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Hi, and welcome to the In the Cortex podcast.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Paloma Garcia.

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And I am Dani Pericone.

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And we're the founders of In the Cortex, an online community with programs that show people

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the tools that they need to change their lives through brain reorganization.

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No medication, just movement.

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When you get your brain out of survival mode and regulate your nervous system, you start

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to live in the fun, logical part of the brain, the cortex.

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Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life.

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And now, on to today's episode.

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Hi, everybody.

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Welcome to our podcast, the In the Cortex podcast.

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Today we are talking about what life looks like and what regulation and just approaching

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the world looks like after you've done your brain organization.

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So if you've been listening for a while, you know what this means, right?

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You've worked on your primitive reflexes.

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You've worked on your lower brain.

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You've gotten to that point where you know what true regulation feels like.

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And you can feel regulated most of the time.

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You've gotten into the subconscious beliefs and you're doing reconnects and really getting

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into that subconscious.

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And so we want to think about what it looks like after, because we noticed that a lot

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of our members sometimes feel that once they've done the program, then life should be like,

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quote unquote, perfect, you know, and there shouldn't be any other difficulty.

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They should never be dysregulated again.

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They should, you know, everything's supposed to be sunshine and daisies forever.

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And we all know that is not life.

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So not at all.

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Yeah.

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Let's talk about it.

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This is such a great episode because this is where Paloma and I lie in our lives currently,

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where we get to and one of my favorite things is talking about the contrast, the balance,

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the yin and the yang, if you will, the black, the white.

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You can't you can't embrace the really good moments if you don't experience what the really

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yucky feels like.

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And I think our favorite thing to talk about is being a human.

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And the human element of having an emotion is so beautiful because it can take you places

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that when you're ready, when you're ready to experience and go through it, you can you

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can learn so much more about yourself.

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And I think for me, like I love showing our members that I'm emotional and I have my own

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stuff because I have two kids.

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I have all these things happening and I'm always in different relationships like where

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I'm learning about people for the first time and I maybe, you know, their newer relationships

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are still feeling each other out and trying to figure out what's what are your values,

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what are mine and and then you'll find a moment where you'll like hit on a point where it

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hits something.

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And that person's experiencing it one way and I'm experiencing a different way.

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And then it brings up emotion and you're like, whoa, it's not actually about that person

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ever.

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And that's my favorite thing as being a human is knowing that anything that happens to me

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now is happening for me.

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It's happening to help take me deeper into what else I get to learn about myself.

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But I will trade that feeling over and over for what I used to feel of just constant dysregulation.

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Like I would wake up, my feet would hit the ground and I was just in such a survival state

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that I never actually knew what it meant to like feel and know what emotions were.

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So I was just constantly chaotic.

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And now that I have breaks of that and I like literally get to embrace this beautiful world

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we live in and I know that sounds like so like just a whimsical and cheesy.

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But it's true.

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There's so much beauty around us and I couldn't see it before.

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And I get to now take a step back and look at all of it.

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But then when a moment hits, it's hard.

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I go, OK, cool.

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I get to go deeper into like this.

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And I can also now advocate for myself in a calm way, like saying, hey, that really

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hurt when you said it like that.

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And maybe it's not my job to tell other people what hurts my feelings or not.

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But I want to show people that we all have emotions and it's OK to have hard conversations

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and try to figure out the repair.

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And that's where we're at.

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We're in the repair of when things get kind of challenging.

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I think that also there's just so much that we go through in our day to day lives.

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And I think maybe let's go through a few examples of like what it does look like.

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So like, for example, I thought I was going to tell you about this yesterday.

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I had an interview on national television yesterday.

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So maybe in my opinion, it was in Mexico.

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my other company.

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Remember like the food thing?

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Blah, blah, blah.

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Boring.

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I was interviewed a few times on the media, the media, because my mom does PR.

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So she's able to find me these things.

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Not like we're paying for anybody to like get us these reviews.

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They just happen because my mom knows people that need somebody to talk about autism, for

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example, yesterday.

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And then it was about healthy food when I was, I don't know, 19.

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And I remember being like I'm not somebody that ever has like a difficulty with public

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speaking or anything like that.

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I'm very, I don't know.

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I just don't have like my moro is not very present.

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My fear paralysis is really not there.

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So I don't really get tongue tied or whatever.

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I mean, it's a big deal.

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You're in this room with like all these people, these massive cameras on your face.

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People are like have like the little earpieces and they're like, okay, go one, two, three,

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five, four, three, two, one.

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I was like, oh, M G I was freaking out.

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And I didn't have these tools.

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And I remember, I think I just like took a big sip of water and was like, I literally

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like blacked out the first like minute and a half of the interview.

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I'm just like good at that.

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I talk like when I'm blacked out, nobody can tell.

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And I was like, and then I, you know, we've all been there where you're at first, you're

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like, and then I just settled into it.

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This time I kept like waiting to get nervous.

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I'm like, how are you feeling?

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And I'm like, great.

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Like, it's going to be amazing.

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I never doubted it.

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Like I was there for 30 minutes.

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It's shorter because of like all the commercials and stuff, cause it's like actual TV, but

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I was like, okay, great.

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I genuinely did not feel nervous once, Tammy.

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Like I did a reconnect before I went.

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I did my brain work in the morning cause I wanted to, I didn't want it to like hit me

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when I got to the studio.

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I felt like I was talking to you like, and there just happened to be a different kind

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of microphone and a weird television, you know, this camera.

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I didn't even have to worry about like thinking like, Oh, what am I supposed to say about

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What am I supposed to say about that?

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My key messaging, you know, that my mom had told me about, but she didn't actually, we

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didn't actually get to do a media training before, but I know this stuff cause my mom

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does this.

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Like I've heard so many things.

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I didn't even have to think about it.

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I just sat down and had an organic great conversation with her.

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like all these things.

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And I was like, how cool was that?

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I genuinely, it was just like another moment of another day.

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It was great.

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So that was one of those moments where I was like, thank goodness for brain work because

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how many people, and she even said, she's like, you're so chill.

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You've done a lot of these before.

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It's my brain work.

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It's my brain work.

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Just kidding.

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That's not how you say brain work.

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I just thought it was so cool and I was very proud of myself.

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And that would not, that clearly had not been the case the last time.

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So that's one example of like going into a very new situation.

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That's very different.

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Could be very overwhelming, could be very triggering.

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And my body was like, you got this.

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Well, yeah, good.

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It wasn't a real threat.

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It was, it was like, yeah, you could mess up.

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You could mess up on live television, but the worst thing that happens is what?

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Oh, you're a human and the people who don't like that, then they don't have to follow

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us and they don't have to think out more.

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You know, it's like, I love that part.

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That's why I love that you shared that.

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And I think I, I wish everyone could experience this because that's literally why we're doing

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this is because we just want everyone to feel that feeling you just talked about.

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Like this was me before.

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And then here's me after and I can totally attest to the same thing because I used to

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be mortified to do public speaking and now I love it.

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And I'm like, put me in front of a crowd.

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Let me talk about whatever, you know, mainly, obviously.

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But and I, you know, I just love being that's, that's also where we both shine.

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And but before it was like the brain.

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I remember when I did those small presentations at the first place I worked at and I was so

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nervous every day and I was like, oh my gosh, oh my gosh, is everything going to be okay?

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And then I would like turn bright red and I was like, oh my gosh, this is so hard.

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And then as I did my brain work, I was like, wait, we're all human.

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Like you're not a tiger trying to bite my head off and like, you know, attack me.

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This is not a threatening true threatening situation.

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So when you can get out of that and experience like that magical moment you had yesterday

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was so rad and you did amazing.

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that's my business partner girl.

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You get a, like, I was so pumped for you.

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So if you have any Spanish speaking friends, please tell them our program has been translated

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by the amazing Paloma.

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So, um, so yeah, that's one awesome, like really noticeable shift, right?

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That you experience life after, you know, dysregulation.

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This is what regulation looks like where you just roll with it.

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And another big one that I deal with daily is just interacting with other humans.

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And in not in the space on like my working space, because it's very established that

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we're the, you know, the source of information and you know, people come to us and it's a

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different dynamic.

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I'm talking about dynamics like we're, um, you know, we're working with other people

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when it's involved in a situation where there's not an established role for all of us.

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So we're trying to come together and learn about each other's lives for the first time.

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Um, one person says something and then another person says another thing and then now we

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have a fight, right?

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And it's my favorite thing is to like go inward and be like, okay, what is that in me?

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It's not mine.

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I can, I'm at peace knowing that.

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And so when you're coming out of all of this, you don't take things personal anymore.

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Um, even when they're meant to be truly personal, you're just like, that's not my stuff.

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Like you can come at me, but that's not, I do not accept that.

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And so I've gotten so much better at that and just being like, no, I don't want it.

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But I still have moments where I have a human moment and I had one this morning and I cried

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and I was like, that hurt my feelings.

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Like I have feelings and it's okay to cry.

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It's okay to have feelings, but are you going to let those feelings dictate how you now

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interact with people?

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Are you going to start to do things?

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And like Danny in the past for sure would have been full send, let's go.

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You dare come at me like this.

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And instead this time I was like, you know what?

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This is hurtful and I don't like the way that felt.

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And I'm going to share that with you.

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So that way, if we want to continue having something together, we know how to approach

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I mean, how many times have you and I done that?

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Oh, all the time.

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Oh, I thought this, I thought you thought this.

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Nope.

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Because I, you were upset because of this and I thought you were upset because of this.

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And we're like, ah, and it's just talking about those things, just expressing.

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And I think you hit the nail head there because expressing your feelings is often seen as

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like, you know, a weaker situation or a weaker position to be in.

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Right.

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Like often, of course, associated with women because we live in a patriarchy, let's be

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honest.

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So you're, don't be a girl, right?

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You're crying like a girl, all that stuff.

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And so we, we often don't want to be that person.

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We want to be, we want to be somebody who can connect on a logical, whatever way.

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Excuse me.

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Relationships are not logical.

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Relationships are emotional.

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That's what they are.

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So obviously they're going to stir up our emotions.

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I'm like, I'm getting so distracted by the guys behind me.

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Sorry.

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But like, that's also where like being able to talk about these things in a way that is

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not going to also make you like lose it.

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Right?

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So being able to say, Hey, ABCD, this is what happened.

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I felt this way.

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I cried earlier.

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It was terrible.

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And I want you to know this because I want to move forward with you as opposed to being

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like, I'm just trying to, I'm remembering like me before being like, forget you.

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It's just like, God's your brand.

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Or like, I got annoyed when you said that because, and you just like start crying in

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front of your friend or whatever it is.

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Or like, you just get so, so angry at somebody and you're just like, or you get a text message

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that you weren't expecting and you just get so nervous and like, Oh, they happened to

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me all the time.

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And I'd be like, why do they hate me?

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You're like that kind of, you know, we've all been there and this is where you get to

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the point where you, you can separate it.

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Exactly.

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That's it.

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You look at the emotion, you feel the emotion, and then you're able to look back at it and

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be like, Oh, okay.

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Yeah.

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Let's talk about that.

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Or let's not talk because sometimes it's not about the other person.

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That's what it's important to where you say, okay, what about the situation made me feel

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that way?

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Like somebody actively being like not a good friend.

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Cause if that's what it was, I'm going to go talk to them.

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But if this was something that had nothing to do with me and somebody was just like hanging

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out without me, what you and I were talking about the other day or earlier today, like

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was it about me or is it just like a dinner party that you weren't invited to?

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Right?

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Where and why does that hit me so bad?

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Cause I used to be a big one for me.

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Like we were saying earlier, just like feeling like everybody was excluding me all the time.

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And it also like, at some point I did talk to my friends about it and they're like, you

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always say no.

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So like we stopped dividing you.

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There you go.

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I do like to be at home.

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So that's where you, you know, being able to reframe that and not stay in that anger

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and that emotion.

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And like, look at how many people have these fraught relationships because of this stuff,

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because they're not even able to look back at it and say, Oh, that's why that hurts.

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That's why I feel this way.

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I'm going to work on it.

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And they just build and build and build this resentment and either explode or implode or

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start to, you know, lose friendships left and right and just get into all these arguments

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and fights and stuff because of all this stuff.

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Right.

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You're not able to get to that point.

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Yeah.

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It's always, it's the, so the way it happens is like, let's just say like a situation occurs

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and it'll, for it'll come through the way you see it.

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Right.

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So that's your perception on reality.

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That's how you see the world and we all see everything differently.

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And that's why we, we have to look at our subconscious beliefs because our programming

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from childhood is going to show up for the rest of your life and every relationship you

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have.

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Please hear this for the people in the back.

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Like you need to hear how important this is.

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The first seven years of your life, you are just downloading and receiving from your environment,

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how your parents, your caregivers, your teachers, your schools, every heart of what you were

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in is how you are now perceiving what things are happening to you.

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So that situation is going to be your foundation for how you approach everything in life.

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And so when something happens to me, I immediately want to go think about what was my foundation?

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When did I feel that same feeling?

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And this will always take me back to something that happened in my childhood of a situation

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between friends when I didn't have as many tools and I acted a certain way and it ended

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up this way.

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Right.

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And I just used that imprint on you.

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And so then you, you act from a space of fear of if I go into this again, will that be the

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same result?

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And it's really like, we look at it, it's just like, it's a wound.

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Like imagine you just had like a giant gash in your arm and it never healed.

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And so every time someone comes by and brushes up on that same wound, it'll just start to

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bleed again.

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Right.

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And that's what's happening with all of us adults.

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And I see it so much and I just want so badly just to go over because that's where then

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my empathy brain comes in too hard and I just can feel how that person's feeling about the

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situation.

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And I'm like, oh my gosh, I just want to make everyone feel happier and authentic.

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And that piece was being like, right now I feel sad because this happened.

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I know it wasn't you, but this is how it hit my filter.

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And now here's what I can do about it.

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And oftentimes we want to change everybody else's behavior.

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We want everyone else to change their behavior on how they approach me because that makes

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me feel better.

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Right.

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The problem with that is that that's impossible.

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You literally can't do it.

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You can't change anyone else's behavior.

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You can walk away from certain things that aren't serving you.

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You can shift and put new boundaries up for how things aren't serving you.

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But you can't ultimately change anybody else.

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So you have to be the person that says, I'm going to go heal this in me and I'm going

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to go take care of this.

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I'm going to go give myself for me.

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I'm trying to think of what my trigger point was of feeling like whatever it was that was

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coming through to me.

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So sometimes I sit with it for a minute.

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I'm like, what is coming through?

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And it takes a minute to come through.

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A lot of the minute.

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Days, weeks.

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Yeah.

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Sometimes you don't want to deal with it.

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Right.

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Sometimes you don't want to deal with it.

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Right.

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You don't want to.

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You're pushing it down because you're like, it's so scary to think about that feeling

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again.

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And it's like, I don't want to rehash it.

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We're not saying go rehash and relive the trauma.

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Absolutely.

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We're saying find that signature feeling of maybe you weren't feeling seen or maybe you

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weren't feeling heard.

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And that is the same pattern you experienced in your childhood over and over.

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So then you keep attracting, you keep bringing in new relationships that are testing that

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exact thing for you to learn that lesson of you need to go hear yourself.

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As soon as you can hear yourself, then you'll be able to match that with other people and

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then they'll they will hear you.

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Yeah.

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And that's where we we we always say it's like you put on like filter on your glasses,

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right?

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And the filter on your glasses says, I'm not heard.

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And so you go around the world and you're like, why does nobody ever listen?

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Why did they not pay attention to me?

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Why did I told them this thing?

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And that's because that's what your brain thinks.

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And we've talked about this before on the podcast, but let's like talk about the neurological

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piece there.

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The brain always wants to confirm what it already believes, quote unquote, to be true,

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even when it's not actually true, it's not logically true.

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So these beliefs, I'm not heard that you got when you're in childhood.

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That's not true.

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You're somebody who, of course, if you decide you want to be heard, of course, you're going

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to be heard by other people, right?

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And respected and listened to and all that.

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But your primitive brain doesn't understand that.

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Your primitive brain, your subconscious has no logic, has no context.

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It's only there to to really shift the way that you're approaching the world.

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Because remember, our brains are really wired for survival.

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They're wired to keep safe at all costs.

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Right.

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And that's where you encounter these situations.

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And then you can see something.

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And we've talked about this all the time, where two people experience the same thing

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and one person sees one very different way than the other.

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One person has an attack and a terrible thing is something really mean.

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And the other one's like, wait, what?

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How did what didn't happen?

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Right.

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And so that's where our filters come in.

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And the other piece about it that I want to talk to you about, about when you were talking

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about how something very big can like create an impact on you emotionally.

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Yeah.

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That impact is also felt in your central nervous system, in your brain and in your body.

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So it can be capital T trauma or low T trauma.

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And we've talked about this so many times.

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I know, but I really want to like kind of really bring it home because our when our

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body, when our brain perceives a, a situation that is very, very hurtful or very, very

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impactful, I should say to our emotions, our emotions are the way that our brain interprets

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it on.

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So if you have this extreme emotion, the brain says, Oh my goodness, I better keep myself

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safe.

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I'm going to remember this thing that happened.

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I'm going to really store this really, really, really down deep so that if it ever happens

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again, I know how to react.

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And I know that this was a very hurtful, very whatever situation.

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Right.

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And that's where that emotion takes over when we're not out of our primitive brain, when

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we're still in that survival mode.

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Right.

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And that's where a lot of us get stuck in like the emotion and the, and the, the, really

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the rush that you get from just being angry at somebody or sad about something or, you

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know, upset or whatever it is.

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That's where once you organize the brain, that huge blow up that you're feeling, that's

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just like your entire body going that dissipates because your logical brain is able to say,

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Oh my gosh, that was not that big of a deal.

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Why did I get so, that's what we're saying, right?

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Why did I get so upset when I was 19 or why did I get so annoyed when I was, you know,

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25 years old about this one thing that always happened to me?

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And now I can be like, Oh, silly goose.

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Like that was not that big of a deal.

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Right.

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It's the primitive brain being sneaky.

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The primitive brain is so sneaky.

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It's always like sneaking into your life and into all of your conversations and all of

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the situations that you lived through trying to be like, is there going to be survival

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here?

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Over there, over there.

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Is that a threat?

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Threat?

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Right.

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So that's where once you have that primitive brain kind of calm and able to, to, to regulate

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on its own and understand the communication with logical brain, that's where all of this

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growth comes in.

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Oh my gosh.

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So true.

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And I feel like for me, as you're talking about that, like I would have that physiological

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reaction and I could feel them like this is real.

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And when someone tells you to calm down, you're in the middle of a Pond's attack, we'll call

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it like your survival brain is turned on and you think you need to survive for your life.

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Someone's like, calm down.

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You're like, how do I turn off all the cortisol and the adrenaline pumping through my body

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right now?

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I cannot.

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So it's like the worst.

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So that, that calm down is going to be prompted very quickly with, uh, I'm going to throw

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something at you now because I can't calm down and I need to now get this out of my

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system.

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So that's why we always tell parents, if you're working with kids, if you see this happening,

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this is why we love working with Gertrude is that nurtured parenting.

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So when your kids become dysregulated, they're borrowing your brain because they're like,

481
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Hey, you got more resources than me.

482
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:12,720
Yeah.

483
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:13,720
So can you help me out right now?

484
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:18,500
I'm falling apart and I need you to show me regulation and model calm behavior.

485
00:23:18,500 --> 00:23:20,760
So I know what that looks like in the future.

486
00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:22,960
And my five year old has taken me there.

487
00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,960
Like my, my eight year old has taught me so much.

488
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,080
It's like amazing what our kids bring to us.

489
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:33,840
And then my five year old has taught me, Oh my gosh, when I was five, all I needed was

490
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:41,000
for somebody to just show me that regulation and hold me when I became dysregulated.

491
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:42,360
And I didn't get that as a kid.

492
00:23:42,360 --> 00:23:44,640
And there's my parents and I, we talk about this openly.

493
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:48,880
So there's no, you know, they know about this and there's no, they just didn't know either.

494
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:49,880
Right.

495
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:52,860
So we're all just like generationally breaking these cycles.

496
00:23:52,860 --> 00:23:56,720
And so now when I see my five year old dysregulate, I'm like, Whoa, girl, I know what's up with

497
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:57,720
you.

498
00:23:57,720 --> 00:23:58,720
You're in your pawns.

499
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:00,280
I know you don't mean that you want a new mom.

500
00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:01,720
I know you want this mom.

501
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:04,440
Like you, by the way, you can't just FYI.

502
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:05,440
Just saying, yeah.

503
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,440
I'm saying like, there's no new mom for you.

504
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:12,200
And I just go and I hold her and she might fight me and push me off a little bit, but

505
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,500
I just stay there and I stay calm.

506
00:24:14,500 --> 00:24:19,160
When I was five, I was literally told you're over, you're overreacting.

507
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:20,160
You're too sensitive.

508
00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:21,160
Calm down.

509
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,040
You're too ashamed and pushed away.

510
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:24,040
Right.

511
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:27,120
So then I'm sitting as a five year old little girl who's like, what do I do with these big

512
00:24:27,120 --> 00:24:28,120
feelings?

513
00:24:28,120 --> 00:24:29,120
Right.

514
00:24:29,120 --> 00:24:30,120
Yes.

515
00:24:30,120 --> 00:24:35,600
And now as a freaking adult, I'll get a similar signature thing comes up where I'm in a relationship,

516
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:40,400
my emotional, like attachment and my, you know, needing to be comforted in these big

517
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:44,520
emotional things that relationships bring up, like Mom just said.

518
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:48,240
And if I don't have someone there to help me anchor in, then I'm like, oh my gosh.

519
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:50,520
And I get real, real cry.

520
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,160
And this is where I'm like, that's my wound.

521
00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:56,120
So now that I'm out of survival mode, I can see it.

522
00:24:56,120 --> 00:24:58,200
And I'm like, now I know what I need.

523
00:24:58,200 --> 00:24:59,200
But guess what?

524
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,840
I can't ask my partner to give it to me if I can't give it to myself first.

525
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,680
So this is the whole reparenting thing.

526
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:08,880
So now when I am dysregulated, I need to go work on my go to tools.

527
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:12,720
And this is why I like life after creeping and crawling, you still want to keep it going

528
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:13,720
FYA.

529
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,880
But you now need to bring in some other supports.

530
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,600
Like what else can help you?

531
00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:21,480
And for me, journaling is great.

532
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:22,960
Going for walks is great.

533
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,440
Being in nature, putting up boundaries.

534
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:26,440
Oh my gosh.

535
00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:28,440
Putting up boundaries is so great, right?

536
00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:32,280
So you start to go through what other things you need to support you.

537
00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:36,320
And so I'm right now parenting kids who need things.

538
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:39,680
But at the same time, they're triggering the things in my childhood that I didn't get.

539
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:42,680
So now I'm re parenting myself and it's a trip.

540
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,800
So that's why this parenting program that we have coming out April 8th is going to be

541
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:47,960
mind blowing because it's not just parenting.

542
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:51,360
It's like, tell your kids what to do and they open.

543
00:25:51,360 --> 00:25:54,440
It's about you showing them how to do it.

544
00:25:54,440 --> 00:26:00,360
And showing yourself that you're able to and showing yourself what you that you can give

545
00:26:00,360 --> 00:26:02,800
your kids what they want and what they need and yourself.

546
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:09,720
And you also don't need to always be looking outward for ways to parent.

547
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:14,480
And again, I'm not a parent, but I feel like there's so much like seeking, like, tell me

548
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:15,480
what to do.

549
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:16,480
What am I supposed to do about this?

550
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:17,680
What are the somebody tell me what to do?

551
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:20,040
And it's like, you're the parent.

552
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:21,040
Follow your intuition.

553
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:25,080
But we've got society again, society's expectations.

554
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:30,360
Okay, like that is like, you don't know anything.

555
00:26:30,360 --> 00:26:31,760
You're a first time mom.

556
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:32,760
Ew.

557
00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:33,760
A thousand books.

558
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:35,720
And I'm going to tell you exactly what to do.

559
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,960
And so parents feel so disempowered.

560
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:39,960
Is that a word?

561
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:40,960
Yes.

562
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:41,960
It's empowered.

563
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:44,200
It feels so disempowered because they're like, okay, you tell me what to do.

564
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:47,040
But then this other expert told me another thing and this other expert told me another

565
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:48,040
thing.

566
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:52,040
So by nurturing yourself, you're really teaching yourself how to listen to your own intuition

567
00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:53,440
and to go with your gut.

568
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:57,680
Because some people are going to like one method for their kids of parenting or of just,

569
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:00,160
you know, morals and values in general.

570
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,120
And another family is going to like the other one.

571
00:27:02,120 --> 00:27:05,840
And so that's where you once again, you connect with your intuition, you connect with your

572
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:10,840
primitive brain, and you're able to truly feel out who you do listen to.

573
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:12,880
Because I'm not saying you shouldn't listen to anybody.

574
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:16,600
I mean, we are the people, one of the people that you're listening to now if you're listening

575
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:17,600
to podcasts, right?

576
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:18,600
Yeah.

577
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:22,240
But it's about finding which ones do align with you and removing the pressure of like

578
00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:25,120
having to be the perfect parent, having to be this and that.

579
00:27:25,120 --> 00:27:26,940
And we say it all the time.

580
00:27:26,940 --> 00:27:28,800
Nobody leaves childhood unscathed.

581
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:32,140
So let's be realistic here.

582
00:27:32,140 --> 00:27:34,020
You can do what you can.

583
00:27:34,020 --> 00:27:37,360
And this is going to help you get to that point where you actually can do the best that

584
00:27:37,360 --> 00:27:41,440
you can and be the best parent that you are meant to be, right?

585
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:44,320
If you are a parent, if you're not, then you should just join our regular program because

586
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:45,760
it's still going to be great for you.

587
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,360
But if you're thinking about having kids, you should definitely start thinking about

588
00:27:48,360 --> 00:27:54,920
this process now because you will find, and most of us think that we're fine, like Paloma

589
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:55,920
said, right?

590
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:56,920
Like, oh, you know what?

591
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:57,920
Yeah, my dad yelled at me.

592
00:27:57,920 --> 00:27:58,920
Yeah, I got spanked.

593
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:02,120
Yeah, I had all this stuff happen to me when I was a kid and I turned out fine.

594
00:28:02,120 --> 00:28:05,320
And we're doing air quotes fine because what is fine, right?

595
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:09,840
And we're going to talk about what that is in our nurturing program because, you know,

596
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:10,840
we were just talking about this too.

597
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,300
Like Paloma came from parents that got divorced.

598
00:28:13,300 --> 00:28:18,000
My parents didn't get divorced and I find myself having more challenges than Paloma

599
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:19,000
sometimes.

600
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,400
And, you know, so it's like, what is fine?

601
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,080
Like what is OK?

602
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:29,680
And I love that you said that it's about you getting to tune into what is your values and

603
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:33,380
what because we all Paloma sees a world different than I do.

604
00:28:33,380 --> 00:28:35,160
And I don't live by her values.

605
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:36,960
We align on a lot of many.

606
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:40,580
We have a lot of agreements on mostly everything we do.

607
00:28:40,580 --> 00:28:42,840
But we have things that we just like, like, Paloma.

608
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:44,400
I was like, hey, I love this.

609
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:45,400
And she's like, I don't.

610
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:46,400
And she's like, I love this.

611
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:47,400
And I'm like, I don't.

612
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:48,400
I don't.

613
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:50,760
So that's where we're like, we can now work together.

614
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:55,880
We're a beautiful partnership because we have different strengths and we work so well together,

615
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,520
but we're so different and we have different values.

616
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:03,380
But we still line up on we do need to address the root.

617
00:29:03,380 --> 00:29:09,240
And this is where me having my values and being very clear on what my values are from

618
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:13,880
before I had kids and even just when I approach friendships and relationships like here's

619
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:15,880
what I here are my values.

620
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:17,240
This is what I see.

621
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:21,720
And if I find that there's a friendship or a relationship or anything that's not fitting

622
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:25,600
into that value system, I have to really take a step back and be like, does this align with

623
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:26,600
me?

624
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:28,120
Do I want to continue this?

625
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:31,840
Because if I don't address it, then it'll blow up.

626
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:33,800
It'll get bigger and it'll just.

627
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:34,800
Yeah.

628
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,240
And that's not something you can do when your brain is still disorganized when you're still

629
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:38,240
in survival mode.

630
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:39,240
These are all things.

631
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:41,200
That's why this podcast is what it is.

632
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:42,200
Right.

633
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,920
It's about what does it look like after you've done this brain work, after you've gotten

634
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:51,120
to that solid place where you regulate, you know yourself better, you're constantly working

635
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:52,680
on yourself and that's life, right?

636
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:54,440
Working on yourself constantly.

637
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:55,600
And I love it.

638
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:56,600
It's hard.

639
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:58,680
It's hard, but it's so worth it.

640
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:03,160
Very easy, but it's so worth it because you discover things where you're like, oh my goodness,

641
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:04,160
gracious.

642
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:07,240
Every day I'm like, I know myself a little better.

643
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:09,000
I know it's true.

644
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:14,440
And then I love getting to know myself better while I'm doing it with my kids too.

645
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:19,080
And it like, and I didn't realize that like my son coming home and telling me everything

646
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:21,400
wasn't what was happening in everyone's homes.

647
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:23,880
Like most kids don't go home and tell their parents everything.

648
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:25,400
And they're like, how do you have that relationship?

649
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:28,360
I was like, well, Axel just knows that I'm human too.

650
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:32,840
And I'm working on my stuff and I'll dysregulate and I'm like, mom's got to go take care of

651
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:33,840
this.

652
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:34,840
And I show him what repair looks like.

653
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:36,840
So I show him and it doesn't mean that I'm perfect.

654
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:38,760
It doesn't mean that I've got it all figured out.

655
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:44,080
It just means that we're doing something that is so authentic and so raw.

656
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:49,720
And like, he's watching my transformation as a human as he's transforming and like,

657
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:55,520
dude, Paloma, he got hit with the baseball yesterday in the batter's box by his coach,

658
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:56,520
okay?

659
00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:59,960
So if you've been listening, you know, Axel in sports has come so far.

660
00:30:59,960 --> 00:31:02,240
His biggest fear was getting hit with the baseball.

661
00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:03,240
Oh my God.

662
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:04,240
He got hit.

663
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:06,920
It just did not happen and I was like, and I had no emotion.

664
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:11,400
I didn't go into mom like freak out mode like, ah, like, you know, it was just like, I was

665
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:14,200
like, I was just like, oh, let's see what he's going to do.

666
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:15,760
And he like stood there for a minute.

667
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:17,880
The coach walked up to him and was like, all right, buddy, you okay?

668
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:18,880
Okay.

669
00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:20,640
And he was really like rubbing like, oh, that really hurt.

670
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:21,640
It did hurt.

671
00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:22,640
He beamed him pretty good.

672
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:23,640
Ouch.

673
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:24,640
Yeah.

674
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:27,380
And I was like, yeah, that's, that's the thing that's going to have to happen.

675
00:31:27,380 --> 00:31:29,440
And then I was like, I wonder what he's going to do about it.

676
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:32,640
I just sat in my car and watched and he was like, Siggy, he just, I was actually talking

677
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:36,760
to someone, I was like, Ooh, Axel just got hit with the ball.

678
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:37,760
And then I watched him.

679
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:38,760
He like shook it off.

680
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:39,760
I knew it hurt.

681
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:43,680
And he got back into the batter's box and ripped the next one.

682
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:48,120
And if anyone knows Axel's journey with baseball, this is huge.

683
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:53,680
He would step out of the batter's box and swing 10 seconds delayed for every pitch.

684
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:59,320
And now he's getting hit by in less than one season later, getting hit by a ball by his

685
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:00,320
coach that he trusted.

686
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:02,160
It was like, bro, you did me dirty.

687
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:03,160
How did you do that?

688
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:05,520
And he got back in and did it.

689
00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:10,040
And I was like, that is what this is all about is like, you're going to have adversity and

690
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:12,040
you're going to have it over and over and over.

691
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:14,520
Do you want to deal with the same adversity over and over or do you want to deal with

692
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:16,880
new ones that take you to bigger and better places?

693
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:17,880
Right.

694
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:21,680
And that's what ITC is rooted in is let's look at that foundation.

695
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:22,680
Let's shift it.

696
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:25,760
So it's really aligned with your values and how you want to live your life.

697
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:28,080
And now you get to decide what life you live.

698
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:32,360
And it takes time to get there, but it's so incredibly awesome.

699
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:33,360
Worth it.

700
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:34,360
It's so worth it.

701
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:38,800
And it's not always easy, but that's why we're here in our WhatsApp group, our Facebook group,

702
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:39,800
our emails.

703
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:41,360
We are in the program.

704
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:42,360
We are responding to you.

705
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:45,880
Yeah, that have one on one sessions and they have like private coaching.

706
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:50,760
I mean, we have so much stuff that we were here to offer and like really support because

707
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:52,320
we've been through it.

708
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:54,400
Yeah, that's the best.

709
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:58,760
So this regulation after brain work is so much easier.

710
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:02,880
It's like you can get over something in minutes versus talking about it for weeks and years,

711
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:03,880
right?

712
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:04,880
Exactly.

713
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:06,120
And that's what we want the whole world to experience.

714
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:07,600
So what are you waiting for?

715
00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:12,120
Come over here and creep with us.

716
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:19,120
On that note, yeah, if you want to sign up, literally do it and use promo code brainiac

717
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:23,640
because we're all brainiacs and that will get you 10 bucks off your first payment of

718
00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:25,520
our program.

719
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:31,840
And remember, we're starting today, actually, if you're listening to this on the eighth,

720
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:35,160
the program with Greer, Kersh and Baum, you can sign up at any time.

721
00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:39,920
We recommend signing up as soon as possible just so you can be on the live calls, but

722
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:40,920
it's all going to be recorded.

723
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:44,480
So if you ever can't make a call or whatever, you can always email us your questions or

724
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:46,080
put them in the in the WhatsApp group.

725
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But yeah, it's going to start on the eighth, which is, I guess today, if you're listening

726
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:55,360
to this today, and it's going to be amazing, we really are going to work through all the

727
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stuff that we talked about today to really help help our members get to that point where

728
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they feel like they are connected with their intuition, their true selves, and they really

729
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are nurturing themselves and being able to nurture their kiddos and really getting that

730
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brain organized.

731
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:15,400
And okay, social media in the cortex underscore us is our Instagram in underscore the underscore

732
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cortex is our text, like TikTok in the cortex underscore ESP is our Spanish Instagram.

733
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:22,640
Please follow us.

734
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:23,640
We only have 200 followers on there.

735
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So it would be nice to have a little more.

736
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:31,520
We also have Facebook and Spanish is the same in the cortex underscore ESP.

737
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:35,640
Facebook and English is Facebook is in the cortex US.

738
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,880
We just like to record an intro because this is getting to be an outro.

739
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:39,880
I'm an outro.

740
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:40,880
Sorry.

741
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:41,880
Just cut all this.

742
00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:42,880
I'll just do it.

743
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:43,880
I'll do it this week.

744
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:47,120
And, and, and, and, oh, and our website is back up.

745
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:52,480
So in the cortex.com and always email us and reach out to us and share this with your friends.

746
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:57,420
Let's spread the word that the brain can change and life can get so much easier.

747
00:34:57,420 --> 00:34:59,800
And yeah, if you have any people in Mexico city, send them my way.

748
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:00,800
Okay.

749
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:01,800
Okay.

750
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:02,800
Bye.

751
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:03,800
Thank you.

752
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Bye.