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So tonight, our goal 00:01:03.270 --> 00:01:10.349 is to get back into part two, part two of our 00:01:10.349 --> 00:01:15.569 kind of intro to the LS episodes that we started 00:01:15.569 --> 00:01:18.469 a couple weeks ago, actually about a month now. 00:01:19.390 --> 00:01:22.569 Really? That long? Yeah, because We did the first 00:01:22.569 --> 00:01:24.890 episode and then we did the hidden the streets 00:01:24.890 --> 00:01:27.430 hidden the streets with the sweets hitting the 00:01:27.430 --> 00:01:31.689 streets in this That's my Florida where we didn't 00:01:31.689 --> 00:01:34.310 hide them. We're not they're not hidden We're 00:01:34.310 --> 00:01:38.109 hiding the streets from the sweets So we yeah, 00:01:38.150 --> 00:01:40.189 we did that so it's actually that's probably 00:01:40.189 --> 00:01:44.230 a little bit less than a month, but So I have 00:01:44.230 --> 00:01:46.870 a I have I have I have a bone to pick with you 00:01:46.870 --> 00:01:51.599 the fuck I didn't do anything. Um, I think we 00:01:51.599 --> 00:01:55.700 should When we do our hidden the streets with 00:01:55.700 --> 00:01:59.159 the sweets hitting the streets with the sweets 00:01:59.159 --> 00:02:04.400 Hit in the streets Hit in my wife with a bat 00:02:04.400 --> 00:02:09.159 I think we should keep those to 15 minute episodes. 00:02:09.580 --> 00:02:12.520 Yeah, I feel like our recap was too long It was 00:02:12.520 --> 00:02:14.699 too long and the quality is not great. Yeah, 00:02:14.699 --> 00:02:18.699 I think it was a good show and I think it was 00:02:18.879 --> 00:02:23.419 wasted on Background noise. Yeah, because we 00:02:23.419 --> 00:02:25.939 were told by one of our friends and she was like, 00:02:26.080 --> 00:02:27.599 yeah It's really hard to listen to those and 00:02:27.599 --> 00:02:29.659 I completely understand it was never intended 00:02:29.659 --> 00:02:34.060 on being Like a full -fledged full format show. 00:02:34.419 --> 00:02:37.919 Yeah But it it worked out that day because we 00:02:37.919 --> 00:02:39.680 were talking about like it's it's good to try 00:02:39.680 --> 00:02:42.520 to recap the party events like sooner than Right 00:02:42.520 --> 00:02:44.280 after you've had them. Otherwise, we forget like 00:02:44.280 --> 00:02:47.379 a bazillion things and we still miss stuff. We 00:02:47.379 --> 00:02:51.689 did But ultimately, I think we should probably 00:02:51.689 --> 00:02:55.250 just try to maybe just take notes or something 00:02:55.250 --> 00:02:58.770 and then save it for a normal format in studio 00:02:58.770 --> 00:03:01.150 show. Yeah. Because those are supposed to be 00:03:01.150 --> 00:03:03.789 like quick hitters. Do our own voice memos just 00:03:03.789 --> 00:03:07.129 of the highlights. Exactly. But you live and 00:03:07.129 --> 00:03:09.750 you learn. And you know, we're only on episode, 00:03:09.750 --> 00:03:12.569 I think 60 something. So you learn new lessons 00:03:12.569 --> 00:03:16.060 every day. So before we go any further. We're 00:03:16.060 --> 00:03:20.300 gonna get into our drink of the night I will 00:03:20.300 --> 00:03:25.539 go first cuz I am very special so vodka Sprite 00:03:25.539 --> 00:03:30.439 You're a basic bitch I didn't have it in me tonight 00:03:30.439 --> 00:03:33.800 to go crazy I went crazy you did you ate a very 00:03:33.800 --> 00:03:37.719 very delicious drink. Yeah. Well, I was inspired 00:03:37.719 --> 00:03:43.460 by Facebook Inspiration my inspiration was from 00:03:43.460 --> 00:03:49.090 Facebook So mine is a peanut butter martini. 00:03:49.889 --> 00:03:54.430 So it's two ounces of, I use whipped cream vodka, 00:03:54.669 --> 00:03:56.389 but that's because we didn't have vanilla vodka. 00:03:56.909 --> 00:04:01.870 And then one and a half ounces of Baileys and 00:04:01.870 --> 00:04:08.810 then an ounce of peanut butter, which I use chunky 00:04:08.810 --> 00:04:11.870 peanut butter. And I thought that might. Be a 00:04:11.870 --> 00:04:14.069 problem, but because it was all in a shaker and 00:04:14.069 --> 00:04:16.610 I strained it. It actually didn't become an issue 00:04:16.610 --> 00:04:18.569 So it was good took the chunks out Yeah, and 00:04:18.569 --> 00:04:21.029 then I garnished it since it's you know, just 00:04:21.029 --> 00:04:22.949 past Halloween and we had a lot of Halloween 00:04:22.949 --> 00:04:26.990 candy I garnished it with a Reese's peanut butter 00:04:26.990 --> 00:04:29.389 cup and it was delicious, right? It was delicious. 00:04:29.389 --> 00:04:31.610 It is delicious. This drink will be featured 00:04:31.610 --> 00:04:36.189 on the Main photo of our podcast since it was 00:04:36.189 --> 00:04:38.410 so pretty we took a picture of it. So pretty 00:04:39.300 --> 00:04:43.980 So a couple of things before we get into number 00:04:43.980 --> 00:04:49.980 two, part two. First and foremost, I wanna congratulate 00:04:49.980 --> 00:04:53.220 Swinger's Couch Podcast for getting back on the 00:04:53.220 --> 00:04:57.879 air. They had to, they took a little break, mainly 00:04:57.879 --> 00:05:01.040 for mental health reasons and he just needed 00:05:01.040 --> 00:05:03.680 to take care of himself and they've since released 00:05:03.680 --> 00:05:06.660 two podcasts and it's good to hear them back 00:05:06.660 --> 00:05:10.759 on the air. Welcome back. Welcome back. And they 00:05:10.759 --> 00:05:14.399 actually thanked you personally for their, for 00:05:14.399 --> 00:05:17.920 his birthday, happy birthday, birthday photo. 00:05:18.540 --> 00:05:22.000 Well, you're welcome. You're very welcome. I 00:05:22.000 --> 00:05:26.920 live to please. So I will say, we celebrated 00:05:26.920 --> 00:05:31.319 my birthday on the podcast, last, last podcast. 00:05:32.220 --> 00:05:36.040 I did not receive any birthday boobies. No? No. 00:05:36.220 --> 00:05:38.660 That's sad. Yeah, I'm not really sure what happened. 00:05:38.660 --> 00:05:41.600 Maybe people just didn't hear it. Maybe there's 00:05:41.600 --> 00:05:44.819 a malfunction I don't know the texting function 00:05:44.819 --> 00:05:48.860 Google must have been broken. I don't know So 00:05:48.860 --> 00:05:52.060 I fully expect everybody belated birthday. Yeah, 00:05:52.060 --> 00:05:56.959 I belated birthday boobies be be be just as good 00:05:59.629 --> 00:06:03.089 I accept everybody's apologies And I'll expect 00:06:03.089 --> 00:06:05.410 those photos. So here in a little bit. I'll play 00:06:05.410 --> 00:06:09.029 the the commercial that has our Sweetums sex 00:06:09.029 --> 00:06:11.370 line which you can send all your best photos 00:06:11.370 --> 00:06:14.430 to your best belated birthday boobies. Now we 00:06:14.430 --> 00:06:19.569 got four B's best belated birthday boobies bonanza 00:06:19.569 --> 00:06:25.290 five B's So we see oh really quick before you 00:06:25.290 --> 00:06:30.000 going any further Upcoming events November 14th. 00:06:30.000 --> 00:06:32.500 It's a Friday night. It's coming up here very 00:06:32.500 --> 00:06:37.279 soon We are doing another say less productions 00:06:37.279 --> 00:06:44.240 slash my band Get together party at a bar It's 00:06:44.240 --> 00:06:46.560 gonna be a great at a bar at a bar. It's not 00:06:46.560 --> 00:06:49.660 a full takeover. It is open to the public but 00:06:49.660 --> 00:06:51.939 Whenever we do our events there, you know, we 00:06:51.939 --> 00:06:56.899 probably 50 % 60 % easy And it's always a fun 00:06:56.899 --> 00:06:58.959 party. So we got another one coming up. It's 00:06:58.959 --> 00:07:01.019 always packed. If you're on Cassidy, you can 00:07:01.019 --> 00:07:03.120 just search it on parties and events. November 00:07:03.120 --> 00:07:05.920 14th. It's going to pop up. If you're not on 00:07:05.920 --> 00:07:08.480 Cassidy and you want more information, you can 00:07:08.480 --> 00:07:11.759 just text our Sweetums sex line and I can give 00:07:11.759 --> 00:07:15.160 you more information if you need it. It's going 00:07:15.160 --> 00:07:16.899 to be a great time. It always is got to get there 00:07:16.899 --> 00:07:20.600 early because it sells out. So That and then 00:07:20.600 --> 00:07:23.420 November 22nd, which is a following Saturday. 00:07:23.420 --> 00:07:27.420 We are going to be going to the San B. Day of 00:07:27.420 --> 00:07:33.639 the Dead. What is it? I think it's Dia Los Muertos. 00:07:34.300 --> 00:07:41.160 Muertos. La Bamba. But that what you just said 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:44.740 and Glow Party. Dia de los Muertos. Muertos? 00:07:45.139 --> 00:07:48.250 Something of that nature. Your Spanish is. Dead 00:07:48.250 --> 00:07:52.649 on it's so good. So it's so bueno. It's mucho 00:07:52.649 --> 00:07:58.709 bueno Should we oh, I think I want to do your 00:07:58.709 --> 00:08:00.889 cooking video I think I'm gonna put your cooking 00:08:00.889 --> 00:08:08.170 video audio. What? Yes. No, no, no Anyways We 00:08:08.170 --> 00:08:12.610 uh digress like a motherfucker So we got those 00:08:12.610 --> 00:08:14.269 two big parties. And of course, we're doing New 00:08:14.269 --> 00:08:16.750 Year's Eve the plush in San Diego, but that's 00:08:16.750 --> 00:08:18.129 still a little bit away. So we'll talk more about 00:08:18.129 --> 00:08:21.569 that a little bit. So let's get into part two. 00:08:21.709 --> 00:08:25.230 Get your notepad out, your handy dandy notebook. 00:08:25.610 --> 00:08:29.149 All right, so we finished off talking about, 00:08:29.649 --> 00:08:33.629 in my opinion and your opinion, the need for 00:08:33.629 --> 00:08:37.509 labels. Which we got yelled at by another friend, 00:08:37.570 --> 00:08:41.590 but I think she came around she didn't understand 00:08:41.590 --> 00:08:43.509 I think part of it and then her husband had told 00:08:43.509 --> 00:08:44.950 her something different and then it was this 00:08:44.950 --> 00:08:46.970 whole thing and she literally was like I have 00:08:46.970 --> 00:08:49.830 a bone to pick with you guys and I'm like lady 00:08:49.830 --> 00:08:53.169 But I think by the end yourself a podcast if 00:08:53.169 --> 00:08:57.750 you want to be But I think by the end of the 00:08:57.750 --> 00:09:00.730 clarification I think she more understood where 00:09:00.730 --> 00:09:04.750 yeah, so and And even though he he still doesn't 00:09:04.750 --> 00:09:07.409 like labels, I think I think he started to come 00:09:07.409 --> 00:09:10.750 around understanding that maybe he's a difficult 00:09:10.750 --> 00:09:13.529 one. There are so many dynamics out there. It's 00:09:13.529 --> 00:09:15.909 it's really hard to go into any type. I hate 00:09:15.909 --> 00:09:18.830 labels like I don't like labels. But like people, 00:09:19.090 --> 00:09:23.590 for instance, labels put me in a box a lot because 00:09:23.590 --> 00:09:27.230 women will be like, oh, she's not by she's not 00:09:27.230 --> 00:09:30.070 this or what is curious me. And it's like somehow 00:09:30.070 --> 00:09:33.860 I have to label the fact that I go with the flow 00:09:33.860 --> 00:09:37.759 in a lot of situations and I enjoy women to an 00:09:37.759 --> 00:09:41.759 extent but it's not like I'm like seeking that 00:09:41.759 --> 00:09:44.440 but at the same like it's just I don't know but 00:09:44.440 --> 00:09:47.399 you can't label it but I mean you kind of have 00:09:47.399 --> 00:09:50.659 to in some places but it's also gotten me in 00:09:50.659 --> 00:09:53.710 situations where people are like, oh, I don't 00:09:53.710 --> 00:09:56.450 know what to do with her because she's just by 00:09:56.450 --> 00:09:58.889 curious or by comfortable or whatever. Yeah. 00:09:58.889 --> 00:10:01.750 And I'm like, or whatever I say, whatever our 00:10:01.750 --> 00:10:04.549 profile says by comfortable or whatever it says, 00:10:05.230 --> 00:10:07.669 it's like, well, what does that mean? Is it just 00:10:07.669 --> 00:10:09.809 mean that you're OK with other people being by? 00:10:09.950 --> 00:10:11.789 Are you OK with like, you know what I mean? Like 00:10:11.789 --> 00:10:13.470 and it can mean a lot of different things. Yeah, 00:10:13.529 --> 00:10:17.690 for sure. So like I've I've seen some profiles 00:10:17.690 --> 00:10:21.799 where I'll look at. I'll look at the couple and 00:10:21.799 --> 00:10:23.759 I'm like, they're an attractive couple. But then 00:10:23.759 --> 00:10:27.000 as I read the profile, it literally says, you 00:10:27.000 --> 00:10:30.299 know, the woman half of your must be fully bi. 00:10:30.639 --> 00:10:32.919 Yeah. And that just for me, I scratched that. 00:10:32.960 --> 00:10:35.299 Yeah. Because I know you don't want that type 00:10:35.299 --> 00:10:38.019 of pressure. No, because I don't want any pressure. 00:10:39.179 --> 00:10:42.779 I mean, pressure does make diamonds, but it does. 00:10:42.940 --> 00:10:48.629 I'm not cool. You aren't. So. It is good to have 00:10:48.629 --> 00:10:51.370 some level of you know understanding what you're 00:10:51.370 --> 00:10:56.629 getting into so that being said I Think our dynamic 00:10:56.629 --> 00:11:02.070 is shifting a bit. Is it I think so Because our 00:11:02.070 --> 00:11:05.990 dynamic has always been It's never been tit -for 00:11:05.990 --> 00:11:08.690 -tat. We talked about that last time. Yeah, I 00:11:08.690 --> 00:11:10.690 don't like that tit -for -tat thing We've never 00:11:10.690 --> 00:11:13.730 been tit -for -tat like sometimes things lean 00:11:13.730 --> 00:11:17.500 more towards one way or the other But something 00:11:17.500 --> 00:11:21.480 we've We've always we've always been same room, 00:11:21.480 --> 00:11:25.100 you know that that hasn't changed but I think 00:11:25.100 --> 00:11:28.200 we're starting to open up more into potential 00:11:28.200 --> 00:11:31.759 like single male type things type situations 00:11:31.759 --> 00:11:36.940 and You've had now a couple encounters with some 00:11:36.940 --> 00:11:42.340 dudes at bars and and like It's been fun Talking 00:11:42.340 --> 00:11:44.820 about an experiment with experiment and with 00:11:44.820 --> 00:11:48.220 it We haven't like fully done anything with it 00:11:48.220 --> 00:11:52.379 necessarily, but the thought is there And and 00:11:52.379 --> 00:11:54.159 like the other night what we talked about at 00:11:54.159 --> 00:11:58.259 Athena's Like some guy was in there without his 00:11:58.259 --> 00:12:02.580 woman. Yeah And I was totally on board and we 00:12:02.580 --> 00:12:05.460 jumped onto the bed and it was on its way to 00:12:05.460 --> 00:12:10.720 be an MFM But time wasn't allowing I know fucking 00:12:10.720 --> 00:12:14.220 time so for that situation like I personally 00:12:14.220 --> 00:12:17.179 was not gonna be getting anything with her hit 00:12:17.179 --> 00:12:20.000 you know so like it wasn't i would have made 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:21.519 sure you're all right yeah it would have been 00:12:21.519 --> 00:12:25.220 fine but i mean it's like it wasn't that was 00:12:25.220 --> 00:12:28.120 a very untit for tat situation like there was 00:12:28.120 --> 00:12:30.899 literally no chance of that because she was out 00:12:30.899 --> 00:12:33.820 somewhere else and i was fine with it yeah so 00:12:33.820 --> 00:12:36.159 i was like okay this you know and we've we've 00:12:36.159 --> 00:12:38.039 toyed with the idea like ultimately you want 00:12:38.039 --> 00:12:44.639 to be gang banged so i'm kind of like i'm I'm 00:12:44.639 --> 00:12:47.659 down for it, but I feel like, I feel like we 00:12:47.659 --> 00:12:51.779 need to have, you know, a few, a few MFMs under 00:12:51.779 --> 00:12:55.059 our belt before. You just literally were like, 00:12:55.120 --> 00:12:57.059 I mean, ultimately you want to be gang bae. So 00:12:57.059 --> 00:13:02.320 I mean, before we go MMMMMMMMMMF, I want to have 00:13:02.320 --> 00:13:05.120 a MFM in there somewhere, you know, a few of 00:13:05.120 --> 00:13:10.299 them just to kind of, you know, so. The only 00:13:10.299 --> 00:13:12.740 issue that we've had with is a couple of the 00:13:12.740 --> 00:13:17.080 guys that you have met at bars are not part of 00:13:17.080 --> 00:13:22.000 their lifestyle. And I'm not opposed to it, but 00:13:22.000 --> 00:13:26.179 it does concern me a little bit more. Just in 00:13:26.179 --> 00:13:29.679 a sense of they don't necessarily know the rules. 00:13:30.779 --> 00:13:33.460 And I'm not opposed to it, but I feel like there 00:13:33.460 --> 00:13:37.929 has to be a fairly lengthy conversation. If you 00:13:37.929 --> 00:13:42.409 get an LS single male, for the most part, it's 00:13:42.409 --> 00:13:45.690 not a perfect science, but they're gonna have 00:13:45.690 --> 00:13:50.549 a concept of, you're coming in, you're a prop, 00:13:51.149 --> 00:13:57.409 you're part of this equation, you're not a boyfriend. 00:13:57.710 --> 00:14:01.009 Yeah, don't get any emotional attachment. You 00:14:01.009 --> 00:14:04.250 meet someone at a bar that's vanilla. Right. 00:14:04.409 --> 00:14:06.929 there's you know, you have a great personality. 00:14:07.129 --> 00:14:11.169 So it's like, it could be that becomes more than 00:14:11.169 --> 00:14:13.309 that. Right. So you just have to be careful. 00:14:13.769 --> 00:14:17.009 And I understand that. So I don't I'm not concerned 00:14:17.009 --> 00:14:19.529 that you're gonna fall in love with some random 00:14:19.529 --> 00:14:23.769 from a bar. But he might fall in love with you. 00:14:23.990 --> 00:14:30.500 So chances are high. So I just feel like we've 00:14:30.500 --> 00:14:33.220 we've had a couple situations where like you've 00:14:33.220 --> 00:14:36.600 met some guy at a bar and and It's it hasn't 00:14:36.600 --> 00:14:38.879 gone any further than some kissin and it's been 00:14:38.879 --> 00:14:42.039 fun But yeah, it's like it's like the vanilla 00:14:42.039 --> 00:14:44.679 hunt and you know, it's like, yeah sounds fun 00:14:44.679 --> 00:14:47.860 Sounds fun in theory, but it can get messier. 00:14:47.860 --> 00:14:51.440 I mean anything Messy I just the potential is 00:14:51.440 --> 00:14:54.309 a little bit higher. Yeah, speaking of like putting 00:14:54.309 --> 00:14:55.909 labels on things or whatever they don't have 00:14:55.909 --> 00:14:58.750 any of that yeah kind of idea necessarily like 00:14:58.750 --> 00:15:04.070 for and then like for me like a guy at a bar 00:15:04.070 --> 00:15:06.490 picking up on you and bringing them home he's 00:15:06.490 --> 00:15:10.769 just be like like He just has to understand. 00:15:10.769 --> 00:15:14.009 It's not a cuck situation It's a it's a mutual 00:15:14.009 --> 00:15:16.730 like I'm sharing and I just feel like there has 00:15:16.730 --> 00:15:20.289 to be commerce more conversations and But ultimately, 00:15:20.470 --> 00:15:22.509 yeah, we'll see we'll see where the cards fall 00:15:22.509 --> 00:15:27.230 as they say So that's that's where I feel like 00:15:27.230 --> 00:15:30.149 there's been a shift and I opened up our profile 00:15:30.149 --> 00:15:33.809 two single males about two weeks ago and kind 00:15:33.809 --> 00:15:35.889 of kind of regretting that decision, because 00:15:35.889 --> 00:15:42.269 fuck, my God. There's some sleazebags out there. 00:15:42.990 --> 00:15:46.309 Oh my Lord, but yeah, every now and then I'm 00:15:46.309 --> 00:15:48.149 like, maybe I should close it again, because 00:15:48.149 --> 00:15:51.090 it just gets a little overwhelming. But ultimately, 00:15:52.129 --> 00:15:57.690 we do have one single male in the LS that we've 00:15:57.690 --> 00:15:59.769 talked to a little bit, but nothing's trans come 00:15:59.769 --> 00:16:04.440 out of it. You know who I'm talking about? He's 00:16:04.440 --> 00:16:08.259 a bird Mmm. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So 00:16:08.259 --> 00:16:10.179 nothing's really come out of that yet We've talked 00:16:10.179 --> 00:16:12.039 to him here and there and he's we've hung out 00:16:12.039 --> 00:16:14.399 with him a few occasions and seems like a cool 00:16:14.399 --> 00:16:15.860 dude You know, you never know down the road. 00:16:15.860 --> 00:16:20.320 No, he's nice. So That's speaking of dynamics 00:16:20.320 --> 00:16:23.659 Dynamics can and will change Oh for sure like 00:16:23.659 --> 00:16:26.240 you might start as one thing and then you might 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:29.700 flow into something else Yeah, and you just kind 00:16:29.700 --> 00:16:34.169 of have to be fluid They always say don't change 00:16:34.169 --> 00:16:38.850 your dynamic in them like the moment Who's they? 00:16:39.629 --> 00:16:44.149 everybody Everybody I mean, I think that's a 00:16:44.149 --> 00:16:46.149 solid answer especially future if you're drinking 00:16:46.149 --> 00:16:49.830 I think so if you're like don't change your rules 00:16:49.830 --> 00:16:53.129 like like if you're not a full -swap Couple going 00:16:53.129 --> 00:16:55.769 into a party and then you're in a bedroom. Yeah, 00:16:55.850 --> 00:17:00.500 it sounds like a good idea I I wouldn't recommend 00:17:00.500 --> 00:17:02.539 yeah, I mean do it do what you want to do I'm 00:17:02.539 --> 00:17:04.400 not here to tell you what to do or what not to 00:17:04.400 --> 00:17:07.940 do I'm just here to give you my clear like advice, 00:17:07.940 --> 00:17:10.400 but I would advise against it if you especially 00:17:10.400 --> 00:17:14.500 if you're drinking I Don't think we've ever changed 00:17:14.500 --> 00:17:18.700 our Have we I don't I don't feel like there's 00:17:18.700 --> 00:17:21.539 ever been a situation where we didn't kind of 00:17:21.539 --> 00:17:27.839 go into it There's been I think scenarios where 00:17:27.839 --> 00:17:32.339 things have kind of like of like You with single 00:17:32.339 --> 00:17:34.960 girls, which I'm not that's not my since I'm 00:17:34.960 --> 00:17:41.960 not I Don't love that part, you know, I'm not 00:17:41.960 --> 00:17:47.420 like oh I'm not girl forward. So I kind of need 00:17:47.420 --> 00:17:50.279 the four -way dynamic like to kind of flow into 00:17:50.279 --> 00:17:55.650 that so There's been scenarios where like single 00:17:55.650 --> 00:17:58.430 women have been introduced and I'm that's been 00:17:58.430 --> 00:18:02.609 uncomfortable that we've that's happened kind 00:18:02.609 --> 00:18:04.970 of Not like we didn't talk about it. Just started 00:18:04.970 --> 00:18:07.170 happening organically organically and then I 00:18:07.170 --> 00:18:11.470 was like, oh I don't love this and then it's 00:18:11.470 --> 00:18:15.809 caused sometimes a little bit of a riff but That 00:18:15.809 --> 00:18:18.210 wasn't intentional I don't think on anybody's 00:18:18.210 --> 00:18:21.049 part. No, that's very much kind of in the moment. 00:18:21.349 --> 00:18:25.180 Yeah But yeah, I don't think we've done anything 00:18:25.180 --> 00:18:29.579 like super major changes that have In that I 00:18:29.579 --> 00:18:31.299 could think of moment. I can't either think of 00:18:31.299 --> 00:18:34.579 anything. So you mentioned four -way connections 00:18:34.579 --> 00:18:39.910 What does that mean to you? You've got your phone 00:18:39.910 --> 00:18:42.650 out if we can see you got like your phone out. 00:18:42.750 --> 00:18:44.829 You're very like official right now Well, I'm 00:18:44.829 --> 00:18:47.410 I have I have just a shit ton of notes, but they're 00:18:47.410 --> 00:18:50.170 in no order Okay, so I'm trying to like like 00:18:50.170 --> 00:18:52.630 make sense of it as the flow of the conversation. 00:18:52.630 --> 00:18:55.269 Yeah, I get it I mean and again just so everybody 00:18:55.269 --> 00:18:57.529 knows I've not seen this list of notes that he 00:18:57.529 --> 00:18:59.990 has he's just throwing it at me as I guess the 00:18:59.990 --> 00:19:01.630 conversation is flowing but when you said four 00:19:01.630 --> 00:19:07.589 -way I'm like, all right, you're like Crossed 00:19:07.589 --> 00:19:12.230 that one off now and check Yeah, so I think some 00:19:12.230 --> 00:19:16.369 people have like a hard like like boxes and I 00:19:16.369 --> 00:19:18.450 think we've talked about this like boxes to check 00:19:18.450 --> 00:19:23.950 for things and I Don't really need to check like 00:19:23.950 --> 00:19:27.329 a shit ton of boxes just a few will work You 00:19:27.329 --> 00:19:29.329 know, like I just need a box. I'm not looking 00:19:29.329 --> 00:19:31.970 for my forever. I'm looking for my right now 00:19:31.970 --> 00:19:39.109 and my moments tear moment so I Do know that 00:19:39.109 --> 00:19:41.009 a lot of people struggle with four -way connections 00:19:41.009 --> 00:19:45.230 for me. It's more about like The biggest thing 00:19:45.230 --> 00:19:47.430 is personality. Like if you have a shitty personality, 00:19:47.509 --> 00:19:49.890 it's not gonna happen. I don't care what you 00:19:49.890 --> 00:19:53.170 look like Literally, I can't so I guess that's 00:19:53.170 --> 00:19:55.269 my biggest thing for a let's call it a four -way 00:19:55.269 --> 00:19:58.470 connection like if the two people Have shitty 00:19:58.470 --> 00:20:00.670 personalities or one of the two people have shitty 00:20:00.670 --> 00:20:02.730 personalities i'm like it's a no for me because 00:20:02.730 --> 00:20:05.490 I can't If I can't banter with you if I can't 00:20:05.490 --> 00:20:08.789 talk to you if I can't If I can't like joke with 00:20:08.789 --> 00:20:12.750 you if we can't smile like Then it's a it's gonna 00:20:12.750 --> 00:20:15.069 be a no like I don't care. So I guess that's 00:20:15.069 --> 00:20:17.829 my biggest thing for four -way connection would 00:20:17.829 --> 00:20:22.250 be I need to be able to have a conversation with 00:20:22.250 --> 00:20:25.490 you and it not like totally Won't make me want 00:20:25.490 --> 00:20:28.349 to blow my brains out See, I prefer not to have 00:20:28.349 --> 00:20:32.069 a conversation with you. That's just my introvert. 00:20:32.470 --> 00:20:38.569 Yeah. So, yeah, I feel like I feel like we've 00:20:38.569 --> 00:20:41.609 been fairly successful in the work, you know, 00:20:41.650 --> 00:20:45.750 the four way connection. Yeah. And usually, like 00:20:45.750 --> 00:20:48.990 if I mean, we have not that we have similar personalities, 00:20:49.069 --> 00:20:52.069 but like we like similar things you and I and 00:20:52.069 --> 00:20:55.829 we tend to gravitate towards similar. Types of 00:20:55.829 --> 00:20:58.650 people. Yeah, so I don't think it's like when 00:20:58.650 --> 00:21:01.210 you're not really interested in somebody there's 00:21:01.210 --> 00:21:03.269 usually me I'm like I'm not really that interested 00:21:03.269 --> 00:21:06.470 in that person either or their partner or whatever 00:21:06.470 --> 00:21:11.490 it is and a lot of it has to do with That now 00:21:11.490 --> 00:21:15.849 we have had situations where you know one person 00:21:15.849 --> 00:21:20.529 as far as like looks can be completely a no for 00:21:20.529 --> 00:21:26.180 me and someone might be a yes for you, but I 00:21:26.180 --> 00:21:28.099 usually don't even get into the personality type 00:21:28.099 --> 00:21:31.519 at that point because I'm like I do need some 00:21:31.519 --> 00:21:34.660 sort of attraction But not like I'm not like 00:21:34.660 --> 00:21:37.880 looking for like, you know Checking all my you 00:21:37.880 --> 00:21:39.920 know, you have to be over six foot You have to 00:21:39.920 --> 00:21:42.079 you know what I mean? Like I don't have like 00:21:42.079 --> 00:21:45.500 yeah preferences, but it's not like yeah exactly 00:21:45.500 --> 00:21:49.759 like And you have to be you know this you know 00:21:49.759 --> 00:21:51.680 nationality or you have to be that you know, 00:21:51.720 --> 00:21:53.880 that's I definitely don't have those kind of 00:21:53.900 --> 00:21:58.720 Feel like I've done a decent job of pre -screening 00:21:58.720 --> 00:22:02.160 a lot of couples because we get hit up a lot 00:22:02.160 --> 00:22:06.420 on on the apps and I might be attracted to the 00:22:06.420 --> 00:22:10.220 woman But I see the guy and it's like I can tell 00:22:10.220 --> 00:22:12.660 like I don't sometimes your type just blows me 00:22:12.660 --> 00:22:15.259 away But for the most part I can tell there's 00:22:15.259 --> 00:22:17.539 someone like there's no way Yeah, and I don't 00:22:17.539 --> 00:22:20.220 even like bring it up to you. Yeah, I don't even 00:22:20.220 --> 00:22:24.009 like try to push that yeah And if there's somebody 00:22:24.009 --> 00:22:27.670 on like the edge, I always be like, come to a 00:22:27.670 --> 00:22:30.890 party. Yeah. And then maybe a personality will 00:22:30.890 --> 00:22:32.309 will grab. Yeah. And that's the other thing. 00:22:32.410 --> 00:22:35.210 It's like not all of it. I mean, because I don't 00:22:35.210 --> 00:22:37.529 really have a type like a guy who I'm like, oh, 00:22:37.650 --> 00:22:40.190 that is my type. You know, you have a type, but 00:22:40.190 --> 00:22:45.710 it's I've never really had a full type, but I 00:22:45.710 --> 00:22:49.730 please. Who's my type? What's my type? Jack Reacher. 00:22:50.210 --> 00:22:54.259 Oh, well. He's everybody's type. Come on. He 00:22:54.259 --> 00:22:57.880 might be my type. He's your type. But like, I 00:22:57.880 --> 00:22:59.420 mean, there's just I mean, there's people out 00:22:59.420 --> 00:23:01.279 there who are just gorgeous, right? Like, there's 00:23:01.279 --> 00:23:05.180 just good looking people. And then you just hope 00:23:05.180 --> 00:23:07.960 they have a good personality to go with it. Otherwise, 00:23:08.119 --> 00:23:12.740 it's like a total that's a no. But in general, 00:23:12.740 --> 00:23:15.779 I don't really have a type. So if you can, if 00:23:15.779 --> 00:23:19.180 you have a good personality, you can. a lot of 00:23:19.180 --> 00:23:22.319 times sway me if I've been like, if I'm like, 00:23:22.559 --> 00:23:26.019 oh, you know, you know, they're, oh, they're 00:23:26.019 --> 00:23:27.940 okay, you know, whatever, but then you can sway 00:23:27.940 --> 00:23:30.440 me for sure. I'm like, by the end of the night, 00:23:30.460 --> 00:23:33.380 I'm like, oh, I would not have expected that. 00:23:33.519 --> 00:23:37.539 Yeah. Because I mean, I do I am grab, I do gravitate 00:23:37.539 --> 00:23:39.920 towards like, people who are funny or outgoing 00:23:39.920 --> 00:23:45.140 or that's why you're with me or like you know 00:23:45.140 --> 00:23:47.960 just i don't know good personalities so if i 00:23:47.960 --> 00:23:50.119 can have a good time then that kind of can translate 00:23:50.119 --> 00:23:55.039 to the bedroom in my mind um and then you know 00:23:55.039 --> 00:23:58.880 it's all i don't know so i guess four -way connections 00:23:58.880 --> 00:24:01.460 i know a lot of people put a lot of emphasis 00:24:01.460 --> 00:24:04.380 on that i hear people like we've been doing this 00:24:04.380 --> 00:24:06.420 for years and we've never had a four -way i'm 00:24:06.420 --> 00:24:09.690 like Wow. Yeah. That sounds like a really hard 00:24:09.690 --> 00:24:12.809 couple to please. Yeah. So I mean, some people's 00:24:12.809 --> 00:24:16.049 standards might be higher as far as like they 00:24:16.049 --> 00:24:18.529 have a ton of boxes they want checked. And I 00:24:18.529 --> 00:24:20.990 mean, more power to you. It's just not how I've 00:24:20.990 --> 00:24:24.009 gone into this as far as like, again, I'm not 00:24:24.009 --> 00:24:26.109 looking for my forever. I'm looking for like 00:24:26.109 --> 00:24:29.369 a good time right now. And that can come in a 00:24:29.369 --> 00:24:32.970 lot of different boxes. Seems to be a lot of 00:24:32.970 --> 00:24:36.630 pressure. for the couples that have those really 00:24:36.630 --> 00:24:39.190 strict standards. And like you said, more power 00:24:39.190 --> 00:24:41.210 to you. You do whatever you need to do. But yeah, 00:24:41.269 --> 00:24:42.950 I mean, if that's what you want to do, that's 00:24:42.950 --> 00:24:44.829 what you want to do. I've just heard so many 00:24:44.829 --> 00:24:46.970 stories of people. They're always like, you know, 00:24:46.970 --> 00:24:50.490 we got out of the L .S. because, you know, we've 00:24:50.490 --> 00:24:52.349 been doing this for two, three years and we can 00:24:52.349 --> 00:24:55.369 never meet anybody. I'm just like, maybe just 00:24:55.369 --> 00:24:57.990 lose that pressure off. Yeah, take the pressure 00:24:57.990 --> 00:25:04.299 off, loosen up. And and I would say I would say 00:25:04.299 --> 00:25:06.220 it might be a lot of pressure to like start just 00:25:06.220 --> 00:25:08.799 getting to know people, you know, like don't 00:25:08.799 --> 00:25:11.059 necessarily go into I know we've always you know, 00:25:11.299 --> 00:25:13.319 one of our like one of your sayings was we're 00:25:13.319 --> 00:25:15.119 here for more for the hang than the bang and 00:25:15.119 --> 00:25:17.099 that's obviously shifted as well too because 00:25:17.099 --> 00:25:20.539 we've become much more active in that way, but 00:25:20.539 --> 00:25:23.240 The hang is still very much the hang is still 00:25:23.240 --> 00:25:25.200 very important and we still do a lot of things 00:25:25.200 --> 00:25:28.400 that don't end up in a bang and I think that 00:25:28.400 --> 00:25:31.910 people who I guess it just depends on how why 00:25:31.910 --> 00:25:34.630 you came into this. If you came into the L .S. 00:25:35.009 --> 00:25:38.089 to have more fun with your partner, to try new 00:25:38.089 --> 00:25:44.650 things, to experience new people, then maybe 00:25:44.650 --> 00:25:48.410 loosen up your your boundaries and just start 00:25:48.410 --> 00:25:50.309 to get to know people and then see where it goes 00:25:50.309 --> 00:25:52.950 from there. If you came into this just because 00:25:52.950 --> 00:25:56.170 you want to like fuck people who you find hot, 00:25:56.750 --> 00:26:00.309 then you're then do that, but you're probably 00:26:00.309 --> 00:26:02.529 gonna have a harder time finding four people 00:26:02.529 --> 00:26:05.069 that you find, that all four people find each 00:26:05.069 --> 00:26:09.869 other equally as hot, you know? So that kind 00:26:09.869 --> 00:26:12.950 of lends itself to this part of the conversation, 00:26:13.230 --> 00:26:15.430 taking one for the team. You hear that term all 00:26:15.430 --> 00:26:18.910 the time. Yeah. How do you feel about that? I 00:26:18.910 --> 00:26:20.789 don't think anybody should take one for the team. 00:26:20.990 --> 00:26:24.309 See, I feel different. Yeah. In a sense of... 00:26:24.650 --> 00:26:28.329 Not not that I expect you to well good cuz I'm 00:26:28.329 --> 00:26:35.309 not But for me it's you don't expressed you don't 00:26:35.309 --> 00:26:41.650 express Like interest in a guy a lot Yeah, like 00:26:41.650 --> 00:26:44.029 you like I like these people whatever happens 00:26:44.029 --> 00:26:47.109 happens, but there's I don't think anytime where 00:26:47.109 --> 00:26:50.759 you just been like wow this guy Yeah, oh my god 00:26:50.759 --> 00:26:53.660 So if we are in that situation where you're like, 00:26:53.720 --> 00:26:56.480 oh my god, and I'm looking and I'm not really 00:26:56.480 --> 00:26:59.279 personally into the wife Or the girlfriend or 00:26:59.279 --> 00:27:01.779 whatever. I would probably quote -unquote take 00:27:01.779 --> 00:27:05.000 one for the team. Mm -hmm like I would Because 00:27:05.000 --> 00:27:07.559 it's still gonna be fun, right? Like it's it's 00:27:07.559 --> 00:27:09.359 not it's not like miserable. I mean, she's not 00:27:09.359 --> 00:27:13.440 I assume she's not a ghoul But I mean like if 00:27:13.440 --> 00:27:16.000 if even if she didn't check off enough boxes, 00:27:16.180 --> 00:27:19.720 whatever I would probably still try to you know, 00:27:20.619 --> 00:27:23.039 put some effort into making it work, just because, 00:27:23.259 --> 00:27:26.359 like I said, you very rarely get excited about 00:27:26.359 --> 00:27:28.980 that. Yeah. So if you did, I would be like, all 00:27:28.980 --> 00:27:30.660 right, well, let me see what I can do. Yeah. 00:27:30.720 --> 00:27:32.680 Well, you need to call Reacher. But I think his 00:27:32.680 --> 00:27:35.779 wife's pretty hot, too, right? Yeah, I'm probably 00:27:35.779 --> 00:27:44.019 not her type, so. So let me call Reacher. I mean, 00:27:44.160 --> 00:27:47.000 as far as I, from what I understand, he's a pretty 00:27:47.000 --> 00:27:50.019 heavy Christians, so I don't, I don't. There's 00:27:50.019 --> 00:27:52.519 lots of Christians in the US. There are, there 00:27:52.519 --> 00:27:56.759 are, but it might be a uphill battle, but let 00:27:56.759 --> 00:28:00.539 me, I'll have my people call his people. So I 00:28:00.539 --> 00:28:05.059 think, so we talked about that, change of dynamics, 00:28:05.500 --> 00:28:08.960 four -way connections, taking one for the team. 00:28:09.220 --> 00:28:12.279 So I guess another, another thing you can figure 00:28:12.279 --> 00:28:17.289 out as you're getting into this is. If you are 00:28:17.289 --> 00:28:22.369 more of a date person Or if you enjoy meeting 00:28:22.369 --> 00:28:26.250 people more at a party or an event Yeah, we've 00:28:26.250 --> 00:28:29.410 tried both and we found that we are definitely 00:28:29.410 --> 00:28:34.009 much more of an event slash party because I think 00:28:34.009 --> 00:28:37.509 you go on a date and a there could be a level 00:28:37.509 --> 00:28:41.490 of expectations and I'm okay with going on dates 00:28:41.490 --> 00:28:44.309 that with people that we know. Yeah, but not 00:28:44.309 --> 00:28:47.839 necessarily to meet somebody I think the problem 00:28:47.839 --> 00:28:52.539 is there's with dating for us for me is like 00:28:52.539 --> 00:28:53.940 with going on dates with people we don't know 00:28:53.940 --> 00:28:59.579 one we've had issues where people have like for 00:28:59.579 --> 00:29:02.720 us to go out it we have things we have to put 00:29:02.720 --> 00:29:05.140 into place for us to be able to leave our house 00:29:05.140 --> 00:29:08.720 or whatever so we've done all that planning right 00:29:08.720 --> 00:29:12.240 and then the balls the person on the other side 00:29:12.240 --> 00:29:15.890 has something come up whether it's real or not, 00:29:15.890 --> 00:29:20.150 you know, oh, our sitter is whatever or this 00:29:20.150 --> 00:29:22.009 is whatever or whatever. We can't make it out 00:29:22.009 --> 00:29:26.089 or oh, you know, we need we had this, but we're 00:29:26.089 --> 00:29:29.490 in traffic or whatever the case may be. We have 00:29:29.490 --> 00:29:33.509 the few times we have set up dates and very few 00:29:33.509 --> 00:29:36.210 times, but a handful of times that's happened. 00:29:36.269 --> 00:29:39.029 Right. So then it's kind of like, OK, now we 00:29:39.029 --> 00:29:41.869 have to pivot. And then you're wondering. Did 00:29:41.869 --> 00:29:44.730 they really have something that happened? Or 00:29:44.730 --> 00:29:47.329 did they chicken out? Or are they uninterested? 00:29:47.569 --> 00:29:50.769 And that's just like, it just is kind of annoying 00:29:50.769 --> 00:29:53.289 and stressful a little bit. And it just takes 00:29:53.289 --> 00:29:57.349 the fun out of it. Yeah. And then also you have 00:29:57.349 --> 00:30:00.170 the level of expectation, like if it's not fully 00:30:00.170 --> 00:30:05.269 set out, like how the day is going to end. Then 00:30:05.269 --> 00:30:06.890 it's like you're constantly kind of wondering 00:30:06.890 --> 00:30:09.109 like, okay Are they plant like are we planning 00:30:09.109 --> 00:30:11.309 on ending this like somewhere is it gonna are 00:30:11.309 --> 00:30:13.789 we gonna get a hotel? Are we gonna like what's 00:30:13.789 --> 00:30:16.369 the thing here? And then not only that it's like 00:30:16.369 --> 00:30:18.230 then you get on the date and it's like well, 00:30:18.329 --> 00:30:20.789 okay I was maybe intending on getting a hotel 00:30:20.789 --> 00:30:23.710 at first, but now that I'm on this date I don't 00:30:23.710 --> 00:30:25.549 like them like I thought I would and I'm not 00:30:25.549 --> 00:30:27.529 having the best time and I'd really like to leave 00:30:28.269 --> 00:30:30.829 or i don't feel comfortable with something or 00:30:30.829 --> 00:30:33.109 whatever the case may be and i'm trying not to 00:30:33.109 --> 00:30:37.269 be rude you are literally hitting like all these 00:30:37.269 --> 00:30:39.670 bullet points here i'm gonna go back and i'll 00:30:39.670 --> 00:30:42.410 hit those points i'm like and then i'm trying 00:30:42.410 --> 00:30:47.990 not to be rude so then it's like how do you like 00:30:47.990 --> 00:30:50.069 back out of something you've kind of committed 00:30:50.069 --> 00:30:54.299 to So I have an easy excuse for that that's why 00:30:54.299 --> 00:30:56.900 I don't love just like one -on -one again if 00:30:56.900 --> 00:31:00.440 it's friends, I'm fine with that because One 00:31:00.440 --> 00:31:03.779 I already know who they are to we can set the 00:31:03.779 --> 00:31:05.619 expectations and just let them know like hey 00:31:05.619 --> 00:31:07.240 This is our intention, but maybe it you know, 00:31:07.259 --> 00:31:08.900 if doesn't happen for whatever reason doesn't 00:31:08.900 --> 00:31:11.119 happen You know, like you guys just have to either 00:31:11.119 --> 00:31:12.720 go with it or don't go with it go out with us 00:31:12.720 --> 00:31:16.000 or don't go out with us But I mean our friends 00:31:16.000 --> 00:31:18.259 very much know how we are. We're very much like 00:31:18.430 --> 00:31:21.450 go with a flow type people so i think they already 00:31:21.450 --> 00:31:23.369 know that so then there's not that expectation 00:31:23.369 --> 00:31:28.630 but just dating there could be and then the other 00:31:28.630 --> 00:31:34.609 thing is um it's i don't know it's just a lot 00:31:34.609 --> 00:31:37.849 of pressure so i i think that having people come 00:31:37.849 --> 00:31:41.109 to parties is the best way because then you meet 00:31:41.109 --> 00:31:43.410 them in a social setting still you still have 00:31:43.410 --> 00:31:47.089 the option to go play if you guys want to you 00:31:48.400 --> 00:31:51.500 still if it's not working out and there's no 00:31:51.500 --> 00:31:56.279 connection there then it's a lot easier and to 00:31:56.279 --> 00:31:58.880 move on from that because there's a ton of other 00:31:58.880 --> 00:32:01.819 people there so it's kind of like yes And usually 00:32:01.819 --> 00:32:04.880 when one person or one couple isn't feeling it, 00:32:04.900 --> 00:32:06.619 the other couple is feeling the same way and 00:32:06.619 --> 00:32:08.359 they're thinking the same thing. So at a party, 00:32:08.480 --> 00:32:10.240 it's kind of like you could just naturally split 00:32:10.240 --> 00:32:11.880 off from each other and not make it awkward. 00:32:11.880 --> 00:32:14.579 It literally and weird in five minutes. Yeah. 00:32:14.680 --> 00:32:17.160 And there's other people and it doesn't have 00:32:17.160 --> 00:32:19.339 to be weird because it's like, oh, well, oh, 00:32:19.380 --> 00:32:20.839 we just started talking to someone. So we got 00:32:20.839 --> 00:32:22.819 caught up in this and that, you know, so it's 00:32:22.819 --> 00:32:26.380 not like awkward. Yeah, I don't know. That's 00:32:26.380 --> 00:32:29.809 why I like. And if and if I plan to go to a party 00:32:29.809 --> 00:32:31.589 and they decide they don't want to go to that 00:32:31.589 --> 00:32:33.789 party I'm still at that party and I'm still with 00:32:33.789 --> 00:32:36.349 other people there who I'm you know can meet 00:32:36.349 --> 00:32:41.369 or Hang out with if I already know them so to 00:32:41.369 --> 00:32:44.809 Go back a little bit. So if you're entering into 00:32:44.809 --> 00:32:47.750 the LS One of the biggest things I can say to 00:32:47.750 --> 00:32:52.349 you is don't waste people's time Yeah, that's 00:32:52.349 --> 00:32:54.289 kind of go back with what you were saying, you 00:32:54.289 --> 00:32:58.059 know things happen, but Just don't go into a 00:32:58.059 --> 00:33:00.140 situation where you're canceling last minute 00:33:00.140 --> 00:33:04.640 or don't. If you can help. If you can help it 00:33:04.640 --> 00:33:09.140 or and no expectations, but don't give expectations. 00:33:09.480 --> 00:33:12.160 Or don't spring things on people like last minute 00:33:12.160 --> 00:33:14.359 that should have probably been discussed way 00:33:14.359 --> 00:33:17.460 ahead of time. Like if you have a certain specific 00:33:17.460 --> 00:33:21.099 dynamic, don't lead people on to think that. 00:33:21.200 --> 00:33:23.619 You're in it for whatever they're in it for and 00:33:23.619 --> 00:33:25.680 then realize well fuck. I really am not in it 00:33:25.680 --> 00:33:27.640 for that I probably should have told them this 00:33:27.640 --> 00:33:31.859 is our dynamic and I did it and now it's the 00:33:31.859 --> 00:33:34.700 day of and now I'm having to now I'm chickening 00:33:34.700 --> 00:33:36.519 out basically are getting cold feet because I've 00:33:36.519 --> 00:33:40.079 essentially been fraudulent in the conversation, 00:33:40.079 --> 00:33:42.960 you know or Omitted things that are important. 00:33:43.099 --> 00:33:46.880 Maybe that they you know should know and now 00:33:46.880 --> 00:33:49.819 it's like, okay. Well now They everybody has 00:33:49.819 --> 00:33:52.960 to rearrange their plans And going back to what 00:33:52.960 --> 00:33:55.140 you were talking about as you know, if you get 00:33:55.140 --> 00:33:57.420 on the date and within 30 minutes You realize 00:33:57.420 --> 00:34:00.500 you're not they're not your cup of tea Don't 00:34:00.500 --> 00:34:03.160 be afraid to end the date. Yeah, because I mean 00:34:03.160 --> 00:34:05.660 do you know awkward though? Who cares? The only 00:34:05.660 --> 00:34:08.139 thing in my mind that you owe the other couple 00:34:08.139 --> 00:34:10.800 is respect. Yeah, you don't owe them your time 00:34:10.800 --> 00:34:13.480 You don't owe them anything other than that. 00:34:13.480 --> 00:34:16.239 So you're sitting down 30 minutes in you're like 00:34:16.239 --> 00:34:19.889 not my people Go, be like, explain to them, like, 00:34:19.969 --> 00:34:21.849 listen, we had a great time meeting you guys, 00:34:21.889 --> 00:34:23.530 but we're gonna go ahead and call it a night. 00:34:24.389 --> 00:34:27.210 And that's it. I'll be like, it's done. Just 00:34:27.210 --> 00:34:29.269 be respectful, be nice about it. Or you could 00:34:29.269 --> 00:34:30.829 just run out of the bathroom and run out the 00:34:30.829 --> 00:34:34.050 bathroom. Go out the window. You know, worst 00:34:34.050 --> 00:34:36.230 case scenario, best case scenario, however you 00:34:36.230 --> 00:34:39.989 want to frame it, you could just continue. Bless 00:34:39.989 --> 00:34:44.610 you. Oh, boogers. That was no boogers. There's 00:34:44.610 --> 00:34:48.440 boogers everywhere. Best or worst case scenario, 00:34:48.699 --> 00:34:51.360 you just continue your date night with your wife 00:34:51.360 --> 00:34:54.320 or partner. Continue, I mean, you already got 00:34:54.320 --> 00:34:56.900 a sitter, you already, whatever the case is, 00:34:57.019 --> 00:35:03.340 just continue the night. It's just honesty. You 00:35:03.340 --> 00:35:04.780 don't have to be honest to the point where you're 00:35:04.780 --> 00:35:07.539 like, you guys are ugly, or you have a shitty 00:35:07.539 --> 00:35:10.179 personality. You don't have to do that. Just, 00:35:10.179 --> 00:35:13.699 you can be nice. You can be blunt. You can just 00:35:13.699 --> 00:35:16.760 be nice, you know, be okay. It's not our vibe 00:35:16.760 --> 00:35:21.199 baby and then we've we've never been in that 00:35:21.199 --> 00:35:23.940 situation that I can recall No, because we don't 00:35:23.940 --> 00:35:26.340 really date we when we first started we kind 00:35:26.340 --> 00:35:30.260 of were Like we set up a few things. We tried 00:35:30.260 --> 00:35:33.980 it whatever But that was mainly because when 00:35:33.980 --> 00:35:37.460 we did that we didn't really We weren't really 00:35:37.460 --> 00:35:39.960 have as involved in the community that we are 00:35:39.960 --> 00:35:42.619 now and we didn't really have a lot of options 00:35:42.619 --> 00:35:45.679 to us Well, we yeah, we will first of all. Yeah, 00:35:45.679 --> 00:35:48.679 we weren't like now there's we know of all the 00:35:48.679 --> 00:35:52.079 parties and we can yeah we can do like hey like 00:35:52.079 --> 00:35:55.820 we've The gig I have coming up the 14th. I've 00:35:55.820 --> 00:35:58.409 had some couples reach out, you know Week ago 00:35:58.409 --> 00:35:59.989 or whatever and they're like, hey, we should 00:35:59.989 --> 00:36:02.369 hang out. I'm like sure come hang out with us 00:36:02.369 --> 00:36:06.449 at November 14th And it's like I'm not gonna 00:36:06.449 --> 00:36:08.789 agree to just go on some date. We've learned 00:36:08.789 --> 00:36:11.590 our lessons Yeah, and it's kind of like yeah 00:36:11.590 --> 00:36:13.949 come to our show We'll hang out and then we vibe 00:36:13.949 --> 00:36:16.090 then we can go from there, right? It's so much 00:36:16.090 --> 00:36:17.940 easier doing that And it really is. And we've 00:36:17.940 --> 00:36:20.699 met so many people that way. Like we've brought 00:36:20.699 --> 00:36:22.460 a lot of people kind of I don't want to say into 00:36:22.460 --> 00:36:24.900 our circle, but like we've definitely made a 00:36:24.900 --> 00:36:26.880 lot more friends and like met some really great 00:36:26.880 --> 00:36:30.260 couples who have come out to meet and greets. 00:36:30.320 --> 00:36:33.059 We've been out or parties we've been to. And 00:36:33.059 --> 00:36:36.960 then we're like, oh, like genuinely. And now 00:36:36.960 --> 00:36:39.860 we would go out with them by themselves or whatever, 00:36:39.960 --> 00:36:42.639 like just the four of us or whatever. But it 00:36:42.639 --> 00:36:46.869 definitely I. I do think it takes pressure off. 00:36:47.170 --> 00:36:51.250 But that being said, we've had some couples that 00:36:51.250 --> 00:36:53.190 were like, hey, we should come hang out. And 00:36:53.190 --> 00:36:54.789 I'm like, come to the party. And we meet them 00:36:54.789 --> 00:36:57.789 at the party. And I'm like, I'm glad we didn't 00:36:57.789 --> 00:36:59.869 go on a date with these people because there 00:36:59.869 --> 00:37:02.309 just wasn't anything there. There wasn't like 00:37:02.309 --> 00:37:05.269 the personalities didn't click, whatever the 00:37:05.269 --> 00:37:08.170 case is. And we're like, whew, dodge that bullet. 00:37:08.809 --> 00:37:12.329 So our method has worked out. But that being 00:37:12.329 --> 00:37:14.730 said, there's some people that live in these 00:37:14.730 --> 00:37:17.130 smaller towns and they don't have the parties 00:37:17.130 --> 00:37:20.610 and dating is kind of their option. But one thing 00:37:20.610 --> 00:37:24.730 I will say, what's the name of that movie where 00:37:24.730 --> 00:37:27.449 he's talking about the baseball stadium and he's 00:37:27.449 --> 00:37:30.730 like, if you build it, they will come. If you 00:37:30.730 --> 00:37:33.969 don't have events in your area, make the events. 00:37:35.329 --> 00:37:39.130 Grab a bar. that you know is a fun bar a chill 00:37:39.130 --> 00:37:44.329 bar a dive bar and put out a hot date or a rendezvous 00:37:44.329 --> 00:37:47.530 or set up a meet -and -greet and just advertise 00:37:47.530 --> 00:37:51.309 it and put on event and just Spit it out to everybody 00:37:51.309 --> 00:37:55.630 in your area four or five people might come Next 00:37:55.630 --> 00:37:58.150 time seven eight people might come. That's true. 00:37:58.650 --> 00:38:00.969 And just instead of sitting around saying there's 00:38:00.969 --> 00:38:04.090 nothing to do be the one that do it That was 00:38:04.090 --> 00:38:09.329 really bad English. Be the one that do it. Be 00:38:09.329 --> 00:38:12.070 the face in your community, if not everybody 00:38:12.070 --> 00:38:15.429 has that personality. Sometimes you just have 00:38:15.429 --> 00:38:18.989 to build it so they will come all over your tits. 00:38:19.889 --> 00:38:22.769 Like that? You're laughing, your boobies are 00:38:22.769 --> 00:38:27.389 bouncing. So I think that's kind of the wrap 00:38:27.389 --> 00:38:29.650 that side of it. You know, if you can do dates, 00:38:29.710 --> 00:38:31.690 you can do groups. Just don't waste people's 00:38:31.690 --> 00:38:36.030 time. Try not to set up expectations. And if 00:38:36.030 --> 00:38:39.670 it's not working out in the date piece out. Yeah. 00:38:39.730 --> 00:38:42.750 One thing I was going to say, too, is if on the 00:38:42.750 --> 00:38:47.110 opposite side of it, if the couple you set the 00:38:47.110 --> 00:38:50.469 date up with ends it or whatever or doesn't show 00:38:50.469 --> 00:38:54.570 up, I would. I want to just say, like, don't 00:38:54.570 --> 00:38:57.969 take it personally. Because more likely than 00:38:57.969 --> 00:39:00.769 not, it was something in their relationship that 00:39:00.769 --> 00:39:05.730 caused them to cancel or leave or whatever. Like 00:39:05.730 --> 00:39:08.869 something between them said it most likely isn't 00:39:08.869 --> 00:39:11.269 you, you know, don't take it. Like I think a 00:39:11.269 --> 00:39:15.630 lot of people put like a lot of emphasis on like, 00:39:15.630 --> 00:39:17.630 oh, what did I do or was me? They didn't like 00:39:17.630 --> 00:39:21.369 me or they think I'm ugly or, you know, whatever. 00:39:22.409 --> 00:39:26.289 I would just caution against that like negative 00:39:26.289 --> 00:39:28.869 self -talk because more likely than not or if 00:39:28.869 --> 00:39:30.630 they don't give you an explanation then you're 00:39:30.630 --> 00:39:33.869 like, you know people I've heard of people like 00:39:33.869 --> 00:39:36.010 really dwelling on it It's like I would just 00:39:36.010 --> 00:39:39.110 move on like don't it was unlikely to be you, 00:39:39.110 --> 00:39:42.150 you know It's something in them or their relationship 00:39:42.150 --> 00:39:44.030 or whatever is going on with them personally 00:39:44.030 --> 00:39:46.949 or their lives or personalized We all have personal 00:39:46.949 --> 00:39:49.269 lives. We don't talk about them that frequently. 00:39:49.590 --> 00:39:54.340 So you don't know you know yeah so just move 00:39:54.340 --> 00:39:57.099 on gracefully and I wouldn't give it another 00:39:57.099 --> 00:40:01.739 thought and the infamous words of frozen let 00:40:01.739 --> 00:40:07.659 it go let it go let it go something something 00:40:07.659 --> 00:40:12.400 something yeah I would also okay let's relax 00:40:12.400 --> 00:40:14.039 on that I'm probably gonna get sued by Disney 00:40:14.039 --> 00:40:18.300 now I don't think the words are something something 00:40:18.300 --> 00:40:21.429 something so you're probably good yeah Did you 00:40:21.429 --> 00:40:23.170 have anything else on that topic that you wanted 00:40:23.170 --> 00:40:25.389 to I was gonna say something and then you've 00:40:25.389 --> 00:40:30.010 rudely interrupted me with a great song You were 00:40:30.010 --> 00:40:32.070 just talking about yeah, are you not them or 00:40:32.070 --> 00:40:34.630 it's probably not you I can't remember it could 00:40:34.630 --> 00:40:39.210 just be your ugly face Circle back. I'm not sure. 00:40:39.409 --> 00:40:42.289 Oh, I was gonna say but also if you because we 00:40:42.289 --> 00:40:44.409 also see this all the time on like Facebook groups 00:40:44.409 --> 00:40:46.190 Well, I'm not really on it anymore But when you 00:40:46.190 --> 00:40:48.489 like when I was people like there's nothing going 00:40:48.489 --> 00:40:51.150 on and they live in Southern, California So we 00:40:51.150 --> 00:40:53.429 know there's a shit ton going on. Yeah, so at 00:40:53.429 --> 00:40:57.730 the same time like also Put a little effort into 00:40:57.730 --> 00:40:59.769 looking into something if you really want to 00:40:59.769 --> 00:41:03.869 go out and do something like Get on to sites 00:41:03.869 --> 00:41:07.369 that are in your area. There are so many free, 00:41:07.369 --> 00:41:08.829 you know, if you don't want to join a Facebook 00:41:08.829 --> 00:41:12.550 group, I get that. But join. I mean, I don't 00:41:12.550 --> 00:41:15.409 know. You just can't sit in your room and be 00:41:15.409 --> 00:41:17.710 like, there's nothing to do. And it's like, well, 00:41:17.889 --> 00:41:20.449 is Google broken? Yeah. Have you tried? Yeah. 00:41:20.469 --> 00:41:23.750 Have you gone on like apps? Have you gone on? 00:41:24.130 --> 00:41:26.889 That shit annoys me because I try to help people. 00:41:26.889 --> 00:41:30.969 Yeah. I'm like a one step guy. I'll be like. 00:41:31.239 --> 00:41:34.019 There's nothing to do. I'm like, are you on Cassidy? 00:41:34.280 --> 00:41:37.599 No, what's that? Well, it's a, it's a, it's a 00:41:37.599 --> 00:41:40.340 like a swinging date insight slash event party 00:41:40.340 --> 00:41:43.900 site. Check it out. Cassidy .com. That's where 00:41:43.900 --> 00:41:46.199 it should end. And they'd be like, well, what 00:41:46.199 --> 00:41:49.840 do I know? Yeah. Nope. Go, go to the website. 00:41:49.900 --> 00:41:52.460 Yeah. Go take the next step. Yeah. Like I'll, 00:41:52.460 --> 00:41:54.440 I'll try. What's the, they even have free options. 00:41:54.500 --> 00:41:56.579 I'll take you to water, but I can't make you 00:41:56.579 --> 00:41:59.599 drink. Yeah. You can teach someone to fit around. 00:41:59.960 --> 00:42:03.320 There's so many dumb things. So yeah, just just 00:42:03.320 --> 00:42:05.340 look into all the options. Like you said, in 00:42:05.340 --> 00:42:07.119 Southern California, there's so much to do. I 00:42:07.119 --> 00:42:08.699 mean, I'm saying in Southern, but you said, you 00:42:08.699 --> 00:42:09.900 know, there's some people out in the middle of 00:42:09.900 --> 00:42:12.440 nowhere. And who knows? I mean, we have friends 00:42:12.440 --> 00:42:16.400 who live in frickin Lavonia and there's plenty 00:42:16.400 --> 00:42:17.940 of stuff to do out there. Yes. And you would 00:42:17.940 --> 00:42:22.320 think that was in BFE. Yes. I mean, literally 00:42:22.320 --> 00:42:24.019 go on and Google and you just you could type 00:42:24.019 --> 00:42:28.739 in Southern California. Podcasts out of like 00:42:28.739 --> 00:42:30.739 Georgia and like what I mean, they're finding 00:42:30.739 --> 00:42:34.420 shit to do there There it might be sheep, but 00:42:34.420 --> 00:42:39.139 they're fine Actually, that's more of a Kansas 00:42:39.139 --> 00:42:45.659 thing I think anyways Okay, so so all that Now 00:42:45.659 --> 00:42:49.579 I guess the next step is so say you're you're 00:42:49.579 --> 00:42:52.420 on one of those dates or say you're at a party 00:42:52.420 --> 00:42:58.179 It's best to develop a way to Let your partner 00:42:58.179 --> 00:43:01.760 though, let your partner know that you're interested 00:43:01.760 --> 00:43:05.639 in this couple. Like how do you do that? Like 00:43:05.639 --> 00:43:09.440 do you, is there a nudge? Do you say like, do 00:43:09.440 --> 00:43:12.340 you want two cherries with your drink? No, that's 00:43:12.340 --> 00:43:14.320 silly to me. It is a little bit, but I mean. 00:43:14.320 --> 00:43:18.940 Because I get the, I get the, I get the safe 00:43:18.940 --> 00:43:20.679 word to get out of something that you don't want 00:43:20.679 --> 00:43:23.760 to be in. I do not understand that. So is that 00:43:23.760 --> 00:43:26.329 a thing? Yes, but you got to understand. I'm 00:43:26.329 --> 00:43:29.369 not speaking from our point of view, like right 00:43:29.369 --> 00:43:31.610 now, you and I are somewhere and someone walks 00:43:31.610 --> 00:43:34.630 in, I go, ooh, look at that, I want that. That 00:43:34.630 --> 00:43:37.550 was not us when we started. That is not people 00:43:37.550 --> 00:43:40.610 that are getting started. It's very awkward to 00:43:40.610 --> 00:43:42.630 tell your partner that you're interested in somebody, 00:43:42.690 --> 00:43:44.570 even though you're both going out with that intent. 00:43:44.570 --> 00:43:46.150 So you're saying not in front of those people, 00:43:46.190 --> 00:43:48.510 you're saying just quietly to each other? Like 00:43:48.510 --> 00:43:50.630 a way of being, expressing interest, because 00:43:50.630 --> 00:43:55.010 it can be like intimidating to tell your wife 00:43:55.010 --> 00:43:57.630 that, hey, I'm checking her out, even though 00:43:57.630 --> 00:44:00.989 that's what you're there for, it's still very 00:44:00.989 --> 00:44:03.909 rough. It's taken me till very recently to be 00:44:03.909 --> 00:44:07.489 able to like express my interest to you and them. 00:44:08.250 --> 00:44:11.010 Like now I'm like, I've gotten pretty comfortable 00:44:11.010 --> 00:44:14.559 with it. but I think like how can you there's 00:44:14.559 --> 00:44:17.059 like there's another podcast that we listen to 00:44:17.059 --> 00:44:20.039 or that I listen to and they have a really really 00:44:20.039 --> 00:44:22.420 quick they're experienced but they have a very 00:44:22.420 --> 00:44:24.840 quick thing if a couple walks in and they both 00:44:24.840 --> 00:44:26.960 look at them and they're like they're like fuckable 00:44:26.960 --> 00:44:30.019 or not it's very quick like fuckable or not and 00:44:30.019 --> 00:44:32.719 if he goes yep she goes yep that that lets them 00:44:32.719 --> 00:44:36.099 know okay there's an interest there to pursue 00:44:36.099 --> 00:44:39.539 if one of them says no Then they take it right 00:44:39.539 --> 00:44:42.000 off the table. I'm not saying it has to be that 00:44:42.000 --> 00:44:45.340 forward, but I think it's it's it's a Figure 00:44:45.340 --> 00:44:48.639 out a way to like express interest in in like 00:44:48.639 --> 00:44:51.139 another cup. Oh, no. I think you just say it 00:44:51.139 --> 00:44:53.099 I think you just because you're saying it's still 00:44:53.099 --> 00:44:55.360 by saying fuckable or not. That's the same thing. 00:44:55.360 --> 00:44:58.659 No that that's an advanced That's advanced. So 00:44:58.659 --> 00:45:01.219 you say you won't eat the cherry or not. I mean, 00:45:01.219 --> 00:45:04.239 it's just weird. Just talk to each other. If 00:45:04.239 --> 00:45:07.199 you know what it means, then it's the same. The 00:45:07.199 --> 00:45:10.719 cherry thing was just a small example. Oh my 00:45:10.719 --> 00:45:12.639 god, I'm going to suffocate you in your sleep, 00:45:12.699 --> 00:45:16.820 woman. That I don't get. But hey, if you need 00:45:16.820 --> 00:45:19.119 a code word, I guess make a code word. I'm not 00:45:19.119 --> 00:45:22.739 saying there needs to be a code word. Maybe just 00:45:22.739 --> 00:45:27.380 some way of like a nudge and a nudge nudge. I 00:45:27.380 --> 00:45:29.699 would have bruises. You would literally be just 00:45:29.699 --> 00:45:32.219 nudging me all day. I would just be bruised up 00:45:32.219 --> 00:45:34.559 one side of my body. All right. So let me cross 00:45:34.559 --> 00:45:37.900 this off my list really aggressively. Get off 00:45:37.900 --> 00:45:40.820 your list. I'm going to Sharpie across my phone. 00:45:42.400 --> 00:45:45.360 Weirdest thing in my brain. I swear to God, I 00:45:45.360 --> 00:45:48.659 don't want to beat you. All right. So if we don't 00:45:48.659 --> 00:45:52.599 return for another podcast, you know why. I don't 00:45:52.599 --> 00:45:55.280 know. I just think if you're in it, like if you're 00:45:55.280 --> 00:45:57.710 in this. You just got to figure it out and I 00:45:57.710 --> 00:45:59.650 don't think a code word is going to help because 00:45:59.650 --> 00:46:02.869 if everybody like knows What it means then you 00:46:02.869 --> 00:46:07.389 just need to say it Like there there was there's 00:46:07.389 --> 00:46:09.929 some some things i've heard where like if you're 00:46:09.929 --> 00:46:13.030 on a date Like one of the people will go to the 00:46:13.030 --> 00:46:15.590 bathroom and send a text and then that person 00:46:15.590 --> 00:46:19.829 will check the text It's just examples Find what 00:46:19.829 --> 00:46:22.469 works for you ultimately, but maybe have that 00:46:22.469 --> 00:46:24.750 in mind because if you go to this if you go on 00:46:24.750 --> 00:46:27.809 a date and you're both like if you're on a date 00:46:27.809 --> 00:46:30.070 it's like two v two and you walk in and you're 00:46:30.070 --> 00:46:32.130 sitting down and you're having what feels like 00:46:32.130 --> 00:46:33.829 good conversation but you're like i don't know 00:46:33.829 --> 00:46:37.210 how my wife feels maybe some way of relaying 00:46:37.210 --> 00:46:40.610 like it should we try to take this to the next 00:46:40.610 --> 00:46:43.570 step whether it's a sidebar you walk away and 00:46:43.570 --> 00:46:47.590 you have a sidebar or a code word where like 00:46:47.739 --> 00:46:49.860 I was trying to think there was another one where 00:46:49.860 --> 00:46:52.860 if so -and -so ordered a diet Pepsi, you know 00:46:52.860 --> 00:46:56.659 that's a no -go. There was one. There was one. 00:46:57.440 --> 00:47:00.420 There was one podcast I remember hearing about. 00:47:01.820 --> 00:47:07.039 This one's kind of dumb. They're all dumb. She 00:47:07.039 --> 00:47:09.440 would like take the ketchup bottle and face the 00:47:09.440 --> 00:47:13.150 label away from her. OMG. That was like her way 00:47:13.150 --> 00:47:15.809 of saying no, okay I guess if you're on a date 00:47:15.809 --> 00:47:18.690 with somebody this would be the same scenario 00:47:18.690 --> 00:47:21.530 a party would be much this would be the same 00:47:21.530 --> 00:47:23.570 scenario as what I'm saying like a code word 00:47:23.570 --> 00:47:25.750 if you're in an awkward situation or you're in 00:47:25.750 --> 00:47:28.530 a situation you want to get out of That makes 00:47:28.530 --> 00:47:30.789 sense to me. Yeah, but not being able to tell 00:47:30.789 --> 00:47:33.550 your spouse or your significant other or your 00:47:33.550 --> 00:47:37.400 whatever person that you're interested in somebody, 00:47:37.480 --> 00:47:39.800 that's a weird thing that you brought up. That 00:47:39.800 --> 00:47:42.400 doesn't make sense to me. But the fact of like, 00:47:42.440 --> 00:47:44.119 oh, yeah, if you're on a date and you're like, 00:47:44.239 --> 00:47:47.539 it's a no, like you're like a fuck no. And you're 00:47:47.539 --> 00:47:50.000 but you're still pleasant person. So it's probably 00:47:50.000 --> 00:47:51.900 hard for people to tell you it's like a fuck 00:47:51.900 --> 00:47:55.239 no for you. Then I get that like, or if or if 00:47:55.239 --> 00:47:57.079 you're in a play situation, obviously you're 00:47:57.079 --> 00:47:59.389 not turning a ketchup bottle, but. If you're 00:47:59.389 --> 00:48:01.070 in a place... Why do you have a ketchup bottle 00:48:01.070 --> 00:48:03.949 just in your purse? You're like in the middle 00:48:03.949 --> 00:48:05.789 like, I don't want to do this anymore. You're 00:48:05.789 --> 00:48:07.849 reaching in your purse, you bring out ketchup. 00:48:09.030 --> 00:48:15.750 You're using that for Louvre. If the high ends 00:48:15.750 --> 00:48:23.969 57, it's... If the high ends 57, we're 69. Oh 00:48:23.969 --> 00:48:26.469 Lord. Tabascos. What does Tabasco sauce mean, 00:48:26.730 --> 00:48:31.559 anal? So I get it. Like I get that part of it. 00:48:31.559 --> 00:48:33.980 Like, OK, if we're on a date and if you are a 00:48:33.980 --> 00:48:35.840 dating couple and you're on a date, I get like 00:48:35.840 --> 00:48:39.920 having a way to say no. Yeah. No. Or let's take 00:48:39.920 --> 00:48:41.679 let's figure out a way to take this to the next 00:48:41.679 --> 00:48:43.539 step. I mean, that I think would just happen 00:48:43.539 --> 00:48:44.980 naturally. Right. Because that's what you're 00:48:44.980 --> 00:48:48.440 there for. I think no, I think that would be 00:48:48.440 --> 00:48:50.539 I think you would have something that says no. 00:48:50.679 --> 00:48:52.860 Otherwise, I would assume like I think every 00:48:52.860 --> 00:48:55.679 all parties should assume that we're moving it 00:48:55.679 --> 00:48:59.460 the other way. Expectations. No, no, no. I mean, 00:48:59.519 --> 00:49:01.659 like your party, like you and your like if you 00:49:01.659 --> 00:49:04.099 go, if we went on a date with somebody and we 00:49:04.099 --> 00:49:06.380 were like we had all of our things set up and 00:49:06.380 --> 00:49:09.039 you and I discussed before the date, like, hey, 00:49:09.400 --> 00:49:11.650 this. If this goes well, like let's do this, 00:49:11.650 --> 00:49:13.969 this, this and this, you know, we have that conversation 00:49:13.969 --> 00:49:16.449 before the date. Now we're on the date and I'm 00:49:16.449 --> 00:49:19.210 like, fuck this. No, it's a no for me. Yes, I 00:49:19.210 --> 00:49:22.170 get having some sort of like code or symbol or 00:49:22.170 --> 00:49:24.730 texting each other or whatever to say like, OK, 00:49:24.750 --> 00:49:27.469 if I do this, that means it's a no. Otherwise, 00:49:27.650 --> 00:49:30.010 I would assume everybody's just planning going 00:49:30.010 --> 00:49:32.190 on the date like we all plan to go on the date. 00:49:32.889 --> 00:49:37.460 So that should be. You're so naive. Normal. We 00:49:37.460 --> 00:49:41.219 don't need like a yes or no button, like. Oh, 00:49:41.219 --> 00:49:44.900 that would actually like the staples. No, the 00:49:44.900 --> 00:49:46.760 that or like those that that little thing you 00:49:46.760 --> 00:49:51.019 roll that magic eight ball. Not highly unlikely. 00:49:51.860 --> 00:49:54.400 All right. So I think I think we got your opinion 00:49:54.400 --> 00:49:58.699 and it's wrong, but it's very much right. So. 00:50:00.340 --> 00:50:04.420 So how how do you this is? Well, they know it's 00:50:04.420 --> 00:50:06.159 weird. She has to always sit next to the ketchup. 00:50:07.299 --> 00:50:09.320 Well, yeah, what if she's on the outside of the 00:50:09.320 --> 00:50:12.539 table? Does she have to grab the ketchup from 00:50:12.539 --> 00:50:15.280 the other table? Sir, can I see your ketchup, 00:50:15.619 --> 00:50:17.139 please? Or what if there's no ketchup on the 00:50:17.139 --> 00:50:20.559 table? Steak sauce. Then they have to ask for 00:50:20.559 --> 00:50:22.840 ketchup, which she's not going to use, only to 00:50:22.840 --> 00:50:25.019 turn it towards herself. What if she's sitting 00:50:25.019 --> 00:50:28.559 there and the waiter, like you order like fish 00:50:28.559 --> 00:50:30.300 and the waiter's like, clearly you don't need 00:50:30.300 --> 00:50:32.320 ketchup. And he takes the whole ketchup thing 00:50:32.320 --> 00:50:35.039 away. And then you have to fuck these people 00:50:35.039 --> 00:50:40.760 now. Because you can't turn the ketchup towards 00:50:40.760 --> 00:50:43.280 you. He's like balls deep in the other way. He's 00:50:43.280 --> 00:50:45.420 like, you didn't see ketchup. You didn't move 00:50:45.420 --> 00:50:50.920 the ketchup. See, there it lies. That's why you 00:50:50.920 --> 00:50:55.340 have to... These are silly. You just have to 00:50:55.340 --> 00:51:04.659 communicate. Without the ketchup. I can't, I'm 00:51:04.659 --> 00:51:11.679 crying, I can't see my list. So anyways, how 00:51:11.679 --> 00:51:16.940 do you like to be hit on? Direct, non -direct. 00:51:17.539 --> 00:51:20.519 And you endo like, what's your preference? Because 00:51:20.519 --> 00:51:23.380 we have some people that are extremely direct 00:51:23.380 --> 00:51:26.380 with you. And then we have some people that are 00:51:26.380 --> 00:51:29.659 like, you wouldn't even know that they liked 00:51:29.659 --> 00:51:31.969 you unless you already fucked them. You know 00:51:31.969 --> 00:51:34.210 what I mean? I think you know who the two people 00:51:34.210 --> 00:51:41.230 are I'm talking about. Two? Two. The extremes. 00:51:42.429 --> 00:51:43.610 So what's your preference? Oh, the two extremes? 00:51:43.710 --> 00:51:46.849 Yes. Oh, yeah. What does this have to do with 00:51:46.849 --> 00:51:51.250 coming new into the lifestyle? Are you just getting 00:51:51.250 --> 00:51:53.570 intel or does somebody ask you to ask me this 00:51:53.570 --> 00:51:57.409 question? No, this is not a setup. No, it's a 00:51:57.409 --> 00:52:01.320 very relevant question because you're Getting 00:52:01.320 --> 00:52:03.679 your new you're not you're not gonna be used 00:52:03.679 --> 00:52:06.099 to hitting on people and you also need to figure 00:52:06.099 --> 00:52:08.900 out Learn like relearn how to hit on people. 00:52:09.019 --> 00:52:11.760 That's a real so I'm just saying for you. What's 00:52:11.760 --> 00:52:14.420 your preference? How how do you like to be hit 00:52:14.420 --> 00:52:17.139 on it depends on how interested I am in the person. 00:52:17.280 --> 00:52:20.900 Mm -hmm. So that's a hard question to ask I do 00:52:20.900 --> 00:52:23.320 think that it's definitely in a pain in my ass. 00:52:23.460 --> 00:52:29.719 Yeah, I do think it's definitely It's definitely 00:52:31.200 --> 00:52:33.480 different obviously flirting after you've been 00:52:33.480 --> 00:52:37.480 married for so long with other people so I can 00:52:37.480 --> 00:52:41.059 see how that question might be relevant and maybe 00:52:41.059 --> 00:52:44.219 a little bit of a different way like how do you 00:52:44.219 --> 00:52:47.940 do that and I think that's also where the parties 00:52:47.940 --> 00:52:53.739 kind of lend itself to being easier to do that 00:52:53.739 --> 00:52:57.800 in because there's a lot more like It's a lot 00:52:57.800 --> 00:52:59.539 more lively. I mean, I don't know I don't know 00:52:59.539 --> 00:53:02.159 what people are doing on these dates, but I don't 00:53:02.159 --> 00:53:05.579 know like crazy kids They're good with their 00:53:05.579 --> 00:53:08.639 diners and their ketchup, but you hipsters. I 00:53:08.639 --> 00:53:11.679 don't know how you hit on somebody across the 00:53:11.679 --> 00:53:17.019 table from them or like I Don't know I just that's 00:53:17.019 --> 00:53:19.719 why I like that's kind of Well, maybe you need 00:53:19.719 --> 00:53:21.519 to figure out the answer to this question cuz 00:53:21.519 --> 00:53:23.750 yeah, I don't I don't know that. I mean, I know 00:53:23.750 --> 00:53:25.849 how I know. I can't even tell you how I like 00:53:25.849 --> 00:53:27.929 to be hit on, because again, it depends on the 00:53:27.929 --> 00:53:30.869 person. Yeah. If I'm super interested in you, 00:53:30.969 --> 00:53:36.869 then I. Yeah, I want to be hit on, but if I am 00:53:36.869 --> 00:53:39.150 not interested, then it can be awkward if somebody 00:53:39.150 --> 00:53:42.949 is super fucking aggressive. Yeah. But if I am 00:53:42.949 --> 00:53:45.110 interested in you, I also want to know you're 00:53:45.110 --> 00:53:47.389 interested in me. So if you're too quiet or you 00:53:47.389 --> 00:53:50.840 don't say anything or. You don't even let me 00:53:50.840 --> 00:53:52.880 know you're interested then I will lose interest 00:53:52.880 --> 00:53:54.639 because I'm like I'm not chasing anybody like 00:53:54.639 --> 00:53:57.300 I'm not here to chase people, you know, like 00:53:57.300 --> 00:54:00.179 I This is not I'm not like again. I'm not looking 00:54:00.179 --> 00:54:03.159 for my forever So I'm not like really gonna put 00:54:03.159 --> 00:54:05.860 too much effort into this you're looking for 00:54:05.860 --> 00:54:07.679 your right now But if you're right now is not 00:54:07.679 --> 00:54:10.059 right now then yeah if my exactly if my right 00:54:10.059 --> 00:54:11.820 now is not here and right now Then it's like 00:54:11.820 --> 00:54:13.599 okay. I'll move on to something else, you know, 00:54:13.619 --> 00:54:16.199 like it's kind of like find another shiny toy. 00:54:16.199 --> 00:54:21.980 Yeah, exactly so I think I would say if you're 00:54:21.980 --> 00:54:24.380 interested in somebody then show interest and 00:54:24.380 --> 00:54:26.280 show interest in a way that's organic to you 00:54:26.280 --> 00:54:28.320 if you're not a super forward person don't be 00:54:28.320 --> 00:54:29.960 super forward because it's gonna be really fucking 00:54:29.960 --> 00:54:32.559 awkward probably for everybody involved but I 00:54:32.559 --> 00:54:35.239 would say like some of the guys that are shy 00:54:35.239 --> 00:54:37.400 that hit on me have been some of the cutest little 00:54:37.400 --> 00:54:40.159 like cute like cute see things that are said 00:54:40.159 --> 00:54:42.780 you know or things that I've I've actually sometimes 00:54:42.780 --> 00:54:45.699 taken it more like like oh that was really sweet 00:54:45.699 --> 00:54:50.860 actually because it It was it seemed more genuine 00:54:50.860 --> 00:54:53.780 because it's not like oh my god You're so hot 00:54:53.780 --> 00:54:56.039 and not to say that those guys aren't genuine 00:54:56.039 --> 00:54:58.920 too. I'm sure they are they just That's how they 00:54:58.920 --> 00:55:03.760 are. That's their personalities. Yeah, so Both 00:55:03.760 --> 00:55:06.760 ways I like it's just that you definitely have 00:55:06.760 --> 00:55:08.760 to show interest if you're I mean flirting is 00:55:08.760 --> 00:55:13.480 flirting like Actually flirt to flirt if you're 00:55:13.480 --> 00:55:17.119 just there if you're just existing or if we're 00:55:17.119 --> 00:55:19.840 talking about your car insurance or your you 00:55:19.840 --> 00:55:23.980 know, or your Whatever. It's like that doesn't 00:55:23.980 --> 00:55:27.500 you know, that's not Flirting so you do have 00:55:27.500 --> 00:55:29.820 to be a little bit it might be you do have to 00:55:29.820 --> 00:55:32.780 be a little like complementary and like yeah, 00:55:32.780 --> 00:55:36.659 that was touching That was one touching but not 00:55:36.659 --> 00:55:40.170 inappropriately obviously but like I mean touching 00:55:40.170 --> 00:55:42.289 in a comfortable way for everybody involved, 00:55:42.449 --> 00:55:46.349 you know, like brushing an arm or whatever. I 00:55:46.349 --> 00:55:47.710 mean, obviously everything should be done with 00:55:47.710 --> 00:55:51.409 consent. But one of the things like I always 00:55:51.409 --> 00:55:54.510 like find if I like, do you mind if I put my 00:55:54.510 --> 00:55:56.869 my hand on your back? Yeah. And if they're OK 00:55:56.869 --> 00:56:01.630 with that, that's that's pretty big. Like they're 00:56:01.630 --> 00:56:05.369 comfortable with that. Then I take that as in 00:56:05.369 --> 00:56:07.820 they're they're into you to some level. At least 00:56:07.820 --> 00:56:11.360 some level. Yeah for me. I prefer fairly direct 00:56:11.360 --> 00:56:16.840 because yeah My introvertness struggles with 00:56:16.840 --> 00:56:20.800 that And I do best when I when all the chips 00:56:20.800 --> 00:56:23.940 are on the table I'm like, okay. I see the big 00:56:23.940 --> 00:56:27.400 picture here I can take I can take the next step. 00:56:27.400 --> 00:56:31.239 I can make the next move If I understand like 00:56:31.239 --> 00:56:33.659 you're there for it. Yeah, then i'm good with 00:56:33.659 --> 00:56:36.639 taking control but it's it's tough for people 00:56:36.639 --> 00:56:40.829 that don't let me know. Like there's some people, 00:56:40.889 --> 00:56:43.429 some couples that we've hung out with a few times 00:56:43.429 --> 00:56:46.570 and I think there's something maybe, but like 00:56:46.570 --> 00:56:48.530 I would like there be something, but I don't 00:56:48.530 --> 00:56:51.550 get enough. So it hasn't progressed at all. And 00:56:51.550 --> 00:56:54.630 it probably will never, because we're both kind 00:56:54.630 --> 00:56:58.210 of at a standstill. And it kind of reminds me 00:56:58.210 --> 00:57:02.010 of Lacey, Swing Nation. One of the things that 00:57:02.010 --> 00:57:04.550 she talks about is she's very introverted as 00:57:04.550 --> 00:57:08.800 well, but she's the opposite. If she's into somebody 00:57:08.800 --> 00:57:12.280 she gets super quiet shy and avoids that person 00:57:12.280 --> 00:57:16.099 So that's the complete opposite of what I need. 00:57:16.500 --> 00:57:18.159 Yeah, so remember at the end of last episode 00:57:18.159 --> 00:57:20.159 We're like, I don't think I'm her type Yeah, 00:57:20.440 --> 00:57:24.239 that's that's where the the struggle if if we 00:57:24.239 --> 00:57:26.559 ever got into that situation where we met I had 00:57:26.559 --> 00:57:28.539 already told you I would be your great wingman 00:57:28.539 --> 00:57:31.960 I know but I'm just saying that right there with 00:57:31.960 --> 00:57:35.909 her type is where I struggle Yeah, like if I 00:57:35.909 --> 00:57:37.769 don't get anything from you, then I'm just gonna 00:57:37.769 --> 00:57:41.389 assume and I'm I'm going hands off and I'll I'll 00:57:41.389 --> 00:57:45.909 eventually give up Yeah, it's just but You know, 00:57:46.010 --> 00:57:47.449 we've had if we have a couple of friends that 00:57:47.449 --> 00:57:50.750 like you have full Consent you have open consent. 00:57:51.030 --> 00:57:55.489 Yeah, like to you. Yeah And it works out well 00:57:57.179 --> 00:57:59.420 So that being said, finally you say wingman, 00:57:59.579 --> 00:58:04.000 wingman. It's like I can read it from here. And 00:58:04.000 --> 00:58:07.340 you have been a fairly good wingman for me. And 00:58:07.340 --> 00:58:09.760 I feel like I've been a pretty decent wingman 00:58:09.760 --> 00:58:11.420 for you. There's been a couple of situations 00:58:11.420 --> 00:58:13.719 where we were at a bar. Do you remember this 00:58:13.719 --> 00:58:17.699 one in Whispers in Vegas? And we are standing 00:58:17.699 --> 00:58:20.099 at the bar and you are Google the eye over the 00:58:20.099 --> 00:58:24.400 bartender. And you're like, he's cute. And you 00:58:24.400 --> 00:58:26.960 were just like, just. Like I said, googly eye. 00:58:27.000 --> 00:58:28.780 And I don't remember. And I went over to the 00:58:28.780 --> 00:58:30.460 bar and I'm like, hey, buddy, my wife would love 00:58:30.460 --> 00:58:32.679 to make out with you. But he was married and 00:58:32.679 --> 00:58:35.400 his wife wasn't there, right? No, his girlfriend 00:58:35.400 --> 00:58:38.380 and she was there. Oh, she wasn't lifestyle, 00:58:38.519 --> 00:58:39.980 though. She was like, oh, yeah, they weren't 00:58:39.980 --> 00:58:42.800 lifestyle. Yeah. Yeah. And it was something. 00:58:42.980 --> 00:58:45.119 Yeah. And she was kind of giving you some side 00:58:45.119 --> 00:58:46.659 eye a little bit later in the night. But I'm 00:58:46.659 --> 00:58:48.619 like, hey, we asked. We didn't do anything. We 00:58:48.619 --> 00:58:50.239 just simply asked. And at that type of party. 00:58:50.510 --> 00:58:52.750 You get those questions, right? So if you're 00:58:52.750 --> 00:58:54.989 a hot bartender, you're gonna be propositioned 00:58:54.989 --> 00:58:57.210 like it or not Yeah, also, let's not bring bartenders 00:58:57.210 --> 00:58:59.530 to bars to parties that aren't in the lifestyle. 00:58:59.530 --> 00:59:04.670 I'm just kidding But then there's been some situations 00:59:04.670 --> 00:59:07.550 where we were at a bar or a party and a couple 00:59:07.550 --> 00:59:11.949 walks in and I say to you like them but typically 00:59:11.949 --> 00:59:15.269 I Will probably not be the first one to talk 00:59:15.269 --> 00:59:17.789 to a strange couple. Yeah that I'm interested 00:59:17.789 --> 00:59:21.420 in people I'm not interested in right away. I'm 00:59:21.420 --> 00:59:24.280 like, it's easy. Because there's no rejection 00:59:24.280 --> 00:59:26.920 fear there. Yeah, because I'm like, I'm not hitting 00:59:26.920 --> 00:59:29.019 on you. I'm just Hey, welcome to the group. Welcome 00:59:29.019 --> 00:59:31.739 to the party. Yeah. But if there's someone there, 00:59:31.820 --> 00:59:34.059 and I've, I'm okay with rejection. I've done, 00:59:34.219 --> 00:59:40.760 I've dealt with enough of in my life. But it's 00:59:40.760 --> 00:59:43.139 never really bothered me. Because especially 00:59:43.809 --> 00:59:46.010 The lifestyle just because of this same thing 00:59:46.010 --> 00:59:48.110 you were saying. I'm not looking my for my forever. 00:59:48.170 --> 00:59:50.389 Mm -hmm I'm not looking to date you I just you 00:59:50.389 --> 00:59:52.610 know want to stick my finger in your butt, you 00:59:52.610 --> 00:59:55.289 know, whatever And if you don't want to be on 00:59:55.289 --> 00:59:57.369 your list is how to handle rejection on your 00:59:57.369 --> 01:00:00.869 list No, cuz I really don't know how that should 01:00:00.869 --> 01:00:03.849 be on your list. It could be because that's a 01:00:03.849 --> 01:00:06.769 lot of with new within Being new in this it's 01:00:06.769 --> 01:00:09.150 like you are gonna come across rejection. Yes 01:00:09.150 --> 01:00:10.389 Well, I kind of talked about it a little bit, 01:00:10.389 --> 01:00:12.730 but just don't take it personal Yeah, literally 01:00:12.730 --> 01:00:14.250 just because you're not that person's cup of 01:00:14.250 --> 01:00:17.150 tea doesn't mean there's a million other people 01:00:17.150 --> 01:00:19.250 out there who you are their cup of tea There's 01:00:19.250 --> 01:00:21.550 a whole website dedicated to that. Yeah, plenty 01:00:21.550 --> 01:00:23.590 of fish. You ever heard of it? There are plenty 01:00:23.590 --> 01:00:28.300 of fish in the sea Trust me. Yes So but yeah 01:00:28.300 --> 01:00:30.440 anyway the wingman thing there's been quite a 01:00:30.440 --> 01:00:33.559 few since Situations where you've hooked me up 01:00:33.559 --> 01:00:36.739 and introduced us to a couple and then not too 01:00:36.739 --> 01:00:39.340 long ago We had two couples that walked in and 01:00:39.340 --> 01:00:41.679 I was like them and them and then like 15 minutes 01:00:41.679 --> 01:00:43.920 later You're like I see you talking to one and 01:00:43.920 --> 01:00:45.400 then 15 minutes later. You're talking the other 01:00:45.400 --> 01:00:47.780 you're like see I'm talking you up. I'm looking 01:00:47.780 --> 01:00:53.019 you up and and one of them we've Friends with 01:00:53.019 --> 01:00:55.420 the other one not yet getting there getting there 01:00:55.420 --> 01:00:59.340 baby steps See, so I think that's gonna wrap 01:00:59.340 --> 01:01:02.380 this episode up because the next step is gonna 01:01:02.380 --> 01:01:06.239 be events Different types of event of events 01:01:06.239 --> 01:01:09.280 what to bring what to wear what to bring in your 01:01:09.280 --> 01:01:12.500 beer beer go bag Yeah, and I that right there 01:01:12.500 --> 01:01:15.260 is under gonna be a whole part three Because 01:01:15.260 --> 01:01:17.940 there's a whole whole nother fucking list right 01:01:17.940 --> 01:01:21.260 here. See that list Yeah, so you can add to the 01:01:21.260 --> 01:01:23.360 list as we're talking, but I think that's gonna 01:01:23.360 --> 01:01:28.059 be it for episode number do Is there anything 01:01:28.059 --> 01:01:30.420 else you want to cap this bad boy with before 01:01:30.420 --> 01:01:36.559 we call it? How long have we been on? An hour. 01:01:37.159 --> 01:01:40.519 Okay. Because we didn't talk about the meet -and 01:01:40.519 --> 01:01:43.460 -greet we went to at the Cove. What do you want 01:01:43.460 --> 01:01:45.800 to talk about there? You met some listeners. 01:01:46.179 --> 01:01:50.280 Oh yeah, that's right. Yes, we did. You became 01:01:50.280 --> 01:01:53.579 real friendly with the listeners. So we were 01:01:53.579 --> 01:01:58.090 at a meet -and -greet. And all of a sudden, one 01:01:58.090 --> 01:02:01.309 of our friends brings over this young lady to 01:02:01.309 --> 01:02:04.409 me and he's like, hey, here's a listener, introduce 01:02:04.409 --> 01:02:12.349 you. So I took a liking to her. You were sober 01:02:12.349 --> 01:02:15.869 because I came late came from another like I 01:02:15.869 --> 01:02:18.530 came from a bunko thing like a vanilla bunko 01:02:18.530 --> 01:02:20.610 thing I ubered there. Yeah, and then the plan 01:02:20.610 --> 01:02:22.809 was you were gonna meet me there afterwards and 01:02:22.809 --> 01:02:25.170 then just drive home So yeah, you were sober. 01:02:25.190 --> 01:02:27.750 I was sober. I was staying sober. I had the gym 01:02:27.750 --> 01:02:29.550 in the morning or something I don't know. Yeah 01:02:29.550 --> 01:02:34.090 But yes, which is very odd and you you went and 01:02:34.090 --> 01:02:37.210 got drunk real quick Yes, you had those my ties 01:02:37.210 --> 01:02:40.420 going down quick Was I think I was double fist 01:02:40.420 --> 01:02:43.639 in my ties it was it was that was day one of 01:02:43.639 --> 01:02:46.539 my birthday celebration Yeah, it was like well, 01:02:46.539 --> 01:02:49.000 it's a couple days early, but it was still kind 01:02:49.000 --> 01:02:53.119 of Wrapped up in that event a bit my birthday 01:02:53.119 --> 01:02:57.360 So, yeah Yeah, because Sam and Cole kind of were 01:02:57.360 --> 01:02:58.920 like, oh, we'll do a little thing for your birthday 01:02:58.920 --> 01:03:00.599 because they weren't going to be able to make 01:03:00.599 --> 01:03:03.559 it out to Athena's. They brought me over a girl. 01:03:03.559 --> 01:03:07.260 They did. So apparently she or they are listeners. 01:03:07.260 --> 01:03:10.719 I'm not sure to what extent, but we haven't had 01:03:10.719 --> 01:03:13.199 a haven't had a chance to talk because we haven't 01:03:13.199 --> 01:03:15.619 seen them since that party. No, I think we invited 01:03:15.619 --> 01:03:17.500 him out to something else or you invited him 01:03:17.500 --> 01:03:21.659 or whatever. Yeah, but. They don't live exactly 01:03:21.659 --> 01:03:23.420 in the area. Yeah, they're they're a little bit 01:03:23.420 --> 01:03:25.519 away a little bit away So it's it's kind of a 01:03:25.519 --> 01:03:27.820 trek for them to get out, but I'm sure we'll 01:03:27.820 --> 01:03:29.360 see them again probably another meeting great 01:03:29.360 --> 01:03:35.119 but yeah, we Had a good time. I had a good time 01:03:35.119 --> 01:03:37.820 Might have went a little overboard for a vanilla 01:03:37.820 --> 01:03:39.860 setting for a vanilla setting. Well wasn't a 01:03:39.860 --> 01:03:41.880 vanilla setting but it was a vanilla bar vanilla 01:03:41.880 --> 01:03:46.960 bar much for public and I've determined I don't 01:03:46.960 --> 01:03:51.219 like having you sober because you're like You're 01:03:51.219 --> 01:03:54.659 sober Yeah, and you can tell me all the foolish 01:03:54.659 --> 01:03:57.320 things I did. Yeah, exactly If I was drunk, I 01:03:57.320 --> 01:03:58.760 probably would have been running around doing 01:03:58.760 --> 01:04:00.940 all the other things like just doing other things 01:04:00.940 --> 01:04:03.800 and talking to other people but because I was 01:04:03.800 --> 01:04:06.659 sober I was just there and I was talking to one 01:04:06.659 --> 01:04:10.059 of my friends and You were just straight in my 01:04:10.059 --> 01:04:12.199 eyesight and I'm just like this guy is gonna 01:04:12.199 --> 01:04:15.239 get kicked out of this bar And we come here often 01:04:15.239 --> 01:04:20.539 we cannot be physically removed from here Yes, 01:04:21.179 --> 01:04:23.840 so you had a good time. We had a great time that 01:04:23.840 --> 01:04:26.280 you can remember I remember no, I remember you 01:04:26.280 --> 01:04:28.900 remember I remember all the things I don't the 01:04:28.900 --> 01:04:31.800 thing that doesn't track is the amount of time 01:04:31.800 --> 01:04:37.380 of that we were Hanging out Like in my head, 01:04:37.380 --> 01:04:39.519 I remember all the things and had a great time 01:04:39.519 --> 01:04:42.000 But apparently it lasted for a lot longer than 01:04:42.000 --> 01:04:46.239 what I what's in my brain timer. Yeah, so So 01:04:46.239 --> 01:04:48.989 yeah, I'm not gonna put on a show Apparently 01:04:48.989 --> 01:04:51.829 I put on a show, whoever the security was, I'm 01:04:51.829 --> 01:04:55.070 sure they have some great footage. But yeah, 01:04:55.190 --> 01:04:59.349 I had a really good time. We'll be back there 01:04:59.349 --> 01:05:02.789 again in probably December. Until December, yeah, 01:05:02.929 --> 01:05:07.550 because we're alternating your gig with the ones 01:05:07.550 --> 01:05:10.530 at the Cove. Yes. What gig are you talking about? 01:05:10.929 --> 01:05:13.829 Your gig on the 14th of November. Coming up in 01:05:13.829 --> 01:05:16.630 just a couple of weeks. Yeah. Oh, the theme for 01:05:16.630 --> 01:05:22.340 that. Is Hawaiian? No, it's end of summer, Halloween, 01:05:23.440 --> 01:05:29.460 end of summer, luau, Hawaiian fest. The summer 01:05:29.460 --> 01:05:33.579 was over like months ago. Yeah. It's still hot 01:05:33.579 --> 01:05:36.099 as fuck here though. It is hot as fuck here still. 01:05:36.199 --> 01:05:39.300 There's still pool parties happening. So the 01:05:39.300 --> 01:05:41.159 plan is the whole band, we're going to be dressed 01:05:41.159 --> 01:05:45.199 up in Hawaiian and we're going to be giving out 01:05:45.199 --> 01:05:49.530 lays. To our attendees that are part of the say 01:05:49.530 --> 01:05:51.969 less bowling league. We're gonna give you guys 01:05:51.969 --> 01:05:54.190 lays when you come in So you'll be able to recognize 01:05:54.190 --> 01:05:56.750 who's part of you know our party the bowling 01:05:56.750 --> 01:05:59.150 league the bowling league Say less bowling league 01:05:59.150 --> 01:06:01.710 where we use all three holes exactly. I'm gonna 01:06:01.710 --> 01:06:05.150 get a shirt do it So yeah, so that's gonna be 01:06:05.150 --> 01:06:08.650 a great time here coming up soon. So stay tuned 01:06:09.039 --> 01:06:12.840 for episode number three coming soon, soon, soon. 01:06:13.260 --> 01:06:16.900 If you guys can please do us a favor. Go on to 01:06:16.900 --> 01:06:19.739 Apple or Spotify, wherever you listen to the 01:06:19.739 --> 01:06:22.820 podcast and just please give us a 20 star rating. 01:06:23.960 --> 01:06:25.320 If you can't find the twice. 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