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Hi, everybody, and welcome to a new episode of the podcast.
This is the In The Cortex podcast.
I'm your host, Poloma Garcia.
We got Danny with me here.
And today we have a very special guest.
We have Christy Mosley, who is one of our members who started the program maybe two
years ago, I think, like maybe even three years ago.
Yeah, you did it a while ago.
And just somebody that we always connected with so much.
And we love you so much.
And we just appreciate everything that you do.
And you are just so awesome because you do so many other awesome things.
So that's kind of what our episode today is going to be about.
We want to ask you about your journey within the cortex, of course, because I feel like
we know it, but it's always interesting for people to hear it.
And also about all the other stuff you do, right, because we all have a little formula
that works for us.
And maybe some people haven't found it yet.
So it's nice to hear what other people's formula is and get inspired where you can.
So Christy, do you want to just do a quick introduction about you and your background
and a little bit about what you do?
Sure, yeah.
So I am an acupuncturist.
I'm a rapid transformational therapy practitioner, and I'm also a transformational coach.
I have three children, which is what brought me to this world.
But frankly, I realized that I needed it as much as they did.
And so doing the work through your program really helped with our brain integration,
organization, and it's been really foundational for the work that I do as well.
Do you want to share a little bit about what behaviors or things are going on at home to
make you want to seek out what we're doing here?
Yeah, yeah.
I mean, in a family with five people where four of them have ADHD, I mean, you all know
the chaos that rains.
And when I would tell people like therapists or other people, it's just, it feels exceptionally
hard.
Like it doesn't feel like I thought it would.
And people would say, yeah, that's just the parenting journey.
And I'm like, no, no, you really don't understand.
I mean, chaos, you know, fighting 90% of the time.
Everybody.
You know, fighting 90% of the time, right?
A lot of dawdling to the extreme, like, like an older child cannot get themselves out the
door at all.
No piece of it.
And then just the emotional dysregulation that was part of all of that.
And that was me and my kids, you know, and, and then my partner, the kind of one always
having to like be strong and hold it together.
And that was a lot of what we were seeing.
Yeah.
And you, and what were some of the things that you started to see shift as you did the
work of creeping, crawling and reflex integration and all this stuff.
Yeah.
With the brain work, I feel like what I noticed in myself was my nervous system calming down.
Right.
So there was overall settling, like something would happen and I wouldn't feel triggered.
Something would happen and I would be able to step back and it wasn't just mental management.
It was bottom up, right?
Which is what the brain reorganization is all about.
It's bottom up, right?
And so I was able to stay calm, really organically.
And yes, I love that.
I feel angry, not feel stressed out when my kid did a childish behavior, right?
And then with my kids, you know, they've gone in and out of phases when they've been really
consistent and when they haven't.
But when they have been consistent, we've seen better sports performance, better school
performance, spontaneous organization where suddenly they just keep their stuff tidy.
People getting along better, being less triggered, having better boundaries with each other.
I mean, all sorts of things that just make the home more peaceful.
Yes.
Now even my most resistant child, because she's 14 and getting closer to driving age,
we have a very strong tool for motivation and now she's doing brain work.
And so that's been fabulous.
And it's really, yeah, and I really see her brain getting really organized.
Yeah.
That's amazing.
Yeah, I think it's amazing.
I feel like what you said about like the nervous system regulation, I feel like we say it all
the time, but I love that you also, you've lived it as well.
And it's, you know, so many of our members have too, where you're like, it's just natural.
It's organic and it's something that's just happening without you having to say, okay,
wait, I have to take a deep breath.
I have to count to 10.
I have to zoom out.
I have to look at this perspective, whatever, because how many times, and I'm asking this
because I just did a tick talk about this recently, how many times before your brain
work, did you try to take a deep breath to count to 10 to do all the logical things?
And they just didn't work, right?
You know, and so people are stuck feeling like, oh, there's probably something wrong
with me because everybody's talking about these, these tools for nervous system regulation,
but they don't work for me.
Right.
Yeah, I had gone through, you know, mindfulness based stress reduction.
I had actually done a lot, a lot of it.
And a lot of the top down strategies I had tried.
And now that I feel like my brain is more organized and when I get on the floor and
creep, it feels easy finally, you know, those strategies are actually really impactful.
I mean, exactly.
Bringing the top down stuff in is useful once the bottom up work has been done.
So you know that.
Yeah, we tell that to everyone.
We're like, there's so many great modalities out there, but they're not going to do anything
until you've come from the foundation and you've put it in and you're solid there.
Because if your nervous system is like, stay calm, stay calm, I'm not calm, stay calm,
and you're just constantly in that space.
And then you like go into anxiety and you, it's a physiological reaction.
Like you were seeing the stressor and your body's responding to it as if it's survival.
So you can't talk yourself through it.
And that's why we always tell parents, like, don't tell your kids to calm down because
they're like, I will throw something at you.
All they need is for you to show them what regulation looks like.
And then they'll start to mirror this and then they get on the floor with you and it's
just life changing.
So Christie, with your experience of all this stuff, so you've been doing the program for
three years on off and you've said when you're consistent, you see the changes for you and
your kiddos.
I mean, this is why we say it's a lifetime program because you have to revisit the stuff
because as kids change and as our, you know, parenting is the only constant is change,
right?
It's just like, okay, we got through this phase and now, oh, wow, there's a whole new chapter
that we have to learn how to parent through because kids are constantly evolving and we
have to evolve with them.
So that's why we love that you have been with this for as long as you have because I've
been doing it for 15 years, Bulom has been doing it for 14 years.
It's something I revisit all the time.
But for the parents who are like, okay, I tried it for two months, what would you say
to those parents?
Like what would be like the thing that you wish someone told you at that point of like,
okay, did it for two months, but like my life hasn't radically changed yet?
Yeah.
And I will say, I actually think it's been three and a half years.
I think it was September of 2020.
Yeah.
That makes sense.
Yeah.
It makes sense.
Anyway, yeah, I think it's been a little bit longer, but I would say it's kind of like
anything that you find really foundationally nourishing in your life, you don't remove
it, right?
I mean, at no point are we going to say, I'm not going to drink good water anymore.
I'm not going to exercise anymore.
That's just not going to happen, right?
Like are certain things, if we want a certain level of well-being in our lives that we just
commit to.
And how old I'll be able to, how long I'll be able to creep for, you know, if I can
creep when I'm like 80, maybe I'll be doing something else.
But I think we see, I see enough of the impacts internally.
I feel them, right?
I feel so much better in my day.
I'd sit down, I know what to do.
I'm not stressed.
I know how to prioritize.
Having people organized is foundational for me, for all the other work that I do.
So I would, I mean, it's like persevere, you know?
I know that's, that's maybe a cliche word, but for me, that's what it's been.
And every time I've gone back, I've gotten more of the experience, more of the physical
experience, physiologic really, of the nervous system integration, which has become more
and more motivating.
So it's really this self-reinforcing cycle.
Positive feedback loop essentially is what it is.
You know, you feel better, you do it more.
You feel even better, you do it even more.
You're doing it more and more and more.
And then I think also, I was talking about this with somebody on a call before this about
how impactful the emotional part is, right?
So you do all the brain stuff, you get your nervous system regulated, and then you look
at your subconscious beliefs and all those emotions that are bubbling under the surface.
And that's where we bring in our reconnects and all these things.
And that's also something that I think you, you do all the time, you know, you posted
in our group and you're like, I'm thinking of this reconnect.
We did one right before we got on the call.
I feel like, can you talk a little bit about that piece?
Because I know it's, that's the one thing that I think is less concrete for people that
maybe don't understand the program as well.
Cause the rest of it is just movement, right?
Yeah.
The belief work is huge and that's, that's a big part.
I mean, the majority of what I do professionally as well.
And it's just, I mean, we do have to shift those beliefs at a foundational level.
We can do brain work, keep doing brain work, but if we still think I'm worthless or never
going to be good enough.
My life is never going to be good enough.
My family is never going to be good enough.
And we go through with those beliefs unexamined or without integrating or transmuting them.
We'll still feel miserable.
We might feel more related.
We might feel calmer, but there's going to be a part of us that's still really miserable.
So yeah, the belief work is a jet.
I mean, equally foundational.
Again, it's like, you know, getting all the pieces to form what really creates well-being
in somebody's life.
And that's different for every person, but I think there are themes for us that are common.
Yeah.
Okay.
That's so perfect.
So you just said what creates well-being in all of us.
And I feel like you, after three and a half years talking to you, seeing you and your
participation were like, okay, Christy's found her formula.
Would you mind sharing?
Like, so you mentioned what you've tried in the past and then you did the program and
now what have, what else do you do?
What is, what's keeping Christy in a really happy place?
I mean, and you're human too.
So we can't, you know, we're not always happy.
Everyone, we have feelings and emotions.
It's okay to be sad and angry.
So, and now I'm sure you can just roll through that so much differently too.
So yeah, for sure.
I mean, and for me, I think looking at what was getting in the way is a big part of it.
And you guys remember, I mean, I have a very strong inner critic, right?
This is my, this is my thing.
Like the inner jet is so intense.
And so, and that's, that's actually who I work with now.
I work with high achieving women who have a very strong inner critic and really want
to learn how to savor their lives because I wasn't taught that there was no celebrating.
There was no slowing down.
You accomplish one thing, fine, you for the next next.
There's no celebration.
There's no savoring.
And there's really never a chance.
There wasn't a chance for me to ever give myself the experience of satisfaction, like
that is, I right now, and once I realized how crucial that was, it was like, okay, this
is what I need.
You know, I need to work with these inner voices.
I need to transmute these inner voices, work on the beliefs that are getting in the way,
remove subconscious blocks to my right to experience those things.
And then, and then that will be it.
But what I found is my nervous system still couldn't hold it.
And so that's a lot of what I do as well with clients and with myself is work on my nervous
system's capacity to hold those things because a lot of times we work on our nervous system's
capacity to hold discomfort or hold, you know, our kids having a tantrum or something bad
happening on the freeway, but we don't expand our nervous system's capacity to hold joy,
right?
And so that's a lot of what I do for myself.
Others is like, can I let myself be well and enjoy and feel safe, right?
And I let myself have a lot of money and feel safe with that, you know?
And so a lot of it is like bringing in safety with all of these good things that I want
and reprogramming, reprogramming.
It is a practice and it takes coming out from different angles when we've been raised to
think, you know, stress, anxiety, pressure is safety.
Right.
That's what we're so used to.
And so that's a lot of what I do.
And you guys know as an acupuncturist, you know, I've been trained in herbalism.
I've been trained in all sorts of things within the Chinese medicine sphere.
And those are all really, really useful.
I bring in herbs.
I bring in acupuncture.
I do moxa on myself four times a week.
I do all sorts of things for myself.
But those things are, they feel like extras a lot of times.
They're wonderful and they're so supportive.
They feel like extras.
And I think, you know, now that I do with acupuncture now, the way I practice is something
called somatic acupuncture.
So I actually help people have a more direct experience of releasing stress, releasing
trauma from the body as they feel into it.
So it's a different experience of acupuncture.
People don't get on the table and just go unconscious.
It's really, they're participating in the process.
Right.
A somatic experience of release and healing.
And so all of those things for me have been huge.
But particularly expanding my capacity to be with joy.
Yeah.
Of course.
I love that.
How have you felt like yourself as a mom changing?
Because I know, and I don't know if you experienced this, but I was just talking to Dr. Gurr the
other day and I was like, the mom guilt is so huge, right?
Like we're trying to break the cycles of what we're giving, what we were raised with.
And we still catch ourselves doing that with our kids, right?
And then you beat yourself up because of that strong inner critic.
And then I'm like, gosh, the guilt of my experience.
And Dr. Gurr was like, well, I don't experience guilt.
And I'm like, what?
And she also started with the 75% creep.
So that explains a lot because she was able just to let things go.
I started with the 5% if that creep.
So I feel like, you know, I got a little different taste of my reality and was my experience.
But for me as a mom, I've just watched myself evolve and like help my kids grow differently.
Do you feel like your experience as a mom has shifted and you're able, did you experience
mom guilt?
Did you?
How have you worked through it?
Okay.
Yeah.
And you guys may remember some of this, but that was, I mean, that was, it was literally
crippling.
Like I couldn't even enjoy my kids because I was so filled with guilt.
Oh, I did this wrong when they were little.
And I legitimately did like a lot of things wrong, like not good stuff, you know, I mean,
screaming.
And my three kids were born within three years of each other.
It was too much.
My nervous system, like.
It's a lot.
Yeah.
It was, it was way too much.
And we were overseas and all that.
But for me, it's been a process of really learning and integrating a couple of things
when realizing everybody has their own path.
And really, I mean, that's a conceptual idea, but it feels very real to me.
Like every person comes here with their own path, their own journey.
And sorry kids, that's your journey.
You got me.
And another thing I tell them a lot is I'm so sorry that you have a human mom.
I am so sorry.
What can I say?
Yeah, I wanted to give you an angel, but you didn't get one.
Right.
And sometimes my youngest son said to me one day, mommy, I am so sorry.
You got a human son.
There's a lot more grace just in the picture.
Really recognizing all of our humanity.
Like we are here.
We're all doing our freaking best and sometimes our best sucks.
We say we're sorry and we try to infuse more grace.
And so that's a big part of it.
And another part is just recognizing that like if I came into their lives as this perfect
mom, they came into my life and I was this perfect mom, they would go out into the world
and they would be screwed.
You know, there would be nothing good for them.
And so just accepting that like they're getting some good lessons here.
Yeah, adversity, resiliency.
I mean, you name it.
Here's where it's so cool because you've shown them how you can work through these really
hard things and you've shown them that it's still not going to be perfect.
Like we still get dysregulated, right?
Like we still have moments where I'm in a human moment right now.
And I think so many times people see like Paloma and I were like, oh, you guys should
have a little bit together.
We're like, no, we're human.
Like I still have meanty bees as I call them or ponds attacks, you know, every once in
a while.
Cause I'm like, it's just too much and it's okay.
And that's what we want to normalize.
It's okay, but what's the repair?
What are you doing to get back into the saddle?
How are you getting yourself back into alignment?
And so what's your go to when you feel like you, you get dysregulated, you feel overwhelmed
or stressed or whatever it is, what is it that your path is to help you get back there?
Yeah.
Well, let me just circle back on something you said.
It's not only okay for us to have limits.
It's important that we do have limits and that we tell our kids that, right?
So many of us, I mean, in the parenting communities, especially positive parenting or gentle parenting,
the idea that an adult should have limits is really discussed.
And I think it's really important to teach them.
I have limits and right now I'm at my limit.
I actually can't do anymore.
And I'm so sorry.
I cannot make you breakfast today and I cannot play a game with you right now.
I'm at my limit and I'm done.
So that's one thing is great for myself, but I mean, getting on the floor doing creeping
is extremely helpful for me.
Going on a walk in nature.
I take barefoot walks around my neighborhood every evening.
You know, I'm sure I look like a weirdo, but I love it.
Grounded, walking under the stars.
I come home.
I'm regulated to get in bed.
We also, I also really like, I do my best to simplify my life.
We don't have Wi-Fi in our house.
We don't do a lot of media.
Like I really try to keep things streamlined and simplified so that I'm doing the things
I love and I can really invest in the things I love.
That really helps my nervous system.
When I stack my schedule every hour, I become so imbalanced and that was kind of what I
was with.
We all were grind culture, hassle culture.
I don't participate in that anymore.
Sometimes I get pulled into it, but I really try not to participate in it.
So that's been huge for me.
A lot of overnight herbal infusions, you know, like nettle infusions, oat straw, you know,
all sorts of things I make and I drink those and it's so, the minerals and the electrolytes,
the nutrients are so nourishing.
We're getting more of what we actually need, what we would, you know, evolutionarily be
getting what we, our bodies need and that's, that kind of nourishment is, is super supportive
as well.
So those are some things.
And then I have regular practices, like all of us probably have that I'm pretty consistent
with.
So, yeah.
Amazing.
Okay.
So two things.
The, I said that to my kids all the time about my bucket is empty.
Like, and I explained it was like a car with gasoline.
Like once it, the tank is empty, it needs to go back and get fueled back up and that's
such an important concept for everyone to know.
So we can start to tune into when you need to take a break because we are such a hustle
and grind culture that we just go, go, go and we have FOMO.
Everyone talks about missing out.
I'm like, it's okay to miss out.
Like it wasn't meant for you.
And like, what your future was.
FOMO, joy of missing out, not fear.
I love it.
I'm like, listen, I'm not going.
Jomu, for me, I'm not into it.
Peace out.
See you later.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Is that like a new Tik Tok thing to say?
No, but I think it's, you know, yeah, it's gonna be exactly.
I love this.
And then also, I was just going to say about how was I going to say the bucket and then
oh, these mineral, you look amazing.
Like you look absolutely amazing.
Like your hair looks incredible.
And I'm like, okay, it looks amazing.
And I'm like, you, whatever those mineral treatments are and the Chinese medicine, I'm
like, I need to get on board with this.
Cause I think, and I was just talking about this with Paloma is once you've done the foundation
work of like your nervous systems regulated, you've integrated your primitive reflexes,
you no longer see everything coming at you as a major threat.
Then you do need to dabble in some other practices, right?
You need to do other things that keep your system happy.
And you do need to give yourself the minerals and our diets are so insane these days.
And the way we are living in so much technology, it's unlike anything we've ever experienced
as humans.
And I was just talking about women and hormones.
And I think so many of us women don't understand like what's hormone related, what's, you know,
nervous system related.
And we have to like figure out our formula and how to help each other.
I was just talking to a group of women who are 30 plus and we didn't even know all of
our anatomy parts.
Like, isn't that not correct?
Like we didn't even know like all of like the way our bodies worked.
And I only learned about it when I was wanting to have kids.
And I'm like, think about teenagers today.
How confusing this world is.
So I think getting back into the basics of just what does our body really need?
And I love that you simplify life.
But how do you do it when you have three teenagers?
Like how when they have so many different activities and things to go to, like how do
you keep yourself in a good space?
Yeah.
Well, first of all, I let things with my kids fall off.
And I know a lot of people and a lot of parents probably don't want to hear that and they
don't want to do that.
But I just do my partner and I share really, really well.
He's very supportive.
He does a lot.
And then, you know, if my daughter's soccer game is an hour away and I have a meeting
that afternoon, I might have her go with a friend, you know, and I'm her soccer game.
I know it's not, it's not the ideal parenting formula, but it's part of my more holistic
well-being formula.
Part of that for me as a mom is getting that individual connection time with my kids.
As long as they're connected to me, they feel close, they feel loved and we somehow had,
you know, a meaningful connection that day.
They're okay with it.
They understand, they see us and we've made it very clear we're not just parents or people,
you know, I'm a mom and I'm a lot of other things, you know, that's just one part of
what makes me who I am.
In terms of just life stuff, I mean, I don't really, like I try to go to bed early, you
know, I try to go to bed by 10, I have to get up at six with them and I try to make
sure I exercise every day.
Like those basics I get in and I'm not hard on myself when it doesn't happen anymore.
Yes.
You know, be super hard on myself if I miss the workout.
I don't do that anymore.
It's like, yeah, that happened.
Yeah, it totally happens.
And that's the whole point is that I think you've reached this balance where, you know,
maybe a lot of like what you said makes so much sense because like I see videos on social
media of like moms being shamed for taking time for themselves and not going to the
soccer game because they had to do something for themselves.
And it's just, it's, it goes back to kind of what you were saying about this world that
we all grew up in with like hustle culture, but like the mom hustle is you got to be there
all the time for your kids 24 seven, no matter what you totally, you know, disregard anything
that you could ever possibly need because you're there for your kids, you know, and
that's just not realistic.
So I think it's,
And I tried that.
I mean, I tried that first probably nine years of parenting and I was miserable.
It was in work.
I was imbalanced.
I was disoriented.
They weren't happy because they had a mom that's miserable.
And so it was really, I mean, on Wednesday nights, now I do.
I have comedy improv class every Wednesday night and I go to that and I miss my son's
baseball games sometimes and it sucks and we've talked through it and he knows I adore
him and you know, I make what I can.
It's just, I know it's not the dogman.
Sometimes I'm almost like, it's out loud and I love this, but I love being a mom and I
love all the other parts of myself and I think that's a big thing in our society is like,
even we, we think we have this in the US have this individualized society and we're very
into individualism, but actually there's so much conformity.
Like as women were taught, you need to be this size.
You need to look this way as a mom, you need to be this way.
Like there's so much conformity and part of the work that I do is helping women figure
out like, what is your divine spark?
Like what makes you you like what is, what are you passionate about?
What do you desire?
What do you love?
What are you good at?
And like, yes.
I'm tapping into that at a deep level, which is how I think one way women start to overcome
the inner critic and say like, oh, I get to be me, you know, and our kids see that.
I mean, my daughter is 14, she's in eighth grade, she's in the middle of middle school,
if you know what I mean.
But when I hear her talk, she's like, yeah, mommy, I just don't get it.
These girls spend $60 getting their nails done and I don't understand like, why are
they doing this?
Like, and my kids will talk to me about beauty culture and how stupid it is, you know, and
so it's like, they're listening, they see, and so they are absorbing that as well.
So I think even though, yeah, I'm not like an ever present omniscient omnipotent parent,
like they're still learning a lot from the way I've chosen to do it.
So 100% that's what I was just thinking.
I mean, pull on the favorite line of society's expectations and us needing to break free of
them to find our divine spark and like what, why we are here.
And you, I could never have done that and broken free of like the conformity of what
I was supposed to be had I not regulated my nervous system and then broke free of those
beliefs because so much of our programming is like, if you look at school, it's like,
everyone line up, how's everyone's grades, how, you know, we're just constantly in that
comparison mindset.
And I think when I had my first child, the comparison was so insanely overwhelming.
Like does he weigh enough?
Is he eating enough?
Is he in, is he enough?
Right.
And it was like, oh my gosh.
And now I'm like, I'm so grateful.
I gave my kids that gift of just not caring and not giving a, you know what, because it's
like, wow, it's liberating to just be like, I'm doing me.
It's not what society thinks I should be doing.
I'm doing what I want to do.
And I want to show that to my kids.
And that's what you brought to your kids.
Like, yeah, I'm a way of how do you take life on?
Cause we only have like, it's our human experience.
Like you get to make it what you want it to be.
Yeah.
And I've been doing this for years going from thing to thing saying, how should I feel now?
How should I behave now?
What should I be thinking now?
How should my kids be acting now?
It was always some externally imposed idea.
I should be feeling, thinking, doing whatever.
And so getting free of that.
I mean, that's what I want for people.
And I know you guys want to is inner freedom, right?
This, I believe in some inner freedom.
We want this for people.
This is part of what I think we're all doing in the world.
A big part of inner freedom is saying my life is my life.
This is a gift to me who I am.
Like this is, this is me.
I don't like, I don't orient based on external things anymore.
So I love that.
I love that.
And I think, I mean, because you do what you do, I think you also probably get exposure
to so many different people and so many different kinds of practices and stuff out there that
probably inspire you.
And probably some of them you're like, Oh, that's not what I want.
Right.
So I feel like you're somebody kind of like us that like we just have seen so much because
that's what we do is we work with people.
And so you just see these things where you're like, Whoa, I mean, this person had this kind
of childhood, this person had that kind of childhood, this person had that one and all
three of them have this one belief, right?
So it doesn't matter what happened when you were a child.
It's about what you can do about it when you have the chance and the opportunity, right?
And taking that opportunity and I feel like that's just like kind of the overwhelming message
that we want to share with people is take the wheel, you know, take the wheel and you
decide where you want to go.
And I do believe I say this all the time.
We are at a point, like a tipping point right now in society.
We have been, I think maybe probably since the pandemic where people really are getting
sick of society's expectations and sick of all of that stuff of shooting themselves to
death, right?
Because we're all like, what?
I mean, I had to be locked up for however long and now I'm supposed to still care about
what, you know, my neighbor is doing and keeping up with the Joneses and all that stuff.
Absolutely not.
And I think so many more people, of course it's going to take a while probably, but I
do feel that tipping point.
Like it's just, it's here and you see it with the younger generations, like your kids being
like, what's up with that?
You know, and so that's so cool.
Like normally a 14 year old probably wouldn't question what their friends are doing or the
cool kids are doing at school, they'd be like, I want to do a two-mom, I want a $60 manicure,
you know?
And she's like, this is not my vibe.
Why are they doing that?
Right?
And that's, they're questioning it, not even judging it, just being like, that's so interesting
that they would, that these girls would make those decisions that I would never make.
Right?
And so that's where we want to get to in the world is having that level of compassion
and like openness, right?
Where we don't notice, but a lot of the time we, you know, humans have a tendency to be
very closed-minded.
Yeah.
And Paloma, the word that keeps coming to mind as you're talking is sovereignty, right?
And this idea of sovereignty within ourselves, within our families, within our homes, but
then within our, within me, like I have sometimes the voice that pops up and is like, you should
be doing this right now and I'll start to listen.
And then I'm like, wait, where is that voice coming from?
I have sovereignty here, right?
Like who's home here?
Who?
Exactly.
What voice am I listening to?
And so with that, all of those voices of criticism that come at us from society and all of the
shugs and all of that, there's a lack of sovereignty and I think re-establishing sovereignty
within ourselves is huge.
Yeah.
Rooted in authenticity.
It's like does this have a line with who I want to be?
And when you start to establish that, I swear as soon as I started to become more authentically
me and just not caring about all that stuff, I started to attract so many new people into
my life and people would just be like, I want to, like I see you differently.
And before and I was in survival mode, I used to think the world was against me.
I thought everybody hated me and I thought everyone was talking about me, right?
And even if people are talking about me, I'm like, I don't care.
That's not me.
I'm projecting, right?
So it's like, you just have like such a different take on life, your perception of everything
shifts and I just love this conversation.
It has been so awesome.
Christy, you are a gem.
Like we love you so much.
And do you work with people online or is it only in person?
No, I work with people online.
Yeah, I do my rapid transformational therapy sessions over Zoom and I do Zoom over Zoom
and it works.
It's fabulous.
Do you want to share where people can find you so that way if someone's listening, they're
like, wait, I want to know what Christy's got.
Yeah.
LinkedIn or flourishinglifewithChristy.com.
Perfect.
Okay, we'll put that in the description.
Yeah.
Reach out to Christy.
She's the best.
I mean, genuinely, I kind of want to do another episode where we talk where you kind of like
educate us on Chinese medicine and all these amazing things that you know, because you've
shared a little bit about it, but I'm always so curious.
So if you're open to that, we could do another one.
Yeah.
Like an overnight infusion, like give that to me.
And all the different, you know, the way that the body interprets emotions, you know,
you and I love that.
And just like how different organs represent different seasons.
You were saying like the liver is spring and because it's all this transformation and all
this stuff.
So I feel like that would also be really interesting.
Yeah.
I'm about to hold an in-person retreat where we just focus on the season of spring, the
liver and working with anger and resentment and getting some of that transmuted.
It's such a good to do that.
So anybody, you guys, if it feels, if you feel called, good time to work with anger, support
your liver, a lot of things you can do for that and just be working with those emotions.
They might be more noticeable right now.
Yeah.
Totally amazing.
You're in Texas, right, Christy?
Yeah, I'm in Austin.
Oh, Paloma loves Houston all of a sudden.
So she might fly out.
I was just in Houston and I love it there.
At a rodeo.
I went to the rodeo.
Y'all come right now.
I was like, you're going to hate it.
She loved it.
I loved it.
It was so much fun.
Button busting is my passion.
I'm obsessed with that.
It's the cutest thing I've ever seen in my life.
I have to admit, I've never been to a rodeo.
I'm from California originally in Texas.
I'm always sort of like, I'm not sure, but Austin, like I can deal.
Yeah.
Austin is more like, it's like the California of Texas.
No?
Yeah.
Yeah, basically.
Yeah, I really want to go.
If I'm there, I will 100% reach out to you.
That'd be so much fun.
Yeah.
That would be so rad.
Thank you so much, Christy.
This was amazing.
Amazing.
I am excited to go listen back to everything you just said because it was just eloquent
and beautiful.
So thank you so much for your time, your beautiful energy and you, just you being you.
We need more of this.
We do.
We need more Christies in the world.
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