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All right, we're here. We are here. We currently
exist. It is Thursday night. It's currently way
too late. May. Is it May? It's gonna be May.
Yeah, it's May. May 1st. I didn't play a prank.
That was last month. Oh, April 1st. It's not
May Fools. All right. All right, we are here
for another one. Let's start over. I don't think
we can. Just kidding. So I have big news. Oh,
jeez. I have big news. Just lay it on me straight.
I'm just going to lay it right on your face.
That's the sound of it. I just put it on our
face. But before we go any further, this is the
drinking show. And I got I got I did fancy lazy
today. Fancy lazy. Do you have your recipe? It's
like wearing your fancy shorts. My fancy shorts,
baby. You know what? Do you have your recipe?
Yeah, I can look it up in our texts. So cheers
really quick. Cheers. We sometimes almost forget
that, so we'll just go ahead and get it out of
the way right now. Done and done. Ah. Ah. Ah.
Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah.
Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah. Now it
became karaoke. Alright, moving on. Just gonna
sing the entire Stand By Me song. Drink with
me I was gonna belt it but It is late. So darling,
darling drink with me. Okay, what are you drinking?
Tito's coconut lime refresher. That's the name
of it? Refresher. That's kind of boring. Call
it something different. Refresher. Refresher.
No, I don't like it. Is that what it's called?
Yeah. Alright, spit it out. Two ounces Tito's
vodka. Incorrect. I did three. Of course you
did. I don't waste time with two shots. Two ounces.
If I'm getting a shaker and getting ice, you
are getting no less than three. Thank you very
much. Two ounces coconut cream, one ounce fresh
lime juice, half an ounce simple syrup. By fresh
lime, did they mean in the container that you
twist off the top? It's fresh. Okay, that's fresh
for me. It was as fresh as... I went into our
neighbor's garden and I grabbed limes under the
cover of darkness. I stole them. They didn't
say stolen limes. Anyway. They taste better.
And then top it with a sparkling water or club
soda. We did the Waterloo lime flavor. Lime.
Yes. It's topped. It was actually or it is actually...
Pretty good The the cool thing I liked about
it is you put obviously all the ingredients But
with the exception of the soda water because
you don't want to shake that So I shook everything
with the coconut cream and for those that don't
know what coconut cream is. It's a cream that's
made from coconut But it's kind of for all you
dum -dums out there it's not coconut water it's
cream so it does it does over explaining the
name that says exactly what it is so anyways
it nailed it it thickens up the drink so it almost
like a little milkshaky but what was cool about
is i shook it up and it settled it was all it
was all dope and then i put the soda in and like
The top like bubbled and it would like it created
like kind of like a cool foam. It added an essence
to the drink. Like a refresher. I am having a
dirty Shirley, which is Vodka Sprite, which is
my daily drinker. Did you already have this?
I don't know because I don't drink dirty Shirley's.
But you're off the hook. I don't see it. I already
had Vodka Sprite poured and I Had I had another
drink planned. However, you got lazy No, no,
I did not however at your last bunko party that
we we talked about briefly You used all of my
pineapple and all of my cranberry cans You used
all of it You didn't even want that cranberry
cranberry and pineapple were part of my next
drink I was planning for funny thing is that
was like a week ago and you could have gone to
the store since then I don't do the grocery stores
around here. You're the woman in the relationship
Handle it. You're such a dick Handle it exactly.
I'm the dick. You're the dick. I take out the
trash and wash the dishes So anyways, um We're
getting off track. Do you want to ride my dick?
Get on this dick. Get on this dick. So it is
now April or May Fools. It's gonna be May. It's
late. We need to wrap this show up so we can
go to bed. And we're done. Alright guys, thank
you so much for hanging out with us. We just
gave you one drink and that's it. But really
quick, I got to conduct some business. Oh yeah,
you had a big announcement. Yes, we have a sex
hotline everybody you can read just that 951
-226 -5261 once again get your pencils ready
number two only 951 -226 -5261 that is our sweet
side of life podcast sex line From with that
number you have direct access to me I manage
the number and then I show you the messages as
they come in, right? So we got some neon neon
ass recently. Yeah, we've we've been getting
a lot of messages, but um the ones with Boobs
and culo are the ones that jump out to me. I
mean obvious obviously So we um, yeah, we got
a message actually today They said sweet side
new followers here and I was like, yes And then
they loved yes So new listeners guys everybody
welcome Amy and John They are new listeners and
then we exchanged pleasantries very quickly and
then they said wait Boobs and culo have a great
day and they sent two very nice pictures That's
my favorite color by the way boobs boobs I'm
a big fan of boobs and butts so Put me in a good
mood And then it's kind of funny when I'm at
work. I'm in construction, like I mentioned.
And I get like the bing sound of our sex hotline.
And I'm like, uh -uh, what's going on? So I kind
of have to step into a corner and like pull my
phone out all discreetly. That's not weird. It's
not weird at all. It'd be weird if I went into
the bathroom and pulled my penis out discreetly.
But hey. We listen and we don't judge. But they
were actually just listening to our... Wrong.
I didn't agree to that. They were listening to
our polyamory episode that we did a couple episodes
ago. Yeah. Where we found out it wasn't for us.
It wasn't for us. But you know what? It works
for people and that's fantastic. It works for
some people. So yeah, thank you guys so much.
We hope you go all the way back to the beginning.
and uh catch all the way up there's like a thousand
and twenty seven episodes i think no there's
not there's what like 60 no we're actually we're
on official 45 is the official like full length
and then we have Like some bonus episodes that
we used to do a hit in the streets with the sweeps
sweeps Hit in the streets with the sweets as
bonus episodes, but we found that the bonus episodes
don't get views Like listens, um, they don't
get zero any views at all So so we don't we don't
mess with the bonus episode stuff anymore cuz
yeah, they just went like I don't know who's
weird Um, so yeah, we have like 45 official,
but if you can include it to bonus, we're probably
I think about 50 But halfway halfway to 100.
Whoa So guys, um Yeah, my my big my big announcement
is um, get to it Chop chop and there's someone
else we're talking to on hunter sex hotline.
Um They're actually north of us in SoCal and
They just went on to cruise there's a cruise
apparently we've all we all know about the bliss
cruises But apparently there's a lot of people
don't probably so we know and that's all that
but we do know about them Alright, so the bliss
cruise is a LS nude fun Cruise it goes twice
a year April and November and it's been going
on for many years and now there's like temptation
cruises and there's a lot of other cruise lines
that are like saying hey you know what jumping
on the bandwagon people like to get naked on
boats so it's so weird so there's another one
that's apparently pretty brand new according
to this couple that I was talking to and they
just went on one they're new they did not give
us permission to use their names but their names
aren't even oh that's why um one of the one of
the things they asked about is is how often do
people use their real names in the ls and he
was i'm assuming he i don't know why he no you
know what it's it's a girl it's a really hot
girl i'm just gonna assume um but they we'll
just say they they were asking like in our experiences
like do how to help people Username and stuff.
So I would I told them that I would say At least
80 % of people that we know use their real names
But that's based off the fact that they're really
good at not slipping up. Yeah, we think that's
their real name We do have some friends that
use alternate names that use pseudonyms or alternate
names on the initial meets because You never
know. Yeah But we personally Decided to not go
that route because I don't did we ever think
about doing Not in the not like on our not in
like the LS know and we did think about it I
mean, I know you had like a name you wanted you
were fooling around with for a second. Yeah but
I don't know I think like It would be it'd be
like especially when you're drinking Yeah, it'd
be like all of a sudden and to me if you can't
maintain that Then it almost starts that relationship
with the level of distrust, right? So I'm not
let there's no judgment if you choose to do that
great if you choose not to do that great But
if you choose to use like alternate names, just
be really good at it Yeah, because I mean, there
are a lot of people. I think everybody's experience
is different, too, though, because I think that,
you know, we have a lot of friends, like friend
friends like the bride. No, I'm saying like we
have a lot of friend friends, you know. So I
get that in like that context. But if I was just
at some random party that I was going to see
these people never again, I don't think I'd really
care that much. I mean, if I cared, if I cared
if they knew my real name, I don't know that
I would like care. That If I used the wrong name
or whatever, you know what I mean? Like I don't
know like if you're seeing someone once you slipped
up Yeah, if you're seeing someone like one time
you're never gonna see him again But the one
thing that we have, you know that we always say
we have found out we found out more than One
way or the other is that this community is small.
It is no matter how How big it feels feel sometimes
it is actually like you're like one degree away
from knowing somebody who's fucked somebody else
Or who's friends with somebody else or who's
like it's super Small I've yeah, I've sucked
a lot of dick Just by going down on another woman
and I found out after the fact I'm like, oh so
you were okay. I tasted familiar Yeah. So it
it it could, I guess, backfire and make you seem
untrustworthy. But I think also people get it.
You know, there's there's definitely a level
of understanding. You were trying to deceive
somebody in a way. I don't think it would be
like, oh, my God, you're a horrible person. Yeah,
I think it's just. But at some point, it's like
if you use like a alternate name and then, you
know, a month down the road, you're like, all
right, guys, just so you know. Yeah. Blah blah
blah. Yeah, like I It's one of those things like
there's no wrong way of doing it. I just know
personally for us It wouldn't have worked out
because yeah, I I would have been like blah blah
blah blah. Yeah Yeah, so many was it was an interesting.
I mean obviously like we use mr. And mrs. Sweets
So yeah but So are you saying that's not a real
name IRL you might Get a different name. Wait,
whoa. What is going on here? What? Your name
is not Mrs. Sweets in real life? IRL? Wow. Mind
blown. You're so silly. That was a big announcement,
folks. That was your announcement? Yes. I don't
even know what you even said. You said it for
me. Like what did you even announce? that Mr.
and Mrs. Sweets are not our real name. That would
be a really dope last name, though, right? Stupid.
I totally forgot that our listeners are called
the Sweetums. Oh, gosh. Yeah. So they are. All
right, guys. No one has to own that. All right,
listeners, listeners, listeners. You don't have
to own this or or indulge him. Listeners, Sweetums,
I need you guys to here's some homework for you.
I need you to text our sex line. I got two questions
for you. One is, I know I've teased a podcast,
my favorite podcast episode, and I'm working
on it. It's just, it's a lot of work and I haven't
started yet, so. What kind of work is it? I have
to go through and compile the names and make
sure I have all the information correct because
here's the thing is one thing I've noticed is
I'm a huge podcast listener and Podcast and we
don't we don't do enough to lift each other up.
We've talked about that. Yeah Most podcasts are
very much like, you know, this is like they think
there's not enough ears for everybody to live
exactly and You don't hear it's not that there's
I mean not right now as far as I know but back
in the day there was a drama with other people
not with us, but anyways, um, we're low drama
real or drama, uh Right now it's just I listen
to a shit ton of podcasts and outside of a few
Nobody really mentions the fact that there are
other podcasts out there and they definitely
don't mention them my name and they definitely
do not plug them like personally. Yeah, I know
like us and swingers couch podcast. We we have
a relationship. We've met them in real life IRL.
They know our real names and We've hung out with
them and we have a great relationship and we
have plugged each other back and forth And I
think that's how the community should be. Yeah
in general So there is gonna be a show where
I'm gonna put it all out there my favorites and
whatnot So that kind of goes into with your homework
sweetums So there's two two questions send a
text to our sex line Um, if you didn't get the
number, I'm not going to say it again because
my phone battery died. Um, but it's, it's earlier,
go to back about five minutes and I said it twice.
So, and actually it's in the, uh, the podcast.
Listen in the notes, bro. It is, you don't know
what's in the notes, bro. I do. Cause you tell
them it's in the notes, bro. So I want you guys
to let us know, do you want to be called the
sweetums or the sweeties? Your listeners as the
listeners like your official title sweetums or
sweeties I'm a fan of sweetums Sweeties is pretty
cool though. And the second thing is I want you
guys ladies and gentlemen to send me your top
five podcast because I've I've ran out of podcast.
I think I've listened to every single one on
the planet Earth But here's the thing, is I know
there's some that are buried, because we used
to be just the sweet side of life, right? And
it took about three months for us to change it
into the sweet side of life, swingers and lifestyle
podcast. As soon as we added those keywords,
then we popped up in the top 10 of the search
criteria. So I know there's... What's that? it's
all about seo search engine optimization gotcha
yeah so i know there are some good ones that
are buried that just don't come up in my searches
so please send me your top five and then um i'm
like i said i want to highlight my favorites
and then hopefully get some new ones because
i'm running out i'm starting to just listen to
music at work and it's just weird i hate that
for you it's the worst um And then one of the
other question that couple was talking about
was They asked when my band was playing again.
We currently do not have any shows booked. We
have like stuff in September But that is basically
right around the corner, babe. It's it's April.
It's gonna be May May June July it's gonna be
here before you know it is but I'm not advertising
it yet because summer is gonna go quick. We still
don't know really know exactly the drummer situation
So anyways So Unfortunately, we do not have anything
currently coming up and then the other thing
they were asking is if there was anything in
the the city where we're at If there was anything
coming up on the 17th the weekend of the 17th
May 17th We are not gonna be here because that's
our anniversary weekend That it is So I have
not told you yet where we are going. We are leaving
on a jet plane. No, we're not getting What? Get
your passport ready. I know cuz I don't have
my real ID Not yet. So anyways, uh What was the
big announcement? I don't know but Stop boring
us get to the chorus Was there anything else
I tied to that So for tonight we didn't we didn't
have and I'm normally the one rambling I'm over
here falling asleep So we didn't have a set concept
for tonight We just kind of wanted to freestyle
a little bit and talk about some things and I
wanted to highlight some of our sweet homes and
And then Really quick before we go on to bigger
and better things. We have finalized our Memorial
Day trip. Yes Guess what folks it is official.
I thought we already talked about this We talked
about it, but we didn't have shit booked. We
didn't I don't believe so But anyways, so your
legs are so much tanner than my foot Anyway moving
on Moving on if only we had a clock or something
that like What was the name of that guy with
that work clock around around his neck? What
was it? We have gotten a lot of emails and messages
and Text most recently a friend texting us saying
I'm yelling at my phone Flava Flav so apparently
that is a source of a lot of bitterness that
we didn't you know, instantly recall the name
of this. I mean, it was late and we were drinking.
Yes, it was very late. So guess what? I don't
know where to take that. But so guys, Memorial
Day weekend on Thursday, the 22nd, we are going
where? Vegas Vegas that took you a second Viva
Las Vegas So we are going to Viva Las Vegas with
some our Michigan couple Michigan friends. Yep
Tom and Liz We're going with beard and butt Sam
and Cole Sam and Cole We're trying to get our
Palm Springs couple to come yeah, they're they
want to come they're trying to come but they
haven't worked out the logistics yet. Yes So
if you guys are in Vegas and want to meet us
hang out We're gonna be at a couple different
places. So on Friday, we don't know where we're
gonna be. We're just gonna be running around
town like crazy Saturday We are gonna be going
to the Whispers daytime pool party Gonna go back
to our hotel Should shower shave and then come
back for the Whispers nighttime party, which
is Schools out for the summer naughty schoolgirl
party That's right. I got my skirt and then the
following Sunday We are going to the flirts LV
top party party. It's a topional Topional pool
party. We have been to the flirts nighttime party
had a great time So we're looking to see what
the flirts pool party brings us. Yes. Yes And
something tells me we're going to be hitting
the tiki bars and we're just going to have a
grand old time out there. So if you guys are
in the area and wish to join us on that Saturday
or that's that Saturday or that Sunday, shoot
us a text on our sex line and I'll make sure
I keep you guys in the loop with all the details
and the loop the loop the loop. If you haven't
been to Whispers, it's a really chill. Uh, it's
a casual. It's a casual as fuck big big pool
party Um, it's gonna be a lot of people there
And then uh, I don't know about flirts, but I
think they said they have like groups come in
from arizona for memorial day Yeah, and other
places. I think they have two groups coming in
I would imagine from what i've seen from previous
events. It's probably no less than three to four
hundred people And in that area where it's at,
it's going to be pumping. So we will be there.
I will have my dick out. It's going to be fantastic.
Because everybody wants to see that. Everybody
wants to see the helicopter. Like nobody wants
to see the helicopter. Keep your pants on, sir.
And then let's see. And we got. Oh, we we. this
past, this past weekend, right? This past Friday
night. For somebody who was tired and didn't
want to do this, you sure are saying a whole
lot. I'm trying to get it over so I can get to
bed. I have a lot of things I wanted to say.
I'm trying to get it done. Last time, last podcast,
you were the one on the coffee. I'm like Charlie
Sheen over here right now. So last Friday, we
went to the Say Less Productions meet and greet.
We were talking about that one. And we saw a
lot of our usual friends and we met a couple
of few new listeners as well. Yes. We did not
get permissions to use their names, so we will
not use their names, but sup. I didn't get a
good chat because it was there was a lot of people
who I knew. And a lot of people who I didn't
know. Exactly. And I love that for the meet and
greet. Yeah, it's fun seeing new people. Yeah,
fun seeing new people, fun seeing other people
connecting and just. Anyway, so it was I was
there was a lot going on, so I didn't get a chance
to speak to them like you did, but you got a
little chatty chat. Yeah, I definitely had got
to chat with them a little bit, and it was kind
of funny because it kind of goes into my next
subject is. There's there's a place a resort
out here in Palm Springs so Cal called EDR and
If you're a listener, you probably heard us about
five episode episodes ago Saying like fuck you
er. Yeah We were hurt we were damaged we were
mad we were extremely mad because Basically what
it was is EDR has been like our our ls like disney
world for the last couple years and We've spent
moil day there labor day there fourth of july,
you know, we go there off season it's just been
one of our favorite places to go a lot of great
memories, but they um The owner for whatever
reason about eight months ago decided to I get
I want to say chase the money and he he, he ripped
the LS portion out, out from underneath us and
just turned it into a regular resort. And it
was just, it was a big surprise. It was like,
what the hell kind of came out of nowhere. So
we took it personally. Well, first he jerked
us around for a while and not in a good way and
not in the way you want to be jerked around.
I didn't say jerked off. I said jerked around.
Um, and then pulled the rug. Yes. So, um, however,
About a month ago, we were forgiving people.
I don't hold grudges. I do, but I can be forgiving
for the right reasons. Yes. So, um, so we got
an email saying it was like, Hey guys, we're
back. You know, the, the abusive girlfriend is
back in town. You want to hang out? And, uh,
and we're like, maybe. So basically it looks
like I'm not really sure the whole situation
yet. I'm I'm still going and I'm dipping my toe
and I'm still nervous about the whole thing but
it looks like they're going back to at a minimum
clothing optional and they say LS friendly like
EDR it used to be basically the only rule was
No sex in the pool or no sex in the water in
general but I mean you could do poolside everything
and shenanigans and everything else outside of
that was fine, but Don't know I'm still getting
mixed messages like if they're going back all
the way to old school or if they're just LS friendly
clothing optional cuz I they did say they're
they have the mazes back. They're gonna have
playrooms But the the front page of EDR hotel
comm Still has some mixed messages. So I actually
sent an email to Don which is He's kind of big
in this area. He's worked at basically all of
the Ellis resorts at one time or another and
everybody kind of knows him as a driving force
within the community for these types of resorts.
And he was like with EDR and he wasn't. Then
last I heard he left EDR when they went vanilla.
But from what I understand, Don is back. So that's
a good sign because he has - Guess who's back?
Don is bad. So he's got like he's got like the
right mindset of How to properly do it. So I
actually sent an email to management at EDR and
asked him to forward it to Don and I requested
like to do a podcast interview to Clear up any
misconceptions. Let's clear up. Let's get the
air clear LS community may understand where we're
headed because here's the thing is is Understand
you want your business to make money and if your
business is failing for whatever that reason
is you're gonna look Elsewhere how can I monetize
this right? But we weren't the problem. We weren't
the problem. I think I think the owners They
tried something different It didn't work and
now they're trying to go back and there's a lot
of people scoring right now Yeah, and I know
there's a lot of people in our community friends
that are just like no fuck that place and very
much where we were Handful of episodes ago. So
but at the same time I do want them to succeed
in Our world right because we always had a great
time doing it for them. We're doing it for us
exactly So I'm trying to get Don on the phone.
I'd love to get him on a podcast Just so we can
kind of clear the air. Let's let's figure out,
you know exactly what's going on what to expect
because July 12th is a foam party and I personally
have every intention on booking there that weekend.
But before I pull that trigger, I want to know
exactly what I'm walking into. Yeah. And if it's
just a clothing optional, you know, no play on
the the pool deck. I'm OK with that. I just I
want to know the rules and I want to know that,
you know, this is for real and this is going
to stick around. And and and I want everybody
else. that has like a vested interest in this
to let's all come together and help them succeed
and and maybe keep this place around for us because
You know, we need these places. Yeah Otherwise,
we're just in our homes. Yeah in our own pools,
but we don't even have a pool So that's that's
a problem is we need a pool But that being said
There's another place out in Palm Springs called
SSR secret Springs Resort and actually reached
out to them too because this would be a prime
time for them to really step up in the game because
they're known in the community, but they're newish.
So I'd love for them to get a voice on the podcast
and kind of tell us more about them. We have
not been there personally, so I can't say anything
about that, but I'd love to hear what they have
to say because... They seem like they're flyers
or event flyers and I know we have some friends
that have been there. Anastasia, she used to
be the host for Via Vita and all that stuff.
We were talking to her at a party and messages
and she said she loves the place and she said
thumbs up. So I was like, great, thumbs up. So
I reached out to them trying to get them on the
phone. So I got some... some lines in the water
because summer's coming up and I gotta have somewhere
to pull my wiener out. Speaking of pulling my
wiener out, we do have a place here on our side
of town called Bia Vida. Don't take a breath.
We have Bia Vida and I can't wait till their
summer parties but they haven't really posted
any big summer parties yet. But as soon as we
get there, we will post all of that parties and
we will be at all the events with all the wieners.
So speaking of that weekend, July 12, now that
you've stopped talking, um, Dr. Feelgood's birthday
is that weekend. Oh yeah, that's right. That's
right. So we, I was talking to them at the Cove
and they're in it, they're Current plans are
SSR. Yes. I'm trying to convince them to move
it to EDR if EDR is working out because SSR,
we do want to try it and we want to go. Yes.
And definitely like that sounds like fun. However,
they from what I am. Initially, we thought they
had no rooms on site. Now I find out they have
like six, which is not big enough for the amount
of people we would like to attend. Yes. Said
event. So yes. um i was like how would you feel
about moving it to edr because then all of us
could be there and stay on site and we can make
it like a really big party but i don't know i
honestly don't even know what they had planned
like if They already had a big group of people
going. I mean, it sounded like it was still kind
of in the works when I was talking to him. Everything's
very preliminary on both of our sides, I think.
Yeah. So I was like, we could do combine it and
you could have a phone party for your birthday.
Boom. Boom. So and everybody can stay on site
because they have a lot of rooms at EDR versus
six at SSR. Yes. But anyway, so we're talking
about that. So who knows? Maybe Dr. Phil Good
will have his birthday. Maybe there and then.
Speaking of him, he at the Cove. Yes, for the
Salus meet and greet. He asked me to go dance
with him and So I was like, okay, and I'm like,
but I'm warning you I danced like a millennial
like facial expressions and all like I make all
the mean muggin faces and I do all the things
and So we were dancing and I was in a shirt that
was like a crop top kind of but it was more like
a boob holder But it was long sleeves. So it
kind of gives you a false sense of security,
like you're fully covered because you've got
sleeves. You feel all the fabric on your arm.
You're not even thinking about. Yes. So I was
dancing and this is a vanilla bar, but we had
most of it. Yeah, there's it was quite it was
over half a full of us people, us hooligans.
And I'm dancing and then I Dr. Feelgood is a
lot taller than me. Yeah. um so he's just crazy
because you're tall i'm tall but he couldn't
so he can't see like he couldn't while we were
dancing i don't think he could see but basically
my top started rising as i was dancing and i
didn't realize it and i went down and felt and
then like i went i like kind of thought maybe
something. So then I grabbed my boobs and I'm
like, oh my God, half my tit is out. Both tits.
Both tits are out. And a half of your tit is
a lot of tits. It's a lot of tits. So. It's not
like a mild under boob. No, it was a serious
under boob. And like I was telling someone, I'm
like, if my if my nipples weren't so like high
up on my boobs. Yeah. Then it would have totally
been nipples out if they would have been a little
lower But so I told him like you didn't even
tell me and nobody here told me and like why
would anyone tell you? Why would anyone say anything?
I would slap anybody that says ma 'am. Your tits
out. That's just rude. Yeah, but we're all looking
out for each other though. Yeah, nobody was looking
out for me because then I was like, okay I got
to keep it at 10 and 2 like that movie Hitch
with Will Smith and Kevin James. I'm like, this
is how I can't Can't, you know, put my hands
up. Nope. Cannot put my hands up because they're
playing my song. We had that same issue a while
back on one of our Sunday fun days. Yeah, I was
wearing a crop top. Yeah, this one was less secure.
The crop top I was wearing at Sunday fun day
was less secure. It was more hanging crop top.
That was just. Yeah, that was. And so when I
was like a T -shirt. Yeah, it was a T -shirt.
So when I jumped around and put my hands up,
my tip was out. So somebody was on constant shark
patrol. Pulling my shirt down That's cuz I was
wasted. Yes. I think that was the night I threw
up it was Speaking of Sunday fun day Sunday the
fourth this coming weekend here in just a few
days or fourth be with you. May the fourth be
with you May May prank fools day. No, that's
it's not it's not it's not gonna happen. I'm
gonna make anything It's not gonna be if we're
doing another Sunday fun day folks I know it's
kind of last minute, but it's on it's on Cassidy
if you if you're on Cassidy and you want to join
our sweet side of life community you can see
all of our like a little events that we do in
town and Like the bigger events will always put
here on the podcast But sometimes we do like
little Sunday fun days and stuff that are kind
of just random But they're LS based but you know,
we don't make a big deal But if you guys are
in the area on Sunday the fourth we are gonna
be doing it Sunday fun day style So you can find
all that information. I don't know why we always
say it like it's um, like a Hot Wheels commercial
or something You actually bought me a t -shirt
that says Sunday fun day that I'm gonna wear
so Did it come? Coming tomorrow. So basically,
Sunday Fun Day, this version of it, since football
season is not currently going, it's going to
start with karaoke, and then it's going to move
to a live band, some live music. So if you want
the deets, hit me up on my text line, or on our
text line. Sex line. Sex line. What was the number
again? I don't remember and your phone is dead.
You don't have it. 951 -226 -5261. You lied.
Your phone isn't dead. It's 1%. So if you want
the deets and you're in the SoCal area, Riverside
County, shoot us a message and I can give you
the deets. But let's see. I think I covered all
the biggest things I really wanted to cover.
Was there something that you wanted to touch
on? We didn't really talk about anything that
we talked about talking about. Well, we just
freestyled it, baby. We did. Yeah. I feel like
we have a pull them back to curtain. We have
a notepad on our iPhones because we are both
cool iPhone users. People on Android, stop screwing
up our group chats, guys. I can't. Making them
green. I can't. I can't do it. But anyways, we
have a shared notepad that we just. Write down
random ideas and stuff like that and we have
a whole bunch of a list of random shit That we
were planning on getting to tonight When we could
get to kind of quickly. Yeah. Yeah, what's your
idea? How to say no how to say no. Yes one of
our friends asked us they've they've been in
the LS for a while now and he was just like,
how do you say no and You just say no No, you're
ugly. No, you don't say that. You don't ever
say that. That's not nice. No, it's rude. It's.
I don't know. I've I've personally never had
a problem saying no. Yeah, you actually have
a strong suit at that. Yeah, I have all the problems
saying no, but usually if I'm not with you, it's
easy because I just say, oh, we. Play together.
Refer to me. Yeah, I say, oh, we will talk to
him. Yeah. And which is true. We do play together.
So it's not a lie. But I'm just like, oh, we
play together. So, you know, we have to figure
that out or whatever. But and then when they
go figure it out with you, you say no. My thing
here, the thing with us is, you know, we've said
it countless times is we are more about the hang
than the bang. And that is very much true. The
bangs are fun. They're great. And plays fun but
I mean, you know when people like want to like
go into a whole nother room and make it a whole
thing The vibe for us has to be very right. Yeah
more often than not it's not right for whatever
reason it's you know, most of the time it literally
has nothing to do with the particular couple
or whatever. It's just we're busy doing something
or we're talking to people because at a lot of
the events we go to, we kind of are semi -hosty.
Like we go around and we greet people and we're
kind of busy. Well, you have a whole thing about
you hate seeing someone like in a corner, like,
yeah, not enjoying themselves. Yeah, you try
to bring people in. So you're running around
doing all that. That has backfired only once
so bad. We were at a lust party. Many many many
months ago and there was this couple they were
sitting at a table and they look terrified They
look terrified And I was watching them from afar
and I'm like, I'm gonna I'm gonna be you know,
let me go. Let me go talk to them And I walked
up I'm like, hey guys, are you new here? And
they looked at me. They gave me a stank eye They
look like I stole their lunch money And there
they looked at me go. No, we're waiting on somebody
enough said Bye -bye, I was kind of like well
while you're waiting would you like to have a
enthralling conversation? I Don't know it could
have been like the fact I was probably wearing
underwear or something. I don't know a stupid
shirt a stupid shirt I said stupid shit on it,
but I didn't let that deter me No, so in fact,
I still I still go out of my way. So I think
I think it takes somebody out. It probably takes
a good amount of like, um, courage for somebody
to ask, you know, if you want to hook up or whatever.
So I think you have to definitely be kind, but
be direct because you can be caught in like this
whole like not now type of thing. Like I've seen
people say, oh, not tonight or whatever. But
then if they're really interested, they're just
going to chase you on Cassidy and be everywhere
you are. Find you, you know, that's that's so
kind of my approach though. Normally I say no,
we're good right now. Yeah. And I kind of, I
don't, I don't be like, I don't say no, we have
zero interest in you get out of my view, you
know, part this, you know, so I always try to
be nice and pleasant about it. Yeah. Um, so that's
kind of like almost what I will, what I would
say is, you know, no, we're good right now. Um,
and then. It it does open it up for later if
they want to But then I mean if we're truly not
interested then the same answer is gonna come
out then right it's up to that person to Well,
do you do you take this the information and file
it away as not interested or does that mean let's
turn it up? Yeah, and then you know harder at
some point, you know We've never been there where
I've had to be like fighting to like there's
a certain Like they're not people. Those are
not the people we're going to like fully engage
with either. Yeah. If we're truly not interested.
Exactly. Exactly. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like we'll
engage at a party. Yeah. But like we're not going
to be like, yeah, let's exchange phone numbers
and let's do all of these things and let's, you
know, come like text, respond in text when they've
texted us or whatever, if they've gotten our
number or whatever, whatever the case may be.
Or if they message us on Cassidy. So I think.
I don't want to say ghosting, but telling no
saying no, thank you. The vibe isn't there. I'm
not feeling the vibe or you're a great like you
guys are awesome. But see, I don't think you
have to go that far. Yeah, I just. My job is
to be nice at all times. But firm. Yeah. and
and is coming from their side like you miss a
hundred percent of the shots you don't take a
thousand percent of the shots you don't take
one thousand hundred of the shots you don't take
i'm gonna i'm gonna keep going i got all night
baby affinity and apparently got a lot of energy
right now affinity of the shots you don't take
so yeah so uh basically so how do you say no
um you just say no i think you just have to learn
to say no and it takes practice And here the
problem is, is the person that's asking this
question, he is one of the most friendliest people
in the world that we have ever met. He's just
so like, so I could see how it might be hard
for him to throttle it down and say no, because
his actions are just so friendly that it's very
easy to, you know, misconstrue maybe what he's
actually vibing. Yeah, so that's it. And how
do you accept no as an answer? With grace. Yeah.
I've been told no. Yeah. Now when we talk about
the vet couple, I still have yet to kiss her.
Yeah. I think she was probably one of the first
people to tell me no in a very direct way. Yeah.
And it didn't hurt my feelings at all. Yeah.
I was like, oh, okay. Because the thing is, I'm
not here trying to get a relationship that's
gonna be my life. I'm just here for a good time.
And I want the other person that is on the other
side of that question or whatever it is to also
be there for a good time. And if what I'm proposing
to you isn't a good time, then please tell me
now. Like we can be friends, like we're friends
with them. At some point I'm going to kiss her
again. We've made strides. We have made strides.
That's one of the last times we hung out. We
have made strides. Her nipples were in my mouth
and it's getting there. It's getting there. It's
only a matter of time. So you're that guy who
takes note and is like, it just means later.
Exactly. I'm patient. I won't get there. I am
a patient man. there's there's definitely been
some looks that tells me how that's a hell no
like she does not want none of this and that
that I've given up on that like I'm good like
I understand I know that look but there there's
there's one couples that one couple we are friends
with right now that are confusing the hell out
of us Yeah, and we're just gonna leave it at
that. Yeah, I Know some of our other friends
are gonna be like who is it? So, yeah Basically
just boils down to be respectful. Yeah on both
sides of it be gracious be gracious Be as kind
as possible without leading on I would say be
as direct and kind as possible. Yes I would much
rather hear like oh, no, thank you with a good
smile. Just okay got it. Yeah boom done Yeah,
and then uh And they're just say maybe later
if if you're not feeling it at the time, right?
You could literally just say now's not a good
time Hey, let's talk later or let's exchange
numbers and then you know, send me booby picks
or whatever, you know Yeah, so from some of the
stuff I hear is like some people go to these
clubs and then they probably don't again going
back to what I said earlier They don't see these
people again. Yes, you know, so it's probably
easier to say no in that situation Maybe and
to accept it I guess because it's like I'm never
gonna see this person again it may be a little
bit harder in like a group of people who you
kind of constantly run into which is more our
scenario where we are constantly running into
a lot of the same people. We meet a ton of new
people, but we do run into a lot of the same
people. So that was very profound. I think. Well,
we do. I mean, there is like we do go places.
I'm not saying like we're so like connected with
whatever. We're just our group of friends. But
again, going back to the community is actually
a lot smaller than people think. Yeah. That.
It's definitely important to. Be kind and be
because you don't want to be known as like the
bitchy couple or like the rude ones Yeah, like
whatever so that that word goes out and then
yeah you become and then nobody wants then people
you are interested don't want to they won't even
like interact with you because they If they they
might have a fear of rejection and if you're
known to be Yeah. Dicks. Yeah. They're like,
well, I don't want to talk to them. I want them
to be dicks to me. And plus, I think sometimes,
too, like you said, like we're always we're more
here for the hang than the bang. But that doesn't
mean the bang won't happen. But also we're a
slow burn. Yeah. And and I think that so to say
no, not right now is probably pretty truthful
because, you know, there's in a lot of cases,
there's likely a chance, but we're just not probably
those people who are going to go like immediately
back to a room seconds after meeting you. And,
you know, like that's probably not I mean, I'll
probably suck your dick. But I mean, it has happened
like it has happened. And I mean, there's scenarios
where it's happened, but it's just not it's not
like if we took all of our scenarios together.
Yeah, it's probably a small percentage of them.
So I think. Think putting it out there of like
no not tonight or not right now or you know No,
thank you for now. I Don't know it it's hard
to say no and it's hard to be told no, yeah I'm
good with both frankly. Yeah. Yeah, I feel bad.
I've been told no so many times in my life Before
this journey, so I'm kind of used to it You were
one of the few that said, sure, why not? And
it took a while. It took a long time. Yeah. A
lot of flowers. A lot of flowers. Just a little
bit of Bill Cosby. Speaking of our anniversary.
Oh, yeah. Right. So this will be 20... 24 years.
No, 23 years together. Together or married? together,
married. Sixteen. Oh, yeah. It's a long time.
Yeah. Telling me. Look at us now. Yeah. Fucking
other people. All right. I couldn't think of
anything to say. I just made you speechless.
Well, it is true, though, because. fucking other
people on Valentine's Day, right? Yeah. Yeah.
So here we are. Here we are. Um, so if you want
to pencil yourself in for our anniversary, I'll
let you know where we're going to be. Samia,
Samia sexed. Dead. That's funny. So anyways,
I think we're going to call it, uh, we touched
on one thing. We touched on a lot of things.
Yeah. Um, so I think one of the next episodes,
again, I want to do the podcast thing. podcast
spotlight. And then one of the other things we
want to talk about is that one by yourself. Nobody
wants to hear just me. So one of the other topics
we want to discuss is the struggle of the four
way connection and how we haven't really struggled
with it. We hear a lot about it or I hear a lot
about it on a lot of podcasts and And, uh...
Well, it's because our pers - our perspective
is different. How so? Are we gonna just talk
about it now? We're gonna just roll right into
it? No, no, no. I just - I just answered this
question really quick. What's your - how is our
perspective just different? Because... Well,
I don't know if it's different, but our perspective
lends itself to not requiring, like, all boxes
checked. Right? Okay. Yeah. I see what you're
saying. That's a teaser folks sounds exciting,
right? So make sure you tune in for the next
one because you're gonna get more of that That
was riveting riveting Boxes checked hang for
the bang. Oh Bang hang bang the hang hang the
bang. So that's right folks We are the sweet
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apparently is not our real name All right folks,
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