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Hey girl, sit tight, don't mind the chaos and

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just lie. Hi besties. What is up besties? It

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is your host Zoe and I am back finally with another

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episode on the Did I Overshare podcast today

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and so happy to be with you guys talking, you

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know, doing all the fun things. I do want to

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address my elephant in the room. It's probably

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nobody else's, but it's mine. So yeah, I took

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two weeks off. And if you're following the Did

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I Overture Instagram, it was announced on there.

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So please, please, please, please stay in touch

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with that. But yes, I did take two weeks off

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for my own mental health, I think collectively.

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For the past year of my life, I have gone through

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so much and I think I've never processed it like

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I, I kind of just always Kevin Bush and I was

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like, all right. Well, you guys know me like

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what am I gonna do like life? I just got to keep

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going like I know what I want my life I just

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got to keep going just got to keep going keep

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going. So I finally hit a wall I finally crashed.

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I finally had a point where I was just like,

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oh my god Lowest of all lows and and I needed

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I needed a moment to feel I needed a moment to

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grieve I needed a moment to sit here and just

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think of everything that I that I never wanted

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to think about before and go through every single

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thing that I didn't want to before right so I

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did that and I had that point and honestly I'm

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blessed that I had that point because holy hell

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how much do you guys know I have the next two

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months planned for podcasting right every episode

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every post everything is scheduled everything

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is done these two weeks have been the biggest

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blessing in disguise right It's just been really

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good for me and I wanted to let you guys know

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why I was gone because I really, really hate

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taking breaks. I really hate giving you guys

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inconsistency. But in that instance, I really

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did need it for myself. And, you know, I want

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to let... You know, I just want to tell you guys,

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don't let yourself get to that point. But if

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you do, it's inevitable. You will crash at some

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point if you don't allow yourself to stop, heal,

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process. Be lazy, if that's what you call it.

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Grieve. Not do anything. Be unhealthy. Do whatever

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you need to do. Take a break. Allow your brain

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to feel and reset and allow your nervous system

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to calm down and kind of catch up with you. Because

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I didn't do that for myself and I regret it.

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So do it for you. Don't be like me, right? Granger,

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this is my podcast. Shouldn't I be wanting that?

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But in this instance, no. Don't be like me, okay?

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Don't crash and burn. But like a phoenix dare

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I say we're back up and I have so much content

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to give to you guys and you know, if you are

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Enjoying this podcast, please leave a five -star

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rating and review you guys know I love that I

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have been getting so many new reviews and ratings

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that I love reading and I love seeing you guys

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warm my heart and so many new followers on The

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did I over share podcast? So welcome all you

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guys love you baddies. Okay And so today's episode,

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what is it? Keep it private and keep it pushing.

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I've seen that. I don't know where I've seen

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it, but I see where I thought it. I don't know

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if I can't. I don't really know. My notes are

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kind of just like a jumble of my thoughts. All

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right. But keep it private and keep it pushing.

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And this really spoke to me because I've never

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maybe I think I've dabbled in one, but usually

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not the other. So sometimes I've kept it private

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and didn't keep it fucking pushing. Sometimes.

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Didn't keep it private and I still kept it pushing

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like we're just kind of everywhere and I think

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I wanted to choose this episode and it felt really

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Aligned with me to talk about it because I think

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I am in an era of my life where I have finally

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mastered the art of keeping it private and keep

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it pushing You know keep going you don't need

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an audience. You don't need applause. You don't

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need fans You don't know people you don't need

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people to tell you they're proud of you or that

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you know Just anything else keep it Pushing don't

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tell anybody your ideas your plans your thoughts

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your worries your anxieties Keep it together

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and keep it pushing. All right, and now all of

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us we all have people in our lives, right? Now

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I'm not talking like we all have a select few

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people that you know, we'll know what's going

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on around us You know if I trust you with my

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life. All right, you're gonna know what's probably

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going on, right? But not everything that I think

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I have finally gotten to a point No, like any

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thought that crosses my mind business thought

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Self -work thought house thought I strictly keep

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it to myself. I don't tell a soul I don't care

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if I love you or trust you with my life I keep

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it to myself because I think for for me at least

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so much in the past I I often It's like I needed

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kind of like an opinion maybe or like approval

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to do something like hey Plan changing my branding

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colors. Okay, we recently did that right? We're

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green right now. I love fucking with colors Alright,

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so we're green right now. I didn't ask anybody

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for that and you know past me would have been

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like hey Do you guys think this looks good? Do

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you think this is what it is? Hey, I'm having

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anxiety about changing it to this color I don't

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think it would you know match the vibe match

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the mood. I don't do any of that anymore I keep

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every single thought I have to myself and for

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my own protection In a way, you know, I feel

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like that is the best way I can learn how to

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trust myself again, because I feel like for me

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when I was seeking advice and seeking approval

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and knowledge from so many other people about

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things that I held close to my heart, things

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that I was interested in, my passions, my hobbies,

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my life, everything I had to do with me, I'm

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outsourcing information. Genuinely, I grew such

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a lack of trust with myself. Because I couldn't

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even depend on myself to make a business decision

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without anybody else's opinion, right? Hey, this

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is your business. What color do you like? What

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font do you like? What brand do you want to work

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with? What do you want to do, Zoe? What color

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do you want to wear today? So for me, this process

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of keeping it private and keep pushing has allowed

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me to fully understand myself to to learn how

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to trust myself again, trust my own decision

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making, because I think a lot of the times some

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of us. Don't keep it private because we are scared

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to make the wrong decision to to go the wrong

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way. And we think other people somehow know this

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advice, like, you know. Everybody got it but

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us. You know, she has the best advice. He has

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the best advice. No, he knows. He knows what

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color my brand should be. It's not his opinion.

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No, that's not how it is, and that's not how

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it should be. Now, yes, there's people who help

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us, of course. We all know that. But I think

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when you are working on your own passion... in

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your own life and just the building blocks of

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it, I think that needs to come from within. Because

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you have to have that foundation. That foundation

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cannot be built by somebody else. And I think

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I caught myself being stuck in that loop, in

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that process, you know? Like I said, some plans

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need protections. I think things private, like

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I said, whether it be ideas or anything like

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that, it allows you to exist without judgment

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and spaces and allows you to exist and have freedom.

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Freedom is truly what it is. When you have freedom

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to do anything, there are no reins, there are

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no holds, there are no limits. And that goes

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into everything. And I hope y 'all know it truly

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affects you more than anything. We have a lot

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of limitations we place on ourselves and what

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we can do, how big we can go. And even if it's

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just physically or mentally, like if we're thinking

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small, Like, you know in reality, are we not

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doing much with our business plans? Are we thinking

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small mentally as well? Like hey, you know, I

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don't I shouldn't do this. Let me ask them What

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should I do stop playing small take a space have

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that freedom? Oh my gosh, you want to build a

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machine with 90 elephants? That's never been

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done before like and it will like save the world

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Do it who the fuck says you can't right but keep

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that to yourself because I'm gonna be honest

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if somebody walked up to me and told me that

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In my head, I'd be like, no way, right? Because

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that's never happened, right? But even though

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I'm like not hating for real, I'm still putting

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limiting beliefs into your plans because who

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knows what if you do do that? Just because people

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don't understand you or the idea you have does

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not mean they're acting with malicious intent

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It doesn't mean they're hating or they're trying

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to give you the evil eye or they're like fuck

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her plan. She just can't do it No, sometimes

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shit does sound crazy. Like if we're looking

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at somebody right if I'm looking at somebody

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and like they tell me something I'm just like

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Hey, I know what spot of life you're in. I know

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what you're doing. I know how you act It's kind

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of like okay, like a person on the street walks

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up to you and they're like I'm gonna be a millionaire

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You're looking at them like yeah, okay, and you

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keep walking Is it like it could be as simple

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as that some shit like a Lot of us can't see

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like a lot of it doesn't make sense But that's

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okay if it don't make sense to me. Just don't

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tell me though Don't tell me though because a

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lot of the stuff I do does not make sense to

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the other people But me, when I used to vocalize

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what I was doing, those other people would be

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like, hey, this does not make sense. And in turn,

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it would cause me to doubt myself, doubt what

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I was doing and be like, well, maybe this doesn't

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make sense. Maybe this is impossible. Wrong.

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No, just keep in your head. Be as crazy as you

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can be and be impossible. Have those impossible

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ideas and those crazy things. But like I said,

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you don't always need to verbalize it because

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not everybody's going to understand you. But

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that doesn't mean it's maliciously. Now, some

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people really do be hating. Some people make

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it their life goal to hate. That's cool. Sad

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for them. Fuck them. Anyway, literally plot,

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plot, plot. But don't tell nobody. Right. You

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don't owe anybody updates on your life or updates

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on what you're doing. Literally, I had something.

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OK, so people people will literally get mad at

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you for being private. People will get mad at

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you. for not giving them extra access to information

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which makes no sense to me right like you don't

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owe anybody an explanation you don't owe anybody

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updates on your life like i i've had a couple

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people recently like very very recently like

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mad at me because they don't know my marriage

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status the fuck does that got to do with you

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We don't like nobody knows like if you guys just

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are gonna get secretly married like if you guys

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are just gonna get eloped if you guys Already

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are you know if you guys did that last year like

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what happened and you know? Nobody likes we don't

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feel like we don't like being left out the box

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or left out the loop and you don't feel like

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that It's just like what the fuck are we talking

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about? Why does it matter what I'm doing? And

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then it's just like my release and then it's

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people like I'm it's not My dad, right? Like

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it's like why does my marriage status affect

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your daily life? Why does what I'm doing as a

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job affect your daily life? Why does my thoughts

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and ideas and my actions and why why why is this

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irritating you? Why are you giving me so much

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negative energy when this shit don't even got

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nothing to do with you? That makes no sense.

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That makes no sense to me at least That's why

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I keep it private, because honestly, I want to

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be honest, in that one part, this might be egotistic,

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but this really does feel my ego, okay? I love

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when people are nosy about me, because yes, you're

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wrong. No, actually, that didn't happen in my

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life. I remember sometimes, do you ever heard

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a rumor about yourself and it's so fucking outlandish?

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It's like, well damn, what does everybody else

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think I got going on? Like, I'm intrigued at

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this point. What else could you come up with?

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Like, damn, I'm an astronaut. I appreciate that,

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actually. I appreciate that. Maybe I should be

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shooting higher. Maybe I should be shooting higher

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because a lot of the times people think you got

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more sauce than what you actually kind of got

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going on, and it really benefits you. Or sometimes

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a lot of people underestimate the sauce you got.

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Either way, it still benefits you. Either way,

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you're still doing good. Either way, in your

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head, you can still giggle and tee -hee -hee

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and be like, Damn she think I'm broke as shit

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and I have and like I'm just miserable and like

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what the fuck Me on a yacht currently Nobody

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needs to know what the fuck's going on and honestly

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bake it till you make it right and even if people

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are talking shit about you let them like so Let's

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say you're in the opposite situation and people

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are like, oh she got it like that. She got it

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like that Why can't she do this? Why is she doing

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that in reality you sitting here like damn I'm

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broke as hell Hey, that's just more motivation

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for you, right? Keep it private any situation

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good or bad I don't care if you are down bad.

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They just caught off your stamps like down bad,

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right? You know, I've been there been there been

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there You still gotta act like you're the boss.

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You still got a boss up You still gotta act like

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this your life and you run it, right? But don't

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tell nobody you don't gotta tell nobody that

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you don't we don't right and just keep it going

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and a lot of the times I think it's the keep

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it pushing part that we get confused about, right?

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Because we can keep it to ourselves, right? But

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are we going to sit there and dwell on it and

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just be like, oh my God, I just wish they could

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see how good I was doing. I just, I just wish

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this. No, no, no, no. Keep pushing. Keep pushing.

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Fuck their opinions. Fuck everybody else's opinions.

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Fuck all that overthinking you're about to do.

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Fuck the anxiety. Keep it pushing. We don't understand

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that part. Keep it pushing. You kept it private,

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good job. But if you're not going to finish the

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act, stop being hard on yourself and keep it

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pushing. You don't need acceptance, you don't

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need applause, you don't need congratulations.

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Keep going. And if you are doing the right thing,

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you will get those congratulations. You will

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get those checks. You will get every single thing

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you need to in private as well. The people that

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know will know. The people that are working with

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you know how much money you got. The bank knows

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how much money you got. Why does it matter that

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the bitch you don't even like from high school?

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knows how much money you got. Why does it matter?

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It don't. It don't. Keep it pushing. Because

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you can't have to keep it private without the

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keep it pushing, okay? Something I like to say,

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which ties into the whole beginning part, is

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don't say anything until it's permanent. And

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what I mean by this is don't tell anybody, let's

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say you want to get a car, right? Don't tell

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anybody, oh, hey, I'm looking at thinking about

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getting this car, blah, blah, blah. People will

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speak. fear and doubt and judgment into your

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dreams. No shade, even if it's mentally and they're

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not speaking it out loud, don't tell nobody that.

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And like I said, it don't always have to be malicious,

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but it's there. Don't tell nobody that until

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it's done. You're working with a brand, a new

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brand, don't tell anybody that until you've already

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worked and had the ad campaign, right? You're

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about to go to Turks and Caicos, cool. Don't

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be telling everybody you're about to go, like

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you're about to go. Okay, post the pictures we

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done right nobody needs to know also That's how

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like crazy shit happens like that's how your

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house gets broken into like I had to happen to

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me growing up Somebody knew we were out on vacation

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somebody came over my focus on you to know that

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much information about your life people don't

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need to know That much business let them guess

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let them be wrong. Let them be right honestly

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it if you are right Ronnie points to you I will

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never tell you were right though never You're

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going to have to watch me. You're going to have

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to watch my success now. And the private part

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is also not even just kind of being quiet about

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stuff, allowing yourself to grow and make mistakes

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in private. Holy hell, just be wrong. You know

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how many times I think I restart my life every

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day. If I feel like I'm not where I want to be,

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I will try to rebrand every day because I know

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I can fail however many times, but I got to keep

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going. Right? So I just restart and restart and

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restart. So what if somebody is right, right?

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And it's, it's, it's taken a hit on you. Damn.

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Every, like, they said I was going to fail and

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I failed. Prove them wrong next time, bitch.

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Start up. Get up. Fail again. Y 'all get it.

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Y 'all get it one time. Like I had a whole episode

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about that. Y 'all know that. But literally restart.

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Restart your life. I restart my life all the

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time. and keep it pushing. What? Oh, and I've

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seen this quote. I wanna redraw this quote, okay?

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It says, some things need silence and space before

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they are ready to be seen, if they ever need

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to be seen at all. And let me say that because

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that spoke to me, right? Because a lot of times

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I would be like, okay, well, I'm not showing

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it now. I can show it later. Some things really

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people just don't need to know. You know, not

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everybody needs to know that you had that accomplishment.

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Not everybody needs to know that you made it.

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Not everybody needs to know, oh, hey, I just

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got a promotion here or a job offer here. Some

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things really just don't need to be told or celebrated.

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Like, celebrated within you, but publicly, like...

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Lot of this shit. I think especially with social

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media. We want everything to be seen and I really

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like you know coming back to this I really like

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the trend going around right now where it's like

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everybody's posting pictures and like, oh my

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gosh That wasn't even my shirt. I don't even

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know this girl She posted it was this dude holding

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up a whole bunch of money and she was like, I

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don't even notice man And it was like okay period

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like social media is fake first of all and a

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lot of the things we know about the people around

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us is just Hyped up, you know, we all like to

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paint a picture a certain way or Put on an act

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maybe right because rightfully so I gotta act

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like who I want to be But it goes into saying

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most of us are lying Something I had written

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down that I've been seeing and I really love

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is treat them like they have a wire on and And

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I love that because that is how I move in life.

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I don't Well, now, let me say that now. Now,

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when I talk to people, I don't care if I've known

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you my whole life. I'm looking at you like. Because

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in my brain, I'm 10 steps ahead. Who the fuck

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and how the fuck can you use this information

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against me? And I hate to say it, because that,

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for me personally, comes out of a place of survival.

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Anything I have ever told anybody that has been

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like kind of serious or something wrong, like

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majority of time has always been thrown in my

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face, either by someone else or by them. So a

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lot of time when I say things I just be lying

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and I know that's bad But I love lying like when

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I was at work when I used to work in retail at

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Ulta I would just lie to the customers You're

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there asked me like I remember when I first got

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engaged. I asked me like oh when did this happen?

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like two years ago, I Just I feel like now nobody

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can know real information about me because I

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just feel like Nah, I'm gonna keep everything

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private. I'd rather just keep everything private

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so everything can be good. So only me, God, and

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my ancestors know what the fuck is going on around

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here, okay? And I got it. I got it. Nobody else

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has to know. So I will lie if I'm out in public

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and people are asking me, like, a lot of people

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like to ask questions about your personal life

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that make no sense. I just be making shit up.

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I really do. What's my career? Girl, I'm a phlebotomist.

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What the fuck do you mean? What? You sometimes

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you have to lie, and I know that sounds crazy

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But not everybody's the real information and

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it could be a white lie It could be a little

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small or you could have fun with it one time.

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I told somebody else from Nebraska all right

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You know that's just because penny from Big Bang

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Theory's on there. I just came up with some all

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right literally I just came up with something

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sometimes lie because some people really are

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prying and come off genuine about it and now

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In the overall span and take of this episode

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in retrospect I do want to make this known Not

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everybody is out to attack you and I know when

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I make these episodes it can sound like oh my

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gosh I must guard myself and shield myself from

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the whole world. That's not the case, right?

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Because when I'm talking to you, I'm talking

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to you In a way where I want you to better yourself

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And I think it would be ignorant for me to sit

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up here and say all these things and not let

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you know that a lot of people really do have

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good intentions for you. A lot of people do want

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the best for you. There are people who love you

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and support you and generally like genuinely

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pray for you and pray over your plans and what

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you have going on. So don't don't take these

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episodes and listen to this like, oh my gosh,

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I must. you know, guard up, shield up, not telling

00:21:19.150 --> 00:21:22.009
anybody anything. Because in a sense, yes, but

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also in a sense, no. Something I've learned recently

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in life, a village is needed. It's very important.

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Having a community, having their people, like

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not even having to ask, but people who do speak

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life into you and pray for you, it is needed,

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right? So don't think everybody is alienating

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you or trying to harm you or hurt you in a way.

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I promise you that's not what it is. But I just

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wanted to let that be known before we close out

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this episode. But yeah, I love you guys so much.

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And I do hope you enjoyed this episode. I enjoyed

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