1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,280 Hi, and welcome to the In The Cortex podcast. 2 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:10,280 We are your hosts. 3 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:11,600 I'm Poloma Garcia. 4 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:13,640 And I am Danny Parakoni. 5 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:17,240 And we're the founders of In The Cortex, an online community with programs that show 6 00:00:17,240 --> 00:00:21,480 people the tools that they need to change their lives, their brain reorganization, no 7 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:23,880 medication, just movement. 8 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:28,080 When you get your brain out of survival mode and regulate your nervous system, you start 9 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:32,200 to live in the fun, logical part of the brain, the cortex. 10 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:36,520 Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life. 11 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:38,920 And now on to today's episode. 12 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:43,960 Hi, everybody, and welcome to a new episode of the podcast. 13 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:46,000 This is the In The Cortex podcast. 14 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:47,680 I'm your host, Poloma Garcia. 15 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:48,800 We got Danny with me here. 16 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:51,800 And today we have a very special guest. 17 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:57,480 We have Christy Mosley, who is one of our members who started the program maybe two 18 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:01,040 years ago, I think, like maybe even three years ago. 19 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:03,240 Yeah, you did it a while ago. 20 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:06,720 And just somebody that we always connected with so much. 21 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:08,640 And we love you so much. 22 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:10,200 And we just appreciate everything that you do. 23 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:13,920 And you are just so awesome because you do so many other awesome things. 24 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:16,720 So that's kind of what our episode today is going to be about. 25 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:20,560 We want to ask you about your journey within the cortex, of course, because I feel like 26 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:23,920 we know it, but it's always interesting for people to hear it. 27 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:27,720 And also about all the other stuff you do, right, because we all have a little formula 28 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:28,720 that works for us. 29 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:30,680 And maybe some people haven't found it yet. 30 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:35,880 So it's nice to hear what other people's formula is and get inspired where you can. 31 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:38,760 So Christy, do you want to just do a quick introduction about you and your background 32 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:40,680 and a little bit about what you do? 33 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:43,240 Sure, yeah. 34 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,640 So I am an acupuncturist. 35 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:51,480 I'm a rapid transformational therapy practitioner, and I'm also a transformational coach. 36 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:55,440 I have three children, which is what brought me to this world. 37 00:01:55,440 --> 00:02:00,040 But frankly, I realized that I needed it as much as they did. 38 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:05,600 And so doing the work through your program really helped with our brain integration, 39 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:12,760 organization, and it's been really foundational for the work that I do as well. 40 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:17,520 Do you want to share a little bit about what behaviors or things are going on at home to 41 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:21,000 make you want to seek out what we're doing here? 42 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:22,000 Yeah, yeah. 43 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:28,480 I mean, in a family with five people where four of them have ADHD, I mean, you all know 44 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:30,480 the chaos that rains. 45 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:35,760 And when I would tell people like therapists or other people, it's just, it feels exceptionally 46 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:36,760 hard. 47 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:39,640 Like it doesn't feel like I thought it would. 48 00:02:39,640 --> 00:02:41,600 And people would say, yeah, that's just the parenting journey. 49 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:44,080 And I'm like, no, no, you really don't understand. 50 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:48,800 I mean, chaos, you know, fighting 90% of the time. 51 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:49,800 Everybody. 52 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:51,840 You know, fighting 90% of the time, right? 53 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:59,800 A lot of dawdling to the extreme, like, like an older child cannot get themselves out the 54 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:01,280 door at all. 55 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:03,320 No piece of it. 56 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:06,560 And then just the emotional dysregulation that was part of all of that. 57 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:11,680 And that was me and my kids, you know, and, and then my partner, the kind of one always 58 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:14,360 having to like be strong and hold it together. 59 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:16,920 And that was a lot of what we were seeing. 60 00:03:16,920 --> 00:03:17,920 Yeah. 61 00:03:17,920 --> 00:03:22,760 And you, and what were some of the things that you started to see shift as you did the 62 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:25,920 work of creeping, crawling and reflex integration and all this stuff. 63 00:03:25,920 --> 00:03:26,920 Yeah. 64 00:03:26,920 --> 00:03:32,000 With the brain work, I feel like what I noticed in myself was my nervous system calming down. 65 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:33,000 Right. 66 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:37,800 So there was overall settling, like something would happen and I wouldn't feel triggered. 67 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:43,440 Something would happen and I would be able to step back and it wasn't just mental management. 68 00:03:43,440 --> 00:03:44,800 It was bottom up, right? 69 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:46,920 Which is what the brain reorganization is all about. 70 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:47,920 It's bottom up, right? 71 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:52,200 And so I was able to stay calm, really organically. 72 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:53,920 And yes, I love that. 73 00:03:53,920 --> 00:04:00,280 I feel angry, not feel stressed out when my kid did a childish behavior, right? 74 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:04,440 And then with my kids, you know, they've gone in and out of phases when they've been really 75 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:05,960 consistent and when they haven't. 76 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:10,800 But when they have been consistent, we've seen better sports performance, better school 77 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:16,400 performance, spontaneous organization where suddenly they just keep their stuff tidy. 78 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:21,360 People getting along better, being less triggered, having better boundaries with each other. 79 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:26,720 I mean, all sorts of things that just make the home more peaceful. 80 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:27,720 Yes. 81 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:28,720 Yes. 82 00:04:28,720 --> 00:04:33,760 Now even my most resistant child, because she's 14 and getting closer to driving age, 83 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:37,560 we have a very strong tool for motivation and now she's doing brain work. 84 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:39,400 And so that's been fabulous. 85 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:46,680 And it's really, yeah, and I really see her brain getting really organized. 86 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:47,680 Yeah. 87 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:48,680 That's amazing. 88 00:04:48,680 --> 00:04:50,640 Yeah, I think it's amazing. 89 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:56,000 I feel like what you said about like the nervous system regulation, I feel like we say it all 90 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:59,800 the time, but I love that you also, you've lived it as well. 91 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:05,680 And it's, you know, so many of our members have too, where you're like, it's just natural. 92 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:09,600 It's organic and it's something that's just happening without you having to say, okay, 93 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:10,760 wait, I have to take a deep breath. 94 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:11,760 I have to count to 10. 95 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,080 I have to zoom out. 96 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:17,640 I have to look at this perspective, whatever, because how many times, and I'm asking this 97 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:21,360 because I just did a tick talk about this recently, how many times before your brain 98 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:26,560 work, did you try to take a deep breath to count to 10 to do all the logical things? 99 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:29,080 And they just didn't work, right? 100 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:32,880 You know, and so people are stuck feeling like, oh, there's probably something wrong 101 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:38,440 with me because everybody's talking about these, these tools for nervous system regulation, 102 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,440 but they don't work for me. 103 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:41,440 Right. 104 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:44,400 Yeah, I had gone through, you know, mindfulness based stress reduction. 105 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:47,520 I had actually done a lot, a lot of it. 106 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:51,280 And a lot of the top down strategies I had tried. 107 00:05:51,280 --> 00:05:54,800 And now that I feel like my brain is more organized and when I get on the floor and 108 00:05:54,800 --> 00:06:00,520 creep, it feels easy finally, you know, those strategies are actually really impactful. 109 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:01,520 I mean, exactly. 110 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:07,040 Bringing the top down stuff in is useful once the bottom up work has been done. 111 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:08,040 So you know that. 112 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:10,040 Yeah, we tell that to everyone. 113 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:14,280 We're like, there's so many great modalities out there, but they're not going to do anything 114 00:06:14,280 --> 00:06:19,400 until you've come from the foundation and you've put it in and you're solid there. 115 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:22,600 Because if your nervous system is like, stay calm, stay calm, I'm not calm, stay calm, 116 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:24,960 and you're just constantly in that space. 117 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:28,600 And then you like go into anxiety and you, it's a physiological reaction. 118 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:33,440 Like you were seeing the stressor and your body's responding to it as if it's survival. 119 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:35,520 So you can't talk yourself through it. 120 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:38,640 And that's why we always tell parents, like, don't tell your kids to calm down because 121 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:41,800 they're like, I will throw something at you. 122 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:46,040 All they need is for you to show them what regulation looks like. 123 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:48,960 And then they'll start to mirror this and then they get on the floor with you and it's 124 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:51,400 just life changing. 125 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:55,640 So Christie, with your experience of all this stuff, so you've been doing the program for 126 00:06:55,640 --> 00:07:02,760 three years on off and you've said when you're consistent, you see the changes for you and 127 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:03,760 your kiddos. 128 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:07,200 I mean, this is why we say it's a lifetime program because you have to revisit the stuff 129 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:12,920 because as kids change and as our, you know, parenting is the only constant is change, 130 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:13,920 right? 131 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:17,040 It's just like, okay, we got through this phase and now, oh, wow, there's a whole new chapter 132 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:21,600 that we have to learn how to parent through because kids are constantly evolving and we 133 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:23,600 have to evolve with them. 134 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:27,800 So that's why we love that you have been with this for as long as you have because I've 135 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:31,160 been doing it for 15 years, Bulom has been doing it for 14 years. 136 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:33,800 It's something I revisit all the time. 137 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:38,920 But for the parents who are like, okay, I tried it for two months, what would you say 138 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:39,920 to those parents? 139 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:43,320 Like what would be like the thing that you wish someone told you at that point of like, 140 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:46,320 okay, did it for two months, but like my life hasn't radically changed yet? 141 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:47,320 Yeah. 142 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:48,320 Yeah. 143 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:49,760 And I will say, I actually think it's been three and a half years. 144 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:51,760 I think it was September of 2020. 145 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:52,760 Yeah. 146 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:53,760 That makes sense. 147 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:54,760 Yeah. 148 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:55,760 It makes sense. 149 00:07:55,760 --> 00:08:00,680 Anyway, yeah, I think it's been a little bit longer, but I would say it's kind of like 150 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:06,240 anything that you find really foundationally nourishing in your life, you don't remove 151 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:07,240 it, right? 152 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:11,040 I mean, at no point are we going to say, I'm not going to drink good water anymore. 153 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:12,920 I'm not going to exercise anymore. 154 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:14,440 That's just not going to happen, right? 155 00:08:14,440 --> 00:08:19,520 Like are certain things, if we want a certain level of well-being in our lives that we just 156 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:20,520 commit to. 157 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:24,960 And how old I'll be able to, how long I'll be able to creep for, you know, if I can 158 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:28,960 creep when I'm like 80, maybe I'll be doing something else. 159 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:32,960 But I think we see, I see enough of the impacts internally. 160 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:34,280 I feel them, right? 161 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:36,320 I feel so much better in my day. 162 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:38,800 I'd sit down, I know what to do. 163 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:39,800 I'm not stressed. 164 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:40,800 I know how to prioritize. 165 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:45,760 Having people organized is foundational for me, for all the other work that I do. 166 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:49,760 So I would, I mean, it's like persevere, you know? 167 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:54,920 I know that's, that's maybe a cliche word, but for me, that's what it's been. 168 00:08:54,920 --> 00:09:00,600 And every time I've gone back, I've gotten more of the experience, more of the physical 169 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:06,280 experience, physiologic really, of the nervous system integration, which has become more 170 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:07,280 and more motivating. 171 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:11,200 So it's really this self-reinforcing cycle. 172 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:14,320 Positive feedback loop essentially is what it is. 173 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:16,320 You know, you feel better, you do it more. 174 00:09:16,320 --> 00:09:17,960 You feel even better, you do it even more. 175 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:19,960 You're doing it more and more and more. 176 00:09:19,960 --> 00:09:23,600 And then I think also, I was talking about this with somebody on a call before this about 177 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,840 how impactful the emotional part is, right? 178 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:30,640 So you do all the brain stuff, you get your nervous system regulated, and then you look 179 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:35,600 at your subconscious beliefs and all those emotions that are bubbling under the surface. 180 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:38,480 And that's where we bring in our reconnects and all these things. 181 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:42,160 And that's also something that I think you, you do all the time, you know, you posted 182 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:44,640 in our group and you're like, I'm thinking of this reconnect. 183 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:46,800 We did one right before we got on the call. 184 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:49,640 I feel like, can you talk a little bit about that piece? 185 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:53,680 Because I know it's, that's the one thing that I think is less concrete for people that 186 00:09:53,680 --> 00:09:55,080 maybe don't understand the program as well. 187 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:57,200 Cause the rest of it is just movement, right? 188 00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:58,200 Yeah. 189 00:09:58,200 --> 00:09:59,200 Yeah. 190 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:00,200 Yeah. 191 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,440 The belief work is huge and that's, that's a big part. 192 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:04,840 I mean, the majority of what I do professionally as well. 193 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:08,560 And it's just, I mean, we do have to shift those beliefs at a foundational level. 194 00:10:08,560 --> 00:10:14,640 We can do brain work, keep doing brain work, but if we still think I'm worthless or never 195 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:15,640 going to be good enough. 196 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:18,040 My life is never going to be good enough. 197 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:19,480 My family is never going to be good enough. 198 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:26,640 And we go through with those beliefs unexamined or without integrating or transmuting them. 199 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:27,760 We'll still feel miserable. 200 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:29,080 We might feel more related. 201 00:10:29,080 --> 00:10:32,480 We might feel calmer, but there's going to be a part of us that's still really miserable. 202 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:35,720 So yeah, the belief work is a jet. 203 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:37,120 I mean, equally foundational. 204 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:43,120 Again, it's like, you know, getting all the pieces to form what really creates well-being 205 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:44,640 in somebody's life. 206 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:50,360 And that's different for every person, but I think there are themes for us that are common. 207 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:51,360 Yeah. 208 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:52,360 Okay. 209 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:53,360 That's so perfect. 210 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:54,920 So you just said what creates well-being in all of us. 211 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:58,960 And I feel like you, after three and a half years talking to you, seeing you and your 212 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:02,640 participation were like, okay, Christy's found her formula. 213 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:03,640 Would you mind sharing? 214 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:09,000 Like, so you mentioned what you've tried in the past and then you did the program and 215 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:11,000 now what have, what else do you do? 216 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:14,040 What is, what's keeping Christy in a really happy place? 217 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:15,040 I mean, and you're human too. 218 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:16,920 So we can't, you know, we're not always happy. 219 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:19,240 Everyone, we have feelings and emotions. 220 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:21,560 It's okay to be sad and angry. 221 00:11:21,560 --> 00:11:25,480 So, and now I'm sure you can just roll through that so much differently too. 222 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:26,800 So yeah, for sure. 223 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:31,640 I mean, and for me, I think looking at what was getting in the way is a big part of it. 224 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:35,320 And you guys remember, I mean, I have a very strong inner critic, right? 225 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:37,720 This is my, this is my thing. 226 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:40,480 Like the inner jet is so intense. 227 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:44,440 And so, and that's, that's actually who I work with now. 228 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:48,320 I work with high achieving women who have a very strong inner critic and really want 229 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:53,160 to learn how to savor their lives because I wasn't taught that there was no celebrating. 230 00:11:53,160 --> 00:11:54,480 There was no slowing down. 231 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:58,480 You accomplish one thing, fine, you for the next next. 232 00:11:58,480 --> 00:11:59,800 There's no celebration. 233 00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:01,320 There's no savoring. 234 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:02,920 And there's really never a chance. 235 00:12:02,920 --> 00:12:08,240 There wasn't a chance for me to ever give myself the experience of satisfaction, like 236 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:14,200 that is, I right now, and once I realized how crucial that was, it was like, okay, this 237 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:15,200 is what I need. 238 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:17,720 You know, I need to work with these inner voices. 239 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:22,320 I need to transmute these inner voices, work on the beliefs that are getting in the way, 240 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:26,680 remove subconscious blocks to my right to experience those things. 241 00:12:26,680 --> 00:12:28,840 And then, and then that will be it. 242 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:31,360 But what I found is my nervous system still couldn't hold it. 243 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:36,320 And so that's a lot of what I do as well with clients and with myself is work on my nervous 244 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:41,280 system's capacity to hold those things because a lot of times we work on our nervous system's 245 00:12:41,280 --> 00:12:47,680 capacity to hold discomfort or hold, you know, our kids having a tantrum or something bad 246 00:12:47,680 --> 00:12:52,800 happening on the freeway, but we don't expand our nervous system's capacity to hold joy, 247 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:53,800 right? 248 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,960 And so that's a lot of what I do for myself. 249 00:12:55,960 --> 00:13:03,120 Others is like, can I let myself be well and enjoy and feel safe, right? 250 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:07,120 And I let myself have a lot of money and feel safe with that, you know? 251 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:12,720 And so a lot of it is like bringing in safety with all of these good things that I want 252 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:14,640 and reprogramming, reprogramming. 253 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:19,720 It is a practice and it takes coming out from different angles when we've been raised to 254 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:25,960 think, you know, stress, anxiety, pressure is safety. 255 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:26,960 Right. 256 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:29,160 That's what we're so used to. 257 00:13:29,160 --> 00:13:31,280 And so that's a lot of what I do. 258 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:34,760 And you guys know as an acupuncturist, you know, I've been trained in herbalism. 259 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:40,720 I've been trained in all sorts of things within the Chinese medicine sphere. 260 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:42,840 And those are all really, really useful. 261 00:13:42,840 --> 00:13:44,320 I bring in herbs. 262 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:45,520 I bring in acupuncture. 263 00:13:45,520 --> 00:13:47,960 I do moxa on myself four times a week. 264 00:13:47,960 --> 00:13:51,600 I do all sorts of things for myself. 265 00:13:51,600 --> 00:13:57,800 But those things are, they feel like extras a lot of times. 266 00:13:57,800 --> 00:14:01,080 They're wonderful and they're so supportive. 267 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:02,080 They feel like extras. 268 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:05,840 And I think, you know, now that I do with acupuncture now, the way I practice is something 269 00:14:05,840 --> 00:14:06,840 called somatic acupuncture. 270 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:12,760 So I actually help people have a more direct experience of releasing stress, releasing 271 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:15,760 trauma from the body as they feel into it. 272 00:14:15,760 --> 00:14:18,800 So it's a different experience of acupuncture. 273 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:20,640 People don't get on the table and just go unconscious. 274 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:23,440 It's really, they're participating in the process. 275 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:24,440 Right. 276 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:27,520 A somatic experience of release and healing. 277 00:14:27,520 --> 00:14:30,680 And so all of those things for me have been huge. 278 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,400 But particularly expanding my capacity to be with joy. 279 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:34,400 Yeah. 280 00:14:34,400 --> 00:14:35,400 Of course. 281 00:14:35,400 --> 00:14:36,400 I love that. 282 00:14:36,400 --> 00:14:38,200 How have you felt like yourself as a mom changing? 283 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:41,800 Because I know, and I don't know if you experienced this, but I was just talking to Dr. Gurr the 284 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:44,760 other day and I was like, the mom guilt is so huge, right? 285 00:14:44,760 --> 00:14:49,040 Like we're trying to break the cycles of what we're giving, what we were raised with. 286 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:51,920 And we still catch ourselves doing that with our kids, right? 287 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:55,000 And then you beat yourself up because of that strong inner critic. 288 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:56,920 And then I'm like, gosh, the guilt of my experience. 289 00:14:56,920 --> 00:14:59,040 And Dr. Gurr was like, well, I don't experience guilt. 290 00:14:59,040 --> 00:15:01,640 And I'm like, what? 291 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:04,360 And she also started with the 75% creep. 292 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:08,080 So that explains a lot because she was able just to let things go. 293 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:11,080 I started with the 5% if that creep. 294 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:17,360 So I feel like, you know, I got a little different taste of my reality and was my experience. 295 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:23,400 But for me as a mom, I've just watched myself evolve and like help my kids grow differently. 296 00:15:23,400 --> 00:15:28,080 Do you feel like your experience as a mom has shifted and you're able, did you experience 297 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:29,080 mom guilt? 298 00:15:29,080 --> 00:15:30,080 Did you? 299 00:15:30,080 --> 00:15:31,080 How have you worked through it? 300 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:32,080 Okay. 301 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:33,080 Yeah. 302 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:36,880 And you guys may remember some of this, but that was, I mean, that was, it was literally 303 00:15:36,880 --> 00:15:37,880 crippling. 304 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:41,560 Like I couldn't even enjoy my kids because I was so filled with guilt. 305 00:15:41,560 --> 00:15:43,200 Oh, I did this wrong when they were little. 306 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:49,360 And I legitimately did like a lot of things wrong, like not good stuff, you know, I mean, 307 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:50,360 screaming. 308 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:52,640 And my three kids were born within three years of each other. 309 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:53,640 It was too much. 310 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:54,640 My nervous system, like. 311 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:55,640 It's a lot. 312 00:15:55,640 --> 00:15:56,640 Yeah. 313 00:15:56,640 --> 00:15:57,640 It was, it was way too much. 314 00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:00,840 And we were overseas and all that. 315 00:16:00,840 --> 00:16:05,320 But for me, it's been a process of really learning and integrating a couple of things 316 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:07,840 when realizing everybody has their own path. 317 00:16:07,840 --> 00:16:11,560 And really, I mean, that's a conceptual idea, but it feels very real to me. 318 00:16:11,560 --> 00:16:15,880 Like every person comes here with their own path, their own journey. 319 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:17,920 And sorry kids, that's your journey. 320 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:18,920 You got me. 321 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:19,920 You got me. 322 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:25,880 And another thing I tell them a lot is I'm so sorry that you have a human mom. 323 00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:27,960 I am so sorry. 324 00:16:27,960 --> 00:16:28,960 What can I say? 325 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:32,960 Yeah, I wanted to give you an angel, but you didn't get one. 326 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:33,960 Right. 327 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:38,600 And sometimes my youngest son said to me one day, mommy, I am so sorry. 328 00:16:38,600 --> 00:16:41,880 You got a human son. 329 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:44,640 There's a lot more grace just in the picture. 330 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:47,040 Really recognizing all of our humanity. 331 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:48,280 Like we are here. 332 00:16:48,280 --> 00:16:52,920 We're all doing our freaking best and sometimes our best sucks. 333 00:16:52,920 --> 00:16:55,480 We say we're sorry and we try to infuse more grace. 334 00:16:55,480 --> 00:16:57,120 And so that's a big part of it. 335 00:16:57,120 --> 00:17:03,200 And another part is just recognizing that like if I came into their lives as this perfect 336 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:06,960 mom, they came into my life and I was this perfect mom, they would go out into the world 337 00:17:06,960 --> 00:17:08,440 and they would be screwed. 338 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:11,360 You know, there would be nothing good for them. 339 00:17:11,360 --> 00:17:15,600 And so just accepting that like they're getting some good lessons here. 340 00:17:15,600 --> 00:17:18,480 Yeah, adversity, resiliency. 341 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:19,480 I mean, you name it. 342 00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:25,760 Here's where it's so cool because you've shown them how you can work through these really 343 00:17:25,760 --> 00:17:29,240 hard things and you've shown them that it's still not going to be perfect. 344 00:17:29,240 --> 00:17:30,800 Like we still get dysregulated, right? 345 00:17:30,800 --> 00:17:34,000 Like we still have moments where I'm in a human moment right now. 346 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:37,040 And I think so many times people see like Paloma and I were like, oh, you guys should 347 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:38,040 have a little bit together. 348 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:39,600 We're like, no, we're human. 349 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:44,720 Like I still have meanty bees as I call them or ponds attacks, you know, every once in 350 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:45,720 a while. 351 00:17:45,720 --> 00:17:48,000 Cause I'm like, it's just too much and it's okay. 352 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:49,360 And that's what we want to normalize. 353 00:17:49,360 --> 00:17:51,440 It's okay, but what's the repair? 354 00:17:51,440 --> 00:17:53,720 What are you doing to get back into the saddle? 355 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:56,440 How are you getting yourself back into alignment? 356 00:17:56,440 --> 00:18:01,360 And so what's your go to when you feel like you, you get dysregulated, you feel overwhelmed 357 00:18:01,360 --> 00:18:04,760 or stressed or whatever it is, what is it that your path is to help you get back there? 358 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:05,760 Yeah. 359 00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:06,920 Well, let me just circle back on something you said. 360 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:09,760 It's not only okay for us to have limits. 361 00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:13,200 It's important that we do have limits and that we tell our kids that, right? 362 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:18,440 So many of us, I mean, in the parenting communities, especially positive parenting or gentle parenting, 363 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:21,920 the idea that an adult should have limits is really discussed. 364 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:25,280 And I think it's really important to teach them. 365 00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:27,840 I have limits and right now I'm at my limit. 366 00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:29,320 I actually can't do anymore. 367 00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:30,320 And I'm so sorry. 368 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:33,320 I cannot make you breakfast today and I cannot play a game with you right now. 369 00:18:33,320 --> 00:18:35,360 I'm at my limit and I'm done. 370 00:18:35,360 --> 00:18:41,200 So that's one thing is great for myself, but I mean, getting on the floor doing creeping 371 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:44,760 is extremely helpful for me. 372 00:18:44,760 --> 00:18:45,920 Going on a walk in nature. 373 00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:49,320 I take barefoot walks around my neighborhood every evening. 374 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:52,360 You know, I'm sure I look like a weirdo, but I love it. 375 00:18:52,360 --> 00:18:54,160 Grounded, walking under the stars. 376 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:55,160 I come home. 377 00:18:55,160 --> 00:18:57,560 I'm regulated to get in bed. 378 00:18:57,560 --> 00:19:01,280 We also, I also really like, I do my best to simplify my life. 379 00:19:01,280 --> 00:19:02,840 We don't have Wi-Fi in our house. 380 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:04,160 We don't do a lot of media. 381 00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:08,440 Like I really try to keep things streamlined and simplified so that I'm doing the things 382 00:19:08,440 --> 00:19:11,040 I love and I can really invest in the things I love. 383 00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:12,840 That really helps my nervous system. 384 00:19:12,840 --> 00:19:17,640 When I stack my schedule every hour, I become so imbalanced and that was kind of what I 385 00:19:17,640 --> 00:19:18,640 was with. 386 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:20,840 We all were grind culture, hassle culture. 387 00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:22,640 I don't participate in that anymore. 388 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:26,160 Sometimes I get pulled into it, but I really try not to participate in it. 389 00:19:26,160 --> 00:19:29,080 So that's been huge for me. 390 00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:35,560 A lot of overnight herbal infusions, you know, like nettle infusions, oat straw, you know, 391 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:42,160 all sorts of things I make and I drink those and it's so, the minerals and the electrolytes, 392 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:43,880 the nutrients are so nourishing. 393 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:47,200 We're getting more of what we actually need, what we would, you know, evolutionarily be 394 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:54,000 getting what we, our bodies need and that's, that kind of nourishment is, is super supportive 395 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:55,000 as well. 396 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:56,000 So those are some things. 397 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:59,680 And then I have regular practices, like all of us probably have that I'm pretty consistent 398 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:00,680 with. 399 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:01,680 So, yeah. 400 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:02,680 Amazing. 401 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:03,680 Okay. 402 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:04,680 So two things. 403 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:05,680 The, I said that to my kids all the time about my bucket is empty. 404 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,240 Like, and I explained it was like a car with gasoline. 405 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:12,240 Like once it, the tank is empty, it needs to go back and get fueled back up and that's 406 00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:13,880 such an important concept for everyone to know. 407 00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:18,520 So we can start to tune into when you need to take a break because we are such a hustle 408 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:21,320 and grind culture that we just go, go, go and we have FOMO. 409 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:22,960 Everyone talks about missing out. 410 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:24,440 I'm like, it's okay to miss out. 411 00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:25,640 Like it wasn't meant for you. 412 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:26,640 And like, what your future was. 413 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:28,880 FOMO, joy of missing out, not fear. 414 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:29,880 I love it. 415 00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:31,880 I'm like, listen, I'm not going. 416 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:34,560 Jomu, for me, I'm not into it. 417 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:35,560 Peace out. 418 00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:36,560 See you later. 419 00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:38,560 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 420 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:42,560 Is that like a new Tik Tok thing to say? 421 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:48,000 No, but I think it's, you know, yeah, it's gonna be exactly. 422 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:51,440 I love this. 423 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:59,000 And then also, I was just going to say about how was I going to say the bucket and then 424 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:02,080 oh, these mineral, you look amazing. 425 00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:04,040 Like you look absolutely amazing. 426 00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:05,520 Like your hair looks incredible. 427 00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:07,400 And I'm like, okay, it looks amazing. 428 00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:12,920 And I'm like, you, whatever those mineral treatments are and the Chinese medicine, I'm 429 00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:14,560 like, I need to get on board with this. 430 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:20,480 Cause I think, and I was just talking about this with Paloma is once you've done the foundation 431 00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:24,480 work of like your nervous systems regulated, you've integrated your primitive reflexes, 432 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:29,280 you no longer see everything coming at you as a major threat. 433 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:32,000 Then you do need to dabble in some other practices, right? 434 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,960 You need to do other things that keep your system happy. 435 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:39,640 And you do need to give yourself the minerals and our diets are so insane these days. 436 00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:44,240 And the way we are living in so much technology, it's unlike anything we've ever experienced 437 00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:45,740 as humans. 438 00:21:45,740 --> 00:21:47,840 And I was just talking about women and hormones. 439 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:53,520 And I think so many of us women don't understand like what's hormone related, what's, you know, 440 00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:54,680 nervous system related. 441 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:58,600 And we have to like figure out our formula and how to help each other. 442 00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:01,680 I was just talking to a group of women who are 30 plus and we didn't even know all of 443 00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:02,880 our anatomy parts. 444 00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:03,880 Like, isn't that not correct? 445 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:07,600 Like we didn't even know like all of like the way our bodies worked. 446 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:10,000 And I only learned about it when I was wanting to have kids. 447 00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:13,360 And I'm like, think about teenagers today. 448 00:22:13,360 --> 00:22:14,760 How confusing this world is. 449 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:20,440 So I think getting back into the basics of just what does our body really need? 450 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,680 And I love that you simplify life. 451 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:25,240 But how do you do it when you have three teenagers? 452 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:29,160 Like how when they have so many different activities and things to go to, like how do 453 00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:32,080 you keep yourself in a good space? 454 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:33,080 Yeah. 455 00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:35,960 Well, first of all, I let things with my kids fall off. 456 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:38,880 And I know a lot of people and a lot of parents probably don't want to hear that and they 457 00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:39,880 don't want to do that. 458 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:43,480 But I just do my partner and I share really, really well. 459 00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:44,480 He's very supportive. 460 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:45,680 He does a lot. 461 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:49,840 And then, you know, if my daughter's soccer game is an hour away and I have a meeting 462 00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:54,120 that afternoon, I might have her go with a friend, you know, and I'm her soccer game. 463 00:22:54,120 --> 00:22:59,720 I know it's not, it's not the ideal parenting formula, but it's part of my more holistic 464 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:02,120 well-being formula. 465 00:23:02,120 --> 00:23:06,280 Part of that for me as a mom is getting that individual connection time with my kids. 466 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:12,920 As long as they're connected to me, they feel close, they feel loved and we somehow had, 467 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:14,760 you know, a meaningful connection that day. 468 00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:15,760 They're okay with it. 469 00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:20,560 They understand, they see us and we've made it very clear we're not just parents or people, 470 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:25,000 you know, I'm a mom and I'm a lot of other things, you know, that's just one part of 471 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:28,040 what makes me who I am. 472 00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:34,800 In terms of just life stuff, I mean, I don't really, like I try to go to bed early, you 473 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:39,600 know, I try to go to bed by 10, I have to get up at six with them and I try to make 474 00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:41,080 sure I exercise every day. 475 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:45,760 Like those basics I get in and I'm not hard on myself when it doesn't happen anymore. 476 00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:46,760 Yes. 477 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:48,880 You know, be super hard on myself if I miss the workout. 478 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:49,880 I don't do that anymore. 479 00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:51,880 It's like, yeah, that happened. 480 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:53,400 Yeah, it totally happens. 481 00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:58,240 And that's the whole point is that I think you've reached this balance where, you know, 482 00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:02,520 maybe a lot of like what you said makes so much sense because like I see videos on social 483 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:07,240 media of like moms being shamed for taking time for themselves and not going to the 484 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:09,960 soccer game because they had to do something for themselves. 485 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:13,640 And it's just, it's, it goes back to kind of what you were saying about this world that 486 00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:18,600 we all grew up in with like hustle culture, but like the mom hustle is you got to be there 487 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:24,000 all the time for your kids 24 seven, no matter what you totally, you know, disregard anything 488 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:28,680 that you could ever possibly need because you're there for your kids, you know, and 489 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:29,680 that's just not realistic. 490 00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:30,680 So I think it's, 491 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:31,680 And I tried that. 492 00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:37,600 I mean, I tried that first probably nine years of parenting and I was miserable. 493 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:38,600 It was in work. 494 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,240 I was imbalanced. 495 00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:41,880 I was disoriented. 496 00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:45,360 They weren't happy because they had a mom that's miserable. 497 00:24:45,360 --> 00:24:48,040 And so it was really, I mean, on Wednesday nights, now I do. 498 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:52,920 I have comedy improv class every Wednesday night and I go to that and I miss my son's 499 00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:58,720 baseball games sometimes and it sucks and we've talked through it and he knows I adore 500 00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:01,240 him and you know, I make what I can. 501 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:04,320 It's just, I know it's not the dogman. 502 00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:09,560 Sometimes I'm almost like, it's out loud and I love this, but I love being a mom and I 503 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:14,080 love all the other parts of myself and I think that's a big thing in our society is like, 504 00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:20,000 even we, we think we have this in the US have this individualized society and we're very 505 00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:23,160 into individualism, but actually there's so much conformity. 506 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,640 Like as women were taught, you need to be this size. 507 00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:29,080 You need to look this way as a mom, you need to be this way. 508 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:33,520 Like there's so much conformity and part of the work that I do is helping women figure 509 00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:35,800 out like, what is your divine spark? 510 00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:40,000 Like what makes you you like what is, what are you passionate about? 511 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:41,000 What do you desire? 512 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:42,000 What do you love? 513 00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:43,000 What are you good at? 514 00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:44,000 And like, yes. 515 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:48,640 I'm tapping into that at a deep level, which is how I think one way women start to overcome 516 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:53,760 the inner critic and say like, oh, I get to be me, you know, and our kids see that. 517 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:58,560 I mean, my daughter is 14, she's in eighth grade, she's in the middle of middle school, 518 00:25:58,560 --> 00:25:59,560 if you know what I mean. 519 00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:03,720 But when I hear her talk, she's like, yeah, mommy, I just don't get it. 520 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:07,880 These girls spend $60 getting their nails done and I don't understand like, why are 521 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:08,880 they doing this? 522 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:13,120 Like, and my kids will talk to me about beauty culture and how stupid it is, you know, and 523 00:26:13,120 --> 00:26:18,000 so it's like, they're listening, they see, and so they are absorbing that as well. 524 00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:23,800 So I think even though, yeah, I'm not like an ever present omniscient omnipotent parent, 525 00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:26,840 like they're still learning a lot from the way I've chosen to do it. 526 00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,120 So 100% that's what I was just thinking. 527 00:26:29,120 --> 00:26:33,680 I mean, pull on the favorite line of society's expectations and us needing to break free of 528 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:37,920 them to find our divine spark and like what, why we are here. 529 00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:42,160 And you, I could never have done that and broken free of like the conformity of what 530 00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:47,040 I was supposed to be had I not regulated my nervous system and then broke free of those 531 00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:51,800 beliefs because so much of our programming is like, if you look at school, it's like, 532 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:55,560 everyone line up, how's everyone's grades, how, you know, we're just constantly in that 533 00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:57,600 comparison mindset. 534 00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:03,080 And I think when I had my first child, the comparison was so insanely overwhelming. 535 00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:04,240 Like does he weigh enough? 536 00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:05,240 Is he eating enough? 537 00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:06,240 Is he in, is he enough? 538 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:07,240 Right. 539 00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:08,240 And it was like, oh my gosh. 540 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:09,880 And now I'm like, I'm so grateful. 541 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:14,400 I gave my kids that gift of just not caring and not giving a, you know what, because it's 542 00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:18,720 like, wow, it's liberating to just be like, I'm doing me. 543 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,760 It's not what society thinks I should be doing. 544 00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:22,480 I'm doing what I want to do. 545 00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:24,040 And I want to show that to my kids. 546 00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:25,280 And that's what you brought to your kids. 547 00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:29,040 Like, yeah, I'm a way of how do you take life on? 548 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:31,760 Cause we only have like, it's our human experience. 549 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,080 Like you get to make it what you want it to be. 550 00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:35,080 Yeah. 551 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:36,080 Yeah. 552 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:40,000 And I've been doing this for years going from thing to thing saying, how should I feel now? 553 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:41,640 How should I behave now? 554 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:43,400 What should I be thinking now? 555 00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:44,880 How should my kids be acting now? 556 00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:49,120 It was always some externally imposed idea. 557 00:27:49,120 --> 00:27:51,720 I should be feeling, thinking, doing whatever. 558 00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:53,400 And so getting free of that. 559 00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:55,600 I mean, that's what I want for people. 560 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,800 And I know you guys want to is inner freedom, right? 561 00:27:57,800 --> 00:27:59,640 This, I believe in some inner freedom. 562 00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:00,800 We want this for people. 563 00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:03,280 This is part of what I think we're all doing in the world. 564 00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:07,240 A big part of inner freedom is saying my life is my life. 565 00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:09,080 This is a gift to me who I am. 566 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:10,800 Like this is, this is me. 567 00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:16,320 I don't like, I don't orient based on external things anymore. 568 00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:18,040 So I love that. 569 00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:19,040 I love that. 570 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:23,440 And I think, I mean, because you do what you do, I think you also probably get exposure 571 00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:29,360 to so many different people and so many different kinds of practices and stuff out there that 572 00:28:29,360 --> 00:28:30,360 probably inspire you. 573 00:28:30,360 --> 00:28:32,760 And probably some of them you're like, Oh, that's not what I want. 574 00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:33,760 Right. 575 00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:38,520 So I feel like you're somebody kind of like us that like we just have seen so much because 576 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,560 that's what we do is we work with people. 577 00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:45,680 And so you just see these things where you're like, Whoa, I mean, this person had this kind 578 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,640 of childhood, this person had that kind of childhood, this person had that one and all 579 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:51,280 three of them have this one belief, right? 580 00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:55,920 So it doesn't matter what happened when you were a child. 581 00:28:55,920 --> 00:29:00,640 It's about what you can do about it when you have the chance and the opportunity, right? 582 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:05,240 And taking that opportunity and I feel like that's just like kind of the overwhelming message 583 00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:09,440 that we want to share with people is take the wheel, you know, take the wheel and you 584 00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:11,080 decide where you want to go. 585 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,600 And I do believe I say this all the time. 586 00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:18,200 We are at a point, like a tipping point right now in society. 587 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:21,880 We have been, I think maybe probably since the pandemic where people really are getting 588 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:27,360 sick of society's expectations and sick of all of that stuff of shooting themselves to 589 00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:28,880 death, right? 590 00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:30,680 Because we're all like, what? 591 00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:34,680 I mean, I had to be locked up for however long and now I'm supposed to still care about 592 00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:38,600 what, you know, my neighbor is doing and keeping up with the Joneses and all that stuff. 593 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:39,600 Absolutely not. 594 00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:43,480 And I think so many more people, of course it's going to take a while probably, but I 595 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:44,800 do feel that tipping point. 596 00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:48,360 Like it's just, it's here and you see it with the younger generations, like your kids being 597 00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,800 like, what's up with that? 598 00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:52,640 You know, and so that's so cool. 599 00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:56,120 Like normally a 14 year old probably wouldn't question what their friends are doing or the 600 00:29:56,120 --> 00:30:00,080 cool kids are doing at school, they'd be like, I want to do a two-mom, I want a $60 manicure, 601 00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:01,080 you know? 602 00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:03,440 And she's like, this is not my vibe. 603 00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:04,440 Why are they doing that? 604 00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:05,440 Right? 605 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,400 And that's, they're questioning it, not even judging it, just being like, that's so interesting 606 00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:11,240 that they would, that these girls would make those decisions that I would never make. 607 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:12,240 Right? 608 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:15,440 And so that's where we want to get to in the world is having that level of compassion 609 00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:17,440 and like openness, right? 610 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:21,360 Where we don't notice, but a lot of the time we, you know, humans have a tendency to be 611 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:22,360 very closed-minded. 612 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:23,360 Yeah. 613 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:27,480 And Paloma, the word that keeps coming to mind as you're talking is sovereignty, right? 614 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:31,480 And this idea of sovereignty within ourselves, within our families, within our homes, but 615 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:36,240 then within our, within me, like I have sometimes the voice that pops up and is like, you should 616 00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:38,720 be doing this right now and I'll start to listen. 617 00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:41,040 And then I'm like, wait, where is that voice coming from? 618 00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:42,800 I have sovereignty here, right? 619 00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:44,560 Like who's home here? 620 00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:45,560 Who? 621 00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:46,560 Exactly. 622 00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:47,560 What voice am I listening to? 623 00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:52,000 And so with that, all of those voices of criticism that come at us from society and all of the 624 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:57,360 shugs and all of that, there's a lack of sovereignty and I think re-establishing sovereignty 625 00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:59,520 within ourselves is huge. 626 00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:00,520 Yeah. 627 00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:01,520 Yeah. 628 00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:02,520 Rooted in authenticity. 629 00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:06,560 It's like does this have a line with who I want to be? 630 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:11,520 And when you start to establish that, I swear as soon as I started to become more authentically 631 00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:17,400 me and just not caring about all that stuff, I started to attract so many new people into 632 00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:21,160 my life and people would just be like, I want to, like I see you differently. 633 00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:24,280 And before and I was in survival mode, I used to think the world was against me. 634 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:28,040 I thought everybody hated me and I thought everyone was talking about me, right? 635 00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:30,520 And even if people are talking about me, I'm like, I don't care. 636 00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:31,520 That's not me. 637 00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:32,520 I'm projecting, right? 638 00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:36,720 So it's like, you just have like such a different take on life, your perception of everything 639 00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:39,720 shifts and I just love this conversation. 640 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:41,560 It has been so awesome. 641 00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,200 Christy, you are a gem. 642 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:45,880 Like we love you so much. 643 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:49,520 And do you work with people online or is it only in person? 644 00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:51,120 No, I work with people online. 645 00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:55,680 Yeah, I do my rapid transformational therapy sessions over Zoom and I do Zoom over Zoom 646 00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:56,680 and it works. 647 00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:57,680 It's fabulous. 648 00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:02,160 Do you want to share where people can find you so that way if someone's listening, they're 649 00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:04,120 like, wait, I want to know what Christy's got. 650 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:05,120 Yeah. 651 00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:06,120 Yeah. 652 00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:07,120 LinkedIn or flourishinglifewithChristy.com. 653 00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:08,120 Perfect. 654 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:09,120 Okay, we'll put that in the description. 655 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:10,120 Yeah. 656 00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:11,120 Reach out to Christy. 657 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:12,120 She's the best. 658 00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:19,200 I mean, genuinely, I kind of want to do another episode where we talk where you kind of like 659 00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:24,080 educate us on Chinese medicine and all these amazing things that you know, because you've 660 00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:26,720 shared a little bit about it, but I'm always so curious. 661 00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:29,400 So if you're open to that, we could do another one. 662 00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:30,400 Yeah. 663 00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:34,040 Like an overnight infusion, like give that to me. 664 00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:38,160 And all the different, you know, the way that the body interprets emotions, you know, 665 00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:39,160 you and I love that. 666 00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:41,760 And just like how different organs represent different seasons. 667 00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:45,680 You were saying like the liver is spring and because it's all this transformation and all 668 00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:46,680 this stuff. 669 00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:48,440 So I feel like that would also be really interesting. 670 00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:49,440 Yeah. 671 00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:50,440 Yeah. 672 00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:54,800 I'm about to hold an in-person retreat where we just focus on the season of spring, the 673 00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:59,080 liver and working with anger and resentment and getting some of that transmuted. 674 00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:00,600 It's such a good to do that. 675 00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:06,400 So anybody, you guys, if it feels, if you feel called, good time to work with anger, support 676 00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:11,480 your liver, a lot of things you can do for that and just be working with those emotions. 677 00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,440 They might be more noticeable right now. 678 00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:14,440 Yeah. 679 00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:15,440 Totally amazing. 680 00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:16,440 You're in Texas, right, Christy? 681 00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:17,440 Yeah, I'm in Austin. 682 00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:20,320 Oh, Paloma loves Houston all of a sudden. 683 00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:21,760 So she might fly out. 684 00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:24,680 I was just in Houston and I love it there. 685 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:25,680 At a rodeo. 686 00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:26,680 I went to the rodeo. 687 00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:27,680 Y'all come right now. 688 00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,200 I was like, you're going to hate it. 689 00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:31,200 She loved it. 690 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:32,200 I loved it. 691 00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:33,200 It was so much fun. 692 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:34,200 Button busting is my passion. 693 00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:35,200 I'm obsessed with that. 694 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:37,440 It's the cutest thing I've ever seen in my life. 695 00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,000 I have to admit, I've never been to a rodeo. 696 00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:41,680 I'm from California originally in Texas. 697 00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,640 I'm always sort of like, I'm not sure, but Austin, like I can deal. 698 00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:45,640 Yeah. 699 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:47,760 Austin is more like, it's like the California of Texas. 700 00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:48,760 No? 701 00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:49,760 Yeah. 702 00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:50,760 Yeah, basically. 703 00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:51,760 Yeah, I really want to go. 704 00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:54,400 If I'm there, I will 100% reach out to you. 705 00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:55,400 That'd be so much fun. 706 00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:56,400 Yeah. 707 00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:57,400 That would be so rad. 708 00:33:57,400 --> 00:33:58,400 Thank you so much, Christy. 709 00:33:58,400 --> 00:33:59,400 This was amazing. 710 00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:00,400 Amazing. 711 00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:04,600 I am excited to go listen back to everything you just said because it was just eloquent 712 00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:05,600 and beautiful. 713 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:10,080 So thank you so much for your time, your beautiful energy and you, just you being you. 714 00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:11,600 We need more of this. 715 00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:12,600 We do. 716 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:14,160 We need more Christies in the world. 717 00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:16,280 Okay, let me do the spiel. 718 00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:17,280 Okay. 719 00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:22,080 Follow us, subscribe, share this episode, this amazing episode, share with your friends 720 00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:23,720 and family, please. 721 00:34:23,720 --> 00:34:29,320 Also follow us on Instagram in the Cortex underscore us follows on Tiktok in underscore 722 00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:31,400 the underscore Cortex. 723 00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:37,960 Follow us on Facebook in the Cortex US, follow us on YouTube in the Cortex US. 724 00:34:37,960 --> 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