1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,520 The Word of God is food for the spirit and health to the body. 2 00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:13,200 Through the spirit of revelation, we are guided into the wisdom and deep mysteries in His 3 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:16,920 Word that make our lives vibrant and productive. 4 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,160 Welcome to the Mercureful Gospel Church Podcast. 5 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:25,480 As you listen in, the glory of God will be quickened and activated in your life. 6 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:27,520 And now, the Word. 7 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:30,280 Good morning everyone. 8 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:33,680 It's so good to see you all this morning. 9 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:38,880 For the last few weeks or months we've been looking at the subject of being in covenant 10 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:40,400 with God. 11 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:45,680 I am still convinced that it's one of the most significant things a human being can 12 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:51,280 do to get into covenant with God. 13 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:56,760 It has such profound implications and outcomes. 14 00:00:56,760 --> 00:01:03,240 This morning we're going to look at the subject, the relationship between sex and the covenant 15 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:05,080 believer. 16 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:14,200 How is this important aspect of our lives related to our being in covenant with God? 17 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:19,560 What does it mean for a Christian who is in covenant with God? 18 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:25,200 How are we supposed to handle our bodies and how are we supposed to live together as husband 19 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:26,560 and wife? 20 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:31,880 This is extremely important for us to study this morning. 21 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:44,000 And I want us to read in the book of Genesis chapter 16, we're stressing the unfolding, 22 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:48,320 the way Abraham lived out his covenant. 23 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:54,680 And as we look at Abraham, we'll be studying our own lives because Abraham is our father 24 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:57,720 by what? 25 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:58,720 By faith. 26 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,280 Abraham is the father of the faithful. 27 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:05,780 So when you study Abraham, you're studying your own life. 28 00:02:05,780 --> 00:02:13,040 So we chose to look at the life of Abraham, how he lived out his covenant life and what 29 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:14,040 that meant to him. 30 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:21,520 And today we're going to see how sex played a role in the home of Abraham. 31 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:30,520 Genesis 16 verse 1 to verse 5, now Sarai, Abraham's wife had born him no children. 32 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:36,040 And she had an Egyptian maid whose name was Hagar. 33 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:42,800 So Sarai said to Abraham, see now, the Lord has restrained me from bearing children. 34 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:45,320 Please go into my maid. 35 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:48,560 Perhaps I shall obtain children by her. 36 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:52,640 And Abraham heeded the voice of Sarai. 37 00:02:52,640 --> 00:03:02,200 Then Sarai, Abraham's wife, please underline that Sarai, Abraham's wife took Hagar, underline 38 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:11,200 Hagar, the maid, took Hagar, her maid, the Egyptian and gave her to a husband, underline 39 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:16,000 her husband to be his wife. 40 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:20,160 So Abraham had written ten years in the land of Canaan. 41 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:24,320 So he went into Hagar and she conceived. 42 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:30,480 When she saw that she had conceived, her mistress became despised in her eyes. 43 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:34,040 Then Sarai said to Abraham, my wrong be upon you. 44 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:37,440 I gave you my maid into your embrace. 45 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:42,760 When she saw that she had conceived, I became despised in her eyes. 46 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:45,520 The Lord judged between you and me. 47 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:59,120 Now it's interesting that Sarai thought that she could use the servant as a surrogate mother, 48 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:09,080 as a tool, as a vessel to bear children on my behalf and that there will be no repercussions. 49 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:15,320 She thought that she could hand over a maid to have sex with her husband and there will 50 00:04:15,320 --> 00:04:22,720 be no consequences except giving birth to a child who will be legally the child of Sarai. 51 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:29,600 You know, she's a servant, slave, sleep with her. 52 00:04:29,600 --> 00:04:38,400 When she gives birth to the child, the child will be mine and the matter will end there. 53 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:45,480 She thought that after Hagar sleeps with Abraham, there will be no change. 54 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:53,280 She'll still be a lowly servant, a slave that they brought from Egypt. 55 00:04:53,280 --> 00:05:05,040 To her surprise, she observed that when people have sex, the dynamic of relationships change. 56 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:10,080 When you sleep with, it's not like any other person. 57 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:18,560 There is a change in the emotional social cycle relationship between you and that individual. 58 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:19,560 It's never the same. 59 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:24,120 Even if you meet him on the street, you feel something. 60 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:27,640 That is how powerful sex is. 61 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:31,120 Sex is not just a physical activity. 62 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:38,960 It affects your emotional and spiritual life very, very deeply. 63 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:45,200 Even if it's a casual, you think it's casual sex, one time stunt. 64 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:49,520 But when you look at it carefully, even if it's the same prostitute you slept with on 65 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:53,360 the street, when you see her, there is a chemistry there. 66 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:58,800 Sex is not just like eating food together. 67 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:01,880 It goes much deeper than that. 68 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:04,760 Sarah or Sarai was surprised. 69 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:09,800 She says, I thought I gave you this woman to bear children on my behalf. 70 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:12,080 Now look, she has become your wife. 71 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:14,640 What did you expect? 72 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:25,360 The Bible says in verse three, then Sarai, Abraham's wife, took Hagar, the maid, the 73 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:33,240 Egyptian, and gave her to her husband to be his wife. 74 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:35,800 She thought that they would just stop there. 75 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:38,440 There would be nothing. 76 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:44,080 Even Abraham, the way he treated Hagar, changed. 77 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:46,480 In the home, the relationship changed. 78 00:06:46,480 --> 00:06:53,920 The home was disrupted because of that one night Abraham slept with Hagar. 79 00:06:53,920 --> 00:07:04,240 In fact, this is one reason why in some workplaces romance between a senior officer and a junior 80 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:07,120 officer is prohibited. 81 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:14,080 You cannot have a commanding officer having a romantic relationship with a junior officer. 82 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:15,080 It is forbidden. 83 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:16,080 Why? 84 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:20,960 Because it confuses the way how you issue commands. 85 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:27,440 That sergeant is no longer just another soldier you slept with. 86 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:29,500 She has an age. 87 00:07:29,500 --> 00:07:32,800 She has part of you. 88 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:35,400 She's no longer just like any other soldier. 89 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:38,000 That is how powerful this thing is. 90 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:45,200 And I think Christians, we need to be reminded that before you go to bed with anybody, think. 91 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:47,360 Yeah, think. 92 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:49,200 Because there will be changes. 93 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:54,200 There will be things that take place that you probably didn't expect. 94 00:07:54,200 --> 00:08:03,600 Now if you're a teacher, a lecturer, pastor, if you're someone that is superior, you should 95 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:11,000 be very careful how you treat those that are within your realm of authority. 96 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:13,120 A maid. 97 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:20,640 But that's why some maids, after they sleep with the husband, they begin to change how 98 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:28,520 they treat the wife and how they respond to instructions. 99 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:30,440 They get an air. 100 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:33,320 The moment you see your maid has changed the ocean. 101 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:35,240 No, I'm joking. 102 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:48,360 When the maid no longer submits to the wife, there's something that happens. 103 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:52,560 This woman said, she's not despising me. 104 00:08:52,560 --> 00:08:56,680 I gave you my maid, not despising me. 105 00:08:56,680 --> 00:09:00,600 It's because sex has a profound impact. 106 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:07,640 The first thing I want you to write as the lesson this morning is sex among covenant 107 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:13,600 believers is radically exclusive. 108 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:20,880 Sex among covenant believers is exclusive. 109 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:23,480 I have brothers. 110 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:27,440 Some of them are gone, but I have a few left. 111 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:30,780 I don't share Sabrina with them. 112 00:09:30,780 --> 00:09:31,780 Thank you, honey. 113 00:09:31,780 --> 00:09:37,080 I am expected to share my resources. 114 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:40,320 If they're in need, I can help them. 115 00:09:40,320 --> 00:09:45,740 I'm expected as a Christian to give and share what I have with others. 116 00:09:45,740 --> 00:09:53,320 But there is one thing in my life that no one else can touch is that woman. 117 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:59,600 It's exclusive, and the same thing with her. 118 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:05,840 To me, no one else can come in my life as my wife does. 119 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:10,560 I am exclusively mama for you. 120 00:10:10,560 --> 00:10:14,800 Because that's the way God designed it. 121 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:16,600 We don't share husbands. 122 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:18,320 We don't share wives. 123 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:25,720 I know there is a trend these days, it's a way that people now think they are modern, 124 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:28,000 they are progressive. 125 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:29,240 People copy these white people. 126 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:31,160 They want to be like white people. 127 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:37,480 They have parties and husbands and wives mixed and mingled. 128 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:42,560 And there is a complete mess as wife X sleeps with husband Y. 129 00:10:42,560 --> 00:10:48,120 That's the world. 130 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:55,720 But as believers, I have come to remind us that marriage among common believers, I mean 131 00:10:55,720 --> 00:11:00,440 sex is radically exclusive. 132 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:01,920 Hallelujah. 133 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:03,800 Exclusive. 134 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:16,440 Bible says in Hebrews 13 verse 4, marriage is honorable among all, and the bed and the 135 00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:25,280 file, but fornication and adulterous, God will judge. 136 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:30,160 Bed is exclusively for the couple. 137 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:39,480 God says those who reach this rule, they will be judged. 138 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:42,320 They are consequences. 139 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:45,480 The marriage bed is exclusive for the two. 140 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:48,760 The husband and the wife. 141 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:53,800 Now turn with me to Proverbs 5 verse 15. 142 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:54,800 Let's turn there together. 143 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:56,160 Proverbs 5 verse 15. 144 00:11:56,160 --> 00:12:05,440 It says, drink waters out of your own system and running waters out of your own well. 145 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:08,600 If you have a pen, it's your Bible. 146 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:14,600 If you have a laptop like me, bolden, underscore the word drink. 147 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:16,120 Drink water. 148 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:17,120 Drink. 149 00:12:17,120 --> 00:12:22,320 The Bible is using water as an analogy for sex. 150 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:31,120 It does that intentionally because sex like water becomes a need in our lives. 151 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:34,320 The Bible says for those who are married, drink. 152 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:38,960 In other words, don't just look at the water. 153 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:41,720 Don't just feel the water. 154 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:43,720 Don't just stare at the water. 155 00:12:43,720 --> 00:12:51,800 So couples, we need to do our best to engage sexually as often as we can. 156 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:52,800 There's no amen. 157 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:57,320 I don't know why, but I'm preaching the gospel here. 158 00:12:57,320 --> 00:13:00,320 It says drink. 159 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:05,200 It means this must be something you make regular. 160 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:10,000 It doesn't say look at the water. 161 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:11,000 Touch the water. 162 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:12,000 Feel it. 163 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:13,000 Stare at it. 164 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:20,480 So couples must program. 165 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:24,720 They must put on timetable. 166 00:13:24,720 --> 00:13:25,720 This this things. 167 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:28,000 The Bible says drink. 168 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:34,040 And it says running waters out of your own well. 169 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:35,200 See that? 170 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:36,600 It's exclusive. 171 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:39,360 Your own well. 172 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:43,520 You are own, not the man, not the woman. 173 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:45,880 You your own. 174 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:53,360 That is God's design for sex among those who are in covenant with Him. 175 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:54,600 That's His design. 176 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:55,600 Your own well. 177 00:13:55,600 --> 00:14:04,080 It says let thy fountains be dispersed abroad rivers, waters, and the streets. 178 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:14,000 Chapter 17, let them be only thine own and not strangers with thee. 179 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:16,480 Hallelujah. 180 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:18,680 You're own. 181 00:14:18,680 --> 00:14:29,320 Now it means that physical interaction between the husband and wife is exclusive to the point 182 00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:37,680 that even your thought processes must be restricted to your wife. 183 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:47,800 Times, men and women can have what we call emotional affairs. 184 00:14:47,800 --> 00:14:52,600 You fantasize being with somebody else. 185 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:56,960 That's the danger of watching pornography. 186 00:14:56,960 --> 00:15:00,640 They can create lovers in the mind. 187 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:05,720 You look at this girl or this man doing these crazy things in pornography. 188 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:10,480 You begin to be attracted and you begin to dream sleeping with him. 189 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:16,560 That if you're married, that is emotional cheating. 190 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:22,400 You're having an emotional affair with someone other than your spouse. 191 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:31,520 That's why we discourage believers, stay away from pornography or ruin your marriage. 192 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:34,360 You begin to imagine things that are not there. 193 00:15:34,360 --> 00:15:38,680 In fact, today we are watching the news. 194 00:15:38,680 --> 00:15:44,520 If you are like me, I watch news every day and I'm following the solder between Trump 195 00:15:44,520 --> 00:15:45,520 and Stormy Daniels. 196 00:15:45,520 --> 00:15:49,000 How many have heard of Stormy Daniels? 197 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:53,880 Stormy Daniels gave Trump a run for his money. 198 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:59,160 Stormy Daniels is a porn star. 199 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:00,160 She's a porn star. 200 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:05,360 I don't know why they call them stars, but she's a porn star. 201 00:16:05,360 --> 00:16:10,920 And Trump apparently watches pornography. 202 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:21,160 He was attracted to this woman, being one with money, fighted her, slept with her and 203 00:16:21,160 --> 00:16:23,520 he tried to cover up. 204 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:32,700 Now fighting for his political life because of an affair he had with a porn star called 205 00:16:32,700 --> 00:16:34,480 Stormy Daniels. 206 00:16:34,480 --> 00:16:39,200 It all began by viewing pornography. 207 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:44,600 Because it says, let them be only thine and not stranger with thee. 208 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:53,200 Now verse 18, let your fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of your youth. 209 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:56,840 This verse is loaded. 210 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:58,920 Why is this verse loaded? 211 00:16:58,920 --> 00:17:03,840 It's loaded because it says, let your fountain. 212 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:17,000 In other words, every man here must ask God for the grace of God to always review a wife 213 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:20,400 as a bride. 214 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:29,920 Even when the breasts go south, even when wrinkles come in, even when everything is 215 00:17:29,920 --> 00:17:35,480 being challenged by the force of gravity, even when we are unable to perform as we used 216 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:41,280 to when we were in our twenties, the Bible says let. 217 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:44,960 That's why marriage is not for children. 218 00:17:44,960 --> 00:17:48,480 There is a mindset you must have to get married. 219 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:51,520 It is a commitment to be loyal. 220 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:53,840 Come and buy and buy. 221 00:17:53,840 --> 00:18:02,920 It is a let, let, it's a mindset you choose. 222 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:05,720 You choose. 223 00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:13,680 Those breasts may not look as they were twenty, thirty years ago, but to you they are blessed. 224 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:16,560 They are wonderful. 225 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:18,360 You say it, pastor, that's a lie. 226 00:18:18,360 --> 00:18:19,360 No, it's not a lie. 227 00:18:19,360 --> 00:18:25,600 We walk by faith. 228 00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:28,320 This is the way of believers. 229 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:29,840 This is the way for believers. 230 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:32,080 I'm not talking about unbelievers. 231 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:34,200 It's the way for believers. 232 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:41,440 That's how we walk because our sex life is exclusive. 233 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:45,960 There's no room for me to let my mind be under. 234 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:49,040 There's no room for me to leave my wife and go somewhere. 235 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:55,360 It is an exclusive commitment between me and Sabrina. 236 00:18:55,360 --> 00:18:57,600 Hallelujah. 237 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:04,080 It says verse eighteen, it says, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. 238 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:11,560 It means, it means that now you're old. 239 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:17,640 You're now sixties or seventies, whatever it is. 240 00:19:17,640 --> 00:19:23,120 The Bible says, don't forget the wife of your youth. 241 00:19:23,120 --> 00:19:31,560 Look at her as you did when she was just twenty two or twenty five. 242 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:35,200 It speaks of longevity in marriage. 243 00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:39,440 It implies that marriage is supposed to last. 244 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:45,920 That's why I said our form was not for children. 245 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:50,080 You need a mindset to be one who is determined. 246 00:19:50,080 --> 00:19:55,360 God loves this woman and God be faithful to her all my life. 247 00:19:55,360 --> 00:20:02,680 I'll train and control my heart and my mind to be exclusively committed to her and her. 248 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:05,080 That's the mindset. 249 00:20:05,080 --> 00:20:12,840 And as the hours pass by, it says, and as a loving dear, as a graceful boy, let her 250 00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:18,720 bless us for you at all times, always be enraptured with her love. 251 00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:21,880 Hindsight. 252 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:28,040 Never get married to a young man who doesn't have this mindset. 253 00:20:28,040 --> 00:20:32,720 You need that to be faithful to your spouse. 254 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,120 Hallelujah. 255 00:20:35,120 --> 00:20:42,720 Now, the next thing I want to talk about regarding sex among believers is sex among covenant 256 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:53,320 believers determines how far you reach in your potential, how far you go in your potential. 257 00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:56,920 All of us are gifted. 258 00:20:56,920 --> 00:21:01,800 God has designed us to achieve certain things in this life. 259 00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:07,900 God has called us, God has gifted us this potential in each one of us. 260 00:21:07,900 --> 00:21:15,640 But here me Christians, how you treat your sex life, how you handle your sexual drive 261 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:24,080 determines to a large extent how far you attain your potential, how far you attain those achievements, 262 00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:29,160 how far you go in your calling God. 263 00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:40,680 If you handle your sex life frequently, carelessly, you will jeopardize your ability to succeed 264 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:42,040 in this life. 265 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:43,040 It's true. 266 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:51,440 Look, Clinton, look, all this men, look, Samson, look, it is a principle. 267 00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:58,760 If you fail to control this part of your life, you may never fully achieve all your potential. 268 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:01,560 It's that powerful. 269 00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:10,160 I want to show you something in the Bible, Judges chapter 13, Judges 13 verse 5, talking 270 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:19,320 about Samson, Judges 13 verse 5 says, For behold, you shall conceive and bear a son, 271 00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:22,960 and no razor shall come upon his head. 272 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:27,680 For the child shall be another right to God from the womb. 273 00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:35,360 He shall begin, underline that word, he shall begin, he shall begin to deliver Israel out 274 00:22:35,360 --> 00:22:37,760 of the hand of the Philistines. 275 00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:44,120 Unfortunately, despite all the gifting and the power of the Holy Spirit in the life of 276 00:22:44,120 --> 00:22:49,960 Samson, he never fully achieved his potential. 277 00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:54,280 He never fully attained everything that God has set before him. 278 00:22:54,280 --> 00:23:05,320 He only began, he only began because Samson could not handle, control his sexual drive. 279 00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:13,240 Despite all the things he could do, he was the strongest man that ever lived. 280 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:16,320 And also very smart. 281 00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:23,200 He had tremendous opportunity, established country of Israel. 282 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:33,440 He had unusual gifting, but, but the liar, the liar and the wild man came in his life. 283 00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:40,880 And this principle, I could give you many examples in the Bible, Ruben and Genesis chapter 284 00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:52,600 49, Ruben, Genesis 49 verse 3, Genesis 49 verse 3 says, Ruben, you are my firstborn, 285 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:56,200 my might and the beginning of my strength. 286 00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:57,680 You see the potential there. 287 00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:04,200 The excellency of dignity, the excellency of power. 288 00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:06,100 This man had it all. 289 00:24:06,100 --> 00:24:07,100 He had it all. 290 00:24:07,100 --> 00:24:09,840 Ruben, the firstborn had it all. 291 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:15,520 Power, dignity, strength, and stable as water. 292 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:20,160 You will not excel because you went up to your father's bed. 293 00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:24,160 You defiled it, you end up to my couch. 294 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:27,800 So the message this morning, I think is important. 295 00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:33,400 If you are going somewhere with God, if you have any plans to become successful, become 296 00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:39,000 influential, please control, handle your sexual life. 297 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:47,800 Because if you don't, it can affect negatively your ability to succeed in this life. 298 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:55,400 This man, Samson, was so amazing. 299 00:24:55,400 --> 00:25:02,200 And until he met Delilah, he was undefeatable. 300 00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:05,400 Hear me. 301 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:12,760 Whenever you have sex outside marriage, it's attempted spiritual suicide. 302 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,160 Write that down. 303 00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:21,640 Whenever you have got sex, whenever you engage in sex outside marriage, it is attempted spiritual 304 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:23,920 suicide. 305 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:27,360 You may not die the first time, but keep on doing it. 306 00:25:27,360 --> 00:25:30,240 One day you will pay the price. 307 00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:32,240 Now don't expect a man, don't say a man to that. 308 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:36,240 Just leave it there. 309 00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:40,440 This man, this man was a playboy. 310 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:44,920 If you read the book of Judges, you'll agree with me. 311 00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:47,160 This man was a standard playboy. 312 00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:51,800 But this Samson, he loved the scots. 313 00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:53,120 He loved to play around. 314 00:25:53,120 --> 00:26:00,520 He was a typical, typical playboy. 315 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:05,640 But a woman called Delilah. 316 00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:18,920 And Delilah was not alone, just as, just as Samson had spiritual power in his life. 317 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,640 Amazing spiritual power. 318 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:25,920 This man was, was amazing. 319 00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,360 He had spiritual power. 320 00:26:28,360 --> 00:26:33,800 When he met a woman called Delilah, she too had spiritual power. 321 00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:40,840 The Bible says in chapter 16 verse 4, Judges 16 verse 4. 322 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:47,560 Judges 16 verse 4 says, afterward it happened that he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek, 323 00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:49,240 whose name was Delilah. 324 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:57,560 Now this is the first time the Bible says Samson loved a woman. 325 00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:00,760 All the other women was playing with them. 326 00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:04,520 Except this one, except this one, he got the prostitute. 327 00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:08,840 He was involved in sex out of marriage. 328 00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:13,480 He did that until he met Delilah. 329 00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:17,760 Delilah had him around her finger. 330 00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:21,440 Bible says for the first time the man was a woman. 331 00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:24,800 He loved this woman. 332 00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:28,240 Something different about Delilah. 333 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:38,720 There was a way in which she was able to use spiritual power to draw this man, hold him. 334 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:45,240 When you engage in sex, it's not just physical, it's also spiritual. 335 00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:48,720 There is a spiritual dimension to sex. 336 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:58,400 That's why I said every sexual act outside marriage is attempted spiritual suicide. 337 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,400 She hooked him. 338 00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:01,400 She hooked him. 339 00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:06,960 And the Philistines, the Lords, notice this. 340 00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,920 This man does not leave your house. 341 00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:13,920 Can you use your strength? 342 00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:20,920 Ask him where does he get his strength from? 343 00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,240 How can we kill him? 344 00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:28,480 How can we render him, destroy him? 345 00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:30,280 There was a blunt as that. 346 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,560 They said we'll give you money. 347 00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:38,320 We'll give you, all of us will give you, I think they said one thousand silver pieces. 348 00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:41,520 She says tell us. 349 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,440 The woman said okay, I'll do it. 350 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:49,600 And she had some son around her finger. 351 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:53,520 Some so could not leave this woman. 352 00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:58,640 Some people say that some women have got power to even put a man in a bottle. 353 00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:06,660 It's not probably, that's putting it in a funnel, but there is some truth in that. 354 00:29:06,660 --> 00:29:10,560 Because sex is not just physical, it's also spiritual. 355 00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:18,400 It is a dimension in which you open up your spirit, your innermost being to satanic and 356 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:22,140 spiritual beings to control you. 357 00:29:22,140 --> 00:29:23,920 She was controlling this man. 358 00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:30,320 So she said to him, now, Samson, tell me, how can we, where is your source of strength? 359 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:31,840 Tell me how can we hurt you? 360 00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:38,540 Can you imagine the woman asking her customer, how can I kill you? 361 00:29:38,540 --> 00:29:39,540 How can we kill you? 362 00:29:39,540 --> 00:29:42,240 Tell me where is your strength? 363 00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:48,720 And Samson, because he was under his spell, he thought he could deceive the woman. 364 00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:55,400 If you could get both string and hair, you would be able to conquer me. 365 00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:57,000 She did it. 366 00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:03,200 When she tied his hair, she told the man to come and kill him. 367 00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:05,440 And she said, Samson, please stand here. 368 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:11,840 He woke up, shook off the whatever was tied on his hair, and he killed the philistines. 369 00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:14,080 He did that three times. 370 00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:16,040 I don't have time to go through everything. 371 00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:18,200 Just go back and read that three times. 372 00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:23,760 And every time you do that, she would ask him, but you have lied to me. 373 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:25,420 Now, tell me the truth. 374 00:30:25,420 --> 00:30:28,360 How can we kill you? 375 00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:29,360 How can we kill you? 376 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:36,440 Because this man was under spell, he had met another champion. 377 00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:46,000 I repeat, every time you engage in sex outside marriage is attempted spiritual suicide. 378 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:49,640 You may not die the first time, but keep on doing it. 379 00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:53,440 There will be consequences because sex is beyond just something physical. 380 00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:56,480 There is something spiritual about it. 381 00:30:56,480 --> 00:31:02,280 And finally, the Bible says because the woman kept on nagging him, nagging him. 382 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,280 He said, okay, okay, okay. 383 00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,480 She probably said, don't come back tomorrow. 384 00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:10,480 He says, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 385 00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:12,280 Okay, forgive me, Delilah, forgive me. 386 00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:14,000 Let me tell you the truth. 387 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,900 She told him the whole truth. 388 00:31:16,900 --> 00:31:18,940 The rest is history. 389 00:31:18,940 --> 00:31:30,840 So this morning when we come to believers who are in covenant, sex because of its implications, 390 00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:38,560 because of its spiritual dimension must be exclusively among married couples. 391 00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:41,560 Don't go outside your marriage. 392 00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:44,080 It is risky. 393 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,440 It's risky. 394 00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:48,480 Now you can say a man to that. 395 00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:49,480 All right. 396 00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:50,480 Okay. 397 00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:57,240 Bible says in first Corinthians chapter six, verse 16 says, what? 398 00:31:57,240 --> 00:32:06,280 No you know that he which is joined to a hallowed is one body for two safe he shall be one flesh. 399 00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:09,240 Sexual union is not just physical activity. 400 00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:12,880 It's also a spiritual union. 401 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:24,320 But I'm not just joining physically, but there's also a spiritual union and transfer in Proverbs 402 00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:31,840 six, verse 32, but who so commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding. 403 00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:36,000 He that does it destroys his own soul. 404 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:41,520 My Bible says so you destroy your own soul. 405 00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:43,040 This affects the soul. 406 00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:47,800 It affects the spirit of a man. 407 00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:53,440 Saturn knows this because the Bible says that it says in first Corinthians chapter six, 408 00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:57,200 verse nine to 10, it says, no, you know that the unrighteous are not in head. 409 00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:00,200 The kingdom of God be not deceived. 410 00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:11,160 Neither fornicators nor idolaters nor adulterers nor a feminine nor abusers of themselves with 411 00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:18,080 mankind nor thieves, not covetous, not drunkards, not revelers, next to show us shall inherit 412 00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,000 the kingdom of God. 413 00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:23,360 Even the devil knows that funny. 414 00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:24,360 Look at that. 415 00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:26,920 Go back to verse nine. 416 00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:31,320 First night the devil knows that verse. 417 00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:32,760 He knows it. 418 00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:41,600 He says fornicators adulterers will never inherit the kingdom of God. 419 00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:42,600 Star night. 420 00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:49,600 And that's why he keeps people bowled in sin because he wants to take it to hell. 421 00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:52,160 He wants to take it to hell. 422 00:33:52,160 --> 00:34:00,240 He knows even though you're a pastor, if you are doing this, you will never see heaven. 423 00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:06,480 You may speak thanks, you may prophesy, you may heal the sick, but if you're a fornicate 424 00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:13,400 adulterer, you will never seek the kingdom of God. 425 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:14,400 Satan knows that. 426 00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:20,160 That's why I said it is attempted spiritual what? 427 00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:21,160 Suicide. 428 00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:22,160 All right. 429 00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:31,000 Now, let me share with you the last thing before we pray. 430 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:36,960 Sex among covenant believers requires self-control. 431 00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:39,640 That's the third point I want us to learn this morning. 432 00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:42,200 And I want us to look at the life of David. 433 00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:49,840 In Psalms, on second Samuel, second Samuel chapter 11 verse two, it says, then it happened 434 00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:55,280 one evening that David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king's house. 435 00:34:55,280 --> 00:35:02,240 And from the roof he saw a woman by the thing and the woman was very beautiful to behold. 436 00:35:02,240 --> 00:35:08,600 So David sent an inquired about the woman and someone said, is this not Bathsheba, the 437 00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:15,280 daughter of Biam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite? 438 00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:28,800 You know, I have learned over the years that every year, beautiful women are being born. 439 00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:31,240 Every year. 440 00:35:31,240 --> 00:35:32,440 Every year. 441 00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:40,680 My wife is beautiful, but even now to speak, there is a girl being born who is as beautiful. 442 00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:48,200 There's no end to the fact that we meet attractive people all the time. 443 00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:55,120 At your place of work, at the university, in your neighborhood. 444 00:35:55,120 --> 00:36:01,000 The Bible says David looked beautiful. 445 00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:05,560 There's no harm in that because they are always being born. 446 00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:08,280 They're handsome guys being born every day. 447 00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:11,160 You will meet them on the street. 448 00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:14,080 It's a fact of life. 449 00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:22,720 But to a believer who is in covenant with God, may the Lord give you the grace to acquire 450 00:36:22,720 --> 00:36:23,720 self-control. 451 00:36:23,720 --> 00:36:34,200 Ah, you cannot please God without this discipline because they're everywhere. 452 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:37,920 You might be working with a very attractive young woman. 453 00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:40,240 You may be having a maid who is very attractive. 454 00:36:40,240 --> 00:36:42,720 It's part of life. 455 00:36:42,720 --> 00:36:45,400 You are not living on an island. 456 00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:52,440 But what is imperative, what is critical, is that every believer must develop spiritual 457 00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:55,600 muscle, self-control. 458 00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:58,120 Without that, you cannot please God. 459 00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:01,840 Of course, we're not blind. 460 00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:09,080 We're made of flesh and temptation is with us to the day we got the grave. 461 00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:12,560 David looked and said, my goodness, who is that one? 462 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:15,680 Who is she? 463 00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:19,960 He didn't stop there. 464 00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:21,760 He told him, ah, it is someone. 465 00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:29,040 He says, ah, ah, you just call her, tell her to come to my bedroom. 466 00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:41,560 And one would think that David had self-control because if you recall, when he went to battle 467 00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:48,000 and he saw Goliath, Goliath instilled fear in people. 468 00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:54,720 The Bible says when the Jews saw him, they were running and hiding in caves. 469 00:37:54,720 --> 00:37:57,760 Goliath was big. 470 00:37:57,760 --> 00:38:00,040 He had killed people from his youth. 471 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:03,440 He had killed more people than he could count. 472 00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:04,960 By the way, Goliath was not also alone. 473 00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:06,840 He also had spiritual power. 474 00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:11,960 But anyway, Goliath was extremely fearsome. 475 00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:14,000 He was fearsome. 476 00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:19,760 And he had a record to back up his profession and his confession. 477 00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:21,800 He was a champion. 478 00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,040 And when people see him, fear will grip them. 479 00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:37,080 But David went to the front line and because of self-control, faith, he controlled the 480 00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:38,880 emotion of fear in him. 481 00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,800 He says, you come with me with a spear. 482 00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:49,360 I come to you in the name of the Lord. 483 00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:53,880 He controlled emotion of fear. 484 00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:58,000 Out of faith, he slew Goliath. 485 00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:07,120 Now one would expect that if he could control fear, why can't you control lust? 486 00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:08,120 David fell. 487 00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:12,160 This is his biggest failure in his career. 488 00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:15,800 This, but God loved this man. 489 00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:16,800 He really messed up. 490 00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:19,800 He really messed up big time. 491 00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:26,560 A few weeks ago, I went to the Toyota dealership. 492 00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:28,360 I took the car to be serviced. 493 00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:33,840 When I was there, I was attracted to a vehicle. 494 00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:36,800 I saw a beautiful Toyota Corolla. 495 00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:40,400 I think the model is 2022 or 2023. 496 00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:42,000 Beautiful car. 497 00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:46,040 Even I could fit behind the driver's seat with my long legs. 498 00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:48,560 That's how good it is. 499 00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:54,480 This car, very fuel efficient, beautiful car, comfortable. 500 00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,080 It is crafted wonderfully. 501 00:39:57,080 --> 00:39:59,880 It's a beautiful vehicle. 502 00:39:59,880 --> 00:40:04,160 The salesman told me, sir, you thought I had money. 503 00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:07,040 Sir, come and sit in the car. 504 00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:08,040 He opened the door for me. 505 00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:13,680 He says, you can also go for a test drive. 506 00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:14,680 Go for a test drive. 507 00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:15,680 I said, I don't have a driver. 508 00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:16,960 Let me just sit behind the wheel. 509 00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:22,240 I thought the car, it was beautiful. 510 00:40:22,240 --> 00:40:31,520 But I also had to exercise self-control because if I was younger, I'm now old. 511 00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:38,400 If I was younger, I would run to the bank to process a loan to buy the car. 512 00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:39,400 That's what I would do. 513 00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:41,240 If I was younger, that's what I would do. 514 00:40:41,240 --> 00:40:46,880 I would go into debt because the man really made me feel this is the car I should have. 515 00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:51,040 Even me with my long legs, I can feel behind the seat, driver seat. 516 00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:54,040 Brand new, beautiful. 517 00:40:54,040 --> 00:41:00,480 But I closed the door and walked away. 518 00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:06,680 Self-control, self-control. 519 00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:09,800 We will always meet beautiful girls. 520 00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:12,120 We'll always meet handsome men. 521 00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:14,720 We'll always meet people who are attractive. 522 00:41:14,720 --> 00:41:16,800 We shall meet them. 523 00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:20,680 But how far are you going to run after every skirt? 524 00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:24,080 A good example is Solomon. 525 00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:28,400 Solomon wanted to sample every attractive woman he saw. 526 00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:32,640 He married 1,000 wives, Solomon. 527 00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:36,600 If he had lived longer, he would have probably married even more. 528 00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:40,840 This man had no self-control. 529 00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:44,800 Self-control is a must for believers. 530 00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:49,440 It's a must because you're not made out of wood. 531 00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:53,320 We are human beings. 532 00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:59,000 This man, David, should have looked and said, my Nange, I thank you, God, for that woman. 533 00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:01,560 Close the chapter, turn away. 534 00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:06,720 Kept on looking, kept on looking and says, who is she? 535 00:42:06,720 --> 00:42:07,720 Says Uriah's wife. 536 00:42:07,720 --> 00:42:12,040 Oh, but go on and call her. 537 00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:15,080 He misused his power. 538 00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:18,080 He misused his office. 539 00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:22,640 And he committed adultery and ended up killing the husband. 540 00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:31,480 Now as I finish, men who are here and you have authority, you have money, you have means, 541 00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:40,600 you have position, please don't use that capacity to take advantage over women. 542 00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:48,280 Only men, because they can seduce and sleep with women, they do it. 543 00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:56,800 Just because you have the money to marry a second wife, buy her a new car, as a believer, 544 00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:59,000 it does not mean that you should do it. 545 00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:02,160 Are you following? 546 00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:06,160 Just because you can doesn't mean you should do it. 547 00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,160 Self-control. 548 00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:11,800 David was a powerful king. 549 00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:14,520 When he said, who is she? 550 00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:17,280 They told him someone's wife says, ah, call her. 551 00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:19,720 Who could refuse? 552 00:43:19,720 --> 00:43:22,120 This is King David, my friend. 553 00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:25,400 This is David. 554 00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:26,640 This is the beloved of God. 555 00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:31,080 This is the man who would conquer the Philistines, said Kola. 556 00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:35,120 The servants obeyed and the woman came. 557 00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:38,160 And what happened happened. 558 00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:44,280 I have learned that just because you can doesn't mean that you should. 559 00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:54,040 Just because you are the lecturer, the professor, the pastor, you're the master, it's housemaid, 560 00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:57,980 you're the wealthy man, you've hired this girl, she's your receptionist. 561 00:43:57,980 --> 00:43:59,780 You have the power. 562 00:43:59,780 --> 00:44:01,500 You have the wealth. 563 00:44:01,500 --> 00:44:06,120 You have the the ephorist to defile her. 564 00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:08,400 Doesn't mean you should. 565 00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:09,400 Self-control. 566 00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:12,040 Believers are different. 567 00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:14,020 We are different. 568 00:44:14,020 --> 00:44:17,560 We don't take advantage of our people. 569 00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:19,520 Now we don't do that. 570 00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:21,240 We could. 571 00:44:21,240 --> 00:44:23,120 We have the means. 572 00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:25,120 We have the position. 573 00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:26,120 We have the money. 574 00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:37,520 There's a guy who had cars and he giving this campus student car to drive and she, this 575 00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:48,760 young woman was coming to this man's son for discussion and this older man became attracted 576 00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:53,000 to this campus girl. 577 00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:59,800 In the sense they began to things to happen and gave her money, buy her clothing and gave 578 00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:02,160 her a car to drive. 579 00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:05,000 The son asked the dad, what are you doing? 580 00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:06,200 He says, we are friends. 581 00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:07,200 We are friends. 582 00:45:07,200 --> 00:45:10,680 A car long story short, she became pregnant. 583 00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:15,460 She began to have children with this man. 584 00:45:15,460 --> 00:45:21,560 This man when he died, this woman, the student who was a former student has become a problem 585 00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:23,120 in the family. 586 00:45:23,120 --> 00:45:26,760 What I'm saying to you is fact. 587 00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:33,360 There's now a case in court because this young woman wants to take all the property. 588 00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:40,240 It all began by this man who had means, could afford it, give a weekend package, gave her 589 00:45:40,240 --> 00:45:42,760 a car, gave her this. 590 00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:45,580 She became the mother of his children. 591 00:45:45,580 --> 00:45:48,960 Now she's become a terror in the family. 592 00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:53,120 It's because you can't, doesn't mean you should. 593 00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:54,120 Self control. 594 00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:55,120 Hallelujah. 595 00:45:55,120 --> 00:46:01,120 Now, as I finish, I don't want to end this message this way. 596 00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:02,840 There is hope. 597 00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:03,840 There is hope. 598 00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:08,500 If anyone is here and you've made mistakes, there is hope. 599 00:46:08,500 --> 00:46:18,360 These are the things that took Jesus to the cross. 600 00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:22,440 He knows very well how afraid he is. 601 00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:24,160 That's why he died on the cross. 602 00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:26,400 So there is hope. 603 00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:32,280 Those who have lost their virginity, there is what we call secondary virginity. 604 00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:40,120 And it's interesting when a woman wises up and sizes up and begins to live a life of 605 00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:44,280 purity, she becomes attractive to men. 606 00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:46,920 It is true. 607 00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:51,080 Your men are put off by a loose woman. 608 00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:53,720 You never get a serious husband if you're loose. 609 00:46:53,720 --> 00:46:56,120 You never. 610 00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:59,680 But men are drawn to a virtuous woman. 611 00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:04,960 So even if you've messed, now put your life in order. 612 00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:11,000 Because when you decide to become a secondary virgin in that you abstain from sex, you begin 613 00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,240 to become attractive to men. 614 00:47:13,240 --> 00:47:16,960 I'm talking about serious men. 615 00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:20,000 So this morning, there is hope. 616 00:47:20,000 --> 00:47:29,400 Let's bow heads and pray. 617 00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:37,520 If you need prayer this morning, and I'm not going to ask you to stand. 618 00:47:37,520 --> 00:47:38,940 Why? 619 00:47:38,940 --> 00:47:42,840 Because I'm not here to judge anybody. 620 00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:45,600 But you know yourself. 621 00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:53,160 If you have not worked as a covenant believer, you will not adhere to the terms and conditions 622 00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:56,160 of the covenant. 623 00:47:56,160 --> 00:48:01,320 You have wounds, you've got scars, you've been burnt, your fingers have been burnt, 624 00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:07,000 you've lost your virginity, you've messed up your wife, wife or husband or marriage. 625 00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:10,680 But there's hope. 626 00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:21,160 God of Jesus that was shed our Calvary, can cleanse us from all sin, all sin. 627 00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:23,480 I'll ask you to do one thing. 628 00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:25,880 Just raise your hand to God. 629 00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:28,440 Raise your hand, not to men, but to God. 630 00:48:28,440 --> 00:48:35,560 And say, God, this morning, I have heard your word. 631 00:48:35,560 --> 00:48:38,040 Please forgive me. 632 00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:40,440 Restore me. 633 00:48:40,440 --> 00:48:44,360 Help me back in the center of your will. 634 00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:49,880 Help me get back to the right trajectory in my life. 635 00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:57,280 Help me attain all the achievement and the potential you've placed in my life. 636 00:48:57,280 --> 00:49:00,320 Raise your hand to God, not to me, to God. 637 00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:03,000 And I'm going to pray for you. 638 00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:09,080 Heavenly Father, this morning, you gave me this message for a reason. 639 00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:12,000 You have not come to judge. 640 00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:13,920 The Bible says that we should come boldly. 641 00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:17,360 The throne of grace is a throne of grace. 642 00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:19,680 The throne of judgment has not yet come. 643 00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:23,360 It's still the throne of grace. 644 00:49:23,360 --> 00:49:27,560 There's hope for every sinner on this side of heaven. 645 00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:34,400 Therefore, Lord, I pray, convict them, convince them and cleanse them. 646 00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:36,720 Wash them clean. 647 00:49:36,720 --> 00:49:40,120 Bring them back the center of your will. 648 00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:44,040 And I pray that you bless them beyond their imagination. 649 00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:47,040 I pray these things in Jesus' name, amen. 650 00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:49,080 God bless you. 651 00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:50,080 Thank you for listening. 652 00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:55,160 We hope that you've been strengthened with his might and fortified by the word of God. 653 00:49:55,160 --> 00:50:00,280 Please make sure to like, follow, and subscribe to our Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube 654 00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:01,280 pages at FullGospelMap. 655 00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:15,400 Goodbye.