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Hi, and welcome to the In The Cortex podcast.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Paloma Garcia.

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And I am Danny Paraconi.

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And we're the founders of In The Cortex, an online community with programs that show

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people the tools that they need to change their lives, their brain reorganization, no

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medication, just movement.

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When you get your brain out of survival mode and regulate your nervous system, you start

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to live in the fun, logical part of the brain, the cortex.

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Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life.

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And now on to today's episode.

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Hello everybody, we are here together in Valley Center, California.

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Yeah.

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Today, we are talking about something that everybody has been through if they've tried

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to make a change in their life, try to implement a new habit, a new routine, something different

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that's usually the things that are best for you are the hardest ones, let's be honest.

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And so we're going to be talking about plateaus.

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When you hit a plateau in your self-development and your growth and of course in your brainwork,

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if you've been doing the program or if you've done the program, you might have felt this

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way maybe a couple of times.

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You know, it feels like why is this not, why am I not constantly growing?

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And that's kind of the feeling that we get, right?

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So we're going to get into that today.

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Yeah, I love that.

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And one of our favorite things is to talk about the contrast because that's where we

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have to appreciate both sides of it.

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That's why we always talk about the getting Yang and that's why we love the black and

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white because there's so much contrast in everything we do and you have to have the

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lowest to appreciate the highs.

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Agreed.

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And this is also what happens when we hit a plateau.

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So in the first part of the program, we introduce what's called the creep and the creep is what

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is developing the ponds.

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The ponds is naturally developing when you're a baby from zero to five months of life.

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So if there's any interruption in that or you don't get enough of it, that's the first

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main movement we introduced to you.

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And so if you're someone who starts off with a lower development there, like a 10%, you

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feel a lot of changes really quickly in our program.

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So then you kind of get used to the idea of like, oh my gosh, everything's just going

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to keep changing for the better.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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And then you hit that plateau where all of a sudden your creep now regulates and now

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you're hanging out at a good 75, 90%.

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And then all of a sudden you realize like, wait, I actually am not feeling those big

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drastic changes like I used to.

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And that is also connected to literally all aspects of life.

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It could be if you're growing a business like us.

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We feel like B plateau a lot, but it's just a natural rhythm to hit.

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And it's a moment where we're encouraging you just to keep going because it's your brain

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still now adjusting to all the new changes and it's really starting to settle in and

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that's going to be a really good anchor point for where your baseline sits.

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So if you do hit the plateau, this is something that's resonating with you.

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We're going to be putting it into the program exactly where you'll be feeling the plateau.

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So just know that it's a sign to keep going and there's something bigger and better coming,

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but you need to continue to grow that container of being able to hold that space for what

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the next big breakthrough is going to be.

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Well, that's the thing is that we also just get so used to our changes.

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And so that becomes our new reality.

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So we're like, I just want to keep seeing more and more and more.

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And that's where I think part of it is like society.

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She had to say it obviously.

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Because we just think that we're going to always like get better and better and better

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and better.

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And it's like, of course you're going to get better, but it's not always going to be

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linear and it's not always going to be like stop.

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There's an eyelash on your upper lip.

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Like literally.

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That was on your upper lip.

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I couldn't help it.

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Sorry, she had an eyelash.

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Make a wish.

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Oh, thank you.

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Sorry.

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Anyway, anyway, so we feel like we always have to keep growing and keep improving and keep

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getting better.

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And so when you're not in a state of improving, you feel like you're losing or like you're

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messing up or like something's wrong or something like that.

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And it's more the expectation that's unrealized.

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The expectation that we come to like every single day has to be better than the last.

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When we're doing something new, it's just doesn't make any sense.

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Like we're human.

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Sometimes you have more things going on.

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Sometimes you have more thoughts in your mind.

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Sometimes you've got better sleep and sometimes you've got worse sleep.

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I mean, it's really not realistic again to feel that everything's always going to be

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better, better, better, better, improving, improving, improving, improving.

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And also, like you were saying, the brain and the body have to take some time sometimes

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to like actually process what's going on, right?

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Because we talk about this in the program, like the time of expansion, the time of contraction.

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We've talked about this, I think before on the podcast, right?

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Like you need to contract in order to be able to continue to expand.

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If you're constantly expanding, expanding, expanding, growing, growing, growing, where

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are you going to go?

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You're going to explode, right?

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So that's kind of like one of the rhythms of life.

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And we've all, for example, we have much more patience for kids because it's much more

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studied in the sense, right?

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So lots of kids go into like a feeding regression or sleep regression when they're little and

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you know, doctors have prepped you for it.

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You know, it's coming.

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So you're like, oh, okay, just in a regression.

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But then when we experience the same thing, when we're adding something new to our lives,

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we don't like it and we feel like it's bad and there's something wrong, right?

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We've all been there with like, when you're going like on a new exercise or like health,

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you know, diet, eating regime, where you get to that point where you're like, it's not

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working, blah, blah, blah, and you discount all the work you already did and all the changes

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you already felt and saw.

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Even if it's physical changes, right?

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You're gaining muscle, you're losing fat, whatever it is.

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It's so easy for the brain to tuck itself into.

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It's still not working.

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It's still not working, right?

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We hear that all the time.

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And I'm so glad you said that because it's really about building that trust muscle up

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and trusting that you're on your path.

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Sometimes like, I honestly, I think I now, whenever I have days that are off, I just

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just sitting and go, okay, I have to have this day to appreciate the good days.

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And then when I'm in those really good days, I'm like, I have to really highlight all those

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good moments to keep myself going.

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we're going to look for the things that aren't working.

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And we're going to keep pushing for, oh, I still don't have this done yet or my kid

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is still doing this.

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on what is working.

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If we do this all the time, all the time, creating our own growth and everything.

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Like when we are in our space of building this business and helping people see this, we're

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on the other side of it too, or we have to stop and go, but wait, there's so many things

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that have shifted.

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Just because we're not like millionaires all over the world yet, we're like, why isn't

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it work?

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Why aren't more people wanting to do it?

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We're like, well, we have so many amazing members right now.

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And so many people that do the work.

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And so that's even a reminder for us.

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And that's really all aspects of life.

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So that's what we're going to encourage you to do when you get into that plateau space,

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get to the journal and just write down the changes you have experienced.

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Write down what's working for you.

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Write down what you've seen and it could be the smallest little things of when you're

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sharing with your brother, he moved his foot when something was about to fall on it.

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He's like, that was a change.

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And that's a big change because having something land on your foot could break your toes and

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bum you out real big.

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It hurts really bad.

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So now it's about looking for what's working.

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So on that note, can you find a few things that you're grateful for?

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I'm grateful for the weather today.

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It's beautiful and nice.

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And I'm grateful that we finally got to do a really cool in person workshop because we've

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been wanting to do that for so long and it went so well.

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That was really rad.

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It was our first time of us getting together.

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So it was cool.

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Which we should be, and I want to do more of that.

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We're building more of that in person community.

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You're doing it in Mexico City.

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I'm out here in San Diego doing it and it's about intentionally creating the community

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that you want to keep growing.

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Thanks for asking that I'm grateful.

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I'm just joking.

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I was ungrateful of you actually.

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I am so grateful that you're here and that we have this together.

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We've been together now for many, many years and our relationship is so unique.

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It's unlike anything I ever say because when people say who's Paloma, I'm like, she's my

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business partner and it means more than just friend.

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You know what it means?

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It's so interwoven into our lives.

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It's like you and I know each other so much.

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It's ridiculous.

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And you're like my walking therapist all the time where you call out all my stuff and I'm

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like, you're right.

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But I don't have any charge to it when you say anything that I need to see.

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And I'm grateful that we get to share this information with people and that life can

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be easier and we get to experience it daily.

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So that just helps us go, okay, that's right.

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That's why we're doing this.

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And that's where when we hit those plateaus, just think about those things and we're like,

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okay, yeah, you're right.

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We've gotten this far.

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We've been doing this.

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We have all these amazing members that are constantly sharing their stories and the changes

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they're feeling and all the things that are happening.

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as a human, you always want to, like the brain always wants to find, first of all, all you

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want things to say the same, right?

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Predictability wants to go back into the old routine.

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So it's also going to make you feel that it's also going to make you not want to see the

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changes and want to focus on the fact that you're not constantly growing or whatever.

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But that's the fight or flight mode kicking back in and being like, no, it's not changed

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anything.

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Stay the same.

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We need challenges.

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We, again, our brain is designed the way it was still develops as the way it was.

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It did 500 years ago when we were like truly having to get ourselves into survival situations

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all the time to eat, to not get killed by a rival, you know, whatever tribe that was

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on the other side of the mountains or whatever.

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Like we were always having to find these situations that we had to fight through.

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So that's also why it is human nature.

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If you look back at history, that's what it is.

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It's a bunch of challenges that people would put in front of themselves and they get through

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And then there's another one, right?

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So it's also the brain being like, okay, what's next?

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Like I got to this level.

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I want more.

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So that's where it's actually a good thing, right?

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That frustration comes from you knowing that you can go further and you can just do more

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and be more and be more aligned with who you are.

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And so that's where you're like, okay, let me see what the next part of it is.

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And that's why we say keep going.

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Whether it's talking about brain work, obviously that's what we're talking about.

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But even if it's something else, right, that's in your life, like those are the moments when

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you look at what is it that I'm seeking.

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Am I seeking to go back?

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Cause it's my brain trying to sabotage me.

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Am I seeking for a different kind of challenge?

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Am I just totally lost in the difficulty of it and forgetting all the amazing positive

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changes, right?

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And look at, look at it and see what you can do to get yourself back on to the horse.

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me to reframe things and do it pretty quickly because you can look at any situation.

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not share of just like looking at a situation and saying, Oh, I could see it this way and

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then quickly reframing it into, but it's actually working out for me.

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consistently of how is this working for you and really finding all the ways that it is

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working for you because there's so many more than you would not even think.

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like, Oh, their life is like that.

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Why am I not grateful for my life like this?

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There seems like different.

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And so, but not being in the space of Oh, poor you or poor me because that's that whole thing

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we talked about the drama, trying to draw a drawing.

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So we're really encouraging you to number one, keep going, keep doing the movements and

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keep trusting that things will continue to grow.

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feel fine now.

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You need to feel it in your energy.

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Like the little things can start to come back and we're talking about how quickly our reflexes

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turn back on because we're living in this bombarding state of information and technology

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and stimulation all the time that our reflexes are like, is this survival mode?

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because it's so quiet.

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I already have enough with two kids, business, relationships and all the things.

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I'm like, I can't add anything else.

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So I need a serene environment to live in to help keep me there.

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I actually just realized that.

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That's a lot of people.

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No, that's a lot of people that move out, end up moving out to the country or something.

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give yourself in that time of that plateau.

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So like, for example, if you're feeling like you need to take a break, take a break from

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the brain work, from the, you know, eating the certain way from working out or from whatever,

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you know, the new habit if you're trying to do.

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And sometimes that's all that you need.

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And it might not be a bad thing, right?

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All you need is a break and then to come back.

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Sometimes you need to give yourself that space and that separation from something that's

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clearly been like on the, in the forefront of your mind for a while, right?

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I feel like we, you and I are good about doing that now.

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We used to be so like, far down ourselves, like, oh, I'm not drinking enough water.

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I'm not eating this way.

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I'm not doing this and that and this and that.

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And then it's like, bro, just let yourself go sometimes, you know, and forget about drinking

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water, forget about, you know, avoiding certain food groups or whatever it is.

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I'm thinking clearly about my example with the gluten and dairy, which was so good for

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me to not eat them.

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And I started eating them again.

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I'm like, I can feel the difference, but they're so delicious.

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So I'm just letting myself do it for a bit and then I'll go back to, to avoiding them,

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you know, and like it's about finding the balance.

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Ultimately that's all what it's about.

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And the plateau is part of you finding a balance.

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If you think about it, plateau is that space, right?

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In between one growth or one shift in another one, right?

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It's like a blank space where you're still getting ready for the next thing, whether

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it's going up or going down or going right, going left, going wherever, right?

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And removing the judgment from the plateau, I think is a big deal because we're so hard

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on ourselves.

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Like it's just like not, you know, it's part of life.

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And once again, okay, you're in a plateau, let's say.

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Great.

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What can you possibly do about it right this moment?

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Not much, honestly.

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Like you can force yourself to do more.

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You can, you know, I feel like that happens a lot with people when they're like doing

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like diet and exercise, right?

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It's easier to put that example because I know everybody can relate to that or most

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people can relate to that.

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And you're like, oh, I want to be stronger.

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I want to be thinner.

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I want to be this.

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I want to be that, whatever your goals are.

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And that one day that you realize you're in a plateau, what are you going to change?

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If you go to, you know, 700 bench presses or whatever, you're probably just going to

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get really, really tired and, you know, hurt yourself.

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And you know, and what are you going to do?

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Not eat for another week?

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No, you know what I mean?

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That's exactly it.

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That's what leads to the burnout is chasing the constant growth.

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So we being able to zoom out, that's where the brainwork comes in, zoom out and say,

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okay, this is just a phase.

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It's just a part of my journey.

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And I'm removing the judgment and the pressure from it.

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Cause the pressure we have to keep going and going and doing all these things and always

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showing off all the different ways that we're changing and evolving is just not fair.

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Cause that's not the way the brain works.

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And people who say that they're constantly growing and constantly explaining every single

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day, every single hour of every single day, every single minute, every single week of

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month and year, that's not true.

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They're lying.

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Like I'm sorry, that's just not possible.

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I think we teeter between the, the space of giving people the grace of being a human.

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Here's the, the support of being a human.

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And then we're also, it's very fine line of like just having excuses.

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And so I know that's something that we have worked through a lot too.

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Cause some days it's just like, I don't feel like doing this.

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And then we've come to the realization that the way we're wired is if we try to power

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and white knuckle through something, it will burn us out.

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And so I've really, cause that was my whole upbringing was the power through and never,

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and never get to experience the plateau as being a beneficial space.

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And I think that's what our podcast today is really trying to highlight for you is like,

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when you're in that plateau space, it's time to rest and digest.

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It's time to see what's working.

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It's time to build the trust.

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It's time to just settle in and accept all of you that's human.

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Our biggest thing at, in the cortex is creating a sustainable practice for life.

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And there's so many programs out there that are so great, but a lot of our members come

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to us after spending thousands of dollars on a program that uprooted their entire lives.

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They had to dedicate hours and hours on all they did.

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And we had a little bit of that in our beginning years of experience.

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We had, we used to work somewhere where they'd say do 30 minutes a day of creeping.

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And then when they got to the second level, they would do 45 and that was 30 minutes of

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creep or was like 15 minutes of creeping, 30 minutes of crawling.

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Do you imagine?

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It's, it's, it's a lot.

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It's like, how do you even, and then they're doing it for kids and then the parents would

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come in and they're like, how do we do this?

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And I'm like, yo, I don't even think that's doable.

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So then we found the magic formula that was, cause I was watching the parents.

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They were in, it was more stress than it was actually beneficial.

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So it was counterproductive.

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But for what we asked for is we start you off.

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So five minutes, five minutes of creeping daily.

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And then you build the eight and then you build a 10, 10 is the max you'll ever do.

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Every day of each movement.

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And it doesn't matter how many laps and how much distance you cover, it's just being on

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your belly in that space for 10 minutes.

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And so many practices out there are asking for you to commit to so much time of, you

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know, what you need to do daily to get there.

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Yep.

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So, and it's always, you know, anything is better than nothing.

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Exactly.

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You know, even if you do two minutes of it, better than zero, you know what I mean?

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And that's kind of like why I really liked the, the Vedic meditation that I got into,

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because they're the same way.

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They're like, listen, if you can do the full thing, that's great.

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If you can't do what you can, cause it's always going to be helpful.

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And like even the smallest amount, it's been proven by, what's his name?

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Dan, something, he has that podcast, 10% happier.

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He wrote the book 10% happier.

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Dan something he studied meditation and he proved that even one minute of meditation

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is beneficial for the brain.

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Just one minute per day.

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Like how crazy is that?

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We always think again, yeah, I have to do the full thing.

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I have to do it perfectly or not do anything, right?

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Dan Harris, there we go.

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And it's just not true, right?

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And so it's just not something that is again, realistic and just find what works for you,

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especially in those plateau moments.

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Yes.

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And really, yeah, so that's probably like wrapping it up with your experiencing it,

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you're feeling like you're not seeing enough changes, pause, go to gratitude, focus on what's

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working and then also know that this is an important space to be in when you're in the

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self-discovery world.

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Yeah.

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In order for it to be sustainable, you have to keep embracing all of it.

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And that's why we always tell it to our members of our lifetime access because we want you

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hanging out with us.

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And we have members who have been with us for years.

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We started.

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And they take a break and then they come back.

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They're like, we're so glad I just got back into this.

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I could tell I really needed it.

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My blah blah blah, we're like, you don't have to take a year-long break.

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You can take like a month or two.

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And then realize I need to do it.

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I took, right now, my kids, we took a three week break on them doing it.

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I haven't stopped because I know when I stop, I just, I'm not my best.

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And he, my son took a three week break and I started noticing, like little things.

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Of course.

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Like he was doing the whole, could not handle multi step.

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Right.

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Directions.

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like your baseline, think about how many years you've built this baseline of like your neural

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pathways have connected for so long a certain way. And then you disrupt it and you create a new

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pathway. Think about when you're out in a forest, how quickly the leaves grow back and how fast that

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path disappears if you don't keep at it. So you can give it like a week or two. But then all of a

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sudden those little vines start to creep back in and then you're like, oh, and then before you know

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it, you're like, whoa, my multi step directions are out the window. My son is super unfocused.

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Oh my gosh, he's got his nervousness back. It's all spiraling out of control. Yeah. And so you

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just remember, oh, it's time to do our brain working in. And then you start to see the changes

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instantly. Like I actually kind of had a moment where I was like, why did I and that's also to

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then I step into the grace of like, okay, this is a this is a lifestyle. I have to just keep at it

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and notice when I fall off a bit. But my son was like struggling at baseball and I was doing like

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all the conventional ways of getting him back on track of like talking to him and practicing harder.

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And I'm like, or I could do some reconnect. Yeah. And we could do some exuding rocks. And we did.

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And then all of a sudden things shifted and I'm like, see, they work. That's why I love these

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tools. That's what it is. Yeah, it's always the things that work. Yeah. So we're not looking for

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perfection. We're looking for embracing the mess. And just knowing when it's chill and

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calm. That's a good place to be. But don't give up. Just keep going. Keep going and finding what

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your balance is, because that's ultimately the goal. And because these tools, you're always

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going to have them. That's the whole point of our program, right? Yeah, is that we're teaching them

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to you and you can have them now for the rest of your life. And you can always use them as you need

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them and also be realistic with yourself, right? You can't expect your entire life to 180 in three

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weeks, four weeks, five weeks, even three years. Like this is, you know, I mean, that might be an

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exaggeration, but it takes so much time, you know, human brains and human behavior is so complex

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that you really just have to give the time and space for things to happen when they should happen.

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Right. And so just be patient with yourself, give yourself grace and keep going. Yeah. We love you.

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