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very special edition of the sweet side of life
podcast all the way from Southern, California
The problem is is this is a Tuesday night and
you are going into this completely sober Which
is which is not where we normally are normally
we're Thursday night at about 11 p .m Protein
shake. Protein shake. Well I am not sober because
it's Tuesday. Titty Tuesday. In fact, we just
had one of our podcast listeners. I was talking
to him about our trip this past weekend to EDR
and he was supposed to go. He's the one that,
um, they were going to try to go, but she had
like work or something. I'm like lame or whatever.
Um, but yeah, I was talking to him for a little
bit and then, um, he wished us happy Titty Tuesday
without you titties. Yeah. You don't send a happy
TT message without titties. I think he, he did
like a, uh, Like a meme of like cherries or something.
No, sir. It's not the same. It's not good enough.
No, I want actual tits on Titty Tuesday. Even
if it's man tits. I don't care. Give me tits.
But um, so this is a slightly different episode.
I'm gonna cheers myself. Oh, that's so tasty.
Guess what it is? Vodka Sprite. Shocker! You're
like a psychic. No, tonight's a very special
episode because... We're doing something for
the first time ever we have a live in room in
studio This is about a studio studio gets so
we are here live in the studio with a very special
guest Who is that special guest? Am I saying
it? Yes! Anastasia! Welcome, Anastasia, to the
Sweet Side of Life podcast. How are you doing
tonight? I was just in as much suspense, like
he's pointing at her. Is she the special guest
today? I'm the special guest. You're all special
guests here on TT. So no, um, Anastasia has been
around in the community for a very long time.
So, she... I mean... What's up? I mean... Like,
let's be nice. She's been around since the early
1900s. You may know her from play. No, anyways,
no, she's been a face in the community for, you
know, as long as we've been in that at least.
Well, how long? You tell us how long. Yeah. So
my first job within the lifestyle was modeling
for C Mountain back in 2018. Had no idea why
I was going there besides to be a nude model.
Okay. So that's how long I've been in there.
There you go. So that's... If you had to place
a year on that, what would you say? She said
2018, you weren't listening. 2018? I was more
looking at you, the fact that you weren't talking
into the microphone. Let's do this. Hold on one
second. I can't look and... Okay, there. Feel
better? Yes. About that? Microphones work better
when you're talking into them. I was like, well,
you're so way over here. So, now that's better.
So, Seamountain Inn. We've been there a handful
of times. Twice. We've always had a good time
there. Twice, yeah? Mm -hmm. And you started
just as a model there. I did. Like for their
advertisements and stuff? Yes, I'm actually still
in a lot of their advertisements. You are. Yes.
Yeah, they're still using those pictures, and
that was many years ago. You're also still the
face of LSM TV community on Cassidy. Correct.
Yes, you're still there. I saw you today, in
fact. I'm like, oh, I recognize her. Yeah, I
don't even know if he's going to change that
or not, which I'm totally okay with it. Like,
I, you know, signed all my paperwork and I worked
for him doing his, you know, TV journalism stuff
for LSM TV. And I love doing TV stuff. It's so
much fun. We actually, we were supposed to go
when Bia Vida first opened. I think it was no
it was like splash I think it was splash at that
time and they were supposed to have a big LS
MTV Party, but then it got shut down at the like
the very last second Yeah, you remember that
we were like going back and forth trying to figure
out the level of Clothing optional require and
all that stuff. Yeah never ended up happening
I think they went away for a little bit and then
came back as via Vita and MNPP Yeah, there was
some behind the scenes political stuff that happened
and it was more of like needing to take a break
to level some things out with the city before,
you know, moving forward. Got it. I remember
they had said something about permits and stuff
like that. So yeah, cool. And then we actually
met you at EDR. Yeah. Yes. So did you ever host
or anything at SMI or did you just do the modeling
and then start hosting? I just did the modeling
for sea mountain and any time I was going he
seemed to make an effort to let people know that
one of his Models was going to be coming. So
he kind of used like a publicity thing Oh, you're
coming this week and well one of our models on
our website. She's going to be here You've got
to come meter got it and they use that kind of
like their publicity stunt thing when I was still
going over there Okay, and then uh, and then
you made it over to EDR Just as a host or did
you kind of do the whole website modeling type
stuff for there? Uh oh, she's laughing to the
story. There was some things I didn't like about
SMI and we ended up trying EDR because they were
still like the new hush hush place that no one
had really tried yet and so we had gave it a
try and I ended up winning a competition. I think
it was my first or second time there. They did
a booty shaking competition and I won and I won
like several hundred dollars in prizes and like
we used them towards a room and stuff and that's
how I ended up getting more involved with EDR
but also there was things listed on the website
you know they're supposed to be the competition
and this and that it was Halloween time and me
and my friends had all brought costumes and things
and I kept going and I was like hey like when
are we doing the When are we changing? Like,
when are you doing this? And I ended up getting...
I got into an argument with the owner because
he's like, well, I don't know what you're talking
about. I'm like, the fuck do you mean? You don't
know what we're talking about. It's your fucking
website. Have you not looked at it lately? Yeah.
So we argued and then like he saw it on there.
He goes, well, if you want this to happen, you
need to do it. I'm like, bet. And it turned into
like this huge... huge party and they had just
opened the red room for the first time. And after
that is when he started bringing me back to be
a hostess because I turned what was like a boring
evening into a massive party for everyone who
had costumes and everyone had a great time. Nice.
So you're kind of like, what's it called at the
other resorts? What do they call them? Game starters.
There's a term that they like at RM and all that
they call them the like the party started you
were definitely og there Because we we met you
there you were there with I think it was peaches
or something Oh peach. Yeah, my email life partner.
Yes That was her first entrance into learning
about the lifestyle was going to EDR. Oh, wow.
Yeah That's interesting. I remember that night
or that day. We first met you. I didn't have
a voice You didn't have a voice? Yeah, you remember
that? On the way there, that night before, my
voice was like all kind of cracky. I'm like,
I feel fine, but I don't know what's going on.
And then I get there and they add another voice
like this. I kind of remember that, yeah. And
it sucked, because I'm like super shy to begin
with. And then I'm going there and I'm like,
hi guys, nice to meet you. I swear, I'm not like.
But so yeah, that was the first time we met.
And we now hung out with you multiple times at
different pool parties in the area and stuff
like that. And then, so after EDR, you went over
to MNPP or NPP, right? Actually, that's where
it gets a little confusing. I went from there
over to Splash. Someone had told me about it
and I went there when they had first opened,
like maybe their second or third weekend being
open. And that's actually how Steve got aligned
with them, is I had a very brief connection with
Club Alation. And once I started at Splash, that
thing, that dissipated very quickly. And Steve
messaged me, or called me, and he goes, okay,
what's the deal with Splash? What's going on?
I'm like, all right, I'm gonna tell you all of
it. Like, you have to really be ready for this.
And so I, you know, gave him all the information.
He goes, all right, let's do this. And that's
how we stepped in with LSM, you know, Lifestyler's
Magazine, LSM TV, and he started wanting to do
more things there, and that's what started growing
for him. And that's when I started doing more,
like, ambassador staff promoting and then slowly
moved into doing hosting with both BIA VITA and
Naked Pool Parties once they were two separate
entities. And then as BIA VITA was growing, I
stepped in to manage for Naked Pool Parties to
help keep both sides going strongly versus one
side, you know, balancing out more than the other
because both sides have to pay rent. You know
what I mean? Yeah. And so that's where I stepped
in and I was working for Naked Pool Parties for
a while. OK, cool. We haven't we've been to BIA
VITA. You know, with the BIA VITA events. What,
twice? Three times, maybe? I think twice. But
we have not been to the naked pool party events
yet. But we're thinking about here trying, maybe
possibly this weekend. We're not really sure.
And we're still trying to figure that out. So
we'll see how it goes. But let's see. So there
you went. There, there, there. And then you just
had all this experience from seeing how all these
other places ran. And you just decided to just
jump in and kind of start your own venture, right?
That's kind of how it went. It was more of like
everywhere you go, every community owner has
their own thoughts, their own desires, ambitions,
how they want things to go. And at some point
I realized that my visions and what was important
to me really didn't align with others. And so
I thought it was better to branch out on my own
and start doing things that fit more align with
my ideas and my visions versus butting heads
with or being involved in any politics or drama
related to other communities. Now from talking
to you previously, your events are more geared
towards like the rest, relaxation, more intimate
hookups than the party vibes. Well, I think that,
I think a question that would kind of back that
up is because I think that's what you're getting
at, but maybe we back it up a little bit is what
Got you into this thing when we first started
you said you Didn't you were Polly before you
didn't know what Polly was or before you knew
it Polly was how do I get the life? Yeah, how
did this all like let's back up a little bit
So we've gone forward we know what you've kind
of done in certain things but like I think that
lends itself to some ideas on how you Like philosophically
see like what you your ideas. Yeah, what your
differences are. Yeah so I as a teenager I always
had multiple boyfriends. For me, it felt normal.
It felt more relaxing, more freedom. I've always
been a free spirit. And then I did try to do
the whole marriage thing. It wasn't a great marriage.
I went through a lot. I think we were just very
different people. And I outgrew that marriage.
However, due to some of the struggles I had in
that marriage, I did end up branching out on
my own. I did have an affair. And from that affair,
you know, he and I talked more. I'm like, look,
like I'm not... I'm not happy. There's a lot
of things missing. I want to go back to who I
originally was. Like we can do this together.
We can part ways. Like at this point, I don't
care anymore, but I, I'm no longer myself and
I'm not happy. And that's when he started like,
okay, let's give this a shot. And he did explore
the lifestyle with me. We did it really well
together. Like there was definitely - That's
your husband, right? Yes. Who you married? Okay,
sorry. I'm just trying to - Yeah, my marriage.
Yeah. and so I went from that and then he and
I separated in 2020 when I've been doing it by
myself since then and I've I tried the whole
swinger thing he and I both did and it just it
was not working for us I never really understood
why because there's so much about the lifestyle
I didn't know at that point and it was learning
where my boundaries are what I'm looking for
and for me the the swinger part it always felt
like bed -notching it was it was a little too
I don't know. There was too much missing for
me emotionally. And I'm an energetic person.
I feed off that energy. And so without a good
energy connection, I wasn't capable of enjoying
sex or enjoying hanging out with people. And
that's what led me into being and realizing that
I am polyamorous. I have to have those romantic
relationships. I can't just do the whole sex
part and see each other. Oh, hey, like you're
cute. Let me bend over the bed. It's just something
that I wasn't able to do. So that's how I ended
up where I'm at now with being poly versus swing.
Think that's why the term has changed from like
swing I think for a lot of things that people
do to lifestyle because I think that's more encompassing
of all the different aspects of it and I think
when people think swing they think Swapping like
immediate swapping put key parties like you don't
know anybody and then you're just fucking them
like that kind of thing and I think that the
more I meet people and the more I learn more
about it and the more even our experiences and
how we approach it it is to an extent like everybody
there's a range right there are some people who
just want to get in get out and fuck and I would
probably and that's one range right and then
there's people who want to have boyfriends and
girlfriends and like loves and things like that
and that's like probably the complete opposite
range and then there's people in the middle who
almost say where we kind of live is like we want
good friends. We want good fun. And and occasionally
we might fuck our friends or play with our friends.
But we're not typically the ones that are like
one night stands or like we always call ourselves
a slow burn. in the lifestyle so because we do
need um for the most part i'm not saying like
i've never like got intoxicated we've had our
moments just like yeah but typically typically
yeah we don't develop them there exactly so i
think that's why the word lifestyle makes more
sense than like swinging in a lot of cases because
a lot of people i meet at different events are
One range to the other and then it evolves to
like I've met some people where they're They
started off kind of like you like where you kind
of have evolved into what you actually want So
like you started off one way with your your spouse
and then kind of now evolve where you're like,
okay Actually, this is what I like about it Like
I like this part of it and this is the part I'm
gonna do about it So I think we like categories
it but I think the lifestyle kind of I feel like
that kind of encompasses It is it is it's a really
broad spectrum. And I still get those messages
with people who don't read my profile. Hey, you're
really hot. We'd love to hook up. Let's get together.
And I'm like, you didn't even read anything.
And so I can still see the difference in people
who are still sex -based versus those who truly
find this as a lifestyle, which they encompass
a part of their day -to -day life. Yes, we all
have our vanilla world that we sacrifice our
lives into. but those of us who are truly in
-depth into this, like we form the connections,
we have the same friends, we've seen the same
people when we go to parties, and it's not something
that we had to sleep with them, it's just we
all have the same mindset and there's a respect
level. Right. And I, as a single female, because
yes I do date, but I get annoyed really fast
when I break up with them, but I just, I don't
like going to the parties, because Oftentimes,
I become like this piece of meat to where people
are gravitating towards me. They have no idea
who I am. They don't ask any questions. And the
first thing they want to do is sleep with me.
And that's, I think, why I gear my retreats and
parties differently is to try to get past that
so that other women, whether it's in a couple
or singles, can feel more comfortable knowing,
OK, I know that sex might be an option, but everyone
walking through this door knows that you are
not going to walk up to someone and be like,
hey, can I bend you over the bed in about an
hour? Yeah. So that's what your goal is for the
retreats is to be more long. I could say they're
a little bit longer, right? You how like their
weekends or what are I? I have a place that I'm
able to rent out weekends from and I'm required
to do a Friday through Sunday. And so I do it
as a retreat where you have your main guests
who are staying in a room. And this one is a
really nice place. They're not just like the
basic rooms that you find like a mini fridge
in. They're full on apartments and there's not
many of them, but you have a separate room, a
full size bathroom, full size kitchen if you
choose to do your own cooking and a living room
for socializing. And so Yes, I do have overnight
guests, but then I would also have guests who
come for just a day or do a day -night pass so
they can enjoy the time there and then they get
a room somewhere locally because I'm in Desert
Hot Springs right now for my retreats. Okay.
Okay. Before we go any further with this, what
is the name? I'm like, we're starting to like
flow naturally, but I'm like... People are gonna
be like, wait, but what is it? They're banging
the table. What's the name? I know. So it's Paradox
Prism Productions. And you can find that on Cassidy.
It's on Cassidy. I have that Brent Shatndenow
website. yet. A single mom in college full time
working multiple jobs. Like I just can't financially
afford to do one of those yet. I'm sorry, but
that sounds like an excuse. Right? Doesn't it
though? This is a no excuse that I'm here. Yeah.
Yeah. The further we get into my life, people
are going to be like, why have you not had a
mental breakdown yet? Like, no, I've already
had three this year. I just hide them really
well. And I've already scheduled my fourth. School
starts really soon. So yeah, I've already scheduled
the fourth one as my classes are starting again.
So what other communities, or not communities,
websites, like beyond Cassidy, you have something
on FetLife, right? I have a profile on FetLife,
but that doesn't mean that I've actually really
used it much. OK. I have not learned the ins
and outs of Fet, and I kind of wish that I had.
I just haven't got that far. Yeah. We don't have
one on FetLife, but I want to, because she's
actually found that she's into Shabari. So I
find that I could probably find, do you know
any Shibari people in this area? Every now and
again I come across someone who's into it. Actually,
okay, one of my friends slash students from ASL,
she came to me with her story, which that's something
we'll get into later about how people just come
to me with their stories and how it pans out,
but she started signing. for people who are doing
like Polly and Shabari events because there was
a deaf girl who wanted to go and do these. So
I'll have to reach out to her and text and find
out where she went for it. That's interesting.
So she comes as an interpreter to events. She
does. That's fucking wild. She's like the people
at the rap concerts, like that one girl. Yes.
Signs with students. And it's so cool. I did
three years of sign language and I really wanted
to continue. But with my you know, brain injuries
from the previous car accidents that I've had,
my brain stopped at ASL 3 and they move too fast
in the class. And when you're doing a test, they
sign it once and that's all you're getting. And
I'm like, wait, wait, hold on. Like my brain
just froze on like the third word. So I stopped
at ASL 3. You actually found you spoke to me
with Silent Weed. I don't know if you realized
it in Silent Weed. We were in Wine Garden. The
music was playing and you're like... I was like,
I think she said goodbye? I'm not sure. That
or fuck you. I don't know. I'm not sure. She
smiled while she was doing it, so I can only
assume it was nice. She's like, get away from
me, creep. I do sign without realizing that I
do it, but I teach sign language to my three
-year -old granddaughter. I use it at home with
my voice and things like that. Half the time
they're guessing what I'm doing. But there are
times where from the head injuries that my words
are just not coming out and I can sign it because
it's still in my head which my mouth isn't working.
And so I use signing a lot in my life. It's become
a part of it and I try and get my voice to use
it more too. I actually I want to start using
some sort of code when I go to parties, which
I want my friends to know, so that if I'm in
danger, that they're going to know what red means,
so that I can actually get help versus feeling
like I'm in a stuck situation. Oh, that's actually,
yeah, for sure. And let me know what that is,
because as a... I just showed it to you and you
weren't even paying attention. Yeah, I was watching.
I thought you had an itch. I was watching. Yeah,
at parties, I'm always kind of scanning the crowd,
looking around, looking for that, and now I know.
Yeah. And you start educating people on that
one, so more people know what it is, for sure.
They could definitely be a game changer if you're
in a difficult situation. For sure. That's cool.
The signing doesn't work on podcasts though.
Yeah, it doesn't. No, but that's okay. At least
we know what it was. If we all started working
together to let people know what red is, it would
help. It would help. So, outside of Paradox Prism...
Productions do you want to share like your your
actual screen names and stuff or on? Your the
webs of different websites and stuff. Oh, I'm
Cassidy and fed its Anastasia Eve and then I
have Facebook it's Anastasia Eve Sibyl esse I
think it's not confusing at all. No, no, I first
saw it. I'm like, oh I do it Yes, that is who
I think it is. Just like with most people in
lifestyle, Anastasia is not my real name. Anastasia
is my brand. Anastasia Eve Seville creating a
first, middle, and last name made it easier for
me to be able to brand my things with however
many Anastasia's are out there. And there's actually
not very many, even in the lifestyle. I don't
really run into them. I haven't met anybody else.
Yeah, and so it's worked out well. And that's
why it's that long of a name. And then Essie
that you see on my Facebook page is actually
from the family that I've built. It's like my
adopted family. West Coast Bikini is where I've
been working since 2019 as a swimmer designer
and a model and just an absolute pain in the
ass all the time. That's really what my motto
is. And so they're like my parents. And so I
added his last name, you know, as being a, you
know, bonus dad for me. Okay. Okay. So let's
go back to Paradox Prisms really quick. So you
started throwing your own events and, um, actually
you had one, I don't know if it actually went
off or not, but it was in Balenzel. It was like
October 10th. Oh yeah. It was, it was October
of last year and it was such a fun weekend. So
it did. Cause I remember I contacted you and
it's kind of funny cause I went back to my messages.
Now I have your contact saved. Um, but back in
the day, I just texted the number that was on
the website and I was looking at it today as
like, Hey, just wondering if your party was still
open for guests. My wife and I might be coming
with some friends and it was going to be the
Palm Springs couple, but we didn't get it. Weren't
able to get a sitter and we, I was trying to
figure out if we still had time to do the interviews
because your interview cutoff time had shut down.
So we didn't end up coming because babysitter
stuff, but um, So anyways, that was our first
exposure to Paradox Prism. I didn't even realize,
I don't think I realized at that time that it
was you from EDR. I think a lot of people are
still... Trying to figure out who owns paradox
and I just recently changed the picture because
I thought that might help a little bit once people
realize that it was me and my My connection within
the community and everything that I've worked
so hard for no matter who I'm working for I've
still brought my own love to the people my own
values To be able to bring that together So I
just changed my picture to hopefully help people
figure out who owns it a little more association
What could somebody expect to come to you kind
of touched on it a little bit? But what can somebody
expect going to one of your paradox prisms events?
Because you've got two weekends coming up right
away. I do, yes. Those are actually already taken
care of at this point. But for future reference,
I do an interview process with everyone. Whether
you're a single, whether you're a couple, I don't
care. And the purpose behind that is I don't
want anyone to show up and one, be offended because
they see a cock cage, or two, feel like they've
shown up and nobody wants to talk to them because
we're quote unquote clicky. being that single
girl who showed up to parties and tried to make
friends with people before and being left standing
in the pool wondering if there's boogers on my
nose or not, I wanted to avoid that scenario
for other people. And so I do that interview
process like, hey, are you into hot wives? Are
you into cucks? Are you BDSM? Like, what is your
thing? And I want to know who my guests are.
I want to make sure that they're going to have
the best experience. Or if I know that, you know,
you're into cuck life and those are things that
you enjoy, I want to make sure I introduce you
to other couples who have the same mindset, but
also introduce you to people who have never experienced
it before so you can educate them on what your
dynamic is like. We all hear things and we see
things on the internet all the time and most
of the time they are completely incorrect and
everyone's boundaries are different and so I
love being able to create that social integration
of multiple dynamics into one melting pot to
where people can have an open mind and accept
what's going on with other people without creating
judgment. If you're going to judge someone because
they're crawling around all fours and and they're
saying yes goddess, then don't fucking come to
the party. There's a pretty good chance it's
not going to happen. But if it is, you should
be degrading him the same way that his wife is
degrading him based on their boundaries. You
know what I mean? Let's support and love each
other. We have enough that we're going through
with the vanilla world not understanding us.
Let's not make life harder on the inside. Yeah.
So you just ask questions like what are your
boundaries? What are your kinks? If you have
any, what's your dynamic? That's really all it's
about it, and it's so simple and so many people
like oh, I don't want to do an interview Yeah,
all right. Well. I want to you know if you're
not comfortable with it. That's fine, but this
is this is a requirement Yeah, you know I ask
especially like with single males. I'll be like
okay, so what are you what are you into? I want
to make sure the single males are actually happy
and comfortable to you know with single females
I don't get those as often because most of my
couples seem to be hot wife and cut couples But
I do ask all the questions. I want to make sure
that everyone's on the same page with it. And
my background is psychology. I just got accepted
to Barrett Honors College for my bachelor's degree
and the focus is actually sex and kink therapy.
So a lot of what I do, as you can see, like creating
that sort of environment leads to people feeling
less shamed and more comfortable being open with
who they are. Right. That's cool. So they can
expect a level of inclusiveness. Definitely social
inclusion. Yeah, understanding. Do you cap your
events at a certain number to keep it intimate?
for the location that I'm at I don't have a choice
but to cap it because it's a 1960s boutique hotel
and so it's very petite in size and there's only
so many bodies that you can fit in there at one
time. So many cock cages. There's so many cock
cages that you can have and I always talk about
the the cucks and cock cages because I personally
love cucks. okay and that's why i always like
cox or cox cages both oh i like both she said
she's like i personally love cox cox not cox
cox i mean i like them both in and out of cages
and i don't know it's a personal passion for
me and so i always try and give them a safe place
to to be i've actually ridden a cox face before
wearing a strap on and had a full orgasm choking
him with the strap on that i was wearing so that's
how into it i am It just got really quiet in
here. That's a lot going on in my brain right
now. I'm like, okay, so now let's flip the script.
You got hurt all day. No, you, okay, you do the
interview. You, to give us your answers to the
interviews. If you were to interview yourself,
what would your answers be? Oh, for me going
to one of my own events? Yes, like I'm Mr. Paradox.
How's it going? There will not be a Mr. Paradox.
They always keep screwing everything up for themselves
and they can't get past like the fifth date.
It's probably because I'm so strict on my boundaries.
So if I was to be interviewing, hey, my name's
Anastasia. I've been in the lifestyle since around
2018. I have really enjoyed the dynamics with
different couples as far as becoming their friends,
to learning about them. I personally don't play
with couples, super rare that I do. I prefer
single males. But I love to embrace and engage
in conversation and explore other people's kinks.
Like if someone needs a videographer, honey,
I am happy to help you with that. You need someone
to hold your hair because you want to... and
I got gone out hard, let me be a part of this
experience for you and help you embrace it. And
then as far as anything else, I'm allergic to
a lot of foods, so that's one thing I would bring
up too if I was going to an actual retreat, because
I ask that question too for people coming in.
Food allergies? Mm -hmm. So do you guys provide
food or? I do. I am so... That's the one part
about being a homemaker that I miss is I loved
doing all the cooking and all of the baking.
I'm naturally an entertainer in so many ways.
I can be on a microphone like you guys saw me
at EDR and naked standing above a bunch of people.
Or I can be in a kitchen cooking and baking and
making sure that people have a relaxing environment,
free of food allergy issues and just getting
to connect with each other. You said that you
are into cucks. So is that... Obviously single
males and so you enjoy dominating or is that
like your do you enjoy that part of it? Or I
am I am just gave a scenario. So I did I'm very
much a dominant female and As soon as someone
tries to tell me what to do and now I don't want
to talk to them anymore And now I'm officially
going to do what they told me not to do because
now like fuck you But I'm a very dominant female.
I love FLR type connections. I love working with
the cucks and things. What's FLR? That's a female
-led relationship. Okay, so the wife or girlfriend
whatever has full control over everything He
comes to her ask her questions. There's there's
a very broad dynamic on what that can mean as
far as Being treated like shit and living in
a cage in a basement somewhere and still providing
her with everything that she wants and her getting
to Have sex with whoever she wants Or you can
still be living a very happy, peaceful life that
no one knows any different. Like, you're just
like a happy, perfect couple. But on the inside,
you know, kink -wise, you're still in control
over everything. So yeah, it just works better
for me that way. Don't get any ideas, Mrs. Sweets.
I think this is a part of... When guys actually
go out on dates with me, this I think is a part
of what makes them so intimidated, whether they're
studying or they're just stuttering and they
can't get their shit together. It's actually
amusing for me. I'm very much a cat. As long
as I'm still amused, you can still stay around.
But once I'm not amused anymore, I'm like, okay,
you can go. And so I've experienced that a lot
within trying to date, because I don't always
need someone to be FLR or a cuck. I enjoy someone
who can be just as strong of a person as I am.
Okay. So some some people you connect with as
equal but some people you connect with more on
a dominant level. Yes. Interesting. I do not,
I'm not a submissive girl so I don't really do
the whole switch thing. Yeah. I can say that
I have one partner and I've been with him long
term. He is the first person ever and probably
the only person ever that I have explored bondage
with. Him... Tying you or yes binding you again.
I've explored it I'm a writer and so I write
about my experience in the lifestyle Which is
something else I went actually looking too legally
about protecting, you know getting some writing
done and maybe doing some audiobook stuff, but
He always wanted to read the things that I'd
written about my partners and the things that
I had done and he was reading it and he's like,
you know what? He goes, I know that you've never
been tied up. He goes to a lot of things that
you write about. He goes, I can see things that
turn you on that maybe you're not catching on.
He goes, I think that you might actually like
it. And I was like, oh, ah, okay. And it took
a while. We didn't just jump right into it because
we've been together for a couple of years now
and... Once I finally got to explore it, it's
been a very fascinating and fun adventure for
me. It's been very erotic. And it's really nice
to know that I can trust someone enough to release
to that point because I've never been able to
do it before. I've had photographers try and
pay me double. I never did it with my husband.
Like nobody, even the thought of it typically
gives me really bad anxiety. Well, it is good
that you can find somebody that you could explore
that side with. Everybody's different Everybody
puts out a different vibe. We are slowly getting
into some shenanigans there. I think she she's
into it more than she thinks I like the restraint
part of it, but I don't like the full bondage.
Like I don't I don't enjoy Fully like giving
up entirely my control We hit what does that
know? What is that thing? We had you in at the
House of Black? What's that called? The Is it
the spreader bar? It was a guillotine type of
thing Obviously without the head chopping thing.
Yeah, the gallows the one that's on the bed.
Yeah I was in that and I was good until I wasn't
until I was done and then when I start then when
I was done and we couldn't get me out because
we had never used it before and we didn't know
how to get it out so I started freaking out the
door just opened I don't know how that happened
but um I was like freaking out like How do I
get out? Like, get me out. And he's like, I'm
trying. And I'm like, get me out. Like, I'm done.
I'm not staying in this any longer. What part
of I'm trying don't you understand? What part
of get me out don't you understand? I might panic
too. We've tried a few things. The first thing
that we ever used, because... Choking and things
like just rubbing on my neck is definitely a
very erotic experience for me I can even climax
just from that, but it has to with the right
person the wrong person doesn't I'm probably
gonna try and snap their neck But with that special
person, I'm totally okay with it He had gotten
it's like a little choker thing that goes around
your neck but it has a tail that goes down the
back with different places that you can like
put your hands and so our first time doing it
it's been over a year since we did this he stood
behind me and we'd already been playing so i
was already overheated as soon as he put it around
my neck my nipples instantly got hard i'm like
whoa what is happening right now and then uh
I trusted him enough to attach my hands to the
back and bend me over the bed and it was a great
experience because we've been together for so
long, there's that connection that we have without
being able to speak and him reading my body language
and knowing when to pull on it to choke me because
I'm reaching climax and for me just to be able
to tap him or squeeze his hand to know to let
off. So it's been really cool to explore the
different avenues with him with that. Do you
guys use a safe word? You don't have to tell
me what it is, but I haven't needed to. OK, because
we communicate so much. Hey, are you comfortable?
Do you need this? Do you need that? Oh, it's
too tight or like I'm not ready for this like
we. So I haven't needed to say for it because
we don't go in that route. He doesn't. There's
no hitting none of that sort of thing. It's more
of just like the the light bondage that we've
done. And then. Yeah, he's brought a few toys
and stuff like that. So it's it's been a good
experience. I'm a huge fan of the pinwheel. I
actually got it from Taz Toys. Okay. She was
at my handle. Yeah, I wish I had brought it with
me. Yeah, I don't know what it is either. So
Taz Toys as we were talking about earlier, she
is the female half of the poly triad that I am
in. And she was at my Banzai event her and her
husband and they were there as a guest, but I
allowed her to bring her toys. I'm like, hey,
if you have something, bring it. We ended up
doing like this whole visual experience for people
to learn about the candles and the waxes and
like all these different things. And she noticed
that I enjoyed the pinwheel. I didn't like who
was doing it with me, but she noticed that I
enjoyed it. And so she gave me one and I took
it to be with one of my partners and when I tell
you that I came like 30 times without even being
touched besides a pinwheel like it was I gotta
look this thing I know it's it's phenomenal but
I'm an energetic like there has to truly be a
deep connection and so the the partner and his
his nickname is the rookie he knows who he is
people who know me personally know who he is
as well um I laid in his lap one time and I handed
him the pinwheel and my head was in his lap and
he took one hand and just set it, didn't squeeze
me, just set it across my neck and then gently
used the pinwheel. Is that a pinwheel? Yes. All
right, so it's, it kind of looks like a spur
on the back of a cowboy boot. It does. If people...
It's a good description. Yeehaw. Yeah. Okay.
That's interesting. There's multiple variations
of it. So... So how would how would you use that?
So you said just rub it up and down your body?
Yes. And so there's. There's different levels
of pressure that you can put with it. This is
a part of exploring sensual play with your partner,
you know, and that was a part of what we were
trying to lead people into an education. Sex
is, yes, it's sex, but there's so much more to
it and there's so much more that you can do.
Men experience, you know, being hard, being soft.
Women sometimes aren't wet or we're not ready,
like finding different things sensually that
you can do to be able to add to your sexual experience
can lead to a much better memory of what you've
done together and more, you know, pleasure. Yeah.
And so that was part of what we were encompassing
into the Bonzal retreat that we did. And for
me, the pinwheel has been the one that stuck
with me the longest that I've enjoyed the most.
But you have to be real careful because if you
put too much pressure, you're gonna break the
skin. Okay. Some people want to break the skin,
eye into the hand, do not want to break the skin.
Right. I'm very gentle with it and going across
the body and it's such... it's such a... It's
hard to explain. It's almost like if someone
was taking very light needles and barely touching
your skin and going one piece at a time. And
you want to go slower for the most part and go
over different sections, like going over the
nipples and then going down the waistline, the
inside of the thigh, because our body's nerves
respond differently in different parts. And it
can lead to so much arousal that you didn't realize
that you can have, besides just like... slapping
your clit or like rubbing your cock. There's
so much more to it. I've actually put the pinwheel
on someone's cock before and he loved it. Just
FYI. There's so much you can do with one of these.
I already bought five. They're on its way. Well,
if you haven't bought anything, but if you do
buy something, you have to buy it from Taz Toys.
Of course. Taz Toys and she she has so many different
products when when she started with me, she had
a really good line and then. I'm very into kink
and the different things that I do and her line
went from being like this little bubble right
here to expanding into its own massive universe
with different planets of foot fetish and bondage
and things like she kept growing it the further
we got together. And it's really cool to see
the different things that she has now. Like me
working with Cuck, she got a whole Cuck line.
Oh, there you go. Specifically for Cucks. Different
sorts of cock cages and everything. I have a
foot fetish boyfriend. She has all foot fetish
things and the jewelry. What would you have for,
oh, it would be jewelry? What kind of toys would
you have for people with foot fetishes? So on
my Paradox Instagram page, I posted a video.
She bought a foot masturbator. It's actually,
it's a foot. It looks like it's half a foot and
there's a hole in the bottom and you stick your
Mr. Winky in the hole and you masturbate with
it, with the foot. In the hole, like in the heel?
I don't know. We're going to have to show you
the video. I'm intrigued. I am intrigued as well.
I mean, I don't have a foot fetish, but I far
from a foot fetish, but I didn't used to have
one. And now you do. It was a really interesting,
I do, I have a foot fetish. A men's feet? No.
Or women's feet? No, I like people with my feet.
Oh, okay. So you like, you enjoy? Yeah, I do.
My entrance into that was I was doing a foot
fetish photo shoot one time, it was my very first
shoot. And he liked doing videos. and pictures
and so I thought I was role -playing talking
to this camera and I'm laying on my stomach on
a couch my feet are flipped up so you can see
my soles and I'm like yeah baby you know you
want to come suck these toes I'm like really
playing into me he's like oh yeah you want me
to suck your toes like they belong in your mouth
come get them And he turned off the camera and
I thought he went to grab a different camera
because he had all these different ones. Next
thing I know, my fucking toes are in this man's
mouth. I don't even think I even know his name
at that point. Like he's just photographer. And
I was like, what the fuck is happening right
now? And I kept my resting, resting model face
because I knew there was other cameras watching
me because it was all being recorded. And that
was the start of me learning about it and being
more intrigued. And it become more of an amusement.
And then I met someone. And he and I have slowly
organically built into a true foot fetish relationship.
I've had full orgasms with him using my feet
to stroke his cock and him like sucking on my
toes like I have given you a Foot job, I guess
is what you would call it. There's the video
Okay, so we also did foot fetish paintings. Yeah,
that's paintings. Yeah, so that's blacklight
reactive and then You'll probably have to go
to her page to see everything, but there's definitely
feet with jewelry and Oh, you just got a bunch
of stuff So this is Taz Toys website. This is
Paradox Prisms. Oh, it's one of the videos. Gotcha.
Gotcha. Yeah, they're Instagram Paradox Prism
Productions Instagram. So what I'm gonna do is
um when we're all done here, I wanna get all
your links and I'll put them up on the podcast
body and everything so we can direct clickable.
I did recently turn everything private. Okay.
I have a situation that I'm currently having
to work with and for now things are being kept
private until I get that finished. But they will
eventually be left. put back to public again
after I get everything situated. Well, we'll
put them and then people can request you or and
then when you're ready to let people in, you
can accept all their requests. I've been slowly
trying to do that. It would honestly help if
people added a message with their requests. And
so I heard about you. Right. Like, oh, hey, I
was listening to the podcast. I'd love to be
able to join your page. Because if I get 100
people who are requesting and I'm worrying about
my homework, I want to accept the people who
are actually there. for the right reasons. Yeah.
It's not just yo, or randoms. If your requests
are not anything that we're going to put up of
Anastasia's or Prism, Paradox Prism production,
the PPP. The PPP. Put a little note so that she
knows. The PPP of the LS. Where you're coming
from so she can accept you. You heard about her
on the Sweet Side of Life podcast. There you
go. Yeah. Speaking of the pinwheel, it sounds
very similar to, how is that? Whispers. Not too
long ago, and I got the vampire gloves on my
back. Oh, I've heard of those. That was interesting.
She has like the long nails. No, we had like
pins in the hands. There was long nails and there
was pins in the hands. Oh, okay. So there's,
I looked, I was actually told by multiple listeners,
like, I was like, where do I find these? And
I just started getting links. Like, here you
go, here you go. I'm like, oh damn. Y 'all are
all kinky. It's a thing. But there's ones where
it's like, pin needle and if you go like just
push your hand into your thigh it would like
inject you yeah um but the one i had was more
barbed like thicker thicker it's not gonna penetrate
me but yeah she was like scraping down my back
and and you do love to have your back scratched
it got like deep i was like okay i was like to
the point where i'm like i need to get you something
but uh that felt good i'm not really like into
any kinks per se but apparently I might be because
I enjoyed that and uh yeah we probably don't
explore central play as much as maybe we ought
to you know so Lainey from Taz Toys would be
a great person to actually discuss that with
she has a a secondary option what she calls apogee
okay where she you know within safe boundaries
can actually meet with a client in a space where
they can learn about toys. Like she'll interview
with them and ask them questions and then she'll
bring out, hey these are the things I think would
be appropriate for you or she can help educate
you on different things. And the reason she and
I do so well together is she comes for the part
of understanding the toys and I come to part
of understanding the psychology behind the people
and what they are looking for. We're helping
them not be ashamed of what their kinks are so
they can Embrace it better. Yeah, so we have
a very interesting dynamic to where she's usually
serious when and I am the person with the dildo
Who's trying to use as a lightsaber going? Running
around the house. So we we have a really great
time when we're you know recording together and
stuff Speaking of that. Are there any dildos
that have lasers that shoot out of the tip? You
know what, if there is, I'm going to find one.
Cause that would be fucking amazing. I'm sure
now you're going to get a bunch of lightsaber
dildos in your text group. That I know Facebook's
listening right now. So anytime I discuss anything,
like for the next two days, my FIP is just bloop.
So I'm going to be getting... Well, she does
have the whole monster line. So there's, there's,
you're looking at, you don't know what the monster
line is. I don't know what the monster line is.
Intro we have a we don't we're not huge in the
toys. We have like our vibrator like our bullets
We have like a lot of kink either so a lot of
kink stuff I have no idea with the monster line.
I guess we're pretty vanilla. They look like
monster They look like monsters and aliens and
then she has like the tentacle one. Oh, okay
There's there's also the unicorn dildo that I
guess is becoming really popular right now. She
also ordered some like life -like blow -up dolls
too. She has a lot of things in her collection.
I got really creative last time I was at her
house when she had all these different toys that
she had and I got a lazy Susan table. And I set
it up and we're putting the toys on there and
like spinning it so that you can see all the
way around Just like you do like the old QVC.
Yeah shows and so yeah toy roulette Yeah, she
she has a lot of really cool things But she would
be a great person to go to it to be like oh hey
these are things that we haven't tried or you
know What are the ideas that you think would
be good for us? Depending on you know what you
want to play with the candle wax is very interesting
They do have different levels of candle wax if
you're exploring different sorts of like sensual
play The person who I did it with for the demonstration,
that's probably why I didn't like it and he did
it wrong. But in general, having that blend of
heat and cold and pain and pleasure, blending
it together in a safe environment with the right
person can be very erotic. Think that's why we
like to go to parties sometimes and like if there's
anything kink there like I'm the first to be
like I'll try it like We did we went to whispers
a while back and she did a shabari She got flogged
and then she did it. It's called electric play
electric play. Have you ever tried that? So I
have a reliever heart condition and I cannot
do electric play I was really honored several
years ago to be invited to a private dungeon
And everyone was so welcoming of me being at
that point completely ignorant to all of the
kink stuff. But I got to watch everything that
they did and ask them questions and learn more
about the people there and see the electric play.
I did let him put it on me on a very low setting
just so I could feel it. And then I had to go
take my heart medicine because it hurt. So and
then I saw one of the girls there. She had this.
this mesh that she laid over top of her body.
She was on the St. Andrew or the cross, St. Andrew's
cross, isn't it? Okay, cool. And then he touched
her once, but because it had, it went everywhere
and she's like ripping it off. She's calling
for everyone to come get her off the cross. And
I did not see her for the rest of the night.
I'm like, you know what? I'm going to see if
I learn from other people's choices and I'm,
I am good. She took that Uber home. Probably
not my thing. Yeah, I don't know. You did it
on your nipples, right? Yeah, the electric plate
wasn't really my thing and you were nervous.
I'm an electrician. So I'm looking at this and
I'm like, what's the amps here? This is my woman
here. I'm all up for trying new things, but I
know what it looks like to get shocked. You do
electric play a lot at work. I shocked myself
today. It was a good time. You gave me a boner.
Yeah, I really did it. So you're into electric
play. Got it. Nailed it. It wasn't really my
thing. The Shabari I liked. I didn't enjoy watching
you get shocked. Yeah. I enjoyed watching you
get flogged. Yeah. I enjoyed watching you get
tied up. Yeah the Shabari I liked the most probably.
So I actually bought a book and I bought some
practice things and I kind of want to... put
that into my thing and I can be the guy at the
party that I cannot currently find. Well, I'm
in a group that's done by, her name is Uni. Yes,
I know Uni. She posts a lot of different things.
I think she does post about Shabari events and
also being able to do Shabari classes to where
you can learn. I have a long -term friend slash
photographer that he's went to classes as well
to do all that and he's like, hey, can I try?
I'm like, no. I'm good. That sounds like something
you'd totally be into, restrained on everyone.
When I was hosting for Club Alation, I did allow...
One of the gentleman to put one on me, but it
was worn almost like a shirt would be worn like
a vest And yeah, I didn't feel something like
that It was it was too close to my neck and I
was feeling anxiety and stress with it Just being
up here, which is funny because I like my neck
being played with but has to be with the right
person Yeah, every situation is different like
you could be loving it and over here. It's a
trigger. It's like it Completely you just never
know. Yeah, I was actually just talking about
that to a newer couple I was talking to because
we were discussing like she was triggered by
something and she was like we had already discussed
it and it was fine like between the two couples
like he was doing something and He was told previously
like that's within our boundaries and you're
fine to do that. But just that scenario She was
uncomfortable with and so it's like you never
like with anything your own body with your significant
others body Just everything is very situational.
I think like you can't it's hard to put a blanket
like this is for me at least like this is a hundred
percent like what I'm comfortable with because
I it can change from party to party from people
to people from just vibe to vibe like I mean
even just my own personal feelings like I can
just feel a certain way one day and then the
next day they'll look completely certain different
way my emotions change between you and I you
enjoy you know being choked yeah nothing too
crazy yeah Has anybody ever touched your neck
in any play situations? And how did that make
you feel? Yeah. I think someone has. I cannot
think of who it was. But it wasn't a lot of choking.
It was just hands on the neck. A lot of times,
as a guy point of view, you just kind of touch
the neck, and you can feel how their body reacts.
And if they don't move, if they don't even adjust,
then they're probably not in good. Have you done
it to somebody? I've touched necks. I've gotten
a good reaction so then a little more pressure
but I'm not like where I'm like choking like
sometimes to you I'm like But I would never like,
you know go full strength on someone without
having a full conversations but I have like put
your hand on the neck and if I see them like
Then I'm like, okay, they're into it a little
bit. Yeah, that's where I stop just enough to
you know introduce that but I've never been like
You sometimes yeah Yeah, I've definitely been
choked to the point of being close to passing
out, but I always do the whole tap thing. But
they're with people who I trust. So I'm, you
know. I think a lot of that stuff you have to
be with people you trust. So it's actually referred
to as edge play. So I have done a lot within
the sex and kink therapy stuff. And I did a presentation
as a request by one of my honors professors at
my last college. And that was one of the things
that I touched on. We use the word edging when
we're talking about getting close to orgasm and
stopping. Yeah, yeah, that's how I know it. There's
a completely different version where that word
edge play is used when it comes to the more dangerous
types of play. So if you're doing... Damn it,
what's the word? Not fetish play. Barrier -free
sex. So if you have a breeding fetish or if you're
into the razor blades or being whipped and like
the asphyxiation, like there's certain things
that are referred to as edge play because it
is on the edge of being dangerous and it's honestly
in some cases people can look at it as being
abusive if you are not doing it correctly and
you're not in the right setting. Yeah. Well it's
just like choking if done incorrectly. Correct.
It is a part of edge play. If you go front and
that's tricky and it's like you're unalive with
somebody. So yeah it's all about the rear naked
jump. But we actually um the House of Black Place
that we we've gone to once now They uh, they
have BDSM nights where that's dry events because
of that no alcohols allowed because they want
everybody to be super safe and I want to go to
one of those events but for me to go any to any
type of these parties I need like a couple of
drinks to loosen up because I'm just too too
well and tightly So I want to go to one of those
and try it, but I might try I don't think I can
do dry, so pre -party at Friday's. I don't drink
or do anything anyway, so everything I do I'm...
You'll be fine. I'm wild and crazy without it.
Like we don't need me to have any of that. I
actually don't drink because it just gives me
a hangover in 45 minutes. You gotta keep drinking
through that. No, no. So back in the day when
I was a dancer and working in bars and stuff,
I could drink sailors under the table. No problem.
I was a four horseman kind of girl, liquid cocaine,
didn't need a chaser. Like I would fuck some
shit up back then. But as my body has changed,
my body is like, oh no girl, go sit down. We're
not doing this anymore. I've actually done some
whipping and things. I have a pink bag. I've
had guys come to me for more of a, I refer to
it as like a therapeutic session where they want
to be degraded by someone who's not in a relationship
with them. And I've interviewed them in advance
and I've actually met up with them and they pay
me as a dom. So there's no sexual interactions
whatsoever. It's the whipping, degrading, having
them crawl around on the floor. that kind of
thing. I've actually considered if I want to
do a profession as a dominatrix. It sounds like
really fun for me. Yeah. I could see it. I think
that's what I was kind of getting at the first
part of what we were talking about where you
said you have a dominant personality and that
you want to be in a dominant relationship. A
lot of professional dominatrix, they have their
degree as a doctor in psychology. There is so
much more to it than what people think that there
is. I mean a lot of it's just mental, like understanding
how to talk to the person. communicating what
it is you want, making them feel that, I mean,
yeah, you could dom somebody without even doing
this stuff, so. Oh, yeah, no, absolutely. And
I've, I really enjoy it. I also have learned
through what I'm doing in psychology that There's
that stigma, oh, well people do BDSM because
they were abused as children. That is a myth.
There are so many children who have been abused,
whether you're in the vanilla world or in the
kink world, that it overflows into both sides.
However, one of the interesting facts is studies
are showing people are using BDSM in a therapeutic
setting to take control of and recover and heal
from their past traumas as children. which is
absolutely fascinating for me. I'm actually trying
to decide what I'm gonna do for my thesis and
I keep leaning more towards exploring more into
the psychological damages that happened to people
when they were younger and how they are using
BDSM to be able to heal from those scenarios.
Interesting. Very interesting. What's stopping
you from becoming a dominatrix as a profession?
I don't think anything's stopping me. I just
haven't got that far yet. I am technically a
single mom and I'm going to school and doing
the best that I can but that's that's still something
in the back of my mind that I think I can enjoy.
I also really like doing my lifestyle parties
and I'm hoping that as time goes on I want a
property that actually belongs to me versus renting
one out and being able to do them more consistently
in a space that everyone is aware of. I will
never be planning for a level of like EDR I think
that's too big of a facility for me. It also
goes against like the intimate Yes, it does.
I prefer more of an intimate setting. I think
a max 50 people. When I was working for like
Bia Vida and naked pool parties, there was a
hundred people there. It can be a lot. I still
spent time in between rushing to open the door
and signing people in and doing tours to try
to personally connect with as many guests as
I could. Can I remember their names? Absolutely
fucking not. But I also let everyone know I have
brain damage. I don't fucking remember anything.
It makes me a great therapist. I can't tell anyone
your secrets. You're like, who are you again?
It's like, I remember what your trauma is, but
I don't remember what your name is. Cool, so
you had said that you're a couple of weekends
you have coming up right now for paradox prisms
are you already kind of sold out or? Yeah, those
are already taken care of nice um My school is
getting ready to start so I'm gonna be focusing
on that and figuring out my boundaries with My
sanity with school before I take on anything
else Okay, just to because I again my my education
is what it's going to give everyone that safe
space Is there furthering within the livestock
site? I consider myself a livestock coach people
come to me all the time Like you saw in that
group the other day that I was guiding a single
male into doing things And so yeah, I want to
make sure I get my degree and focus on that because
that is definitely a priority Speaking of single
males, you said when we kind of first sat down
before we started recording that you're wanting
to make a book about how to be a single male
in the lifestyle. I don't know if I want to do
a book or if I want to start doing like some
videos or whatever. There's... as a single female
I have encountered so many people and I'm like
how did you make it out of the sixth grade without
reading or just like where are you going with
this how far did you expect to actually get with
this conversation yeah when you're approaching
me so I can imagine what couples go through too
especially for the hot wives and things and I
feel like there's a lot of people who don't know
what they're doing they want to explore it but
they still need guidance yeah and I know I kind
of Got a comment from someone like well the ones
who have it have it and the other one shouldn't
be here And I'm like well hold on Like we all
start from somewhere right and we want to be
the best or some of us do Without proper guidance.
How are we supposed to be the best, right? And
I've also gotten a lot of backlash for being
comfortable with younger guys in the lifestyle.
That's a very sensitive topic. You know, the
age is 18 to 25. Everyone's like, oh, well, they're
too young. I'm like, OK, but do you want them
to learn now or do you want them to fuck up for
the next 10, 15 years and everyone be mad at
them for not doing it, right? When you never
took the opportunity to guide them. Right. So
what would be let's just go with maybe. Three
things like top three things right off the top
of your head that you would tell a single guy
like When going into the lifestyle, what would
you me me me me? What would you be profile first?
Okay Okay, so reading it and understanding it
are two completely different things. I wish that
more people would just like an interview process
read the profile, understand it, take pieces
from the profile and create a paragraph to respond
to someone. Don't just be like, hey girl, you're
hot. Wanna hang out? No, I don't. You don't have
enough intelligence to occupy my time for more
than 30 seconds. Show me that you are worth my
investment. Why should I invest my time into
you? Don't be a car salesman. Don't tell me how
big your penis is and how much is in your bank
account. Damn it, I gotta take that out. You
need to take that out. Yes, size does matter,
but that's also not the biggest key factor for
me. And I have a very detailed profile. I think
I scare a lot of people away with my profile,
but there's others who like the challenge. And
details could be scary. Scary like for a guy.
He's just like well that she's not gonna be easy
like this is a lot of work Well, then she's then
she's exactly deferred Correct. Exactly. You've
already kind of cut down that portion of the
audience. I do I actually had it I had a 25 year
old guy who was recently going back and forth
with me and talking he's in the Temecula area
and We finally agreed to go somewhere to eat
Well, I'm like, okay before we go any further
mind. I never gave my phone number like I'm assuming
that you did, but I want to double check. Did
you read my profile so there's no questions,
concerns, or confusion by the time we actually
get together in person? And he absolutely ghosted.
Didn't say a single word after that. If I am
too much, go find less. If you were at the bottom
of the barrel, good for you, but I am not. And
I would rather let's not waste each other's time.
So the first one would definitely be reading
and understanding it. Use the profile to recreate
yourself just like you did in third grade. They
tell you like okay this is the topic build something
with it. Right. So that would definitely be the
first. The second would be I don't like when
guys are over flirty and we haven't even fucking
met. Do not talk about my bodily features as
though they were going to be yours wrapped in
your bed at some point. You should approach every
woman one with respect but two is being her friend
first Because if you don't have that friendship,
it's not going to be the same Yeah, she needs
to feel safe if we're not safe and we can't relax.
We're not going to enjoy sex without women There
is no lifestyle. Yeah so Focusing on friendship
not on the sex don't objectify my body and third
No You must have missed my whole experience with
the guy that I was dating for like two years
that his dick was too big and I was asking him
to sleep with other women because I physically
could not have sex with him. I need a break,
sir. Literally, it's my wrist. And not everyone's
body is capable of accommodating that. I love
the women who can. This little girl is not one
of them. So size does matter in many ways. I'm
trying to think for the third one, what would
be the next one? Oh, being capable of carrying
on an intelligent conversation. That the whole
one -word things and stuff like that and not
creating an actual conversation to where it's
one -sided is boring. Yeah. And I would imagine
you don't want pushy, but you do want, what's
the... Assertive? Not even assertive, just follow,
like a follow -up person. Is someone who's actually...
engaged. It needs to be engaged. I think engaged
is a good word. I think some women like to be
chased. They like that person to constantly be
going for them or trying to, I guess, push in
the right direction because they like someone
who's dominant. As soon as I feel the slightest
bit that you were trying to be pushy with me
or I feel you've turned this into a sexual venture
versus getting to know me as a human, I don't
want to talk to you anymore. I have lost all
interest. and it's actually in my profile do
not chase me if i want you i will let you know
and that's a very important detail i think a
lot of people are our men are missing when it
comes looking at profiles and the same thing
goes for couples like i've seen some of the messages
that couples get too and i'm like yeah yeah i
know we got this one dude uh i think he finally
gave up but they're for the better part of two
years We had a single male that, at no less than
once a month, would send his BSP and a message
would be like, yo. And I'm like, no, the first
time I think I wrote back, you know, not interested,
no thanks. But in once a month, send BSP, yo.
Send BSP, yo. It was like, bro, come on. You're
not even trying here. You're just, you know,
throwing shit against the fans. And for people
who don't know what a BSP is, it's on Cassidy.
It's the backstage pass. So it's like your secret,
your not public view of your of your like. Album
so a lot of times it'll contain some people for
some people it contains like a bunch of sexual
stuff for some people It just contains their
faces that they don't have on Cassidy. So yeah,
so yeah That's that's another issue for me too
is I don't have a backstage pass There is no
explicit erotic pictures out there of me whatsoever
You can even find them on OnlyFans the most you'll
see on there is like bikini and artistic nudes
and so your OnlyFans and shoot Yeah, I need I
need to update my OnlyFans I haven't done it
in a while. I mean, I got this new boob job last
year and there's really not even that many pictures
of my new tits on there. But I'll get someone
send me their backstage pass. Hey, if I have
backstage pass, can you open yours? Oftentimes
I feel that too many people are using Cassidy
as like their own porn site. And it just drives
me nuts. We used to use our backstage pass just
for face, but now we're faces out. So right now
I think we have a couple slightly more sexualized
pics in there, but for the most part it's nothing.
I really wouldn't know. I'm never on Taz. I got
like 20 dick pictures, like different poses,
I got cock cages. Good. I've never seen you in
a cock cage. I own five. Do you? Yeah, all different
colors. All different colors. So we've talked
about Paradox Prism, we've talked about Taz Toys,
we've talked about your... You're coming up in
the coming up in yellow. Sounds like a song.
Is there anything else you'd like to talk about
while we got you here? I don't know. You have
to put me on the spot to actually think about
something. You're supposed to be the one asking
me all the questions. I asked you about everything
that I can think of. Oh, we were talking about
experiences earlier and triggers and I. I wanted
to feed back into that. A lot of times you can
be in a scenario to where you're not experiencing
anything and then a trigger happens. I'm one
of the people who will not say anything at that
moment and I will take that time to reflect and
digest why I'm experiencing a trigger. To know
if I need to actually speak with my partner about
it or if I need to work on something from my
past to be able to... Get through it. So you
don't immediately rate react to it. You just
kind of let me let me take this in and talk about
this later Yeah, even if I'm going somewhere
with someone and they do something that I'm like
I don't know how I feel about that I will wait
until we're not in that time and moment and give
myself time to reflect I I had that scenario
happen to me A year ago January to where someone
recorded me without my permission And the only
reason why I knew it was because I caught him
doing it in the mirror And we're laying there
afterwards and we're just talking and I was anxiety
filled and I was nervous and I'm like, so did
you? Did you record me? He's like, oh yeah, well
it just didn't turn out the way that I thought
it would. Did you want to see it? I'm like, yeah.
Yeah, I do. And he showed it to me and I absolutely
hated it. But I wasn't sure how I felt because
this is someone who I had been seeing for a few
months He was with me and peach when we did our
our honeymoon photo shoot, which was a pretty
erotic photo shoots however, those images were
private and not to be released and Him recording.
I wasn't sure how I felt for many reasons. He
didn't ask there was no consent You weren't even
gonna tell me that you did it And so I took time
to actually reflect how I felt about that because
I don't like porn. And like a week later I had
a complete mental and emotional breakdown when
I realized why I felt the way that I did. I have
a trauma with porn back from my marriage because
at one point early on he was choosing porn over
me and I started making porn with him just to
get him to pay attention to me. While I was unhappy
with the scenario that happened to me, I actually
appreciate the fact that I experienced it because
it put me in a position to reflect on myself
and what I had been through so that I could realize,
hey, I have something I need to work on, whether
I can get past it or not, but then also being
able to go back to that person and be like, hey,
I've realized I truly have trauma with porn and
like you've really put me in a situation to where
I don't feel like I can trust you and I'm not
doing well with this, like I was a complete emotional
mess. And while he did delete it, he's like,
oh, well, you should have just told me, in my
head, you never should have fucking recorded
me. Yeah, that's definitely a consent thing.
It should be a consent thing, especially if you've
seen my OnlyFans, you know I don't have anything
like that out there and that I don't have partners
who have anything like that. And guys who I've
been seeing for years, I've never sat there with
open legs and masturbated and sent them a video.
None of them have anything like that. They might
have like a teaser video of me like naked in
the shower or whatever. But that's it. Yeah.
And those are guys who, again, I've been with
for a while. Yeah. It's definitely, I've definitely
triggered in the moment and not reflected on
it in the moment and just gone batshit crazy.
No. But I think, but the friend I was actually
talking about, I have had times where I've...
Reflected on it and then talked about it later.
That's probably the better way to handle it But
the friend I was talking about she actually did
In the moment just reflect on it and just say
to herself you're safe. He's safe. He's not doing
anything He wasn't supposed to be doing so let's
figure out why this triggered you Later, and
then we can discuss it and so she just like had
that Moment to herself and then later they discussed
it and then she you know talked to me about it
Little bit later just knowing that we've been
in it longer than they have so just like a confiding
ear of like This is what I was thinking. This
is what happened blah blah blah, but I mean I
thought I was like well That's a great way to
handle it and a great way to think of it because
I've definitely popped off in certain situations
where especially earlier on when we first started
where I could have been more tactful and more
introspective Yeah Yeah, being able to self -reflect
is good, and everyone has different perspectives,
but they think something's going to be like the
couple that I'm in the poly triad with. She is
so much like me. She is like, hey, go have fun,
do your own thing. As long as, you know, he's
still my husband, like, whatever. And she's so
laid back that it's taken a while to get used
to, because I've had so many issues with wives,
which is why I don't play with couples, and their
insecurities and things, but... to be able to
self -reflect is great. She realized knowing
or seeing him do it didn't bother her, but it
was the sounds, listening to him be with someone
else, the moans and this, you know, the wetness
and things like that. That's what would get to
her. So they play separately? Um, they do. They
also play together. Okay. But she's, because
she's realized that she can figure that out or?
She does okay with it now. Okay. So the first
time that He and I played, you know, the husband
of the triad. It started as the three of us,
and then she's like, hey, you know what? You
guys have fun. I'm gonna go in the living room.
And she just went off and did her own thing.
And we've always still had that comfort to where
it could be the three of us together or one of
us separate. And it's not been a big deal, which
has been great. Because again, I'm not really...
Not really a fan of the wife thing they they
tend to be emotional and dramatic and insecure
then I'm like, okay I can't do this anymore and
every time that I've tried besides this time
it's turned out to be an absolute shit show Every
time yeah, it does it's it's I had a foursome
last year was the soft spot for some and at the
very end She just had this complete crash of
like, oh, I wish he would look at me the way
he looks at her talking to the guy that I was
with. I'm like, oh no. Here we go. No, no, no.
And it changed the dynamics. Inside voice, inside
voice. Yeah, comparison is definitely like the
devil's like. It is. The second you start comparing
and yeah. Yeah. And the crazy thing is, is I
hardly ever play with couples. I always want
the woman to feel special if I was to do so.
She made every single call that night. She chose
everything. that we did. She directed. And still
at the end, she's still just... Yeah. I'm like,
all right, this is why I don't play with couples.
It just kind of reconfirmed your original thoughts.
It did. And everything that's happened with the
triad that I'm in now happened so organically.
There's no like dating anniversary or anything.
It just... Built on itself because we started
as friends and just it continued to bloom on
its own versus there being any Okay. Well, let's
do this and we have to have sex and we have to
do that. Yeah, I Mean, I think organically is
the best way That's that's how we typically roll
which is why we're a slow burn Some would say
very slow. Although I'm gonna have to preface
this. I think I think we're having the I think
we're having the sweets hot girl summer. It's
been a pretty fun summer. But it's all with people
that we've been hanging out with for years. Exactly.
People that have been like, all right guys, some
time today. So I think for like, for me, if we're
talking about triggers and you talk about sounds
other people makes, my trigger has been hearing
her make sounds. Her make sounds doesn't... It's
hot. But when my stuff's not working and I can't
keep up, that's when I shut down. Because I'm
like, it's like a failure. I'm like, well, I
fucking suck. And then that's when her sounds
kind of bother me. But if I'm able to do my thing
and everybody's kind of equal and having a good
time, then her sounds are hot as fuck to me.
So it's like, that's my trigger, is not being
able to provide. my side of the deal. And I've
had a few of those episodes and it kind of messed
with me for a little bit, but like I told one
of the gentlemen in the Facebook group or part
of. Oh, right. That conversation. Yeah. They're
like, uh, I was going to bed, and he's like,
how do I combat this anxiety? And I'm like, blue
chewing cock rings. And I went to bed, and I
woke up the next day. I'm like, OK, I'll provide
a slightly better response. Yeah, you were very
brief with that. I actually feel really bad for
guys, because so many women immediately assume,
oh, well, he's just not into me. And I'm like,
no, I'm here because I'm into you. I wouldn't
be here. I think there's a lot of girls who don't
understand it, and I did encounter a scenario
to where I actually had to leave the room because
I was ready to smash her face and then throw
her in the pool and drown her. Alright, and that's
the interview, guys. She was admitted to murder.
She said about to. I left because I was trying
to avoid it because she made me so angry with
how she was treating... One, a young guy and
two, it was his first time doing anything in
the lifestyle in a public setting. That is first
time. That's never going to go like perfect.
There's no way. And he was such a shy guy, which
by the way, he's he is one of my partners at
this point, which I was really surprised that
I even connected with him because he's so young.
But just that whole scenario, like before I came
into the room, apparently the guests were watching
them play because he was doing such a phenomenal
job. He had driven an hour and a half to be there.
He'd already worked out. He had been at work
all day He's also a college student and after
a while like his dick's like, all right guys,
like I'm gonna take a time out Yeah, and she
was like full on berating him talking about you're
not good enough and this and that and I'm like,
hold on Like what are you doing? And so I was
having a conversation with her and trying to
point things out and she was still just on her
high horse and this is why I don't play with
younger guys and I'm like you're two years older
than him what makes you think that you're not
a kid in this too yeah and it was it was it was
a very difficult situation and he stayed the
night with me that night as friends because that's
really what we were at that point and i was trying
to talk to him he's like oh no it's okay i'm
used to being yelled at i'm like no even the
guests were upset by this scenario and i went
to her, I'm gonna say host, the person who had
brought her and I'm like, hey look, I want you
to talk to her versus me because I don't think
I'm going to do it in the correct way and she's
your friend. I'm like, this is what happened
last night and we, as a community, are not okay
with treating men like that. And so she... again
was not welcome back for one but she did get
spoken to and I had guests that morning like
hey I was really worried about him after what
happened he did such a phenomenal job and like
that woman blah blah and I'm like please go tell
him that again yeah please go remind him that
he was doing a great job I can miss you up for
a long time it can yeah but I can promise you
when I was with him he didn't have any issues
and he made me be like well damn the only thing
that's 23 about him is how many years he's been
on earth because he did a great job Um, but I,
I see a lot of guys go through that and you're,
in your case, even if he's not up, she pointed
out my penis visually in the direction gesturing
and the direction of his dick. This is where
things like the sensual play that we were discussing
earlier comes in. So even if you are not, Physically
hard there's so many other ways that you can
still contribute to the eroticism that you're
experiencing With your wife whether you're coming
in when she's in a certain position and you're
stroking her neck or Restraining her wrists because
she trusts you to do that and leading into those
so that you're still connected in one way or
another Even while you're taking a physical breather.
You're still connected to be able to prevent
having that sort of anxiety. Yeah for sure Yeah,
and I like I said in my in my second post and
you've never had you've actually never had any
Person that we've been playing with or woman
whatever that you've been playing with Say anything
about it or like have a problem It's always been
your issue and only in your head and then you
realize that like and this is in my head And
I'm getting in my own head and I'm making it
worse and the biggest thing for me is no one's
even caring The biggest thing for me is is the
condom because, you know, we've been married
for many, many, many, many, many, many, many,
many years. So condoms are not a friend. So getting
into the lifestyle had to like, all right, let's
give this a shot. So, and it doesn't take much
for like that, you know, you're, you're, you
can be rock hard, having a great time. And then
you go to get that condom, you go rip it off
and you get some lube and it's like, oh fuck.
And that's what happened. But what I was talking
about is cock rings. So, pro tip guys, if you
haven't invested, Amazon, they're stupid cheap
task toys, I'm sure it has some great ones, but,
you know, you go into the situation, you're gonna
be hard, most likely in the room with your wife,
your partner, whatever, and then, you know, once
you get to that point, slip that bad boy on,
and that gives you that buffer time. Yeah, like
you get a cockering on, and you get that condom
on, and at least for me, once I start, you know,
having the sex then doing the sex doing the sex
then it all like then all the feeling of it and
it all comes back and then you're hard kind of
naturally yeah but that that the cock ring gives
you that that buffer it gets you to get you on
kind of get into the mode and then everything's
good because that that that time can be killer
and then especially if the other guys like straight
to pound town and you're like boom boom boom
and you're here wait i'm not ready like you're
hearing this you're like god damn it trying to
get your condom on it's like and you just have
a fucking noodle by that point and you're standing
It's like, damn it, come back. You're choking
him and smacking around like, come on, buddy.
CPR. And at some point, your mind just checks
out. And it's hard to come back from that, coming
from a guy's point of view. Yeah. But a couple
of cheap silicone. I've never messed around with
the hard titanium ones, because I've heard issues.
Sometimes they have to get cut off if you. Yes,
I've heard about that too. Yeah, I'm all about
the silicone Especially because you've fallen
asleep with them on sometimes Don't do that because
that's not good But that that's typically you
you put it on like put the cockering on really
quick. I'm like alright fine, and I'm like The
next day I'm like ow Drunk fall asleep in the
middle of sex. Dicks aren't supposed to be purple
here. We are That's extremely drunk sex And also
guys, here's where. With each other. Here's where
Dr. Sweets. Extremely drunk sex with each other.
Yes. Here's where Dr. Sweets comes in. So I am
in my 40s and my testosterone has been low. I
thought I was low. And I was always tired. And
guess what? I had the testosterone of like a
97 year old woman. So I got tested and I was
at 196, which is... Stupid low 300 is what they
start to consider really low. So I had 196 Wow
So that explains some of my like libido issues
because like I would go in he's ready to go but
Recovery like once it would go down like my body
just didn't have the foot like fortitude push
through a month in Yeah I'm good. I'm getting
better and I'm now at 700. Thank you very much.
I went to my dosage and my doctor hopes to have
me at 1 ,100 in a month. So you better get extras
because he's going to be needing some. Oh, I
know. I'm like that's why the sweets are having
their hot girl summer. Because all of a sudden
like my just my I've always I've always enjoyed
myself and It's all it's always very much fun,
but I just didn't always have that finishing
gear like all right, let's let's let's take this
to the next level because of confidence and and
just everything but now I'm like, okay, like
I'm I got a little more my my natural juices
back and I'm like I'm feeling pretty good. I'm
feeling myself a bit just So guys Start getting
it checked out like early like they say like
30s starts going down 35. I don't know. Dr. Sweets
doesn't know everything Well, dr. Anastasia over
here considering I've played with guys who are
like half my age I can say that there are ups
and downs regardless of what age that you are,
but it's always good to get it checked. Yeah
the person who I had my affair with, which was
back in like 2018, he was 10 years younger than
me and he was already having ED complications
to which he didn't have any answers for and he
wanted me to help him with it. I'm like, there
are supplements that you can take, but I'm more
concerned that there could be something more
going on. If you were... 24 years old and you
are having problems getting, you know, an erection,
you need to go talk to your doctor. There can
be swelling in the prostate area. There can be
anxiety issues, medication complications, thyroid
issues. Always get something looked at. Right.
You know, at one point I had a 29 year old partner
a couple years ago and he was a fucking rabbit
in bed. However, he would still have issues to
where he would start going soft, but he had a
kink for giving head. And so any time he started
going soft, he would instantly pull away from
me, and then go to give me head, and then come
back rock hard all over again. Yeah, sometimes
all it takes is just that switch, change of scenery.
Yeah. Because when it's all dependent on this,
and it's starting to fail, then so yeah, you
just take that out of the equation. Like I always
say, your mouth still works. So the mouth is
not going to stop working. Your fingers, your
hands still work. The mouth, the fingers, the
toys, like there's so many different things that
you can pull into that. Yeah. So that you're
still being able to have some sort of intimate
play. Yeah. And I think it's important for women
too, like I try now, especially because I know
what like happened with you, that if I notice
a guy is starting to go soft, if I'm giving him
a head or something and he's starting to go soft,
I try to, I, I try to change the scenery. So
I might move to a different like, okay, let's
make out for a little bit or let's do this or
you go down on me now or like I try to switch
it so that he doesn't feel like he's no longer
in the spotlight yeah so he yeah exactly so it's
not all the focus on him I'm making the decision
to change the scenery so he doesn't have to be
like should I fail no no we're just we're moving
we're we're doing something else like this is
a flow like so I think women too can do a better
job maybe sometimes of that of recognizing it
and like taking focus off of it but not in a
way that's like putting more focus on it, like
not saying anything. You don't want to be like,
why aren't you getting the hard like that? Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah. Or here, because you're not getting
hard, let's go down on me. Just move. Just. Change
sit on his face like change the scenery. Yeah
A lot of women will end up putting too much pressure
on the guy when they're still new to it, too
And I'm I'm 41 there's still times I'm like what
what do I need to do now? Like we were supposed
to I'm supposed to be writing right now and and
mr. Happy just disappeared into his turtle shell
like fuck Yeah, you know and just trying to remind
myself to think of my partner too and not make
it all about me. Yeah something that you can
do different I think and I think yeah I think
and I think women taking it personally is like
the probably the the complete wrong thing like
yeah like like Mr. Sweets was just saying like
if you're if a guy wasn't into you he wouldn't
be in that situation with you so thinking to
yourself like oh this is because I'm not suitable
is like 100 % the wrong thing to think and I
I mean I can get why you might think that like
initially but then you have to have that then
you have to have that mindset of like Nope, it's
not me. It's him. It's Whatever and I'm moving
myself along like yeah, he's had too much a drink.
Yeah, exactly It could be a million so many things.
Yeah trying to play in a public setting. So when
I When I was still working at the location like
Elsinore, I had a partner and he absolutely could
not play in front of the people. As soon as he
was playing with me and realized someone else
was in the room or someone was watching us, we
were done. Yeah. And I was like, God damn it.
That's normally where I am done. Because I enjoy
being watched. He only likes being watched. Well,
and for me, if I'm with the right person... Everything
else disappears. It becomes like this big erotic
energy vortex and everything is spinning around
me and the pleasure I have with my partner and
there's nothing else there I don't hear people
talking. I don't hear music like it really is
just about them I guess because I've been in
the spotlight Basically my whole life growing
up doing modeling and I've done TV and stuff
that I don't even notice it Yeah, where's other
people it puts too much pressure on them Now
I can say I do like to be watched at times and
I don't mind putting on a show but for the most
part Leave me alone. If you want to look, go
sit the fuck down and be quiet. Yeah. Don't interfere
with my bubble. Go sit in that cup chair. Well,
yeah, I would say there's a difference between
watching and then like trying to interject yourself.
Like, I think you probably shouldn't do that
unless you've asked to consent otherwise. Oh,
it's totally happened to me. Oh, I'm sure. But
like I'm just saying like. Don't. Like, anyone
listening? Like, don't. That should be a part
of the etiquette. Yeah, it should be part of
the etiquette. If they want you to be part of
their bubble, they will invite you in. And otherwise,
if they're playing in a public space, exactly.
Go sit down, watch, and be quiet. Yeah, but I
think that's another part of why I tend to if
I do go somewhere with a partner I play in private
mm -hmm And I think it has also a lot to do with
what I do within the lifestyle But I don't want
to go somewhere on my free time and then become
Their entertainment it doesn't make me feel good
Yeah, even though I'm not quote -unquote being
paid to be there with with what I do in the lifestyle
It still makes me feel like I'm being put on
display in the wrong way So I prefer for my play
life with my partners to be kept private and
separate Yeah. And part of our kink and aerodynamic
is we like to be watched. But not always participated
with, just watched. If I'm somewhere where no
one knows me, I don't care. I went to Cancun
thinking, oh, no one's going to know me here.
No, I fucking ran to like six people, six couples
that knew me. And I'm like, all right, fine.
But I've always said the lifestyle is a small
world. The world is a small world and the lifestyle
is an even smaller world. We run into people
all the time. Yeah. In so I the person I was
with at the the desire location I wouldn't have
played with publicly anyways, and it was actually
a horrible sexual match, and I've learned really
big lesson from that What was their username?
He doesn't have one he's not on Cassidy anymore.
I did get him signed up, but then he ended up
leaving Cassidy He's living in a different country
right now. He's a really great entrepreneur,
but as far as a partner for me. He was not a
good fit which My word of advice is if you're
dating somebody, make sure you've had sex with
them before you go on a vacation to a lifestyle
retreat. Pro tip number three. We had been dating
for a while and we had done some like heavy petting.
Beautiful fucking cock. Good lord, I was so ready
to ride that thing. And then he ruined it because
he couldn't take directions. If I'm telling you
to sit still, I got this. Sit the fuck still
because I know what I'm doing. Learned my lesson
definitely sleep with them before you go on the
vacation with them. Yeah, that applies to marriage
that applies to oh, yeah I can't believe some
people don't do that. Yeah So, all right, well
what haven't we talked about I'm pretty warm.
I had to turn off the AC because it wreaks havoc
on my microphones. All right, I think we're getting
near the end. Is there anything else? Yeah, is
there anything else you can think of? That you
wanted to make sure that you got out there into
the world? We've talked about cock cages, Paradox
Prism, pinwheels, Taz toys, talked about all
the venues you've worked for over the years.
Yeah, we've kind of talked about a lot of things
because we can always do this more than once
I'm only like 20 minutes from you guys to I can
imagine we can have one of those words like I
can't make this shit up type series to really
talk about the really wild stupid Actually, that
was yeah, I wasn't sure how open you would be
about that but one of my things is what was gonna
be like I'd love to hear like your best and worst
of stories, but yeah, I think that's a That's
like a whole nother probably a couple of episodes.
I you know what I'm sure you've had plenty of
experiences. You know, I Yes, and no I'm so careful
and I don't do a lot of playing all of my partners
I've had a couple of that end up being one of
but As we were talking about condoms earlier,
I don't use condoms. Okay, I am allergic to latex
I'm also allergic to glycerin non -oxal 9 irritates
my skin and so I'm extremely careful and more
Diligent with who I play with because I lack
options. I can't get pregnant. I have a hysterectomy
I still have one ovary so I am still a hormonal
bitch, but I cannot get pregnant So that's not
really a concern of mine. And I also am one of
those people who have a breeding kink Okay, it's
hard to have that with condoms. It absolutely
is hard to have one of those with condoms and
on that topic Not only do I have a breeding kink,
but I know the science behind the benefits of
seminal plasma for a woman's body. And so for
me, it's almost like giving me medication for
my craziness. Literally vitamin D. For people
listening, what is a breeding kink? So a breeding
kink is when you're having sex with someone and
they ejaculate inside of you. That's a part of
the breeding kink. The goal is to not get pregnant
unless you really do want children, but it's
still a part of the kink. For me, I like how
it feels to feel. him ejaculating and that's
honestly where sperm belongs does not belong
in my face my hair my mouth I will probably throw
up on you that's not where it goes but I like
for it to be there and I've talked with men who
I've been in these relationships with who also
have a breeding kink and to be accepted in that
way is such a true honor and so much eroticism
to think that they can ejaculate inside of you
and so it definitely has a different connection
with someone with that kink. And then what did
you say about come basically sorry? Seminole
So no, and it's not even vitamin D. It contains
two or three different natural anti -inflammatory
an antidepressants and is adorbs absorbed to
the vaginal canal And so it actually helps balance
our mood and makes us happier. A study that I
looked at years ago, I cannot give you the details
on it right now because it was a long time ago,
showed the difference in women's mental health
and happiness between women who use condoms and
those who do not use condoms to show the difference
in women without using them being happier and
doing better based on the antidepressants that
are naturally absorbed into the body. From sperm.
From sperm. And does the sperm like let's say
a gentleman is Snipped does that still you still
have seminal plasma. Okay, even if you don't
have live swimmers, you still have seminal plasma
I get sperm from you. Get to work, you seem like
you're kind of bummed right now. Let's go. So
for all the men listening, clearly what she's
saying here is if your wife is a pain in your
ass, it's probably because she's not absorbing
your sperm enough. So you probably should give
her more. That could be it. So you probably should
bend her over more frequently. Just make sure
you wash the dishes and vacuum first so that
she has a reason to actually be turned on. There
you go. You know what I mean? is don't look at
me like that's foreplay, I'm telling you. If
you want to help clean or fold my laundry, fold
my fucking laundry and put my shit away. I do
dishes and I vacuum. I do my share of foreplay.
Okay, you're getting there. And if you don't
like regular condoms, if you do have to use them,
there are the female condoms that you can use
too. I haven't used them in years because I found
out that I was allergic to ingredients on them
and I kind of like my vagina to stay the way
it is. But there's another option to where you're
not having to rush around to put one of those
on and you can actually insert it prior to play
to be able to still be applicable. Her and I,
we don't use condoms. We don't fuck with condoms
like together. Right, but with other people if
you do. Yeah, but I think the expectation is
that the guy, I mean we could probably change
that expectation but I think the expectation
is the guy wears the condom. So any women you're
playing with in that way. I don't know how you
would, I mean, I guess you would just bring it
up ahead as I made like for you to wear the condom.
How do you feel about this? Let me tell you all
the benefits. Well, there is less chance of it
coming off while you're playing and getting lost
in inside of you. That never happens. Right.
OK. Yeah. We know exactly where this is going
and then the whole concerns of avoiding STIs
has went out the window because now the condom
is lost up in your coochie and ever, you know,
it is what it is. So yeah. That's funny. Oh,
so then do you test with your partners before
like you test your partner? Like testing is a
huge part of the conversations. Hey, how often
are you testing? Even before I'm considering
dating someone like as we're becoming friends,
I ask these questions. I'm pretty sure most men
don't realize when they're actually having conversations
with me. It is an absolute interview process
every time. I am in psychology. Everything I
ask you is most likely for a reason. Every time
I talk to you, I feel like I really gotta watch
my words. I'm like, so, am I doing good so far?
So yeah, I can see how that you're just always
really listening to what the other person's saying.
I am, and so I'm always asking and... Considering
I've been in abusive relationships when I'm becoming
friends with a guy I'm always looking for those
red flags before I'm even considering moving
into dating someone and into a relationship I
am looking for every single pink flag yellow
flag red flag Whatever it is to know if I just
need to cut ties and walk away Sometimes they
make it past the screening process and they flip
on me and I'm like, I don't know what the fuck
happened You didn't grade up until now, but that
never happens to you either Yeah, oops Yeah,
I think that's another big topic that should
be talked about maybe on a different podcast
is understanding like Women's safety and what
we go through and you know trying to be safe
about things But also sharing what's happened
to us because a lot of us we were raised depending
on how old you were Oh, well, you must have done
something wrong or what did you do to trigger
this and they still put it back on you and so
for someone like me who's been through the scenario
of like Oh my God, I did everything right. And
now you're threatening me and my kids. We need
to be open about this. I need to follow restraining
order. I need to let other people know what happened
so that something does happen to me. But it also
puts you in a position to be like, if people
around me knew what was actually happening, how
could I have avoided that situation of having
to get into a car with someone who's becoming
abusive or anything like that? without it becoming
obvious. If you're with someone who you can tell
is going to be a violent person, you're like,
okay, I don't want anyone else to get hurt because
of me, but I also need to avoid putting myself
into that situation by using some sort of code
that people around me are going to know, hey,
let's try and find another reason for her to
not have to leave right now. And that would be
a really good topic for us to do on a whole different
podcast. I think I am done. You covered a lot.
This is a long podcast here. How long is it?
An hour and 41 minutes. Really? Wow, okay. I
think our longest one was two hours. So we're
coming right up on that. Coming all over that.
So is there anything else that you can think
of like the whole experiences stuff? I think
that's a whole separate podcast. Oh, yeah No,
we can there's there's a few things that we can
truly do completely different topics for podcasts
to get all that out there and even help other
women feel Better about approaching the scenarios
that they can face within the lifestyle and knowing
that they actually have a voice and working on
their own Healing within the lifestyle, but making
sure that they're following their own boundaries.
Yeah Awesome. Well, thank you so much for joining
us here tonight, Anastasia. Once again, she is
the the owner of Paradox Prism Productions. You
can find it on Cassidy and I'll include all of
her links in the podcast bio and looking forward
to sitting down with you again. Absolutely. I've
had a great time. Thanks for having me guys.
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