Guys is this thing on? What is up besties it
is your host Zoe and I'm back with another freaking
episode I'm a did it over share podcast and I
hope you guys are doing great, you know, and
I hope you're having Well an amazing beginning
of December. You guys know what happened for
me. I turned 21 last week That is why you got
no episode I honestly I think I was gone out
of this universe at the end when everything was
supposed to be getting uploaded and time slipped
away time slipped away but I hope your Thanksgiving
was good if you celebrate and your holidays over
brawl you got some black friday deals something
and you know my birthday If you didn't tell me,
I'm still taking number 20. Anyway, today's episode
is more of a fun one. I sent out a form. Well,
I put it on Instagram. That is really the only
place it went. And I was just telling y 'all,
let y 'all over share. It's gonna be like a little
series, a little mini series, where y 'all over
share for a bit, and you know, talk about anything.
I literally have this labeled as, you know, rants,
gossip, advice, whatever you want to talk about.
okay so i got a couple i got quite a few but
i'm gonna read i picked out a look a quick little
handful that we can read today and before we
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is linked in the show notes down below okay So
the first one I am going to read these are all
anonymous by the way So if you want to submit
chores and you're kind of like worried, you know
about people know who you are. It's all anonymous
Okay, so this first one she says I'm assuming
yeah One type of convos I really love having
is the deep ones. When you finally feel comfortable
sharing that stuff, ugh, I love it. It's just
so freeing to finally be close enough to open
up about that hard stuff, you know? Anyway, it's
Chainschool and started two weeks ago. A girl
there and me have already become really close
and are slowly starting to open up about that
raw stuff, which I love for us, okay period.
There's just something about... that when people
trust me enough to tell me what they're dealing
with, that makes me feel proud for us. Does that
even make sense, LMAO? Yes, it does. And I'm
so happy for you that you made a new friend.
I love that for you. But also the deep conversations.
I'm getting there. I feel like there's some stuff.
I've like, I made it my personality my whole
life. Like, it really defined my character. Everything
that happened to me was my character. So I think
healing myself out of that is gonna take me a
minute to get into the way deeper stuff. But
no, I'm definitely down. I love a good deep conversation,
a good raw one. I love talking to you guys more,
so if we can have little conversations like that,
love it. But yeah, no, I'm definitely down for
the deep episodes. Just give me some recommendations,
and I got you. Like, what kind of topics do we
want me to go into, right? Yeah, thank you, and
I love girl talk as well. I love I need to have
another one. Yes, I do Alright, so this next
one says okay, so basically I had this one boyfriend
like a year and a half ago And it was a little
fling less than six months Sorry y 'all my cat
is literally coming she has not left me alone
And okay, so she said it was like a little fling
less than six months He was awful made me cry
daily, and I found out there was a whole bunch
of other girls on his phone, so we left his ass.
And then like another six months ago, he ends
up going to my school and there is another boy
who's also at my school now and they become really
close. And his little friend was the cutest and
I don't even care that they were friends, which
maybe is bad, but it was a really recent friendship.
So it's not like I even wanted to get back at
my ex. I just wanted this friend. So we ended
dating and it's been almost nine months and there
has still been multiple cases of him Trying to
make us fight or leave me and it just makes me
laugh because he's the one who fucked up And
his friend is the best thing my life no weird
shit, but I had to get that out to another girly
Girl fuck the friend Go with the friend Because
I mean he fumbled like it's not you didn't do
no weird shit, and I'm Assuming the friends cuter
anyway, so it's really a win -win situation I'm
happy for you. And I'm happy that you're happy.
You're in a nine month relationship. And I think
you sent this one like a month or two ago. So
what, like almost a year now? Congratulations.
I'm so happy for you. But it's so fun. But don't
ever feel bad. And that dude is a loser and he's
miserable, clearly, because he's still trying
to bother you. But you and your new man got locked
in for real. I love that for you. Alright, next.
This says... One time I became friends with a
girl in the grade below me and decided I was
asked if she wanted to have a sleepover. She
made it to my house and we were just chilling.
I had a poster wall at the time that had an odd
missing spot lol. She just asked, where did that
poster go? I responded with, oh I gave it to
this kid I'm talking to blank and her jaw dropped.
After finding out we were both talking to the
same guy. My heart was broken, but she was crying
and younger than me. So all I did was comfort
her We are no longer friends and three years
later I'm now dating that guy and I kind of hate
myself for fucking with him again because I don't
trust him at all from the past experiences TTT,
I don't even know my take. Hold on. Wait, let
me let me read digest First of all, she's younger
than you. You don't have to feel bad because
she's younger than you No, no shade like I'm
not the younger one. I'm just saying like don't
make yourself feel bad um Talking to the same
guy, and I'm sorry girl, but now you're dating
him like did he change like I need the updates
It's like this is the same guy because you still
said you have trust issues, so that just kind
of leads me to think like Is there an issue?
Do we not trust him are y 'all still together?
I need an update on an update are y 'all still
together Okay, let me know Is he a piece of shit
still or did he you know is he a good guy now?
You shouldn't be feeling bad because you're happy
That's shitty though that y 'all are both messing
with him and it like really I kind of need ages
with this as well like were y 'all kind of Aware
of what was going on like were you of age or
was this like fourth grade? Where were we at
okay? Thanks Next, oh this one's short. It says,
one time I was fucking with this dude and it
was so bad I turned gay and now I'm not ever
trying to look back. I don't clock the fuck out
of that. Is it worth it? Do you like it? Honestly,
sorry I was itching the fuck out of my eye. Do
you like it? I'm happy for you. You know? Be
who you are She said bitch Let me go get a bitch
because you fucked up my life so bad honestly
Can I say I agree there's an all -woman society
Why would we need? You know what y 'all I'm starting
to brainstorm, but yes, I'm so happy for you
I love this new journey for you. I don't know.
I'm just happy for you I'm I kind of feel bad
for you in a way Because now I'm trying to think
about how bad this experience was To really make
you like make a whole switch not even we didn't
even go by first we went full so That's okay
That's okay. We're team scissor over here, so
Look up girl Next one y 'all my cat What is up?
Hello ma 'am Okay, anyway next I'm 22 years old
and I can't drive and don't have a job nor Do
I have any job experience? but I'm trying and
my family thinks that I'm not and they because
they don't want to help and when I bring up no
one wants to help me I get told to shut up because
they are trying to help and That I'm not trying
to get my stuff together when in reality is the
other way around Your family's hatin'. They act
like they've never been young before or experienced
life. You're 22. It's all the time right now
to be getting yourself together. You should never
feel ashamed because you are in your head behind.
You're never behind in any type of way and it's
very disheartening to hear that they're not helping
you but in turn kind of thinking they are and
you're just lazy. Which I can imagine how draining
that is, especially if you have to be around
them, so I really am sorry for that. But I think
I just want to let you know that 22 is the perfect
age to be doing that. Your 20s are for living
and experiencing and figuring stuff out and messing
up and doing good and celebrating and people
who love you will support that and they will
understand you. So that's my advice for you,
okay? Love you, for real. text me finisuber okay
um excellent i had seen this one when it came
in y 'all lol i feel like you know who this is
but oh well I'm married and I'm currently cheating
on my husband with a romantic YN. He has four
kids and he's a felon, but I see the potential
in him and he's obsessed with me. I think I'm
his first bad bitch lol. I want to follow my
heart and get a divorce. Just ease my mind because
I'm tired of cheating on my husband. Every time
I try to leave him he gets petty or spends so
much money to keep me here. I'm so lost. Help
me. I do know who the - i thought you left that
nigga no because i'm over here telling me she
like i think she left that nigga like can't be
because i was missing i was i was missing you
we was reminiscing and i'm like is this why did
she dip and then i see this i'm like god damn
it but also let me take it back because i'm sorry
and like no shape but please help me so god in
my eyes you are such a headstrong woman, very
independent. Like, you're very much go -getter,
right? When I first read this, I said a felon
would work. Like, no judgment, but like, it just
seems so, like, this is a whole 180. And I love
it. Like, I'm here for it, honestly. Leave you
should have been left I think you need to choose
you and be happy and do what you want to do for
once but also like this is a deep question I
Understand like maybe spending some money When
you like when you're trying to leave and he'll
spend some money on you But like can't the other
one just spend the money on you like just did
Just dip or like Do we have mutual agreements?
Like, I feel like he can send you certain money
every, like, a certain amount of money every,
like, once a month, like, I don't know. I don't
know, y 'all. But, I do, I am happy for you.
I think it is time for you to explore and figure
things out and have fun. A romantic Y and with
four kids really just got me though, I wanna
be honest. I looked at that for a minute and
I said, oh, that's different. That's different
for you. But I'm here for it. I think this is
your time, your era, and I think you should have
been left that man. You should have been left
that man. Too good of a woman. Well, I think
you're too good of a woman. I don't know what
you got going on, but I'm happy that you're having
fun. Truly truly. I'm so happy for you. Okay
next Girl, I miss my ex and I think he got a
new number on me I tried getting into a new relationship
sex was good, but he just wasn't my ex and here
I am again still missing him I'm sorry. I am
NOT team X over here. I will never defend this
bullshit because Why is he an X? Okay now? Okay.
Wait, wait If you give me a reason he's an X
because y 'all just had some falling out or some
shit, okay I'll be there. But if he cheated or
something, I'm not about to sit in your face
and tell you you should miss that man. Never
a day in your fuck ass life, okay? Never. But,
if it was just a little disagreement or like
a little bad timing, fuck that man. I'm saying.
Okay, um. But, he got a new number on you and
he didn't reach out yet? I think fade should
be caught the next time you link up. If you link
up... I hope you link up because clearly you
still want it back and like if it's a good decision
Well, it's not like a damning one make it you
know, but if it's toxic don't do that shit Don't
do that shit and you're still missing them that
like what was so good because if the sex was
good in this new relationship What is your ex
got? Because he's your ex So what redeeming qualities
did he have? Girl, I got a lot of questions.
I need updates. Okay, I really do I Really need
updates. Okay um next So I'm dating but not dating
this guy long distance. We've known each other
for a while We've known each other for a while
off and on for a few years develop family Younger
and in high school then got hit with the I want
my ex comment and I got upset and blocked Ended
up on blocking him years later and then got a
sorry back for a long time after texting What
did I just do? Y 'all technology is not my friend
today, but it's not the retrograde because I
ended So I got blocked and that's rude as fuck.
And then I text wanting to talk about why I blocked.
We got together and then I basically asked for
a breakup or space because I'm not mentally where
I need to be in life. So how can I pour into
a relationship where I need him to be in life?
but the communication on his end sucks like if
you love someone then you make time clock it
we're both in college now with busy majors but
I feel like if you have the time to go to a friends
event then you have time to respond to a text
and or communicate clock it he's in Jersey and
I'm in Texas by the way I'm a 21 I'm a 21 black
female I think that much say it just says I'm
I'm a 21 black and he's 21 Female 21 black and
he's male 21 Arabic. I was looking at that If
that's important at all It is important, you
know why and you know, this might be generalization
and you can tell me if that's fucked up and or
wrong Okay, let me know with all like humility.
I'm so serious. I'm so serious right now if this
is wrong DM me, please But as I've heard it Arabic
they're they're kind of like this you know they're
very emotionally unavailable but very tricky
you know they buy you a lot of shit but then
detached I've heard they're very toxic if look
y 'all look y 'all I heard they're extremely
toxic but fun to be around if you want a good
time like that's all I heard so I wouldn't say
go look for commitment from this man especially
we already have the pre -signs now it'd be different
if I was just judging him based off this right
but girl he's already been wishy -washy block
that man you can find another you can find another
you can you're still you're young too shit we're
all young find another one Okay? You'll find
one who looks better, smells better, is nicer,
and fucking knows how to communicate. Okay? And
he's in college. Granted, where I'm in college,
you know, you're probably in college, like...
I just don't trust men. I just... Why is he not
communicating? Why can't he text you back, you
know? Because that is... Correct you make time
for people you love who you actually want to
be around you make time for what the fuck you
want to do Okay, so if he's not making time for
you No shade, but he don't want to talk to you.
So block that man Block that man and find another
okay or focus on you do you need to do and do
it makes you happy? Okay, as I'm meeting up with
a guy. I've been texting this Friday. We're meeting
in a club. So don't worry Good, because I was
worrying. It's a public place. Shaking in my
boots, but also low -key exciting, question mark,
question mark, question mark. Extremely exciting.
Well, it's crazy that you sent me this no -dem
update. How was the date, sister girl? You got
to text me. Actually, you're going to comment
on the next forum, and you're going to let everybody
know how this date was. Are we still talking
to him? What did you guys do? Was it fun? Were
you nervous? Was it exciting? um yeah and like
at a club like did you dance did you get drunk
would you drink i mean i just need i need all
the deets all the information so if you could
go ahead and text me that that would be wonderful
and i'm just so excited for you the dating scene
so fun you're living life and i don't know i
feel like it gives you a chance to learn about
so many people even if you don't see anything
lasting but It is fun, and I am excited for you,
but you need to keep us updated, okay love bug?
Thanks. But, alright guys, I love you so much
and I hope you enjoyed today's episode where
you heard a little bit about your brethren and
your sisters. Yes, we learned about each other
and it was funny and it was fun and all my girls
and gays and baddies and men, I have men listeners
too. Y 'all are all shit and I hope you choose
you and whatever you're going through in life
right now May it only get better No worse as
above so below. Okay, all right I love you guys
so much exactly what I said at the beginning
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bye