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Hey girl, sit tight, don't mind the chaos, and

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just smile. Hi besties. What is up besties? It

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is your host Zoe and I am back with another freaking

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episode. I landed over at your podcast today.

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How are you doing my lovebugs? I hope August

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has been great for you guys so far. And if it

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hasn't, well Lord, I hope it gets better for

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you all. Okay, I really do. Jesse, you know,

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sometimes I I question if I'm getting an accent

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from being in North Carolina too much, you know

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There's there's just a lot of subtle things that

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change because I'm gonna be honest I I've never

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been like a formal speaker because that's just

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not how it is where I'm from and I'll be honest

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I call everybody ma 'am now Yeah, ma 'am. Yeah.

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Thank you ma 'am. Have a blessed day. Like it

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should like I really it's like my environment

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really affecting me Okay, and sometimes I wonder

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if I'm getting a little a little twang in some

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of the words I say Maybe I'm tweaking but who

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knows but I hope you guys are doing good If you

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are new to this podcast, let me just let you

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know This is a fucking roller coaster a crazy

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one, but it's worth it and it's really fun And

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once we get on you can't get off. All right,

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and if you're not new well, what the fuck is

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up? You know, we're another day another sleigh

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in here like swimmer. Okay, and If you need anything

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have any questions about anything It'll be down

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when it comes to articles I read that I use,

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you know, throughout this, everything will be

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down below. So definitely do that. And also if

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of your guys's messages and we over share together.

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my heart. I am so blessed to have such a sweet

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group of people that support me. And I love you

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guys so much. And last thing I want to get into,

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I'm going to have a new I'm not going to call

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it a series, but like maybe like a segment is

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going to be bonus episodes only. So you can only

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get them if you are subscribed through Apple

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and or Spotify. The other platforms I have don't

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really use them yet, but they will be available

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on Apple and Spotify. And it's kind of where

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I do bigger deep dives of things that I'm kind

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of interested in. And I don't know if it's going

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to be coming out tomorrow or Thursday, but it's

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going to be one where I'm talking about. Do we

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think it's fate or do we think like free will?

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What is it? Because in a college class I once

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had, I contradicted myself a lot. And it made

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me really think, well damn, how do I really feel?

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And what do I really think? And because there's

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so many different new perspectives and so many

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ways to think. So yeah, I just wanted to throw

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that in there. If you guys, I really enjoy it,

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but if you guys want to listen, definitely subscribe.

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and all that fun stuff. Yeah. So what is today's

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episode? You might ask. Today's episode is, it

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bothered me, but it doesn't define me. Clock

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it. Let's give a minute of silence while I pick

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up my pen. Thanks. So I had this topic written

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out. you know a while ago when I was scheduling

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but it's a topic that I haven't chose yet just

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because I was still ruminating on it and kind

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of thinking about everything I wanted to do and

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then I encountered a few situations and like

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I said I feel like my podcast episodes are so

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aligned with my personal life it always ends

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up matching up like the week I'll go through

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something that directs um to my podcast episode

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that I was going to do so this one is It bothered

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me, but it doesn't defy me. And I'm going to

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link a subsec article down below. It was about

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the art of detachment. And that article was so

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beautifully written. And it gave me so much more

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insight and more depth on how I can approach

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this topic. So I'll leave it down below. And

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I also do quote some of their pieces and messages

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that they had in there. So yeah, there's that

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as well. And I want to say the first quote because

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I want to get the premise out there before we

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get into it. I want you to sit with this and

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I want you to think about it. So they had said,

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to be detached is not to stop feeling. It is

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to feel deeply without drowning, to love without

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possession, to work without making your worth

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dependent on the outcome, to understand that

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everything in life, people, success, I can't

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read my own writing right there. Praise even

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happiness is temporary by nature. And this quote

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stood out to me so much because I think it is

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so important in life that we understand that

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we must remain where our feet are. And not really

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where a head is and I think a lot of time I'm

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usually stuck in my head and I don't really realize

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what's kind of happening in front of me and and

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what I mean by this is We so much happens to

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us in life like it's life, right? But I think

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so much of the external world we let it dictate

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our life You know whether that be someone making

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a face at you someone saying a mean comment Someone

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just having an opinion about you work didn't

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go good. You didn't get the promotion whatever

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it may be Life's always going to occur, but I

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think a lot of the times as humans In our ego

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as well. I think we we take everything personal

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But we also a lot of the times let it define

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our character at least I know I have in the past

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and I've definitely met people who Will like

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let somebody say something about them and they

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think it defines their whole character Like for

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example, what if someone called Juho, right?

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Like let's say it's high school somebody called

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Juho Lot of people like if somebody called you

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that a lot of people I've seen will genuinely

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internalize that or someone I remember for me

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I used it like if somebody said I talked too

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much I internalize that I made that like it defined

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me in my head It made me a bad person and made

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me annoying it made me this and I dwelled on

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it I sat on it and we can't do that Right, but

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that goes to say that it's okay to say it bothered

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you. It's okay to feel it. Like I said, it's

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never you never want to get into a thing where

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you're like, Okay, they said that. But whatever,

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I'm not gonna think about it. It's okay to admit

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that it hurt you. It's okay to say, Hey, that

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kind of fucked me up. And I hate that they said

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that. But it's also on the other end. When that

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does happen, you need to concur it with Hey,

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but that's not me. That doesn't affect my character.

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That doesn't show who I truly am on the inside,

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right? So how can we learn, grow, and adapt from

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this. And so something else I was mentioned,

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it was like life prioritizes movement. And for

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me, this hit really deep for me, because life

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does prioritize movement. You can't remain stagnant

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in anything, whether that be an emotion, a thought,

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or anything. Life is going to happen no matter

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what. How are you going to follow it? How are

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you going to pick up the pace? And in my head,

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I love to say things can't hit a moving target,

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right? Somebody's comment can't hit a moving

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target because I hear you. It might bother me,

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but I'm still going. I still got stuff to do.

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I let's say it is like a promotion you didn't

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get. That doesn't define you. That doesn't mean

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you're a bad worker. That doesn't mean you suck.

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That doesn't mean someone else is better than

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you. Yada yada yada yada. That means you need

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to keep moving. You need to keep going. But a

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lot of the times as human and as empaths and

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everything like that. We sit and we dwell. And

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we can't. We can't do that. Because like I said,

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life is going to move with or without you. Are

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you going to hop on the train? Or are you not?

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What are you going to do? Right? Pick up your

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feet and keep going. Don't let somebody's comment.

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Don't let your ego. Don't let whatever it is

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get in the way of that. Because I think that's

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why a lot of times we see people when they get

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in the old age, right? A lot of the times I run

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into older people who When you get to talking

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to them, when you start to asking them questions,

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you often hear answers that kind of resemble

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really minuscule things that have... impacted

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their entire lives, whether it be they were 30

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years old and someone told them they couldn't

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do a work project or they didn't get this race

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so they never tried again or someone told them

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that they were this and it defined them so much

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that they never became anything other than that

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because they truly believed that they were that,

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right? And that's why it's so serious to not

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let things define you because like I said, life

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will keep going regardless. So are you going

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to sit there and are you going to take that to

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the chin and be like, well, damn, This is me.

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There is no better. This is this is it. You know,

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I guess this one person said I'm like this. So

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I'm like this. This one person said I couldn't

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do this job. So I'm just not going to do it.

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You can't let things other people say define

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your character because what somebody else has

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going on has nothing to do with you and it shouldn't

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have anything to do with you. A lot of people

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have their own demons that they're fighting and

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a lot of the times they'll try to project them

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onto you and you have to Be here enough to understand

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that hey, this has nothing to do with me. This

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does not define my character. I Understand they

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may be going through this this don't got shit

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to do with me and you need to exit You need to

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exit and you need to learn and if you know I'm

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gonna be honest and sometimes things really do

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suck Some some things when people say they really

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do hurt it might push you back a little bit But

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you have to get in that cycle learning how to

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pick yourself back up on how we Like learning

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to understand that I don't got shit to do with

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you. A lot of the times it's other people's projection.

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Like I said, life prioritizes movement. A lot

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of times you think you've got it or you know

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it all. And you think you've grown, you've done

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everything, blah, blah, blah. And in turn, it

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makes us think that we get punished for a lot

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of stuff we go through, whether that be someone's...

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Funky ass comment or whatever it may be a lot

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of the times we think well damn am I being punished

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in this way? Hey, did I not get this promotion

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because like I'm not deserving where I'm a bad

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person like what is it? We think too literal

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and too deep about shit Sometimes shit just doesn't

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work out and that's okay But also sometimes you

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might need to be on a new path Sometimes you

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might need to try again. Sometimes you might

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not have all the skill you need for a job You

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can't take that personal. All you can do is grow

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So we really need to put a fine line on where

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we're like, hey, what can I control? What can

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I not control? Because you know what you can't

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control? Other people's opinions, what other

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people think about you, what other people say

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about you. If you tried getting that raise four

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times and your boss is giving it to somebody

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else, find a new damn job. Like I said, life

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will keep moving regardless. Where do you see

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yourself in five years? And that's not me being

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literal. That's not me being like, oh my gosh,

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plan out your life. No, but it does mean take

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those steps. Don't sit there and dwell in those

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words from somebody else. Okay, so like I said,

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you've been denied from this offer four times.

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You can sit there and you can stay at that job

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for 20 more years. I know so many people who

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have been like stuck in a retail job for 40 years.

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And for some people, They like that. But some

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people do chase a high that they never will get

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because maybe they have skills that are needed

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somewhere else. Same with people in the medical

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field. Sometimes you don't need to be in the

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medical field. Sometimes your soul is really

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calling you to be an artist girl. And I know

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this sounds crazy, but a lot of the times we

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think we're supposed to be living a certain way.

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We think we're supposed to have a certain life

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or we take in what somebody else told us and

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we think that needs to apply to us. Hey, Well,

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they've been at this job for 20 years and, you

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know, they've climbed all the way up in the market.

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They're all in corporate now. They're in HR,

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you know, and they're speaking life into you

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and saying, well, I want you to take this position.

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I want you to be a new me. I had this happen

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to me. I had a boss who wanted me in her position

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so bad. And she was like, I'm preparing you for

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this. I'm preparing you for this. In my heart.

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I knew that's not what I wanted to do, but for

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so long I stayed because I'm like, well, this

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is a higher position. Like, would I be ruining

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my life if I just left? You know? And then I

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have other voices also telling me, well, I don't

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think you're prepared for this. I don't think

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you can do that. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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All of that shit bothered me. All of it bothered

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me when it came to the decisions, when it came

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to the comments, when it came to everything.

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But I didn't let it define me. I had to sit back

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and define myself. Zoe, what do you want? What

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journey do you want to take? And I quit that

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job and I've been full time doing my podcast

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ever since. And I had to do that because I wasted,

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not to say wasted, I think it was a very vital

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two years of my life, but I spent two years of

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my life thinking I should be chasing something

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because other people told me to. Because... The

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comments I got from other people because the

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comments I I've gotten about my podcast. Hey

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when I first started my podcast Well, why are

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you doing that? Nobody's gonna listen blah blah

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blah. I could have let that define me it bothered

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the fuck out of me I'm not gonna lie it bothered

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me because I knew I could do it But I didn't

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let it define me. Like I said life is gonna keep

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going I could have sat there and I could I could

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still be at that job. I could still be at that

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job I could still be in the same place I was

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same people same lessons same experiences same

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feelings that were harbored, but I'm not Because

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like I said, life is going to move with or without

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you. Do you want to be sitting here when you're

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70 and you're still getting bothered by what

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somebody told you at 20? What somebody told you

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at 15? What somebody told you at 45? No, your

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journey is never too late. I don't care how old

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you are. You can start when you're 70. You can

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start when you're 60, when you're 50, when you're

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40. It's never too late. But you need to let

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go of those attachments and those ideologies

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that you've gotten from other people. Like I

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said, it's okay to let stuff bother you, but

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you cannot dwell and ruminate on things for that

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long. You gotta give things a time period. You

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gotta give yourself, you gotta be a little stern

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and be like, okay, I'm gonna be upset for this

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for a couple of days. This one got shit to do

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with me. I know what I can do and I know what

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I can be. And if I gotta fail a thousand times

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and get back up, that's what I'm gonna do, right?

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But we sit. and we dwell and we care so much

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about what other people think. Why? And I know

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that's that's easier said than done, right? Because

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I'm asking like, why do we care? Why do we care?

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But people are fucking mean. And a lot of the

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times it might be the people we care about that

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say some fuck shit to us. It might be. But you

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have to still understand that these are other

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people and their feelings and. In my head, like

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I say, if I wouldn't want to be you, I'm not

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taking advice from you. I'm not valuing your

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opinion. You can call me anything, but if I don't

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want to be you, I'm really not going to take

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it to the edge. I'm not. Because the fuck do

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I got to listen to you for? And so like I said,

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a lot of times we think life's punishing us when

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life gets hard when you lose a friend or death

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happens. We we try to allow it to define us We

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allow a death to define like I I know a lot of

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people who have loud a death of a family member

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to Define them for ten plus years and that's

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not me telling you how to grief ever Grief does

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not have a time limit and grief does not pick

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and choose who the fuck it targets. That's not

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what I'm saying but I Think it does get to a

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point when you use like let's say for example

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you use somebody's death as an excuse to why

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you are in life like why you are where you are

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in life hey i just can't get past this okay babe

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this is your life pick yourself back up you're

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not dead yet you're not you're not and i know

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this might hurt to hear and i know there are

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people out there who are still actively grieving

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and it's been years and you can't get over it

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whether it be the loss of a parent a cousin a

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best friend a sister or a child You have to remember

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your feet are still on the ground. You're still

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here Are you gonna sit here and you're gonna

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hit 70 and be like damn I wasted my whole life

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just Morning just existing not Chasing to be

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more not trying to get better if you need a therapist

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find a therapist if you need to cry For a month

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straight not leave the house not do anything

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get fat do it Do it do it but avoiding it And

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just thinking about it and letting it be and

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not going anywhere from it will destroy you Like

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I said We can't view it as life is punishing

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us because like I said life happens to everybody

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death happens horrible things happen to everybody

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But the difference is with the people who keep

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moving and the people who let that situation

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define them They can't define you and the people

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that love you the people who may have passed

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and love you They don't want that for you either.

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They want you to find what your soul is craving,

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what you want, not what you think they want you

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to live like. Let's say it was a parent that,

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you know, lost, you lost. You can't focus on,

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well, how did they want me to live my life? Because

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that could still, not to say be wrong, but it

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still could be have nothing to do with you. You

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know, a lot of times our parents may have wishes

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for us that we don't internally want. And a lot

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of time when death does happen, we hold that

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guilt, that hope. Maybe I wasn't living how they

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wanted me to. Maybe I wasn't doing something

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that they wanted me to. You can't do that. You

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can allow that death to bother you. You can allow

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it to... kill pieces inside of you, but you must

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rebuild. You must not let that define you. And

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I know I'm talking about death, but I hope that

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applies with everything when it comes to comments,

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when it comes to friends, when it comes to jobs,

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when it comes to anything. You cannot let these

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situations define you because like I said, life

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is still moving. The days are still going. Time

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has no end. You are still going. So where are

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you going to go? Are you still going to be here

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in 20 years, still sitting in the same spot,

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same job, same life, still sad? Are you? And

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like I said, I know it's easier said than done.

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I know there's people listening. I've been through

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it. Where you have, just sat there and just beat.

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But like I said, you have to pull yourself out.

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You have to put a time limit on it. Do not let

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situations define you because they don't. This

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is your life. It's not anybody else's. Get up.

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Get up. And those people will be clapping for

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you behind the scenes along the way. I promise

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you they will. Sorry y 'all Also have another

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quote that I really liked it says a detached

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person still dreams still loves still hopes But

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they do not lose themselves when things changed

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their piece is no longer rented from external

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circumstances Someone saying something means

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shouldn't ruin you define you or keep you caged

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in your ego take nothing personal And that ties

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in with everything I said And a lot of times

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we view detachment as a bad thing. I'm going

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to be honest. Me too is a very detached person.

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And for so long I was just like, well, why don't

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you care? And it was never that he didn't care.

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And I'm just now understanding that. Understand,

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we have been together eight years, and I'm just

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now understanding that. Because I've been totally

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opposite. I get fully consumed in everything

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I do. When it comes to friendships, when it comes

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to jobs, when it comes to emotions, ideas, death,

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whatever it may be, I've always let things define

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me. And I've always let that emotion just take

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over. And I've always just let the ego just go.

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Right? But like it said, they still dream, they

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still love, and they still have hopes, but they

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don't lose themselves along the way. You have

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to understand. This is how you can catch it.

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When that death does happen, do you lose yourself

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completely? When you didn't get that raise, did

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you lose yourself completely? When you lost your

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best friend, did you lose yourself completely?

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And it would be inhumane to say that that doesn't

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happen, right? Because everybody goes through

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that. Yes, I'm acknowledging that, but I also

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need you to know you can't live like that forever.

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You cannot place all of your apples into one

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basket, and then the second that basket is taken

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away, you're falling apart. That can't happen.

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It's unhealthy and it's toxic to yourself, to

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your own soul, to your own path and journey in

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life. It's literally self -sabotage, right? Because

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also you have to think about, not to put it in

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that way, but in some situations would they give

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a fuck like you would? Are all their apples in

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that basket? No, because some people they got

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a couple of apples in that basket and you might

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be a really good friend, you might be a really

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good daughter, you might be a really good worker,

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but if they lose you... They still got themselves

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they're like, okay Well, I can I can look for

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more I can expand this really does suck But I'm

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whole enough to know I will find it again. I

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were running to greatness again. I will find

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another blessing I will find another journey.

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I will find another path another boss, you know,

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whatever it may be Understand a lot of time it

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is our ego our ego is her our ego doesn't want

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to let stuff go our ego Just fucking gets in

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the way of everything. Okay? And you're probably

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gonna go through multiple ego deaths in your

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lifetime, you know, I'm gonna be honest 21 feels

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like a humiliation ritual I don't I don't know

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if it's supposed to be like this But this is

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quite literally beginnings of the 20 -somethings

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So I'm just holding on for the ride Okay, but

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I have known my ego and my emotions have driven

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the whole ride until this point until 21 They

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have driven my life Forever and I I told it no

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I can't because now I'm able to be a detached

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person who still dreams, who still loves, who

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still hopes, but they do not lose themselves.

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I've had three miscarriages. I've picked myself

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up and found myself again and again and again.

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And I will continue to do that throughout my

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life when it comes to any situation, when it

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comes to any job offer, when it comes to a car,

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when it comes to a house, when it comes to a

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fiance, a boyfriend, a friend, a sister, family.

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Because I've had to learn that no matter what,

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it's me in this life. It's me. This is my life.

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I'm not going to sit here and dwell. Right? And

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I've learned so much in the past, like, eight

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months about myself, actually. And none of it

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was peaches and creams. I had to understand that

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there were a lot of demons I had that I didn't

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bring to the surface. And I think for me, my

00:23:09.690 --> 00:23:12.009
ego always got in the way because I always understood,

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well, Zoe, you're such a nice person. You're

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such a good person. Thought life was attacking

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me. I'm gonna be honest. I thought I was getting

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punished for something because I'm like I'm such

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a good person Well, why well, why do I keep why

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do I have horrible friends that do this? Why

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do I have some horrible family? Why do I meet

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some bad people? Why do these bad things happen?

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Life is happening for you not at you understand

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that but also understand that that's my ego speaking.

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That is my ego speaking I can't take any of that

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personal, because guess what? I also have to

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own up the roles I've played in that. Why are

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people treating me like this? Bitch, because

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you never stood up for yourself. Why are they

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talking to you like this? Because you let them.

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Because you've let them one time. Two times.

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Why are you unhappy at this job? Because you

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knew you were unhappy and you still stayed. And

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you still stayed. Because you're like, well...

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Maybe I don't want to hurt the others. I don't

00:24:02.460 --> 00:24:03.859
want to, you know, I don't want to go through

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the awkward confrontations and I don't want to

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do this. Also, how to hold myself accountable.

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I think because I thought I wasn't doing anything

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damning, I wasn't being an evil person, I wasn't

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being mean, that I played no part in my life.

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That's not the case. These past eight months

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have been strictly shadow work. Me picking through

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my demons, me understanding, well, why is this

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happening to me? What am I enabling to where

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this is happening? Why do I let everything define

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me? Why do I hold everything to the chest? Why?

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I had to figure that out and I had to sit with

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that. So like I said, if you need to be depressed,

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if you need to do that for a minute, sit with

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your demons. Sit with them. They're yours. You

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have to understand them or else you're going

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to blame everybody else for stuff that you also

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have a part in. And you can't do that. You can't

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because that's how you lose friends. That's how

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you do that. I've cut off recently so many people.

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People I've known my whole life. because I've

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gotten to a point where I gotta see my actions

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and things but I also have to be vigilant to

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other people's actions. I've gotten very good

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at pattern recognition and when you start to

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not let things define you, you'll get very, very

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versed in pattern recognition, dare I say? And

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you have to choose yourself. You have to choose

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yourself. And it might be something that you

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thought you wanted for so long, you thought was

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great for so long. But it wasn't right. What

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are you gonna do? Don't let it define you allow

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yourself to still love allow yourself to still

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grieve allow yourself to still feel and exist

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But allow yourself to still dream It's okay.

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If you had a dream and the dream didn't work

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out find another dream Your life doesn't end

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because of your age. There's no time limit on

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anything But also maturity comes into it and

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in one of the biggest things I'm gonna make a

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whole episode about this Maturity has no age

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somebody could be I've met 40 year olds and 35

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year olds and whatever the fuck could be that

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are fucking like a five -year -old genuinely

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when it comes to brain conversation communication

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anything a fucking five -year -old and I always

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thought well, I thought they were older, you

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know, I thought they have it together No, it

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doesn't matter Just like growth has no age, maturity

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has no age, death has no age, nothing in life

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does. Everything depends on you and what route

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you want to take, how much you want to grow,

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how much you want to expand in your life. Because

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like I said, we can't dwell. We can't let situations

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define us. We can't view the world as happening

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to us, you know? Things happen for us and it

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might seem extremely shitty in the moment, but

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I'll tell you, your blessings will come. They

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will come. Everything I've ever been through,

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all I reap is blessings. But throughout these

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blessings, I also still encounter meanty, meanty,

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meanty issues. Why do I say many like that? Meanty?

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Okay, period. Anyway, I have encountered still

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so many things. So I would get to a point I thought

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I would always say like, you know, oh, I've learned

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my lesson. I've done this and then the situation

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would arise again not to say it was a test but

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like maybe like another thing would come up in

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the exact same form in the exact same way you

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know the devil just changed faces it changed

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identity it's a changed forms but it still showed

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up how did i handle it and a lot of the times

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i still handled it the exact same way so it was

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like did you really heal zoe did you put yourself

00:27:17.960 --> 00:27:20.240
there or you still let this situation define

00:27:20.240 --> 00:27:22.799
you you're still letting these emotions take

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over you and own you and consume you you can't

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do it Like I said, that devil will show up in

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many different disguises and it will keep repeating

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until you understand what the fuck is going on.

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Now, like I said, that pattern recognition, I

00:27:34.849 --> 00:27:36.230
don't care if I've known you for 10 years, I

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caught it. You're cut. You're cut because I knew

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what kind of place that put me in. I knew what

00:27:42.130 --> 00:27:45.210
kind of pain that put me in. I've experienced

00:27:45.210 --> 00:27:48.430
it and I'm choosing myself and I'm not letting

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a certain relationship, certain years, certain

00:27:50.950 --> 00:27:54.769
love define it. I can't. I can't put all my apples

00:27:54.769 --> 00:27:57.589
in one basket no more. I have to understand that,

00:27:57.589 --> 00:28:02.390
hey, growth is going to happen regardless. I

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promise you good will come if you invest in yourself,

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if you pick yourself up and you keep believing,

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if you keep going. And there will be bumps along

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the way. There will be times when you're like,

00:28:11.369 --> 00:28:13.490
damn, I thought it was good. Here we are again.

00:28:13.950 --> 00:28:16.710
Right. I've hit that point many, many times.

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But guess what? As long as you keep choosing

00:28:19.309 --> 00:28:22.690
yourself, blessings will choose you. Promise

00:28:22.690 --> 00:28:26.359
you. Promise you the spot I'm in right now. I've

00:28:26.359 --> 00:28:28.140
never been so blessed in my life and there's

00:28:28.140 --> 00:28:30.480
still things that fall apart every day Every

00:28:30.480 --> 00:28:34.000
day, but guess what? I don't fall apart Girl,

00:28:34.019 --> 00:28:35.720
my fucking car got towed not to put my business

00:28:35.720 --> 00:28:37.720
out there, but I had a flat fucking tire in mind

00:28:37.720 --> 00:28:40.640
doing the apartment I live in I pay for he was

00:28:40.640 --> 00:28:43.279
just being an asshole. It's okay. We got it cool

00:28:43.279 --> 00:28:47.200
But either way when that happened I was in such

00:28:47.200 --> 00:28:49.119
a great mood that day and then I came outside

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and I said If it was me in any other past, I

00:28:54.319 --> 00:28:55.819
would have been like, oh my gosh, it's a sign.

00:28:56.180 --> 00:28:58.900
Something's wrong. Oh my God. Like I'm a failure.

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And I would have let, I would have sat with that

00:29:00.940 --> 00:29:03.380
for a minute. And I know it's not even that big,

00:29:03.420 --> 00:29:06.700
but I would have. You're going to still run into

00:29:06.700 --> 00:29:08.240
shit. Like, like I said, life is going to happen

00:29:08.240 --> 00:29:10.200
regardless. Death happened regardless. You could

00:29:10.200 --> 00:29:12.299
be having an amazing life. You think everything's

00:29:12.299 --> 00:29:16.259
healing and then a death happens. But do you

00:29:16.259 --> 00:29:18.079
get destroyed when it happens? When something

00:29:18.079 --> 00:29:20.059
bad happens, when a hiccup happens, when a financial

00:29:20.059 --> 00:29:23.390
issue happens. Do you let it define you? If you

00:29:23.390 --> 00:29:27.549
do, how can you learn not to? How can we prepare

00:29:27.549 --> 00:29:31.069
ourselves to take in information better, to learn

00:29:31.069 --> 00:29:33.630
better, to understand ourselves better, and not

00:29:33.630 --> 00:29:35.930
abandon our ego throughout the way? Because I

00:29:35.930 --> 00:29:38.069
think a lot of times, especially when I'm speaking,

00:29:38.829 --> 00:29:40.990
but also just reading things and understanding

00:29:40.990 --> 00:29:43.369
things, we view the ego as a negative thing.

00:29:43.470 --> 00:29:45.769
The ego can be a very, very good thing if we

00:29:45.769 --> 00:29:49.450
allow it to be. If we know how to grow, and learn

00:29:49.450 --> 00:29:52.349
and manage our ego. Your ego is not always this

00:29:52.349 --> 00:29:53.809
bad thing that's getting in the way that's ruining

00:29:53.809 --> 00:29:55.490
your relationships and everything. It builds

00:29:55.490 --> 00:29:57.289
relationship. It is that thing that networks.

00:29:57.490 --> 00:29:59.710
It's that thing that that grounds you and understand

00:29:59.710 --> 00:30:01.910
you. You just have to learn how to manage it.

00:30:02.009 --> 00:30:03.869
You have to learn how to balance your ego to

00:30:03.869 --> 00:30:07.009
understand what's going on and to ground yourself.

00:30:07.309 --> 00:30:09.450
Essentially, essentially, it's all grounding.

00:30:09.710 --> 00:30:12.450
You have to. I made a Substack post and it was

00:30:12.450 --> 00:30:15.309
kind of just talking about how no matter how

00:30:15.309 --> 00:30:18.700
many times I might lose myself. I will always

00:30:18.700 --> 00:30:21.599
find my way back. I always can bring her back

00:30:21.599 --> 00:30:24.619
to here. I can always bring her back to here.

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And I'm so blessed to be able to say that. There

00:30:26.720 --> 00:30:28.700
has not been one time where I've lost myself

00:30:28.700 --> 00:30:32.519
and haven't brought her back. I can allow myself

00:30:32.519 --> 00:30:34.660
to feel. I can allow myself to go through things.

00:30:34.720 --> 00:30:38.319
I can allow myself to have pain. But guess what?

00:30:38.619 --> 00:30:41.859
Find myself I find my way back to my soul my

00:30:41.859 --> 00:30:44.259
purpose my love what I want to do things that

00:30:44.259 --> 00:30:47.059
make me happy Even if it starts by slow, you

00:30:47.059 --> 00:30:48.779
know, sometimes I'll be in the slums You know

00:30:48.779 --> 00:30:51.039
what gets me out and I know this is stupid but

00:30:51.039 --> 00:30:53.839
a good slutty mafia romance book I hate to say

00:30:53.839 --> 00:30:56.839
I downloaded web head again y 'all like two months

00:30:56.839 --> 00:31:01.720
ago I did and now I'm writing a book again. Like

00:31:01.720 --> 00:31:04.420
sometimes you have to find yourself and that

00:31:04.420 --> 00:31:07.369
might be in old ways You know, it might be in

00:31:07.369 --> 00:31:09.170
old ways, it might be in something you did 10

00:31:09.170 --> 00:31:12.630
years ago. That's okay! You have to understand

00:31:12.630 --> 00:31:14.450
you love certain things for a reason, and no

00:31:14.450 --> 00:31:16.450
matter how cliché it is, or no matter how small

00:31:16.450 --> 00:31:18.769
it is, sometimes you need to go back to it. Whether

00:31:18.769 --> 00:31:21.230
it be painting, or you used to sketch, or you

00:31:21.230 --> 00:31:24.230
used to journal, or you used to sing, or you

00:31:24.230 --> 00:31:26.289
know, you want to take this new job just because

00:31:26.289 --> 00:31:28.289
you need a little life, you want to be a florist

00:31:28.289 --> 00:31:30.950
for a minute, whatever it may be. Sometimes you

00:31:30.950 --> 00:31:34.150
need to go back and allow yourself to just be.

00:31:34.539 --> 00:31:36.220
You know, I think a lot of times we're just too

00:31:36.220 --> 00:31:38.640
hard on ourselves, extremely. We don't always

00:31:38.640 --> 00:31:41.140
have to grind and go get it. Grinding go get

00:31:41.140 --> 00:31:43.420
it is also allowing yourself to know when to

00:31:43.420 --> 00:31:45.720
rest, is also allowing yourself to know when,

00:31:46.140 --> 00:31:49.160
hey, I need to calm down. I need to find something.

00:31:49.220 --> 00:31:51.339
I need to play the game, or I need to do this.

00:31:51.460 --> 00:31:53.099
Because I'm going to be honest, I play Siege

00:31:53.099 --> 00:31:56.019
all the time, you know. I'm not even that fucking

00:31:56.019 --> 00:31:59.200
good. But Siege takes me out of my head and I

00:31:59.200 --> 00:32:01.859
understand that. So sometimes you just need to

00:32:01.859 --> 00:32:03.099
find something that takes you out of your head.

00:32:03.140 --> 00:32:05.180
It doesn't need to be. I think a lot of the time,

00:32:05.319 --> 00:32:07.880
especially in this time of day, we're all grind,

00:32:08.000 --> 00:32:10.059
hustle, go get it. Grind, hustle, go get it.

00:32:10.660 --> 00:32:12.700
But you got to understand you're going to be

00:32:12.700 --> 00:32:16.000
like this. You're just going to hit a wall. You're

00:32:16.000 --> 00:32:17.200
going to hit a wall. You're going to hit a wall.

00:32:17.319 --> 00:32:18.160
You're going to hit a blockage. You're going

00:32:18.160 --> 00:32:21.000
to hit a wall. If all you are is grind, hustle,

00:32:21.019 --> 00:32:22.839
go get it because you have to understand there's

00:32:22.839 --> 00:32:26.859
balance. There is time when you need to rest,

00:32:27.099 --> 00:32:28.799
time when you need to relax, time when you need

00:32:28.799 --> 00:32:31.140
to love yourself and pour into yourself. But

00:32:31.140 --> 00:32:32.980
that also is how you balance your ego. That's

00:32:32.980 --> 00:32:35.059
also how you learn to not let things define you.

00:32:35.259 --> 00:32:38.480
You need to find you. And then nothing can define

00:32:38.480 --> 00:32:40.420
you. Nothing anybody says can attack your character.

00:32:40.660 --> 00:32:43.279
It can hurt and shit can suck and be like, damn,

00:32:43.299 --> 00:32:45.400
I loved you so much. How could you say that to

00:32:45.400 --> 00:32:49.700
me? But guess what? I know who I am. That doesn't

00:32:49.700 --> 00:32:55.680
bother me no more. Right? So, yeah. Also this

00:32:55.680 --> 00:32:58.140
episode I hope you guys liked it It was way longer

00:32:58.140 --> 00:33:00.500
than I expected to be I did not expect a 40 40

00:33:00.500 --> 00:33:02.759
minute episode But I hope you guys enjoyed it,

00:33:02.759 --> 00:33:06.140
and I hope you guys loved it. Um Sorry if I sound

00:33:06.140 --> 00:33:09.720
like nasally I don't I don't know but um I love

00:33:09.720 --> 00:33:12.920
you guys so much, and I hope you have a blessed

00:33:12.920 --> 00:33:15.420
August I'll see you next Tuesday, but also don't

00:33:15.420 --> 00:33:19.940
forget. Bye that subscribers only for bonus episodes

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No ads everything like that, and I love you guys

00:33:22.519 --> 00:33:26.440
so much I just hope you have a blessed day and

00:33:26.440 --> 00:33:28.720
please leave a five star rating in review and

00:33:28.720 --> 00:33:30.619
everything down below Please follow all the so

00:33:30.619 --> 00:33:32.240
did I over share social medias whether it be

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tiktok instagram my personal zoe exe I love you

00:33:35.920 --> 00:33:37.420
guys so much. And if you have any questions,

00:33:37.599 --> 00:33:39.759
email me dm me do whatever you need to do. I've

00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:40.180
got so much