Coming up on the 40s formula. What would you
say are the signs and symptoms that will show
us a woman is just surviving? Every time they
get triggered easily and they get annoyed easily
and they feel like they couldn't breathe. It's
a sign for me that this person is in a fight
and fight mode. We have 37 trillion cells in
our body. Our cells are not very happy on a regular
basis. Your emotions only last for 90 seconds,
even your happiness. And then you're just in
surviving mode. If you're in your masculine energy,
you're dating a mate. You're marrying your mate.
If your parents don't heal from their trauma,
they're going to pass it to you. It's genetic,
but in a way of nervous system. We did the 90
breath work. I then had an 11 day HRV crash.
Being is a very feminine trait. Doing is a very
masculine trait. Emotional intelligence is actually
feminine. I have a mantra. So it starts with
I'm s**t. I'm h**t. I'm c**t. And I'm surrendering
to the b**t. Angel Pua is a somatic intuitive
hypnotherapist based in Singapore with over 15
years of experience in the wellness space. With
a background in psychology and nervous system
regulation, she combines breathwork, hypnosis
and sound therapy to support emotional healing
and stress relief. She's the founder of Breathify,
a practice dedicated to helping people reconnect
to their bodies and regulate their emotional
responses through breath -led transformation.
Hosted by Jasmine Dillon, integrated health strategist
specializing in gut health, hormones and midlife
well -being. And Amanda Lim, director of Lyft
Clinic and a leading expert in female strength
and metabolism. Named one of CNA's top podcasts
and winner of the 2025 Asia Podcast Awards in
the best health and wellness podcast category.
The 40s formula is your no fluff science meets
real life guide to thriving in your 40s. If you're
in your 40s and feeling anxious, irritable, wired
but tired, or like your body's just not listening
to you anymore, then this episode is going to
hit home. We're diving into the connection between
your breath, your body, and your emotional state.
Because here's the truth, most of us are walking
around in survival mode, completely disconnected
from how we actually feel. And it's showing up
as burnout, brain fog, mood swings, and even
physical pain. In this conversation, we explore
how emotional patterns get stuck in the body,
how to regulate your nervous system, and how
something as simple as breathing, when done right,
can shift everything from your energy to your
clarity to your sense of calm. And if you like
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and subscribe and review this episode. Hi, Angel.
Welcome to the show. We're so excited to have
you here today. I'm so honored and privileged
to be here. Thank you. Thank you. So, Angel,
one of the things you do is you help women reconnect
their body and their emotional nervous system.
But the thing is, it feels like a lot of women,
especially in their forties, are in survival
mode. What would you say are the signs and symptoms
that could show up that will show us that a woman
is just surviving, just trying to get through
the day? Well, definitely... you will feel that
the body is constantly in fight and flight mode
and what it means is every time they get triggered
easily and they get annoyed easily and they feel
like every time they feel they couldn't breathe
and they're always doing shallow breathing so
it's a sign for me that this person is in a fight
and fight mode and that's a survival mode. This
is how I know. Yeah it's really weird like you're
saying that and I'm just thinking this morning
when I was pulling up into the school the lady
who guides the traffic was just going like this
to me and I found that really irritating I was
like I'm going like you don't need to tell me
and then I'm thinking oh shit why am I getting
so annoyed by this lady who's just doing her
job she's literally telling me to come a bit
closer and I'm obviously coming closer but to
me it felt a little bit triggering. So this is
like little signs to me. I mean, it might seem
insignificant because it happens all the time,
but this is a telltale sign that your body is
dysregulated. So you kind of, you get women to
use their breath to help them regulate. Now,
can you explain to us like how does breathing...
Obviously we do it all the time subconsciously,
so it's something we think about. But how can
breathing help us? So right now we're breathing
in a very shallow way. It's very unconscious.
It's more for survival, you know. But if you
really want to connect with your body, something
called the conscious connected breathing or the
diaphragmatic breathing is where we inhale in
through our nose, into our belly and exhale out
of our mouth. So it's really deep belly breathing
that really taking a lot of oxygen into our space,
into our body to really ground ourselves into
the presence of our body. So this is what I always
ask my clients to do. Can you show us like, you
know, if you were, how we, how we do two feet
down, like I said, can't cross my legs. Yes,
you can't cross your legs. So keep your spine
really upright and straight. And if you want
to keep your chest still and to guide you, you
have a hand here and your left hand on your belly.
So keep your spine really straight as if there's
a string pulling you up. and you feel really
really like high up here and you just inhale
into your nose into your belly and out of your
mouth very beautiful so inhale one more time
inhale into your nose and exhale out of your
mouth so the more you exhale out the more sound
you can hear the more oxygen you are taking in
so breathe in as much and the axial out as much
covering that side as possible. Is there a reason
why we need to breathe out through our mouth
in order to, you know, to get that technique
going? Because if you use your nose you can as
well, of course, but through your mouth you can
breathe out more oxygen. I do normally, like
I do find myself, even like just before we started
recording, you know, I was messing up and then
I, you know, you were like breathe and so I took
a deep breath and I got... and I always say to
my kids when they're having like a meltdown,
you know, breathe, you'll be okay. Or if they've
fallen over, breathe, you'll be fine. Like, how
does that even help? Like, is it just the thing?
I mean, obviously, you know, we all say it, but
how can it really sort of help us to? Yeah, like
physiologically, what happens when we slow that
down? So we have 37 trillion cells in our body.
That's a lot. Yes, and each cell is a unit of
life. And as we inhale oxygen, we are giving
ourselves a little bit of a push and energy.
This is like, hey, I'm alive. And then imagine
36 trillion cells come together. You need a lot
of oxygen, right? But we don't breathe enough.
We don't breathe enough to tell ourselves, hey,
you're good. You're happy. Our cells are not
very happy on a regular basis because we don't...
Breathe deep enough for them. So they're not
getting the full benefit of the oxygen flowing
through. What they're supposed to do for us.
Imagine if you were to put 10 % more in every
cell, that's 37 ,000, sorry, trillion cells that
boost it up. That's a lot. So, I mean, these
are very little things that we don't even think
of. But once we're mindful and conscious and
we do it on a regular basis before we go to sleep,
And when we wake up, it can really change the
trajectory of the day. Wow. That's, you know,
it's a good point, actually. Like, I guess at
the end of the day, it really makes sense to
just kind of let go and, you know, use your breath
to let go of the day's events, which might have
been triggering by the lady telling you to move
your car forward. Yes, exactly. Or your kids,
or... Yeah, everything. Everything. So, Angel,
what led you to look at breath as a means of
self -regulating and emotional... Emotional regulation
for women what what was this sort of the point
that led you to where you are today? My background
has always been psychology and I've always been
using like talk therapy to talk to my clients
or mentor my clients So I was a rehabilitation
fitness trainer a relationship Intelligence mentor
and I just realized that there's a missing gap
in terms of the body and the mind and It's only
about three years ago. I started to try breath
work, which is a very new thing then right? But
I realized how revolutionary it is. I realized
that, wow, I really can feel sensations in my
body I've never felt before, emotions that I've
not tapped in before. So I was like, there's
something here that I really want to explore.
And the more I do it, the more I feel like this
is it. Like somatic, somatic intuitive chemotherapy
is something that I cultivated over the three
years and come up to a... conclusion that when
people go deep into your subconsciousness through
breathing it can really change the trajectory
of what they know about themselves. You just
mentioned somatic and obviously it's one of the
things that you do and I hear about it a lot
now you know like my my Instagram feed is talking
about somatic exercises or can you explain to
us what that actually means because I think there
might be a lot of people out there who've like
me seen it but don't actually understand it.
So soma means body in Greek. So somatic just
means the being in your body. So we are so much
in our head, right? On a daily basis, we think,
we reason, we do logical processing in our brain,
but we don't really feel into our body. So when
we start feeling into our body, then that's when
we connect the dots of what's happening within.
So when things happen around us, we tend to blink.
external factors, people, circumstances, but
we don't really go in and find out why are we
reacting this way. So why somatic has become
such a big buzzword lately is because people
notice that using cognitive processing is not
good enough anymore. It's not sufficient to connect
what is the missing link between our body and
our mind. So this is why somatic has been so
-called a buzzword. I mean, unfortunately, people
have misused it for different reasons, but to
me, it's very simple. It's really about connecting
your body and feeling into your body and what
is in your body that's in your emotions that's
been stuck, that you didn't want to look at it,
hide it under the rug, and just numb yourself
so you don't feel it. So I think that's the thing
about the modernization of this world. They don't
feel anymore. So this could be like trapped trauma
and just sort of emotions from the past being
stuck in your body and then do you find then
that those types of experiences might show up
as pain or you know, I don't know like I'm just
thinking like depression, anxiety, like 100 %
psychological conditions as well. 100%. So all
of these is actually unprocessed emotions from
childhood and it can also be transgenerational
trauma. So it's epigenetic. So if your parents
don't heal from their trauma, they're going to
pass it to you. It's like genetic, right? It's
a genetic disposition, but in a way of nervous
system. So it is very real. So we need to hear
ourselves so that our future generation will
be healed too. What can we do about it? Tell
us, how can we heal from this? So it's to be
really aware when you are triggered, why you
are triggered. You get annoyed with the lady
doing simple gestures like this. It doesn't make
sense, right? But for some reason, you're triggered.
So whenever you're triggered, there's something
called neuroception. So neuroception is like
an unaware consciousness that is telling you
whether this is safe or this is a threat. So
at that moment, that lady is a threat for you.
She doing this doesn't make sense. But that means
usually things that doesn't make sense that triggers
you, it actually goes into a very deep... a wound
that is not being healed from the past. It can
be from your parents, it can be from your childhood,
right? So that's where the hypnotherapy session
go into the somatic. To go and feel into your
body, which is the introception, which is feeling
the sensations in your body, it's a conscious
awareness, like you can feel your body, something
is going on. When you see that woman, you can
feel that, okay, tightening of your chest, or
your throat, or you feel like there's lightheadedness,
or any part of your body has some reaction towards
that. person yeah that's that's where that's
where we have to know that okay there's an awareness
there's a trigger how do I stop this from happening
again and again so awareness is number one so
I would there's a four step it's called awareness
pause check in your emotions and then feel into
your sensations so it's the APS system that I've
created Yes. So it's apes. Oh, that's easier
to remember. Get primal. So if we tap into that,
every time we get triggered, we just go into
the apes. It's like, okay, I'm aware that I'm
triggered and pause. What kind of emotions am
I feeling? And then what's the sensations I feel
in my body? Is it the tightness in your chest?
Is it butterflies in your stomach? Is there like
dryness in your throat, in your mouth? All these
just go inwards and then let it ride by breathing
because your emotions only last for 90 seconds.
Oh, that's good to know. Yeah, anything, even
your happiness. Oh, I gotta drop the other shoe
like that Angel. So the thing is the reason why
emotions get stuck in our body because we have
an inner narrative. that tells us about their
story. It's a victim story that we tell ourselves.
It's like, oh, she is trying to tell me what
to do, for example. Yeah, it kind of sounds,
you know, it's weird. She is telling me what
to do because clearly it's her job to tell me
what to do. Yeah, but your inner, like your inner
narrator say, I don't like that. Yeah. Right.
It's very silly. It is very silly. But that is
something that's triggered you when you are young.
Yeah. and you didn't like it, but you didn't
have the opportunity to process the emotion or
tell someone and say, I don't like it. Yeah.
Right? Yeah. I can see that. Yeah. Definitely
could see that. Yeah. Wow. Wow. I feel like this
is like a therapy session. It's all coming out
now. Yeah. Pro bono. I have a question about,
so when I think of breath work as like a non
breath work practitioner, right? And I am in
the fitness industry. So when you mentioned you
were a rehab trainer, like I was like, okay,
here's my understanding of breath, right? So
when I'm working with a client that's new to
weightlifting, So much of my work is reminding
them to breathe, right? Because they get the
bar in their back and they're really like Like
let's all let's all chill and it's funny because
I think that people who don't breathe in exercise
like it particularly in weightlifting are The
same people that have trouble kind of associating
exercise with pleasure because that amplifies
the difficulty and intensity of the exercise
where you're like, hey, actually, if you use
your breath, you know, to kind of do these reps,
it can help. The Valsalva maneuver, right? So
there's an intentional way of breathing for weightlifting
that increases your ability to brace and be powerful.
All of that long intro to say, I think there's
a... association of breath work with calming
down, relaxing, letting go. Is there also a way
of breathing when we want to be more powerful,
when we want to harness our confidence? Like,
is there a way that breath can also do that for
us? Yes. So it's called the energetic breathing.
So for clients like before, They feel lethargic
and they feel like they're not in their zone
and they want to be more uplifting. There's an
energetic breathing that's very simple. It's
into your mouth two seconds, exhale out of your
mouth two seconds. Like a double breath. I think
that was kind of what we did in our 90s. Remember
when we were warming up? It was like... Yes.
So that's how you activate your nervous system.
So you know when you panic, you do this... Right?
It's hyperventilating. It actually tells your
nervous system that... you need to do something.
Get ready to do something. That's how you energize
yourself but of course in a very conscious way
because when you hyperventilate you cannot control
it. As you were just saying that you teach fitness
and I teach rehab of Pilates before as a rehabilitation
fitness trainer and I always tell my clients
that breathing facilitates movement. Yes absolutely.
So that's how it goes. Yeah no breath no movement.
Exactly. And breath has so many advantages that
we don't even know this. But we do it unconsciously
so now we are doing it in a more conscious way.
That's all. Let's talk about 9D breathing. Now
Amanda's just mentioned that we had one session
and it's one of the things that you also do as
well. So can you run through what does 9D breathing
mean? So 9D breath work is breath work on steroids.
That's what it felt like. I'm going to share
my story in a second. Yeah, so when we breathe
in such a connected way, the conscious connected
way, in a very rhythmic and very like forceful,
like really intentional, it's really going into
deep into your reprogramming for subconsciousness
and it's extremely powerful. But the thing is
of course not nobody does that on a regular basis
Which is why 90 breath was being created and
they have nine layers of sound that combine somatic
breath work subliminal hypnotic therapy binaural
beats suggest self -adjure frequencies and also
vocal coaching affirmation So it's a whole lot
of like nine layers of different sounds that
really immerse yourself in that experience So
that what that is the difference a huge difference
between conventional breath work, which is usually
just music and you just breathe on your own.
And obviously the facilitator will say, okay,
now you breathe harder, faster and you know,
that's about it. But in 9D is an added technology
that really gets into your whole entire system
and is way more intense. Yeah, it definitely
felt intense. It was intense. So we did the 9D
breathwork, right? And it was like a perfectly
normal Tuesday. You know, it wasn't a stressful
day. It wasn't on the back end of a holiday.
It was just like, you know, whatever, Tuesday
in July. We were like, hey, let's just rock and
roll. It was in July, wasn't it? It was. It was
July 17th. And I remember that very specifically
because what was weird was that we did the 9D
breathwork and we both finished it and we felt
fine. Meaning we were like, that was enjoyable.
You know, that was... Which journey did you do?
Oh, it was the it was the like get off I wish
I could remember what the title is it to scream
or it was to scream to scream girl You're getting
all challenged my memory here. It was like it
was um did you scream? There was a scream, but
were there two screams. I don't know. I think
there might have been no Because letting go is
a signature one. It was not letting go. It was
the other one like like Full reset like a master
mastery like mastering. Oh, yeah, like a take
control one, correct? Yeah, it was three of your
control. I think it was that it was like definitely
I could take control I remember thinking oh,
this is probably the best one for me to go to
right cuz I'm like super controlling but So we
did it. We felt fine. We went our merry way.
I went to work We went to the gym like we just
went about our regular business that night Slept
like absolute shit like it was the worst sleep
score. I've gotten on my garment in 10 ,000 years
I was like, oh, that was weird. I texted Jasmine.
Hey, did you get weird sleep score? She's like
no Anyway, I then had an 11 day HRV crash and
I've never had an HRV crash so I didn't even
know what the what the symbol meant on my watch
because I've never seen it because I have great
sleep great recovery 11 days, my HRV couldn't
recover and I was like, Whoa, was it the 90 breath
work? Can you, can you explain that to me? Okay.
So if you did an activating journey, the first
time, this was our first time and it was very
activating. Okay. There are two outcomes out
of this people who really kind of like had a
awakening, right? They say with, Oh, I really
felt like there is like so different. I feel
like I'm out of my body. Like I'm observing my
body. So some people feel that there's like,
there's a shift. While some people, because they
didn't process it and didn't integrate it, integration
is so important after a very activating 90 breath
work, which means that you need to take time
to spend time with yourself, drink some tea,
be in nature and be just then within yourself.
to recalibrate yourself, integration. But if
you don't do that, you go into your gym work.
Yeah, we just went to our normal day, I think.
Yeah, I think I went home and I chilled before
I picked up the kids because my experience was
completely different. Like during the session,
my body battery increased. So normally, like,
you know, throughout the day, it's just decreasing
all the time. But I remember there was an increase
in my body battery. That was so cool. And my
evening sleep was amazing. And I was like, ah!
I feel great. So I had a completely like the
opposite effect to what happened to you. Yeah,
even though we like felt the same afterwards,
but we had like way different responses. Yeah.
So some people had it as a form of release and
my shift. And some people, they didn't process
enough to integrate. Therefore your body's still
fighting. Yeah, yeah. You know, it's almost like
you're still in that fight mode. That's exactly
what it was like. I never left fight mode because
like, obviously my body was doing something for
11 days. Yeah, because you're so used to doing.
and not being so that is your body telling you
start to be in yourself in your body just integrate
just feel into what's happening how you feeling
today instead of just Okay, I'm not addressing
this. I'm not just doing what I'm doing on a
regular basis without even processing. Yeah,
so this is why yeah Yeah, because I had brought
it up to the practitioner and she was like I'm
gonna be honest with you We have not had that
feedback and I was like, hey, no worries I just
wasn't sure if that was like and yeah Well, I
don't know who the practitioner is but of course
because I do never system work Yeah, so I know
how this work and when I do 90 breath work, it's
not just a breath work for me. I actually can
connect with my client's nervous system, and
I always ask my clients, how's your nervous system,
before doing the breath work. If you have a very
activated nervous system already, activating
breath work is not gonna help you. You need to
do a down -regulating nervous system. Yeah, probably
would have been helpful. Also, it was June 17th,
because I realized July, you were in the UK.
Oh, I was in the UK, of course, yes, June, that
makes perfect sense. Yeah, but even so, three
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integration is very important after activating
90 breathers. So for people who has like very
activated nervous system, they do a down regular
eating one. Even that, they still don't need
to do integration. So as long as you have an
activated nervous system, integration is so fundamental.
You really need to spend time just doing nothing
and just being. I like that. Just doing nothing.
I think that's something a lot of people, especially
women in their 40s, can definitely get behind
that. One of the other things you do is hypnotherapy.
Now we think of hypnotherapy and honestly, what
comes into my head is... you know, being on a
stage, hearing a bell and, you know, like barking
like a dog. Exactly. That's all Hollywood. How
does hypnotherapy help with, you know, regulating
your emotions and your nervous system? Like,
how does all of that fit in with breathwork and
somatic healing? The methodology that created
the somatic intuitive hypnotherapy, there's a
reason why it's called somatic intuitive hypnotherapy
because I use my intuition to tap into your nervous
system to see where are you at. So obviously
I have different types of clients. I have clients
as young as 10 years old. all the way in their
60s. Wow, as young as 10. Yes, and I think the
young nervous system, they're so good in shutting
things out. They're so good in just pretending
everything is okay because they want to please
their parents. So these are the little souls
that actually need a lot of nurturing to understand
their nervous system, to know that they're safe
because why people have to pretend and wear a
mask? Because they don't feel safe. So the whole
entire... job scope that I have for my clients
is actually to keep them safe, make them feel
that they are in a safe space to express themselves,
to let them feel that they are in a safe space
to really regulate and they just can breathe
and be themselves. And so how does the hypnotherapy
work? Firstly, when they come to a session, I'll
ask them questions about, so how's your day?
How's your week been? Obviously, depending on
how open they are to me, they'll tell me, but
kids usually they don't. until a few sessions
later. If it's a boy, I'm sure boys would be
terrible. Yeah, boys would be like, I'm fine.
And even girls sometimes say, I'm okay. Or I
don't know. I don't know. It's a very common
thing. I don't know. So whenever I hear answers
like this, or they say, yeah, I feel great. You
know, I don't know I'm here, but I feel great.
So it's only when you go to your subconsciousness,
you kind of switch off your conscious brain.
and you go into your subconscious and you're
like more revealing to yourself. Of course if
you're so good at controlling then it'll be harder
but if you are kind of like okay I'll just I
don't know why it is but I'm open then it's easier
for me to get into it. So I would just bring
them to a meditation journey to go through a
whole entire process of making them feel really
relaxed and then slowly I'll go into their subconscious
and go back into in time in their childhood to
find out what's happened that caused that sensations
in your body so first I will say okay what is
the first memory you remember that you felt unworthy
or for kids I would say when you feel angry okay
or anxious right because sometimes kids, they
don't want to say, but the way their body moves,
they'll ask them, so where are you feeling your
body right now? Then they will say, oh, I feel
like my tummy is feeling a little bit queasy.
My chest is feeling a bit tight. Then I'll be
like, oh, okay. The person's body is remembering
that experience. They don't remember here, but
their body remembers. And I'll be like, oh, so
roughly how old were you? And they'll be like,
oh, about six or five. And I'll say, okay, so
what happened? Who's there with you? And then
they would describe to me and what happened.
And sometimes when they're completely shut, they
will say, oh, I don't remember. I just feel like
my body is having something. So I know that they
are not ready. So I'll go to another memory that
is more happy. So most importantly, you must
let your client feel that they are safe with
you. Don't force them to do something that they
are not ready to reveal or to share. So I have
a client who is 14 years old, went through pretty
intense trauma. I mean, but. She's not ready
to tell me right because she doesn't trust anyone
So I it took me some time maybe three sessions
before I can really hear a little bit about what
she wants in her life and That's really a breakthrough
for her. Yeah, like her mom was saying. Wow,
that's a breakthrough, right? So So everyone
is different but for adults is a little bit easier
I feel because adults really came here with an
intention right that I want to Change I want
to feel different. So a lot of my very high network
clients They are ready be they're ready to pay
the money is one thing but they're so ready to
have a revolutionary transformation in their
life and It's amazing how it equate my job, you
know, yeah Wow, that is a community that realization
through sessions with you. Yeah, I quit my job
or some people will see things like oh I decided
not to be married to my husband. Wow. And that's
all through... Because they realized what they
need, and the unmet need has been neglected for
so long, and they didn't even know it existed,
right? Yeah. It's like, why am I so anxious?
Why do I wake up feeling like, oh, I'm not enough?
Right? So these are all very subconscious, sneaky
little signs to tell you that something's wrong.
And how does breathwork access that differently
from, say, conventional talk therapy? So for
example in the session when I feel that they
are feeling like highly dysregulated I'll let
them breathe through it say okay let's do three
deep belly breaths into your nose into your belly
and out of your mouth just to like not go so
into their brain because when they start getting
defensive they go into their brain so breathing
helps to ground breathing helps them to go back
into the body saying you are safe there's nothing
to worry about you're safe So that is the reason
why we breathe because it calms down your nervous
system to tell yourself you're in a safe space
now. You don't need to fight anymore. You are
perfectly protected. Yeah. And I think it's funny,
isn't it? Because I feel like you do start to...
feel better in yourself when you're taking in
those deep breaths. And from every aspect you
think about it, even when you're giving birth,
you're told to breathe, breathe through it. So
it just makes so much sense. Because hypnobirthing
is kind of what you do, but for people who aren't
pregnant, right? Meaning like it's a combination
of hypnotherapy technique plus breathing technique
plus somatic awareness. I remember when I gave
birth to my first child, we went to like prenatal
classes, right? And they were teaching us how
to breathe. So my first child, I had epidural.
I had epidural. My second child decided not to
have epidural. And all I did was breathing. Wow.
That's it. Was it hypnobirthing modality or?
It's just normal. It's just normal. Yeah, using
breath strategically. Yeah, just using breath
work. Like just the sequence of breath work.
It really controls the pain. Amazing. Yeah, wow,
that's just amazing, isn't it, when you think
about it? Yeah, it's so powerful. Super powerful.
Again, free. It's free! Oxygen is free, breathing
is free. Anyone, everyone can do it, should do
it, honestly. Right, so Angel, our next segment
is called Fuel Your Forties, and it's sponsored
by The Meat Club, and they provide quality...
quality meat and proteins directly to your door.
And they have a question for you. And the question
they'd like to ask you is that you do help women
sort of feel grounded and sort of reenergize
and rebalance their emotions. But what is one
thing that you eat that helps you feel grounded
and fueled? Oh, my gosh. I'm so passionate about
this subject because I feel that what we eat
is really revelation of how we present ourselves
and who we are and how we look, right? So I started
taking supplements at age of 25. So I was doing
biohacking before biohacking becomes a trend.
So that was a long time ago. But I would say
25 was last year for you, Angeles. It's very
weird that it's a long journey. No, I turned
20. I turned 47 in December. Wow. Welcome. I
know, and I'm very proud to be aging gracefully.
Beautifully. So I think aging or getting older
is such a privilege, you know, and people are
always celebrating when they're younger, but
when they get older, they start really celebrating
that they get older. So I feel that when I was
younger, eating a lot of different supplements,
but I think when we reached 40, protein is such
a big thing right like so we don't eat enough
protein in our diet and as we grow older we have
less muscle mass in our body so for example very
good quality meats are very important but additionally
I make my own nut and seed meal at home wow yeah
so I sprout my nuts and seeds for the night before
sprout it and then blend it and then use a cheesecloth
to like get all the amazingness out of it every
three days I have meal That's incredible because
obviously firstly you're sprouting it and then
you're making it yourself without all the added
crap that you get from the store -bought stuff.
So what nuts and seeds do you use? Pumpkin seeds,
organic raw pumpkin seeds, organic brown flax
seeds. And I'm very specific. I use something
called sweet peas. So I cooked it. then you blend
it and then you have all the amazingness because
these have very high in phytoestrogens as well
as protein. Wow, that's incredible. So this is
actually interesting because like you said split
peas and I'm thinking like in sort of in our
culture, in Indian culture, we make this thing
called dal and that's what we tend to use. And
so what colour is your milk? Like when it's...
Oh, because I add a lot of other stuff onto it
because I have like cook... creating monohydrate,
which is a protein powder. I also have organic
beetroot, freeze -dried beetroot powder. I have
lion's means powder. I have collagen powder with
peptides. Girl, you need to bottle this. I'm
sad. Yeah, right? It would cost so much money.
It was so much of a goodness. The margin is zero.
So my color is actually pink because of the beetroot.
So it's really creamy because of all the stuff
that's added to it. So without it, it really
tastes really... No, I wouldn't drink it alone.
It just tastes horrible. But with all the added
stuff, it's still not the most amazing taste,
but it's drinkable. But it's a super powerhouse.
Super powerhouse. And I think when women understood
that all these are so important for their health,
they would start consuming it on a daily basis.
And they don't even realize it, right? Because
it's like a habit. And at least it's cute and
pink. It would make me mad to look at it every
morning. Yeah, so supplements and milk, the milk
that I make or whatever you want to buy in a
store -bought, which is almond milk, oatmeal,
which is actually a lot of them are just water.
It's a really important process. I think you
have to be really kind of like conscious about
it and be really aware of what you're putting
in your body and having a good night's sleep,
having a very regulated nervous system. And as
we're going to hit menopause, it's going to be,
we're going to hit there eventually, right? All
of us. So I think all these little daily habits
is so important to ground ourself and to give
us the inner radiance as women to start the day.
Yeah, I love it. I love that. And, you know,
like you were talking about adding in sort of
the creatine and all that stuff. When I have
my coffee in the morning, so my coffee is creatine,
collagen, essential amino acids all in my coffee
with some glycine and then sometimes glutamine
if I have any left. And then I'm like, okay,
this is my drink for the day and I'm getting
all my little goodness in there. So yeah, that's
awesome. That's a very good start for you. Yeah,
did a great job. Thank you. Right, so. Before
we started recording, we were talking about feminine
energy and how to use that for leading and you
were mentioning that's one of the things that
you help women cultivate. Can you explain to
us what you do and why it's important and why
women should be looking at their female and feminine
energy? So I teach something called the feminine
radiance leadership and it's really embodiment
of your feminine energy. in our feminine body.
So when our feminine body doesn't receive that
type of nutrients energetically in our body,
we tend to be operating in a masculine way. So
for example, being is a very feminine trait.
Doing is a very masculine trait. And we both
need to have both masculine and feminine, but
as a feminine body, we need to have more feminine
energy than masculine energy. So I would say
about 30 % masculine and 70 % feminine. So little
things like even breathing, it will help us to
ground and help us to be in our being stage.
And a lot of women operate in a very doing stage.
The moment they wake up, check their phones,
brush their teeth, think about, okay, what I'm
going to do, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. It's
all about here. It's never about here. So how
am I feeling today? Do I really want to go to
this event? Do I really want to go to the workout?
We force ourselves to do so much, right? Everything
is doing, I feel like. I'm definitely running
into 100 % doing. Oh, absolutely. I'm doing 99%.
So that is okay if you are comfortable with your
energy and you don't have someone to account
for. No one is affected by energy. But unfortunately,
we are surrounded by people that... will need
our feminine energy to ground themselves too.
For example, your kids. If you have a husband
or a partner, they are going to bounce off your
energy. So imagine if you are, I believe both
of you are married, right? So your spouses are
masculine and they go to the work. Going to work
is like going to war, right? They're going to
war and they are fighting, fighting, fighting.
Okay, I'm back home. And if you're in your masculine
energy, do you a little... different version
of fighting, then there's no polarity. You become
a mate. You're no longer the wife. And then you're
just in surviving mode, like, oh, okay, how's
the kids? Oh, how are you? How's your day? There's
not much action in the bedroom because you're
dating your mate. You're marrying your mate.
So that is the problem with modern relationships
nowadays. It's all very functional and there
isn't any like, wow, I really desire my partner.
You know, you don't have that anymore, you know?
It feels like there needs to be like this yin
and yang. Yes, a balance. But you're saying that
there's this kind of mismatch because the energy
that both partners are giving are the same as
opposed to being opposites. Now, so do men have
elements of feminine energy as well? Because
I don't think that like... The way I'm seeing
it, it's not that men need to have all masculine
energy and women need to have all feminine energy.
But there's kind of like a balance within themselves.
100%. And everyone is different. Every relationship
is different. Every family dynamic is different.
So there is no one size fits all. But I would
say if you have a very masculine partner, like
a man, it's more important for the women to be
more feminine. So he feels more masculine. Because
a feminine role is to nurture, right? If they
don't nurture themselves, there's no way they
can nurture the rest of the cohorts or family
they have. So, for example, you keep saying,
I keep doing and doing and doing and doing. Where
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TFF today. And it's interesting because you know
what's really funny actually, I've got three
boys. I've got a boy dog. I've got a very masculine
type husband. And it's just like, shit, I feel
like I am getting all this masculine energy and
also, you know, and now I'm thinking about I'm
thinking maybe would. makes sense if there was
a bit more female energy that I can give out
to other people in my in my house you know that
I'm maybe the calmer one or the balanced one
but I just feel like my household's crazy it
tilts in one direction oh yeah heavily in the
masculine side so like I said every different
family has a different dynamic if it works for
you fantastic but if you feel like It can be
more. It can be better. It can be more fabulous.
Then we can add a little bit of feminine radiance
in your personal life, and then that's how you
radiate feminine energy. Because once a man can
feel this essence from you, he naturally wants
to take care of you. Okay, tell me, how do I
become more feminine? First, be. Okay. Right?
Take some time to really like be in your... I
love myself so much. You know, and this is like...
Be in your feminine in the terms of, okay, what
do I really feel like today? You know? Do I want
to call a friend up to go for a tea or have a
drink or let's go shopping? Like do really girly
things. Okay. Right. Do your nails, you know,
and really introspect yourself. Okay. Okay. I
really do a lot of external self care. What about
internal self care? What have I been doing to
make myself feel like, wow, I feel so sexy. You
know, have I been wearing clothes that I feel
like, wow, I'm so, like, womanly and so sexy.
So really feel into your body, like, what does
my body need today? Do I really want to go to
the workout or do I feel like I want to go to
a spa or massage? Oh, I would always want to
pick the spa or massage. Yeah, I would honestly
pick the workout. And we all know it's true.
Okay. So really tap into your body instead of
your brain because brain is a lot of logic. It's
men. It's a red masculine thing. So the more
we use our body, it's into our feminine flow
because feminine energy is an energy, right?
It's not how you look. You can look like the
most gorgeous woman in the world, but if you
have a masculine energy, you're still attracting
men who are in your feminine energy as well.
Interesting. So one of the things you also mentioned
is that you use this as a way to help women lead.
So I guess in sort of the workplace and so how
can you use feminine energy in a masculine role.
So usually in a workplace, it's going to be kind
of, you know, I feel like there's going to be
a lot of masculine energy going on in there.
So how do you take the lead in that sort of environment?
When I say this, a lot of people might not get
a lot of approval, but emotional intelligence
is actually feminine. Yeah. So when you say emotional,
usually people refer emotional as feminine, right?
Yeah. But intelligence is like neutral. But emotional
intelligence is actually feminine. What's emotional
intelligence? Compassion. People are thinking,
oh, if you have compassion, it's emotional intelligence.
If you have integrity, emotional intelligence.
If you have humility, emotional intelligence.
Kindness, emotional intelligence. And if you
can regulate your nervous system before reacting
to a comment that's not very pleasant for you,
that's emotional intelligence. So this is how
I teach my... clients to be more feminine in
their energy because they adhere emotional intelligence
into their body feeling into that because if
you are not feeling sovereign right you don't
have your queen energy saying that you know what
I got this not like I have to prove myself that's
a different energy because it comes from a space
of abundance and groundedness like I know what
I'm doing nothing you say is going to top me
off my throne My tear is intact. Oh, I like that.
I like that vibe. I like that image as well.
So the next segment that we're going to do is
called Hot or Hype. And I'm going to throw out
some trending things that are out in social media
or just in the wellness world. And I want you
to tell me whether you think that's hot or hype.
And you can explain your reasoning behind it.
So ice baths, hot or hype. Depends who is using
it. Okay. So for example, if you have a very
activated nervous system Right if you go into
a ice bath is further activated Yeah, it depends
what you want if you want to have an energizing
day go for it But if you want to have like a
regulated like regulating nervous system, not
a good idea a warm bath or even a hot plunge
is actually better. Oh, thank goodness. Thank
goodness. I was like, I was like, Angel, don't
sell me dirty here because I need to know that
ice baths are not something I need. All right.
Yes. So everyone is different. So men, usually
they would prefer to do ice baths because they
love that feeling of energizing. Oh, my husband.
I mean, it's like it's medicine for him. You
know, I mean, it changes the course of his day,
whereas for me, it'll change the course of my
mood. Like, why am I doing this? Yeah, for women,
warm baths. Number one. That's my fave. That's
my fave. So that is depends. Red light therapy.
I'm a huge fan. Okay. Yay. I love red light therapy
too. I'm a huge fan. And also depends on the
quality, of course, because they can use for
different purposes. I use for both injuries and
aesthetics. So definitely hot. Sound bowls. Hot,
hot, hot. Yay. Because I do sound both as well.
Oh, wonderful. Yeah. So yeah, you're really making
our day here. Yes. Frequencies are so important.
So that's why some people, when they listen to
certain music, they get emotional, they get happy.
I get goosebumps. Like, okay, this is going to
sound really funny. You know, I'm pretty sure
you both must have seen it, but K -pop Demon
Hunters. Have you seen it? Okay. Have you? Well,
but you know what we don't like let them see
stuff, okay? There's a song on there and when
she starts singing I get goosebumps It's a show.
Sorry to be so ignorant. It's a movie. Oh my
god. I'm so And it's like kpop songs. It's amazing.
I've seen the reference to what you just said.
I'm not okay. It's great Anyway, I definitely
get goosebumps listening to songs That's frequency.
Sound is basically frequency and vibrations.
I mean, our voice is also sounds, music and vibration.
Mushroom coffee. I think it's a hype. Yay. Real
coffee. Well, I don't drink caffeine just because
I'm very sensitive to caffeine. I can't sleep
if I drink caffeine. We'll accept it. Medical
reasons. Okay. I think it's all about moderation.
If you're not over drinking it, I think it's
not a bad thing. So, caffeine has different studies
that's proven that it can be beneficial for your
health, but in moderation. I'm going to take
that as hot. What about intermittent fasting
for women? Personally, I don't do it just because
I have a very different body. Once again, it
depends on your body. Obviously, if you're trying
to lose weight and you're trying to maintain
a certain amount of metabolic rate in your body,
it works for Some people, it doesn't work for
some people. I don't need it, but I know of people
who did it and loved it. For five days, for example.
I used to do three -day fasts at one point as
well. I think you need to really be in touch
with your body to see how your body feels. If
you start feeling nauseous or you feel blackheaded
and you just don't feel good, just stop. Then
you know it's not for you. Always check into
your body. And you did mention this earlier,
but sort of biohacking. What's your thoughts
on biohacking? Super hot. If a person tells me
they're into biohacking, just like, we are friends.
So what's your favourite method of biohacking?
I think lifestyle. Like, I always believe everything
in moderation and you really need to know what's
good for you. Yeah. Right. I don't believe, okay,
Brian Johnson. I love you, but you're too extreme
for me. For us as well, by the way. I mean, I've
met him in real life. He was telling about his
story. He was taking blood from his son and transferring
it into his body. And I'm just like... I don't
know, that's too much work for me. I think life
should be a breeze. I don't know that Brian Johnson
and the divine feminine have ever been used in
the same sense. If you know what I'm getting.
I don't think he understood what that means.
I don't think that energy leans feminine very
much. No. But biohacking to me is really... lifestyle
so it shouldn't be too hard it's not like okay
I have to follow ABC to be a biohacker I think
biohacking is about not just about what you eat
it's about what you consume like on your screen
you know and people you have energetically who
you hang out with this is also part of biohacking
you know how nervous how your nervous system
is feeling safe in front of people around you
yeah how you regulate biohacking is not So what
you're saying is biohacking is not a, you know,
buzzword or a trending thing. It's how you should
be living your life. Yeah. It's taking care of
yourself. Yeah. That's what it sounds like. Yeah.
Because if you want to have a sustainable longevity
in a healthy way, it needs to start from a certain
age and you carry it on to the day you die. Not
like, okay, I'm going to do it until I'm 50 or
60 and I stop. Yeah. Or just start then. Like,
I'll start taking care of myself when I retire.
Well, good luck with that. Exactly. So that's
very important. So I think an important thing
is people understand that biohacking is a buzzword
if you look at it at that point of view. But
if you look at it as a lifestyle doing that,
this is me. I mean, it doesn't matter whether
biohacking or not, but this is my lifestyle.
I want to live sustainably in a long, healthy
way. That's it. Amazing. And before we finish
up today, because we do have to come to the,
well, we are coming to the end of the show, we
have one final question we want to ask you, and
that is, what's your forties formula? What would
you say is like your mantra or your piece of
advice that you'd like to share with our audience
on how they can really thrive in their forties?
Well, for me, I feel that I feel the best at
my current age to be honest because I don't need
to care about what people think and I can be
fully myself and unapologetically myself and
I don't have to prove to anyone my worth or who
I am and I'm just being very happy of who I am
right now. So I think to be able to say I have
a mantra that I also teach my female clients
is when you do your breath work. If you can't
talk, you just have this mantra in your head.
It's called, I'm sovereign, mantra. So it starts
with, I'm sovereign, I'm humble, I'm compassionate,
and I'm surrendering to the present moment. Wow.
I'm sovereign, I'm humble, I'm compassionate,
and I'm surrendering to the present moment. Wow.
Yeah. This helps me to ground and it has helped
my clients to ground and they feel that every
time they are triggered, they do this mantra
and do their breath work, they feel like, oh,
I feel like I'm in that queen energy again. That's
amazing. Amazing. So your fortress formula is
be you, don't give a crap about anyone else and
And just, you learn to self -regulate when you
need to. Yes, in your Queen energy. Queen energy.
Queen energy. Hashtag Queen energy. 100%. I like
it. When I see that traffic warden, now I'm going
to be... Hashtag Queen energy. Queen mantra.
Your Queen mantra. Thank you so much for joining
us today. Thank you for having me. It was our
pleasure. Thank you. Sorry, okay, take two. Angel
Pua is a somatic, sorry, jeez. Angel Pua is a
somatic, oh my God, why did I say that wrong?
Intuitive, right. Wanna take a deep breath. Yes.