Alex
Cause I think we've grown on this
Well no, but he started talking
I gotta take the lead, I'm telling you
I'm telling you, bro
Bro, it's a conversation, we don't need all that
So, I will say this
You wanna go next? Yes
Okay guys, come on, hold on a second
I think one thing that
I can
I don't wanna say is like the main
Reason, or use as like an excuse
Or anything like that, but that was
When I was in my relationship
And that was my
That was my main focus
In those two years, was
The relationship I was in
And I jumped all over different ideas
And I didn't try anything
Because I was so wrapped up in
I agree
I feel that
I 100% agree with that
So that's why I find it hard to kind of like
Agree with you a little bit
Because it sounded
Yes, it still sounds more like lack of direction
But also because
A lot of that time was spent
Wrapped up in a relationship
More than it was a
Like, figuring out
I mean, that's something else we can talk about too though
Yeah, and that's for another time
I have a plan for that episode
But I'm thinking later down the road when February comes up
And Valentine's Day comes up
That is perfect
And on top of that gives me a little more time
To kind of like, get over things
All I'm gonna say about that though
Is like, if you're
Sacrificing time that you're
Personally growing and working on your
On your own self and on
Your career goals
Then it's probably not the best idea
Not everybody's aware enough of that during the relationship period
So that's all I'll say about that
Because that's relating to what we're talking about
Oh, I'm sorry
We were trying
Okay guys
I'm still trying to get my point across
And then you two are over here having your own mini conversation
Everybody's talking in my ears and everything
I think of wasted youth
And this is probably not gonna be popular with a lot of people
But honestly, I think wasted youth
Is kind of similar to what Sam did
I just feel like partying is
Wasting time
It's just a total waste of time
It depends on the party, in my opinion
Like what?
If we were to get together
That'd just be a hangout
And I was about to say, and invite a bunch of friends
That like
Extended friends
That's why I mean the type of party
Because college parties, and your typical idea of a college party
Where there's like
All sorts of stupid stuff going on
That I can agree with
When I hear party, that's what I think of it
But there's different types of parties
And that's why I thought that
If you're getting your grades and you're learning
I don't care what you do
Hey, you know what? Still don't do drugs
I agree, still don't do drugs
But I'm just saying
I think that's wasted youth
Is that you're not actually
Making any progress
And a lot of people make the argument
I gotta do it when I'm young, you know
Because I'm still figuring everything out
Whatever it is, you know
But I disagree
I will agree, I think that's kind of a lame argument
Because that's the same logic
That'll get you killed
I was kind of thinking that
That's kind of what I was going to say
Like actually having fun when you're a kid
But I was leaning more towards young not being
Like upper high school in the college age
But more like actual childhood
Like late
Like probably eight years old
Into like your earlier middle teenage years
How would you waste that youth?
Man, that's a really tough thing
Yeah, because that's the thing
When you're younger
You aren't focused on spending your time
Doing things you love
You're not even aware of the fact that
I should be learning what I love
I didn't know what I wanted to study
In college till literally
Like the end of the spring semester
Before I started
Like literally the end of my senior year of high school
Is when I'm like, okay, I know what I'm going to try and study
So wasted youth is like
A certain
You're not upset
He's taking lead
Let's go, Leighton
Leighton's figuring it out over here
I had to because Leighton was upset earlier
But it's an age
It's definitely an age I'd say
When you say wasted youth
I'd say that starts at probably around 17 to 18
And then onward
Because at that point you're looking for
What you're going to do for the rest of your life
Exactly
If you're not like trying things out
That's kind of what I was saying
If you're not like trying things
If you're not experimenting
Seeing what you like, seeing what you don't like
That's when you're wasting it
Because you're wasting time to learn what you enjoy doing
Kind of going back to what wasted youth is
Especially for the age range
Because you guys were all thinking more our age
But I was thinking a lot younger
I guess thinking about it for a second
We did say youth
Thinking about it from my point of view
I guess it would be not sitting inside
Like actually getting out and having a child
I guess that's that outdoorsy part of you
I think it's okay to
Stay inside and play video games sometimes
I mean I still played video games growing up
I played Flash games, Roblox
All that stuff
But I still went out and I had my own adventures
I actually had fun
I did cool stuff
All those times you snuck around on the golf course
It built up character and it actually added something to me
It's stories that can be told
Build good friendships
Sleepovers in our underwear in the tents
Y'all's dads or whatever
Have told you stories of their childhood
And so then we're like oh yeah I saw
I built this amazing Minecraft house all day
Spent 10 hours on it
My dad's like oh yeah
I rode horses out on the field
Or one time I was riding
Dirt bikes with my dad and you know crashers
This whole thing
They always have a story to tell
My dad's was mostly baseball
Snow, snow, snow
That's what Iowa is
You need something of value to you
Something hearty in your life
I think that's a good idea
I think that's an interesting take on it
Because like Alex had just said
We were all thinking like this age right now
And Alex was on this whole page
I think that's an interesting idea
Because that is
That actually is
Very defining years
Without even realizing it
That's what you
Your whole life shapes you
Think of the next generation
Growing up that is spending all their time
Indoors and not in the space
We've already talked about this generation before
And we all sounded like boomers when we did
So we're not gonna go there
I'm just saying
Sam is a listener over there
Let's move on
Hold on I got something
Do you want to do it now or do you want to do it now
Like I said I meant to tell you like we'll get to it
I know but I'm trying to move it along
Because we're stuck
I was still gonna talk
I told you guys that was the main
You interrupt late in every episode
It's my turn
Okay
Let's slow down
What is your idea
I was gonna say
Wasted youth in my idea
And opinion is kind of a mix of
Leighton's and Sam's
Because I think it's the idea of like
Not living
A life where you're trying new things
In a healthy way
And that's where the healthy
Parties and stuff like that
Drugs, alcohol, whatever
That's gonna screw you over
Especially right now
Because that's what you're gonna get stuck in
That's what you're gonna define yourself in
And instead of
Say my example
Instead of photography
Instead of a podcast
Instead of my friends
Instead of outdoors
Instead of
Communication, instead of technology
Your job and everything like that
They're defining themselves
In whatever they can do
To get away from the reality
Instead of improving your reality
They're running from it
Make your reality something good
Everybody that is trying to live fast
Is trying to get away from something
That's a good point
That's kind of what Sam and I
I think we're saying
There's a difference between live fast
And like the other idea
Fastly living
There's a difference between stuff like that
Where it's live fast
In a healthy way and live fast
In a like
Like I'm in college
I need to try everything
One means you're drug addict, one means you're using bolt
Anyway
But that's the thing
I think it's important to
Focus on you as a person first
And build connections
And stuff like that
And that's the wasted youth part
Is that you're wasting your youth
In things that are gonna
Tear you away from the things that you're gonna be good at
That you're gonna find passion in
You're gonna find interest in
That way we all have the same idea
Yeah, agree
Okay, so
Speaking of college
Sam has somebody that he's been talking to
And it's happened
She happens to be
Our number one fan
So guys, we've got our first fan mail
We've got our first
Are you guys official now?
Nice, so we've got our first fan mail
From Sam's girlfriend
Oh wow
Okay, Layden
I didn't see
I was looking at the bags
He was looking at the little
Okay, let me describe
Morgan
Hi Morgan
I swear I'm being safe
I didn't know if you looked at the tag
I thought he was passing them down
No, I'm giving it to everyone but you first
Oh my tag
I got it now
So these are goody bags
That Morgan made
And I was
At her house the other day
We made cookies, so there's a chocolate chip cookie in there
We made peppermint bark, which I need y'all to try
While we're here
Did she mainly make the cookies or did you
It was like pre-bought at the store
But I'm really good at rolling them into balls
He made brownies, so he could make cookies
I don't trust him
What do you mean? I trust you, Sam
Despite hating you
I need y'all to try the peppermint bark
There's a few other things in there
Should we do that first?
Japanese Kit Kat
I'm going to tear mine apart later because I don't want to make a mess
So I need all of y'all
The peppermint bark should be
In the, yeah that's it
Okay
What a sad night to break a race's bracket on
Seriously
Y'all ready?
Y'all gotta try this because
Ooh it's soft
Ooh that's good
Ooh you got some spicy in it
Spicy
What's the spicy?
I don't think you should have any spicy
I was like, wait where's the spice?
That's awesome
So yeah, you're welcome
I know you're not that great with spice
So let me tell y'all
Something
Jake, I don't think you know this
You're the only one who might
So there is this
It was like a lollipop that Morgan had
Got up at
Yeah, up near
Where I live
And it's like a spicy
Lollipop and it's like, I can't remember
What it is on the
Scoville
It's bad
And so there's like a challenge
You gotta leave it in your mouth for like five minutes
Oh my gosh
It's hot
And hailed it
It's in your throat and it's not good
But it's bad
And so when we were making the peppermint
Barque, Morgan had the evil idea
That we crush up
The rest of the lollipop that we had
And so we mix it in with
Part of the
The peppermint Barque
It's very
Cinnamon-y
And so
So we mixed in
It's
The spicy lollipop, it's called Satan's Toe
It's called Satan's Toe
I've heard of that one
It's called Satan's Toe and so we mixed it in
With some portions of the peppermint
Barque and we gave a few people
The spicy and we're like
Alright we gotta give it to Jake and Alex
But I said we're not gonna give it to Lampis
I know he can't handle spice
That spice is good
I'm not gonna eat anymore
Cause I'm not too hungry after
No that's fair, that's completely fair
And then there's a few other things
A few other Japanese things
Gotta get the culture in there
Correct for our friend learning Japanese
Yeah I guess
So Morgan is half Japanese
And half American
Alright another shout out to Morgan
For this stuff
Thank you very much
Thank you for the fan mail Morgan
I'm just doing this to anger her
I hope it does
It won't
I doubt it
Yeah I think that was a good little
Good little
Instruction from
Heavier conversation
So movies right?
So yeah
Just um
Hold on
Like I had mentioned before
Where are we at?
We got plenty
We got time
I did want
The latter half of this podcast
To be about
That little
That kind of more serious topic
Of how to spend our youths
Because that's the thing
With this podcast
That we've mentioned in other episodes
That's the way we kind of started this
Yes to goof around, yes to have fun
But also to talk about how we
Are growing, how we
What it's like growing up
Starting it up, but man that doubles toe
My tongue's a little swollen right now
You all really only want to do the serious stuff
I'm sorry but it's a good topic
Right now
I think it's fitting for us to
Talk about that especially while you're here
That's fair
Yeah
I'll come onto you anytime
Wow
Morgan you heard that
I did not advance, alright
I did not advance on your territory
I think that's an idea
That I kind of wanted to touch on
How to spend our youths
And kind of what we
What we think is a proper way
At this point I need clarification
Are we talking youths? Like Alex is talking youths?
No, we're talking about
How to spend our young adult lives
There you go, that's a lot better
What do you guys think is a good way
To live our lives
Right now and what do you guys think is the best
I guess best way
To grow up right now
You've got your hand raised
Yes teacher
Good school boy over there
I was just going to say that
I feel very
Strongly about it that if you don't
Know what you want to do then yes
Go to college but if you know what
You want to do and that doesn't necessarily
Require college to get in the door
At least then maybe you should try
It before you actually go to college
You've definitely got the experience
Of that right now
You went to school
To my understanding briefly, is that what
I heard Sam talk?
I'm about to certificate
I did briefly experiment around
With getting a certificate
You took that direction and then
You got into a company doing something
You love and I think that's a good
Advice
That's something I should have mentioned
Advice for the listeners and stuff like that
Which we can end on a little more
That's why I wanted to go first
That was a really good point
Sam D
Me and you easily
We already have, we could go into a
Backing board
I'll keep this short and simple, do drugs, drink alcohol
I'm kidding
That's a joke
That's not a joke
No, no, I'm totally serious
No
I actually 100%
Agree with Layton
Especially if you don't know what you want to do
Not even necessarily a four year college
Even just doing your associates degree
Community college
That in itself
Would be very beneficial because
You're getting yourself started
But just doing something
Not just sitting at home
Or
Playing video games, working at McDonald's
For the next two years of your life before you realize
Oh crap, I have to actually figure something out
Just do something
Alex, do you have anything?
Pretty much
Exactly the same honestly
I guess what I said can be applied for
Higher age range as well
I think
Sorry, I didn't know if you were
This is how conversation works
Kind of talk over each other a bit
There's no water to it
Not when you do it all the freaking time
I knew you were going to say something
Not when Layton doesn't get any words out
I am here to protect my sugar daddy
Yes
I almost said something that would have gotten me cancelled
In this day and age
I can't say it
Defending Layton like that
Makes me feel
Okay, anyways
I think the best way to kind of like
The best way to kind of grow up
And avoid wasting your youth like that is
Similar to what you guys said but I think
Outside of the career
Options
Maybe it's just the way
With where I am right now
Finding what you love
Do what you passion
Find the passion
Because once you find your passion
It's common to find what you want to do
Where you want to go, all that stuff
Right now, I'm heavily considering
Photography
But I'm still doing HVAC
Why do you think I'm doing communications?
It's literally talk
That's my only skill
Layton is working in tech, which you love doing
Speaking is the only thing I know how to do
Trust me, we've known this
I just took my water bottle instead of my mic
I dropped one
Alex clearly is not good at speaking
Alex is clearly not good at speaking
I'm actually a good public speaker
You're not good at talking
I let him scowl for a while
When I'm in the shower
Speaking to your water
Your shampoo bottles on the wall
He's singing
Thank you, thank you, thank you
All of them clattering on the floor
He's just singing in there
I used to
What songs?
Let it go, 100%
I used to sing Minecraft parodies
Minecraft parodies in the shower?
That's good
What a vibe
I think that's a big way
A big thing to keep in mind
As you grow up is that
Yes, go A direction
I agree because that's what I'm doing now
Doing HVAC
But I've also got photography classes on my schedule
It's doing something
Doing A direction
But also following my passion
I would also be a really good example of that
I'm going for a communications
major, I'm going for a marketing
minor, I'm following that path
However, at the same time
I am also experimenting in the film
industry, I'm also trying my hand
seeing what I like, what I don't like
So I'm pursuing A route
But I'm also seeing what other opportunities
lie ahead of me
Kind of funny, sorry, I was going to say
Because you were talking about like
Going to college for something, you actually like trying
something like that
Because my degree isn't specific to what
I'm doing, like I don't even need a degree
to fly airliners
Oh my gosh, I got my pepper stuff in me
in my mouth
It stays there forever, it's Satan's
Hope for a reason, dude
You just want to keep on sucking
I hate you
It's kind of funny
This next semester, spring semester
I'm taking things
Two classes that are entirely
unrelated to anything
I might be doing
a class on construction
materials testing
And then one on Linux, like the operating
system, I'm super excited
I can help
You don't know anything about Linux? Yeah, I do
How much? Well, I mean, not enough to teach
a class, but enough to probably help you
As well as I know your mom, oh my gosh
I'll be good at tech
Layton can do internet, I can kind of do
Linux
You've got your Raspberry Pi Pico
that you can do too
I know, but you've got circuits
like circuiting and everything like that
Physical electronic circuits and stuff
So, are you
You're finished with your thought, right? I don't want to interrupt
It's just kind of funny, I'm glad you get some
Shut up, Sam, I'm going to interrupt you all the time
This is the only episode you're going to
be on after this, you're done
Kick him off
You can't kick him off
There's a vote
I'll just kick you off the Discord or something
It sucks
I'm sorry
You kicked me out once
You know what, I'm going to fin Jake
Go ahead, Jake
I really should
I'm sorry, Layton, see we're all figuring out
Shut up
It all comes together
I think that's a big part
of the growing up thing is
Do what you love, and that's the thing
I guess I kind of want to just say real quick is
Do what you love
And love what you do
You can't pursue stuff like
Parties and drugs
I got a major in alcohol
Maybe you just want to get into brewing
What I want to do for a living is
Drugs dealing, come on
Shut up
I'm asking a solid question for all our
drug dealers out there
I'm going to go in and edit you out of the scene
And I'm going to delete your track
And it's just going to be us talking
That's fair
I would do that too
Yes, so I think
That's something that
Is another, I guess
Going into advice
Stay away from that stuff
Just waste time, that's all it does
All it's going to do is take you away from the things
That you should be doing, the things that you
Probably want to be doing
Having fun doesn't mean wasting time
If you find the thing that you love
Then it's not a waste of time to be doing it
And
No, no, no
I have a question
This is
To play devil's advocate
You say if you find the thing that you love
Then you do that instead
What if
What you love
Don't do is
Drugs
Stop, come on
I'm muting you
This is me partially joking
Genuinely
Because they're like don't do that
It's not a waste of time, just find what you want to do
Find what you love
So now I am curious
Say that someone says that is what they love
What's your response
I got a good response for this
There's a time and place
There's no time and place for drugs
Well, let me
That's a good point that you make
To a degree
Like I said, devil's advocate
A lot of people, I will say a lot of people
In our age will probably say something like that
I think that's a good
Idea and I don't have
I said
Having fun doesn't mean wasting time
But that doesn't mean
All fun isn't wasting time
Some fun is
The reason I ask this
Especially with our generation
You can't just say actually that's not true
Here's the facts
A lot of people our age
Completely disregard the facts
So we're having
This conversation
There's going to be people listening about our age
Who might have that opinion and that view
And they're not just going to be like, oh, they're saying this
But that's not what I believe
Because I truly enjoy this
That's why I ask the question
I will say and I think is building off of
Latens a little bit
Like they said
There's a time and a place
But I think
Specifically someone our age
Don't just wait until you're older
And then you're going to rush
To chase something
That's what I meant
Especially when it comes to alcohol
That's what I meant by
That's what I meant by it
The kind of thing of like
If that's what you love doing
Then clearly you haven't tried anything else
Clearly you have given up on the other options
That you have because
Things that are
The reason I say that is because
Alcohol, drugs of any kind
That stuff changes your perception
It's not something you actually love
It makes things more fun
It takes your mind
Off of certain things
And that is the problem
It's a distraction
It doesn't matter if that's what you love doing
Because if you love doing that
Then clearly you haven't found something that actually brings you joy
Yeah
I like that
When I say a time and a place, I guess that's what I was meaning
It's more artificial joy
I'm trying to say
I think that's what it is
It's drugs and alcohol and stuff like that
That's a pretty good result
That was just a question that I figured I'd ask
It gives you a fake happy
It amplifies the small stuff
Oh my gosh Alex
It amplifies
They're just figuring it out too
True
I think that's the thing
It makes the small stuff seem so much bigger
So that you can enjoy that small stuff
Go find the stuff that isn't that small
Go find the big stuff
So that you don't have to rely on things that are going to screw up your head
That are going to
Throw off this development process that you're in
So that you can just enjoy things
That aren't actually all that fun
It's the same thing with friendships and stuff like that
Don't be friends with people
That are going to encourage you to do stuff like that
Well, Barjik
I have been the worst influence on you guys
But not in that case
I'll accept this response
I'll accept your response
I won't push for that
Building on it
Again, when I said time and place
I meant when you're older
When you're legal age to drink
And I'm not saying
That I think alcohol is bad
You should never drink alcohol
Because it's only a waste of time
That's not what I'm saying
You can't tell me our age does it moderately
It's always overdoing it
Things can be alright in moderation
I can 100% test to that
Because I have done things in moderation
Don't do it now
I'll say, I'll straight up say it
I've done the weed thing before
And I did it in moderation
And I stopped
Because it wasn't worth it
It wasn't going anywhere
It wasn't something I enjoyed
It was something that was like
I have a classmate
I swear about 70% of the classes
He'll show up and be like
Dude, I'm wasted
I smoked so much weed last night
That's another thing
Do you think that's cool?
It puts you to sleep
I will say that
So many times he's come
He's sat down next to me and be like
Dude, I am out of it
That's the way I say it
It's moderation
If you're like that, it's not moderation
Nobody moderates it
At our age
The problem is then it gets into the realm
Where it's dangerous and throws off your health
You negate responsibilities
You don't go pursue stuff you want to do
So it wastes time
That's why it's unhealthy
I think
I was going to say something I forgot
Dang it
I'll chime in and maybe you think about it
Because
For me, when our age is out
Partying, drinking, whatever
I have
And this is getting way down the line
I have a 401k
I have a pension plan with the company
That I'm with
Think of this for just a second
What age do you usually
Graduate college?
21ish?
By the time I'm 23
I'll be fully vested with Vidani
Which means I get money for life
We're going to have to cut at that
Just a fun little fact though
I said the name
Fun little fact though
When it comes to graduating in college
That age is slowly getting pushed back
Especially nowadays
It is so much more common for
People around our age
To do what I do
To take gap years
Multiple even
We're looking at 23
24, 25 is becoming a very common
Age
To finally be graduating with just
Your bachelors, not even your masters
So, literally if
By the time I'm 23 with the company that I work for
I will be fully vested to get
A paycheck for the rest of my life
Even if I didn't work, it wouldn't be enough to live on
But it would be something
Oh my gosh, sorry
That's the thing with stuff like
And I say this talking about career stuff
Especially with stuff like weed
Big companies, they care about who's
Works for them, they're going to drug test you
And that's the problem, you spend all of your
College experience smoking
It's going to be in your system, it doesn't matter
How long you stop for
It doesn't matter if it's a month or two in advance
Before you're like
Besides the fact that it's just in your system
Which will make a company like
No, there is a drug test
It leaves your system eventually, that's what I was saying
But like, for a certain period of time
Depending on your body type and everything like that
It's not going to leave
Besides, that's just one reason
That companies wouldn't want you there
Because you have it in your system possibly
But besides that, it's kind of a show of your personality
You show up
It's kind of what we've been talking about
Another thing that companies are looking at
Is your social media accounts
And what you post
Parties and stuff like that
It's not going to look good
If you go
Whatever you say
It will reflect on you
So you always have to be careful there too
Yeah, I mean
I'm not speaking from first hand experience
But I can attest
If I showed up high to work
Or even hungover
I'm getting fired
I don't even have a career level job
At discount, but if I did that I'd be fired
I'd be on the spot
That's actually the first job
I got actually drug tested to work for
Oh wow
Dang it, I had it again
I was going to say, especially in college
With everybody
Acting like idiots
Especially when you're in your formative years right now
Especially
Some people could say the argument
But in Canada, it's 19
The legal age is 19
Canada is like
Different cultures have different personalities
It's a lot more volatile here
People there can't moderate at that age sometimes
And a lot of people in Canada
Are a lot nicer
They can handle their emotions a lot better
They are of better mental state
They mature faster?
That's the thing
With America
Right now, sure
Most of us are legal age
We're all 19, I'm being dumb
I'm 20
I'm underage
We're all capable of drinking if we go to Canada
But the problem is we've grown up in America
We have the American mindset
We're developing because we develop slower
Than people in different countries
Alcohol still affects
We're not developing, it matures
It's a different mature rate
When you go to college, and you go to parties
Surrounded by stupid people doing stupid things
And you join
It only is going to teach you that
That's what it is
You be stupid, that's the thing
And then
It's a whole problem
It goes downhill, you don't focus on things
You're more focused on
Going to parties, having fun
Having fun, I should say
More than you are
Focusing on the life ahead of you
And you're more focused on
Living fast
Living in the moment
And all that is, is a moment
It's not the rest of your life
That you have to think about
Do something you love, then you've got
That moment, last forever
As long as you have that job that you love
As long as you have the friends
The friends that you have
That are fun to hang out with, that are fun to do things with
You know, you live in the moment
It's just going to be a moment
Congrats, thank you
That's the thing with this
I think our people, our age, is they're so focused on
Not wasting their youth
That they live in the moment
And when they live in the moment, they waste their youth
Another thing
I guess
Don't make that face
He's thinking
For me personally, I think alcohol
Or drugs would have been
My absolute downfall
And the reason for that
Is because I was already super
Anxious as a kid
And so I still am
In certain ways, but being
In a career level job, and going to
People's houses, and not having anybody
There, and just all the things I've
Experienced with
And having independence
I have grown so much
Huge amount
I think that's a
Really important thing to focus on as well
Is that that kind of stuff stops your growth
It halts it right there
They're going back to what you're saying
They're running from
It's taught me to be
Comfortable in the uncomfortable
The people that try to live fast
By doing stupid things, like alcohol
Or drugs
All those things
Are going to do
Is help you live fast, and help you run fast
Run from your problems, run from your reality
That kind of stuff
What was it that you had said
About
Living in the moment
It was
It was like when you
I forgot
I can't remember exactly
It was something negative
Towards it
When you live in the moment
In the context I was talking about
At the same time
Obviously it's somewhat out of context
However
What I will say
When you live in the future
You can't live in the future
Tons on the context
I see what you're saying
When you live in the future
That's what brings upon anxiety
And panic
When you live in the past
That's why you don't live in the moment
You live in the present
I totally didn't follow that
That's why I said live in the moment
You can plan for the future
You can think about the past
That's all part of your present
That's why I said live in the moment
I wanted to touch on that
Because I'm like
I like that
Living in the present
Is a little bit of the future
A little bit of the past
That's the reality
Should we explain how
Because I'm imagining my mom hearing this
What do you mean? What's the difference between the present and the moment?
That's what I was about to say
The present is what you get on Christmas tree
The moment is right now
The moment is I'm talking to you three
The moment is
This is all that matters?
The moment is your current situation
The present is a little bit of yesterday
A little bit of tomorrow
All of today
Your present is
I'm talking to you guys
I've had fun
With you guys doing this podcast
When I go home
I'm going to go sleep
A little bit of what I'm going to do tomorrow
The present is
Kind of
It's just today
It's not the moment of
This exact situation that we're in
Maybe a better way to put it
Is not constantly thinking about the past
Also not constantly thinking about the future
That's why I said a little bit of
That's what I meant by that
Different words I guess
You have to have a little bit of everything
You can't know where you've gone without knowing where you've been
You can't
Live where you are right now without knowing where you want to be
But you can't only be where you are now
And that's the thing
You live in the moment
You live fast, you're running from your things
And then the problem is
You're so focused on living the moment
You don't see what's ahead of you
And then
You're stuck in that moment
You're stuck running
Because you slow down
Your past is going to catch up with you
You keep running
You're not going to know what's going to hit you next
And that is the issue that people come
I think that's why people continue to do stuff
Is they are so focused on running
And running is good to them
From the sad, from the bad
From all the things that you need to sort out
And that's the problem
The uncomfortable
After enough running, they might actually beat Usain Bolt
They keep running
They're going to trip, they're going to fall
It's going to catch up with them, they're going to get back up and start running again
But they might beat Usain Bolt
Or they'll trip and fall and never get back up
Wow, that's dark
I mean
Crashed and burned
I mean kind of that way
I think
To kind of like round this off
You got to face those problems
The things that you're running from
The things that are going to hurt you
You got to push through them
I was thinking about this the other day
Think of it like this
There's a thorn bush
Right in front of you
You can either run the other direction
Or you can go through the thorn bush
If you go through the thorn bush
It's going to stay right there
You're going to keep moving through the thorn bush
It's going to suck, but you're going to get through it
But if you run the other direction
That thorn bush is going to chase you
And when you come back that direction
It's still going to be right there
And that's the problem
You got to push through the thorns
It's going to hurt like hell when you do it
And it's going to suck
But once you get through it, you're home free
You'll come out with some scars
You're going to come out with scars
But you're going to be past it
And if you keep running that other direction
All it's going to be is right back to that thorn bush
And that's the problem
With people our age
Is they're so focused on getting
And it's not just our age to be clear
There's people to get in that pattern for life
There's people all over the world
Of all ages that do that
They are so focused on avoiding the thorn bush
Trying to go around it, trying to get away from it
And they don't focus on maybe the fact that
It's clear on the other side
And so I think that's
The ultimate advice that we can kind of give someone
Our generation is
Keep moving forward
Don't run from things
And don't get distracted with those kind of people
Move through stuff
Find the people that are going to help you move through that stuff
And then find what you love
Find what you want to do
Find a direction
Doesn't have to be
The direction you want to do right away
Just find a direction
Travel that direction
And do little branch offs
You know?
You know our parents are smart
They didn't tell us that stuff for no reason
That's the thing, you come do it now
Always trust the ice cream truck
Okay
But that's the, I think
Especially right now
At least for me
I've thought about it before and I'm like, dang
My parents made a lot of sense
Like when I was younger, don't do that stupid thing
Yeah, exactly
Wow, who would have thought
I'm a lot happier now that I haven't
Done that stupid thing
Or even when it comes to like the weed thing
Yeah
It was sure, I mean it was fun
It's a drug, of course it's fun
But then
Then I finish it
And right now I have never been happier
With my life and I'm not doing any of that stuff
I have actually
I have moved through my stuff
I've moved through that thorn bush
And now I'm home free
I'm only slightly shocked that you're saying now
You've never been happier because I'm here right now
And you really have
Oh Sam, I'm so happy that you're here
I thought of this because you were saying
You've never been happier and stuff
But we've only been really talking about
How
Finding something to do kind of
Is what brings you together
But it's about finding connections as well
People, like our friend group here
It's not many, it's only four of us
It's support
Yeah, people are going to hold you up
The friends that you have
They're going to keep you in that mentality
That you have or they're going to push you out of it
People that truly care about you
And people that want to see you grow
Are going to push you away from the things
That maybe you want to do
In the regard of running
They're going to tell you to stop
They're going to tell you to turn around
And they're going to tell you to face your problems
Those are the people that truly care about you
That are going to push the uncomfortable conversations
Are going to push the hard topics
But are going to be there when you're going through that
And then they're going to be the people
That are going to stick with you after you're through that
Foundational friends
Yeah, and say to you, hey
Glad you got through that
Let's go do something, let's go have fun
Let's get past that
This is 90
Probably 95% of my whole entire friend group
And some people may say that's sad
That it's three other people
But it's not that sad
Because we've been friends for so long
And I don't know
I feel like I shouldn't be talking about this
Sam's got all sorts of friends over there
Sam's the extrovert over there
Well, okay, you're a little different
I get that
He's a little special over there
I agree with everything y'all are saying
You need those people who are going to be there
And who are going to push you to be better
And you need those people
But it's also okay to make other friends
Oh, by all means
Which isn't a disagreement with you
All that to say
That doesn't mean push away other people
That just means that you need people to hold you down
So that you can go out and make other friends
That maybe have disagreeing points of view with you
That maybe don't
We'll do those parties
And we'll do that
I know a lot of people who do that
I'm friends with them
I love them, they're awesome
And I'll have good talks with them
It's how I get information
It's how I make connections
So that's always good
But yeah, you need those people who will hold you down
With your beliefs
I guess what we should have asked is
Sam, who are your best friends?
Is not my question
This is a make or break question
This is a make or break question, Sam
Who are my best friends?
The door is right there
Or you know what
Who's your core group? Maybe not your favorite
I'll go with his favorite
Core group
Morgan
Doesn't count
Girlfriends don't count
That doesn't count, that's a given
That's separate
It's like family
It's definitely y'all
I've known you
13 years
Yeah, probably
Something like that
Alex, I think a little bit longer than that
A year or two after that
Before that
And then Jake, somewhere in that area
I think a little bit less
I think we really started talking like middle school
Yeah, but I
I've known you longer
That was really when we started clicking together
It was like middle school, but I've known you longer
Which was a really good time
For us, especially
I will say it was a really good time for me
Because having you guys around at that time in my life
I was terrible
I mean, at that point in time
So I had always hung out with Alex
Alex and I
Hung out for a long time
And I hung out with him for a long time
I met
Late in through Alex
But when I really started hanging out with
You two
What is happening?
I'm trying to be discreet about it
I'm just going to ask, is the phone still recording?
It should be
Our monitoring hasn't been working
No, no, you're good
So
What was it?
At that time when I started
Hanging out with Alex and Jake Moore
I had just like
Stopped hanging out with another
Group of friends
Huge click, there was a lot of us
But like I wasn't
Treated the best
I was bullied a little bit
I'll be honest
Which I mean, when you look at this dynamic
Maybe not bullied, teased
What are you talking about?
It was probably a borderline
Because of how consistent it was
That's the thing
This friend group
This is a little rough, but
This is all in love
This is, I
Put it on the record, I don't hate Sam
Jake's the bully
When I'm here in person and he sees
My pretty face, he just
Fall in love
I understand what you're saying
It's like
Borderline because when it comes to
Bullying, it's like
It's a consistent thing
I was going more off a level
We're slowly going further into
How we met and everything
Cliff notes
I was about to wrap it up
I apologize
I felt like we were about to start moving
I was just going to talk about
That and what not
It's fine
It's a longer episode
What are we at?
We can split into two
Teased, bullied, whatever you want to say
And then
I was finally
I was just done with it
After a specific moment
And I'm like
I did not appreciate that
I'm done
And then that's when I started hanging out with y'all
And that was so much fun
So for clarification
cardboard boxes down the grass hill
We would go dumpster diving
For cardboard boxes Sunday morning at
Church and then we'd ride the cardboard
Boxes down
Sometimes like sleds, sometimes like
Snowboards, sometimes we wouldn't even tear the box
Apart, we'd just lay in the box
And slide down
It was so much fun
My first ever incest story
That was your first ever incest story
That's so funny
Where were you going with the whole knowing each other for a long time?
Cause we were talking about
A core friend group
Just a core friend group
I was just answering the question
I don't remember what the point was
The point is we've all known each other for a really long time
And we're all really good friends
Oh you know you were saying that it was a really good time for you
And I'm like oh it was a really good time for me
Because of the situation
I was just trying
To make the point that
People are okay
Like I'm okay with only having this
Amount of friends close to it
And then Sam on the other hand
He has us as his core group
So everybody meets
It doesn't even get close buddy
Everybody needs that core group
Half the people in the discord
That's a big issue with people in our generation
And our age and stuff is that
They feel like they have to have
A ton of friends
They have to know a ton of people
People end up
Finding themselves
Finding that core friendship
In the group that they shouldn't
In the group that is full of other people
Of like mindedness
Of running from things
Of let's go get drunk
Let's go do this, let's go party
Let's go distract ourselves
They're so focused on finding the friends
That they fit themselves into a friend group
That doesn't fit them
And who they are
And the idea that
Let's get away from our problems
And so
And they may end up leaving
People who would have been really good
Core friends behind
And all they're gonna do is strengthen the bad habits
By
You know community, because community is a powerful thing
Oh it's everything I think
I wouldn't have gotten
Through like the break up
A few months ago
If it weren't for you guys
I'm just that good
All of you just
Oh yeah you're welcome
I hate all of you
But
Like actually you guys have been such a
Formative group for me and honestly
You guys were the friends that
Pull me
Like I already said it, I was kind of the bad
Influence of the group
And I'm actually
I'm probably a lot better off right now
Than I could have been if I wasn't y'alls friends
And I was friends with the people I was
In high school
I hated to say it but I kind of felt that was the case
No I didn't
You guys have been my good
Influence
And you've been our bad
It balances out
The yin and the yang
And I think that's a
Really important thing is
Like from someone who has been in a stage
Where I've done stupid stuff
In the realm of what we've talked about
I've never drank and I really have
No intention to until I'm old enough
That's one thing that I have always
Not done
But like
Coming from someone who has come from something
Like that and has been in those situations
Before and been friends with people that have
Only enabled me to do stupid stuff
It's
It's really important
It sounds like the wind
It's been important and it's been huge
To pull me out of that
And so coming from
I guess it adds credibility
To have a prime example
Of why friendships are
So important
I just wanted to say one more thing on this
As someone
Who knows
A lot of people
It is also so incredibly hard
To keep up with all of them
That is the hardest thing about being
So talkative and like
Easily making friends with people
It's the fact that
I don't have time
To go get lunch with everyone
Much less I don't have the money to go get lunch with everyone
Unless they're willing to buy me
All this food all the time
McDonald's, Roards, Manning
Exactly
That is the thing
About having so many friendships
However having so many friendships
Could also present very good things
Because
Graduation parties
Making a lot of money
For the one time in your life
For the one time
You just always know that
Out of a hundred people
One is going to pick up
Start with the closest people
But if they're not there, one is going to pick up
I can count on one of you three to pick up
Well it depends when you call me
Jake is always on the toilet
Alex
Never since he's gone
He's always on the birds
His is always on silent
I always pick up
You do always pick up
I always pick up
No you don't always pick up
When have I not picked up
Starts wasting off dates
It was exactly 11pm
I almost always pick up
You do almost always pick up
If I have my phone on me I pick up
If my phone is not on me then I obviously won't pick up
Who would have thought
My phone is actually
A mile away and I'll pick up
You said just sprints
Leighton's calling
But only for Leighton
I come crashing out of my bathroom door
Leighton's calling
I think this is a good point to tie things off
All in all
It's big to have good friendships
Doesn't mean you don't have to have a ton of friends
But have a core group that's going to support you in a healthy way
Live a healthy lifestyle
If you want to
Right now
The best advice that I think we can all semi agree on
Is that
You gotta find a direction in life
Doesn't have to be the final direction
It just has to be a direction
Find what you love
Find your passion
Find your friends that are going to support that
And then find a direction
Do you think those
And do this all in a healthy way
Avoid stuff like drugs
Stop running
Start moving through the pain
Not away from it
Do drugs, drink alcohol, get a girl pregnant
American dream
At least that's what this is
It seems like now
I think
Can we all agree on this?
Sam
For one second
Back to no
I think that's a good place to end it
Thank you everybody for listening
Thank you for sitting through a longer more serious episode
I want to do the fun episode
Don't worry you will do a fun episode
Thank you for joining us Sam
Thank you for the goodies Morgan
Thanks Morgan
Thanks everybody for listening
Thanks for sitting through this long more serious episode
We'll be back to our regularly scheduled
Shenanigans
Next episode next week
You mean bullying me
When we talk about something
Probably a little more light hearted
Come back next week then
Anyways
You all have a great night
We'll talk to you all later