Hello everyone, this is Tabang Jean-Emmanuel Molatédi.
I'm back.
I've had a young break from creating loads of content.
Had to recalibrate and focus on a few things,
but I hope that life has been treating you well.
Above maybe life treating you well,
I hope that you have been treating yourself well.
I hope that God has been guiding you, leading you,
and you have been learning a lot about yourself and a lot from yourself.
I think I've been doing the same these past few weeks.
I've been going through loads and loads of recalibration,
listening to some of the things I shared in my podcast,
looking at my life,
analysing and assessing some of the systems I have put into place,
and checking my goals.
One thing that I've really noticed and I've paid attention to in the past few weeks
has been being truthful with myself in the process
and also doing the things that one might say are the boring things
or the things that do not seem exciting.
Despite these things being some of the things that are very essential
are the small steps that lead towards the greater goal.
And I think in life in general, we can talk about having goals,
we can talk about having this vision or this ideal destination that we want to reach,
but often we do not look at the small things that we have to do on the road towards success.
And I think this is something that I have had to kind of reevaluate
and sit through today and sit through in the previous weeks.
Okay, so we're going to dive right into the topic of the day.
And as I mentioned, we're going to be actually dealing with the stuff
we do not want to deal with with respect to some of the things we have to do
that we do not like doing that will actually get us closer to our goals.
I would like to actually break some of these things into two categories.
The things that we often know we have to do that are kind of directly linked
or that are easy to see how it's easy to see how these things are linked to our future success
or our success in various endeavors.
Then there are things that are linked to our success in those endeavors
but are not kind of easy to relate or easy to kind of stick to a certain part of your goal
or part of your success from the perspective that we're talking from right now.
And I'm just going to give a simple example of these things.
I mean, as someone who studied back home in Botswana, I found out that I had a huge passion for math,
I had a huge passion for business, and I had certain dreams, certain goals with respect to these passions.
And I had certain things that I was doing that was directly related to these passions.
This might have been things such as starting my own business back home, businesses back home,
where I used to kind of, I had one business where I would sell rose cuttings and I would,
I also had a business where I was kind of like a bread business.
We had something we called the papata which is like this bread that I found here in Canada.
But it's kind of different. I forgot what its name is.
I think it's a British muffin if not. I might be messing it up.
But I used to sell, I used to like have my art bake those and I would, every morning I would leave them
at a certain store on my way to work. This was after I did my phone five.
So I had my hands in my businesses and I kind of did things that were aligned with respect to
a certain long term aspirations I had with regards to me seeing myself in a certain position with regards to business.
But also at the same time I would say that I also had to do small things that were not related to these things
before such as maybe, you know, school in general, certain subjects in school that were not related to the things that I needed
but were related to my success within school. Back home it was mandatory to take
one of our native languages, one of the languages that you would actually have to sit through.
So I used to have to actually do maybe or partake in a subject that wasn't really tied into my goal of business directly
but was tied to my academic success which was tied to me learning how to learn and giving me an ability to assimilate information
which in itself would help me in my business in the future.
And also on the other hand academic success would help me kind of write my exams, know that I've passed
and now be able to focus on other things like taking that holiday after examinations as a holiday where I could actually venture into my interests.
So I think in life in general we kind of meet these things, these things we have to do that are sometimes
all of them are linked towards our goals but some of them are more indirect than others.
I think today I was kind of speaking with some of my boys and we went into this discussion where we talked about our goals in the long term
and we, I think I kind of went into this topic and to this topic we're talking about right now
where I touched on how some things that we need to do are things that might be directly tied to our futures
and how some of them are not directly tied to our futures and it is, with respect to some of the things that are directly tied to your future
it is easy for you to kind of go through them.
I'm not going to say that it's kind of a walk in the path because they do require some commitment from you
but it is easy for you to associate them with your long term goal because you see what you're doing
and you directly know without having to be too intentional how this aids your work or your vision
but with some things it's really hard to actually attach these things towards your goals and your destination
it's hard to attach you doing English literature to maybe you being a successful business woman in the future
but with intentionality with you knowing your vision and having a certain sensitivity with respect to the things you're doing
if you're intentional in each and every step of your life you are able to kind of shift your perspective
so that you are able to notice and view certain things as things that are guiding you and helping you achieve your final goal
or things that are moving you to your final destination.
I feel like having such a perspective really helps you as a person move forward in life and actually do the things you do not want to do.
I would say that with respect to me in business also here in Canada
I've had times where I have gone into different business ventures right
and I've kind of noticed that I had worked on certain variables within my success equations for those businesses
and I would sometimes focus on certain variables and deny or kind of turn a blind eye to certain variables that I know I needed to do
that were directly linked to the success of that business or the success or my success in general with respect to that venture
and it is only when I kind of went through certain books that I met this same Alex Homozy
that says that where he was kind of talking about how everything you need to actually start a business or to actually have a successful business
or to have success within any venture in your life.
Those things are generally things that you already know or the things that you know you have to do but you kind of avoid.
So I would say that with respect to me I kind of knew that I had to sit down and go through some marketing courses.
I knew I had to sit down and actually learn how marketing is done social marketing is done
but instead what I would do is that I would try out a venture use my skills my unfair advantages within my skills my editing
and often because I had not really honed in on what I needed to work on I kind of didn't get the results that I had initially wanted
and I think this is something that kind of ties into our psychology as human beings.
We usually don't want to see ourselves in a state of lack or kind of confess that we are inept with with respect to certain things
but I think it's just the perspective thing.
If you're able to notice that you are not doing so well within a certain thing and you actually work towards learning and improving yourself
you're going to be in a better situation you are going to grow as an individual and you're going to get better results
but I think because of the lack of that change of perception we often avoid the things that we know we have to do.
Like I would say that with respect to me being here in University at U of T I would do certain courses that I know are not linked to my future goals
and maybe some of these might be electives but because these are linked to my academic goals which might be linked to my career goals
which might be linked to other aspirations that my career might lead me to or might enable me to fully invest my energy into
I feel like I have come to a point where I would look at things from that perspective then give more energy towards this indirect thing that I have to do.
I think this concept in general is something that we know we kind of have our voices our inner man kind of tell us
no you know you need to do this and that but often I think it's something we push off and like I said sometimes it's because we do not want to actually sit down and notice that
we lack in certain areas which would mean that we would have to work on those areas which is where truth being true to yourself also kind of sets in
because if as an individual you're not able to actually be true to yourself then you will always deceive yourself
and when you do not get the results that you have been kind of grinding for or the results that you have kind of been wishing for
you will tend to make excuses for why things didn't pan out the way they were supposed to pan out
and this kind of locks us into a cycle where we do not get the results that we have been trying to get
and this is generally because within our success equations within what we're doing in the daily on the daily
we are avoiding putting in effort and energy within the things that we know we need to put effort into
and I think this is something that we need to work on sometimes with respect to me I have I know that that times where I'm like okay
with respect to my time I need to block off doing certain activities at certain times I need to be able to tell myself that okay
John you're not going to be on Instagram or on TikTok at this time in the morning because if you're going to be on TikTok in the morning
you're going to be doom scrolling you know and you're going to mess up your whole day because you're going to lose your motivation and your energy
but at times like I would say that it does happen where like maybe I would find myself in that situation where I kind of woke up kind of spoke to myself
but then also kind of spend too much time in bed laughing and sometimes we do give ourselves excuses I've given myself an excuse that oh this is
one of the things that links me back to home this is one of the things that kind of tells me what's going back in the south you know what's happening
but at the same time you know I need to be true with myself with respect to knowing the effects of doing certain things at certain times
I might give myself the reason that oh yeah how can I really delete my TikTok again because I want to post TikTok videos
I think having such I've given myself such an excuse and in those moments I've had myself also kind of give a rebuttal and be like how many videos have you posted in this week you know
and I think that's one thing we have to cultivate because you can you often hear the voice that kind of guides you after that says is that the actual truth John do you actually
do you are you actually not doing certain things because of certain reasons or are these just excuses that you're putting there so that you don't have to do certain things so I would say that it's something that we need to work on
it's something that I have to work on something that I try to implore into different aspects of my life sometimes I use it to a huge extent where I kind of block off some things
sometimes you know things rearrange you are very good in one section of your life and not so good and it's something that kind of changes with time changes as we grow
but I would just like to ask you like what do you think with respect to your goals and aspirations are the things you know that you have to be doing
the things you have to cut off the things that you have to put into your schedule that will actually push you towards being the best version of you
what are the things that are intentionally or let me say what are the things that are directly related to your purpose that you need to work on
what are the things that are indirectly related to your purpose that you need to work on and how can you actually use your energy or your or a change in perspective to actually help you do the best that you can with respect to these things
and one thing I would also like to add on to this episode is that with respect to you actually putting in the energy you're going to face challenges you're going to face internal resistance
and resistance that might be external also your body might want to cave and your body might not want to be pushed to a certain extent because I think within life in general I've kind of I don't know I kind of look at concepts in a weird way
when I'm sitting in a biology class and I'm told about how systems well I think we would talk about diffusion then after some time we'd go to chemistry and we'd talk about equilibrium states
I would sit down and think about these concepts with respect to certain things in our lives why why does my body kind of why and or react to certain ways when I want to push myself when I want to get or reach a certain goal
it's because generally things want to be in a certain equilibrium state and the only way for you to actually move to another state or an ideal state is to actually fight through that resistance to fight through challenges to fight through whatever is trying to resist you
and by fighting we are actually changing your internal system and the things around you and shifting that equilibrium state to another state and that is one thing that I find kind of mind blowing because we often we often have a weird perception of self
because usually I think someone today asked how many people say I am successful and how many say that I'm going to be successful and I think with respect to perception and knowing your equilibrium state
if you push yourself if you project yourself to a state that you're not in you can through like a lot of perseverance move yourself to that different state move yourself to another state of being
by being intentional and pushing yourself by saying I am this and that despite you not being that at your current moment so all in all I would say that let us work on intentionality let us work on us being true to ourselves true to our beings
but also at the same time let us fight a good fight with respect to the challenges that we might face in life with respect to everything that comes our way because challenges themselves are things are like a dead two steps on a ladder
that are supposed to kind of bring forth the best the best version of you that are supposed to accentuate certain characteristics that you develop as you climb and as you overcome
so I would say that push through do what you have to do in the current moment do what you have to do whenever with respect to whatever you're doing and I promise things will work out
things will start shifting things will start manifesting the way you want them to manifest in the way that you see them within your mind and within your spirit
I hope God genuinely guides you towards your purpose in life I pray that he leads you within everything and leads you to truth and you are able to actually see the truth for what it is
moreover I pray that he gives you wisdom to be able to overcome and to be able to change that which you need to change and do that which you need to do in order for you to fully come or more merge into the person that you need to be
this has been a long session honestly I feel like I was talking and talking for like a crazy amount of time
I might go incognito next week I'm having my exam season but I wish you all well and I pray that this episode and the other episodes that I've been there will guide you through these weeks and will guide you into the upcoming year
so from your boy, Tabang, John, Emmanuel, Malatady and the Kingdom in general from the wicks and the guardians of thought I would like to say that take care like share subscribe whatever it is we do on this platform
and most importantly take care of yourself protect your peace protect the beauty of your character and always always put yourself first with respect to giving yourself time giving yourself opportunities to grow
take care keep on living, ciao
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