1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,520 The podcast you're about to listen to is for adults only. Anyone under 18 please 2 00:00:05,520 --> 00:00:09,600 turn on KidsBop right now. Any opinions or advice that we give on this show 3 00:00:09,600 --> 00:00:14,220 should not be taken too seriously as we are not professionals at all. With that 4 00:00:14,220 --> 00:00:18,540 being said make yourself a drink and join us on our journey as a married couple 5 00:00:18,540 --> 00:00:48,380 and join the lifestyle in beautiful Southern California. 6 00:00:49,500 --> 00:00:56,940 And welcome back. This time I wasn't singing in the background. 7 00:00:56,940 --> 00:01:09,100 Welcome everybody season one volume one. Season one season one episode four. 8 00:01:09,100 --> 00:01:18,220 That's it. No volumes. No volumes babe. 9 00:01:18,220 --> 00:01:28,460 So sorry. Whatever. I know. So in you. So welcome back once again everybody. 10 00:01:28,460 --> 00:01:38,380 We are Mr. and Mrs. Sweets with the sweet side of life. Podcast. Obviously it's a 11 00:01:38,380 --> 00:01:43,020 podcast. Yes it is. You can't see us. You can only hear us. So if you're listening 12 00:01:43,020 --> 00:01:46,980 to us right now then hopefully that means you listen to our first three 13 00:01:46,980 --> 00:01:52,580 episodes. We actually just posted one a couple hours ago before we started to 14 00:01:52,580 --> 00:01:58,900 record this one. So it's been fun and today we're gonna go a little slightly 15 00:01:58,900 --> 00:02:04,300 different direction and I'm gonna let Emily take it over from here. Well we 16 00:02:04,300 --> 00:02:10,100 haven't cheers. Oh yeah that's right babe. Cheers that's right we are a drinking 17 00:02:10,100 --> 00:02:25,540 show. Cheers. What are you having? I am having. I am having a very expensive 18 00:02:25,540 --> 00:02:31,180 bottle of barefoot Moscato wine. Oh I thought you were going with the other one. 19 00:02:31,180 --> 00:02:35,540 I didn't want to crack that and not be able to finish it all. Oh yeah because it 20 00:02:35,540 --> 00:02:39,460 was bubbly. It was a bubbly. So it would lose its boobies. So we're drinking the same thing. 21 00:02:39,460 --> 00:02:44,220 Yes we are both drinking the barefoot Moscato which you can get the big 22 00:02:44,220 --> 00:02:51,260 bottle for ten bucks. Cheaper than that if you buy six at all versions. So you 23 00:02:51,260 --> 00:02:56,800 just gave away where we shop. Everybody shops at all versions. Well if you're in 24 00:02:56,800 --> 00:03:02,140 Southern California if you're in other places like Kroger's and stuff but 25 00:03:02,140 --> 00:03:08,340 anyway. Speaking of Southern California I was looking at our statistics. That's a 26 00:03:08,340 --> 00:03:16,940 tough work. And we actually have a listener in Belgium. Hello Belgium. And a 27 00:03:16,940 --> 00:03:24,300 listener in... What was it? Not Russia. It was a... What was the other place? I have no 28 00:03:24,300 --> 00:03:29,180 idea. Get back to us. Yes it was Belgium and like Switzerland or something 29 00:03:29,180 --> 00:03:32,700 like that. I thought that was kind of interesting. And then there was a bunch 30 00:03:32,700 --> 00:03:36,660 in this local area. So that was pretty cool. We know some friends of ours that 31 00:03:36,660 --> 00:03:44,220 are listening to us. And so yeah it's been a fun three episodes season one 32 00:03:44,220 --> 00:03:49,740 volume one. Oh my gosh. I can't with that. Yeah no it's been fun. And we're drinking the 33 00:03:49,740 --> 00:03:53,020 same thing so there's not a whole lot to talk about with that. And it is a cheap 34 00:03:53,020 --> 00:03:58,180 wine. Yeah normally we say how we made it. We drink like a handle in a 35 00:03:58,180 --> 00:04:02,020 night. Is it called a handle when it's a wine though? It's not just a normal bottle 36 00:04:02,020 --> 00:04:05,340 wine though. It's the big one. But I mean I know like liquor it's called a handle 37 00:04:05,340 --> 00:04:08,980 but is the big bottle a wine? A Magnum. If it's like a champagne I think it's a 38 00:04:08,980 --> 00:04:13,380 Magnum but I mean when it's barefoot do you call it a Magnum? 39 00:04:13,380 --> 00:04:23,420 It's ridiculous. It's a Magnum of wine. It makes me think of the condoms. Anyway. 40 00:04:23,420 --> 00:04:29,500 Moving on moving on. Moving on. We were attempted to do a tick-tock but I couldn't 41 00:04:29,500 --> 00:04:38,140 get the sound to turn off. Apparently we need a social media manager. Right we 42 00:04:38,140 --> 00:04:43,340 cannot afford a social media manager at this time so it is me but I was 43 00:04:43,340 --> 00:04:49,140 trying to put a filter like a light filter not like a crazy filter but like I 44 00:04:49,140 --> 00:04:55,220 mean we both just took showers so I have absolutely zero makeup on so I was just 45 00:04:55,220 --> 00:05:04,100 putting a little glow filter just to you know hide slight blemishes but it made 46 00:05:04,100 --> 00:05:12,260 me think of the fact that I really am glad that we are not well that I'm not 47 00:05:12,260 --> 00:05:19,780 dating. I recently had a... I'm not dating that's weird. I think we're both well I 48 00:05:19,780 --> 00:05:24,340 would both probably are dating but like in a different way but actually 49 00:05:24,340 --> 00:05:30,300 these all this whole thing applies to that too because I was with some 50 00:05:30,300 --> 00:05:35,860 girlfriends this past weekend and some people I didn't know when I just met and 51 00:05:35,860 --> 00:05:39,980 my friend after they left had said she's not gonna post any of those pictures 52 00:05:39,980 --> 00:05:45,340 that I took or approve them or whatever to go on her to her feed and I was like 53 00:05:45,340 --> 00:05:49,860 why she seems really nice like what's the reason and she said because she didn't 54 00:05:49,860 --> 00:05:54,620 filter them and she's like just watch she's gonna request you as a friend so 55 00:05:54,620 --> 00:05:59,940 you'll go you'll go through and you'll see what I'm talking about so she's 56 00:05:59,940 --> 00:06:05,580 single this girl who won't post pictures where she's not filtered and she's in 57 00:06:05,580 --> 00:06:10,700 her 40s never been married and I'm like looking she did request me as a friend 58 00:06:10,700 --> 00:06:20,020 and I'm like going through her page and I'm like holy moly like talk about cat 59 00:06:20,020 --> 00:06:25,380 fish like talk about catfish yeah I mean I showed you I showed you the 60 00:06:25,380 --> 00:06:30,300 unfiltered photos and then I showed you the filtered ones and it was like day 61 00:06:30,300 --> 00:06:36,660 and night and that is crazy to me I don't know I I'm just like I can't do 62 00:06:36,660 --> 00:06:45,620 that but we've had friends in the lifestyle who had some similar situations 63 00:06:45,620 --> 00:06:52,740 where they've been on Cassidy and you know looked at photos and started 64 00:06:52,740 --> 00:06:58,140 chatting with somebody and then they told us the story of how they went to 65 00:06:58,140 --> 00:07:03,620 meet them and they were like way older not at all like they're not at all 66 00:07:03,620 --> 00:07:08,700 attractive like to them you know everybody has their own so I mean I guess 67 00:07:08,700 --> 00:07:14,500 this kind of does apply to what we're doing too yeah so far I would say we've 68 00:07:14,500 --> 00:07:21,620 been lucky as in like who we've met is you know who we saw or who we expected to 69 00:07:21,620 --> 00:07:27,540 meet right there was there's been a few where I'll see their photos and then you 70 00:07:27,540 --> 00:07:30,500 know they might send a message saying hey we're gonna be at the same party you 71 00:07:30,500 --> 00:07:34,420 guys are at this weekend and then you know we get there and then they come up 72 00:07:34,420 --> 00:07:39,060 they're like hey we're so-and-so and it takes me a second but most of the time 73 00:07:39,060 --> 00:07:44,140 it's because I recognize the boobs first so you know not everybody shares their 74 00:07:44,140 --> 00:07:49,060 face photos right away on on those websites so show me your boobs I'll be 75 00:07:49,060 --> 00:07:53,100 like oh I know those boobs anywhere and then then I then I start to associate 76 00:07:53,100 --> 00:07:58,060 everything after that but that's a whole different thing yeah but I guess too I 77 00:07:58,060 --> 00:08:02,300 mean I'm not on Cassidy a lot like you pretty much run our page for the most 78 00:08:02,300 --> 00:08:08,340 part and just show me stuff so I don't know I honestly don't know I don't think 79 00:08:08,340 --> 00:08:13,860 this is what you do but I we're not one of those couples that kind of trolls and 80 00:08:13,860 --> 00:08:20,340 then like comments or whatever crazy okay you go I mean when I get on there I 81 00:08:20,340 --> 00:08:26,060 don't see anything no but I mean we talk to people who talk to us and you're 82 00:08:26,060 --> 00:08:31,180 active on like our communities that were part of but we're not just like 83 00:08:31,180 --> 00:08:37,940 rando message somebody only a level five perv yeah yeah I do enough to stay 84 00:08:37,940 --> 00:08:41,660 relevant and I you know if we have friends that post pictures I'll I'll 85 00:08:41,660 --> 00:08:48,460 like or something like that but I don't go on like crazy like fests and and yeah 86 00:08:48,460 --> 00:08:51,740 that's not really my style right and our style I guess and I don't know if 87 00:08:51,740 --> 00:08:55,900 that's what our friends did that came across the catfishing I don't know I 88 00:08:55,900 --> 00:09:01,180 do yeah but I just like you'd probably be more susceptible to that 89 00:09:01,180 --> 00:09:07,260 susceptible because susceptible because I'll pick one of those and I'll use one 90 00:09:07,260 --> 00:09:12,460 edit I'm just I'm gonna let it all go I'm gonna let you just work it out live 91 00:09:12,460 --> 00:09:18,500 because I think I put an extra pee the first time I said it um because you are 92 00:09:18,500 --> 00:09:23,980 looking for strangers in there whereas if you're part of a community or 93 00:09:23,980 --> 00:09:29,020 something like that you could meet them in more of a centralized open setting 94 00:09:29,020 --> 00:09:32,660 where you can kind of do what you do and kind of look at them and go okay 95 00:09:32,660 --> 00:09:37,660 that's not who I thought you were hold on yes let me remember okay we're good or 96 00:09:37,660 --> 00:09:42,260 or we just move on with our lives and the party and everything but if you're 97 00:09:42,260 --> 00:09:48,620 kind of really trying to push those like one-on-one first meets then you're 98 00:09:48,620 --> 00:09:53,180 probably gonna be a little bit have a few more stories I guess of people who 99 00:09:53,180 --> 00:10:01,340 didn't look mm-hmm yeah pretty much anybody that we meet for a two-on-two 100 00:10:01,340 --> 00:10:08,100 you know quote-unquote date typically people we've already met IRL which is in 101 00:10:08,100 --> 00:10:13,380 real life yeah I know thank you so you know we've typically met him at a party 102 00:10:13,380 --> 00:10:23,460 I don't think have we ever just blindly no met someone I mean no yeah so I was 103 00:10:23,460 --> 00:10:29,700 thinking no I'm not opposed to it if there's enough connection in the chemistry 104 00:10:29,700 --> 00:10:33,900 in the chat or enough likenesses you know they're similar you know something 105 00:10:33,900 --> 00:10:38,340 yeah I feel like it would have to be chemistry in the chat rather than just 106 00:10:38,340 --> 00:10:42,300 you're hot at least this point in our journey we're not just like I mean if 107 00:10:42,300 --> 00:10:48,620 somebody says what up you're hot to me I'm really okay I mean yeah I'll take it 108 00:10:48,620 --> 00:10:56,460 but I think it's more we're not like I mean because there's a lot of hot people 109 00:10:56,460 --> 00:11:00,980 right and then just for the reasons I just said things can be filtered ages 110 00:11:00,980 --> 00:11:06,260 can be faked old pictures old pictures can be posted and then it's like you 111 00:11:06,260 --> 00:11:08,900 don't really know what you're getting into but at least if you have some sort 112 00:11:08,900 --> 00:11:14,100 of connection mm-hmm mentally or whatever that you know at least I've got a 113 00:11:14,100 --> 00:11:20,820 good sense of humor or whatever via chat then it's I feel like for us it'd be 114 00:11:20,820 --> 00:11:24,860 more likely that we would do that yeah but it hasn't happened because you come 115 00:11:24,860 --> 00:11:29,620 across I mean you come across a lot of good-looking people yeah and gas fee I 116 00:11:29,620 --> 00:11:33,540 mean everybody's putting their best foot forward mm-hmm not all of them are 117 00:11:33,540 --> 00:11:37,620 their real foot yeah I mean I mean nobody's gonna go out of the way to put a 118 00:11:37,620 --> 00:11:42,860 bad picture yeah and their profile yeah although you say that you just said that 119 00:11:42,860 --> 00:11:47,580 it just reminded me of a conversation that you and I had recently where so 120 00:11:47,580 --> 00:11:55,860 we're also on groups that are not on Cassidy but like mainstream media social 121 00:11:55,860 --> 00:12:04,460 media sites but that there are swinger clubs or a swinger like like I'm like 122 00:12:04,460 --> 00:12:08,820 was she why aren't you trying to hide Facebook just Facebook I don't know 123 00:12:08,820 --> 00:12:13,620 anyway so yeah so some Facebook groups where it's like swinger groups inside of 124 00:12:13,620 --> 00:12:18,020 Facebook and I know you've said you're like I know these women can't possibly 125 00:12:18,020 --> 00:12:22,660 have known that their men posted these pictures because you're like look at this 126 00:12:22,660 --> 00:12:28,820 photo like it's not a good one you're like she's probably has a beautiful 127 00:12:28,820 --> 00:12:33,780 face but you can see in the photo that she's not like a bad-looking woman or 128 00:12:33,780 --> 00:12:38,940 even man but these photos are just not like in the most awkward like side views 129 00:12:38,940 --> 00:12:44,620 where she's like hunched over or like has a weird look on her face or it's like 130 00:12:44,620 --> 00:12:48,580 the lighting gives like weird shadows those photos did not get approval from 131 00:12:48,580 --> 00:12:53,380 the wife there in no way yeah because I know anytime I go to post anything on 132 00:12:53,380 --> 00:12:59,380 any type of social media with you and me I take it I add like I you know fix the 133 00:12:59,380 --> 00:13:04,460 color correction brightness you know stuff like that I don't mess around with 134 00:13:04,460 --> 00:13:09,940 filters personally that's just not not my style I do color corrections and then I 135 00:13:09,940 --> 00:13:13,820 send it to you and I'm like cool and then you give the approval you get the 136 00:13:13,820 --> 00:13:17,700 thumbs up thumbs down we go from there but there ain't no way some of these 137 00:13:17,700 --> 00:13:22,740 photos got approved the wife approval right and then it's like you think of 138 00:13:22,740 --> 00:13:28,460 Cassidy most of the time what I found is run by men like women like just like me 139 00:13:28,460 --> 00:13:32,420 like I'll get I I'm busy like but I'll get on every once in a while I'm not 140 00:13:32,420 --> 00:13:38,060 busy I'm never way more exactly men are way more driven by porn which is 141 00:13:38,060 --> 00:13:46,580 basically what Cassidy is so I'm here for the good conversations yeah okay 142 00:13:46,580 --> 00:13:55,060 so I think that a lot of the pictures are obviously posted by the men and I've 143 00:13:55,060 --> 00:13:59,260 seen some that I'm like that maybe we didn't need to get that close to the 144 00:13:59,260 --> 00:14:05,180 vagina or yeah maybe her asshole didn't need to be like that spread but I mean 145 00:14:05,180 --> 00:14:09,180 some people that may be their thing I mean for me I'm like less is more yeah 146 00:14:09,180 --> 00:14:15,980 I'm all about I enjoy a nice set of movies I enjoy nice set of buns I like 147 00:14:15,980 --> 00:14:20,460 vagina it's fantastic yeah but I just don't want to go to a logical exam exactly 148 00:14:20,460 --> 00:14:25,980 I'm not a doctor looking to die if I'm there I'm there yeah if you're there 149 00:14:25,980 --> 00:14:31,220 you're part of the process it's game on right but as far as like photos yet 150 00:14:31,220 --> 00:14:37,820 you'll never I will never be like hey let's take this close up put this is 151 00:14:37,820 --> 00:14:47,140 our capoean yeah put it on our cover photo for our travel folder it's like yeah 152 00:14:47,140 --> 00:14:55,020 I went to a pink taco island so now yeah yeah it's a lot but I think the fight 153 00:14:55,020 --> 00:15:00,620 and that's fine like if that's your thing yeah some people love it yeah and 154 00:15:00,620 --> 00:15:11,100 good for them but I just think that the filters and straight yeah I just think 155 00:15:11,100 --> 00:15:16,820 that the crazy filters be real yeah just be real I mean honestly if you're 156 00:15:16,820 --> 00:15:22,340 really looking to meet someone in IRL then you're going to they're gonna see 157 00:15:22,340 --> 00:15:28,740 you yeah you can't you can't I much rather actually like look almost worse 158 00:15:28,740 --> 00:15:32,100 in a photo and then them see me in real life and be like oh my gosh she's actually 159 00:15:32,100 --> 00:15:38,580 prettier that has that has has actually let's try that again that has actually 160 00:15:38,580 --> 00:15:42,580 happened to me personally yeah I've seen like a couple that's supposed to be going 161 00:15:42,580 --> 00:15:47,100 to a party and you know I've see I see their pictures and you know it's like 162 00:15:47,100 --> 00:15:51,540 cool whatever they're looking couple but it doesn't like it doesn't strike me but 163 00:15:51,540 --> 00:15:55,380 then when you actually see him at the party and you see him talking I see him 164 00:15:55,380 --> 00:15:59,980 laughing and smiling then all of a sudden that couple it just they just look 165 00:15:59,980 --> 00:16:05,180 better right and for a multitude of reasons right versus I've also seen the 166 00:16:05,180 --> 00:16:09,980 other way where you know you go to a party and you're expecting a you know 167 00:16:09,980 --> 00:16:15,540 girl a or couple a and you walk in and then they introduce themselves you're 168 00:16:15,540 --> 00:16:21,700 like oh not quite what I remembered right but you know it's just it's always 169 00:16:21,700 --> 00:16:25,020 great to meet everybody what whatever the story is it's it's always great to 170 00:16:25,020 --> 00:16:28,900 meet new people but yeah we enjoy sometimes it's just yeah exactly I'm 171 00:16:28,900 --> 00:16:33,980 just I'm not saying like I'm not saying you know you know what I mean like just 172 00:16:33,980 --> 00:16:41,340 be real come on girl just real and now like when we first started our profile I 173 00:16:41,340 --> 00:16:49,220 seen people put like some things and I was like that's really like superficial 174 00:16:49,220 --> 00:16:51,620 of them you know but I mean a lot of this is superficial like obviously we're 175 00:16:51,620 --> 00:16:55,220 not trying to like mate for life but I'm just kind of like wow they were really 176 00:16:55,220 --> 00:17:01,980 superficial or like they're like we have to see your your face you know and now I 177 00:17:01,980 --> 00:17:06,260 kind of get it a little bit more because that's the other thing you'll see just a 178 00:17:06,260 --> 00:17:10,660 woman's body and like not her face and I know for you like they have to have a 179 00:17:10,660 --> 00:17:17,460 pretty face yeah I'm big on faces yeah at least a somewhat like my my move my 180 00:17:17,460 --> 00:17:26,420 move is if I come across a profile and you know I enjoy like the body portion 181 00:17:26,420 --> 00:17:31,860 of it but the faces aren't on there I get it I understand it completely and 182 00:17:31,860 --> 00:17:36,880 that's normally where I'll send a BSP just kind of fishing just say a your 183 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:42,820 man's not in the profile you know let's see what's on that and then also faces 184 00:17:42,820 --> 00:17:48,140 because a face can make or break you know for me personally yeah that's another 185 00:17:48,140 --> 00:17:53,820 subject on Cassidy that we've talked about is when the dude isn't in it so 186 00:17:53,820 --> 00:17:56,980 it's like all pictures of the girl which is fine because I mean obviously 187 00:17:56,980 --> 00:18:01,340 that's what draws most people in because I said before most women I mean in our 188 00:18:01,340 --> 00:18:05,660 profile I'm not very prevalent but I'm there right like there's enough of me you 189 00:18:05,660 --> 00:18:09,620 can you know what you're getting right we don't need I mean we don't need a 190 00:18:09,620 --> 00:18:14,340 million albums of the man but like at least show a few pictures of you guys 191 00:18:14,340 --> 00:18:19,420 together even if you're not gonna show your faces just because and like I said 192 00:18:19,420 --> 00:18:25,300 I know what I started to say was I know that a lot of women in the lifestyle are 193 00:18:25,300 --> 00:18:34,620 bisexual so obviously and then the men like women so it's the women are who 194 00:18:34,620 --> 00:18:39,100 draws you know you ends I get having all those pictures of a woman but at the 195 00:18:39,100 --> 00:18:45,340 same time as a couple I want to see that the dude looks good too and I and I good 196 00:18:45,340 --> 00:18:50,420 I'm not super I'm not superficial like no no no just you know one of us are I 197 00:18:50,420 --> 00:18:55,980 mean yeah just you have us we all have a certain level of expectation whether 198 00:18:55,980 --> 00:19:00,860 whether whatever it is and that that level of expectation expectation 199 00:19:00,860 --> 00:19:07,060 changes daily right and it changes based on very many variables right a lot of 200 00:19:07,060 --> 00:19:11,100 them aren't even physical variables right for me it's like a lot of it is 201 00:19:11,100 --> 00:19:15,540 personality but I can't see that from a photo but I'm just looking at a photo I 202 00:19:15,540 --> 00:19:23,260 want to see a there's a dude there and be that he you know could potentially yeah 203 00:19:23,260 --> 00:19:29,700 I don't even have a type but like I'm not interested in you know and then of 204 00:19:29,700 --> 00:19:35,140 course I you know you can't you can't read much into a photo but you can read 205 00:19:35,140 --> 00:19:40,660 body language right so especially it when they're like a couples together you 206 00:19:40,660 --> 00:19:44,300 know if they're holding hands in the picture or if they have their arms around 207 00:19:44,300 --> 00:19:47,540 each other or if they're smiling in the picture you know there's a lot of things 208 00:19:47,540 --> 00:19:52,940 that you can you know a lot of details you can pull from a photo right that you 209 00:19:52,940 --> 00:19:58,380 know and I'm big yeah they're fun where they are are they at a bar or are they 210 00:19:58,380 --> 00:20:03,620 at a you know motorcycle convention or they at a library like you know I can 211 00:20:03,620 --> 00:20:07,780 look at those three scenarios and say well I'm most likely gonna get along 212 00:20:07,780 --> 00:20:14,420 with the person that's at the bar right yeah so basically to get where we're 213 00:20:14,420 --> 00:20:19,140 we're going oh we started with filters and then we kind of went through yeah 214 00:20:19,140 --> 00:20:23,660 well I was gonna say since we're on the Cassidy conversation and what your 215 00:20:23,660 --> 00:20:27,900 profile should and shouldn't have on it or maybe think maybe things to think 216 00:20:27,900 --> 00:20:31,940 about I guess when you're putting a profile out there is one thing that one 217 00:20:31,940 --> 00:20:36,380 of our friends was like you read the profiles and I know guys in general 218 00:20:36,380 --> 00:20:41,620 probably aren't you know sitting there scrolling the profile to read it but I 219 00:20:41,620 --> 00:20:48,180 do so if it's inaccurate information and I meet you I'm probably gonna approach 220 00:20:48,180 --> 00:20:53,580 it differently like if you if I see like I don't know I mean I haven't really had 221 00:20:53,580 --> 00:21:02,060 a situation where it's been like super super inaccurate information but like it's 222 00:21:02,060 --> 00:21:07,140 just like if you if you're gonna put something out there put put it out put 223 00:21:07,140 --> 00:21:11,860 out accurate information and also the profile can say a lot about you too 224 00:21:11,860 --> 00:21:16,060 because there's some I've seen that it's like must show faces height weight 225 00:21:16,060 --> 00:21:21,860 proportionate we only like blonde people or whatever they're just very very 226 00:21:21,860 --> 00:21:26,060 specific and that's totally fine but then I'm like okay well that's not that 227 00:21:26,060 --> 00:21:29,740 immediately cuts us out yeah and it probably immediately cuts a lot of 228 00:21:29,740 --> 00:21:35,380 people out and for me at least why we're in it is variety like if I wanted the 229 00:21:35,380 --> 00:21:42,340 exact person I'm married to what is the point right I mean there are aspects 230 00:21:42,340 --> 00:21:46,380 that kind of are important to me just because I have to be able to get along 231 00:21:46,380 --> 00:21:55,100 with the person just because our our way of playing is not you know fuck them 232 00:21:55,100 --> 00:22:01,300 and leave like we're we like to really into foot stuff and no we're not we 233 00:22:01,300 --> 00:22:07,580 really like to but we do enjoy like the social aspect of it yeah I say actually 234 00:22:07,580 --> 00:22:11,660 a big part of it for us I enjoy the social aspect most of it yeah the 235 00:22:11,660 --> 00:22:17,180 flirtin right and you know everything that happens after that is is a bonus 236 00:22:17,180 --> 00:22:21,740 the whipped cream on the cherry and the whipped cream and you know it doesn't 237 00:22:21,740 --> 00:22:24,420 always go that way and sometimes it does sometimes it doesn't and but 238 00:22:24,420 --> 00:22:31,420 ultimately that the social part of it's the the most fun which is why we're not 239 00:22:31,420 --> 00:22:38,100 a you know a blind date type of couple right but I mean like I said before I'm 240 00:22:38,100 --> 00:22:43,460 not opposed to it but there has to be a lot of that profile that clicks like you 241 00:22:43,460 --> 00:22:49,020 know we share a football team together like we like to go to the bar same 242 00:22:49,020 --> 00:22:53,540 bars together or not same bars together but the same bars as each other there 243 00:22:53,540 --> 00:22:57,580 has to be enough in that profile to make us do that otherwise we're more of a 244 00:22:57,580 --> 00:23:06,740 party meeting greets you know that aspect of right speaking of meeting 245 00:23:06,740 --> 00:23:11,420 greets speaking of we actually haven't been to a meet and greet in a minute 246 00:23:11,420 --> 00:23:17,460 it's been a little bit because but what got us started back or not got us started 247 00:23:17,460 --> 00:23:25,780 back so after our last so our last podcast we talked about our experience 248 00:23:25,780 --> 00:23:34,820 our first experience with another couple at Freedom makers and then we talked 249 00:23:34,820 --> 00:23:41,300 about how the big C hit and everything shut down and we you know digested what 250 00:23:41,300 --> 00:23:47,980 happened that night and then we kind of started researching and we were home 251 00:23:47,980 --> 00:23:53,660 doing nothing so why not then we orchestrated a gang bang right no and 252 00:23:53,660 --> 00:23:59,460 then we we thought about it though but then we started kind of looking at 253 00:23:59,460 --> 00:24:05,580 things we were on reddit and we didn't really know how did you find out about 254 00:24:05,580 --> 00:24:15,020 Cassidy hmm I think I think like you said we are on reddit and we started kind 255 00:24:15,020 --> 00:24:24,580 of diving into like as exhibitionism type stuff and then we started kind of 256 00:24:24,580 --> 00:24:29,820 talking to a few couples and we tease the ideas of meeting up right and then the 257 00:24:29,820 --> 00:24:34,300 then the idea kind of started coming back and like maybe we maybe we should do 258 00:24:34,300 --> 00:24:39,980 this and then I think by this point I was starting to listen to some podcast 259 00:24:39,980 --> 00:24:46,140 okay yeah yeah but most of them are on the east coast 260 00:24:46,140 --> 00:24:55,260 or Central America like the center of America like Midwest I guess yeah yeah yeah for sure 261 00:24:55,260 --> 00:25:00,460 do you recall when we signed up for Cassidy no I remember the exact moment 262 00:25:00,460 --> 00:25:07,380 stop I do we were in Vegas we were we were in Vegas and we were sitting at that 263 00:25:07,380 --> 00:25:15,660 bar that had that really kind of dirty name bar no it was like they had all the 264 00:25:15,660 --> 00:25:18,820 drinks were like innuendo it might have been might have been a gay bar I'm not 265 00:25:18,820 --> 00:25:21,340 sure it might have been a teak no I don't think it was a teak bar but it was 266 00:25:21,340 --> 00:25:28,420 upstairs it was like a shoe maybe a shoe yeah it was a weird weird setup but 267 00:25:28,420 --> 00:25:36,700 anyways we are up there I I remember the drinks were called like Bingham in the 268 00:25:36,700 --> 00:25:43,940 booty juice like it was I think it was a gay bar that sounds valid but it was all 269 00:25:43,940 --> 00:25:49,740 very like I said very innuendo drinks however I mean in the butt is not in 270 00:25:49,740 --> 00:25:55,380 you and that's straight to the point come on her face hmm I wonder what they 271 00:25:55,380 --> 00:26:06,100 mean by that so clever so so anyways so um I believe by that point we were or I 272 00:26:06,100 --> 00:26:10,660 was kind of talking or listening to the podcast a little bit kind of talking 273 00:26:10,660 --> 00:26:15,940 to you about a little bit and we were there and I said hey we should sign up 274 00:26:15,940 --> 00:26:20,620 for Cassidy just you know kind of check it out see what's going on and you're 275 00:26:20,620 --> 00:26:26,020 like okay and I pulled my phone out you're like already have the profile 276 00:26:26,020 --> 00:26:32,220 set up I have it all here the website I just need the credit card information and 277 00:26:32,220 --> 00:26:37,780 I was like or you know we could do like we could go monthly or we could just buy 278 00:26:37,780 --> 00:26:43,180 the whole year and you're like a deal person so you're like what's the monthly 279 00:26:43,180 --> 00:26:49,180 and I think it was something like $20 a month or something and then you're like 280 00:26:49,180 --> 00:26:53,260 alright what's the yearly and it was like that's a hundred or something you're 281 00:26:53,260 --> 00:26:58,300 like alright just do a year and I'm like oh like we have a year of this like it 282 00:26:58,300 --> 00:27:03,460 doesn't work out this is gonna suck so you just close it but you but it's there 283 00:27:03,460 --> 00:27:08,180 it's like the puppy you can't play with that's for you I'm like I would forget 284 00:27:08,180 --> 00:27:15,140 about it we we set it up and like that was it off to the races so we started 285 00:27:15,140 --> 00:27:19,780 kind of if you're not part of Cassidy it's it's very similar to all the other 286 00:27:19,780 --> 00:27:25,620 LS data and websites and stuff it's you know you put your location in and you 287 00:27:25,620 --> 00:27:30,420 you know look up people in that area or you look up parties or communities and 288 00:27:30,420 --> 00:27:35,940 stuff like that so we started looking and we found that there was a community 289 00:27:35,940 --> 00:27:42,180 based you know really close to where we live so we started looking around and 290 00:27:42,180 --> 00:27:47,060 then it seemed pretty cool this particular person held a bunch of parties 291 00:27:47,060 --> 00:27:54,780 in area and was also known for holding meeting greets and at the time the 292 00:27:54,780 --> 00:28:00,220 community was hanky-panky but it's now embraced lifestyle events or something 293 00:28:00,220 --> 00:28:04,900 like that she rebranded anyways it was hanky-panky when we first started going 294 00:28:04,900 --> 00:28:10,300 and they did meeting greets at these local bars so that was kind of our first 295 00:28:10,300 --> 00:28:19,900 we walked in well what I didn't it's a very local bar and I didn't want to I 296 00:28:19,900 --> 00:28:23,980 didn't I get I think what you said at the time they were doing like wristbands 297 00:28:23,980 --> 00:28:29,260 or something if you so it was like they had kind of a section of it wasn't a 298 00:28:29,260 --> 00:28:33,700 full takeover of the bar it was like they had a section of the bar exactly and 299 00:28:33,700 --> 00:28:39,580 they they she wanted you you know if you're part of it to go over and get a 300 00:28:39,580 --> 00:28:44,380 wristband so other people would know in the bar which makes perfect sense was who 301 00:28:44,380 --> 00:28:48,260 it did make it does make sense but not when you're scared to death not when 302 00:28:48,260 --> 00:28:54,140 you're terrified for like people to see you that you aren't sure you know because 303 00:28:54,140 --> 00:28:57,300 it wasn't a full takeover so literally anybody could have been at that bar yeah 304 00:28:57,300 --> 00:29:00,140 and I mean not that they would have necessarily known if they didn't know 305 00:29:00,140 --> 00:29:06,180 what a bracelet was but I would know what I would be freaking out so we just sat 306 00:29:06,180 --> 00:29:13,940 in another part of the bar and just watched we held up the wall all the 307 00:29:13,940 --> 00:29:16,940 craziness go no there wasn't really craziness but we just kind of like 308 00:29:16,940 --> 00:29:20,420 people watched and like saw who went in and out and like what they were doing 309 00:29:20,420 --> 00:29:28,740 and kind of just tried to get our bearings and we had a couple sit next 310 00:29:28,740 --> 00:29:32,740 or sit we were at a long bar and somebody sat the same table as us 311 00:29:32,740 --> 00:29:39,420 essentially and they were kind of talking in code and code and we were like 312 00:29:39,420 --> 00:29:43,100 okay and they didn't have wristbands either so we weren't the only ones who 313 00:29:43,100 --> 00:29:49,660 were there in code like incognito yeah very very much so but I think you said 314 00:29:49,660 --> 00:29:53,500 that there was a couple there like that saw us dancing or something and then 315 00:29:53,500 --> 00:29:59,900 they hit us up on Cassidy or right mm-hmm yep that was actually the second 316 00:29:59,900 --> 00:30:03,900 time we did a meet and greet there oh the second time okay but we kind of did 317 00:30:03,900 --> 00:30:08,380 the same thing we didn't really second one we were we were coming from a party 318 00:30:08,380 --> 00:30:15,940 so we were right much more liquored up and we were having a much I'm mixing the 319 00:30:15,940 --> 00:30:23,020 two yeah the the second time is when we came in from that pirate party yeah and 320 00:30:23,020 --> 00:30:27,300 that's when we were dancing on a dance floor and that's when oh the first one 321 00:30:27,300 --> 00:30:32,260 we wore those shirts I like his beard yeah I like her butt yeah we were kind of 322 00:30:32,260 --> 00:30:39,580 you know being a little tongue-in-cheek tongue-in-bong yeah we were kind of like 323 00:30:39,580 --> 00:30:44,700 we wanted to you know wear like a sexual shirt but didn't want to completely 324 00:30:44,700 --> 00:30:51,140 yeah lower cover upside down pineapple at that time we no we did no I think did 325 00:30:51,140 --> 00:30:56,140 we know I mean I think so I don't know maybe maybe we had a hint probably 326 00:30:56,140 --> 00:31:01,620 probably had an idea at that point yeah but we went to a bunch of her events 327 00:31:01,620 --> 00:31:07,020 right and we went to a few Halloween parties that she hosted right we met 328 00:31:07,020 --> 00:31:10,900 some good people yeah we're still friends with yeah we had met a good group of 329 00:31:10,900 --> 00:31:19,820 people there and then a hanky-panky she I want to I want a costume contest just 330 00:31:19,820 --> 00:31:25,980 the last first one and then we won the Halloween yeah yeah the Halloween party 331 00:31:25,980 --> 00:31:30,700 yeah yeah and then we at we won the meeting greet contest oh yeah we won oh 332 00:31:30,700 --> 00:31:36,420 yeah we were actually lucky with her her crowd loves us I guess I won the first 333 00:31:36,420 --> 00:31:41,540 Halloween party we went to I won the costume contest the second Halloween 334 00:31:41,540 --> 00:31:50,260 party we went to we as a couple won the couple costume contest and then the one 335 00:31:50,260 --> 00:31:56,100 that was at the meet and greet we won that one as a accidentally actually got 336 00:31:56,100 --> 00:32:01,060 entered in unknowingly and then one that one yeah well now I feel like we have to 337 00:32:01,060 --> 00:32:08,780 tell what our costumes were so the first one where I won was I was a mermaid you 338 00:32:08,780 --> 00:32:15,580 were mermaid and you were a captain my outfit wasn't quite as impressive right 339 00:32:15,580 --> 00:32:21,580 this is a topless mermaid I think yeah my boobs that did it that one just 340 00:32:21,580 --> 00:32:28,620 clenched the wind and then the second one the second Halloween costume contest 341 00:32:28,620 --> 00:32:36,220 that we won we were Fred Flintstone and Betty Rubble the original swingers some 342 00:32:36,220 --> 00:32:39,100 people looked at us and they're like they kind of got it but then they once 343 00:32:39,100 --> 00:32:46,460 they thought about it they're like oh damn okay yeah yeah and then this year 344 00:32:46,460 --> 00:32:54,460 we should go as Barney and switch it and then the one that we won at the bar the 345 00:32:54,460 --> 00:32:58,500 meet and greet where we didn't enter ourselves we didn't even know there was 346 00:32:58,500 --> 00:33:06,260 a costume contest I don't think but it was also Halloween meet and greet we were 347 00:33:06,260 --> 00:33:11,140 Bundy Peggy Bundy and Al Bundy yes like not the 348 00:33:11,140 --> 00:33:24,020 serial killer we're Ted Bundy and his victims no we were Alan Peg Bundy and I 349 00:33:24,020 --> 00:33:28,860 think the bartender's boyfriend entered us because he was like this is so good and 350 00:33:28,860 --> 00:33:32,820 then yeah I remember we were in the audience is drinking with some friends 351 00:33:32,820 --> 00:33:39,660 and we heard Al Alan Peg Bundy please come to the stage and we're like what and 352 00:33:39,660 --> 00:33:42,980 they're like their motion and at us and like yelling at us like let's go you're 353 00:33:42,980 --> 00:33:47,180 slowing down our costume contest right we just kind of me and they're up there 354 00:33:47,180 --> 00:33:51,860 and we're standing there like still in shock like what the hell is going on I 355 00:33:51,860 --> 00:33:56,700 hit somebody off though we did Alice in Wonderland group was really mad because 356 00:33:56,700 --> 00:34:01,700 they did a lot of work on their makeup but we literally ordered ours on Amazon 357 00:34:01,700 --> 00:34:05,900 and these people probably designed their designer I heard that those people go 358 00:34:05,900 --> 00:34:09,380 around town and try to just win costume contest like they're that's like what 359 00:34:09,380 --> 00:34:13,540 they do I don't know professional cost to my ears like they're part of like the 360 00:34:13,540 --> 00:34:19,340 drama group or something probably but the couple that was second place I don't 361 00:34:19,340 --> 00:34:23,740 know they were their costume was good but they were the most interesting man in 362 00:34:23,740 --> 00:34:27,340 the world in a bottle of beer I think yeah yeah yeah I've seen that one before 363 00:34:27,340 --> 00:34:32,180 actually that someone else I think it was at the Halloween party we were at 364 00:34:32,180 --> 00:34:37,660 that we won whatever anyway one of the Halloween parties you're like one of 365 00:34:37,660 --> 00:34:46,140 the ones that we won there's so many of them I know but so yeah communities and 366 00:34:46,140 --> 00:34:51,300 groups are good ways to meet and greets are good like soft ways to meet people 367 00:34:51,300 --> 00:34:55,980 like you're not there's not pressure yeah there's not a lot of pressure there's 368 00:34:55,980 --> 00:35:00,780 always an after-party right so if you really want to or a before party or 369 00:35:00,780 --> 00:35:04,740 before party but if you want to step it up to the next level there's definitely 370 00:35:04,740 --> 00:35:09,540 someone in the crowd that's ready to go there but most of them overall the 371 00:35:09,540 --> 00:35:14,780 meeting greets are very kind of low-key low pressure pressure and they're a 372 00:35:14,780 --> 00:35:20,180 blast though yeah me personally and then we have another group that were part of 373 00:35:20,180 --> 00:35:25,100 that does well you they've not done meet and greet in a minute but they do 374 00:35:25,100 --> 00:35:30,500 parties mm-hmm you're gonna say their name I'm looking at you I was watching 375 00:35:30,500 --> 00:35:35,380 so yeah basically let me backtrack just a little bit let me backtrack just a 376 00:35:35,380 --> 00:35:38,900 little backtrack so we got this hanky-panky group and we were you know 377 00:35:38,900 --> 00:35:44,180 really loyal to her parties and stuff like that and but um she kind of started 378 00:35:44,180 --> 00:35:50,060 toning down in her toning down her events a little bit she stopped doing as many 379 00:35:50,060 --> 00:35:53,940 house parties and the meeting greets started to be more of like a quarterly 380 00:35:53,940 --> 00:35:59,260 or like almost a yeah I guess a quarterly thing so we kind of had to fill 381 00:35:59,260 --> 00:36:02,500 the void with something so we you know we started looking more towards our other 382 00:36:02,500 --> 00:36:08,100 communities and we found there's a community local to our area and Riverside 383 00:36:08,100 --> 00:36:14,900 County called DTF communities and so we were looking at their profile and they 384 00:36:14,900 --> 00:36:19,300 had a lot of a lot of people in the group and and the the host were attractive 385 00:36:19,300 --> 00:36:24,540 people and really all right let's check this out so they used to do meeting 386 00:36:24,540 --> 00:36:35,820 greets monthly out in men ify area at a bar which I will not name and they used 387 00:36:35,820 --> 00:36:40,140 to do it monthly and it was a great time and that place was packed I mean it 388 00:36:40,140 --> 00:36:46,620 would it wouldn't be a hundred percent takeover but it basically was yeah the 389 00:36:46,620 --> 00:36:53,220 bar was a really slow in general and so when their 200 people showed up it was 390 00:36:53,220 --> 00:36:59,180 yeah primarily a takeover yeah I mean yeah this bar cool bar at all but yeah on 391 00:36:59,180 --> 00:37:03,140 a standard standard Saturday night you know you're lucky if you have 20 392 00:37:03,140 --> 00:37:08,460 regulars in there you know drinking beer so you knew it was a big space a big 393 00:37:08,460 --> 00:37:12,420 space a big restaurant with a big bar attached to a big dance floor stage and 394 00:37:12,420 --> 00:37:18,380 it was a great venue but it just didn't do anything particularly in this area but 395 00:37:18,380 --> 00:37:22,100 on the meeting greet nights it was popping there'd be two to three hundred 396 00:37:22,100 --> 00:37:27,540 people there so we started going to those and we met a you know really fun 397 00:37:27,540 --> 00:37:35,140 group of people we met the hosts Roberto and Catarina and they have like I said 398 00:37:35,140 --> 00:37:38,980 DTF communities you can check them out on Cassidy I don't I'm not sure if they're 399 00:37:38,980 --> 00:37:45,020 on whatever the other websites are I don't we don't have memberships on any 400 00:37:45,020 --> 00:37:49,340 other websites I can't remember what the other ones are called but I don't think 401 00:37:49,340 --> 00:37:56,100 they have any others but any who um so yeah we started going to these events and 402 00:37:56,100 --> 00:38:02,860 after COVID they started the meeting greets again but I guess pre COVID before 403 00:38:02,860 --> 00:38:07,100 we knew them before we were even you know really doing our stuff they were 404 00:38:07,100 --> 00:38:12,260 really well known in the area for having parties house parties yeah so after a 405 00:38:12,260 --> 00:38:15,980 while after everything kind of cleared up a little bit they decided to start 406 00:38:15,980 --> 00:38:20,060 hosting their parties again and they're called the Lest parties it's a house 407 00:38:20,060 --> 00:38:26,340 party and it's great fun I guess that it's a great group of people we've met a 408 00:38:26,340 --> 00:38:31,380 lot of great friends there and is there anything else you'd like to share Emily 409 00:38:31,380 --> 00:38:38,100 about this community no I don't really think there's I think you said most of 410 00:38:38,100 --> 00:38:43,460 it but yeah we're gonna save some of it because here probably in the next you 411 00:38:43,460 --> 00:38:47,660 know two to three podcasts we're actually gonna bring them in here and do a 412 00:38:47,660 --> 00:38:51,820 interview with them so there'll be a lot of details about their group that will 413 00:38:51,820 --> 00:38:55,940 let them kind of fill in the dots I don't want to give away too much and I 414 00:38:55,940 --> 00:39:00,660 just kind of want to give you an idea of the group if you're in the area like I 415 00:39:00,660 --> 00:39:05,180 said Riverside County, San Bernardino County, LA County even, this group spans 416 00:39:05,180 --> 00:39:11,100 Orange County, San Diego, this uh yeah San Diego County this group spans quite far 417 00:39:11,100 --> 00:39:17,820 so it's a I think they have use of they have like 300 or 3,000 yeah 3,000 418 00:39:17,820 --> 00:39:23,940 members they have 300 but I mean no they have a shit ton of people members or 419 00:39:23,940 --> 00:39:29,900 more I don't know it's I think it's 4,000 yeah and you know we're part of a 420 00:39:29,900 --> 00:39:34,780 lot of communities in this area and most most communities are you know a thousand 421 00:39:34,780 --> 00:39:39,780 maybe 1200 so they're definitely doing it for a while yeah exactly and I think 422 00:39:39,780 --> 00:39:46,940 what I like about their group is that it's diverse yes I know we've been to 423 00:39:46,940 --> 00:39:52,660 some things where it's not as diverse and I just like the diversity like it's I 424 00:39:52,660 --> 00:39:56,700 don't know I've talked about this before about being clicky and things like that 425 00:39:56,700 --> 00:40:01,340 and I think that while some people can and I can even get caught up in that when 426 00:40:01,340 --> 00:40:06,220 I'm with like all my friends you know in the lifestyle you don't do it on purpose 427 00:40:06,220 --> 00:40:11,900 but no when you have that group of your core group and you're in a conversation 428 00:40:11,900 --> 00:40:16,660 you accidentally right and you've told me many times you know I'll be talking 429 00:40:16,660 --> 00:40:21,980 and I'll inadvertently like back you know back myself in in front of somebody 430 00:40:21,980 --> 00:40:25,740 and cut them out of the group and you're like hey like move you're cutting them 431 00:40:25,740 --> 00:40:29,740 out I'm like oh shoot you know yeah I don't mean to but it's just that happens 432 00:40:29,740 --> 00:40:35,260 yeah well we do our best to try include everybody that we can into things as 433 00:40:35,260 --> 00:40:41,980 much as they want to be included some people are like don't talk to us but I 434 00:40:41,980 --> 00:40:48,460 was gonna say that we so we we do go to their parties but before we were going 435 00:40:48,460 --> 00:40:51,700 to their parties like we said we were going to the hinky-pinky parties and 436 00:40:51,700 --> 00:40:59,140 one party that kind of actually we just re ran into somebody that we met at that 437 00:40:59,140 --> 00:41:05,580 party at the pool that she was at the last Halloween party we were at mm-hmm 438 00:41:05,580 --> 00:41:12,220 and then and she's aggressive like right didn't she message you before and was 439 00:41:12,220 --> 00:41:15,900 like I'm gonna I want to fuck you guys or something and I was like well that's 440 00:41:15,900 --> 00:41:23,820 kind of intimidating I think that was verbatim yeah it was something it was 441 00:41:23,820 --> 00:41:28,140 something very much to that like it was like hey we're going to the party we 442 00:41:28,140 --> 00:41:36,060 want to play with you guys yeah and I I personally don't I'm not as intimidated 443 00:41:36,060 --> 00:41:42,940 by that but I can see how it could be very like it's very forward it's yeah 444 00:41:42,940 --> 00:41:47,500 and I mean I get it good for her but yeah there's absolutely nothing terrifies me 445 00:41:47,500 --> 00:41:54,940 there's absolutely nothing bad about her approach because for me I like to 446 00:41:54,940 --> 00:42:00,740 know intent I like to know intent like I know I want to know exactly what you're 447 00:42:00,740 --> 00:42:04,780 expecting and what you're cool with and all that stuff because my biggest thing 448 00:42:04,780 --> 00:42:12,420 is I'm I can be very shy I can be very very introverted so I'm not typically 449 00:42:12,420 --> 00:42:18,700 gonna be the one to make any type of first move unless I know you know I'm 450 00:42:18,700 --> 00:42:23,860 very confident that you're attracted to me and you wish to pursue this or 451 00:42:23,860 --> 00:42:27,860 whatever so when I get a message especially from a woman and it's like 452 00:42:27,860 --> 00:42:34,940 hey this is what I want ABC that tells me alright I know exactly what you know 453 00:42:34,940 --> 00:42:41,220 yeah is expected of me or whatever yeah I'm cool but I can see how it can be 454 00:42:41,220 --> 00:42:45,260 like right and it didn't end up happening that night oh not at all because she got 455 00:42:45,260 --> 00:42:53,660 so drunk yeah poor thing and but we did end up talking to another group of 456 00:42:53,660 --> 00:42:57,060 people I don't know if you had talked to them before or you just met them there 457 00:42:57,060 --> 00:43:03,460 but there was one couple we were interested in and they I did not talk to 458 00:43:03,460 --> 00:43:06,380 them at all there's two couples that I knew were going that I'm like all right 459 00:43:06,380 --> 00:43:11,660 these these guys kind of fit our our profile right you know I could see the 460 00:43:11,660 --> 00:43:16,540 interest could be both you know for you and I yeah and when they walked in I 461 00:43:16,540 --> 00:43:22,820 remember I was like yeah you can't point right but I can 462 00:43:22,820 --> 00:43:27,740 don't be weird you can point here because then point and shows interest so we were 463 00:43:27,740 --> 00:43:32,060 really interested in them I think for me I was more interested in them than any 464 00:43:32,060 --> 00:43:37,020 of the other ones like I was I was kind of good with I was good with both the 465 00:43:37,020 --> 00:43:39,660 couples we were talking to I mean I was good with both of them but I felt more 466 00:43:39,660 --> 00:43:46,580 of like the chat seemed to flow better I guess yeah yeah and the other the other 467 00:43:46,580 --> 00:43:52,460 couple that had the emergency they they did seem to like I think they were kind 468 00:43:52,460 --> 00:43:57,180 of newish yeah some people say like oh we got out of it we got into it back into 469 00:43:57,180 --> 00:44:00,260 it that's what they were trained we're trying to kind of figure out our feet 470 00:44:00,260 --> 00:44:04,100 and stuff so they were a little more they're like one point they were talking 471 00:44:04,100 --> 00:44:06,680 and then they kind of went over to your corner and we're talking a little bit and 472 00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:11,660 came back so I kind of got that feeling of like apprehension from them yeah I 473 00:44:11,660 --> 00:44:16,180 did too and it kind of killed the flow of the conversation a little bit for sure 474 00:44:16,180 --> 00:44:19,700 I mean right well and then they had an emergency and then they had to take off 475 00:44:19,700 --> 00:44:26,500 they left the party but a girl and her man I mean he they were obviously 476 00:44:26,500 --> 00:44:32,860 pushing for to hook up with us but then it's like I said she got really drunk so 477 00:44:32,860 --> 00:44:37,340 she couldn't participate any longer I think he probably took her home or 478 00:44:37,340 --> 00:44:42,020 something at some point I don't know where they went but anyway we ended up 479 00:44:42,020 --> 00:44:46,220 with that other I don't even know how that happened actually do you remember 480 00:44:46,220 --> 00:44:50,060 how that happened because we did end up with the other couple I know we went up 481 00:44:50,060 --> 00:44:56,620 stairs do you remember how it was so fast and we have been drinking I've been 482 00:44:56,620 --> 00:45:03,460 drinking but I mean it was I think it was literally it was just literally like I 483 00:45:03,460 --> 00:45:07,220 think we were just you know having a chat about just random stuff and then you 484 00:45:07,220 --> 00:45:11,460 want to go upstairs maybe it was it was like that it was just yeah it was just 485 00:45:11,460 --> 00:45:17,660 so fast and we what's even funnier is like downstairs we didn't there wasn't a 486 00:45:17,660 --> 00:45:23,980 lot of like touching flirting right like normally most situations when we enter 487 00:45:23,980 --> 00:45:28,820 into a play situation there's always that that touch boundary a little bit of 488 00:45:28,820 --> 00:45:33,700 making out a little bit of booby slapping you know stuff like that but 489 00:45:33,700 --> 00:45:39,820 this was just like talking and then he's like let's go and that's I think I went 490 00:45:39,820 --> 00:45:45,460 upstairs and changed I'm sure you did you change it I think what happened was I 491 00:45:45,460 --> 00:45:49,580 feel like maybe I went upstairs to use the restroom or something and then I 492 00:45:49,580 --> 00:45:53,700 changed and then came back down and it was like well let's go back upstairs or 493 00:45:53,700 --> 00:45:59,380 so I don't know I feel like I don't know something I don't I don't remember but 494 00:45:59,380 --> 00:46:04,780 anyway it doesn't matter we ended up upstairs with them yes and we ended up 495 00:46:04,780 --> 00:46:12,760 well the trying to find a room but all the rooms were taken in the master 496 00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:19,900 bedroom there was a orgy and then there was some couples in the other bedroom 497 00:46:19,900 --> 00:46:25,900 there's one a bedroom downstairs there were couples in those rooms so I mean 498 00:46:25,900 --> 00:46:32,940 it was a big party so I think that we well we ended up going into the master 499 00:46:32,940 --> 00:46:36,780 bedroom bathroom because that seemed the most open like we weren't bugging 500 00:46:36,780 --> 00:46:45,620 anybody who was already an orgy right so I think he he bet me over the sink and 501 00:46:45,620 --> 00:46:50,820 started fucking me from behind what did you do I think you ate her out right 502 00:46:50,820 --> 00:46:57,220 yes I was I was eating her out from behind and also from forwards yeah there 503 00:46:57,220 --> 00:47:02,780 was a sippy in there but neither of us got on it yeah I was scared I didn't 504 00:47:02,780 --> 00:47:08,500 want to get on the sippy in person we definitely got to try that but not in 505 00:47:08,500 --> 00:47:13,940 the middle of an orgy right because yeah who knows what the clean-in protocol has 506 00:47:13,940 --> 00:47:20,780 been at that point right and so then so he was fucking me from behind you were 507 00:47:20,780 --> 00:47:25,180 eating her out all which ways and then we kind of moved over to the bed and 508 00:47:25,180 --> 00:47:31,820 things got a little like sketch there yeah then it we were kind of in an orgy 509 00:47:31,820 --> 00:47:36,260 and this party did allow single males and it was a lot of single males yeah and 510 00:47:36,260 --> 00:47:41,660 the girl you were with you realized at that point like that she was drunker 511 00:47:41,660 --> 00:47:46,820 than you thought she was well when when I was eating her out at the bathroom like 512 00:47:46,820 --> 00:47:51,980 I could tell she was drunk hell we all were right but she kind of seeing I 513 00:47:51,980 --> 00:47:55,620 could tell like alright maybe I don't know I'm not sure like exactly where this 514 00:47:55,620 --> 00:48:02,100 is gonna go and I was already kind of putting the mental breaks on in my head 515 00:48:02,100 --> 00:48:09,300 I'm like this is fun you know you kind of continue this you know angle but I 516 00:48:09,300 --> 00:48:14,540 don't know if I'm gonna go any further and then like you said we transferred 517 00:48:14,540 --> 00:48:19,420 over to the bed and she was on her back and and then like there was guys kind of 518 00:48:19,420 --> 00:48:24,180 feeling her from the side and and I was like sitting there between her legs and 519 00:48:24,180 --> 00:48:28,580 I just it just hit me at that point I'm like she's just out of it yeah the room 520 00:48:28,580 --> 00:48:33,300 was lit so in the bathroom we were obviously like it was dark so I think 521 00:48:33,300 --> 00:48:38,460 you can really see yeah because yeah now that you said that he was eating me out 522 00:48:38,460 --> 00:48:43,900 from the back too and then we went over to the I think he was trying to fuck me 523 00:48:43,900 --> 00:48:47,260 but I'm tall so I don't think he could so I think that's when he went to eating 524 00:48:47,260 --> 00:48:51,740 me out then we moved over to the bed and then he bent me over the bed and that's 525 00:48:51,740 --> 00:48:54,940 I think that's what that happened but then there was all the single males there 526 00:48:54,940 --> 00:48:59,260 and then you were like uncomfortable with the fact she was so drunk and people 527 00:48:59,260 --> 00:49:03,700 are trying to touch her and she didn't really seem like she realized it and yeah 528 00:49:03,700 --> 00:49:08,860 like and I was like I can't I was like I can't keep her in this situation yeah 529 00:49:08,860 --> 00:49:13,220 because a I'm not I'm done right and I'm not I'm not gonna it wasn't making you 530 00:49:13,220 --> 00:49:16,940 comfortable not at all and then there was other single guys trying to fuck me 531 00:49:16,940 --> 00:49:22,700 after him and I couldn't even see who they were yeah it was just you were 532 00:49:22,700 --> 00:49:26,780 already uncomfortable so it was like okay let's go yeah it was like it was fun 533 00:49:26,780 --> 00:49:31,420 for a little bit yeah it was an experience yeah and not to say anything 534 00:49:31,420 --> 00:49:36,060 bad about single guys but sometimes it's just like okay yeah I mean it was it was 535 00:49:36,060 --> 00:49:42,500 literally all dudes it was like a zoo of lions and when they throw that lamb leg 536 00:49:42,500 --> 00:49:48,380 over and they all fight over it that's exactly what it was and it was just it 537 00:49:48,380 --> 00:49:52,100 was creepy because they got into like a zombie mode and you know they're all 538 00:49:52,100 --> 00:49:56,340 drunk and yeah or on drugs who knows who knows I'm just like this is this is not 539 00:49:56,340 --> 00:50:02,580 my scene and you know that was that was our first intro to anything like that 540 00:50:02,580 --> 00:50:07,140 right that was pretty in pretty intense but I mean we didn't purposely do that 541 00:50:07,140 --> 00:50:11,620 we went upstairs with the intention on going with a couple yeah and then you 542 00:50:11,620 --> 00:50:15,780 know once I think they were much more experienced at us because I think they 543 00:50:15,780 --> 00:50:19,540 the ones that ultimately like said all right fine let's just go into this 544 00:50:19,540 --> 00:50:23,220 bedroom you know what I mean it was like if it was if there was us you know 545 00:50:23,220 --> 00:50:26,340 driving that bus we probably would have been like well let's just go back downstairs 546 00:50:26,340 --> 00:50:31,180 and you know maybe something will open up later right but yeah we definitely got 547 00:50:31,180 --> 00:50:35,500 drawn into that it was fun but it was pretty intense I think at some point too 548 00:50:35,500 --> 00:50:41,320 I was on the floor like on the bedroom floor which like I don't know I lost all 549 00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:47,660 kinds of things that night I had because I was Betty Rubble I had bone clips in 550 00:50:47,660 --> 00:50:54,340 my hair and I had bone clips on my clothes and I had my earrings and still 551 00:50:54,340 --> 00:51:00,260 never found those earrings but yeah and then we went so we but we saved the night 552 00:51:00,260 --> 00:51:05,340 so we went downstairs and we're like okay it was late though it was super late 553 00:51:05,340 --> 00:51:09,980 at that point at that point everybody was gone except who was in the rooms 554 00:51:09,980 --> 00:51:15,260 basically right people were waiting on ubers you know it the party itself was 555 00:51:15,260 --> 00:51:19,540 definitely winded down yeah and then I don't know how it happened I don't know 556 00:51:19,540 --> 00:51:23,100 why like I don't know why I never remember how these things happen I guess 557 00:51:23,100 --> 00:51:29,820 because they just happen but I was there waiting we were waiting for our Uber I 558 00:51:29,820 --> 00:51:36,900 had gotten basically dressed again into something to get into an Uber and I'm 559 00:51:36,900 --> 00:51:40,340 understanding that the front door was just on the door just on the inside of 560 00:51:40,340 --> 00:51:43,700 the front door and all of a sudden I'm on my knees giving three guys blowjobs 561 00:51:43,700 --> 00:51:51,140 like I don't know how that and I became the third okay I remember three dicks 562 00:51:51,140 --> 00:51:58,220 I it wasn't actively third like I was I poked in just so I'm like hey because 563 00:51:58,220 --> 00:52:02,820 then there was a there's another woman there that was also there with her her 564 00:52:02,820 --> 00:52:06,100 husband her husband was kind of off just a little bit to decide talking to 565 00:52:06,100 --> 00:52:08,940 somebody else and yeah he had talked to me originally earlier and then I think 566 00:52:08,940 --> 00:52:12,980 he had talked to me actually before I started giving those guys blowjobs like 567 00:52:12,980 --> 00:52:18,980 almost I think wanting to play too but I wasn't really sure yeah yeah yeah we were 568 00:52:18,980 --> 00:52:22,900 like we're we're kind of checked out at that point right we were ready to go and 569 00:52:22,900 --> 00:52:28,100 then yeah I'm standing there and and you know she's over there doing her thing on 570 00:52:28,100 --> 00:52:34,860 her under knees I'm like okay party's still going and I'm talking to this 571 00:52:34,860 --> 00:52:39,020 other woman and and you know she's good looking I'm telling her how good looking 572 00:52:39,020 --> 00:52:42,740 she is and she's kind of stand there and she's having a good time and then I'm 573 00:52:42,740 --> 00:52:47,100 like hey what are you allowed to do are you are you allowed to play or like you 574 00:52:47,100 --> 00:52:50,220 guys just like you know what's your dynamic and she goes I can do anything I 575 00:52:50,220 --> 00:52:57,220 want I go well do you happen to want to suck my dick and she just she jumped 576 00:52:57,220 --> 00:53:01,900 straight down and went went to town and I remember sitting there like get not done 577 00:53:01,900 --> 00:53:07,740 I looked over at you and you had your hands full and yeah that was a great 578 00:53:07,740 --> 00:53:11,820 end to the night and you're watching your phone like we have an uber coming I'm 579 00:53:11,820 --> 00:53:16,300 one literally yeah that's the worst that has happened to us a couple of times now 580 00:53:16,300 --> 00:53:19,700 and it's the worst right well I don't have to deal with that you just tell me we 581 00:53:19,700 --> 00:53:26,580 gotta go I am the the uber tracker and I don't like being late I don't I hate 582 00:53:26,580 --> 00:53:30,580 making anybody wait for me well plus it's hard to get one that late at night it 583 00:53:30,580 --> 00:53:34,820 was like probably three or four it was three just about 3 a.m. and yeah you 584 00:53:34,820 --> 00:53:38,340 kind of you don't get this one you're not gonna it was raining that day and 585 00:53:38,340 --> 00:53:43,220 there was other people there waiting for it so it was like so I just remember 586 00:53:43,220 --> 00:53:49,420 like okay it's gotta go gotta go and I've I hate telling you know woman like you 587 00:53:49,420 --> 00:53:54,860 have to stop I am sorry you have to stop 588 00:53:54,860 --> 00:54:00,460 that's the word there was a another actual because that's that's the end of 589 00:54:00,460 --> 00:54:06,540 that story right yeah then we never came we got an over we went home but just to 590 00:54:06,540 --> 00:54:12,260 kind of briefly touch on a very similar thing we were actually one of these DTF 591 00:54:12,260 --> 00:54:18,460 less parties and normally we have a you know a full range of the night available 592 00:54:18,460 --> 00:54:21,860 to us you know we don't have any times we have to be home but on this particular 593 00:54:21,860 --> 00:54:28,700 night we did have to be home and I had called the Uber and all of a sudden the 594 00:54:28,700 --> 00:54:35,500 kitchen turned into four or five guys lined up against the kitchen oven area 595 00:54:35,500 --> 00:54:40,340 we're all down there our pants are down and women are just like twerking on us 596 00:54:40,340 --> 00:54:44,700 it was just like out of nowhere just happened so I got this I got this you 597 00:54:44,700 --> 00:54:48,340 know but just bouncing all up and down my dick and my dick's flopping all over 598 00:54:48,340 --> 00:54:55,900 the place and I'm like Uber fuck and again it's one of those situations like 599 00:54:55,900 --> 00:55:00,620 excuse me ma'am I'm gonna need you to like pass her off to somebody else you're 600 00:55:00,620 --> 00:55:06,220 like I'm just gonna move your little tiny bit to the left I'm like you're like 601 00:55:06,220 --> 00:55:10,420 welcome you're welcome friend to the guy next to you exactly next now you got 602 00:55:10,420 --> 00:55:16,100 to so that those situations they just they pop up on you sometimes you know 603 00:55:16,100 --> 00:55:21,660 you're having a good time then all of a sudden oh shit yeah and that's what we've 604 00:55:21,660 --> 00:55:25,500 always said we're like the crazy thing about this like not the crazy thing but 605 00:55:25,500 --> 00:55:31,340 the I don't know the one thing about this is that you just never know yeah you 606 00:55:31,340 --> 00:55:36,660 just never know like things we've gone to parties and we've done nothing like 607 00:55:36,660 --> 00:55:42,460 we've just we've gone we've gone many good people and yeah like we've gone to 608 00:55:42,460 --> 00:55:47,620 parties with quote-unquote intentions which is not anything you should do and 609 00:55:47,620 --> 00:55:53,700 then it just goes the complete opposite or you can go with a complete blank slate 610 00:55:53,700 --> 00:56:00,260 and end up in some crazy shit or you can spend an entire weekend at a nudist 611 00:56:00,260 --> 00:56:06,020 resort and nothing happens so it just you just never know it's just it's all 612 00:56:06,020 --> 00:56:10,540 about vibes I mean the craziest nights can be just you're out and you just run 613 00:56:10,540 --> 00:56:14,140 into somebody and they they recognize you and next thing you know you're in a 614 00:56:14,140 --> 00:56:20,620 hotel room right yeah it's cray I know you never know that's the fun part about 615 00:56:20,620 --> 00:56:26,540 it it's unpredictable so basically what this all boils down to is don't use 616 00:56:26,540 --> 00:56:28,860 filters 617 00:56:30,420 --> 00:56:36,980 hashtag no filter hashtag no filters no no hashtag no filters hashtag put your 618 00:56:36,980 --> 00:56:43,780 real age up or at least something close to it or believable at least like take a 619 00:56:43,780 --> 00:56:48,900 poll from your friends and see what what age you think you look like they think 620 00:56:48,900 --> 00:57:00,900 you look like and then also what else no filters oh show the dude show the dude 621 00:57:00,900 --> 00:57:06,100 it's fine not to show your face we get that yeah if you're looking to meet 622 00:57:06,100 --> 00:57:13,500 somebody you probably gonna need to show your face yeah cuz yeah it's it's it's 623 00:57:13,500 --> 00:57:18,300 tough to you know meet anybody at a party if you have nothing to recognize 624 00:57:18,300 --> 00:57:23,260 them from or whatever and fill out your profile like put some actual content on 625 00:57:23,260 --> 00:57:28,380 your profile a little bit a little bit or at least if you're gonna fill it out 626 00:57:28,380 --> 00:57:32,420 fill it out accurately and don't just write some random shit that literally 627 00:57:32,420 --> 00:57:38,700 makes no sense what's funny is is I'm that's a female perspective I was I'm 628 00:57:38,700 --> 00:57:45,180 the man I I look at I look at photos first and then if I notice that there's 629 00:57:45,180 --> 00:57:50,540 something in there that you know perks my interest then I'll I'll do a quick 630 00:57:50,540 --> 00:57:54,180 brief read of the profile to see if there's anything that's gonna turn you 631 00:57:54,180 --> 00:58:01,580 off hmm because there's been a few where I look at the photos I'm like oh okay 632 00:58:01,580 --> 00:58:04,380 that's that's good and I'll pass it off to you and you're like did you read the 633 00:58:04,380 --> 00:58:09,860 profile I go no it goes babe they're looking they're a poly couple they're 634 00:58:09,860 --> 00:58:13,180 looking for only you know romantic interest and they want to get married 635 00:58:13,180 --> 00:58:21,300 and I'm like they're looking for a boyfriend like oh like some of these 636 00:58:21,300 --> 00:58:27,340 things I'm like dude just read the profile like if it says like yeah some of 637 00:58:27,340 --> 00:58:31,540 the stuff I'm like this is not us this is the they are not our people like this is 638 00:58:31,540 --> 00:58:38,620 not what we're looking for yeah so this episode I went everywhere it did go 639 00:58:38,620 --> 00:58:42,140 everywhere so and I was and this is why we don't put a plan in place because you 640 00:58:42,140 --> 00:58:45,820 wanted a plan in place so we put a plan and now we just did over an hour of 641 00:58:45,820 --> 00:58:51,340 blabbering that's why we should have a plan plans actually work negatively I 642 00:58:51,340 --> 00:59:06,740 want a tight 15 but anyways like it went through my brain well Mike you can't 643 00:59:06,740 --> 00:59:12,060 say that didn't mean age what did you mean dick size tight you wouldn't 644 00:59:12,060 --> 00:59:15,380 fucking know what to do I know I would know what to do with a 15 it's nobody 645 00:59:15,380 --> 00:59:23,860 knows what to do with the 15 anyway so we're gonna go ahead and hang this one 646 00:59:23,860 --> 00:59:28,860 up and call it a night and when enjoying the sweet side of life keep your 647 00:59:28,860 --> 00:59:33,580 pineapples upside down believe in unicorns and keep shaking it up 648 00:59:33,580 --> 00:59:40,540 love you baby make sure you guys check out our tiktok you can find us on the 649 00:59:40,540 --> 00:59:45,300 the sweet side of life podcast and you can also email us at the sweet side of 650 00:59:45,300 --> 00:59:52,180 life podcast at outlook.com we'd love to hear from you guys to the loo 651 00:59:56,700 --> 01:00:01,500 if you would like to get in contact with us please email us at the sweet side of 652 01:00:01,500 --> 01:00:06,740 life podcast at outlook.com or you can always find us on any one of our 653 01:00:06,740 --> 01:00:20,060 socials that are listed in the podcast links