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we give on this show should not be taken too

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seriously as we are not professionals at all.

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With that being said, make yourself a drink and

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join us on our journey as a married couple and

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join the lifestyle in beautiful Southern California.

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It's me really quick before you listen to this

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episode. I just wanted to remind everybody out

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there that July 26 the Saturday coming up we

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are gonna be going down to San Diego Ocean Beach

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To watch the goodies band. We have a whole bunch

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of people heading out there if you guys want

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in And you want to come hang out. All you got

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to do is shoot me a text at nine five one two

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two six five two six one and I can give you the

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rest of the details Catch you on the flip side.

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All right, everybody. We are back This is a very

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very special edition of the sweet side of life

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podcast all the way from Southern, California

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The problem is is this is a Tuesday night and

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you are going into this completely sober Which

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is which is not where we normally are normally

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we're Thursday night at about 11 p .m Protein

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shake. Protein shake. Well I am not sober because

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it's Tuesday. Titty Tuesday. In fact, we just

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had one of our podcast listeners. I was talking

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to him about our trip this past weekend to EDR

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and he was supposed to go. He's the one that,

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um, they were going to try to go, but she had

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like work or something. I'm like lame or whatever.

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Um, but yeah, I was talking to him for a little

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bit and then, um, he wished us happy Titty Tuesday

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without you titties. Yeah. You don't send a happy

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TT message without titties. I think he, he did

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like a, uh, Like a meme of like cherries or something.

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No, sir. It's not the same. It's not good enough.

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No, I want actual tits on Titty Tuesday. Even

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if it's man tits. I don't care. Give me tits.

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But um, so this is a slightly different episode.

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I'm gonna cheers myself. Oh, that's so tasty.

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Guess what it is? Vodka Sprite. Shocker! You're

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like a psychic. No, tonight's a very special

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episode because... We're doing something for

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the first time ever we have a live in room in

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studio This is about a studio studio gets so

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we are here live in the studio with a very special

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guest Who is that special guest? Am I saying

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it? Yes! Anastasia! Welcome, Anastasia, to the

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Sweet Side of Life podcast. How are you doing

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tonight? I was just in as much suspense, like

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he's pointing at her. Is she the special guest

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today? I'm the special guest. You're all special

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guests here on TT. So no, um, Anastasia has been

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around in the community for a very long time.

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So, she... I mean... What's up? I mean... Like,

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let's be nice. She's been around since the early

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1900s. You may know her from play. No, anyways,

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no, she's been a face in the community for, you

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know, as long as we've been in that at least.

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Well, how long? You tell us how long. Yeah. So

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my first job within the lifestyle was modeling

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for C Mountain back in 2018. Had no idea why

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I was going there besides to be a nude model.

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Okay. So that's how long I've been in there.

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There you go. So that's... If you had to place

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a year on that, what would you say? She said

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2018, you weren't listening. 2018? I was more

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looking at you, the fact that you weren't talking

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into the microphone. Let's do this. Hold on one

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second. I can't look and... Okay, there. Feel

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better? Yes. About that? Microphones work better

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when you're talking into them. I was like, well,

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you're so way over here. So, now that's better.

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So, Seamountain Inn. We've been there a handful

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of times. Twice. We've always had a good time

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there. Twice, yeah? Mm -hmm. And you started

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just as a model there. I did. Like for their

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advertisements and stuff? Yes, I'm actually still

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in a lot of their advertisements. You are. Yes.

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Yeah, they're still using those pictures, and

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that was many years ago. You're also still the

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face of LSM TV community on Cassidy. Correct.

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Yes, you're still there. I saw you today, in

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fact. I'm like, oh, I recognize her. Yeah, I

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don't even know if he's going to change that

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or not, which I'm totally okay with it. Like,

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I, you know, signed all my paperwork and I worked

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for him doing his, you know, TV journalism stuff

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for LSM TV. And I love doing TV stuff. It's so

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much fun. We actually, we were supposed to go

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when Bia Vida first opened. I think it was no

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it was like splash I think it was splash at that

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time and they were supposed to have a big LS

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MTV Party, but then it got shut down at the like

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the very last second Yeah, you remember that

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we were like going back and forth trying to figure

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out the level of Clothing optional require and

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all that stuff. Yeah never ended up happening

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I think they went away for a little bit and then

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came back as via Vita and MNPP Yeah, there was

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some behind the scenes political stuff that happened

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and it was more of like needing to take a break

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to level some things out with the city before,

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you know, moving forward. Got it. I remember

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they had said something about permits and stuff

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like that. So yeah, cool. And then we actually

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met you at EDR. Yeah. Yes. So did you ever host

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or anything at SMI or did you just do the modeling

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and then start hosting? I just did the modeling

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for sea mountain and any time I was going he

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seemed to make an effort to let people know that

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one of his Models was going to be coming. So

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he kind of used like a publicity thing Oh, you're

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coming this week and well one of our models on

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our website. She's going to be here You've got

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to come meter got it and they use that kind of

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like their publicity stunt thing when I was still

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going over there Okay, and then uh, and then

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you made it over to EDR Just as a host or did

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you kind of do the whole website modeling type

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stuff for there? Uh oh, she's laughing to the

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story. There was some things I didn't like about

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SMI and we ended up trying EDR because they were

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still like the new hush hush place that no one

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had really tried yet and so we had gave it a

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try and I ended up winning a competition. I think

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it was my first or second time there. They did

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a booty shaking competition and I won and I won

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like several hundred dollars in prizes and like

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we used them towards a room and stuff and that's

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how I ended up getting more involved with EDR

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but also there was things listed on the website

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you know they're supposed to be the competition

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and this and that it was Halloween time and me

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and my friends had all brought costumes and things

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and I kept going and I was like hey like when

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are we doing the When are we changing? Like,

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when are you doing this? And I ended up getting...

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I got into an argument with the owner because

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he's like, well, I don't know what you're talking

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about. I'm like, the fuck do you mean? You don't

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know what we're talking about. It's your fucking

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website. Have you not looked at it lately? Yeah.

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So we argued and then like he saw it on there.

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He goes, well, if you want this to happen, you

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need to do it. I'm like, bet. And it turned into

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like this huge... huge party and they had just

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opened the red room for the first time. And after

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that is when he started bringing me back to be

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a hostess because I turned what was like a boring

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evening into a massive party for everyone who

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had costumes and everyone had a great time. Nice.

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So you're kind of like, what's it called at the

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other resorts? What do they call them? Game starters.

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There's a term that they like at RM and all that

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they call them the like the party started you

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were definitely og there Because we we met you

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there you were there with I think it was peaches

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or something Oh peach. Yeah, my email life partner.

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Yes That was her first entrance into learning

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about the lifestyle was going to EDR. Oh, wow.

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Yeah That's interesting. I remember that night

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or that day. We first met you. I didn't have

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a voice You didn't have a voice? Yeah, you remember

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that? On the way there, that night before, my

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voice was like all kind of cracky. I'm like,

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I feel fine, but I don't know what's going on.

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And then I get there and they add another voice

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like this. I kind of remember that, yeah. And

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it sucked, because I'm like super shy to begin

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with. And then I'm going there and I'm like,

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hi guys, nice to meet you. I swear, I'm not like.

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But so yeah, that was the first time we met.

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And we now hung out with you multiple times at

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different pool parties in the area and stuff

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like that. And then, so after EDR, you went over

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to MNPP or NPP, right? Actually, that's where

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it gets a little confusing. I went from there

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over to Splash. Someone had told me about it

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and I went there when they had first opened,

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like maybe their second or third weekend being

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open. And that's actually how Steve got aligned

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with them, is I had a very brief connection with

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Club Alation. And once I started at Splash, that

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thing, that dissipated very quickly. And Steve

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messaged me, or called me, and he goes, okay,

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what's the deal with Splash? What's going on?

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I'm like, all right, I'm gonna tell you all of

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it. Like, you have to really be ready for this.

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And so I, you know, gave him all the information.

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He goes, all right, let's do this. And that's

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how we stepped in with LSM, you know, Lifestyler's

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Magazine, LSM TV, and he started wanting to do

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more things there, and that's what started growing

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for him. And that's when I started doing more,

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like, ambassador staff promoting and then slowly

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moved into doing hosting with both BIA VITA and

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Naked Pool Parties once they were two separate

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entities. And then as BIA VITA was growing, I

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stepped in to manage for Naked Pool Parties to

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help keep both sides going strongly versus one

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side, you know, balancing out more than the other

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because both sides have to pay rent. You know

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what I mean? Yeah. And so that's where I stepped

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in and I was working for Naked Pool Parties for

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a while. OK, cool. We haven't we've been to BIA

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VITA. You know, with the BIA VITA events. What,

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twice? Three times, maybe? I think twice. But

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we have not been to the naked pool party events

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yet. But we're thinking about here trying, maybe

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possibly this weekend. We're not really sure.

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And we're still trying to figure that out. So

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we'll see how it goes. But let's see. So there

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you went. There, there, there. And then you just

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had all this experience from seeing how all these

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other places ran. And you just decided to just

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jump in and kind of start your own venture, right?

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That's kind of how it went. It was more of like

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everywhere you go, every community owner has

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their own thoughts, their own desires, ambitions,

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how they want things to go. And at some point

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I realized that my visions and what was important

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to me really didn't align with others. And so

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I thought it was better to branch out on my own

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and start doing things that fit more align with

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my ideas and my visions versus butting heads

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with or being involved in any politics or drama

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related to other communities. Now from talking

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to you previously, your events are more geared

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towards like the rest, relaxation, more intimate

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hookups than the party vibes. Well, I think that,

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I think a question that would kind of back that

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up is because I think that's what you're getting

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at, but maybe we back it up a little bit is what

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Got you into this thing when we first started

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you said you Didn't you were Polly before you

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didn't know what Polly was or before you knew

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it Polly was how do I get the life? Yeah, how

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did this all like let's back up a little bit

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So we've gone forward we know what you've kind

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of done in certain things but like I think that

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lends itself to some ideas on how you Like philosophically

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see like what you your ideas. Yeah, what your

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differences are. Yeah so I as a teenager I always

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had multiple boyfriends. For me, it felt normal.

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It felt more relaxing, more freedom. I've always

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been a free spirit. And then I did try to do

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the whole marriage thing. It wasn't a great marriage.

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I went through a lot. I think we were just very

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different people. And I outgrew that marriage.

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However, due to some of the struggles I had in

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that marriage, I did end up branching out on

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my own. I did have an affair. And from that affair,

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you know, he and I talked more. I'm like, look,

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like I'm not... I'm not happy. There's a lot

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of things missing. I want to go back to who I

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originally was. Like we can do this together.

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We can part ways. Like at this point, I don't

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care anymore, but I, I'm no longer myself and

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I'm not happy. And that's when he started like,

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okay, let's give this a shot. And he did explore

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the lifestyle with me. We did it really well

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together. Like there was definitely - That's

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your husband, right? Yes. Who you married? Okay,

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sorry. I'm just trying to - Yeah, my marriage.

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Yeah. and so I went from that and then he and

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I separated in 2020 when I've been doing it by

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myself since then and I've I tried the whole

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swinger thing he and I both did and it just it

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was not working for us I never really understood

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why because there's so much about the lifestyle

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I didn't know at that point and it was learning

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where my boundaries are what I'm looking for

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and for me the the swinger part it always felt

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like bed -notching it was it was a little too

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I don't know. There was too much missing for

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me emotionally. And I'm an energetic person.

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I feed off that energy. And so without a good

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energy connection, I wasn't capable of enjoying

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sex or enjoying hanging out with people. And

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that's what led me into being and realizing that

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I am polyamorous. I have to have those romantic

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relationships. I can't just do the whole sex

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part and see each other. Oh, hey, like you're

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cute. Let me bend over the bed. It's just something

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that I wasn't able to do. So that's how I ended

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up where I'm at now with being poly versus swing.

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Think that's why the term has changed from like

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swing I think for a lot of things that people

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do to lifestyle because I think that's more encompassing

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of all the different aspects of it and I think

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when people think swing they think Swapping like

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immediate swapping put key parties like you don't

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know anybody and then you're just fucking them

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like that kind of thing and I think that the

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more I meet people and the more I learn more

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about it and the more even our experiences and

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how we approach it it is to an extent like everybody

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there's a range right there are some people who

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just want to get in get out and fuck and I would

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probably and that's one range right and then

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there's people who want to have boyfriends and

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girlfriends and like loves and things like that

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and that's like probably the complete opposite

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range and then there's people in the middle who

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almost say where we kind of live is like we want

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good friends. We want good fun. And and occasionally

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we might fuck our friends or play with our friends.

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But we're not typically the ones that are like

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one night stands or like we always call ourselves

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a slow burn. in the lifestyle so because we do

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need um for the most part i'm not saying like

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i've never like got intoxicated we've had our

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moments just like yeah but typically typically

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yeah we don't develop them there exactly so i

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think that's why the word lifestyle makes more

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sense than like swinging in a lot of cases because

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a lot of people i meet at different events are

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One range to the other and then it evolves to

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like I've met some people where they're They

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started off kind of like you like where you kind

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of have evolved into what you actually want So

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like you started off one way with your your spouse

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and then kind of now evolve where you're like,

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okay Actually, this is what I like about it Like

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I like this part of it and this is the part I'm

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gonna do about it So I think we like categories

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it but I think the lifestyle kind of I feel like

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that kind of encompasses It is it is it's a really

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broad spectrum. And I still get those messages

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with people who don't read my profile. Hey, you're

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really hot. We'd love to hook up. Let's get together.

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And I'm like, you didn't even read anything.

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And so I can still see the difference in people

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who are still sex -based versus those who truly

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find this as a lifestyle, which they encompass

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a part of their day -to -day life. Yes, we all

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have our vanilla world that we sacrifice our

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lives into. but those of us who are truly in

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-depth into this, like we form the connections,

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we have the same friends, we've seen the same

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people when we go to parties, and it's not something

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that we had to sleep with them, it's just we

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all have the same mindset and there's a respect

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level. Right. And I, as a single female, because

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yes I do date, but I get annoyed really fast

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when I break up with them, but I just, I don't

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like going to the parties, because Oftentimes,

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I become like this piece of meat to where people

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are gravitating towards me. They have no idea

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who I am. They don't ask any questions. And the

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first thing they want to do is sleep with me.

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And that's, I think, why I gear my retreats and

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parties differently is to try to get past that

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so that other women, whether it's in a couple

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or singles, can feel more comfortable knowing,

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OK, I know that sex might be an option, but everyone

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walking through this door knows that you are

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not going to walk up to someone and be like,

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hey, can I bend you over the bed in about an

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hour? Yeah. So that's what your goal is for the

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retreats is to be more long. I could say they're

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a little bit longer, right? You how like their

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weekends or what are I? I have a place that I'm

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able to rent out weekends from and I'm required

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to do a Friday through Sunday. And so I do it

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as a retreat where you have your main guests

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who are staying in a room. And this one is a

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really nice place. They're not just like the

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basic rooms that you find like a mini fridge

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in. They're full on apartments and there's not

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many of them, but you have a separate room, a

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full size bathroom, full size kitchen if you

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choose to do your own cooking and a living room

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for socializing. And so Yes, I do have overnight

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guests, but then I would also have guests who

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come for just a day or do a day -night pass so

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they can enjoy the time there and then they get

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a room somewhere locally because I'm in Desert

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Hot Springs right now for my retreats. Okay.

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Okay. Before we go any further with this, what

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is the name? I'm like, we're starting to like

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flow naturally, but I'm like... People are gonna

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be like, wait, but what is it? They're banging

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the table. What's the name? I know. So it's Paradox

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Prism Productions. And you can find that on Cassidy.

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It's on Cassidy. I have that Brent Shatndenow

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website. yet. A single mom in college full time

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working multiple jobs. Like I just can't financially

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afford to do one of those yet. I'm sorry, but

00:19:02.329 --> 00:19:04.650
that sounds like an excuse. Right? Doesn't it

00:19:04.650 --> 00:19:06.569
though? This is a no excuse that I'm here. Yeah.

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Yeah. The further we get into my life, people

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are going to be like, why have you not had a

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mental breakdown yet? Like, no, I've already

00:19:12.970 --> 00:19:14.970
had three this year. I just hide them really

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well. And I've already scheduled my fourth. School

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starts really soon. So yeah, I've already scheduled

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the fourth one as my classes are starting again.

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So what other communities, or not communities,

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websites, like beyond Cassidy, you have something

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on FetLife, right? I have a profile on FetLife,

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but that doesn't mean that I've actually really

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used it much. OK. I have not learned the ins

00:19:40.599 --> 00:19:42.500
and outs of Fet, and I kind of wish that I had.

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I just haven't got that far. Yeah. We don't have

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one on FetLife, but I want to, because she's

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actually found that she's into Shabari. So I

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find that I could probably find, do you know

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any Shibari people in this area? Every now and

00:20:00.779 --> 00:20:03.420
again I come across someone who's into it. Actually,

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okay, one of my friends slash students from ASL,

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she came to me with her story, which that's something

00:20:12.660 --> 00:20:14.400
we'll get into later about how people just come

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to me with their stories and how it pans out,

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but she started signing. for people who are doing

00:20:20.799 --> 00:20:23.059
like Polly and Shabari events because there was

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a deaf girl who wanted to go and do these. So

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I'll have to reach out to her and text and find

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out where she went for it. That's interesting.

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So she comes as an interpreter to events. She

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does. That's fucking wild. She's like the people

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at the rap concerts, like that one girl. Yes.

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Signs with students. And it's so cool. I did

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three years of sign language and I really wanted

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to continue. But with my you know, brain injuries

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from the previous car accidents that I've had,

00:20:51.140 --> 00:20:54.460
my brain stopped at ASL 3 and they move too fast

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in the class. And when you're doing a test, they

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sign it once and that's all you're getting. And

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I'm like, wait, wait, hold on. Like my brain

00:21:01.660 --> 00:21:05.619
just froze on like the third word. So I stopped

00:21:05.619 --> 00:21:08.440
at ASL 3. You actually found you spoke to me

00:21:08.440 --> 00:21:09.980
with Silent Weed. I don't know if you realized

00:21:09.980 --> 00:21:13.359
it in Silent Weed. We were in Wine Garden. The

00:21:13.359 --> 00:21:15.339
music was playing and you're like... I was like,

00:21:15.960 --> 00:21:19.779
I think she said goodbye? I'm not sure. That

00:21:19.779 --> 00:21:22.700
or fuck you. I don't know. I'm not sure. She

00:21:22.700 --> 00:21:24.660
smiled while she was doing it, so I can only

00:21:24.660 --> 00:21:26.960
assume it was nice. She's like, get away from

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me, creep. I do sign without realizing that I

00:21:31.759 --> 00:21:33.960
do it, but I teach sign language to my three

00:21:33.960 --> 00:21:36.329
-year -old granddaughter. I use it at home with

00:21:36.329 --> 00:21:38.109
my voice and things like that. Half the time

00:21:38.109 --> 00:21:41.230
they're guessing what I'm doing. But there are

00:21:41.230 --> 00:21:44.210
times where from the head injuries that my words

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are just not coming out and I can sign it because

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it's still in my head which my mouth isn't working.

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And so I use signing a lot in my life. It's become

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a part of it and I try and get my voice to use

00:21:56.150 --> 00:21:58.089
it more too. I actually I want to start using

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some sort of code when I go to parties, which

00:22:00.799 --> 00:22:02.740
I want my friends to know, so that if I'm in

00:22:02.740 --> 00:22:05.079
danger, that they're going to know what red means,

00:22:05.119 --> 00:22:06.839
so that I can actually get help versus feeling

00:22:06.839 --> 00:22:08.940
like I'm in a stuck situation. Oh, that's actually,

00:22:08.960 --> 00:22:10.240
yeah, for sure. And let me know what that is,

00:22:10.240 --> 00:22:12.799
because as a... I just showed it to you and you

00:22:12.799 --> 00:22:14.500
weren't even paying attention. Yeah, I was watching.

00:22:14.619 --> 00:22:17.819
I thought you had an itch. I was watching. Yeah,

00:22:17.920 --> 00:22:19.859
at parties, I'm always kind of scanning the crowd,

00:22:19.940 --> 00:22:22.299
looking around, looking for that, and now I know.

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Yeah. And you start educating people on that

00:22:25.660 --> 00:22:27.980
one, so more people know what it is, for sure.

00:22:28.190 --> 00:22:30.869
They could definitely be a game changer if you're

00:22:30.869 --> 00:22:34.390
in a difficult situation. For sure. That's cool.

00:22:36.509 --> 00:22:38.569
The signing doesn't work on podcasts though.

00:22:38.730 --> 00:22:42.890
Yeah, it doesn't. No, but that's okay. At least

00:22:42.890 --> 00:22:45.529
we know what it was. If we all started working

00:22:45.529 --> 00:22:49.609
together to let people know what red is, it would

00:22:49.609 --> 00:22:55.170
help. It would help. So, outside of Paradox Prism...

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Productions do you want to share like your your

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actual screen names and stuff or on? Your the

00:23:01.660 --> 00:23:04.799
webs of different websites and stuff. Oh, I'm

00:23:04.799 --> 00:23:08.140
Cassidy and fed its Anastasia Eve and then I

00:23:08.140 --> 00:23:14.140
have Facebook it's Anastasia Eve Sibyl esse I

00:23:14.140 --> 00:23:16.960
think it's not confusing at all. No, no, I first

00:23:16.960 --> 00:23:20.680
saw it. I'm like, oh I do it Yes, that is who

00:23:20.680 --> 00:23:23.579
I think it is. Just like with most people in

00:23:23.579 --> 00:23:27.079
lifestyle, Anastasia is not my real name. Anastasia

00:23:27.079 --> 00:23:31.279
is my brand. Anastasia Eve Seville creating a

00:23:31.279 --> 00:23:33.220
first, middle, and last name made it easier for

00:23:33.220 --> 00:23:36.900
me to be able to brand my things with however

00:23:36.900 --> 00:23:40.710
many Anastasia's are out there. And there's actually

00:23:40.710 --> 00:23:42.450
not very many, even in the lifestyle. I don't

00:23:42.450 --> 00:23:44.190
really run into them. I haven't met anybody else.

00:23:44.390 --> 00:23:46.990
Yeah, and so it's worked out well. And that's

00:23:46.990 --> 00:23:49.730
why it's that long of a name. And then Essie

00:23:49.730 --> 00:23:51.650
that you see on my Facebook page is actually

00:23:51.650 --> 00:23:54.109
from the family that I've built. It's like my

00:23:54.109 --> 00:23:56.690
adopted family. West Coast Bikini is where I've

00:23:56.690 --> 00:24:00.509
been working since 2019 as a swimmer designer

00:24:00.509 --> 00:24:02.910
and a model and just an absolute pain in the

00:24:02.910 --> 00:24:05.069
ass all the time. That's really what my motto

00:24:05.069 --> 00:24:08.170
is. And so they're like my parents. And so I

00:24:08.170 --> 00:24:10.609
added his last name, you know, as being a, you

00:24:10.609 --> 00:24:14.130
know, bonus dad for me. Okay. Okay. So let's

00:24:14.130 --> 00:24:17.089
go back to Paradox Prisms really quick. So you

00:24:17.089 --> 00:24:20.470
started throwing your own events and, um, actually

00:24:20.470 --> 00:24:22.589
you had one, I don't know if it actually went

00:24:22.589 --> 00:24:25.410
off or not, but it was in Balenzel. It was like

00:24:25.410 --> 00:24:28.329
October 10th. Oh yeah. It was, it was October

00:24:28.329 --> 00:24:31.009
of last year and it was such a fun weekend. So

00:24:31.009 --> 00:24:33.470
it did. Cause I remember I contacted you and

00:24:33.470 --> 00:24:35.369
it's kind of funny cause I went back to my messages.

00:24:35.889 --> 00:24:39.829
Now I have your contact saved. Um, but back in

00:24:39.829 --> 00:24:41.769
the day, I just texted the number that was on

00:24:41.769 --> 00:24:43.309
the website and I was looking at it today as

00:24:43.309 --> 00:24:45.890
like, Hey, just wondering if your party was still

00:24:45.890 --> 00:24:48.289
open for guests. My wife and I might be coming

00:24:48.289 --> 00:24:50.369
with some friends and it was going to be the

00:24:50.369 --> 00:24:52.710
Palm Springs couple, but we didn't get it. Weren't

00:24:52.710 --> 00:24:55.309
able to get a sitter and we, I was trying to

00:24:55.309 --> 00:24:57.470
figure out if we still had time to do the interviews

00:24:57.470 --> 00:25:00.849
because your interview cutoff time had shut down.

00:25:01.210 --> 00:25:03.210
So we didn't end up coming because babysitter

00:25:03.210 --> 00:25:07.019
stuff, but um, So anyways, that was our first

00:25:07.019 --> 00:25:09.299
exposure to Paradox Prism. I didn't even realize,

00:25:09.299 --> 00:25:11.079
I don't think I realized at that time that it

00:25:11.079 --> 00:25:15.579
was you from EDR. I think a lot of people are

00:25:15.579 --> 00:25:18.339
still... Trying to figure out who owns paradox

00:25:18.339 --> 00:25:20.500
and I just recently changed the picture because

00:25:20.500 --> 00:25:22.299
I thought that might help a little bit once people

00:25:22.299 --> 00:25:25.160
realize that it was me and my My connection within

00:25:25.160 --> 00:25:26.559
the community and everything that I've worked

00:25:26.559 --> 00:25:28.559
so hard for no matter who I'm working for I've

00:25:28.559 --> 00:25:30.539
still brought my own love to the people my own

00:25:30.539 --> 00:25:33.039
values To be able to bring that together So I

00:25:33.039 --> 00:25:35.559
just changed my picture to hopefully help people

00:25:35.559 --> 00:25:37.839
figure out who owns it a little more association

00:25:37.839 --> 00:25:40.240
What could somebody expect to come to you kind

00:25:40.240 --> 00:25:42.059
of touched on it a little bit? But what can somebody

00:25:42.059 --> 00:25:45.240
expect going to one of your paradox prisms events?

00:25:46.259 --> 00:25:48.220
Because you've got two weekends coming up right

00:25:48.220 --> 00:25:51.700
away. I do, yes. Those are actually already taken

00:25:51.700 --> 00:25:54.539
care of at this point. But for future reference,

00:25:56.019 --> 00:25:58.200
I do an interview process with everyone. Whether

00:25:58.200 --> 00:26:00.359
you're a single, whether you're a couple, I don't

00:26:00.359 --> 00:26:03.240
care. And the purpose behind that is I don't

00:26:03.240 --> 00:26:06.319
want anyone to show up and one, be offended because

00:26:06.319 --> 00:26:09.160
they see a cock cage, or two, feel like they've

00:26:09.160 --> 00:26:11.240
shown up and nobody wants to talk to them because

00:26:11.240 --> 00:26:14.099
we're quote unquote clicky. being that single

00:26:14.099 --> 00:26:15.859
girl who showed up to parties and tried to make

00:26:15.859 --> 00:26:17.680
friends with people before and being left standing

00:26:17.680 --> 00:26:19.299
in the pool wondering if there's boogers on my

00:26:19.299 --> 00:26:21.460
nose or not, I wanted to avoid that scenario

00:26:21.460 --> 00:26:23.859
for other people. And so I do that interview

00:26:23.859 --> 00:26:25.880
process like, hey, are you into hot wives? Are

00:26:25.880 --> 00:26:28.859
you into cucks? Are you BDSM? Like, what is your

00:26:28.859 --> 00:26:31.440
thing? And I want to know who my guests are.

00:26:31.500 --> 00:26:32.740
I want to make sure that they're going to have

00:26:32.740 --> 00:26:35.359
the best experience. Or if I know that, you know,

00:26:35.460 --> 00:26:37.880
you're into cuck life and those are things that

00:26:37.880 --> 00:26:39.880
you enjoy, I want to make sure I introduce you

00:26:39.880 --> 00:26:42.420
to other couples who have the same mindset, but

00:26:42.420 --> 00:26:44.420
also introduce you to people who have never experienced

00:26:44.420 --> 00:26:47.539
it before so you can educate them on what your

00:26:47.539 --> 00:26:50.140
dynamic is like. We all hear things and we see

00:26:50.140 --> 00:26:52.019
things on the internet all the time and most

00:26:52.019 --> 00:26:54.599
of the time they are completely incorrect and

00:26:54.599 --> 00:26:56.779
everyone's boundaries are different and so I

00:26:56.779 --> 00:27:00.440
love being able to create that social integration

00:27:00.440 --> 00:27:03.960
of multiple dynamics into one melting pot to

00:27:03.960 --> 00:27:05.839
where people can have an open mind and accept

00:27:05.839 --> 00:27:08.079
what's going on with other people without creating

00:27:08.079 --> 00:27:10.319
judgment. If you're going to judge someone because

00:27:10.319 --> 00:27:11.990
they're crawling around all fours and and they're

00:27:11.990 --> 00:27:14.410
saying yes goddess, then don't fucking come to

00:27:14.410 --> 00:27:16.529
the party. There's a pretty good chance it's

00:27:16.529 --> 00:27:19.890
not going to happen. But if it is, you should

00:27:19.890 --> 00:27:21.910
be degrading him the same way that his wife is

00:27:21.910 --> 00:27:23.750
degrading him based on their boundaries. You

00:27:23.750 --> 00:27:25.809
know what I mean? Let's support and love each

00:27:25.809 --> 00:27:27.829
other. We have enough that we're going through

00:27:27.829 --> 00:27:29.569
with the vanilla world not understanding us.

00:27:29.789 --> 00:27:32.890
Let's not make life harder on the inside. Yeah.

00:27:33.250 --> 00:27:35.069
So you just ask questions like what are your

00:27:35.069 --> 00:27:37.529
boundaries? What are your kinks? If you have

00:27:37.529 --> 00:27:43.079
any, what's your dynamic? That's really all it's

00:27:43.079 --> 00:27:44.819
about it, and it's so simple and so many people

00:27:44.819 --> 00:27:46.579
like oh, I don't want to do an interview Yeah,

00:27:46.819 --> 00:27:48.160
all right. Well. I want to you know if you're

00:27:48.160 --> 00:27:49.960
not comfortable with it. That's fine, but this

00:27:49.960 --> 00:27:52.619
is this is a requirement Yeah, you know I ask

00:27:52.619 --> 00:27:54.400
especially like with single males. I'll be like

00:27:54.400 --> 00:27:56.380
okay, so what are you what are you into? I want

00:27:56.380 --> 00:27:58.099
to make sure the single males are actually happy

00:27:58.099 --> 00:28:00.500
and comfortable to you know with single females

00:28:00.500 --> 00:28:02.539
I don't get those as often because most of my

00:28:02.539 --> 00:28:06.140
couples seem to be hot wife and cut couples But

00:28:06.140 --> 00:28:08.099
I do ask all the questions. I want to make sure

00:28:08.099 --> 00:28:09.859
that everyone's on the same page with it. And

00:28:09.859 --> 00:28:12.920
my background is psychology. I just got accepted

00:28:12.920 --> 00:28:15.819
to Barrett Honors College for my bachelor's degree

00:28:15.819 --> 00:28:18.180
and the focus is actually sex and kink therapy.

00:28:18.299 --> 00:28:21.500
So a lot of what I do, as you can see, like creating

00:28:21.500 --> 00:28:23.900
that sort of environment leads to people feeling

00:28:23.900 --> 00:28:26.299
less shamed and more comfortable being open with

00:28:26.299 --> 00:28:30.269
who they are. Right. That's cool. So they can

00:28:30.269 --> 00:28:35.170
expect a level of inclusiveness. Definitely social

00:28:35.170 --> 00:28:39.049
inclusion. Yeah, understanding. Do you cap your

00:28:39.049 --> 00:28:41.970
events at a certain number to keep it intimate?

00:28:42.569 --> 00:28:44.789
for the location that I'm at I don't have a choice

00:28:44.789 --> 00:28:48.289
but to cap it because it's a 1960s boutique hotel

00:28:48.289 --> 00:28:51.349
and so it's very petite in size and there's only

00:28:51.349 --> 00:28:53.910
so many bodies that you can fit in there at one

00:28:53.910 --> 00:28:56.529
time. So many cock cages. There's so many cock

00:28:56.529 --> 00:28:58.970
cages that you can have and I always talk about

00:28:58.970 --> 00:29:00.869
the the cucks and cock cages because I personally

00:29:00.869 --> 00:29:03.339
love cucks. okay and that's why i always like

00:29:03.339 --> 00:29:06.819
cox or cox cages both oh i like both she said

00:29:06.819 --> 00:29:12.200
she's like i personally love cox cox not cox

00:29:12.200 --> 00:29:14.819
cox i mean i like them both in and out of cages

00:29:14.819 --> 00:29:17.859
and i don't know it's a personal passion for

00:29:17.859 --> 00:29:19.859
me and so i always try and give them a safe place

00:29:19.859 --> 00:29:23.599
to to be i've actually ridden a cox face before

00:29:23.599 --> 00:29:26.500
wearing a strap on and had a full orgasm choking

00:29:26.500 --> 00:29:28.539
him with the strap on that i was wearing so that's

00:29:28.539 --> 00:29:34.000
how into it i am It just got really quiet in

00:29:34.000 --> 00:29:37.539
here. That's a lot going on in my brain right

00:29:37.539 --> 00:29:39.579
now. I'm like, okay, so now let's flip the script.

00:29:40.859 --> 00:29:43.940
You got hurt all day. No, you, okay, you do the

00:29:43.940 --> 00:29:46.480
interview. You, to give us your answers to the

00:29:46.480 --> 00:29:48.759
interviews. If you were to interview yourself,

00:29:48.940 --> 00:29:51.809
what would your answers be? Oh, for me going

00:29:51.809 --> 00:29:54.609
to one of my own events? Yes, like I'm Mr. Paradox.

00:29:54.690 --> 00:29:58.569
How's it going? There will not be a Mr. Paradox.

00:29:59.329 --> 00:30:01.490
They always keep screwing everything up for themselves

00:30:01.490 --> 00:30:03.289
and they can't get past like the fifth date.

00:30:04.140 --> 00:30:06.160
It's probably because I'm so strict on my boundaries.

00:30:06.519 --> 00:30:08.880
So if I was to be interviewing, hey, my name's

00:30:08.880 --> 00:30:10.980
Anastasia. I've been in the lifestyle since around

00:30:10.980 --> 00:30:14.559
2018. I have really enjoyed the dynamics with

00:30:14.559 --> 00:30:16.759
different couples as far as becoming their friends,

00:30:16.880 --> 00:30:19.099
to learning about them. I personally don't play

00:30:19.099 --> 00:30:21.480
with couples, super rare that I do. I prefer

00:30:21.480 --> 00:30:24.880
single males. But I love to embrace and engage

00:30:24.880 --> 00:30:28.240
in conversation and explore other people's kinks.

00:30:28.319 --> 00:30:30.319
Like if someone needs a videographer, honey,

00:30:30.339 --> 00:30:32.200
I am happy to help you with that. You need someone

00:30:32.200 --> 00:30:33.420
to hold your hair because you want to... and

00:30:33.420 --> 00:30:35.720
I got gone out hard, let me be a part of this

00:30:35.720 --> 00:30:38.519
experience for you and help you embrace it. And

00:30:38.519 --> 00:30:41.160
then as far as anything else, I'm allergic to

00:30:41.160 --> 00:30:43.119
a lot of foods, so that's one thing I would bring

00:30:43.119 --> 00:30:45.140
up too if I was going to an actual retreat, because

00:30:45.140 --> 00:30:47.160
I ask that question too for people coming in.

00:30:47.180 --> 00:30:49.559
Food allergies? Mm -hmm. So do you guys provide

00:30:49.559 --> 00:30:53.490
food or? I do. I am so... That's the one part

00:30:53.490 --> 00:30:56.829
about being a homemaker that I miss is I loved

00:30:56.829 --> 00:30:59.029
doing all the cooking and all of the baking.

00:30:59.329 --> 00:31:01.910
I'm naturally an entertainer in so many ways.

00:31:01.930 --> 00:31:03.869
I can be on a microphone like you guys saw me

00:31:03.869 --> 00:31:06.210
at EDR and naked standing above a bunch of people.

00:31:06.589 --> 00:31:08.609
Or I can be in a kitchen cooking and baking and

00:31:08.609 --> 00:31:11.609
making sure that people have a relaxing environment,

00:31:11.809 --> 00:31:13.630
free of food allergy issues and just getting

00:31:13.630 --> 00:31:18.170
to connect with each other. You said that you

00:31:18.170 --> 00:31:22.680
are into cucks. So is that... Obviously single

00:31:22.680 --> 00:31:26.380
males and so you enjoy dominating or is that

00:31:26.380 --> 00:31:29.019
like your do you enjoy that part of it? Or I

00:31:29.019 --> 00:31:32.000
am I am just gave a scenario. So I did I'm very

00:31:32.000 --> 00:31:35.759
much a dominant female and As soon as someone

00:31:35.759 --> 00:31:37.480
tries to tell me what to do and now I don't want

00:31:37.480 --> 00:31:38.980
to talk to them anymore And now I'm officially

00:31:38.980 --> 00:31:40.920
going to do what they told me not to do because

00:31:40.920 --> 00:31:44.200
now like fuck you But I'm a very dominant female.

00:31:44.240 --> 00:31:47.440
I love FLR type connections. I love working with

00:31:47.440 --> 00:31:50.940
the cucks and things. What's FLR? That's a female

00:31:50.940 --> 00:31:54.380
-led relationship. Okay, so the wife or girlfriend

00:31:54.380 --> 00:31:57.420
whatever has full control over everything He

00:31:57.420 --> 00:32:00.420
comes to her ask her questions. There's there's

00:32:00.420 --> 00:32:03.039
a very broad dynamic on what that can mean as

00:32:03.039 --> 00:32:06.059
far as Being treated like shit and living in

00:32:06.059 --> 00:32:08.279
a cage in a basement somewhere and still providing

00:32:08.279 --> 00:32:10.180
her with everything that she wants and her getting

00:32:10.180 --> 00:32:13.420
to Have sex with whoever she wants Or you can

00:32:13.420 --> 00:32:16.460
still be living a very happy, peaceful life that

00:32:16.460 --> 00:32:18.039
no one knows any different. Like, you're just

00:32:18.039 --> 00:32:20.839
like a happy, perfect couple. But on the inside,

00:32:21.079 --> 00:32:22.980
you know, kink -wise, you're still in control

00:32:22.980 --> 00:32:25.920
over everything. So yeah, it just works better

00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:29.440
for me that way. Don't get any ideas, Mrs. Sweets.

00:32:31.220 --> 00:32:34.349
I think this is a part of... When guys actually

00:32:34.349 --> 00:32:36.109
go out on dates with me, this I think is a part

00:32:36.109 --> 00:32:38.809
of what makes them so intimidated, whether they're

00:32:38.809 --> 00:32:40.390
studying or they're just stuttering and they

00:32:40.390 --> 00:32:42.710
can't get their shit together. It's actually

00:32:42.710 --> 00:32:44.589
amusing for me. I'm very much a cat. As long

00:32:44.589 --> 00:32:46.170
as I'm still amused, you can still stay around.

00:32:46.230 --> 00:32:47.470
But once I'm not amused anymore, I'm like, okay,

00:32:47.529 --> 00:32:50.549
you can go. And so I've experienced that a lot

00:32:50.549 --> 00:32:53.329
within trying to date, because I don't always

00:32:53.329 --> 00:32:56.730
need someone to be FLR or a cuck. I enjoy someone

00:32:56.730 --> 00:32:59.750
who can be just as strong of a person as I am.

00:33:00.269 --> 00:33:04.319
Okay. So some some people you connect with as

00:33:04.319 --> 00:33:07.839
equal but some people you connect with more on

00:33:07.839 --> 00:33:11.119
a dominant level. Yes. Interesting. I do not,

00:33:11.220 --> 00:33:12.940
I'm not a submissive girl so I don't really do

00:33:12.940 --> 00:33:15.720
the whole switch thing. Yeah. I can say that

00:33:15.720 --> 00:33:17.980
I have one partner and I've been with him long

00:33:17.980 --> 00:33:20.000
term. He is the first person ever and probably

00:33:20.000 --> 00:33:23.220
the only person ever that I have explored bondage

00:33:23.220 --> 00:33:29.099
with. Him... Tying you or yes binding you again.

00:33:29.440 --> 00:33:33.160
I've explored it I'm a writer and so I write

00:33:33.160 --> 00:33:35.819
about my experience in the lifestyle Which is

00:33:35.819 --> 00:33:37.460
something else I went actually looking too legally

00:33:37.460 --> 00:33:39.839
about protecting, you know getting some writing

00:33:39.839 --> 00:33:41.940
done and maybe doing some audiobook stuff, but

00:33:42.440 --> 00:33:44.180
He always wanted to read the things that I'd

00:33:44.180 --> 00:33:45.740
written about my partners and the things that

00:33:45.740 --> 00:33:47.559
I had done and he was reading it and he's like,

00:33:48.039 --> 00:33:49.460
you know what? He goes, I know that you've never

00:33:49.460 --> 00:33:51.319
been tied up. He goes to a lot of things that

00:33:51.319 --> 00:33:53.799
you write about. He goes, I can see things that

00:33:53.799 --> 00:33:55.680
turn you on that maybe you're not catching on.

00:33:55.779 --> 00:33:57.200
He goes, I think that you might actually like

00:33:57.200 --> 00:34:03.339
it. And I was like, oh, ah, okay. And it took

00:34:03.339 --> 00:34:05.079
a while. We didn't just jump right into it because

00:34:05.079 --> 00:34:06.680
we've been together for a couple of years now

00:34:06.680 --> 00:34:10.769
and... Once I finally got to explore it, it's

00:34:10.769 --> 00:34:13.550
been a very fascinating and fun adventure for

00:34:13.550 --> 00:34:16.969
me. It's been very erotic. And it's really nice

00:34:16.969 --> 00:34:19.670
to know that I can trust someone enough to release

00:34:19.670 --> 00:34:22.469
to that point because I've never been able to

00:34:22.469 --> 00:34:24.610
do it before. I've had photographers try and

00:34:24.610 --> 00:34:26.769
pay me double. I never did it with my husband.

00:34:27.309 --> 00:34:28.929
Like nobody, even the thought of it typically

00:34:28.929 --> 00:34:32.789
gives me really bad anxiety. Well, it is good

00:34:32.789 --> 00:34:35.489
that you can find somebody that you could explore

00:34:35.489 --> 00:34:40.630
that side with. Everybody's different Everybody

00:34:40.630 --> 00:34:43.650
puts out a different vibe. We are slowly getting

00:34:43.650 --> 00:34:47.670
into some shenanigans there. I think she she's

00:34:47.670 --> 00:34:52.449
into it more than she thinks I like the restraint

00:34:52.449 --> 00:34:54.730
part of it, but I don't like the full bondage.

00:34:54.730 --> 00:34:59.449
Like I don't I don't enjoy Fully like giving

00:34:59.449 --> 00:35:03.230
up entirely my control We hit what does that

00:35:03.230 --> 00:35:04.989
know? What is that thing? We had you in at the

00:35:04.989 --> 00:35:09.050
House of Black? What's that called? The Is it

00:35:09.050 --> 00:35:11.409
the spreader bar? It was a guillotine type of

00:35:11.409 --> 00:35:14.789
thing Obviously without the head chopping thing.

00:35:15.329 --> 00:35:20.730
Yeah, the gallows the one that's on the bed.

00:35:20.789 --> 00:35:27.769
Yeah I was in that and I was good until I wasn't

00:35:27.769 --> 00:35:30.130
until I was done and then when I start then when

00:35:30.130 --> 00:35:32.110
I was done and we couldn't get me out because

00:35:32.110 --> 00:35:34.610
we had never used it before and we didn't know

00:35:34.610 --> 00:35:41.610
how to get it out so I started freaking out the

00:35:41.610 --> 00:35:43.889
door just opened I don't know how that happened

00:35:43.889 --> 00:35:47.940
but um I was like freaking out like How do I

00:35:47.940 --> 00:35:50.099
get out? Like, get me out. And he's like, I'm

00:35:50.099 --> 00:35:54.219
trying. And I'm like, get me out. Like, I'm done.

00:35:54.460 --> 00:35:56.900
I'm not staying in this any longer. What part

00:35:56.900 --> 00:36:00.219
of I'm trying don't you understand? What part

00:36:00.219 --> 00:36:02.639
of get me out don't you understand? I might panic

00:36:02.639 --> 00:36:05.119
too. We've tried a few things. The first thing

00:36:05.119 --> 00:36:09.199
that we ever used, because... Choking and things

00:36:09.199 --> 00:36:11.360
like just rubbing on my neck is definitely a

00:36:11.360 --> 00:36:14.179
very erotic experience for me I can even climax

00:36:14.179 --> 00:36:16.159
just from that, but it has to with the right

00:36:16.159 --> 00:36:17.460
person the wrong person doesn't I'm probably

00:36:17.460 --> 00:36:20.039
gonna try and snap their neck But with that special

00:36:20.039 --> 00:36:23.280
person, I'm totally okay with it He had gotten

00:36:23.280 --> 00:36:25.789
it's like a little choker thing that goes around

00:36:25.789 --> 00:36:27.610
your neck but it has a tail that goes down the

00:36:27.610 --> 00:36:29.429
back with different places that you can like

00:36:29.429 --> 00:36:32.130
put your hands and so our first time doing it

00:36:32.130 --> 00:36:34.570
it's been over a year since we did this he stood

00:36:34.570 --> 00:36:36.429
behind me and we'd already been playing so i

00:36:36.429 --> 00:36:39.469
was already overheated as soon as he put it around

00:36:39.469 --> 00:36:42.130
my neck my nipples instantly got hard i'm like

00:36:42.130 --> 00:36:45.909
whoa what is happening right now and then uh

00:36:46.000 --> 00:36:48.699
I trusted him enough to attach my hands to the

00:36:48.699 --> 00:36:51.099
back and bend me over the bed and it was a great

00:36:51.099 --> 00:36:53.880
experience because we've been together for so

00:36:53.880 --> 00:36:56.380
long, there's that connection that we have without

00:36:56.380 --> 00:36:58.619
being able to speak and him reading my body language

00:36:58.619 --> 00:37:01.519
and knowing when to pull on it to choke me because

00:37:01.519 --> 00:37:03.760
I'm reaching climax and for me just to be able

00:37:03.760 --> 00:37:07.019
to tap him or squeeze his hand to know to let

00:37:07.019 --> 00:37:10.099
off. So it's been really cool to explore the

00:37:10.099 --> 00:37:12.860
different avenues with him with that. Do you

00:37:12.860 --> 00:37:14.630
guys use a safe word? You don't have to tell

00:37:14.630 --> 00:37:18.530
me what it is, but I haven't needed to. OK, because

00:37:18.530 --> 00:37:20.570
we communicate so much. Hey, are you comfortable?

00:37:20.670 --> 00:37:22.110
Do you need this? Do you need that? Oh, it's

00:37:22.110 --> 00:37:23.750
too tight or like I'm not ready for this like

00:37:23.750 --> 00:37:25.670
we. So I haven't needed to say for it because

00:37:25.670 --> 00:37:28.110
we don't go in that route. He doesn't. There's

00:37:28.110 --> 00:37:30.630
no hitting none of that sort of thing. It's more

00:37:30.630 --> 00:37:33.070
of just like the the light bondage that we've

00:37:33.070 --> 00:37:36.590
done. And then. Yeah, he's brought a few toys

00:37:36.590 --> 00:37:38.750
and stuff like that. So it's it's been a good

00:37:38.750 --> 00:37:40.929
experience. I'm a huge fan of the pinwheel. I

00:37:40.929 --> 00:37:44.650
actually got it from Taz Toys. Okay. She was

00:37:44.650 --> 00:37:47.769
at my handle. Yeah, I wish I had brought it with

00:37:47.769 --> 00:37:51.269
me. Yeah, I don't know what it is either. So

00:37:51.269 --> 00:37:53.690
Taz Toys as we were talking about earlier, she

00:37:53.690 --> 00:37:58.289
is the female half of the poly triad that I am

00:37:58.289 --> 00:38:02.789
in. And she was at my Banzai event her and her

00:38:02.789 --> 00:38:05.960
husband and they were there as a guest, but I

00:38:05.960 --> 00:38:07.260
allowed her to bring her toys. I'm like, hey,

00:38:07.320 --> 00:38:08.860
if you have something, bring it. We ended up

00:38:08.860 --> 00:38:11.780
doing like this whole visual experience for people

00:38:11.780 --> 00:38:14.400
to learn about the candles and the waxes and

00:38:14.400 --> 00:38:16.760
like all these different things. And she noticed

00:38:16.760 --> 00:38:19.519
that I enjoyed the pinwheel. I didn't like who

00:38:19.519 --> 00:38:22.739
was doing it with me, but she noticed that I

00:38:22.739 --> 00:38:24.500
enjoyed it. And so she gave me one and I took

00:38:24.500 --> 00:38:28.760
it to be with one of my partners and when I tell

00:38:28.760 --> 00:38:30.940
you that I came like 30 times without even being

00:38:30.940 --> 00:38:33.239
touched besides a pinwheel like it was I gotta

00:38:33.239 --> 00:38:36.260
look this thing I know it's it's phenomenal but

00:38:36.260 --> 00:38:39.039
I'm an energetic like there has to truly be a

00:38:39.039 --> 00:38:41.059
deep connection and so the the partner and his

00:38:41.059 --> 00:38:43.000
his nickname is the rookie he knows who he is

00:38:43.000 --> 00:38:45.019
people who know me personally know who he is

00:38:45.019 --> 00:38:49.900
as well um I laid in his lap one time and I handed

00:38:49.900 --> 00:38:51.980
him the pinwheel and my head was in his lap and

00:38:51.980 --> 00:38:53.739
he took one hand and just set it, didn't squeeze

00:38:53.739 --> 00:38:55.940
me, just set it across my neck and then gently

00:38:55.940 --> 00:38:58.480
used the pinwheel. Is that a pinwheel? Yes. All

00:38:58.480 --> 00:39:01.099
right, so it's, it kind of looks like a spur

00:39:01.099 --> 00:39:04.500
on the back of a cowboy boot. It does. If people...

00:39:04.500 --> 00:39:08.840
It's a good description. Yeehaw. Yeah. Okay.

00:39:09.699 --> 00:39:12.199
That's interesting. There's multiple variations

00:39:12.199 --> 00:39:15.780
of it. So... So how would how would you use that?

00:39:16.000 --> 00:39:17.940
So you said just rub it up and down your body?

00:39:18.460 --> 00:39:20.679
Yes. And so there's. There's different levels

00:39:20.679 --> 00:39:22.460
of pressure that you can put with it. This is

00:39:22.460 --> 00:39:26.119
a part of exploring sensual play with your partner,

00:39:26.219 --> 00:39:28.019
you know, and that was a part of what we were

00:39:28.019 --> 00:39:30.920
trying to lead people into an education. Sex

00:39:30.920 --> 00:39:33.139
is, yes, it's sex, but there's so much more to

00:39:33.139 --> 00:39:34.760
it and there's so much more that you can do.

00:39:35.199 --> 00:39:37.920
Men experience, you know, being hard, being soft.

00:39:37.980 --> 00:39:40.000
Women sometimes aren't wet or we're not ready,

00:39:40.059 --> 00:39:42.000
like finding different things sensually that

00:39:42.000 --> 00:39:45.940
you can do to be able to add to your sexual experience

00:39:45.940 --> 00:39:49.750
can lead to a much better memory of what you've

00:39:49.750 --> 00:39:52.269
done together and more, you know, pleasure. Yeah.

00:39:52.469 --> 00:39:55.250
And so that was part of what we were encompassing

00:39:55.250 --> 00:39:58.010
into the Bonzal retreat that we did. And for

00:39:58.010 --> 00:40:00.269
me, the pinwheel has been the one that stuck

00:40:00.269 --> 00:40:02.190
with me the longest that I've enjoyed the most.

00:40:02.230 --> 00:40:04.289
But you have to be real careful because if you

00:40:04.289 --> 00:40:06.889
put too much pressure, you're gonna break the

00:40:06.889 --> 00:40:09.469
skin. Okay. Some people want to break the skin,

00:40:09.650 --> 00:40:11.170
eye into the hand, do not want to break the skin.

00:40:11.170 --> 00:40:13.869
Right. I'm very gentle with it and going across

00:40:13.869 --> 00:40:17.769
the body and it's such... it's such a... It's

00:40:17.769 --> 00:40:19.130
hard to explain. It's almost like if someone

00:40:19.130 --> 00:40:20.989
was taking very light needles and barely touching

00:40:20.989 --> 00:40:24.130
your skin and going one piece at a time. And

00:40:24.130 --> 00:40:27.409
you want to go slower for the most part and go

00:40:27.409 --> 00:40:28.969
over different sections, like going over the

00:40:28.969 --> 00:40:30.869
nipples and then going down the waistline, the

00:40:30.869 --> 00:40:34.030
inside of the thigh, because our body's nerves

00:40:34.030 --> 00:40:37.349
respond differently in different parts. And it

00:40:37.349 --> 00:40:39.650
can lead to so much arousal that you didn't realize

00:40:39.650 --> 00:40:43.230
that you can have, besides just like... slapping

00:40:43.230 --> 00:40:45.150
your clit or like rubbing your cock. There's

00:40:45.150 --> 00:40:47.909
so much more to it. I've actually put the pinwheel

00:40:47.909 --> 00:40:50.289
on someone's cock before and he loved it. Just

00:40:50.289 --> 00:40:51.949
FYI. There's so much you can do with one of these.

00:40:51.969 --> 00:40:55.730
I already bought five. They're on its way. Well,

00:40:56.309 --> 00:40:58.590
if you haven't bought anything, but if you do

00:40:58.590 --> 00:41:00.210
buy something, you have to buy it from Taz Toys.

00:41:00.409 --> 00:41:03.349
Of course. Taz Toys and she she has so many different

00:41:03.349 --> 00:41:06.989
products when when she started with me, she had

00:41:06.989 --> 00:41:10.719
a really good line and then. I'm very into kink

00:41:10.719 --> 00:41:12.599
and the different things that I do and her line

00:41:12.599 --> 00:41:16.179
went from being like this little bubble right

00:41:16.179 --> 00:41:19.019
here to expanding into its own massive universe

00:41:19.019 --> 00:41:22.320
with different planets of foot fetish and bondage

00:41:22.320 --> 00:41:24.480
and things like she kept growing it the further

00:41:24.480 --> 00:41:27.119
we got together. And it's really cool to see

00:41:27.119 --> 00:41:29.000
the different things that she has now. Like me

00:41:29.000 --> 00:41:31.019
working with Cuck, she got a whole Cuck line.

00:41:31.219 --> 00:41:33.300
Oh, there you go. Specifically for Cucks. Different

00:41:33.300 --> 00:41:35.059
sorts of cock cages and everything. I have a

00:41:35.059 --> 00:41:37.659
foot fetish boyfriend. She has all foot fetish

00:41:37.659 --> 00:41:39.639
things and the jewelry. What would you have for,

00:41:39.639 --> 00:41:42.139
oh, it would be jewelry? What kind of toys would

00:41:42.139 --> 00:41:44.400
you have for people with foot fetishes? So on

00:41:44.400 --> 00:41:47.780
my Paradox Instagram page, I posted a video.

00:41:48.440 --> 00:41:52.360
She bought a foot masturbator. It's actually,

00:41:52.960 --> 00:41:55.199
it's a foot. It looks like it's half a foot and

00:41:55.199 --> 00:41:57.940
there's a hole in the bottom and you stick your

00:41:57.940 --> 00:42:00.679
Mr. Winky in the hole and you masturbate with

00:42:00.679 --> 00:42:03.760
it, with the foot. In the hole, like in the heel?

00:42:05.320 --> 00:42:06.679
I don't know. We're going to have to show you

00:42:06.679 --> 00:42:11.360
the video. I'm intrigued. I am intrigued as well.

00:42:11.420 --> 00:42:13.739
I mean, I don't have a foot fetish, but I far

00:42:13.739 --> 00:42:16.920
from a foot fetish, but I didn't used to have

00:42:16.920 --> 00:42:20.769
one. And now you do. It was a really interesting,

00:42:21.070 --> 00:42:23.449
I do, I have a foot fetish. A men's feet? No.

00:42:23.530 --> 00:42:25.650
Or women's feet? No, I like people with my feet.

00:42:25.829 --> 00:42:28.789
Oh, okay. So you like, you enjoy? Yeah, I do.

00:42:29.570 --> 00:42:31.690
My entrance into that was I was doing a foot

00:42:31.690 --> 00:42:33.610
fetish photo shoot one time, it was my very first

00:42:33.610 --> 00:42:37.349
shoot. And he liked doing videos. and pictures

00:42:37.349 --> 00:42:39.530
and so I thought I was role -playing talking

00:42:39.530 --> 00:42:42.269
to this camera and I'm laying on my stomach on

00:42:42.269 --> 00:42:44.030
a couch my feet are flipped up so you can see

00:42:44.030 --> 00:42:46.429
my soles and I'm like yeah baby you know you

00:42:46.429 --> 00:42:48.690
want to come suck these toes I'm like really

00:42:48.690 --> 00:42:50.349
playing into me he's like oh yeah you want me

00:42:50.349 --> 00:42:52.989
to suck your toes like they belong in your mouth

00:42:52.989 --> 00:42:56.119
come get them And he turned off the camera and

00:42:56.119 --> 00:42:57.460
I thought he went to grab a different camera

00:42:57.460 --> 00:42:58.840
because he had all these different ones. Next

00:42:58.840 --> 00:43:01.000
thing I know, my fucking toes are in this man's

00:43:01.000 --> 00:43:03.519
mouth. I don't even think I even know his name

00:43:03.519 --> 00:43:05.440
at that point. Like he's just photographer. And

00:43:05.440 --> 00:43:07.440
I was like, what the fuck is happening right

00:43:07.440 --> 00:43:11.079
now? And I kept my resting, resting model face

00:43:11.079 --> 00:43:12.579
because I knew there was other cameras watching

00:43:12.579 --> 00:43:15.219
me because it was all being recorded. And that

00:43:15.219 --> 00:43:17.139
was the start of me learning about it and being

00:43:17.139 --> 00:43:19.340
more intrigued. And it become more of an amusement.

00:43:19.460 --> 00:43:23.130
And then I met someone. And he and I have slowly

00:43:23.130 --> 00:43:26.789
organically built into a true foot fetish relationship.

00:43:26.789 --> 00:43:30.210
I've had full orgasms with him using my feet

00:43:30.210 --> 00:43:32.510
to stroke his cock and him like sucking on my

00:43:32.510 --> 00:43:38.030
toes like I have given you a Foot job, I guess

00:43:38.030 --> 00:43:40.309
is what you would call it. There's the video

00:43:40.309 --> 00:43:45.130
Okay, so we also did foot fetish paintings. Yeah,

00:43:45.130 --> 00:43:47.429
that's paintings. Yeah, so that's blacklight

00:43:47.429 --> 00:43:53.809
reactive and then You'll probably have to go

00:43:53.809 --> 00:43:56.889
to her page to see everything, but there's definitely

00:43:56.889 --> 00:44:02.449
feet with jewelry and Oh, you just got a bunch

00:44:02.449 --> 00:44:06.010
of stuff So this is Taz Toys website. This is

00:44:06.010 --> 00:44:09.570
Paradox Prisms. Oh, it's one of the videos. Gotcha.

00:44:09.969 --> 00:44:15.190
Gotcha. Yeah, they're Instagram Paradox Prism

00:44:15.190 --> 00:44:17.809
Productions Instagram. So what I'm gonna do is

00:44:17.809 --> 00:44:20.039
um when we're all done here, I wanna get all

00:44:20.039 --> 00:44:22.539
your links and I'll put them up on the podcast

00:44:22.539 --> 00:44:24.820
body and everything so we can direct clickable.

00:44:25.079 --> 00:44:28.099
I did recently turn everything private. Okay.

00:44:28.679 --> 00:44:30.780
I have a situation that I'm currently having

00:44:30.780 --> 00:44:33.739
to work with and for now things are being kept

00:44:33.739 --> 00:44:36.780
private until I get that finished. But they will

00:44:36.780 --> 00:44:38.840
eventually be left. put back to public again

00:44:38.840 --> 00:44:40.639
after I get everything situated. Well, we'll

00:44:40.639 --> 00:44:44.840
put them and then people can request you or and

00:44:44.840 --> 00:44:46.539
then when you're ready to let people in, you

00:44:46.539 --> 00:44:49.260
can accept all their requests. I've been slowly

00:44:49.260 --> 00:44:51.920
trying to do that. It would honestly help if

00:44:51.920 --> 00:44:55.659
people added a message with their requests. And

00:44:55.659 --> 00:44:57.840
so I heard about you. Right. Like, oh, hey, I

00:44:57.840 --> 00:44:59.559
was listening to the podcast. I'd love to be

00:44:59.559 --> 00:45:01.599
able to join your page. Because if I get 100

00:45:01.599 --> 00:45:03.420
people who are requesting and I'm worrying about

00:45:03.420 --> 00:45:05.760
my homework, I want to accept the people who

00:45:05.760 --> 00:45:08.239
are actually there. for the right reasons. Yeah.

00:45:08.539 --> 00:45:12.000
It's not just yo, or randoms. If your requests

00:45:12.000 --> 00:45:14.400
are not anything that we're going to put up of

00:45:14.400 --> 00:45:18.239
Anastasia's or Prism, Paradox Prism production,

00:45:18.940 --> 00:45:23.519
the PPP. The PPP. Put a little note so that she

00:45:23.519 --> 00:45:25.480
knows. The PPP of the LS. Where you're coming

00:45:25.480 --> 00:45:27.840
from so she can accept you. You heard about her

00:45:27.840 --> 00:45:29.920
on the Sweet Side of Life podcast. There you

00:45:29.920 --> 00:45:32.219
go. Yeah. Speaking of the pinwheel, it sounds

00:45:32.219 --> 00:45:35.960
very similar to, how is that? Whispers. Not too

00:45:35.960 --> 00:45:38.820
long ago, and I got the vampire gloves on my

00:45:38.820 --> 00:45:41.579
back. Oh, I've heard of those. That was interesting.

00:45:41.619 --> 00:45:43.940
She has like the long nails. No, we had like

00:45:43.940 --> 00:45:45.519
pins in the hands. There was long nails and there

00:45:45.519 --> 00:45:49.500
was pins in the hands. Oh, okay. So there's,

00:45:49.780 --> 00:45:51.900
I looked, I was actually told by multiple listeners,

00:45:52.159 --> 00:45:53.380
like, I was like, where do I find these? And

00:45:53.380 --> 00:45:55.119
I just started getting links. Like, here you

00:45:55.119 --> 00:45:57.719
go, here you go. I'm like, oh damn. Y 'all are

00:45:57.719 --> 00:46:03.360
all kinky. It's a thing. But there's ones where

00:46:03.360 --> 00:46:06.610
it's like, pin needle and if you go like just

00:46:06.610 --> 00:46:08.769
push your hand into your thigh it would like

00:46:08.769 --> 00:46:12.530
inject you yeah um but the one i had was more

00:46:12.530 --> 00:46:15.570
barbed like thicker thicker it's not gonna penetrate

00:46:15.570 --> 00:46:18.349
me but yeah she was like scraping down my back

00:46:18.349 --> 00:46:20.530
and and you do love to have your back scratched

00:46:20.530 --> 00:46:23.989
it got like deep i was like okay i was like to

00:46:23.989 --> 00:46:25.710
the point where i'm like i need to get you something

00:46:25.710 --> 00:46:30.210
but uh that felt good i'm not really like into

00:46:30.210 --> 00:46:34.170
any kinks per se but apparently I might be because

00:46:34.170 --> 00:46:37.889
I enjoyed that and uh yeah we probably don't

00:46:37.889 --> 00:46:41.829
explore central play as much as maybe we ought

00:46:41.829 --> 00:46:45.670
to you know so Lainey from Taz Toys would be

00:46:45.670 --> 00:46:48.329
a great person to actually discuss that with

00:46:48.329 --> 00:46:53.550
she has a a secondary option what she calls apogee

00:46:53.550 --> 00:46:57.139
okay where she you know within safe boundaries

00:46:57.139 --> 00:47:00.699
can actually meet with a client in a space where

00:47:00.699 --> 00:47:02.820
they can learn about toys. Like she'll interview

00:47:02.820 --> 00:47:05.719
with them and ask them questions and then she'll

00:47:05.719 --> 00:47:07.619
bring out, hey these are the things I think would

00:47:07.619 --> 00:47:09.500
be appropriate for you or she can help educate

00:47:09.500 --> 00:47:11.900
you on different things. And the reason she and

00:47:11.900 --> 00:47:14.420
I do so well together is she comes for the part

00:47:14.420 --> 00:47:17.300
of understanding the toys and I come to part

00:47:17.300 --> 00:47:19.980
of understanding the psychology behind the people

00:47:19.980 --> 00:47:22.219
and what they are looking for. We're helping

00:47:22.219 --> 00:47:24.820
them not be ashamed of what their kinks are so

00:47:24.820 --> 00:47:27.800
they can Embrace it better. Yeah, so we have

00:47:27.800 --> 00:47:29.699
a very interesting dynamic to where she's usually

00:47:29.699 --> 00:47:32.159
serious when and I am the person with the dildo

00:47:32.159 --> 00:47:35.780
Who's trying to use as a lightsaber going? Running

00:47:35.780 --> 00:47:37.820
around the house. So we we have a really great

00:47:37.820 --> 00:47:40.019
time when we're you know recording together and

00:47:40.019 --> 00:47:42.519
stuff Speaking of that. Are there any dildos

00:47:42.519 --> 00:47:45.679
that have lasers that shoot out of the tip? You

00:47:45.679 --> 00:47:47.780
know what, if there is, I'm going to find one.

00:47:47.980 --> 00:47:50.099
Cause that would be fucking amazing. I'm sure

00:47:50.099 --> 00:47:52.659
now you're going to get a bunch of lightsaber

00:47:52.659 --> 00:47:56.539
dildos in your text group. That I know Facebook's

00:47:56.539 --> 00:48:00.059
listening right now. So anytime I discuss anything,

00:48:00.519 --> 00:48:03.519
like for the next two days, my FIP is just bloop.

00:48:03.900 --> 00:48:05.800
So I'm going to be getting... Well, she does

00:48:05.800 --> 00:48:09.199
have the whole monster line. So there's, there's,

00:48:09.199 --> 00:48:11.199
you're looking at, you don't know what the monster

00:48:11.199 --> 00:48:12.960
line is. I don't know what the monster line is.

00:48:14.639 --> 00:48:17.139
Intro we have a we don't we're not huge in the

00:48:17.139 --> 00:48:19.960
toys. We have like our vibrator like our bullets

00:48:19.960 --> 00:48:24.239
We have like a lot of kink either so a lot of

00:48:24.239 --> 00:48:27.739
kink stuff I have no idea with the monster line.

00:48:27.800 --> 00:48:30.460
I guess we're pretty vanilla. They look like

00:48:30.460 --> 00:48:33.340
monster They look like monsters and aliens and

00:48:33.340 --> 00:48:35.780
then she has like the tentacle one. Oh, okay

00:48:35.780 --> 00:48:38.159
There's there's also the unicorn dildo that I

00:48:38.159 --> 00:48:39.920
guess is becoming really popular right now. She

00:48:39.920 --> 00:48:43.610
also ordered some like life -like blow -up dolls

00:48:43.610 --> 00:48:47.630
too. She has a lot of things in her collection.

00:48:48.230 --> 00:48:50.030
I got really creative last time I was at her

00:48:50.030 --> 00:48:51.650
house when she had all these different toys that

00:48:51.650 --> 00:48:54.940
she had and I got a lazy Susan table. And I set

00:48:54.940 --> 00:48:56.619
it up and we're putting the toys on there and

00:48:56.619 --> 00:48:58.239
like spinning it so that you can see all the

00:48:58.239 --> 00:49:00.039
way around Just like you do like the old QVC.

00:49:00.219 --> 00:49:03.639
Yeah shows and so yeah toy roulette Yeah, she

00:49:03.639 --> 00:49:06.039
she has a lot of really cool things But she would

00:49:06.039 --> 00:49:07.960
be a great person to go to it to be like oh hey

00:49:07.960 --> 00:49:10.079
these are things that we haven't tried or you

00:49:10.079 --> 00:49:11.460
know What are the ideas that you think would

00:49:11.460 --> 00:49:13.519
be good for us? Depending on you know what you

00:49:13.519 --> 00:49:16.440
want to play with the candle wax is very interesting

00:49:16.440 --> 00:49:18.260
They do have different levels of candle wax if

00:49:18.260 --> 00:49:20.219
you're exploring different sorts of like sensual

00:49:20.219 --> 00:49:23.940
play The person who I did it with for the demonstration,

00:49:24.960 --> 00:49:26.980
that's probably why I didn't like it and he did

00:49:26.980 --> 00:49:31.679
it wrong. But in general, having that blend of

00:49:31.679 --> 00:49:34.099
heat and cold and pain and pleasure, blending

00:49:34.099 --> 00:49:38.019
it together in a safe environment with the right

00:49:38.019 --> 00:49:42.030
person can be very erotic. Think that's why we

00:49:42.030 --> 00:49:44.150
like to go to parties sometimes and like if there's

00:49:44.150 --> 00:49:46.190
anything kink there like I'm the first to be

00:49:46.190 --> 00:49:50.170
like I'll try it like We did we went to whispers

00:49:50.170 --> 00:49:55.170
a while back and she did a shabari She got flogged

00:49:55.170 --> 00:49:57.090
and then she did it. It's called electric play

00:49:57.090 --> 00:49:59.469
electric play. Have you ever tried that? So I

00:49:59.469 --> 00:50:01.769
have a reliever heart condition and I cannot

00:50:01.769 --> 00:50:05.250
do electric play I was really honored several

00:50:05.250 --> 00:50:08.449
years ago to be invited to a private dungeon

00:50:09.099 --> 00:50:12.659
And everyone was so welcoming of me being at

00:50:12.659 --> 00:50:15.719
that point completely ignorant to all of the

00:50:15.719 --> 00:50:18.320
kink stuff. But I got to watch everything that

00:50:18.320 --> 00:50:20.800
they did and ask them questions and learn more

00:50:20.800 --> 00:50:22.840
about the people there and see the electric play.

00:50:23.280 --> 00:50:25.980
I did let him put it on me on a very low setting

00:50:25.980 --> 00:50:28.119
just so I could feel it. And then I had to go

00:50:28.119 --> 00:50:30.639
take my heart medicine because it hurt. So and

00:50:30.639 --> 00:50:34.280
then I saw one of the girls there. She had this.

00:50:34.779 --> 00:50:36.860
this mesh that she laid over top of her body.

00:50:37.019 --> 00:50:39.639
She was on the St. Andrew or the cross, St. Andrew's

00:50:39.639 --> 00:50:43.179
cross, isn't it? Okay, cool. And then he touched

00:50:43.179 --> 00:50:46.559
her once, but because it had, it went everywhere

00:50:46.559 --> 00:50:48.360
and she's like ripping it off. She's calling

00:50:48.360 --> 00:50:50.579
for everyone to come get her off the cross. And

00:50:50.579 --> 00:50:52.880
I did not see her for the rest of the night.

00:50:52.980 --> 00:50:54.320
I'm like, you know what? I'm going to see if

00:50:54.320 --> 00:50:56.460
I learn from other people's choices and I'm,

00:50:56.719 --> 00:51:00.079
I am good. She took that Uber home. Probably

00:51:00.079 --> 00:51:03.199
not my thing. Yeah, I don't know. You did it

00:51:03.199 --> 00:51:04.920
on your nipples, right? Yeah, the electric plate

00:51:04.920 --> 00:51:06.679
wasn't really my thing and you were nervous.

00:51:06.880 --> 00:51:09.909
I'm an electrician. So I'm looking at this and

00:51:09.909 --> 00:51:13.969
I'm like, what's the amps here? This is my woman

00:51:13.969 --> 00:51:17.090
here. I'm all up for trying new things, but I

00:51:17.090 --> 00:51:20.090
know what it looks like to get shocked. You do

00:51:20.090 --> 00:51:23.030
electric play a lot at work. I shocked myself

00:51:23.030 --> 00:51:25.869
today. It was a good time. You gave me a boner.

00:51:26.030 --> 00:51:29.670
Yeah, I really did it. So you're into electric

00:51:29.670 --> 00:51:35.510
play. Got it. Nailed it. It wasn't really my

00:51:35.510 --> 00:51:38.130
thing. The Shabari I liked. I didn't enjoy watching

00:51:38.130 --> 00:51:40.090
you get shocked. Yeah. I enjoyed watching you

00:51:40.090 --> 00:51:41.789
get flogged. Yeah. I enjoyed watching you get

00:51:41.789 --> 00:51:45.110
tied up. Yeah the Shabari I liked the most probably.

00:51:45.469 --> 00:51:48.309
So I actually bought a book and I bought some

00:51:48.309 --> 00:51:51.719
practice things and I kind of want to... put

00:51:51.719 --> 00:51:53.880
that into my thing and I can be the guy at the

00:51:53.880 --> 00:51:58.179
party that I cannot currently find. Well, I'm

00:51:58.179 --> 00:52:01.340
in a group that's done by, her name is Uni. Yes,

00:52:01.360 --> 00:52:03.559
I know Uni. She posts a lot of different things.

00:52:03.780 --> 00:52:07.159
I think she does post about Shabari events and

00:52:07.159 --> 00:52:08.780
also being able to do Shabari classes to where

00:52:08.780 --> 00:52:12.159
you can learn. I have a long -term friend slash

00:52:12.159 --> 00:52:15.440
photographer that he's went to classes as well

00:52:15.440 --> 00:52:17.760
to do all that and he's like, hey, can I try?

00:52:17.880 --> 00:52:20.909
I'm like, no. I'm good. That sounds like something

00:52:20.909 --> 00:52:23.250
you'd totally be into, restrained on everyone.

00:52:24.789 --> 00:52:29.389
When I was hosting for Club Alation, I did allow...

00:52:29.400 --> 00:52:31.940
One of the gentleman to put one on me, but it

00:52:31.940 --> 00:52:33.900
was worn almost like a shirt would be worn like

00:52:33.900 --> 00:52:36.760
a vest And yeah, I didn't feel something like

00:52:36.760 --> 00:52:40.000
that It was it was too close to my neck and I

00:52:40.000 --> 00:52:42.539
was feeling anxiety and stress with it Just being

00:52:42.539 --> 00:52:44.460
up here, which is funny because I like my neck

00:52:44.460 --> 00:52:46.840
being played with but has to be with the right

00:52:46.840 --> 00:52:50.460
person Yeah, every situation is different like

00:52:50.460 --> 00:52:52.300
you could be loving it and over here. It's a

00:52:52.300 --> 00:52:54.480
trigger. It's like it Completely you just never

00:52:54.480 --> 00:52:57.019
know. Yeah, I was actually just talking about

00:52:57.019 --> 00:52:59.099
that to a newer couple I was talking to because

00:52:59.099 --> 00:53:01.539
we were discussing like she was triggered by

00:53:01.539 --> 00:53:03.219
something and she was like we had already discussed

00:53:03.219 --> 00:53:05.780
it and it was fine like between the two couples

00:53:05.780 --> 00:53:09.320
like he was doing something and He was told previously

00:53:09.320 --> 00:53:11.300
like that's within our boundaries and you're

00:53:11.300 --> 00:53:15.159
fine to do that. But just that scenario She was

00:53:15.159 --> 00:53:17.599
uncomfortable with and so it's like you never

00:53:17.599 --> 00:53:20.880
like with anything your own body with your significant

00:53:20.880 --> 00:53:25.179
others body Just everything is very situational.

00:53:25.400 --> 00:53:27.719
I think like you can't it's hard to put a blanket

00:53:27.719 --> 00:53:30.679
like this is for me at least like this is a hundred

00:53:30.679 --> 00:53:32.860
percent like what I'm comfortable with because

00:53:32.860 --> 00:53:35.420
I it can change from party to party from people

00:53:35.420 --> 00:53:39.239
to people from just vibe to vibe like I mean

00:53:39.239 --> 00:53:41.340
even just my own personal feelings like I can

00:53:41.340 --> 00:53:43.260
just feel a certain way one day and then the

00:53:43.260 --> 00:53:45.280
next day they'll look completely certain different

00:53:45.280 --> 00:53:49.079
way my emotions change between you and I you

00:53:49.079 --> 00:53:51.719
enjoy you know being choked yeah nothing too

00:53:51.719 --> 00:53:54.840
crazy yeah Has anybody ever touched your neck

00:53:54.840 --> 00:53:58.579
in any play situations? And how did that make

00:53:58.579 --> 00:54:03.119
you feel? Yeah. I think someone has. I cannot

00:54:03.119 --> 00:54:08.260
think of who it was. But it wasn't a lot of choking.

00:54:08.579 --> 00:54:09.940
It was just hands on the neck. A lot of times,

00:54:10.099 --> 00:54:11.739
as a guy point of view, you just kind of touch

00:54:11.739 --> 00:54:14.199
the neck, and you can feel how their body reacts.

00:54:14.579 --> 00:54:17.000
And if they don't move, if they don't even adjust,

00:54:17.280 --> 00:54:18.340
then they're probably not in good. Have you done

00:54:18.340 --> 00:54:22.440
it to somebody? I've touched necks. I've gotten

00:54:22.440 --> 00:54:24.539
a good reaction so then a little more pressure

00:54:24.539 --> 00:54:26.659
but I'm not like where I'm like choking like

00:54:26.659 --> 00:54:31.179
sometimes to you I'm like But I would never like,

00:54:31.460 --> 00:54:33.739
you know go full strength on someone without

00:54:33.739 --> 00:54:36.300
having a full conversations but I have like put

00:54:36.300 --> 00:54:38.880
your hand on the neck and if I see them like

00:54:38.880 --> 00:54:41.179
Then I'm like, okay, they're into it a little

00:54:41.179 --> 00:54:43.579
bit. Yeah, that's where I stop just enough to

00:54:43.579 --> 00:54:46.820
you know introduce that but I've never been like

00:54:46.820 --> 00:54:52.010
You sometimes yeah Yeah, I've definitely been

00:54:52.010 --> 00:54:53.710
choked to the point of being close to passing

00:54:53.710 --> 00:54:56.969
out, but I always do the whole tap thing. But

00:54:56.969 --> 00:54:59.449
they're with people who I trust. So I'm, you

00:54:59.449 --> 00:55:01.869
know. I think a lot of that stuff you have to

00:55:01.869 --> 00:55:04.329
be with people you trust. So it's actually referred

00:55:04.329 --> 00:55:08.550
to as edge play. So I have done a lot within

00:55:08.550 --> 00:55:11.110
the sex and kink therapy stuff. And I did a presentation

00:55:11.110 --> 00:55:13.309
as a request by one of my honors professors at

00:55:13.309 --> 00:55:15.389
my last college. And that was one of the things

00:55:15.389 --> 00:55:18.510
that I touched on. We use the word edging when

00:55:18.510 --> 00:55:20.090
we're talking about getting close to orgasm and

00:55:20.090 --> 00:55:22.070
stopping. Yeah, yeah, that's how I know it. There's

00:55:22.070 --> 00:55:25.230
a completely different version where that word

00:55:25.230 --> 00:55:28.269
edge play is used when it comes to the more dangerous

00:55:28.269 --> 00:55:33.329
types of play. So if you're doing... Damn it,

00:55:33.329 --> 00:55:36.750
what's the word? Not fetish play. Barrier -free

00:55:36.750 --> 00:55:40.210
sex. So if you have a breeding fetish or if you're

00:55:40.210 --> 00:55:43.690
into the razor blades or being whipped and like

00:55:43.690 --> 00:55:45.369
the asphyxiation, like there's certain things

00:55:45.369 --> 00:55:47.929
that are referred to as edge play because it

00:55:47.929 --> 00:55:51.630
is on the edge of being dangerous and it's honestly

00:55:51.630 --> 00:55:53.610
in some cases people can look at it as being

00:55:53.610 --> 00:55:55.730
abusive if you are not doing it correctly and

00:55:55.730 --> 00:55:57.909
you're not in the right setting. Yeah. Well it's

00:55:57.909 --> 00:56:00.449
just like choking if done incorrectly. Correct.

00:56:00.650 --> 00:56:02.630
It is a part of edge play. If you go front and

00:56:02.630 --> 00:56:05.670
that's tricky and it's like you're unalive with

00:56:05.670 --> 00:56:08.610
somebody. So yeah it's all about the rear naked

00:56:08.610 --> 00:56:14.070
jump. But we actually um the House of Black Place

00:56:14.070 --> 00:56:18.510
that we we've gone to once now They uh, they

00:56:18.510 --> 00:56:21.829
have BDSM nights where that's dry events because

00:56:21.829 --> 00:56:24.989
of that no alcohols allowed because they want

00:56:24.989 --> 00:56:27.989
everybody to be super safe and I want to go to

00:56:27.989 --> 00:56:30.210
one of those events but for me to go any to any

00:56:30.210 --> 00:56:32.170
type of these parties I need like a couple of

00:56:32.170 --> 00:56:34.329
drinks to loosen up because I'm just too too

00:56:34.329 --> 00:56:37.349
well and tightly So I want to go to one of those

00:56:37.349 --> 00:56:41.260
and try it, but I might try I don't think I can

00:56:41.260 --> 00:56:45.380
do dry, so pre -party at Friday's. I don't drink

00:56:45.380 --> 00:56:48.019
or do anything anyway, so everything I do I'm...

00:56:48.019 --> 00:56:50.449
You'll be fine. I'm wild and crazy without it.

00:56:50.449 --> 00:56:52.769
Like we don't need me to have any of that. I

00:56:52.769 --> 00:56:54.130
actually don't drink because it just gives me

00:56:54.130 --> 00:56:57.349
a hangover in 45 minutes. You gotta keep drinking

00:56:57.349 --> 00:57:00.909
through that. No, no. So back in the day when

00:57:00.909 --> 00:57:03.349
I was a dancer and working in bars and stuff,

00:57:03.349 --> 00:57:06.389
I could drink sailors under the table. No problem.

00:57:06.409 --> 00:57:08.949
I was a four horseman kind of girl, liquid cocaine,

00:57:09.050 --> 00:57:11.730
didn't need a chaser. Like I would fuck some

00:57:11.730 --> 00:57:13.889
shit up back then. But as my body has changed,

00:57:13.989 --> 00:57:15.849
my body is like, oh no girl, go sit down. We're

00:57:15.849 --> 00:57:20.800
not doing this anymore. I've actually done some

00:57:20.800 --> 00:57:23.340
whipping and things. I have a pink bag. I've

00:57:23.340 --> 00:57:27.179
had guys come to me for more of a, I refer to

00:57:27.179 --> 00:57:29.599
it as like a therapeutic session where they want

00:57:29.599 --> 00:57:32.900
to be degraded by someone who's not in a relationship

00:57:32.900 --> 00:57:34.559
with them. And I've interviewed them in advance

00:57:34.559 --> 00:57:37.119
and I've actually met up with them and they pay

00:57:37.119 --> 00:57:39.760
me as a dom. So there's no sexual interactions

00:57:39.760 --> 00:57:41.940
whatsoever. It's the whipping, degrading, having

00:57:41.940 --> 00:57:44.389
them crawl around on the floor. that kind of

00:57:44.389 --> 00:57:45.630
thing. I've actually considered if I want to

00:57:45.630 --> 00:57:48.070
do a profession as a dominatrix. It sounds like

00:57:48.070 --> 00:57:50.489
really fun for me. Yeah. I could see it. I think

00:57:50.489 --> 00:57:52.170
that's what I was kind of getting at the first

00:57:52.170 --> 00:57:53.630
part of what we were talking about where you

00:57:53.630 --> 00:57:56.869
said you have a dominant personality and that

00:57:56.869 --> 00:57:58.070
you want to be in a dominant relationship. A

00:57:58.070 --> 00:58:00.989
lot of professional dominatrix, they have their

00:58:00.989 --> 00:58:03.989
degree as a doctor in psychology. There is so

00:58:03.989 --> 00:58:06.250
much more to it than what people think that there

00:58:06.250 --> 00:58:09.010
is. I mean a lot of it's just mental, like understanding

00:58:09.010 --> 00:58:11.909
how to talk to the person. communicating what

00:58:11.909 --> 00:58:14.429
it is you want, making them feel that, I mean,

00:58:14.510 --> 00:58:16.909
yeah, you could dom somebody without even doing

00:58:16.909 --> 00:58:19.170
this stuff, so. Oh, yeah, no, absolutely. And

00:58:19.170 --> 00:58:22.929
I've, I really enjoy it. I also have learned

00:58:22.929 --> 00:58:26.789
through what I'm doing in psychology that There's

00:58:26.789 --> 00:58:29.849
that stigma, oh, well people do BDSM because

00:58:29.849 --> 00:58:32.289
they were abused as children. That is a myth.

00:58:32.469 --> 00:58:34.849
There are so many children who have been abused,

00:58:35.369 --> 00:58:37.150
whether you're in the vanilla world or in the

00:58:37.150 --> 00:58:39.650
kink world, that it overflows into both sides.

00:58:40.250 --> 00:58:42.869
However, one of the interesting facts is studies

00:58:42.869 --> 00:58:45.889
are showing people are using BDSM in a therapeutic

00:58:45.889 --> 00:58:49.289
setting to take control of and recover and heal

00:58:49.289 --> 00:58:53.019
from their past traumas as children. which is

00:58:53.019 --> 00:58:55.260
absolutely fascinating for me. I'm actually trying

00:58:55.260 --> 00:58:56.980
to decide what I'm gonna do for my thesis and

00:58:56.980 --> 00:59:00.280
I keep leaning more towards exploring more into

00:59:00.280 --> 00:59:02.280
the psychological damages that happened to people

00:59:02.280 --> 00:59:04.739
when they were younger and how they are using

00:59:04.739 --> 00:59:07.739
BDSM to be able to heal from those scenarios.

00:59:09.400 --> 00:59:11.239
Interesting. Very interesting. What's stopping

00:59:11.239 --> 00:59:14.639
you from becoming a dominatrix as a profession?

00:59:14.760 --> 00:59:16.800
I don't think anything's stopping me. I just

00:59:16.800 --> 00:59:21.369
haven't got that far yet. I am technically a

00:59:21.369 --> 00:59:23.090
single mom and I'm going to school and doing

00:59:23.090 --> 00:59:24.969
the best that I can but that's that's still something

00:59:24.969 --> 00:59:26.929
in the back of my mind that I think I can enjoy.

00:59:27.429 --> 00:59:30.110
I also really like doing my lifestyle parties

00:59:30.110 --> 00:59:33.650
and I'm hoping that as time goes on I want a

00:59:33.650 --> 00:59:35.530
property that actually belongs to me versus renting

00:59:35.530 --> 00:59:38.329
one out and being able to do them more consistently

00:59:38.329 --> 00:59:41.690
in a space that everyone is aware of. I will

00:59:41.690 --> 00:59:44.630
never be planning for a level of like EDR I think

00:59:44.630 --> 00:59:47.489
that's too big of a facility for me. It also

00:59:47.489 --> 00:59:51.190
goes against like the intimate Yes, it does.

00:59:51.489 --> 00:59:53.210
I prefer more of an intimate setting. I think

00:59:53.210 --> 00:59:55.889
a max 50 people. When I was working for like

00:59:55.889 --> 00:59:58.369
Bia Vida and naked pool parties, there was a

00:59:58.369 --> 01:00:02.800
hundred people there. It can be a lot. I still

01:00:02.800 --> 01:00:05.480
spent time in between rushing to open the door

01:00:05.480 --> 01:00:07.860
and signing people in and doing tours to try

01:00:07.860 --> 01:00:09.739
to personally connect with as many guests as

01:00:09.739 --> 01:00:11.639
I could. Can I remember their names? Absolutely

01:00:11.639 --> 01:00:13.380
fucking not. But I also let everyone know I have

01:00:13.380 --> 01:00:14.940
brain damage. I don't fucking remember anything.

01:00:15.420 --> 01:00:17.019
It makes me a great therapist. I can't tell anyone

01:00:17.019 --> 01:00:19.880
your secrets. You're like, who are you again?

01:00:20.340 --> 01:00:22.940
It's like, I remember what your trauma is, but

01:00:22.940 --> 01:00:27.440
I don't remember what your name is. Cool, so

01:00:27.440 --> 01:00:29.719
you had said that you're a couple of weekends

01:00:29.719 --> 01:00:31.980
you have coming up right now for paradox prisms

01:00:31.980 --> 01:00:35.019
are you already kind of sold out or? Yeah, those

01:00:35.019 --> 01:00:38.579
are already taken care of nice um My school is

01:00:38.579 --> 01:00:41.159
getting ready to start so I'm gonna be focusing

01:00:41.159 --> 01:00:44.639
on that and figuring out my boundaries with My

01:00:44.639 --> 01:00:47.420
sanity with school before I take on anything

01:00:47.420 --> 01:00:50.840
else Okay, just to because I again my my education

01:00:50.840 --> 01:00:52.920
is what it's going to give everyone that safe

01:00:52.920 --> 01:00:55.000
space Is there furthering within the livestock

01:00:55.000 --> 01:00:57.179
site? I consider myself a livestock coach people

01:00:57.179 --> 01:00:59.719
come to me all the time Like you saw in that

01:00:59.719 --> 01:01:01.920
group the other day that I was guiding a single

01:01:01.920 --> 01:01:04.179
male into doing things And so yeah, I want to

01:01:04.179 --> 01:01:06.039
make sure I get my degree and focus on that because

01:01:06.039 --> 01:01:08.429
that is definitely a priority Speaking of single

01:01:08.429 --> 01:01:10.369
males, you said when we kind of first sat down

01:01:10.369 --> 01:01:12.349
before we started recording that you're wanting

01:01:12.349 --> 01:01:15.230
to make a book about how to be a single male

01:01:15.230 --> 01:01:17.309
in the lifestyle. I don't know if I want to do

01:01:17.309 --> 01:01:19.929
a book or if I want to start doing like some

01:01:19.929 --> 01:01:23.050
videos or whatever. There's... as a single female

01:01:23.050 --> 01:01:25.909
I have encountered so many people and I'm like

01:01:25.909 --> 01:01:29.010
how did you make it out of the sixth grade without

01:01:29.010 --> 01:01:32.449
reading or just like where are you going with

01:01:32.449 --> 01:01:34.489
this how far did you expect to actually get with

01:01:34.489 --> 01:01:36.789
this conversation yeah when you're approaching

01:01:36.789 --> 01:01:38.969
me so I can imagine what couples go through too

01:01:38.969 --> 01:01:41.889
especially for the hot wives and things and I

01:01:41.889 --> 01:01:43.909
feel like there's a lot of people who don't know

01:01:43.909 --> 01:01:46.409
what they're doing they want to explore it but

01:01:46.409 --> 01:01:49.070
they still need guidance yeah and I know I kind

01:01:49.070 --> 01:01:52.309
of Got a comment from someone like well the ones

01:01:52.309 --> 01:01:54.110
who have it have it and the other one shouldn't

01:01:54.110 --> 01:01:56.889
be here And I'm like well hold on Like we all

01:01:56.889 --> 01:01:59.750
start from somewhere right and we want to be

01:01:59.750 --> 01:02:02.690
the best or some of us do Without proper guidance.

01:02:02.769 --> 01:02:05.460
How are we supposed to be the best, right? And

01:02:05.460 --> 01:02:07.719
I've also gotten a lot of backlash for being

01:02:07.719 --> 01:02:09.440
comfortable with younger guys in the lifestyle.

01:02:09.639 --> 01:02:12.619
That's a very sensitive topic. You know, the

01:02:12.619 --> 01:02:14.900
age is 18 to 25. Everyone's like, oh, well, they're

01:02:14.900 --> 01:02:17.219
too young. I'm like, OK, but do you want them

01:02:17.219 --> 01:02:19.880
to learn now or do you want them to fuck up for

01:02:19.880 --> 01:02:21.900
the next 10, 15 years and everyone be mad at

01:02:21.900 --> 01:02:23.659
them for not doing it, right? When you never

01:02:23.659 --> 01:02:27.079
took the opportunity to guide them. Right. So

01:02:27.079 --> 01:02:30.849
what would be let's just go with maybe. Three

01:02:30.849 --> 01:02:33.050
things like top three things right off the top

01:02:33.050 --> 01:02:34.829
of your head that you would tell a single guy

01:02:34.829 --> 01:02:38.090
like When going into the lifestyle, what would

01:02:38.090 --> 01:02:41.469
you me me me me? What would you be profile first?

01:02:41.690 --> 01:02:45.050
Okay Okay, so reading it and understanding it

01:02:45.050 --> 01:02:48.349
are two completely different things. I wish that

01:02:48.349 --> 01:02:51.070
more people would just like an interview process

01:02:51.070 --> 01:02:55.030
read the profile, understand it, take pieces

01:02:55.030 --> 01:02:58.750
from the profile and create a paragraph to respond

01:02:58.750 --> 01:03:00.610
to someone. Don't just be like, hey girl, you're

01:03:00.610 --> 01:03:02.889
hot. Wanna hang out? No, I don't. You don't have

01:03:02.889 --> 01:03:04.750
enough intelligence to occupy my time for more

01:03:04.750 --> 01:03:08.760
than 30 seconds. Show me that you are worth my

01:03:08.760 --> 01:03:11.219
investment. Why should I invest my time into

01:03:11.219 --> 01:03:14.219
you? Don't be a car salesman. Don't tell me how

01:03:14.219 --> 01:03:16.320
big your penis is and how much is in your bank

01:03:16.320 --> 01:03:18.400
account. Damn it, I gotta take that out. You

01:03:18.400 --> 01:03:22.139
need to take that out. Yes, size does matter,

01:03:22.139 --> 01:03:25.480
but that's also not the biggest key factor for

01:03:25.480 --> 01:03:29.260
me. And I have a very detailed profile. I think

01:03:29.260 --> 01:03:31.159
I scare a lot of people away with my profile,

01:03:31.159 --> 01:03:34.300
but there's others who like the challenge. And

01:03:34.300 --> 01:03:36.750
details could be scary. Scary like for a guy.

01:03:36.789 --> 01:03:39.030
He's just like well that she's not gonna be easy

01:03:39.030 --> 01:03:41.949
like this is a lot of work Well, then she's then

01:03:41.949 --> 01:03:45.289
she's exactly deferred Correct. Exactly. You've

01:03:45.289 --> 01:03:47.530
already kind of cut down that portion of the

01:03:47.530 --> 01:03:49.969
audience. I do I actually had it I had a 25 year

01:03:49.969 --> 01:03:52.070
old guy who was recently going back and forth

01:03:52.070 --> 01:03:54.250
with me and talking he's in the Temecula area

01:03:54.250 --> 01:03:58.070
and We finally agreed to go somewhere to eat

01:03:58.070 --> 01:04:01.230
Well, I'm like, okay before we go any further

01:04:01.230 --> 01:04:04.420
mind. I never gave my phone number like I'm assuming

01:04:04.420 --> 01:04:06.739
that you did, but I want to double check. Did

01:04:06.739 --> 01:04:09.719
you read my profile so there's no questions,

01:04:09.960 --> 01:04:12.860
concerns, or confusion by the time we actually

01:04:12.860 --> 01:04:16.480
get together in person? And he absolutely ghosted.

01:04:16.840 --> 01:04:21.000
Didn't say a single word after that. If I am

01:04:21.000 --> 01:04:24.780
too much, go find less. If you were at the bottom

01:04:24.780 --> 01:04:28.130
of the barrel, good for you, but I am not. And

01:04:28.130 --> 01:04:29.849
I would rather let's not waste each other's time.

01:04:29.949 --> 01:04:31.630
So the first one would definitely be reading

01:04:31.630 --> 01:04:34.389
and understanding it. Use the profile to recreate

01:04:34.389 --> 01:04:36.010
yourself just like you did in third grade. They

01:04:36.010 --> 01:04:38.769
tell you like okay this is the topic build something

01:04:38.769 --> 01:04:41.030
with it. Right. So that would definitely be the

01:04:41.030 --> 01:04:45.530
first. The second would be I don't like when

01:04:45.530 --> 01:04:48.010
guys are over flirty and we haven't even fucking

01:04:48.010 --> 01:04:52.030
met. Do not talk about my bodily features as

01:04:52.030 --> 01:04:53.789
though they were going to be yours wrapped in

01:04:53.789 --> 01:04:56.500
your bed at some point. You should approach every

01:04:56.500 --> 01:04:58.880
woman one with respect but two is being her friend

01:04:58.880 --> 01:05:01.739
first Because if you don't have that friendship,

01:05:01.780 --> 01:05:03.980
it's not going to be the same Yeah, she needs

01:05:03.980 --> 01:05:06.539
to feel safe if we're not safe and we can't relax.

01:05:06.539 --> 01:05:09.320
We're not going to enjoy sex without women There

01:05:09.320 --> 01:05:13.559
is no lifestyle. Yeah so Focusing on friendship

01:05:13.559 --> 01:05:19.320
not on the sex don't objectify my body and third

01:05:19.320 --> 01:05:26.719
No You must have missed my whole experience with

01:05:26.719 --> 01:05:28.460
the guy that I was dating for like two years

01:05:28.460 --> 01:05:30.340
that his dick was too big and I was asking him

01:05:30.340 --> 01:05:31.960
to sleep with other women because I physically

01:05:31.960 --> 01:05:33.699
could not have sex with him. I need a break,

01:05:34.360 --> 01:05:39.139
sir. Literally, it's my wrist. And not everyone's

01:05:39.139 --> 01:05:42.199
body is capable of accommodating that. I love

01:05:42.199 --> 01:05:45.000
the women who can. This little girl is not one

01:05:45.000 --> 01:05:49.179
of them. So size does matter in many ways. I'm

01:05:49.179 --> 01:05:50.320
trying to think for the third one, what would

01:05:50.320 --> 01:05:53.650
be the next one? Oh, being capable of carrying

01:05:53.650 --> 01:05:57.110
on an intelligent conversation. That the whole

01:05:57.110 --> 01:05:59.510
one -word things and stuff like that and not

01:05:59.510 --> 01:06:01.349
creating an actual conversation to where it's

01:06:01.349 --> 01:06:06.550
one -sided is boring. Yeah. And I would imagine

01:06:06.550 --> 01:06:10.530
you don't want pushy, but you do want, what's

01:06:10.530 --> 01:06:15.650
the... Assertive? Not even assertive, just follow,

01:06:15.650 --> 01:06:18.943
like a follow -up person. Is someone who's actually...

01:06:19.480 --> 01:06:23.539
engaged. It needs to be engaged. I think engaged

01:06:23.539 --> 01:06:26.300
is a good word. I think some women like to be

01:06:26.300 --> 01:06:28.679
chased. They like that person to constantly be

01:06:28.679 --> 01:06:33.159
going for them or trying to, I guess, push in

01:06:33.159 --> 01:06:34.480
the right direction because they like someone

01:06:34.480 --> 01:06:36.900
who's dominant. As soon as I feel the slightest

01:06:36.900 --> 01:06:39.119
bit that you were trying to be pushy with me

01:06:39.119 --> 01:06:41.559
or I feel you've turned this into a sexual venture

01:06:41.559 --> 01:06:43.760
versus getting to know me as a human, I don't

01:06:43.760 --> 01:06:46.179
want to talk to you anymore. I have lost all

01:06:46.179 --> 01:06:49.159
interest. and it's actually in my profile do

01:06:49.159 --> 01:06:53.320
not chase me if i want you i will let you know

01:06:53.320 --> 01:06:56.119
and that's a very important detail i think a

01:06:56.119 --> 01:06:58.599
lot of people are our men are missing when it

01:06:58.599 --> 01:07:00.000
comes looking at profiles and the same thing

01:07:00.000 --> 01:07:03.400
goes for couples like i've seen some of the messages

01:07:03.400 --> 01:07:06.760
that couples get too and i'm like yeah yeah i

01:07:06.760 --> 01:07:09.780
know we got this one dude uh i think he finally

01:07:09.780 --> 01:07:12.719
gave up but they're for the better part of two

01:07:12.719 --> 01:07:16.380
years We had a single male that, at no less than

01:07:16.380 --> 01:07:20.519
once a month, would send his BSP and a message

01:07:20.519 --> 01:07:24.719
would be like, yo. And I'm like, no, the first

01:07:24.719 --> 01:07:26.880
time I think I wrote back, you know, not interested,

01:07:27.519 --> 01:07:31.559
no thanks. But in once a month, send BSP, yo.

01:07:32.099 --> 01:07:36.920
Send BSP, yo. It was like, bro, come on. You're

01:07:36.920 --> 01:07:38.920
not even trying here. You're just, you know,

01:07:39.079 --> 01:07:40.840
throwing shit against the fans. And for people

01:07:40.840 --> 01:07:43.099
who don't know what a BSP is, it's on Cassidy.

01:07:43.119 --> 01:07:46.019
It's the backstage pass. So it's like your secret,

01:07:46.480 --> 01:07:51.840
your not public view of your of your like. Album

01:07:51.840 --> 01:07:53.980
so a lot of times it'll contain some people for

01:07:53.980 --> 01:07:55.440
some people it contains like a bunch of sexual

01:07:55.440 --> 01:07:57.380
stuff for some people It just contains their

01:07:57.380 --> 01:08:00.719
faces that they don't have on Cassidy. So yeah,

01:08:00.719 --> 01:08:03.440
so yeah That's that's another issue for me too

01:08:03.440 --> 01:08:06.159
is I don't have a backstage pass There is no

01:08:06.159 --> 01:08:09.480
explicit erotic pictures out there of me whatsoever

01:08:09.480 --> 01:08:12.000
You can even find them on OnlyFans the most you'll

01:08:12.000 --> 01:08:15.059
see on there is like bikini and artistic nudes

01:08:15.059 --> 01:08:18.899
and so your OnlyFans and shoot Yeah, I need I

01:08:18.899 --> 01:08:21.909
need to update my OnlyFans I haven't done it

01:08:21.909 --> 01:08:23.710
in a while. I mean, I got this new boob job last

01:08:23.710 --> 01:08:25.189
year and there's really not even that many pictures

01:08:25.189 --> 01:08:29.449
of my new tits on there. But I'll get someone

01:08:29.449 --> 01:08:31.250
send me their backstage pass. Hey, if I have

01:08:31.250 --> 01:08:34.470
backstage pass, can you open yours? Oftentimes

01:08:34.470 --> 01:08:37.229
I feel that too many people are using Cassidy

01:08:37.229 --> 01:08:41.829
as like their own porn site. And it just drives

01:08:41.829 --> 01:08:45.869
me nuts. We used to use our backstage pass just

01:08:45.869 --> 01:08:50.050
for face, but now we're faces out. So right now

01:08:50.050 --> 01:08:54.189
I think we have a couple slightly more sexualized

01:08:54.189 --> 01:08:56.350
pics in there, but for the most part it's nothing.

01:08:56.350 --> 01:09:00.529
I really wouldn't know. I'm never on Taz. I got

01:09:00.529 --> 01:09:02.729
like 20 dick pictures, like different poses,

01:09:02.930 --> 01:09:05.689
I got cock cages. Good. I've never seen you in

01:09:05.689 --> 01:09:09.250
a cock cage. I own five. Do you? Yeah, all different

01:09:09.250 --> 01:09:12.390
colors. All different colors. So we've talked

01:09:12.390 --> 01:09:14.470
about Paradox Prism, we've talked about Taz Toys,

01:09:14.609 --> 01:09:17.079
we've talked about your... You're coming up in

01:09:17.079 --> 01:09:19.039
the coming up in yellow. Sounds like a song.

01:09:19.659 --> 01:09:21.779
Is there anything else you'd like to talk about

01:09:21.779 --> 01:09:24.560
while we got you here? I don't know. You have

01:09:24.560 --> 01:09:26.479
to put me on the spot to actually think about

01:09:26.479 --> 01:09:27.659
something. You're supposed to be the one asking

01:09:27.659 --> 01:09:29.899
me all the questions. I asked you about everything

01:09:29.899 --> 01:09:34.020
that I can think of. Oh, we were talking about

01:09:34.020 --> 01:09:38.779
experiences earlier and triggers and I. I wanted

01:09:38.779 --> 01:09:41.479
to feed back into that. A lot of times you can

01:09:41.479 --> 01:09:43.680
be in a scenario to where you're not experiencing

01:09:43.680 --> 01:09:46.380
anything and then a trigger happens. I'm one

01:09:46.380 --> 01:09:49.039
of the people who will not say anything at that

01:09:49.039 --> 01:09:52.420
moment and I will take that time to reflect and

01:09:52.420 --> 01:09:57.140
digest why I'm experiencing a trigger. To know

01:09:57.140 --> 01:09:59.359
if I need to actually speak with my partner about

01:09:59.359 --> 01:10:01.579
it or if I need to work on something from my

01:10:01.579 --> 01:10:04.439
past to be able to... Get through it. So you

01:10:04.439 --> 01:10:06.779
don't immediately rate react to it. You just

01:10:06.779 --> 01:10:09.319
kind of let me let me take this in and talk about

01:10:09.319 --> 01:10:11.600
this later Yeah, even if I'm going somewhere

01:10:11.600 --> 01:10:13.800
with someone and they do something that I'm like

01:10:13.800 --> 01:10:18.060
I don't know how I feel about that I will wait

01:10:18.060 --> 01:10:20.840
until we're not in that time and moment and give

01:10:20.840 --> 01:10:23.020
myself time to reflect I I had that scenario

01:10:23.020 --> 01:10:26.939
happen to me A year ago January to where someone

01:10:26.939 --> 01:10:29.880
recorded me without my permission And the only

01:10:29.880 --> 01:10:31.479
reason why I knew it was because I caught him

01:10:31.479 --> 01:10:34.789
doing it in the mirror And we're laying there

01:10:34.789 --> 01:10:38.430
afterwards and we're just talking and I was anxiety

01:10:38.430 --> 01:10:40.050
filled and I was nervous and I'm like, so did

01:10:40.050 --> 01:10:43.390
you? Did you record me? He's like, oh yeah, well

01:10:43.390 --> 01:10:44.729
it just didn't turn out the way that I thought

01:10:44.729 --> 01:10:47.729
it would. Did you want to see it? I'm like, yeah.

01:10:48.350 --> 01:10:51.329
Yeah, I do. And he showed it to me and I absolutely

01:10:51.329 --> 01:10:55.720
hated it. But I wasn't sure how I felt because

01:10:55.720 --> 01:10:57.439
this is someone who I had been seeing for a few

01:10:57.439 --> 01:11:01.579
months He was with me and peach when we did our

01:11:01.579 --> 01:11:04.220
our honeymoon photo shoot, which was a pretty

01:11:04.220 --> 01:11:07.159
erotic photo shoots however, those images were

01:11:07.159 --> 01:11:11.699
private and not to be released and Him recording.

01:11:11.760 --> 01:11:14.619
I wasn't sure how I felt for many reasons. He

01:11:14.619 --> 01:11:16.720
didn't ask there was no consent You weren't even

01:11:16.720 --> 01:11:20.409
gonna tell me that you did it And so I took time

01:11:20.409 --> 01:11:22.770
to actually reflect how I felt about that because

01:11:22.770 --> 01:11:25.770
I don't like porn. And like a week later I had

01:11:25.770 --> 01:11:27.869
a complete mental and emotional breakdown when

01:11:27.869 --> 01:11:31.750
I realized why I felt the way that I did. I have

01:11:31.750 --> 01:11:35.130
a trauma with porn back from my marriage because

01:11:35.130 --> 01:11:37.770
at one point early on he was choosing porn over

01:11:37.770 --> 01:11:40.130
me and I started making porn with him just to

01:11:40.130 --> 01:11:44.420
get him to pay attention to me. While I was unhappy

01:11:44.420 --> 01:11:46.319
with the scenario that happened to me, I actually

01:11:46.319 --> 01:11:48.579
appreciate the fact that I experienced it because

01:11:48.579 --> 01:11:50.939
it put me in a position to reflect on myself

01:11:50.939 --> 01:11:54.340
and what I had been through so that I could realize,

01:11:54.520 --> 01:11:56.060
hey, I have something I need to work on, whether

01:11:56.060 --> 01:11:58.539
I can get past it or not, but then also being

01:11:58.539 --> 01:12:00.619
able to go back to that person and be like, hey,

01:12:01.000 --> 01:12:03.659
I've realized I truly have trauma with porn and

01:12:03.659 --> 01:12:05.960
like you've really put me in a situation to where

01:12:05.960 --> 01:12:07.560
I don't feel like I can trust you and I'm not

01:12:07.560 --> 01:12:09.140
doing well with this, like I was a complete emotional

01:12:09.140 --> 01:12:11.699
mess. And while he did delete it, he's like,

01:12:11.760 --> 01:12:13.819
oh, well, you should have just told me, in my

01:12:13.819 --> 01:12:15.600
head, you never should have fucking recorded

01:12:15.600 --> 01:12:18.180
me. Yeah, that's definitely a consent thing.

01:12:18.439 --> 01:12:21.119
It should be a consent thing, especially if you've

01:12:21.119 --> 01:12:23.020
seen my OnlyFans, you know I don't have anything

01:12:23.020 --> 01:12:24.739
like that out there and that I don't have partners

01:12:24.739 --> 01:12:27.000
who have anything like that. And guys who I've

01:12:27.000 --> 01:12:29.800
been seeing for years, I've never sat there with

01:12:29.800 --> 01:12:31.920
open legs and masturbated and sent them a video.

01:12:32.520 --> 01:12:34.560
None of them have anything like that. They might

01:12:34.560 --> 01:12:36.659
have like a teaser video of me like naked in

01:12:36.659 --> 01:12:38.859
the shower or whatever. But that's it. Yeah.

01:12:38.899 --> 01:12:40.500
And those are guys who, again, I've been with

01:12:40.500 --> 01:12:45.479
for a while. Yeah. It's definitely, I've definitely

01:12:45.479 --> 01:12:48.899
triggered in the moment and not reflected on

01:12:48.899 --> 01:12:52.699
it in the moment and just gone batshit crazy.

01:12:53.640 --> 01:12:58.060
No. But I think, but the friend I was actually

01:12:58.060 --> 01:12:59.899
talking about, I have had times where I've...

01:12:59.840 --> 01:13:01.819
Reflected on it and then talked about it later.

01:13:01.819 --> 01:13:05.000
That's probably the better way to handle it But

01:13:05.000 --> 01:13:07.399
the friend I was talking about she actually did

01:13:07.399 --> 01:13:10.739
In the moment just reflect on it and just say

01:13:10.739 --> 01:13:13.579
to herself you're safe. He's safe. He's not doing

01:13:13.579 --> 01:13:16.479
anything He wasn't supposed to be doing so let's

01:13:16.479 --> 01:13:19.859
figure out why this triggered you Later, and

01:13:19.859 --> 01:13:22.460
then we can discuss it and so she just like had

01:13:22.460 --> 01:13:26.340
that Moment to herself and then later they discussed

01:13:26.340 --> 01:13:29.100
it and then she you know talked to me about it

01:13:28.909 --> 01:13:31.750
Little bit later just knowing that we've been

01:13:31.750 --> 01:13:33.930
in it longer than they have so just like a confiding

01:13:33.930 --> 01:13:36.310
ear of like This is what I was thinking. This

01:13:36.310 --> 01:13:39.670
is what happened blah blah blah, but I mean I

01:13:39.670 --> 01:13:40.970
thought I was like well That's a great way to

01:13:40.970 --> 01:13:42.569
handle it and a great way to think of it because

01:13:42.569 --> 01:13:45.710
I've definitely popped off in certain situations

01:13:45.710 --> 01:13:48.390
where especially earlier on when we first started

01:13:48.390 --> 01:13:52.930
where I could have been more tactful and more

01:13:52.930 --> 01:13:57.350
introspective Yeah Yeah, being able to self -reflect

01:13:57.350 --> 01:14:00.449
is good, and everyone has different perspectives,

01:14:00.489 --> 01:14:02.890
but they think something's going to be like the

01:14:02.890 --> 01:14:07.250
couple that I'm in the poly triad with. She is

01:14:07.250 --> 01:14:09.609
so much like me. She is like, hey, go have fun,

01:14:09.710 --> 01:14:12.109
do your own thing. As long as, you know, he's

01:14:12.109 --> 01:14:14.930
still my husband, like, whatever. And she's so

01:14:14.930 --> 01:14:16.409
laid back that it's taken a while to get used

01:14:16.409 --> 01:14:18.510
to, because I've had so many issues with wives,

01:14:18.569 --> 01:14:20.810
which is why I don't play with couples, and their

01:14:20.810 --> 01:14:23.409
insecurities and things, but... to be able to

01:14:23.409 --> 01:14:26.470
self -reflect is great. She realized knowing

01:14:26.470 --> 01:14:28.630
or seeing him do it didn't bother her, but it

01:14:28.630 --> 01:14:32.310
was the sounds, listening to him be with someone

01:14:32.310 --> 01:14:35.229
else, the moans and this, you know, the wetness

01:14:35.229 --> 01:14:37.329
and things like that. That's what would get to

01:14:37.329 --> 01:14:41.590
her. So they play separately? Um, they do. They

01:14:41.590 --> 01:14:45.149
also play together. Okay. But she's, because

01:14:45.149 --> 01:14:48.069
she's realized that she can figure that out or?

01:14:48.489 --> 01:14:51.430
She does okay with it now. Okay. So the first

01:14:51.430 --> 01:14:54.119
time that He and I played, you know, the husband

01:14:54.119 --> 01:14:57.779
of the triad. It started as the three of us,

01:14:57.859 --> 01:14:59.279
and then she's like, hey, you know what? You

01:14:59.279 --> 01:15:00.920
guys have fun. I'm gonna go in the living room.

01:15:00.939 --> 01:15:04.600
And she just went off and did her own thing.

01:15:05.579 --> 01:15:08.680
And we've always still had that comfort to where

01:15:08.680 --> 01:15:10.520
it could be the three of us together or one of

01:15:10.520 --> 01:15:13.260
us separate. And it's not been a big deal, which

01:15:13.260 --> 01:15:16.560
has been great. Because again, I'm not really...

01:15:16.590 --> 01:15:19.170
Not really a fan of the wife thing they they

01:15:19.170 --> 01:15:21.729
tend to be emotional and dramatic and insecure

01:15:21.729 --> 01:15:25.069
then I'm like, okay I can't do this anymore and

01:15:25.069 --> 01:15:27.289
every time that I've tried besides this time

01:15:27.289 --> 01:15:31.750
it's turned out to be an absolute shit show Every

01:15:31.750 --> 01:15:35.869
time yeah, it does it's it's I had a foursome

01:15:35.869 --> 01:15:38.430
last year was the soft spot for some and at the

01:15:38.430 --> 01:15:42.859
very end She just had this complete crash of

01:15:42.859 --> 01:15:44.539
like, oh, I wish he would look at me the way

01:15:44.539 --> 01:15:46.819
he looks at her talking to the guy that I was

01:15:46.819 --> 01:15:49.739
with. I'm like, oh no. Here we go. No, no, no.

01:15:50.220 --> 01:15:51.680
And it changed the dynamics. Inside voice, inside

01:15:51.680 --> 01:15:54.460
voice. Yeah, comparison is definitely like the

01:15:54.460 --> 01:15:58.020
devil's like. It is. The second you start comparing

01:15:58.020 --> 01:16:01.699
and yeah. Yeah. And the crazy thing is, is I

01:16:01.699 --> 01:16:03.399
hardly ever play with couples. I always want

01:16:03.399 --> 01:16:05.800
the woman to feel special if I was to do so.

01:16:06.539 --> 01:16:09.699
She made every single call that night. She chose

01:16:09.699 --> 01:16:13.770
everything. that we did. She directed. And still

01:16:13.770 --> 01:16:16.750
at the end, she's still just... Yeah. I'm like,

01:16:16.789 --> 01:16:19.770
all right, this is why I don't play with couples.

01:16:19.789 --> 01:16:22.069
It just kind of reconfirmed your original thoughts.

01:16:22.489 --> 01:16:24.390
It did. And everything that's happened with the

01:16:24.390 --> 01:16:26.529
triad that I'm in now happened so organically.

01:16:26.970 --> 01:16:29.810
There's no like dating anniversary or anything.

01:16:30.069 --> 01:16:32.449
It just... Built on itself because we started

01:16:32.449 --> 01:16:35.829
as friends and just it continued to bloom on

01:16:35.829 --> 01:16:38.390
its own versus there being any Okay. Well, let's

01:16:38.390 --> 01:16:40.029
do this and we have to have sex and we have to

01:16:40.029 --> 01:16:43.369
do that. Yeah, I Mean, I think organically is

01:16:43.369 --> 01:16:46.090
the best way That's that's how we typically roll

01:16:46.090 --> 01:16:48.770
which is why we're a slow burn Some would say

01:16:48.770 --> 01:16:51.689
very slow. Although I'm gonna have to preface

01:16:51.689 --> 01:16:54.989
this. I think I think we're having the I think

01:16:54.989 --> 01:16:57.989
we're having the sweets hot girl summer. It's

01:16:57.989 --> 01:17:00.270
been a pretty fun summer. But it's all with people

01:17:00.270 --> 01:17:02.229
that we've been hanging out with for years. Exactly.

01:17:02.229 --> 01:17:03.930
People that have been like, all right guys, some

01:17:03.930 --> 01:17:08.890
time today. So I think for like, for me, if we're

01:17:08.890 --> 01:17:10.890
talking about triggers and you talk about sounds

01:17:10.890 --> 01:17:16.489
other people makes, my trigger has been hearing

01:17:16.489 --> 01:17:20.970
her make sounds. Her make sounds doesn't... It's

01:17:20.970 --> 01:17:25.229
hot. But when my stuff's not working and I can't

01:17:25.229 --> 01:17:28.970
keep up, that's when I shut down. Because I'm

01:17:28.970 --> 01:17:31.229
like, it's like a failure. I'm like, well, I

01:17:31.229 --> 01:17:34.869
fucking suck. And then that's when her sounds

01:17:34.869 --> 01:17:39.510
kind of bother me. But if I'm able to do my thing

01:17:39.510 --> 01:17:41.590
and everybody's kind of equal and having a good

01:17:41.590 --> 01:17:43.510
time, then her sounds are hot as fuck to me.

01:17:43.989 --> 01:17:46.590
So it's like, that's my trigger, is not being

01:17:46.590 --> 01:17:50.149
able to provide. my side of the deal. And I've

01:17:50.149 --> 01:17:52.649
had a few of those episodes and it kind of messed

01:17:52.649 --> 01:17:55.670
with me for a little bit, but like I told one

01:17:55.670 --> 01:17:58.390
of the gentlemen in the Facebook group or part

01:17:58.390 --> 01:18:01.329
of. Oh, right. That conversation. Yeah. They're

01:18:01.329 --> 01:18:04.140
like, uh, I was going to bed, and he's like,

01:18:04.279 --> 01:18:09.619
how do I combat this anxiety? And I'm like, blue

01:18:09.619 --> 01:18:12.260
chewing cock rings. And I went to bed, and I

01:18:12.260 --> 01:18:14.039
woke up the next day. I'm like, OK, I'll provide

01:18:14.039 --> 01:18:16.159
a slightly better response. Yeah, you were very

01:18:16.159 --> 01:18:19.140
brief with that. I actually feel really bad for

01:18:19.140 --> 01:18:22.659
guys, because so many women immediately assume,

01:18:22.760 --> 01:18:25.340
oh, well, he's just not into me. And I'm like,

01:18:25.520 --> 01:18:29.199
no, I'm here because I'm into you. I wouldn't

01:18:29.199 --> 01:18:31.819
be here. I think there's a lot of girls who don't

01:18:31.819 --> 01:18:34.560
understand it, and I did encounter a scenario

01:18:34.560 --> 01:18:36.119
to where I actually had to leave the room because

01:18:36.119 --> 01:18:37.920
I was ready to smash her face and then throw

01:18:37.920 --> 01:18:40.420
her in the pool and drown her. Alright, and that's

01:18:40.420 --> 01:18:43.939
the interview, guys. She was admitted to murder.

01:18:44.859 --> 01:18:48.300
She said about to. I left because I was trying

01:18:48.300 --> 01:18:51.220
to avoid it because she made me so angry with

01:18:51.220 --> 01:18:54.329
how she was treating... One, a young guy and

01:18:54.329 --> 01:18:55.890
two, it was his first time doing anything in

01:18:55.890 --> 01:18:59.529
the lifestyle in a public setting. That is first

01:18:59.529 --> 01:19:01.670
time. That's never going to go like perfect.

01:19:01.789 --> 01:19:04.090
There's no way. And he was such a shy guy, which

01:19:04.090 --> 01:19:06.550
by the way, he's he is one of my partners at

01:19:06.550 --> 01:19:08.010
this point, which I was really surprised that

01:19:08.010 --> 01:19:09.930
I even connected with him because he's so young.

01:19:10.390 --> 01:19:12.590
But just that whole scenario, like before I came

01:19:12.590 --> 01:19:15.010
into the room, apparently the guests were watching

01:19:15.010 --> 01:19:17.149
them play because he was doing such a phenomenal

01:19:17.149 --> 01:19:20.560
job. He had driven an hour and a half to be there.

01:19:20.560 --> 01:19:22.260
He'd already worked out. He had been at work

01:19:22.260 --> 01:19:24.819
all day He's also a college student and after

01:19:24.819 --> 01:19:26.140
a while like his dick's like, all right guys,

01:19:26.239 --> 01:19:28.680
like I'm gonna take a time out Yeah, and she

01:19:28.680 --> 01:19:31.159
was like full on berating him talking about you're

01:19:31.159 --> 01:19:33.119
not good enough and this and that and I'm like,

01:19:33.340 --> 01:19:37.039
hold on Like what are you doing? And so I was

01:19:37.039 --> 01:19:38.899
having a conversation with her and trying to

01:19:38.899 --> 01:19:41.060
point things out and she was still just on her

01:19:41.060 --> 01:19:42.920
high horse and this is why I don't play with

01:19:42.920 --> 01:19:45.699
younger guys and I'm like you're two years older

01:19:45.699 --> 01:19:47.600
than him what makes you think that you're not

01:19:47.600 --> 01:19:50.979
a kid in this too yeah and it was it was it was

01:19:50.979 --> 01:19:52.920
a very difficult situation and he stayed the

01:19:52.920 --> 01:19:54.779
night with me that night as friends because that's

01:19:54.779 --> 01:19:57.380
really what we were at that point and i was trying

01:19:57.380 --> 01:19:59.279
to talk to him he's like oh no it's okay i'm

01:19:59.279 --> 01:20:02.199
used to being yelled at i'm like no even the

01:20:02.199 --> 01:20:05.359
guests were upset by this scenario and i went

01:20:05.359 --> 01:20:08.409
to her, I'm gonna say host, the person who had

01:20:08.409 --> 01:20:10.170
brought her and I'm like, hey look, I want you

01:20:10.170 --> 01:20:12.090
to talk to her versus me because I don't think

01:20:12.090 --> 01:20:14.229
I'm going to do it in the correct way and she's

01:20:14.229 --> 01:20:16.649
your friend. I'm like, this is what happened

01:20:16.649 --> 01:20:20.090
last night and we, as a community, are not okay

01:20:20.090 --> 01:20:23.470
with treating men like that. And so she... again

01:20:23.470 --> 01:20:25.470
was not welcome back for one but she did get

01:20:25.470 --> 01:20:27.649
spoken to and I had guests that morning like

01:20:27.649 --> 01:20:29.970
hey I was really worried about him after what

01:20:29.970 --> 01:20:32.149
happened he did such a phenomenal job and like

01:20:32.149 --> 01:20:34.569
that woman blah blah and I'm like please go tell

01:20:34.569 --> 01:20:36.930
him that again yeah please go remind him that

01:20:36.930 --> 01:20:38.710
he was doing a great job I can miss you up for

01:20:38.710 --> 01:20:41.590
a long time it can yeah but I can promise you

01:20:41.590 --> 01:20:43.390
when I was with him he didn't have any issues

01:20:43.390 --> 01:20:45.630
and he made me be like well damn the only thing

01:20:45.630 --> 01:20:47.590
that's 23 about him is how many years he's been

01:20:47.590 --> 01:20:51.279
on earth because he did a great job Um, but I,

01:20:51.279 --> 01:20:53.119
I see a lot of guys go through that and you're,

01:20:53.159 --> 01:20:57.119
in your case, even if he's not up, she pointed

01:20:57.119 --> 01:21:01.899
out my penis visually in the direction gesturing

01:21:01.899 --> 01:21:06.500
and the direction of his dick. This is where

01:21:06.500 --> 01:21:09.199
things like the sensual play that we were discussing

01:21:09.199 --> 01:21:12.899
earlier comes in. So even if you are not, Physically

01:21:12.899 --> 01:21:14.819
hard there's so many other ways that you can

01:21:14.819 --> 01:21:17.039
still contribute to the eroticism that you're

01:21:17.039 --> 01:21:19.439
experiencing With your wife whether you're coming

01:21:19.439 --> 01:21:21.260
in when she's in a certain position and you're

01:21:21.260 --> 01:21:24.100
stroking her neck or Restraining her wrists because

01:21:24.100 --> 01:21:26.319
she trusts you to do that and leading into those

01:21:26.319 --> 01:21:28.079
so that you're still connected in one way or

01:21:28.079 --> 01:21:30.920
another Even while you're taking a physical breather.

01:21:31.180 --> 01:21:33.100
You're still connected to be able to prevent

01:21:33.100 --> 01:21:37.989
having that sort of anxiety. Yeah for sure Yeah,

01:21:38.250 --> 01:21:40.930
and I like I said in my in my second post and

01:21:40.930 --> 01:21:43.510
you've never had you've actually never had any

01:21:43.510 --> 01:21:46.109
Person that we've been playing with or woman

01:21:46.109 --> 01:21:49.569
whatever that you've been playing with Say anything

01:21:49.569 --> 01:21:52.090
about it or like have a problem It's always been

01:21:52.090 --> 01:21:54.250
your issue and only in your head and then you

01:21:54.250 --> 01:21:56.970
realize that like and this is in my head And

01:21:56.970 --> 01:21:58.510
I'm getting in my own head and I'm making it

01:21:58.510 --> 01:22:01.029
worse and the biggest thing for me is no one's

01:22:01.029 --> 01:22:05.689
even caring The biggest thing for me is is the

01:22:05.689 --> 01:22:09.090
condom because, you know, we've been married

01:22:09.090 --> 01:22:11.430
for many, many, many, many, many, many, many,

01:22:11.630 --> 01:22:15.390
many years. So condoms are not a friend. So getting

01:22:15.390 --> 01:22:18.649
into the lifestyle had to like, all right, let's

01:22:18.649 --> 01:22:21.470
give this a shot. So, and it doesn't take much

01:22:21.470 --> 01:22:23.470
for like that, you know, you're, you're, you

01:22:23.470 --> 01:22:25.850
can be rock hard, having a great time. And then

01:22:25.850 --> 01:22:27.869
you go to get that condom, you go rip it off

01:22:27.869 --> 01:22:30.069
and you get some lube and it's like, oh fuck.

01:22:30.369 --> 01:22:33.609
And that's what happened. But what I was talking

01:22:33.609 --> 01:22:38.220
about is cock rings. So, pro tip guys, if you

01:22:38.220 --> 01:22:40.479
haven't invested, Amazon, they're stupid cheap

01:22:40.479 --> 01:22:44.279
task toys, I'm sure it has some great ones, but,

01:22:44.460 --> 01:22:46.699
you know, you go into the situation, you're gonna

01:22:46.699 --> 01:22:49.979
be hard, most likely in the room with your wife,

01:22:50.000 --> 01:22:52.399
your partner, whatever, and then, you know, once

01:22:52.399 --> 01:22:54.659
you get to that point, slip that bad boy on,

01:22:55.000 --> 01:22:59.279
and that gives you that buffer time. Yeah, like

01:22:59.279 --> 01:23:01.539
you get a cockering on, and you get that condom

01:23:01.539 --> 01:23:04.920
on, and at least for me, once I start, you know,

01:23:05.079 --> 01:23:09.439
having the sex then doing the sex doing the sex

01:23:09.439 --> 01:23:12.960
then it all like then all the feeling of it and

01:23:12.960 --> 01:23:16.180
it all comes back and then you're hard kind of

01:23:16.180 --> 01:23:18.899
naturally yeah but that that the cock ring gives

01:23:18.899 --> 01:23:22.159
you that that buffer it gets you to get you on

01:23:22.159 --> 01:23:24.460
kind of get into the mode and then everything's

01:23:24.460 --> 01:23:27.399
good because that that that time can be killer

01:23:27.399 --> 01:23:30.000
and then especially if the other guys like straight

01:23:30.000 --> 01:23:32.579
to pound town and you're like boom boom boom

01:23:32.579 --> 01:23:34.939
and you're here wait i'm not ready like you're

01:23:34.939 --> 01:23:37.560
hearing this you're like god damn it trying to

01:23:37.560 --> 01:23:39.899
get your condom on it's like and you just have

01:23:39.899 --> 01:23:42.199
a fucking noodle by that point and you're standing

01:23:43.859 --> 01:23:45.960
It's like, damn it, come back. You're choking

01:23:45.960 --> 01:23:47.539
him and smacking around like, come on, buddy.

01:23:48.100 --> 01:23:53.340
CPR. And at some point, your mind just checks

01:23:53.340 --> 01:23:56.220
out. And it's hard to come back from that, coming

01:23:56.220 --> 01:23:59.619
from a guy's point of view. Yeah. But a couple

01:23:59.619 --> 01:24:02.380
of cheap silicone. I've never messed around with

01:24:02.380 --> 01:24:05.300
the hard titanium ones, because I've heard issues.

01:24:05.460 --> 01:24:07.880
Sometimes they have to get cut off if you. Yes,

01:24:07.920 --> 01:24:10.460
I've heard about that too. Yeah, I'm all about

01:24:10.460 --> 01:24:12.880
the silicone Especially because you've fallen

01:24:12.880 --> 01:24:16.119
asleep with them on sometimes Don't do that because

01:24:16.119 --> 01:24:19.380
that's not good But that that's typically you

01:24:19.380 --> 01:24:21.579
you put it on like put the cockering on really

01:24:21.579 --> 01:24:24.060
quick. I'm like alright fine, and I'm like The

01:24:24.060 --> 01:24:28.520
next day I'm like ow Drunk fall asleep in the

01:24:28.520 --> 01:24:30.819
middle of sex. Dicks aren't supposed to be purple

01:24:30.819 --> 01:24:36.869
here. We are That's extremely drunk sex And also

01:24:36.869 --> 01:24:39.810
guys, here's where. With each other. Here's where

01:24:39.810 --> 01:24:41.289
Dr. Sweets. Extremely drunk sex with each other.

01:24:41.369 --> 01:24:46.510
Yes. Here's where Dr. Sweets comes in. So I am

01:24:46.510 --> 01:24:51.930
in my 40s and my testosterone has been low. I

01:24:51.930 --> 01:24:55.149
thought I was low. And I was always tired. And

01:24:55.149 --> 01:24:58.850
guess what? I had the testosterone of like a

01:24:58.850 --> 01:25:03.109
97 year old woman. So I got tested and I was

01:25:03.109 --> 01:25:07.739
at 196, which is... Stupid low 300 is what they

01:25:07.739 --> 01:25:11.619
start to consider really low. So I had 196 Wow

01:25:11.619 --> 01:25:15.859
So that explains some of my like libido issues

01:25:15.859 --> 01:25:21.079
because like I would go in he's ready to go but

01:25:21.079 --> 01:25:24.279
Recovery like once it would go down like my body

01:25:24.279 --> 01:25:27.720
just didn't have the foot like fortitude push

01:25:27.720 --> 01:25:33.340
through a month in Yeah I'm good. I'm getting

01:25:33.340 --> 01:25:37.119
better and I'm now at 700. Thank you very much.

01:25:37.979 --> 01:25:42.439
I went to my dosage and my doctor hopes to have

01:25:42.439 --> 01:25:47.000
me at 1 ,100 in a month. So you better get extras

01:25:47.000 --> 01:25:49.140
because he's going to be needing some. Oh, I

01:25:49.140 --> 01:25:51.199
know. I'm like that's why the sweets are having

01:25:51.199 --> 01:25:54.199
their hot girl summer. Because all of a sudden

01:25:54.199 --> 01:25:58.479
like my just my I've always I've always enjoyed

01:25:58.479 --> 01:26:02.590
myself and It's all it's always very much fun,

01:26:02.609 --> 01:26:05.750
but I just didn't always have that finishing

01:26:05.750 --> 01:26:09.529
gear like all right, let's let's let's take this

01:26:09.529 --> 01:26:12.529
to the next level because of confidence and and

01:26:12.529 --> 01:26:14.850
just everything but now I'm like, okay, like

01:26:14.850 --> 01:26:17.689
I'm I got a little more my my natural juices

01:26:17.689 --> 01:26:21.350
back and I'm like I'm feeling pretty good. I'm

01:26:21.350 --> 01:26:26.949
feeling myself a bit just So guys Start getting

01:26:26.949 --> 01:26:29.350
it checked out like early like they say like

01:26:29.350 --> 01:26:32.609
30s starts going down 35. I don't know. Dr. Sweets

01:26:32.609 --> 01:26:35.270
doesn't know everything Well, dr. Anastasia over

01:26:35.270 --> 01:26:37.489
here considering I've played with guys who are

01:26:37.489 --> 01:26:40.369
like half my age I can say that there are ups

01:26:40.369 --> 01:26:42.829
and downs regardless of what age that you are,

01:26:42.850 --> 01:26:44.970
but it's always good to get it checked. Yeah

01:26:45.899 --> 01:26:48.199
the person who I had my affair with, which was

01:26:48.199 --> 01:26:51.159
back in like 2018, he was 10 years younger than

01:26:51.159 --> 01:26:54.479
me and he was already having ED complications

01:26:54.479 --> 01:26:56.479
to which he didn't have any answers for and he

01:26:56.479 --> 01:26:58.420
wanted me to help him with it. I'm like, there

01:26:58.420 --> 01:27:00.199
are supplements that you can take, but I'm more

01:27:00.199 --> 01:27:01.680
concerned that there could be something more

01:27:01.680 --> 01:27:05.659
going on. If you were... 24 years old and you

01:27:05.659 --> 01:27:08.079
are having problems getting, you know, an erection,

01:27:08.420 --> 01:27:10.199
you need to go talk to your doctor. There can

01:27:10.199 --> 01:27:12.500
be swelling in the prostate area. There can be

01:27:12.500 --> 01:27:15.119
anxiety issues, medication complications, thyroid

01:27:15.119 --> 01:27:17.960
issues. Always get something looked at. Right.

01:27:18.100 --> 01:27:20.760
You know, at one point I had a 29 year old partner

01:27:20.760 --> 01:27:25.020
a couple years ago and he was a fucking rabbit

01:27:25.020 --> 01:27:27.380
in bed. However, he would still have issues to

01:27:27.380 --> 01:27:30.659
where he would start going soft, but he had a

01:27:30.659 --> 01:27:33.619
kink for giving head. And so any time he started

01:27:33.619 --> 01:27:35.699
going soft, he would instantly pull away from

01:27:35.699 --> 01:27:37.880
me, and then go to give me head, and then come

01:27:37.880 --> 01:27:40.739
back rock hard all over again. Yeah, sometimes

01:27:40.739 --> 01:27:44.359
all it takes is just that switch, change of scenery.

01:27:44.859 --> 01:27:47.680
Yeah. Because when it's all dependent on this,

01:27:48.159 --> 01:27:50.539
and it's starting to fail, then so yeah, you

01:27:50.539 --> 01:27:53.060
just take that out of the equation. Like I always

01:27:53.060 --> 01:27:56.710
say, your mouth still works. So the mouth is

01:27:56.710 --> 01:27:58.149
not going to stop working. Your fingers, your

01:27:58.149 --> 01:27:59.289
hands still work. The mouth, the fingers, the

01:27:59.289 --> 01:28:00.750
toys, like there's so many different things that

01:28:00.750 --> 01:28:02.789
you can pull into that. Yeah. So that you're

01:28:02.789 --> 01:28:04.989
still being able to have some sort of intimate

01:28:04.989 --> 01:28:06.989
play. Yeah. And I think it's important for women

01:28:06.989 --> 01:28:09.010
too, like I try now, especially because I know

01:28:09.010 --> 01:28:12.029
what like happened with you, that if I notice

01:28:12.029 --> 01:28:15.229
a guy is starting to go soft, if I'm giving him

01:28:15.229 --> 01:28:16.510
a head or something and he's starting to go soft,

01:28:16.609 --> 01:28:21.090
I try to, I, I try to change the scenery. So

01:28:21.090 --> 01:28:23.489
I might move to a different like, okay, let's

01:28:23.489 --> 01:28:25.979
make out for a little bit or let's do this or

01:28:25.979 --> 01:28:28.760
you go down on me now or like I try to switch

01:28:28.760 --> 01:28:32.340
it so that he doesn't feel like he's no longer

01:28:32.340 --> 01:28:34.560
in the spotlight yeah so he yeah exactly so it's

01:28:34.560 --> 01:28:36.579
not all the focus on him I'm making the decision

01:28:36.579 --> 01:28:38.560
to change the scenery so he doesn't have to be

01:28:38.560 --> 01:28:41.399
like should I fail no no we're just we're moving

01:28:41.399 --> 01:28:44.239
we're we're doing something else like this is

01:28:44.239 --> 01:28:47.119
a flow like so I think women too can do a better

01:28:47.119 --> 01:28:49.840
job maybe sometimes of that of recognizing it

01:28:49.840 --> 01:28:52.359
and like taking focus off of it but not in a

01:28:52.359 --> 01:28:55.390
way that's like putting more focus on it, like

01:28:55.390 --> 01:28:57.090
not saying anything. You don't want to be like,

01:28:57.210 --> 01:28:59.970
why aren't you getting the hard like that? Yeah.

01:29:00.289 --> 01:29:02.170
Yeah. Yeah. Or here, because you're not getting

01:29:02.170 --> 01:29:05.979
hard, let's go down on me. Just move. Just. Change

01:29:05.979 --> 01:29:08.720
sit on his face like change the scenery. Yeah

01:29:08.720 --> 01:29:11.220
A lot of women will end up putting too much pressure

01:29:11.220 --> 01:29:13.020
on the guy when they're still new to it, too

01:29:13.020 --> 01:29:15.899
And I'm I'm 41 there's still times I'm like what

01:29:15.899 --> 01:29:17.779
what do I need to do now? Like we were supposed

01:29:17.779 --> 01:29:20.340
to I'm supposed to be writing right now and and

01:29:20.340 --> 01:29:22.420
mr. Happy just disappeared into his turtle shell

01:29:22.420 --> 01:29:25.560
like fuck Yeah, you know and just trying to remind

01:29:25.560 --> 01:29:28.380
myself to think of my partner too and not make

01:29:28.380 --> 01:29:31.789
it all about me. Yeah something that you can

01:29:31.789 --> 01:29:34.369
do different I think and I think yeah I think

01:29:34.369 --> 01:29:38.489
and I think women taking it personally is like

01:29:38.489 --> 01:29:42.210
the probably the the complete wrong thing like

01:29:42.210 --> 01:29:45.529
yeah like like Mr. Sweets was just saying like

01:29:45.529 --> 01:29:48.189
if you're if a guy wasn't into you he wouldn't

01:29:48.189 --> 01:29:51.270
be in that situation with you so thinking to

01:29:51.270 --> 01:29:54.250
yourself like oh this is because I'm not suitable

01:29:54.250 --> 01:29:58.609
is like 100 % the wrong thing to think and I

01:29:58.609 --> 01:30:00.770
I mean I can get why you might think that like

01:30:00.770 --> 01:30:02.729
initially but then you have to have that then

01:30:02.729 --> 01:30:05.130
you have to have that mindset of like Nope, it's

01:30:05.130 --> 01:30:09.449
not me. It's him. It's Whatever and I'm moving

01:30:09.449 --> 01:30:12.130
myself along like yeah, he's had too much a drink.

01:30:12.130 --> 01:30:15.210
Yeah, exactly It could be a million so many things.

01:30:15.210 --> 01:30:17.470
Yeah trying to play in a public setting. So when

01:30:17.470 --> 01:30:21.369
I When I was still working at the location like

01:30:21.369 --> 01:30:25.680
Elsinore, I had a partner and he absolutely could

01:30:25.680 --> 01:30:29.020
not play in front of the people. As soon as he

01:30:29.020 --> 01:30:31.079
was playing with me and realized someone else

01:30:31.079 --> 01:30:33.859
was in the room or someone was watching us, we

01:30:33.859 --> 01:30:36.960
were done. Yeah. And I was like, God damn it.

01:30:37.479 --> 01:30:40.939
That's normally where I am done. Because I enjoy

01:30:40.939 --> 01:30:43.960
being watched. He only likes being watched. Well,

01:30:44.020 --> 01:30:47.310
and for me, if I'm with the right person... Everything

01:30:47.310 --> 01:30:51.109
else disappears. It becomes like this big erotic

01:30:51.109 --> 01:30:53.829
energy vortex and everything is spinning around

01:30:53.829 --> 01:30:56.149
me and the pleasure I have with my partner and

01:30:56.149 --> 01:30:57.609
there's nothing else there I don't hear people

01:30:57.609 --> 01:30:59.850
talking. I don't hear music like it really is

01:30:59.850 --> 01:31:02.170
just about them I guess because I've been in

01:31:02.170 --> 01:31:04.670
the spotlight Basically my whole life growing

01:31:04.670 --> 01:31:06.789
up doing modeling and I've done TV and stuff

01:31:06.789 --> 01:31:08.750
that I don't even notice it Yeah, where's other

01:31:08.750 --> 01:31:11.489
people it puts too much pressure on them Now

01:31:11.489 --> 01:31:14.109
I can say I do like to be watched at times and

01:31:14.109 --> 01:31:15.729
I don't mind putting on a show but for the most

01:31:15.729 --> 01:31:19.000
part Leave me alone. If you want to look, go

01:31:19.000 --> 01:31:21.739
sit the fuck down and be quiet. Yeah. Don't interfere

01:31:21.739 --> 01:31:24.140
with my bubble. Go sit in that cup chair. Well,

01:31:24.300 --> 01:31:26.859
yeah, I would say there's a difference between

01:31:26.859 --> 01:31:30.199
watching and then like trying to interject yourself.

01:31:30.640 --> 01:31:33.020
Like, I think you probably shouldn't do that

01:31:33.020 --> 01:31:35.479
unless you've asked to consent otherwise. Oh,

01:31:35.479 --> 01:31:37.140
it's totally happened to me. Oh, I'm sure. But

01:31:37.140 --> 01:31:40.010
like I'm just saying like. Don't. Like, anyone

01:31:40.010 --> 01:31:42.649
listening? Like, don't. That should be a part

01:31:42.649 --> 01:31:44.130
of the etiquette. Yeah, it should be part of

01:31:44.130 --> 01:31:45.989
the etiquette. If they want you to be part of

01:31:45.989 --> 01:31:50.189
their bubble, they will invite you in. And otherwise,

01:31:50.810 --> 01:31:52.710
if they're playing in a public space, exactly.

01:31:53.109 --> 01:31:56.359
Go sit down, watch, and be quiet. Yeah, but I

01:31:56.359 --> 01:31:58.680
think that's another part of why I tend to if

01:31:58.680 --> 01:32:01.079
I do go somewhere with a partner I play in private

01:32:01.079 --> 01:32:03.539
mm -hmm And I think it has also a lot to do with

01:32:03.539 --> 01:32:05.960
what I do within the lifestyle But I don't want

01:32:05.960 --> 01:32:09.119
to go somewhere on my free time and then become

01:32:09.119 --> 01:32:11.840
Their entertainment it doesn't make me feel good

01:32:11.840 --> 01:32:13.880
Yeah, even though I'm not quote -unquote being

01:32:13.880 --> 01:32:16.060
paid to be there with with what I do in the lifestyle

01:32:16.060 --> 01:32:17.979
It still makes me feel like I'm being put on

01:32:17.979 --> 01:32:20.579
display in the wrong way So I prefer for my play

01:32:20.579 --> 01:32:22.579
life with my partners to be kept private and

01:32:22.579 --> 01:32:25.840
separate Yeah. And part of our kink and aerodynamic

01:32:25.840 --> 01:32:29.579
is we like to be watched. But not always participated

01:32:29.579 --> 01:32:32.399
with, just watched. If I'm somewhere where no

01:32:32.399 --> 01:32:35.199
one knows me, I don't care. I went to Cancun

01:32:35.199 --> 01:32:36.779
thinking, oh, no one's going to know me here.

01:32:36.840 --> 01:32:39.039
No, I fucking ran to like six people, six couples

01:32:39.039 --> 01:32:40.460
that knew me. And I'm like, all right, fine.

01:32:41.239 --> 01:32:44.279
But I've always said the lifestyle is a small

01:32:44.279 --> 01:32:46.720
world. The world is a small world and the lifestyle

01:32:46.720 --> 01:32:49.619
is an even smaller world. We run into people

01:32:49.619 --> 01:32:52.869
all the time. Yeah. In so I the person I was

01:32:52.869 --> 01:32:55.869
with at the the desire location I wouldn't have

01:32:55.869 --> 01:32:57.569
played with publicly anyways, and it was actually

01:32:57.569 --> 01:32:59.550
a horrible sexual match, and I've learned really

01:32:59.550 --> 01:33:02.729
big lesson from that What was their username?

01:33:03.630 --> 01:33:07.909
He doesn't have one he's not on Cassidy anymore.

01:33:08.069 --> 01:33:09.710
I did get him signed up, but then he ended up

01:33:09.710 --> 01:33:12.390
leaving Cassidy He's living in a different country

01:33:12.390 --> 01:33:14.010
right now. He's a really great entrepreneur,

01:33:14.010 --> 01:33:16.310
but as far as a partner for me. He was not a

01:33:16.310 --> 01:33:19.779
good fit which My word of advice is if you're

01:33:19.779 --> 01:33:22.300
dating somebody, make sure you've had sex with

01:33:22.300 --> 01:33:25.859
them before you go on a vacation to a lifestyle

01:33:25.859 --> 01:33:31.180
retreat. Pro tip number three. We had been dating

01:33:31.180 --> 01:33:33.399
for a while and we had done some like heavy petting.

01:33:33.420 --> 01:33:36.260
Beautiful fucking cock. Good lord, I was so ready

01:33:36.260 --> 01:33:40.039
to ride that thing. And then he ruined it because

01:33:40.039 --> 01:33:42.060
he couldn't take directions. If I'm telling you

01:33:42.060 --> 01:33:44.180
to sit still, I got this. Sit the fuck still

01:33:44.180 --> 01:33:48.920
because I know what I'm doing. Learned my lesson

01:33:48.920 --> 01:33:50.500
definitely sleep with them before you go on the

01:33:50.500 --> 01:33:53.119
vacation with them. Yeah, that applies to marriage

01:33:53.119 --> 01:33:58.020
that applies to oh, yeah I can't believe some

01:33:58.020 --> 01:34:06.079
people don't do that. Yeah So, all right, well

01:34:06.079 --> 01:34:16.869
what haven't we talked about I'm pretty warm.

01:34:16.869 --> 01:34:19.170
I had to turn off the AC because it wreaks havoc

01:34:19.170 --> 01:34:22.850
on my microphones. All right, I think we're getting

01:34:22.850 --> 01:34:23.770
near the end. Is there anything else? Yeah, is

01:34:23.770 --> 01:34:25.550
there anything else you can think of? That you

01:34:25.550 --> 01:34:27.810
wanted to make sure that you got out there into

01:34:27.810 --> 01:34:29.430
the world? We've talked about cock cages, Paradox

01:34:29.430 --> 01:34:34.010
Prism, pinwheels, Taz toys, talked about all

01:34:34.010 --> 01:34:37.149
the venues you've worked for over the years.

01:34:37.600 --> 01:34:39.760
Yeah, we've kind of talked about a lot of things

01:34:39.760 --> 01:34:41.239
because we can always do this more than once

01:34:41.239 --> 01:34:44.140
I'm only like 20 minutes from you guys to I can

01:34:44.140 --> 01:34:46.020
imagine we can have one of those words like I

01:34:46.020 --> 01:34:48.060
can't make this shit up type series to really

01:34:48.060 --> 01:34:50.399
talk about the really wild stupid Actually, that

01:34:50.399 --> 01:34:54.560
was yeah, I wasn't sure how open you would be

01:34:54.560 --> 01:34:56.680
about that but one of my things is what was gonna

01:34:56.680 --> 01:34:58.880
be like I'd love to hear like your best and worst

01:34:58.880 --> 01:35:01.409
of stories, but yeah, I think that's a That's

01:35:01.409 --> 01:35:03.789
like a whole nother probably a couple of episodes.

01:35:04.229 --> 01:35:06.270
I you know what I'm sure you've had plenty of

01:35:06.270 --> 01:35:11.350
experiences. You know, I Yes, and no I'm so careful

01:35:11.350 --> 01:35:13.689
and I don't do a lot of playing all of my partners

01:35:13.689 --> 01:35:15.649
I've had a couple of that end up being one of

01:35:15.649 --> 01:35:18.649
but As we were talking about condoms earlier,

01:35:18.649 --> 01:35:22.329
I don't use condoms. Okay, I am allergic to latex

01:35:22.329 --> 01:35:25.170
I'm also allergic to glycerin non -oxal 9 irritates

01:35:25.170 --> 01:35:30.130
my skin and so I'm extremely careful and more

01:35:30.829 --> 01:35:33.909
Diligent with who I play with because I lack

01:35:33.909 --> 01:35:36.250
options. I can't get pregnant. I have a hysterectomy

01:35:36.250 --> 01:35:38.949
I still have one ovary so I am still a hormonal

01:35:38.949 --> 01:35:41.130
bitch, but I cannot get pregnant So that's not

01:35:41.130 --> 01:35:43.470
really a concern of mine. And I also am one of

01:35:43.470 --> 01:35:46.489
those people who have a breeding kink Okay, it's

01:35:46.489 --> 01:35:48.390
hard to have that with condoms. It absolutely

01:35:48.390 --> 01:35:50.470
is hard to have one of those with condoms and

01:35:50.470 --> 01:35:53.619
on that topic Not only do I have a breeding kink,

01:35:53.640 --> 01:35:56.079
but I know the science behind the benefits of

01:35:56.079 --> 01:35:58.420
seminal plasma for a woman's body. And so for

01:35:58.420 --> 01:36:01.079
me, it's almost like giving me medication for

01:36:01.079 --> 01:36:03.880
my craziness. Literally vitamin D. For people

01:36:03.880 --> 01:36:06.380
listening, what is a breeding kink? So a breeding

01:36:06.380 --> 01:36:09.539
kink is when you're having sex with someone and

01:36:09.539 --> 01:36:11.920
they ejaculate inside of you. That's a part of

01:36:11.920 --> 01:36:15.039
the breeding kink. The goal is to not get pregnant

01:36:15.039 --> 01:36:17.020
unless you really do want children, but it's

01:36:17.020 --> 01:36:19.579
still a part of the kink. For me, I like how

01:36:19.579 --> 01:36:23.819
it feels to feel. him ejaculating and that's

01:36:23.819 --> 01:36:25.500
honestly where sperm belongs does not belong

01:36:25.500 --> 01:36:27.800
in my face my hair my mouth I will probably throw

01:36:27.800 --> 01:36:30.800
up on you that's not where it goes but I like

01:36:30.800 --> 01:36:33.180
for it to be there and I've talked with men who

01:36:33.180 --> 01:36:35.539
I've been in these relationships with who also

01:36:35.539 --> 01:36:39.819
have a breeding kink and to be accepted in that

01:36:39.819 --> 01:36:43.000
way is such a true honor and so much eroticism

01:36:43.000 --> 01:36:46.359
to think that they can ejaculate inside of you

01:36:46.359 --> 01:36:48.880
and so it definitely has a different connection

01:36:48.880 --> 01:36:52.220
with someone with that kink. And then what did

01:36:52.220 --> 01:36:56.479
you say about come basically sorry? Seminole

01:36:56.479 --> 01:37:00.380
So no, and it's not even vitamin D. It contains

01:37:00.380 --> 01:37:04.079
two or three different natural anti -inflammatory

01:37:04.079 --> 01:37:07.220
an antidepressants and is adorbs absorbed to

01:37:07.220 --> 01:37:10.739
the vaginal canal And so it actually helps balance

01:37:10.739 --> 01:37:13.000
our mood and makes us happier. A study that I

01:37:13.000 --> 01:37:15.619
looked at years ago, I cannot give you the details

01:37:15.619 --> 01:37:17.800
on it right now because it was a long time ago,

01:37:18.399 --> 01:37:21.380
showed the difference in women's mental health

01:37:21.380 --> 01:37:23.619
and happiness between women who use condoms and

01:37:23.619 --> 01:37:26.659
those who do not use condoms to show the difference

01:37:26.659 --> 01:37:29.220
in women without using them being happier and

01:37:29.220 --> 01:37:31.239
doing better based on the antidepressants that

01:37:31.239 --> 01:37:33.680
are naturally absorbed into the body. From sperm.

01:37:33.880 --> 01:37:38.140
From sperm. And does the sperm like let's say

01:37:38.140 --> 01:37:42.420
a gentleman is Snipped does that still you still

01:37:42.420 --> 01:37:45.899
have seminal plasma. Okay, even if you don't

01:37:45.899 --> 01:37:48.699
have live swimmers, you still have seminal plasma

01:37:50.280 --> 01:37:52.579
I get sperm from you. Get to work, you seem like

01:37:52.579 --> 01:37:57.020
you're kind of bummed right now. Let's go. So

01:37:57.020 --> 01:38:00.079
for all the men listening, clearly what she's

01:38:00.079 --> 01:38:04.460
saying here is if your wife is a pain in your

01:38:04.460 --> 01:38:06.060
ass, it's probably because she's not absorbing

01:38:06.060 --> 01:38:08.340
your sperm enough. So you probably should give

01:38:08.340 --> 01:38:10.979
her more. That could be it. So you probably should

01:38:10.979 --> 01:38:13.520
bend her over more frequently. Just make sure

01:38:13.520 --> 01:38:15.979
you wash the dishes and vacuum first so that

01:38:15.979 --> 01:38:18.260
she has a reason to actually be turned on. There

01:38:18.260 --> 01:38:20.640
you go. You know what I mean? is don't look at

01:38:20.640 --> 01:38:23.619
me like that's foreplay, I'm telling you. If

01:38:23.619 --> 01:38:26.260
you want to help clean or fold my laundry, fold

01:38:26.260 --> 01:38:28.300
my fucking laundry and put my shit away. I do

01:38:28.300 --> 01:38:31.060
dishes and I vacuum. I do my share of foreplay.

01:38:31.060 --> 01:38:33.359
Okay, you're getting there. And if you don't

01:38:33.359 --> 01:38:35.579
like regular condoms, if you do have to use them,

01:38:35.720 --> 01:38:38.779
there are the female condoms that you can use

01:38:38.779 --> 01:38:41.710
too. I haven't used them in years because I found

01:38:41.710 --> 01:38:44.170
out that I was allergic to ingredients on them

01:38:44.170 --> 01:38:45.609
and I kind of like my vagina to stay the way

01:38:45.609 --> 01:38:47.949
it is. But there's another option to where you're

01:38:47.949 --> 01:38:49.569
not having to rush around to put one of those

01:38:49.569 --> 01:38:51.930
on and you can actually insert it prior to play

01:38:51.930 --> 01:38:54.729
to be able to still be applicable. Her and I,

01:38:54.890 --> 01:38:56.010
we don't use condoms. We don't fuck with condoms

01:38:56.010 --> 01:38:58.189
like together. Right, but with other people if

01:38:58.189 --> 01:39:01.909
you do. Yeah, but I think the expectation is

01:39:01.909 --> 01:39:03.869
that the guy, I mean we could probably change

01:39:03.869 --> 01:39:05.569
that expectation but I think the expectation

01:39:05.569 --> 01:39:08.149
is the guy wears the condom. So any women you're

01:39:08.149 --> 01:39:10.710
playing with in that way. I don't know how you

01:39:10.710 --> 01:39:12.250
would, I mean, I guess you would just bring it

01:39:12.250 --> 01:39:14.989
up ahead as I made like for you to wear the condom.

01:39:15.270 --> 01:39:18.649
How do you feel about this? Let me tell you all

01:39:18.649 --> 01:39:22.550
the benefits. Well, there is less chance of it

01:39:22.550 --> 01:39:24.390
coming off while you're playing and getting lost

01:39:24.390 --> 01:39:27.289
in inside of you. That never happens. Right.

01:39:27.630 --> 01:39:31.960
OK. Yeah. We know exactly where this is going

01:39:31.960 --> 01:39:34.420
and then the whole concerns of avoiding STIs

01:39:34.420 --> 01:39:36.039
has went out the window because now the condom

01:39:36.039 --> 01:39:38.199
is lost up in your coochie and ever, you know,

01:39:38.199 --> 01:39:44.100
it is what it is. So yeah. That's funny. Oh,

01:39:44.279 --> 01:39:47.000
so then do you test with your partners before

01:39:47.000 --> 01:39:50.119
like you test your partner? Like testing is a

01:39:50.119 --> 01:39:52.020
huge part of the conversations. Hey, how often

01:39:52.020 --> 01:39:54.079
are you testing? Even before I'm considering

01:39:54.079 --> 01:39:56.439
dating someone like as we're becoming friends,

01:39:56.439 --> 01:40:00.140
I ask these questions. I'm pretty sure most men

01:40:00.140 --> 01:40:02.199
don't realize when they're actually having conversations

01:40:02.199 --> 01:40:04.220
with me. It is an absolute interview process

01:40:04.220 --> 01:40:07.539
every time. I am in psychology. Everything I

01:40:07.539 --> 01:40:09.199
ask you is most likely for a reason. Every time

01:40:09.199 --> 01:40:11.640
I talk to you, I feel like I really gotta watch

01:40:11.640 --> 01:40:15.180
my words. I'm like, so, am I doing good so far?

01:40:17.199 --> 01:40:19.239
So yeah, I can see how that you're just always

01:40:19.239 --> 01:40:21.359
really listening to what the other person's saying.

01:40:21.760 --> 01:40:24.670
I am, and so I'm always asking and... Considering

01:40:24.670 --> 01:40:28.449
I've been in abusive relationships when I'm becoming

01:40:28.449 --> 01:40:31.029
friends with a guy I'm always looking for those

01:40:31.029 --> 01:40:33.109
red flags before I'm even considering moving

01:40:33.109 --> 01:40:35.470
into dating someone and into a relationship I

01:40:35.470 --> 01:40:37.670
am looking for every single pink flag yellow

01:40:37.670 --> 01:40:40.949
flag red flag Whatever it is to know if I just

01:40:40.949 --> 01:40:43.710
need to cut ties and walk away Sometimes they

01:40:43.710 --> 01:40:46.109
make it past the screening process and they flip

01:40:46.109 --> 01:40:47.430
on me and I'm like, I don't know what the fuck

01:40:47.430 --> 01:40:49.750
happened You didn't grade up until now, but that

01:40:49.750 --> 01:40:56.420
never happens to you either Yeah, oops Yeah,

01:40:56.500 --> 01:40:58.479
I think that's another big topic that should

01:40:58.479 --> 01:41:00.380
be talked about maybe on a different podcast

01:41:00.380 --> 01:41:03.300
is understanding like Women's safety and what

01:41:03.300 --> 01:41:06.220
we go through and you know trying to be safe

01:41:06.220 --> 01:41:08.300
about things But also sharing what's happened

01:41:08.300 --> 01:41:10.699
to us because a lot of us we were raised depending

01:41:10.699 --> 01:41:12.319
on how old you were Oh, well, you must have done

01:41:12.319 --> 01:41:14.659
something wrong or what did you do to trigger

01:41:14.659 --> 01:41:17.520
this and they still put it back on you and so

01:41:17.520 --> 01:41:19.640
for someone like me who's been through the scenario

01:41:19.640 --> 01:41:22.340
of like Oh my God, I did everything right. And

01:41:22.340 --> 01:41:26.159
now you're threatening me and my kids. We need

01:41:26.159 --> 01:41:27.960
to be open about this. I need to follow restraining

01:41:27.960 --> 01:41:29.720
order. I need to let other people know what happened

01:41:29.720 --> 01:41:32.119
so that something does happen to me. But it also

01:41:32.119 --> 01:41:34.199
puts you in a position to be like, if people

01:41:34.199 --> 01:41:36.659
around me knew what was actually happening, how

01:41:36.659 --> 01:41:38.720
could I have avoided that situation of having

01:41:38.720 --> 01:41:40.359
to get into a car with someone who's becoming

01:41:40.359 --> 01:41:43.699
abusive or anything like that? without it becoming

01:41:43.699 --> 01:41:45.779
obvious. If you're with someone who you can tell

01:41:45.779 --> 01:41:47.279
is going to be a violent person, you're like,

01:41:47.380 --> 01:41:49.300
okay, I don't want anyone else to get hurt because

01:41:49.300 --> 01:41:51.819
of me, but I also need to avoid putting myself

01:41:51.819 --> 01:41:54.739
into that situation by using some sort of code

01:41:54.739 --> 01:41:56.180
that people around me are going to know, hey,

01:41:56.279 --> 01:41:57.699
let's try and find another reason for her to

01:41:57.699 --> 01:42:00.300
not have to leave right now. And that would be

01:42:00.300 --> 01:42:02.260
a really good topic for us to do on a whole different

01:42:02.260 --> 01:42:12.220
podcast. I think I am done. You covered a lot.

01:42:12.420 --> 01:42:14.739
This is a long podcast here. How long is it?

01:42:15.100 --> 01:42:18.579
An hour and 41 minutes. Really? Wow, okay. I

01:42:18.579 --> 01:42:22.560
think our longest one was two hours. So we're

01:42:22.560 --> 01:42:25.100
coming right up on that. Coming all over that.

01:42:26.120 --> 01:42:28.340
So is there anything else that you can think

01:42:28.340 --> 01:42:31.279
of like the whole experiences stuff? I think

01:42:31.279 --> 01:42:33.199
that's a whole separate podcast. Oh, yeah No,

01:42:33.420 --> 01:42:35.699
we can there's there's a few things that we can

01:42:35.699 --> 01:42:37.979
truly do completely different topics for podcasts

01:42:37.979 --> 01:42:40.659
to get all that out there and even help other

01:42:40.659 --> 01:42:43.840
women feel Better about approaching the scenarios

01:42:43.840 --> 01:42:46.079
that they can face within the lifestyle and knowing

01:42:46.079 --> 01:42:48.020
that they actually have a voice and working on

01:42:48.020 --> 01:42:50.720
their own Healing within the lifestyle, but making

01:42:50.720 --> 01:42:52.279
sure that they're following their own boundaries.

01:42:52.439 --> 01:42:54.880
Yeah Awesome. Well, thank you so much for joining

01:42:54.880 --> 01:42:57.739
us here tonight, Anastasia. Once again, she is

01:42:57.739 --> 01:43:01.539
the the owner of Paradox Prism Productions. You

01:43:01.539 --> 01:43:04.739
can find it on Cassidy and I'll include all of

01:43:04.739 --> 01:43:08.800
her links in the podcast bio and looking forward

01:43:08.800 --> 01:43:11.079
to sitting down with you again. Absolutely. I've

01:43:11.079 --> 01:43:12.399
had a great time. Thanks for having me guys.

01:43:12.460 --> 01:43:16.779
Thank you. So that being said, when enjoying

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