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Okay We love everybody here. I love you so so
so much. Okay. So today's episode is let's talk
minding your business. Okay. And what sparked
me to talk about this? What sparked me? So many
people in minding business. And it just made
me think about them, first of all, and then second
of all, how I used to be when I feel like I was
in other people's business. Okay. And let me
clear this up. When I am, there's a difference
between being nosy, okay? Rightfully so. I am
100 % nosy still. And then truly being in someone's
business. Like, you know, caring enough about
someone else to be in their business, to make
up stories, to talk about them, bullshit around,
just do shit like that's not prevalent, right?
And you know, I'm gonna be ranting in the first
part of this, okay? Um... Sorry, I almost turned
my computer off, okay? But so interesting, it's
so funny, these past couple of weeks have, there's
just been so many people in my business, especially
at work, right? Mind you, my work life and work
life, hello, my work life and home life are not,
they do not coexist, okay? These are grown ass
people, you know, there might be two, three of
them, really only one I ever really speak to
outside of work, that's it. So it's just kinda
like, question mark? So it's like for me, I don't
notice anything happening. I don't because it's
work, right? But also relating to social media,
so many other things. There has just been so
many people in my business, family, so many fucking
things. But when I take a step back and I look
at it, I get concerned. Because it always turns
into obsession. And maybe I'm not like, you don't
always have to think, okay, obsession, oh my
gosh, I'm in love with somebody, let me stalk,
let me do this, no. But to the point where you're
watching every single one of my social media
pages, where you are coming up with stories on
what you're doing, what I'm doing on my social
media pages, to the point where I have to block
you, right? Block you from multiple different
accounts. Do you call a psych? Psych work? Don't
call the cops? Send to read? Hello? What's happening?
Cause at that point I'm confused. Why do you
know this? And maybe it's just cause I detach
myself from people so much. Right? Maybe it is
because of this. Like I don't notice when let's
say people unfollow me or some random shit happens.
Why would I notice that? Why would I care? You
know, like why would I care? So it's to the point
where it's like I didn't really I didn't really
think other people were thinking about me that
much because I'm just like, okay Are we not all
normal? Like I know I'm a creative young lit
bad bitch beautiful woman who is thriving flirty
and a boss Okay, like I know who I am. I Didn't
I mean I never expected y 'all to know who I
was. Did I really care? No like I'm here getting
paid $16 an hour. I really don't care what we're
talking about. Okay, but anyway And it made me
think about the time where I would catch myself
in people's business and not necessarily in like
Maybe like I'm gonna admit we've all had a boyfriend
and like I don't know maybe maybe y 'all haven't
I know I haven't a couple other women have but
like and then we go down to the rabbit hole of
phys ex and Every fucking thing that connects
that shit like that And it gets so plain where
you are looking. You're looking, you're looking,
you're looking. Or ex -best friend or something.
Just looking and looking and looking. And I can
think about how I used to be like that in the
past. And it makes me think of what y 'all go
through now at a grown age. At a grown age. And
when I'm talking grown, baby, I'm talking grown.
Like you could be my mother. Be my grandmother,
which okay, cool. Maybe the maturity hasn't kicked
up. Cool, that's fine. I never understood why
it has to reflect on me. Okay, like why? Why
must you hate? Winner so it's like you feel that
I'm great. So I think you just got to try to
squish it. Okay, and That's what I wanted to
talk about and that's really where I'm getting
into But what I wanted to say is mind your business
when it comes to me First of all, I tell the
world so much already. I'm an extremely open
person right and we know this I'm a yapper fucking
McGee Hence the point of did I over share cuz
nine times out of ten I'm over sharing But we
have to know I only share what I want y 'all
to know right which is a lot Granted, I'm not
this embarrassed shy person It's not but when
it gets to the point that people feel like they
don't know me so much where they have to create
false narratives That's when it gets concerning
right and I'm not talking about there's a difference
between of thinking We know people thinking we
know their character fine y 'all can hear me
and think oh my gosh. I'm this person I'm that
person I act like this my life's like this yada
yada yada. That's fine. That's normal that comes
with shit, right? but who's going around and
saying I'm bench. I bet she does this when she
does And I'm gonna go tell somebody else What?
Because now I'm concerned and I feel like you
need to get admitted to the cyborg Which is okay.
I think we all need a trip. I think we all need
a trip Okay, but mind you like I said, I'm already
a very open person. So it's like what the fuck
else are you questioning? People know what I
want them to know. So it always baffles me when
I start hearing stuff, people just made up because
they're minding my business. Mind you, majority
of the time I'm so damn oblivious, I don't realize
until it's a month or two down the damn line,
and it gets back to me that, oh hey, and I'm
like, damn. What, they pulled that out of their
ass? What? What? Like I literally had somebody
say, and I literally have a four -eyed bug alien
staring at me in the crack of my damn door. Trying
to get what do you want? Say hi to my podcast.
Come here. No, you gotta come here Guys, I have
a hello from your favorite person favorite person
No, I'm the favorite. Hello Was good Stay the
fuck out of her business Clark it take Clark
it He's doing the finger thing. Okay. Okay. Bye.
Don't interrupt me again Great little segment
from my fiance guys Great little segment. Okay.
Um, but yeah I didn't was I seeing y 'all but
yeah, no little head I had I heard that you know
what when I use the restroom, you know my bowel
movements What's going on in my couch and my
butt? Okay Mind you, you know what TMI, if you
don't want to hear this, but I don't really give
a fuck. There's no TMI in this podcast. I have
IBS. I got a lot of shit going on. I'm never
eating one of those too. And I always gotta pee.
I've always had to pee my whole life. And that's
mainly because I think I'm like a four bed girl.
Like I have to take a sip after every damn bite,
right? But I'm always in the bathroom. Why did
I hear? You know, when she goes to the bathroom,
she sits in there making TikToks for her podcast.
She sits in there doing this and this and this
and this and this and this and this Bitch, do
you feel like motherfucking doctor who I don't
even know if that's prevalent, but that sounded
right I wanted to say detective, but I don't
even know a damn detective It's like cuz who
are you? You know what not you know what let
me not say what I was gonna say But it's it's
shit like that that makes no damn sense cuz it's
just like you're so worried about someone else
I'm concerned. I'm concerned. Because, babe,
this is concerning. And then it's to the point,
like, this isn't even, like, okay, normal BMS.
Normal people BMS -ing. I'm in the bathroom.
So, you know, I had a pu - I'm a grown woman.
That is extremely inappropriate. Because I hate
how - I hate how I remain so professional in
situations. Because, in my head, I'm just like,
oh, this stupid - This stupid fucking cut in
my head. I'm just like Let me just call my best
friend guys Let me just call the crazy best friend
cuz I'll get hurt But I must remain professional
because I know what I want in life. I must mind
my own business I must keep my own business together
because I know that I'm Better going to be better
in life. I have better to reach for I have more
going on I still have goals I'm young and I'm
still reaching for shit even if I was oh, I still
got shit I want to do so I'm not about to sit
here and play in your face like I really want
to I Will if I get home remember that? Because
oh me she hurt a handful like that, but even
like on social media and like people Let's say
I grew up with it's like why are people always
assuming? different things and I'm just like
Jail jail to everybody. Okay, and I know this
episode might just sound redundant and crazy
But so does life it life life is very redundant
and life is very crazy very unexpected And I
feel like in this rush of red You know mercury
is in the microwave. Okay, it is in Gatorade
is whatever the fuck you want to call it It's
like So much is happening. So much is happening.
I've been seeing so much hate towards me that
I'm genuinely just kind of like Is it cuz I know
they know I'm popping off they know I'm a winner
They know I'm this loving Happy woman, so they
must they must try to break me down Cuz it won't
happen. Hope It won't happen, okay I'm letting
that be known now. I'm letting that be known
now. We know that won't happen. You know that
won't happen, which is why you're so upset about
it. But where I'm at is what I've learned, like
I said, who doesn't care nor stress about others
anymore or any part of it is that it really does
take the weight off your shoulders, guys. I don't
think we realize that when we mind other people's
business that much, it becomes ours to a point.
Like we have all their energy. We have everything
that's going on with them, right? We're sitting
here trying to find out the answers for such
-and -such, right? You know what? Why did this
happen? I wonder what happened with this. What's
the update on that? Yadda yadda yadda. And it's
like you're focused on somebody else's life more
than you're focused on yours, and that's an issue.
That is an issue. Is your life boring or do you
not just care about it? There's no common ground
here. There's no common ground. And granted,
this isn't... I love, like me. I mind other people's
business, I'ma be honest with you, but from a
distance. You know, I'm not so engulfed in other
people where I'm like, oh my gosh, oh my gosh.
Now if I hear a little side, like I'm gonna side
hustle, but I'll keep it to myself. We're too
old, and in my head, I think I view everything
like we're too old. We're too old. Please, I'm
trying to pay rent. I'm trying to pay rent, so
like. Either you pay my rent, figure out how
to make me pay my rent, like, because this is
just getting ridiculous. It's getting redonkulous,
okay? But I don't think we really, like, I realized
how much stress it took off me, and from, like,
my case, let's say, this is my family, for example.
I was minding their business so much, so worried
about... Outcomes and what would happen in this
certain circumstance? What would happen with
this person if they didn't accept drugs? What
would happen to this person in the hospital?
Yada? Yada? Yada? What happened with them jail
like so many different things and God it drained
the life out of me It took every single thing
I had in me every single day waking up so worried
about someone else I couldn't focus on my podcast.
I couldn't focus on school. I couldn't focus
on feeding myself, right? I couldn't focus on
20 other things that I wanted to do around my
damn house or just simple things that I wanted
to do for my enjoyment, right? Because I was
so focused on other things, I would take it and
like, let's give work for example. If I'm so
focused on something at work, I take it home
with me. Why would I wanna do that? Why am I
minding the business of so much going on around
me that I take it home? Why is this phone call
that I'm having with someone so much on me that
I'm taking it when I get off the phone? You know
what? And I've learned that detachment, which
I can say is so beneficial for me, but I think
it'll be beneficial for you guys if we ever do
catch ourselves falling back. Because there'll
be times when I catch myself still falling back
in these things, you know? Falling back in these
loops where I'm like, questioning things. But,
being so honest, I don't even get this way by
my best friend. At all. Like, and I'm so invested
in their life. I know every single detail about
that bitch's life. Like, we wake up off the text.
Like, we are texting every single second about
each other's life. But I'm still not engulfed
in it. I know it's happening. But once again,
that's her life. That's what she has going on.
And I love her and I support her, but I'm not
about to carry that weight on my shoulders unless
it's something where it's like, okay, you know,
hey, I can lend a hand. How can I help? You know,
something like that. But certain things, she's
not over here breaking herself down because of
what I'm going through. You know what? Because
it's life. Right? And I have my own to live.
If I'm not focusing on my own life, I will get
nowhere. I was so, what's a good analogy? I was
so worried and staring at other people's journeys
and other people's lives and you know, let's
say they're on a race, right? I'm watching them
do the race. I start tripping over my own damn
feet. Cause I'm so busy watching the fucking
person in front of me run the damn race, I cannot
run it. And that's what so many people like y
'all are doing that so much. I don't think you
realize how harmful it is for you You cannot
be your best self if you're worried about me
You could you can't be you can't be because if
you were worried about being your best self you'd
be worried about you Occasionally you might be
dabbling a little you're hustling, but you're
worried about you, okay? So no, you're not the
all -star fucking worker. You're not the all
-star family member. You're not the all -star
fucking teammate You're not the all -star friend
because you have this much energy over here and
you're doing this still being messy at your grown
-ass age No, you're not it's sad. It's sad as
hell. I'm gonna let you know that it's sad as
hell Because why can't you prioritize yourself
enough? Why don't you see enough? What is it?
Passion in yourself to want to give yourself
all that attention. For me, I became an attention
whore for myself. I think about something new
I can do every day. I think about a new brand
I can reach out to every day. I think about something
new I can do for my podcast, creative -wise.
I think about something new I can do with herbs.
I'm thinking about something new I can do for
myself, to build myself, to build myself as a
future mother, a fiance, future wife, like a
pet mom, a car, like so many different things
that I can do to level up. I don't have enough
time to sit here and worry about everybody else.
And that's not even on top of the real stressors
of life, you know? That's not on top of school.
That's not on top of finances. That's not on
top of groceries. That's not on top of anything
else. That's not on top of doctor visits. That's
not on top of that. No. So in my head, I genuinely
cannot fathom when people have so much time and
energy to give to me. Right? Because I'm at a
loss. You're at a loss. What's happening? Do
you hate yourself? And I hate to say it like
that, but it's do you or Are you just you're
still in a mindset where you think this is an
outlet for you where you're gonna grow because
it's not it's doing you no good It's doing you
no good at all at all, please And if you know
if you have to block someone if you have to do
something, let me tell you My block list this
retrograde hefty And you know what I just talk
so much my mouth my throat My throat was dry
Without preach no, I probably was just yapping
anyway My block list has been heavy between family
members workers Managers friends people I don't
fuck with so anything if I'm at the point I am
at the point, if I see something I don't like,
block. If I hear something I don't like, block.
If I feel like I can't relate to this, then it's
doing me no good. Block. Cause I'm choosing me.
Lord, I'm choosing me. I'm choosing not to, if
I know my energy's going into the wrong spot,
or I know that some, this, a person that I don't
relate to, or I think I have any connection whatsoever,
is in my energy, block. Block. Unless it regards
to my podcast, because that's probably fine.
But my personal life, it's just like, what's
happening? What's happening? And you know, I
had some cool examples come up with this, but
I'm already at the end of the episode, so I'm
gonna give them, but I'm a little late for that.
But we can think about a lot of things in life,
where it simply just takes minding your own damn
business. For one, homophobia. You know, how
does that start? You're minding somebody else's
business on who they love and who they decide
to have sex with. Yeah, okay, you sound obsessed.
Sorry! How does racism start? You're worried
about someone else, their skin color, and what
they do revolving around that skin color. You're
obsessed. Next. So many different things we can
tie into life, like the whole immigrants and
all that bullshit. Why are y 'all this obsessed
with other people's lives? Unless this person's
actively trying to kill you, then what the fuck
is going on? Because I've always thought we have
bigger fish to fry, okay? Than people wanting
a better life, than people wanting to simply
be happy. than people wanting to simply fucking
exist, dare I say? Yeah, here we are. Here we
are. Not knowing how to take our head out of
our own damn ass and focus on ourself, okay?
And you know what? That's today's episode. I
hope it got us somewhere. And you know what?
Maybe I wasn't supposed to talk about some of
the stuff I did. It's my fucking podcast, okay?
This is my brand. And a little update guys, I'm
a little late. I didn't I'm getting a LLC for
my podcast this month. So stay tuned. We're a
business. We're going pro. Okay. Okay. Did I
overshare LLC who Oh Oh million dollar corporate
business. Dare I say Yapper McGee corporate.
Okay, period. Anyways, I hope you guys love this
episode. I hope you took something from me, even
if it was something that you took forward do
Sorry, or you just felt personally. I hope you
took something out of this alright, and just
know I love you so much I support you guys throughout
whatever whatever journey in life. You are currently
on right now. I support you I love you, and I
hope you guys stay and support me and I hope
we get through this together, and we all win
in life and Prioritize ourself self -love self
-healing and all of that so yeah I love you guys
so much, and I hope you have a blessed Week ahead
of you! Bye!