1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:25,600 Alright, welcome, welcome to Tuesday Talk with Lena and Tina. 2 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:26,600 I'm Lena. 3 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:27,600 I'm Tina. 4 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:35,160 Welcome to another Tuesday of empowering and motivating and catching up with what's going 5 00:00:35,160 --> 00:00:44,720 on in the 757 and navigating our week of being mothers, full-time employees, and all 6 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:46,120 of the things. 7 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:47,520 So let's get into it. 8 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,020 Let's get into it. 9 00:00:49,020 --> 00:00:50,020 How was your Tuesday? 10 00:00:50,020 --> 00:00:51,440 Put it in the comments. 11 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:54,600 But this week, we're going to talk about health and beauty. 12 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:56,240 We'll give you a celebrity highlight. 13 00:00:56,240 --> 00:01:00,760 Of course, what's going on in the 757, small business shout-out. 14 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:03,880 So with that being said, let's get it cracking. 15 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:05,480 Let's get it cracking, guys. 16 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:09,480 I'm so excited for this week's segment. 17 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:15,480 We'll be talking about health, beauty, and wellness, which is something that's very important 18 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:22,800 and very necessary, especially being moms, wives, mothers, people that are navigating 19 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:27,240 through life and balancing several different hits. 20 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:28,240 Yeah. 21 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:29,240 Yeah. 22 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:32,840 It's hard to get the proper rest and vitamins. 23 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:34,600 Are y'all taking your vitamins? 24 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:40,000 If you are, put in the comments what vitamins have worked well for you. 25 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:45,360 I know for me, when I get low on my vitamin D, I start getting moody. 26 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:46,360 Yes. 27 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:53,280 Vitamin D and iron are two huge vitamins that our bodies need, essentially, so that we won't 28 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:58,200 be fatigued and to help us stay sharp and stay engaged. 29 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:03,600 So if you haven't had your levels checked, definitely try to go to your primary care 30 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:08,440 physician to get lab drawing so you can see if there are one or two of the things that 31 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:09,440 you're experiencing. 32 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:10,440 Yes. 33 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:11,440 So it is a draw. 34 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:15,720 It is, as Delina was motioning it, it is a blood draw, but it is essential. 35 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:19,720 And from that one to the blood, they can tell you if your iron is low, your vitamin D is 36 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:21,720 low, your B12 or whatever. 37 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:22,720 Yes. 38 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:25,720 If you have any other health concerns or issues that the doctor is concerned about. 39 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:26,720 Yes, ladies. 40 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:28,440 I know we love to get our nails done. 41 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:32,680 I know me and Tina, we both, we keep our nails on done. 42 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:36,480 But sometimes it's good to take those nails off and see what's going on underneath. 43 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:42,480 If you notice a dark line, you may want to increase that iron. 44 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:47,680 Let those nails breathe for a little bit, increase that iron and vitamin D so that you 45 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:49,840 can live long and healthy with me. 46 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:50,840 All right? 47 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:51,840 Right. 48 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:56,280 And do keep in mind that your body does give you a lot of signs if it is in any type of 49 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:57,280 distress. 50 00:02:57,280 --> 00:02:59,200 So pay attention to your body. 51 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:01,400 Fatigue is not normal. 52 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:05,880 You know, if you get your 7 1 1 half, 8 hours of sleep and you still wake up and you're 53 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:10,480 still fatigued, it's very important that you go and see a medical professional so that 54 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:12,840 you can get your energy level up. 55 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:17,840 Because when you're having to care for a family, perform tasks at your job, you want to do 56 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:21,640 those with the optimal amount of energy. 57 00:03:21,640 --> 00:03:23,920 So you should be getting at least 8 hours of sleep. 58 00:03:23,920 --> 00:03:26,560 That's the way your cells reset. 59 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:29,320 You know, you want to feel into it, energize. 60 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:33,720 You want to be able to have the strength and energy to be in the moment, have a clear mind 61 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:34,720 focus. 62 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:39,400 It's important to also get into fish oil, take your vitamins. 63 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:42,800 If you don't eat fish, you know, I love salmon. 64 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:44,800 I love or salmon, salmon. 65 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:45,800 However you say it. 66 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:46,800 L or no L. 67 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:47,800 There we go. 68 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:52,800 But I love all of that stuff and your vegetables as some of my friends would say. 69 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:55,280 So make sure you're in tune with your body. 70 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:59,040 Figure out what's going on and what's up with that water intake. 71 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:06,240 Oh, drink your water. 72 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:09,760 So what I will say is our smartphones. 73 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:11,680 Now this is a life hack. 74 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:13,480 You know, I'm always going to teach you all a life hack. 75 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:14,760 So this is a life hack. 76 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:21,360 Your smartphone has monitoring devices, monitoring apps on it to help you with your sleep, your 77 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:24,660 water, your nutritionist fitness as well. 78 00:04:24,660 --> 00:04:26,080 So utilize those apps. 79 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:28,240 It's within your fitness app on your phone. 80 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:32,160 And I have a reminder set daily to tell me that 1030 is my bedtime. 81 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:36,560 So even when I'm out, yeah, even when I'm out with my friends, my reminder says it's 82 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:37,560 your bedtime. 83 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:39,480 It gives me a little cute little noise. 84 00:04:39,480 --> 00:04:44,360 And when I tell you, if I'm at home, I run to the bed, I jump in the car and I'm like, 85 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:46,600 yes, finally I can go to sleep. 86 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:51,320 So set these things in motion for yourself. 87 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:57,360 You know, be vigilant in getting back to where or to the level that you want to be and you 88 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:58,920 have to do the work. 89 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:01,200 So drink your water, get in your proper rest. 90 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:02,200 And talk about vitamins. 91 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:03,760 We talked about all this stuff. 92 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:06,440 So I want to add one more tidbit to it. 93 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:08,720 Okay, give me another tidbit. 94 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:10,880 Emotional wellness. 95 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:11,880 Emotional wellness. 96 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:15,680 So we can be fine on the outside. 97 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:16,920 We can be exercising. 98 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:19,240 We can be eating right. 99 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:22,680 And we can be emotionally not well. 100 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:29,360 So emotionally well is accepting your feelings and your different moods. 101 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:33,680 So when someone says it's okay to not be okay, how many times has someone said that to you? 102 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:35,880 Oh, I can think of quite a few. 103 00:05:35,880 --> 00:05:36,880 Yeah. 104 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:39,160 So they'll say it's okay to not be okay. 105 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:43,120 And you have to be able to articulate that today's not a good day. 106 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:45,960 Now what are you going to do to pivot? 107 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:46,960 Yeah. 108 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:48,640 What are you going to do now to pivot? 109 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,280 So that's emotional wellness. 110 00:05:51,280 --> 00:05:52,280 Emotional wellness. 111 00:05:52,280 --> 00:05:53,360 So that's your meditating. 112 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:54,760 That's your yoga. 113 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:56,440 That's your deep breathing. 114 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:57,920 That's all the above. 115 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,960 So we have to be responsible for this best. 116 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:03,960 So we only have but one body. 117 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:04,960 That's right. 118 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,880 And speaking of one body, we have a set of skin. 119 00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:10,840 Skin is the biggest organ on your body. 120 00:06:10,840 --> 00:06:11,840 Yes. 121 00:06:11,840 --> 00:06:12,840 Like isn't that crazy? 122 00:06:12,840 --> 00:06:16,600 So make sure that you are cleansing and moisturizing. 123 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:19,000 A lot of us wash, wash, wash. 124 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:21,760 Or are we moisturizing? 125 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:22,840 There are some great things out there. 126 00:06:22,840 --> 00:06:30,120 I know some older seasoned people that I cross paths with love Vaseline. 127 00:06:30,120 --> 00:06:34,200 I don't know what your moisturizing tip is. 128 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:36,560 I don't know what yours is, but you look great. 129 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:37,560 Thank you. 130 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:39,600 But coconut oil is great. 131 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:41,680 I personally love coconut oil. 132 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:46,600 I am a friend, a close friend of Vaseline. 133 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:51,840 At night I'm always dabbing some around my eyes and around my mouth and neck and stuff 134 00:06:51,840 --> 00:06:54,920 so that I can keep everything moisturized. 135 00:06:54,920 --> 00:07:00,200 If you are watching this, let us know in the comments, what moisturizer do you use? 136 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:04,760 And what are you doing as far as checking on your levels? 137 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:07,160 When's the last time you've been to the doctor? 138 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:08,160 Right. 139 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:09,160 It's big. 140 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:10,160 Overall health. 141 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:11,600 That's what this platform is all about. 142 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:12,600 Overall health. 143 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:17,040 We don't just want to focus on one attribute. 144 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:19,760 We want the whole person to be well. 145 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:26,920 So I will say Delina has this lovely t-shirt on and it is more of a Black month African 146 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:28,520 American history type shirt. 147 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:30,240 But I just want to shout that shirt out. 148 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:31,880 It's absolutely phenomenal. 149 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:37,200 It lists some of our key players in our African American history. 150 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:42,800 So it says fight like Malcolm, speak like Frederick, challenge like Rosa, dream like 151 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:52,440 Martin, think like Garby, lead like Harriet, build like Madame CJ, write like Maya, educate 152 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:56,120 like W.E.B. and believe like third good. 153 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:59,280 So they are some of our key players in African American history. 154 00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:00,280 Ooh, heavy hitters. 155 00:08:00,280 --> 00:08:01,400 Heavy hitters. 156 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:06,040 So you think about these people and the roles that they play in getting us to where we are 157 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:09,120 now and we have to pay homage to them. 158 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:10,120 Yes, we do. 159 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:11,120 Yes, we do. 160 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:12,120 They've opened up a lot of doors. 161 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:15,400 So just think about where we could be if none of these people existed. 162 00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:16,400 Right. 163 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:17,520 And did what they were supposed to do. 164 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:18,520 So that is awesome. 165 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:19,520 That is awesome. 166 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:21,520 That is a powerful t-shirt. 167 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:25,400 And you know, African American history is so rich and it's so important. 168 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:29,920 And I know that the school system is working to erase. 169 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:32,840 Can you imagine to erase some of the African American history? 170 00:08:32,840 --> 00:08:34,840 And I think that is mind-boggling. 171 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:35,840 It is. 172 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:36,840 It is. 173 00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:40,600 I would think we will want to teach our people. 174 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:47,160 When I say our people, I mean all of the people, what led up to and what is because of, you 175 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:48,640 know, I think that's important. 176 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:53,600 So with that being said, have you challenged yourself? 177 00:08:53,600 --> 00:09:00,240 Have you challenged yourself to teach your children some tidbits of information about 178 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:01,480 some of these people? 179 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:03,400 What do you teach your children? 180 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:06,320 Do they know who Malcolm and Rosa is? 181 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:11,680 Do they know some significance of what they've contributed to society and whether the schools 182 00:09:11,680 --> 00:09:12,680 are doing it or not. 183 00:09:12,680 --> 00:09:13,680 It's on us as parents. 184 00:09:13,680 --> 00:09:17,680 If you've been given the gift of children, please educate. 185 00:09:17,680 --> 00:09:22,240 Take a moment, have a conversation with a couple of these people on this shirt and get 186 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:23,240 into it. 187 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:24,240 Get into it. 188 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:28,200 And we need to teach our kids how powerful and rich their heritage is. 189 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:32,200 You know, several of these people have already passed away. 190 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:34,160 So they're not able to do the work anymore. 191 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:38,760 But we are raising the next generation of leaders, of powerful individuals. 192 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:42,440 So it's very important that we tell our kids, hey, these are the things that they've done. 193 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:46,680 This is the direction that we're moving in and you could be the next doctor, lawyer, 194 00:09:46,680 --> 00:09:47,680 teacher. 195 00:09:47,680 --> 00:09:52,080 You could be the next person that is rewriting the history as these individuals have. 196 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:53,080 Right. 197 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:57,960 And you may think it's not important, but these are the things that will lead to longevity, 198 00:09:57,960 --> 00:09:59,880 generational wealth. 199 00:09:59,880 --> 00:10:05,800 And this is the way you can ensure that your kids, your grandkids, your grandkids, grandkids, 200 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:11,080 grandkids have an idea of what it is to work hard and pave the way. 201 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:13,200 So with that being sure, what's on your shirt? 202 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:14,200 Okay. 203 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:17,760 So my shirt is from a gentleman named Hakeem and he is a serial entrepreneur. 204 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:20,800 Oh, shout out to our entrepreneurs. 205 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:23,000 We love entrepreneurs and small businesses. 206 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:24,000 Yes. 207 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:25,000 Hakeem, what's going on? 208 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:26,000 Let's see. 209 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:35,280 So I also say, invest, reinvest, create a legacy and build your community, which all 210 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:37,840 ties into things that these people have done. 211 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:39,840 So I think that is great. 212 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:41,080 Shout out to Hakeem. 213 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:42,760 I need to get one of them shirts. 214 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:43,760 Hakeem, what's up? 215 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:44,760 Right. 216 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:48,360 And these shirts, nice material, nice and comfortable, but this piggybacks on what you said, we 217 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:50,480 talked about the physical. 218 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:53,120 Now, financial, you did hit on that. 219 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:55,320 You said generational wealth. 220 00:10:55,320 --> 00:11:00,560 So some ways to create generational wealth is through getting your life insurance. 221 00:11:00,560 --> 00:11:05,120 How many of you individuals out there have research life insurance or have life insurance 222 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:08,840 either through your employer or on an individual basis. 223 00:11:08,840 --> 00:11:11,440 So that is important when we talk about generational wealth. 224 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:17,400 Nobody plans to die, but we have to put things in place to protect this in the event that 225 00:11:17,400 --> 00:11:18,400 something happens. 226 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:21,360 We don't want to leave our families in a deficit. 227 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:22,360 That is important. 228 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:23,360 That is real important. 229 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:27,120 So let's talk dating for a second. 230 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:30,200 For a second. 231 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:37,240 So what are some qualities that you look for, Tina, in a man? 232 00:11:37,240 --> 00:11:38,240 Give me the top three. 233 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:39,920 What's the top three? 234 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:43,680 So top three is a loyal respect. 235 00:11:43,680 --> 00:11:46,200 Oh, well, then you know what? 236 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:47,200 Right. 237 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:48,200 That's hard. 238 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:49,200 I'm joking. 239 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:50,200 That might be a deal. 240 00:11:50,200 --> 00:11:56,800 A respectable individual such as a relationship with his mother and his siblings and things 241 00:11:56,800 --> 00:11:57,800 like that. 242 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:00,800 And then lastly, a good communicator. 243 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:02,760 Oh, yeah. 244 00:12:02,760 --> 00:12:05,120 So those are my three signs. 245 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:09,120 And you know, for the most part, when you are getting to know someone, you know, it 246 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:13,840 doesn't take much time to see, you know, the type of individual they are. 247 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:15,320 People talk about red flags. 248 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:19,440 Yeah, that's why I'm running all towards the flag. 249 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:23,040 Yeah, running, running, running, running towards the flag. 250 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:24,040 Yeah. 251 00:12:24,040 --> 00:12:25,280 I learned about the flags. 252 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:30,280 And now when I see them, I turn and I make a B line in the other direction. 253 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:31,280 Yeah, D-Tour. 254 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:32,280 Yeah. 255 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:34,520 Don't, you know, do keep that in mind. 256 00:12:34,520 --> 00:12:37,720 You know, and if you're, you're what they say, non-negotiable. 257 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:38,800 Oh, non-negotiable. 258 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:40,800 Your bottom line. 259 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:41,800 Yeah. 260 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:42,800 What's your bottom line? 261 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:49,120 Y'all tell us in the comments when it comes to dating, what are some attributes you guys 262 00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:51,200 look for and what's your bottom line? 263 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:52,200 What's your deal breaker? 264 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:54,160 Yeah, and do not waver. 265 00:12:54,160 --> 00:13:00,680 Do not waver from those because in the past, it's been times that I've wavered from, you 266 00:13:00,680 --> 00:13:04,520 know, my non-negotiable is not so okay, you know, we'll work with it. 267 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:06,680 And they've always come back to bite me. 268 00:13:06,680 --> 00:13:07,960 Oh, that bite. 269 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:08,960 That bite back is tough. 270 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:09,960 Yeah, that bite back. 271 00:13:09,960 --> 00:13:11,680 That bite back is tough. 272 00:13:11,680 --> 00:13:16,560 So, you know, I would say anyone is dating or, you know, interested in, you know, getting 273 00:13:16,560 --> 00:13:23,560 back out, you know, write it down, write it down, you know, and that be that, you know, 274 00:13:23,560 --> 00:13:25,360 that'll be what you stand on. 275 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:29,240 What are some, what are some attributes you look for when dating? 276 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:30,240 Woo. 277 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:35,200 You know, I'm still figuring it out because some things that I thought that I wanted are 278 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:38,840 not things that I may be of needed. 279 00:13:38,840 --> 00:13:43,040 But to answer your question, I love a good communicator. 280 00:13:43,040 --> 00:13:47,080 I'm very, I love to talk as you can see. 281 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:49,560 That's why we're here. 282 00:13:49,560 --> 00:13:50,560 I love to talk. 283 00:13:50,560 --> 00:13:51,560 I love a good communicator. 284 00:13:51,560 --> 00:13:52,960 I love an honest man. 285 00:13:52,960 --> 00:14:01,640 I think just being able to be true in where he is and just be transparent about whatever 286 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:04,560 his journey is. 287 00:14:04,560 --> 00:14:07,520 So a great communicator, honest, hard working. 288 00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:11,760 I like a man that works hard and it shows. 289 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:15,120 I like my finances to be blessed. 290 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:18,000 And so I want the person that I'm going to meet. 291 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:21,920 I want their finances blessed, not in the struggle space. 292 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:24,440 I don't want you to be in a transition. 293 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:25,440 Not as my man. 294 00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:28,040 Now we could be friends all day while you're transitioning. 295 00:14:28,040 --> 00:14:35,960 But if I'm looking for a mate or I'm considering the possibility of a mate, I think, you know, 296 00:14:35,960 --> 00:14:42,640 a great communicator, honest, and I want him to be walking completely in his purpose. 297 00:14:42,640 --> 00:14:48,600 And that does trickle down to finances because I want to be able to build a life with someone 298 00:14:48,600 --> 00:14:52,240 and I need both of our feet to be in the correct place. 299 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:55,600 So those are like the top couple of things. 300 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:59,760 There's more, but we'll get to that down the line. 301 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:03,440 Now what I would say is, you know, you hear a lot of people saying, you know, what do 302 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:05,320 you bring to the table? 303 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:08,160 They love to talk about the table. 304 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:09,160 This is a table. 305 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:11,560 And it's my table. 306 00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:16,480 So okay, so I am not the type of person that gets offended when somebody asks that. 307 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:17,920 So when someone says, what do you bring to the table? 308 00:15:17,920 --> 00:15:20,280 I just start like rambling off stuff. 309 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:22,000 This is the data. 310 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:24,520 So I leave with what I bring to the table. 311 00:15:24,520 --> 00:15:34,040 But I feel as though some individuals can't take you being over ambitious or bringing 312 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:36,200 a lot to the table. 313 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:37,600 So I remember meeting a guy. 314 00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:39,040 And this is a short example. 315 00:15:39,040 --> 00:15:42,480 I met a guy and I started telling him, you know, I'm doing this and doing that, working 316 00:15:42,480 --> 00:15:44,680 on nonprofit, working on this and working on that. 317 00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:47,360 And he instantly said, well, you're not the woman for me. 318 00:15:47,360 --> 00:15:50,800 Oh, and I said, what now? 319 00:15:50,800 --> 00:15:51,960 I'm not the woman for you. 320 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:56,200 And he said, no, he said, because my woman got to be focused on me. 321 00:15:56,200 --> 00:15:57,480 I knew my woman focused on me. 322 00:15:57,480 --> 00:16:03,720 I don't need her wearing two jobs and part time job and nonprofit where I knew my woman 323 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:04,720 focused on me. 324 00:16:04,720 --> 00:16:08,440 And for just a small amount of time, I was offended. 325 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:11,680 But then I soon got over because he said not the woman for him. 326 00:16:11,680 --> 00:16:12,680 You're right. 327 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:13,680 Right. 328 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:18,280 And you know, it's no need to be offended because he did you a favor because he was 329 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:23,880 up front and communicating what his needs was up front. 330 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:27,520 And that's what, you know, so when people say, what do you bring to the table? 331 00:16:27,520 --> 00:16:31,160 I hear a lot of guys say, say, what do you bring to the table? 332 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:36,920 I mean, we could go, we could talk extensively about the table and the things that are being 333 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:38,400 brought to the table. 334 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:39,400 Right. 335 00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:40,400 Yeah. 336 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:44,440 I mean, I'll start with a couple. 337 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:52,000 You know, this heart of mine is something, you know, I think that I'm a great communicator. 338 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:56,440 I desire to be a teammate with someone. 339 00:16:56,440 --> 00:16:57,720 And I care about family. 340 00:16:57,720 --> 00:17:02,800 I care about the people I'm connected to, they're important to me. 341 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:04,760 And I am a visionary. 342 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:11,880 So all in tune, all that being said, while I'm in tune with you, we're constantly being 343 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:15,840 in tune with our family in the next goal, the next mission. 344 00:17:15,840 --> 00:17:19,640 And I think that's important. 345 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:24,360 You know, I don't really know what the right things are to bring to the table. 346 00:17:24,360 --> 00:17:28,760 A lot of things have to be unpacked over time. 347 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:35,200 I know that putting one foot in front of the other and the person that I'm with, us working 348 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:41,080 on goals together, my idea would be to have a partnership with someone. 349 00:17:41,080 --> 00:17:43,520 And so we'll start with that. 350 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:45,680 But you guys give us your feedback. 351 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:49,520 What do you think about the table and what's being brought to the table? 352 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:51,720 What are some things you look for in a mate? 353 00:17:51,720 --> 00:17:56,520 And what are some things that you think is important that they bring to the table? 354 00:17:56,520 --> 00:17:57,520 Is communication important? 355 00:17:57,520 --> 00:17:59,720 Is the way they dress important? 356 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:00,720 Is where they work? 357 00:18:00,720 --> 00:18:03,080 How much money they make important? 358 00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:05,640 Let us know your thoughts and your feedbacks in the comments. 359 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:09,720 I do hope there's something that we say today, uplift you, encourage you, and inspired you. 360 00:18:09,720 --> 00:18:11,400 Because that's what we're here for. 361 00:18:11,400 --> 00:18:12,400 We're growing. 362 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:14,600 We're wanting you to grow with us. 363 00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:18,520 We're wanting to help someone, whether it be male or female. 364 00:18:18,520 --> 00:18:21,600 You know, we just want to be a resource to you. 365 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:22,600 Right, right. 366 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:23,600 Absolutely. 367 00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:26,400 And before we leave, one last thing. 368 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:29,560 I wanted to do a Bible verse. 369 00:18:29,560 --> 00:18:33,760 Because I know one of the things we've talked about is growing our faith, growing our walk 370 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:34,960 and things like that. 371 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:46,000 And one of the things that I have found interesting while reading is, it's a quote, what is it 372 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:47,000 verse? 373 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:49,560 James chapter, James 1. 374 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:54,440 It says, a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways. 375 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:57,680 That I found to be interesting while doing my reading. 376 00:18:57,680 --> 00:19:04,080 I read that and really didn't understand until I had an opportunity of meeting a man. 377 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:09,640 And we got into a conversation and he was talking about his home life, his work life. 378 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:16,240 He was talking about, you know, entertaining a lot of women and things like that. 379 00:19:16,240 --> 00:19:17,960 And he was very happy. 380 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:20,040 And I was like, okay, well, that's cool. 381 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:25,520 And it wasn't until I got off the phone with him and I sat down and I was thinking. 382 00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:26,960 And I reflected on the conversation. 383 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:31,880 She told me how he had a couple of instances where women were showing up at his house and 384 00:19:31,880 --> 00:19:37,080 they were showing up at his job and they were showing up and causing all this havoc. 385 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,760 And this verse jumped out at me. 386 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:42,440 A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways. 387 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:50,920 And I was like, oh, because you live a great life on the outside, but there's turmoil in 388 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:55,720 the inside because of the double-mindedness and the unstableness. 389 00:19:55,720 --> 00:20:01,680 And that's why the women are showing up and it's chaotic and it's headache and thus creating 390 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:02,680 the unstableness. 391 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:05,680 So I thought that was a great tie into what I had read. 392 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:06,840 Read all of those scriptures. 393 00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:12,600 Read the scripture leading up to that and figure out how that whole, as I say, parable 394 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:15,080 in the Bible played out. 395 00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:18,760 And now, you're talking about this individual. 396 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:21,280 Cheating is never the right thing to do. 397 00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:23,800 Respect of his emotional well-being. 398 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:25,840 We talked about emotional well-being today. 399 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:30,040 So you see how the whole segment is all tied together. 400 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:32,200 So reflect on this. 401 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:38,440 And understand that when you go into a relationship, put your best foot forward, have your non-negotiables. 402 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:44,040 If something is not working for you, backpedal up out of it, be a strong communicator. 403 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:45,400 State that it's not working for you. 404 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:46,400 Use your words. 405 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:47,400 Use your words. 406 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:48,680 This is not working for me. 407 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:50,360 I'm no longer interested. 408 00:20:50,360 --> 00:20:54,800 Don't stay in a relationship that is a dead-end relationship and then lead to this type of 409 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:59,440 activity because now you're bringing other people into an equation and you cannot tell 410 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:04,320 people how to deal with the hurt or the embarrassment. 411 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:08,680 Yeah, you want to create some stability there. 412 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:14,880 So if you're listening to this and you can relate, what are some ways of thinking that 413 00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:17,800 has created some unstableness for you? 414 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:23,000 Do you feel like if you get a handle on those things that things would have played out differently 415 00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:25,480 or that have been the same? 416 00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:26,480 What are your thoughts? 417 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:27,480 What are your feedbacks? 418 00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:28,480 Drop it in the comments. 419 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:35,320 We'll see you back next Tuesday for another session of promoting and uplifting. 420 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:39,400 But before we go, do you have any small business shout-outs that you would like to do? 421 00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:46,040 I would actually like to shout out All Smile's clothing brand, who is a female African-American 422 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:51,320 owned business that is based out of, I want to say Newport News, but I really think Hampton 423 00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:52,680 is her roots. 424 00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:58,960 But she is doing a phenomenal, phenomenal work with her brand, building her brand. 425 00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:00,320 Her brand is so passionate. 426 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:05,560 She does have a YouTube segment that is available now where she's talking about her backstory 427 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:10,920 and her upbringing and the lack thereof, the lack, well, not lack thereof, the lack that 428 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:15,400 she experienced early on in her life, which forced her to create a brand. 429 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:17,720 So that is important when you create your brand. 430 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:21,240 Your brand can be birthed out of something traumatic that you've been through. 431 00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:22,240 Yeah. 432 00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:23,960 So shout-out to All Smile. 433 00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:29,440 I know last week we did Royal Breeze and this week we're doing All Smile. 434 00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:32,640 So if you guys, did she have a social media? 435 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:36,640 She does, but I'll actually put it in the comments section over here. 436 00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:44,800 But if you Google ALLSMLEZ, smiles with the Z on the end, you'll be able to find her. 437 00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:49,920 She does fashion shows in this area and she does a lot of talking to the youth in the 438 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:54,360 local high schools to keep them engaged because that's where the creativity lies. 439 00:22:54,360 --> 00:22:55,360 Oh, nice. 440 00:22:55,360 --> 00:22:56,360 Nice. 441 00:22:56,360 --> 00:22:58,240 So shout-out to All Smile. 442 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:02,160 We hope that you guys have enjoyed this week. 443 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:03,960 Brush up on your vitamins. 444 00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:06,960 Make sure your mind, body, and spirit is in tune. 445 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:07,960 Moisturize. 446 00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:08,960 Moisturize. 447 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:09,960 Moisturize. 448 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:10,960 Take them vitamins. 449 00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:11,960 Okay. 450 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:14,120 And let us know in the comments what you think. 451 00:23:14,120 --> 00:23:17,000 What are some qualities you're looking for in a partner? 452 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,120 What do you feel like you bring to the table? 453 00:23:19,120 --> 00:23:26,760 And also, give us some topics and things that you would like to see on an upcoming episode. 454 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:49,840 Until next Tuesday, we'll see you.