Hey girl, sit tight, don't mind the chaos and
just lie. Hi besties. What is up besties? It
is your host Zoe and I am back finally with another
episode on the Did I Overshare podcast today
and so happy to be with you guys talking, you
know, doing all the fun things. I do want to
address my elephant in the room. It's probably
nobody else's, but it's mine. So yeah, I took
two weeks off. And if you're following the Did
I Overture Instagram, it was announced on there.
So please, please, please, please stay in touch
with that. But yes, I did take two weeks off
for my own mental health, I think collectively.
For the past year of my life, I have gone through
so much and I think I've never processed it like
I, I kind of just always Kevin Bush and I was
like, all right. Well, you guys know me like
what am I gonna do like life? I just got to keep
going like I know what I want my life I just
got to keep going just got to keep going keep
going. So I finally hit a wall I finally crashed.
I finally had a point where I was just like,
oh my god Lowest of all lows and and I needed
I needed a moment to feel I needed a moment to
grieve I needed a moment to sit here and just
think of everything that I that I never wanted
to think about before and go through every single
thing that I didn't want to before right so I
did that and I had that point and honestly I'm
blessed that I had that point because holy hell
how much do you guys know I have the next two
months planned for podcasting right every episode
every post everything is scheduled everything
is done these two weeks have been the biggest
blessing in disguise right It's just been really
good for me and I wanted to let you guys know
why I was gone because I really, really hate
taking breaks. I really hate giving you guys
inconsistency. But in that instance, I really
did need it for myself. And, you know, I want
to let... You know, I just want to tell you guys,
don't let yourself get to that point. But if
you do, it's inevitable. You will crash at some
point if you don't allow yourself to stop, heal,
process. Be lazy, if that's what you call it.
Grieve. Not do anything. Be unhealthy. Do whatever
you need to do. Take a break. Allow your brain
to feel and reset and allow your nervous system
to calm down and kind of catch up with you. Because
I didn't do that for myself and I regret it.
So do it for you. Don't be like me, right? Granger,
this is my podcast. Shouldn't I be wanting that?
But in this instance, no. Don't be like me, okay?
Don't crash and burn. But like a phoenix dare
I say we're back up and I have so much content
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guys love you baddies. Okay And so today's episode,
what is it? Keep it private and keep it pushing.
I've seen that. I don't know where I've seen
it, but I see where I thought it. I don't know
if I can't. I don't really know. My notes are
kind of just like a jumble of my thoughts. All
right. But keep it private and keep it pushing.
And this really spoke to me because I've never
maybe I think I've dabbled in one, but usually
not the other. So sometimes I've kept it private
and didn't keep it fucking pushing. Sometimes.
Didn't keep it private and I still kept it pushing
like we're just kind of everywhere and I think
I wanted to choose this episode and it felt really
Aligned with me to talk about it because I think
I am in an era of my life where I have finally
mastered the art of keeping it private and keep
it pushing You know keep going you don't need
an audience. You don't need applause. You don't
need fans You don't know people you don't need
people to tell you they're proud of you or that
you know Just anything else keep it Pushing don't
tell anybody your ideas your plans your thoughts
your worries your anxieties Keep it together
and keep it pushing. All right, and now all of
us we all have people in our lives, right? Now
I'm not talking like we all have a select few
people that you know, we'll know what's going
on around us You know if I trust you with my
life. All right, you're gonna know what's probably
going on, right? But not everything that I think
I have finally gotten to a point No, like any
thought that crosses my mind business thought
Self -work thought house thought I strictly keep
it to myself. I don't tell a soul I don't care
if I love you or trust you with my life I keep
it to myself because I think for for me at least
so much in the past I I often It's like I needed
kind of like an opinion maybe or like approval
to do something like hey Plan changing my branding
colors. Okay, we recently did that right? We're
green right now. I love fucking with colors Alright,
so we're green right now. I didn't ask anybody
for that and you know past me would have been
like hey Do you guys think this looks good? Do
you think this is what it is? Hey, I'm having
anxiety about changing it to this color I don't
think it would you know match the vibe match
the mood. I don't do any of that anymore I keep
every single thought I have to myself and for
my own protection In a way, you know, I feel
like that is the best way I can learn how to
trust myself again, because I feel like for me
when I was seeking advice and seeking approval
and knowledge from so many other people about
things that I held close to my heart, things
that I was interested in, my passions, my hobbies,
my life, everything I had to do with me, I'm
outsourcing information. Genuinely, I grew such
a lack of trust with myself. Because I couldn't
even depend on myself to make a business decision
without anybody else's opinion, right? Hey, this
is your business. What color do you like? What
font do you like? What brand do you want to work
with? What do you want to do, Zoe? What color
do you want to wear today? So for me, this process
of keeping it private and keep pushing has allowed
me to fully understand myself to to learn how
to trust myself again, trust my own decision
making, because I think a lot of the times some
of us. Don't keep it private because we are scared
to make the wrong decision to to go the wrong
way. And we think other people somehow know this
advice, like, you know. Everybody got it but
us. You know, she has the best advice. He has
the best advice. No, he knows. He knows what
color my brand should be. It's not his opinion.
No, that's not how it is, and that's not how
it should be. Now, yes, there's people who help
us, of course. We all know that. But I think
when you are working on your own passion... in
your own life and just the building blocks of
it, I think that needs to come from within. Because
you have to have that foundation. That foundation
cannot be built by somebody else. And I think
I caught myself being stuck in that loop, in
that process, you know? Like I said, some plans
need protections. I think things private, like
I said, whether it be ideas or anything like
that, it allows you to exist without judgment
and spaces and allows you to exist and have freedom.
Freedom is truly what it is. When you have freedom
to do anything, there are no reins, there are
no holds, there are no limits. And that goes
into everything. And I hope y 'all know it truly
affects you more than anything. We have a lot
of limitations we place on ourselves and what
we can do, how big we can go. And even if it's
just physically or mentally, like if we're thinking
small, Like, you know in reality, are we not
doing much with our business plans? Are we thinking
small mentally as well? Like hey, you know, I
don't I shouldn't do this. Let me ask them What
should I do stop playing small take a space have
that freedom? Oh my gosh, you want to build a
machine with 90 elephants? That's never been
done before like and it will like save the world
Do it who the fuck says you can't right but keep
that to yourself because I'm gonna be honest
if somebody walked up to me and told me that
In my head, I'd be like, no way, right? Because
that's never happened, right? But even though
I'm like not hating for real, I'm still putting
limiting beliefs into your plans because who
knows what if you do do that? Just because people
don't understand you or the idea you have does
not mean they're acting with malicious intent
It doesn't mean they're hating or they're trying
to give you the evil eye or they're like fuck
her plan. She just can't do it No, sometimes
shit does sound crazy. Like if we're looking
at somebody right if I'm looking at somebody
and like they tell me something I'm just like
Hey, I know what spot of life you're in. I know
what you're doing. I know how you act It's kind
of like okay, like a person on the street walks
up to you and they're like I'm gonna be a millionaire
You're looking at them like yeah, okay, and you
keep walking Is it like it could be as simple
as that some shit like a Lot of us can't see
like a lot of it doesn't make sense But that's
okay if it don't make sense to me. Just don't
tell me though Don't tell me though because a
lot of the stuff I do does not make sense to
the other people But me, when I used to vocalize
what I was doing, those other people would be
like, hey, this does not make sense. And in turn,
it would cause me to doubt myself, doubt what
I was doing and be like, well, maybe this doesn't
make sense. Maybe this is impossible. Wrong.
No, just keep in your head. Be as crazy as you
can be and be impossible. Have those impossible
ideas and those crazy things. But like I said,
you don't always need to verbalize it because
not everybody's going to understand you. But
that doesn't mean it's maliciously. Now, some
people really do be hating. Some people make
it their life goal to hate. That's cool. Sad
for them. Fuck them. Anyway, literally plot,
plot, plot. But don't tell nobody. Right. You
don't owe anybody updates on your life or updates
on what you're doing. Literally, I had something.
OK, so people people will literally get mad at
you for being private. People will get mad at
you. for not giving them extra access to information
which makes no sense to me right like you don't
owe anybody an explanation you don't owe anybody
updates on your life like i i've had a couple
people recently like very very recently like
mad at me because they don't know my marriage
status the fuck does that got to do with you
We don't like nobody knows like if you guys just
are gonna get secretly married like if you guys
are just gonna get eloped if you guys Already
are you know if you guys did that last year like
what happened and you know? Nobody likes we don't
feel like we don't like being left out the box
or left out the loop and you don't feel like
that It's just like what the fuck are we talking
about? Why does it matter what I'm doing? And
then it's just like my release and then it's
people like I'm it's not My dad, right? Like
it's like why does my marriage status affect
your daily life? Why does what I'm doing as a
job affect your daily life? Why does my thoughts
and ideas and my actions and why why why is this
irritating you? Why are you giving me so much
negative energy when this shit don't even got
nothing to do with you? That makes no sense.
That makes no sense to me at least That's why
I keep it private, because honestly, I want to
be honest, in that one part, this might be egotistic,
but this really does feel my ego, okay? I love
when people are nosy about me, because yes, you're
wrong. No, actually, that didn't happen in my
life. I remember sometimes, do you ever heard
a rumor about yourself and it's so fucking outlandish?
It's like, well damn, what does everybody else
think I got going on? Like, I'm intrigued at
this point. What else could you come up with?
Like, damn, I'm an astronaut. I appreciate that,
actually. I appreciate that. Maybe I should be
shooting higher. Maybe I should be shooting higher
because a lot of the times people think you got
more sauce than what you actually kind of got
going on, and it really benefits you. Or sometimes
a lot of people underestimate the sauce you got.
Either way, it still benefits you. Either way,
you're still doing good. Either way, in your
head, you can still giggle and tee -hee -hee
and be like, Damn she think I'm broke as shit
and I have and like I'm just miserable and like
what the fuck Me on a yacht currently Nobody
needs to know what the fuck's going on and honestly
bake it till you make it right and even if people
are talking shit about you let them like so Let's
say you're in the opposite situation and people
are like, oh she got it like that. She got it
like that Why can't she do this? Why is she doing
that in reality you sitting here like damn I'm
broke as hell Hey, that's just more motivation
for you, right? Keep it private any situation
good or bad I don't care if you are down bad.
They just caught off your stamps like down bad,
right? You know, I've been there been there been
there You still gotta act like you're the boss.
You still got a boss up You still gotta act like
this your life and you run it, right? But don't
tell nobody you don't gotta tell nobody that
you don't we don't right and just keep it going
and a lot of the times I think it's the keep
it pushing part that we get confused about, right?
Because we can keep it to ourselves, right? But
are we going to sit there and dwell on it and
just be like, oh my God, I just wish they could
see how good I was doing. I just, I just wish
this. No, no, no, no. Keep pushing. Keep pushing.
Fuck their opinions. Fuck everybody else's opinions.
Fuck all that overthinking you're about to do.
Fuck the anxiety. Keep it pushing. We don't understand
that part. Keep it pushing. You kept it private,
good job. But if you're not going to finish the
act, stop being hard on yourself and keep it
pushing. You don't need acceptance, you don't
need applause, you don't need congratulations.
Keep going. And if you are doing the right thing,
you will get those congratulations. You will
get those checks. You will get every single thing
you need to in private as well. The people that
know will know. The people that are working with
you know how much money you got. The bank knows
how much money you got. Why does it matter that
the bitch you don't even like from high school?
knows how much money you got. Why does it matter?
It don't. It don't. Keep it pushing. Because
you can't have to keep it private without the
keep it pushing, okay? Something I like to say,
which ties into the whole beginning part, is
don't say anything until it's permanent. And
what I mean by this is don't tell anybody, let's
say you want to get a car, right? Don't tell
anybody, oh, hey, I'm looking at thinking about
getting this car, blah, blah, blah. People will
speak. fear and doubt and judgment into your
dreams. No shade, even if it's mentally and they're
not speaking it out loud, don't tell nobody that.
And like I said, it don't always have to be malicious,
but it's there. Don't tell nobody that until
it's done. You're working with a brand, a new
brand, don't tell anybody that until you've already
worked and had the ad campaign, right? You're
about to go to Turks and Caicos, cool. Don't
be telling everybody you're about to go, like
you're about to go. Okay, post the pictures we
done right nobody needs to know also That's how
like crazy shit happens like that's how your
house gets broken into like I had to happen to
me growing up Somebody knew we were out on vacation
somebody came over my focus on you to know that
much information about your life people don't
need to know That much business let them guess
let them be wrong. Let them be right honestly
it if you are right Ronnie points to you I will
never tell you were right though never You're
going to have to watch me. You're going to have
to watch my success now. And the private part
is also not even just kind of being quiet about
stuff, allowing yourself to grow and make mistakes
in private. Holy hell, just be wrong. You know
how many times I think I restart my life every
day. If I feel like I'm not where I want to be,
I will try to rebrand every day because I know
I can fail however many times, but I got to keep
going. Right? So I just restart and restart and
restart. So what if somebody is right, right?
And it's, it's, it's taken a hit on you. Damn.
Every, like, they said I was going to fail and
I failed. Prove them wrong next time, bitch.
Start up. Get up. Fail again. Y 'all get it.
Y 'all get it one time. Like I had a whole episode
about that. Y 'all know that. But literally restart.
Restart your life. I restart my life all the
time. and keep it pushing. What? Oh, and I've
seen this quote. I wanna redraw this quote, okay?
It says, some things need silence and space before
they are ready to be seen, if they ever need
to be seen at all. And let me say that because
that spoke to me, right? Because a lot of times
I would be like, okay, well, I'm not showing
it now. I can show it later. Some things really
people just don't need to know. You know, not
everybody needs to know that you had that accomplishment.
Not everybody needs to know that you made it.
Not everybody needs to know, oh, hey, I just
got a promotion here or a job offer here. Some
things really just don't need to be told or celebrated.
Like, celebrated within you, but publicly, like...
Lot of this shit. I think especially with social
media. We want everything to be seen and I really
like you know coming back to this I really like
the trend going around right now where it's like
everybody's posting pictures and like, oh my
gosh That wasn't even my shirt. I don't even
know this girl She posted it was this dude holding
up a whole bunch of money and she was like, I
don't even notice man And it was like okay period
like social media is fake first of all and a
lot of the things we know about the people around
us is just Hyped up, you know, we all like to
paint a picture a certain way or Put on an act
maybe right because rightfully so I gotta act
like who I want to be But it goes into saying
most of us are lying Something I had written
down that I've been seeing and I really love
is treat them like they have a wire on and And
I love that because that is how I move in life.
I don't Well, now, let me say that now. Now,
when I talk to people, I don't care if I've known
you my whole life. I'm looking at you like. Because
in my brain, I'm 10 steps ahead. Who the fuck
and how the fuck can you use this information
against me? And I hate to say it, because that,
for me personally, comes out of a place of survival.
Anything I have ever told anybody that has been
like kind of serious or something wrong, like
majority of time has always been thrown in my
face, either by someone else or by them. So a
lot of time when I say things I just be lying
and I know that's bad But I love lying like when
I was at work when I used to work in retail at
Ulta I would just lie to the customers You're
there asked me like I remember when I first got
engaged. I asked me like oh when did this happen?
like two years ago, I Just I feel like now nobody
can know real information about me because I
just feel like Nah, I'm gonna keep everything
private. I'd rather just keep everything private
so everything can be good. So only me, God, and
my ancestors know what the fuck is going on around
here, okay? And I got it. I got it. Nobody else
has to know. So I will lie if I'm out in public
and people are asking me, like, a lot of people
like to ask questions about your personal life
that make no sense. I just be making shit up.
I really do. What's my career? Girl, I'm a phlebotomist.
What the fuck do you mean? What? You sometimes
you have to lie, and I know that sounds crazy
But not everybody's the real information and
it could be a white lie It could be a little
small or you could have fun with it one time.
I told somebody else from Nebraska all right
You know that's just because penny from Big Bang
Theory's on there. I just came up with some all
right literally I just came up with something
sometimes lie because some people really are
prying and come off genuine about it and now
In the overall span and take of this episode
in retrospect I do want to make this known Not
everybody is out to attack you and I know when
I make these episodes it can sound like oh my
gosh I must guard myself and shield myself from
the whole world. That's not the case, right?
Because when I'm talking to you, I'm talking
to you In a way where I want you to better yourself
And I think it would be ignorant for me to sit
up here and say all these things and not let
you know that a lot of people really do have
good intentions for you. A lot of people do want
the best for you. There are people who love you
and support you and generally like genuinely
pray for you and pray over your plans and what
you have going on. So don't don't take these
episodes and listen to this like, oh my gosh,
I must. you know, guard up, shield up, not telling
anybody anything. Because in a sense, yes, but
also in a sense, no. Something I've learned recently
in life, a village is needed. It's very important.
Having a community, having their people, like
not even having to ask, but people who do speak
life into you and pray for you, it is needed,
right? So don't think everybody is alienating
you or trying to harm you or hurt you in a way.
I promise you that's not what it is. But I just
wanted to let that be known before we close out
this episode. But yeah, I love you guys so much.
And I do hope you enjoyed this episode. I enjoyed
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