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join us on our journey as a married couple enjoying

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the lifestyle in beautiful Southern California.

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And we're back, finally. Take two of part three.

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Take two of part three. So we've been busy and

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we've been to a couple events and at those events

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we got some shit from our friends that are listeners

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that they're like, hey, you guys haven't released

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anything. In like five months That's been it's

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been like three four three weeks at least probably

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longer than that. Yeah, maybe a month So we attempted

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to record an episode Just before Thanksgiving

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like the week of Thanksgiving. Yeah, so happy

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Thanksgiving It was I think it was before that

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it was Right before the party we went to on the

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22nd So okay. Yeah So we made an attempt We got

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about 15 minutes in and I had to pull the plug

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was it that was that little in I thought it was

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more No, we got about 15 minutes and we basically

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got past the initial intro. We got past our drink

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Drink of the night, which we had some pretty

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good drinks, but I don't remember what they were

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now So I was looking because we really don't

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have a drink tonight tonight. We're sober We're

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doing this sober, but we're doing it, so. We're

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not doing it sober for any reason. Beggars can't

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be chooser. It's a Wednesday night, and I got

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to get up early. You got to get up early. So

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we just decided, we kept pushing it. We were

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going to do it Monday. We were going to do it

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Tuesday, and then do it Wednesday. And it's just,

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it got to the point where we're like, we just

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need to just do it. Because tomorrow we're busy,

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and then Friday night, I have a show at our meet

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and greet. So I don't know what you actually

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had because you what you have down here right

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now listed is good night Levin That's I didn't

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I don't update mine. Okay, I updated mine though.

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Okay I remember writing it out when we were on

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there and it was you had actually made both the

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drinks Oh, that's right. Mine had the macadamia

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nut too. Yeah, so mine was the macadamia nut

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martini And I can't remember all, I mean, everyone

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knows how to make a martini, I would think, if

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you're listening. I don't know, maybe not. But

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I can't remember the exact, like, oh, one ounce

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of this, blah, blah, blah, but it was vodka.

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Well, it was two ounces of vodka, one ounce of

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macadamia nut liqueur, half an ounce of amaretto,

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and an ounce of, it called for cream, but we

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didn't have cream, so we just used milk. We used

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milk. And yeah, shook it up, shook it up. and

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you liked it it was good yeah yeah was it your

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absolute favorite i don't know about my favorite

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it was sweet but it was good and i had oh an

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island sunset oh see which was a refreshing had

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a one ounce white rum one ounce dark rum one

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ounce macadamia nut liquor which is the theme

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for the night macadamia nut right ounce of orange

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juice half an ounce of peach liqueur and uh shake

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it up It was very good. Yeah, would I have it

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again? Maybe There's so many other drinks that

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I'd like that better that are better. Yeah, if

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I'm gonna put this amount of ingredients into

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a drink and Do it all that and I'll just make

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a rum runner or a painkiller. Yeah, I think that

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night We also had painkillers. We did we started

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with painkillers and then that was our our drink

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for the podcast Yeah, but we so what happened?

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Apparently I had an attitude problem. And, uh,

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yes. You were, you were ornery as they say, not

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horny. You were ornery. So yeah, as we sat down,

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we started recording our episode and you know,

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we always have a fair bit of back and forth and

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we give each other shit and stuff, but this one

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is so felt a little darker than usual. Maybe

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I was on one and maybe you were a little oversensitive.

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Maybe I am on I am on testosterone and you know

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in between the dips, who knows. So whatever the

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combination was you pulled the plug and said

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you know what we're gonna go fuck instead of

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do this. Well that was that was the other part

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of it. Oh yeah so we were we were recording it

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I think Friday night. Because we have our party

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on Saturday, right? Yeah, okay So so what it

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was in my head is I knew that I wanted to get

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this podcast out So I knew if we if we sat down

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recorded it I typically edit the night of because

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it doesn't take take long to put the episode

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together and Then I put it out, but I knew it

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was already late at night we had a couple of

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drinks and I knew you weren't gonna wait till

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1 a .m. To go to bed And with that party coming

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up Saturday, I always like to make it a point

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where if we have a party the next night, I want

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to spend some time with you because I want to

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be the next guy to do it. You know what I mean?

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Right. And if we did fully recorded this episode

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and edited it, you were going to go to bed. And

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I wasn't going to get that. So in my mind, I

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was already starting to have a little bit of

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not tension. I had this word. It's a stupid we

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actually said it before and then we forgot what

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the word was. It was basically the podcast was

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making me bitter because I I wasn't gonna be

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able to do what I wanted to do it and then when

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it started getting a little kind of dark it was

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just Making me a little like pissed off. I'm

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like, hey, I'm doing this Not it's not the best

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episode and I'm not gonna get laid. So I'm like,

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you know what fuck this podcast a second. So

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you had about 15 minutes and I just hit the stop

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button. I'm like, we just need to, you said,

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listen, I don't know if you had a bad day or

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what this is done, but I'm done. And then we

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went and we had sex and it was great. So sometimes,

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um, You know, you got to know when to hold them.

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Know when to fold them. Know when to walk away.

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Know when to run. Know when to come. So anyways,

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we're back. And basically what it was is we had

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all that and then we had Thanksgiving weekend.

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We were out with family all over the place. So

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it just it we weren't able to make another episode

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work. Here we are. So quit your complaining.

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Yeah. Get what you get. You don't pitch a fit.

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So we are back with part three of what to do

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in the lifestyle or how to do the lifestyle.

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It's like newbie lifestyle stuff. Newbie 101.

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Newbie 101 lifestyle info. So part one and part

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two, we went over all the different dynamics

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and, you know, the conversations to have and...

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When to have a safe word, when not to have a

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safe word. Exactly. When to turn the ketchup.

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catch a bottle on two cherries in your drink.

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So we are at part three, which is basically you've

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figured it out, you wanna go to your party, what

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do you do next? So there's a bunch of different

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types of parties out there. And we're gonna talk

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about some of the ones that we've personally

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experienced. So numero uno, the first thing I

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would recommend is a meeting greet. I don't even

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I didn't even think of that as a party. But yeah,

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that's actually a great place to start That's

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a great place to start So the good thing about

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a meet -and -greet is you get to go talk to people

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like -minded couples Without the pressure. Yeah,

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no pressure of play because you're in a public

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space unless you're me Apparently I get a little

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crazy so a meet -and -greet it's it's a lot of

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times there will be at public bars like a You

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could have an organization or community or just

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a couple of people will put something out on

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your local Cassidy website, SLS, whatever it

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is. Hot date, rendezvous, be like, hey, we're

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going to be at this bar Saturday night. We're

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going to throw a meet and greet. And then you

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could have anywhere from two, four, five, six,

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30, 50 couples show up. We've been at ones where

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it's been 50 couples show up. That's probably

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the first step, I would say, personally. That's

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the safest. I mean, that was outside of we went

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to F .A. initially, but then we started doing

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some local meet and greets. But that was before

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we technically knew ourselves to be in the lifestyle.

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Yeah. So when we were actually jumping back into

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it and kind of like, OK, this is we're going

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to do and this is what it's called. And da da

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da da da. We. Did go to some meet -and -greets

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and we went to some where we just the other good

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thing about a meet -and -greet is that you can

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Because it's in a public space like a bar or

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whatever You can just sit back and kind of observe

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and not actually interact at all So if you don't

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feel comfortable even talking to anybody you

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just kind of want to see like What do they do?

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Like what's everybody doing? Like what's everybody

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wearing? What's every how is everybody acting?

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What does everybody look like if you kind of

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want to just observe that you can just go to

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the bar or wherever it's being nobody even has

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to know you're there nobody has to know you're

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part of it or interested or anything you just

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go and observe and then maybe next time you insert

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yourself for lack of better words search yourself

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ask first so yeah at a meeting greet like like

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you were saying it's you could go with any level

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of intent you could sit in the back you could

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be the face of the party So I would recommend

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your first time just kind of going in there,

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hanging out, just, it's a date night, you and

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your partner, and you could just kind of see

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what's going on. We know some people that don't

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like going to the meet and greets because they

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are at a public bar, because they don't want

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to be recognized, but you're at a bar. So you

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won't get recognized unless you're the one interacting

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in that type of way. Like if you go to the meet

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and greets we go to now the way you and I are

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there's no question what it is We're doing there.

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Mm -hmm. Like it's just it's very obvious but

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you can be in the back you can be sitting at

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a booth you could be just You know sitting on

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the outside and just observing and still totally

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safe. No one has any idea that that you're a

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freak, right? Yeah, so like I remember the like

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I said the first one we went to we just I was

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like I'm not ready to Talk to anybody and we

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talked to another couple that also supposedly

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was just There at the bar, but they also seemed

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very interested in like what was going on around

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all of us So I think we were all there for the

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same reason but need that neither them nor we

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wanted to Claim it yet. We are ready So at the

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first couple ones we went to she would do wristbands

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And we wouldn't get a wristband now and she had

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a whole section that was reserved Kind of a little

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bit. I think she had some caution tape, but there

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was a definitive. Yeah border You and I went

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there and I wanted a wristband and you're like

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hell no No, so we basically got as close as we

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could to the border without jumping over So yeah,

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so you could do that Yeah, you just we kind of

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stood there and some people came up to us and

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like are you here for the da da da? We're like,

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I don't know Are you what is that, you know?

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Now when we when we throw our meet -and -greets

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or if we're attending meet -and -greets we try

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to encourage like beads we like beads Because

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beads look like a party. Mm -hmm. They don't

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completely stand out at a bar It's not you're

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wearing like a gray or crazy -ass looking wig.

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It's it's beads, you know beads or party so we

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typically hand out beads to anybody at our meeting

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greets that are interested in identifying themselves

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or standing out enough so you know who's in your

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group. Yeah because that is kind of nice too

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because we have also been to meet and greets

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where there's no identifying marker and then

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it's like then you are just trying to have weird

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conversations with people to figure out who's

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there for what and who's there for not because

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then you're like It's hard to know who to hit

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on. Do you like your ice cream vanilla or pineapple

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flavored Dole Whip? Exactly. Do you go to the

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grocery store? And then you just look like a

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weirdo. So I think some type of identifying marker

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is key. For throwing a successful meet -and -greet

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because we've been to a few that didn't and it

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can be a little weird but now that we've been

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doing it lately with some type of like beads

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we did lays we did a Hawaiian luau type theme

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party, you know couple couple months ago and

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we gave out lays to people So it's just nice

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to know that but again if your first -timer you

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don't have to participate in that you can just

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be the one Looking at everybody and watching

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and seeing Now, there are some meet and greets

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that are takeover style, where it's basically

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the entire venue is going to be that. So that's

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that's easier in a sense of you're not going

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to be outed potentially. Right. But it does also

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put more focus because then you're there. Yeah,

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you're there for that. So people are going to

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probably talk to you and interact with you whether

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you know. You're ready for it. Yeah, you're ready

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for it or not as I say like it or not But that's

00:14:47.620 --> 00:14:49.620
not we don't like pressure you or anything that

00:14:49.620 --> 00:14:51.480
yeah Whether you're ready for it or not so that

00:14:51.480 --> 00:14:53.340
it does put a little bit more pressure But there's

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still not as much as like a party or whatever

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because there's again no real Expectation expectation

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of play or anything like that play room there.

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Yeah. Yeah, so the other thing is Very important

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is to learn to use your words in the sense of,

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at any of these type of parties, some people,

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you're getting better. I don't think you're fully

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there yet. Me? Yeah. I feel like you're talking

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literally directly to me right now. I'm talking

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to everybody, but I'm looking at you directly.

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I feel like I'm pretty good with my words. I've

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had to say no to a couple of times. And you definitely

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have. You've gotten a lot better. But that's

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one of the key things about going to any of these

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types of types of event is you don't have to

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do anything, right? You don't have to talk to

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somebody. You don't it's you should be like be

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nice But you know when the conversations over

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it gets over Yeah, so like like we were talking

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about in the previous episode. Just be respectful

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Be nice, but you also can be very you can be

00:16:01.340 --> 00:16:04.480
be forward because ultimately, you know You're

00:16:04.480 --> 00:16:06.500
there for you. You're there for your partner.

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You're not, you know, you don't own anybody,

00:16:08.320 --> 00:16:11.899
anything. Right. So meeting greats, great, great

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start. So then you have house parties. House

00:16:16.919 --> 00:16:22.500
parties can be a couple different ways. You could

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have, you know, like a DTF type house party down

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to fuck where everybody just goes there and it's

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fucking game on. And there's more social parties.

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we've been to most most of our part house parties

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we've gone to have been the social parties with

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you know intentions later yeah it definitely

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can get to that point but there's some house

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parties where are just like it's just expected

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like you walked in i i kind of feel like you

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have to when you're going to your first house

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party you gotta no i mean and usually though

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usually the host or the flyer or whatever will

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give you kind of an idea of what you're getting

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yourself into. Because if if there's if they're

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like not putting like, oh, there's no DJ, no

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this or that. It's like, OK, well, it's probably

00:17:11.930 --> 00:17:16.569
not like for that. It's probably more. Since

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I run the Cassidy account, I see a lot of the

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different parties that come through. And like

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you said, a lot of parties will be like. uh,

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you know, BYOB, appetizers, mixers, DJ, Jacuzzi,

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that's going to be probably more of a social

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party. But a lot of the flyers will be like,

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this is a play party. Yeah. So if you see that

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- Just know that's what it is. That's exactly

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what it is. And if that's your vibe, that's your

00:17:41.859 --> 00:17:46.220
vibe. That's not our vibe currently. Um, but

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yeah. I wouldn't suggest that being a first party

00:17:50.480 --> 00:17:53.819
to go to that would be a lot unless you're ready

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to jump right in so What type of parties have

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we been to? How would you describe our house

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parties? Mostly social with the option. I mean

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the have we ever had any that were like No, no,

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we've been invited to some yeah that we know

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that's kind of expectation but we haven't gone

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so i'm trying to think i must say your attitude

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is much better tonight isn't it thanks just had

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to make the observation an attitude adjustment

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yeah um i'm trying to think i don't i don't feel

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like we've ever been to a party where like we

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walked in and it was like this is what we're

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doing well we've definitely never we've definitely

00:18:42.150 --> 00:18:45.539
never left a party right Don't feel like we've

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ever gone one I don't feel like we've ever like

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showed up and it wasn't what we were expecting

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left within an hour because We kind of stick

00:18:52.740 --> 00:18:55.279
we always have fun. If yeah, we're gonna have

00:18:55.279 --> 00:18:59.460
fun. Yeah, so I feel like we've always Had fun

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and never just like bailed out like whoa, that

00:19:01.799 --> 00:19:04.720
was too much Yeah, but we also don't go to the

00:19:04.720 --> 00:19:08.140
parties that say like this is a play party I

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think the larger our friend group gets to it

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Depends on how big the party is right? Like I

00:19:16.619 --> 00:19:18.819
don't know what people consider a party I mean

00:19:18.819 --> 00:19:23.059
at the same for me I I think I personally enjoy

00:19:23.059 --> 00:19:25.559
the larger parties when I'm looking at an RCP

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and I see you know 200 people I'm stoked. Yeah,

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I think you're that are like 20. Yeah where I'm

00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:35.819
like, well This might be a little more a I'm

00:19:35.819 --> 00:19:39.019
probably not gonna meet any new people and I

00:19:39.019 --> 00:19:43.279
enjoy you know, the the NRE New relationship

00:19:43.279 --> 00:19:45.779
energy. Yeah, they call it of meeting new people

00:19:45.779 --> 00:19:48.559
and making those connections I love our friends,

00:19:48.619 --> 00:19:51.119
but I do enjoy making new friends a lot. Yeah,

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so when I Excuse me when I look at a party and

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I see 20 people and I know all the 20 people

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it's probably more of a DTF like Focused party.

00:20:02.019 --> 00:20:05.619
Yeah, which is fine. That's what you do. Yeah

00:20:07.349 --> 00:20:10.089
The only reason I don't those aren't those don't

00:20:10.089 --> 00:20:12.509
appeal to me as much as because I can think I

00:20:12.509 --> 00:20:14.690
want to Go into something and think like okay.

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This is what I'm like my plan or not my plan

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cuz I don't want to have a plan but like my idea

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right like I'm feeling like yeah, I'm I'm Down

00:20:23.329 --> 00:20:26.190
to get down tonight, but then I get there down

00:20:26.190 --> 00:20:29.470
and who knows something could change. Yeah, or

00:20:29.470 --> 00:20:32.910
somebody could throw off my vibe or You could

00:20:32.910 --> 00:20:35.210
throw off my vibe or I could throw off my vibe

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or whatever happens, and I don't want to be like

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stuck in a situation where that's my only option.

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Whereas if it's a larger event, then you definitely

00:20:49.079 --> 00:20:53.680
have more more options to your vibe. Yeah, but

00:20:53.680 --> 00:20:56.240
then that's also gotten us into situations where

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it's like, we are being so social that we had

00:21:00.740 --> 00:21:03.519
every intention of playing but we never got to

00:21:03.519 --> 00:21:07.059
that point because Time just got away from us.

00:21:07.339 --> 00:21:10.039
We show up at eight, we're drinking, we're talking

00:21:10.039 --> 00:21:12.700
to people, we're meeting new people, seeing old

00:21:12.700 --> 00:21:14.240
friends. Before you know it, it's 2 a .m. Before

00:21:14.240 --> 00:21:15.700
you know it, it's 2 a .m. and it's like, okay,

00:21:15.700 --> 00:21:18.220
it's time to wrap things up. So that leads me

00:21:18.220 --> 00:21:20.299
to the next events. The next thing that you could

00:21:20.299 --> 00:21:25.640
go to is longer events. Or you could go to a...

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There's your hotel takeovers. Hotel takeovers

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or, I mean, hotel takeovers could be one night

00:21:30.259 --> 00:21:36.380
too. Yeah, they can be. But longer, Events or

00:21:36.380 --> 00:21:39.180
resort resorts. That's what I was thinking. Yeah

00:21:39.180 --> 00:21:42.099
where you're there for multiple days I like which

00:21:42.099 --> 00:21:45.680
is probably my favorite. I do like multi multi

00:21:45.680 --> 00:21:49.160
-day because we're a slow burn So we need that

00:21:49.160 --> 00:21:51.460
first day to kind of work into our groove and

00:21:51.460 --> 00:21:54.420
then typically, you know at 2 a .m I'm like,

00:21:54.680 --> 00:21:57.019
okay, I'm ready and then 2 a .m. Most people

00:21:57.019 --> 00:21:59.119
aren't ready. Yeah, so then I wake up the next

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morning and then the next day I have that like

00:22:02.900 --> 00:22:05.799
super heightened sexual energy and I'm like This

00:22:05.799 --> 00:22:08.079
is where I would want to be at the second day

00:22:08.079 --> 00:22:10.759
of a party, right? So that being said we got

00:22:10.759 --> 00:22:14.339
one of those coming up New Year's Eve We are

00:22:14.339 --> 00:22:19.759
gonna be at the plush New Year's Eve Hotel Takeover

00:22:19.759 --> 00:22:23.640
in La Jolla San Diego We're gonna be out there

00:22:23.640 --> 00:22:26.880
December 29th through the first through the first

00:22:26.880 --> 00:22:30.150
three nights. We are gonna be there That is the

00:22:30.150 --> 00:22:33.650
place to be. Yes, I hope so. This is going to

00:22:33.650 --> 00:22:35.450
be our third year in a row. Yeah, we've had a

00:22:35.450 --> 00:22:38.390
great time each time. Yeah, it's been fun. But

00:22:38.390 --> 00:22:41.430
yeah, so there's that you can go to a takeover

00:22:41.430 --> 00:22:45.789
like that's a full like weekend or some don't

00:22:45.789 --> 00:22:50.359
even some don't do. Multiple like three days.

00:22:50.400 --> 00:22:53.240
This is a pretty long one. Yeah, most hotel takeovers

00:22:53.240 --> 00:22:55.980
I see are like two nights Friday and a Saturday.

00:22:55.980 --> 00:22:58.279
Yeah, go home Sunday Yeah, you go to church on

00:22:58.279 --> 00:23:01.759
Sunday type thing. Yeah, so I have to come off

00:23:01.759 --> 00:23:04.740
your dress so you can go to church so this is

00:23:04.740 --> 00:23:08.319
definitely on the longer side, but the hotel

00:23:08.319 --> 00:23:15.099
takeovers are Also good for the fact of you have

00:23:15.099 --> 00:23:18.109
your own space to go back to if you get overwhelmed.

00:23:19.269 --> 00:23:22.089
Or if you need to recharge your battery, whether

00:23:22.089 --> 00:23:24.930
your phone or your social, you can just go upstairs

00:23:24.930 --> 00:23:27.569
to your room. And if you want to bring someone

00:23:27.569 --> 00:23:29.910
with you, great. If you go back down, great.

00:23:30.130 --> 00:23:32.369
Yeah. So you have like a little more options

00:23:32.369 --> 00:23:33.849
when you do something like that. Same with a

00:23:33.849 --> 00:23:36.690
resort. You would have a similar situation where

00:23:36.690 --> 00:23:41.329
you can also go back to your own space, have

00:23:41.329 --> 00:23:43.849
your own moments if you need to, or especially

00:23:43.849 --> 00:23:48.200
if you're new and you need to talk to your significant

00:23:48.200 --> 00:23:51.099
other about something, walk through stuff. Then

00:23:51.099 --> 00:23:52.960
you have a private space to do it instead of

00:23:52.960 --> 00:23:55.920
a party. Sometimes then you're like trying to

00:23:55.920 --> 00:23:59.660
find some place quiet to discuss something without

00:23:59.660 --> 00:24:03.339
making a scene or like being weird or awkward

00:24:03.339 --> 00:24:05.680
or people coming up to you during your conversation.

00:24:06.180 --> 00:24:09.980
And one thing I will say in, in, in relation

00:24:09.980 --> 00:24:14.750
to that, I'm hearing my dog outside is If I'm

00:24:14.750 --> 00:24:18.130
at a takeover or a party and I see someone in

00:24:18.130 --> 00:24:21.269
that room having that private conversation, you

00:24:21.269 --> 00:24:24.289
could tell when they're serious faces. That makes

00:24:24.289 --> 00:24:27.849
it harder for me to approach them later in a

00:24:27.849 --> 00:24:30.410
sense of like, I see it. I'm like, okay, they're

00:24:30.410 --> 00:24:31.990
dealing with something. I don't want to make

00:24:31.990 --> 00:24:35.190
it worse. So if you can have those conversations,

00:24:35.210 --> 00:24:37.549
like you said, in your room where you're not

00:24:37.549 --> 00:24:39.529
downstairs in front of everybody, then I think

00:24:39.529 --> 00:24:42.720
that's. Also better. Yeah, you can have your

00:24:42.720 --> 00:24:47.160
own time, you know, you know her So yeah, that's

00:24:47.160 --> 00:24:50.240
another good idea is to go upstairs Hash it out.

00:24:50.460 --> 00:24:52.700
Yeah, do whatever you got to do whatever conversation

00:24:52.700 --> 00:24:55.059
you need to have and sometimes it's just you

00:24:55.059 --> 00:24:59.299
need to go to bed and restart the next day so

00:24:59.299 --> 00:25:01.900
Hotel takeovers and then let's talk a little

00:25:01.900 --> 00:25:04.799
bit about resorts And we haven't been to many

00:25:04.799 --> 00:25:08.099
resorts. No, but we've been to a couple a couple

00:25:08.099 --> 00:25:12.299
of places that are very resort style Yeah, so

00:25:12.299 --> 00:25:14.460
but we have never done like any of the Mexico

00:25:14.460 --> 00:25:18.579
or no, so there's Hito which is in Jamaica then

00:25:18.579 --> 00:25:24.880
there's desire RM and desire pearl and Cancun

00:25:24.880 --> 00:25:29.039
and Those are like full nude lifestyle resorts

00:25:29.039 --> 00:25:31.119
and then they have one called temptations also

00:25:31.119 --> 00:25:34.220
in Cancun. I I believe that one's topless only

00:25:34.220 --> 00:25:37.819
and that's not geared towards lifestyle. So you,

00:25:37.980 --> 00:25:40.839
there's very, there's a lot of lifestyle people

00:25:40.839 --> 00:25:43.359
there, but they don't have like play rooms and

00:25:43.359 --> 00:25:45.259
you can't like, from what I understand, you can't

00:25:45.259 --> 00:25:49.700
really do too much in public. What I understand

00:25:49.700 --> 00:25:52.759
it's a lot of like girl trips will go there.

00:25:53.000 --> 00:25:55.220
They just like the freedom. Exactly. You can

00:25:55.220 --> 00:25:57.700
be topless and it's still fun. It's still sexy.

00:25:57.700 --> 00:26:00.480
And that would probably be a good place to start.

00:26:01.209 --> 00:26:04.769
If you're new in a lifestyle and you have the

00:26:04.769 --> 00:26:06.309
opportunity to go there, I think that would be

00:26:06.309 --> 00:26:09.230
good because then you get that openness of the

00:26:09.230 --> 00:26:11.589
nudity and stuff like that. We can't be nude,

00:26:11.730 --> 00:26:14.769
but topless. Yeah, topless. If you're not used

00:26:14.769 --> 00:26:17.529
to seeing boobies in public, that can be quite

00:26:17.529 --> 00:26:21.990
the shock. Like right now, we are very desensitized

00:26:21.990 --> 00:26:25.609
to nudity, just because we've been around it

00:26:25.609 --> 00:26:28.210
for quite a while now. So yeah, like when I go

00:26:28.210 --> 00:26:31.460
to a pool, It feels weird to see Baden suits.

00:26:32.880 --> 00:26:34.599
I've pretty much gotten to the point where I

00:26:34.599 --> 00:26:36.599
don't want to go to vanilla pool parties anymore.

00:26:36.720 --> 00:26:38.819
I don't, I don't want to go to vanilla hotel

00:26:38.819 --> 00:26:42.619
pools. Like this is boring. Like I like a good

00:26:42.619 --> 00:26:45.599
Baden suit and whatever. Sure. But you know,

00:26:45.759 --> 00:26:48.279
I want to see everything. I want to see where

00:26:48.279 --> 00:26:51.339
babies come from. I remember one time we went

00:26:51.339 --> 00:26:53.779
to speaking of being desensitized. We were, it

00:26:53.779 --> 00:26:56.880
was like, I think the first time we went to,

00:26:56.880 --> 00:27:02.170
um, See Mountain Inn. Oh, yes, and You're sitting.

00:27:02.230 --> 00:27:05.410
I think you're sitting in the jacuzzi and this

00:27:05.410 --> 00:27:07.930
girl's like standing kind of on the step So her

00:27:07.930 --> 00:27:10.269
tits are at eye level with you. I was sitting

00:27:10.269 --> 00:27:14.349
down in the lawn chairs Oh, and she came over

00:27:14.349 --> 00:27:17.430
and he was naked too. Yeah, and they're having

00:27:17.430 --> 00:27:19.109
a full -on conversation I'm sitting down and

00:27:19.109 --> 00:27:22.369
my face is at nut and vagina level and I'm like

00:27:22.369 --> 00:27:26.990
looking up and I'm trying to have the conversation

00:27:26.990 --> 00:27:28.450
concentrate because i think they were talking

00:27:28.450 --> 00:27:30.490
about the chargers they were charger fans i think

00:27:30.490 --> 00:27:32.690
i had a charger hat on or something so they were

00:27:32.690 --> 00:27:35.369
charger fans i'm a charger fan so they were having

00:27:35.369 --> 00:27:38.490
a full -on conversation you know his nuts are

00:27:38.490 --> 00:27:42.349
shaking and he's you know 18 inches from my face

00:27:42.349 --> 00:27:47.109
and it was very awkward initially but now it's

00:27:47.109 --> 00:27:52.490
like totally like whatever so that was different

00:27:52.490 --> 00:27:56.160
yeah So I think later when you told me about

00:27:56.160 --> 00:27:57.740
it you were sitting in the spa and she was still

00:27:57.740 --> 00:27:59.859
talking to you and she was standing On a step

00:27:59.859 --> 00:28:02.000
and it was like her boobs are right. Yeah, there's

00:28:02.000 --> 00:28:04.000
probably they talked to us a couple of times

00:28:04.000 --> 00:28:07.259
but the first time was yeah, it was like fairly

00:28:07.259 --> 00:28:10.180
early in our time there and we're like sitting

00:28:10.180 --> 00:28:13.079
there and I don't think I was sitting with you

00:28:13.079 --> 00:28:14.859
and that happened I think I went to you were

00:28:14.859 --> 00:28:17.240
because I offered to I said do you want to go

00:28:17.240 --> 00:28:19.519
into a room and have some shots? Oh, they said

00:28:19.519 --> 00:28:21.220
no, we're not drinking right now. I was like,

00:28:21.480 --> 00:28:24.549
okay fair enough So that was I was trying to

00:28:24.549 --> 00:28:28.410
like get his ball sack out of your face. I was

00:28:28.410 --> 00:28:32.130
trying to get his ball sack in my room. I think

00:28:32.130 --> 00:28:34.069
I was just trying to move the conversation somewhere

00:28:34.069 --> 00:28:36.990
else, because it's like, let's get into neutral

00:28:36.990 --> 00:28:41.170
ground in my room. I need more alcohol. We're

00:28:41.170 --> 00:28:46.349
going to continue this conversation. So. So out

00:28:46.349 --> 00:28:48.250
here in Southern California, which is where we're

00:28:48.250 --> 00:28:53.150
at, there is not much in the way of. resorts.

00:28:53.150 --> 00:28:57.009
We have one called EDR and Palm Springs, which

00:28:57.009 --> 00:29:00.130
is the closest thing we have to a true resort.

00:29:00.450 --> 00:29:03.990
There's, I think, but I'm getting there. Well,

00:29:04.190 --> 00:29:06.630
you said the only thing I said the closest. Okay.

00:29:06.710 --> 00:29:10.410
The closest. So EDR has like, you know, 40 rooms,

00:29:11.029 --> 00:29:15.750
multiple pools. It's kind of like a resort. That's

00:29:15.750 --> 00:29:18.759
probably one of our favorite places. It's It's

00:29:18.759 --> 00:29:21.079
gone some changes if you've listened to our podcast.

00:29:21.279 --> 00:29:23.859
It's up and down Yeah, we we've told them the

00:29:23.859 --> 00:29:26.700
fuck off and then like the couple of months later.

00:29:26.700 --> 00:29:29.920
We apologize and can we please come back? so

00:29:29.920 --> 00:29:33.799
I Think they're still good right now, but it's

00:29:33.799 --> 00:29:37.400
coming up on So you got EDR and then we also

00:29:37.400 --> 00:29:40.000
have sea mountain in which is a smaller version

00:29:40.000 --> 00:29:44.900
There's maybe 10 rooms 10 12 rooms one pool more

00:29:44.900 --> 00:29:48.950
expensive It's more expensive. It's a cool place.

00:29:49.809 --> 00:29:52.230
It's fully nude though. You have to be nude for

00:29:52.230 --> 00:29:56.730
the most part. You can be in transition with

00:29:56.730 --> 00:29:58.450
your towels and stuff, but for the most part

00:29:58.450 --> 00:30:00.450
they want you to be nude. And then there's another

00:30:00.450 --> 00:30:05.579
place in Lake Elsinore called Bia Vida. Which

00:30:05.579 --> 00:30:08.660
is you can't stay you can't stay there i'm kind

00:30:08.660 --> 00:30:11.819
of going from big to small But it's it's resort

00:30:11.819 --> 00:30:14.160
vibey in a sense of they have a pool jacuzzi

00:30:14.160 --> 00:30:16.599
They have like cabanas you can rent. Yeah, and

00:30:16.599 --> 00:30:18.559
they party there and it's a great place to go

00:30:18.559 --> 00:30:20.480
highly suggested We'll be going back there in

00:30:20.480 --> 00:30:24.539
the summer for sure But outside of the californias

00:30:24.539 --> 00:30:29.150
They have secrets in florida Yeah, which is a

00:30:29.150 --> 00:30:31.210
really nice one. We didn't stay there. We stayed

00:30:31.210 --> 00:30:34.670
at the hotel next to it, but. And then there's

00:30:34.670 --> 00:30:36.789
a lot of other places just we haven't been to.

00:30:37.630 --> 00:30:41.950
We were not super traveler swingers in a sense

00:30:41.950 --> 00:30:43.670
of. We would love to be. We would love to be.

00:30:44.309 --> 00:30:47.289
But fortunately here in Southern California,

00:30:47.309 --> 00:30:51.809
there is a lot to do. So we're not left yearning.

00:30:51.950 --> 00:30:53.930
Right. We can. Where we're like, oh, we really

00:30:53.930 --> 00:30:55.849
need to travel. We don't. And we need to spend

00:30:55.849 --> 00:30:58.700
the money and we need to. You take the time off

00:30:58.700 --> 00:31:02.259
work and plus some people have the hard fast

00:31:02.259 --> 00:31:04.900
rule of you know We have to go at least two hours

00:31:04.900 --> 00:31:08.180
from our house to play We play in our backyard

00:31:08.180 --> 00:31:13.099
literally and figuratively After parties, let's

00:31:13.099 --> 00:31:16.500
go so So there's so much shit in this area to

00:31:16.500 --> 00:31:19.859
do so it's kind of like we don't have to go places

00:31:19.859 --> 00:31:22.559
we want to but we don't have to because yeah,

00:31:22.839 --> 00:31:26.490
and definitely if we Somewhere that there is

00:31:26.490 --> 00:31:30.849
something we want to try it. Yeah, but we yeah

00:31:30.849 --> 00:31:34.109
Speaking of that there is a actual really nice

00:31:34.109 --> 00:31:37.109
place in Nashville. Is there from it's I forgot

00:31:37.109 --> 00:31:41.210
what it's called, but it's uh They were talking

00:31:41.210 --> 00:31:45.809
about it on swing nation I Can't remember you

00:31:45.809 --> 00:31:47.970
have to look it up But not right this second.

00:31:47.970 --> 00:31:50.309
I want to say temptations, but it's not temptations,

00:31:50.309 --> 00:31:54.509
but trapeze trapeze might be it there's a Trapeze,

00:31:54.670 --> 00:31:56.650
they have a couple different locations. I think

00:31:56.650 --> 00:31:59.509
it might be trapeze though. Don't take my word

00:31:59.509 --> 00:32:00.970
for it. That's a club, right? Yes. Okay, not

00:32:00.970 --> 00:32:03.490
a resort. If you guys are from Nashville, send

00:32:03.490 --> 00:32:07.130
us a message to our super sexy Sweetums line

00:32:07.130 --> 00:32:10.250
and recommend, because I only bring up Nashville

00:32:10.250 --> 00:32:12.730
because we are going to Naughty in New Orleans

00:32:12.730 --> 00:32:17.539
in July. We're gonna be out there for Like a

00:32:17.539 --> 00:32:19.720
week. Yeah, like five six days and then we're

00:32:19.720 --> 00:32:22.240
gonna do like two days in Nashville before you

00:32:22.240 --> 00:32:25.299
come back home So we don't really your days that

00:32:25.299 --> 00:32:27.299
we're gonna be in Nashville though. It's like

00:32:27.299 --> 00:32:30.039
Tuesday through Thursday. Yeah, it's not gonna

00:32:30.039 --> 00:32:33.259
be like a party night Yeah, Sunday through I

00:32:33.259 --> 00:32:35.119
don't know cuz we're really that whole week.

00:32:35.380 --> 00:32:40.180
It was really just I looked at places that we

00:32:40.180 --> 00:32:43.960
wanted to visit that are close ish to New Orleans

00:32:43.960 --> 00:32:47.819
like it's like a Going from New Orleans to Nashville

00:32:47.819 --> 00:32:51.299
is like us going to Vegas Like it's a quick trip

00:32:51.299 --> 00:32:53.279
flight like you said like an hour. So yeah, it's

00:32:53.279 --> 00:32:55.279
a quick flight So I was like, oh we wanted to

00:32:55.279 --> 00:32:58.700
go to Nashville. So Yeah. We've heard they've

00:32:58.700 --> 00:33:00.839
had a pretty decent music scene there, but it

00:33:00.839 --> 00:33:02.779
was definitely, yeah, it was definitely like

00:33:02.779 --> 00:33:05.440
a secondary thing. And our primary is obviously

00:33:05.440 --> 00:33:08.480
we're staying in New Orleans for naughty. So

00:33:08.480 --> 00:33:10.660
we're in New Orleans from like Monday through.

00:33:11.220 --> 00:33:12.799
I want to say it's a whole week. I want to say

00:33:12.799 --> 00:33:15.079
it's like Monday through Sunday. Sounds about

00:33:15.079 --> 00:33:17.460
right. And then Monday, the following Monday

00:33:17.460 --> 00:33:20.079
through like Wednesday or something, we're in

00:33:20.079 --> 00:33:22.299
Nashville. It's a really short trip in Nashville,

00:33:22.519 --> 00:33:26.140
but. Anyway, so whatever whatever it is you're

00:33:26.140 --> 00:33:28.619
recommending they have to kind of be like midweek

00:33:28.619 --> 00:33:31.980
It can't be like a club. That's only open on

00:33:31.980 --> 00:33:34.119
Saturday because we won't be there. What do we

00:33:34.119 --> 00:33:38.160
where can we get in trouble on a Tuesday? So

00:33:38.160 --> 00:33:40.220
that being said I'm gonna run a quick commercial

00:33:40.220 --> 00:33:44.119
so you guys know what number to text and Also,

00:33:44.119 --> 00:33:49.440
I'm still accepting nudes. I I've had a bunch

00:33:49.440 --> 00:33:52.200
of nudes from my birthday And I actually got

00:33:52.200 --> 00:33:56.980
a couple late ones today. Nice. Yes. So, uh,

00:33:56.980 --> 00:33:59.900
he's like, I apologize for the late birthday.

00:34:00.779 --> 00:34:03.319
I think he, I think he fell back. I think he

00:34:03.319 --> 00:34:05.359
fell behind on the thing. So he didn't hear until

00:34:05.359 --> 00:34:07.460
it was already a couple. Well, and now we're

00:34:07.460 --> 00:34:10.820
closer to my birthday than your birthday. Yeah,

00:34:10.820 --> 00:34:14.940
we are. In fact, you're a January baby. So yeah,

00:34:14.940 --> 00:34:17.440
he sent me, uh, I'm just going to call them the

00:34:17.440 --> 00:34:19.829
late couple. I think. I think we called him like

00:34:19.829 --> 00:34:23.829
couple before lake lake I said late at first

00:34:23.829 --> 00:34:25.409
then I realized who you're talking about and

00:34:25.409 --> 00:34:27.210
like that doesn't make any sense Yeah, like like

00:34:27.210 --> 00:34:31.190
a body of water. Yes He sent me quite a few very

00:34:31.190 --> 00:34:34.769
nice pictures From from last time we kind of

00:34:34.769 --> 00:34:37.070
chatted them with them on text. They were kind

00:34:37.070 --> 00:34:40.889
of slowly Moving in they I don't think they fully

00:34:40.889 --> 00:34:44.809
considered themselves, you know swingers But

00:34:44.809 --> 00:34:50.329
judging from this picture it's official She's

00:34:50.329 --> 00:34:52.789
standing there with three dicks on her hands.

00:34:53.489 --> 00:34:56.969
Like one in her mouth and two in her hands. She's

00:34:56.969 --> 00:35:01.630
busy. So I would say she's a very busy girl.

00:35:02.389 --> 00:35:04.269
Very nice pictures. Thank you so much, late couple.

00:35:05.369 --> 00:35:10.909
And he said that he would like to be a bull for

00:35:10.909 --> 00:35:16.690
us. Yes. But with the wife that looks like that.

00:35:16.909 --> 00:35:20.130
I think we're going to have to bring her into

00:35:20.130 --> 00:35:23.369
the mix because yeah. Yeah. They are both good

00:35:23.369 --> 00:35:26.949
looking. Yes. So let's see where we are. We kind

00:35:26.949 --> 00:35:29.750
of digressed. You were going to play a commercial.

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00:36:13.590 --> 00:36:16.090
guys. Welcome back. Hopefully you got that number

00:36:16.090 --> 00:36:18.730
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00:36:23.869 --> 00:36:26.030
So resort. We talked about resorts. We talked

00:36:26.030 --> 00:36:28.150
about parties. We talked about meeting greets.

00:36:28.369 --> 00:36:31.329
What other hotel takeover? Oh yeah. Cruises.

00:36:31.809 --> 00:36:34.309
That's something else we haven't done, but we

00:36:34.309 --> 00:36:38.449
will eventually. The problem with cruises is

00:36:39.199 --> 00:36:41.300
They're there from what I understand at least

00:36:41.300 --> 00:36:44.219
bliss cruise does like two a year or then maybe

00:36:44.219 --> 00:36:45.780
they've added a third Yeah, I've heard they're

00:36:45.780 --> 00:36:48.460
gonna come out of I've heard they're gonna come

00:36:48.460 --> 00:36:52.280
out of California so what it is is two of the

00:36:52.280 --> 00:36:54.980
crew. There's the November and I think April

00:36:54.980 --> 00:36:58.059
or something like that They are always East Coast.

00:36:58.059 --> 00:36:59.860
Yeah, Florida and I think they do one out of

00:36:59.860 --> 00:37:02.960
Georgia So for us to go from Southern, California

00:37:02.960 --> 00:37:06.449
to there That alone is a travel day and then

00:37:06.449 --> 00:37:08.010
you have a travel day coming back and you have

00:37:08.010 --> 00:37:11.210
like a five to six to seven day cruise. We just,

00:37:11.590 --> 00:37:14.510
big time commitment. We can't do that. So from

00:37:14.510 --> 00:37:16.969
what I understand, I think Bliss Cruise is starting

00:37:16.969 --> 00:37:19.730
to do like a three or four day cruise now. And

00:37:19.730 --> 00:37:22.130
they're also eventually going to come out of

00:37:22.130 --> 00:37:24.590
the West coast as well because from what I understand,

00:37:24.670 --> 00:37:26.210
I keep saying that because I'm just, from what

00:37:26.210 --> 00:37:30.710
I remember from other podcasts, they got new

00:37:30.710 --> 00:37:34.219
owners recently, like within the last eight months

00:37:34.219 --> 00:37:38.559
to a year So I think the old owners maybe got

00:37:38.559 --> 00:37:41.980
just complacent We're doing our two cruises and

00:37:41.980 --> 00:37:44.699
we're good. The new owners are making changes

00:37:44.699 --> 00:37:48.539
adding new features and Adding more cruises.

00:37:48.539 --> 00:37:50.519
So I'm really looking forward to that and there's

00:37:50.519 --> 00:37:53.360
also a couple other Cruises that are starting

00:37:53.360 --> 00:37:55.599
to pop up that are very similar, but I kind of

00:37:55.599 --> 00:37:58.920
want to do the og the bliss The other problem

00:37:58.920 --> 00:38:01.179
with the bliss is that shit sells out like a

00:38:01.179 --> 00:38:04.449
year in advance. Yeah So that's a big commitment

00:38:04.449 --> 00:38:06.909
time wise and a bit big commitment money wise

00:38:06.909 --> 00:38:10.510
for something that we Can't say for sure we can

00:38:10.510 --> 00:38:14.210
even do yeah, we've actually had I've heard I've

00:38:14.210 --> 00:38:15.969
had some people I've talked to who've been on

00:38:15.969 --> 00:38:19.030
bliss and I've heard positive and negative stuff

00:38:19.030 --> 00:38:22.860
so like positive I mean people just say they

00:38:22.860 --> 00:38:24.659
have like a blast like it's just like non -stop

00:38:24.659 --> 00:38:27.280
good time But then I have heard that some people

00:38:27.280 --> 00:38:29.440
have said like they didn't like that because

00:38:29.440 --> 00:38:32.159
it was so many people on a ship I mean, how many

00:38:32.159 --> 00:38:34.840
people does a ship hold like fifteen thousand?

00:38:34.940 --> 00:38:38.360
No, no fifteen hundred. I mean Yeah, yeah, I

00:38:38.360 --> 00:38:41.340
think the biggest bliss cruise I want to say

00:38:41.340 --> 00:38:44.199
is like three thousand or three. That's like

00:38:44.199 --> 00:38:47.739
the big okay, so you have three thousand people

00:38:48.010 --> 00:38:53.050
on a boat and so basically they said like you

00:38:53.050 --> 00:38:56.429
kind of have to make connections like like if

00:38:56.429 --> 00:38:59.710
you see somebody you have to that you're interested

00:38:59.710 --> 00:39:01.409
in you have to connect with them and try and

00:39:01.409 --> 00:39:04.130
jump on it yeah and then also and we've known

00:39:04.130 --> 00:39:07.230
this from just going on regular cruises with

00:39:07.230 --> 00:39:10.750
people that we know it's like your phones don't

00:39:10.750 --> 00:39:14.090
work so how do you exchange information and then

00:39:14.090 --> 00:39:16.550
you can list cruise has an app okay Then you

00:39:16.550 --> 00:39:18.750
could, those don't always work though. We've

00:39:18.750 --> 00:39:21.010
dealt with that too. Yeah. But anyway, you can

00:39:21.010 --> 00:39:23.690
like see someone like, but then you never see

00:39:23.690 --> 00:39:26.510
them again because there's 3000 people on a boat.

00:39:26.889 --> 00:39:29.070
You know what I mean? Yeah. Like, so there can

00:39:29.070 --> 00:39:33.030
be, so I've heard like two sides of it. So, um,

00:39:33.150 --> 00:39:35.510
I mean, I still want to do it. Don't get me wrong.

00:39:35.769 --> 00:39:38.929
I first of all, I like cruising. So there's that.

00:39:38.969 --> 00:39:43.030
And then, um, I can only imagine it enhances

00:39:43.030 --> 00:39:48.289
or gets enhanced when you have a bunch of partiers

00:39:48.289 --> 00:39:55.070
who want to have sex on the cruise. Yeah, I can

00:39:55.070 --> 00:39:57.949
imagine it would probably be pretty intense.

00:39:58.869 --> 00:40:01.070
Yeah. Looking forward to that. But as it is right

00:40:01.070 --> 00:40:03.750
now, we can kind of really only do one big trip

00:40:03.750 --> 00:40:07.030
a year and next year is already spoken for. Right.

00:40:07.489 --> 00:40:13.989
So. Naughty, here we come. So cruises, resorts,

00:40:14.510 --> 00:40:18.489
hotel takeovers, parties, meet and greets. What

00:40:18.489 --> 00:40:23.309
else are we missing here? I feel like there's

00:40:23.309 --> 00:40:27.690
something, but I can't. I can't think of it.

00:40:28.829 --> 00:40:33.170
I don't know. I'm like. I mean, there's more

00:40:33.170 --> 00:40:35.590
intimate gatherings, obviously, with people.

00:40:36.179 --> 00:40:39.119
Dates. Dates. Yeah. Just general dates. Yeah.

00:40:40.119 --> 00:40:46.099
That is not our go -to personally. No. But we've

00:40:46.099 --> 00:40:48.260
always had a good time on our dates. We've never

00:40:48.260 --> 00:40:50.579
had like a bad time where it was like. We haven't

00:40:50.579 --> 00:40:52.420
really gone on very many dates. Yeah. We've gone

00:40:52.420 --> 00:40:54.480
on a handful. But we have had people who've like

00:40:54.480 --> 00:40:55.920
canceled last minute, which I think we talked

00:40:55.920 --> 00:41:00.739
about that before. Yeah. Is like meeting up with

00:41:00.739 --> 00:41:03.059
people just one -on -one. You don't, you run

00:41:03.059 --> 00:41:05.860
the risk of them. canceling and then you're kind

00:41:05.860 --> 00:41:08.820
of scrambling to figure out what to do worst

00:41:08.820 --> 00:41:12.179
case scenario you're with your your yeah but

00:41:12.179 --> 00:41:17.780
if you yeah i mean if obviously like clearly

00:41:17.780 --> 00:41:20.019
like sure you just do a date with your significant

00:41:20.019 --> 00:41:22.679
other but if you had if you were a more intentional

00:41:22.679 --> 00:41:25.340
couple and then you know that could definitely

00:41:25.340 --> 00:41:27.480
yeah no i'm i don't want to say ruin a night

00:41:27.480 --> 00:41:29.690
but it could More than I potentially. Yeah. I

00:41:29.690 --> 00:41:31.050
mean, it definitely takes your night another

00:41:31.050 --> 00:41:32.570
way. And you're kind of trying to figure out

00:41:32.570 --> 00:41:34.690
what else to do. Well, a lot of times, if you're

00:41:34.690 --> 00:41:36.670
doing on it, going on a date, a lot of times

00:41:36.670 --> 00:41:39.789
people will like get a hotel room. Yeah, there's

00:41:39.789 --> 00:41:43.170
and then there's also like prep that like can

00:41:43.170 --> 00:41:46.889
go into that. Like women get waxed or like doing

00:41:46.889 --> 00:41:50.030
things which, you know, you might not do just

00:41:50.030 --> 00:41:51.989
for your significant other. But if you know you're

00:41:51.989 --> 00:41:53.570
going to be hooking up with somebody, there might

00:41:53.570 --> 00:41:56.289
be other things that you invest time and money

00:41:56.289 --> 00:42:00.320
in. especially if you're in an area where you

00:42:00.320 --> 00:42:02.659
don't have a lot of party options you don't have

00:42:02.659 --> 00:42:05.239
you know like then you're kind of like put a

00:42:05.239 --> 00:42:08.860
lot into one thing one basket and you're then

00:42:08.860 --> 00:42:12.579
don't put all your eggs in one basket like don't

00:42:12.579 --> 00:42:15.679
count your chickens until they hatch okay recently

00:42:15.679 --> 00:42:19.099
we had friends that had a date planned and then

00:42:19.630 --> 00:42:23.230
Yes, suddenly it changed and here they were reaching

00:42:23.230 --> 00:42:25.070
out to us to figure out what we were doing and

00:42:25.070 --> 00:42:26.849
we were doing some vanilla shit. So they tagged

00:42:26.849 --> 00:42:28.510
along with that. But that's definitely not how

00:42:28.510 --> 00:42:31.630
I think they planned that night to go. No, not

00:42:31.630 --> 00:42:36.429
at all. Not at all. But, you know, so they got

00:42:36.429 --> 00:42:40.250
to hang out with us. True. That's a win. But

00:42:40.250 --> 00:42:44.429
yeah, so that's not our cup of tea plus i think

00:42:44.429 --> 00:42:46.510
again going back to my like whole pressure thing

00:42:46.510 --> 00:42:48.869
like if i change my mind i want to be able to

00:42:48.869 --> 00:42:51.110
change my mind and not feel like i've let people

00:42:51.110 --> 00:42:53.570
down or like so that's the whole other thing

00:42:53.570 --> 00:42:57.550
with dating is that if i've changed my mind or

00:42:57.550 --> 00:43:01.340
i'm not feeling it or whatever Eat some bad seafood.

00:43:01.340 --> 00:43:03.920
I want to be able to like pull the ripcord and

00:43:03.920 --> 00:43:06.300
not feel bad about it You not feel like you let

00:43:06.300 --> 00:43:09.219
other people besides yourself. Yeah, like your

00:43:09.219 --> 00:43:11.619
partner. Yeah, exactly Yeah, if you're at a party

00:43:11.619 --> 00:43:14.000
and you're not feeling it, then that couple can

00:43:14.000 --> 00:43:16.400
go to another couple exactly. There's more options

00:43:16.400 --> 00:43:20.800
Yeah, so so I think Unless and we're missing

00:43:20.800 --> 00:43:22.940
something painfully obvious which I'm sure we

00:43:22.940 --> 00:43:24.960
are probably it's like literally probably hitting

00:43:24.960 --> 00:43:27.260
us people are screaming at their freaking phones

00:43:27.260 --> 00:43:33.059
right now You forgot about beep. Yeah, so we

00:43:33.059 --> 00:43:36.900
apologize for that So I think we're gonna move

00:43:36.900 --> 00:43:39.539
on right now past the different types of parties

00:43:39.539 --> 00:43:42.940
So I have a couple of rules of thumb. I'd like

00:43:42.940 --> 00:43:48.199
to or some Pro we'll say a pro tip pro tip pro

00:43:48.199 --> 00:43:53.980
tip I would suggest because I'm an introvert

00:43:53.980 --> 00:43:58.829
so it's It takes for me to get like I gotta I

00:43:58.829 --> 00:44:00.889
gotta have some drinks before I start talking

00:44:00.889 --> 00:44:06.409
to people But I think a good Piece of advice

00:44:06.409 --> 00:44:09.269
would be to go with the intention on trying to

00:44:09.269 --> 00:44:14.010
meet three couples Not even with the sense of,

00:44:14.130 --> 00:44:16.269
you know, you're going to bang these three couples

00:44:16.269 --> 00:44:18.989
just to kind of help you get out of the box.

00:44:19.170 --> 00:44:21.449
Yeah. Cause more often than not, if you're a

00:44:21.449 --> 00:44:23.269
new couple going to any one of these types of

00:44:23.269 --> 00:44:25.710
parties or whatever, you might end up a wallflower.

00:44:25.889 --> 00:44:29.789
You might sit there and if you're sitting there

00:44:29.789 --> 00:44:31.690
at like leaning against the bar or sitting on

00:44:31.690 --> 00:44:34.650
a chair, just talking to your partner, you're

00:44:34.650 --> 00:44:37.250
like internally, you're probably hoping that

00:44:37.250 --> 00:44:40.230
someone comes and talks to you. but more than

00:44:40.230 --> 00:44:42.449
likely your body language and the way you're

00:44:42.449 --> 00:44:43.849
sitting there and the way you've kind of put

00:44:43.849 --> 00:44:47.130
yourself away from people, that alone is going

00:44:47.130 --> 00:44:49.090
to prevent a lot of people from coming up to

00:44:49.090 --> 00:44:51.789
you. And I've seen that at some parties. And

00:44:51.789 --> 00:44:54.210
once I have a couple of drinks, I try to pick

00:44:54.210 --> 00:44:57.050
up on some of those, those couples and try to

00:44:57.050 --> 00:45:00.050
bring them into our group. And sometimes it fails

00:45:00.050 --> 00:45:03.670
miserably. I've had people look at me like I'm

00:45:03.670 --> 00:45:05.710
a fucking idiot. And they're like, get away from

00:45:05.710 --> 00:45:08.630
me. I'm like, got it. But then there's some people

00:45:08.630 --> 00:45:10.329
that I can get off the chairs and bring over

00:45:10.329 --> 00:45:13.050
and introduce them to some people, but you're

00:45:13.050 --> 00:45:14.710
not going to get that at every party. So I think

00:45:14.710 --> 00:45:18.389
you kind of have to, one thing, uh, Dan and Lacey

00:45:18.389 --> 00:45:22.610
always talk about on their podcast is they get

00:45:22.610 --> 00:45:28.409
called clicky a lot. Right. And I think it's

00:45:28.409 --> 00:45:33.460
easy to call a click or call out a click. But

00:45:33.460 --> 00:45:36.039
you're also partially responsible for that, right?

00:45:36.139 --> 00:45:38.480
Because like they say they're like you might

00:45:38.480 --> 00:45:40.840
you might listen to our podcast, but we don't

00:45:40.840 --> 00:45:46.019
know you right so like Um one complaint they

00:45:46.019 --> 00:45:48.500
often get is you know, we came to your party,

00:45:48.500 --> 00:45:51.900
but you didn't even say hi to us It's like how

00:45:51.900 --> 00:45:53.219
the fuck are we supposed? You know what I mean?

00:45:53.340 --> 00:45:54.860
Yeah, there's 500 people here. I'm supposed to

00:45:54.860 --> 00:45:56.940
say hi to everybody Yeah, do like you you kind

00:45:56.940 --> 00:45:59.280
of put yourself out a little bit say hi to me

00:45:59.579 --> 00:46:02.539
And it's like, we'd love to say hi to people

00:46:02.539 --> 00:46:05.599
in my vicinity. But so basically what I'm getting

00:46:05.599 --> 00:46:08.699
at is like, you can't go to a party, sit in a

00:46:08.699 --> 00:46:11.860
corner, leave the party and then say everybody

00:46:11.860 --> 00:46:14.500
there was clicky. Yeah. Which we do hear sometimes.

00:46:14.519 --> 00:46:16.760
I'm not about I don't I don't know if I've heard

00:46:16.760 --> 00:46:19.059
it about us, but I I'm sure it's been said. I'm

00:46:19.059 --> 00:46:22.860
sure it has. But I have heard people like recently

00:46:22.860 --> 00:46:27.420
we went to the Halloween party we went to. And

00:46:27.420 --> 00:46:29.650
we just happened when we went to dinner. We were

00:46:29.650 --> 00:46:31.110
sitting at the bar and we happened to sit next

00:46:31.110 --> 00:46:37.469
to this couple that said something about Mr.

00:46:37.630 --> 00:46:39.929
Sweet and Sour shirt. And then the conversation

00:46:39.929 --> 00:46:41.369
started. We realized they were going to the same

00:46:41.369 --> 00:46:44.769
party that we were going to later. And then we

00:46:44.769 --> 00:46:47.969
saw them at said party. And so obviously, especially

00:46:47.969 --> 00:46:51.530
Mr. and Mrs. Sweet and Sour started talking to

00:46:51.530 --> 00:46:55.949
them a lot and, you know, engage with them or

00:46:55.949 --> 00:47:00.480
whatever. But. He had said they went to another

00:47:00.480 --> 00:47:02.179
party and I can't remember which one it was But

00:47:02.179 --> 00:47:04.980
he said this one was better because it didn't

00:47:04.980 --> 00:47:07.940
feel as clicky But I was also thinking because

00:47:07.940 --> 00:47:10.719
the party with great conversation. Yeah, I was

00:47:10.719 --> 00:47:15.199
I was also thinking like besides Mr. And Mrs.

00:47:15.320 --> 00:47:18.980
Sweet and sour like talking to them. They did

00:47:18.980 --> 00:47:23.019
sit themselves in a chair at a table in the corner

00:47:23.019 --> 00:47:25.380
away from everybody. But because we had seen

00:47:25.380 --> 00:47:27.400
them at the bar earlier that day, obviously we

00:47:27.400 --> 00:47:30.179
engaged with them. But had we not, I probably

00:47:30.179 --> 00:47:32.159
don't I don't know that I would have. I mean,

00:47:32.239 --> 00:47:33.599
I don't know if that they would have. You know

00:47:33.599 --> 00:47:38.760
what I mean? Like they're there. It's just sitting

00:47:38.760 --> 00:47:41.300
there situation kind of made it so that it was

00:47:41.300 --> 00:47:44.820
like, OK, you could scoot your chairs over a

00:47:44.820 --> 00:47:49.079
little bit more and kind of. Make yourself more

00:47:49.079 --> 00:47:51.219
almost put yourself in the way of some people.

00:47:51.219 --> 00:47:54.420
Yeah, so then there's a oh, excuse me Yeah, or

00:47:54.420 --> 00:47:56.400
some people don't like taking their drinks because

00:47:56.400 --> 00:47:59.239
most parties at in Southern California or in

00:47:59.239 --> 00:48:02.960
California Are like BYOB because you can't serve

00:48:02.960 --> 00:48:09.420
liquor with nudity. So People but people have

00:48:09.420 --> 00:48:11.559
this like weird thing about taking their drinks

00:48:11.559 --> 00:48:13.639
to the bar like a lot of places will actually

00:48:13.639 --> 00:48:15.659
have a bartender and they'll have mixers and

00:48:15.659 --> 00:48:17.929
stuff and even if you have beer for they'll open

00:48:17.929 --> 00:48:19.989
the beer for you or whatever, or because they're

00:48:19.989 --> 00:48:21.849
like, oh, I don't I don't want to like what am

00:48:21.849 --> 00:48:24.730
I to pay somebody to serve me my own liquor?

00:48:25.050 --> 00:48:27.889
Basically, there's a level of expectation. Well,

00:48:27.989 --> 00:48:29.969
you should tip, but there's usually you usually

00:48:29.969 --> 00:48:32.130
have no party we have been to. Are you paying

00:48:32.130 --> 00:48:35.070
for your own drinks? But it is kind to tip somebody

00:48:35.070 --> 00:48:38.489
who's working there. But. The whole thing is

00:48:38.489 --> 00:48:39.750
some people are like, oh, well, I'm not going

00:48:39.750 --> 00:48:41.889
to bring it to the bar because I don't want to

00:48:41.889 --> 00:48:44.010
tip Yeah, which is so silly to me because you're

00:48:44.010 --> 00:48:45.489
gonna go you would go to a bar You would pay

00:48:45.489 --> 00:48:47.329
for someone else's liquor and you would tip like

00:48:47.329 --> 00:48:49.130
that just seems insane to me. But anyway, that's

00:48:49.130 --> 00:48:53.530
my own personal pet peeve. But um This really

00:48:53.530 --> 00:48:55.690
grinds my gears. Yeah, this really grinds my

00:48:55.690 --> 00:48:59.019
gears. But one thing I'm like If you want to

00:48:59.019 --> 00:49:01.559
get to know people or you want like where is

00:49:01.559 --> 00:49:04.019
the better place to bump into somebody or start

00:49:04.019 --> 00:49:06.360
a random fucking conversation every time we go

00:49:06.360 --> 00:49:08.780
to the bar to get a drink every time we end up

00:49:08.780 --> 00:49:10.880
talking to somebody and it also forces you to

00:49:10.880 --> 00:49:13.800
walk the crowd. Exactly. It forces you to get

00:49:13.800 --> 00:49:16.760
up, whereas some people will just come to a party,

00:49:16.980 --> 00:49:19.179
bring their cooler, sit themselves down in the

00:49:19.179 --> 00:49:21.239
corner and expect things to just happen around

00:49:21.239 --> 00:49:23.320
them. And it's like, that's not how life works.

00:49:23.320 --> 00:49:26.039
Yeah. And that's not how any bar works. And that's

00:49:26.039 --> 00:49:28.219
not how any social gathering works. Right. Like,

00:49:28.239 --> 00:49:32.079
so you can't you can't expect to sit with your

00:49:32.079 --> 00:49:34.079
liquor, like in the corner and not like interact

00:49:34.079 --> 00:49:35.880
with anybody and expect people just interact

00:49:35.880 --> 00:49:37.619
with you. If you have to be part of the party,

00:49:37.639 --> 00:49:41.510
which I think a good way to do that is just Tip

00:49:41.510 --> 00:49:43.550
the bartender five fucking dollars for opening

00:49:43.550 --> 00:49:46.949
up your beer and Go to the bar when you want

00:49:46.949 --> 00:49:49.409
a beer. You know what I mean? You're getting

00:49:49.409 --> 00:49:51.530
really hot over here Yeah, cuz it's just like

00:49:51.530 --> 00:49:54.449
seems to me like such an easy idea. Just take

00:49:54.449 --> 00:49:59.409
your liquor to the bar Tip or even don't tip

00:49:59.409 --> 00:50:01.769
I don't care but it's nice to tip you should

00:50:01.769 --> 00:50:05.440
tip but or even even if you even if you want

00:50:05.440 --> 00:50:07.940
to stick with your original plan of making your

00:50:07.940 --> 00:50:10.400
own beverage, take your drink that you made and

00:50:10.400 --> 00:50:12.460
walk towards the bar. Yeah, walk towards the

00:50:12.460 --> 00:50:14.579
bar. And put yourself in an area where other

00:50:14.579 --> 00:50:17.400
people are drinking and talking. So it's just

00:50:17.400 --> 00:50:20.840
a matter of, you know, it's a 50 -50 transaction.

00:50:20.920 --> 00:50:23.940
Right. Like you can't go to a party, sit in a

00:50:23.940 --> 00:50:27.599
corner and get upset and call it clicky. You

00:50:27.599 --> 00:50:29.260
have to like, you have to meet people in the

00:50:29.260 --> 00:50:32.039
middle. So you sometimes have to get out of your

00:50:32.039 --> 00:50:34.739
comfort zone a little bit. And I get it. I have

00:50:34.739 --> 00:50:37.199
a bubble, I have a huge comfort zone and it takes

00:50:37.199 --> 00:50:42.519
a lot to get out of it. But because we have a

00:50:42.519 --> 00:50:45.079
large friend group now. But we didn't start with

00:50:45.079 --> 00:50:47.239
that. What I'm saying is like now it's easier

00:50:47.239 --> 00:50:50.480
for me because everywhere we go we know somebody

00:50:50.480 --> 00:50:53.800
and it's not like we're walking in fresh off

00:50:53.800 --> 00:50:57.280
the streets. But I only say this like to kind

00:50:57.280 --> 00:51:00.800
of help you along. So try to meet three couples.

00:51:01.340 --> 00:51:04.789
Walk up and introduce yourself. Hi, my name is

00:51:04.789 --> 00:51:07.849
dot dot dot How did you get in the lifestyle?

00:51:07.949 --> 00:51:10.570
Where are you guys from great? It doesn't have

00:51:10.570 --> 00:51:14.110
to be a groundbreaking conversation five minutes

00:51:14.110 --> 00:51:17.250
exchange pleasantries if you have liquor with

00:51:17.250 --> 00:51:20.230
you, maybe have a shot together, you know, whatever

00:51:20.230 --> 00:51:24.690
and Something that um, I I personally have to

00:51:24.690 --> 00:51:28.449
do is I have to introduce Or I have to get introductions

00:51:28.449 --> 00:51:33.110
twice Because the first time I meet someone I'm

00:51:33.110 --> 00:51:38.969
analyzing him and her in a sense of, Hey, that's

00:51:38.969 --> 00:51:41.909
what we're here for. You know? So if someone

00:51:41.909 --> 00:51:45.190
comes up and introduces me, my first go or introduces

00:51:45.190 --> 00:51:47.489
themselves to me, my first go to is I'm looking

00:51:47.489 --> 00:51:50.789
at him, looking at her, looking at her smile,

00:51:50.929 --> 00:51:54.730
looking at him, looking at his teeth. Like, I'm

00:51:54.730 --> 00:51:58.590
just like, I'm taking it in. Very rarely do I

00:51:58.590 --> 00:52:02.130
catch the name on the first go around. So I always

00:52:02.130 --> 00:52:03.889
come back with, Oh, I'm so sorry. What was your

00:52:03.889 --> 00:52:05.969
name again? And then the second time it normally

00:52:05.969 --> 00:52:08.809
locks in. And I've had people say that they're

00:52:08.809 --> 00:52:10.630
like, yeah, I didn't catch your name either.

00:52:10.630 --> 00:52:13.349
I'm like, yeah, like I get it. Like, cause this

00:52:13.349 --> 00:52:15.610
is, this is a little bit different. A music's

00:52:15.610 --> 00:52:18.530
typically loud. There's a lot going on. There's

00:52:18.530 --> 00:52:21.050
a lot of eye candy. You're very easily distracted.

00:52:21.409 --> 00:52:24.869
I'm like squirrel. Yeah. So just make sure you

00:52:24.869 --> 00:52:28.409
introduce yourself twice. And it's just for me,

00:52:28.409 --> 00:52:32.090
it's better cause then it locks in a name. So

00:52:32.090 --> 00:52:34.630
now we're at the party and we met a couple of

00:52:34.630 --> 00:52:37.349
people right and they come up to others are like

00:52:37.349 --> 00:52:40.409
hey I'd really like to play with your ding -dong

00:52:40.409 --> 00:52:44.309
What do you do? They say I've had that a couple

00:52:44.309 --> 00:52:48.570
times. Yes So what do you do at that point you

00:52:48.570 --> 00:52:53.110
go and you grab your bag? What's in your bag?

00:52:53.110 --> 00:52:56.650
Do you say wait that so we're assuming you want

00:52:56.650 --> 00:52:58.699
them to play with your ding -dong? Well, they

00:52:58.699 --> 00:53:04.380
asked me, I rarely say no. That is true. Let's

00:53:04.380 --> 00:53:09.960
be honest. I think the only time I've ever said

00:53:09.960 --> 00:53:16.079
no is when the person that asks me, I'm totally

00:53:16.079 --> 00:53:19.139
interested in it, but I know I'm in a extremely

00:53:19.139 --> 00:53:23.320
soft state and I know I'm not going to get hard.

00:53:23.949 --> 00:53:26.869
quickly. Yeah. Whether it I haven't taken my,

00:53:26.869 --> 00:53:29.409
you know, my Bluetooth or whatever the case is.

00:53:29.429 --> 00:53:33.489
And I'll be like, Hey, that sounds great, but

00:53:33.489 --> 00:53:36.130
I know I can't be ready for that right now. Yeah.

00:53:36.130 --> 00:53:38.010
And it's like, it's very polite way. Like that

00:53:38.010 --> 00:53:40.090
one time we were in that jacuzzi and that one

00:53:40.090 --> 00:53:41.929
girl was like, Hey, and I'm like, that sounds

00:53:41.929 --> 00:53:44.349
awesome, but I can tell you right now it's not

00:53:44.349 --> 00:53:46.630
going to work for a couple of minutes. So let's

00:53:46.630 --> 00:53:50.010
just circle back. And I've had a few of those.

00:53:50.030 --> 00:53:51.909
I'm like, okay, sounds great. I'll catch up with

00:53:51.909 --> 00:53:55.559
you later. But what's this bag we're talking

00:53:55.559 --> 00:54:07.900
about so I Am so see this is what happens what's

00:54:07.900 --> 00:54:10.440
in the bag This is what happens when I don't

00:54:10.440 --> 00:54:13.119
drink my my brains fully firing and I'm like

00:54:13.119 --> 00:54:17.480
Yeah, but you're just talking to yourself hey,

00:54:17.480 --> 00:54:20.619
I'm here I can hear my own voice in my headphones

00:54:20.619 --> 00:54:26.960
So we like to carry a backpack that carry you

00:54:26.960 --> 00:54:29.780
know that has like our change of clothes because

00:54:29.780 --> 00:54:32.179
At certain events like you'll go in your street

00:54:32.179 --> 00:54:34.579
clothes and you might change into a theme wear

00:54:34.579 --> 00:54:37.380
for the night And then you might dress down later

00:54:37.380 --> 00:54:39.679
into some lingerie or something which we didn't

00:54:39.679 --> 00:54:42.539
talk about any of that we didn't So we can have

00:54:42.539 --> 00:54:45.519
that really fast right now. Yes, so a lot of

00:54:45.519 --> 00:54:49.800
expectations so a lot of first of all a lot of

00:54:49.800 --> 00:54:53.190
us are leaving the house with People here. We

00:54:53.190 --> 00:54:55.889
don't want to know Them to know where we're going

00:54:55.889 --> 00:54:58.429
or what we're doing like a trench coat So yeah,

00:54:58.429 --> 00:55:00.769
there's things that a lot of times you have to

00:55:00.769 --> 00:55:03.809
leave in not exactly what you plan on being in

00:55:03.809 --> 00:55:07.230
at the party Or you're getting into an uber or

00:55:07.230 --> 00:55:09.210
something like that and you have to be dressed

00:55:09.210 --> 00:55:12.829
for that. So Depending on the party that you're

00:55:12.829 --> 00:55:15.969
going to most I mean swingers we like our we

00:55:15.969 --> 00:55:21.010
like our themes most have themes And I would

00:55:21.010 --> 00:55:28.070
say The the Theme kind of gives you an idea of

00:55:28.070 --> 00:55:32.309
how to dress. Yeah, but I mean each Party can

00:55:32.309 --> 00:55:35.469
have a different Like some can be more casual

00:55:35.469 --> 00:55:37.289
like a meet -and -greet will probably be more

00:55:37.289 --> 00:55:39.610
casual Obviously, you can't be naked or in lingerie

00:55:39.610 --> 00:55:42.050
or anything because you're gonna be in public

00:55:42.050 --> 00:55:46.380
But you still want to dress like sexy as a woman

00:55:46.380 --> 00:55:49.539
in my opinion and when I say sexy to me that

00:55:49.539 --> 00:55:52.219
means like what you feel sexy in that doesn't

00:55:52.219 --> 00:55:54.760
mean what your husband wants you to wear or what

00:55:54.760 --> 00:55:57.019
so and so down the street is wearing or like

00:55:57.019 --> 00:56:00.519
what's popular or whatever the case may be I

00:56:00.519 --> 00:56:04.059
personally for me I think that people look the

00:56:04.059 --> 00:56:06.659
sexiest in what they feel sexy in so sometimes

00:56:06.659 --> 00:56:09.679
for me that's leggings and a crop top sometimes

00:56:09.679 --> 00:56:12.619
for me that's a dress sometimes for me that's

00:56:12.619 --> 00:56:15.190
jeans like whatever it is like you're feeling

00:56:15.190 --> 00:56:17.369
good in that day like you always want me to like

00:56:17.369 --> 00:56:19.670
try on my outfits before the party and I'm always

00:56:19.670 --> 00:56:21.869
like that doesn't make sense for me and it doesn't

00:56:21.869 --> 00:56:24.769
make sense for me because Tuesday I might feel

00:56:24.769 --> 00:56:30.090
great in a dress and whatever like heels but

00:56:30.090 --> 00:56:33.110
then when it comes to Friday I'm not feeling

00:56:33.110 --> 00:56:36.789
great in that anymore and now yeah it is and

00:56:36.789 --> 00:56:41.829
now I'm feeling more I'm feeling better in all

00:56:41.829 --> 00:56:44.590
black because I just don't feel my best, but

00:56:44.590 --> 00:56:47.329
this is what I feel the best in or whatever.

00:56:47.429 --> 00:56:51.789
So I think that whatever you wear, whatever the

00:56:51.789 --> 00:56:56.429
theme, you have to feel sexy and confident in

00:56:56.429 --> 00:57:00.489
it. Otherwise, I think people can tell when you're

00:57:00.489 --> 00:57:03.889
uncomfortable, you're pulling at things or you're

00:57:03.889 --> 00:57:08.190
not walking with your head up and. not in a confident

00:57:08.190 --> 00:57:11.090
way, I think that's important. First and foremost,

00:57:11.170 --> 00:57:14.510
whatever you wear, wear the clothes, don't let

00:57:14.510 --> 00:57:16.230
the clothes wear you and be confident in what

00:57:16.230 --> 00:57:19.829
you're wearing. But beyond that, there's themes

00:57:19.829 --> 00:57:22.989
and we like to dress in the themes to an extent.

00:57:23.829 --> 00:57:28.030
So I think themes really lend themselves to the

00:57:28.030 --> 00:57:31.449
females most of the time. Yeah. And then like

00:57:31.449 --> 00:57:34.090
if there's a theme I personally like to wear

00:57:34.090 --> 00:57:38.019
as the male. Like to wear like say it's a country

00:57:38.019 --> 00:57:40.579
theme I'll wear just a stupid Amazon shirt that

00:57:40.579 --> 00:57:43.000
says this is my country shirt and I'll wear like

00:57:43.000 --> 00:57:45.940
a pair of Cowboy boxers or you know something

00:57:45.940 --> 00:57:49.239
simple. Yeah, like you said comfort Yeah, and

00:57:49.239 --> 00:57:51.800
then the girls typically dress a little bit more

00:57:51.800 --> 00:57:53.820
in the theme, right? But there's some guys that

00:57:53.820 --> 00:57:57.480
go Full theme. Yeah. So the theme definitely

00:57:57.480 --> 00:57:59.519
lends itself to give you kind of a vibe and an

00:57:59.519 --> 00:58:02.699
idea. But I do also recommend for the females.

00:58:03.360 --> 00:58:05.059
Oh, and you have to, too, because you if you

00:58:05.059 --> 00:58:06.880
wear your boxers, you can't just walk in on that.

00:58:06.920 --> 00:58:10.980
So you have to dress in two outfits. But is bring

00:58:10.980 --> 00:58:19.019
more than one thing because you may one you don't

00:58:19.019 --> 00:58:22.590
want to be. Overdressed or underdressed right

00:58:22.590 --> 00:58:28.369
like that's kind of like the thing to You may

00:58:28.369 --> 00:58:30.670
start feeling a certain type of way But maybe

00:58:30.670 --> 00:58:32.969
once the party goes and you you're getting like

00:58:32.969 --> 00:58:36.469
more comfortable. You're like, okay I'll go change

00:58:36.469 --> 00:58:39.269
into like a lingerie or something like that that

00:58:39.269 --> 00:58:41.989
I feel I mean half the time by the end of the

00:58:41.989 --> 00:58:44.849
party I'm naked or topless or I had a minimum

00:58:44.849 --> 00:58:48.070
topless or something of that nature me personally,

00:58:48.630 --> 00:58:52.739
but Not every girl gets there or wants to do

00:58:52.739 --> 00:58:56.280
that So it's really just about your comfort level,

00:58:56.280 --> 00:58:59.860
but I do I would say bring Wear what you're confident

00:58:59.860 --> 00:59:01.800
comfortable in but bring something else that

00:59:01.800 --> 00:59:05.179
you think you have felt good in before. Because

00:59:05.179 --> 00:59:07.460
your confidence could vary. Yeah, because you

00:59:07.460 --> 00:59:09.940
start maybe having some drinks or girls or, you

00:59:09.940 --> 00:59:11.460
know, people are like, oh, you look great tonight

00:59:11.460 --> 00:59:13.480
or whatever. And it kind of like boost your confidence.

00:59:13.980 --> 00:59:15.360
Other groups start coming out and you're like,

00:59:15.360 --> 00:59:17.480
yeah, that sounds like fun. Yeah. Or somebody.

00:59:17.539 --> 00:59:19.340
Yeah. Somebody dresses down. You're like, oh,

00:59:19.340 --> 00:59:21.159
they look cute. I wish I had something that was

00:59:21.159 --> 00:59:23.519
a little more dressed down. And then some parties

00:59:23.519 --> 00:59:25.880
require you to like some parties. And they'll

00:59:25.880 --> 00:59:29.300
say it on the invitation, but some require you

00:59:29.300 --> 00:59:31.940
at a certain point to change into some sort of

00:59:31.940 --> 00:59:35.050
long. lingerie or we've been to one personally

00:59:35.050 --> 00:59:38.150
I know there's a party that yeah does that around

00:59:38.150 --> 00:59:40.389
this area but we've never been never been to

00:59:40.389 --> 00:59:43.150
it I don't think we have yeah I personally that

00:59:43.150 --> 00:59:45.489
happens a lot in like I think Europe and stuff

00:59:45.489 --> 00:59:49.269
I hear yeah I've heard to like on Previous podcasts

00:59:49.269 --> 00:59:51.230
I was listening to like in the Midwest like house

00:59:51.230 --> 00:59:53.550
parties They'll shut down like they'll close

00:59:53.550 --> 00:59:55.090
the door at like a certain time and then they

00:59:55.090 --> 00:59:56.869
want people to dress up and when we're in Vegas

00:59:56.869 --> 00:59:58.989
they didn't require it but they definitely had

00:59:58.989 --> 01:00:03.230
a time when they wanted us to dress down at the

01:00:03.230 --> 01:00:06.150
Flirts that we went to in Vegas, so it's true.

01:00:06.190 --> 01:00:10.190
There's definitely Kind of a trend that there

01:00:10.190 --> 01:00:13.730
that The later in the night girls do tend to

01:00:13.730 --> 01:00:16.429
whether or not the party requires it or it's

01:00:16.429 --> 01:00:20.440
suggested that girls and even guys to get more

01:00:20.440 --> 01:00:24.059
naked i mean obviously like that opens up the

01:00:24.059 --> 01:00:26.800
doors for like okay we're gonna we're open to

01:00:26.800 --> 01:00:29.300
you know playing or we're open i mean it's definitely

01:00:29.300 --> 01:00:31.940
not like consent but it's definitely it's putting

01:00:31.940 --> 01:00:34.380
yourself out there more in a way of like it changes

01:00:34.380 --> 01:00:36.619
the vibe of the party yeah for sure it makes

01:00:36.619 --> 01:00:39.440
things definitely more sexual i typically change

01:00:39.440 --> 01:00:43.590
i get down to like some boxer briefs And that

01:00:43.590 --> 01:00:46.250
that just for me says, all right, you know, business

01:00:46.250 --> 01:00:48.510
is open. Like if you want to want to come in

01:00:48.510 --> 01:00:51.489
and you want to grab the dog, like it's here.

01:00:52.829 --> 01:00:55.690
Like there's no silly shorts or jeans in the

01:00:55.690 --> 01:00:59.889
way. So, yeah. So I would say in your bag, for

01:00:59.889 --> 01:01:04.250
sure, bring changes, if not more than one, like

01:01:04.250 --> 01:01:08.269
at least a change of clothes to dress into later.

01:01:10.000 --> 01:01:13.980
So that's kind of like the overall backpack backpack

01:01:13.980 --> 01:01:17.840
backpack That we we carry around but inside that

01:01:17.840 --> 01:01:22.420
backpack is another bag and That is our sex bag

01:01:22.420 --> 01:01:28.380
Guess what's in our sex bag? Sex vibrator we

01:01:28.380 --> 01:01:31.579
have typically I carry at least two variations

01:01:31.579 --> 01:01:36.639
of vibrators and then I have a big Master massager

01:01:36.639 --> 01:01:38.639
that goes in the backpack itself because it's

01:01:38.639 --> 01:01:42.480
like 18 inches long That's the one with like

01:01:42.480 --> 01:01:44.960
a super big battery and yeah the wand they call

01:01:44.960 --> 01:01:50.199
it yeah so in our personal bag we have condoms

01:01:50.199 --> 01:01:56.420
obviously obviously lube lube us personally our

01:01:56.420 --> 01:02:01.139
favorite lube is coconut oil The thing about

01:02:01.139 --> 01:02:07.250
coconut oil is it is oil so not all Condoms are

01:02:07.250 --> 01:02:10.010
good with it in the sense that if you use like

01:02:10.010 --> 01:02:12.710
a certain brands and certain material, it can

01:02:12.710 --> 01:02:15.190
ultimately be broken down by the oil and the

01:02:15.190 --> 01:02:18.389
coconut oil. So we like to use, uh, I think it's

01:02:18.389 --> 01:02:21.889
a Trojan nitrile condom because it is like rated

01:02:21.889 --> 01:02:25.630
for oil. So that's what we use personally, but

01:02:25.630 --> 01:02:28.590
everybody, you know, has, uh, uh, what's that

01:02:28.590 --> 01:02:32.900
other lube? The starts with an E easy. X, X,

01:02:32.900 --> 01:02:37.420
X, no. K, Y? K, Y, K, Y. Like I saw it in my

01:02:37.420 --> 01:02:41.440
head. K, not a E. Not even close. I saw it in

01:02:41.440 --> 01:02:43.980
my head. Consonant, not a vowel. And then there's

01:02:43.980 --> 01:02:48.539
uber, uber lube. I think that's a water -based

01:02:48.539 --> 01:02:51.980
one. And then there's another one that we have

01:02:51.980 --> 01:02:55.559
from Promescent. That's an aloe -based one. That

01:02:55.559 --> 01:02:58.659
was a pretty good one. But the thing about all

01:02:58.659 --> 01:03:02.440
these other lubes personally is They get tacky.

01:03:02.539 --> 01:03:06.960
They get sticky. Yeah. Coconut oil is freaking,

01:03:07.280 --> 01:03:10.019
it's just, it's slick. Coconut oil is nice for

01:03:10.019 --> 01:03:12.480
like hand jobs, blow jobs. You can put it in

01:03:12.480 --> 01:03:15.559
your mouth. Um, whereas the other lube's not

01:03:15.559 --> 01:03:18.099
great for those, but obviously if you're having

01:03:18.099 --> 01:03:20.539
sex with a condom, I feel like any of the lubes

01:03:20.539 --> 01:03:23.079
kind of work. Yeah, for sure. But biggest thing

01:03:23.079 --> 01:03:26.400
is just make sure you personally are using the,

01:03:26.400 --> 01:03:29.960
uh, condom that is, you know, Rated for whatever

01:03:29.960 --> 01:03:32.480
type of lube you are exactly because if you've

01:03:32.480 --> 01:03:35.139
used the wrong one It doesn't like break it in

01:03:35.139 --> 01:03:38.059
like two seconds, but it can break it down over

01:03:38.059 --> 01:03:41.820
a period of time a bigger risk so Coconut oil

01:03:41.820 --> 01:03:45.820
lube and then we vibrators and we have I do carry

01:03:45.820 --> 01:03:51.139
some wipes coconut wipes Like hygiene ones hygiene.

01:03:51.139 --> 01:03:53.780
Yeah, like if you want to wipe down after yes

01:03:53.780 --> 01:03:57.260
or whatever If you want to spit your gum out,

01:03:57.360 --> 01:04:02.460
you know, stuff like that. I personally, I like

01:04:02.460 --> 01:04:05.099
to carry a couple and assorted sizes of cock

01:04:05.099 --> 01:04:10.300
rings. Cause cock rings are fantastic in my opinion.

01:04:12.019 --> 01:04:15.480
Cause just like a lot of other guys that have

01:04:15.480 --> 01:04:18.219
issues with condoms, like you can be hard as

01:04:18.219 --> 01:04:21.679
a rock, but that That you know 15 20 seconds

01:04:21.679 --> 01:04:23.760
it takes for you to grab that condom wrapper

01:04:23.760 --> 01:04:26.800
unwrap it Figure out which way it goes on because

01:04:26.800 --> 01:04:28.420
there's two ways and you're always gonna pick

01:04:28.420 --> 01:04:30.840
the wrong way And you're fucking fumbling with

01:04:30.840 --> 01:04:32.900
that condom and by the time it you got a fucking,

01:04:33.079 --> 01:04:35.500
you know a spaghetti noodle in your hand I love

01:04:35.500 --> 01:04:38.039
that cock ring because I can get nice and hard

01:04:38.039 --> 01:04:40.980
Without the condom put that cock ring on and

01:04:40.980 --> 01:04:43.039
then it gives you you know All the time you need

01:04:43.039 --> 01:04:45.659
to get that condom on and then once you're doing

01:04:45.659 --> 01:04:49.539
your thing then it's all good. So I personally

01:04:49.539 --> 01:04:53.619
have quite a few in my bog. What's in your bog,

01:04:53.860 --> 01:04:57.440
baby? Along with ED medicine, I use Bluetooth.

01:04:58.659 --> 01:05:03.559
So that's my go -to. And then of course we have

01:05:03.559 --> 01:05:07.500
Gluck Gluck 2000. It's a hair tie. Hair tie.

01:05:11.280 --> 01:05:15.179
And then it's not in our sex bag necessarily,

01:05:15.239 --> 01:05:18.219
but in our backpack, we like to carry gum. Yeah,

01:05:18.219 --> 01:05:20.880
so there's two different bags. Let me break break

01:05:20.880 --> 01:05:25.139
it down There's a big bag like the backpack and

01:05:25.139 --> 01:05:27.739
then there's a smaller bag, which is like more

01:05:27.739 --> 01:05:30.280
purse size Which you can carry into a playroom.

01:05:30.320 --> 01:05:32.519
Yeah, so you're not hauling a backpack into a

01:05:32.519 --> 01:05:35.619
playroom. You're just taking your little bag

01:05:35.619 --> 01:05:37.880
that has just your, which is all the things you

01:05:37.880 --> 01:05:40.579
just named in it. Um, you know, the, like the

01:05:40.579 --> 01:05:42.679
things you're going to probably need immediately.

01:05:42.679 --> 01:05:45.179
Yes. During you don't need your change of clothes

01:05:45.179 --> 01:05:47.300
necessarily if you're running into a room. Yeah,

01:05:47.360 --> 01:05:52.539
exactly. So, uh, there's two bags, essentially

01:05:52.539 --> 01:05:54.739
a bag with a bag, but yeah. So the one you just

01:05:54.739 --> 01:05:56.260
described is the one we would take into like

01:05:56.260 --> 01:05:59.260
a playroom. The bigger bag we would take to a

01:05:59.260 --> 01:06:02.360
party would probably carry our liquor in it,

01:06:02.800 --> 01:06:04.820
our - Liquor, change of clothes. Change of clothes.

01:06:05.840 --> 01:06:12.800
It would have things like Advil. Yes. Toms. Peptobismal,

01:06:13.380 --> 01:06:15.679
because the worst thing you can get is get, because

01:06:15.679 --> 01:06:18.760
a lot of times if you're going to a party, you

01:06:18.760 --> 01:06:20.760
know, you might be nervous. And what's the very

01:06:20.760 --> 01:06:22.420
first thing that typically happens when you're

01:06:22.420 --> 01:06:25.199
nervous? Your stomach starts to rumble, right?

01:06:25.199 --> 01:06:27.380
Yeah, or you get nauseous. You get the poopies.

01:06:27.579 --> 01:06:30.860
I would hope you wouldn't do that. before you

01:06:30.860 --> 01:06:34.880
would go into a playroom. So no, I carry Pepto.

01:06:35.400 --> 01:06:37.159
I haven't really had to use it, but you never

01:06:37.159 --> 01:06:39.000
know. You go out to dinner before and then you

01:06:39.000 --> 01:06:40.679
just, your stomach a little rumbly and that's

01:06:40.679 --> 01:06:42.920
the least sexy you can feel when your stomach's

01:06:42.920 --> 01:06:45.099
bothering you. Yeah. So carry a little Pepto.

01:06:45.780 --> 01:06:49.880
Tums, if you get heartburn, Advil. What else

01:06:49.880 --> 01:06:52.019
have we had? Do we have it there? Gum, like you

01:06:52.019 --> 01:06:57.400
said. What else? I'm trying to think. A lot of

01:06:57.400 --> 01:07:00.869
places. It's right there. the bag but i think

01:07:00.869 --> 01:07:03.230
you emptied it out for him when we went out yeah

01:07:03.230 --> 01:07:05.949
thanksgiving it definitely goes through inventory

01:07:05.949 --> 01:07:10.750
changes oh permission pasties i bring pasties

01:07:10.750 --> 01:07:15.289
a lot because some places uh we like i said i

01:07:15.289 --> 01:07:17.050
tend to be the one getting topless but there

01:07:17.050 --> 01:07:20.010
are some places where they want you to cover

01:07:20.010 --> 01:07:23.269
your nipples so if i take my top off then i'll

01:07:23.269 --> 01:07:28.769
have pasties uh what else is in that bag I think

01:07:28.769 --> 01:07:31.969
that covers the primary a towel a towel. Yeah,

01:07:31.969 --> 01:07:35.110
a lot of places you'll a lot of places have showers,

01:07:35.110 --> 01:07:37.710
but they won't provide you towels so or if you're

01:07:37.710 --> 01:07:39.429
playing somewhere and you want to put a towel

01:07:39.429 --> 01:07:42.829
down so that you're not if there's like You know

01:07:42.829 --> 01:07:44.710
if you're a squirt or bring your squirt blanket.

01:07:44.949 --> 01:07:48.670
Yeah Yeah, you should do that. That's common

01:07:48.670 --> 01:07:55.730
courtesy Yes You never know yeah So I think like

01:07:55.730 --> 01:07:59.469
you said hygiene wipes, yeah In case there's

01:07:59.469 --> 01:08:02.670
not a shower and you want to clean up between

01:08:02.670 --> 01:08:04.989
Partners or just when you're done or whatever

01:08:04.989 --> 01:08:07.969
You know a lot of people actually also carry

01:08:07.969 --> 01:08:11.650
like a toothbrush toothpaste. Yeah I've never

01:08:11.650 --> 01:08:14.130
I've never thought about that. Yeah, a lot of

01:08:14.130 --> 01:08:16.630
places you go actually have mouthwash in the

01:08:16.630 --> 01:08:20.949
bath. Yeah mouth. Yeah so Yeah, I think that

01:08:20.949 --> 01:08:23.409
kind of covers like I figure the alcohol kills

01:08:23.409 --> 01:08:29.630
everything. I was kidding. That's the hope I

01:08:29.630 --> 01:08:32.069
think that pretty much covers what's in our bag.

01:08:32.069 --> 01:08:34.029
I mean, it's gonna it's gonna change I bring

01:08:34.029 --> 01:08:38.630
lip gloss Lip sense. Yep, whatever you I guess

01:08:38.630 --> 01:08:45.289
need to refresh. Yes lip gloss Leave your dignity

01:08:45.289 --> 01:08:47.810
at home. Yeah, women could bring makeup. I don't

01:08:47.810 --> 01:08:51.449
bring makeup. Oh Tampons. Oh, yeah tampons. You

01:08:51.449 --> 01:08:54.350
never know. You never know cuz one thing we've

01:08:54.239 --> 01:08:56.439
scene is like you can be fine and then we'll

01:08:56.439 --> 01:08:58.439
go to pound town for an hour and all of a sudden

01:08:58.439 --> 01:09:02.260
you've started your period yeah so and if not

01:09:02.260 --> 01:09:06.000
you one of your friends right so it's always

01:09:06.000 --> 01:09:09.060
good to to you know carry some in your bag and

01:09:09.060 --> 01:09:12.239
then you know you can be the the hero for someone

01:09:12.239 --> 01:09:17.300
else or for your own wife and uh also i heard

01:09:17.300 --> 01:09:19.119
they're really good with bullet wounds like you

01:09:19.119 --> 01:09:21.300
can stuff it inside just like that who's getting

01:09:21.300 --> 01:09:25.050
shot Hopefully nobody but you never know What

01:09:25.050 --> 01:09:27.350
are you playing? What parties are you going to?

01:09:27.890 --> 01:09:34.010
This is wild I'll take you back to my hood So

01:09:34.010 --> 01:09:37.250
I think that that I think that's gonna wrap up

01:09:37.250 --> 01:09:40.050
this this episode, I think we finished up our

01:09:40.050 --> 01:09:44.050
part three So now newbies know all the things

01:09:44.050 --> 01:09:46.850
they need to know they're ready to go out into

01:09:46.850 --> 01:09:50.489
the world with their backpack backpack Mean we

01:09:50.489 --> 01:09:55.850
can only guide him for so far But we we got a

01:09:55.850 --> 01:09:58.069
couple of parties now we've gone to we got to

01:09:58.069 --> 01:10:01.829
talk about and This come in Friday the the fifth

01:10:01.829 --> 01:10:06.109
right fifth or sixth fifth fifth My band is gonna

01:10:06.109 --> 01:10:08.970
be playing again at the Cove in Murrieta and

01:10:08.970 --> 01:10:11.329
we're doing a sweet side of life meet -and -greet

01:10:11.329 --> 01:10:13.770
We we know a lot of you guys are already signed

01:10:13.770 --> 01:10:17.229
up for that, but you can find it on Cassidy comm

01:10:17.560 --> 01:10:19.800
If you go into the party section, we're on the

01:10:19.800 --> 01:10:22.279
fifth, or you can just search the sweet side

01:10:22.279 --> 01:10:23.720
of life. Apparently it was emailed to everybody

01:10:23.720 --> 01:10:28.779
10 ,000 times today. Yes. Yeah, Cassidy just

01:10:28.779 --> 01:10:33.260
over did a server exchange or overhaul or something

01:10:33.260 --> 01:10:36.460
and it got all buggy and it sent like my invite

01:10:36.460 --> 01:10:38.960
like 10 times to people and people were messaging

01:10:38.960 --> 01:10:41.800
me all angry. I'm like, it's not me. It wasn't

01:10:41.800 --> 01:10:43.600
me. They won't even let you do that even if you

01:10:43.600 --> 01:10:46.210
wanted to. No. Yeah, Cassidy has like governors

01:10:46.210 --> 01:10:49.489
on when you can send and how many times like

01:10:49.489 --> 01:10:52.130
six or seven days like You have to wait between

01:10:52.130 --> 01:10:54.390
so you basically you're not allowed to spam people

01:10:54.390 --> 01:10:56.510
which is you know makes sense But they did it

01:10:56.510 --> 01:11:00.170
for us. Yeah, so People are like, yeah, we get

01:11:00.170 --> 01:11:01.850
it. We get it. You're doing this fucking party.

01:11:01.850 --> 01:11:06.109
Got it dick But um, so yeah, I think we're gonna

01:11:06.109 --> 01:11:11.989
be done with this episode Part three Is over

01:11:11.989 --> 01:11:14.189
if anyone's listening and they want to invite

01:11:14.189 --> 01:11:19.130
us to a Resort if you own a resort and you want

01:11:19.130 --> 01:11:21.850
to pay for us to come and then give you a review

01:11:21.850 --> 01:11:25.489
We'll be happy to do that a cruise Happy to also

01:11:25.489 --> 01:11:27.569
do that. If you happen to be the owner of this

01:11:27.569 --> 01:11:29.270
cruise. If you happen to be the owner of Bliss

01:11:29.270 --> 01:11:31.590
and you're listening and you want us to come

01:11:31.590 --> 01:11:33.850
review your cruise. You want a review from us.

01:11:33.949 --> 01:11:36.970
If you're starting up a new lifestyle cruise

01:11:36.970 --> 01:11:39.270
and you want some people to promote and review.

01:11:39.270 --> 01:11:42.869
Hell, if you own a boat. If you own a boat and

01:11:42.869 --> 01:11:44.270
you would like us. You want to take us fishing.

01:11:45.329 --> 01:11:47.850
Hit us up. We'll review it. As long as your boat

01:11:47.850 --> 01:11:52.489
has a cool name. Oh, boy. We're reaching. We

01:11:52.489 --> 01:11:55.810
accept free vacation. Oh, one thing I forgot.

01:11:57.409 --> 01:12:01.449
One thing, going into, it's December 3rd right

01:12:01.449 --> 01:12:09.609
now. 2025 is almost over. 2026, 2026. 2026? 2026

01:12:09.609 --> 01:12:12.970
is the year of the sweets. We are going to go

01:12:12.970 --> 01:12:15.930
big or go home. We'll probably end up going home.

01:12:16.189 --> 01:12:20.100
What? I would like to make some, some changes

01:12:20.100 --> 01:12:22.420
going into 2026. I'm going to get a new cohost.

01:12:22.460 --> 01:12:25.960
Oh, that sounds good. Yes. Just speaking like

01:12:25.960 --> 01:12:32.520
a Spanish accent. Hola. No, I want to, um, I

01:12:32.520 --> 01:12:35.420
want to try to do some, I would like to do some

01:12:35.420 --> 01:12:39.720
more interviews, like over Skype, zoom, FaceTime,

01:12:39.859 --> 01:12:43.239
whatever it is. So I would love to hear stories

01:12:43.239 --> 01:12:46.720
of some of our listeners. So if you guys. If

01:12:46.720 --> 01:12:49.260
you're new or you're in their lifestyle for a

01:12:49.260 --> 01:12:51.680
while and you have an interesting story you'd

01:12:51.680 --> 01:12:55.420
like to share or anything like that, send us

01:12:55.420 --> 01:12:57.939
a message on our sex line, which if you listen

01:12:57.939 --> 01:13:00.520
to the commercials about 35 minutes ago, you

01:13:00.520 --> 01:13:03.319
would have heard it. The only stipulation is

01:13:03.319 --> 01:13:07.180
this. A, it needs to be interesting, which is,

01:13:07.399 --> 01:13:11.529
I'm sure it is. B, you have to be willing to

01:13:11.529 --> 01:13:16.210
do with this interview on our timeline. So it

01:13:16.210 --> 01:13:19.430
could be like a Wednesday or Thursday night at,

01:13:19.430 --> 01:13:23.130
you know, 10 o 'clock PM Pacific time. Yeah.

01:13:23.130 --> 01:13:25.189
So they're going to be at Eastern time in the

01:13:25.189 --> 01:13:27.789
fricking middle of the morning. So if you're

01:13:27.789 --> 01:13:31.149
okay with having a Thursday night, 1am phone

01:13:31.149 --> 01:13:34.050
interview with us, we'd love to talk to you.

01:13:34.130 --> 01:13:36.569
Or if you're West coast and you're, you stay

01:13:36.569 --> 01:13:38.979
up that late, we'd love to talk to you. So Yeah,

01:13:38.979 --> 01:13:41.939
just send us a drop us a note and we'd love to

01:13:41.939 --> 01:13:45.779
hear you and see you maybe We'll see maybe we

01:13:45.779 --> 01:13:50.939
can do a topless facetime The ideas are going

01:13:50.939 --> 01:13:54.460
are you getting topless nobody wants to see that

01:13:54.460 --> 01:13:57.220
Alright guys, I think we're done here. Alright,

01:13:57.220 --> 01:13:58.800
it's starting to get a little ridiculous now.

01:13:58.800 --> 01:14:00.819
It's getting weird now. It's getting very weird

01:14:00.819 --> 01:14:03.319
When enjoying the sweet side of life keep your

01:14:03.319 --> 01:14:05.939
pineapples upside down believe in unicorns and

01:14:05.939 --> 01:14:08.880
keep shaking it up Love you, baby. I love you

01:14:08.880 --> 01:14:16.000
too If you would like to get in contact with

01:14:16.000 --> 01:14:18.720
us, please email us at the sweet side of life

01:14:18.720 --> 01:14:22.680
podcast at outlook .com Or you can always find

01:14:22.680 --> 01:14:24.760
us on any one of our socials that are listed

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in the podcast links