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like that. So yeah today's episode is Misery
loves company and I'm especially now that I'm
filming I don't write it down anymore So I'm
really going off top of my head. So bear with
me these first couple episodes. Okay, cuz I might
tend to ramble But why I say misery loves company
is simply because, especially after announcing
last week, I've seen it way more. But even previously,
it's just people love spreading their negativity
on you, right? They love spreading their situations
or lifestyle choices on you, right? They think
you're a mirror for them, like, oh, hey, I went
through this, so you're going to too, right?
And it's just kinda, I don't know how to describe
it. It gets so annoying when all you wanna do
is be happy about something and, you know, just
be like, hey, oh my gosh, I'm so happy and blessed,
look at me. And then here comes someone ruining
it. Here comes someone letting out their opinion
that you didn't fucking ask for. okay here comes
someone just shitting on everything for no reason
like i think one of the texts i got which i don't
know who am i gonna say like from a family member
and it's not the first text like i've gotten
from this family member mine just a family member
who ruined my whole life okay like not directly
but but very much indirectly like i don't speak
to them anymore so it's one of them things where
it's just like it was just uncalled for right
and when I posted my pregnancy it was like oh
I just I can't accept this but I guess I hope
you just don't drop out of school because of
it yada yada yada excuse me and you know I I'm
gonna say like I the same response like I told
my mom as well I remember when I told my mom
It was one of them things where it's like I didn't
want to tell my parents at first because we told
Michi's family because I like the most supportive
people in my life, right? I loved them down and
it's like I knew that would go good and like
some best friends knew and stuff and that was
it because I was just like I want to hold on
to the grace I have just a little bit longer,
right? And then like, you know, the days go by
and like insurance, we had to deal with all that.
So I was like, OK, I have to tell her before
she gets an email from the doctor saying, here's
this. Right. So I'm like, OK, hey, you know,
and every single person on that side of the family
shitted on it besides my brother. And it was
one of the things I'm just like, OK, I expected
it. I knew it. I knew it was going to happen.
That's why I didn't like, you know, want to say
anything. But like, hey, I expected it, but it
still fucking hurts. Right. It was just comments
like. I mean, I'm not happy about it, but you
just better not drop out of school. You better
not do this. Like, I just... Just a whole bunch
of... Never was congratulations. Oh my gosh,
I'm happy for you. You'll be a good mom. Like,
it wasn't anything like that and it was just
like... To brag on myself a little bit, I'm a
very well -maintained woman, okay? I have all
my shit together. Yes, there's so much for me
to learn and there's so much more I could be
doing. Not could be doing, could have, right?
And like we could all be in a better place in
life, right? But I'm a very put together woman,
especially, and I have a great partner who I've
been with for seven fucking years for Jesus sakes,
okay? Like, even if the situation was different,
like, and let's say I knew Michi for a day. or
a month I still feel like it should be one of
the things before you go to negativity it's much
like hey congratulations right because what if
I was going through it right what if I didn't
want this now I got this on the other hand but
it wasn't that so it's just like okay I'm going
to try to hold on to my piece a little bit longer
and that's what I did but and that's not the
only situation where I felt like this was this
situation like made me feel called to say misery
loves company because Know these people right
and now this can tie in with people I don't know
who also may feel this way or have these comments
But I know these people so I know how their life
looks and it's one of them things I want to say
before I get into this I'm not taking advice
From anybody. I wouldn't want to be if I don't
want to be you. I'm not taking advice from you.
I Truly don't care what you have to say if I'm
not asking for your opinion. Don't give it Unless
I feel like it's going to be like, okay, here's
my opinion, it's heartfelt, you know, so much
more. But if I didn't ask for it and I don't
want to be like you, babe, please, you are not
the star of this show. You're not. Because it's
one of them things, and I hate to put it in this
perspective, but I have to in order for it to
be understood. Because the people coming to me
are people who hate themselves at... 60 who hate
their lives and what they've done with it at
40 that's not my issue because I'm 20 and I love
what the hell I've done and I love how I chose
to go about my life which is why I left the second
I could because I knew I needed to love my life
and choose what I wanted to do and even when
I made those decisions it was very much like
you're gonna ruin your life you don't know how
hard it is I want you to struggle so I'm not
gonna help you but it's just like I understand
you know maybe engaging like letting somebody
know okay hey like a warning maybe right because
we all have like some friends or people who will
do this hey before you go into this I want to
warn you this might happen but you know best
of luck I just want to warn you right and it's
not one of those things when people do I want
to call it jealousy because do we really know
if it's jealousy right we don't sometimes they
really most time it really is just their projected
feelings right and okay my life went like this
i think yours is going to as well which that's
not the case but it's just like shut up literally
just shut up why speak if you have nothing positive
to say in my opinion and i i don't know i don't
know why people do this because i've never been
one i let people find out on their own now it
is one of them things like if i have my best
friend or she's doing something or if i have
michi and I have been through this, and I'm like,
hey, this is what happens. Me being me, I'm never
gonna go into anything negatively, right? If
it's one of those situations where it's like,
oh my gosh, this is on you, fine, I'm not going
to tell you, oh, here's the worst that could
happen. No, I'm gonna tell you the best that
could happen. I'm gonna tell you I wish the best
for you. I hope you get every single thing you
want more, and if you need help, call me. If
anything goes wrong, call me. You know? That's
how I move about things. So it always is peculiar
to me when people move about things the opposite
way, and it's very much like, hey, shitting on
you, shitting on this, shitting on that, don't
call me if you need help. But I mean the best.
I want you to keep me in your life. Does that
make sense? Let me know, does that make sense?
No. Because why would I want to send anybody
I love into straight fear? Now if it was a situation
where let's say I've seen this one before and
it's like she's complaining or he's complaining
about like a toxic person in their life oh my
gosh they keep on doing this they keep on doing
this this is what I'm going to tell you hey this
is probably not gonna go the right way hate to
give you negative you know advice but I'm gonna
let you know nine times out of ten this situation
is not gonna work out in your favor okay it is
not gonna make you a better person it is not
gonna help you be more happy that's that's t
okay that's what the fuck it is So that's how
I approach it. And I really want you guys to
think of how you approach these situations in
your life. Do you? Because sometimes, let's be
honest, sometimes we are our own misery and we
love company and that can tie into we want to
go lurk on some shit. We know we're going to
get our feelings hurt. But more so in my talk
today, think about how you approach situations
with people. Do you? tend to come in as like
negative nancy because it's okay if we do right
and we're very unconscious and unaware of it
that's okay because there's still time and you
know time to be aware of yourself and time to
fix these things right but it's one of the things
i just feel like bro we're still sexy doing this
and you still don't have any self -awareness
about what's going on Time is up time is up and
I hate to say because I feel like we can always
learn But it's one of the things is easy to learn
now if you are willing to learn now I don't care
what age you are what life what life spots are
in I don't care if you can learn now and you
can realize hey Damn, I'm sorry I came across
this way that is not what I intended to do now
sometimes I am reflecting my own emotions because
there has been situations where I've reflected
my own negative emotions on other people and
I'm just like hey Yada yada yada yada yada and
just feeding so much negativity in this simply
because that's that's what I felt That's what
I went through That doesn't have to work that
way for her What if what if she fucking shits
out fucking stars and glitter and the situation
goes great? Well, I'm still gonna be sitting
here salty Still sitting here salty. So it really
is how you need to change your view maybe on
things but also yourself Right? Think more of
yourself. I think most of us, in a lot of situations,
we go bad before we go good. Now for me, I try
to go good before I go bad, but also me being
an over -thinker, I'm always aware of what can
go wrong, but I don't think that's the case for
me. Right? One of the things they tell you is
the worst thing they can tell you is no. Or the
worst thing that could happen is like rejection,
or something like that. But... It's one of those
things we have to remember when moving in our
life. How are we going to live it? Are we going
to live it in fear and... What's a word I want
to say? Just because I was going to use the word
coward, but I don't know how to put that in like
an adjective, okay? But are we just going to
live our lives in fear? Are we going to go about
every single situation in life by saying... Oh
my gosh, here's the worst that can happen to
me. Oh my goodness, this isn't gonna work out.
Oh my goodness, I could go get hit by a car and
I could go do this. No, I'm not gonna say that.
No, you wanna know what? I'm gonna tell myself,
hey, I'm gonna get up and I'll make the best
of my fucking day. If something goes wrong, it
goes wrong. What can go right? Show me what can
go right. Show me what good can happen. Show
me how good it can get. Hey, you got a job. Interview
right you're going to the job interview. Oh my
gosh. I don't know if I'm gonna get it I don't
know if I'm gonna get it. I'm so scared yada
yada yada rather than Beating those thoughts
into your head because I really will show up
when you have relationships with other people
because you might push that onto them Or you
might feel a lot of insecurity when it comes
to them in that topic Instead of seeing it like
that go into the job interview and say hey I
Can get hired on the spot? They could give me
more than what I pay for. They could absolutely
love me. I am perfect for this job. I am fit
for it. That's why I applied. That's why I showed
up today. Because I feel like this is meant for
me. I feel like I would thrive here. This is
where I want to be. Instead of going into everything
so negative because it really does affect your
outlook all over your life and every single possibility.
So... Yeah, misery just truly loves company people
who are upset or down in their lives or I Don't
know have something crazy going on It will always
show whether it shows within themselves or within
you and that's not a bad thing Like I said before
because we all find ourselves in these spots,
right? We all go through shit crazy shit a lot
of shit. I'm going through a lot of crazy shit,
but I can't i'm at the spot in my life where
i can't project that i'm michi i'm going through
so much negative family shit where it's traumatizing
the fuck out of me i can't automatically assume
that's gonna happen to michi i can't i can't
say oh your people will never get better this
will never happen this will never happen because
why would i say that why i need to always have
hope that hey this might be my situation but
i know that on the other side of life that's
not his He gets to have a better life. He gets
to have these blessings in a loving and supportive
group around him Right and that will help you
that will help your mood so much It has helped
me look on the bright side of things granted
I've always been a very optimistic person some
might say too optimistic, but I don't think that's
I don't think that's a thing and Compared to
like me and me check and really see it in our
personalities because he's a realist. He's a
very much realist Goodness gracious. He blows
my Dululu sometimes But me saying so optimistic
has changed me to see the good in everything.
Even when there's so much bad going on, I can
always see the good. I can always see the growth.
I can always say, hey, but this small thing made
today a good day. But this was worth it today.
You know, things mighta, nothing probably went
to plan, and things probably were shit. But I
got some ice cream. But I got a raise last week.
So I'm gonna be making more money. So my checks
bigger or Hey, I got an extra follow on my tik
-tok account. So I got a new listener It's little
things you really just have to take into perspective
Because sometimes you are the misery that lost
company Okay, and you don't want to be that and
you can be it I'm gonna give you you can be it
for maybe a couple days or a week Whatever your
situation may be go through it feel that pain
but be grounded enough and aware enough to reflect
on it and flip it. Alchemize, babe. Please flip
that shit into something that will help you because
the negative thoughts will not get you anywhere.
You need to flip it and say, hey, this is the
best that could happen. You know what? Show me
how good it can get. I wake up every morning
saying, show me how good it can get. Show me
how good my life can get. Show me every single
blessing I can receive today. Every single blessing.
I tell myself every single day, hey, I have,
bro, brands are emailing me at this moment just
waiting to click send, rather than waking up
thinking, oh my gosh, I still haven't got an
email yet. I don't think that. No, because I
know my worth, I know where I'm at, and I'm like,
hey, this is the best that can happen. And you
know what, if it doesn't happen that day, oh
my gosh, it's gonna happen tomorrow. You we have
so many more days, and I would rather speak so
much life into myself and those around me Rather
than just not you know and just be negative about
it and be Upset and hurt all the time. I can't
live like this, and I don't think you guys should
either At all no matter what's going on shit
might suck like she gets real bad And you know
one of these days I'll be able to talk about
some of the stuff that I can talk about But I
need you to know I know shit can get bad, I know
shit can be hard, but if you become your own
light, if you don't have to rely on anybody else
to be that light for you and to be that spark
and joy and optimism for you, you will turn into
that misery love company. You will be that six
-year -old who is still jealous and hateful.
Even if you don't think that's you on the outside,
that's you mentally, verbally. Because that's
how you come off, because you never took the
time to heal. You never took the time to find
your light, and find your joy, and find your
happiness. And you must. It is so important that
you find this joy within yourself. Okay? And
that is today's episode. Misery loves company,
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