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Welcome to round two of the Sweet Side of Life podcast. Nailed it. All right, so every podcast
we're gonna start with a quick drink. Cheers. Cheers. Cheers. And tonight we are drinking a
tiki cocktail that is called the... Chewing ice. It's called the painkiller. Which is...
Now I choked on the nutmeg. It's the... You're dying over there. Yeah, it's traditionally made with
pussers rum but we prefer Appleton. So it's Appleton, pineapple, coconut cream, and orange juice.
And then shaken up very vigorously. And then it's topped with a nutmeg or some sort of aromatic.
So nutmeg or cinnamon. Something of that nature. And it's delicious. It is delicious. And you can
kind of make it as strong or not strong as you want. I typically go on the side of strong.
But that's just me. Well, it's called a painkiller for a reason. So it's typically made. Pussers is
an overproof rum. Now we don't use an overproof rum. We just use extra regular rum. A lot.
Let's just say every drink is probably about a four ounce pour is typically what I like to do.
Really? Yeah, sometimes. If you're drinking with me, I'll bring it down to like a three just so nobody's
dying on my watch. But I do like them strong. Yeah, I like a good strong drink. But... So anyways,
welcome back. This is round two of the Sweet Side of Life podcast. So if you've come back...
If you've come back... Then you kind of want... We know you kind of want to know more. We appreciate you.
Thank you. And... Didn't stop at one. So every show we're hoping to make a little bit better.
So you may notice possibly that there's not quite as many pop-n-peas, hopefully. We did purchase some
new pop-n-pea microphone filters. So hopefully that takes care of some of the issues. So
anywho, a lot has happened since we've recorded our last episode.
We actually recorded our last one probably three weeks ago. Yeah, I would say you're accurate on that.
And as of tonight that we're recording this, it's actually hasn't been released yet. So our first show
isn't even on the internet as of right now. I'm just finishing up the editing. But I kind of wanted to
be able to release a couple shows at once, so you would have a little content to dive into, you know,
if you were interested. So here probably the next couple days I'll finish editing. I don't see that word right.
Editing. I think you're fine. I have like a southern draw that like editing and wedding.
My friends are like it's wedding. No, it's wedding. I'm sorry. I'm from Florida, so it's wedding.
Thank you. Thank you. Anywho, I get stuck on little details sometimes.
The inside voices tend to overcome. But anyways, so here hopefully pretty soon we're going to get these
up online and then we're going to, you know, expand all the socials and get those active and
really make a push for this. But the reason we kind of had a slow start was because over these last
couple weeks, both of us had some procedures done. Yes, not fun ones. We had some ectomies.
Lots of ectomies. I had a vasectomy. So sorry, ladies. I'm not producing children anymore.
Well, I think you have a few more comes to come. They said you got to get 30 ejaculations
or three months, whichever comes first. I think I'm at 12 ejaculations. So
yeah, there's a few more children out there that, you know, if anybody's looking.
But in all seriousness, yeah, so I got that done. What would you say to guys who are kind of like
on the fence of getting it done? Because I know initially it was kind of like a thing for you.
Like you're like, I want to make sure I still come. I want to make sure all these things happen.
And the more research we did, we figured out like you're good. But
Yeah, no, yeah, it's all good. I mean, right now my my ejaculate is the color of cool blue
Kool-Aid. That's not true. No, I would say do your research and it's it's actually fine.
Everybody has a different reaction or a different experience with everything.
My experience was pretty chill. The procedure itself wasn't very painful. You know,
small little pinch when they do the numb in the procedure itself, he was in and out with a scalpel.
He did one cut. He cut all the cords and the plumbing. He did it at all like within
like less than 10 minutes. The whole procedure from me walking in the front door to me leaving
in a wheelchair was about an hour. And that includes, you know, clean up time and
clean before time by the nurse. I will say yes, the nurse took her good old time cleaning me.
But it was well worth it. I was I was nice and sterile for the operation. And I do say operation.
My wife says procedure. And I say it was a operation. I mean, you were in basically the same
kind of room I get like my gynecologic exam. So maybe I felt like I was in a blockbuster.
Like it was like you had a window. There's some videos on the wall. It was it was it was chill.
As far as the after effects, like everything's the same. The amount, the colors, the feeling,
the everything is exactly the same. So that's good. Yeah, I feel like that's important because I
think there's a myths out there, obviously. There is. There's a lot of I mean, guys are very attached
to that, that portion of the orgasm, you know, you like the product, you know, the feeling itself
is fun. But you do like the, you know, the gratification of, you know, sending your children
all over the place. So now it's just it's no more children in that that product.
You're still coming. You're still able to put your come all over somebody's face.
You're getting very graphic, Emily. Or titties. That's true. So anyways, but all in all, the
procedure was well worth it. Recovery time, they say one to two weeks, everybody's different.
I'm literally at the two week mark right now, like tonight is the actual two week mark. And
I would say as far as, you know, the quote unquote pain, it's not pain anymore. I'm just
uncomfortable, a slight soreness, I would say I'm 70 97%. You just kind of have to be a little
careful. But all in all, it's all good. Just a small little incision and the stitches have already
dissolved. That's the word. So I'm all good. Back in the saddle. However, Emily's procedure
was a bit more serious or not serious. I'm not serious because serious. Just I was I was sedated.
I was fully under anesthesia. I did have like, it was, you know, an hour that I was asleep. You
have even said the procedure surgery is yet. I know it was a taunt elective. She's trying to get
this build up for sympathy. I know, but it was more than yours. But no, you don't realize how much
you use your throat until you don't have it. Oh, I know. I know all about not having throat.
So we'll see if she's actually at her two week mark tomorrow. Yeah. And her surgery has a pretty hard
two week recovery. But she was actually a trooper and coming up on like the ninth, 10th day, you
know, she was back to a partying with me and you know, she just had a rough voice and a little bit
of pain. And she was like, I'm not sure if she's going to be able to get it. She's going to be able
to get partying with me and you know, she just had a rough voice and a little bit of pain. But you
know, she had, she had all the good medications and you know, she's back on the train now. I can't
speak for her percentage wise, but you know, she's probably got another, I would say another week
before you feel like you're completely. Yeah, I'm, I'm pretty good though. Like I feel pretty good.
I couldn't take any medicine today. So this is my first day, not taking medicine. So but I
recommend it unless you really really need it.
Well yes, you don't do that for fun.
No, I know, but I'm just saying like,
if it's just like,
like, oh, I just get tonsillitis like every now and then
I wouldn't like push your doctor to have him do it.
I would make sure you actually really need it before you.
Yeah, because it's not easy.
When you're an adult, it's a,
it's a pretty serious surgery, you know, there.
When you're a kid, like it's all brand new
and they're not like that deeply embedded into your throat.
But the doctor had come out while she was in recovery
and told us that, you know, one of her sides was like
so deeply like scar tissueed into her throat that, you know,
he couldn't take all of it out
because it potentially slice open her blood,
blood vessels in her throat and bleed out on the table.
And I mean, we have good insurance, but I'd rather not.
I'm not.
Have me die.
Yeah, exactly.
Well, I appreciate that.
I don't want to have me die either.
Yeah.
So all in all, both procedures were win-wins.
Yes.
And we're back on the saddle.
So now we're able to do our podcast,
which I'm sure people are like,
thanks for giving us your medical history
in this podcast, but we did not tune in to hear.
You know, we're almost at 12 minutes and yes,
so I got this hammer right, it's just killing me.
I don't have too much.
But anyway, so we're gonna kind of pick up
where we left off in our last episode, volume podcast.
We kind of went through the five W's
and we kind of described our voyage up to this point.
So we're gonna kind of reel it back
and talk about officially when we,
officially officialed, official lead, what?
Made it official.
Yeah.
I thought we were diving into a lifestyle.
Yes, yeah, yeah, I just had the total brain first.
So yeah, when we made it official
and like we decided to jump into the deep end.
So we'll be back in just a minute and hang tight.
Okay, so we're gonna start with the first step.
Welcome back, we are back everybody.
We are Mr. and Mrs.
Sweets, Sweets, Sweets.
So anyway, so I'm gonna take this back to my first recollection
of kind of taking that first step was in 2019.
It was in March of 2019.
Wow, you remember the month?
Well, I know the month because of where we were specifically,
but I'm not gonna go into all those details.
I'll go into some of the details.
So we were on a cruise.
Okay, got it.
She's looking at me like,
where are you going with this story right now?
And should I be concerned?
Yes, I should.
You should be.
So it's kind of always been in my mind,
you know, since back, if you listen to the first episode,
we were talking about a place called Frida Makers.
And that was a resort or club out in the San Bernardino area
of Southern California, which is where we are based.
And we used to go there kind of experiment
in just with, you know, being in a sexy environment.
And voyeurism.
Voyeurism, exhibitionism.
I was literally just telling somebody is the gateway drug.
Yes, it is.
Voyeurism and exhibitionism is the marijuana of the LS.
And full swap is the heroin.
So we, you know, obviously, like I was referencing,
we back in the day, we did, you know, dabble.
We didn't dabble with others,
but we did have fun with each other in that environment.
And then we ended up moving much further south
and we had some other changes in the family dynamic.
And we just kind of, you know,
kept to ourselves for a long time.
And then in my head, I had always remembered something
she told me.
I can't remember the exact context,
but I just remember you're talking about something.
And I was like, oh, that's pretty cool.
You did that or something like that.
And you had told me, I'm probably much crazier
than you think or I would do a lot more than you think.
Or you said something to that effect.
And at that time, I didn't really know how to take it.
But when I started kind of having thoughts about, you know,
potentially having a conversation with the LS,
all of a sudden that little freeze kind of came into my head
and I was like, she might be a freak.
And I was like, all right.
We were only together forever.
And you didn't know I was a freak just kidding.
No, I know, I think married couples are together
for a long time and they don't talk about things
that they want for fear of like judgment.
You don't want to fight.
Yeah, exactly.
You don't want to have a,
you don't want to have a slightly uncomfortable conversation
that might change things for the worse.
A conversation like that, I would say would probably
derail, you know, a good bit of couples.
Could, yeah.
I mean, if you said to your wife or your husband,
hey, I'm thinking about sleeping with other people.
What's your thoughts?
Yeah, well that's probably not the best way to bring this up.
I'm just trying to sum it up really quick.
I mean, yeah, it should be much slower approach,
but that conversation in itself or that,
that the concept of the conversation,
if you're not in a secure relationship,
could, you know, cause some problems.
So people that are wanting to have that conversations
in the back of your head, you're like, oh fuck.
But this one was kind of, I wasn't like totally like,
oh my God, I want to do this,
but there was one day we were on a cruise
and we were drinking like you do on a cruise.
Especially if you get the drink package, get it,
it's worth it.
It's worth it, totally worth it.
And we were in our cabin and we were having relations.
And I said something to the effect of,
how would you feel about sucking someone else's dick?
And you were kind of like,
cause you were currently sucking my dick.
But I think me asking that and then you said,
I can't remember the exact conversation
cause I was drunk.
I remember the moment.
I don't remember the verbiage.
Yeah.
But-
And I can't help you because I don't remember any of this.
Yes.
When I told her like this was kind of the introduction,
she's like, what?
So this is all my memory and I have a horrible memory,
which you're going to hear as we try to, you know,
tell you other stories.
I'm going to be like, I remember driving to the place.
I remember driving home from the place.
It's not just cause I'm, it's not cause I'm super hammered.
It's just my memory is not there.
I can remember, I remember moments.
I don't remember like every single action.
That's probably where she's better.
Cause sometimes she'll tell me we did things.
I'm like, what?
Oh shit.
But anyways, off track, off track.
Anyway, so we're, she was, she was slob in my knob.
And I love that term.
And I think she said something like, oh, I'd be into it
or that sounds like fun.
And I was just like, I got super hard in like two seconds.
Like, wha?
And I think it was pretty much over after that point.
And I just kind of remember, I was like, wow, that was,
that was, that was very weird.
Like it, that excited me a lot to, to, to say that
and to have that thought and that vision in my head.
It was confusing.
It was very confusing.
And you know how guys, you can relate to this.
As soon as you come, you get that,
you get that post-com clarity.
And you're just like, oh my God, why would I even think
about that?
And you're like, you're kind of for maybe three to four
minutes, like you're kind of maybe ashamed of what
maybe had just happened.
And then, you know, it starts to build up again
and by five minutes you're back to your perverted self.
But anyways, after that, after that conversation,
it, it kind of got me going.
And then she responded to it in a good way.
And then I think on that same trip, we had another,
you know, relations in the, in the cabinet.
It's like we're 80.
And I used that kind of, that, that those words again.
And I think I, I was like, yeah, you know,
I'd love to see you suck a dick.
And, and I was kind of like, it was just me.
Like I, I really, I didn't really have an interest per se
and other women.
I mean, I'm not, I'm not gonna lie and be like,
I didn't think about it, but it wasn't my goal.
It honestly, it wasn't a goal.
I wasn't trying to like start this for my benefit.
Like I, I wasn't, I wasn't feeling like I needed this.
It was just like, it just, I don't know.
It was just a thought of her doing that.
Someone else got me going.
So kind of expounded, expanded,
expounded is a word too, I think.
I don't think so.
Isn't it?
Every, every freaking podcast is gonna have like
a dictionary lookup.
Cause expound, I could have swore that's a word.
Okay, maybe we'll look it up later.
Google.
Alexa is expound a word.
Yes, expound is a word in the dictionary
which is literally the final sentence
to set forth and state in detail.
I don't know if you guys heard that.
To set forth or state in detail.
That's what it means.
Expound.
So I should expound on this.
Maybe it's past tense.
I don't know.
I expound it.
Moving along.
We'll get at the source.
So where was I at?
You're gonna say to expand on this.
Oh yes.
So we, at this time in 2019, I'll be honest,
the previous years we kind of went through a law.
You know, our, our, our relationship was great.
We were, you know, best friends.
We've always been best friends.
That didn't, that never changed.
But you know, the sexual side of things
definitely took a law as they often do.
You know, when you're together for at that point,
you know, we've been together forever.
So it took a law, but then we were kind of, you know,
kind of came back and we were getting back on it.
And, and obviously I felt comfortable enough
in the relationship to say something at that point.
I didn't feel it was gonna blow up in my face.
So after that trip was over, this was a March 2019,
I, I started having thoughts of Freedom Makers again,
because we had, we had actually moved again
and got closer to Freedom Makers at that point.
And at this, at this time, it also changed to Club FA.
Then they did kind of a remodel and anyway,
so we started talking about going to FA.
I'm like, hey, would you, how would you feel about,
you know, giving this a shot
and maybe actually trying to do something there?
And she was kind of like, okay, you know,
we could discuss this.
But like I said in the first podcast, I talk a lot.
So I'm gonna turn the mic over here to Emily
and let her kind of catch you up to her view of things
from this side or her side of the conversation from here.
Yeah, well, I don't remember really anything
that you're saying as far as the conversations.
But I do remember you wanting to go to Freedom Makers.
And I don't really remember actually how it made me feel.
I know I used to get,
and there's still certain things that do like,
give me that pit in my stomach feel.
But I do know I got that
and I had kind of a pit in my stomach type of feeling of like.
When you were there?
Like on our way there.
Yeah, like on our way there, I get like a,
just like, I would get like a,
just like a nervousness of going into it.
And, but then once we get there
and we start having some cocktails and all that,
I get a little bit, it gets a little bit easier.
So we went back.
How many times did we go after the cruise?
I feel like there was twice.
I think twice.
So we went once and nothing happened.
Yeah.
We just kind of-
You were still kind of exploratory.
We kind of had like that,
maybe we were open to possibly-
Yeah, it was kind of like, let's see what happens.
Let's check in a lot.
Let's kind of just see.
And then I think that night we were
just very like, okay, open,
but at the same time, like asking each other,
like, what do you think about that person?
What do you think about that person?
Like, how does that couple look?
Like, what do you feel about that?
Would you do this?
You know, like just kind of like filling each other out,
which is a totally different thing
than actually doing it.
Talking about doing things
and then actually doing things
is like a full, whole nother thing.
But the second time we went, we met a couple.
We didn't meet them the first time, right?
It was the second time.
It was the second time, yeah.
The last time we went there.
Yeah, yeah, because then they shut down.
Because then the big C hit.
The vid.
But so we met a couple and she's like many women, I think,
in lifestyle is bisexual.
So they approached us at the table that we were sitting at.
And we kind of were all having conversations,
or did you approach them?
Like, I think you, you're always that extrovert,
even though you say you're introverted
and you are introverted in some areas,
but yeah, you're like.
I'm gonna rewind your viewpoint just a little bit.
Cause you'll probably remember this when I tell you.
So we were there and this loud annoying guy comes in.
Oh yeah.
He was, he must've, it was like his birthday or something.
Yeah, and he pre-party.
He was pre-party and drinking tequila.
Yes.
And he came in with this girl
and they kind of sat down next to us
and he was just annoying the shit out of me.
Cause we were already kind of,
not, I don't want to say on edge,
but we were, you know, we were very kind of like nervous.
Well, nervous energy.
Yeah, we had a lot of nervous energy.
And we were just sitting there
and all of a sudden this couple came in
and he was just annoying the fuck out of me.
And he was just talking all kinds of shit.
And he was like, I have my own mug here.
And I'm like, I'm like king something.
I'm like, I don't remember all the details,
but I'm like, God.
No, because he came in when you were at the lockers, right?
Yes, yes.
So I didn't even see him come in like that.
He had like his own custom locker.
Yeah, I didn't see him come in like that.
You were over at the lockers.
You seen him come in all hot and like crazy.
But I didn't see that side.
Cause he wasn't, when he walked over to the tables,
he wasn't as animated and crazy.
Yes, that is right.
And so he, yeah, he annoyed me.
And I'm like, Oh God, we got to avoid these people.
And then next thing you know, we're,
we're sitting at the tables and then they kind of sat down
next to us.
And I think at this point he had started to sober up
a little bit and his attitude kind of calmed down.
And he got not as annoying.
Yeah.
I guess you could say.
Yeah.
Like the way I am, if you come in hot on me,
like it, it takes me a second.
It just kind of like sets my meters off.
And I have to get away from you for a little bit.
So anyways, we're sitting there on the tables.
And, and then yeah, she started,
she pulled you up on the dance floor on the stripper pole.
Yeah. I think there was a more conversations prior to that.
There's, there's a lot of conversations, but there was no
like real, I don't recall any conversations about what we're
into.
No, it was.
So a lot of things that we've listened to in previous podcasts
people talk about things of like, okay, what are your rules?
What are your, like, what are your boundaries?
You know, what do you guys want?
What are you looking for?
Are you full swap?
Are you soft swap?
Are you, you know, what is, you know, what are you bisexual?
Are you, you know what I mean?
Like we hear, and we've heard in podcasts, like these
conversations happen prior to play happening.
But at that point, I wasn't even into podcast.
So.
Really?
No, I didn't get into podcast till like.
Yeah. Well, anyway, so we didn't really know.
Yeah. I didn't know the protocol.
Regardless, we didn't know.
Yeah. Regardless, we didn't know, and they clearly didn't know,
or we were all too, had too much to drink or whatever the
situation was, those conversations definitely didn't happen.
We had, we talked, but not really about anything like that.
And then she brought me up on the stage with the stripper pole
and you two were sitting there in the chairs.
And by this time it was late.
People had already.
We were some of the last people.
In the dance room.
Yeah.
A lot of people had already gone to the playrooms.
They already paired off.
Because at this club, like at this club, you could play on site.
So if you've never been to Freedom makers, the front areas
were dance floors and a bar.
And then the back areas were playrooms and just tons of beds,
different types of play areas.
Really cool.
If you ever are in the Southern California area and you're in
the lifestyle, you will find people who've been there.
And it's like their top place that they've ever been to.
They've never find a place that's the same.
Yeah. It's just iconic, I guess, in this area.
There's a couple of places that are cool and there's a couple
of places that are on-premise clubs.
But this particular place, it was just dirty enough and just
clean enough.
Yeah.
Where it kind of fit like you could be, you could go there and
you could floor your.
It's like a good strip club.
What's that?
Like a good strip club.
Yeah, yeah.
You don't want to walk in and everything's so clean.
Yeah.
Like you want a little grit.
Yes.
You want a dive bar.
I like the dive bar strip club.
So yeah.
We just, we like dive bars in general.
Yeah.
We like a little bit of shadiness.
And this particular place, we didn't realize it at the time
because we didn't know what other clubs were in the area and
that this whole scene really existed.
We are still like, this is crazy.
Yeah. We didn't know there was like a whole community.
But now that we know, since we've been to a bunch of places,
none of them compare to public face.
No, they really don't.
Well, it just, it's nostalgic, I think too.
Because it's like our first place we win and all that stuff.
But, and that's probably how it is for a lot of people.
It was, it's been around for a long time or had been around
for a long time.
So anyway, so I digress and I'm free to makeers.
But so she got me, so anyway, the point was that people had
already gone to the back room.
So it was really just us in the dance floor.
There wasn't a ton of people out there.
I don't even know if there was anybody else.
I didn't, I was in my own world.
I'm seeing it in my head.
And I do not recall any other people in the crowd at that point.
Yeah.
I felt like you guys just pulled your chairs up to the front
of the stage and her and I were on the stripper pole.
And she whispers to me, I was wearing a bodysuit and she
whispers to me and she says, I'm going to pretend like I'm
looking your pussy because it's going to really make them
super horny.
So let's, so just go with it.
And I'm like, okay.
So then she drops down, gets into my like vagina.
She's like in it.
And I'm like, okay.
But I still had everything on and then she starts
unsnapping it.
And I'm like, holy shit, she's literally going to go down on
me right on this hole.
Please stop pretending.
Yeah.
This is no longer pretending, but she actually fully did it.
But she just really played the role really well.
Anyway, and then that's where it's like, okay, I believe
that's the point where it was like, okay, let's go into the
back.
I remember I was sitting with him and we were chatting and we
were laughing and pointing and it worked.
It was very hot.
And then all of a sudden you two girls flew off the stage,
walked over to us and grabbed our hands and you're like, we're
going to the back room.
And I was just like, wait, what?
Like I had obviously been to the back room many times with
you, just me and you.
Yeah.
But all of a sudden it was like, oh, she's like,
oh, shit, it's game time.
It's go time.
And our conversations were very, still very like.
Limited.
Like we said, okay, we're not going to have sex.
Yeah.
At that point, we didn't really know the terminologies.
Yeah.
We didn't know soft swap.
Yeah.
Like now there's, like we know all the terms and we know the
buzzwords.
Yeah.
And we know the conversations that you should try to have
and we know all that.
But this was literally, you know, you guys jumped off the
pole, grabbed our hands and pulled us to the back and I
was just like, what in the hell is getting ready to go on
right now?
Yeah.
So a lot of things went on.
Oh yeah, there's quite a few things.
Yeah.
And before we go any further, let's, at that time in
regards to your sexuality.
Right.
Right now, she is what I like to call by comfortable in a
sense of she will not typically be the aggressor.
Yeah.
But she'll go along with just about anything.
Yeah, I love making out with women and like the soft stuff
of like women with women.
But I'm not going to be currently, I mean, I'm not
going to say never.
I never say never, but I'm not currently going to be like,
yeah, let me go fuck a woman.
Like that's not really my wheelhouse or like the first
feel like I want to look her pussy.
No, I'm not.
That's not really.
That's not my go.
I'd rather suck a dick all day.
But you say that, you say that, but you have.
I have, I have.
Which is why I say by comfortable.
Anything happens, you know how it is.
Right now we can sit here talking on the microphones,
you know, we're drinking, but we're not drunk.
But when you get in that moment and the sexiness is up
and shit happens.
But at this point, when we were at this club,
I had really very little knowledge of her, Emily's,
you know, binus, I guess is the word I would use.
So when all of a sudden she's on the pole making out and,
you know, doing all this stuff and then they're pulling us
in the back, I was just like the situation itself was crazy.
And then what just I witnessed was blowing me away.
So it was just like, what?
And then yeah, so we got yanked to the back and then
we found the little corner and yeah.
So I think we're going to save the rest of this story
because it gets pretty steamy.
So we're going to save the rest of this story for the volume
three, round three coming up here pretty soon.
But in the meantime, I hope you guys have a great rest of your week.
And when enjoying the sweet side of life, keep your pineapples upside down,
believe in unicorns and keep shaking it up.
Have a great night and love you baby.
Love you too, babe.
Bye.
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