1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,000 And we see it, thanks for being here. 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:05,000 I'm so thankful for our music ministry and for, man, 3 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:10,000 just some great music that we got, some great truth we got to 4 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:13,000 sing this morning, just an incredible thing. 5 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:18,000 I have a long history with weddings. 6 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:22,000 I know that's a weird statement, but I'll let you know what I 7 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:23,000 mean. 8 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:28,000 I've been in 15 weddings as a groomsman or an usher. 9 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:30,000 I'm like friends with lots of people. 10 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:32,000 And that was kind of fun. 11 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:36,000 And I've done at least 15 weddings that I know of, and there's 12 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:39,000 probably two or three that I've done other than that as the one 13 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:43,000 doing the wedding itself. 14 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:48,000 But one of the earliest memories I have was being a groomsman 15 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:49,000 for my dad. 16 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:54,000 I was one of my dad's groomsmen when he got married to my mom. 17 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:58,000 My first mom, as many of you know, passed away. 18 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:03,000 And she told my dad, hey, these kids need a dad. 19 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:05,000 And I'm going to be with Jesus. 20 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:06,000 These kids need a dad. 21 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:07,000 They need a mom. 22 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:09,000 I'm going to be with Jesus. 23 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:13,000 And so when you're ready, feel free to date again and to 24 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:14,000 remarry. 25 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:19,000 And so eventually he asked us, boys, hey, can I go find, what do 26 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:20,000 you think about me dating? 27 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:23,000 And we're like, you haven't been looking? 28 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:25,000 We are so tired of TV dinners. 29 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:28,000 Like, we need a mom. 30 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,000 And he's like, mom told us she would be looking. 31 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,000 Okay, so anyway, that's kind of how that went. 32 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,000 And this lady came into our lives named Jana and she came. 33 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:37,000 Literally she came the first time we met her. 34 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:40,000 She pulled up in a sports car, which was awesome because my 35 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:43,000 first mom was in a wheelchair and she couldn't drive. 36 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:46,000 So we hadn't been, spent a lot of time with someone like that to 37 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:47,000 drive. 38 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:48,000 So she came in a sports car. 39 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:51,000 It had like the T-top, who remembers those, you know, and it 40 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:55,000 was a 280Z and she gave me a basketball and my brother a 41 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:59,000 football and gave us both candy bars and were like, you're 42 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:00,000 hired. 43 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:01,000 That's how that worked. 44 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:03,000 Like, yes, dad, let's get this together. 45 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:04,000 Okay. 46 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:06,000 And so that's how that worked out. 47 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:09,000 And I remember being a groom's man in the wedding. 48 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:13,000 They eventually got married and it was at the reception in Ava, 49 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:14,000 Missouri. 50 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:16,000 How many of you have heard of Ava, Missouri? 51 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:17,000 Correct. 52 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:18,000 There's only like 100 people there. 53 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:21,000 They were leaving, they were going to go get in the sports car 54 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,000 to go on their honeymoon. 55 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:27,000 My grandma and our dear friend Mary Jane were going to drive 56 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:30,000 my brother and I back down to Florida where we lived while my 57 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,000 parents went off on their honeymoon. 58 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:36,000 And so I'm running behind my mom and dad as they're walking out, 59 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:39,000 you know, my new mom, you know, Ms. Jan, and it goes to mom. 60 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:43,000 And as I'm running behind them to say goodbye, I didn't know this 61 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:47,000 tradition, but my mom, now my new mom, throws the bouquet. 62 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:48,000 Okay. 63 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:50,000 Okay, like this behind me. 64 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:52,000 And I'm running and I go, ah! 65 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:55,000 And I catch the bouquet. 66 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:58,000 And everybody said that was hilarious. 67 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:00,000 And then so they're like, you can't keep it. 68 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:01,000 It's Ava, Missouri. 69 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:05,000 There's only so many people, you know, these bridesmaids, these 70 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:08,000 ladies want to catch this, but they need to get married. 71 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:11,000 So I went out and then I ended up throwing the bouquet and 72 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:12,000 somebody else caught it. 73 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:14,000 And so that's a silly, anyway. 74 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:15,000 Yeah. 75 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:16,000 That literally happened. 76 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:17,000 It was pretty fun. 77 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:23,000 But as I think about our family, we had a blended family at that 78 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,000 level, right? 79 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:29,000 I know that there were times where blending our family was 80 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:30,000 difficult. 81 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:34,000 My mom's last couple years, she was just fighting for her life. 82 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:37,000 And so, and then went to be with Jesus. 83 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:40,000 And then we had a year of like, bachelor life. 84 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:42,000 It's just dad and the boys, right? 85 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:46,000 And so now this is new mom that's coming to the house and she 86 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:53,000 cares about things like manners and chewing with your mouth 87 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:54,000 closed. 88 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:57,000 And what else? 89 00:03:57,000 --> 00:04:00,000 I remember, like, I literally remember her teaching us about 90 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:01,000 matching. 91 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:07,000 You can't wear, you know, orange shorts, green socks and, you 92 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:09,000 know, purple shirts. 93 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:10,000 And I'm like, matching. 94 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:13,000 So which colors match and she's helping us out. 95 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,000 Aren't you glad for moms? 96 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:16,000 I'm so glad for moms. 97 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:19,000 So anyway, and there were times, and I literally remember kind 98 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:21,000 of going against her a little bit. 99 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:24,000 I was getting into adolescence and all of a sudden some of the 100 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:27,000 stuff she was trying to get me to do, I didn't want to do. 101 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:30,000 And I remember my dad saying, I don't care what she tells you 102 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:31,000 to do. 103 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:34,000 If she tells you to, yeah, you're just going to do it. 104 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:35,000 She's your mom. 105 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:37,000 And I'm like, yes, sir. 106 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:38,000 You know what I mean? 107 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:40,000 I don't know how that was. 108 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:43,000 So she had to start with my brother and I at 10 and 8. 109 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:46,000 And that was kind of a tough thing. 110 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:49,000 But we had about as much as an ideal of a situation as you can 111 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:50,000 have in blending families. 112 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:53,000 And there were moments that were difficult. 113 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:58,000 And if you're new with us today, you know, we read the scripture 114 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:01,000 wherein 1 Corinthians chapter 7. 115 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:05,000 And we're going to go through chapter 10 through 16. 116 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:08,000 And to tell you the truth, like one of the things we do in our 117 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:12,000 church, and again if you're new with us, is we just walk through 118 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:13,000 the Bible. 119 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:16,000 You know, we're in chapter 7 verse 10 because last week we were 120 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:18,000 in chapter 7 verses 1 through 9. 121 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:23,000 And it's amazing to me, as I've done this the last four or five 122 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:28,000 years being your pastor, how that the word of God is alive. 123 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:33,000 And he uses the choice and the schedule and the walking through 124 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:37,000 the scripture to get us to just the right verse, set of verses at 125 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:39,000 just the right time. 126 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:43,000 And if you feel like as we read this today and as we study this 127 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:47,000 topic, if you feel like, man, he knows what's going on in my 128 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,000 life, I probably don't. 129 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,000 The Bible is alive, right? 130 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:56,000 And this is a topic that in a sense then has been assigned to 131 00:05:56,000 --> 00:06:00,000 us to study today because we're just doing that consistent verse 132 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:03,000 by verse teaching. 133 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:06,000 And the scripture as you've seen and as we read is talking about 134 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:09,000 marriage, talking about family and talking about divorce. 135 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:11,000 It's talking about remarriage. 136 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:15,000 And while marriage can be a joyful state and absolutely is for 137 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:19,000 so many, it also can be a very difficult topic. 138 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:23,000 There are people in this room who are married, there are people 139 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:26,000 who are single and never been married, there are people who are 140 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:29,000 single and have been married, you're divorced, there are people 141 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,000 who are single and never been married. 142 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:34,000 And there are people who are married, there are people who are 143 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:37,000 divorced, there are people who have been remarried to other 144 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:41,000 people, there are widows that were married and lost their 145 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:44,000 husbands or widowers that lost their wives. 146 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:48,000 There's a gamut of things and a gamut of situations. 147 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:53,000 And most everybody dreams of the best case scenario on their 148 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:55,000 wedding day. 149 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:59,000 And I'm a manager at a tuxedo shop and why did I do that? 150 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:03,000 Talking to people about weddings all day after having a 151 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:05,000 breakup, that was rough. 152 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:08,000 What's your colors? 153 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:11,000 That's kind of how those months went for me. 154 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:13,000 It was rough. 155 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:15,000 It was bad. 156 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:19,000 But my point is every bride and groom that came in to pick out 157 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:22,000 their colors or to do whatever they're doing, they're all excited 158 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:25,000 to get married. 159 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:28,000 There's a couple that weren't as excited and I'm like, what are 160 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:30,000 you doing? 161 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:33,000 Rent the tuxes, would you like to go upgrade? 162 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:35,000 That's how we had to do that. 163 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:39,000 But most people, when they go into it, they want the best case 164 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:41,000 scenario. 165 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:43,000 They think that it's going to be forever. 166 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:47,000 Only to find themselves later in a situation at times that they 167 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:51,000 regret to find difficult and there's a lot of reasons for that. 168 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:53,000 I'm like knowing that it can be difficult. 169 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:56,000 And I know that as I teach God's plan for marriage throughout the 170 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:59,000 Texas day, there are people that find themselves having already 171 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:02,000 made choices that goes against this text. 172 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:04,000 I just know that. 173 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:07,000 Some of you may find yourselves frustrated or saddened by this 174 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:10,000 teaching because of what has transpired in your life. 175 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:14,000 For others, you're single looking forward to being married in the 176 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:18,000 future and this text may seem foreboding because it points to 177 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:21,000 potential complications in marriage that you're hoping not to 178 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:23,000 have. 179 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:26,000 And to all of us, to all of you, I want to say this. 180 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:29,000 God's teaching on marriage and his will for marriage, like all of 181 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:34,000 his law and all of his will, is meant to be life giving. 182 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:37,000 Okay, like you guys are... 183 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:39,000 Okay. 184 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:44,000 God has given us what his will is on this topic in so many because 185 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:47,000 he wants you to have life, not death. 186 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:49,000 Okay, that's the point. 187 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:53,000 When God says don't, a lot of times what he's saying is don't 188 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:56,000 hurt yourself. 189 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:59,000 Don't hurt yourself. Choose to sin. Choose to suffer. 190 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:02,000 We don't want that. Who likes suffering? 191 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:04,000 Right, none of us do. 192 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:10,000 And so God is giving us this law, this will. 193 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:16,000 And I also want to say this, that this God who is giving us his 194 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:21,000 will and wants it to be life giving also knows that we don't 195 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,000 always live up to his will. 196 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:27,000 Anybody here not sinned this week? 197 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:29,000 If you didn't sin, raise your hand. 198 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:31,000 Yes, see, none of us. 199 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:32,000 We all mess up. 200 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:34,000 Who messed up this week? 201 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:35,000 Who sinned? 202 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:36,000 Yeah, look at us. 203 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,000 We're a bunch of sinners, right? 204 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:41,000 And Jesus died to pay for our sin. 205 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:42,000 Aren't you glad for that? 206 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:43,000 He did. 207 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:45,000 He died to pay for our sin. 208 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:49,000 And so the approach that I have now to his will is to go, okay, 209 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:52,000 how can I have this abundant life? 210 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:55,000 Jesus said I came to have life in that more abundantly. 211 00:09:55,000 --> 00:10:00,000 And so there's no way in a sermon like this for me to address 212 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:03,000 every possible situation that someone has encountered or will 213 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:04,000 encounter. 214 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:09,000 But the Bible, though, is sufficient for life and godliness. 215 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:10,000 It is. 216 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:14,000 And so our church, what I want to say to you today is our church, 217 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:17,000 our church staff, leaders in our church, Sunday school teachers, 218 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:23,000 pastors, D group leaders, we are prepared to help you walk 219 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:26,000 through whatever complicated relational issue you find yourself 220 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:27,000 in. 221 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:31,000 And the Bible is our guide as we walk through it. 222 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:35,000 Now, it is with that commitment and trust in God in His word that 223 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:38,000 I stand before you today ready to teach you what He said about 224 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:41,000 marriage, divorce, and remarriage. 225 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:44,000 Believers can handle marriage issues biblically by seeing God's 226 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:47,000 answer to these three questions about marriage. 227 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:49,000 Here's the first question. 228 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:53,000 Number one, should I get divorced? 229 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:55,000 Look at verse 10. 230 00:10:55,000 --> 00:11:00,000 And unto the married I command, yet not I but the Lord. 231 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:02,000 Now, the subject is pretty clear. 232 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:03,000 Who is he talking to? 233 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:06,000 He's talking to married people, right? 234 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:08,000 And he says, yet not I but the Lord. 235 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:11,000 Now, this may be confusing to some who read it. 236 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:16,000 Later in the text he says, now I'm telling you this, I tell you 237 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:17,000 not the Lord. 238 00:11:17,000 --> 00:11:19,000 Now, that's kind of weird. 239 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:23,000 By the Lord here I believe he's referring to Jesus Christ 240 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:24,000 himself. 241 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:29,000 And what he's saying is that what he's about to say is what Jesus 242 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:30,000 taught. 243 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:33,000 He's saying, I'm commanding you, I'm giving you some commands 244 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:34,000 about marriage. 245 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:36,000 And this is an original with me. 246 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:38,000 This is what Jesus said. 247 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:39,000 Does that make sense? 248 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:41,000 So he's not saying that he has no... 249 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:44,000 Later on when he says, I'm saying this not the Lord. 250 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:47,000 He's not saying that he's in disagreement with the Lord. 251 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:50,000 He's saying this is new revelation that's coming from God that 252 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:51,000 Jesus didn't say. 253 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:52,000 Does that make sense? 254 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:53,000 Are you with me? 255 00:11:53,000 --> 00:11:56,000 So here he's saying, I'm going to tell you what Jesus taught. 256 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:57,000 Here's what Jesus taught. 257 00:11:57,000 --> 00:12:00,000 So what he's saying, this is a new revelation. 258 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:01,000 Okay. 259 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:03,000 Under the married I command, yet not I but the Lord. 260 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:07,000 Let not the wife depart from her husband. 261 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:11,000 But if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her 262 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:14,000 husband and let the husband not put away his wife. 263 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:19,000 This idea of departing or putting away are both phrases that are 264 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:21,000 talking about divorce. 265 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:26,000 In the Greco-Roman world, in the Roman times, divorce was as easy 266 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:29,000 as a husband or wife just leaving. 267 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:32,000 That would create legal divorce, right? 268 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:36,000 In the Roman culture, if they just left and stopped living with 269 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:40,000 the person that they were married to, that would constitute divorce. 270 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:43,000 So when Paul's writing to the Corinthian church that lived in a 271 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:47,000 Roman age, he says, wives don't depart from your husbands. 272 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:48,000 Don't get divorced. 273 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:52,000 Husbands don't, and he says literally here, don't put away his 274 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:53,000 wife. 275 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:56,000 The idea of putting away was the Jewish kind of phraseology about 276 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:57,000 divorce. 277 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:59,000 Don't put away your wives. 278 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:04,000 So he says, and then he says here, but if she depart, let her 279 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:07,000 remain, what does it say? 280 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:11,000 Unmarried or to be reconciled to her husband and let the husband 281 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:13,000 put away his wife. 282 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:16,000 So the idea is wives don't divorce your husbands. 283 00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:18,000 Husbands don't divorce your wives. 284 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:20,000 And if you do divorce, you're not free to remarry. 285 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:22,000 That's the teaching. 286 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:26,000 This isn't keeping with what Jesus Christ taught about marriage, 287 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:28,000 remarriage and divorce. 288 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:30,000 If you have your Bible, go to Matthew. 289 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:33,000 Now, I'm not at the end of the message, so don't stress out. 290 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:34,000 Okay? 291 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:35,000 There's more coming. 292 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:40,000 But go to Matthew chapter 19 and we're going to go to verses 1 293 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:41,000 through 11. 294 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:43,000 What did Jesus teach about divorce? 295 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:45,000 He did in verse 9. 296 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:47,000 He did a couple of times. 297 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:49,000 Chapter 19 verse 1. 298 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:51,000 And it came to pass that when Jesus had finished these 299 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:54,000 sayings, he departed from Galilee and came to the coast of 300 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:56,000 Judea beyond Jordan. 301 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:59,000 And great multitudes followed him and healed them and he healed 302 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:00,000 them there. 303 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:03,000 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him. 304 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:06,000 What were they trying to do? 305 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:07,000 Tempting. 306 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:08,000 What are they? 307 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:11,000 We want you to say something that we can get you on. 308 00:14:11,000 --> 00:14:12,000 Okay? 309 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:14,000 We're trying to stick it to you. 310 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:15,000 Right? 311 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:16,000 Are you with me? 312 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:19,000 We want you to take a position that would go against, that would 313 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:22,000 make you less popular because we don't like your popularity. 314 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:24,000 Right? 315 00:14:24,000 --> 00:14:25,000 What do they say? 316 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:26,000 Okay. 317 00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:31,000 Saying unto him, is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? 318 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:33,000 And then it says three words, read them with me. 319 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:35,000 For every cause. 320 00:14:35,000 --> 00:14:36,000 Okay. 321 00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:37,000 Notice the question. 322 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:42,000 Again, put away here is seen as a synonym for divorce. 323 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:45,000 Is it okay for a man to divorce his wife? 324 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:48,000 And it says here for any cause or for any reason. 325 00:14:48,000 --> 00:14:51,000 The Pharisees misread what Moses wrote in the law to mean that 326 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:55,000 a man could divorce his wife for whatever reason he wanted to. 327 00:14:55,000 --> 00:15:00,000 In Deuteronomy 24, 1-4, now we're going back and I'm, right down. 328 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:02,000 If you're taking notes, right down. 329 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:08,000 Deuteronomy 24, 1-4, because that's where this is all coming from. 330 00:15:08,000 --> 00:15:09,000 Okay? 331 00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:12,000 There's a passage there that's highly contested and talked about 332 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:15,000 by the Pharisees and beyond in Jesus' day. 333 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:19,000 When they were asking if it were permissible for someone to divorce 334 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:24,000 for quote, every cause, it was referencing this debate 335 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:27,000 because this is the language in that passage in Deuteronomy. 336 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:31,000 It would be like today if someone were to ask a politician 337 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:35,000 in our context in America, do you believe that Americans have 338 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:37,000 the right to bear arms? 339 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:38,000 Okay. 340 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:42,000 When you use that phraseology, what law are we talking about? 341 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:44,000 Second amendment. 342 00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:46,000 Who understands the second amendment, right? 343 00:15:46,000 --> 00:15:50,000 So when you say the right to bear arms, you know that you're, 344 00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:55,000 it's referring to an argument, a position that everybody kind of 345 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:58,000 talks about in America, like gun control, second amendment, 346 00:15:58,000 --> 00:16:00,000 who has those rights. 347 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:04,000 So when he says for every cause, Jesus and the Pharisees both 348 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:08,000 know we're talking about the argument over Deuteronomy 24, 349 00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:10,000 verses 1-4, does that make sense? 350 00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:12,000 Okay. 351 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:15,000 Jesus, what's your interpretation of that passage? 352 00:16:15,000 --> 00:16:17,000 And there were two schools of thought. 353 00:16:17,000 --> 00:16:21,000 Those who thought like the Jewish Rabbi Shemae, thought that 354 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:24,000 uncleanness only meant adultery. 355 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:26,000 And we're talking about going into Deuteronomy 24. 356 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:30,000 Those are part of the Hillel school thought that uncleanness 357 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:33,000 meant absolutely anything. 358 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:36,000 And so Jesus is answering the question, that question, what 359 00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:38,000 school are you with? 360 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:40,000 Which position are you going to take? 361 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:42,000 Which divorces are permissible? 362 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:45,000 Any cause or only adultery? 363 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:48,000 Like which one are you going to go with? 364 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:52,000 So look at Jesus' reasoning, verse 4. 365 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:54,000 He does what he always does. 366 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:59,000 And he kind of says, the whole argument is dumb. 367 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:02,000 You're thinking about it wrong, here's the right way to think 368 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:04,000 about it. 369 00:17:04,000 --> 00:17:08,000 Verse 4, and he answered and said to them, have ye not read that 370 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:13,000 he which made them at the beginning made them male and female? 371 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:16,000 Hey, by the way, at the beginning of my ministry, that wasn't 372 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:19,000 controversial, now it is. 373 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:26,000 He made them male and female, there is no third category. 374 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:28,000 Or fourth or fifth or hundred third. 375 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:29,000 Okay. 376 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:32,000 Don't you realize that he that made them at the beginning made 377 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:36,000 them male and female and said, for this cause shall a man leave 378 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:40,000 his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and the 379 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:42,000 twain shall be one flesh. 380 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:47,000 Wherefore they are no more twain, they're no more two, but one 381 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:54,000 flesh, what therefore God hath joined together, let not man 382 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:56,000 put asunder. 383 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:59,000 How many of you have heard that phrase before? 384 00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:03,000 Jesus is refocusing them for reasons for divorce from the 385 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:07,000 reasons for divorce to the purpose of marriage. 386 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:08,000 Okay. 387 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:11,000 They're focusing on what's permissible, what are we allowed 388 00:18:11,000 --> 00:18:12,000 to do? 389 00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:16,000 And he's saying, what's the point of marriage? 390 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:21,000 The purpose of marriage is to bring two together to be one. 391 00:18:21,000 --> 00:18:26,000 God's intention for marriage was for it to be life long. 392 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:28,000 So then they ask him a question. 393 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:31,000 Verse 7, they say to him, why did Moses then command to give a 394 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:34,000 writing of divorce and to put her away? 395 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:37,000 And he said unto them, Moses, because of the hardness of your 396 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:41,000 hearts, suffered you to put away your wives from the beginning, 397 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:43,000 it was not so. 398 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:46,000 Essentially Jesus is saying what Moses seemed to be indicating 399 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,000 in Deuteronomy 24. 400 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:52,000 Moses was regulating something that happened and not advocating 401 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:55,000 for divorce to happen. 402 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:56,000 Okay. 403 00:18:56,000 --> 00:19:00,000 The point of having some kind of procedure in Deuteronomy 24 is 404 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:04,000 basically saying we know that God, people mess up and don't do 405 00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:08,000 God's intention, so how do we handle when people don't do the 406 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:09,000 right thing? 407 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:11,000 Does that make sense? 408 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:14,000 He then points to remarriage, which was at the center of the 409 00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:17,000 issue in Deuteronomy 24, verse 9. 410 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:21,000 And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, accept 411 00:19:21,000 --> 00:19:25,000 it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commit 412 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:30,000 adultery. 413 00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:33,000 And whosoever shall marry her which is put away, doth commit 414 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:35,000 adultery. 415 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:39,000 Jesus makes it very clear that divorce is not what God desires. 416 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:43,000 That the only exception that he gives here is for fornication. 417 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:49,000 The word for fornication is pornea and speaks to sexual sin. 418 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:52,000 That sexual sin apart from the spouse is adultery. 419 00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:55,000 And the Greek word is moketai. 420 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:57,000 This is what Jesus taught. 421 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:59,000 God hates divorce. 422 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:02,000 Remarriage by those who have been divorced to those who have 423 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:07,000 been divorced, except for adultery, is adultery. 424 00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:09,000 That's Jesus' teaching. 425 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:13,000 If someone is divorced after sexual immorality, they are free 426 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:16,000 to remarry, and that is not adultery. 427 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:19,000 Don't let the exceptions weigh more than the rule. 428 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:25,000 God's desire is for marriage to be lifelong and God honoring. 429 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:28,000 Okay? 430 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:29,000 That's the first question. 431 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:30,000 Can I get divorced? 432 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:35,000 Number two, is marriage to an unbeliever, another question he 433 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:39,000 answers now back to 1 Corinthians chapter 7, is marriage to 434 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:43,000 an unbeliever a suitable reason for divorce? 435 00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:45,000 Look at verse 12. 436 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:49,000 He says, but to the rest speak I, not the Lord. 437 00:20:49,000 --> 00:20:53,000 Now, again, this is not denying inspiration. 438 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:56,000 Who wrote this? 439 00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:58,000 Every word of it. 440 00:20:58,000 --> 00:20:59,000 Okay? 441 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:00,000 God did. 442 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:01,000 Right? 443 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:04,000 And so, this is still coming from God. 444 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,000 All scriptures given by inspiration of God and it's 445 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:09,000 profitable for doctor or proof, correction, instruction, and 446 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:10,000 righteousness. 447 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:14,000 And so, this is the word of God. 448 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:15,000 Okay? 449 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:19,000 So when he says to the rest I speak, not the Lord, he's saying 450 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:22,000 this is new revelation that I'm getting from God. 451 00:21:22,000 --> 00:21:25,000 He's not really saying the whole book is new revelation. 452 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:26,000 Does that make sense? 453 00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:29,000 This is not something that Jesus addressed. 454 00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:31,000 Okay? 455 00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:34,000 He's stating that this is new teaching that he's getting from 456 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:35,000 God. 457 00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:38,000 If any brother, hath a wife that believeeth not and she be 458 00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:41,000 pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 459 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:44,000 And the woman that has a husband that believeeth not and if he be 460 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:48,000 pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 461 00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:50,000 What is this saying? 462 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:53,000 Well, Paul is making it clear that if you have made a promise of 463 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:56,000 marriage to someone who is an unbeliever, you are bound to 464 00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,000 that promise. 465 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:01,000 Then becoming an unbeliever when you are a believer is not 466 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:05,000 sufficient grounds or you becoming a believer and then 467 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:08,000 finally realizing they are not a believer, it's not sufficient 468 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,000 grounds on its own for you to divorce them. 469 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:12,000 Divorce them. 470 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:15,000 How does someone find themselves in that situation? 471 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,000 Well, this is a common problem. 472 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:20,000 It was a problem in Paul's day in this church. 473 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:23,000 People coming to know Christ as Savior and they begin to be 474 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,000 transformed by the Holy Spirit. 475 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:29,000 They begin to be conformed to biblical teaching and values. 476 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,000 And their spouse may not have accepted Christ at least not at 477 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:33,000 the same time. 478 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:36,000 And so they find themselves in that situation married to an 479 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:37,000 unbeliever. 480 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:40,000 Paul says if you find yourself in that situation just because 481 00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:43,000 you became a Christian doesn't mean you have a right to divorce 482 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,000 that person. 483 00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:45,000 Okay. 484 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:48,000 This can also happen when someone made some kind of 485 00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:51,000 profession about being a Christian and dating and engagement 486 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:52,000 season. 487 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:55,000 But then as time goes on shows themselves not to be truly a 488 00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:57,000 Christian in word or in action. 489 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,000 It doesn't mean that people can lose their salvation. 490 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:01,000 That's not what he is teaching. 491 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:04,000 The idea is that there are some people that, oh yeah, Jesus, 492 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:08,000 I'm a Jesus guy, I'm a Jesus lady and after a while they go, 493 00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:11,000 actually I'm kind of tired of the Jesus stuff. 494 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:12,000 Right. 495 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:15,000 That doesn't give you the reason to divorce them. 496 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,000 This situation can lead itself to frustration. 497 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:21,000 The lost spouse may be frustrated by the changes they are 498 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:24,000 seeing in the spouse that has been saved and growing in their 499 00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:25,000 faith. 500 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,000 This happens in our church. 501 00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:30,000 People get saved and they have a group of friends and the group 502 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:33,000 of friends they hung out with, they used to go drinking and 503 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:37,000 all of a sudden the same friends are inviting you to go and 504 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,000 you are like, I don't want to go do that. 505 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,000 Man, you are lame. 506 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,000 You used to be fun and now you are lame. 507 00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:45,000 Right. 508 00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:48,000 And so there is like this thing that happens. 509 00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:49,000 Right. 510 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:52,000 And that can happen in a marriage. 511 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:53,000 Right. 512 00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:56,000 Paul makes it clear that this is not a reason though for a 513 00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,000 believer to get divorced. 514 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,000 He gives reason for it here. 515 00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:01,000 Why. 516 00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:05,000 Because the believing husband is sanctified by the wife and the 517 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:08,000 believing wife is sanctified by the husband. 518 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:11,000 And your children are unclaimed but now they are holy. 519 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:13,000 What is Paul teaching here? 520 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:17,000 He is not saying that we can be saved for other people. 521 00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:19,000 Does that make sense? 522 00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,000 He is not saying that I can become a Christian on behalf of my 523 00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:23,000 children. 524 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:26,000 Your children need to make their own decisions. 525 00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,000 Your wife needs to make their own decisions. 526 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:31,000 Does that make sense? 527 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:32,000 What is he saying? 528 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:36,000 He is saying that when you live a life that honors God in front of 529 00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:39,000 them, they get to see that transformation and sometimes God 530 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,000 uses that transformation to bring about what he wants in their 531 00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:43,000 life. 532 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:46,000 Now here is an interesting passage and this is going to be 533 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:47,000 really helpful. 534 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:51,000 In Peter, I think it is second Peter, maybe it is first Peter, 535 00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:55,000 Peter addresses wives that are believing to have husbands that 536 00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:56,000 are not believing. 537 00:24:56,000 --> 00:25:00,000 And he basically says this, this is the Ben Jennings version, the 538 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,000 BJV. 539 00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:02,000 Okay. 540 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:05,000 He says you wives that are believing, that have unbelieving 541 00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:09,000 husbands, just live a life that honors God in front of your 542 00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:12,000 husband and don't nag them with the gospel. 543 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:16,000 He is not saying that they should never talk to him about the 544 00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:17,000 gospel. 545 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:21,000 He is saying if you just are like Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, have you 546 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:22,000 considered Jesus? 547 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:26,000 I did your laundry. 548 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:30,000 By the way, Jesus, you are not going to attract your husband, 549 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:32,000 you are going to push him away. 550 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:33,000 Does that make sense? 551 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:34,000 Are you with me? 552 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:37,000 It is like that guy that finally got in the pyramid scheme. 553 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:40,000 And all he wants to talk to you about is have you signed up for 554 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:41,000 my pyramid scheme? 555 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,000 They don't want that. 556 00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:47,000 He is saying, though, that that spouse has a front row seat to 557 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,000 the transformation in your life. 558 00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:53,000 Well, Paul is claiming that a believing spouse or parent may be 559 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:57,000 the best opportunity for that unbelieving spouse or child to be 560 00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:58,000 influenced by the gospel. 561 00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:01,000 If divorce were to happen, you lose that influence. 562 00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:07,000 At this point, I want to add a practical teaching, like I said, 563 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:11,000 that passage there is in 1 Peter chapter 3. 564 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:14,000 I will go down to verse 2. 565 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:19,000 I will go down to verse 3. 566 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:22,000 We will read 1-4. 567 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:26,000 Likewise, you wise, be in subjection to your husbands, 568 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:30,000 that if any may not the word, they may be without the word be 569 00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:34,000 won by the conversation or the lifestyle of the wives. 570 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:37,000 Verse 2, while they behold your chaste conversation, 571 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:38,000 coupled with fear. 572 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:42,000 Who is adorning, let it not be the outward adorning and the 573 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,000 devil of gold or the putting on of apparel, 574 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:48,000 but let it be the hidden man of the heart in that which is not 575 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:52,000 corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is 576 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:54,000 in the sight of God of great price. 577 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:55,000 What is he saying? 578 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:59,000 He is saying, wives, don't just always nag your husband into it. 579 00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:03,000 Let the inside of your living and your heart and the transformation 580 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:07,000 that's happening be what speaks for you. 581 00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:11,000 So, if you find yourself married to an unbeliever, 582 00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:14,000 there's a time to speak and there's a time to share the gospel, 583 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:17,000 but know that you can't make every single conversation a nagging 584 00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:18,000 conversation about Jesus. 585 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:21,000 Let your life do the preaching. 586 00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:24,000 Sometimes even in that scenario, the unbelieving spouse has a 587 00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,000 problem though with the believing spouse. 588 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,000 So, that leads us to this next question. 589 00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:29,000 Ready? 590 00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:34,000 Number 3, if the unbeliever divorces me, am I bound to stay 591 00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,000 unmarried? 592 00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:37,000 Look at verse 15. 593 00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:41,000 He says, but if the unbelieving, meaning the unbelieving spouse, 594 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:45,000 depart, what does he say? 595 00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:47,000 Let him depart. 596 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:50,000 Like I said, in the Greco-Roman culture there was a practice of 597 00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:52,000 a kind of divorce that went like this. 598 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:55,000 If someone had a problem with their spouse, they could just leave. 599 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,000 The leaving itself was the divorce. 600 00:27:57,000 --> 00:28:00,000 They could just leave and decide not to come back. 601 00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:02,000 Again, this was seen as divorce. 602 00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:05,000 It didn't have to have a legal proclamation. 603 00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:08,000 What Paul is saying to believers who have an unbelieving spouse 604 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:11,000 that leaves is this, let them leave. 605 00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,000 Let them leave. 606 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,000 The spirit of what he's saying is that a believer who is frustrated 607 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:19,000 with their spouse is not permitted to do things that would cause 608 00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:22,000 their unbelieving spouse to leave so that they can marry another 609 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:25,000 or to be freed from the promise of responsibility. 610 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:26,000 What do I mean by that? 611 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:32,000 He's not teaching that if you find yourself married to an unbeliever 612 00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:38,000 and you're, hey, technically if he departs, then I'm good. 613 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:42,000 So I'm just going to be really annoying. 614 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:43,000 And then they depart. 615 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:45,000 That's not what he's saying. 616 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:48,000 What he's saying is if you and your following Jesus and your 617 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:53,000 following God start living a life that then frustrates them 618 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,000 because you're being obedient and they have it up to here and 619 00:28:56,000 --> 00:29:01,000 they leave, at that point, let them go. 620 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:07,000 He says, just to make it clear in the verse, a brother or a sister 621 00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:11,000 is not under bondage in such cases. 622 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,000 But God has called us and here's the clear teaching on it. 623 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,000 God has called us to peace. 624 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:18,000 There it is, yeah. 625 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:21,000 A brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God 626 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:23,000 has called us to peace. 627 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:26,000 Bondage here means bondage to the promise that has been made. 628 00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:29,000 What he's saying here is that in this case you're free to be 629 00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:30,000 married again. 630 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,000 You are not bound to the unbelieving spouse. 631 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:36,000 You are not bound to fighting with that spouse to try to get 632 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,000 them to be a believer and come back to you. 633 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,000 And since they won't, you're stuck. 634 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:43,000 If you marry again, it's not adultery. 635 00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:45,000 That's what he's saying in that case. 636 00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:50,000 Verse 16, he says this, for what knows thou, oh wife, whether 637 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:55,000 thou shalt save thy husband? 638 00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:58,000 You know what you ought to care about? 639 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:02,000 I want my husband, if you're a believer, they're an unbeliever. 640 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:03,000 What should you want? 641 00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:06,000 I want them to know Jesus. 642 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:10,000 That's what we're going for. 643 00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,000 What knows thou, oh wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? 644 00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:16,000 Or how knows thou, oh man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? 645 00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:19,000 Fighting and bickering about things will not promote Christ in 646 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,000 them and to them. 647 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,000 Living in peace as a transformed believer in Christ is the best 648 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:28,000 thing that you can do for Christ for the unbelieving, departing 649 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,000 spouse and for yourself. 650 00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,000 Make sense? 651 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:35,000 Okay. 652 00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:40,000 I want to give you a summary of what the Bible teaches about 653 00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:43,000 marriage, divorce, and remarriage. 654 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:46,000 And I know this may sting a little, but I'm going to give you 655 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:50,000 this and then I'm going to give you some hope at the end. 656 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,000 Are you ready? 657 00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:52,000 Number one. 658 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:57,000 Marriage is defined as a covenant relationship between a man 659 00:30:57,000 --> 00:31:02,000 and a woman for a lifetime of fidelity. 660 00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:05,000 Instead of telling you what you shouldn't do, let's talk about 661 00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:06,000 what marriage is for. 662 00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:07,000 Right? 663 00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:08,000 What is marriage about? 664 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:10,000 It's two becoming one. 665 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:16,000 In covenant relationship, a man and a woman, a man and a woman, 666 00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,000 that's marriage. 667 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:22,000 If it's a man and a man or woman and woman, it's not marriage. 668 00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,000 Okay? 669 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:25,000 I don't hate those people. 670 00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:27,000 I'm just saying that's true. 671 00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,000 Marriage is defined as a covenant relationship between a man and 672 00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:35,000 a woman for a lifetime of fidelity, faithfulness to each other. 673 00:31:35,000 --> 00:31:36,000 Number two. 674 00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:39,000 Marriage is God's idea. 675 00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:44,000 Marriage is God's idea. 676 00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:48,000 Marriage is God's idea. 677 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,000 It's tied to our anatomy. 678 00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,000 It's how he designed us. 679 00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:55,000 Marriage is God's idea. 680 00:31:55,000 --> 00:32:00,000 He designed it, here it is, to picture Christ's relationship with 681 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:01,000 the church. 682 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:07,000 He says, husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and 683 00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:09,000 gave himself for it. 684 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:13,000 Wives submit to your husband as the church submits to Jesus. 685 00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,000 Submits to your husband in everything. 686 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:18,000 That's the picture. 687 00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,000 I'll talk more about that in a second. 688 00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:21,000 Number three. 689 00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:26,000 Divorce is fundamentally the breaking of that covenant promise. 690 00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:29,000 That's hard to hear, but it's true. 691 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:34,000 Divorce is fundamentally the breaking of that covenant promise. 692 00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:36,000 Number four. 693 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:40,000 Those who divorce for unbiblical reasons are not permitted to 694 00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,000 remarry. 695 00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,000 That's the biblical teaching. 696 00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:48,000 God's desire, God's will for you is not to remarry if you 697 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:52,000 divorce for reasons other than adultery or an unbelieving spouse 698 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:54,000 leaving you. 699 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:57,000 Number five. 700 00:32:57,000 --> 00:33:01,000 Jesus allowed for divorce in cases of adultery. 701 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:02,000 Right? 702 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:06,000 And then, and thus he allows for remarriage when you're the 703 00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:11,000 person that has adultery committed against you. 704 00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,000 Number six. 705 00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:18,000 Believers ought to marry only other believers. 706 00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:23,000 The Bible teaches that we are not to be unequally yoked with 707 00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:24,000 unbelievers. 708 00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:27,000 Now that particular teaching where it says don't be unequally 709 00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:30,000 yoked with unbelievers, who here knows what a yoke is? 710 00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:31,000 Okay? 711 00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:34,000 A yoke, you guys have done a lot of plowing. 712 00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:36,000 Are you going to do some plowing? 713 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:41,000 A yoke is where two animals are, they have a thing that connects 714 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,000 these two animals together. 715 00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:45,000 It's called a yoke, right? 716 00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,000 And you put two animals in it. 717 00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:50,000 You want your two animals to be equally yoked. 718 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:51,000 What does that mean? 719 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:54,000 That means that they have the same direction and they have a 720 00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:58,000 lot of times the same kind of horse power. 721 00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:00,000 Are you with me? 722 00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:03,000 That when they're going in that direction, if you have one that's 723 00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:07,000 legitimately a lot stronger than the other, they're going to pull 724 00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:11,000 harder and what happens to the line you're trying to, are you 725 00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:12,000 with me? 726 00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:15,000 So this isn't just true for marriage, this is true for 727 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:16,000 business, right? 728 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:19,000 If you get in a partnership in a business and one of you thinks 729 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:22,000 one way and the other you think another way, what happens is 730 00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:25,000 you yoke yourself because you're tied in business together but 731 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,000 then you're going like, does that make sense? 732 00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:30,000 So he says Christians ought to be yoked with, you've got to be 733 00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:31,000 equally yoked. 734 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:34,000 If you're married, you're yoked, man. 735 00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:35,000 Who agrees? 736 00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:38,000 If you're married, you're yoked, right? 737 00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:42,000 Like, my wife is so yoked that she cares about my breath in the 738 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:43,000 morning. 739 00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:46,000 Are you with me? 740 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:49,000 You're yoked. 741 00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:52,000 Why do you think she wants me to put my dirty clothes off the 742 00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:53,000 floor into the hamper? 743 00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:55,000 Because we're yoked, we're together. 744 00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,000 We're doing life, we're doing life together. 745 00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:58,000 Isn't it good? 746 00:34:58,000 --> 00:34:59,000 You're so lucky. 747 00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:01,000 You're so lucky. 748 00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:02,000 And I am too. 749 00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:03,000 No. 750 00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:04,000 Right. 751 00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:05,000 We are yoked. 752 00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:09,000 And so this idea is you want to be going in the same direction. 753 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:12,000 I think there are some believers who are married to other people 754 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:16,000 who are believers but in mindset they're unequally yoked. 755 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:17,000 Right? 756 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,000 Because even though technically they may be saved, they're not 757 00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,000 necessarily having the same mindset. 758 00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:23,000 Does that make sense? 759 00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:26,000 Well, we're just going to have our kids in church. 760 00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:29,000 And I just want to go once a month. 761 00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,000 Well, that's a problem. 762 00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:32,000 Right? 763 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,000 You have two different kind of ways of thinking. 764 00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:38,000 So believers ought to marry only other believers and you need to be 765 00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:39,000 equally yoked. 766 00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,000 No. 7. 767 00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:45,000 If someone finds themselves married to an unbeliever, this is not 768 00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:47,000 cause for divorce. 769 00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:48,000 Okay? 770 00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:51,000 You don't get to just, oh, I'm a believer and they're not now so 771 00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:54,000 we're unequally yoked so I'm going to divorce them. 772 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:56,000 That's not how it works. 773 00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:58,000 No. 8. 774 00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:03,000 If the unbelieving spouse divorces because of their own unbelief, 775 00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:06,000 then the believer is not bound to the marriage when considering 776 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:09,000 remarriage. 777 00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:12,000 That's what he teaches right here in 1 Corinthians 7. 778 00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:21,000 Now, that's the summary. 779 00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:29,000 Why did God choose and design marriage to be this way? 780 00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:31,000 Why? 781 00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:36,000 Because ultimately he had in mind that this would be a picture of 782 00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:42,000 his relationship to the church, his relationship to people who 783 00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:44,000 believe in Christ. 784 00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:52,000 And this God who wants to save you has said, I will never leave 785 00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:57,000 thee nor forsake thee. 786 00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,000 And guess what? 787 00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,000 If you're bound to Christ, if you've gotten saved, you ain't 788 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,000 leaving. 789 00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,000 Who's glad for that? 790 00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:09,000 Yeah. 791 00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:12,000 No man can pluck them out of my hand. 792 00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:13,000 Are you with me? 793 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:15,000 No. 794 00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:21,000 So if that's the picture of the real, if marriage is a real picture 795 00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:26,000 of Christ's commitment to us and of our security in Christ, 796 00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:30,000 then when he designs the thing that he's pointing to, he will 797 00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:36,000 make this desire to say, hey, you shouldn't, what God has put 798 00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:39,000 together, let no man put us under. 799 00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:41,000 It's not against you. 800 00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:43,000 Does that make sense? 801 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:47,000 I'm trying to sell you and I feel like you're not being sold. 802 00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:50,000 God is trying to do something for us. 803 00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:54,000 And what he's trying to do for us is to give us life. 804 00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:58,000 And so let me tell you about something that Christ did to 805 00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:00,000 give us life. 806 00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:04,000 God became flesh and dwelt among us. 807 00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,000 He lived a perfect life. 808 00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:09,000 He never did anything wrong. 809 00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:12,000 He died on the cross. 810 00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:16,000 And when he died on the cross, he wasn't paying for any of his 811 00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:17,000 own sins. 812 00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:20,000 He was paying for your sin and mine. 813 00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:23,000 You're like, well, you're telling me I'm a sinner because I got 814 00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:25,000 divorced and I didn't get divorced for the right reasons. 815 00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:28,000 Okay, I'm telling you that. 816 00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:29,000 God doesn't desire that. 817 00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:30,000 He doesn't want that for you. 818 00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:32,000 But guess what? 819 00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:34,000 He still loves you. 820 00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:37,000 He still loves you. 821 00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,000 He died for that. 822 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:41,000 And he wants you to have a great life. 823 00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:43,000 And so what does that mean? 824 00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:46,000 Does God who died on the cross for your sins, he was buried and 825 00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:49,000 he rose again the third day. 826 00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:53,000 And the Bible says that if we call on him to save us, he'll 827 00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:54,000 save us. 828 00:38:54,000 --> 00:39:03,000 He who comes to me, he said, I will in no wise cast out. 829 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:09,000 One of the burdens I feel about a sermon like this is knowing 830 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:13,000 that I can't speak to every situation. 831 00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:16,000 I know I can't necessarily speak to every situation. 832 00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,000 But what I know is this. 833 00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:24,000 There is redemption and life and grace and peace in Christ. 834 00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:27,000 There is forgiveness in Christ. 835 00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:35,000 And there is a whole lot of joy and peace and amazing, 836 00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:36,000 abundant. 837 00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,000 What else can I say? 838 00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:41,000 It's amazing when you do things God's way. 839 00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:45,000 There is so much blessing that comes with obedience. 840 00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:50,000 And so I'm looking over here at the teenagers who are single. 841 00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:54,000 And I'm saying to you, you should think about God's plan for 842 00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:58,000 your life when you think about this area of where you get 843 00:39:58,000 --> 00:39:59,000 married. 844 00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:03,000 You need to be careful about who you date because dating is 845 00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:06,000 practice for marriage. 846 00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,000 In some ways that's how it ends up happening. 847 00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:11,000 And if you're like in this repetition of I'm going to date 848 00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:14,000 and then break up and then date and break up and then date. 849 00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:15,000 You're like practicing divorce. 850 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:16,000 That's not a good plan. 851 00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:17,000 Right? 852 00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,000 You should be careful about that. 853 00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:22,000 And you should consider, we're going to talk about this in the 854 00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:23,000 coming weeks. 855 00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:26,000 Marriage is for the most people, but marriage isn't for every 856 00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:27,000 person. 857 00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:30,000 There are some people that God calls to singleness and you're 858 00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:33,000 not inferior if you're single. 859 00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,000 Is this thing on? 860 00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:39,000 You're not inferior if you're single. 861 00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:40,000 Amen. 862 00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:45,000 Single people are people too. 863 00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,000 Amen. 864 00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:50,000 And we love them, right? 865 00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:53,000 And if there's somebody that's 28 years old and they're not 866 00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:56,000 married and don't, you got to get married. 867 00:40:56,000 --> 00:40:58,000 Let them figure it out. 868 00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,000 Stop trying to match make them. 869 00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:03,000 If they're like, hey, I need to get married, help me. 870 00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:04,000 I'll help. 871 00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:05,000 Right? 872 00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:06,000 That's fine. 873 00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:07,000 Some people need that. 874 00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:08,000 That's good. 875 00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:12,000 Let's do things God's way. 876 00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:14,000 Let's do things God's way. 877 00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:17,000 And when we don't do things God's way and we mess up, there's 878 00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:23,000 this beautiful word, metanoia, repentance. 879 00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:26,000 If we confess our sins, say, forgive us our sins and cleanse 880 00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,000 us from all the righteousness. 881 00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:30,000 My life is complicated, pastor Ben. 882 00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:34,000 I don't know what these things have happened and you know what, 883 00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,000 God can be with you in your mess. 884 00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:40,000 And He can help you through your mess. 885 00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:45,000 I will never leave thee nor forsake thee. 886 00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:49,000 God, I love you so much. 887 00:41:49,000 --> 00:42:18,000 I think you're right.