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Hey girl, sit tight, don't mind the chaos, and

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just smile. Hi besties. What is up besties? It

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is your host Zoey and I am back with another

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freaking episode on the Did I Overshare podcast

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today. How are you my love bugs? I hope this

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week has been beautiful for you guys. It's been

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beautiful for me. And like I said, I hope August

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is doing good. I say it every episode, but I

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really, really hope. You guys, August is doing

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good. I do weekly polls and honestly... When

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I ask the girls, hey, are we doing okay? Are

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we doing bad? Or do we still need a million dollars?

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We all still need a million dollars. And now

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I handed out some, you know, in the form of memes

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Whatever it may be, they're my thoughts or whatever.

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a deep dive. Not really a deep dive, but like

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I threw in some stuff from Crime and Punishment.

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So yeah, I definitely say subscribe and listen

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to that because it gets real. It's unedited over

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there. It's real good. It's real messy and good.

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Okay, but definitely check that out. And what

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is today's episode y 'all? You might ask. You

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might ask what's today's episode. Today's episode

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is Finding My Authentic Self. And I titled it

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My Authentic Self because I'm talking about what

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I've been doing, but I also mean, how can you

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guys find your authentic self? And so when I've

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been writing this, my main focus wasn't really

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like, how can I say it? Like I wasn't like, oh,

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here's a deep dive on myself and finding myself

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and what I like. I kind of know what I like.

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For me, I was targeting content creation and

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things I want to do, putting myself out there

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or maybe simply just curating an Instagram, curating

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whatever it may be. because I'm gonna be honest

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I found myself being performative a lot in the

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past I really did and I think now when I get

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to a place and I see those videos I I'm gonna

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be honest I really just want to delete them but

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I don't I don't delete all of them I delete some

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but some I don't delete because I'm like okay

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Zoe this is your progress here you know this

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is this is your past just let it be this was

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you at one point but when it comes to content

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creation It feels very forced. It feels very

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like a to -do list, a checklist, or like a perfect

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thing that you need to be like amazing at. And

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I know you guys might understand this too, like

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people who do want to create content, people

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who do want to make TikTok videos or, you know,

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whatever it may be, just put yourself out there

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on the internet. I think there's a lot of stress

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when it comes to it because what we open, I think

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every time I open TikTok, I'm seeing a video.

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Oh, you want to go viral? Here's the steps to

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do it. Oh, you want your TikTok feed to love

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you? Here's the steps to do it. You need to interact

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with these people. You need to post at this time

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of day. You need to have a niche. You need to

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do this. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Bitch,

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I want to breathe. Okay, and it also I low -key

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lost myself on that creator journey I'm gonna

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be honest because I think I was posting what

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like, you know, the normal things Oh do my makeup

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with me do my skincare get ready blah blah blah

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And now granted these are things I like doing

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like I'm a woman Okay, like I do like doing things

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I love doing my makeup and I'm not against posting

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a little makeup video like I love that but conforming

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myself into a box and Trying to be perfect and

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follow these rules and look like every other

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video like everything is so repetitive now like

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I'm starting to hate social media I started hitting

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what I was posting cuz I'm like girl first of

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all this isn't even you okay? Like it is but

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like not to an extent like I'm not I wasn't showing

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my personality. I wasn't Doing anything new.

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I it's like every single video you've seen it

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was a bitch doing their makeup No shade so bitches

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do their makeup. You know we're all out here

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living But for me, I was just like, girl, be

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different, be you, do something because it leads

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to burnout, right? When we do follow in these

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lines and try to do what other people are doing

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just because it works for them doesn't mean it's

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going to work for us. And I think you're always

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seeing some advice just like, oh, niche down,

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find a niche, blah, blah. And if you don't know

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what a niche is, it's kind of like, I don't know

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why I was going to describe it. I don't have

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an actual textbook definition, but I can describe

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it to the best of my ability. It's like, topic

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or an idea or a setting or a vibe whatever something

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that is kind of smaller something like the makeup

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niche that's a niche cooking niche you know what

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it's like a category of some sort right of your

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interests and I found myself putting myself in

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niches that these famous women were doing you

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know these big creators everybody else was doing

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and it didn't work for me it didn't work for

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me because first of all that's not me I'm low

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-key like I hate to say it like I love myself

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to death, but I am a mess and Every time I would

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open my camera or try to film I was worried about

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oh my gosh. My house isn't aesthetic enough I'm

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not a second of you know, maybe I don't have

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the money to do this I'm not doing this blah

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blah blah and it kind of it lets insecurities

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like I wouldn't Would sit down and I would want

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to post so bad right and then I would never post

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because I'm like I actually don't like how this

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looks in the background Like I don't live in

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a luxury high -rise. I live in a normal ass like

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apartment like What and it's and it's things

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like that that are detrimental. Let me be honest

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that shit doesn't matter but then I'm gonna be

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honest if we want to understand the real side

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of it a Part of me you see on social media all

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the time and people are like, oh be your authentic

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self be your authentic cells You have to understand

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what comes with that. Not everybody likes that.

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Not everybody likes that. But that is your calling.

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That is what you need to be doing, is finding

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your authentic self, getting in that niche of

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you. You are the niche. You are the project.

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You are the little idea. Whatever the fuck you

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come up with, it doesn't need to be your content.

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It doesn't need to match. It doesn't need to

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be a day in my life. It doesn't need to be this.

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It can be a video of you hitting the wall. Oh

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my gosh, for example, I have a favorite creator.

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Y 'all probably don't know who it is. Like if

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I just say it off rip, you've probably seen her

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before. If you look her up, her name's Bella

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Hadid on TikTok. And like it is the real Bella

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Hadid. Like it's not the model Bella Hadid low

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-key stole her swag. No shade. I'm just playing,

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okay. But I love her. She's so authentically

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herself. And if I could act like that's like

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my personality through and through like in the

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house, right? And in my head, I'm like, oh, if

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I could act like that on camera, like, I would

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feel so free. But then me being me, I'm like,

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ooh, motherfuckers are gonna think I'm weird.

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But then again, people already think I'm weird.

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And so, let me tell you how it worked. Let me

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tell you how it worked. Because I started doing

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this in my podcast. I'm gonna be honest, when

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I first started my podcast, yes, it was good,

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right? I have y 'all here, clearly. Y 'all fucked

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with me. But, I'm gonna be honest, I was always

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outsourcing. I was always like, well, what should

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my episode be today? You know, what are the health

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girlies listening to right now? What's big in

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self -help? You know, I was always looking for

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something that was trendy, something that was

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big. I wasn't... sourcing from inside. I was

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sourcing from outside for ideas. And now I'm

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not saying that's wrong or anything like that.

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But none of it, I would say, was totally me.

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I was trying to put myself in standards. I was

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trying to put myself in all these boxes of, hey,

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what's relevant right now? What's going on right

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now? Which a part of that, yes, do that. Because

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clearly if it's relevant, people like listening

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to it. But then you also have to understand we

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as humans we don't want to hear the same shit

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50 times in 80 different ways We really don't

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like I've been seeing a lot on tick -tock when

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you open it's like everybody has a fucking thing

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feast Which I have kind of two opinions on that.

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I think everybody should have a thing piece I

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think everybody should but when it comes to social

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media, I think we all Don't know I don't know

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how to I don't know what to say like I don't

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know how to describe it I think we all just sound

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repetitive everything sounds the same like It's

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like this radio aesthetic at this point. I'm

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just scrolling and scrolling like it's so boring

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now and I don't like it I don't like it because

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when you come to those creators that are truly

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authentic themselves like some like Mickey Quinn

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Like I said, Ms. Bella Hadid, like people like

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that. Those are the people I like watching because

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I like shit that's fun, right? But I also like

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watching people who do have those niches like

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Monet, Aaliyah's face. Like I love those girls

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as well. So I, but I think one thing those girls

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do different. So let's say if I'm talking about

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like Monet and Aaliyah's face, like those two

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are my big hitters right now. So those two, what

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I would say, yes, they have a niche. They're

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kind of in like the beauty world and everything

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like that. But They have their own community

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they have their own Voice right and I think a

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lot of the times when we're doing content when

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we're trying to put ourselves out there in the

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world We we lose our own voice. We we tend to

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get off track Okay, we tend to make other people's

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ideas other people's voice a reason our voice

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a reason and it can't it can't be like that it

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can't because you won't get anywhere and Now

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you might Luck happens. I'm not I'm not hating

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on you. You definitely can't I believe in you

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But I'm saying if you stay true to yourself and

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find out what you want to talk about what's on

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your mind today Hey, you are really interested

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in this. I'm sorry. I just hit the mic again.

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You're really interested in this You want to

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do this you want to do that? I promise you you'll

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find the people that match for you because when

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I started leaning into this I would say around

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end of last year for my podcast, I really was

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like, hey, let me hone in on what I think. What

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topics are bothering me right now? What do I

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wanna talk about? And honestly, a lot of the

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things I talk about is something I'm currently

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dealing with in my life, like what's happening

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right now in my life. So I was like, okay, Zoe,

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what do you wanna do? How do you wanna go forth?

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How do you wanna be different, right? And so

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for me, I was like, okay. Just go off what you

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want to talk about and go off your own opinions.

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Yeah, read articles, you know, get knowledge,

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do all that, but form your own voice, form your

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own opinion and share something new with the

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audience. Now, there are going to be things that

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I say that you have heard before, but in a different

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way. I'm delivering it different. I'm doing something

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different, and I really was priding myself on

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doing that. Hey, be different. Have an audience.

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And the audience I have built around this podcast,

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I have the best listeners. Hate to say it, like

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I am a little biased, but I think I have the

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best listeners. What the fuck can I say, okay?

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Y 'all are cool as shit. But it's like once I

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started acting like myself, I'm gonna be honest,

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I lost a lot of followers. I lost a lot of followers.

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Lot, but every time I lost a fucking follower.

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I got a new one every single time Still to this

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day. I wake up with multiple follows from people

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all around the world simply because I chose to

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Navigate myself in a different way now that's

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speaking for my podcast now I do think I still

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have an issue when it comes to content creation

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recently I've been trying to pick up the phone.

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I've been trying to do this, but meeting me.

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I'm gonna be honest. I still get to a point when

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i'm like hey i don't have makeup on hey don't

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look like this like there's a little bit of i

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wouldn't say it's comparison right but like when

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i'm lazy in my bare face and i just have a big

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ass t -shirt on i don't think i'm tiktok ready

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and that's my head that's that's my opinion but

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I think I need to get past that as a person right

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because only do you really want to be seen? Do

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you want yourself out there? What do you want

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to talk about? But I'm still finding that I'm

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still finding what I want to talk about I'm still

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trying to find my niche. I'm honest and one of

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them I'm really good at is books I know I talk

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about books a lot, but that is something I lean

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into a lot But I have a whole different book

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page. I don't have it as my main tick -tock Right

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and mind you I've had that page since like freshman

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year. That page is blessed. Okay, but I don't

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like I stopped it. I'm gonna be honest. I deleted

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it like almost every single video on there and

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I don't know like the reason I did is because

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I got embarrassed I got embarrassed because I

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was like, okay Well, what if people see this

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and people are like, oh, she's corny. She doesn't

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I thought too much about it. And where did that

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put me? behind What did it do put me behind?

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The feeling of embarrassment not fucking real

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Nobody's worried about you for real. And so what

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if they don't follow you? So what if they don't

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like your videos? I'm gonna be honest. The people

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that like my videos are people I don't know.

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All the people that I have as my followers and

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friends that I've had for years, people that

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I know in real life, people that are blah, blah,

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blah, blah. They don't like my shit. They watch

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my shit, but they don't like my shit. Like they

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don't interact. And I'm gonna be honest, I've

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gotten to a point where I don't follow those

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people. I don't follow a lot of people. And it's

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simply because I also don't want to be one of

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those people. Hate to say it like I just feel

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like a monitoring spirit at that point if I'm

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not interacting with your Instagram post if I'm

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not Interacting with your tip -tock or anything

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and it I just follow you because I know you I'm

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gonna unfollow you because what the fuck do I

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need to be staring at your life for if? Not to

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say it, but I don't really give a damn right

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like I don't want to look at some shit I don't

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like and then just start hating that's just not

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I'm not about to send you that energy I'm not

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I'm just gonna follow you we don't got nothing

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common. We don't got nothing to talk about but

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what's there? but that has helped me get comfortable

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with what I post, with what I do. When I'm saying

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this, I want you, when it comes to posting, to

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find the authentic you. Find that maybe they

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can say these, but I don't even like saying these

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at this point because honestly, whatever the

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fuck's on your mind, whatever you want to yap

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about, I promise you the people who need it,

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the people who need that help, they will come

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for it. Remember how I told y 'all whenever I

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feel my cats will be sleep all day and then the

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second I turn on this damn mic They get rowdy.

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They get rowdy as hell Go, I'm not really not

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in the mood for your shenanigans. Okay, I'm not

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We had to have that conversation anyway When

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it comes to creating content when it comes to

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putting yourself out there whether that be an

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aesthetic in Instagram or Pinterest, whatever

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the fuck it may be stick to you Stick to what

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you like. Stick to things that make you feel

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good because I promise you, you will get rewarded.

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I made a post and it was like where creativity

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goes, money flows, and success flows. Like everything

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will follow when you're being creative. I think

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a lot of the times when the creator says, we

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need to start treating ourselves like we're human,

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not like we're a brand. And I know when we go

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online, we see the opposite of this, right? We're

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told we need to treat ourselves like a brand.

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We're the business. But when you put all that

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pressure on yourself to fit into and conform

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to things that you see, shit does not work out.

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I hate to say it, but you're not, and it might,

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you might get one video that blows up, you might

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get this, but how many of those people stayed?

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How many viewers did you retain? How many people

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commented? How many people interacted with you?

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How many people actually followed you? Versus

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when you posted something that actually... came

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off as authentic and came off as you something

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that you were really excited about and passionate

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about and feel good about how did that look how

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did that look and now this might not all be one

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thing this might not all be the right answer

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and oh hey this is how you do it this is the

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key to that some shit works for people you know

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niching down and doing a little makeup video

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that works for some people and bitch you're bad

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that's what i gotta say that's what i gotta say

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you gotta like that But for me, I know it didn't

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work for me. So I was just like I'm actually

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just cringed out right now Like Zoe you are trying

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to be somebody you're not so please relax But

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when we also talk about this, it doesn't even

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only have to be content creation, right? Something

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I might make an episode on this but there's this

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thing called destiny swapping right and now this

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isn't me like I'm not fully getting into this

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and I'm not fully saying that oh You know liking

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and being inspired by other things is destiny

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swapping. That's not what i'm saying, but I am

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saying When it comes to your how you look your

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aesthetic how things are Let's say you have somebody

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on instagram. You really like how they look you

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like how everything looks You start changing

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all your shit to be like that. You start dressing

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like them acting like them posting highlights

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like them doing all of this shit Babe, babe,

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check yourself immediately. It's okay to to have

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inspiration i'm never denying that like this

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nigga just jumped on my laptop like genuinely

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what are we talking about guys i don't i'm about

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to call his daddy i can't he does this but why

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don't i film here we are just you're really interrupting

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my podcast episode and i don't think they want

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to hear you truly i don't anyways you know what

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i'm keeping that in i'm not editing that out

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You guys have to understand what I'm going through,

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okay? But listen, it's okay to take inspiration.

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That's literally what life is about, especially

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as a woman. Like, everything is inspo. Like,

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hey, I love your outfit. How can I put a spin

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on that? How can I make that my own? How can

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I do this? But copying somebody's verbatim, babe,

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that gets a little scary. I'll be honest, one

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time I have a business, I haven't launched it

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or anything like that, but it's still like in

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the works behind the scenes, right? And I remember

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I had a whole concept, I had my colors layout,

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I had fonts, I had everything going on, right?

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Somebody else had a business and those was completely

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opposite to mine, different color, different

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everything. So for a couple of months passed,

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like that business wasn't really going anywhere,

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right? And then suddenly every single question

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about the business was, hey, what color should

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I do this? Hey, what should I do this? What should

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I do this? What should I do this? And then I

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never peeped until then, but literally at the

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end I realized their new business colors, business

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fonts, and everything looked exactly how mine

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did. Exactly. Even though in my heart, I knew

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that got nothing to do with them. Right? They

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don't like that. But mine was working, so it

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was like, hey, mine should work if I do this

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too. I promise you, it might not. Now it might.

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A lot of people steal each other's swag. It's

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cool. It's cool, but I think when you stick to

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what you love, what colors you like, what type

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of image you want to present yourself in, and

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if you do like how somebody else is doing that,

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think, okay, hey, I like this. How can I make

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you me? How can I put up my own little twist

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on this, right? Because it would be unfair to

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say, hey, don't take inspo. First of all, that's

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literally what the fucking world is. We all take

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inspo from each other. That's fine. But you cannot

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do it like copying verbatim. It's the same thing

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when it comes to content creation We see a makeup

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video we see her sound we see that hers went

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viral We see what the steps she did how she looked

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in it her hair was slicked back Oh mine has to

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be slicked back blah blah blah that might not

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work for you, but also It's a little unfair to

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that person to fully take their idea, right?

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Now coincidentally a lot of shit is gonna look

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the same like we're all on the same internet

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Lot of a lot of shit is gonna look the same,

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okay? But try if you can to make it your own

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because I promise you you will feel so great

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You will find that authentic voice that authentic

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part of creation That you always wanted that

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you always needed and I promise you you will

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reach the audience now. This isn't me saying

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Oh, you're gonna get a million followers from

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this. I still don't got a million followers.

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That's cool. That's fine But you might get five

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new people You never met that genuinely interact

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with every video and comment and love you and

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that's worth way more I promise you it is knowing

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knowing you inspire people knowing you help people

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and make people want to be better be more and

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oh hey she has really good fashion inspo I really

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like that I'm gonna take those ideas but I'm

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also gonna put my own spin on it like that also

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feels good I promise you a lot of the times people

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don't get mad because you use them as an inspo

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only when it's done verbatim then it gets a little

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fucking weird okay but It feels good when people

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use it as an inspo because it's like damn Hey,

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I love that on you. Actually you you spun that

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in a way I would have never did and I love that

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flex with that So now maybe you're there info

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now, you know now your heart is back bouncing

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ideas back and forth, right? and so my final

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message to this is when you're posting content

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when you're creating things, whether it be just

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an Instagram feed, whether it be actual content,

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video making, doing things like that. Stop seeking

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for approval. Stop looking for the perfect box

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to fit in. Stop looking for all the rules. Stop

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listening to all those TikToks where it's like,

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oh, hey, you need to interact with your main

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feed. You need to do this. You need to do that.

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No, you need to be you. Right? You need to push

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for what you want and how you want your life

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to look and how you want to express yourself,

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you know? What voice, which memo do you want

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to give off? Right? And that's the sum of my

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message today. I hope you guys did enjoy it and

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I hope you took something from it. I hope a party

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was like, hey... Now I feel like I can step closer

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to my authentic self. Hey, I actually don't know

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what my authentic self is Let me go look for

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things I like and figure out how I can make that

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me how I can personalize that Look for that search

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it because you don't what if you don't know you

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don't know what you like You don't know what

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you want to look like. That's fine. That's perfectly

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fine. It is perfectly normal, but Search for

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it find it go on Pinterest Pinterest my number

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one place. Love it. Love it down Open up Pinterest,

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go to people you are inspired by and see hey,

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how can I make this me? How can I do a spin on

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this? How can I take this but adapt it, right?

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And yeah, let me know how that goes for you guys.

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If you get anything from that and anything changes,

00:23:08.109 --> 00:23:11.130
right? Did you go viral, right? Or did you get

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a couple new followers that actually interact

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with you and enjoy you and listen to you and

00:23:15.470 --> 00:23:18.670
understand your message? Right? Let me know.

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I love you guys so much. Thank you so much for

00:23:21.150 --> 00:23:23.349
listening. If you did enjoy this episode, please

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leave a five -star rating and a five -star review.

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They helped me so much, and I love, love, love

00:23:27.309 --> 00:23:30.430
reading your guys' reviews. So much I can learn

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from, so much. They're just very joyous to me.

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So I love you guys so much, and I hope you have

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a blessed rest of the week. I will see you next

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Tuesday also with more bonus content. Bye! you