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Hi, everybody.
Welcome to our podcast, the In the Cortex podcast.
Today we are talking about what life looks like and what regulation and just approaching
the world looks like after you've done your brain organization.
So if you've been listening for a while, you know what this means, right?
You've worked on your primitive reflexes.
You've worked on your lower brain.
You've gotten to that point where you know what true regulation feels like.
And you can feel regulated most of the time.
You've gotten into the subconscious beliefs and you're doing reconnects and really getting
into that subconscious.
And so we want to think about what it looks like after, because we noticed that a lot
of our members sometimes feel that once they've done the program, then life should be like,
quote unquote, perfect, you know, and there shouldn't be any other difficulty.
They should never be dysregulated again.
They should, you know, everything's supposed to be sunshine and daisies forever.
And we all know that is not life.
So not at all.
Yeah.
Let's talk about it.
This is such a great episode because this is where Paloma and I lie in our lives currently,
where we get to and one of my favorite things is talking about the contrast, the balance,
the yin and the yang, if you will, the black, the white.
You can't you can't embrace the really good moments if you don't experience what the really
yucky feels like.
And I think our favorite thing to talk about is being a human.
And the human element of having an emotion is so beautiful because it can take you places
that when you're ready, when you're ready to experience and go through it, you can you
can learn so much more about yourself.
And I think for me, like I love showing our members that I'm emotional and I have my own
stuff because I have two kids.
I have all these things happening and I'm always in different relationships like where
I'm learning about people for the first time and I maybe, you know, their newer relationships
are still feeling each other out and trying to figure out what's what are your values,
what are mine and and then you'll find a moment where you'll like hit on a point where it
hits something.
Right.
And that person's experiencing it one way and I'm experiencing a different way.
And then it brings up emotion and you're like, whoa, it's not actually about that person
ever.
And that's my favorite thing as being a human is knowing that anything that happens to me
now is happening for me.
It's happening to help take me deeper into what else I get to learn about myself.
But I will trade that feeling over and over for what I used to feel of just constant dysregulation.
Like I would wake up, my feet would hit the ground and I was just in such a survival state
that I never actually knew what it meant to like feel and know what emotions were.
So I was just constantly chaotic.
Right.
And now that I have breaks of that and I like literally get to embrace this beautiful world
we live in and I know that sounds like so like just a whimsical and cheesy.
But it's true.
There's so much beauty around us and I couldn't see it before.
And I get to now take a step back and look at all of it.
But then when a moment hits, it's hard.
I go, OK, cool.
I get to go deeper into like this.
And I can also now advocate for myself in a calm way, like saying, hey, that really
hurt when you said it like that.
And maybe it's not my job to tell other people what hurts my feelings or not.
But I want to show people that we all have emotions and it's OK to have hard conversations
and try to figure out the repair.
And that's where we're at.
We're in the repair of when things get kind of challenging.
I think let's.
Yeah, I agree.
I think that also there's just so much that we go through in our day to day lives.
And I think maybe let's go through a few examples of like what it does look like.
Right.
So like, for example, I thought I was going to tell you about this yesterday.
I had an interview on national television yesterday.
So good.
So maybe in my opinion, it was in Mexico.
And I had been interviewed before when I had my other way before in the cortex and had
my other company.
Remember like the food thing?
Yeah.
Blah, blah, blah.
Boring.
I was interviewed a few times on the media, the media, because my mom does PR.
So she's able to find me these things.
Not like we're paying for anybody to like get us these reviews.
They just happen because my mom knows people that need somebody to talk about autism, for
example, yesterday.
And then it was about healthy food when I was, I don't know, 19.
Way before I had done my brain work, my own brain organization.
And I remember being like I'm not somebody that ever has like a difficulty with public
speaking or anything like that.
I'm very, I don't know.
I just don't have like my moro is not very present.
My fear paralysis is really not there.
So I don't really get tongue tied or whatever.
But I remember that time.
I mean, it's a big deal.
You're in this room with like all these people, these massive cameras on your face.
People are like have like the little earpieces and they're like, okay, go one, two, three,
five, four, three, two, one.
And you're just like, oh my God, I remember when I got there that time I was 19.
I was like, oh, M G I was freaking out.
Yeah.
And I didn't have these tools.
And I remember, I think I just like took a big sip of water and was like, I literally
like blacked out the first like minute and a half of the interview.
I did great.
Thank goodness.
I'm just like good at that.
I talk like when I'm blacked out, nobody can tell.
And I was like, and then I, you know, we've all been there where you're at first, you're
like, and then I just settled into it.
Then I was fine.
This time I kept like waiting to get nervous.
I'm like, how are you feeling?
And I'm like, great.
Like, it's going to be amazing.
I never doubted it.
Also, I had been told there was going to be like a six minute interview and ended up being
a 30 minute interview.
Like I was there for 30 minutes.
It's shorter because of like all the commercials and stuff, cause it's like actual TV, but
I was like, okay, great.
I genuinely did not feel nervous once, Tammy.
Like I did a reconnect before I went.
I did my brain work in the morning cause I wanted to, I didn't want it to like hit me
when I got to the studio.
I felt like I was talking to you like, and there just happened to be a different kind
of microphone and a weird television, you know, this camera.
And I was like, how cool is this?
Like I was able to be super present and like really connect with the woman who was interviewing
me.
I didn't even have to worry about like thinking like, Oh, what am I supposed to say about
this?
What am I supposed to say about that?
My key messaging, you know, that my mom had told me about, but she didn't actually, we
didn't actually get to do a media training before, but I know this stuff cause my mom
does this.
Like I've heard so many things.
And I had been reviewing them before and all this stuff.
I didn't even have to think about it.
I just sat down and had an organic great conversation with her.
She got her niece to reach out to me to see what I was doing in the cortex afterward,
like all these things.
And I was like, how cool was that?
I genuinely, it was just like another moment of another day.
It was great.
So that was one of those moments where I was like, thank goodness for brain work because
how many people, and she even said, she's like, you're so chill.
You've done a lot of these before.
And I was like, actually I haven't.
Thank you.
It's my brain work.
Just kidding.
That's not how you say brain work.
I just thought it was so cool and I was very proud of myself.
And that would not, that clearly had not been the case the last time.
So that's one example of like going into a very new situation.
That's very different.
Could be very overwhelming, could be very triggering.
Right.
And my body was like, you got this.
Well, yeah, good.
Yeah.
It wasn't a real threat.
It was, it was like, yeah, you could mess up.
Yeah.
You could mess up on live television, but the worst thing that happens is what?
Oh, you're a human and the people who don't like that, then they don't have to follow
us and they don't have to think out more.
You know, it's like, I love that part.
That's why I love that you shared that.
And I think I, I wish everyone could experience this because that's literally why we're doing
this is because we just want everyone to feel that feeling you just talked about.
Like this was me before.
And then here's me after and I can totally attest to the same thing because I used to
be mortified to do public speaking and now I love it.
And I'm like, put me in front of a crowd.
Let me talk about whatever, you know, mainly, obviously.
But and I, you know, I just love being that's, that's also where we both shine.
Right.
And but before it was like the brain.
I remember when I did those small presentations at the first place I worked at and I was so
nervous every day and I was like, oh my gosh, oh my gosh, is everything going to be okay?
And then I would like turn bright red and I was like, oh my gosh, this is so hard.
And then as I did my brain work, I was like, wait, we're all human.
Like you're not a tiger trying to bite my head off and like, you know, attack me.
This is not a threatening true threatening situation.
So when you can get out of that and experience like that magical moment you had yesterday
was so rad and you did amazing.
And I meant to tell you that before we started recording, but honestly I was like, dang,
that's my business partner girl.
You get a, like, I was so pumped for you.
And I was like, see, we are in a Spaniel by the way, too.
So if you have any Spanish speaking friends, please tell them our program has been translated
by the amazing Paloma.
So, um, so yeah, that's one awesome, like really noticeable shift, right?
That you experience life after, you know, dysregulation.
This is what regulation looks like where you just roll with it.
And another big one that I deal with daily is just interacting with other humans.
And in not in the space on like my working space, because it's very established that
we're the, you know, the source of information and you know, people come to us and it's a
different dynamic.
I'm talking about dynamics like we're, um, you know, we're working with other people
when it's involved in a situation where there's not an established role for all of us.
So we're trying to come together and learn about each other's lives for the first time.
Um, one person says something and then another person says another thing and then now we
have a fight, right?
And it's my favorite thing is to like go inward and be like, okay, what is that in me?
And that's their stuff.
It's not mine.
I can, I'm at peace knowing that.
And so when you're coming out of all of this, you don't take things personal anymore.
Um, even when they're meant to be truly personal, you're just like, that's not my stuff.
Like you can come at me, but that's not, I do not accept that.
And so I've gotten so much better at that and just being like, no, I don't want it.
But I still have moments where I have a human moment and I had one this morning and I cried
and I was like, that hurt my feelings.
Like I have feelings and it's okay to cry.
It's okay to have feelings, but are you going to let those feelings dictate how you now
interact with people?
Are you going to start to do things?
And like Danny in the past for sure would have been full send, let's go.
You dare come at me like this.
And instead this time I was like, you know what?
This is hurtful and I don't like the way that felt.
And I'm going to share that with you.
So that way, if we want to continue having something together, we know how to approach
each other differently.
And I think that's important.
I mean, how many times have you and I done that?
Oh, all the time.
Oh, I thought this, I thought you thought this.
Nope.
Because I, you were upset because of this and I thought you were upset because of this.
And we're like, ah, and it's just talking about those things, just expressing.
And I think you hit the nail head there because expressing your feelings is often seen as
like, you know, a weaker situation or a weaker position to be in.
Right.
Like often, of course, associated with women because we live in a patriarchy, let's be
honest.
So you're, don't be a girl, right?
You're crying like a girl, all that stuff.
And so we, we often don't want to be that person.
We want to be, we want to be somebody who can connect on a logical, whatever way.
Excuse me.
Relationships are not logical.
Relationships are emotional.
That's what they are.
So obviously they're going to stir up our emotions.
I'm like, I'm getting so distracted by the guys behind me.
Sorry.
But like, that's also where like being able to talk about these things in a way that is
not going to also make you like lose it.
Right?
So being able to say, Hey, ABCD, this is what happened.
I felt this way.
I cried earlier.
It was terrible.
And I want you to know this because I want to move forward with you as opposed to being
like, I'm just trying to, I'm remembering like me before being like, forget you.
It's just like, God's your brand.
Or like, I got annoyed when you said that because, and you just like start crying in
front of your friend or whatever it is.
Or like, you just get so, so angry at somebody and you're just like, or you get a text message
that you weren't expecting and you just get so nervous and like, Oh, they happened to
me all the time.
And I'd be like, why do they hate me?
You're like that kind of, you know, we've all been there and this is where you get to
the point where you, you can separate it.
Exactly.
That's it.
You look at the emotion, you feel the emotion, and then you're able to look back at it and
be like, Oh, okay.
Yeah.
Let's talk about that.
Or let's not talk because sometimes it's not about the other person.
That's what it's important to where you say, okay, what about the situation made me feel
that way?
Like somebody actively being like not a good friend.
Cause if that's what it was, I'm going to go talk to them.
But if this was something that had nothing to do with me and somebody was just like hanging
out without me, what you and I were talking about the other day or earlier today, like
was it about me or is it just like a dinner party that you weren't invited to?
Right?
Where and why does that hit me so bad?
Cause I used to be a big one for me.
Like we were saying earlier, just like feeling like everybody was excluding me all the time.
And it also like, at some point I did talk to my friends about it and they're like, you
always say no.
So like we stopped dividing you.
There you go.
I do like to be at home.
So that's where you, you know, being able to reframe that and not stay in that anger
and that emotion.
And like, look at how many people have these fraught relationships because of this stuff,
because they're not even able to look back at it and say, Oh, that's why that hurts.
That's why I feel this way.
I'm going to work on it.
And they just build and build and build this resentment and either explode or implode or
start to, you know, lose friendships left and right and just get into all these arguments
and fights and stuff because of all this stuff.
Right.
You're not able to get to that point.
Yeah.
It's always, it's the, so the way it happens is like, let's just say like a situation occurs
and it'll, for it'll come through the way you see it.
Right.
So that's your perception on reality.
That's how you see the world and we all see everything differently.
And that's why we, we have to look at our subconscious beliefs because our programming
from childhood is going to show up for the rest of your life and every relationship you
have.
Please hear this for the people in the back.
Like you need to hear how important this is.
The first seven years of your life, you are just downloading and receiving from your environment,
how your parents, your caregivers, your teachers, your schools, every heart of what you were
in is how you are now perceiving what things are happening to you.
So that situation is going to be your foundation for how you approach everything in life.
And so when something happens to me, I immediately want to go think about what was my foundation?
When did I feel that same feeling?
And this will always take me back to something that happened in my childhood of a situation
between friends when I didn't have as many tools and I acted a certain way and it ended
up this way.
Right.
And I just used that imprint on you.
And so then you, you act from a space of fear of if I go into this again, will that be the
same result?
And it's really like, we look at it, it's just like, it's a wound.
Like imagine you just had like a giant gash in your arm and it never healed.
And so every time someone comes by and brushes up on that same wound, it'll just start to
bleed again.
Right.
And that's what's happening with all of us adults.
And I see it so much and I just want so badly just to go over because that's where then
my empathy brain comes in too hard and I just can feel how that person's feeling about the
situation.
And I'm like, oh my gosh, I just want to make everyone feel happier and authentic.
And that piece was being like, right now I feel sad because this happened.
I know it wasn't you, but this is how it hit my filter.
And now here's what I can do about it.
And oftentimes we want to change everybody else's behavior.
We want everyone else to change their behavior on how they approach me because that makes
me feel better.
Right.
The problem with that is that that's impossible.
You literally can't do it.
You can't change anyone else's behavior.
You can walk away from certain things that aren't serving you.
You can shift and put new boundaries up for how things aren't serving you.
But you can't ultimately change anybody else.
So you have to be the person that says, I'm going to go heal this in me and I'm going
to go take care of this.
I'm going to go give myself for me.
I'm trying to think of what my trigger point was of feeling like whatever it was that was
coming through to me.
So sometimes I sit with it for a minute.
I'm like, what is coming through?
And it takes a minute to come through.
A lot of the minute.
Days, weeks.
Yeah.
Sometimes you don't want to deal with it.
Right.
Sometimes you don't want to deal with it.
Right.
You don't want to.
You're pushing it down because you're like, it's so scary to think about that feeling
again.
And it's like, I don't want to rehash it.
We're not saying go rehash and relive the trauma.
Absolutely.
We're saying find that signature feeling of maybe you weren't feeling seen or maybe you
weren't feeling heard.
And that is the same pattern you experienced in your childhood over and over.
So then you keep attracting, you keep bringing in new relationships that are testing that
exact thing for you to learn that lesson of you need to go hear yourself.
As soon as you can hear yourself, then you'll be able to match that with other people and
then they'll they will hear you.
Yeah.
And that's where we we we always say it's like you put on like filter on your glasses,
right?
And the filter on your glasses says, I'm not heard.
And so you go around the world and you're like, why does nobody ever listen?
Why did they not pay attention to me?
Why did I told them this thing?
And that's because that's what your brain thinks.
And we've talked about this before on the podcast, but let's like talk about the neurological
piece there.
The brain always wants to confirm what it already believes, quote unquote, to be true,
even when it's not actually true, it's not logically true.
So these beliefs, I'm not heard that you got when you're in childhood.
That's not true.
You're somebody who, of course, if you decide you want to be heard, of course, you're going
to be heard by other people, right?
And respected and listened to and all that.
But your primitive brain doesn't understand that.
Your primitive brain, your subconscious has no logic, has no context.
It's only there to to really shift the way that you're approaching the world.
Because remember, our brains are really wired for survival.
They're wired to keep safe at all costs.
Right.
And that's where you encounter these situations.
And then you can see something.
And we've talked about this all the time, where two people experience the same thing
and one person sees one very different way than the other.
One person has an attack and a terrible thing is something really mean.
And the other one's like, wait, what?
How did what didn't happen?
Right.
And so that's where our filters come in.
And the other piece about it that I want to talk to you about, about when you were talking
about how something very big can like create an impact on you emotionally.
Yeah.
That impact is also felt in your central nervous system, in your brain and in your body.
So it can be capital T trauma or low T trauma.
And we've talked about this so many times.
I know, but I really want to like kind of really bring it home because our when our
body, when our brain perceives a, a situation that is very, very hurtful or very, very
impactful, I should say to our emotions, our emotions are the way that our brain interprets
it on.
So if you have this extreme emotion, the brain says, Oh my goodness, I better keep myself
safe.
I'm going to remember this thing that happened.
I'm going to really store this really, really, really down deep so that if it ever happens
again, I know how to react.
And I know that this was a very hurtful, very whatever situation.
Right.
And that's where that emotion takes over when we're not out of our primitive brain, when
we're still in that survival mode.
Right.
And that's where a lot of us get stuck in like the emotion and the, and the, the, really
the rush that you get from just being angry at somebody or sad about something or, you
know, upset or whatever it is.
That's where once you organize the brain, that huge blow up that you're feeling, that's
just like your entire body going that dissipates because your logical brain is able to say,
Oh my gosh, that was not that big of a deal.
Why did I get so, that's what we're saying, right?
Why did I get so upset when I was 19 or why did I get so annoyed when I was, you know,
25 years old about this one thing that always happened to me?
And now I can be like, Oh, silly goose.
Like that was not that big of a deal.
Right.
It's the primitive brain being sneaky.
The primitive brain is so sneaky.
It's always like sneaking into your life and into all of your conversations and all of
the situations that you lived through trying to be like, is there going to be survival
here?
Over there, over there.
Is that a threat?
Threat?
Right.
So that's where once you have that primitive brain kind of calm and able to, to, to regulate
on its own and understand the communication with logical brain, that's where all of this
growth comes in.
Oh my gosh.
So true.
And I feel like for me, as you're talking about that, like I would have that physiological
reaction and I could feel them like this is real.
And when someone tells you to calm down, you're in the middle of a Pond's attack, we'll call
it like your survival brain is turned on and you think you need to survive for your life.
Someone's like, calm down.
You're like, how do I turn off all the cortisol and the adrenaline pumping through my body
right now?
I cannot.
So it's like the worst.
So that, that calm down is going to be prompted very quickly with, uh, I'm going to throw
something at you now because I can't calm down and I need to now get this out of my
system.
So that's why we always tell parents, if you're working with kids, if you see this happening,
this is why we love working with Gertrude is that nurtured parenting.
So when your kids become dysregulated, they're borrowing your brain because they're like,
Hey, you got more resources than me.
Yeah.
So can you help me out right now?
I'm falling apart and I need you to show me regulation and model calm behavior.
So I know what that looks like in the future.
And my five year old has taken me there.
Like my, my eight year old has taught me so much.
It's like amazing what our kids bring to us.
And then my five year old has taught me, Oh my gosh, when I was five, all I needed was
for somebody to just show me that regulation and hold me when I became dysregulated.
And I didn't get that as a kid.
And there's my parents and I, we talk about this openly.
So there's no, you know, they know about this and there's no, they just didn't know either.
Right.
So we're all just like generationally breaking these cycles.
And so now when I see my five year old dysregulate, I'm like, Whoa, girl, I know what's up with
you.
You're in your pawns.
I know you don't mean that you want a new mom.
I know you want this mom.
Like you, by the way, you can't just FYI.
Just saying, yeah.
I'm saying like, there's no new mom for you.
And I just go and I hold her and she might fight me and push me off a little bit, but
I just stay there and I stay calm.
When I was five, I was literally told you're over, you're overreacting.
You're too sensitive.
Calm down.
You're too ashamed and pushed away.
Right.
So then I'm sitting as a five year old little girl who's like, what do I do with these big
feelings?
Right.
Yes.
And now as a freaking adult, I'll get a similar signature thing comes up where I'm in a relationship,
my emotional, like attachment and my, you know, needing to be comforted in these big
emotional things that relationships bring up, like Mom just said.
And if I don't have someone there to help me anchor in, then I'm like, oh my gosh.
And I get real, real cry.
And this is where I'm like, that's my wound.
So now that I'm out of survival mode, I can see it.
And I'm like, now I know what I need.
But guess what?
I can't ask my partner to give it to me if I can't give it to myself first.
So this is the whole reparenting thing.
So now when I am dysregulated, I need to go work on my go to tools.
And this is why I like life after creeping and crawling, you still want to keep it going
FYA.
But you now need to bring in some other supports.
Like what else can help you?
And for me, journaling is great.
Going for walks is great.
Being in nature, putting up boundaries.
Oh my gosh.
Putting up boundaries is so great, right?
So you start to go through what other things you need to support you.
And so I'm right now parenting kids who need things.
But at the same time, they're triggering the things in my childhood that I didn't get.
So now I'm re parenting myself and it's a trip.
So that's why this parenting program that we have coming out April 8th is going to be
mind blowing because it's not just parenting.
It's like, tell your kids what to do and they open.
It's about you showing them how to do it.
And showing yourself that you're able to and showing yourself what you that you can give
your kids what they want and what they need and yourself.
And you also don't need to always be looking outward for ways to parent.
And again, I'm not a parent, but I feel like there's so much like seeking, like, tell me
what to do.
What am I supposed to do about this?
What are the somebody tell me what to do?
And it's like, you're the parent.
Follow your intuition.
But we've got society again, society's expectations.
Okay, like that is like, you don't know anything.
You're a first time mom.
Ew.
A thousand books.
And I'm going to tell you exactly what to do.
And so parents feel so disempowered.
Is that a word?
Yes.
It's empowered.
It feels so disempowered because they're like, okay, you tell me what to do.
But then this other expert told me another thing and this other expert told me another
thing.
So by nurturing yourself, you're really teaching yourself how to listen to your own intuition
and to go with your gut.
Because some people are going to like one method for their kids of parenting or of just,
you know, morals and values in general.
And another family is going to like the other one.
And so that's where you once again, you connect with your intuition, you connect with your
primitive brain, and you're able to truly feel out who you do listen to.
Because I'm not saying you shouldn't listen to anybody.
I mean, we are the people, one of the people that you're listening to now if you're listening
to podcasts, right?
Yeah.
But it's about finding which ones do align with you and removing the pressure of like
having to be the perfect parent, having to be this and that.
And we say it all the time.
Nobody leaves childhood unscathed.
So let's be realistic here.
You can do what you can.
And this is going to help you get to that point where you actually can do the best that
you can and be the best parent that you are meant to be, right?
If you are a parent, if you're not, then you should just join our regular program because
it's still going to be great for you.
But if you're thinking about having kids, you should definitely start thinking about
this process now because you will find, and most of us think that we're fine, like Paloma
said, right?
Like, oh, you know what?
Yeah, my dad yelled at me.
Yeah, I got spanked.
Yeah, I had all this stuff happen to me when I was a kid and I turned out fine.
And we're doing air quotes fine because what is fine, right?
And we're going to talk about what that is in our nurturing program because, you know,
we were just talking about this too.
Like Paloma came from parents that got divorced.
My parents didn't get divorced and I find myself having more challenges than Paloma
sometimes.
And, you know, so it's like, what is fine?
Like what is OK?
And I love that you said that it's about you getting to tune into what is your values and
what because we all Paloma sees a world different than I do.
And I don't live by her values.
We align on a lot of many.
We have a lot of agreements on mostly everything we do.
But we have things that we just like, like, Paloma.
I was like, hey, I love this.
And she's like, I don't.
And she's like, I love this.
And I'm like, I don't.
I don't.
So that's where we're like, we can now work together.
We're a beautiful partnership because we have different strengths and we work so well together,
but we're so different and we have different values.
But we still line up on we do need to address the root.
And this is where me having my values and being very clear on what my values are from
before I had kids and even just when I approach friendships and relationships like here's
what I here are my values.
This is what I see.
And if I find that there's a friendship or a relationship or anything that's not fitting
into that value system, I have to really take a step back and be like, does this align with
me?
Do I want to continue this?
Because if I don't address it, then it'll blow up.
It'll get bigger and it'll just.
Yeah.
And that's not something you can do when your brain is still disorganized when you're still
in survival mode.
These are all things.
That's why this podcast is what it is.
Right.
It's about what does it look like after you've done this brain work, after you've gotten
to that solid place where you regulate, you know yourself better, you're constantly working
on yourself and that's life, right?
Working on yourself constantly.
And I love it.
It's hard.
It's hard, but it's so worth it.
Very easy, but it's so worth it because you discover things where you're like, oh my goodness,
gracious.
Every day I'm like, I know myself a little better.
I know it's true.
And then I love getting to know myself better while I'm doing it with my kids too.
And it like, and I didn't realize that like my son coming home and telling me everything
wasn't what was happening in everyone's homes.
Like most kids don't go home and tell their parents everything.
And they're like, how do you have that relationship?
I was like, well, Axel just knows that I'm human too.
And I'm working on my stuff and I'll dysregulate and I'm like, mom's got to go take care of
this.
And I show him what repair looks like.
So I show him and it doesn't mean that I'm perfect.
It doesn't mean that I've got it all figured out.
It just means that we're doing something that is so authentic and so raw.
And like, he's watching my transformation as a human as he's transforming and like,
dude, Paloma, he got hit with the baseball yesterday in the batter's box by his coach,
okay?
So if you've been listening, you know, Axel in sports has come so far.
His biggest fear was getting hit with the baseball.
Oh my God.
He got hit.
It just did not happen and I was like, and I had no emotion.
I didn't go into mom like freak out mode like, ah, like, you know, it was just like, I was
like, I was just like, oh, let's see what he's going to do.
And he like stood there for a minute.
The coach walked up to him and was like, all right, buddy, you okay?
Okay.
And he was really like rubbing like, oh, that really hurt.
It did hurt.
He beamed him pretty good.
Ouch.
Yeah.
And I was like, yeah, that's, that's the thing that's going to have to happen.
And then I was like, I wonder what he's going to do about it.
I just sat in my car and watched and he was like, Siggy, he just, I was actually talking
to someone, I was like, Ooh, Axel just got hit with the ball.
And then I watched him.
He like shook it off.
I knew it hurt.
And he got back into the batter's box and ripped the next one.
And if anyone knows Axel's journey with baseball, this is huge.
He would step out of the batter's box and swing 10 seconds delayed for every pitch.
And now he's getting hit by in less than one season later, getting hit by a ball by his
coach that he trusted.
It was like, bro, you did me dirty.
How did you do that?
And he got back in and did it.
And I was like, that is what this is all about is like, you're going to have adversity and
you're going to have it over and over and over.
Do you want to deal with the same adversity over and over or do you want to deal with
new ones that take you to bigger and better places?
Right.
And that's what ITC is rooted in is let's look at that foundation.
Let's shift it.
So it's really aligned with your values and how you want to live your life.
And now you get to decide what life you live.
And it takes time to get there, but it's so incredibly awesome.
Worth it.
It's so worth it.
And it's not always easy, but that's why we're here in our WhatsApp group, our Facebook group,
our emails.
We are in the program.
We are responding to you.
Yeah, that have one on one sessions and they have like private coaching.
I mean, we have so much stuff that we were here to offer and like really support because
we've been through it.
Yeah, that's the best.
So this regulation after brain work is so much easier.
It's like you can get over something in minutes versus talking about it for weeks and years,
right?
Exactly.
And that's what we want the whole world to experience.
So what are you waiting for?
Come over here and creep with us.
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And remember, we're starting today, actually, if you're listening to this on the eighth,
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We recommend signing up as soon as possible just so you can be on the live calls, but
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So if you ever can't make a call or whatever, you can always email us your questions or
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But yeah, it's going to start on the eighth, which is, I guess today, if you're listening
to this today, and it's going to be amazing, we really are going to work through all the
stuff that we talked about today to really help help our members get to that point where
they feel like they are connected with their intuition, their true selves, and they really
are nurturing themselves and being able to nurture their kiddos and really getting that
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