WEBVTT 00:00:01.719 --> 00:00:10.839 Guys is this thing on? What is up besties, it 00:00:10.839 --> 00:00:13.580 is your host Zoe and I am back with another motherfucking 00:00:13.580 --> 00:00:16.739 episode on the Did I Overshare podcast today 00:00:16.739 --> 00:00:20.079 We're starting off rocky clearly don't know what's 00:00:20.079 --> 00:00:23.780 going on the camera Okay. Um, so yeah, I hope 00:00:23.780 --> 00:00:26.219 you guys are doing well this week. I've had a 00:00:26.219 --> 00:00:28.239 lot of birthdays this week I've been very busy. 00:00:28.239 --> 00:00:32.929 We've had family up But I hope October overall 00:00:32.929 --> 00:00:36.329 is going really well for you guys. I really don't 00:00:36.329 --> 00:00:39.369 have any business to get into, you know? There's 00:00:39.369 --> 00:00:43.750 really nothing to talk about besides being here. 00:00:44.210 --> 00:00:46.689 I've had a lot to say though, I can be honest. 00:00:46.890 --> 00:00:48.890 I've wanted to make a video every single day 00:00:48.890 --> 00:00:52.070 this week, sorry, regarding so many different 00:00:52.070 --> 00:00:54.049 things. I feel like my mind has been very full. 00:00:54.719 --> 00:00:57.119 I've wanted to share a lot of things with you 00:00:57.119 --> 00:00:59.759 guys But this one I feel like is the one I kept 00:00:59.759 --> 00:01:02.200 nagging at me and before we get into it I just 00:01:02.200 --> 00:01:05.099 want to say if you end up liking this episode, 00:01:05.099 --> 00:01:09.219 you know leave a rating Leave a review Listen 00:01:09.219 --> 00:01:11.939 to the podcast everywhere. 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Okay description show notes, 00:01:21.700 --> 00:01:25.819 whatever you want to call it, but yeah also don't 00:01:25.819 --> 00:01:28.099 mind my voice I'm talking way slower my throat 00:01:28.099 --> 00:01:30.719 has been hurting every single day I wake up it's 00:01:30.719 --> 00:01:32.560 like I've just been screaming in my sleep and 00:01:32.560 --> 00:01:35.439 I don't know why I'm not sick it's like just 00:01:35.439 --> 00:01:38.299 my throat is like so dry like I'm fighting for 00:01:38.299 --> 00:01:43.299 my life right um but yeah today's episode I felt 00:01:43.299 --> 00:01:45.799 really drawn to talk about because it's very 00:01:45.799 --> 00:01:48.819 active on social media right now and it's um 00:01:48.819 --> 00:01:52.319 it's how women are now being Like we have to 00:01:52.319 --> 00:01:54.599 be more feminine now how like I feel like every 00:01:54.599 --> 00:01:57.159 single video I see on my feed is how to be more 00:01:57.159 --> 00:01:58.980 feminine how to talk more feminine how to carry 00:01:58.980 --> 00:02:00.980 yourself more feminine and so many things like 00:02:00.980 --> 00:02:05.540 that which I feel like is very Bad to feed into 00:02:05.540 --> 00:02:10.039 our minds simply because it's just like In my 00:02:10.039 --> 00:02:12.620 opinion as a woman. We're already fighting so 00:02:12.620 --> 00:02:15.120 much just to prove We're a woman already like 00:02:15.120 --> 00:02:18.319 we already have to do so much to say hey, I'm 00:02:18.319 --> 00:02:21.560 woman enough, right? Simply of the fact that 00:02:21.560 --> 00:02:23.439 we are a woman like why do I have to explain 00:02:23.439 --> 00:02:26.699 myself even more right? Why do I have to wear 00:02:26.699 --> 00:02:30.520 pink and talk softly and not argue back or do 00:02:30.520 --> 00:02:32.819 anything that it's very I feel like belittling 00:02:32.819 --> 00:02:36.699 But I feel like it matches today's age like where 00:02:36.699 --> 00:02:39.659 we're at in life I feel like it's very fitting 00:02:39.659 --> 00:02:42.120 that this would come up now. So yeah, of course 00:02:42.120 --> 00:02:44.419 people are gonna feed into it, right? But I don't 00:02:44.419 --> 00:02:46.080 think it's something we should be feeding into. 00:02:46.520 --> 00:02:48.639 Now granted, this isn't me sitting here and saying, 00:02:48.780 --> 00:02:50.400 oh my gosh, you can't like pink, you can't talk 00:02:50.400 --> 00:02:52.780 softly, you can't be feminine. No, 100%. The 00:02:52.780 --> 00:02:54.620 aesthetic's cute as fuck, first of all. Let me 00:02:54.620 --> 00:02:57.759 just say that. I understand the appeal right 00:02:57.759 --> 00:03:00.259 and if you are naturally these things that's 00:03:00.259 --> 00:03:02.199 perfectly fine But I don't think that makes you 00:03:02.199 --> 00:03:04.560 more feminine Because I feel like that's very 00:03:04.560 --> 00:03:06.860 like we need to deconstruct that whole idea because 00:03:06.860 --> 00:03:09.719 you can be loud proud Do so many different things 00:03:09.719 --> 00:03:11.879 that aren't considered feminine because you don't 00:03:11.879 --> 00:03:15.020 have to be feminine for you to get more likes 00:03:15.020 --> 00:03:17.919 or for Men to like you or so many different things 00:03:17.919 --> 00:03:19.580 like that. I just feel like it's very damaging 00:03:20.039 --> 00:03:23.400 to the mind especially since younger girls are 00:03:23.400 --> 00:03:25.919 now taking in this media and being like oh i 00:03:25.919 --> 00:03:28.319 have to be soft spoken to get this to do this 00:03:28.319 --> 00:03:30.379 you know for men to like me i feel like the whole 00:03:30.379 --> 00:03:32.360 thing on social media now is how men can like 00:03:32.360 --> 00:03:34.500 you like i've seen so many posts about like and 00:03:34.500 --> 00:03:36.419 i feel like religion is into a lot of it as well 00:03:36.419 --> 00:03:38.819 like every single post i see about it is how 00:03:38.819 --> 00:03:40.419 to be like a christian feminine how to do this 00:03:40.419 --> 00:03:42.639 how to do that and it's like it's just all being 00:03:42.639 --> 00:03:45.520 pushed so freaking fast and it's like if you're 00:03:45.520 --> 00:03:48.000 not this you're not a woman you're not feminine 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:50.710 you're not soft you're not You know this you 00:03:50.710 --> 00:03:53.229 can be feminine and still be hard rough around 00:03:53.229 --> 00:03:57.069 the edges black be Alternative even whatever 00:03:57.069 --> 00:03:58.669 you want to fucking be and still be feminine. 00:03:58.669 --> 00:04:01.310 You are a woman. You are naturally feminine in 00:04:01.310 --> 00:04:05.469 your ways, right? I Don't have to act girly just 00:04:05.469 --> 00:04:08.889 for that to be socially acceptable, right? And 00:04:08.889 --> 00:04:12.379 I just feel like with how much is being pushed 00:04:12.379 --> 00:04:14.340 on social media I really wanted to talk about 00:04:14.340 --> 00:04:17.379 it because as someone like me I'm gonna be honest 00:04:17.379 --> 00:04:20.300 I caught myself falling into it like for like 00:04:20.300 --> 00:04:22.480 a week or something as well I was like ooh I 00:04:22.480 --> 00:04:23.879 really love the pinks because like I said the 00:04:23.879 --> 00:04:26.279 aesthetic is really cute like I love the idea 00:04:26.279 --> 00:04:30.040 of soft cute but it's the connotation that comes 00:04:30.040 --> 00:04:32.839 behind it and why this is being pushed like this 00:04:32.839 --> 00:04:35.949 and actually how bad it is for our minds, right? 00:04:36.089 --> 00:04:37.810 It's one thing if you're naturally gravitating 00:04:37.810 --> 00:04:39.629 towards this, you are a naturally soft -spoken 00:04:39.629 --> 00:04:43.250 person or are naturally calmer, um, quiet, like, 00:04:43.269 --> 00:04:45.269 you know, all of these things and it's perfectly 00:04:45.269 --> 00:04:48.350 fine, right? Just like a little princess. Great. 00:04:49.089 --> 00:04:51.949 But I can still be feminine if I wanna be a little 00:04:51.949 --> 00:04:54.769 rock and roll over here, right? If I wanna be 00:04:54.769 --> 00:04:56.910 loud. Cause I'm gonna be honest, like me personally, 00:04:57.050 --> 00:04:59.860 I was struggling with this because... I'm not 00:04:59.860 --> 00:05:03.519 soft spoken. I am loud. I cuss every fucking 00:05:03.519 --> 00:05:06.899 time I speak. Great. People don't like that. 00:05:07.000 --> 00:05:09.379 Fine. But that's me. I cuss every single time 00:05:09.379 --> 00:05:11.699 I speak because I feel like it adds so much emotion 00:05:11.699 --> 00:05:13.600 to my words. And it's just something I've been 00:05:13.600 --> 00:05:17.680 doing forever. And like pink is cute for me, 00:05:17.779 --> 00:05:21.019 but I like... i like dark reds i like navies 00:05:21.019 --> 00:05:23.500 i like that so it's kind of like i was getting 00:05:23.500 --> 00:05:25.620 upset because i wasn't fitting into that narrative 00:05:25.620 --> 00:05:27.199 i was like what the fuck i'm supposed to be a 00:05:27.199 --> 00:05:29.519 woman i'm supposed to do this that's not the 00:05:29.519 --> 00:05:32.680 case i'm woman fucking enough and i wanted to 00:05:32.680 --> 00:05:34.920 say that in this episode today that you don't 00:05:34.920 --> 00:05:37.339 have to fit certain criteria to be woman enough 00:05:37.339 --> 00:05:40.920 and now let me talk about why i feel like it 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:46.089 matches the times because we can see Right, when 00:05:46.089 --> 00:05:47.689 so many different things happens, when stuff 00:05:47.689 --> 00:05:49.689 starts to change in the world, certain people, 00:05:50.129 --> 00:05:52.029 certain narratives are being pushed, right? What 00:05:52.029 --> 00:05:55.550 is socially acceptable? People tend to fall in 00:05:55.550 --> 00:05:59.610 line. We tend to morph and shape ourselves into 00:05:59.610 --> 00:06:02.029 a way that will now be acceptable for this new 00:06:02.029 --> 00:06:04.870 society because... let's be honest society is 00:06:04.870 --> 00:06:06.829 changing and what's acceptable it's not what 00:06:06.829 --> 00:06:09.569 people like more right beyond like being honest 00:06:09.569 --> 00:06:11.629 we can see and i know like y 'all can see this 00:06:11.629 --> 00:06:13.310 as well when we look at social media now what 00:06:13.310 --> 00:06:16.089 is it about being a stay at home wife being more 00:06:16.089 --> 00:06:19.930 feminine how can i be more soft spoken how can 00:06:19.930 --> 00:06:25.600 i become christian how can i um Get my nails 00:06:25.600 --> 00:06:29.139 done every day, but not be too like over consumption 00:06:29.139 --> 00:06:32.899 need. How can I? Make my videos cuter and like 00:06:32.899 --> 00:06:36.319 more softer You know, how can I stop cussing 00:06:36.319 --> 00:06:39.120 and stop yelling and so many things to make me 00:06:39.120 --> 00:06:41.300 more feminine to make me more desirable for other 00:06:41.300 --> 00:06:44.379 people and especially like for men like a lot 00:06:44.379 --> 00:06:46.459 of the picture like a lot of the posts I see 00:06:46.459 --> 00:06:50.089 it's for men how You know, here's your issue 00:06:50.089 --> 00:06:52.290 with men. You don't shut up and let them talk 00:06:52.290 --> 00:06:54.569 sometimes. You don't just keep the peace and 00:06:54.569 --> 00:06:59.350 be quiet. I'm confused. I'm confused. What are 00:06:59.350 --> 00:07:02.089 we going back, 40 fucking years? I'm sorry, I'm 00:07:02.089 --> 00:07:04.389 not gonna have a man trample over me. Sorry, 00:07:04.410 --> 00:07:06.170 and this is coming from someone who's been in 00:07:06.170 --> 00:07:09.009 a relationship for seven fucking years, no breakups. 00:07:09.629 --> 00:07:12.790 Like, I don't think you need to shut up and keep 00:07:12.790 --> 00:07:15.069 the peace. Keeping the peace doesn't keep anybody's 00:07:15.069 --> 00:07:18.170 peace. At all. Like, the issue never gets fucking 00:07:18.170 --> 00:07:19.750 solved. You're gonna have an issue with it regardless 00:07:19.750 --> 00:07:22.009 if you're quiet or not. Like, I don't understand 00:07:22.009 --> 00:07:25.449 that. I also don't understand how I have to fit 00:07:25.449 --> 00:07:29.550 certain molds. Oh, also how being so super skinny 00:07:29.550 --> 00:07:33.589 is coming back. First of all, let's also point 00:07:33.589 --> 00:07:35.750 out the dangers of that. I see every fucking 00:07:35.750 --> 00:07:37.850 video. Oh my gosh. Especially with the Victoria's 00:07:37.850 --> 00:07:40.410 Secret runway happening soon. Like, that was 00:07:40.410 --> 00:07:41.949 beautiful. Last year's was beautiful, but everybody 00:07:41.949 --> 00:07:43.509 hated it because they weren't skinny anymore. 00:07:43.550 --> 00:07:46.620 Like, they were using normal people. Also in 00:07:46.620 --> 00:07:48.800 my opinion that was weird, but that's like I 00:07:48.800 --> 00:07:51.600 said, that's my opinion I understand Victoria's 00:07:51.600 --> 00:07:54.639 Secret like like the supermodels, right? But 00:07:54.639 --> 00:07:56.699 it's like and also the argument being brought 00:07:56.699 --> 00:07:58.899 up with oh my gosh There's influencers in the 00:07:58.899 --> 00:08:02.860 runway and stuff like that and like NBA play 00:08:02.860 --> 00:08:05.600 and not NBA I'm having a brain fart of what the 00:08:05.600 --> 00:08:09.399 girls called Oh W NBA right like Angel Reese 00:08:09.399 --> 00:08:12.199 and Quinn Blackwell and all this is like In my 00:08:12.199 --> 00:08:14.699 head, why should we have an issue with this when 00:08:14.699 --> 00:08:17.959 women have just been fighting for attention long 00:08:17.959 --> 00:08:21.120 enough? Like they want to be recognized for their 00:08:21.120 --> 00:08:23.779 job and what they do and what they're good at 00:08:23.779 --> 00:08:27.500 long enough. Why is it now she, because first 00:08:27.500 --> 00:08:29.920 last year it was, they're not skinny enough. 00:08:30.899 --> 00:08:33.899 They were fat shaming Tyra Banks, which I don't 00:08:33.899 --> 00:08:36.559 do fat shaming, but Tyra Banks definitely bullied 00:08:36.559 --> 00:08:39.149 a lot of people. But granted, She's a grown -ass 00:08:39.149 --> 00:08:40.870 woman now. Like, why are we sitting up here pointing? 00:08:40.909 --> 00:08:43.029 Because she walked her ass off, and like, we 00:08:43.029 --> 00:08:45.309 had so many different, like, diverse models last 00:08:45.309 --> 00:08:48.029 year for that runway. And all I seen on social 00:08:48.029 --> 00:08:49.889 media after was, hey, they're not skinny, they're 00:08:49.889 --> 00:08:52.350 not this, they're not this, and this year was, 00:08:52.889 --> 00:08:55.570 oh, none of them are actually in the game, blah, 00:08:55.690 --> 00:08:57.470 blah, blah, blah. Just be happy they're getting 00:08:57.470 --> 00:08:59.570 the fucking recognition, because they're already 00:08:59.570 --> 00:09:01.149 fighting for that fucking as it is, especially 00:09:01.149 --> 00:09:05.389 as black women. Please. Relax. And then, we go 00:09:05.389 --> 00:09:07.009 into the part, like I was just talking about 00:09:07.009 --> 00:09:09.269 the skinniness, how we're posting it, like granted, 00:09:09.710 --> 00:09:11.889 it's okay if you're tiny, if it's okay if you're 00:09:11.889 --> 00:09:13.549 skinny, like I'm not saying this as someone who's 00:09:13.549 --> 00:09:15.909 not skinny, like, oh my gosh, like, it's a bad 00:09:15.909 --> 00:09:18.090 thing. No, that's perfectly fine, but I think 00:09:18.090 --> 00:09:20.470 it gets to a point where you start pushing it 00:09:20.470 --> 00:09:23.629 on people. Do we not understand what happened 00:09:23.629 --> 00:09:27.190 because of this? Do we not understand anorexia 00:09:27.190 --> 00:09:29.610 bulimia all these eating disorders that people 00:09:29.610 --> 00:09:34.250 had? because of this because This was too fat 00:09:34.250 --> 00:09:37.649 or having a butt was too fat or you need a horrible 00:09:37.649 --> 00:09:40.049 like you need a tiny waistline and everybody's 00:09:40.049 --> 00:09:44.009 on GLP one and like can we talk about it because 00:09:44.009 --> 00:09:47.350 it really you like I Think my whole point is 00:09:47.350 --> 00:09:50.470 it's really watch how our world our world is 00:09:50.470 --> 00:09:52.500 how is our world being led right now? Right? 00:09:52.799 --> 00:09:54.519 Everything's falling under it. Because these 00:09:54.519 --> 00:09:56.000 are things that were happening, what, in the 00:09:56.000 --> 00:09:58.220 early 2000s? I think? I don't know. Girl, I wasn't 00:09:58.220 --> 00:10:01.019 alive. Girl, I wasn't alive. That's what happened, 00:10:01.139 --> 00:10:03.519 right? None of these, like, this isn't healthy 00:10:03.519 --> 00:10:05.500 habits. Like, it'd be different if you were pushing, 00:10:05.899 --> 00:10:08.519 like, oh my gosh, hey, let's work out. No, everything 00:10:08.519 --> 00:10:12.240 is let's be skinny now. Which is detrimental 00:10:12.240 --> 00:10:15.500 to our younger generation growing up seeing this 00:10:15.500 --> 00:10:17.320 and now thinking, oh my gosh, mom, let me stop 00:10:17.320 --> 00:10:19.399 eating. Because growing up, I had so many best 00:10:19.399 --> 00:10:21.919 friends who went through this shit. Who went 00:10:21.919 --> 00:10:23.720 through this shit? So please, I don't - it's 00:10:23.720 --> 00:10:25.539 not something that's cute, it's not healthy. 00:10:25.860 --> 00:10:27.679 Just because it's trendy does not mean you need 00:10:27.679 --> 00:10:29.440 to be doing it. Just because it's trendy doesn't 00:10:29.440 --> 00:10:32.759 mean it needs to fit for you. You don't need 00:10:32.759 --> 00:10:34.559 to be more skinny to be a woman. You don't need 00:10:34.559 --> 00:10:36.220 to wear pink to be a woman. You don't need to 00:10:36.220 --> 00:10:37.879 do anything more to be a woman other than just 00:10:37.879 --> 00:10:41.740 fucking exist. Okay? Because it is hard enough 00:10:41.740 --> 00:10:46.799 to fucking exist. Why make it any harder? Right? 00:10:47.379 --> 00:10:51.379 And - my biggest issue with it is it's not it's 00:10:51.379 --> 00:10:54.980 not men pushing this it's not it's not men sitting 00:10:54.980 --> 00:10:57.460 here and saying oh my gosh she needs to do this 00:10:57.460 --> 00:11:00.679 and she needs to do that no it's other women 00:11:00.679 --> 00:11:03.879 who are criticizing other women for doing anything 00:11:03.879 --> 00:11:06.960 right oh my gosh she's a basketball player why 00:11:06.960 --> 00:11:09.539 is she walking a runway bitch why don't you see 00:11:09.539 --> 00:11:13.379 that as cool i think it's cool as fuck that she's 00:11:13.379 --> 00:11:17.399 out there Getting fucking like hoping like crazy 00:11:17.399 --> 00:11:20.679 and she can still walk the damn runway It's just 00:11:20.679 --> 00:11:24.000 a woman to me like the eight that eight in my 00:11:24.000 --> 00:11:27.559 in my opinion in my opinion Like for me like 00:11:27.559 --> 00:11:30.440 someone like Quinn you can be so fucking funny 00:11:30.440 --> 00:11:33.639 and have the craziest Internet personality mind 00:11:33.639 --> 00:11:37.480 you she's been doing this for years, right? Body's 00:11:37.480 --> 00:11:40.639 tea nice tea like she's been modeling and creating 00:11:40.639 --> 00:11:42.700 content, but to have two different personalities. 00:11:42.700 --> 00:11:45.330 I feel like they hate that Right? Stick to your 00:11:45.330 --> 00:11:47.330 narrative. Stick to where you are. Because you're 00:11:47.330 --> 00:11:50.070 not allowed over here. Which should never be 00:11:50.070 --> 00:11:52.029 the case. It's like a woman attack on woman. 00:11:52.370 --> 00:11:56.710 Like, please. Can we all let up? Can we all let 00:11:56.710 --> 00:12:00.110 up? Because you should not be punished for being 00:12:00.110 --> 00:12:02.210 you. You should not like, let's say you don't 00:12:02.210 --> 00:12:04.590 like pink. You don't like pink. You don't like 00:12:04.590 --> 00:12:07.289 jewelry. You don't like, you know, getting your 00:12:07.289 --> 00:12:09.490 nails done. You know, like shit like that. People 00:12:09.490 --> 00:12:12.289 don't, not everybody likes that. And that's fine. 00:12:12.700 --> 00:12:15.799 That doesn't make her any less and I it's just 00:12:15.799 --> 00:12:18.080 with social media. It's that's all that's being 00:12:18.080 --> 00:12:22.779 pushed right now and It's so easy to fall into 00:12:22.779 --> 00:12:25.500 the narrative that that's right that that's true. 00:12:25.519 --> 00:12:28.340 That's what we should be doing That is how we 00:12:28.340 --> 00:12:32.000 are expected to behave Really sit back and think 00:12:32.000 --> 00:12:36.399 about how stupid that fucking sounds Truly would 00:12:36.399 --> 00:12:40.289 you be telling? A sixth grader this who was going 00:12:40.289 --> 00:12:42.370 through puberty and everything else that she 00:12:42.370 --> 00:12:45.090 needs to stop eating She needs to be skinny so 00:12:45.090 --> 00:12:47.009 she can prepare for the Victoria's Secret one, 00:12:47.029 --> 00:12:49.309 right? You're right. She does she never needs 00:12:49.309 --> 00:12:52.490 to cuss she needs to be soft spoken, right? she 00:12:52.490 --> 00:12:54.289 needs to calm down not let her anger get the 00:12:54.289 --> 00:12:57.870 best of her and you know not be too dramatic 00:12:57.870 --> 00:13:01.070 or Exaggerate or you know loud with her words 00:13:01.070 --> 00:13:04.309 or demanding Standing up for herself. No, just 00:13:04.309 --> 00:13:07.289 be quiet and keep the peace. What are you sick? 00:13:07.500 --> 00:13:10.759 I'm sorry. I will I would never look at a child 00:13:10.759 --> 00:13:15.139 or myself and sit here and say that I'm not Because 00:13:15.139 --> 00:13:17.320 I don't think any of that has anything to do 00:13:17.320 --> 00:13:21.480 with who she is as a as a person period I Want 00:13:21.480 --> 00:13:24.440 her to be demanding and you know speak up for 00:13:24.440 --> 00:13:26.659 what the fuck she wants and doing all this and 00:13:26.659 --> 00:13:29.500 now it's also being viewed that woman Need to 00:13:29.500 --> 00:13:31.919 have softer jobs. Let the corporate Betty live. 00:13:31.919 --> 00:13:34.039 Let the corporate Betty live. I can't do it. 00:13:34.039 --> 00:13:37.080 She can't period The surgeons the doctors like 00:13:37.080 --> 00:13:41.519 all of that period but no it's and Also, you 00:13:41.519 --> 00:13:42.679 know what since we're talking about jobs I'm 00:13:42.679 --> 00:13:44.480 also gonna talk about the other side of it. People 00:13:44.480 --> 00:13:48.620 are now criticizing women for doing content Do 00:13:48.620 --> 00:13:51.759 y 'all not see how women can not even do anything 00:13:51.759 --> 00:13:55.519 that they love without being ridiculed So please 00:13:55.519 --> 00:13:58.299 stop letting it be you as another woman ridiculing 00:13:58.299 --> 00:14:00.519 another woman Just because she does content or 00:14:00.519 --> 00:14:02.820 makes videos or YouTube doesn't mean she's any 00:14:02.820 --> 00:14:06.139 less than a doctor Right, that doesn't mean she's 00:14:06.139 --> 00:14:08.340 any less than the doctor Those are two different 00:14:08.340 --> 00:14:10.700 women who like two different things pursuing 00:14:10.700 --> 00:14:13.700 two different things who are good at it If we're 00:14:13.700 --> 00:14:15.879 happy with what they're doing, so why the fuck 00:14:15.879 --> 00:14:18.820 does it matter? Why does it? Because if it really 00:14:18.820 --> 00:14:21.100 was a woman support woman, we wouldn't be doing 00:14:21.100 --> 00:14:25.340 all of this. We wouldn't because When I go outside, 00:14:25.360 --> 00:14:28.059 I'm not worried about men. I'm not I look for 00:14:28.059 --> 00:14:30.159 I'm being honest like I dress for the whole bit 00:14:30.159 --> 00:14:32.759 like I dress for the bitches like this this is 00:14:32.759 --> 00:14:35.960 for the woman like I'm not dressing for men which 00:14:35.960 --> 00:14:37.940 I want her to look at me and say my outfit's 00:14:37.940 --> 00:14:41.279 cute right but it's like now I go out and it's 00:14:41.279 --> 00:14:44.679 it's it's woman judging me right it's just it's 00:14:44.679 --> 00:14:47.100 just woman and I'm just like it's because of 00:14:47.100 --> 00:14:51.080 social media and that's it because truly it feeds 00:14:51.080 --> 00:14:55.240 our brains what we watch influences us to act 00:14:55.240 --> 00:14:59.940 on the outside right and now to say all this 00:15:01.010 --> 00:15:03.970 Like I said at the beginning this is not anything 00:15:03.970 --> 00:15:07.389 to alienate any of this You know if you do believe 00:15:07.389 --> 00:15:10.210 this or you have this stance, or you do like 00:15:10.210 --> 00:15:13.210 you know participating in this that's perfectly 00:15:13.210 --> 00:15:17.470 fine But I just want to say this to emphasize 00:15:17.470 --> 00:15:20.509 that When you are doing these things make sure 00:15:20.509 --> 00:15:25.100 you're not coming off so negatively and nasty 00:15:25.100 --> 00:15:27.200 to other people because they don't enjoy the 00:15:27.200 --> 00:15:29.379 same thing you do or viewing them as any less 00:15:29.379 --> 00:15:32.039 than you because they don't like what you like 00:15:32.039 --> 00:15:35.100 or they're not doing what you're doing because 00:15:35.100 --> 00:15:37.960 when was it ever cool to make fun of somebody 00:15:37.960 --> 00:15:39.679 because they don't like what you're doing or 00:15:39.679 --> 00:15:41.960 they're not fitting the popular narrative because 00:15:41.960 --> 00:15:44.000 I think it's cool as fuck to do whatever the 00:15:44.000 --> 00:15:47.120 fuck you want as long as you're happy period 00:15:48.250 --> 00:15:51.169 But it's also I'm not less of a person because 00:15:51.169 --> 00:15:53.970 I'm not doing certain things I'm not gonna be 00:15:53.970 --> 00:15:56.509 a bad wife because I'm not doing this I'm not 00:15:56.509 --> 00:15:58.570 gonna be a bad mother because I'm not doing this 00:15:58.570 --> 00:16:01.690 and also people like Another thing when it comes 00:16:01.690 --> 00:16:03.590 to this what I've been seeing on social media. 00:16:03.710 --> 00:16:07.269 It's like women also just hate like cuz it's 00:16:07.269 --> 00:16:10.509 like Like when we're talking about abortion right 00:16:10.509 --> 00:16:13.429 pro -choice not even abortion kids kids period 00:16:13.429 --> 00:16:15.870 right? There's a group of women who don't want 00:16:15.870 --> 00:16:18.899 kids Group of women who are iffy. Group of women 00:16:18.899 --> 00:16:23.519 who really want kids. Like me, seeing the post 00:16:23.519 --> 00:16:25.960 as someone who really wants kids, right? And 00:16:25.960 --> 00:16:29.259 I don't see kids as all my be all, end all, like 00:16:29.259 --> 00:16:31.720 that's it, that's my life. But I really want 00:16:31.720 --> 00:16:33.340 kids and I've always really wanted kids, but 00:16:33.340 --> 00:16:35.860 I also still plan to pursue to do every single 00:16:35.860 --> 00:16:38.879 thing I want in life, period. Like kids aren't 00:16:38.879 --> 00:16:42.799 stopping shit, right? But, it's like the second 00:16:42.799 --> 00:16:45.559 people announce that they want a kid, I see this 00:16:45.559 --> 00:16:47.700 a lot on social media, the second a woman announces, 00:16:47.840 --> 00:16:51.759 oh my gosh, I'm pregnant, the comments, condolences, 00:16:52.600 --> 00:16:56.899 abort it, kill it. Are y 'all okay? Are y 'all 00:16:56.899 --> 00:16:58.580 okay? Because this is coming from somebody who 00:16:58.580 --> 00:17:02.220 is pro -choice, right? Are y 'all okay, seriously? 00:17:02.799 --> 00:17:04.420 Why would you say that to somebody? You don't 00:17:04.420 --> 00:17:06.319 know if this woman has been trying 10 years for 00:17:06.319 --> 00:17:08.440 kids, and now she's suddenly pregnant, all her 00:17:08.440 --> 00:17:11.480 comments are filled with, oh, go kill it. Are 00:17:11.480 --> 00:17:14.339 you okay? Just because you don't want kids Doesn't 00:17:14.339 --> 00:17:16.339 mean anything and then I see every post is like 00:17:16.339 --> 00:17:18.859 oh, but thank God you're not pregnant What about 00:17:18.859 --> 00:17:20.299 the woman who do want to get pregnant? It's just 00:17:20.299 --> 00:17:22.720 like you I feel like every single thing social 00:17:22.720 --> 00:17:28.579 media makes everybody so Bold in a way so bold 00:17:28.579 --> 00:17:31.200 in a way. It's so nasty in a way. Why would you 00:17:31.200 --> 00:17:36.150 fix your lips to say that? Hmm Hmm because be 00:17:36.150 --> 00:17:37.769 pro -choice do what the fuck you want to do period 00:17:37.769 --> 00:17:40.250 like but but on the other side of the coin You 00:17:40.250 --> 00:17:41.890 can't be mad at somebody else because they don't 00:17:41.890 --> 00:17:44.829 want to do that same thing with marriage There's 00:17:44.829 --> 00:17:46.890 woman who out there who only want to be married 00:17:46.890 --> 00:17:49.269 and you know be a stay -at -home mom cool good 00:17:49.269 --> 00:17:52.190 on you Just because I don't want that don't mean 00:17:52.190 --> 00:17:53.849 I'm about to sit here in your face and be like 00:17:53.849 --> 00:17:56.910 question mark Because I mean that's not that's 00:17:56.910 --> 00:17:59.710 not something I want But if that's what you want 00:17:59.710 --> 00:18:02.230 period you know be smart about it though be smart 00:18:02.230 --> 00:18:05.369 about it And now we can understand that sometimes 00:18:05.369 --> 00:18:07.390 there might be reasons we say this, right? Some 00:18:07.390 --> 00:18:09.829 people, we might think they're unqualified. We 00:18:09.829 --> 00:18:12.289 might think, why the fuck are you doing this? 00:18:12.849 --> 00:18:14.849 Granted, I'm gonna be honest, sometimes judgment 00:18:14.849 --> 00:18:17.990 is needed, right? But when it comes to hate and 00:18:17.990 --> 00:18:20.869 unwanted judgment, that's different. That's extremely 00:18:20.869 --> 00:18:23.549 different. Because why are you being so mean 00:18:23.549 --> 00:18:29.210 to your counterpart? Why? Truly, why? I don't 00:18:29.210 --> 00:18:30.910 understand why all of this is happening. It's 00:18:30.910 --> 00:18:34.309 like women just want to be safe. Period, but 00:18:34.309 --> 00:18:37.130 we can't do that with other women because there's 00:18:37.130 --> 00:18:39.529 just so much judgment And this is I found this 00:18:39.529 --> 00:18:42.690 episode cut sounds like so anti -woman. It's 00:18:42.690 --> 00:18:46.529 not woman my number one I love the girls, but 00:18:46.529 --> 00:18:49.109 it's it's so Damning and I feel like this is 00:18:49.109 --> 00:18:51.369 also why female friendships don't work out because 00:18:51.369 --> 00:18:53.170 everything is very superficial Everything is 00:18:53.170 --> 00:18:55.289 very social media. Everything is very what have 00:18:55.289 --> 00:18:58.190 I learned? What have I done? It's not real life 00:18:58.329 --> 00:19:00.750 People go through real shit and do real things 00:19:00.750 --> 00:19:03.990 and are real people who don't fit aesthetics 00:19:03.990 --> 00:19:07.150 or fit how, you know, you're supposed to talk 00:19:07.150 --> 00:19:09.569 or certain standards. You're just living. You're 00:19:09.569 --> 00:19:12.390 just trying to make it by, which is what we all 00:19:12.390 --> 00:19:14.269 should be focused on. We should all just be trying 00:19:14.269 --> 00:19:16.869 to make it by and do what makes us happy. We 00:19:16.869 --> 00:19:19.769 shouldn't be half like have to be worried about 00:19:19.769 --> 00:19:22.130 being criticized by other people just for breathing. 00:19:23.089 --> 00:19:25.650 I didn't really wear the right color today. I'm 00:19:25.650 --> 00:19:28.609 not wearing something that's trendy. What the 00:19:28.609 --> 00:19:32.490 fuck does it matter? Truly, what does it matter? 00:19:32.549 --> 00:19:37.029 Life is too short. And I just wanna say, like 00:19:37.029 --> 00:19:38.769 I think this whole episode, my whole point of 00:19:38.769 --> 00:19:43.230 this episode was, don't let it get to you, right? 00:19:43.250 --> 00:19:46.230 If you don't fit certain aesthetics or characteristics, 00:19:46.829 --> 00:19:48.710 and let's say you are that soft aesthetic, right? 00:19:48.730 --> 00:19:52.509 And then it flips, and now it's... Shown on social 00:19:52.509 --> 00:19:55.210 media to be loud proud and whatever the fuck 00:19:55.210 --> 00:19:57.309 you don't automatically have to switch either 00:19:57.309 --> 00:20:00.410 Be who the fuck you want to be and just do it, 00:20:00.410 --> 00:20:03.309 right? But we also shouldn't criticize our neighbors 00:20:03.309 --> 00:20:08.069 because of that like I Also like I like that 00:20:08.069 --> 00:20:09.950 my last thing I was getting criticized because 00:20:09.950 --> 00:20:12.829 I didn't believe into a standardized like religion. 00:20:13.509 --> 00:20:16.609 That's fine Like I'm not judging you because 00:20:16.609 --> 00:20:20.240 of that. I just feel like amongst women We are 00:20:20.240 --> 00:20:25.700 truly our only... What can I say? Like safety, 00:20:25.940 --> 00:20:28.220 dare I say. Like it's supposed to be a sisterhood, 00:20:28.319 --> 00:20:30.839 it's supposed to be safe within each other, but 00:20:30.839 --> 00:20:33.500 it's not. If we don't have the same goals and 00:20:33.500 --> 00:20:36.119 aspirations, or I don't like the same things 00:20:36.119 --> 00:20:39.119 you do, or I don't act a certain way to fit a 00:20:39.119 --> 00:20:43.220 perfect picture, then it's not okay. Then I'm 00:20:43.220 --> 00:20:45.539 not... Socially acceptable brands don't want 00:20:45.539 --> 00:20:46.940 to work with me people don't want to work with 00:20:46.940 --> 00:20:49.359 me I don't want a husband can't find me apparently 00:20:49.359 --> 00:20:52.059 friends can't find me. I'm I'm too dirty -mouthed 00:20:52.059 --> 00:20:56.900 I'm too too loud. Oh Please gag me like like 00:20:56.900 --> 00:21:00.279 what the fuck I don't care like there's too much 00:21:00.279 --> 00:21:03.859 shit to be worrying about this least of my priorities, 00:21:03.859 --> 00:21:09.559 so just know my overall point of this video was 00:21:09.559 --> 00:21:12.519 Support each other support each other in rights 00:21:12.519 --> 00:21:18.730 wrongs But be healthy about it, right? Stop promoting 00:21:18.730 --> 00:21:21.009 unhealthy things because I just want you to, 00:21:21.670 --> 00:21:24.890 like, start to think of things like, if I was 00:21:24.890 --> 00:21:27.329 my younger self in middle school seeing this, 00:21:27.369 --> 00:21:30.490 how would that affect me? How would that affect 00:21:30.490 --> 00:21:34.470 me? Would I still be who I am today? Or would 00:21:34.470 --> 00:21:38.009 I be insecure because I don't have the newest 00:21:38.009 --> 00:21:40.950 trend, like, trend yugs? How would you feel? 00:21:41.319 --> 00:21:44.240 How would you feel you gotta like take a step 00:21:44.240 --> 00:21:46.759 back and like view yourself talking to your like 00:21:46.759 --> 00:21:49.839 a little girl or your little self because it 00:21:49.839 --> 00:21:53.420 truly changes the whole fucking narrative and 00:21:53.420 --> 00:21:57.480 I just Yeah, I think it was just something that 00:21:57.480 --> 00:21:59.140 I was kind of being shoved down my throat especially 00:21:59.140 --> 00:22:01.259 with social media. Everything is kind of very 00:22:01.559 --> 00:22:04.259 Coming at you on every single app or site you 00:22:04.259 --> 00:22:06.039 click which is fine at social media. That's what 00:22:06.039 --> 00:22:08.440 it's supposed to be You're supposed to post what's 00:22:08.440 --> 00:22:10.460 trendy and you know follow into that, but it's 00:22:10.460 --> 00:22:14.440 also like we have to realize The negative things 00:22:14.440 --> 00:22:17.980 that these things can bring up, right? Especially 00:22:17.980 --> 00:22:21.640 with the younger generation I'm really worried 00:22:21.640 --> 00:22:24.960 about the body image part on that Because I just 00:22:24.960 --> 00:22:27.359 like there's a lot of damage that can be done 00:22:27.359 --> 00:22:31.640 there more so like the whole Feminine thing. 00:22:31.859 --> 00:22:33.759 I don't think that's really a big issue, but 00:22:33.759 --> 00:22:36.319 I do think I don't think it's an issue at all 00:22:36.319 --> 00:22:39.160 honestly Because I think it's something woman, 00:22:39.160 --> 00:22:41.259 you know, you have the choice to do and it's 00:22:41.259 --> 00:22:44.319 cute as fuck like period but I do think that 00:22:44.319 --> 00:22:46.619 it's important that if you're not that to not 00:22:46.619 --> 00:22:50.079 overthink or See yourself as listed right? This 00:22:50.079 --> 00:22:54.420 really wasn't in in Opposing side to that it 00:22:54.420 --> 00:22:58.140 was more of so hey if you're not that don't Don't 00:22:58.140 --> 00:23:00.720 get upset about it because it's okay It's okay 00:23:00.720 --> 00:23:03.660 to not be that. It's okay to not like this or 00:23:03.660 --> 00:23:06.980 that. It's fine. Just be you. Have your own spunk 00:23:06.980 --> 00:23:09.039 character. Do whatever the fuck you want to do. 00:23:09.460 --> 00:23:12.259 Right? Um, I just really hope you guys understood 00:23:12.259 --> 00:23:15.779 this episode. Um, yeah. I really hope you did. 00:23:16.279 --> 00:23:18.640 I liked it, honestly. I feel like it's something 00:23:18.640 --> 00:23:21.359 I really like talking about because it's very 00:23:21.359 --> 00:23:25.180 current. the time very very current but yeah 00:23:25.180 --> 00:23:28.720 like I said if you like my podcast I love my 00:23:28.720 --> 00:23:31.880 podcast I hope you love it as well leave a review 00:23:31.880 --> 00:23:33.599 leave a rating it's available on every single 00:23:33.599 --> 00:23:36.220 site videos up on YouTube of course you're watching 00:23:36.220 --> 00:23:42.779 me here you're watching me here yeah yeah so 00:23:42.779 --> 00:23:45.700 yeah I love you guys so much and I hope you have 00:23:45.700 --> 00:23:48.180 a blessed a blessed week