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today's episode is two things can be true at
once. Yes, and what I mean by this Okay, well
first let me say it is the key to healing two
things to be true is that true at once I feel
like you need to learn this and establish this
in order to help your healing journey and or
process What I mean by this dual nature be a
bitch be a sweetheart. We know all we hear is
good and bad and we are so quick to Categorize
things when we don't need to you know, and truly
the reason I'm thinking about this is because
I recently had a reading Yes. Um, it was really
good. Really, really good. And she kept saying
to me, like, what stood out to me in this reading
the most? It was when she would cut me off when
I would say something like, oh, this is how it's
supposed to be. She would immediately get it.
She was like, no, no, no, no, stop, stop saying
that. And, and I would always say, like, well,
these are how things are supposed to be. This
is how stuff was to end, you know, you know,
I guess it's just the way it's meant to be. And
she kept kind of urging me to stop saying that
two things can be true at once, you know, and
but also can't. What the fuck did I write? Oh,
she encouraged me to stop saying that she was
really pushing the message for me that two things
can be true. at once you know not everything
is end all be all and we always feel like we
have to make a decision right then and there
about really kind of everything in life we have
to make why the fuck am i struggling so much
right now and now my cat wants to chase a bug
i really just want to cry You know what y 'all
I'm gonna keep all this in I'm keeping all this
in because I really just want to cry right now
my bitch I have been so upset today, and I'm
not even in my ludeo like I Everything is stressing
me out And I don't know why and I really it's
been taking me so long to start this episode
because my cat either wants in or out Everything
is Making my brain hurt and I'm gonna keep to
it because we're all life. We're life. Okay,
you know That's it. That's it. We make mistakes.
And also that's why it's important to use commas
when you're writing because I did not know what
I wrote Because there was no comma right back
to what I was saying We always kind of make it
seem like we have to make the right decision
There is a right decision when first of all,
there's not a right decision at all. There's
not There's not. It's whatever you choose to
do, right? We always try to label things, and
there is no right decision, like I said, and
I think a lot of the times in life, it is really
important when it comes to healing, thinking
of the idea that two things are true at once,
simply because it's such a huge part in it. You
have to realize that everything Not a hundred
percent, right? It's not a hundred percent your
fault You couldn't have a hundred percent avoided
this and like there's so many situations that
we will go through in life Where we truly have
that idea and you know that notion behind everything
that hey, you know You know, this can be right
and this can be right and I'm dealing with this
a lot right now But I empathize with myself on
that because I think I I'm just we're all a little
hard on ourselves You're not a bad person for
making a right or wrong decision. There is no
right or wrong in my opinion like There there's
always gonna be limits and holds in Every you
know decision will have a different weight will
have a different effect, right? But we can always
navigate our way through that There's no everybody
would make a different decision than you so there
clearly is no right decision, right? And what
I'm trying to say is that there's so many different
ways to use this term as well Yeah, it's just
it's very important and I am hating this episode
Genuinely because what the fuck did I write like
I can't even read my own writing It's like I
was just brain dumping and not being coherent
at all like I'm genuinely trying to lock in for
y 'all because I have I've had this episode written
for like a week because I have a thing now where
I write the episodes a week and be like beforehand
so like let's say that week I am not feeling
good or something like that I can upload it but
genuinely I am trying so hard to lock in and
I can't because I don't understand what the fuck
is happening so I feel like I'm just about to
go off off rip off the head and you know this
episode my ears a job cool Fine. It's irritating
me too. All right. It's irritating me too because
I don't know what the fuck is going on right
now. You know, maybe maybe that's it. Two things
to be tried once. This is a mess, but it's also
perfect. Right. This is my mess. This is this
I'm not wrong. Like I could say, oh, I don't
want to post this episode. I could start it all
over. Right. Or I cannot. There's no right fucking
decision. Both are my decisions and what I want
to do. And there will be an outcome nonetheless.
It's kind of when we think about I've been hearing
a lot about like alternate realities like how
everything is happening at once and you know
just to go off on a little tangent there's this
girl on tiktok who she like is a medium for cats
and a whole bunch of cats have been saying there's
no future there's no past it's all happening
now whatever decision you know you didn't make
today it was made in a different life like let's
say if i wanted to get oh i ordered tropical
smoothie today in another dimension i did not
in another dimension i ordered something else
there's always something fucking going on there's
never a right decision in my head now To say
this, there are right decisions when it comes
to certain things. I will say that. Like, murder.
No. Right. Right. But honestly, wait. Wait. No.
Because even that, there's no right decision.
Wait. Wait. Because if it's self -defense, what
are you going to do? It's still murder. But is
it still murder? Well, death. What all? Anyway.
But it's all still one thing, right? Is there
a right decision? Is there? Right? Because two
things can be true at once. Everybody has different
viewing goggles. Everybody has different mindsets.
Everybody thinks different. That's why, like
if we think about judges, not every judge, I
could like, let's say I have like theft, you
know, not me, somebody else, somebody else stole.
I've never stole my life. Somebody else stole
something, right? Every single judge might give
them something different. Every single judge,
one judge might be lenient, one judge might not.
Right? Who's to fucking say? Two things can be
true at once. We really have to stop letting
decisions define our whole life and what it's
supposed to be because I deal with this a lot.
Majority of the time I'm always like, well, what
if this is the wrong decision? Like, what's the
wrong decision? And I tend to go to other sources
to make my own decisions, which make no sense.
It makes no sense at all. Right. This is all
on me. So, yes, two things to be true at once.
I can be a bitch, but I can also be a sweetheart.
Good and bad, good, evil, happiness, sadness.
There's there's two sides to fucking everything,
but neither or is right. It's your life. You
decide what's right, what's good for you. And
ultimately, that's it, because like, like Genuinely
your whole mental is different from somebody
else's you could think in your head like no I
kind of understand this another person's like
how the fuck do you understand that? Because
two things can be true at once Because there's
gonna be people that agree with them and there's
gonna be people that agree with you Right. So
you we have to stop letting The thought that
we will ruin our lives or ruin a decision or
something by what we say or how we approach it
or what we decide in this process. You know,
your life is not gonna fucking end because you
didn't decide to do this today. I'm sorry, I
stress myself out so much with this and I'm like,
well, what if I mess it up? What if I didn't
make the right decision and everything's just
gonna go to shit? Why would it go to shit? Why
would it go to shit? It's a decision. Now, there
are some bad decisions I can say, but that's
my perspective. That person who made the decision
probably thought it was smart. Truly there are
two sides to everything there are two truth now.
What the hell else did I write? Oh This one this
one kind of cooks and it's legible. Thank God.
We're always trying to make sense in a complicated
world Yes, we are Zoe. Yes. Thank you for writing
that and I think this is why we tend to have
that and I'll be all mindset is simple. What
the fuck is she talking about? Exactly, this
was her decision to write this Not mine right
now. Two things can be true at once, right? But
more so in a sense, we're always trying to justify
everything. We're trying to justify relationships.
We're trying to justify our wrongs, our rights.
We're trying to literally justify everything.
And that is so damaging when it comes to healing
because... Ooh, let me say this. I seen this
quote on TikTok the other day. And if any of
you guys are addicts or know any addicts or have
dealt with substance abuse or anything like that,
there was this quote and it was like, if it keeps
you alive, don't stop. You know, if that drug
is keeping you alive, don't stop it yet. You
can get sober whenever you want. Right? Right.
But inherently, society's decision, like, bitch,
I. Society's decision. Mind you I'm a great reader.
I don't know what the fuck's happening. We would
view that like oh stop taking drugs That's bad
for you, right? But the person in their head
they're like it's but it's good for me. It's
keeping me alive It's doing good, right? We all
view things different. There is no right answer
So yes, we might say getting sober is the right
answer, right because inherently We want everybody
to be healthy and fine and everything But if
that is not their correct answer at this time
because that will not help them. That is not
the right decision for them that is also true
you know we also have to view this when it comes
to other people's relationships and stuff and
how we give our opinions on that because we're
not in their shoes we don't know how they feel
you don't know how i feel and what decision i
want to make we're we might agree sometimes but
we might not and that is perfectly okay she might
see something in him i don't see it at all perfectly
fine two things we draw at once he might treat
her like a fucking queen behind closed doors
but he's just so Hard and cold on the fucking
outside and now that's my opinion. I I go to
say this just to To say that we hold so Like
well now we put so much pressure on ourselves.
I think by doing this by Telling ourselves like
hey you have to make the right decision, right?
And let's say like I'm giving you guys so many
examples, but like you want to go to three different
colleges Every single one will give you a reason
on why they are the best and you will think to
yourself Well, what if I make the wrong decision?
Is there a wrong decision truly now? There might
be a better option or a worse option. That's
that's true because we know that you know, we
got some Texas We got numbers we got everything
right, but when it comes to you, what is the
right decision for you? Right just then I was
buying it. I was getting a gun the other day
cool cool dude kept trying to sell me this other
one He kept trying to sell me to two other ones,
a Taurus and something else. And I'm like, no,
I actually, I think I want to go with this. Like
it's just way better. It slides better, cocks
better. Like I think I really want this one.
And he just kept trying to push me the other
one. And I'm just like, no, I think I want this.
He's like, well, this is the better decision.
I think this is the better decision. Two things
to be true at once because he was a vet. He probably
knows statistics on the guns, but I'm like, I
am way more comfortable with this one. And guess
what? I love that gun. I went to the range. It
shot perfectly. Everything was fine. But Two
things can be true at once. Right? Right. Right.
Are you guys getting what I'm saying now? Is
it clocking to you? Because maybe it wasn't clocking
to me when I was writing down all of this. Oh!
Said and speaking about my most recent episode.
I think this ties in with why we take the route
We take in life when it comes to our careers
dreams and aspirations We feel like we have to
choose one path majority of the time, right?
We choose like like we feel like there is a right
path. I have to do this I have to be right, you
know, if I do something else, it's not gonna
be right but you You don't need one plan right
the things that we are dealing with in life,
let's say change, love, death, sexuality, healing,
everything, none of them have concrete clean
answers. None of them have one singular outcome.
None of them predict the future and are the best
option 100%. No. Now, When we talk about certain
things, yes, there are things that are better.
But when it comes to life and your decisions
and the shit you go through, there is no right
answer majority of the time. Your right answer
is how you feel, right? We are literally just
doing our best, trying our best to make it. And
in my opinion, if you can do that in the best
way possible for you, then there is no wrong
decisions. There is no wrong decisions because
you are being the most authentic You you can
be essentially and Okay, think about ying and
ying and yang ying and yang. Yes, right the black
and white things There will always be two truth
against birds of a feather flock together two
peas in a pod There's there's always two we always
see this heaven and hell we always see this But
like isn't that because then when you think of
heaven and hell then they throw in purgatory
like so much shit comes with it Everything something
so what's the right decision? Right? You can
think about the Bible. Everybody has their own
interpretation of the Bible. So who am I to tell
you that's wrong? Right? Who am I? So you're
reading this, right? And you're like, well, I
shouldn't do this because that decision is wrong.
But somebody else interpreted it completely different.
Right? That is what I mean. We as humans take
things at face value. And we think, okay, well,
I need to figure out this now we need to get
it solved we need to get it figured out and everything
has to be right but i i believe you should always
be open you should always give yourself accessibility
and take a route where you give yourself options
you give yourself freedom and allow yourself
to make the wrong decisions right to make any
decision you want because who knows where it's
going to lead you who knows it might have been
wrong in the moment, right? We might think, oh,
this might have been a bad decision at first,
right? And then five years comes and then you
look back on the decision, you're like, damn,
it really helped me get to where I was today,
you know? That's also why I have no regrets because
I wouldn't be where I am without my past, right?
You need to stop placing so many limitations
on yourself. We don't have to be all one and
all the same, no. We don't have to be organized
and have the right job the right job. No, you
don't But it's also okay to ask for help It's
important to allow yourself to know that you're
not a failure Because you didn't do something
right because you didn't do something quick enough
or take or it took you longer You're not a failure
because of that You What do I mean I think overall
What I'm trying to say is there is never one
answer. There's never a right answer. Or, you
know, the best thing you could have done. I think
being messy and having these two truths means
you are human. It means you are just living and
learning and succeeding. And I think the biggest
thing in life is learning and allowing yourself
to grow and make mistakes and have these things
happen. But also stop being so damn hard on yourself
throughout the whole process. Stop. We make things
so difficult, so, so difficult on ourselves.
Like, I think we would be much happier as a society
if we didn't put so much pressure on ourselves
to do the right thing, right? We have to eventually
learn, learn it all, right? We will learn. It
comes with age. It comes with growth, right?
We will. We will. We will. We will. And if you
need to cut somebody out in traffic, I would
say it's not always a smart decision, because
everybody's crazy. Everybody does things. But
who am I to tell you that? Who am I to tell you
that? Who am I to tell you that? See? First example.
First example. Now, inherently, this goes to
say, like, don't take this into the world and
be like, oh, my gosh, I can just do illegal things
because Zoe said two things can be true and this
illegal thing can help me in 10 years. That is
not what the fuck I said. That is not. What the
fuck I said? Because I said there are some things
that are inherently right and wrong, right? We
know some shit is wrong. Wrong is fuck, okay?
But I do think there are limitations, essential
limitations around everything, right? There's
always a new perspective. There's always... Something
better out there. There's always something worse
out there There's always something better. You
could be doing something worse. You could be
doing There's so much in life and we put so much
pressure on ourselves to be perfect Because we're
not we're not we're not we're not we're not So
allow yourself allow your brain to relax to relax
Focus on what's making you happy in that moment,
right and now I love you all, and I think you
guys are all very critical thinkers, right? I
hope so. Use your critical thinking though. There
are some things where we're like, okay, hey,
this might not be the best thing for me right
now. Think of it like that. Word it like that
to yourself. Because hey, this might not, if
you hear my dog scratching himself in the background,
cool, cool, cool, cool. This was what my life's
doing today. And you know what? What, Zeus? Do
you want to join the podcast or something? Do
you wanna hop on the mic? Anyways, like everybody's
just gonna have a different opinion. Everybody's
moves different. Nobody's life looks the exact
same. Nobody's life is picture perfect. Nobody
is perfect. And I think we need to stop being
so hard on ourselves. Two things can be true
at once. Two things can be true at once. So.
Yeah, that was today's episode and I'll have
another one out for you in like three days. Three
days? I know, it's one I'm filming with Jordan.
It's gonna be like, either a weekly, I don't
know how often we're gonna be doing it segment,
where we kind of have like a girl talk together
why she's giving me a facial. A type of facial.
I'm gonna have like a new one all the time. But,
yes. And I think what we're talking about is
being a fool in love on Tuesday because Jordan
is a fool in love. She is she is she is she is
and I think you guys will really relate to her
a lot She is a very strong and powerful woman
and I think you guys will love her Just as much
as you love me. What can I say? What can I say?
And yeah, if you enjoyed this chaotic mess of
a fucking episode, I I don't know what it was
I don't and I couldn't tell you but I feel like
it would be a disservice to not post it and Show
y 'all that there are some issues Behind the
fucking scene clearly there's sometimes there's
a lot going on and Zeus is still chasing this
bug. I Don't even see the book. I don't see shit.
I think it might be a net. I don't even know
how That happened, but anyway That's that that's
what the hell is going on right now Okay, also
Zeus got out yesterday. I lost my shape my heart
dropped to my ass I was outside and I think two
milliseconds screaming hello no fucker was in
the bushes hissing at me when i picked him up
i'm sorry you're startled i'm startled this isn't
even about you i thought i lost my child i thought
i lost my child oh my gosh and like also like
i am just been vibing i've really been trying
to lock in For and I really have been locking
in I have been putting in so much work behind
the scenes for y 'all thinking about so much
new shit And I also want to do another episode
soon where I do like where you guys leave your
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okay? So, you know, this was something new. Clearly,
clearly, maybe not new. I think I'm always a
little chaotic, but usually I edit it all out.
But yeah, I love you guys so much, and I hope
you enjoyed the episode. If this is your first
one, please, please go back. Go back in the archive
and and find some other ones because This is
not a good impression. Okay, but I love you guys
to stay blessed stay rich Stay bad bitch. Bye