Alright, welcome, welcome to Tuesday Talk with Lena and Tina.
I'm Lena.
I'm Tina.
Welcome to another Tuesday of empowering and motivating and catching up with what's going
on in the 757 and navigating our week of being mothers, full-time employees, and all
of the things.
So let's get into it.
Let's get into it.
How was your Tuesday?
Put it in the comments.
But this week, we're going to talk about health and beauty.
We'll give you a celebrity highlight.
Of course, what's going on in the 757, small business shout-out.
So with that being said, let's get it cracking.
Let's get it cracking, guys.
I'm so excited for this week's segment.
We'll be talking about health, beauty, and wellness, which is something that's very important
and very necessary, especially being moms, wives, mothers, people that are navigating
through life and balancing several different hits.
Yeah.
It's hard to get the proper rest and vitamins.
Are y'all taking your vitamins?
If you are, put in the comments what vitamins have worked well for you.
I know for me, when I get low on my vitamin D, I start getting moody.
Yes.
Vitamin D and iron are two huge vitamins that our bodies need, essentially, so that we won't
be fatigued and to help us stay sharp and stay engaged.
So if you haven't had your levels checked, definitely try to go to your primary care
physician to get lab drawing so you can see if there are one or two of the things that
you're experiencing.
Yes.
So it is a draw.
It is, as Delina was motioning it, it is a blood draw, but it is essential.
And from that one to the blood, they can tell you if your iron is low, your vitamin D is
low, your B12 or whatever.
Yes.
If you have any other health concerns or issues that the doctor is concerned about.
Yes, ladies.
I know we love to get our nails done.
I know me and Tina, we both, we keep our nails on done.
But sometimes it's good to take those nails off and see what's going on underneath.
If you notice a dark line, you may want to increase that iron.
Let those nails breathe for a little bit, increase that iron and vitamin D so that you
can live long and healthy with me.
All right?
Right.
And do keep in mind that your body does give you a lot of signs if it is in any type of
distress.
So pay attention to your body.
Fatigue is not normal.
You know, if you get your 7 1 1 half, 8 hours of sleep and you still wake up and you're
still fatigued, it's very important that you go and see a medical professional so that
you can get your energy level up.
Because when you're having to care for a family, perform tasks at your job, you want to do
those with the optimal amount of energy.
So you should be getting at least 8 hours of sleep.
That's the way your cells reset.
You know, you want to feel into it, energize.
You want to be able to have the strength and energy to be in the moment, have a clear mind
focus.
It's important to also get into fish oil, take your vitamins.
If you don't eat fish, you know, I love salmon.
I love or salmon, salmon.
However you say it.
L or no L.
There we go.
But I love all of that stuff and your vegetables as some of my friends would say.
So make sure you're in tune with your body.
Figure out what's going on and what's up with that water intake.
Oh, drink your water.
So what I will say is our smartphones.
Now this is a life hack.
You know, I'm always going to teach you all a life hack.
So this is a life hack.
Your smartphone has monitoring devices, monitoring apps on it to help you with your sleep, your
water, your nutritionist fitness as well.
So utilize those apps.
It's within your fitness app on your phone.
And I have a reminder set daily to tell me that 1030 is my bedtime.
So even when I'm out, yeah, even when I'm out with my friends, my reminder says it's
your bedtime.
It gives me a little cute little noise.
And when I tell you, if I'm at home, I run to the bed, I jump in the car and I'm like,
yes, finally I can go to sleep.
So set these things in motion for yourself.
You know, be vigilant in getting back to where or to the level that you want to be and you
have to do the work.
So drink your water, get in your proper rest.
And talk about vitamins.
We talked about all this stuff.
So I want to add one more tidbit to it.
Okay, give me another tidbit.
Emotional wellness.
So we can be fine on the outside.
We can be exercising.
We can be eating right.
And we can be emotionally not well.
So emotionally well is accepting your feelings and your different moods.
So when someone says it's okay to not be okay, how many times has someone said that to you?
Oh, I can think of quite a few.
Yeah.
So they'll say it's okay to not be okay.
And you have to be able to articulate that today's not a good day.
Now what are you going to do to pivot?
Yeah.
What are you going to do now to pivot?
So that's emotional wellness.
Emotional wellness.
So that's your meditating.
That's your yoga.
That's your deep breathing.
That's all the above.
So we have to be responsible for this best.
So we only have but one body.
That's right.
And speaking of one body, we have a set of skin.
Skin is the biggest organ on your body.
Yes.
Like isn't that crazy?
So make sure that you are cleansing and moisturizing.
A lot of us wash, wash, wash.
Or are we moisturizing?
There are some great things out there.
I know some older seasoned people that I cross paths with love Vaseline.
I don't know what your moisturizing tip is.
I don't know what yours is, but you look great.
Thank you.
But coconut oil is great.
I personally love coconut oil.
I am a friend, a close friend of Vaseline.
At night I'm always dabbing some around my eyes and around my mouth and neck and stuff
so that I can keep everything moisturized.
If you are watching this, let us know in the comments, what moisturizer do you use?
And what are you doing as far as checking on your levels?
When's the last time you've been to the doctor?
Right.
It's big.
Overall health.
That's what this platform is all about.
Overall health.
We don't just want to focus on one attribute.
We want the whole person to be well.
So I will say Delina has this lovely t-shirt on and it is more of a Black month African
American history type shirt.
But I just want to shout that shirt out.
It's absolutely phenomenal.
It lists some of our key players in our African American history.
So it says fight like Malcolm, speak like Frederick, challenge like Rosa, dream like
Martin, think like Garby, lead like Harriet, build like Madame CJ, write like Maya, educate
like W.E.B. and believe like third good.
So they are some of our key players in African American history.
Ooh, heavy hitters.
Heavy hitters.
So you think about these people and the roles that they play in getting us to where we are
now and we have to pay homage to them.
Yes, we do.
They've opened up a lot of doors.
So just think about where we could be if none of these people existed.
Right.
And did what they were supposed to do.
So that is awesome.
That is awesome.
That is a powerful t-shirt.
And you know, African American history is so rich and it's so important.
And I know that the school system is working to erase.
Can you imagine to erase some of the African American history?
And I think that is mind-boggling.
It is.
I would think we will want to teach our people.
When I say our people, I mean all of the people, what led up to and what is because of, you
know, I think that's important.
So with that being said, have you challenged yourself?
Have you challenged yourself to teach your children some tidbits of information about
some of these people?
What do you teach your children?
Do they know who Malcolm and Rosa is?
Do they know some significance of what they've contributed to society and whether the schools
are doing it or not.
It's on us as parents.
If you've been given the gift of children, please educate.
Take a moment, have a conversation with a couple of these people on this shirt and get
into it.
Get into it.
And we need to teach our kids how powerful and rich their heritage is.
You know, several of these people have already passed away.
So they're not able to do the work anymore.
But we are raising the next generation of leaders, of powerful individuals.
So it's very important that we tell our kids, hey, these are the things that they've done.
This is the direction that we're moving in and you could be the next doctor, lawyer,
teacher.
You could be the next person that is rewriting the history as these individuals have.
Right.
And you may think it's not important, but these are the things that will lead to longevity,
generational wealth.
And this is the way you can ensure that your kids, your grandkids, your grandkids, grandkids,
grandkids have an idea of what it is to work hard and pave the way.
So with that being sure, what's on your shirt?
Okay.
So my shirt is from a gentleman named Hakeem and he is a serial entrepreneur.
Oh, shout out to our entrepreneurs.
We love entrepreneurs and small businesses.
Yes.
Hakeem, what's going on?
Let's see.
So I also say, invest, reinvest, create a legacy and build your community, which all
ties into things that these people have done.
So I think that is great.
Shout out to Hakeem.
I need to get one of them shirts.
Hakeem, what's up?
Right.
And these shirts, nice material, nice and comfortable, but this piggybacks on what you said, we
talked about the physical.
Now, financial, you did hit on that.
You said generational wealth.
So some ways to create generational wealth is through getting your life insurance.
How many of you individuals out there have research life insurance or have life insurance
either through your employer or on an individual basis.
So that is important when we talk about generational wealth.
Nobody plans to die, but we have to put things in place to protect this in the event that
something happens.
We don't want to leave our families in a deficit.
That is important.
That is real important.
So let's talk dating for a second.
For a second.
So what are some qualities that you look for, Tina, in a man?
Give me the top three.
What's the top three?
So top three is a loyal respect.
Oh, well, then you know what?
Right.
That's hard.
I'm joking.
That might be a deal.
A respectable individual such as a relationship with his mother and his siblings and things
like that.
And then lastly, a good communicator.
Oh, yeah.
So those are my three signs.
And you know, for the most part, when you are getting to know someone, you know, it
doesn't take much time to see, you know, the type of individual they are.
People talk about red flags.
Yeah, that's why I'm running all towards the flag.
Yeah, running, running, running, running towards the flag.
Yeah.
I learned about the flags.
And now when I see them, I turn and I make a B line in the other direction.
Yeah, D-Tour.
Yeah.
Don't, you know, do keep that in mind.
You know, and if you're, you're what they say, non-negotiable.
Oh, non-negotiable.
Your bottom line.
Yeah.
What's your bottom line?
Y'all tell us in the comments when it comes to dating, what are some attributes you guys
look for and what's your bottom line?
What's your deal breaker?
Yeah, and do not waver.
Do not waver from those because in the past, it's been times that I've wavered from, you
know, my non-negotiable is not so okay, you know, we'll work with it.
And they've always come back to bite me.
Oh, that bite.
That bite back is tough.
Yeah, that bite back.
That bite back is tough.
So, you know, I would say anyone is dating or, you know, interested in, you know, getting
back out, you know, write it down, write it down, you know, and that be that, you know,
that'll be what you stand on.
What are some, what are some attributes you look for when dating?
Woo.
You know, I'm still figuring it out because some things that I thought that I wanted are
not things that I may be of needed.
But to answer your question, I love a good communicator.
I'm very, I love to talk as you can see.
That's why we're here.
I love to talk.
I love a good communicator.
I love an honest man.
I think just being able to be true in where he is and just be transparent about whatever
his journey is.
So a great communicator, honest, hard working.
I like a man that works hard and it shows.
I like my finances to be blessed.
And so I want the person that I'm going to meet.
I want their finances blessed, not in the struggle space.
I don't want you to be in a transition.
Not as my man.
Now we could be friends all day while you're transitioning.
But if I'm looking for a mate or I'm considering the possibility of a mate, I think, you know,
a great communicator, honest, and I want him to be walking completely in his purpose.
And that does trickle down to finances because I want to be able to build a life with someone
and I need both of our feet to be in the correct place.
So those are like the top couple of things.
There's more, but we'll get to that down the line.
Now what I would say is, you know, you hear a lot of people saying, you know, what do
you bring to the table?
They love to talk about the table.
This is a table.
And it's my table.
So okay, so I am not the type of person that gets offended when somebody asks that.
So when someone says, what do you bring to the table?
I just start like rambling off stuff.
This is the data.
So I leave with what I bring to the table.
But I feel as though some individuals can't take you being over ambitious or bringing
a lot to the table.
So I remember meeting a guy.
And this is a short example.
I met a guy and I started telling him, you know, I'm doing this and doing that, working
on nonprofit, working on this and working on that.
And he instantly said, well, you're not the woman for me.
Oh, and I said, what now?
I'm not the woman for you.
And he said, no, he said, because my woman got to be focused on me.
I knew my woman focused on me.
I don't need her wearing two jobs and part time job and nonprofit where I knew my woman
focused on me.
And for just a small amount of time, I was offended.
But then I soon got over because he said not the woman for him.
You're right.
Right.
And you know, it's no need to be offended because he did you a favor because he was
up front and communicating what his needs was up front.
And that's what, you know, so when people say, what do you bring to the table?
I hear a lot of guys say, say, what do you bring to the table?
I mean, we could go, we could talk extensively about the table and the things that are being
brought to the table.
Right.
Yeah.
I mean, I'll start with a couple.
You know, this heart of mine is something, you know, I think that I'm a great communicator.
I desire to be a teammate with someone.
And I care about family.
I care about the people I'm connected to, they're important to me.
And I am a visionary.
So all in tune, all that being said, while I'm in tune with you, we're constantly being
in tune with our family in the next goal, the next mission.
And I think that's important.
You know, I don't really know what the right things are to bring to the table.
A lot of things have to be unpacked over time.
I know that putting one foot in front of the other and the person that I'm with, us working
on goals together, my idea would be to have a partnership with someone.
And so we'll start with that.
But you guys give us your feedback.
What do you think about the table and what's being brought to the table?
What are some things you look for in a mate?
And what are some things that you think is important that they bring to the table?
Is communication important?
Is the way they dress important?
Is where they work?
How much money they make important?
Let us know your thoughts and your feedbacks in the comments.
I do hope there's something that we say today, uplift you, encourage you, and inspired you.
Because that's what we're here for.
We're growing.
We're wanting you to grow with us.
We're wanting to help someone, whether it be male or female.
You know, we just want to be a resource to you.
Right, right.
Absolutely.
And before we leave, one last thing.
I wanted to do a Bible verse.
Because I know one of the things we've talked about is growing our faith, growing our walk
and things like that.
And one of the things that I have found interesting while reading is, it's a quote, what is it
verse?
James chapter, James 1.
It says, a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.
That I found to be interesting while doing my reading.
I read that and really didn't understand until I had an opportunity of meeting a man.
And we got into a conversation and he was talking about his home life, his work life.
He was talking about, you know, entertaining a lot of women and things like that.
And he was very happy.
And I was like, okay, well, that's cool.
And it wasn't until I got off the phone with him and I sat down and I was thinking.
And I reflected on the conversation.
She told me how he had a couple of instances where women were showing up at his house and
they were showing up at his job and they were showing up and causing all this havoc.
And this verse jumped out at me.
A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.
And I was like, oh, because you live a great life on the outside, but there's turmoil in
the inside because of the double-mindedness and the unstableness.
And that's why the women are showing up and it's chaotic and it's headache and thus creating
the unstableness.
So I thought that was a great tie into what I had read.
Read all of those scriptures.
Read the scripture leading up to that and figure out how that whole, as I say, parable
in the Bible played out.
And now, you're talking about this individual.
Cheating is never the right thing to do.
Respect of his emotional well-being.
We talked about emotional well-being today.
So you see how the whole segment is all tied together.
So reflect on this.
And understand that when you go into a relationship, put your best foot forward, have your non-negotiables.
If something is not working for you, backpedal up out of it, be a strong communicator.
State that it's not working for you.
Use your words.
This is not working for me.
I'm no longer interested.
Don't stay in a relationship that is a dead-end relationship and then lead to this type of
activity because now you're bringing other people into an equation and you cannot tell
people how to deal with the hurt or the embarrassment.
Yeah, you want to create some stability there.
So if you're listening to this and you can relate, what are some ways of thinking that
has created some unstableness for you?
Do you feel like if you get a handle on those things that things would have played out differently
or that have been the same?
What are your thoughts?
What are your feedbacks?
Drop it in the comments.
We'll see you back next Tuesday for another session of promoting and uplifting.
But before we go, do you have any small business shout-outs that you would like to do?
I would actually like to shout out All Smile's clothing brand, who is a female African-American
owned business that is based out of, I want to say Newport News, but I really think Hampton
is her roots.
But she is doing a phenomenal, phenomenal work with her brand, building her brand.
Her brand is so passionate.
She does have a YouTube segment that is available now where she's talking about her backstory
and her upbringing and the lack thereof, the lack, well, not lack thereof, the lack that
she experienced early on in her life, which forced her to create a brand.
So that is important when you create your brand.
Your brand can be birthed out of something traumatic that you've been through.
Yeah.
So shout-out to All Smile.
I know last week we did Royal Breeze and this week we're doing All Smile.
So if you guys, did she have a social media?
She does, but I'll actually put it in the comments section over here.
But if you Google ALLSMLEZ, smiles with the Z on the end, you'll be able to find her.
She does fashion shows in this area and she does a lot of talking to the youth in the
local high schools to keep them engaged because that's where the creativity lies.
Oh, nice.
Nice.
So shout-out to All Smile.
We hope that you guys have enjoyed this week.
Brush up on your vitamins.
Make sure your mind, body, and spirit is in tune.
Moisturize.
Take them vitamins.
Okay.
And let us know in the comments what you think.
What are some qualities you're looking for in a partner?
What do you feel like you bring to the table?
And also, give us some topics and things that you would like to see on an upcoming episode.
Until next Tuesday, we'll see you.