WEBVTT 00:00:00.599 --> 00:00:03.779 Hey girl, sit tight, don't mind the chaos, and 00:00:03.779 --> 00:00:08.419 just smile. Hi besties. What is up besties? It 00:00:08.419 --> 00:00:11.720 is your host Zoe and I am back with another episode 00:00:11.720 --> 00:00:14.320 on the Did I Overshare podcast today. I hope 00:00:14.320 --> 00:00:16.820 y 'all are doing good. I'm doing phenomenal. 00:00:16.859 --> 00:00:18.780 I hope y 'all are doing phenomenal. And if you're 00:00:18.780 --> 00:00:21.480 not, I am sending phenomenal vibes and love and 00:00:21.480 --> 00:00:24.199 kisses your way. And all the listeners, send 00:00:24.199 --> 00:00:30.140 good vibes to everybody else, okay? I have no 00:00:30.140 --> 00:00:32.060 business to get into other than things have been 00:00:32.060 --> 00:00:34.920 going great. We have been doing so good on TikTok. 00:00:34.939 --> 00:00:37.140 We've been doing so good on Instagram. You guys 00:00:37.140 --> 00:00:39.640 have been leaving reviews. Y 'all are the shit. 00:00:39.759 --> 00:00:42.579 I love y 'all. You know, we go together real 00:00:42.579 --> 00:00:47.340 bad. Okay, we go together real bad. So today's 00:00:47.340 --> 00:00:51.020 episode was actually requested. It was in my 00:00:51.020 --> 00:00:52.759 plans anyway. Literally, she read my mind. It 00:00:52.759 --> 00:00:55.780 was in my notes anyway. And then she requested 00:00:55.780 --> 00:00:59.030 it. And I think her name's Hua. If I pronounce 00:00:59.030 --> 00:01:01.770 it wrong, contact me and correct me. You have 00:01:01.770 --> 00:01:06.469 my DM, DM me, right? But she requested this episode 00:01:06.469 --> 00:01:08.349 to, like, it would be a great follow -up after 00:01:08.349 --> 00:01:10.069 the last one. Hey, this is something I am going 00:01:10.069 --> 00:01:11.549 through in my life. And I'm like, OK, period, 00:01:11.670 --> 00:01:15.469 girl. Let's go. Let's go. Let's jump in. Because 00:01:15.469 --> 00:01:18.069 actually, this is something where I find myself 00:01:18.069 --> 00:01:21.129 in the midst of right now. I see myself in this 00:01:21.129 --> 00:01:23.510 exact position where I am learning this. And 00:01:23.510 --> 00:01:27.129 it is, you know it, apply it, learning discipline. 00:01:27.959 --> 00:01:29.900 because discipline quite literally is one of 00:01:29.900 --> 00:01:32.379 the strongest things in our life. It is the foundation 00:01:32.379 --> 00:01:35.859 of our life. It is. And whether we have it or 00:01:35.859 --> 00:01:38.900 not, you know, give or take, I think a lot of 00:01:38.900 --> 00:01:41.299 us do lack discipline, but discipline is hard. 00:01:41.439 --> 00:01:43.439 It is really hard to grasp and really hard to 00:01:43.439 --> 00:01:45.840 learn. And that's okay. And we're gonna be talking 00:01:45.840 --> 00:01:48.239 all about that today. 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But yeah, so 00:02:14.020 --> 00:02:17.289 I think, at least for me, I don't think it has 00:02:17.289 --> 00:02:20.229 to be for everybody, but for me especially, I 00:02:20.229 --> 00:02:23.289 think discipline comes from having no choice. 00:02:23.530 --> 00:02:27.110 You know, getting to a point where you feel like 00:02:27.110 --> 00:02:30.430 there's no choice but change, right? What do 00:02:30.430 --> 00:02:33.449 you want? I want you to ask yourself that. What 00:02:33.449 --> 00:02:37.349 do you want? How are you gonna get it? Ask yourself 00:02:37.349 --> 00:02:40.819 that. But also what's been holding you back like 00:02:40.819 --> 00:02:43.379 why why do you think personally why haven't you 00:02:43.379 --> 00:02:46.120 achieved this yet? You know because for some 00:02:46.120 --> 00:02:47.960 people let's say you want to start a business 00:02:47.960 --> 00:02:51.240 some some people it's money Some people it's 00:02:51.240 --> 00:02:53.960 people um You know a whole bunch of different 00:02:53.960 --> 00:02:56.300 things so why haven't you got it? I want you 00:02:56.300 --> 00:02:59.560 to point that out Pin the point your common excuses 00:02:59.560 --> 00:03:03.699 But to be honest, I'm you know like to be so 00:03:03.699 --> 00:03:06.479 honest. I don't I don't need to sit here and 00:03:06.479 --> 00:03:11.580 give you a list of anything. You can truly watch 00:03:11.580 --> 00:03:13.840 however many videos you want about discipline. 00:03:13.939 --> 00:03:15.939 You can read however many books about discipline. 00:03:16.120 --> 00:03:18.900 If you don't want change, your life will not 00:03:18.900 --> 00:03:23.159 change, right? You can tell yourself, I'm gonna 00:03:23.159 --> 00:03:25.759 feed into all of this. I'm gonna make all these 00:03:25.759 --> 00:03:28.159 lists and I'm gonna read all these things and 00:03:28.159 --> 00:03:31.039 I'm gonna have it. That's gonna be it. Once I 00:03:31.039 --> 00:03:34.060 do this, I'll have it. Firstly, it's not that 00:03:34.060 --> 00:03:37.340 easy at all. Hate to be... a Debbie Downer, but 00:03:37.340 --> 00:03:40.500 it is not easy at all. But on another point, 00:03:41.319 --> 00:03:43.639 you just have to want change. Like, you can read 00:03:43.639 --> 00:03:45.759 something and it can give you motivation for 00:03:45.759 --> 00:03:48.139 you to want change. But at the end of the day, 00:03:48.960 --> 00:03:51.500 whatever you do, if you truly don't want anything 00:03:51.500 --> 00:03:53.680 different, you won't have anything different, 00:03:53.719 --> 00:03:58.000 right? Change, it first takes place in your mind. 00:03:58.860 --> 00:04:01.479 You have to get to a point, like I said, where 00:04:02.259 --> 00:04:04.900 You want different so when it comes to the gym 00:04:04.900 --> 00:04:07.120 I feel like a lot of people you you have to get 00:04:07.120 --> 00:04:09.020 to a point where you're unhappy in your own body 00:04:09.020 --> 00:04:11.439 you don't like looking at yourself no more or 00:04:11.439 --> 00:04:14.240 When it comes to business, hey, I don't I don't 00:04:14.240 --> 00:04:16.019 want to hold me down no more. This is my life 00:04:16.019 --> 00:04:19.160 I need to take charge. So like I said ask yourself 00:04:19.160 --> 00:04:21.939 these questions Who do you want to be and decide 00:04:21.939 --> 00:04:25.899 it move from that move? Like your highest self 00:04:25.899 --> 00:04:29.579 because truly nobody is gonna lock in but you 00:04:29.579 --> 00:04:34.509 but also Don't give up on yourself. Rewrite your 00:04:34.509 --> 00:04:38.269 goals and your list over and over and over again 00:04:38.269 --> 00:04:43.370 until you get it. I've talked about this before, 00:04:43.370 --> 00:04:45.269 but I want to talk about it again. I believe 00:04:45.269 --> 00:04:48.769 that failure comes when you stop trying. I think 00:04:48.769 --> 00:04:52.410 failure comes when you give up. Now we can talk 00:04:52.410 --> 00:04:54.350 about failure like oh hey, but I started this 00:04:54.350 --> 00:04:56.670 business eight times and it has failed No, it 00:04:56.670 --> 00:04:58.910 hasn't cuz you keep retrying I think failure 00:04:58.910 --> 00:05:00.910 truly comes when you give up because as long 00:05:00.910 --> 00:05:03.269 as you keep going and keep going one day You're 00:05:03.269 --> 00:05:05.230 gonna get it and for some people yes, it does 00:05:05.230 --> 00:05:07.449 take longer for some people It is an incident 00:05:07.449 --> 00:05:10.149 for some people it is that's okay That is when 00:05:10.149 --> 00:05:13.370 you also need to stop that comparison, but also 00:05:13.370 --> 00:05:15.949 don't give up Be patient with yourself. Allow 00:05:15.949 --> 00:05:17.949 yourself to learn. Allow yourself to make mistakes. 00:05:18.329 --> 00:05:20.949 Because truly, you don't get better at something 00:05:20.949 --> 00:05:23.149 without failing. Because you have to learn. You 00:05:23.149 --> 00:05:26.870 have to grow. Okay? Like, you truly have to go 00:05:26.870 --> 00:05:30.069 through the process. Life is a process. And trying 00:05:30.069 --> 00:05:34.250 to shortcut that or dodge that will just put 00:05:34.250 --> 00:05:37.959 you 10 steps back. You can't you cannot avoid 00:05:37.959 --> 00:05:42.319 growth. You cannot avoid mistakes and Issues 00:05:42.319 --> 00:05:44.620 you truly just got to lock in and keep pushing 00:05:44.620 --> 00:05:47.699 and say hey Might have knocked me down and I'm 00:05:47.699 --> 00:05:48.899 gonna cry for a minute, but let me stand the 00:05:48.899 --> 00:05:51.939 fuck back up. I got it I'm cool. I'm cool Let 00:05:51.939 --> 00:05:58.110 me go So Always seen where they were like oh 00:05:58.110 --> 00:06:00.709 it takes 21 days to form a habit apparently That's 00:06:00.709 --> 00:06:03.529 a myth it can take between 21 and like 600 days 00:06:03.529 --> 00:06:05.910 But for most people if you're consistent with 00:06:05.910 --> 00:06:09.910 something every day it takes 66 days 66 days 00:06:09.910 --> 00:06:13.170 to actually have that fundamentally in your brain 00:06:13.170 --> 00:06:15.009 and be able to wake up and say hey This is what 00:06:15.009 --> 00:06:17.029 I'm doing. You know it just becomes kind of like 00:06:17.029 --> 00:06:19.689 you know What brushing our teeth every day right 00:06:19.689 --> 00:06:21.350 it just becomes one of them things we pick up 00:06:21.350 --> 00:06:25.709 and it takes 66 days So have grace. What? You 00:06:25.709 --> 00:06:27.149 thought you were gonna get something done in 00:06:27.149 --> 00:06:30.870 a week? It might take longer for you, and that's 00:06:30.870 --> 00:06:33.810 okay. If it takes you four fucking years to get 00:06:33.810 --> 00:06:37.449 something done, so be it. A lot of women, especially 00:06:37.449 --> 00:06:41.970 women like that I watch that have blew up recently, 00:06:42.089 --> 00:06:43.790 right? A lot of them started their businesses 00:06:43.790 --> 00:06:46.750 when they were in their 40s or, you know, already 00:06:46.750 --> 00:06:48.509 had kids, already settled down, all did this, 00:06:48.529 --> 00:06:50.569 and everybody told them, hey, you know, it's 00:06:50.569 --> 00:06:52.990 a little late for your dreams. They still made 00:06:52.990 --> 00:06:55.730 them happen. Right? Your age doesn't matter. 00:06:55.829 --> 00:06:58.569 Time doesn't matter. But what I do want to tell 00:06:58.569 --> 00:07:01.329 you is time won't wait for you. I had to realize 00:07:01.329 --> 00:07:04.089 that because I used to sit there so much and 00:07:04.089 --> 00:07:05.209 be like, oh, I'm just going to do this tomorrow. 00:07:05.370 --> 00:07:08.230 I'll do it tomorrow because look, this is going 00:07:08.230 --> 00:07:10.389 to sound sick, but I'll give myself like time 00:07:10.389 --> 00:07:12.629 limits. And once I pass that time frame, well, 00:07:12.709 --> 00:07:14.189 fuck, I got to start it at a different time or 00:07:14.189 --> 00:07:15.750 I got to do it tomorrow. Like I already just 00:07:15.750 --> 00:07:19.790 fucked up the whole plan. First of all, no. Second 00:07:19.790 --> 00:07:21.870 of all, time won't wait for you is going to keep 00:07:21.870 --> 00:07:24.680 moving. Every single day is literally shaped 00:07:24.680 --> 00:07:27.420 by how you shape it. What you do with your time 00:07:27.420 --> 00:07:31.060 in a day is what you do. It doesn't stop. It 00:07:31.060 --> 00:07:34.620 doesn't wait for you. You gotta keep pushing. 00:07:34.800 --> 00:07:38.560 You gotta keep going. You gotta want to change. 00:07:38.639 --> 00:07:40.500 You have to want that discipline. You have to 00:07:40.500 --> 00:07:43.019 chase it. It is not going to sit there and just 00:07:43.019 --> 00:07:45.839 come for you and, you know, just be there. You 00:07:45.839 --> 00:07:48.819 have to chase discipline. You have to want change. 00:07:49.279 --> 00:07:52.220 You do. And it's one of the hardest things to 00:07:52.220 --> 00:07:55.399 do. Like I said before, it is the foundation 00:07:55.399 --> 00:07:58.699 of your life. I think in a lot of our lives, 00:07:59.079 --> 00:08:03.620 discipline is the structure of it all. When we 00:08:03.620 --> 00:08:05.759 don't get something we want, usually a lot of 00:08:05.759 --> 00:08:07.560 time it's because we had a lack of discipline. 00:08:08.000 --> 00:08:10.399 Or, okay, you know how people set New Year's 00:08:10.399 --> 00:08:13.639 resolutions, right? Well, I think it was like, 00:08:13.680 --> 00:08:15.379 I don't know the exact statistic, but it was 00:08:15.379 --> 00:08:19.660 like 3 % out of, you know, 100. Actually stick 00:08:19.660 --> 00:08:23.459 to their New Year's resolutions That number is 00:08:23.459 --> 00:08:26.639 insane. First of all, I also told myself to stop 00:08:26.639 --> 00:08:28.519 making New Year's resolutions because I want 00:08:28.519 --> 00:08:30.660 to change today I'm not gonna that's the thing. 00:08:30.660 --> 00:08:32.559 We give ourselves time limits. We don't need 00:08:32.559 --> 00:08:35.919 to do that do it today No, you're the only person 00:08:35.919 --> 00:08:39.200 making rules in your life truly. So why the fuck 00:08:39.200 --> 00:08:42.220 are you making the rules hard? Stop making them 00:08:42.220 --> 00:08:45.200 hard like I'm not about to tell myself. Oh next 00:08:45.200 --> 00:08:46.799 year. I'll start it I'll start going to the gym 00:08:46.799 --> 00:08:49.779 when the New Year hits Bro start going to the 00:08:49.779 --> 00:08:51.460 gym today. What the fuck is about to happen in 00:08:51.460 --> 00:08:54.500 these 40 fucking days? Where like what do you 00:08:54.500 --> 00:08:56.500 want to do in these 40 days? You're still not 00:08:56.500 --> 00:08:59.259 gonna be happy in your body What is this one 00:08:59.259 --> 00:09:02.039 particular day going to do for you? That is why 00:09:02.039 --> 00:09:04.740 only 3 % really make it or whatever the number 00:09:04.740 --> 00:09:07.940 is Because you have to want it and a lot of people 00:09:07.940 --> 00:09:11.820 it's hard to start But that's why I think also 00:09:11.820 --> 00:09:15.840 you shouldn't give yourself a set Time now. Okay. 00:09:15.899 --> 00:09:17.659 Some people are really really type a some people 00:09:17.659 --> 00:09:19.500 need that that's cool If you needed to struck 00:09:19.500 --> 00:09:21.919 like for structure, that's cool, but I'm very 00:09:21.919 --> 00:09:25.559 very type B. No shade I'm very type B. So for 00:09:25.559 --> 00:09:29.460 me setting a schedule It truly doesn't mean nothing 00:09:29.460 --> 00:09:34.419 to me. Like yes, okay, I can Okay, how do I explain 00:09:34.419 --> 00:09:38.500 this? For me setting a schedule. It's just like 00:09:38.500 --> 00:09:41.159 the whole idea of setting a schedule. Oh like 00:09:41.179 --> 00:09:44.000 I'm organized. I'm this person. Does that mean 00:09:44.000 --> 00:09:45.820 I'm going to pay any more attention to the schedule? 00:09:46.340 --> 00:09:50.679 No. Truly, no. I have to do something I want 00:09:50.679 --> 00:09:52.379 to do. I have to do something that caters to 00:09:52.379 --> 00:09:54.799 me. And this is where I'm going to get into a 00:09:54.799 --> 00:09:57.139 reward system. I have a reward system within 00:09:57.139 --> 00:09:58.919 myself. You don't need that. And if you think 00:09:58.919 --> 00:10:01.720 that's bad, cool. Me, I'm kind of kid -like. 00:10:02.799 --> 00:10:04.860 If I'm doing something for so long and I start 00:10:04.860 --> 00:10:07.320 to get burnt out, I'm not doing it no more. I'm 00:10:07.320 --> 00:10:09.059 not. I have gotten to the point where I'm not 00:10:09.059 --> 00:10:12.679 punishing myself. You know for anything I want 00:10:12.679 --> 00:10:16.059 to enjoy life and I will do anything to fucking 00:10:16.059 --> 00:10:18.820 enjoy life and I know I need discipline So how 00:10:18.820 --> 00:10:21.299 can I do discipline but in a fun way, right? 00:10:21.620 --> 00:10:24.620 So I'll give myself. Hey if I do this and mine 00:10:24.620 --> 00:10:28.330 consistent with it Let's go shopping Bitch, I 00:10:28.330 --> 00:10:29.970 can go to take for late. Like what are we doing 00:10:29.970 --> 00:10:32.870 right now? Right? If I'm having a if I'm working 00:10:32.870 --> 00:10:34.169 real hard in the morning sometimes like I wake 00:10:34.169 --> 00:10:36.809 up at 5 a .m. And I'll be working right now I'm 00:10:36.809 --> 00:10:38.570 actually I'm getting a little exhausted to the 00:10:38.570 --> 00:10:40.049 point where I don't want to do this anymore. 00:10:40.549 --> 00:10:43.169 Like I'm getting frustrated I'll go thrift or 00:10:43.169 --> 00:10:45.809 I'll go do something that that I enjoy that makes 00:10:45.809 --> 00:10:50.029 me happy because it teaches me that you can have 00:10:50.029 --> 00:10:53.490 Peace calmness and happiness and enjoyment with 00:10:53.490 --> 00:10:55.309 discipline. I feel like a lot of times when we 00:10:55.309 --> 00:10:58.690 hear discipline it's framed as very rigid. It 00:10:58.690 --> 00:11:01.169 is very structured. You have to be there, be 00:11:01.169 --> 00:11:03.129 square or you know where it's just not going 00:11:03.129 --> 00:11:04.870 to work out. Discipline, okay, it's kind of like 00:11:04.870 --> 00:11:07.970 a gym bro. It's like, oh my god, I'm locked in. 00:11:08.129 --> 00:11:10.029 I got to go harder than everybody else. I need 00:11:10.029 --> 00:11:12.710 to be the one, blah, blah, blah. And I think 00:11:12.710 --> 00:11:16.190 that's why so many of us get burnt out. I'm not 00:11:16.190 --> 00:11:19.309 doing that because I did get burnt out and nothing 00:11:19.309 --> 00:11:22.370 got fucking done. Nothing. And I'm also not going 00:11:22.370 --> 00:11:25.029 to be hard on myself if I mess up. Hey, I didn't 00:11:25.029 --> 00:11:27.029 do this today. I'm going to be like, now I'm 00:11:27.029 --> 00:11:29.309 going to be honest, I be clocking my own T a 00:11:29.309 --> 00:11:32.049 lot. So I'll be like, girl, what the fuck? You 00:11:32.049 --> 00:11:34.950 lazy bitch. You know, I'll tell myself, get the 00:11:34.950 --> 00:11:38.870 fuck up, right? But also, I'm very patient with 00:11:38.870 --> 00:11:43.830 myself. I really am. You have to have empathy. 00:11:44.190 --> 00:11:47.169 for your own self stop treating yourself like 00:11:47.169 --> 00:11:49.710 you're this fucking soldier that needs to be 00:11:49.710 --> 00:11:53.470 up for 48 hours training locking in to get fucking 00:11:53.470 --> 00:11:57.309 what 10 years of work for other people done in 00:11:57.309 --> 00:12:02.330 a month we especially as women we cannot live 00:12:02.330 --> 00:12:05.429 off stress that just spikes your cortisol like 00:12:05.429 --> 00:12:07.809 you living like that that's really just going 00:12:07.809 --> 00:12:10.110 to stress you out and that's also i think why 00:12:10.110 --> 00:12:12.370 i became way more type b like i just prioritize 00:12:12.370 --> 00:12:16.340 my own mental peace over anything because I also 00:12:16.340 --> 00:12:19.100 think personally, I cannot achieve my own goals 00:12:19.100 --> 00:12:21.700 if I'm not happy. Right? Because my heart's not 00:12:21.700 --> 00:12:25.779 really in it. I did this for how can I say because 00:12:25.779 --> 00:12:27.960 I know I know some people might not agree with 00:12:27.960 --> 00:12:31.259 that. But that's okay. Firstly, second of all, 00:12:31.419 --> 00:12:35.340 I think I think that's how a lot of people should 00:12:35.340 --> 00:12:38.419 view because I think we have a very toxic mindset 00:12:38.419 --> 00:12:41.679 when it comes to Building discipline. It's like 00:12:41.679 --> 00:12:44.379 I said it is go hard or nothing like we're like 00:12:44.379 --> 00:12:47.179 soldiers lock the fuck in We don't need to be 00:12:47.179 --> 00:12:49.840 like that. Now. Do I think there has to be some 00:12:49.840 --> 00:12:52.440 structure? Yes, you need to have discipline with 00:12:52.440 --> 00:12:56.720 yourself once again, you need to Be firm be firm. 00:12:56.759 --> 00:12:58.960 You don't need to be hard and mean to yourself, 00:12:59.059 --> 00:13:02.580 but you need to be firm. What do I want? Don't 00:13:02.580 --> 00:13:04.320 treat yourself when I said reward yourself and 00:13:04.320 --> 00:13:06.299 be calm. That doesn't mean treat yourself like 00:13:06.299 --> 00:13:08.820 a child Right? It doesn't mean, oh, it's hard 00:13:08.820 --> 00:13:10.919 today. I'm not going to do it. But it does mean, 00:13:11.100 --> 00:13:13.580 hey, I got two hours of work done rather than 00:13:13.580 --> 00:13:16.740 zero. I can sit back and relax if I want to. 00:13:16.740 --> 00:13:19.679 I can go take a nap. I can do that. But I'm going 00:13:19.679 --> 00:13:21.259 to be honest, babe, if you got nothing done, 00:13:21.940 --> 00:13:25.700 if we haven't took one step, why are you taking 00:13:25.700 --> 00:13:28.059 three steps back to calm down? You haven't took 00:13:28.059 --> 00:13:30.799 the first step. So don't get that confused when 00:13:30.799 --> 00:13:33.220 I say don't live like a soldier. You need structure. 00:13:33.559 --> 00:13:36.139 We need structure in our life. OK? Have that 00:13:36.139 --> 00:13:40.509 structure. have it but also be nice to yourself 00:13:40.509 --> 00:13:45.090 be patient and Having both is okay I feel like 00:13:45.090 --> 00:13:47.570 a lot of the time we think we need one or the 00:13:47.570 --> 00:13:50.289 other Like they can't coexist you either have 00:13:50.289 --> 00:13:52.309 to be so fucking locked in and so determined 00:13:52.309 --> 00:13:53.830 for everything where you're just like a slave 00:13:53.830 --> 00:13:59.570 at this point or you're like Right, I just feel 00:13:59.570 --> 00:14:01.509 like that's what people make it out. No there 00:14:01.509 --> 00:14:03.649 needs to be balance You need to balance that 00:14:03.649 --> 00:14:06.470 masculine and that feminine and how can you do 00:14:06.470 --> 00:14:10.299 that? If I said everybody's personality is different, 00:14:10.559 --> 00:14:12.059 everybody moves different, everybody operates 00:14:12.059 --> 00:14:14.299 different, how does that work for you? Do you 00:14:14.299 --> 00:14:16.980 need a reward system like me? Do you need sometimes, 00:14:17.220 --> 00:14:19.360 hey, I need after I get like three hours of work 00:14:19.360 --> 00:14:21.379 done, I'm gonna take a nap and then I can do 00:14:21.379 --> 00:14:24.580 two more. How is it for you? Set up that system 00:14:24.580 --> 00:14:27.399 because that will help you build true discipline 00:14:27.399 --> 00:14:31.039 that feels authentic, feels like yourself, but 00:14:31.039 --> 00:14:34.750 also disallows you to be. You know, you don't 00:14:34.750 --> 00:14:36.750 need to make your life so hard. Life is not meant 00:14:36.750 --> 00:14:39.789 to be hard. It's not fucking easy, but you need 00:14:39.789 --> 00:14:43.370 to enjoy it along the way. Right. And I know 00:14:43.370 --> 00:14:45.649 for me personally, I couldn't enjoy it when I 00:14:45.649 --> 00:14:48.250 was treating myself like fight or flight, you 00:14:48.250 --> 00:14:51.230 know, like I had to go and I'll be y 'all. This 00:14:51.230 --> 00:14:55.789 is it. So besties spectrum decided to cut out. 00:14:56.690 --> 00:14:59.769 Yeah. But I thought the whole episode was gone. 00:14:59.909 --> 00:15:03.129 The first part actually saved. So. I'm gonna 00:15:03.129 --> 00:15:05.070 be honest, I don't know where I left off. It's 00:15:05.070 --> 00:15:07.389 been a minute. The Wi -Fi finally came back on. 00:15:07.649 --> 00:15:09.870 It is thunderstormy outside, so I think that 00:15:09.870 --> 00:15:13.169 might have something to do with it. But yeah, 00:15:13.309 --> 00:15:15.149 so I got a couple more things I want to touch 00:15:15.149 --> 00:15:18.450 on for this episode. Yeah, but the last thing 00:15:18.450 --> 00:15:20.490 is get strict with yourself. Like I said before, 00:15:21.009 --> 00:15:24.330 become your own inspiration. Set your own standard. 00:15:25.029 --> 00:15:27.649 You are truly what you attract. Who are you attracting? 00:15:27.809 --> 00:15:29.870 If you don't like who you're attracting, why? 00:15:31.210 --> 00:15:36.149 Not people Like, you like, are you meeting people 00:15:36.149 --> 00:15:38.850 that you just don't like or don't like you, or 00:15:38.850 --> 00:15:41.669 people who are constantly hurting you, disrespecting 00:15:41.669 --> 00:15:44.409 your boundaries? What are you attracting? And 00:15:44.409 --> 00:15:46.330 get clear with yourself on why you're attracting 00:15:46.330 --> 00:15:49.009 that. Do you have a lack of boundaries going 00:15:49.009 --> 00:15:52.750 on? Are you not respecting yourself? Is there 00:15:52.750 --> 00:15:55.690 some insecurity going on? There's so much that 00:15:55.690 --> 00:16:00.019 can weigh in on it. But if you aren't getting 00:16:00.019 --> 00:16:02.360 strict with yourself and having discipline over 00:16:02.360 --> 00:16:07.179 your own life, it will lead you to attract other 00:16:07.179 --> 00:16:08.960 things that will just steer you away and not 00:16:08.960 --> 00:16:10.399 lead you in the right direction, if that makes 00:16:10.399 --> 00:16:14.519 sense. This is your one life. Make mistakes and 00:16:14.519 --> 00:16:19.450 take chances. Always. You you will always be 00:16:19.450 --> 00:16:21.250 the only one standing in your own way and you 00:16:21.250 --> 00:16:22.870 need to take yourself seriously I think a lot 00:16:22.870 --> 00:16:25.149 of the times why some of us lack discipline is 00:16:25.149 --> 00:16:26.830 we don't take ourselves seriously Even though 00:16:26.830 --> 00:16:29.669 we like to say we do we don't you know Do you 00:16:29.669 --> 00:16:31.429 is there an insecurity there where you think 00:16:31.429 --> 00:16:34.529 you might not get it where you think you know, 00:16:34.549 --> 00:16:37.750 it's not meant for you It's just harder for you. 00:16:37.830 --> 00:16:40.269 So, you know, it's just kind of impossible. Are 00:16:40.269 --> 00:16:43.350 there people speaking ill within you? What what's 00:16:43.350 --> 00:16:46.250 going on? Because you need to take yourself seriously 00:16:46.250 --> 00:16:48.669 stand on business with yourself take charge of 00:16:48.669 --> 00:16:52.409 your own life be who you want to be We we won't 00:16:52.409 --> 00:16:54.549 have anything without that. You will have nothing 00:16:54.549 --> 00:16:58.350 without that. This is your life You come in alone. 00:16:58.590 --> 00:17:00.389 You die alone. I mean unless you're a twin or 00:17:00.389 --> 00:17:02.850 triplet or anything like that you might not come 00:17:02.850 --> 00:17:06.549 in alone, but It's nobody else is gonna change 00:17:06.549 --> 00:17:08.150 it for you. Nobody else is gonna do the work 00:17:08.150 --> 00:17:10.509 for you You need to do the work yourself. You 00:17:10.509 --> 00:17:12.549 need to lock in you need to want to be better. 00:17:12.549 --> 00:17:18.900 You need to be better right we can't that's one 00:17:18.900 --> 00:17:21.279 thing when i said yes we can treat ourselves 00:17:21.279 --> 00:17:24.559 very good and tend to our inner child and be 00:17:24.559 --> 00:17:26.240 calm and do all that but don't treat yourself 00:17:26.240 --> 00:17:30.240 like a child because you're not you're not you 00:17:30.240 --> 00:17:32.420 know we can't have expectations of others and 00:17:32.420 --> 00:17:34.460 not have these expectations for ourselves right 00:17:34.460 --> 00:17:37.559 you need to trust yourself do the shit you said 00:17:37.559 --> 00:17:40.960 you were gonna do nobody's waiting for you but 00:17:40.960 --> 00:17:44.029 you Your future self is like damn bitch. You 00:17:44.029 --> 00:17:45.349 didn't get the show on the road. I'm trying to 00:17:45.349 --> 00:17:49.009 get rich now Right stand up take charge. This 00:17:49.009 --> 00:17:53.410 is your life And yeah that was that was really 00:17:53.410 --> 00:17:55.470 all I had to say, you know I planned on saying 00:17:55.470 --> 00:17:58.109 way more and then I kind of lost my whole train 00:17:58.109 --> 00:18:01.230 of thought To be so honest and so sorry there 00:18:01.230 --> 00:18:03.170 was an episode last week. It was due to travel 00:18:03.170 --> 00:18:06.750 circumstances So that that was a lot last week, 00:18:06.750 --> 00:18:10.789 but I hope you guys enjoyed this episode despite 00:18:10.789 --> 00:18:13.880 the weather complications the wi -fi complications 00:18:13.880 --> 00:18:16.579 i still hope you enjoyed it nonetheless and i 00:18:16.579 --> 00:18:19.279 love you guys so much and i truly hope this helps 00:18:19.279 --> 00:18:24.059 you change your narrative on discipline and your 00:18:24.059 --> 00:18:28.059 view on it and it gets better but i love you 00:18:28.059 --> 00:18:32.680 so much and i hope you guys have a blessed rest 00:18:32.680 --> 00:18:43.529 of your week bye you