1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,300 Hi, and welcome to the In the Cortex podcast. 2 00:00:09,300 --> 00:00:10,300 We are your hosts. 3 00:00:10,300 --> 00:00:11,640 I'm Paloma Garcia. 4 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:13,680 And I am Dani Pericone. 5 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:17,600 And we're the founders of In the Cortex, an online community with programs that show people 6 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:21,520 the tools that they need to change their lives through brain reorganization. 7 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:23,920 No medication, just movement. 8 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:28,120 When you get your brain out of survival mode and regulate your nervous system, you start 9 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:32,160 to live in the fun, logical part of the brain, the cortex. 10 00:00:32,160 --> 00:00:36,520 Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life. 11 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:40,840 And now on to today's episode. 12 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:41,840 Welcome everybody to the podcast. 13 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:44,320 Today is an episode that is a little bit different. 14 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:50,880 We had something else planned, but we started talking and we were like, whoa, this is really 15 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:51,920 kind of crazy. 16 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:55,900 And we kind of, we know a lot of people liked our last episode where we went really deep 17 00:00:55,900 --> 00:01:00,480 into what a session looks like and how we help guide people through certain things. 18 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:04,200 And that was honestly only the tip of the iceberg, the podcast that we did, because 19 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:06,000 we really do go a lot further. 20 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:08,080 But we were just talking about our own stuff. 21 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:14,120 And so we kind of wanted to share that with everybody and just kind of show you what our 22 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:19,280 path has been like and kind of where we are now and where we could have been and where 23 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:21,880 we, I don't know, just all these things that we're kind of tripping out about. 24 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:24,520 So definitely a different kind of episode. 25 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:26,120 But Danny, go for it. 26 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:31,440 You were just talking about kind of like where you started, I guess, like adulthood, so to 27 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:32,440 speak, right? 28 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:33,440 Yeah. 29 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:37,720 The conversation started with, I could just have tears come out of my eyes thinking about 30 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:43,120 what if I didn't know this information and how different my life would have been. 31 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:45,120 And you know, it's like the butterfly effects, right? 32 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:48,640 Like you find something and you go one way and like, this is what it could look like, 33 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:51,000 or you go another way and you don't always know. 34 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:53,460 Obviously you just pick a path, right? 35 00:01:53,460 --> 00:01:57,240 And so we just started talking about like, whoa, look how crazy like all of our changes 36 00:01:57,240 --> 00:02:00,040 that have come through doing this work. 37 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:02,560 And our original podcast was talking about resistance. 38 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:07,440 And I think we can weave that in today as we talk about our own stuff. 39 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:09,320 And I was like, think about it, Paloma. 40 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:14,240 Like before we started ITC, like we had already had a really good foundation of brain work 41 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:20,400 and we had been doing our primitive reflex integration, lower brain development pretty 42 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:21,400 regularly. 43 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:26,600 I mean, honestly, I did fall off though, because I had kids and things happen. 44 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:31,680 And to remind you all our story of I was working somewhere, Paloma and I met at that place 45 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:33,200 and then I branched off. 46 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:37,600 Paloma and I then connected again and we worked together for two and a half years. 47 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:42,560 And then I had my first child and everything kind of went a different direction for a while. 48 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:48,480 And then we connected in 2020 when the pandemic hit and it was kind of like... 49 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:53,280 We connected randomly though, actually, because we connected in 2019. 50 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:55,760 I was working with a kiddo that I was... 51 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:58,160 His creep just was not evolving. 52 00:02:58,160 --> 00:02:59,160 And I was like, what's going on? 53 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:01,920 Like he was stuck in the same pattern for maybe like a month. 54 00:03:01,920 --> 00:03:04,560 And I was like, this makes no sense. 55 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:05,560 What's going on? 56 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:08,840 And so I called you randomly and you were like, oh my God, we hadn't talked in like, 57 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:09,840 I don't know, a really long time. 58 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:14,680 I mean, we always were like in contact and stuff, but like we hadn't like had a conversation. 59 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:17,040 And so you talked about it with me, Paloma. 60 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:19,680 And you were like, well, have you looked at like the emotional piece? 61 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:21,880 And that's where I was like, wait, what? 62 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:26,000 And you rocked my world when you started to talk about all the subconscious, sent me all 63 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:29,760 these books and like podcasts and all these links and things to look into. 64 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,040 And I was like, this is so cool. 65 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:35,320 And so we just kind of opened our channel again of collaboration. 66 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:36,320 And you... 67 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:41,680 I was in Mexico City back then and you had another company and you were like, well, maybe 68 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:43,600 we can do like a Mexico City branch. 69 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:46,120 And I was like, great, amazing. 70 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:48,120 And then the pandemic hit. 71 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:49,320 And then the pandemic hit. 72 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:54,760 And then that's when, I mean, I was still honestly like doing certain things that people 73 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:56,560 felt comfortable with. 74 00:03:56,560 --> 00:04:00,920 And but I was more so like, wait, we need to take this to another level. 75 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:04,680 And I knew that with you, because we knew each other so well, I was like, Paloma, I 76 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:05,680 can do this. 77 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:06,680 Yeah. 78 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:09,040 And so that's when we brought on the whole online program. 79 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:12,600 And that's where we really created this incredible program. 80 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:19,160 And then let's say like a year after we created it, we started doing it more hardcore. 81 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:21,800 Two and a half years after we created it. 82 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:22,800 Maybe two. 83 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:23,800 Yeah, it took a minute. 84 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:25,760 I was already in Mexico when we started it. 85 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:28,040 So I was in Spain for the first two years. 86 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:29,040 Yeah. 87 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:30,040 Right there. 88 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:31,040 That was like our resistance piece. 89 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:32,040 Like, and we had like an a-ha. 90 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:35,880 We're like, how are we expecting people to do this if we're not committed to doing it 91 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:36,880 daily? 92 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:40,560 And that's where we really shifted our messaging of this is life time. 93 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:41,560 This is a lifestyle. 94 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:45,640 This is something you have to commit to for your life because you're a human and you have 95 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:49,480 emotions and you're going to have triggers and you're going to have activations in your 96 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:51,320 nervous system for as long as you're a human. 97 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:54,400 So we're like, we really need to share this with people because we both learned it that 98 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:57,320 you do a certain amount and you're done and you never have to do it again. 99 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,560 And I just found that was so not the case. 100 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:03,320 And that's what actually started my business when I branched off originally. 101 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:09,320 But so as we started to commit to it and broke through our resistance of doing it daily, 102 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:12,000 we started experiencing incredible changes even more. 103 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,960 Like our lives had changed to get us to that point. 104 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:18,880 And then we dove deeper and then we started diving into subconscious stuff. 105 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:20,880 And the crazy part is what we're just talking about. 106 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:26,040 We're like, let's hit record because I was like, think about my life when we first met 107 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:31,200 when we started ITC, what four years ago, literally in April was like four years ago 108 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:34,320 and yeah, yeah, because I had just gone to Rhode Island. 109 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:35,320 Yeah, exactly. 110 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:36,760 And I was like, think about it. 111 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:37,760 I was married. 112 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:38,920 I had two kids. 113 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:40,200 I owned a home. 114 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:41,880 I had all the things right. 115 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:43,960 And I looked like my life was perfect. 116 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:45,760 I'm doing air quotes. 117 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:50,520 And as we started to like get into this work, all of a sudden my life kind of exploded. 118 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:52,160 And we're not saying this to scare you. 119 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:54,880 It just gave me so many new tools. 120 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:57,200 And trust me, I'm so grateful for where I am today. 121 00:05:57,200 --> 00:06:01,720 I've never been better in my headspace, my life and all the things. 122 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:07,600 But it took some really deep work and some really deep examining of why am I here now? 123 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:11,360 And I really peeled back the layers and I was like, wait, I'm actually not happy with 124 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:13,360 all this perfect life stuff. 125 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:14,360 Right. 126 00:06:14,360 --> 00:06:17,800 And I think you had convinced yourself that you were happier. 127 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:24,680 You had like kind of, I guess, kind of fallen into what you like society's expectations. 128 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:25,680 It always comes up. 129 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:26,680 You were just falling into it, right? 130 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:29,680 You were like, oh, this is what I was supposed to want. 131 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:30,680 I checked out the outfit. 132 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:32,000 This is the person I'm supposed to be with. 133 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:33,600 This is the person that I chose. 134 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:37,120 This is the house, the thing, blah, blah, like whatever. 135 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:42,960 And I think once everything got so rocked with pandemic, with starting this online business, 136 00:06:42,960 --> 00:06:48,040 which was not easy, it's still not easy, but it's amazing and we love it. 137 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:52,440 And that's, I think, when you started to really let yourself reevaluate things. 138 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:53,960 I don't think you were letting yourself before. 139 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:58,680 I think you were a little bit in that, like, I'm not don't look if you don't get it, you 140 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:00,040 won't see it or whatever it is. 141 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:01,040 Kind of mentality. 142 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:02,040 Oh, 100%. 143 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:06,920 And then as I started doing more brain work and as we started connecting more. 144 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:11,640 And then and then I was like Paloma and I knew I needed a change and I didn't know what 145 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:13,400 that change was. 146 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:17,560 And that's when all of a sudden I was like, well, an easy moving forward thing for me 147 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:21,160 was let's sell our house and let's buy an RV and let's travel the whole country. 148 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,040 Because I was like, I got to get out of California. 149 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:24,120 Like that was my mindset. 150 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:26,720 Like that was that was what I thought the solution was. 151 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:28,360 But that just was the tip of the iceberg. 152 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:30,400 That's just what started stirring it all up. 153 00:07:30,400 --> 00:07:31,400 Right. 154 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:34,560 And so we made this massive leap and my ex husband was just like, no, I don't want to 155 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:36,600 do it because he's so resistant to change. 156 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:38,200 And he's a great, great human. 157 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:39,680 There's no evil or anything. 158 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:43,320 No, he's a great parenting relationship. 159 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:44,840 And we've talked about this extensively. 160 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:47,080 So he's OK with me sharing this. 161 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:50,160 And and so he was just like, I don't want to do this. 162 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:51,200 And I was like, but I do. 163 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:53,800 And I knew deep down, like there was something going on in me. 164 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:57,080 And I was like, I need to get to the bottom of this. 165 00:07:57,080 --> 00:08:00,600 And as we traveled the whole country, 11000 miles, Paloma and I were building out the 166 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:03,920 program, driving ourselves nuts with no Internet connection. 167 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:07,280 It was just like when you look back at it, you're like, what did you do? 168 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:08,280 It was so funny. 169 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:09,520 We just kept going. 170 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:13,160 And then you as soon as I get back, then you're like, I'm moving to Spain and I'm going to 171 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:15,040 my master's, my double master's program. 172 00:08:15,040 --> 00:08:17,680 And I was like, we can make nine hour difference work. 173 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:21,540 She was making like two in the morning and like all and we're like. 174 00:08:21,540 --> 00:08:24,640 So when you really think about what we've done in these past four years, it's actually 175 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:26,280 quite amazing. 176 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:31,300 And that is so symbolic of what it looks like when you start doing this work. 177 00:08:31,300 --> 00:08:34,840 You think like it's one clear trajectory of like, I'm going to start here and I'm going 178 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:35,840 to end up here. 179 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:36,840 And that's so not the case. 180 00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:40,420 Like you start doing something, you do like a massive U-turn, you come back, you're like, 181 00:08:40,420 --> 00:08:41,420 that didn't work. 182 00:08:41,420 --> 00:08:42,420 Go this way, go that way. 183 00:08:42,420 --> 00:08:44,400 And you just keep trying new things. 184 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:50,560 And the fact that neither of us were resistant to trying new things was the key piece because 185 00:08:50,560 --> 00:08:53,280 I was going to brain organize and we had our brain. 186 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:57,440 I think I think back to when we actually first heard about that, that we didn't have our 187 00:08:57,440 --> 00:08:58,440 brain organized. 188 00:08:58,440 --> 00:08:59,440 That's true. 189 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:00,720 And we weren't resistant to that. 190 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:05,520 You know, like I remember when I first heard of it, when I went to that center with my 191 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,400 brother, who I think a lot of you have heard my brother's story. 192 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:14,280 He really is like a huge inspiration for me to get into this because he was the, I lived 193 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:22,000 his success case in my house and he, we went to this place, she did an assessment, she 194 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:29,400 had us both creep and crawl on the floor and she told us so much about our brains. 195 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:33,280 And I remember I was a very, my creep was already very developed. 196 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:35,440 I think I was at like 90% already, right? 197 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:37,720 I was like really smooth. 198 00:09:37,720 --> 00:09:42,160 And she told me, well, once my brother came out, she was like, he got down on the floor 199 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:43,440 and he couldn't move. 200 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:44,920 He physically could not move. 201 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:45,920 And I was like, what? 202 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:47,800 But it's so, what? 203 00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:51,080 And so she started telling us about the brain, about how it worked. 204 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:55,840 And there was just something in my mind that was like, oh my God, click, like absolute 205 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:56,840 click. 206 00:09:56,840 --> 00:10:03,200 And I was already, I was in, I think I was still in college at that point, but I had 207 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:06,000 already, I'd done like an internship at like Mars chocolate. 208 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:10,080 And then I was working at Accenture and then I was doing all these like super corporate 209 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:11,240 things that I thought I had to do. 210 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:13,320 Cause I went to business school. 211 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:17,120 Although originally I wanted to go to into psychology, but my parents were like, no, 212 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:18,120 no, no, no, no. 213 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:19,120 You have to go into like the safe route. 214 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:20,120 Right? 215 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:23,880 So I went to business and, but I always had that in me, right? 216 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:26,880 When I was like, I'm so obsessed with human behavior and like all these things. 217 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:29,080 And so I learned about it. 218 00:10:29,080 --> 00:10:32,840 And I remember my mom kind of thinking like, that's a little weird, but you know, we'll 219 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:34,040 try it, whatever. 220 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:38,680 At that point, like so many people that come with us, my brother, I think was like 17, 221 00:10:38,680 --> 00:10:40,180 she was like, I'll try anything. 222 00:10:40,180 --> 00:10:41,180 I'll try anything. 223 00:10:41,180 --> 00:10:47,440 I want him to be able to be himself and succeed in life and not have to depend on us or on 224 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:49,040 medication or something like that. 225 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:52,640 So that's where she was more like at the desperate point where she was just like, yeah, whatever, 226 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:53,640 I'll do it. 227 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:54,640 She tried everything. 228 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:56,920 Cause she had really tried everything. 229 00:10:56,920 --> 00:11:02,840 My brother had been all over the U S and Mexico to all the different therapies, all the things 230 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:06,400 I sometimes I'll mention like a therapy that I'm like, Oh, have you ever heard of this? 231 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:07,400 My mom's like, yeah, your brother did it. 232 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:12,600 And I'm like, Oh, so you do know all of the therapies are out there ever. 233 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:18,800 And that's where I think the first piece came in is that my brain was really, I don't remember 234 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:19,880 ever questioning it. 235 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:25,520 And I'm somebody who was a very like self-proclaimed skeptic. 236 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:31,400 Like I was all, I was all about like, you know, the science based things that of course 237 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:34,080 this was also before like social media was what it is today. 238 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:35,680 So let's also keep that in mind. 239 00:11:35,680 --> 00:11:41,080 But I was also very about like straightforward, like no woo woo things, none of that hippie, 240 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:42,720 you know, stuff. 241 00:11:42,720 --> 00:11:44,320 I was totally against that stuff. 242 00:11:44,320 --> 00:11:51,160 So it was very interesting kind of to, to for me to actually just do it. 243 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:56,120 And I think it's because it truly is my calling that I was able to not have that resistance. 244 00:11:56,120 --> 00:12:01,000 But if it hadn't been for that, I would be like in corporate America today, like probably 245 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:06,960 working at, you know, one of those big companies and just probably not very aligned with who 246 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:07,960 I am. 247 00:12:07,960 --> 00:12:08,960 Yeah. 248 00:12:08,960 --> 00:12:10,680 And that's what the conversation was really about. 249 00:12:10,680 --> 00:12:15,120 Like where we all of a sudden realize like how much brain organization, cause you did 250 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:17,880 experience a lot of change once you started looking at your reflexes. 251 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:21,120 And once you looked at your mid brain and you're like, wow, I actually do have a lot 252 00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:23,000 of growth to do. 253 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:24,280 And yeah. 254 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:28,680 And initially though, I was resistant to even doing the, the, the creeper because I was 255 00:12:28,680 --> 00:12:29,680 like, I'm good. 256 00:12:29,680 --> 00:12:30,680 Oh, that's right. 257 00:12:30,680 --> 00:12:31,680 95%. 258 00:12:31,680 --> 00:12:38,200 You know, and I, when I was in San Diego, even I didn't really creep, like I did all 259 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:39,880 the other stuff and it helped me so much. 260 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:45,000 I did all the reflexes, but I didn't actually fully dedicate myself to creeping creeping 261 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:50,400 until we did it when I was in Mexico, like until like a couple of weeks, months, years 262 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:51,400 ago, years ago. 263 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:52,400 Yeah. 264 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:55,000 Last year, last year we did last summer. 265 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:59,320 And I felt, I still felt amazing changes and I felt more connected to myself and all these 266 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:04,080 things, but I still had that one piece of resistance to the creeping itself. 267 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:06,440 Then that tells you everything you need to know. 268 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:07,440 Yeah. 269 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:12,000 And basically when you have resistance to anything, it's really a true indicator that 270 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:13,560 that's what you need the most. 271 00:13:13,560 --> 00:13:19,120 And, and it also means that you have to learn how to approach that resistance because if 272 00:13:19,120 --> 00:13:25,000 you try to force yourself through it, you'll actually create more anger and more like internal 273 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:28,640 stuff and your body will start talking to you and we'll start to like shut down and 274 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:31,560 we'll start to get sick and we'll start to have other things happen. 275 00:13:31,560 --> 00:13:35,920 So trusting that when you're ready, you'll feel that moment of like, okay, now I'm ready. 276 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:39,680 I'm ready to dive into this thing that I've been hearing about now for years or months 277 00:13:39,680 --> 00:13:43,760 or weeks and I'm ready to see what it does. 278 00:13:43,760 --> 00:13:49,880 And a lot of times we have this feeling because when you have tried so many different things 279 00:13:49,880 --> 00:13:54,120 and maybe it didn't give you those results that people promised you, you're like, okay, 280 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:56,240 what's one more thing you're going to promise me this? 281 00:13:56,240 --> 00:13:59,820 There's no possible way that my life is going to change that much. 282 00:13:59,820 --> 00:14:02,720 And it really does change so drastically. 283 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:07,680 And our members say all the time, we wish we started here and we go, yeah, but you had 284 00:14:07,680 --> 00:14:12,080 to go try all those other things first to understand how powerful brain reorganization 285 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:13,080 is. 286 00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:14,080 Totally. 287 00:14:14,080 --> 00:14:19,420 That was 100% my whole thing too is, and I had always been, so I had, once I had my 288 00:14:19,420 --> 00:14:24,220 kids too, I was in the brain work world because I wanted my kids to creep and crawl. 289 00:14:24,220 --> 00:14:25,600 And so I had been doing it. 290 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:30,560 I never took a full, full stop from doing my brain work, but what I wasn't doing was 291 00:14:30,560 --> 00:14:37,600 really, really examining why I was in a certain situation that was making me so unhappy. 292 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:43,320 And I thought running, flight, going, finding a new place was going to solve all my problems. 293 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:44,840 And so many people do this. 294 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:49,880 They go, if I just move to this place or this, then all of a sudden my life is going to be 295 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:50,880 different. 296 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:52,960 Oh, that's one of my beliefs too. 297 00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:55,720 Like every time in an airport, I'm like, where can I move today? 298 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:58,680 Any new city I visit, I'm like, I'm moving here. 299 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:00,160 Like literally anywhere. 300 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:04,480 This is huge because honestly, what do you bring with you everywhere you go? 301 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:06,640 Your own mind, your own stuff, right? 302 00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:09,200 Like it goes, it doesn't matter. 303 00:15:09,200 --> 00:15:10,480 And this is what people do too. 304 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:13,240 And it could just be like the physical, but it's also the emotion. 305 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:15,800 Like I'm going to leave this relationship and go get another one. 306 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:18,080 And how many times do we repeat the same pattern? 307 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:22,600 Cause we never went inward to go, well, why was I even unhappy in the first place? 308 00:15:22,600 --> 00:15:26,360 And so this is why we see these just loops that people get stuck in. 309 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:28,480 And so for us, we really confronted it. 310 00:15:28,480 --> 00:15:30,800 We really looked at it and was like, okay, let's commit to this. 311 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:32,360 Let's do the work. 312 00:15:32,360 --> 00:15:38,800 And that's when, so when I got back from traveling the country, I, that's when everything kind 313 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:40,360 of came under a microscope for me. 314 00:15:40,360 --> 00:15:44,880 We were then pressure cooked into a tiny RV with two small kids and we were traveling. 315 00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:49,200 And you know, it's not always easy to pack two kids up that are young and travel 300 316 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:52,400 miles a day and do all the things, especially when one person's like, I don't want to do 317 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:53,400 this. 318 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:54,400 And I was like, well, then why are you here? 319 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:58,080 You know, like, and when we got back, I was just like, wait, maybe it's not the move we 320 00:15:58,080 --> 00:15:59,080 need. 321 00:15:59,080 --> 00:16:01,800 Maybe it's more of a shift in how we're living. 322 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:09,120 And then that's when I decided that it was time for us to get a divorce because my husband 323 00:16:09,120 --> 00:16:15,240 at the time was just not open to, he was very resistant to, I want to go look at these things. 324 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:16,800 And that's okay. 325 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:19,880 And I think that's such an important message for people to understand. 326 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:25,560 Like when you stay stuck in a relationship and you're resistant to changing things, like, 327 00:16:25,560 --> 00:16:28,040 what are you really, what is that saying? 328 00:16:28,040 --> 00:16:32,360 Like, yeah, you made a commitment to be married, but, and you know, we have the whole society's 329 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:37,040 expectations and we realize how much our world has created a marriage as to this like false 330 00:16:37,040 --> 00:16:39,680 pretense of what is really healthy. 331 00:16:39,680 --> 00:16:45,760 And we've created an industry built on people thinking that till death do us part. 332 00:16:45,760 --> 00:16:50,960 And it's like, but you know what, if you're unhappy, that doesn't serve anybody. 333 00:16:50,960 --> 00:16:53,200 And I really thought about that when I started doing Reconnects. 334 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:57,880 I was like, if I'm showing my kids what an unhealthy love, like, and it wasn't like they 335 00:16:57,880 --> 00:16:59,200 were any abuse, there's no abuse. 336 00:16:59,200 --> 00:17:03,160 It was just like, I was growing at a tremendous rate because I kept digging into my stuff 337 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:05,680 and I was like, holy cow, this is why I ended up here. 338 00:17:05,680 --> 00:17:09,720 Oh my gosh, I can't believe I made this choice and now I want to shift it. 339 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:11,880 And I just, we just went different paths. 340 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:12,880 We grew differently. 341 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:13,880 Totally. 342 00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:18,000 And so when I started looking at that, I was like, and I was really stuck in that crossroads 343 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:24,840 of do I stay with him to help my, to like have that, you know, little nuclear family 344 00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:28,880 and showing my kids like, this is what a mom and dad look like. 345 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:32,760 And or do I make that really bold choice and say, but I want to show my kids what like 346 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:40,080 really great love looks like and like, and prioritizing me to show what healthy for myself 347 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:41,080 look like. 348 00:17:41,080 --> 00:17:42,840 And I will tell you, it's not easy. 349 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:43,840 Like there would be tears. 350 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:47,200 Like there's no way like even a year ago, I could have said it without crying because 351 00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:49,240 divorce is hard. 352 00:17:49,240 --> 00:17:50,320 It's so hard. 353 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:54,560 But once you get to the other side of it and you start to learn like who you authentically 354 00:17:54,560 --> 00:18:00,040 are and why you're creating certain relationships and why you're doing what you're doing, you're 355 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:04,880 just like, Oh my gosh, I'm finding who I am and I'm living my life. 356 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:07,000 And that's where we started to get really deep on this. 357 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:08,000 Oh, right. 358 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:09,000 Yeah. 359 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:14,280 Where we started realizing like, wait a minute, we both just this like massive life changes 360 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:16,600 and then we both ended up at our parents. 361 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:17,600 Yeah. 362 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:21,200 And we're like, okay, but there's no shame here. 363 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:24,200 And this is where I think Paloma, I've come onto this planet to like really break the 364 00:18:24,200 --> 00:18:28,800 mold of like, you don't have to live a way that's making you feel sad. 365 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:29,800 Totally. 366 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:33,720 And you don't have to fit into society's expectations just because that's what's expected. 367 00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:35,760 Like it's just not a thing. 368 00:18:35,760 --> 00:18:38,200 And it's all about doing what is going to help you. 369 00:18:38,200 --> 00:18:42,520 And when it's the right time for you, you know, like so and this has probably happened 370 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:46,540 to you so many times where people will reach out, they're curious about it, they're asking 371 00:18:46,540 --> 00:18:48,840 questions and you're like, sure, let me know if you have any other questions. 372 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:50,560 Let me know when you want to sign up, blah, blah. 373 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:51,920 And then they'll reach out a week later. 374 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:53,680 Oh my God, I'm so sorry. 375 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:54,680 I've been so busy. 376 00:18:54,680 --> 00:18:55,680 I'm the worst. 377 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:56,680 I always do this. 378 00:18:56,680 --> 00:18:57,680 I'm so flaky. 379 00:18:57,680 --> 00:18:58,680 Oh my God, please forgive me. 380 00:18:58,680 --> 00:18:59,680 And I'm like, you're forgive. 381 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:00,680 There's nothing to forgive. 382 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:01,680 You're good. 383 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:05,680 And then a week later, oh my God, I'm so sorry. 384 00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:07,680 I didn't text you back about this thing. 385 00:19:07,680 --> 00:19:08,680 Oh, blah, blah. 386 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:11,280 And you're just like, when you're ready, I'm here. 387 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:14,280 And I always just say that I'm not pressuring you at all. 388 00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:16,140 There's no expectation here. 389 00:19:16,140 --> 00:19:17,600 When you're ready, just call me. 390 00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:18,600 And that's it. 391 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:22,840 Or sign up or send us a DM or set up a 15 minute call or whatever it is, especially 392 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:26,160 with people you already know, like friends who are like, I really want to do this. 393 00:19:26,160 --> 00:19:28,000 And then a month later you run into them at a party. 394 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:29,920 They're like, oh my God, I'm so sorry. 395 00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:30,920 I've just been so busy. 396 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:34,280 I'm like, babe, imagine we never even talked about it. 397 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:37,360 Imagine I'm somebody that's just on the internet and you've never met her. 398 00:19:37,360 --> 00:19:38,360 Right. 399 00:19:38,360 --> 00:19:39,360 Like, please. 400 00:19:39,360 --> 00:19:43,440 They're really, you know, oh, and it always works out the way it has to. 401 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,600 Always ends up being the moment when they're actually ready to commit to it. 402 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:48,700 Because if you're not, you're not going to do it. 403 00:19:48,700 --> 00:19:50,800 The divine timing is so key. 404 00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:54,800 And that's such a big piece because there was no I wasn't ready to do a lot of the things 405 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:56,040 I did sooner. 406 00:19:56,040 --> 00:20:01,160 And and I love that you said that because I do meet a lot of people who learn about this 407 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:04,880 and they're like interested and they're like, I really do want to bring it up and I do want 408 00:20:04,880 --> 00:20:05,880 to get into it. 409 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:09,720 And then they think of all the excuses as to why I can't do it yet. 410 00:20:09,720 --> 00:20:12,400 It's oftentimes it starts with money. 411 00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:13,820 And so we're like, well, guess what? 412 00:20:13,820 --> 00:20:16,460 We lowered our prices to make it so accessible. 413 00:20:16,460 --> 00:20:21,860 It's cheaper than going out to dinner at a fast food restaurant with your whole family 414 00:20:21,860 --> 00:20:22,860 in per month. 415 00:20:22,860 --> 00:20:27,480 So like, imagine if you just like didn't eat that for one one one night for a whole month, 416 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:29,800 you would already pay for the program and you just do that 12 times. 417 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:30,800 The program's paid for. 418 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:33,640 So we're like, hey, we removed that obstacle for you. 419 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:35,480 They're like, oh, OK, crap. 420 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:37,460 What's another reason I'm not ready? 421 00:20:37,460 --> 00:20:39,360 And then like, I just don't have the space. 422 00:20:39,360 --> 00:20:40,360 And we're like, guess what? 423 00:20:40,360 --> 00:20:43,160 We thought of so many different ways of how you can get it in. 424 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:45,400 And we're so creative because we knew this for a long time. 425 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:50,040 And our members have come up with genius ideas on how you can get this brain work in daily. 426 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:51,440 And then it's, oh, I don't have the time. 427 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:53,280 And then we go, but what do you spend your time on? 428 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:54,280 Yeah. 429 00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:59,700 And it's not that we're trying to like make you feel like you're needing to have an excuse. 430 00:20:59,700 --> 00:21:01,180 It's just you're just not ready. 431 00:21:01,180 --> 00:21:05,540 And so what Paloma is saying is we accept and we've worked on ourselves so much to just 432 00:21:05,540 --> 00:21:07,060 know it's not personal. 433 00:21:07,060 --> 00:21:08,060 We don't take it personal. 434 00:21:08,060 --> 00:21:12,000 I mean, obviously, if someone's going to call us a specific name, we'll be like, that kind 435 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:13,380 of feel it. 436 00:21:13,380 --> 00:21:14,380 We have feelings. 437 00:21:14,380 --> 00:21:16,360 But we're also projecting. 438 00:21:16,360 --> 00:21:18,360 We get it. 439 00:21:18,360 --> 00:21:20,340 And it's just like you weren't ready. 440 00:21:20,340 --> 00:21:23,000 And I look, I can do the whole same thing with me. 441 00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:24,720 And I'm like, why didn't I do this stuff sooner? 442 00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:29,280 Like, why did I get married to somebody if I knew that wasn't the partner that was going 443 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:30,280 to fulfill me? 444 00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:33,020 And then I'm like, but that doesn't serve me because that just keeps me stuck in this 445 00:21:33,020 --> 00:21:35,120 guilt and shame loop. 446 00:21:35,120 --> 00:21:40,760 And we just want everyone to know that when you are ready, that resistance will release. 447 00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:44,360 And then all of a sudden the doors will open and you're like, OK, I'm ready. 448 00:21:44,360 --> 00:21:48,800 And it's so easy to get caught up in your day to day life. 449 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:49,800 And we all do it. 450 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:55,240 We get caught up in our habits, in our routines, in our wants, in our needs, and our things 451 00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:57,420 that we have to do and that we want to do. 452 00:21:57,420 --> 00:22:05,260 And I think that that's one of the first pieces that you either hit a really specific pain 453 00:22:05,260 --> 00:22:07,800 point and you're like, OK, now I really want to do this. 454 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:09,720 Now I really want to change. 455 00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:15,160 Or you get to the point where you're growing in a different way. 456 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:18,880 So whether that's situational or you're doing another method, you're doing meditation, for 457 00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:22,360 example, lots of people that come to us have done lots of meditation or have done lots 458 00:22:22,360 --> 00:22:26,660 of other somatic practices and that kind of stuff. 459 00:22:26,660 --> 00:22:31,480 And that has helped their nervous system ease into the idea of starting to do the brainwork. 460 00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:34,240 And so I think that's also OK. 461 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:36,280 And that also happens to everybody. 462 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:39,000 We were just talking about our resistance to meditation. 463 00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,280 We were we both have such resistance. 464 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:44,240 I have been thinking about meditation for so long. 465 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:46,280 And I used to meditate, but like very little. 466 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:49,320 I never really was consistent with it. 467 00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:55,160 And I started to think about it more recently because my friends started doing Vedic meditation. 468 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,240 And so they love it. 469 00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:02,880 And I've just seen such amazing positive changes in them and the way that they are just themselves 470 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:05,040 just so much more easily. 471 00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:06,440 And I'm like, OK, I'm going to look into it. 472 00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:09,800 But I'm kind of, you know, I've been asking around, blah, blah, I'm going to go to this 473 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:12,160 talk, this informational thing. 474 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:15,960 And there's a part of me that's like, you have so many other meditation options, by 475 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:17,320 the way. 476 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:19,600 And today, Danny and I were like, what's the resistance? 477 00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,640 I'm like, I was muscle checking myself. 478 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:22,720 I want to do it. 479 00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:24,040 I see the value in it. 480 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:25,840 I am excited to do it. 481 00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:28,180 I don't have any resistance to the actual meditation. 482 00:23:28,180 --> 00:23:34,120 What I have resistance to is making that spot in my day for the meditation. 483 00:23:34,120 --> 00:23:36,560 And that's where I found a really good reconnect. 484 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:38,320 OK, I find that space. 485 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:41,160 I make that space for this thing. 486 00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:43,240 But that's what we tell our members, too. 487 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,640 It's like it's not even that long per day. 488 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:47,960 But everybody finds excuses. 489 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:52,400 And if you really look back at your day, there were 20 minutes or 10 minutes for meditating 490 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:56,840 that you could have done instead of, you know, whatever you were doing, staring at the wall, 491 00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:58,960 scrolling, whatever you were doing. 492 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:03,240 And this is where at ITC we explain that there is such a huge component of the brain and 493 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:04,440 how it's operating. 494 00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:07,600 And if it's not wired to do certain things, it just can't. 495 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:09,200 And then we have our subconscious. 496 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:14,400 So in the subconscious program, we were given essentially from our first seven years of 497 00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:19,440 life and the brain piece, which has really got me lately because I've been really focusing 498 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:23,720 on doing more brain work and I really know I have to do brain work to keep my life in 499 00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,000 order. 500 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:27,000 And I started crawling more. 501 00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:30,240 And I just told you like last week, I was like, Pullma, I used to do this thing where 502 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:34,320 like I would put in my mind, Oh, I got to go start my laundry. 503 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:35,320 I got to go do this. 504 00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:36,680 It's going to take me like 20 minutes. 505 00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:40,960 And I would just start to talk myself out of how long something was going to take me. 506 00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:45,060 And then just last week, it clicked where I was like, I'm just going to go do it. 507 00:24:45,060 --> 00:24:46,660 And then I would just get up and do it. 508 00:24:46,660 --> 00:24:47,880 And then I would come back and look at the clock. 509 00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:49,160 I was like, one minute went by. 510 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:50,160 That was it. 511 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:51,160 That took a minute. 512 00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:55,640 And I had this huge relief of like, why did I do that to myself? 513 00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:59,920 But because the midbrain, the crawling, that's why you crawl because you develop your midbrain 514 00:24:59,920 --> 00:25:02,320 and it's so in charge of the dopamine. 515 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:03,960 It's so in charge of your time management. 516 00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,240 It's in charge of just being able to like transition and move from one thing to the 517 00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:08,240 next. 518 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:12,840 And if your crawl isn't organized, it's going to be really hard to just look at a task and 519 00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:14,400 do it and complete it. 520 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:18,120 And this is why so many people that find us, they're like, I've started 13 projects or 521 00:25:18,120 --> 00:25:21,240 I've started 15 books, haven't finished one. 522 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:24,380 It's because your brain just can't complete the whole task. 523 00:25:24,380 --> 00:25:27,640 And it's such a thing that all of us humans experience. 524 00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:30,440 And then that's coupled with our programming. 525 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:34,880 And Paloma was just talking about, and I was talking about my programming of like the codependency 526 00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,560 stuff because we talked about that in the last episode. 527 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:41,160 But if you don't have like a good sense of like, you know, you were talking about your 528 00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:45,520 messaging from your mom and how your mom would say to do one thing and then do the opposite 529 00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:47,560 thing and you were just confused your whole life. 530 00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:50,360 You're like, well, what should I do? 531 00:25:50,360 --> 00:25:51,520 Exactly. 532 00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:56,960 And that's where your brain is like, if you're constantly being told like, oh, be this, be 533 00:25:56,960 --> 00:26:00,960 that, do this, do that, eat this, no, eat that. 534 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:06,920 You're just like, and so my nervous system went into freeze, like absolute freeze. 535 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:10,240 And I couldn't, I didn't feel emotions. 536 00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:14,880 I don't think I noticed that until I started truly like thinking about it and like really 537 00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:16,520 coming back to that. 538 00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:21,320 I didn't like cry or like well up or like have those like emotional responses that sometimes 539 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:24,960 I see kids like, you know, those TikTok videos where they like cry because they got a new 540 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:25,960 puppy and stuff. 541 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:27,880 I would have never done that as a child. 542 00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:33,640 And I would have had an emotion was when it was a tantrum and that it was really big. 543 00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:40,000 That was like explosive throwing things, slamming doors, like for the silliest thing. 544 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:43,200 Like my mom didn't want to get me a pair of pants that I wanted at the mall. 545 00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,800 And so that just destroyed, you know, my whole afternoon. 546 00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:49,160 And so that's where my nervous system went into that. 547 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:52,800 And it was just like, I'm going to disconnect from the body completely because this is too 548 00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:53,800 much. 549 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:54,800 I don't know what to do. 550 00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:58,920 And that's a very common response for fight or flight, right? 551 00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:02,960 For probably one of the primitive reflexes that was on for me, maybe the more, maybe 552 00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:05,600 the fear paralysis, maybe one of the later ones. 553 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:11,000 But that's where my brain kind of got like stuck in that mode. 554 00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:13,240 And I feel like it happens to so many people. 555 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:18,000 Like so many of us are out there with a nervous system that's in flight and we don't even 556 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:22,120 know or in fight and don't even know or freeze or fawn. 557 00:27:22,120 --> 00:27:27,160 And that's the cool piece is like once you start to bring your brain out of that, you're 558 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,280 able to have more flexibility. 559 00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:33,280 That's the first thing that people start to notice is that one is that they're more calm 560 00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:34,800 and two is that they're more flexible. 561 00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:38,240 They're more easygoing with like things that happen in their day to day. 562 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:39,240 Yeah. 563 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:40,240 Able to adapt is huge. 564 00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:44,280 So like honestly, you integrated your fear paralysis reflex, which got you out of the 565 00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:48,920 free state, and then you integrated your moral reflex, which calmed down the fight or flight. 566 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:54,120 So then you were able to now step into, oh wait, I can see things for what really I want. 567 00:27:54,120 --> 00:27:55,120 Right? 568 00:27:55,120 --> 00:27:56,120 Exactly. 569 00:27:56,120 --> 00:27:59,200 Because then it was tripping up your fawn response because you're like fawning back 570 00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:03,200 into abandoning you, becoming whatever your mom wanted you to be. 571 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:06,680 And once you started shifting out of that, you're like, wait, what do I want? 572 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:11,120 And so sometimes, and I did the same thing, and sometimes we look at it and go, well, 573 00:28:11,120 --> 00:28:12,160 what do I want? 574 00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:16,780 Because I've never actually really asked myself like, who am I? 575 00:28:16,780 --> 00:28:18,800 What am I here to do? 576 00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:22,040 Because we're just taking on what everybody thinks we should be. 577 00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:23,040 Right? 578 00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:28,840 And so for parents listening right now, if your child is exploring something new and 579 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:32,960 they're questioning it, like we just want you to support that questioning process with 580 00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:33,960 them. 581 00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:35,280 It doesn't mean you let them off the hook. 582 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:36,800 It doesn't mean you say, oh yeah, you're right. 583 00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:37,800 You don't like this. 584 00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:38,800 Don't do it. 585 00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:41,400 Because my son hated baseball when he first started. 586 00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:42,400 Yeah. 587 00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:45,520 His morrow needed some attention and he was terrified of the ball. 588 00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:46,520 Right? 589 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:50,560 And my instinct was I need to push him into an uncomfortable place because that's where 590 00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:51,560 you grow. 591 00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:54,840 And I'm like, you just need to test it out a little bit longer and you need to grow. 592 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:59,840 And then that moment is what shifted his whole trajectory because then that's what connected 593 00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:03,160 us to all these amazing people and got us into the pod and all these things. 594 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:04,800 And I'm like, see that? 595 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:09,120 You push yourself into that uncomfortable space and then really cool things happen. 596 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,160 And that's the same thing for when I was getting a divorce. 597 00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:14,440 I was like, I'm putting myself in the most uncomfortable thing in the entire world. 598 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:20,880 I'm going to move back in with my parents because I knew I could not start a business, 599 00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,520 raise two kids and, and, and, and, and. 600 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,560 And I was like, but I held no shame in it. 601 00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:30,960 I didn't feel like I was less than because I looked at it as what is success to me? 602 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:35,920 Success is honoring me is saying, hey, you're not happy with something. 603 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,000 You need to go figure out what's your truth. 604 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:39,000 And I'm so grateful. 605 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:42,280 My parents gave me that time and space to figure it out. 606 00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:46,400 And now that I'm like through a lot of it, I'm like, Oh no, I need to meditate now. 607 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:48,520 Now I need to try to send to like another level. 608 00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:50,280 I love that we're both at this point too. 609 00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:52,720 And I was talking, we always do that. 610 00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:53,720 We always do that. 611 00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:56,920 We're like, cause I had been talking about the meditation and then you were like, I don't 612 00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:57,920 know. 613 00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:00,200 And then one day you were like, I'm into meditation. 614 00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,160 I was like, wait, let's both do it. 615 00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:03,160 Right. 616 00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:08,880 Because I went to Dr. Joe dispenses per meter two weeks ago and he showed all the science 617 00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:10,720 of what happens with meditation. 618 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:17,440 And you know, I've been really on a path to, I found Jesus and I'm like, so into all of 619 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:21,800 just, you know, figuring out like turning my power over to something bigger and better 620 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:22,800 than me. 621 00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:25,400 And that's been a huge shift in my life. 622 00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:28,560 And now I'm like, but wait, there's more I want to bring into this. 623 00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:32,440 And I, you know, so then meditation came in and I was like, no, I can't do it. 624 00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:33,440 I just can't do it. 625 00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:35,040 But then I saw all the science behind it. 626 00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:39,280 And Dr. Joe has, he didn't invent meditation, just like we didn't invent brain work or any 627 00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:41,680 of this, but what our goal is, is to bring the science out in this. 628 00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:46,800 So people are like less resistant to stepping in and getting weird on the floor. 629 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:50,280 But Dr. Joe has brought in the science and I was watching it. 630 00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:56,400 They like these scientists at UCSD could not believe how much the blood in our body transformed 631 00:30:56,400 --> 00:31:03,000 from pre meditation to after, like people were creating ways of like fighting off infection 632 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:04,840 just by meditating. 633 00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:09,200 And I was like, okay, that's not my next step. 634 00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:11,800 I need to do this and start. 635 00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:12,800 Yeah. 636 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:16,600 And I think that if you hadn't been at this point of regulation, you wouldn't have been 637 00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:18,720 able to push yourself into the uncomfortability. 638 00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:23,000 So that's where I think that's where I like to, to look at it that way. 639 00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:24,240 That's why I hold a lot of space. 640 00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:27,200 Cause sometimes it's easy to get frustrated with people where you're like, you're making 641 00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:31,400 these decisions that you don't like and that are putting you, they're sticking you in the 642 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:32,400 same cycle. 643 00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,640 They're making you in a bad situation that you know, isn't good for you. 644 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:39,960 But at a certain point it's like, that's cause your nervous system just can't handle more 645 00:31:39,960 --> 00:31:44,680 and your nervous system can't handle putting yourself in that uncomfortable situation to 646 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:49,080 create the change that creates the growth that aligns you more with who you want to 647 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:50,080 be. 648 00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:51,080 I mean, there's just so much, right? 649 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:55,400 And so that's why I always say it's so important to hold space and to really come to things 650 00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:56,800 when you're ready. 651 00:31:56,800 --> 00:32:00,680 If you ever feel something's a little bit forced, it's not the right time. 652 00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:05,300 Don't do it because that's your intuition telling you that sometimes the resistance 653 00:32:05,300 --> 00:32:06,400 is good, right? 654 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:09,120 Sometimes you're not ready to do certain things or to look at certain things. 655 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:11,440 We talk about this all the time with certain reconnects, right? 656 00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:16,600 Where I'm like, I have put certain reconnects off for like two years, but we just did a 657 00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:17,600 couple, right? 658 00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:20,900 We just checked a bunch right now and I already had a lot of them because I have been working 659 00:32:20,900 --> 00:32:24,780 on them right afterwards when I was ready to actually face them. 660 00:32:24,780 --> 00:32:26,040 And that's one of the biggest things. 661 00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:31,040 And I think a lot of people sometimes will go into like a new methodology without having 662 00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:35,960 the brain component like kind of sorted. 663 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:38,920 And so they're doing this one thing, but they don't have the other piece. 664 00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:44,160 So this other thing doesn't always either finish working or get them to where they want 665 00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:48,320 to be or align with who they are truly wanting to become, right? 666 00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:52,580 That's why we always say you have to regulate the nervous system before you attempt to do 667 00:32:52,580 --> 00:32:53,580 anything else. 668 00:32:53,580 --> 00:32:57,360 So I think we both are ready for the meditation. 669 00:32:57,360 --> 00:33:01,760 When I started trying to meditate, it was when I was in San Diego doing like being your 670 00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:02,760 intern. 671 00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:04,880 I was even creeping back then. 672 00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,000 Like of course I couldn't meditate. 673 00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:08,120 And I was meditating though. 674 00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:09,120 I got to tell you, I was. 675 00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:10,120 You were. 676 00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:11,120 I remember. 677 00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:15,680 My friend gifted me headspace for a year and I would be like, okay, I got to meditate. 678 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:16,680 I got to do this. 679 00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:19,720 And then I would sit there with the headphones on and my head would just go in so many different 680 00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:20,720 directions. 681 00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:21,720 And I was like, gosh. 682 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:22,720 And I would start to get angry. 683 00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:24,680 Like it's counterproductive right now. 684 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:28,240 And another big program I always had running through me because I grew up in a house where 685 00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:29,400 you just didn't sit and chill. 686 00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:31,440 You always had to be doing something. 687 00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:32,960 And so I was like, I'm just sitting and chilling. 688 00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:33,960 How is this saving anything? 689 00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:37,560 Well, at least when I'm creeping, I'm moving, I'm going somewhere, right? 690 00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:41,760 It looks like I'm efforting in some capacity, but sitting and doing nothing. 691 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:43,240 No, thank you. 692 00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:48,360 And I remember I was like, but now my brain is so regulated. 693 00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:51,160 Like it trips me out how regulated I am because I like catch myself. 694 00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:55,200 I'm like, wow, I don't even like engage in things like I used to. 695 00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:56,320 And it's so great. 696 00:33:56,320 --> 00:34:00,440 I love not being in these crazy spaces anymore. 697 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:06,280 And now I'm like, I think I can actually tap into these deeper things because I've done 698 00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:09,680 all these reconnects that have really set my program up to receive. 699 00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:14,160 So I've created like a container that can hold exactly what is going to go next. 700 00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:15,680 And I'm like, oh, I like that. 701 00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:16,680 Right. 702 00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,760 And when you're when you're creeping and crawling and doing your brain work, you're opening 703 00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:24,960 that container, you're making it like deeper so that so much more can come into your space 704 00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,040 into into your experience when you're ready for it. 705 00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:28,040 Oh, I love that. 706 00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:30,240 So good, because that was another big part for me. 707 00:34:30,240 --> 00:34:32,640 I was like, OK, I've regulated my nervous system. 708 00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:37,680 I now can identify why that person said this and what it triggered in me. 709 00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:39,720 And I can immediately shift that. 710 00:34:39,720 --> 00:34:42,480 And then I was like, oh, but I have a really deep wound that keeps running. 711 00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:47,960 And I was like, I think I need to learn how to just sit and feel my emotions because I 712 00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,520 have never explored that. 713 00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:51,520 That's my next thing. 714 00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:54,720 I'm like, when I feel sadness, I immediately want to go do something to make myself happy. 715 00:34:54,720 --> 00:34:58,400 When I feel angry, I'm immediately creeping to like stop the anger. 716 00:34:58,400 --> 00:34:59,400 Right. 717 00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:02,280 Versus being like, hey, you're a human. 718 00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:03,280 These are emotions. 719 00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,880 So anger can come in you and out of you. 720 00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:07,360 And we tell us to people all the time. 721 00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:08,360 Yeah. 722 00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,040 But it doesn't mean you have to be angry, have a meltdown at the mall shooting at your 723 00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:12,720 pants. 724 00:35:12,720 --> 00:35:17,040 I feel angry right now that I didn't get what I wanted, but I can learn to like adapt to 725 00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:19,160 this situation. 726 00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:23,480 And I never was taught that you weren't taught that none of I don't think really any of us 727 00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:25,000 were taught that. 728 00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:28,040 And if you were, you're totally the exception to this. 729 00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:31,720 And at the same time, and this is also coupling with as we're doing the nurtured parenting 730 00:35:31,720 --> 00:35:32,720 revolution, right? 731 00:35:32,720 --> 00:35:33,720 Exactly. 732 00:35:33,720 --> 00:35:34,720 That's yeah. 733 00:35:34,720 --> 00:35:36,840 And we're reparenting ourselves. 734 00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:38,880 And I'm like, and then the craziest thing. 735 00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,920 So I go see the doctor Joe Dispensa just fell into my lap. 736 00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:43,600 Like my friends, like I have a ticket for you. 737 00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:44,600 I'm taking you. 738 00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:48,240 I'm you know, just like the whole thing and it was just like such a flow. 739 00:35:48,240 --> 00:35:51,640 And I'm like, OK, you know, when that resistance is lifting, because all of a sudden things 740 00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:53,840 start flowing and just effortless. 741 00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:54,840 Right. 742 00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:59,160 And then I'm like, oh, my gosh, I love that I can see the science behind this. 743 00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:00,640 Now I'm buying in. 744 00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:06,080 And then I randomly oh, my chiropractor randomly reached out to me. 745 00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:07,080 Oh, yeah. 746 00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,680 Hey, you want to come and I have something you have to try. 747 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:14,240 Because that's the one thing I don't like to just sit and meditate to like someone talking 748 00:36:14,240 --> 00:36:15,520 and we talk about this all the time. 749 00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:18,000 And then they tell us these really crazy scenarios. 750 00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:19,000 Yeah. 751 00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:20,000 We're like, what? 752 00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:22,000 Jump out of a plane right now. 753 00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:23,000 How's that? 754 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:26,000 Yeah, like, wait, I thought I was just on a mountain and now I'm in an elevator and now 755 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:27,000 I'm on a plane. 756 00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:28,600 But then like, no, like what? 757 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:29,600 Yeah. 758 00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,040 Like our subconscious is like, OK, that's ridiculous. 759 00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:33,040 We're not. 760 00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:34,040 We're so resistant to that. 761 00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:35,040 That might be something, though. 762 00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:36,040 That must be something. 763 00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:41,480 I overanalyze things all the time, like not just with the meditation, not overanalyze. 764 00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:44,560 I immediately like what like do that, right? 765 00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:48,720 I'm looking at the little pieces of it instead of just I know it's just a figure of speech. 766 00:36:48,720 --> 00:36:51,400 I'm not actually on a plane and then I'm on and then in the lake. 767 00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:52,400 Right. 768 00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:56,160 But my logical brain like jumps in that maybe that'll help with it with the meditation. 769 00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:57,160 100 percent. 770 00:36:57,160 --> 00:37:00,960 And so I went to see my chiropractor last week and he had me lay down. 771 00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:07,320 He had me on a PM PMF mat and then also on top of this other cool thing that like vibrated 772 00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:09,680 and was making noises. 773 00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:10,680 And it was so sceptic. 774 00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:11,680 Yeah, it was like a haptic mag. 775 00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:16,240 We'll link it in the show notes if you want to explore it. 776 00:37:16,240 --> 00:37:20,120 I have not participated in it like frequently enough. 777 00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:21,120 I've done it once. 778 00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:22,120 Let's just be clear. 779 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:23,760 Anyway, so I did it. 780 00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:29,600 And then he also put like an infrared light over me and I was blown away and my kids were 781 00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:32,480 sitting in the room with me and they're just like there's a funny video. 782 00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:37,000 I had to take a video of me doing it and she's like, Mom's doing some weird thing now. 783 00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:40,080 Like my kids are so exposed to the weird stuff. 784 00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:43,320 And I was like, what just happened? 785 00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:48,640 Like I went somewhere, but it's because my container was open and able to take in more. 786 00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:52,280 So then I told my chiropractor, like, that's so cool. 787 00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:54,000 I really want one. 788 00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:58,040 But I wasn't clear on my messaging of definitely order me one. 789 00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:01,400 He texted me like two days ago, like your thing is here. 790 00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:07,500 I was like, oh, no, I didn't mean to actually say order it because it's kind of pricey. 791 00:38:07,500 --> 00:38:11,720 And I was like, but you know what, I need to not be resistant to prioritizing me. 792 00:38:11,720 --> 00:38:15,320 And I've been asking for meditation and this came into my world. 793 00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:19,120 This is another thing that I'm like, I need to do this. 794 00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:23,120 Like I need to take this on and do it and not feel guilt or shame or anything. 795 00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:27,240 Like this is about me taking care of me so I can take my place, myself to another place 796 00:38:27,240 --> 00:38:30,180 of like really being able to sit in my emotions. 797 00:38:30,180 --> 00:38:35,080 So I will keep you posted on this and how it goes. 798 00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:41,840 So but I just think it's so cool because so much of just the human experience is getting 799 00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:47,760 new information, having it make sense inside of your mind before you're able to step into 800 00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:48,760 something else. 801 00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:51,320 And we just want to be the people who say we get it. 802 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:56,940 We understand the mechanics behind the brain and why it's not easy to intake new information. 803 00:38:56,940 --> 00:38:59,740 We also want to tell you we're here to hold space for you. 804 00:38:59,740 --> 00:39:01,680 And so there's no excuses needed. 805 00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:03,220 If you're like, I'm not ready. 806 00:39:03,220 --> 00:39:04,220 We get it. 807 00:39:04,220 --> 00:39:06,120 You can give us a just say I'm not ready yet. 808 00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:07,120 And we got that. 809 00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:10,920 Like we're like, hey, we will hold space for you for when you are ready. 810 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:11,920 And we're projectors. 811 00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:13,200 We wait for the invitation. 812 00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:15,160 We don't push things on people. 813 00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:18,440 And you know, it's so funny, like I waited for the invitation to do something. 814 00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:20,820 Yes, everybody was on board. 815 00:39:20,820 --> 00:39:23,900 And then there's a lot of pushback, which is so interesting. 816 00:39:23,900 --> 00:39:25,920 So that was good feedback to me. 817 00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:29,480 That the one have 100% on board clarity. 818 00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:30,480 Yes. 819 00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:31,480 Yes. 820 00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:32,480 Invitation. 821 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:40,960 So we also to Lindsay on our last episode, all she did was 10, 15 exploding rocks a day. 822 00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:41,960 A day. 823 00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:43,960 So that took her two minutes. 824 00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:49,240 And from doing just that reflex integration, it opened her up to now I'm ready to do more. 825 00:39:49,240 --> 00:39:54,040 So that moral reflex is so freaking strong. 826 00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,280 It's so it comes on really quick. 827 00:39:56,280 --> 00:40:02,840 If this is why this is a PSA, if you ever jump out from behind a wall to scare somebody, 828 00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:08,200 we're asking you to please stop because it turns on your reflexes because your brain 829 00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:09,800 isn't expecting it. 830 00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:12,800 And it thinks it's an attack like Ellen used to do this on her show all the time. 831 00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:16,000 You jump out of the box and everyone grabs their heart givers. 832 00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:18,100 Oh my gosh. 833 00:40:18,100 --> 00:40:19,720 Because you want to have a startle reflex. 834 00:40:19,720 --> 00:40:20,720 It's healthy. 835 00:40:20,720 --> 00:40:23,640 Like you're walking down the street, a car crashes. 836 00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:28,720 You want to look and have like attention to it and be prepared for what's coming at me. 837 00:40:28,720 --> 00:40:32,200 But if you're brushing your teeth in your room and you're living with your partner and 838 00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:36,680 they walk by and that startles you, that's a sign that that reflex is not where it's 839 00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:38,260 supposed to be. 840 00:40:38,260 --> 00:40:43,940 And by jumping out at people, it creates adrenaline and cortisol in that person who just got scared. 841 00:40:43,940 --> 00:40:47,600 And so now it turns on these reflexes and the brain goes, okay, it's time to survive 842 00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:48,600 again. 843 00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:49,600 Yeah, exactly. 844 00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:56,080 And if you have this morrow that stays retained, you're somebody who just experiences a lot 845 00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:57,080 of everyday challenges. 846 00:40:57,080 --> 00:41:02,720 And one of the main things is just being resistant, resistant to change, resistant to feedback, 847 00:41:02,720 --> 00:41:06,220 resistant to releasing control and just being in the flow. 848 00:41:06,220 --> 00:41:11,640 So if you heard anything today, 10 Exploding Rocks will get you out of that and we can 849 00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:12,640 help you with that. 850 00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:13,640 Yes. 851 00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,640 But we'll wait until you're ready. 852 00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:19,840 I love it. 853 00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:22,560 Okay, so thank you for 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inthecortex.com and our website is www.inthecortex.com. 866 00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:07,180 We have two things to share with you today. 867 00:42:07,180 --> 00:42:11,800 One is our Brainiac promo code, which is going to give you 10 bucks off the first payment 868 00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:16,160 of your membership with us of our in the cortex bundle. 869 00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:20,440 And the other one is that we just started our nurtured parenting through brain reorganization 870 00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:26,040 program last week, two weeks ago, if you're listening to it now, or three weeks ago, if 871 00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:27,040 you're listening to it now. 872 00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:28,680 Yeah, three weeks ago. 873 00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:30,760 But you should join. 874 00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:32,200 We started the first live call. 875 00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:34,880 It's recorded, so you're not going to lose that first part. 876 00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:35,880 It is amazing. 877 00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:40,480 We have such a great community of people that are there that we just want to grow. 878 00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:46,160 The program will be available after the three month program that we're doing live. 879 00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:49,540 And so you can always get it afterward and just watch the recordings. 880 00:42:49,540 --> 00:42:52,440 But it has been just so, so, so, so great. 881 00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:53,440 So please join us. 882 00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:56,560 That program is with Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum from the Nurture Revolution. 883 00:42:56,560 --> 00:43:00,680 You've probably heard of her because we're very much in the same circles. 884 00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:04,280 So yeah, thank you so much for being here and goodbye. 885 00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,080 Thank you. 886 00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:09,080 Oh no, where did my mouse go? 887 00:43:09,080 --> 00:43:10,080 Here. 888 00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:38,040 No.