Since we moved to our new place, my step count has gone actually from an average 8,000.
Wow, to an average 12.
To an average 12.
That's amazing.
I know, crazy isn't it?
You know, I mean again, James Clear direct quote, change your environment, change your
life.
Yeah, oh god yeah, so true.
Like, the dogs helped obviously.
Yeah, yeah, well so that's another environmental change though, like which is super, for me
it's living on the hill.
Like my floors, I mean it's like I'm 24 floors on average now, I used to be like 10 to 15.
It's like just living on the hill I live on.
Mine is, mine was a lot less because I had one level apartment, never needed to take
stairs.
Like not even stairs.
On level 10s I didn't really take the stairs up.
When we lived on level 2, I would always take the stairs up.
Because obviously it's one level.
Yeah, it's one level right?
It's like yeah.
When we moved to level 10, the lift up, and now we've got three levels in our house plus
the hill on our road.
So the other day I was going for breakfast and Aman asked me to go to the hardware store
and he left a nail like in the house.
I went all the way down the hill, realized I'd forgotten the nail, had to walk all the
way back up again.
And then back to the hardware store.
Yeah, and then obviously again to go back home.
But amazing.
But I was like actually at least I got my steps in and I got my hill cow in my elevation
so that was pretty decent.
I love that though.
And I also think back to people's expectations.
I had a client be she'd be like I could never meet 10,000 steps whatever it ever.
And she was like I took a short walk and it was only a thousand steps.
And I wanted to be like what is short to you?
Is it three minutes?
Like when she said when I say I took a short walk I mean 10 minutes.
I was like if she only got a thousand steps like how short was that walk and then how
did that even register as a walk to her?
You know like I took a short walk.
Did you just walk outside your house and walk back in?
Like how is it only a thousand steps for a short walk?
I don't even understand.
Like I don't know.
Like I take my kids to school and back and that's my first three thousand steps of the
day.
And that's like just to our little school and back.
It's not like a whole commute.
I'll get a thousand roughly maybe a little bit more than a thousand parking at the HDB
walking each of them to their classroom and then back to the car again.
Like you literally drove and got more than her walk.
You know like I think people's expectations of taking a walk like it can't be a minute
or two minutes.
Like that's just daily activities right?
That's just ADLs if you will activities of daily life.
I remember when we first moved here though I you know I'd ask someone oh can I walk from
Orchard Road MRT to Somerset MRT?
Oh it's far.
No never.
I'm like really is it far?
It's like one stop.
Correct.
But people don't walk here this is why.
And perceptions of far exactly.
Yeah anything that's one bus stop or one MRT stop is not far.
No I know.
Like that's still like the MRTs I think are maximum one kilometer apart and that's and
that's like in the like as the crow flies or whatever you know so anyway.
I mean I'd rather walk.
I mean you can actually get from Orchard to Somerset pretty much underground so if it's
an aircon issue you can still.
You can still exactly you can just walk through Rizmatriya and all those places like under
Nyan City.
Yeah I'd rather do that than wait for a bloody train and then be cramped on a train.
I hate that.
Yeah.
I hate standing still.
Same.
Whether it's in traffic whether it's just standing waiting for something I'd rather
walk and just get even if it takes longer.
The worst feeling in the world just missing the train so then you know you have a five
minute stand.
I know.
You're like no I would have just kept walking.
Okay so we talk about our main topic for today.
Yes.
Which so we talk about many the cutting edge pressing hard edge issues here on the 40s
formula.
Today is not that day.
So today we're going to chat about something that I think all of us in our 40s actually
do want to talk about and there isn't necessarily a forum to do it which is how do you keep
your shit looking good after a certain age right.
Like how do you take care of your hair your nails your skin your you know your body like
it's fucking hard.
It's freaking hard.
It's hard.
It's an investment and it's like why do we have to pretend like we aren't doing it.
Like why can't we say this is exactly what I'm doing to kind of you know keep everything
held together as much as possible.
If I was to put it in order eyelashes pretty much number one for me.
Okay.
And I tell you why.
Tell me why.
I feel like I look bald without them.
Which is funny coming from someone with dark hair.
Yeah I always feel like dark hair people have a leg up on not looking bald.
I don't know.
I look at myself and I feel naked I feel like something's missing and I'm like okay.
And which is why we never record when I haven't done my eyelashes.
Yeah and I think that's actually very Asian also.
Like I think like a lot of the Asian audience would agree with you like lashes are the difference
between put together and not.
Yeah I will I can easily go without makeup.
Yeah.
I just need to now now make sure my eyelashes are done.
Yeah.
I went through a phase of trying to do gray blending.
Okay.
And I was like making me look is making me look older.
So I thought right back to the roots.
So that's probably another thing.
Yeah pedicures I have like I may not get a manicure.
Yeah.
Because I'm always using my hands and the nails always chip and I'm just like fucking
how I look awful.
Yeah.
But I will always get a pedicure done.
Yeah.
Obviously things like gym and stuff go without saying.
Yeah.
You know like like but if we're talking about purely aesthetic purely purely like things
that aren't necessary for your long term health.
Like you could live without eyelashes you could live without your hair looking a certain
way.
But yeah.
Eyebrow threading.
Yeah.
So actually I think it would be eyelashes eyebrows.
All right.
I'm going to put it out of their upper lip.
Yeah.
Okay.
Hey again this is what this episode is for like the realness dark hair dark hair.
Yes.
Obviously you know like shaving and shit because you live in Singapore you are wearing shorts.
Yeah.
That's obviously going to be there which I probably didn't do as often when we were in
England because I would be legs covered.
As a blonde like you don't know what's going on down there.
Like I actually take the liberty of not shaving as much because you don't see it.
Like you have to be in direct sunlight where like the because it kind of looks like glittery
yes but also his hair.
You got to be really looking tough.
Yeah.
So I think that's that's makeup is probably like far down on the list for me and I only
make a special effort when I don't know either I'm recording or I'm going somewhere.
Yeah.
Even a lot of time even when I am getting somewhere I probably don't bother with makeup.
So I don't know.
That's me I guess.
Yeah.
I mean I don't do eyelashes.
Yeah.
I do do eyebrows but again as a blonde it's not the most pressing like.
But you've had microblading done.
Yes.
So again which I think technically what I've had done is like called powder brows or eyebrow
tattooing.
There's all these different names for Korean brows right Korean 3D fade.
I don't know even what it is.
OK.
I was just going to ask you.
Yeah.
We need to call back Kelly and be like hey what is this called.
But it's it's definitely like a shading that I get.
I don't get the individual hairs because again I don't have enough individual hairs where
that would look natural.
OK.
Right.
Like I feel like you could get microbladed if you if you don't need it.
But I'm saying like because you have hairs that you can comb and look at.
OK.
I just have like fuzz that they kind of tattooed over and that game changer for for just like
how the face looks.
You know for me again the Botox is huge huge huge.
I have I have killed my skin with the sun.
And that's like I would say my biggest regret in my 40s now is that I did not ever use sun
protection as a kid.
I still don't.
You're but OK.
I don't know.
It's Asian skin.
I think I think honestly part of it.
Yes.
Right.
Maybe.
But it's like because white people skin is super thin.
Number one.
And I think that's like we're already losing collagen by like the boatload.
Right.
Plus we get the freckles plus we get the sagging.
And especially again if you've gained and lost 50 pounds three times like that will
take a massive toll on your jowls on like just everything.
Your face shape.
Yeah.
Like tell me about it.
Yeah.
Like it's just.
Yeah.
So for me I would say like the Botox and then profilo is my other profilo is like it's an
injectable hyaluronic acid.
So it's not technically a filler though it is made of the same things fillers made of
right.
And there's like 10 injection points there.
So a few years back or even still these are called skin boosters.
OK.
I don't know if you've heard that term like skin boosters but it used to be like a hundred
little injections around your face like this facial or is it.
I mean an intense facial that where they're giving you a hundred jabs.
I had it once and I remember telling my husband never again like a hundred jabs in the circumference
of my face.
Never again.
I hate needles so I wouldn't even get one jab.
Yeah.
Like 10 is already like we're already pushing it with 10.
Maybe it's eight or whatever.
There's like just like specific injection sites.
But what I love about it is that it lasts for a year.
Amazing.
And it really transforms the surface of your skin.
So it's like it's not like a filler where like you put it in and then that's where it
is.
It's like it just makes your entire skin a better texture.
Nice.
For a while like plumper shinier.
I'm intrigued.
Yeah.
It's needles girl.
And this is again you know since we're being real on this episode like it's a cannula.
So it's a giant needle.
Oh my god.
And then like the stuff goes in so you can like feel your skin expanding where the cannula
is injected.
It's you know it's not an easy procedure.
Although again if you're okay with needles it's just like annoying.
Do you get bruised afterwards?
Yeah.
Again if your skin is as thin as mine yeah you bruise with everything.
Yeah.
Like I feel like I feel like you touch my face with a with a makeup brush.
It's like oh is that a little bruise?
It might be.
But yeah so like the injectables I think are like massive for me because just my collagen
and the skin damage is just like two things that I could have worked harder on as a youth.
So if you somehow are a youth listening to this if you're a Gen Z person take the f care
of your skin.
Don't go in the sun and drink alcohol.
Drink water and stay in the shade.
Hydrate.
Yeah hydrate and like also just you know do everything for your natural collagen because
again Tyler will be the first person my husband will be the first person to always say like
we don't need enough chicken feet and connective tissues and all those collagen rich foods.
Okay so when I first met my husband he and he eats a chicken wing.
He eats the chicken wing.
He will eat like everything.
Like it's just a thin little bone.
It's just a bone.
Like Tyler too.
Put it in his mouth and I used to you know save my bones for him.
I'll be like that sounds really weird right.
But basically I would eat my chicken and he'd be like there's so much shit on there.
You've got so much.
Oh my gosh.
I will eat this.
And now it's gotten to the point where I have turned into him.
Now he's like you don't need anything on the bone for me.
Do you do the same now?
I don't.
I'm still terrible.
And he's constantly telling me how terrible I am because I'll still leave the collagen
rich.
Yeah I eat the cartilage now.
I don't know it's just become one of those things.
I'm like I just do it.
I can't that feeling even one little piece of cartilage if I get it accidentally.
I can't handle it.
Like I have to spit it out.
I know it's the good part but I can't do it.
As far as I can go is like the collagen hot pot and beauty in the pot.
I know exactly what you mean.
But I used to buy the frozen packets from the supermarket.
So I have been using that in you know like if I'm making rice or if I'm making spaghetti
bolognese I'll use that instead of stock.
That's smart.
That's actually very smart.
It's the secret collagen that you don't have to chew on.
Which I can't stand.
I've kind of got into it now.
Speaking of the collagen and profilo and weight loss and all this stuff thing.
So there's a new thing that I might try.
Still haven't committed because yet again with the three weight gains and losses and
being older mom and blah blah blah.
I have so much loose skin on my midsection like an outrage.
What I can think is an outrageous amount.
I've got a fupa.
Did you see Emily Oster's thing about the fupa?
No.
Do you know who Emily Oster is?
No.
Okay.
So Emily Oster is the author of Crib Sheet.
She's the author of.
She just released a new book about when things go wrong.
But she's a parenting data expert.
So she has a membership called Parent Data.
And you pay for it.
Very inexpensive.
But you pay for it and then you get basically the up to date research backed answers to
super common questions.
Oh isn't this the lady that you're sending me.
Yes.
So Jillian Goddard is her partner.
She does the paramanopause half.
Emily Oster does like the kids and baby half.
So she just released a whole thing about the fupa.
Is there science behind fupa?
How do you get rid of it?
First of all, would you like to.
Okay.
This is going to be a great game.
Paul, what do you think fupa might stand for?
F-U-P-A.
It's an acronym.
What do you think?
Just like give it a shot in the dark on a woman's physicality.
I don't know like like like face or something.
I like face.
I prefer face.
Yeah.
Face is good.
Fupa.
No idea.
Bless your heart.
So fupa.
So I will tell you the nice version.
Yes please.
Do you think the not nice version?
Maybe just say it.
Okay.
So in Emily Oster's data, it's the fat upper pubic area.
Yeah.
But that's not what I have heard it refers to as.
I've heard it the fat upper pussy area.
Let's be real.
Okay.
Like that.
But it's like right above the pubic area and it's just like a flap.
The overhang.
Yes.
Yeah.
And so men can technically have a fupa.
Because they also have a pubic bone.
Yes.
But the other term I think is more what women think of.
And she was saying basically it's four things.
Right.
So it's C-sections.
Right.
And it's just.
It's just where the scar, how the scar healed and just segmenting two parts of where.
Second thing is just excess body fat.
Yeah.
That's another one.
Third thing is excess skin.
I've got all three of them.
And fourth thing is age.
Just the way that gravity settles your sex specific fat area.
Yeah.
Right.
So yeah.
So she's saying like you know it's literally surgery.
If you have a fupa that is so concerning that it's like you just have to.
Yeah.
I mean I've looked into all methods and I know that surgery.
But then.
Oh diastasis.
Sorry I didn't ask.
Diastasis recti.
Yes.
Yeah sorry.
Again that's another thing.
I think basically all of those reasons of why I have it.
And I know that surgery is the only way.
But then the thought of going under.
For just that.
Just that.
Yeah.
Going through like you know it's a traumatic experience again.
Like physically.
Yeah.
You know it could be mentally but physically it's trauma again.
And cutting you open.
Getting rid of all that shit.
Yeah.
And it hurts.
So it's just like the pain of getting shot in the buttocks.
And I do I really want to screw with my body any more than it's already been screwed with.
I don't know.
Well I have a client who did the thing which sounds really glamorous and theory right.
So she on her last C section knew it was her last C section so got the tummy tuck right
then and there.
Right.
Like did it.
But is it worth it at that time.
Well here's what I'll say right.
So a couple of things.
It first of all her stomach is miraculously flat.
I mean flat like a piece of paper.
Like a board.
You know because it's taut.
Yeah.
Right.
Like a natural flat stomach like.
It moves. Yeah. I mean, like this is like it's taught like a drum, like the skin of a drum.
Yeah. But what's interesting is this client has not super great control of her core because,
you know, back to our Zempik thing, right? Because when your stomach is flat, visibly,
you tend to stop doing the core work as much because you get the aesthetic that you want
without the work behind it. Right. So she actually has pretty poor core engagement. She doesn't have
a ton of mobility in the core, like because the skin is so tight, she doesn't have a great deal
of flexion extension. She doesn't have a great deal of rotation and her lower back suffers because
of it. So, you know, again, back to the like shortcuts to get things, like they're not always
as great as you think, you know, because then you tend to skip the work that actually gets the thing.
And again, I would rather have a strong core and a fupa than a tummy tuck and back pain. That's,
I mean, that's just my personal choice. Like there's back pain is the worst. Yeah. Right.
Like I wouldn't, I wouldn't be going for it. Yeah. But yeah, so back to the whole thing,
I might get the profilo injection in my stomach to see if it can regenerate some of the collagen
of that area. But to be honestly fair, I think it's too far gone. Like I don't, I just think with my
age and the size of the, of the stomach that it was, like, I just don't think it can go. And three
pregnancies, right? So it's not like rapid fire. Yeah. Like, I just don't think it can go back.
I am not confident it will work. So, oh, well, you know, I mean, the thing is I feel like you
put in so much effort with everything else that you're doing. It's showing everywhere else.
Guys, if you don't know, Amanda has the most amazing shoulders. Thank you. I will, I will
appreciate that. But although that is, that is nature's gift, you know, that is less a training
stimulus. But you still train. But yeah, I still train. But I mean, it's definitely not like the,
the main focus of my training. Okay. That is our 20 minute gap. So, but yeah, but just to wrap this
up, I think it's really important that women talk about what they do, what they want to do and feel
open with what they want to do. I can't tell you how many people come into the clinic and pay cash
for their aesthetic procedures because they're hiding from their husbands. Like, come on ladies,
like it is 2024 own what you want to do with your body and do it, put your money behind it. You
don't need, you know, you don't need to hide behind cash to get a couple of units of Botox
to make your frown line go away. Like, let, let us be real with like how non-judgmental that needs
to be. Just a really quick one. What do you think of the lips when people get their lips done? I
mean, I've had my lips done. I just do it supernaturally. So no one, see, yeah, I would
never have known. Thank you. But you would notice if they were super thin and I looked old, I just
would notice if they were super thin and I looked old. I think the thing with aesthetics is like,
you should do it so that no one would ever notice. If that makes sense. Like they just notice that
you don't look old and shitty. They don't say, wow, your lips are so big. They're just not small
or like, oh, your face is so Botox frozen. No, it's just not super full of wrinkles.
That's the new paradigm. It's like, it's just the absence of aging rather than
looking specifically made up. Amazing. There we go. So guys just own it.