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Welcome back everybody G We are the sweet side

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of life podcast all the way from Southern, California

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How are you feeling tonight my love? If I'm being

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honest, all right Honest sure. Let's let's try

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honesty. Let's see where honesty takes us. I'm

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a bit exhausted exhausted still I did a double

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workout today. My shoulders are killing me. People

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were really excited when you said, I did a double.

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I know. They're like, ooh, tell us more Mrs.

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Sweets workout at the gym. Do you want to, do

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you want to throw a shout out to your gym? What's

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your gym? Oh, my gym. Who's my gym? You always

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tell me have a good time with Jim and then when

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I come home You're like, did you have fun or

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was it hard? And I'm like Jim's always hard He's

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always hard I I do orange theory fitness Workout

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at orange three fitness do it take the classes.

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I don't know what you want how you want to say

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it But yeah highly recommend if you're looking

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for a gym. It's always hard. It's worldwide Give

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a little little background. What is it? It's

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like a circuit training kind of like circuit

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hit Hit training. Okay, so it's fun. It's a good

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workout and you broke some records today I didn't

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break records, but you broke hearts No, i'm proud

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of you you said you got top or you got five fifth

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place out of Probably 120 130 people and yeah,

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you're yeah the 12 minute distance thing we did

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That's pretty dope save some energy for me though.

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Yeah, that was yes that was Two days ago. Oh,

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I thought that was tonight. No tonight was No,

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they just result. They just sent their like they

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put their results on Instagram. Gotcha. So today

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I just saw the results, but it actually was I

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Might have even been a week ago. I can't remember

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they all run together. No, it was on Tuesday

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I think Monday or Tuesday that I did that today

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was a double class I did 50 minutes strength

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training gotta flex these arms so buff so buff

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I gotta live up to my apparently my Popeye tattoo

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Beard called my new tattoo a Popeye tattoo because

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it's a it's on my But not in the same place Popeye

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had his but it's on my forearm. It's on the outside

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of your forearm. On my wrist forearm kind of

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area and it's an anchor but with a music note.

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It's the cruise we went on. It's the treble clef.

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Yeah, so we went on music in an anchor. Yeah

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treble clef and on the anchor because we went

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on the 311 cruise, which we really haven't talked

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about but we got tattoos on the cruise ship.

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Yes, we probably won't talk. And I had my little

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tattoo boyfriend. tattoo convict. He looks like

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he was fresh out of cell block one. Okay, stereotyping.

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Oh, I'm pretty sure he was on parole. But that's

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that's that's another story. He was good vibes.

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He's good. But prior to when I did my tattoo,

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yeah, he's the one who did your tattoo. Prior

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to doing that, we went to Secrets, which we talked

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about. Are we just skipping over our drinking?

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Oh, yeah. Okay. Well, I'm drinking something

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I've drank before. All right. I'm doing my drinky

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drinks. We're gonna pull back the curtain tonight,

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folks. We knew we had to get a podcast out. Pull

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back the curtain. We had some big ideas for some

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big elaborate drinks, but we got lazy. and tonight

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we're just going with the basic margarita. And

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I'm just going with the tried and true vodka

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sprite. I had like a whole drink I was gonna

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do. It was a pretty fancy drink, but we're gonna

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save that for tomorrow night, because we got

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a little bit of a bunko party tomorrow night.

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So I'm gonna be making that. Just pulling back

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all of the curtains. That's right, folks. Bunko.

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Cheers. So this particular Bunko is gonna be

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an interesting one. We are blending worlds on

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this one. A little bit. I hope it's not interesting,

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actually. We are blending vanilla. We with our

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with some of our LS friends now the the LS friends

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that are coming over. They're all very well -behaved

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Yeah, they they know what I never invite my un

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well -behaved LS So So I'm gonna I'm gonna save

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my big my big drink for tomorrow night. Yeah

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So, um, yeah, so you we so we recap secrets and

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we fucked up We didn't fuck up we know we miss

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just a couple we miss some things and I think

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I was I was telling you I was like, you know

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what we were at a disadvantage. So clearly Carlos

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and autumn remembered much more than we did Yeah,

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some of that had to do with the drinking that

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we did and some of it had to do with the fact

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that we were taking in a lot more Sensory information

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and everything was new to us Whereas they had

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been there before so they kind of knew the ropes

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They knew you know what to expect where to expect

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it what where to go what to do. Yes Everything

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was brand new to us. So I think on top of like

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taking in everything it's like you kind of Forget

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or Not forget, but like you just miss run over

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stuff when you're recapping it. And then also

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we I don't know when they recorded, but I feel

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like they recorded much closer to the time when

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we went. Then we did because we had we were.

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We went to Secrets, the first part of our vacation.

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We had a whole nother week and a few days until

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our vacation was over. So we had gone on our

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311 cruise. We had burned so many brain cells,

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drinking every single day. Drinking every day

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there. Staying up all the time there. Yeah Exactly,

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we didn't even take naps so Which typically if

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we do all day shit we take naps but just cruise

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is like it's concerts like concerts non -stop

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constant music music that you want to go see

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and things you want to go do so it's like you

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can't You know LS people at LS events the ones

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we've been to for the most part they understand

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you need that downtime if you don't like people

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just burn out quick and so because everybody's

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partying they usually will kind of almost schedule

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like it's stuff we've been to that's been all

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day it'll be like okay there's a there's a day

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party there's a two to three hour lull and then

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there's a night party or longer sometimes but

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It but well, yeah, there was no so there was

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no downtime. So we really didn't nap So anyway,

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we had that whole thing going on and then we

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had all of our travel time How many cups of coffee

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did you have tonight? Because you're on oh, yeah

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Tequila is the only liquor. That's an upper.

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That's true. Yeah So anyway, we went on All of

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this stuff. So so we also didn't record until

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we didn't record that until I think three weeks

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after We actually went three weeks. It was two

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to three weeks. I don't know. I think you're

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I think a little bit longer. I think two, two.

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Yeah. OK, maybe two because we got back from

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our vacation and we didn't even do it until like

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four days after we got back. So at least at least

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two, I think was longer than that. But anyway,

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so so I think they recorded. before they definitely

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recorded before us, but they weren't putting

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it out before us is what they basically said.

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So they had that advantage. But anyway, that

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being said, there were some things that we missed

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that we. Yeah. Definitely remember and listening

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to their side of it. I'm like, oh, yeah, that

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was a lot of fun. Like the lap dances between

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you and the girls and in the dungeon area. Like

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that was a lot of fun. Yeah. And. Oh, and I didn't

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realize because actually, OK, so I think Carlos

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listens to us. So, Carlos, if you're listening,

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I didn't realize that that Mr. Sweets had said

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something to you or to Autumn about, oh, don't

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say anything on your podcast about. You going

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on stage about Carlos going on stage like you

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claimed it for our podcast. I didn't realize

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that. I remember that. No, you did, because in

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our podcast, you started talking or maybe it

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wasn't in the podcast, but when we were kind

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of like recapping separately, you talked about

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it. And I said, no, that's I said to you, you

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can't talk about that because that was, you know,

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his thing that he did. You know, they need to

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talk about that first. So I stopped you from

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even like. putting that out of your head. Like,

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don't talk about that. Yeah. And then come to

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find out you actually claimed it and they were

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waiting for us. And so we screwed that up. But

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yeah, you basically dared him to get on stage

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with the girl that was like dancing. He was clothed

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though, though. Right. I think you dared him

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naked. But then he had his shorts on. I remember

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him being up there dancing naked. Yeah. No, he

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had his shorts on. yeah so that like that was

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my fault because i didn't hear you claim that

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and i was like no you can't say anything about

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that that was that was their whole thing and

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then the other thing that i realized while i

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was listening to their side like their podcast

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was um autumn was actually the queen of hearts

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not the rabbit which makes sense because she

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didn't have ears but it just was a white it was

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white and it had the um clock i Think it had

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like a little clock on it, which is what made

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me think rabbit versus that or dude that one

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guy from Public Enemy The guy that always wears

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the big clock. No, it wasn't like it wasn't like

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that I know and he had a that guy had a um He

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had a reality TV show too. Yeah, I'm having a

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brain fart. Well, that's good thing. There's

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Google base. Hello. Can you go? I don't even

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know what he's saying. I just remember seeing

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him from something of love or some sort of love

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show. What was it? Rock of Love? No. Hold on.

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Yeah. Who is the rapper? I know people are sitting

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in their car like screaming at us. I know they

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are. That's wonderful. The clock. Flava Flav.

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Flavor of love. Yes. Flavor of love. All right.

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Flava Flav. We digressed like a mother. Yeah,

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we did. Anyway, it wasn't that kind of clock,

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but she had like a little... It was like sewn

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into the costume and it was like a little...

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I should probably edit that out. I'm pretty sure

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that's what it was. No, don't. Because I love

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that people were in their car screaming at us,

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Flava Flav! Or wherever they're listening. Anyway,

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so... It was so that's what made me think it

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was the rabbit. But again, she didn't have ears

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on so clearly that was a misinterpret a miss

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like Interpretation. Yeah Anyway, and then the

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only other thing I had to say I made notes cuz

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I was like, I don't want to forget because this

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is what happens. Um is after hearing Their side

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or autumn side of like going into the playroom

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with us. I honestly don't know how she missed

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us to be frank because I thought maybe we they

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went in first like before we went in because

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we were closing our tab and stuff and I thought

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oh maybe we just took longer than like we thought

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we were going to take. And then by the time we

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went in there, they had already looked for us.

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I mean, but that didn't wouldn't have made sense

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because you would have had your phone on you

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at that time, I guess, thinking about that in

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hindsight. But anyway, that's kind of what my

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first thought was, like when they said they like

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they couldn't find us. I was like, oh, maybe

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it was because they went in to look for us first

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before we actually got in there. And then after

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hearing you realize how fast you're talking right

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now. Really? It's blowing my mind. And then after...

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You're like, I'm tired. Like the Micro Machine

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commercial back in the day. You're like the small

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print guy in a... You might experience diarrhea.

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That's why I'm not talking because I'm like,

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I can't fit in anywhere. No, because I wanted

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to get through these things that I had written

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down. All right. So I thought... So that's what

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I thought. I thought maybe they went in before

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us looked around, couldn't find us and then left.

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And then we went in after them. That's like kind

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of what I was thinking probably happened because

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I was like, how could they have missed us? So

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but then hearing her side of it where she actually

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saw us walk in and then went to the bathroom

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and then went to go look for us. I'm like there.

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I really don't know how she missed us, to be

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quite honest. She might have went into that room

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because we were way at the back of that room.

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She might have just went in and did a quick scan.

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No, she said she walked all through it. That's

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what I'm trying to figure out. The only other

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thing I could think is when we first went in...

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I had a mask on. No, when we first went because

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our even our locker was up at the front. So you

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had like if you went to your locker, you had

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to walk by us if we were in our locker area,

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because we were like the first locker. So the

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only other thing I can think of is when we first

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went in and this is just how this is just you

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and I, we went into the shower room really fast.

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Yeah, we weren't in there very long. I mean,

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it was a quick basically just like rinse off.

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Yeah, just. make sure that we're not sweaty in

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weird places, which we probably weren't anyway

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because it was cold. But anyway, that's I digress.

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So that's the only thing I can think about that

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room. The shower room was so big and open. It

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was like and very bright and super bright. It

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was like prison bright. It was unsexy bright.

00:16:02.100 --> 00:16:05.710
Super unsexy. If anything, secrets. If there's

00:16:05.710 --> 00:16:08.049
anything you can improve on is maybe put some

00:16:08.049 --> 00:16:10.789
dimmers. Dimmers in the shower. Yeah, that shower

00:16:10.789 --> 00:16:16.110
was like locker room. It was like ain't nothing

00:16:16.110 --> 00:16:18.970
going to happen in here bright. It was like so

00:16:18.970 --> 00:16:21.809
unsexy bright. It was. And for a lot of people,

00:16:21.809 --> 00:16:23.690
that's where you would start your night. You

00:16:23.690 --> 00:16:27.049
were going to go do a quick rinse. Yeah. Well,

00:16:27.049 --> 00:16:29.009
a lot of us people, I mean, that's how we do.

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But if there's an opportunity to shower, we're

00:16:30.929 --> 00:16:33.169
there. Yeah, yeah. I want to wash my butt, you

00:16:33.169 --> 00:16:37.509
know. But yeah, it's it was it it started. It

00:16:37.509 --> 00:16:39.870
set a tone really quick. It was like, oh, yeah,

00:16:39.870 --> 00:16:41.750
it was super bright. Like I was walking to like

00:16:41.750 --> 00:16:43.429
the intake of jail. Yeah. No, that's what I'm

00:16:43.429 --> 00:16:45.750
saying. And the and the shower itself was like

00:16:45.750 --> 00:16:47.490
a prison shower. Not that I've been in a prison

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shower, but I've seen plenty of prison shows.

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You watch a lot of prison shows. Yeah. So it

00:16:52.669 --> 00:16:55.269
was enough. Orange is the dark. Yeah. It was

00:16:55.269 --> 00:16:59.789
like stark white tiles and like, like you said,

00:16:59.950 --> 00:17:02.429
super fucking bright. So anyway, if she had even

00:17:02.429 --> 00:17:04.109
piqued her head in there, if we were in there,

00:17:04.140 --> 00:17:06.559
she would have seen us because other than the

00:17:06.559 --> 00:17:08.380
walls, we were the other the next brightest thing

00:17:08.380 --> 00:17:15.299
in there. Yes, I am not very tan. We were butt

00:17:15.299 --> 00:17:20.839
naked and yes, we're super fucking white. So

00:17:20.839 --> 00:17:24.380
that being said, now I'm really confused at how

00:17:24.380 --> 00:17:26.319
we missed each other. You know what? Just it

00:17:26.319 --> 00:17:29.319
happened. Yeah, just whatever, whatever it was.

00:17:29.539 --> 00:17:32.359
Strangers in the night. Yeah, it's wild. But

00:17:32.359 --> 00:17:35.700
anyway. I hear they're coming. I hear the tickets

00:17:35.700 --> 00:17:38.119
are really cheap to come to California. Yeah.

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And I can promise you that your drink bill will

00:17:41.880 --> 00:17:45.579
be so much less at one of our places. Oh, a thousand

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percent. Because you're making your own damn

00:17:48.539 --> 00:17:49.779
drinks. Because you're making your own drink

00:17:49.779 --> 00:17:53.519
and you're bringing it yourself. Yeah. So actually.

00:17:53.680 --> 00:17:55.400
They're not as nice, though. You know what? All

00:17:55.400 --> 00:17:59.539
that liquor money paid for that $90 ,000 like

00:17:59.539 --> 00:18:04.009
pool system or whatever it was. Yep. that paid

00:18:04.009 --> 00:18:07.529
to filter all that and upgrade their upgrade

00:18:07.529 --> 00:18:11.869
of their tiki bar and all their bars and their

00:18:11.869 --> 00:18:14.069
sound system and their light system. That's what

00:18:14.069 --> 00:18:16.230
all those that liquor. I know our liquor bill

00:18:16.230 --> 00:18:20.990
at least paid for a speaker. I'm part owner of

00:18:20.990 --> 00:18:24.029
a speaker. It's got another speaker because of

00:18:24.029 --> 00:18:26.609
our liquor bill or one additional laser. Yeah.

00:18:26.710 --> 00:18:31.490
Or something. Anyway, so that is my recap. Recap.

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And my recap is I think I need to retire my spanking

00:18:37.430 --> 00:18:41.529
hand again. Oh, yeah. You heard the second recap

00:18:41.529 --> 00:18:44.890
and that was. Yeah, you didn't listen to that

00:18:44.890 --> 00:18:47.349
yet. So yeah, I didn't listen to that one. So,

00:18:47.349 --> 00:18:52.450
yes, I was giving out spankings. You're a spanker.

00:18:52.470 --> 00:18:55.210
I told you you had to slow your roll on that

00:18:55.210 --> 00:19:03.220
before. I enjoy spanking, but. Women ask me sometimes,

00:19:03.299 --> 00:19:06.940
and we have a couple of friends that take the

00:19:06.940 --> 00:19:10.339
best of what I can give. And I have to understand

00:19:10.339 --> 00:19:12.519
that not everybody can. Yeah, you have to start

00:19:12.519 --> 00:19:14.720
off slow. And then if they say, oh, that was

00:19:14.720 --> 00:19:16.519
weak, then you can give them a little more. You

00:19:16.519 --> 00:19:19.619
can't start off with like the biggest. Well,

00:19:19.619 --> 00:19:23.200
see, that's the thing is I did one and I said

00:19:23.200 --> 00:19:25.579
I and she said, OK, and then I'm like, all right,

00:19:25.599 --> 00:19:27.539
do another. And that's the second one is the

00:19:27.539 --> 00:19:29.519
one that got her because I took it up a level.

00:19:29.640 --> 00:19:33.089
Yeah. So, yeah, apologize for that. What did

00:19:33.089 --> 00:19:35.890
you do this? So we were at, we went to LUS this

00:19:35.890 --> 00:19:38.470
past weekend. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Did you have

00:19:38.470 --> 00:19:40.269
anything else you wanted to recap before I moved

00:19:40.269 --> 00:19:41.930
on? Because it had to do with the spanking. So

00:19:41.930 --> 00:19:46.029
that's why I transitioned. No, I think I think

00:19:46.029 --> 00:19:49.990
we've we've we've covered secrets well enough

00:19:49.990 --> 00:19:53.609
between our two podcasts. And yeah, yeah, I feel

00:19:53.609 --> 00:19:57.230
like we had a great time. Yeah, a thousand percent

00:19:57.230 --> 00:20:01.160
want to do it again. For sure. Yeah. Yeah. Good

00:20:01.160 --> 00:20:04.220
vibes. Okay. So speaking of speaking, speaking

00:20:04.220 --> 00:20:05.980
of speaking, speaking of spanking, speaking of

00:20:05.980 --> 00:20:08.200
spanking, that's like a hard thing to say when

00:20:08.200 --> 00:20:11.200
you're speaking really fast. Speaking of spanking.

00:20:13.619 --> 00:20:20.579
We went to lust. You're laughing at me. I can't

00:20:20.579 --> 00:20:24.779
with you. You're like exhausting me right now.

00:20:25.440 --> 00:20:30.630
We went to lust and This past weekend and we

00:20:30.630 --> 00:20:33.509
hadn't been since I think October That sounds

00:20:33.509 --> 00:20:38.769
about right. Yeah, so It was a good time. Yeah

00:20:38.769 --> 00:20:41.430
We haven't hung out there for a while. Yeah,

00:20:41.450 --> 00:20:44.930
there's a lot of new faces. We met a 20 a couple

00:20:44.930 --> 00:20:48.380
that was in their 20s. Yes And we actually told

00:20:48.380 --> 00:20:50.339
them to listen to our podcast. Yes. I don't know

00:20:50.339 --> 00:20:52.839
if they're listening, but hey, y 'all, if we're

00:20:52.839 --> 00:20:54.579
talking about 20 year olds, it's you guys. There's

00:20:54.579 --> 00:20:56.859
only very there's very few 20 year olds in the

00:20:56.859 --> 00:21:01.039
lifestyle, which is what we told them. Anyway,

00:21:01.039 --> 00:21:02.640
we can talk about that whole thing because that

00:21:02.640 --> 00:21:04.900
was like a whole nother conversation about age

00:21:04.900 --> 00:21:09.460
and all that stuff. But what I was what I was

00:21:09.460 --> 00:21:11.259
going to is we had friends, some friends that

00:21:11.259 --> 00:21:14.170
we. Do know who regularly are there like I said

00:21:14.170 --> 00:21:15.970
a lot of new faces But there were some people

00:21:15.970 --> 00:21:19.509
who we had seen we know our friends and she likes

00:21:19.509 --> 00:21:25.589
to be spanked hard She's got a lot of good padding

00:21:25.589 --> 00:21:27.789
they all booty. She's gotten to the point now

00:21:27.789 --> 00:21:30.509
where she just kind of laughs. She does funny

00:21:30.509 --> 00:21:34.329
That's cute. You're so cute. That was a great

00:21:34.329 --> 00:21:37.930
great try there mister nice effort But the next

00:21:37.930 --> 00:21:41.339
day I did some spank ins I spanked a few people

00:21:41.339 --> 00:21:46.380
that night. I was taking a shower the next day

00:21:46.380 --> 00:21:51.359
and I was just washing my hands and I look down

00:21:51.359 --> 00:21:55.480
and I see some like... Discoloration. Discoloration.

00:21:55.640 --> 00:21:57.599
It was a dark shower like I didn't have the lights

00:21:57.599 --> 00:22:00.799
blaring so I put more soap on and washed more.

00:22:01.039 --> 00:22:02.940
I thought maybe I had makeup on my hand or something.

00:22:03.539 --> 00:22:07.019
I freaking bruised my own hand. Spanking her

00:22:07.019 --> 00:22:10.170
butt. Yeah, I bruised my middle finger where

00:22:10.170 --> 00:22:12.390
the knuckle is on the bottom and then I bruised

00:22:12.390 --> 00:22:16.809
my whatever that part of the hand is. So, Autumn

00:22:16.809 --> 00:22:20.750
or Carlos, if you're listening and Autumn, just

00:22:20.750 --> 00:22:23.970
know he got paid back from spanking you. He got

00:22:23.970 --> 00:22:26.789
someone else paid him back. Someone spanked my

00:22:26.789 --> 00:22:31.210
hand with their butt. That was a first. I'm in

00:22:31.210 --> 00:22:34.269
construction, so my hands are fairly... worn.

00:22:34.730 --> 00:22:38.210
Like it takes a lot to just bruise me. So oh,

00:22:38.690 --> 00:22:43.309
she did it. Yeah, she did it. But um, yeah, so

00:22:43.309 --> 00:22:46.430
we did less party. That was the party that uh,

00:22:46.450 --> 00:22:48.430
I used to do sound and stuff at yeah, like you

00:22:48.430 --> 00:22:50.609
said, we haven't been there since October. We

00:22:50.609 --> 00:22:52.849
went out there had a great time. Like you said,

00:22:52.910 --> 00:22:56.069
met some new faces, met some new boobs, new masses.

00:22:56.390 --> 00:23:03.390
You got your dicks that surprise surprise. Let

00:23:03.390 --> 00:23:07.130
me see lest and then uh, what else did we do?

00:23:07.869 --> 00:23:09.670
It's past we've done. Oh, we had a we've had

00:23:09.670 --> 00:23:11.710
a couple of pool parties in between all this

00:23:11.710 --> 00:23:14.450
craziness Oh, yeah, we had a pool party and then

00:23:14.450 --> 00:23:17.509
we did Sunday fun day Well pool party was Sunday

00:23:17.509 --> 00:23:19.470
fun day and then we did another Sunday fun day.

00:23:20.809 --> 00:23:23.769
Yeah It's hard to keep up with all these things

00:23:23.769 --> 00:23:29.869
a lot going on but um We had a good time. So

00:23:29.869 --> 00:23:32.440
but before we go any further, um we've been getting

00:23:32.440 --> 00:23:36.099
a lot of text messages and like I said before

00:23:36.099 --> 00:23:39.500
a lot of pictures and keep them coming guys it's

00:23:39.500 --> 00:23:43.380
fantastic but our our our sweet side of life

00:23:43.380 --> 00:23:51.460
sex phone number is 951 -226 -5261 oh excuse

00:23:51.460 --> 00:23:57.339
me once again 951 -226 -5261 that is the quickest

00:23:57.339 --> 00:24:01.680
and easiest way to get a hold of us You can also

00:24:01.680 --> 00:24:04.680
email us at the sweet side of life podcast at

00:24:04.680 --> 00:24:08.839
outlook comm The thing about the email is the

00:24:08.839 --> 00:24:11.779
emails come through a lot of times They get sifted

00:24:11.779 --> 00:24:14.359
into the junk mail and I don't see them for three

00:24:14.359 --> 00:24:17.400
or four days The text messages or the voicemails

00:24:17.400 --> 00:24:20.920
I get immediately so there's a good chance I'll

00:24:20.920 --> 00:24:23.279
respond and then you know, there's been a couple

00:24:23.279 --> 00:24:26.160
people we've been talking with giving some advice

00:24:26.160 --> 00:24:30.490
to Stuff like that, but it kind of brought me

00:24:30.490 --> 00:24:39.710
to one of the most recent messages I got So we

00:24:39.710 --> 00:24:44.049
have a listener his name is Ivan and yes, I got

00:24:44.049 --> 00:24:50.130
permission to use his name and His content I

00:24:50.130 --> 00:24:51.869
don't know if it's his real name, but that's

00:24:51.869 --> 00:24:54.250
that's how he introduced himself. He said yes

00:24:54.740 --> 00:24:57.180
So he's been hitting us up for a little bit now.

00:24:57.200 --> 00:24:59.579
Put out his phone number, just kidding. If you

00:24:59.579 --> 00:25:05.180
can reach him at. So he's a loyal listener and

00:25:05.180 --> 00:25:07.240
we've been going back and forth and his last

00:25:07.240 --> 00:25:13.680
message, one of his last messages said, Hi, this

00:25:13.680 --> 00:25:16.519
is your number one fan. He didn't actually say

00:25:16.519 --> 00:25:18.720
that word. This is your fan Ivan just wanted

00:25:18.720 --> 00:25:22.619
to say thank you for the last episode. And now...

00:25:22.890 --> 00:25:25.769
he wants to visit a tiki bar to see what it's

00:25:25.769 --> 00:25:28.970
all about. Because obviously we talk about tiki

00:25:28.970 --> 00:25:32.190
bars. So apparently Ivan's never been to a tiki

00:25:32.190 --> 00:25:34.569
bar. Such good vibes. I don't know where Ivan

00:25:34.569 --> 00:25:38.190
lives. But you got to let us know and I can turn

00:25:38.190 --> 00:25:40.710
you on to some good tiki bars in your area. If

00:25:40.710 --> 00:25:43.869
it's an area we know. Yeah. Looking at the phone

00:25:43.869 --> 00:25:47.759
number, I'm thinking he's somewhat in our area,

00:25:48.420 --> 00:25:52.259
in our SoCal region. So I could probably point

00:25:52.259 --> 00:25:56.240
you in the right direction. Then he also said,

00:25:57.240 --> 00:26:02.279
where are we at? Okay, he asked if we are ever

00:26:02.279 --> 00:26:05.319
thinking about doing an episode on how to tell

00:26:05.319 --> 00:26:08.380
your loved one that you would like to join the

00:26:08.380 --> 00:26:11.720
lifestyle. It's something that he has no idea

00:26:11.720 --> 00:26:14.200
how to bring up to his wife, but he would appreciate

00:26:14.200 --> 00:26:18.039
any advice. Have a great day Your number one

00:26:18.039 --> 00:26:25.220
and number two fan So this kind of takes me to

00:26:25.220 --> 00:26:28.819
a broader subject, um, we've been toying with

00:26:28.819 --> 00:26:34.779
the idea of kind of Doing like an intro to the

00:26:34.779 --> 00:26:40.089
LS. Oh like like you're What to expect? Because

00:26:40.089 --> 00:26:42.150
we've actually had quite a few people ask that.

00:26:42.450 --> 00:26:45.650
Like we, from our first podcast, if you go all

00:26:45.650 --> 00:26:48.250
the way back, we talk about how we got into it.

00:26:48.670 --> 00:26:51.809
And our podcast has always been more of a story

00:26:51.809 --> 00:26:56.049
-based, a personal journey, journey -based and

00:26:56.049 --> 00:26:59.369
experience -based podcast. It's never been much

00:26:59.369 --> 00:27:02.809
of a lesson. It's like, it's not a how -to. It's

00:27:02.809 --> 00:27:05.170
never been a how -to because we're still figuring

00:27:05.170 --> 00:27:08.950
out how to. But I think, I think we've. We're

00:27:08.950 --> 00:27:10.990
experienced enough now we could probably kind

00:27:10.990 --> 00:27:13.930
of go in and structure some, you know, first

00:27:13.930 --> 00:27:17.009
timer expectations. Yeah. What to expect at your

00:27:17.009 --> 00:27:19.190
first party, what to take to your first party,

00:27:19.309 --> 00:27:22.589
et cetera. However, before you get to any of

00:27:22.589 --> 00:27:25.049
those first parties. Yeah. You have to have the

00:27:25.049 --> 00:27:26.829
conversation. You have to have the conversation.

00:27:28.109 --> 00:27:34.369
So, Ivan, um, I don't know your exact situation.

00:27:35.349 --> 00:27:39.130
However, the biggest, the biggest thing. in LS

00:27:39.130 --> 00:27:44.970
is communication. That starts way at the beginning

00:27:44.970 --> 00:27:51.170
to where you're at right now. Yeah. And there

00:27:51.170 --> 00:27:53.650
are some of the stuff I'm going to talk about

00:27:53.650 --> 00:27:56.390
right now is not directly related to you, Ivan,

00:27:56.470 --> 00:27:57.970
because obviously, I don't know your situation.

00:27:58.009 --> 00:28:00.769
But I'm just going to reflect on some things

00:28:00.769 --> 00:28:02.970
that I've seen. We're in a bunch of like swinger

00:28:02.970 --> 00:28:07.359
groups. Facebook groups, my space groups. So

00:28:07.359 --> 00:28:13.200
we so we see a lot. So we see a lot of examples

00:28:13.200 --> 00:28:17.279
of how not to do and how to do. Yeah. So we're

00:28:17.279 --> 00:28:18.759
going to touch on a little bit of that really

00:28:18.759 --> 00:28:22.759
quick. So you can touch on how you brought it

00:28:22.759 --> 00:28:28.529
up with you. Yes. So You and I are slightly I

00:28:28.529 --> 00:28:31.170
don't know how it I don't it's it would be it

00:28:31.170 --> 00:28:34.609
would be easier to know To give somebody advice

00:28:34.609 --> 00:28:38.430
on this if you knew what part of it intrigued

00:28:38.430 --> 00:28:43.869
them, right? Cuz yeah for you. Yeah it was Kind

00:28:43.869 --> 00:28:46.650
of like the watching and the stories and the

00:28:46.650 --> 00:28:51.130
hearing. Mm -hmm but the you and I were a little

00:28:51.130 --> 00:28:57.410
bit different in a sense of When we weren't even

00:28:57.410 --> 00:28:59.670
like well if you listen to the podcast from all

00:28:59.670 --> 00:29:03.730
the way begin beginning We were going to like

00:29:03.730 --> 00:29:06.410
a sex club before when we were just boyfriend

00:29:06.410 --> 00:29:09.609
girlfriend Yeah, and we had zero play with anybody

00:29:09.609 --> 00:29:11.990
else, but we had been in that that environment

00:29:11.990 --> 00:29:15.210
environment So I don't think for me to bring

00:29:15.210 --> 00:29:18.289
it up to you. It was as difficult because I already

00:29:18.289 --> 00:29:22.240
knew you were open minded to a certain level

00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:24.920
of activity. Like you were cool with being watched

00:29:24.920 --> 00:29:27.880
and watched. Like, so that's what I was already

00:29:27.880 --> 00:29:29.819
there. I'm kind of saying it's kind of hard to

00:29:29.819 --> 00:29:31.779
give somebody advice when you don't know, like,

00:29:32.539 --> 00:29:34.339
like, is it like where? Yeah, exactly. Their

00:29:34.339 --> 00:29:36.500
starting point. Like, is their starting point

00:29:36.500 --> 00:29:40.359
like? Prude Mormon Church like they're wearing

00:29:40.359 --> 00:29:43.539
their underwears and they're not even like having

00:29:43.539 --> 00:29:46.160
sex themselves Because the approach could be

00:29:46.160 --> 00:29:47.920
completely different. Yeah a thousand percent

00:29:47.920 --> 00:29:51.440
or are they at a point where they kind of Like

00:29:51.440 --> 00:29:54.519
we were like, okay We kind of like we like we

00:29:54.519 --> 00:29:57.579
know we like being watched like we we are in

00:29:57.579 --> 00:30:00.900
this sexy atmosphere We enjoy that part of it

00:30:00.900 --> 00:30:06.160
You go to clubs you tease each other like it's

00:30:06.160 --> 00:30:09.079
like Like regular clubs like yeah, whatever go

00:30:09.079 --> 00:30:12.299
out and you're just like, oh Are they comfortable

00:30:12.299 --> 00:30:15.119
with you? Commenting on somebody else or are

00:30:15.119 --> 00:30:17.480
they do they literally lose their shit with if

00:30:17.480 --> 00:30:22.160
you say anything about anybody? Yeah How is your

00:30:22.160 --> 00:30:25.640
relationship like do you compliment your wife?

00:30:27.099 --> 00:30:29.440
All the time are you guys having sex like are

00:30:29.440 --> 00:30:31.079
you guys doing all that stuff? Like I don't it's

00:30:31.079 --> 00:30:33.279
like so hard to give advice when you really don't

00:30:33.279 --> 00:30:38.769
know Yeah, cuz I could tell you personally something,

00:30:38.769 --> 00:30:42.589
Ivan, that could blow up your whole relationship.

00:30:42.589 --> 00:30:45.690
Yeah, because your starting point is so different.

00:30:46.049 --> 00:30:47.990
You know, like your baseline is so different.

00:30:48.410 --> 00:30:51.230
So I think the I mean, like you said, communication

00:30:51.230 --> 00:30:55.450
is 100 percent like he. Yeah. But I think it

00:30:55.450 --> 00:30:58.130
would be like you you have to think about why

00:30:58.130 --> 00:31:02.150
do you want to do this? Yeah. And then think

00:31:02.150 --> 00:31:03.950
about what it will bring to your relationship.

00:31:04.670 --> 00:31:06.950
And then I think start implementing some of that

00:31:06.950 --> 00:31:10.170
into your relationship. Just between the two

00:31:10.170 --> 00:31:12.789
of you. Yeah. So if you think, oh, it'll bring

00:31:12.789 --> 00:31:17.430
more communication, then try to communicate more.

00:31:17.549 --> 00:31:20.170
If you think it's going to bring like more sex,

00:31:20.390 --> 00:31:23.069
then try to initiate sex more. If you think it's

00:31:23.069 --> 00:31:27.430
going to bring make your your significant other

00:31:27.430 --> 00:31:31.509
feel sexier, because maybe they're not feeling

00:31:31.509 --> 00:31:34.490
as sexy, but you see them as sexy. help them

00:31:34.490 --> 00:31:39.130
feel sexy by telling them they're sexy or buying

00:31:39.130 --> 00:31:41.509
them stuff and asking them to wear it for you

00:31:41.509 --> 00:31:44.869
or things like that. Like, I think the first

00:31:44.869 --> 00:31:46.849
step is kind of like knowing what you're wanting

00:31:46.849 --> 00:31:49.109
to get out of it and first try and implement

00:31:49.109 --> 00:31:52.349
implement that into your relationship. Yeah.

00:31:52.589 --> 00:31:54.769
It's kind of like figuring out the why. Yeah.

00:31:55.789 --> 00:31:58.390
And so basically some of the things I'm going

00:31:58.390 --> 00:32:03.579
to say right now are not necessarily things To

00:32:03.579 --> 00:32:06.180
do but it's gonna be more in the thing of things

00:32:06.180 --> 00:32:08.960
not to do what not to do and that's easier to

00:32:08.960 --> 00:32:11.420
say than to Because that kind of encompasses

00:32:11.420 --> 00:32:14.660
exactly that is like that's like across the board

00:32:14.660 --> 00:32:17.440
like just don't do this like this is Terrible,

00:32:17.500 --> 00:32:19.720
but like I said things to do is a little bit

00:32:19.720 --> 00:32:21.940
more difficult because it's definitely more personal

00:32:21.940 --> 00:32:23.940
and there's definitely more personal reasons

00:32:23.940 --> 00:32:26.500
why people get into this like I have a lot of

00:32:26.500 --> 00:32:28.640
friends who've gotten into this because they're

00:32:28.640 --> 00:32:32.309
the female part is bisexual and she wants to

00:32:32.309 --> 00:32:34.130
explore that. So maybe she brought it up, you

00:32:34.130 --> 00:32:40.410
know, but if it's so it's hard to say how to

00:32:40.410 --> 00:32:42.109
bring it up when it's when we don't know the

00:32:42.109 --> 00:32:44.029
why. But it's easy to say what not to do because

00:32:44.029 --> 00:32:47.470
there's definitely some things that are definite

00:32:47.470 --> 00:32:52.829
no's and go against everything. So here's here's

00:32:52.829 --> 00:32:58.309
the first don't. Don't try to use this to fix

00:32:58.309 --> 00:33:01.710
a marriage. A hundred and ten percent. If you

00:33:01.710 --> 00:33:05.670
guys. Again, when I say you guys, I'm referring

00:33:05.670 --> 00:33:11.750
to everybody. If if you. Have like a sexless,

00:33:12.109 --> 00:33:15.150
loveless marriage and you think that introducing

00:33:15.150 --> 00:33:20.950
this is going to provide a spark. Don't. It might

00:33:20.950 --> 00:33:24.660
work for one percent. But the thing about the

00:33:24.660 --> 00:33:32.160
LS is it's going to highlight the goods and the

00:33:32.160 --> 00:33:36.099
bads. So if there's a lot of insecurities, it's

00:33:36.099 --> 00:33:39.779
only going to make those bigger. If there's problems,

00:33:40.019 --> 00:33:41.920
it's just going to highlight those even more.

00:33:42.599 --> 00:33:45.339
But if you have good things like your communication,

00:33:45.619 --> 00:33:48.779
it makes your communication better. It can highlight

00:33:48.779 --> 00:33:51.819
everything, but When you're first starting, you

00:33:51.819 --> 00:33:55.799
have to make sure you're on a very solid, solid

00:33:55.799 --> 00:33:59.380
ground to start. Yeah. Which is why I said, which

00:33:59.380 --> 00:34:03.759
is why I said in my like, why is you have to

00:34:03.759 --> 00:34:06.700
whatever you want to get out of it, start that

00:34:06.700 --> 00:34:09.039
in your current relationship before you try to

00:34:09.039 --> 00:34:12.500
start it with other people. Like if you want

00:34:12.500 --> 00:34:15.500
more of something or you want to enhance something

00:34:15.500 --> 00:34:19.030
in your relationship. enhance it first together.

00:34:19.409 --> 00:34:23.110
And then and then once you've been like, OK,

00:34:23.230 --> 00:34:25.750
I'm comfortable like this is fun, like us doing

00:34:25.750 --> 00:34:28.210
it together. Maybe it would be more fun if somebody

00:34:28.210 --> 00:34:30.550
you know what I mean? Like you have to bring

00:34:30.550 --> 00:34:32.670
whatever you're looking for. You have to bring

00:34:32.670 --> 00:34:34.469
it first to your relationship because it's definitely

00:34:34.469 --> 00:34:37.909
not going to fix your relationship. Whatever

00:34:37.909 --> 00:34:43.829
is for sure. So one thing I've seen in all those

00:34:43.829 --> 00:34:48.619
groups I was talking about is More often than

00:34:48.619 --> 00:34:53.800
not, it's a guy that typically initiates. I mean,

00:34:53.920 --> 00:34:56.460
it definitely goes both ways, but it seems to

00:34:56.460 --> 00:35:02.320
be more the guy. The guy typically thinks this

00:35:02.320 --> 00:35:04.539
is going to open up a whole new world of sex

00:35:04.539 --> 00:35:11.170
to him. And what he doesn't realize... Is that

00:35:11.170 --> 00:35:14.710
the the woman typically is gonna get much more

00:35:14.710 --> 00:35:18.829
attention. Yeah, and a lot of times the guys

00:35:18.829 --> 00:35:23.010
aren't ready for that. Yeah, so We always say

00:35:23.010 --> 00:35:25.829
swinging is like such a woman's world. It is

00:35:25.829 --> 00:35:30.429
like we make the rules we decide you know, yeah

00:35:30.429 --> 00:35:35.309
the situations like who is mostly decided by

00:35:35.309 --> 00:35:40.119
the women and like it's very much like female

00:35:40.119 --> 00:35:48.280
-dominated kind of like mm -hmm so So you have

00:35:48.280 --> 00:35:50.860
to kind of like going back to the the why you

00:35:50.860 --> 00:35:54.219
have to figure out what your approach is and

00:35:54.219 --> 00:35:56.739
It could be you know There's a lot of scenarios

00:35:56.739 --> 00:35:59.159
where it's a hot wife thing where you want to

00:35:59.159 --> 00:36:02.920
see Your wife with men other men you want to

00:36:02.920 --> 00:36:04.780
watch her you want to do this you want to do

00:36:04.780 --> 00:36:08.070
that? It's you that just want to you know, get

00:36:08.070 --> 00:36:10.230
out there and do that that could work as well

00:36:10.230 --> 00:36:13.809
But everybody in the the dynamic has to understand

00:36:13.809 --> 00:36:16.369
what is going on. Yeah, so one of the things

00:36:16.369 --> 00:36:22.349
I will say not to do is to Dive into this world

00:36:22.349 --> 00:36:26.829
by yourself for an extended period of time and

00:36:26.829 --> 00:36:30.849
then bring it to your your wife or your your

00:36:30.849 --> 00:36:33.739
girlfriend or whatever it is because See a lot

00:36:33.739 --> 00:36:36.900
of this in our groups is some guy will post.

00:36:37.539 --> 00:36:41.400
Hey me and my wife Are you know, we're a couple

00:36:41.400 --> 00:36:46.599
from Alabama and you know, blah blah blah How

00:36:46.599 --> 00:36:48.539
can I convince and they'll post a picture and

00:36:48.539 --> 00:36:50.980
be like how can I convince my wife to be in the

00:36:50.980 --> 00:36:53.900
lifestyle? It's like bro. You've already made

00:36:53.900 --> 00:36:57.929
like three big errors Hey more you're posting

00:36:57.929 --> 00:37:00.389
you're posting in a group. No community pictures.

00:37:00.570 --> 00:37:02.889
No communication. Your wife has no idea what's

00:37:02.889 --> 00:37:07.610
going on and How can I convince? It should not

00:37:07.610 --> 00:37:11.449
be a convince. Yeah, it has to be a very much

00:37:11.449 --> 00:37:14.269
agreed upon mutual We're going in together on

00:37:14.269 --> 00:37:17.570
this journey Yeah, because if if if you guys

00:37:17.570 --> 00:37:19.909
aren't both on the same page or at least in that

00:37:19.909 --> 00:37:22.989
within the same book Yeah, it's gonna get ugly

00:37:22.989 --> 00:37:25.590
quick fast there's going to be resentment because

00:37:25.590 --> 00:37:29.389
even when you are in the same book it it gets

00:37:29.389 --> 00:37:33.110
initially i mean at least in our experience it

00:37:33.110 --> 00:37:35.969
can get messy oh yeah like people make mistakes

00:37:35.969 --> 00:37:38.269
boundaries get crossed things happen that you

00:37:38.269 --> 00:37:41.619
didn't know were gonna happen um you're going

00:37:41.619 --> 00:37:43.300
to have feelings that you didn't know you were

00:37:43.300 --> 00:37:45.960
going to have, like, and they can creep up on

00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:49.139
you. Like one scenario with somebody can be 100

00:37:49.139 --> 00:37:50.639
percent fine. You're like, that was the best

00:37:50.639 --> 00:37:52.920
night we've ever had. And then it can be a very

00:37:52.920 --> 00:37:55.320
similar scenario. But with somebody else and

00:37:55.320 --> 00:37:58.239
all of a sudden it's like other feelings creep

00:37:58.239 --> 00:38:00.440
up or whatever, or you're just not feeling a

00:38:00.440 --> 00:38:03.179
certain like it's I mean, the human emotions

00:38:03.179 --> 00:38:08.059
are so, you know. Vast and just like unpredictable

00:38:08.059 --> 00:38:10.320
that it's very much like even if you're in the

00:38:10.320 --> 00:38:13.440
same book It's you can still get off the same

00:38:13.440 --> 00:38:15.679
page. And so if you're not even in the same book

00:38:15.679 --> 00:38:19.179
Like yeah, your starting point is already like

00:38:19.179 --> 00:38:24.519
you're fucked And not in a good way and you're

00:38:24.519 --> 00:38:26.800
gonna experience it not in the way that makes

00:38:26.800 --> 00:38:31.400
me want to call you daddy Exactly And you're

00:38:31.400 --> 00:38:35.320
gonna expect to experience Like you said all

00:38:35.320 --> 00:38:38.219
all different levels of emotion from jealousy

00:38:38.219 --> 00:38:41.980
and more often than not jealousy is is kind of

00:38:41.980 --> 00:38:45.079
more of an envy thing a lot of times because

00:38:45.079 --> 00:38:47.500
You like you said you could both be in one situation

00:38:47.500 --> 00:38:50.519
and if one person is getting more attention Then

00:38:50.519 --> 00:38:53.460
the other person get can get jealous, you know

00:38:53.460 --> 00:38:56.719
quote unquote, but it's more of an envy Whereas

00:38:56.719 --> 00:38:59.440
if you were both equally doing the same thing

00:38:59.440 --> 00:39:02.599
equally that jealousy would be a different feeling

00:39:04.199 --> 00:39:06.659
So there's there's a lot of things to you know,

00:39:06.760 --> 00:39:10.739
think about prepare yourself for that but I think

00:39:10.739 --> 00:39:14.619
Like the way I would I would suggest it the way

00:39:14.619 --> 00:39:18.039
we kind of you and I Kind of got into it which

00:39:18.039 --> 00:39:19.659
seemed to work and what seems to work for a lot

00:39:19.659 --> 00:39:22.639
of people is I definitely I started listening

00:39:22.639 --> 00:39:27.940
a podcast before you Yeah, I wasn't in groups

00:39:27.940 --> 00:39:30.539
and I wasn't on web pages and I wasn't posted

00:39:30.539 --> 00:39:33.940
on my space and I wasn't I Wasn't interacting

00:39:33.940 --> 00:39:38.280
with people. Yeah, I knew better Like I'm not

00:39:38.280 --> 00:39:41.320
like no, this is very much. It was an informational

00:39:41.320 --> 00:39:45.699
dive for me and then once once I've started diving

00:39:45.699 --> 00:39:49.280
into it and I kind of wrap my head around it.

00:39:49.280 --> 00:39:51.559
That's when I brought it to you. It was like

00:39:51.559 --> 00:39:56.179
hey Let's talk about this Listen to this podcast.

00:39:56.420 --> 00:40:00.059
It was called the sweet side of life At that

00:40:00.059 --> 00:40:04.380
time it was a diary swingers diary Swingers diaries,

00:40:04.380 --> 00:40:06.679
which they are defunct. They are no longer around

00:40:06.679 --> 00:40:09.860
but they were a very good intro podcast. Mm -hmm.

00:40:09.980 --> 00:40:13.829
They were and You and I started listening We

00:40:13.829 --> 00:40:16.550
were trying to listen to the same ones on the

00:40:16.550 --> 00:40:19.469
same day so we could kind of compare notes Yeah

00:40:19.469 --> 00:40:21.789
at the end of the day or we would send text throughout

00:40:21.789 --> 00:40:23.670
the day like oh that was pretty oh I haven't

00:40:23.670 --> 00:40:25.449
gotten there yet and spoiler alert, you know,

00:40:25.449 --> 00:40:30.690
yeah and It very much became a a couple thing

00:40:30.690 --> 00:40:35.409
a journey. Yeah together and then That in my

00:40:35.409 --> 00:40:38.469
opinion was damn near perfect like how we kind

00:40:38.469 --> 00:40:41.400
of went in together. Yeah But some of these,

00:40:41.420 --> 00:40:42.900
some of these people that I'm seeing, they're

00:40:42.900 --> 00:40:45.039
like, they're in it and they're posting pictures

00:40:45.039 --> 00:40:47.539
and yeah, that's going to be a mess. And then

00:40:47.539 --> 00:40:50.440
they're asking, how do I convince? And 99 % of

00:40:50.440 --> 00:40:52.539
the people in the chat are like, dude, leave

00:40:52.539 --> 00:40:55.940
this chat, get out of this chat room. This chat

00:40:55.940 --> 00:41:00.420
room doesn't exist to you start over. So I would

00:41:00.420 --> 00:41:03.199
say like what we were saying from the get -go

00:41:03.199 --> 00:41:07.380
is if don't use the word convince, that is a

00:41:07.380 --> 00:41:15.789
very, um, almost a forceful way of get on my

00:41:15.789 --> 00:41:18.389
mind. Yeah, get on my level. No, we don't want

00:41:18.389 --> 00:41:22.969
to convince anybody. Yeah, it should be 100 %

00:41:22.969 --> 00:41:26.269
like everybody's on the same page and convincing

00:41:26.269 --> 00:41:30.650
somebody. You never know if they just did it

00:41:30.650 --> 00:41:33.210
because you forced them to do it or if they did

00:41:33.210 --> 00:41:36.570
it and it'll end terribly. That's going to be

00:41:36.570 --> 00:41:41.239
messy. So I think the keys are stabilize your

00:41:41.239 --> 00:41:45.360
relationship. Yeah. If you're doing this because

00:41:45.360 --> 00:41:47.760
you're rocky, don't do it because you're rocky.

00:41:48.840 --> 00:41:51.360
Figure out your relationship first because A,

00:41:51.679 --> 00:41:53.800
nobody else wants to deal with your drama. No.

00:41:54.519 --> 00:41:58.119
There are plenty of great people within the communities

00:41:58.119 --> 00:42:02.659
that are there for support. And at some point,

00:42:02.860 --> 00:42:05.139
everybody's going to run into problems. Yeah.

00:42:05.300 --> 00:42:08.880
And those people which will become your friends

00:42:08.880 --> 00:42:11.639
will be there to support you during that time.

00:42:12.300 --> 00:42:15.199
But you just got to make sure your initial intro

00:42:15.199 --> 00:42:19.019
to the communities and stuff is not drama, not

00:42:19.019 --> 00:42:22.619
drama, a very honest approach within your relationship.

00:42:23.679 --> 00:42:30.639
And on the same level. So yeah. So if you're

00:42:30.639 --> 00:42:33.199
hard to give advice on this whole thing, I can't

00:42:33.199 --> 00:42:35.340
give like straight personal, I can just very

00:42:35.340 --> 00:42:38.320
vague. Yeah, because I've been everybody's journey

00:42:38.320 --> 00:42:40.460
is different. I even if you want to send me more

00:42:40.460 --> 00:42:44.780
of your more of your info, like more more your

00:42:44.780 --> 00:42:46.960
backstory, maybe we can kind of give you a little

00:42:46.960 --> 00:42:51.159
more. And I was gonna say send a picture of your

00:42:51.159 --> 00:42:56.280
wife. Exactly. That completely is opposite of

00:42:56.280 --> 00:43:00.280
what we were just saying. But yeah, just saying.

00:43:01.960 --> 00:43:04.059
Then, you know, maybe we can tell. You can also

00:43:04.059 --> 00:43:05.880
use this part. I mean, but I would like to know

00:43:05.880 --> 00:43:07.840
kind of their backstory, but you can also use

00:43:07.840 --> 00:43:12.139
this podcast to like he could say, hey, I came

00:43:12.139 --> 00:43:15.719
across this podcast. This couple has an interesting,

00:43:15.719 --> 00:43:20.019
you know, lifestyle that they live and it's intriguing.

00:43:20.360 --> 00:43:23.400
And I mean, you can always use other people because

00:43:23.400 --> 00:43:27.789
it's safe. um to say like you're not necessarily

00:43:27.789 --> 00:43:30.570
saying i want to do it but you're like it's intriguing

00:43:30.570 --> 00:43:33.630
it's stumbled across this it's fun to listen

00:43:33.630 --> 00:43:37.010
to you know you should listen to it and then

00:43:37.010 --> 00:43:39.230
that kind of opens the door for conversation

00:43:39.230 --> 00:43:45.210
um i mean like i said it's different because

00:43:45.210 --> 00:43:48.329
you you're you opened it up by saying like you

00:43:48.329 --> 00:43:51.130
know Well, obviously you said you kind of I mean

00:43:51.130 --> 00:43:53.289
you already knew like I was open to more sexual

00:43:53.289 --> 00:43:55.489
stuff because of what we had done when we were

00:43:55.489 --> 00:43:59.929
dating but That still could have gone sideways

00:43:59.929 --> 00:44:03.929
because we had a long different journey between

00:44:03.929 --> 00:44:10.750
that time I think I pretty much did it the perfect

00:44:10.750 --> 00:44:17.070
way Tell me more. Tell me more how perfect you

00:44:17.070 --> 00:44:21.070
are. Well, it all started back in. No, I think

00:44:21.070 --> 00:44:25.389
I mean, I think I've for the most part followed

00:44:25.389 --> 00:44:28.510
my advice, because the other thing I was going

00:44:28.510 --> 00:44:35.269
to say is one of the keys is is a lot of a lot

00:44:35.269 --> 00:44:39.369
of this starts with fans fantasies. Yeah. So

00:44:39.369 --> 00:44:42.690
fantasies can be derived from like your personal

00:44:42.690 --> 00:44:45.969
fantasies they can be derived from porn they

00:44:45.969 --> 00:44:47.750
could be derived from you know whatever the case

00:44:47.750 --> 00:44:51.369
may be um but in our our case and which i think

00:44:51.369 --> 00:44:54.829
is happens with a lot of people is you know i

00:44:54.829 --> 00:44:58.710
i was asking you like have you ever thought about

00:44:58.710 --> 00:45:01.230
dot dot dot like second another dick or whatever

00:45:01.230 --> 00:45:04.289
the case was be and you kind of like insert that

00:45:04.289 --> 00:45:07.469
thought there and you kind of create that that

00:45:07.469 --> 00:45:11.269
fantasy Actually, I know this is how Carl or

00:45:11.269 --> 00:45:15.409
son autumn Kind of got into she like right when

00:45:15.409 --> 00:45:17.550
she was like really hot. He would say something

00:45:17.550 --> 00:45:19.969
like oh What would you do if there was like another

00:45:19.969 --> 00:45:22.909
guy right here? And she's like I'd suck his dick

00:45:22.909 --> 00:45:25.750
while you're banging me and then he's like she's

00:45:25.750 --> 00:45:29.250
like And then he's like well, I can get a guy

00:45:29.250 --> 00:45:35.329
over and she's like what no So you kind of you

00:45:35.329 --> 00:45:39.349
like you kind of start with stuff like that and

00:45:39.349 --> 00:45:41.710
then you just kind of get the mind going and

00:45:41.710 --> 00:45:44.289
you get the ideas in there and it's like a worm,

00:45:44.429 --> 00:45:46.489
you know, it kind of goes into your brain and

00:45:46.489 --> 00:45:50.050
and In the heat of the moment, you know, it's

00:45:50.050 --> 00:45:52.670
fun to talk about yeah and then the other thing

00:45:52.670 --> 00:45:55.429
to do is to also kind of gauge where the your

00:45:55.429 --> 00:45:59.389
partner's at is to watch porn together and Comment

00:45:59.389 --> 00:46:02.440
on the porn that you're watching Like comment.

00:46:02.739 --> 00:46:05.699
Oh, you know, I really like her breasts or look

00:46:05.699 --> 00:46:09.099
at her ass or look at his dick or whatever, you

00:46:09.099 --> 00:46:12.159
know stuff like that to get to the point where

00:46:12.159 --> 00:46:15.460
You you can kind of gauge where the other partner's

00:46:15.460 --> 00:46:18.480
at Yeah, like if if it doesn't bother him or

00:46:18.480 --> 00:46:20.760
her that you're looking at another person sexually

00:46:20.760 --> 00:46:25.340
that that kind of works the situation and because

00:46:25.340 --> 00:46:28.179
I mean If you're sitting there watching a porn

00:46:28.349 --> 00:46:31.150
And you say, oh, I like the way her ass looks

00:46:31.150 --> 00:46:33.769
or the way her tits look and she or he gets mad.

00:46:35.269 --> 00:46:38.289
Yeah, like we're not there yet. You are not there

00:46:38.289 --> 00:46:40.730
because trust in a room that is not going to.

00:46:40.829 --> 00:46:42.650
Yeah, they probably don't. And the person probably

00:46:42.650 --> 00:46:45.349
doesn't feel secure. Yeah. And so that's where

00:46:45.349 --> 00:46:49.670
I said, like, build, build him or her up. Yeah.

00:46:49.750 --> 00:46:53.309
Make sure you're building your, you know, spouse

00:46:53.309 --> 00:46:57.480
or significant other up. In a way that like they

00:46:57.480 --> 00:47:01.380
feel secure. So if you both feel secure then

00:47:01.380 --> 00:47:03.820
making little comments about somebody they're

00:47:03.820 --> 00:47:07.800
never likely to meet or yeah, you know, like

00:47:07.800 --> 00:47:12.820
is not gonna shouldn't cause like trauma or like

00:47:12.820 --> 00:47:16.159
them to be so upset about it because a lot of

00:47:16.159 --> 00:47:20.840
the I don't know. I I guess I mean obviously

00:47:20.840 --> 00:47:23.039
we have a different way of thinking but I think

00:47:23.039 --> 00:47:26.679
a lot of the that stuff just comes from insecurity.

00:47:26.920 --> 00:47:30.260
Like, oh, you saying that means that they're

00:47:30.260 --> 00:47:33.280
better than I am. Yeah. But realistically, it's

00:47:33.280 --> 00:47:36.579
like, why can't we? You can both coexist. Yeah.

00:47:36.679 --> 00:47:39.699
Can't we all just get along? Like, why can't

00:47:39.699 --> 00:47:43.000
you enjoy that ass, but also enjoy my ass? Exactly.

00:47:43.019 --> 00:47:44.920
You know what I mean? That's exactly where it

00:47:44.920 --> 00:47:50.039
is. It's not just one. Yeah. It's just this is

00:47:50.039 --> 00:47:53.039
like this is yours. This is mine, whatever. And

00:47:53.039 --> 00:47:56.239
then you add sprinkles. Yeah. And I mean, it's

00:47:56.239 --> 00:47:59.199
a very basic way of thinking, but it's a tough

00:47:59.199 --> 00:48:01.800
way of thinking too, because you have to feel

00:48:01.800 --> 00:48:07.300
you have to know that like, to like, for you

00:48:07.300 --> 00:48:09.360
to me or whatever that I'm more than just an

00:48:09.360 --> 00:48:11.719
ass, whereas that's just an ass. You're also

00:48:11.719 --> 00:48:14.119
a great person. I have a great personality attached

00:48:14.119 --> 00:48:21.139
to my ass. So it's again, it goes back to being

00:48:21.139 --> 00:48:23.800
secure in your relationship and feeling confident

00:48:23.800 --> 00:48:28.039
in it. And understanding that like, just because

00:48:28.039 --> 00:48:29.739
somebody looks at an ass doesn't mean they're

00:48:29.739 --> 00:48:32.079
leaving you tomorrow for that ass. It's like,

00:48:32.699 --> 00:48:36.019
that's not likely, you know, exactly. And then

00:48:36.019 --> 00:48:40.679
you take those lessons that you're watching them,

00:48:40.980 --> 00:48:43.840
the fantasy talk, and then you got the porn watching.

00:48:44.829 --> 00:48:46.909
And if you succeed, you can't watch porn together.

00:48:46.989 --> 00:48:48.590
You definitely can't do this because I mean,

00:48:48.590 --> 00:48:51.809
it's live porn. It's live. And yeah, if in the

00:48:51.809 --> 00:48:53.690
lifestyle, it's live porn. I don't I don't want

00:48:53.690 --> 00:48:56.190
to I don't want to participate. Like I don't

00:48:56.190 --> 00:49:00.650
want to put a definite like there's no way. But

00:49:00.650 --> 00:49:03.530
you have a lot more to work through. It's going

00:49:03.530 --> 00:49:05.489
to be tough. Yeah. You have a lot. You have a

00:49:05.489 --> 00:49:08.809
longer way to go. Yeah. Yeah. It's a long way

00:49:08.809 --> 00:49:10.809
to the top. If you want to rock and roll and

00:49:10.809 --> 00:49:16.090
quote Jack Black. But. No, actually that was

00:49:16.090 --> 00:49:18.869
a CDC. All right. Well in in the school of rock

00:49:18.869 --> 00:49:24.030
it was Jack Flack. It was yeah That's true. I

00:49:24.030 --> 00:49:27.969
Agress like a motherfucker So yeah kind of using

00:49:27.969 --> 00:49:30.489
those lessons to go with the porn and then and

00:49:30.489 --> 00:49:36.969
then the other thing is to ask your partner I

00:49:36.969 --> 00:49:39.230
wouldn't say do this while you're sitting in

00:49:39.230 --> 00:49:41.949
the drive through at Jack in the Box, but while

00:49:41.949 --> 00:49:44.969
you're in the moment, while you're having relations,

00:49:46.550 --> 00:49:52.409
inquire about her past or his past sexual activity.

00:49:52.489 --> 00:49:55.849
Like what they liked or what they've done. Describe

00:49:55.849 --> 00:50:01.119
situations they've been in. Again, if that drives

00:50:01.119 --> 00:50:03.639
you crazy with jealousy, then take a step back.

00:50:03.639 --> 00:50:06.380
Yeah. And then work on other things and then

00:50:06.380 --> 00:50:10.119
try that again. Because if you can't have some

00:50:10.119 --> 00:50:16.280
level of enjoyment with that, I don't see progressively

00:50:16.280 --> 00:50:17.260
moving forward. Yeah, it's going to be hard to

00:50:17.260 --> 00:50:20.559
then see them actually performing those sexual

00:50:20.559 --> 00:50:24.239
favors on somebody else. Exactly. You can't even

00:50:24.239 --> 00:50:27.849
talk about it. So there's there's so many levels

00:50:27.849 --> 00:50:30.489
to it, but it's it's steps. It's all about steps.

00:50:31.070 --> 00:50:35.570
Yeah. And I mean, some people literally just

00:50:35.570 --> 00:50:38.710
go out and they just jump right in, jump right

00:50:38.710 --> 00:50:40.690
in and they have a fast text and it works and

00:50:40.690 --> 00:50:43.530
it works for them. But I would say that's probably

00:50:43.530 --> 00:50:48.130
very few. And and and I would say people say

00:50:48.130 --> 00:50:50.469
that's what they did. But there had to have been

00:50:50.469 --> 00:50:55.429
some sort of like Something before that because

00:50:55.429 --> 00:50:57.570
I don't even understand how you would literally

00:50:57.570 --> 00:51:01.750
just go to like go from like not talking about

00:51:01.750 --> 00:51:04.750
Anything not having any conversations about other

00:51:04.750 --> 00:51:08.289
people not having any Dialogue and literally

00:51:08.289 --> 00:51:10.710
just one day like oh, we're gonna go like we're

00:51:10.710 --> 00:51:12.389
just randomly fucking this other couple like

00:51:12.389 --> 00:51:18.570
that just It's there was probably some sort of

00:51:19.420 --> 00:51:21.960
They probably had a threesome when they first

00:51:21.960 --> 00:51:24.820
got there, right? I feel like there had to have

00:51:24.820 --> 00:51:27.559
been and maybe I'm wrong But maybe not like a

00:51:27.559 --> 00:51:29.239
full like you're never wrong. Maybe not like

00:51:29.239 --> 00:51:32.619
a I know maybe not like a full conversation about

00:51:32.619 --> 00:51:35.360
it, but there are both freaks or so there's yes

00:51:35.360 --> 00:51:40.639
something but That is not typical. No, so the

00:51:40.639 --> 00:51:42.300
thing about the thing about the getting into

00:51:42.300 --> 00:51:46.559
the LS and and you know talking to your your

00:51:46.559 --> 00:51:53.110
mate about it is take steps, take baby steps.

00:51:53.590 --> 00:51:57.530
Everybody's different, but take steps. And the

00:51:57.530 --> 00:52:00.829
biggest thing they say is to go as slow as the

00:52:00.829 --> 00:52:04.610
slowest person. Because there's always a gas

00:52:04.610 --> 00:52:08.730
and a brake. And, you know, the gas wants to

00:52:08.730 --> 00:52:10.730
move to the next level and the brakes like holding

00:52:10.730 --> 00:52:14.289
back like, you know. And it can change in different

00:52:14.289 --> 00:52:17.349
like dynamics. For the most part, I've always

00:52:17.349 --> 00:52:21.980
been the brake. but some situations You like

00:52:21.980 --> 00:52:24.860
you you open up the engine you like push them

00:52:24.860 --> 00:52:26.860
You've always been the breaker. You've always

00:52:26.860 --> 00:52:28.780
been the gas. I'm normally the gases. Yeah, I

00:52:28.780 --> 00:52:31.639
said the other way. Yeah, normally I Normally

00:52:31.639 --> 00:52:39.139
I'm the gas But not I don't over gas it Um, but

00:52:39.139 --> 00:52:41.039
yeah, there's sometimes you surprise me and I'm

00:52:41.039 --> 00:52:43.219
like what shit? Yeah, and then you have to put

00:52:43.219 --> 00:52:47.960
the break. I'm like break hold up but um So,

00:52:48.199 --> 00:52:50.199
yeah, you know, take it steps. There's some people

00:52:50.199 --> 00:52:53.900
that it takes years to get to the point where

00:52:53.900 --> 00:52:57.440
they can go to a party. Yeah. Some people are

00:52:57.440 --> 00:52:59.380
a couple of months. You know, everybody's different.

00:52:59.480 --> 00:53:01.900
The other thing we did as this isn't really how

00:53:01.900 --> 00:53:05.099
to get your spouse into it, I guess, but more

00:53:05.099 --> 00:53:10.400
like a slow slide into it as we tech like we

00:53:10.400 --> 00:53:17.519
texted guys. And. Like three like three -way

00:53:17.519 --> 00:53:19.699
texted like he'd be on the text. I'd be on the

00:53:19.699 --> 00:53:23.559
text and a guy would be on the text. Oh We played

00:53:23.559 --> 00:53:25.440
around with reddit for a little bit Yeah, and

00:53:25.440 --> 00:53:28.559
then you would like we would send pictures or

00:53:28.559 --> 00:53:30.940
they would be flirting and like we'd all like

00:53:30.940 --> 00:53:34.800
there was kind of like this Almost like a digital

00:53:34.800 --> 00:53:38.159
threesome. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, and that that again

00:53:38.159 --> 00:53:41.710
that forces you to like look at your boundaries

00:53:41.710 --> 00:53:44.409
and get comfortable with being uncomfortable

00:53:44.409 --> 00:53:48.130
almost like there's some things that you know

00:53:48.130 --> 00:53:50.150
would come across your screen and you're like

00:53:50.150 --> 00:53:55.449
yeah okay yeah and you kind of have to you know

00:53:55.449 --> 00:53:58.530
you know suck it in yeah not suck it in but chew

00:53:58.530 --> 00:54:02.230
on it for a bit no chew on it ingest it no don't

00:54:02.230 --> 00:54:05.590
adjust it so yeah but everybody's different so

00:54:05.590 --> 00:54:11.059
the biggest thing is communication Get on the

00:54:11.059 --> 00:54:18.719
same page Introduced into our podcast Have her

00:54:18.719 --> 00:54:23.800
send me pictures Yeah, and then just kind of

00:54:23.800 --> 00:54:27.360
go from there and then You're gonna you're gonna

00:54:27.360 --> 00:54:31.699
you're gonna hit many consent consent Make sure

00:54:31.699 --> 00:54:33.800
she's consenting before you're putting her pictures

00:54:33.800 --> 00:54:39.760
on. Yes Don't yeah for everybody that for everybody

00:54:39.760 --> 00:54:44.059
that does that in the chats man. Come on Your

00:54:44.059 --> 00:54:47.420
wife has got to know that you're posting pictures

00:54:47.420 --> 00:54:51.539
and you're playing these games Yeah, I if that

00:54:51.539 --> 00:54:54.539
role was reversed and I got blindsided and I

00:54:54.539 --> 00:54:57.599
found like that you Were like part of all these

00:54:57.599 --> 00:55:01.199
groups and that's how you introduced me To the

00:55:01.199 --> 00:55:03.699
idea. You're just like hey already deceitful.

00:55:03.699 --> 00:55:06.090
Yeah, it's already deceitful and you know honesty

00:55:06.090 --> 00:55:08.230
is one of the biggest things, you know, in the

00:55:08.230 --> 00:55:12.710
LS. So if you're starting on that, like pull

00:55:12.710 --> 00:55:14.889
back, leave the groups, leave the group right

00:55:14.889 --> 00:55:18.269
now, kill your, you know, kill your screen name,

00:55:18.829 --> 00:55:23.590
pull back, drop back the truck up, get her in

00:55:23.590 --> 00:55:26.670
the passenger seat. And, you know, take the drive

00:55:26.670 --> 00:55:30.610
together because that's the only real good way

00:55:30.610 --> 00:55:35.500
to do it. And even if you do it all the right

00:55:35.500 --> 00:55:38.280
ways you are still gonna hit speed bumps mm -hmm

00:55:38.280 --> 00:55:40.659
and there's gonna be sometimes the tires come

00:55:40.659 --> 00:55:43.760
off and you have to get out you got to change

00:55:43.760 --> 00:55:47.519
the tire and Just be ready for it because it's

00:55:47.519 --> 00:55:49.699
a it's a bumpy ride, but it's a hell of a ride.

00:55:49.840 --> 00:55:53.800
It's very fun Super fun. So there's there's a

00:55:53.800 --> 00:55:55.800
lot more we could go into right now But I just

00:55:55.800 --> 00:55:58.179
really I just kind of wanted to touch just touch

00:55:58.179 --> 00:56:02.559
the subject tonight because Just feel like we

00:56:02.559 --> 00:56:06.059
need to do a few more informational kind of You

00:56:06.059 --> 00:56:09.559
know share our wealth of knowledge amongst the

00:56:09.559 --> 00:56:15.519
peasants But that we're gonna close this up here

00:56:15.519 --> 00:56:18.880
pretty soon, but before we do that We have some

00:56:18.880 --> 00:56:24.280
things coming up ladies and gentlemen So today

00:56:24.280 --> 00:56:29.940
is April 17th Hopefully you did your taxes. Oh

00:56:29.940 --> 00:56:36.789
shit Oops So that was a yawn that was a yawn

00:56:36.789 --> 00:56:39.829
see I stopped talking and then I'm like my battery

00:56:39.829 --> 00:56:47.829
went So April 25th, it's a Friday Friday April

00:56:47.829 --> 00:56:52.519
25th There is a organization out here in Southern

00:56:52.519 --> 00:56:56.320
California called say less productions It's an

00:56:56.320 --> 00:57:00.900
organization. It's a nonprofit And they're getting

00:57:00.900 --> 00:57:03.960
their tax break exactly it's a community they're

00:57:03.960 --> 00:57:06.579
on Cassidy you can find them on say less productions

00:57:06.579 --> 00:57:09.280
They're holding one of their monthly meeting

00:57:09.280 --> 00:57:13.739
greets at a bar in Murrieta called the Cove bar

00:57:13.739 --> 00:57:16.599
and girl Is it the bar and girl? I think it's

00:57:16.599 --> 00:57:18.079
definitely the Cove. I'm not sure about the bar

00:57:18.079 --> 00:57:20.429
and girl part Anyways, we're gonna be there.

00:57:20.429 --> 00:57:23.090
We shall we are gonna be there both you and I

00:57:23.090 --> 00:57:27.210
you and I both By Sam and Cole. Yes, Sarah and

00:57:27.210 --> 00:57:28.989
Cole say less productions and we're gonna be

00:57:28.989 --> 00:57:32.250
hanging out there all night long if you're lucky

00:57:32.250 --> 00:57:39.070
You can touch my crotch That goes to the ladies

00:57:39.070 --> 00:57:40.989
not the gentleman part of the ladies and gentlemen

00:57:40.989 --> 00:57:45.889
and then after that we have a Memorial Day weekend

00:57:46.429 --> 00:57:49.449
We're not sure we're not sure exactly what we're

00:57:49.449 --> 00:57:53.610
doing But I would say 99 % we're gonna end up

00:57:53.610 --> 00:57:57.449
in Vegas Yeah with looking that way with some

00:57:57.449 --> 00:57:59.969
friends of ours. You guys have heard on the Michigan

00:57:59.969 --> 00:58:03.210
couple We did a interview with them Tom and Liz.

00:58:03.670 --> 00:58:05.530
They're probably gonna be joining us We're gonna

00:58:05.530 --> 00:58:09.110
be doing like whispers pool parties. We might

00:58:09.110 --> 00:58:13.980
head over to flirts LV We don't have everything

00:58:13.980 --> 00:58:16.539
nailed down yet, but as soon as we do, we will

00:58:16.539 --> 00:58:18.500
send out all the information and we'd love for

00:58:18.500 --> 00:58:20.260
you guys to join us if you're out there. Join

00:58:20.260 --> 00:58:23.260
our community on Cassidy and we always post what

00:58:23.260 --> 00:58:27.559
we're doing. Well, you always post. I've not

00:58:27.559 --> 00:58:29.920
been the best. Oh, oh. And then you're giving

00:58:29.920 --> 00:58:33.900
me shit about TikTok. Yeah. Speaking of tiktok,

00:58:34.019 --> 00:58:36.179
which I don't even have all the pictures from

00:58:36.179 --> 00:58:38.360
secrets I went to go do a tiktok on that and

00:58:38.360 --> 00:58:39.840
then I was like I have like four pictures You

00:58:39.840 --> 00:58:42.179
never sent me the one I sent you everything.

00:58:42.179 --> 00:58:44.739
No, you didn't send me the ones Carlos took I

00:58:44.739 --> 00:58:46.780
don't have the ones inside the club. Whatever,

00:58:46.940 --> 00:58:50.699
bro. Whatever So we got that that's a big trip

00:58:50.699 --> 00:58:55.360
coming up and then we got some more information

00:58:55.360 --> 00:59:02.880
as I'm sure you heard EDR exotic dreams resorts

00:59:02.880 --> 00:59:07.320
in Palm Springs. We read them the riot act and

00:59:07.320 --> 00:59:12.059
guess what? They're reopening. So I said they

00:59:12.059 --> 00:59:17.239
were dead to me and I'm willing to forgive because

00:59:17.239 --> 00:59:21.760
as of July 1st, they apparently are coming back

00:59:21.760 --> 00:59:24.099
and they're going to be back to clothing optional.

00:59:24.099 --> 00:59:26.840
I think they've seen the error of their ways.

00:59:27.420 --> 00:59:30.340
i'm like the the they're like the abusive boyfriend

00:59:30.340 --> 00:59:33.099
and we keep going i just keep going back to them

00:59:33.099 --> 00:59:35.719
and just i just let them treat treatment like

00:59:35.719 --> 00:59:38.800
crap but they said they're remodeling so we'll

00:59:38.800 --> 00:59:41.559
see if we can get some tiles on the fucking floor

00:59:41.559 --> 00:59:44.920
i would love some tiles but here's the thing

00:59:44.920 --> 00:59:48.619
about adr is there there is a guy there is a

00:59:48.619 --> 00:59:51.019
gentleman i don't know his last name i just know

00:59:51.019 --> 00:59:56.760
him as don don is a fairly big name in the Ellis

00:59:56.760 --> 01:00:00.559
community out here in all the different Ellis

01:00:00.559 --> 01:00:03.380
resorts and whatnot. He tends to kind of jump

01:00:03.380 --> 01:00:06.539
around and he fixes things up and then he gets

01:00:06.539 --> 01:00:08.820
things going then he just kind of moves around

01:00:08.820 --> 01:00:12.659
but he's fairly well known. Don was in and out

01:00:12.659 --> 01:00:16.559
at EDR but Don is back. Guess who's back? Don

01:00:16.559 --> 01:00:21.849
is back. Back again. So I think Don We're wearing

01:00:21.849 --> 01:00:25.369
like a big D on his on his shirt like a superhero.

01:00:25.369 --> 01:00:30.869
Yeah Don And my goal is that he's turning EDR

01:00:30.869 --> 01:00:35.289
Into the resort that we all deserve. Yeah So

01:00:35.289 --> 01:00:38.309
I actually was texting with EDR earlier in the

01:00:38.309 --> 01:00:41.650
week and I requested a podcast interview with

01:00:41.650 --> 01:00:44.690
Don. Oh you did Yes, and they said he will be

01:00:44.690 --> 01:00:48.269
in this weekend. So I am gonna try to give him

01:00:48.269 --> 01:00:52.480
a call and See it here at some point if we can

01:00:52.480 --> 01:00:56.519
do like a FaceTime interview here on the podcast

01:00:56.519 --> 01:01:01.559
because the thing about the LS community is They're

01:01:01.559 --> 01:01:04.840
they're they're very big big hearts and very

01:01:04.840 --> 01:01:07.500
close -knit community, but we don't like to be

01:01:07.500 --> 01:01:11.679
burned No, and there are a lot of very upset

01:01:11.679 --> 01:01:14.840
people out there about how EDR handled everything

01:01:14.840 --> 01:01:19.219
handled everything and I really hope that Don

01:01:19.219 --> 01:01:22.400
and EDR can turn things around and get it back

01:01:22.400 --> 01:01:24.340
to where it used to be, because it used to be

01:01:24.340 --> 01:01:28.800
the place to go for summer parties. So my goal

01:01:28.800 --> 01:01:32.340
is to get Don on here and interview him and then,

01:01:32.340 --> 01:01:34.599
you know, see what his ideas are. And hopefully

01:01:34.599 --> 01:01:40.079
together we can turn this around. And I'd love

01:01:40.079 --> 01:01:44.079
to put EDR back on our schedule. My goal is July

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12th, they're having a foam party. That weekend

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my goal If I'm able to make it the biggest party

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is yes If I can get that interview and we can

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you know get enough people to kind of give them

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a chance I want to make that a fucking party.

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Yeah, I want to make that a sweet side of life

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Blast just have a good time You know do the helicopter

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So that's my goal We'll see we'll see my skills

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solid gold goal So we'll see if that works out.

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But um, yeah, so look for that in the next couple

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weeks Hopefully I can get Don on the phone and

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we can yeah, have a good time with Don Diggity

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Don what he has to say. I Want to hear it? I

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know there I took all of our I don't know about

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all I took a lot of our EDR tick tocks down I

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said fuck you. I'm not promoting you if you're

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not gonna be clothing optional and lifestyle

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Friendly, yeah dead to me and I can't put those

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tic -tacs back up So, yeah She obviously you

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can tell she she feels a certain type of way

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and I do as well, but I I don't hold grudges

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So I'm hoping that we're gonna have to come groveling

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If they want my heart and money We'll be back.

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I'm going to have to see how well they've remodeled

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these rooms before I agree to anything. So basically

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if you go to edrhotel .com, you can kind of see

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what their remodel schedule is. And they're supposedly

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kind of in the remodel phase right now. The last

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email I got from them, they said they got their

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permits and they're starting to remodel and it

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says they're doing all the different blocks of

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rooms and they're all set to be done by July

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1st, which is their reopening date. So we'll

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see. I'm hopeful because I really did enjoy that

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place. There's a lot of great memories there

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and I'm looking forward to creating many more.

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So yeah, on that note, I think we're going to

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go ahead and call it and we're going to see you

01:04:00.960 --> 01:04:06.679
the next one on the next podcast we will see

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we don't see anybody we will see you live on

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the next podcast take it away on the next one

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okay trying to trick you so that you'd say whatever

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you're gonna say that I could say okay When enjoying

01:04:27.949 --> 01:04:30.230
the sweet side of life keep your pineapples upside

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down believe in unicorns and keep shaking it

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up. Love you, baby Love you too Stay sexy If

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